it depends on the individual parents themselves, u cannot say its something only asian parents say, its extremely stereotypical to say that, each individual parents parenting style is different
niccc ccc well honestly you're kind of right, but it is true. I'm an Asian and I was chosen a doctor ("yay") There's no smoke without fire, just saying....
actually just tell them.. I'm an asian, I live in China, my parents genuinely support almost everything I do (including college choices and staff) so just talk to them about your dreams and tell them about your dreams
Your advice videos are the most realistic and helpful ones on youtube. You don't glamorize anything and you're not afraid to be blunt about the real world. Also, the boys part was hilarious.
My dad wants me to be either a accountant or a Banker and here I am dreaming of performing in stages and holding that microphone but since that seems really impossible I thought i'd go with plan B and become a Psychologist but he thinks I'll "become mad while working with mad people", which I find extremely rude for him to say because it's not actually mad people there's just something going on in their life that makes them behave that way and in fact I, myself have been going through depression because of all the drama with my parents and wanted to help people like me but I can't tell them that reason because they simply dont understand, which is why I donr tell them stuff in the first place
I was super super shy and antisocial and University sounded super scary because of that. before going to my roundups and going to my classes, I started telling myself that people will like me if I show who I am. they all are looking for new friends. I met new interesting and I adapted to the environment because I became more confident. :)
I just found you! Love the channel! I had the exact same thing happen to me but with my lovely white parents lol. Expectations for a science/health job but my heart wanted to be creative on TH-cam. Great video :)
True..I almost died...TwT Most asian parents (like mine) thinks that a 100% isn't good enough..they want something like 110%.. Living the asian life is hard
Nhi Tong I had a C minus test average in AP AB/BC calculus. My parents told me to take the class all over again in college even though I passed (eligible for college credit) the AP Exam.
my parents are Asian but my dad doesn't care that much and my mum is more into me doing housework properly its weired to say but I would prefer my parents pushing me in my education
ahh i feel you. i absolutely hate what im doing in uni, i told my parents, but they just yelled at me and called me a quiter and basically told me i have to stay in it... :(
chi chi i'm pretty much in the same situation... but what i realized is that you should focus on things you like. maybe make a short break from your studies to figure out what truly makes you happy?
chi chi I totally feel you! I was studying teaching at Sydney Uni last year and I dreaded every single day of it. As much as a I love teaching and imparting knowledge; that wasn't for me. Telling my parents was terrifying but in the end, they supported me- EVEN if it meant dropping out from one of the 'top' universities here, for one apparently not on the same level (I beg to differ lol). One year later, I'm studying Business at my new uni (macquarie ftw) and I can say that I'm loving it; even to the point that its holidays and I miss school haha! It's a big and 'scary' thing to make a change; but there's no better time than now :D
charchar3one im studying architecture and i thought i would really really love it because its something ive always been interested in. I was more in love with the idea than the actual profession. It turns out i suck at it and I love and appreciate architecture but i dont want to be involoved in it or the process whatsoever... I HATE IT.. im still looking for something else that will suit me better, i havent found anything.. but i will hopefully :)
chi chi yeah, if you came that far to consider changing your field of study, then don't let anyone stop you. finding yourself and figuring out your talents is a long and hard process... but someday, you'll get there! i wish you the best of luck!
Omg once I got a b- on a math test and I cried and everyone in my class is like tf I bish I got f and they were like your lucky your even smart enough to get more than a c! Which made me cry harder because they DONT UNDERSTAND XD
YES. It continues. Get used to it because even as an old asian (HS was a LONG time ago), non-asians will not understand you when you are not happy with a mediocre performance.
My parents have never really told me what to do when I get older, but everyone expected me to do something with art. But now I'm on a path to become a nurse, and then do art on my free time, since I'm not at the point where I could make a living of only my art. We'll see where it takes me, but I'm currently working at a nursing home for elderly!
Im crying Wengie😢 I am 25 now and still cant decide by myself. When I was in highschool I really knew what course I wanted to take. But my parents specially my mother told me to take Education course. I dont like Education but what can I do? So I took Education course I gruated and pass the licensure exam and I am now A locensed teacher. but I really dont like teaching.
Lily Arouche But you won't be happy forever, there will always be a time when you want to give up with their relationship. Being married isn't a proof that you guys will stay together forever, they'll divorce if they are really unhappy with each other. And at some point in your life you'll take up some other jobs, dancing isn't the only job. And loving it doesn't mean that you can survive with it, unless you're talented then it won't be a problem. You see, ask an adult 'Do you you used to love your job?' After they answer, yes ask them 'Have you ever hated your job before?' Trust me, there's no such jobs that you will love forever, you've only seen the advantages of the job but not the disadvantage.
i'm a bit late to this video but i've been at summer school.. anyway this video is incredibly inspiring bc all i've ever wanted to do is be a TH-camr. but my very asian parents literally told me i'm not pretty or talented enough to make anything of it. i did it behind their backs, which makes creating good quality videos hard, but now i'm realizing maybe they were right bc it really hasn't taken off. as i'm in high school (& doing great!) my situation isn't the same as yours was but I'm glad you shared it bc maybe if I continue making videos - although in secret - my channel might amount to one as amazing as yours❤️❤️
FreshObsessed29 The north winds made the vikings! If it's extra hard imagine when you move out and you can do everything by yourself, suddenly what's extra hard to others is easy breezy for you and you'll tackle on new challenges way harder than the regular laidback youtuber deems easy.
I love this video. I understood every single scene you described especially the part where you quit your job then thought about getting back to accounting only to realize you'd be falling into that trap of comfort again.. only I'm still on my way out of my comfort zone.
the boys in my school days wouldn't just ask for one pen to borrow, they'd end up taking almost all my pens, because they keep losing them! I then had to buy cheaper pens cause everyone in my class keeps borrowing mine! why am I such a good person! 🔥
Hahaha that happened to me during the school year and I eventually said no and told them that I am not Walmart and to get their own because that is how life works 😂😂😂😂😂
I am so lucky!My 'asian parents' would let me choose any job I want but it has to be something big, like an architect; engineer; doctor; dentist etc...
Thank you so much for this video!! Revealing your story growing up with asian expectations really connects with a lot of your fans and makes people (me) not feel so lonely about it. I'm currently kind of lost and drifting in life too, but destiny has worked it out so beautifully for you! I'll continue to work hard and hopefully something good will come from chasing my passions too ;u;
Both my parents are strict and don't let me out on my own even tho I'm a teen and can clearly take care of myself. so then I asked my mum how long she was gna keep me trapped in the house she said until I get married. I told her what if I move somewhere for university and she said I will come with u..🙃
please do more advice videos because i really gotta get my shit together in school and your videos are helpful. like do a video on how to responsible and how not to lack motivation in school.
That's great that you did something that you wanted to do in your life instead of something that someone told you to do! There are a lot of Asian kids in my school so I kinda know what it is like. I am European and American so I never really had the experience.
I' half Korean and my dad wanted me to be a Astro-physicist or a doctor. While I want to be an architect so one day I decide to just do it and go to a school for architecture. My dad didn't speak to me for 3 months because I quite Latin and when the to study architecture. Now at age 16 I'm happy studying architecture which my parents support. Both of them are very proud of me now😊
My parents have been very supportive and I studied graphic design first. Later I realized fashion design is my passion so I studied another career yet. Still I'm not financially stable, but I changed my destiny and both careers have been very very useful. I guess life is all about doing what you love the most 😊 even if it takes a little longer than the usual.
That's great! I also have Asian parents (I'm Chinese) and they've also been supporting me on my path to become a writer. I'm debating whether or not I should be a scientist...
Yuo7766 As long as you're enjoying the journey thats all that matters :) I don't think many of us are financially stable these days till much later on in our lives because the cost of everything is getting high and actually we just want more from life as well so standard is higher :)!! Keep fighting I'm glad you're on the right path :D
Jocelyn Wang Yes!! As long as you love writing, enjoy!! You can also try being a scientist! I discovered that I don't have to stick with just one thing 😺
my parents wanted me to be a teacher BUT when i told them i wanted to be a fashion designer i were like "ok then"... three days arter that my mom gave me a book about how to design and sew clothes :)
Eva Glasell that nice of them.. my mom keeps asking me to go back to her hometown and do the final exam there (keep in mind that the syllybles and language there is completely different from where I am) and be a teacher. I don't even understand half the thing you say
I know that you may not see this, but I'm going through the exact same thing. It feels so unreal to see another person, someone who I look at for inspiration, has gone through this ridiculously difficult decision. You were able to talk about this in such a jovial manner and it really shows how happy you are with your decision. Thank you for posting this, it really means so much to me to know that I can do this too! Your fan from Cali
I told my mom I want to be a lawyer or go into law, and she said "Wow you know that's a hard job right?" My parents don't tell me what to become, they just accept it :)
i have asian parents and they told me they'll support me with anything. i dont have to get straight A's or be a doctor, as long as i'm happy, they're happy
I wish I had parents like yours:( mine wants me to get straight A's and be a nerdy nerd for lifeXD they want me to be a doctor or a lawyer and BLAH blah blah. And I just be like ;-; I want to be a singer/songwriter etc. i just want to do something that has music in it, ok? XD
Love these advice videos! I have a similar story with nursing school :/ I studied nursing mainly because my parents deemed it an acceptable career, and was absolutely MISERABLE. Now I study nutrition, and focus on singing, youtube, and other creative passions to keep me happy. Best decision I ever made was to leave the nursing program XD
I had this experience right after high school, my parents wanted me to be a nurse. And I went to nursing school for a year and just hated it. Then I grew the balls to tell my parents I hated it and I took graphic designing. You were spot on how my parents are with everything. I got a boyfriend during junior year and I was focused on school but he came to my life and I love him. I'm still with him and it had been close to 7 years. Parents are just there to guide you, and I think everyone has the ability to create out their life. And everyone deserves to just be happy.
And then there's me, I'm Asian but my parents let me decide what I wanted to be. Yeah the grades was always on a look out, but my parents were pretty laid back. They let me hang out with boys ever since junior year, I got my first boyfriend at 12, which was pretty child like and ended quickly and surprisingly didn't affect me at all, and now I'm 16 and have a wonderful bf and work and go to a high standard college/uni and my parents, they just support me through the way. Plus giving me the benefit of the doubt of getting married first before the *adult stuff* even thought I don't want children or get married *I think*.
She makes life so much easier for me that she's Australian because she says year 7 instead of 7th grade so I don't have to search what ages are in that group
alois trancy lol i relate to this on a spiritual level ,when i gave my parents a hint that i would like to sing and dance for a living my mom gave me the death stare
When I was in high school I had pretty much decided I was going to be a graphic designer because I felt like it was a logical option since I had a major in art in high school and I was "the artsy one" in my family. I did a short internship to see what the job would be like and I hated it. It made me realize that for a while I had known that I didn't want to do it, but this is what made me decided to give up that idea. So instead I studied hard to more years so that I could go to university, and I'm now in arts, doing something I love :)
i have asian parents too, but they didn't have expectations for my uni education and i literally had no idea what to do... eventually i decided to choose engineering and dad was like "i dont want you to do engineering" oop still studying engineering and they can't do anything about it hahaha
***** HAHAHAHA so true i am literally surrounded by guys ;) he would totally freak out if i told him that i would choose my husband because im surrounded by boys hahaha
It was totally inspiring. I have the similar story like yours. I finished my bachelor degree of French in University in Beijing, influenced by my Mom. By the time I didn't even know that was her idea instead of mine, she really manipulated my mind. Then I worked in the world's largest company for three years and felt so comfortable with nice pay and super friendly working environment. I was afraid to change my career because I have too much to loose, even though visual effects is what I really want to do. But last year I finally quitted my job and got accepted my the best animation school in Canada. So happy. My life for now is miserable since I spend all of my saving on my tuition fee and the program is very intense that I don't have time to work. but I believe everything will get better. Love your video. Fighting!
I'm going to uni soon and my parents wanted me to be a doctor. But let's just say maths isn't really my forte. When I first entered high school, I found a love for literature and surprisingly, business. So now, I'm continuing my studies in Literature and thinking of opening up my own publishing company once I'm successful. I may be tiny but doesn't mean I can't dream big!
Well, my story is a little bit different. My parents never had a plan for me, actually the havent a lot of expectations on me. But i wanted to change that, i wanted to study a hard career, so, i choose to study Law, and..OMG, thats my last year, im on my finals, and the last test is in 2 days. Im very close to my own destiny change! Thats video, in my own way, was very inspirational for me, because reminds me what I choose and why. Love U Wengie
Carmen Ares omg me too my parents are chill af so they didn't burden me with high expectations and I'm doing Law too going on to my final year good luck yo you :D
I seriously felt so emotional by the end of this video! Ddnt realize she made thz video before... Definitely a sign to jst go for what I like! Thanks Wengie ❤
My choice are: 1. Doctor 2. Doctor 3. Doctor I didn't have other choices!! It was either that or military school 😵😵 I don't like waking up in the morning at 5 or 4 to start the day. I don't even wake up at 7 for school!!
My parents always wanted me to go to uni straight after school but this year I changed my life by applying to do a year volunteering with Project Trust. I was accepted and I'm now fundraising £6200 to spend a year as a teacher and social career in Swaziland! It a big change but I'm beyond excited and I can't wait to see where life takes me 💕
Asian parents and African parents are so much alike it's crazy. My career options right now that my parents want are either Engineering, Accounting, Medicine, or Computer Science. I on the other hand am obsessed with Fashion/Travel/General Lifestyle/Photograhy and I want to start a youtube channel for it. Also i want to create my own blog. I'm too scared to talk to them about it though and I don't have the money to get started which kinda sucks.
they told me to become a nurse when i was elementary. they told me to become a teacher when i was highschool. then i ended up becoming a lazy bastard at home. 😜
BúpBê inc Hahaha.....there's a running joke in high school where my friends used to try and count all my bf's during free period TT_TT but... they weren't serious at all - looking back I'm not sure I would even consider them boyfriends....But...yes :)! I will share that advice sometime maybe more likely on my advice channel :)!
Have you know about a Vietnamese hot girl, she's making make-up videos like you do and she absolutely look just like you. You guys kind like twin. Her name is Quỳnh Anh Shyn, she is one of famous girl in Vietnam.
My parents mainly want me to get good grades, a good job that I want (preferably high monthly income lol) they want me to be a bit more healthy (exercise and control eating habits) and marry someone sometime in the future. The things they want me to do will basically become something I need to do in the future. I guess I have a different viewpoint since my parents are not really strict about me studying. I can study when I want to. They only want me to focus on studying if my grades are terrible and maybe, get my grades a little higher than average. But i'm not dumb, I want to be someone they'd be proud of, so of course I'll study on my own so they won't worry about my grades. So of course I'll take care of my health and I'll worry about theirs. So to those overly strict parents, please do keep in mind that your child *can* think and make their own choices. They just have to mature amd realize their potential. After all, in a couple more years they'd be adults too. Unless you plan to make them like lifeless puppets and robots of course, then you can break them all you want and it will forever be your fault.
Well, it is not only Asian parents..Actually here (in Europe) it depends on what kind of people are the parents but they all want their kids to do well. So, if your parents are well educated and successful - the pressure is bigger. In my case - my grandparents hoped that I become a doctor but my parents let me choose what I like. I am very grateful for that - to find out what I really want to do they allowed me to study dance, visit singing classes, learn foreign languages, play musical instruments and whatever I was interested in. :)
I was born into an Asian family too but one that had a very odd expectation from me and my brother. Of course they had very high expectations and they forced me from a very young age to learn piano, swimming and 3 different languages (including English since English was not my mother tongue). I was a very fast learner and I did everything my parents wanted me to but my family fell apart and a lot of things happened which caused my parents to divorce. After I moved into a much smaller house and I lived with only my mother and my brother. My mother never graduated high school so her expectations are not too high and my brother is 9 years older than me so he seems more like a guardian than a sibling. My brother was also specifically ordered by my dad to look after me in his place so the standards and expectations stayed the same while we starved some days and struggled to get by. My family told me that it was ok to do anything I wanted as long as I got good grades so I told them I wanted to be a lawyer. I meant it whole heartedly, I was very interested in law. Their reaction is that they laughed in my face, told me I would never be able to do it, my grades aren't good enough, I probably won't get higher than a B, a lot of things like that. So I became VERY angsty and extremely rebellious because every day I had someone around me telling me I was worthless. Not only that I was also bullied a lot at school for my ethnicity. So my teenage life consisted of a lot of abuse from every angle. My only escape was the internet and also games. Because of this escape I felt so strongly about I wanted to make a place where others can escape to when they have no where to go. I wanted to make worlds. That is how I decided I wanted to become a games artist/designer. After deciding that at the age of 15/16, I scraped past year 10 and year 11 with only good enough grades. The way I did that was I IGNORED every negativity around me and focused on one thing. Get the qualified grades to get into the college I need to get into. Since the expectations to get in were not high in my city, I was able to do it but it was not easy for me because filtering out all the negativity in your life while trying to focus on exams and studying is almost impossible. It was extremely difficult for me. I eventually got into the college I wanted to get into and I was studying Level 3 Games Development for 2 years and I graduated with Triple Distinction*. That is a straight A+ through all subjects with full points. I was so happy about this I bought the results home to my mother and the first thing she asked me was "Did you want money for this?" and I was so upset I almost cried because all I wanted was for her to be happy I finally did what they wanted me to do and as I answered "No, I just wanted you to know" she then looked at me up and down and said "It's expected of you." I mean at that point I didn't give a shit what she thought anymore whether she was happy or sad or proud I knew the moment I got my grades my entire world was in my hands and my hands only and as long as I am proud and happy with the results that's all that matters. I guess the advice from my story is really know what your passion is and really go for it even if it's an absolute sand storm. Another advice is to make yourself happy than others happy. If you make others happy that's even better but remember you are the most important person in the world, in YOUR world. Don't let anyone control what you do and do everything for yourself because you will have to live with yourself until the day you die and meeting other's expectations only give you the short term satisfaction but if you are happy with yourself then you will be satisfied until the day you leave this world.
I totally feel you! I had to tell my parents as I was graduating from university that I was turning down my acceptance to medical school because I hated it and didn't want to be a doctor! 😱 It was the scariest moment to tell my parents who had been gearing me up for my entire life to go to medical school that I was going to reject it. But it turned out okay because it was what I had to do. You have to go and do whatever it is that you feel called to and don't let someone stand between you and your dreams! You can be anything and do anything you are called to if you just go! There is only one you in all of the world and time, so go out there and do what only you can do! Your parents will always love you even if they are not happy with your choices at first. Love them and forgive them. They only want to help and do their best. So do the same and love them as you do your best in life!
I had sort of the opposite experience with my parents. They never tried to push me in any direction, and while the rhetoric was always that I should go ahead and pursue my dreams, they never helped me figure out what my dream was. I pretty much decided that after college I would just get any job and plod along with that until I got married. To be fair, my parents never told me that full time wife was a great career goal, but they never discouraged it either. My Mom talked a lot about being independent and not letting myself be trampled on, but she didn't know how to teach me the tools to achieve that. My moment of change came about a year after graduation. I had left the art industry, which is what I got my degree in, because I wasn't cut out for the competitive environment or for working so hard for barely any pay and no real passion for the work. I liked it, but not enough. I was living with my first ever boyfriend after only one year of dating, and working as a nanny full time to pay my rent and student loans. I started to realise that I had settled myself into purgatory--waiting for my boyfriend to decide what to do with his life so that I could mold mine to fit into and support his. This put strain on an already rocky relationship, which ended right after our second anniversary. I knew I needed to make a change and, for probably the first time in my life, break out from the momentum that was directing my future. I took an internship in publishing, and although that hasn't turned out to be my dream, it was working towards that goal that got me to move to New York, is the reason I met my now boyfriend, helped me build a social group very quickly in a brand new city, and gave me my first "real" job. It also gave me the courage to leave that job when I realised that it was only fine. I still don't think I've landed on my life's purpose, but I've taught myself how to break free from momentum and redirect my path when it seems to be leading to complacency. It's made my relationship stronger too. We both refuse to let issues fester until they retire into "that's just how it is." Facing relationship problems is always scary, whether it's disagreeing about who should go to whom's apartment or learning how to express ourselves in a way the other can really understand. I watch some of my younger friends going through the same "quarter life crisis," making many of the same mistakes I did. It turns out you can't really warn someone about the pitfalls of your early 20s, but you can be there to give them a hand and a hug. The best advice I ever got was to "pay it forward." It's so easy to do and it can make a huge impact on someone's life. It may help you figure out your own priorities too. Thanks for the videos Wengie, and for the real talk. I know so many people will learn so much from you.
My parents are Indian, but they want me to become either a doctor, lawyer, or dentist. I told my mom I wanted to be a makeup artist, but she said to stop being a "disgrace" and I'm like wtf
college is like hell I fail my exam and I'm quite scared to tell my parents about it. They wanted me to become an accountant but I think I can't do it. T_T
I'm half way through this process now and I already feel so much better about my life!! I'm quitting my job and moving to LA to do what I want to do. My mum is sad I'm leaving but I've never been happier.
um my parents are pretty much really self contradicting because they told me to think of what i want to do in the future (since i just breeze my way through school too HAHAHA like i don't even bother) and to make the decision myself but then... they say i should not be an embarrassment or smth and should ya be a doctor lawyer or accountant like my cousins,,,, ummmm
I am Asian... I have never failed a single test. I have had straight As since I can remember and am in all advanced classes other than science. I am top of my class and I am going into 8th grade. I am in national junior honor society and do choir and chief of yearbook staff. I am a basic Asian 😂😂😂
are you bragging or what? i really dont think this is the palce to be bragging because it just makes me feel worse after all the expectations and pressure my parents/everyone puts on me. thanks a lot. just my thought though so dont get mad.
wengie ♡ would it be possible for you to show us your drawing skills? or perhaps some tricks you learned along the way? your story made me realize that it's never too late to pursue my passions. i hope i could flourish as an artist someday, although i still have a long way to go. keep inspiring and i look forward to your new videos and also to meeting you in the future! I love you♡
My mom wants me to be a doctor 😂 for goodness sake I'm only 12. I can't manage to sort out things 😂 srsly! I still have 5 more years until I get into college! Asian parents are one hell of a kind 😂 Filipina Here 💓
Me too I'm 12! My mom wants me to be a Scientist and she's like....NO BOYFRIEND UNTIL YOU ARE ADULT!!! And I cry alone in my room...But at least I have a crush....
This video was so inspiring! I'm honestly at this point in life right now. Like I have to apply for university next year and I really wanna go into fashion and music if there is a school for that but my parents would never approve. I've always been an artist on the inside
im in that spot atm.. im doing the job my parents want for me and im failing at it miserably.. hating my life atm, and my family threaten to disown me when i tried to quit once.. wish i had ur strength
THAT ASIAN DOCTOR, LAWYER, OR ACCOUNTANT THING IS SO TRUE!!! I GOT CHOSEN DOCTOR, I WAS LITERALLY WAITING FOR HER TO SAY THAT.
ikr us Asians ;-; |-/
Ashley Ann Phanics! at the discø my parents chose engineer or doctor
it depends on the individual parents themselves, u cannot say its something only asian parents say, its extremely stereotypical to say that, each individual parents parenting style is different
niccc ccc well honestly you're kind of right, but it is true. I'm an Asian and I was chosen a doctor ("yay") There's no smoke without fire, just saying....
Same, Same dude
So how does one tell her Chinese parents that she doesn't want to do marketing or management or finance and become a makeup artist instead...?
Let me know if you do because I also wanted to but was always too scared 😢 Be stronger than me 😊😚
+Wengie MY dad say I should work as a accountant
+Wengie I prefer opticians
actually just tell them.. I'm an asian, I live in China, my parents genuinely support almost everything I do (including college choices and staff) so just talk to them about your dreams and tell them about your dreams
+Wengie Wengie,i am a mixed, potugal,macau and hk,but my parents didn't do it like that
Your advice videos are the most realistic and helpful ones on youtube. You don't glamorize anything and you're not afraid to be blunt about the real world.
Also, the boys part was hilarious.
magicianmana4 Awwwww you make me feel all warm and fuzzy :DD
My dad wants me to be either a accountant or a Banker and here I am dreaming of performing in stages and holding that microphone but since that seems really impossible I thought i'd go with plan B and become a Psychologist but he thinks I'll "become mad while working with mad people", which I find extremely rude for him to say because it's not actually mad people there's just something going on in their life that makes them behave that way and in fact I, myself have been going through depression because of all the drama with my parents and wanted to help people like me but I can't tell them that reason because they simply dont understand, which is why I donr tell them stuff in the first place
look mate, do what your parents want for now, after securing your future, u can do whatever u want! of it doesn't work out, u still have the degree...
same
Sorry to ask you but....ARMY?!!
Armys are everywhere!!
Yh that's pretty much my plan xD
OMG YOUR HAIR IS GOALS
i hope you mean just the colour , even Wengie herself mentioned that her hair is so damaged from all the dye. it is such a pretty colour though x
ohhhyousonasty haiii kyungsoo
ohhhyousonasty haiii ohhh.... Right hiseyesmile i found myself an exo fan pal.....
KZ Aww
ohhhyousonasty haiii Yup Color>health :D Worth :DD
I was super super shy and antisocial and University sounded super scary because of that. before going to my roundups and going to my classes, I started telling myself that people will like me if I show who I am. they all are looking for new friends. I met new interesting and I adapted to the environment because I became more confident. :)
Interesting people *
Good job!😊
I just found you! Love the channel! I had the exact same thing happen to me but with my lovely white parents lol. Expectations for a science/health job but my heart wanted to be creative on TH-cam. Great video :)
Omg I love your hair!!! You look so pretty with this hair color. Haha and as asian I feel the same about everything in this video :D
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orry to be rude but... are you Korean or Chinese?
I die if I get under 95% in math tests. T_T. The Asian life.
True..I almost died...TwT Most asian parents (like mine) thinks that a 100% isn't good enough..they want something like 110%.. Living the asian life is hard
This is totally true. hahaha! Asian life ❤
Nhi Tong I had a C minus test average in AP AB/BC calculus. My parents told me to take the class all over again in college even though I passed (eligible for college credit) the AP Exam.
I got a B in math and my parents got mad ._.
Just failed my math test hahaha ;-;
my parents are Asian but my dad doesn't care that much and my mum is more into me doing housework properly its weired to say but I would prefer my parents pushing me in my education
Same
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Omg yass i love exo!!
I was actually talking about the person above me 😂😂 look at that Baekhyun profile pic omg 😍😍 But I didn't expect you to be an exo-l too 😂
I assumed that but i saw exo-l in my notifications and i was compelled to reply sorry 😂
ahh i feel you. i absolutely hate what im doing in uni, i told my parents, but they just yelled at me and called me a quiter and basically told me i have to stay in it... :(
chi chi i'm pretty much in the same situation... but what i realized is that you should focus on things you like. maybe make a short break from your studies to figure out what truly makes you happy?
chi chi I totally feel you! I was studying teaching at Sydney Uni last year and I dreaded every single day of it. As much as a I love teaching and imparting knowledge; that wasn't for me. Telling my parents was terrifying but in the end, they supported me- EVEN if it meant dropping out from one of the 'top' universities here, for one apparently not on the same level (I beg to differ lol).
One year later, I'm studying Business at my new uni (macquarie ftw) and I can say that I'm loving it; even to the point that its holidays and I miss school haha! It's a big and 'scary' thing to make a change; but there's no better time than now :D
peaperfairy I know what you mean, i guess im trying to figure it out a long the way :/
charchar3one im studying architecture and i thought i would really really love it because its something ive always been interested in. I was more in love with the idea than the actual profession. It turns out i suck at it and I love and appreciate architecture but i dont want to be involoved in it or the process whatsoever... I HATE IT.. im still looking for something else that will suit me better, i havent found anything.. but i will hopefully :)
chi chi yeah, if you came that far to consider changing your field of study, then don't let anyone stop you. finding yourself and figuring out your talents is a long and hard process... but someday, you'll get there! i wish you the best of luck!
i cried in class when i got a 70 lol
Omg once I got a b- on a math test and I cried and everyone in my class is like tf I bish I got f and they were like your lucky your even smart enough to get more than a c! Which made me cry harder because they DONT UNDERSTAND XD
YES. It continues. Get used to it because even as an old asian (HS was a LONG time ago), non-asians will not understand you when you are not happy with a mediocre performance.
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n1na same but I cried even more when I got a 30 on a test..
Haha haha I cant get a 70 cos that ain’t an A n hahah the make me study TIL I definitely get an A btw this is my fathers
My parents have never really told me what to do when I get older, but everyone expected me to do something with art.
But now I'm on a path to become a nurse, and then do art on my free time, since I'm not at the point where I could make a living of only my art.
We'll see where it takes me, but I'm currently working at a nursing home for elderly!
nursing is an art😂😂
it's one of the best and worst thing I've ever done haha 😂
Those comments lmao 😂😂
Im crying Wengie😢 I am 25 now and still cant decide by myself. When I was in highschool I really knew what course I wanted to take. But my parents specially my mother told me to take Education course. I dont like Education but what can I do? So I took Education course I gruated and pass the licensure exam and I am now A locensed teacher. but I really dont like teaching.
Do what you love!! Don't let other people choose your path, it is your life and you should enjoy it
Thank you. Those words really did help me.
You know there's no such job that you will love forever so do what can pay for your bills, food, clothes etc.
+TheWeirdWatermelon but I love dance and I want to do that forever it's lie a marriage you can live that person forever
Lily Arouche But you won't be happy forever, there will always be a time when you want to give up with their relationship. Being married isn't a proof that you guys will stay together forever, they'll divorce if they are really unhappy with each other.
And at some point in your life you'll take up some other jobs, dancing isn't the only job. And loving it doesn't mean that you can survive with it, unless you're talented then it won't be a problem.
You see, ask an adult 'Do you you used to love your job?'
After they answer, yes ask them 'Have you ever hated your job before?' Trust me, there's no such jobs that you will love forever, you've only seen the advantages of the job but not the disadvantage.
i'm a bit late to this video but i've been at summer school.. anyway this video is incredibly inspiring bc all i've ever wanted to do is be a TH-camr. but my very asian parents literally told me i'm not pretty or talented enough to make anything of it. i did it behind their backs, which makes creating good quality videos hard, but now i'm realizing maybe they were right bc it really hasn't taken off. as i'm in high school (& doing great!) my situation isn't the same as yours was but I'm glad you shared it bc maybe if I continue making videos - although in secret - my channel might amount to one as amazing as yours❤️❤️
FreshObsessed29 You go girl!~
FreshObsessed29 The north winds made the vikings! If it's extra hard imagine when you move out and you can do everything by yourself, suddenly what's extra hard to others is easy breezy for you and you'll tackle on new challenges way harder than the regular laidback youtuber deems easy.
I'm very late
I'm even more late...
Dont give up always brlieve in yourself❣❣❣
I love this video. I understood every single scene you described especially the part where you quit your job then thought about getting back to accounting only to realize you'd be falling into that trap of comfort again.. only I'm still on my way out of my comfort zone.
the boys in my school days wouldn't just ask for one pen to borrow, they'd end up taking almost all my pens, because they keep losing them! I then had to buy cheaper pens cause everyone in my class keeps borrowing mine! why am I such a good person! 🔥
Hahaha that happened to me during the school year and I eventually said no and told them that I am not Walmart and to get their own because that is how life works 😂😂😂😂😂
+Jazmyn Flores so true. 😂😂
agree
lol
You're naive. Not a good thing.
I am so lucky!My 'asian parents' would let me choose any job I want but it has to be something big, like an architect; engineer; doctor; dentist etc...
Yeah, my parents too. I want to be a fashion designer and they are actually helping me out a bit. 😸👌🏻
It's been 19 years and I have never gone on a date but my test results at the end of the year are still the same xDD
Dude...90% in 4unit maths?! DAT IS CRAZY GOOD! :Oc Much respect xD
xDD
PitTan she said 9%
Clarissa S. no she said 90%
Going through this now (JUST got off a 2 hour phone call with my mom)...I can totally relate!
Thank you so much for this video!! Revealing your story growing up with asian expectations really connects with a lot of your fans and makes people (me) not feel so lonely about it. I'm currently kind of lost and drifting in life too, but destiny has worked it out so beautifully for you! I'll continue to work hard and hopefully something good will come from chasing my passions too ;u;
Both my parents are strict and don't let me out on my own even tho I'm a teen and can clearly take care of myself. so then I asked my mum how long she was gna keep me trapped in the house she said until I get married. I told her what if I move somewhere for university and she said I will come with u..🙃
But then they have they're nice ways and say I can be whatever I want to be when I grow up and support me
Lol that's bc you are Arab and Arab parents are the worst
+It's just Dino nope I'm not Arab I'm actually bangladeshi
ayy I'm Bangladeshi alsoo
Omg guys same! Bangladeshi betti squad youkno
Watching this instead of studying for my test tomorrow 😅😅😅
same here
XD same
Same 😂
Iam Idham hahah I nailed my test doe XD
Nicole Sarria
i have a world language and history exam tmrw 😅😅
please do more advice videos because i really gotta get my shit together in school and your videos are helpful. like do a video on how to responsible and how not to lack motivation in school.
That's great that you did something that you wanted to do in your life instead of something that someone told you to do! There are a lot of Asian kids in my school so I kinda know what it is like. I am European and American so I never really had the experience.
Thanks Kat ☺️ Freedom of choice is such a blessing 😄
+Wengie where are you from?
Its not just Asian parents that do this. Trust me 😂
안녕히 주무세요 ahhhh Arab parents 😩😂💜
+Hala Elkhodari you get me 😂😂
안녕히 주무세요 Your name means "good night", right? (please tell me I'm right because I always forgot that vocab.. xD)
Yep, it means good night
안녕히 주무세요 Yey! Thank you :D
I' half Korean and my dad wanted me to be a Astro-physicist or a doctor. While I want to be an architect so one day I decide to just do it and go to a school for architecture. My dad didn't speak to me for 3 months because I quite Latin and when the to study architecture. Now at age 16 I'm happy studying architecture which my parents support.
Both of them are very proud of me now😊
My parents have been very supportive and I studied graphic design first. Later I realized fashion design is my passion so I studied another career yet. Still I'm not financially stable, but I changed my destiny and both careers have been very very useful. I guess life is all about doing what you love the most 😊 even if it takes a little longer than the usual.
That's great! I also have Asian parents (I'm Chinese) and they've also been supporting me on my path to become a writer. I'm debating whether or not I should be a scientist...
Yuo7766 As long as you're enjoying the journey thats all that matters :) I don't think many of us are financially stable these days till much later on in our lives because the cost of everything is getting high and actually we just want more from life as well so standard is higher :)!! Keep fighting I'm glad you're on the right path :D
Jocelyn Wang Writers are amazing :DD
Jocelyn Wang Yes!! As long as you love writing, enjoy!! You can also try being a scientist! I discovered that I don't have to stick with just one thing 😺
***** Thank you!!! 😊
2:49 "why are boys so cute when you need to study"
idk, in my life I have all my time to study and ✖ CUTE boy 😭
me too!!! why??? lol
XD I remember I couldn't study because my crush sat RIGHT next to me
But he asked me out and now my dad is ok with me dating certain boys.
Lol!! but well its true sometimes-_-
most of the boys in my class are 💩 lol
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looking the comments down there made me realized im really lucky ^^ both of my parents r doctors and they let me do whatever i want
And I'm Asian
Christy Gouvandi fucking lucky boiii
Christy Gouvandi u get
Christy Gouvandi My parents let me do whatever I want too and I'm asian
6:23 her hair looks so good it is marvelous
my parents wanted me to be a teacher BUT when i told them i wanted to be a fashion designer i were like "ok then"... three days arter that my mom gave me a book about how to design and sew clothes :)
Eva Glasell that nice of them.. my mom keeps asking me to go back to her hometown and do the final exam there (keep in mind that the syllybles and language there is completely different from where I am) and be a teacher. I don't even understand half the thing you say
Eva Glasell so good
I know that you may not see this, but I'm going through the exact same thing. It feels so unreal to see another person, someone who I look at for inspiration, has gone through this ridiculously difficult decision. You were able to talk about this in such a jovial manner and it really shows how happy you are with your decision. Thank you for posting this, it really means so much to me to know that I can do this too! Your fan from Cali
I told my mom I want to be a lawyer or go into law, and she said "Wow you know that's a hard job right?" My parents don't tell me what to become, they just accept it :)
Kristina Palattao same here!!! my parents had expectations on me, but they never told me what to do because they trusted my decisions….
Kristina Palattao lucky you T_T
Kristina Palattao That's so nice of them :)!! Dream big :DD
2:15 that angle actually reminds me of Hwang Woo Seul Hye when she acted in this kdrama called Glorious Day as Jung Da Ae
i have asian parents and they told me they'll support me with anything. i dont have to get straight A's or be a doctor, as long as i'm happy, they're happy
I wish I had parents like yours:( mine wants me to get straight A's and be a nerdy nerd for lifeXD they want me to be a doctor or a lawyer and BLAH blah blah. And I just be like ;-; I want to be a singer/songwriter etc. i just want to do something that has music in it, ok? XD
OMG same. My asian parents want me also to be a doctor. It's hard telling them that I don't want to. All I want to do is make music, sing, and dance.
@julie j
you are fucking blessed xD
+Minz Lee me to
I liked how you said that what you did for your whole life doesn't mean you have to keep doing that the rest of your life!! That is so true!
Love these advice videos! I have a similar story with nursing school :/ I studied nursing mainly because my parents deemed it an acceptable career, and was absolutely MISERABLE. Now I study nutrition, and focus on singing, youtube, and other creative passions to keep me happy. Best decision I ever made was to leave the nursing program XD
Meg Hilbs Oh awesome :)!!
I had this experience right after high school, my parents wanted me to be a nurse. And I went to nursing school for a year and just hated it. Then I grew the balls to tell my parents I hated it and I took graphic designing.
You were spot on how my parents are with everything. I got a boyfriend during junior year and I was focused on school but he came to my life and I love him. I'm still with him and it had been close to 7 years.
Parents are just there to guide you, and I think everyone has the ability to create out their life. And everyone deserves to just be happy.
And then there's me, I'm Asian but my parents let me decide what I wanted to be. Yeah the grades was always on a look out, but my parents were pretty laid back. They let me hang out with boys ever since junior year, I got my first boyfriend at 12, which was pretty child like and ended quickly and surprisingly didn't affect me at all, and now I'm 16 and have a wonderful bf and work and go to a high standard college/uni and my parents, they just support me through the way. Plus giving me the benefit of the doubt of getting married first before the *adult stuff* even thought I don't want children or get married *I think*.
I love your makeup!! It's just complimenting your features instead of completely changing them ♥️♥️♥️♥️
wtf 2:20 😂😂😂 Max what the fudge Laughed so hard 😂😂😂😂
Haha, so cute! I love how your boyfriend acted as the senpai dude LOL
She makes life so much easier for me that she's Australian because she says year 7 instead of 7th grade so I don't have to search what ages are in that group
I say grade 7...
I'm form Australia btw
Saarah U that and she just sounds Australian (well about 85% of the time anyway)
omg same cos I live in Britain and we say , year 1 year 2 , year 3 etc etc
Saarah U OMG IM YEAR 7 TOO OMG IKK HOW SHE SAYS YEAR 7 INSTEAD IF GRADR
iamsodunwithlife I'm not in year 7 that was just an example 😂
how to tell your patents that you dont want to be a doctor but a singer
OML YAAAS
I want to make music for video games......I told my parents and im suprised my mom dint like,stab me
alois trancy lol i relate to this on a spiritual level ,when i gave my parents a hint that i would like to sing and dance for a living my mom gave me the death stare
HAHAHAHA the part with the "boys" that was hilarious!
I totally understand what you are saying I studied business too
Do a draw my life video 😍❤
Agreee :)
Elen Namirol Great idea :) It would be wonderful !! Please Wengie ^^
Yeah😄
Elen Namirol My life seems so boring compared to the other draw my lives out there :)!! But I'll put it on my list for you guys :DD
***** yaaay can't wait 😄😄
Oh and don't compare your life with others everybody has a story to be told ❤❤
That was really inspiring Wengie. Thanks for sharing it with us!
your hair is so charmingg
Tiffanius Smily
True
When I was in high school I had pretty much decided I was going to be a graphic designer because I felt like it was a logical option since I had a major in art in high school and I was "the artsy one" in my family. I did a short internship to see what the job would be like and I hated it. It made me realize that for a while I had known that I didn't want to do it, but this is what made me decided to give up that idea. So instead I studied hard to more years so that I could go to university, and I'm now in arts, doing something I love :)
i have asian parents too, but they didn't have expectations for my uni education and i literally had no idea what to do... eventually i decided to choose engineering and dad was like "i dont want you to do engineering" oop still studying engineering and they can't do anything about it hahaha
Reverse psycology probs hahaha
Chloe Ip LOL!! I'm glad you stuck to your guns :D I heard there are way more boys in Engineering too ahha maybe that's a good thing ;)!!
***** HAHAHAHA so true i am literally surrounded by guys ;) he would totally freak out if i told him that i would choose my husband because im surrounded by boys hahaha
It was totally inspiring. I have the similar story like yours. I finished my bachelor degree of French in University in Beijing, influenced by my Mom. By the time I didn't even know that was her idea instead of mine, she really manipulated my mind. Then I worked in the world's largest company for three years and felt so comfortable with nice pay and super friendly working environment. I was afraid to change my career because I have too much to loose, even though visual effects is what I really want to do. But last year I finally quitted my job and got accepted my the best animation school in Canada. So happy. My life for now is miserable since I spend all of my saving on my tuition fee and the program is very intense that I don't have time to work. but I believe everything will get better. Love your video. Fighting!
Omg you have the perfect face
You are so cool and I love your videos! :)
+AGsmiless other channel AWw thank you so much you're so sweet
I'm going to uni soon and my parents wanted me to be a doctor. But let's just say maths isn't really my forte. When I first entered high school, I found a love for literature and surprisingly, business. So now, I'm continuing my studies in Literature and thinking of opening up my own publishing company once I'm successful. I may be tiny but doesn't mean I can't dream big!
Well, my story is a little bit different. My parents never had a plan for me, actually the havent a lot of expectations on me. But i wanted to change that, i wanted to study a hard career, so, i choose to study Law, and..OMG, thats my last year, im on my finals, and the last test is in 2 days. Im very close to my own destiny change!
Thats video, in my own way, was very inspirational for me, because reminds me what I choose and why.
Love U Wengie
Carmen Ares omg me too my parents are chill af so they didn't burden me with high expectations and I'm doing Law too going on to my final year good luck yo you :D
Xena T
Good luck to you too :D
same here!! my parents still wanted me to be focused and stuff but they werent nearly as strict as my friends parents, and im thankful for that
Carmen Ares Well you're a dream asian daughter without any prodding :)!!
I seriously felt so emotional by the end of this video! Ddnt realize she made thz video before... Definitely a sign to jst go for what I like! Thanks Wengie ❤
Hey just tuned into your channel, and I'm loving it!
Aww thanks hun 😊
thank you for being a full time youtuber, it really means you love what you do and you care for us lol
My choice are:
1. Doctor
2. Doctor
3. Doctor
I didn't have other choices!! It was either that or military school 😵😵 I don't like waking up in the morning at 5 or 4 to start the day. I don't even wake up at 7 for school!!
My parents always wanted me to go to uni straight after school but this year I changed my life by applying to do a year volunteering with Project Trust. I was accepted and I'm now fundraising £6200 to spend a year as a teacher and social career in Swaziland!
It a big change but I'm beyond excited and I can't wait to see where life takes me 💕
Asian parents and African parents are so much alike it's crazy. My career options right now that my parents want are either Engineering, Accounting, Medicine, or Computer Science. I on the other hand am obsessed with Fashion/Travel/General Lifestyle/Photograhy and I want to start a youtube channel for it. Also i want to create my own blog. I'm too scared to talk to them about it though and I don't have the money to get started which kinda sucks.
Omg Same! In my family it's all about being the most successful in medicine and buisness
I love you Wengie! My dad is Asian so I understand what is going on. You inspire me so much!
they told me to become a nurse when i was elementary.
they told me to become a teacher when i was highschool.
then i ended up becoming a lazy bastard at home. 😜
Congrats for your 3M subs!!
Hello wengie, can we talk about love and relationships? ^^ you must have had a lot of boyfriends
BúpBê inc Hahaha.....there's a running joke in high school where my friends used to try and count all my bf's during free period TT_TT but... they weren't serious at all - looking back I'm not sure I would even consider them boyfriends....But...yes :)! I will share that advice sometime maybe more likely on my advice channel :)!
ahhh you replied!! ^w^ this made my day thank you! I watch your vlog channel all the time~~~
thanks for making this video I've always wondered how they are!! I loved this video!!💖💖
WHEN I SAW THIS TITLE OMG I FEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLL I FEEL YOUUU not literally. Because that would be creepy.
Lol 😂
horiphin Lolllll :)!! Would it now ;)?
Your room looks amazing! Can you do a video about where did you get those flowers, jars, fairylights etc? Thanks!
Have you know about a Vietnamese hot girl, she's making make-up videos like you do and she absolutely look just like you. You guys kind like twin.
Her name is Quỳnh Anh Shyn, she is one of famous girl in Vietnam.
+MidnightChild I hear this alot ;)! I googled her! She's very cute :)
***** OMG SHE REPLY ME >
+katty chan totally!!
+Wengie you look way more beautiful than her but yes you guys are kinda alike lol I didn't really notice
Do Mary I'm vietnameese c:
Thank you for this Wengie! You're a very inspirational person :)
Who else noticed the Slytherin colors on his tie?
OMG I LOVE YOUR VIDEO SO MUCH !! ❤️❤️❤️
My parents mainly want me to get good grades, a good job that I want (preferably high monthly income lol) they want me to be a bit more healthy (exercise and control eating habits) and marry someone sometime in the future. The things they want me to do will basically become something I need to do in the future. I guess I have a different viewpoint since my parents are not really strict about me studying. I can study when I want to. They only want me to focus on studying if my grades are terrible and maybe, get my grades a little higher than average. But i'm not dumb, I want to be someone they'd be proud of, so of course I'll study on my own so they won't worry about my grades. So of course I'll take care of my health and I'll worry about theirs. So to those overly strict parents, please do keep in mind that your child *can* think and make their own choices. They just have to mature amd realize their potential. After all, in a couple more years they'd be adults too. Unless you plan to make them like lifeless puppets and robots of course, then you can break them all you want and it will forever be your fault.
Well, it is not only Asian parents..Actually here (in Europe) it depends on what kind of people are the parents but they all want their kids to do well. So, if your parents are well educated and successful - the pressure is bigger. In my case - my grandparents hoped that I become a doctor but my parents let me choose what I like. I am very grateful for that - to find out what I really want to do they allowed me to study dance, visit singing classes, learn foreign languages, play musical instruments and whatever I was interested in. :)
My parents wants me to be a doctor, but I have always love math and want to build robots c:
Then you do that! it's sounds awesome!
Eridah Ampora yea you should do it..it's sort of like being an engineer and engineering makes big bucks
Eridah Ampora omg I want to build robots
I was born into an Asian family too but one that had a very odd expectation from me and my brother. Of course they had very high expectations and they forced me from a very young age to learn piano, swimming and 3 different languages (including English since English was not my mother tongue). I was a very fast learner and I did everything my parents wanted me to but my family fell apart and a lot of things happened which caused my parents to divorce. After I moved into a much smaller house and I lived with only my mother and my brother. My mother never graduated high school so her expectations are not too high and my brother is 9 years older than me so he seems more like a guardian than a sibling. My brother was also specifically ordered by my dad to look after me in his place so the standards and expectations stayed the same while we starved some days and struggled to get by. My family told me that it was ok to do anything I wanted as long as I got good grades so I told them I wanted to be a lawyer. I meant it whole heartedly, I was very interested in law. Their reaction is that they laughed in my face, told me I would never be able to do it, my grades aren't good enough, I probably won't get higher than a B, a lot of things like that. So I became VERY angsty and extremely rebellious because every day I had someone around me telling me I was worthless. Not only that I was also bullied a lot at school for my ethnicity. So my teenage life consisted of a lot of abuse from every angle. My only escape was the internet and also games. Because of this escape I felt so strongly about I wanted to make a place where others can escape to when they have no where to go. I wanted to make worlds. That is how I decided I wanted to become a games artist/designer. After deciding that at the age of 15/16, I scraped past year 10 and year 11 with only good enough grades. The way I did that was I IGNORED every negativity around me and focused on one thing. Get the qualified grades to get into the college I need to get into. Since the expectations to get in were not high in my city, I was able to do it but it was not easy for me because filtering out all the negativity in your life while trying to focus on exams and studying is almost impossible. It was extremely difficult for me. I eventually got into the college I wanted to get into and I was studying Level 3 Games Development for 2 years and I graduated with Triple Distinction*. That is a straight A+ through all subjects with full points. I was so happy about this I bought the results home to my mother and the first thing she asked me was "Did you want money for this?" and I was so upset I almost cried because all I wanted was for her to be happy I finally did what they wanted me to do and as I answered "No, I just wanted you to know" she then looked at me up and down and said "It's expected of you." I mean at that point I didn't give a shit what she thought anymore whether she was happy or sad or proud I knew the moment I got my grades my entire world was in my hands and my hands only and as long as I am proud and happy with the results that's all that matters. I guess the advice from my story is really know what your passion is and really go for it even if it's an absolute sand storm. Another advice is to make yourself happy than others happy. If you make others happy that's even better but remember you are the most important person in the world, in YOUR world. Don't let anyone control what you do and do everything for yourself because you will have to live with yourself until the day you die and meeting other's expectations only give you the short term satisfaction but if you are happy with yourself then you will be satisfied until the day you leave this world.
4 UNIT MATHS?!?!?!? i cant even get through year 8 selective school maths smh
EXOLs💖💖😃
EXO: STUDY HARD!
Me: Ok!
2 days later-
EXO: COMEBACK TIME
Me: ;-;
NopeKassy! Ikr !! And the struggle continues ~~
NopeKassy! It was 1am when exo released monster, and i got NO sleep that night 😂
I totally feel you! I had to tell my parents as I was graduating from university that I was turning down my acceptance to medical school because I hated it and didn't want to be a doctor! 😱 It was the scariest moment to tell my parents who had been gearing me up for my entire life to go to medical school that I was going to reject it. But it turned out okay because it was what I had to do. You have to go and do whatever it is that you feel called to and don't let someone stand between you and your dreams! You can be anything and do anything you are called to if you just go! There is only one you in all of the world and time, so go out there and do what only you can do! Your parents will always love you even if they are not happy with your choices at first. Love them and forgive them. They only want to help and do their best. So do the same and love them as you do your best in life!
Who lives in Australia like me?
meh
ᒍEᒪᒪYKITTY22 XD me haha
I wish...
are you in Australia
👐
I had sort of the opposite experience with my parents. They never tried to push me in any direction, and while the rhetoric was always that I should go ahead and pursue my dreams, they never helped me figure out what my dream was. I pretty much decided that after college I would just get any job and plod along with that until I got married.
To be fair, my parents never told me that full time wife was a great career goal, but they never discouraged it either. My Mom talked a lot about being independent and not letting myself be trampled on, but she didn't know how to teach me the tools to achieve that.
My moment of change came about a year after graduation. I had left the art industry, which is what I got my degree in, because I wasn't cut out for the competitive environment or for working so hard for barely any pay and no real passion for the work. I liked it, but not enough.
I was living with my first ever boyfriend after only one year of dating, and working as a nanny full time to pay my rent and student loans. I started to realise that I had settled myself into purgatory--waiting for my boyfriend to decide what to do with his life so that I could mold mine to fit into and support his. This put strain on an already rocky relationship, which ended right after our second anniversary.
I knew I needed to make a change and, for probably the first time in my life, break out from the momentum that was directing my future.
I took an internship in publishing, and although that hasn't turned out to be my dream, it was working towards that goal that got me to move to New York, is the reason I met my now boyfriend, helped me build a social group very quickly in a brand new city, and gave me my first "real" job. It also gave me the courage to leave that job when I realised that it was only fine.
I still don't think I've landed on my life's purpose, but I've taught myself how to break free from momentum and redirect my path when it seems to be leading to complacency.
It's made my relationship stronger too. We both refuse to let issues fester until they retire into "that's just how it is." Facing relationship problems is always scary, whether it's disagreeing about who should go to whom's apartment or learning how to express ourselves in a way the other can really understand.
I watch some of my younger friends going through the same "quarter life crisis," making many of the same mistakes I did. It turns out you can't really warn someone about the pitfalls of your early 20s, but you can be there to give them a hand and a hug. The best advice I ever got was to "pay it forward." It's so easy to do and it can make a huge impact on someone's life. It may help you figure out your own priorities too.
Thanks for the videos Wengie, and for the real talk. I know so many people will learn so much from you.
My parents are Indian, but they want me to become either a doctor, lawyer, or dentist. I told my mom I wanted to be a makeup artist, but she said to stop being a "disgrace" and I'm like wtf
Same I want to be a primary teacher. But my mom want me to be a dentist
i have asion parents
,they always say in summer do 100 pages of math
college is like hell I fail my exam and I'm quite scared to tell my parents about it. They wanted me to become an accountant but I think I can't do it. T_T
Good luck!!😊💕
I'm half way through this process now and I already feel so much better about my life!! I'm quitting my job and moving to LA to do what I want to do. My mum is sad I'm leaving but I've never been happier.
um my parents are pretty much really self contradicting because they told me to think of what i want to do in the future (since i just breeze my way through school too HAHAHA like i don't even bother) and to make the decision myself but then... they say i should not be an embarrassment or smth and should ya be a doctor lawyer or accountant like my cousins,,,, ummmm
I've just discovered you! And I'm seriously binge watching your channel:3
I am Asian... I have never failed a single test. I have had straight As since I can remember and am in all advanced classes other than science. I am top of my class and I am going into 8th grade. I am in national junior honor society and do choir and chief of yearbook staff. I am a basic Asian 😂😂😂
aaaaye! I'm Asian too! And I was also the cheif of the yearbook staff! 😊
Same with me, but I'm advanced in Science as well.
kitty Lui IT MEANS YOUR SMART AF
Kitty Liu ikr? I'm taking algebra 2 and I don't get high school credit because I'm in 8 grade 😢
are you bragging or what? i really dont think this is the palce to be bragging because it just makes me feel worse after all the expectations and pressure my parents/everyone puts on me. thanks a lot. just my thought though so dont get mad.
loved this video. you uploaded at the perfect time😂😂 i really needed this. p.s im going for accounting too
I am asian....my parents are not like that surprisingly lol
You changed your hair! It looks soo good😍😍
My parents don't care about my grades
Sarah Wilkinson same here
wengie ♡ would it be possible for you to show us your drawing skills? or perhaps some tricks you learned along the way? your story made me realize that it's never too late to pursue my passions. i hope i could flourish as an artist someday, although i still have a long way to go. keep inspiring and i look forward to your new videos and also to meeting you in the future! I love you♡
Who sees max in one scene haha
Who is in 2020?
The acting looks sooo much like an anime I would totally see
My mom wants me to be a doctor 😂 for goodness sake I'm only 12. I can't manage to sort out things 😂 srsly! I still have 5 more years until I get into college!
Asian parents are one hell of a kind 😂
Filipina Here 💓
Me too I'm 12! My mom wants me to be a Scientist and she's like....NO BOYFRIEND UNTIL YOU ARE ADULT!!! And I cry alone in my room...But at least I have a crush....
This video was so inspiring! I'm honestly at this point in life right now. Like I have to apply for university next year and I really wanna go into fashion and music if there is a school for that but my parents would never approve. I've always been an artist on the inside
What camera do you use for your videos?
+Thalia Romero I used a canon D70 :)!
im in that spot atm.. im doing the job my parents want for me and im failing at it miserably.. hating my life atm, and my family threaten to disown me when i tried to quit once.. wish i had ur strength