As a stay at home mom to a young child, it is never ok to leave a baby in a car. I was pretty much alone with him for the first 6 months of his life. It’s hard and I understand not wanting to wake the baby or upset them, but weighing a tantrum over never seeing the baby again I’ll choose the tantrum every time. I’m glad that she’s getting the help that she needs and that her husband is being supportive from here on out!
To add to this: If you can afford it, always get a bucket car seat. Yes eventually they’ll grow out of it and it’s cheaper to just get a convertible car seat from the get go, but bucket seats are kind of a life saver when it comes to running errands with an infant. It’s so easy to just click the seat out, carry it inside, set it down next to you, and my son rarely woke up from his seat being taken out.
I came here to say just this. It is really hard to work around a baby's schedule and lug them in and out of the car, but it is worth it for their safety.
Agreed. Love her but she was so far off base. Her brief fear is nothing compared to him not even being able to trust his wife not to endanger the life of his baby any time she takes him out
Same dude. She lied to him and said that she wouldn’t do it again… she lied to her husband about something so important that isn’t just a small issue like she made it out to be.. i mean, it’s not even a mistake… it’s her being careless and negligent and putting her child in danger. Then she makes it so much worse lying to the father of that child about not doing it anymore… she obviously wasn’t going to stop doing this unless something big happened. She’s just lucky that it was her husband and not a stranger. I do feel sorry for her though. I know how post partum affects mothers and it’s truly heartbreaking to see a mother go thru that. So I don’t think that she’s an asshole or anything. She just needed some help. But yeah.. Tefi made no sense. I think she was just reaching to make this out to be some like.. attack on women but really it was just a parent protecting their child n if the genders were reversed you know she would have supported the mom for doing it to the dad.
AGREED! I had extremely bad PPD but I never once ever even thought about leaving my daughter ALONE. I won’t even put her into daycare till she can communicate for herself. No no.
The baby and the car thing was 100% justified to me. CPS can take a child for that! There is no apology that can be said for losing a child your your selfish chocies! I'm sorry I would've do this of even reported her. AT LEAST LOCK THE FUCKING DOOR! The bring in the store idea is a good idea and less harsh.
Single mother here. I applaud the dad for showing the mother EXACTLY what could have happened to their child if she keeps doing that. There is absolutely no reason or excuse to leave a child in a car. He already told/ask her not to leave the child in the car. Girl with pink hair Is delirious! I would’ve done the same thing. He’s asked already not to do it. Showing his wife what would exactly happen if it was to be a stranger.
Exactly! His was response would’ve been “unhinged” had it been like the second time she’s done this, after they had the conversation about why it’s dangerous. But this happened multiple times and it seems pretty clear that she needed something drastic to actually see the severity of leaving her child unattended in an unlocked car.
Also I understand that postpartum is a serious serious issue, but the other girls argument that she could be going through something after having the baby and using it as an excuse for her actions is ridiculous to me tbh. Imagine how the mother would feel if her child was taken, it pales in comparison to postpartum or any other reason as to why it’s excusable to put a child’s life in danger.
@@robinmurphy8138 in all honesty this should be a wake up call. I don’t understand why she is saying the mother shouldn’t be blamed or whatever. That is literally child endangerment. If someone really stole her kid not only would it be a lesson but and actual kidnapping. I’d hurt my significant other if they even put my child at risk for any kind of danger like that.
@@deanna.rodrigues okay but what’s worse? The mother being scared for the short amount of time the dad let it go on for, or their child actually being taken? It’s a whole other life in danger, his reaction was justified.
Hey for those who are curious about the first story' Not Allowed at Dinner: 00:11:55' , OP posted an update after the video was released; " Update: I left my husband First, I want to say thank you to everyone who commented on my post. I wasn’t expecting it to get as many comments as it did. I’m trying to go through and read everyone’s comments, but obviously that has taken some time, and I’m still not done. This week has been a bit crazy, but I feel like I made enough progress to justify an update. Here’s what’s happened. Your comments gave me the confidence to confront my husband about why I wasn’t invited, and I wouldn’t settle for a cagey answer. So I asked him about it calmly, and he said something like “oh, it’s just the family decision.” So I said “I’m your family, though, I deserve to know why.” He said some very vague stuff like “well, you just don’t fit in as well as everyone else,” and I asked him what that meant. He couldn’t really explain it. I was thinking about how a lot of you were concerned about the racial dynamics of my relationship. Personally, I had never thought much about it. No one in his family has ever made a racist comment toward me or toward anyone else. But I wanted to cover my bases, so I asked my husband if I was excluded because I was half black. My husband said, and I quote, “no, it’s not because of that. You know I don’t care about that.” The way he said it implied that someone cared, so I asked who cared. He said nobody. I asked if it was his mom who cared, and he hesitated and said “maybe.” After a long conversation of prodding him, here’s the story I eventually got: His mom is not a fan of me. My race might factor into it, but he said it’s also my personality and my political beliefs and the fact that we went to my parents’ house on Christmas Day the first year we started dating. His mom told him that he should think about finding someone who “suited him better,” and she encouraged him to take some time away from me. She said the family dinners would be a great opportunity for him to be with his family, where he “fit in.” I was invited sometimes because the dinners weren’t always an excuse to get away from me. But some of them were. I was obviously devastated after hearing that. But it also felt good to finally hear an explanation. I asked him if he thought he needed even more space from me. He didn’t even have time to answer before I went into the bedroom and started packing some clothes. I’ve been staying at my sister’s house for a few days now. I haven’t contacted my husband. I’m giving him his space. We’ll probably end up separating or getting a divorce, but right now it’s too early to tell. This was so hard to type out, but everyone was so supportive and I felt like I owed it to you all. Thank you again for your kindness."
Exactly. He was not wrong to put the fear in her that she clearly needed. Stupid mother. Could care less about her husband “teaching her a lesson.” Not cruel. And if it was, oh well 🤷🏻♀️
This girl will change her tune when she has kids. If my husband did this I would LOSE my mind. And she promised she would stop! Wtf. No. The wife is the asshole. 100%
Even though the Dad could and probably should have done it a little better, i.e. go in with the baby or wait outside holding them, something tells me that the Mom wouldn’t have actually changed her behavior without feeling that fear. Because she acknowledged the risks and agreed to her husband that she wouldn’t do it. At the end of the day the Dad is just removing his child from an unsafe situation. In any other scenario I HATE “teaching a lesson” to people like this. But a child’s life was at risk and there was no sign of reasoning with her.
@@iratakeuchi3031 she PROMISED to not do it again, and then he found the baby in an unlocked car. She already acknowledged that leaving the child in an unlocked car is dangerous. But it seems like she has the mindset of “oh that won’t happen to me I’m just in there for a few minutes” but I don’t think she would’ve learned the lesson if she would’ve known immediately that the child was safe
I can see both sides to this. They both could've done better in this scenario, but I think Dad was blinded by anger and emotionally driven to make his point. It also seems that mom can't seem to take accountability for any wrong doing since she's asking for an apology
Tefi sounds like she just hates men lmao 0 accountability. There’s no excuse for leaving a baby in a car. That mother is lazy and I’d be terrified to leave my kid with someone who thinks that is okay.
@@kristygarcia5011 she didn’t say the mom was right, she just didn’t agree with what the dad did. I don’t think the mom should be left alone with baby period after continuing to leave him in the car, but it’s not her husbands place to traumatize her and break that trust even further and expect her to apologize at his feet. She didn’t let her husband down, she let her child down and that’s so much worse and requires way more than “teaching her a lesson” like you would a 10 year old.
The second story: CONSENT IS KEY! She consents to having his spit in her mouth when they kiss. She d o e s n o t consent to having his spit in her food. Get. The. Hell. Out.
@@kennedyc9235 Exactly, it's all the worse of she's leaving the baby in the car on hot days. Cars get hot within minutes. So leaving a baby or a pet in a car on a hot day, is asking for disaster.
The mother was in the wrong for leaving the baby by itself in the car. But the father didn’t have to take the baby out and act like the child was missing. Especially when the wife has Postpartum depression.
@@deanna.rodrigues Don't excuse the wife because of what she has AND they didn't know at the time what the wife has when the husband takes the baby out of the car
As a mother and someone raised by a single mother I don’t give a fucking how “quick” you’re planning on being. You NEVER leave your baby in a car. That is his child as well so damn right teach her a lesson. She clearly needed that to be scared straight. She should be thankful that she got that reality check before something horrible happened to her kid. He was 100000% in the right for what he did. She was already in the gas station when he pulled up and then had time to get him out put him in his car and drive away and then wait another 6 minutes. That like 20 fucking minutes the baby would have been sitting in the car by himself. Disgusting. How long that baby has sat by himself before. That makes me sad and sick to my stomach.
YES 🙌🏻 I was getting so heated listening to this part. I would have done exactly what the dad did because obviously speaking to his wife was not enough.
@@katekay5396 I had to stop watching and calm myself down lol I was like well fucking duh she has some mental illness because who the fuck in their right mind leaves their baby in a car like that. I’m so glad that the husband “taught her a lesson” clearly it helped her.
Pissed me off when she said dads have it easy and they’re just going off cuz she’s a mom. Like NO. It’s because she left her freakin child in the car multiple times. Promised not to do it, did it again AND didn’t see the problem with it until he showed her the actions she took could’ve had these types of consequences. Props to him because I feel like a lot of people, especially guys to talk about the mental health or notice it.
6 min of free time in the post office.... with the trade off being your baby possibly dead or kidnapped. Wow... what a terrible take. When youre a parent, child always comes first. There are SO many ways i can think of to get a little rest time other than endangering your baby. One thing if the mom did it on accident, but purposefully..? AND he even had a convo with her previously where he warned her what could happen... yet she still did it. Could never trust my partner with my child again.
I LOVE Tefi!!! but I am SO shocked that she took that neglectful mothers side! The Dad already asked her not to leave the baby in the car! Teaching her a lesson was completely justified!!
I know right? I also didn't like the take on the best friend's story to, because Op's 'best friend' of 12 years left her because she believed her boyfriend and didn't take hear Op's side, if Op's 'best friend' is willing to cut Op out of their life and turn her friends against her then what else is she willing to do for smaller things?
@@danganryanne9499 id be concerned about that if the best friend didnt bring forth genuine remorse and it wasnt clear that the boyfriend was a manipulative absusive asshole. I would be all for giving her a shot knowing she got manipulated by a sociopath. Like look at it from her point of view. Her boyfriend lies to her that her best friend hit on him. She believes him. She truly believed her best friend betrayed her. In that situation, fuck yes i'm telling the rest of the friend group. This is on the boyfriend not her.
@@danganryanne9499 im talking about when they sat down a year later and talked. She took the boyfriend's bait hook, line, and sinker because of her "in luurve" fog. The boyfriend manipulated her.
@@justarandomveryintelligent8934 And I was talking about when OP wanted to tell the best friend about what happened but the ‘best friend’ just yelled at her
I agree with the one comment Morgan read. Maybe it didn’t need to go that far, but she was regularly risking the child’s LIFE. That’s unhinged, and I understand why he jumped to an unhinged response
Dude sometimes is take extreme measures. I think I would have done the same. Two minutes of panic for the mom is better than a lifetime of pain and torture for a trafficked child
He has every right to teach her a lesson if his child's life is in question. Yall are dead wrong for acting like he was in the wrong. She obviously needed that scare. If she continued god forbid someone actually takes her child then its become a reality and that breif moment of panic would have become every parent worst nightmare. I could tell Morgan was on the fence but it felt like Tefi took her side simply cause she's a woman, the way she brought up people would go easier on a man if he did that, which isn't true bad parenting is bad parenting. Don't leave your baby in your car idc what you have between your legs, my reaction (as I'm sure most people) would of been the same. She was defending her too much. Like no sis.
Yeah, I feel like sometimes a minority of people will be hesitant to criticize a woman because they don’t want to bring other woman down and that’s fair, but if another woman is being shitty then you should be able to call that out and also if moms are doing shitty things you should be able to call that out and not be scared that you’re momshaming. I don’t feel like a lot of people do this, but I’ve seen it a couple of times and I get that it’s coming from a good place and people want to counter sexism but they shouldn’t go to the other extreme.
Exactlyyyy, he's not just her boyfriend or husband, he is the father of that baby! In any other circumstance I would agree with Tefi about him being no one to teach a lesson to a grown woman but this time nope, it's not about her, it's about the baby, it's not even about how they would feel if something happens to the baby, it's about WHAT actually would happen to the baby, possibilities are endless when a baby is k1dn4pped
There was some bias going on there definitely. Tefi tried to bring up the disparity between how a man would be treated for doing this as opposed to a woman. How women have these 'expectations' that make people think she should be doing better. But to be real, people on these posts and *definitely* people on this channel would gladly sooner throw a male under the bus for an irresponsible family situation than a female. Most privileged male misogynists and their allies are not the target demographic for these discussions. And had the roles for the story been reversed, I could totally see Morgan and her guest siding with a mom who scared a dad like that. Gender bias goes both ways.
@@BenP2000 there were a lot of comments on the first upload last night calling them out for that take. I’m surprised she didn’t just cut it out of the video because a lot of people, myself included, were pretty fucking pissed
If the baby died in the car the mother would have been held responsible for murder. I can understand how angry the father is because I've heard too many stories of what could happen to a baby in seconds.
1:04:13 that’s such a wild take. She’s putting their child in danger, again and again. Yes, more pressure is put on mothers and yes, maybe there is mental health playing a role too, but all those things do not excuse her to be a bad mother, which she is by leaving their child in an unlocked car. Loved the podcast overall but this is such a chronically online take. They agreed that she would stop it. Even though how he handled it was wrong in my opinion, she still went against their agreement and allowed their child to be an extremely easy target of kidnapping.
For sureee. Definitely don’t think it’s acceptable to leave a kiddo in the car. Just wish he would’ve took the kid into the store and embarrassed her ass. No chance she can try to play the victim like she is then.
Definitely feel like Morgan and tefi didn’t see eye to on this and Morgan as the host kind of seems to hold back some for the sake of the conversation & to keep peace.
100% I didn't agree with Tefi at all. Yes, it's a little much but that mother would have done it again and again. I have a 5 year old. I NEVER leave him in the car alone EVER. Now that mother will never do that. I'm assuming Tefi is not a mother. This is not ok.
@@lilydewtorres oh me too for sure! Never okay to leave a child unattended in a car no matter the situation. It seems like Morgan was on the same page as us. Some people just don’t fully understand parenting until they are one. Or idk what could have possibly caused tefis opinion.
@@stacylorenn that’s the vibe I got. It’s not like she forgot her kid in the car, she was purposefully leaving him! I still don’t understand leaving your kid on accident. The dad did what he thought was right and obviously it got through to her because she’s getting help. She was in there getting snacks and not even worrying her about her kid. So messed up
As a mother myself I have zero sympathy for the women who left her baby unattended in the car. She absolutely deserved to feel that fear and hopefully it gave her the reality check she clearly needed. "No mother should have to feel that fear" yeah and no mother should be neglecting her child and putting them in that situation to begin with. You don't get to neglect your child and then cry about the fear your own actions caused. That child easily could have actually been taken, she's lucky it was only her being taught a lesson on something that should have been common sense to begin with. Don't want to be taught a lesson like a child then don't do stupid shit like this. Ooh boo hoo it hurt her feelings, her feelings stopped mattering the moment she put a childs life in danger for convenience. Also my opinion would not change if the genders where reversed. Any parent who is willing to leave there baby in a car unattended for convenience is a horrible parent and I don't care about their feelings on the matter.
As a teen mom of a 2 year old , SHE DESERVED THAT DAMN REALITY CHECK. My child’s life is so precious and couldn’t imagine leaving my child for even 30 seconds !!!
The thing about the baby story is that he isn't "teaching her a lesson" in regards to her own self. He is showing her (or "teaching her a lesson") how EASY it is to take THEIR child. This isn't about her life. This is the life of their child. I'd rather have scared her like that than have the child been ACTUALLY taken. If it was PPD than you get her help. It might be "her only time alone", but thats NOT an excuse. It's like putting you baby on a cliff and walking away because you "need time alone" in hope they don't roll off. You are putting that baby in danger every single time you leave the car. I don't even leave the 10 year old I nanny in the car alone to go into the gas station. If that is "her only alone time" You fix it by giving her alone time where she doesn't have to put their child in danger. Whatever her "reasoning" is, it's not good enough. There is NO VALID reason to leave a defenseless child in a car by themselves. ESPECIALLY with the door unlocked. I would have taken the kid, called my partner, and left. I would have filed for divorce. Putting OUR child in danger after we agreed to not doing that is a divorceable offence.
The thing about that, they talked about it. She made it sound like it was nothing, I bet she would’ve said she needed time alone, for both her and the baby safety, he would’ve gave it to her. She was way to worried about that mom’s feelings then the baby well-being.
So true. It would be different if he waited and let her call the police but he didn’t let her panic go on very long. She needed to be shown how easy it is for her child to be taken.
Im sorry that mom was wrong! They already talked about it she clearly didnt listen. I agree its your child’s life I dont care if she was worried for a min. Shes lucky someone didnt take the kid for real. Was he not right but she was more wrong.
Yea n like if she was a man n the wife did it im not so sure thered b a ? About if it was ok or not. Like this is also his child n he told her "hey dont do this ok" n then caught her doing it AGAIN. Sometimes it take a cruel life lesson 2 really slap reality into ur brain n make u realize how bad the world can b
I feel like no one is talking about tefi’s poop story and that literally had me crying laughing on my way to work Thursday morning that was hilarious 😂
I disagree with Tefi on the baby one. There’s plenty of stories of babies dying in cars & people stealing kids or attempting to steal kids/babies. Human trafficking & rapists are real. The mom was being a bad mom for purposely leaving her baby in a car. Yes moms have it hard but when you have a baby you sign up for taking care of your child & making sure they are safe. Don’t have babies if you are purposely not going to keep them safe. Dad just scared her a little to get the point across, which I and most people agree was definitely needed.
What? “Maybe she needs free time”? That’s no reason to leave ur child consistently alone in the car while running errands. People make excuses for people making bad decisions way too easily
I can’t believe she was blaming the dad! For the moms ignorant. She was saying she needed alone time, so she left the baby in the car! That is not ok! I guess as long as mommy’s feelings are not getting hurt, and she gets her along time, that’s all what matters, even if that means risking the baby and safety.
With the baby in the car, I agree with the husband, he had to scare tf out of the mom for her to understand the gravity of the situation especially since she was caught doing it before and said she would never do it again. That mom is literally just being LAZY!! My dad used to leave me in the car as a child and it was almost too late when he realized what could have happened. If the roles were reversed, and it was the husband doing it, you guys know you would side with the mom.
I was plucked out of my moms shopping cart. Babynapper booked it out of the store and made it halfway down the parking lot before someone managed to tackle the b*tch. That was a close call and my mother was literally standing right next to me, imagine how far they would've gotten if my mother wasn't running and screaming "That's my baby! She's taking my baby!"
I guess you can call it a mistake if it happens once but she admitted to doing it since he was born. She said she’d stop doing it but continued, the dad tried to communicate with her but she didn’t listen so yes she did need to learn the hard way. Her deciding that she needs an apology is her not taking accountability, he showed her exactly what happens to hundreds of babies a year. The dad is not the a-hole
Not just kidnapping but there are so many stories of children dying in the locked car and this is soo irresponsible as a mother.... I expected a different perspective from these two.... Kinda disappointed
@@Dickenson2006 i don't have kids either but I have a niece and a nephew coming and I would beat my brother and my sister in law's ass if they ever leave them in the car like that
@@Dickenson2006 I feel like you don't even need to be a parent to see how wrong that is. I'm not even a parent and I can't agree with that take no matter how they'd try to spin it.
Hear me out here, I fully agree with how the dad handled the car situation. I agreed with him when I first heard it and I agree with him after hearing your input. While I fully recognize the argument of "well if the roles were reversed people would be making all these excuses for the dad" but the issue with that is that THAT'S the problem. This is one of those cases where we need to be harsher on the dad in role reversal, not more lenient with the mom. To bring up an argument you and Justin have mentioned multiple times, sometimes you need to ruin an event to get a point across. He's already talked to her about the dangers, and she was so unbothered by it that she didn't even lock the door AFTER the conversation where she promised not to do it anymore. I do think she needed that scare, because this is an issue they've already discussed and clearly she didn't believe that it was actually unsafe.
It wasn’t a mistake she made, it was repeated negligence. If those are the only breaks you get, find a friend who will watch the baby for an hour while you do what you need to but there’s no excuse to leave a baby unattended in a vehicle
Morgan can you have a black woman on pls! Especially when talking about stories that have to do with race issues specifically with black/mixed black ppl
This is a re-upload due to TH-cam processing issues of the HD version :/ According to TH-cam my video caught a bug (who knew that was a thing). So live premier comments and previous video comments won't be here. So sorry y'all !
My jaw literally dropped when she shared her opinion on leaving a baby/young child in the car. It’s never okay. Maybe he didn’t handle it in the best way but he had the right to be upset and I honestly wouldn’t trust her with my child. I’m honestly just floored anyone can think it’s okay to leave your child alone in the car.
I think he did a good job because communicating clearly didn't work and if he had taken the baby in the store it still wouldn't have worked, and if he had yelled at her about what happened then the store would've have called the police and the wife possible gone to jail or CPS could've taken the kid away and if that didn't happen the wife would've thought that she had more ammo to fire at the husband
My best friend and I stopped talking shortly after I entered a domestic abuse marriage. 5 years later, she messaged me apologizing. We were BOTH going through severely abusive relationships where our SO said so much stuff to isolate us. She is my SISTER, and we reconnected last year. I have never been more grateful. Sometimes it takes years to realize mistakes, and I wouldnt give up my sister Alainna for my life again.
Agree with EVERYONE else that the dad in the leaving the baby in car story is NTA and the mom is SOOOOOO lucky nothing happened to that baby. LOVE Tefi but her take on this is just wrong.
You never leave your kid in the car by themselves. My daughter is 17 and I still get nervous leaving her in the car. If I see someone leaving a small child in the car I will sit in my car and watch the kid till they come out of the store.
Im 22 and a year ago someone broke into my moms car while i was in it and took the keys! You really never fucking know and its so scary. The mom deserved it
tefi’s take is WILLLDDDD how are u more mad at the dad than the mom??? the dad should’ve communicated sure but the mom has been consistenly leaving their child in danger since he was born, being soooo irresponsible like my god i wouldn’t show any sympathy for the mom at all. tefi’s take is clearly more focused on the wellbeing and mental state of the mother than the literal life of the child ? WHO CARES about the mom if she doesn’t care about the child being potentially kidnapped or over heating in the car. disgusting lack of care for the child and fully illegal.
Exactly, she was not worried about the mom’s feelings, then the baby’s life. She said mom had it so hard, and needed alone time. Then gets on dad. Like how could he do that to that mother. She wasn’t mad about the baby being left In the car, but she was mad at dad, for saying he needed to learn her lesson.
the guy who "taught" her a lesson I think should have let her freak out longer SHE IS IRRESPONISIBLE and already said she wouldn't, people like her do not learn and not to mention separating is not gonna fix HER LEAVING HER BABY ALONE...too many kids go missing because of idiot parents, yall prob don't get it cuz you aren't a mother but A LIFE OF SOMEONE YOU CREATED...you do what you need to protect them. She needed to feel that shock an scare to remember that feeling so she doesn't do it again. If he did not she would have deff done it again, I have been with my bebe since she was made....24/7 and I NEVER would do this.
Omg I agree! I would have went home and let her call the cops and make a fool of herself. It is wild to leave your baby alone like that and be so nonchalant about it.
Just got to say I love this episode. So glad I found your podcast. I’m a housecleaner, single, and a mom. Not a lot of people to talk to, and it’s the perfect thing to listen to to get my mind off life and distract me while I’m working or doing errands. This episode had me laughing out loud multiple times. Can’t wait for more
I LOVE THIS EPISODE!!! I love Tefi’s energy, her vibe, her sauciness, we mesh, girl 🖤 I want to say, I really appreciate Tefi taking up for mothers, and being a staunch supporter for a mother who is on, 24/7… however, on the subject of leaving the baby in the car, there’s truly no valid excuse. Uggggh, I can’t believe I’m admitting this but I did the same… not ever for 6 whole minutes or anything anywhere near that extent, and I never did it except to run into a gas station where I could *literally physically see* the vehicle *from inside* (ugh, I feel so sick just remembering)… looking back, yes, I was keeping an eye at all times but yes, it was absolutely cutting corners. Literally anything could have happened, someone could have been observing and it would have been quicker to jump in to the car and take off than for me to race out and stop it. Being in a small, peaceful town created a security blanket, but it also raises the risk. Ppl see you, someone with ill intent will learn your patterns, they will look for the chink in your armor. I didn’t think anything would happen, and looking back I want to SHAKE my younger self. ANYTHING COULD HAVE HAPPENED. The wife had PROMISED to do better, and yes, the “lesson” was brutal, but it was absolutely 100% justified. Anyway, this was such an entertaining episode, please have Tefi back for more!!! Much love to you and your whole crew, Morgan!! 🖤
I will never forget the Oprah episode where a mother came on and described how she ran into the gas station and left her car unlocked with baby in back seat. A car thief stole her car and she chased the car down. She was able to get the back door open and started to undo the buckle on the car seat but she couldn’t keep up with the car. The car seat fell out of the back and was dragged. She watched her son get dragged to death. Also thousands of kids die in hot cars every year. I think he is justified and would do ANYTHING to keep his child safe. I would never trust my child with someone so disconnected to reality and what goes on around them.
I'm fully on the dad's side with the baby in the car story. I would've done the same thing, taking the child to show them how easy it is for someone else to kidnap the child. He talked to her, she didn't listen. I'd be scared to let my child be her responsibility too.
Okay but I loved listening to your commentary on the first story! Reminds me of when in middle school, my entire class made plans to get pizza after school, in front of me, and didn't invite me. I told my mom, super upset, and she went to the pizza place to pick up a pizza for us, making sure my entire class saw and KNEW that she knew. Probably one of my favorite middle school memories!
I have to 1000% disagree with Tefi. He asked her and expressed his discomfort about it and she STILL did it. The kid was left for *SIX* whole minutes. It has absolutely nothing to do with keeping up the image of being a “devoted mother” and everything to do with being an *irresponsible* mother.
not just an irresponible mother, an irresponsible parent! No one with a child under their sole care should leave a baby in the car. It's deadly and illegal. She could be arrested and sentenced to 15 years in prison for child endangerment for doing this... Jesus
story 3: i accepted a friend back after she apologized to me for choosing her bf over me. i gave her a second chance bc she confessed that he was abusing her (verbally and physically), so i felt shitty basically saying no to her, so ofc i accepted her back. she was my best friend since middle school. she iced me out in junior year of high school due to that relationship and came back to me in freshman year of college. long story short, three years later, she ended up choosing another guy over me YET AGAIN and robbed me of $700. STOP ACCEPTING THESE PPL BACK. tefi is right, if they apologize, you can forgive them but you don't have to be bffs again. ppl who dump you over a guy will ALWAYS do it again. they are not good friends. stop giving them your time of day. forgive them and move on
Kinks are not inherently hereditary. That’s ridiculous. Most of the time it’s based on personal experiences and events that cause it. No you don’t leave a baby in a car, I highly doubt they live in a climate that’s neutral. Being left in a hot car could kill her child and get kidnapped. The fear she felt was deserved. She was letting that fear be a reality. I’d put a dash camera in her car to assure she never did it again.
since every comment is about the car story i’d like to say it did not over shadow the episode for me, i loved it and tefi!!! bad take, not a bad person or episode. she was trying to have empathy for the mom, even if it was misplaced. great episode!
I disagree with Tefi and the 12 year friendship story. I had to let go of a friend of over 20 years because of how badly she treated me. If she came back now apologizing, I would forgive her (already have) but no, we can’t be friends. You think her friend of 12 years who THREW away the friendship FIRST over a boy is loving her well? Absolutely not, I would not call that love. Forgive her and move on.
The last story pisses me off so bad & Tefi’s take on it at first pissed me off even more. The mother was putting her kid at risk, I have two kids & would rather go out of my way to take my kids inside with me then risk them being kidnapped. My oldest is 8 & I just started letting him stay in the car while I run in a store for 10 minutes max with the car on, heat or a/c on & the doors locked, I would do that with my newborn. OP def has some postpartum issues if she sees no issue with her actions & has no care for her child’s safety
My vote for the last story is ALSO NTA.... The dad is not the wifes father but it his child too... And I would have 1000 percent done the exact same thing if my SO does this to my child and I would be the one leaving him and take full custody of my child.....
My mom is an EMT and she'd be sitting there with me, glaring the mom down, with the ambulance ready outside 🤣 Oof this is a tough one lol. Great job again Morgan and I'm very excited to look more into Tefi!
The dad is not a asshole. The mom is a irresponsible parent. I can't stress enough how many times I have seen in the news where parents leave baby in car and someone take the child or they take the car and the child. No matter how many times police beg parents to stop doing it. They continue to do it and Most of the times they don't find the child alive. NEVER LEAVE A CHILD IN A CAR!!!!!!
The child's safety is so much more important than the feelings of either parent. This is not a sexist thing. KIDS SHOULD NEVER BE LEFT IN THE CAR! I'm so glad this woman will never be a mother wtf.
I agree that the dad taking the child out and “hiding” him was not a smart way to communicate about the situation. But it is absolutely never okay to leave a child in a car and for one it’s illegal. Tefi has a good point with communication options but definitely not with leaving a child in a unlock and hot car, that is never okay under any circumstance. I’m glad the wife is receiving help and that the husband is there by her side until she feels better. Communication is KEY!!
He did communicate though. They had an entire dialogue prior to this incident about the dangers of what she was doing. Communication wasn't working, so he gave her a demonstration.
@@Mandapuggo_ yes but life and relationships are not a “yes we talk about it once and if you don’t listen I’m gonna teach you a lesson” wtf that’s toxic af. Morgan solution was for me the best: take the kid and meet the wife in the store and then, yes, start fighting if you want. But the “if you don’t listen I’m gonna teach you Sth” is just reaaaaally fucked up.
(former) CPS worker. The baby in the car is incredibly bad. State law here explicitly carves out that a baby left alone in a car *must* be removed from the parental custody. On a mild day, in 10 minutes, the car becomes 20+ degrees hotter. Please, please do not listen to this woman. It is not "kidnapping" that is the concern - it is DEATH! Infants die VERY EASILY in cars. Please, for the love of everything holy, Do. 👏Not. 👏Do.👏 This. 👏
I dont feel like the dude with the child is an ahole. Yeah he could have handle it much better. But she puts the child's life at risk. At least turn 2 windows down a little and lock the door... Beside that she did agree with the husband that she would stop. I understand that he got mad that she continued to put the child in danger and yes, he could have handle it better. Like, wait outside for her or get the child and meet her in the store.
She would never leave her purse in an unlocked car! And yeah he made her panic, but he took the baby out of a dangerous situation. He wasn’t going to leave his kid. Totally justified. No one even called him out for pulling up and grabbing a baby!
It’s a child not a dog. It is illegal to leave a child in a car for a reason. Children die every year in cars, because of this. CPS will take your child for this. Nothing in 7-11 is worth your child’s life.
Stay at home mom here with 3 kids. What she did is NOT acceptable ever. It's so irresponsible. It's tough, but we women are tough. Get over it. And very disrespectful to her partner who she promised not to do this. Kids die from being left in cars. This is bare minimum effort. She is the AH. Not him.
I'm sorry, but that dad wasn't the asshole. A child was accidentally abducted in the city I live in a couple months ago because the mom left him in an unlocked car and the car was hijacked. Yes, taking the child wasn't a GREAT idea, but the mom wasn't in any danger when the baby wasn't there: she was faced with the reality of what could happen if you LEAVE YOUR BABY IN AN UNLOCKED CAR. EDIT: this mom left him in the car to do the same thing that mom did, wasn't gone for more than 10 minutes. Leaving a baby in a car is NEVER safe unless you are literally walking a couple steps away.
THE BABY IN THE CAR STORY... NTA!!! who TF leaves a baby alone in the car for any fkn reason??? she had already acknowledged that she was doing that and would stop. but she did it again. nta
Right and the dad says it was six minutes from the time he got his son out. Who tf knows how long she was in the gas station for before he even got there. Bro have you seen how fast kids can get kidnapped, head shaved, and clothes changed to look nothing like themselves. 6 minutes is too long heck even 6 seconds left unattended in a car is unacceptable. The father had every right. Flip the script and tell me if it was the father who left their kid in the car that you would feel the same way. The mother is not at all a victim in the context of that story. The child is. Yes mental health is important and I'm glad she is seeking help but, she was warned the dangers of what could happen clearly it didn't click until he showed her what could happen. Child neglect is still neglect if the parent is mentally I'll. Respectfully, as a stay at home mom of 2 young children, who also struggled with post partum and other mental health issues, the dad is 1000000% NTA
I've listened to you guys for so long and you have helped me through a lot of my problems, and you did it again! I had a "friend" who just accused me of trying to get with her man and it all because I had patted his back and arm one time..... I told my husband what happend and he told me she wasn't a friend but I felt so unsure about myself. And the convo you two had helped me realize I did nothing wrong she just has a lot of paranoia and it wasn't about me it's her own issue. Tha k you so much! Love you guys so much!
I feel like ultimately, with the story about the mom and the car, you were both sort if making the same point. My understanding of Tefi's point was not that the mom should be allowed to leave the kid in the car because she's overwhelmed, but more disagreeing with the way that the husband went about making his point. Tefi gave the mom a lot more grace than I did when I read the story on reddit originally, though I do agree his approach was a little much (I would have done as Morgan suggested myself). I am however glad though that she brought up that its probably not intentionally malicious and that the reason could be PPD related. Explanation, not justification... I think that in these situations it is important to recognize WHY she was okay with leaving the kid in the car, and WHY she thought it was okay to lie about it, so that she can get the help that she needs and maybe they can work to build back the trust she broke, if they even can.
1:01:20 NTA, that woman should have listened the first time about the dangers. Also, as a woman, she should KNOW the dangers. She was probably sheltered, but she is putting her child at risk
for the story about the kid being left in the car- he did NOT take it too far. The mother needed to know that her neglectful actions could have horrible consequences. And it isn't just kidnapping! Like the commenter said, leaving kids in the car when it's hot out CAN be deadly. I didn't know them personally of course, but my mom has told me several times about the family she knew growing up who's son died because their dad left him in the car.
With the friend story, if I were OP, I don’t know if I could get over the first not believing me from the start. Yes she apologized, but not until the ex confessed he lied about her coming onto him- why did it take that long and him confirming it in order to believe your friend of 12 years? How can OP trust that she won’t believe some other bullshit someone says about her. You’re friends should defend you, and this friend won’t defend OP
One thing I noticed is that no one even gave her a chance to communicate what actually happened, her perspective. Instead her “friend” and all the other “friends” changed and treated her differently based solely off of the word of her boyfriend.
I see both sides. The friend definitely fucked up but I mean, she’s human. I think if OP still loves her she should give her another chance but keep her on a short leash. Watch her behavior carefully and if she starts exhibiting some of the same problematic tendencies, then she can cut the cord for good and feel at peace knowing she gave her another chance and the friend is the one who squandered it. Good friendships are hard to find so I wouldn’t necessarily turn someone away for one fuck up if I think they’ve truly changed and learned from it.
Yes this! When they were having the 'heart to heart' she even said she didn't reach out earlier cause she still wasn't sure what to believe. That situation is more than the usual new relationship 'but Im in lurv' fog, there was no trust there when there should have been. I wouldnt let her back in my life in any capacity.
I had to turn this off after hearing Tefi call the dad an asshole for defending his child. It is so dangerous to leave your baby in the car especially with the door unlocked?!
I am a mother. I will not ever leave my child in a car alone. Inexcusable, this was not a mistake. She’s done it before, something terrible will happen one day. Well deserved
He is definitely not the asshole about the mother leaving the child in the car all the time! Because she did need a reality check!They’ve already had this talk and she completely ignored everything.
I know it’s an old episode but THE BABY STORY??? It isn’t about anger towards a mother - of course we are angry at her BUT it isn’t because we think a woman’s life after giving birth has to become all about caring for their child. It’s about being a good fucking person with common sense. I’m no mother, still a bit too young for that, but it doesn’t take a genius to know that leaving a child in the car on their own is dangerous. Hell, if I’m driving with my little brother in the car I’ll make him get out with me for ANY stops no matter how quick I think I’ll be. If something happens, he’s young and he has no idea how to handle a car and isn’t strong enough to fight off any potential attackers. All this anger should be directed at the women who decided to still leave her child in the car even after being aware of the dangers. Yes, OP is not HER parent, but he is the child’s parent and he has the right to do anything he wants when it comes to his child’s safety being risked.
This is the collab I've been waiting for!! My favorite comedian and my favorite podcaster!! I love you guys! Not sure why so many people are freaking out about Tefi's opinions lol. Daddy chill.
Tefi's response to the baby story was surprising. Do people not realize how prevalent human trafficking is and that the specifically target babies/young children? My God. All it takes is looking away for 2 seconds, and your child is GONE. I can't imagine leaving the baby in the car while you go into a store. She is a careless mother. I'm with the dad.
The fact that she thinks the dad should say “if this happens one more time I’m leaving” means she’s willing to let this mom leave her child in the car again. And who knows how many times it would happen before the father finds out? That’s not something you gamble with as a parent. That’s disgusting
My mom left me alone in the car from age about 5 (from my first memory of it) all the time and I would usually just sit there looking out for bad guys, sometimes crying. Looking back, I know she was going through depression and not thinking right, burnout, etc. it’s definitely a great thing the husband learned about it and was able to address it. I think it was a harsh way to go about it, but it’s a pretty severe situation with life threatening consequences (heat stroke, kidnapping), so I can’t blame him for reacting so strongly in the moment. Hopefully the mom gets the help she needs and things work out well for their family.
As a stay at home mom of a 3 month old, that mother should be ashamed of leaving her child in the car, it’s not hard to unclick the car seat and bring them inside with you, he was absolutely justified in doing what he did, she needed to learn the hard way what her actions were leading to.
As a stay at home mom to a young child, it is never ok to leave a baby in a car. I was pretty much alone with him for the first 6 months of his life. It’s hard and I understand not wanting to wake the baby or upset them, but weighing a tantrum over never seeing the baby again I’ll choose the tantrum every time. I’m glad that she’s getting the help that she needs and that her husband is being supportive from here on out!
To add to this: If you can afford it, always get a bucket car seat. Yes eventually they’ll grow out of it and it’s cheaper to just get a convertible car seat from the get go, but bucket seats are kind of a life saver when it comes to running errands with an infant. It’s so easy to just click the seat out, carry it inside, set it down next to you, and my son rarely woke up from his seat being taken out.
@@MuseVT I actually got one of these and the amount of times it came in clutch were countless! They may grow out of it, but it’s worth the money imo
This !
As a mom, I 100% agree with you!
I came here to say just this. It is really hard to work around a baby's schedule and lug them in and out of the car, but it is worth it for their safety.
I completely disagreed with Tefi with baby in the car story. I don’t even leave my dog in the car. Let alone a baby! I support the father on this.
Agreed. Love her but she was so far off base. Her brief fear is nothing compared to him not even being able to trust his wife not to endanger the life of his baby any time she takes him out
💯 agree. I would have done the exact same thing.
The dad may have taken it too far, but a child should never be left alone in the car under ANY circumstances.
Same dude. She lied to him and said that she wouldn’t do it again… she lied to her husband about something so important that isn’t just a small issue like she made it out to be.. i mean, it’s not even a mistake… it’s her being careless and negligent and putting her child in danger. Then she makes it so much worse lying to the father of that child about not doing it anymore… she obviously wasn’t going to stop doing this unless something big happened. She’s just lucky that it was her husband and not a stranger. I do feel sorry for her though. I know how post partum affects mothers and it’s truly heartbreaking to see a mother go thru that. So I don’t think that she’s an asshole or anything. She just needed some help. But yeah.. Tefi made no sense. I think she was just reaching to make this out to be some like.. attack on women but really it was just a parent protecting their child n if the genders were reversed you know she would have supported the mom for doing it to the dad.
AGREED! I had extremely bad PPD but I never once ever even thought about leaving my daughter ALONE. I won’t even put her into daycare till she can communicate for herself. No no.
The baby and the car thing was 100% justified to me. CPS can take a child for that! There is no apology that can be said for losing a child your your selfish chocies! I'm sorry I would've do this of even reported her. AT LEAST LOCK THE FUCKING DOOR! The bring in the store idea is a good idea and less harsh.
Single mother here. I applaud the dad for showing the mother EXACTLY what could have happened to their child if she keeps doing that. There is absolutely no reason or excuse to leave a child in a car. He already told/ask her not to leave the child in the car. Girl with pink hair Is delirious! I would’ve done the same thing. He’s asked already not to do it. Showing his wife what would exactly happen if it was to be a stranger.
Exactly! His was response would’ve been “unhinged” had it been like the second time she’s done this, after they had the conversation about why it’s dangerous. But this happened multiple times and it seems pretty clear that she needed something drastic to actually see the severity of leaving her child unattended in an unlocked car.
Also I understand that postpartum is a serious serious issue, but the other girls argument that she could be going through something after having the baby and using it as an excuse for her actions is ridiculous to me tbh. Imagine how the mother would feel if her child was taken, it pales in comparison to postpartum or any other reason as to why it’s excusable to put a child’s life in danger.
@@robinmurphy8138 in all honesty this should be a wake up call. I don’t understand why she is saying the mother shouldn’t be blamed or whatever. That is literally child endangerment. If someone really stole her kid not only would it be a lesson but and actual kidnapping. I’d hurt my significant other if they even put my child at risk for any kind of danger like that.
The dad did not have to do that to the mother he could’ve just sat in his wife’s car with the baby and have a calm conversation with her.
@@deanna.rodrigues okay but what’s worse? The mother being scared for the short amount of time the dad let it go on for, or their child actually being taken? It’s a whole other life in danger, his reaction was justified.
Hey for those who are curious about the first story' Not Allowed at Dinner: 00:11:55' , OP posted an update after the video was released;
" Update: I left my husband
First, I want to say thank you to everyone who commented on my post. I wasn’t expecting it to get as many comments as it did. I’m trying to go through and read everyone’s comments, but obviously that has taken some time, and I’m still not done.
This week has been a bit crazy, but I feel like I made enough progress to justify an update. Here’s what’s happened.
Your comments gave me the confidence to confront my husband about why I wasn’t invited, and I wouldn’t settle for a cagey answer. So I asked him about it calmly, and he said something like “oh, it’s just the family decision.” So I said “I’m your family, though, I deserve to know why.”
He said some very vague stuff like “well, you just don’t fit in as well as everyone else,” and I asked him what that meant. He couldn’t really explain it.
I was thinking about how a lot of you were concerned about the racial dynamics of my relationship. Personally, I had never thought much about it. No one in his family has ever made a racist comment toward me or toward anyone else. But I wanted to cover my bases, so I asked my husband if I was excluded because I was half black.
My husband said, and I quote, “no, it’s not because of that. You know I don’t care about that.” The way he said it implied that someone cared, so I asked who cared. He said nobody. I asked if it was his mom who cared, and he hesitated and said “maybe.”
After a long conversation of prodding him, here’s the story I eventually got:
His mom is not a fan of me. My race might factor into it, but he said it’s also my personality and my political beliefs and the fact that we went to my parents’ house on Christmas Day the first year we started dating. His mom told him that he should think about finding someone who “suited him better,” and she encouraged him to take some time away from me. She said the family dinners would be a great opportunity for him to be with his family, where he “fit in.” I was invited sometimes because the dinners weren’t always an excuse to get away from me. But some of them were.
I was obviously devastated after hearing that. But it also felt good to finally hear an explanation. I asked him if he thought he needed even more space from me. He didn’t even have time to answer before I went into the bedroom and started packing some clothes.
I’ve been staying at my sister’s house for a few days now. I haven’t contacted my husband. I’m giving him his space. We’ll probably end up separating or getting a divorce, but right now it’s too early to tell.
This was so hard to type out, but everyone was so supportive and I felt like I owed it to you all. Thank you again for your kindness."
I agree with the dad , a child's safety is never negotiable.
Exactly. He was not wrong to put the fear in her that she clearly needed. Stupid mother.
Could care less about her husband “teaching her a lesson.” Not cruel. And if it was, oh well 🤷🏻♀️
hard agree
Absolutely!
This girl will change her tune when she has kids. If my husband did this I would LOSE my mind. And she promised she would stop! Wtf. No. The wife is the asshole. 100%
Absolutely! I don’t care if the mom’s feelings are hurt. That could be life or death. She would never forgive herself if something happened.
Even though the Dad could and probably should have done it a little better, i.e. go in with the baby or wait outside holding them, something tells me that the Mom wouldn’t have actually changed her behavior without feeling that fear. Because she acknowledged the risks and agreed to her husband that she wouldn’t do it. At the end of the day the Dad is just removing his child from an unsafe situation. In any other scenario I HATE “teaching a lesson” to people like this. But a child’s life was at risk and there was no sign of reasoning with her.
I agree with Morgan. He should have found her in the store with the kiddo. Also she literally PROMISED not to do it again BEFORE this incident
@@iratakeuchi3031 she PROMISED to not do it again, and then he found the baby in an unlocked car. She already acknowledged that leaving the child in an unlocked car is dangerous. But it seems like she has the mindset of “oh that won’t happen to me I’m just in there for a few minutes” but I don’t think she would’ve learned the lesson if she would’ve known immediately that the child was safe
She acknowledged the risk the first time he talked to her! But she still didnt care, it only takes a few seconds for the kid to be kidnapped
I can see both sides to this. They both could've done better in this scenario, but I think Dad was blinded by anger and emotionally driven to make his point. It also seems that mom can't seem to take accountability for any wrong doing since she's asking for an apology
I can’t believe you both sat there and spoke about how many kids get stolen and STILL think he’s an asshole .crazy.
exactly!!
and then uploading it online like zero self awareness
Looool fucking tell me about it
I would have most likely done the same exact thing as OP in that story, but there was a better way that it could have been handled
Tefi sounds like she just hates men lmao 0 accountability. There’s no excuse for leaving a baby in a car. That mother is lazy and I’d be terrified to leave my kid with someone who thinks that is okay.
Love most of Tefi’s opinions, cannot get behind her reasoning about the kid in the car.
Agreed! I get PP, is serious-but like many comments said, what if she didn’t change unless she scared her
Same
Yeahhh I was like 🥴 girl. I understand the PP depression which is exactly why she needed that wake up call.
@@kristygarcia5011 she didn’t say the mom was right, she just didn’t agree with what the dad did. I don’t think the mom should be left alone with baby period after continuing to leave him in the car, but it’s not her husbands place to traumatize her and break that trust even further and expect her to apologize at his feet. She didn’t let her husband down, she let her child down and that’s so much worse and requires way more than “teaching her a lesson” like you would a 10 year old.
The second story: CONSENT IS KEY! She consents to having his spit in her mouth when they kiss. She d o e s n o t consent to having his spit in her food. Get. The. Hell. Out.
hate the take about the baby in the car... her baby could have died or got kidnapped MANY times and we cannot excuse that. To excuse that is insane.
No exactly. The baby’s actual life was being put in active danger ALL THE TIME
exactly what i thought. she needed to know what it feels like to finally stop
@@kennedyc9235 Exactly, it's all the worse of she's leaving the baby in the car on hot days. Cars get hot within minutes. So leaving a baby or a pet in a car on a hot day, is asking for disaster.
The mother was in the wrong for leaving the baby by itself in the car. But the father didn’t have to take the baby out and act like the child was missing. Especially when the wife has Postpartum depression.
@@deanna.rodrigues Don't excuse the wife because of what she has AND they didn't know at the time what the wife has when the husband takes the baby out of the car
As a mother and someone raised by a single mother I don’t give a fucking how “quick” you’re planning on being. You NEVER leave your baby in a car. That is his child as well so damn right teach her a lesson. She clearly needed that to be scared straight. She should be thankful that she got that reality check before something horrible happened to her kid. He was 100000% in the right for what he did. She was already in the gas station when he pulled up and then had time to get him out put him in his car and drive away and then wait another 6 minutes. That like 20 fucking minutes the baby would have been sitting in the car by himself. Disgusting. How long that baby has sat by himself before. That makes me sad and sick to my stomach.
YES 🙌🏻 I was getting so heated listening to this part. I would have done exactly what the dad did because obviously speaking to his wife was not enough.
@@katekay5396 I had to stop watching and calm myself down lol I was like well fucking duh she has some mental illness because who the fuck in their right mind leaves their baby in a car like that. I’m so glad that the husband “taught her a lesson” clearly it helped her.
Pissed me off when she said dads have it easy and they’re just going off cuz she’s a mom. Like NO. It’s because she left her freakin child in the car multiple times. Promised not to do it, did it again AND didn’t see the problem with it until he showed her the actions she took could’ve had these types of consequences. Props to him because I feel like a lot of people, especially guys to talk about the mental health or notice it.
I'm here to once more ask for a "pick me" girls episodeee 😬😬😬
i would LOVE this
Seconding this motion
I feel like Morgan her self is a pmab
@@brec1589 *Notion. Lol.
@@rogersmith3295 I said what I meant 🙂
On the first story, there is an update! She left her husband.
Thank God. She deserves better
Is there a link to the reddit story? I would like to read it...
Thank you. I really needed to read that.
I would love this link to story
FINALLY
6 min of free time in the post office.... with the trade off being your baby possibly dead or kidnapped. Wow... what a terrible take. When youre a parent, child always comes first. There are SO many ways i can think of to get a little rest time other than endangering your baby. One thing if the mom did it on accident, but purposefully..? AND he even had a convo with her previously where he warned her what could happen... yet she still did it. Could never trust my partner with my child again.
Yeah I feel like they didn’t really recognize how insane it actually was
Right I would no longer be with that person. Children come first. They clearly don't understand that because they don't have kids.
It was at the gas station which is honestly worse
I LOVE Tefi!!! but I am SO shocked that she took that neglectful mothers side! The Dad already asked her not to leave the baby in the car! Teaching her a lesson was completely justified!!
I know right? I also didn't like the take on the best friend's story to, because Op's 'best friend' of 12 years left her because she believed her boyfriend and didn't take hear Op's side, if Op's 'best friend' is willing to cut Op out of their life and turn her friends against her then what else is she willing to do for smaller things?
@@danganryanne9499 id be concerned about that if the best friend didnt bring forth genuine remorse and it wasnt clear that the boyfriend was a manipulative absusive asshole. I would be all for giving her a shot knowing she got manipulated by a sociopath. Like look at it from her point of view. Her boyfriend lies to her that her best friend hit on him. She believes him. She truly believed her best friend betrayed her. In that situation, fuck yes i'm telling the rest of the friend group. This is on the boyfriend not her.
@@justarandomveryintelligent8934 The best friend didn’t even hear OP out, just yelled at her
@@danganryanne9499 im talking about when they sat down a year later and talked. She took the boyfriend's bait hook, line, and sinker because of her "in luurve" fog. The boyfriend manipulated her.
@@justarandomveryintelligent8934 And I was talking about when OP wanted to tell the best friend about what happened but the ‘best friend’ just yelled at her
I agree with the one comment Morgan read. Maybe it didn’t need to go that far, but she was regularly risking the child’s LIFE. That’s unhinged, and I understand why he jumped to an unhinged response
Dude sometimes is take extreme measures. I think I would have done the same. Two minutes of panic for the mom is better than a lifetime of pain and torture for a trafficked child
The mother took it that far by neglecting her child
He has every right to teach her a lesson if his child's life is in question. Yall are dead wrong for acting like he was in the wrong. She obviously needed that scare. If she continued god forbid someone actually takes her child then its become a reality and that breif moment of panic would have become every parent worst nightmare. I could tell Morgan was on the fence but it felt like Tefi took her side simply cause she's a woman, the way she brought up people would go easier on a man if he did that, which isn't true bad parenting is bad parenting. Don't leave your baby in your car idc what you have between your legs, my reaction (as I'm sure most people) would of been the same. She was defending her too much. Like no sis.
For real! If he could have taken his child so easily so could every other weirdo!
Yeah, I feel like sometimes a minority of people will be hesitant to criticize a woman because they don’t want to bring other woman down and that’s fair, but if another woman is being shitty then you should be able to call that out and also if moms are doing shitty things you should be able to call that out and not be scared that you’re momshaming. I don’t feel like a lot of people do this, but I’ve seen it a couple of times and I get that it’s coming from a good place and people want to counter sexism but they shouldn’t go to the other extreme.
Exactlyyyy, he's not just her boyfriend or husband, he is the father of that baby! In any other circumstance I would agree with Tefi about him being no one to teach a lesson to a grown woman but this time nope, it's not about her, it's about the baby, it's not even about how they would feel if something happens to the baby, it's about WHAT actually would happen to the baby, possibilities are endless when a baby is k1dn4pped
There was some bias going on there definitely. Tefi tried to bring up the disparity between how a man would be treated for doing this as opposed to a woman. How women have these 'expectations' that make people think she should be doing better. But to be real, people on these posts and *definitely* people on this channel would gladly sooner throw a male under the bus for an irresponsible family situation than a female. Most privileged male misogynists and their allies are not the target demographic for these discussions. And had the roles for the story been reversed, I could totally see Morgan and her guest siding with a mom who scared a dad like that. Gender bias goes both ways.
It is absolutely not okay to leave a child in the car alone regardless of circumstances
It’s actually illegal lmao
@@BenP2000 there were a lot of comments on the first upload last night calling them out for that take. I’m surprised she didn’t just cut it out of the video because a lot of people, myself included, were pretty fucking pissed
Why would I cut it out? It’s one take and tefi is entitled to her opinion.
@@TheEnthusiasticHobo glad I’m not the only one
Absolutely, and it’s why she needs to seek professional help to understand why she is not taking this seriously.
If the baby died in the car the mother would have been held responsible for murder. I can understand how angry the father is because I've heard too many stories of what could happen to a baby in seconds.
1:04:13 that’s such a wild take. She’s putting their child in danger, again and again. Yes, more pressure is put on mothers and yes, maybe there is mental health playing a role too, but all those things do not excuse her to be a bad mother, which she is by leaving their child in an unlocked car. Loved the podcast overall but this is such a chronically online take. They agreed that she would stop it. Even though how he handled it was wrong in my opinion, she still went against their agreement and allowed their child to be an extremely easy target of kidnapping.
For sureee. Definitely don’t think it’s acceptable to leave a kiddo in the car. Just wish he would’ve took the kid into the store and embarrassed her ass. No chance she can try to play the victim like she is then.
Definitely feel like Morgan and tefi didn’t see eye to on this and Morgan as the host kind of seems to hold back some for the sake of the conversation & to keep peace.
100% I didn't agree with Tefi at all. Yes, it's a little much but that mother would have done it again and again. I have a 5 year old. I NEVER leave him in the car alone EVER. Now that mother will never do that. I'm assuming Tefi is not a mother. This is not ok.
@@lilydewtorres oh me too for sure! Never okay to leave a child unattended in a car no matter the situation. It seems like Morgan was on the same page as us. Some people just don’t fully understand parenting until they are one. Or idk what could have possibly caused tefis opinion.
@@stacylorenn that’s the vibe I got. It’s not like she forgot her kid in the car, she was purposefully leaving him! I still don’t understand leaving your kid on accident. The dad did what he thought was right and obviously it got through to her because she’s getting help. She was in there getting snacks and not even worrying her about her kid. So messed up
I don’t think the dad is the asshole for scaring his wife because he had already told her not to leave the baby in the car
As a mother myself I have zero sympathy for the women who left her baby unattended in the car. She absolutely deserved to feel that fear and hopefully it gave her the reality check she clearly needed. "No mother should have to feel that fear" yeah and no mother should be neglecting her child and putting them in that situation to begin with. You don't get to neglect your child and then cry about the fear your own actions caused. That child easily could have actually been taken, she's lucky it was only her being taught a lesson on something that should have been common sense to begin with. Don't want to be taught a lesson like a child then don't do stupid shit like this. Ooh boo hoo it hurt her feelings, her feelings stopped mattering the moment she put a childs life in danger for convenience.
Also my opinion would not change if the genders where reversed. Any parent who is willing to leave there baby in a car unattended for convenience is a horrible parent and I don't care about their feelings on the matter.
Period
1000%
Exactly!
As a teen mom of a 2 year old , SHE DESERVED THAT DAMN REALITY CHECK. My child’s life is so precious and couldn’t imagine leaving my child for even 30 seconds !!!
The thing about the baby story is that he isn't "teaching her a lesson" in regards to her own self. He is showing her (or "teaching her a lesson") how EASY it is to take THEIR child. This isn't about her life. This is the life of their child. I'd rather have scared her like that than have the child been ACTUALLY taken. If it was PPD than you get her help. It might be "her only time alone", but thats NOT an excuse. It's like putting you baby on a cliff and walking away because you "need time alone" in hope they don't roll off. You are putting that baby in danger every single time you leave the car. I don't even leave the 10 year old I nanny in the car alone to go into the gas station. If that is "her only alone time" You fix it by giving her alone time where she doesn't have to put their child in danger. Whatever her "reasoning" is, it's not good enough. There is NO VALID reason to leave a defenseless child in a car by themselves. ESPECIALLY with the door unlocked. I would have taken the kid, called my partner, and left. I would have filed for divorce. Putting OUR child in danger after we agreed to not doing that is a divorceable offence.
Same!
The thing about that, they talked about it. She made it sound like it was nothing, I bet she would’ve said she needed time alone, for both her and the baby safety, he would’ve gave it to her. She was way to worried about that mom’s feelings then the baby well-being.
So true. It would be different if he waited and let her call the police but he didn’t let her panic go on very long. She needed to be shown how easy it is for her child to be taken.
Im sorry that mom was wrong! They already talked about it she clearly didnt listen. I agree its your child’s life I dont care if she was worried for a min. Shes lucky someone didnt take the kid for real. Was he not right but she was more wrong.
Yeah. All he did was show her exactly what she was risking every time she was leaving the baby. Justified ah, or not even an ah at all
Yea n like if she was a man n the wife did it im not so sure thered b a ? About if it was ok or not. Like this is also his child n he told her "hey dont do this ok" n then caught her doing it AGAIN. Sometimes it take a cruel life lesson 2 really slap reality into ur brain n make u realize how bad the world can b
@@lioreubm677 they seriously need to update a JAH option
I feel like no one is talking about tefi’s poop story and that literally had me crying laughing on my way to work Thursday morning that was hilarious 😂
Same!!!! I had to pause and collect myself at work
“I THINK IT’S HUMAN!” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
i was hurting myself wheeze laughing when she said “this is so crazy … s s so somebody came in here and shit everywhere” “who wwwould d o this?
I disagree with Tefi on the baby one. There’s plenty of stories of babies dying in cars & people stealing kids or attempting to steal kids/babies. Human trafficking & rapists are real. The mom was being a bad mom for purposely leaving her baby in a car. Yes moms have it hard but when you have a baby you sign up for taking care of your child & making sure they are safe. Don’t have babies if you are purposely not going to keep them safe. Dad just scared her a little to get the point across, which I and most people agree was definitely needed.
What? “Maybe she needs free time”? That’s no reason to leave ur child consistently alone in the car while running errands. People make excuses for people making bad decisions way too easily
literally
I can’t believe she was blaming the dad! For the moms ignorant. She was saying she needed alone time, so she left the baby in the car! That is not ok! I guess as long as mommy’s feelings are not getting hurt, and she gets her along time, that’s all what matters, even if that means risking the baby and safety.
With the baby in the car, I agree with the husband, he had to scare tf out of the mom for her to understand the gravity of the situation especially since she was caught doing it before and said she would never do it again. That mom is literally just being LAZY!! My dad used to leave me in the car as a child and it was almost too late when he realized what could have happened. If the roles were reversed, and it was the husband doing it, you guys know you would side with the mom.
I was plucked out of my moms shopping cart. Babynapper booked it out of the store and made it halfway down the parking lot before someone managed to tackle the b*tch. That was a close call and my mother was literally standing right next to me, imagine how far they would've gotten if my mother wasn't running and screaming "That's my baby! She's taking my baby!"
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thank youuu i’ve been scrolling for the past 20 minutes looking for this 😭
Lol It’s in the description box below the video. She puts the time stamps in all of her videos.
I guess you can call it a mistake if it happens once but she admitted to doing it since he was born. She said she’d stop doing it but continued, the dad tried to communicate with her but she didn’t listen so yes she did need to learn the hard way. Her deciding that she needs an apology is her not taking accountability, he showed her exactly what happens to hundreds of babies a year. The dad is not the a-hole
Not just kidnapping but there are so many stories of children dying in the locked car and this is soo irresponsible as a mother.... I expected a different perspective from these two.... Kinda disappointed
Child endangerment and neglect is never okay regardless of the circumstances
the fact that she’s tryna justify the mom leaving the baby in the car is ridiculous
Absolutely ridiculous
Right .... just made me so mad! They have no clue what there talking about because they don't have kids...
@@Dickenson2006 i don't have kids either but I have a niece and a nephew coming and I would beat my brother and my sister in law's ass if they ever leave them in the car like that
Seriously... I get parenting is exhausting but if the mom doesn't have the energy to take basic precautions she shouldn't have had kids
@@Dickenson2006 I feel like you don't even need to be a parent to see how wrong that is. I'm not even a parent and I can't agree with that take no matter how they'd try to spin it.
Hear me out here, I fully agree with how the dad handled the car situation. I agreed with him when I first heard it and I agree with him after hearing your input. While I fully recognize the argument of "well if the roles were reversed people would be making all these excuses for the dad" but the issue with that is that THAT'S the problem. This is one of those cases where we need to be harsher on the dad in role reversal, not more lenient with the mom.
To bring up an argument you and Justin have mentioned multiple times, sometimes you need to ruin an event to get a point across. He's already talked to her about the dangers, and she was so unbothered by it that she didn't even lock the door AFTER the conversation where she promised not to do it anymore. I do think she needed that scare, because this is an issue they've already discussed and clearly she didn't believe that it was actually unsafe.
It wasn’t a mistake she made, it was repeated negligence. If those are the only breaks you get, find a friend who will watch the baby for an hour while you do what you need to but there’s no excuse to leave a baby unattended in a vehicle
Morgan can you have a black woman on pls! Especially when talking about stories that have to do with race issues specifically with black/mixed black ppl
Right?
It’s probably just whose reaches out to her (and a lot of her guests are friends, or friends or friends).
tooooootally agree!!! so much more to say!!!!!
That would be really cool
I agree so much
This is a re-upload due to TH-cam processing issues of the HD version :/ According to TH-cam my video caught a bug (who knew that was a thing). So live premier comments and previous video comments won't be here. So sorry y'all !
My jaw literally dropped when she shared her opinion on leaving a baby/young child in the car. It’s never okay. Maybe he didn’t handle it in the best way but he had the right to be upset and I honestly wouldn’t trust her with my child. I’m honestly just floored anyone can think it’s okay to leave your child alone in the car.
I think he did a good job because communicating clearly didn't work and if he had taken the baby in the store it still wouldn't have worked, and if he had yelled at her about what happened then the store would've have called the police and the wife possible gone to jail or CPS could've taken the kid away and if that didn't happen the wife would've thought that she had more ammo to fire at the husband
Nobody said it was ok to leave the kid. Tefi just didn’t agree with the husband way of dealing it
The husband was manipulative and in no way did tefi say she was pro leaving babies in the car
My best friend and I stopped talking shortly after I entered a domestic abuse marriage. 5 years later, she messaged me apologizing. We were BOTH going through severely abusive relationships where our SO said so much stuff to isolate us. She is my SISTER, and we reconnected last year. I have never been more grateful. Sometimes it takes years to realize mistakes, and I wouldnt give up my sister Alainna for my life again.
Agree with EVERYONE else that the dad in the leaving the baby in car story is NTA and the mom is SOOOOOO lucky nothing happened to that baby. LOVE Tefi but her take on this is just wrong.
You never leave your kid in the car by themselves. My daughter is 17 and I still get nervous leaving her in the car. If I see someone leaving a small child in the car I will sit in my car and watch the kid till they come out of the store.
Im 22 and a year ago someone broke into my moms car while i was in it and took the keys! You really never fucking know and its so scary. The mom deserved it
@@skyeverest23 oh wow that’s scary
Oiye
Uhol ooop
I’m literally 19 and I’m always vaguely uncomfortable staying in my mom’s car alone if we go somewhere together 💀
tefi’s take is WILLLDDDD how are u more mad at the dad than the mom??? the dad should’ve communicated sure but the mom has been consistenly leaving their child in danger since he was born, being soooo irresponsible like my god i wouldn’t show any sympathy for the mom at all. tefi’s take is clearly more focused on the wellbeing and mental state of the mother than the literal life of the child ? WHO CARES about the mom if she doesn’t care about the child being potentially kidnapped or over heating in the car. disgusting lack of care for the child and fully illegal.
Exactly, she was not worried about the mom’s feelings, then the baby’s life. She said mom had it so hard, and needed alone time. Then gets on dad. Like how could he do that to that mother. She wasn’t mad about the baby being left In the car, but she was mad at dad, for saying he needed to learn her lesson.
the guy who "taught" her a lesson I think should have let her freak out longer SHE IS IRRESPONISIBLE and already said she wouldn't, people like her do not learn and not to mention separating is not gonna fix HER LEAVING HER BABY ALONE...too many kids go missing because of idiot parents, yall prob don't get it cuz you aren't a mother but A LIFE OF SOMEONE YOU CREATED...you do what you need to protect them. She needed to feel that shock an scare to remember that feeling so she doesn't do it again. If he did not she would have deff done it again, I have been with my bebe since she was made....24/7 and I NEVER would do this.
Omg I agree! I would have went home and let her call the cops and make a fool of herself. It is wild to leave your baby alone like that and be so nonchalant about it.
I'd let her call the cops and 100% would get locked up for child endangerment.
Just got to say I love this episode. So glad I found your podcast. I’m a housecleaner, single, and a mom. Not a lot of people to talk to, and it’s the perfect thing to listen to to get my mind off life and distract me while I’m working or doing errands. This episode had me laughing out loud multiple times. Can’t wait for more
I LOVE THIS EPISODE!!! I love Tefi’s energy, her vibe, her sauciness, we mesh, girl 🖤
I want to say, I really appreciate Tefi taking up for mothers, and being a staunch supporter for a mother who is on, 24/7… however, on the subject of leaving the baby in the car, there’s truly no valid excuse. Uggggh, I can’t believe I’m admitting this but I did the same… not ever for 6 whole minutes or anything anywhere near that extent, and I never did it except to run into a gas station where I could *literally physically see* the vehicle *from inside* (ugh, I feel so sick just remembering)… looking back, yes, I was keeping an eye at all times but yes, it was absolutely cutting corners. Literally anything could have happened, someone could have been observing and it would have been quicker to jump in to the car and take off than for me to race out and stop it. Being in a small, peaceful town created a security blanket, but it also raises the risk. Ppl see you, someone with ill intent will learn your patterns, they will look for the chink in your armor. I didn’t think anything would happen, and looking back I want to SHAKE my younger self. ANYTHING COULD HAVE HAPPENED. The wife had PROMISED to do better, and yes, the “lesson” was brutal, but it was absolutely 100% justified.
Anyway, this was such an entertaining episode, please have Tefi back for more!!! Much love to you and your whole crew, Morgan!! 🖤
I will never forget the Oprah episode where a mother came on and described how she ran into the gas station and left her car unlocked with baby in back seat. A car thief stole her car and she chased the car down. She was able to get the back door open and started to undo the buckle on the car seat but she couldn’t keep up with the car. The car seat fell out of the back and was dragged. She watched her son get dragged to death. Also thousands of kids die in hot cars every year. I think he is justified and would do ANYTHING to keep his child safe. I would never trust my child with someone so disconnected to reality and what goes on around them.
100000% AGREE
I'm fully on the dad's side with the baby in the car story. I would've done the same thing, taking the child to show them how easy it is for someone else to kidnap the child. He talked to her, she didn't listen. I'd be scared to let my child be her responsibility too.
The guy who took the child out of the car is definitely NTA. I would’ve gone a step further and just gone home.
Right and when she called the cops she would have to explain why the baby was alone in the car!
Okay but I loved listening to your commentary on the first story! Reminds me of when in middle school, my entire class made plans to get pizza after school, in front of me, and didn't invite me. I told my mom, super upset, and she went to the pizza place to pick up a pizza for us, making sure my entire class saw and KNEW that she knew. Probably one of my favorite middle school memories!
I have to 1000% disagree with Tefi. He asked her and expressed his discomfort about it and she STILL did it. The kid was left for *SIX* whole minutes. It has absolutely nothing to do with keeping up the image of being a “devoted mother” and everything to do with being an *irresponsible* mother.
not just an irresponible mother, an irresponsible parent!
No one with a child under their sole care should leave a baby in the car. It's deadly and illegal. She could be arrested and sentenced to 15 years in prison for child endangerment for doing this... Jesus
Tefi is the best guest you’ve had so far! She is a queen 👑
10000% AGREED
Yes she needs to come back again
Truly!
Yes I love her bluntness
she was good but i hated her take on the baby. it annoyed me do much and i could see morgan was sorta uncomfortable too.
story 3: i accepted a friend back after she apologized to me for choosing her bf over me. i gave her a second chance bc she confessed that he was abusing her (verbally and physically), so i felt shitty basically saying no to her, so ofc i accepted her back. she was my best friend since middle school. she iced me out in junior year of high school due to that relationship and came back to me in freshman year of college. long story short, three years later, she ended up choosing another guy over me YET AGAIN and robbed me of $700. STOP ACCEPTING THESE PPL BACK. tefi is right, if they apologize, you can forgive them but you don't have to be bffs again. ppl who dump you over a guy will ALWAYS do it again. they are not good friends. stop giving them your time of day. forgive them and move on
Kinks are not inherently hereditary. That’s ridiculous. Most of the time it’s based on personal experiences and events that cause it.
No you don’t leave a baby in a car, I highly doubt they live in a climate that’s neutral. Being left in a hot car could kill her child and get kidnapped. The fear she felt was deserved. She was letting that fear be a reality.
I’d put a dash camera in her car to assure she never did it again.
since every comment is about the car story i’d like to say it did not over shadow the episode for me, i loved it and tefi!!! bad take, not a bad person or episode. she was trying to have empathy for the mom, even if it was misplaced. great episode!
Y’all notice Cosmo and Wanda trying to be real slick in this video 😭😂💚💗
I disagree with Tefi and the 12 year friendship story. I had to let go of a friend of over 20 years because of how badly she treated me. If she came back now apologizing, I would forgive her (already have) but no, we can’t be friends. You think her friend of 12 years who THREW away the friendship FIRST over a boy is loving her well? Absolutely not, I would not call that love. Forgive her and move on.
I agree with the Dad at the 1:04:00 story - like that Mum is ridiculous. She’s not even locking the door? What a moron
She is my favorite guest you’ve ever had on the podcast ! What a fantastic episode.
The last story pisses me off so bad & Tefi’s take on it at first pissed me off even more. The mother was putting her kid at risk, I have two kids & would rather go out of my way to take my kids inside with me then risk them being kidnapped. My oldest is 8 & I just started letting him stay in the car while I run in a store for 10 minutes max with the car on, heat or a/c on & the doors locked, I would do that with my newborn. OP def has some postpartum issues if she sees no issue with her actions & has no care for her child’s safety
I agree heavily. It seems Tefi doesn’t get how the father must have felt seeing his child in danger
Okay I am only one story in and I am absolutely OBSESSED with the energy your guest brings. Absolutely love her
My vote for the last story is ALSO NTA.... The dad is not the wifes father but it his child too... And I would have 1000 percent done the exact same thing if my SO does this to my child and I would be the one leaving him and take full custody of my child.....
By far the coolest guest on the show, such a good vibes all the way.
My mom is an EMT and she'd be sitting there with me, glaring the mom down, with the ambulance ready outside 🤣
Oof this is a tough one lol. Great job again Morgan and I'm very excited to look more into Tefi!
These videos get me throught the shifts at my job that I absolutely hate. Thank you for helping me keep my sanity. ❤️❤️❤️
The dad is not a asshole. The mom is a irresponsible parent. I can't stress enough how many times I have seen in the news where parents leave baby in car and someone take the child or they take the car and the child. No matter how many times police beg parents to stop doing it. They continue to do it and Most of the times they don't find the child alive. NEVER LEAVE A CHILD IN A CAR!!!!!!
The child's safety is so much more important than the feelings of either parent. This is not a sexist thing. KIDS SHOULD NEVER BE LEFT IN THE CAR! I'm so glad this woman will never be a mother wtf.
I agree that the dad taking the child out and “hiding” him was not a smart way to communicate about the situation. But it is absolutely never okay to leave a child in a car and for one it’s illegal. Tefi has a good point with communication options but definitely not with leaving a child in a unlock and hot car, that is never okay under any circumstance. I’m glad the wife is receiving help and that the husband is there by her side until she feels better. Communication is KEY!!
He did communicate though. They had an entire dialogue prior to this incident about the dangers of what she was doing. Communication wasn't working, so he gave her a demonstration.
@@MuseVT This
he did communicate, and she PROMISED she would NEVER do it again. and she lied, and did it again. she’s lucky he didn’t call the police, i would have.
The husband did communicate tho?? And the mom decided to not listen. Communication goes both ways.
@@Mandapuggo_ yes but life and relationships are not a “yes we talk about it once and if you don’t listen I’m gonna teach you a lesson” wtf that’s toxic af. Morgan solution was for me the best: take the kid and meet the wife in the store and then, yes, start fighting if you want. But the “if you don’t listen I’m gonna teach you Sth” is just reaaaaally fucked up.
(former) CPS worker. The baby in the car is incredibly bad. State law here explicitly carves out that a baby left alone in a car *must* be removed from the parental custody. On a mild day, in 10 minutes, the car becomes 20+ degrees hotter. Please, please do not listen to this woman. It is not "kidnapping" that is the concern - it is DEATH! Infants die VERY EASILY in cars. Please, for the love of everything holy, Do. 👏Not. 👏Do.👏 This. 👏
Thank you for this reminder!
I dont feel like the dude with the child is an ahole. Yeah he could have handle it much better. But she puts the child's life at risk. At least turn 2 windows down a little and lock the door... Beside that she did agree with the husband that she would stop. I understand that he got mad that she continued to put the child in danger and yes, he could have handle it better. Like, wait outside for her or get the child and meet her in the store.
She would never leave her purse in an unlocked car! And yeah he made her panic, but he took the baby out of a dangerous situation. He wasn’t going to leave his kid. Totally justified. No one even called him out for pulling up and grabbing a baby!
It’s a child not a dog. It is illegal to leave a child in a car for a reason. Children die every year in cars, because of this. CPS will take your child for this. Nothing in 7-11 is worth your child’s life.
Stay at home mom here with 3 kids. What she did is NOT acceptable ever. It's so irresponsible. It's tough, but we women are tough. Get over it. And very disrespectful to her partner who she promised not to do this. Kids die from being left in cars. This is bare minimum effort. She is the AH. Not him.
The fact that Tefi knows 2 people who shat themselves in public places killss me😂
I'm sorry, but that dad wasn't the asshole. A child was accidentally abducted in the city I live in a couple months ago because the mom left him in an unlocked car and the car was hijacked. Yes, taking the child wasn't a GREAT idea, but the mom wasn't in any danger when the baby wasn't there: she was faced with the reality of what could happen if you LEAVE YOUR BABY IN AN UNLOCKED CAR. EDIT: this mom left him in the car to do the same thing that mom did, wasn't gone for more than 10 minutes. Leaving a baby in a car is NEVER safe unless you are literally walking a couple steps away.
THE BABY IN THE CAR STORY...
NTA!!! who TF leaves a baby alone in the car for any fkn reason??? she had already acknowledged that she was doing that and would stop. but she did it again. nta
Right and the dad says it was six minutes from the time he got his son out. Who tf knows how long she was in the gas station for before he even got there. Bro have you seen how fast kids can get kidnapped, head shaved, and clothes changed to look nothing like themselves. 6 minutes is too long heck even 6 seconds left unattended in a car is unacceptable. The father had every right. Flip the script and tell me if it was the father who left their kid in the car that you would feel the same way. The mother is not at all a victim in the context of that story. The child is. Yes mental health is important and I'm glad she is seeking help but, she was warned the dangers of what could happen clearly it didn't click until he showed her what could happen. Child neglect is still neglect if the parent is mentally I'll. Respectfully, as a stay at home mom of 2 young children, who also struggled with post partum and other mental health issues, the dad is 1000000% NTA
I've listened to you guys for so long and you have helped me through a lot of my problems, and you did it again! I had a "friend" who just accused me of trying to get with her man and it all because I had patted his back and arm one time..... I told my husband what happend and he told me she wasn't a friend but I felt so unsure about myself. And the convo you two had helped me realize I did nothing wrong she just has a lot of paranoia and it wasn't about me it's her own issue. Tha k you so much! Love you guys so much!
I feel like ultimately, with the story about the mom and the car, you were both sort if making the same point. My understanding of Tefi's point was not that the mom should be allowed to leave the kid in the car because she's overwhelmed, but more disagreeing with the way that the husband went about making his point. Tefi gave the mom a lot more grace than I did when I read the story on reddit originally, though I do agree his approach was a little much (I would have done as Morgan suggested myself). I am however glad though that she brought up that its probably not intentionally malicious and that the reason could be PPD related. Explanation, not justification... I think that in these situations it is important to recognize WHY she was okay with leaving the kid in the car, and WHY she thought it was okay to lie about it, so that she can get the help that she needs and maybe they can work to build back the trust she broke, if they even can.
I absolutely love Tefi's energy... I hope you bring her back!!
1:01:20 NTA, that woman should have listened the first time about the dangers. Also, as a woman, she should KNOW the dangers. She was probably sheltered, but she is putting her child at risk
for the story about the kid being left in the car- he did NOT take it too far. The mother needed to know that her neglectful actions could have horrible consequences. And it isn't just kidnapping! Like the commenter said, leaving kids in the car when it's hot out CAN be deadly. I didn't know them personally of course, but my mom has told me several times about the family she knew growing up who's son died because their dad left him in the car.
With the friend story, if I were OP, I don’t know if I could get over the first not believing me from the start. Yes she apologized, but not until the ex confessed he lied about her coming onto him- why did it take that long and him confirming it in order to believe your friend of 12 years? How can OP trust that she won’t believe some other bullshit someone says about her. You’re friends should defend you, and this friend won’t defend OP
One thing I noticed is that no one even gave her a chance to communicate what actually happened, her perspective. Instead her “friend” and all the other “friends” changed and treated her differently based solely off of the word of her boyfriend.
It seems like you've never been in a relationship with a manipulator. They stomp any kind of doubt out of you if you don't believe them.
I see both sides. The friend definitely fucked up but I mean, she’s human. I think if OP still loves her she should give her another chance but keep her on a short leash. Watch her behavior carefully and if she starts exhibiting some of the same problematic tendencies, then she can cut the cord for good and feel at peace knowing she gave her another chance and the friend is the one who squandered it. Good friendships are hard to find so I wouldn’t necessarily turn someone away for one fuck up if I think they’ve truly changed and learned from it.
100% agree with your take
Yes this! When they were having the 'heart to heart' she even said she didn't reach out earlier cause she still wasn't sure what to believe. That situation is more than the usual new relationship 'but Im in lurv' fog, there was no trust there when there should have been. I wouldnt let her back in my life in any capacity.
I love the tefi morgan combo!!!! I love both of y’all sooo much! You both get me through my day!
I’m team dad teaching a lesson 🤷🏻♀️ I’m 38 weeks pregnant so maybe I’m emotional but… where are her motherly instincts? That is so scary.
when you said "not to spit in my food" the PTSD hit me HARD. i can't believe you were able to recount that post out loud omfg!!
I had to turn this off after hearing Tefi call the dad an asshole for defending his child. It is so dangerous to leave your baby in the car especially with the door unlocked?!
Same this was very upsetting that she was mad at the dad! The mom was lucky that this was her wake up call and not someone actually taking her kid!
Really loved Tefi’s very open personality , hope she’s on another episode :)
I am a mother. I will not ever leave my child in a car alone. Inexcusable, this was not a mistake. She’s done it before, something terrible will happen one day. Well deserved
Purposely leaving a child alone in an unsafe situation is an act of negligence and I will die on this hill.
He is definitely not the asshole about the mother leaving the child in the car all the time! Because she did need a reality check!They’ve already had this talk and she completely ignored everything.
best guest fr i love her
I know it’s an old episode but THE BABY STORY???
It isn’t about anger towards a mother - of course we are angry at her BUT it isn’t because we think a woman’s life after giving birth has to become all about caring for their child.
It’s about being a good fucking person with common sense. I’m no mother, still a bit too young for that, but it doesn’t take a genius to know that leaving a child in the car on their own is dangerous. Hell, if I’m driving with my little brother in the car I’ll make him get out with me for ANY stops no matter how quick I think I’ll be. If something happens, he’s young and he has no idea how to handle a car and isn’t strong enough to fight off any potential attackers.
All this anger should be directed at the women who decided to still leave her child in the car even after being aware of the dangers. Yes, OP is not HER parent, but he is the child’s parent and he has the right to do anything he wants when it comes to his child’s safety being risked.
This is the collab I've been waiting for!! My favorite comedian and my favorite podcaster!! I love you guys! Not sure why so many people are freaking out about Tefi's opinions lol. Daddy chill.
That second story is exactly why I never accept homemade food from people at work. Spitting to thin out icing?!?! Are you kidding me?!
Tefi is a whole vibe! I need more of her! ❤️❤️❤️
I GOT SO SCARED BC U POSTED THIS LAST NIGHT AND I HAD SAVED IT SO I COULD WATCH IT AT WORK TODAY BUT IM ON BREAK AND NOW I SEE ITS BACK IM SO HAPPY
Tefi's response to the baby story was surprising. Do people not realize how prevalent human trafficking is and that the specifically target babies/young children? My God. All it takes is looking away for 2 seconds, and your child is GONE. I can't imagine leaving the baby in the car while you go into a store. She is a careless mother. I'm with the dad.
Well you too think that Tefi and Morgan both grew up in the "Don't open the door for anyone unless it's me" generation
The fact that she thinks the dad should say “if this happens one more time I’m leaving” means she’s willing to let this mom leave her child in the car again. And who knows how many times it would happen before the father finds out? That’s not something you gamble with as a parent. That’s disgusting
This is my favorite guest holy, she’s awesome
nah the bestie that believed the bf is lame...NAH if you really besties youd KNOW....so nah accept the apology and be done.
This was seriously one of the most hilarious episodes. Please have her back on. I have followed all accounts lmao. Omg. So funny.
My mom left me alone in the car from age about 5 (from my first memory of it) all the time and I would usually just sit there looking out for bad guys, sometimes crying. Looking back, I know she was going through depression and not thinking right, burnout, etc. it’s definitely a great thing the husband learned about it and was able to address it. I think it was a harsh way to go about it, but it’s a pretty severe situation with life threatening consequences (heat stroke, kidnapping), so I can’t blame him for reacting so strongly in the moment. Hopefully the mom gets the help she needs and things work out well for their family.
As a stay at home mom of a 3 month old, that mother should be ashamed of leaving her child in the car, it’s not hard to unclick the car seat and bring them inside with you, he was absolutely justified in doing what he did, she needed to learn the hard way what her actions were leading to.