I´m an ENTJ, my husband is an ENFJ and he is the only person who can make me change my mind in a rational non-combative way. He also acts as a "translator" between other people so I can understand how feelings work. Definitely the best match for me. BTW he made the first move because I couldn´t read his intentions and had to blatantly tell me to date him, his arguments were convincing and we got married. Best decision ever :)
I’m an ENTJ female and talking to a ENFJ now, I find him quite interesting and that it’s rare for me, thank you for your insight, now I’m looking forward to seeing where this might go.
@@devolutionone also an ENTJ deciding between an INTJ and an ENFJ. An an ENTJ I never expected to have so many options at one time for a side by side comparison that requires some speed based on the ENFJ's speed vs INTJ's turtle love of consistency over time
Thats really cool to hear, I am an enfj male, and by far my favorite personality type is the Entj (don't get me wrong, I like all people types, however i find the entj a bit more interesting than most). I find that we share much of the same strengths while the entj also do well in some of the areas where the enfj struggle. I always have exceptionally interesting conversations with entj´s both male and female. :)
I am an INTP and I noticed that amongst the extrovert types, ENFJ is the one that I like the most. They are such kind and supportive people. My mom is an enfj too and I really like talking to her. Hovewer they can be annoying because they feel they must help and teach everibody even if the other person does not want it.
AGREED! I am an ENFJ and my identical twin sister is an INFJ. I'd like to see a lot more ENFJ videos, and also ENFJ/INFJ interaction videos for differences & comparison. (Maybe I should do one with my sister? Hmmm...*pondering*...she might say no because she is very introverted.)
Lack of homeostasis is a really big trait I’ve seen in both of my ENFJ loved ones. The crash after an Fe-Se explosion is sad to watch, but also speaks to just how much they care for others. I love my ENFJs!
Stereotypically speaking, ENFJs are my favorites lol. They're so empathetic and charming. Quirky and fun to be around. Where can I find an irl ENFJ best friend? 😭
I can often become the more quiet one but I know that when I feel good I am definitely a pretty typical ENFJ. Its easy to sometimes confuse insecurity and anxiety in social situations as being an introvert at least in my opinion. But I know that I get so much energy from being social and I do crave it a lot. Ive learned to not take up space especially in group settings (because of my childhood) but when I feel confident I do gravitate towards a leader role. Not the kinda leader that decides everything, but one that really focuses on encouraging everyone in the group, taking initiative if needed and just making sure there is some kinda plan or structure. Ik pretty abstract but I hope whoever might read this kinda understands anyways heh
Totally got you. Think you worded this just fine. To me you display practicality: your encouragement helps people put their best foot forward. You show the way by doing, so it helps people tag along and you are goal oriented and able to see which steps need to be made towards that goal, so people are not just happily busy, but happily and effectively busy. I'm an ENFJ myself and have quite a bit of the I of introversion in me as well, as I'm close to the middle of the scale on that aspect. I see it as an additional strength, where I can literally choose which role to take up and when to do that. Seems you have the same ability. The more you get to know yourself, the more space you'll dare to take and it will benefit all.
@@gardenjoy5223 Yeah I love the way you described that as it’s so accurate. I think you were right about being more in the middle of extroverted and introverted and having this ability to choose what fits the situation. It’s definitely a strength! It’s crazy how much can change in such a short period of time. I already feel way more confident than when I first wrote that comment. Idk if you’ll read this but thank you for leaving that response (: feels good to be understood as enfjs aren’t really the most common type. And yeah I just hope you’re doing well and continue to do that, and if you’re not doing well, I hope things will soon get better💛
Yeah, when I'm in a good mood I cheer people up and the environment is way better. However, if I'm not I can change the environment too, but not in a good way. I usually get sad because my classmates are too focused on themselves that don't even talk to me. I miss my friends (they're far from where I live)!! I LOVE being with people! Spending time with my friends recharges my energies, but since people in my city are too cold and distrustful (pretty much like ISTJs) is very hard to find someone chilly. Have a good day! I'm not an English speaker so if you see some errors now you know why it is. Heheh
When you're an ENFJ and understand everyone else but are blind to yourself...who do you call? This guy ^^^^ Thanks for flipping us inside out so we can see ourselves more accurately too; appreciate you. :D
I'm an ENFJ and my brother is an INTP. The poor guy had to learn how to deal with me while I was learning how to be a decent person. I shamelessly manipulated him at times when we were kids. 😔 But, we were pals by the time we were teenagers. 😁
As an INFP, i absolutely adore ENFJs, and even wish that i was one. Life just seems, not easier, but rather much more manageable for an ENFJ. To me, they strike a perfect balance between outgoing and introspective, serious and playful, socially-aware and self-aware. Of course, there are unhealthy versions of all types, but i just think that ENFJs have the greatest capacity for balance. But then again, this is so typically INFP, to wish to be someone else instead of appreciating and honing my own strengths. I shall work on that right away 😅
❤ Wow so kind! 😊 I feel like an INFP is awesome and VERY competent, so haha reverse feeling. Enjoy your day! We are a golden pair for some reason 😅❤. I'm trying to understand why in a TH-cam series 😊.
Or maybe that was the intention of ENFJs that you know (most of us). To show you and the others that we live in that kind of world. We love to keep the harmony in social groups, but we (again, most of us I think) have a hard time finding the perfect balance within ourselves. We just don't show that because, well, many reasons. 🤗 F and J don't go well together unless very healthy and mature.
The fact that we're so good at reading people is both a blessing a curse, though...when something is off, it doesn't matter how much we want to believe in the contrary and try to "stay positive": Fe + Ni combo would spot a lie kilometers and kilometers far away...people may say something with words, but their eyes, voice, gestures, and general vibes will inevitably betray them in front of us. And once that interpersonal harmony is threatened, we rely on our opponent Fi in defense of our dominant Fe, starting to take everything personally, and saying phrases like: "How could you do this to me after all I've done for you?", and here's when the lecture starts and we talk, talk, and talk...typical of all the personality types who have an extroverted judging function in the first place of their cognitive stuck, I guess. Fe and Te might prioritize or care about different things, but they're just as fast at expressing disappointment and complaining lol
"Uncanny insight into people's minds, emotional states, and motivations." Yeah. During arguments my husband often accuses me of acting like I know what's in his head better than he does. I normally deny this vehemently. But when things get hot, I'll confess it..."Yes! Yes I do know what's in your head! Next time you're confused about it, ask ME!" He hates that, lol. But part of him knows I'm right.
very true, every argument i always say what i think is true but other people don't believe it and at the end of the day they come to their senses and apologize or are embarrassed to face me 🙃
0:28 Gosh that is so darn true. I hate if I have to be combative or confrontational because it does make me feel like it robs me of my greatest social strength. I'm an ENFJ-A so I can assert myself and be confrontational if needed but I try to make that my absolute last resort because I hate doing it. It goes against the harmony I'm trying to create. But like I said, I'll do it if it means that harmony can be made a maintained from it.
I’m going to be introduced to my new boyfriend’s circle of friends and family on Saturday. He said, “Are you nervous?“ I said, “Nope. Everyone loves me!” Gotta love being an ENFJ!❤️
That's my lovely little ENFJ sister too. Everybody DOES love her. I'm an INFJ Empath and although we sibs inhabit different landscapes sometimes, we've nearly always understood one another well.
Yeah, you're absolutely right. But I think it comes a bit easier for an ENFJ-A over an ENFJ-T. The A type will choose to become combative and assertive if it means that harmony can be established if things are settled.
I'm an ENFJ I was also thought of as the weirdest but it didn't affect my relationships rather it just added as I fully embraced my uniqueness and wanted others to feel they could embrace theirs. We are weird but that's cool!
ENFJ here. I both love and hate my personality type. Really good at reading people even the ones that don’t want it. It doesn’t help that I play rugby which just makes me extra aggressive. Often times I do not know my own strength.
My best friend tells me if I have to hang out with negative people for work. I have to limit my time. The longest is 1 hour. I can handle that. If it’s longer, I need 1~7days to recover. So pandemic is really good for me, even I’m an extrovert! Cause I don’t need to deal with negative people that much. 🤩🤩 About people’s emotion. It’s very true that I can feel it, it bothered me a lot before I can manage it. I will randomly sense anger or sadness. It’s other people’s feeling. My best friend said it is nice and annoying. When he gets upset, I absorb it, so after he calms down, I’m still bothered by it. 😖
I find if I keep spinning them back to mercy and thankfulness with my own words they become less and less negative. But your right, I am in shock when people always assume ill-intent and want to do harm. And I recently listened to someone who was negative for 4 hours just letting them talk and it's taking days to recover. That said, they shifted their whole mindset on the situation, but I truly gave too much.
For the most part it's done for the other persons benefit. We look for and identify what the other person needs and become that so we can better understand and help them. At least for healthy ENFJs
As an ENFJ I believe my superpower is dancing.... Whenever and wherever I notice people start to dance and form circles when I do. My goal is to have a dance battle in every major city... Simply see dancing as another form of communication.
It's a sign! you posted this on my birthday... and 6 months later I was confirmed as a ENFJ!! oh my god... the odds! the odds! By Jolly Beans... the ODDS!!! *grins* 😘😇
It’s a very rare personality type and most of the comments here talking about having been an introvert or being anxious socially don’t really fit my experience. I’ve got this on every test I’ve taken and I’ve never felt the slightest bit anxious or unconfident around anybody in my life. I love to talk and present in a team and I’m really good at connecting and leading people and seeing their strengths and weaknesses. This is a confident personality not an anxious one.
As an ISFP, I love having an ENFJ mother. I can read her like a book, and it freaks her out. They're not exactly the "honest" type, and they'll constantly try to pull a fast one on you if you're not keeping a close eye on them.
Seems accurate. Very like an x who was an Enfj ( infj here ). Frustrating relationship because she seemed to be mostly controlled by Fe which is where I had seen the most growth and at the time I also waSn't as good at creating which was problematic.
I am an ISTP. My best friend is an ENFJ. He tends to be very scared and anxious that the people around him may scorn or look at him with the worst impressions. It's annoying and concerning to me since I'm the exact opposite of this and I'm bad at comforting him whenever he's in emotional distress.
I can't for the life of me figure out if I'm an ENFJ or an INFJ. Both descriptions seem to fit different moods I get equally well. When I first discovered MBTI I got ENFJ. Then I got serious with the theory and was convinced for years I was an INFJ. But recently I have been around lots of people for long stretches of time which had a hugely positive effect on my mental health and now I can't bear being alone anymore. I was never the solitary type but we're talking a risk of serious depression here. So is my auxiliary Fe just hooked now after having been neglected for years because of pressure on tertiary Ti? Or am I just an ENFJ whose dominant Fe has reached a new level of living?
ENFJs generally would never come up with I on the test, ever. You’re talking about having grown into something rather than it being natural and it sounds like you’ve actively pursued it.
I might know someone who relate to this type, a high energy person that seem to never turn off, took breaks for his leisure, and when confronted with conflict tends to avoid it. I don't really believe in mbti typology, but I still find it cool to learn about.
The more an ENFJ develops their Ni, and Ti, the more they see themselves as INTPs. But they would always go into the business of social reform if they have INFP friends that can inspire them.
Omg ! Thanks for your comment , so I'm not the only one who thinks that enfj can mistype themselves as intp , there's someone in my college he thinks that he's an intp , but for me it doesn't make sense at all ! The fe is so much to be inferior omg ! 💖💖💖💖
@@nenechandesuu .. I thought I was INTP for like a year… But that changed as I discovered that I can’t ignore all the people around me which is necessary to be able to focus on studying… Everything matters to me so I can’t study just one thing… Nowadays I’m thinking about studying politics because I could do everything that I want if I’m president… especially if ai go to my old country Sudan where it’s so chaotic there, I could be an authoritarian leader hahahahah…
@@nenechandesuu the essence of being an introvert is being able to focus on one thing and ignoring others. The only thing that an enfj can focus on is not ignoring others..
@@tahah.babikir7698 actually the enfj person I'm talking about is an admin for our group in the college , he helps us and so on , and i had an intp friend so i know intp very well it can't be him 😂 i just hope he recognises that one day
"People are like open books to them and they are avid readers." Omg, this is how I've always been feeling! Like people are like books with different genres.
Question: Have you ever heard of an INTJ mistyping as an ENFJ or vice versa? My mother has taken the test twice and got these two vastly different types, and I would love your perspective on that 😁 This is a great video!
@@Sarawarawara- That’s a good point. There was about a year in between tests, but a lot has happened in that year personally, so she could have changed that much. Thank you for that idea!
can someone help me? I'm an enfj, i know it for a relly long time but sometimes i still lost at understanding myself.. sometimes i even wondering if I'm really an enfj, but then i realise i have all the enfj points.. still i lost at understanding myself
Dude, I know I may have posted this very late, but! I personally have a life hack that can help you a lot, as well as other readers. I will describe it briefly but clearly. First, get acquainted with ALL cognitive functions from the beginning, study the 4 main ones and observe yourself. Make sure that by dancing to music and talking to people you get an extra boost of energy (For example). AND THEN, learn the 4 sides of the mind based on your personality type. Personally, I recommend finding CS Joseph's video on TH-cam "INFJ and ENFJ differences". This is an extremely interesting topic. And then, when you become familiar with this scheme and understand your strengths and weaknesses by testing everything in practice, you will have a complete picture of your vision. Including, you will understand why you lose yourself so often. Hint: It's about the INFP shadow type, which is essentially the "guts" of your personality. Symptoms of the personality being inside it appear due to being in stress and uncomfortable situations for too long. Fi is a very slippery and unpleasant function when it comes to one’s own unpleasant state of health, which also causes background frustration. I shared what I knew and maybe it will be useful to you ( ＾ω＾ ) P.s. I'm not a native speaker, so the wording may suck
I'm starting to realize I might just be an ENFJ (instead of INFJ) that my town decided they wanted discredited & banned from future parties. Wow. Stuff gets clearer every year in retirement.🤔
i have an enfj friend and am an isfp and sometimes i myself can see how i make the enfj in my life uncomfortable by being flighty and unpredictable (i'm trying to get better at that)
You sound like my istp brother. We talked about this since he likes to point out my empathetic side of me (enfj) when I play with our little sister and don't have to. I find it interesting how one can only care about themselves so much too. It took a bit but it took time for them to open up and for me to relize how they care about others too. We eventually figured out how to balance out and we learn alot and about one another. I think it's neat how we are our own individuals who care about people in a different way and in different depths.
ENFJs are better at dealing with the sensory world, while sensory stuff can overwhelm INFJs. ENFJs are better at fitting in socially and are generally much bigger people pleasers than INFJs who can actually ignore their Fe and start to look more like INTJs: analytical and factual. Hope this helps!
I would say most ENFJs come across as far more gregarious. They are likely to make their presence known to many people in a warm and friendly way. On the flip side, I think INFJs exude a bit more of a reserved warmth, and won’t be as likely to make their presence known unless the situation calls for it (or if they are in a particularly good mood). Additionally, I’d say ENFJs are less likely to focus on “hard facts” or engage in logical discourses. INFJs, due to their tertiary Ti, probably would enjoy a logical spar with someone like an INTP much more than an ENFJ would. Lastly, I’d say ENFJs probably will seem a bit more “grounded” in their bodies and surroundings. Due to the INFJs inferior Se, they can oftentimes come across as being a bit more in their heads rather than being engaged in the present moment. So if someone seems very gregarious, would prefer not to engage in purely logical discussions, and seems a bit more comfortable in their bodies, they’re probably an ENFJ. If someone seems a bit more quietly warm & friendly, enjoys getting into logical discussions, and often seems to be in their heads, they’re probably an INFJ. Just my two cents at least.
there's no ambivert in mbti scientifically.. u might be confused for it bcs both have the same nfj types.. enfj can do be quite, and infj can do be loud. try to find a slightest between that, either extro or intro. If we think logically, everyone can be an ambivert, we all have the extro and intro side. but humans do always have flaws, so there will be one that is more
Its ok to be confused about it because we are the result of experiences and stories and we change during our lifetime….its not about holding into certain type but to balance our character with what we want ourselves to be …..the 4 letters don’t measure how good you are but your decisions and actions do…..be satisfied and proud of course you are amazing
Interesting I thought my guy was INFJ but tested enfj . He seems more introverted though . Is it possible enfj’s can seem introverted or have a need for alone time ?
OF COURSE! coming from an ENFJ myself, although we love it, I do need some alone time after we're done socializing because of how much energy we put out for people.
ENFJ is a game protagonist that complete the side mission first before moving to the main quest, resulting high stats in charisma
I feel called out. 🤣
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Fun fact I actually do that in games
Omg this is so accurate when I play games lol
That's a great line: "People are open books to them, and they are avid readers."
Yay! Thank you 😊. Spot-on, as usual.
Right! I don’t read actual books, I read people - that’s what “literature” I’m interested in
Where are you enfj people hiding??? I'm an infp-t from Kerala.
Sometimes it's scary tbh... Huhu
Apart from ISFPs 😅 hard to read
i loved that line too :)
I´m an ENTJ, my husband is an ENFJ and he is the only person who can make me change my mind in a rational non-combative way. He also acts as a "translator" between other people so I can understand how feelings work. Definitely the best match for me. BTW he made the first move because I couldn´t read his intentions and had to blatantly tell me to date him, his arguments were convincing and we got married. Best decision ever :)
That is so cuteeeeeeee
I’m an ENTJ female and talking to a ENFJ now, I find him quite interesting and that it’s rare for me, thank you for your insight, now I’m looking forward to seeing where this might go.
@@devolutionone also an ENTJ deciding between an INTJ and an ENFJ. An an ENTJ I never expected to have so many options at one time for a side by side comparison that requires some speed based on the ENFJ's speed vs INTJ's turtle love of consistency over time
@@brennap3310 Didn't workout anyway lol
Thats really cool to hear, I am an enfj male, and by far my favorite personality type is the Entj (don't get me wrong, I like all people types, however i find the entj a bit more interesting than most). I find that we share much of the same strengths while the entj also do well in some of the areas where the enfj struggle. I always have exceptionally interesting conversations with entj´s both male and female. :)
I am an INTP and I noticed that amongst the extrovert types, ENFJ is the one that I like the most. They are such kind and supportive people. My mom is an enfj too and I really like talking to her. Hovewer they can be annoying because they feel they must help and teach everibody even if the other person does not want it.
Have also (INTJ) an ENFJ mom, learned allot from her. Especially social skills by watching her.
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I used to be INTP and now I’m ENFJ
@@johnnydoe2672 your cognitive functions cant change.
@@hatterene39347 that’s false. That’s highly dependent on your environment and experiences over time
For short: everyone's crush.
LOL if only ;)
Until the crazy comes out
Can relate. Not nearly as great as it sounds
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Aha ,loved your vids as well
I’m an ENFJ. This video is really good; I hope you make more ENFJ videos… we seem to get pushed aside and all the attention goes to our INFJ buddies
AGREED! I am an ENFJ and my identical twin sister is an INFJ.
I'd like to see a lot more ENFJ videos, and also ENFJ/INFJ interaction videos for differences & comparison.
(Maybe I should do one with my sister? Hmmm...*pondering*...she might say no because she is very introverted.)
yeah...
Literally though...
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My wife is an ENFJ and I must say.... one of the very best personalities for a relationship!
what's yours ?
Agreed! Husband is ENFJ and being in a relationship with them is fantastic. They know how to make everything better at just the right time.
Lack of homeostasis is a really big trait I’ve seen in both of my ENFJ loved ones. The crash after an Fe-Se explosion is sad to watch, but also speaks to just how much they care for others. I love my ENFJs!
I'm an ENFJ and non-english native, I'm confused by 'Fe-Se explosion', could you please explain 😭
@@Kate-oj8tu it means they are doing so many practical things for other people that they get really tired and resentful after awhile.
@@sirbradfordofhousejones thank you for explaining 😊
And we love you too!
Stereotypically speaking, ENFJs are my favorites lol. They're so empathetic and charming. Quirky and fun to be around. Where can I find an irl ENFJ best friend? 😭
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Looks like u got 3 ENFJ friends now owo
I'm ENFJ-
I’m an ENFJ, do you have discord? I would really love a friend who likes MBTI as well :D
the comment section make me feel appreciated. thank you for making this video nathan. ~ ENFJ 9w8
Hi, i see always 9w8 or 1w2 what is that?
@Ipsita Chatteejee thanks i found my enneagram type. 2w3 and enfj
@@hikarii_i Hello! I'm ENFJ and 2w3 as well!!! Nice to meet you :DDD
RIIIIGHT , this comment section is so validating , i am a 1w2 btw , basically a much more intense and opinionated enfj 😅
I can often become the more quiet one but I know that when I feel good I am definitely a pretty typical ENFJ. Its easy to sometimes confuse insecurity and anxiety in social situations as being an introvert at least in my opinion. But I know that I get so much energy from being social and I do crave it a lot. Ive learned to not take up space especially in group settings (because of my childhood) but when I feel confident I do gravitate towards a leader role. Not the kinda leader that decides everything, but one that really focuses on encouraging everyone in the group, taking initiative if needed and just making sure there is some kinda plan or structure. Ik pretty abstract but I hope whoever might read this kinda understands anyways heh
Totally got you. Think you worded this just fine. To me you display practicality: your encouragement helps people put their best foot forward. You show the way by doing, so it helps people tag along and you are goal oriented and able to see which steps need to be made towards that goal, so people are not just happily busy, but happily and effectively busy.
I'm an ENFJ myself and have quite a bit of the I of introversion in me as well, as I'm close to the middle of the scale on that aspect. I see it as an additional strength, where I can literally choose which role to take up and when to do that. Seems you have the same ability. The more you get to know yourself, the more space you'll dare to take and it will benefit all.
@@gardenjoy5223 Yeah I love the way you described that as it’s so accurate. I think you were right about being more in the middle of extroverted and introverted and having this ability to choose what fits the situation. It’s definitely a strength! It’s crazy how much can change in such a short period of time. I already feel way more confident than when I first wrote that comment. Idk if you’ll read this but thank you for leaving that response (: feels good to be understood as enfjs aren’t really the most common type. And yeah I just hope you’re doing well and continue to do that, and if you’re not doing well, I hope things will soon get better💛
@@enmanniska5751 Thank you for wishing me well :)
Yeah, when I'm in a good mood I cheer people up and the environment is way better. However, if I'm not I can change the environment too, but not in a good way. I usually get sad because my classmates are too focused on themselves that don't even talk to me. I miss my friends (they're far from where I live)!!
I LOVE being with people! Spending time with my friends recharges my energies, but since people in my city are too cold and distrustful (pretty much like ISTJs) is very hard to find someone chilly.
Have a good day!
I'm not an English speaker so if you see some errors now you know why it is. Heheh
Sounds like ur a ENFJ-T like me. I'm the same way
I love how you pack so much relevant information into 2 minutes. 😃👍
When you're an ENFJ and understand everyone else but are blind to yourself...who do you call? This guy ^^^^ Thanks for flipping us inside out so we can see ourselves more accurately too; appreciate you. :D
Can try find a developed Infj with a clear Ti....or Entp?
I find ENFJ masterfulness in people both extremely attractive and extremely scary. Insecure ENFJs are the worst. - INTP
I'm an ENFJ and my brother is an INTP. The poor guy had to learn how to deal with me while I was learning how to be a decent person. I shamelessly manipulated him at times when we were kids. 😔 But, we were pals by the time we were teenagers. 😁
I am ENFJ and my fiancee is INTP. I have to say I get along with INTPs very well, we kinda complement each other in life skills.
Don't confuse an INFJ on lots of coffee as being an ENFJ, just saying lol.
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As an ENFJ married to an INFJ, you are correct haha.
That's very funny. Thank you. ENFJ here who knows an INFJ.
Haha I thought I was an INFJ but always felt detached from the quiet nature theme of them. I relate to this.
My Enfj husband is quick to ask me "How much coffee did you drink?" 😅☕☕☕
As an INFP, i absolutely adore ENFJs, and even wish that i was one. Life just seems, not easier, but rather much more manageable for an ENFJ. To me, they strike a perfect balance between outgoing and introspective, serious and playful, socially-aware and self-aware. Of course, there are unhealthy versions of all types, but i just think that ENFJs have the greatest capacity for balance.
But then again, this is so typically INFP, to wish to be someone else instead of appreciating and honing my own strengths. I shall work on that right away 😅
this was quite the enjoyable rollercoaster, and it’s apparent you acknowledging that in the first place, is a step in the right direction! :)
❤ Wow so kind! 😊 I feel like an INFP is awesome and VERY competent, so haha reverse feeling. Enjoy your day! We are a golden pair for some reason 😅❤. I'm trying to understand why in a TH-cam series 😊.
I'm an ENFJ with an INFP bestie. Thank you for your compliments through this comment, that is definitely one strength of yours you should honor!
Or maybe that was the intention of ENFJs that you know (most of us). To show you and the others that we live in that kind of world. We love to keep the harmony in social groups, but we (again, most of us I think) have a hard time finding the perfect balance within ourselves. We just don't show that because, well, many reasons. 🤗 F and J don't go well together unless very healthy and mature.
The fact that we're so good at reading people is both a blessing a curse, though...when something is off, it doesn't matter how much we want to believe in the contrary and try to "stay positive": Fe + Ni combo would spot a lie kilometers and kilometers far away...people may say something with words, but their eyes, voice, gestures, and general vibes will inevitably betray them in front of us. And once that interpersonal harmony is threatened, we rely on our opponent Fi in defense of our dominant Fe, starting to take everything personally, and saying phrases like: "How could you do this to me after all I've done for you?", and here's when the lecture starts and we talk, talk, and talk...typical of all the personality types who have an extroverted judging function in the first place of their cognitive stuck, I guess. Fe and Te might prioritize or care about different things, but they're just as fast at expressing disappointment and complaining lol
I knew this but it's amazing how you said it, I study ENFJ a lot as they are a type that greatly interests me 🙏
"Uncanny insight into people's minds, emotional states, and motivations." Yeah. During arguments my husband often accuses me of acting like I know what's in his head better than he does. I normally deny this vehemently. But when things get hot, I'll confess it..."Yes! Yes I do know what's in your head! Next time you're confused about it, ask ME!" He hates that, lol. But part of him knows I'm right.
very true, every argument i always say what i think is true but other people don't believe it and at the end of the day they come to their senses and apologize or are embarrassed to face me 🙃
Very insightful... I genuinely feel energetically drained around very toxic negative people. I need to learn to create distance!
Thank you 😊
my mom is an enfj and my dad an intp. it's a very cliche couple in mbti, but they get along so well it's almost unbelievable
I’m am ENFJ 4w3 and my husband is an INTP 5w4. We have been married 36 years!
i love how accurate and simple he explained enfjs
0:28 Gosh that is so darn true. I hate if I have to be combative or confrontational because it does make me feel like it robs me of my greatest social strength. I'm an ENFJ-A so I can assert myself and be confrontational if needed but I try to make that my absolute last resort because I hate doing it. It goes against the harmony I'm trying to create. But like I said, I'll do it if it means that harmony can be made a maintained from it.
It's a painful balancing act at times. But, once that skill is mastered, ENFJs are unstoppable ~ Nathan
Me too!
I’m going to be introduced to my new boyfriend’s circle of friends and family on Saturday. He said, “Are you nervous?“ I said, “Nope. Everyone loves me!” Gotta love being an ENFJ!❤️
That's my lovely little ENFJ sister too. Everybody DOES love her. I'm an INFJ Empath and although we sibs inhabit different landscapes sometimes, we've nearly always understood one another well.
I’m an ENFJ and I confirm this message.
Glad to hear it! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho What’s your MBTI?
Do not make the error of thinking we will not communicate in a combative way when it is in the best interest of the target or the group
Yeah, you're absolutely right. But I think it comes a bit easier for an ENFJ-A over an ENFJ-T. The A type will choose to become combative and assertive if it means that harmony can be established if things are settled.
as an ENFJ it's so sweet to see al the love in the comments thanks guys 😭
nice to see some enfj love
I'm an enfj but somehow my friends really thought that i was the weirdest in class
I'm an ENFJ I was also thought of as the weirdest but it didn't affect my relationships rather it just added as I fully embraced my uniqueness and wanted others to feel they could embrace theirs. We are weird but that's cool!
@@Miluielle yea, we're striving to embrace the others to reveal their true selves, it started from us
a 'weird' infp (like me) would love to have you as a friend
Yeah we are weird lol
SO DID MINE😭💀
I think we're highly underrated and pretty useful and handy.
Reading the comments made me feel great.
-ENFJ
I haven't watched this video for two years, since you first posted it. Thank you, Sir!
Would be great if you do a video comparing enfj and esfj
ENFJ here. I both love and hate my personality type. Really good at reading people even the ones that don’t want it. It doesn’t help that I play rugby which just makes me extra aggressive. Often times I do not know my own strength.
These two-minutes-videos are very good!
My best friend tells me if I have to hang out with negative people for work. I have to limit my time. The longest is 1 hour. I can handle that. If it’s longer, I need 1~7days to recover. So pandemic is really good for me, even I’m an extrovert! Cause I don’t need to deal with negative people that much. 🤩🤩
About people’s emotion. It’s very true that I can feel it, it bothered me a lot before I can manage it. I will randomly sense anger or sadness. It’s other people’s feeling. My best friend said it is nice and annoying. When he gets upset, I absorb it, so after he calms down, I’m still bothered by it. 😖
I find if I keep spinning them back to mercy and thankfulness with my own words they become less and less negative. But your right, I am in shock when people always assume ill-intent and want to do harm. And I recently listened to someone who was negative for 4 hours just letting them talk and it's taking days to recover. That said, they shifted their whole mindset on the situation, but I truly gave too much.
ENFJs are the social chameleons. thanks for the video it's very useful for my typing
At times it's really nice, but other times I wish I could stop being a chameleon.
For the most part it's done for the other persons benefit. We look for and identify what the other person needs and become that so we can better understand and help them. At least for healthy ENFJs
that is such a huge compliment.
Like wow. This absolutely nails it on the head in ways I haven’t even heard before 🤯 it’s nice to be understood
Yessss now this infp stands more of a chance to find that enfj out there 😉
LOL
Yeah im tryna find a enfj in highschool, I need a friend :(
Not if I get there first! - an INTP who'll make you charmed with my existence instead
I'M RIGHT HERE GUYS!
Wow how spot on can you be? As an ENFJ myself I found this remarkably accurate. Thanks 🙏
As an ENFJ I believe my superpower is dancing.... Whenever and wherever I notice people start to dance and form circles when I do. My goal is to have a dance battle in every major city... Simply see dancing as another form of communication.
Agree 💯🙂😀😃😊👍🏻
That's literally so wholesome and I hope that goal is accomplished for you 💕
we have superpower?
Omg! Mine too. Wanna dance battle?
Oh man you speak so fast, i had to slow the video down a bit 😅 a great sum-up of Enfj people. Thank you 😎
Short and completely understandable .. best ever explanation I’ve listened to . 👌🏼
I love enfjs! ♥️
Love you more! 💕💕
It's a sign! you posted this on my birthday... and 6 months later I was confirmed as a ENFJ!! oh my god... the odds! the odds! By Jolly Beans... the ODDS!!!
*grins* 😘😇
Fate! ~ Nathan
please do an entj version!! these videos are really accurate it’s amazing
People are like open book to them and they are avid reader - indeed we are
It’s a very rare personality type and most of the comments here talking about having been an introvert or being anxious socially don’t really fit my experience. I’ve got this on every test I’ve taken and I’ve never felt the slightest bit anxious or unconfident around anybody in my life. I love to talk and present in a team and I’m really good at connecting and leading people and seeing their strengths and weaknesses. This is a confident personality not an anxious one.
I don't think that's possible, to not feel anxiety
Woohoo! Thanks for keeping them going! This is like having a cheat sheet for every personality type :3 🦑
Thanks for the video and to the people who've showed their love 💕....
ENFJs are the best types. Just try to change my mind. -INFP
Holy cow, feels like this guy just illuminated the deepest darkest corners of my soul.
As an ENFJ married to an intj I can attest to the frustration of pure logic. It's like I'm married to Spock or something!
As an ISFP, I love having an ENFJ mother. I can read her like a book, and it freaks her out. They're not exactly the "honest" type, and they'll constantly try to pull a fast one on you if you're not keeping a close eye on them.
Seems accurate. Very like an x who was an Enfj ( infj here ). Frustrating relationship because she seemed to be mostly controlled by Fe which is where I had seen the most growth and at the time I also waSn't as good at creating which was problematic.
I am an ISTP. My best friend is an ENFJ. He tends to be very scared and anxious that the people around him may scorn or look at him with the worst impressions. It's annoying and concerning to me since I'm the exact opposite of this and I'm bad at comforting him whenever he's in emotional distress.
Spot on here - articulately put 🤛🏼
I secretly adore you guys :]
Sincerely Infp
I can't for the life of me figure out if I'm an ENFJ or an INFJ. Both descriptions seem to fit different moods I get equally well.
When I first discovered MBTI I got ENFJ. Then I got serious with the theory and was convinced for years I was an INFJ. But recently I have been around lots of people for long stretches of time which had a hugely positive effect on my mental health and now I can't bear being alone anymore. I was never the solitary type but we're talking a risk of serious depression here. So is my auxiliary Fe just hooked now after having been neglected for years because of pressure on tertiary Ti? Or am I just an ENFJ whose dominant Fe has reached a new level of living?
ENFJs generally would never come up with I on the test, ever. You’re talking about having grown into something rather than it being natural and it sounds like you’ve actively pursued it.
ENFJ of course
❤ Awe. Did you figure it out in the meantime?! I am a great fan of the CS Joseph video where he compairs ENFJ and INFJ. Wish you well.
I might know someone who relate to this type, a high energy person that seem to never turn off, took breaks for his leisure, and when confronted with conflict tends to avoid it. I don't really believe in mbti typology, but I still find it cool to learn about.
The more an ENFJ develops their Ni, and Ti, the more they see themselves as INTPs. But they would always go into the business of social reform if they have INFP friends that can inspire them.
Omg ! Thanks for your comment , so I'm not the only one who thinks that enfj can mistype themselves as intp , there's someone in my college he thinks that he's an intp , but for me it doesn't make sense at all ! The fe is so much to be inferior omg ! 💖💖💖💖
@@nenechandesuu .. I thought I was INTP for like a year…
But that changed as I discovered that I can’t ignore all the people around me which is necessary to be able to focus on studying…
Everything matters to me so I can’t study just one thing…
Nowadays I’m thinking about studying politics because I could do everything that I want if I’m president… especially if ai go to my old country Sudan where it’s so chaotic there, I could be an authoritarian leader hahahahah…
@@nenechandesuu the essence of being an introvert is being able to focus on one thing and ignoring others.
The only thing that an enfj can focus on is not ignoring others..
@@tahah.babikir7698 Enfj are naturally good leaders , and fe users can't ignore people and they crave for harmony .
@@tahah.babikir7698 actually the enfj person I'm talking about is an admin for our group in the college , he helps us and so on , and i had an intp friend so i know intp very well it can't be him 😂 i just hope he recognises that one day
Your knowledge is fantastic. New subbie here.
honestly they are my favourite type
I am entp
@KGOD18 they are in my opinion the best partners to entp with well developed Fe
Mine too, I'm infp. One of my closest friends is enfj.
I honestly love entps I find them so fun to be around! -Enfj :p
I think ENFJs are just a dream cuz I have never met anyone so exceptionally perfect...ulgh
I'm right here
@@elisep9481 you sound like a great one :)
I’m an INTP and I have a crush on an ENFJ.
I am an ENFJ that values an INFJ person so much. I often hurt by the idea that I caused an INFJ some sort of discomfort.
"People are like open books to them and they are avid readers."
Omg, this is how I've always been feeling! Like people are like books with different genres.
Question: Have you ever heard of an INTJ mistyping as an ENFJ or vice versa? My mother has taken the test twice and got these two vastly different types, and I would love your perspective on that 😁 This is a great video!
Maybe she changed over time?
@@Sarawarawara- That’s a good point. There was about a year in between tests, but a lot has happened in that year personally, so she could have changed that much. Thank you for that idea!
@@hannahwhatley8373 yeah maybe her mental state changed due to the pandemic or something.
These types are like opposites in a way, try to notice if she has Fe or Fi 👍
@@hannahwhatley8373 Questions to social things may have been different because of the pandemic
Iam an Enfj and I have many times thought that I can actually read minds hehehhe XD
can someone help me? I'm an enfj, i know it for a relly long time but sometimes i still lost at understanding myself.. sometimes i even wondering if I'm really an enfj, but then i realise i have all the enfj points.. still i lost at understanding myself
Dude, I know I may have posted this very late, but! I personally have a life hack that can help you a lot, as well as other readers. I will describe it briefly but clearly.
First, get acquainted with ALL cognitive functions from the beginning, study the 4 main ones and observe yourself. Make sure that by dancing to music and talking to people you get an extra boost of energy (For example). AND THEN, learn the 4 sides of the mind based on your personality type. Personally, I recommend finding CS Joseph's video on TH-cam "INFJ and ENFJ differences".
This is an extremely interesting topic. And then, when you become familiar with this scheme and understand your strengths and weaknesses by testing everything in practice, you will have a complete picture of your vision. Including, you will understand why you lose yourself so often. Hint: It's about the INFP shadow type, which is essentially the "guts" of your personality. Symptoms of the personality being inside it appear due to being in stress and uncomfortable situations for too long.
Fi is a very slippery and unpleasant function when it comes to one’s own unpleasant state of health, which also causes background frustration.
I shared what I knew and maybe it will be useful to you ( ＾ω＾ )
P.s. I'm not a native speaker, so the wording may suck
Being a neurodivergent ENFJ is very interesting something conflicting experience.
Infp here. I need to get one of these! Where are y’all?!
How dare you... I mean, you aren't wrong, but, how dare you. :p
i feel so loved 😭😭😭 - enfj
Good! ~ Nathan
THX U! BTW İ LİKE UR ACCENT!
this man knows what he is talking about.
Universe.. send me a mature ENFJ woman. Their traits seem so complimentary to mine. Grateful, /Intj
😅
Husband is ENFJ and literally everything you described.
I wonder if ENFJ can "read" INTP as they struggle with expressions (also reading).
I was curious about them since they are always shipped with INFP (me) but I'm happy with my ENTP boyfriend. ENTPs are my favorite types.
I'm starting to realize I might just be an ENFJ (instead of INFJ) that my town decided they wanted discredited & banned from future parties. Wow. Stuff gets clearer every year in retirement.🤔
As an infj you have described my enfj husband very accurately
i have an enfj friend and am an isfp and sometimes i myself can see how i make the enfj in my life uncomfortable by being flighty and unpredictable (i'm trying to get better at that)
yup these mbti are the only i wanna spot, rest all idk
As an ISTP I am confused on how ENFJs could be so empathetic and all that, and I both admire and think that it's stupid.
I'm an Enfj and I think it's stupic too.
Enfj here, I'm sure my istp fiancé agrees with you.
You sound like my istp brother. We talked about this since he likes to point out my empathetic side of me (enfj) when I play with our little sister and don't have to. I find it interesting how one can only care about themselves so much too.
It took a bit but it took time for them to open up and for me to relize how they care about others too. We eventually figured out how to balance out and we learn alot and about one another. I think it's neat how we are our own individuals who care about people in a different way and in different depths.
Never thought I could be described in a nutshell, 😮❤!
ENFJ's are really interesting.
Enfjs what's the biggest difference between you and INFJs
ENFJs are better at dealing with the sensory world, while sensory stuff can overwhelm INFJs. ENFJs are better at fitting in socially and are generally much bigger people pleasers than INFJs who can actually ignore their Fe and start to look more like INTJs: analytical and factual. Hope this helps!
I'm not an ENFJ but I had to answer lol
I would say most ENFJs come across as far more gregarious. They are likely to make their presence known to many people in a warm and friendly way. On the flip side, I think INFJs exude a bit more of a reserved warmth, and won’t be as likely to make their presence known unless the situation calls for it (or if they are in a particularly good mood).
Additionally, I’d say ENFJs are less likely to focus on “hard facts” or engage in logical discourses. INFJs, due to their tertiary Ti, probably would enjoy a logical spar with someone like an INTP much more than an ENFJ would.
Lastly, I’d say ENFJs probably will seem a bit more “grounded” in their bodies and surroundings. Due to the INFJs inferior Se, they can oftentimes come across as being a bit more in their heads rather than being engaged in the present moment.
So if someone seems very gregarious, would prefer not to engage in purely logical discussions, and seems a bit more comfortable in their bodies, they’re probably an ENFJ. If someone seems a bit more quietly warm & friendly, enjoys getting into logical discussions, and often seems to be in their heads, they’re probably an INFJ. Just my two cents at least.
@@danielw4838 you said it better than I ever could 👍
Sorry to spam the replies again but this is a huge difference 0:38, INFJs love cold and detached logic while ENFJs find it "jarring" as Nathan says
I wish I could be friends with an enfj, I can never find them😵💫
YOU HAVE A WHOLE COMMENT SECTION OF EM DARLS, but you got one interested in here, what's your @?
Ok, Ok plz do ENTJ next!
Where could i find u guys ? I mean im very curious and i never met one before
Meditation retreats
🙋♀️
If im an ambivert enfj and also have things in common with infj can i be a mix of both since im not extroverted nor introverted so just both .
there's no ambivert in mbti scientifically.. u might be confused for it bcs both have the same nfj types.. enfj can do be quite, and infj can do be loud. try to find a slightest between that, either extro or intro. If we think logically, everyone can be an ambivert, we all have the extro and intro side. but humans do always have flaws, so there will be one that is more
Do you type people? I would love to be typed. I keep going from INFJ to INTJ to INTP. I want to know what I ammmmm
Its ok to be confused about it because we are the result of experiences and stories and we change during our lifetime….its not about holding into certain type but to balance our character with what we want ourselves to be …..the 4 letters don’t measure how good you are but your decisions and actions do…..be satisfied and proud of course you are amazing
Another great video!
Please do ENTJ soon💕
This guy just explained me in 2 min7tes and 40 seconds
You need to categorize the types of which infinity stone they’d have
Interesting I thought my guy was INFJ but tested enfj . He seems more introverted though . Is it possible enfj’s can seem introverted or have a need for alone time ?
OF COURSE! coming from an ENFJ myself, although we love it, I do need some alone time after we're done socializing because of how much energy we put out for people.
How to spot difference between Fe-Ni and Ni-Fe?
I looked for the genius of an ENFJ and did not find it. Have I been mislead with my Se?
How do ENFJs differ from INFJs?
I believe I’ve done a video about that on the channel. Also, are you a fellow Welsh person (based on your name)? ~ Nathan