Dominic Copeland - Abuse
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I'm a guy and I was in an abusive relationship with another guy. It was a mixture of mental and physical abuse. 2 years back I finally took my stand and left. Now I can breathe freely.
YOU HAVE TO TAKE YOUR STAND FOR YOURSELF. You're precious soul not a punching bag.
That's a gd dicition
What did he do to you? How do these people see you? I want to know for future safety
@@amoy5657 watch the video. That's what abusers do. They draw you in, they act like they love you and when the cracks start to show they blame you. And then they punish you before making you feel it is all your fault. When you say enough is enough and try to stand up to them they swear it'll never happen again. Maybe they mean it, maybe they don't - who knows? But if it happened once it'll probably happen again.
A lot of abusive partners are very good at hiding their behaviour and are good at manipulating people. Sad fact is you probably can't avoid it - abusers behave like everyone else, until they don't that is. If someone raises their hand to you just leave and don't look back. That's how you avoid this.
I've worked in healthcare a long time and fortunately it's not too often I've had a domestic abuse case. But when we do have a case it breaks my heart, the victim always blames themselves for their partner's actions, its just awful. Most are convinced things will change which is sad, but worse is when they're so used to it they believe its normal and acceptable - its never acceptable. Whilst you can't tell who will turn out abusive before they become abusive, the moment they do the victim needs to get out of that situation - if you're injured get to an ED, if you're not get to a friend's, family member's or go to the police. Don't stay, and again, don't go back.
А почему он так делал?
Some men are so toxic and horrible .
The message is clear:
“When you feel fear, leave”
Sometimes you can't always leave
Logan Green very true OKURRRRR
Sometimes it’s not that easy
Israel C I can speak from experience it’s not that easy to just get up and leave
@@Keara23 hell yes we can just i did 2 days ago after almost 2 years of relationship ,that's not love when hit u for not reason, that was my Christmas present
This really makes me cry. Such a nice guy and abused like this. He is a gem to be cherished and preserved not broken like a toy.
“Are you scared of me?”
“ Sometimes” that’s really upsetting
The first time someone hits you, go directly to the police, while you're still bruised and/or bleeding, and tell them exactly what happened. You'll be doing yourself and the person who hit you a favor.
My mother's family tried that, they always just sent them right back. The military police never intervened, my grandmother turned to alcohol to numb it all eventually taking off. She was never the same even after it ended though, and then her kids took the brunt of the abuse once she left. It's harder then it seems when a system doesn't want to acknowledge there own might be sad sacks of crap.
In some cases the abuser will be required by law to move out and never make contact again.
I have been asking for a refund and I will be there in the morning so I can you in my life and I don't know what time I get there are pointers to go to bed now but will do it again and again
Police?!?! Anyone ever try this with me going to the coroner
Alwaysuseless: thank you! You are kind and cute :)
The one thing that doesn’t get talked about Enough in the gay Community is Abuse In same sex Relationship.
Jassmina Vellucciano Everyone assumes it’s all sunshine and rainbows all the time. Most of the time it is, but there’s always the abusive relationships.’abuse in relationships does happen, LGBTQ or not.
Jassmina Vellucciano Once a beater always a beater...
I definitely agree. I had a cousin who married a man, and his " wife" was bigger and stronger than my small cousin.
He would beat on my cousin and cheat on him.
Never once tried to act like a "wife".
Was just a big bully. And one day my cousin FINALLY left him.
It's not just the gay community, my dad used to beat my mom until she had enough and left him.
I love my man too much I can’t leave. yes it’s a toxic relationship but I can’t leave him. we have been thru so much bullshit over the past 12 years and he’s sacrificed so much for me.
My son is in an abusive relationship. We are all trying desperately to convince him to leave. He always makes excuses. We are desperate!!!
The only way it will stop is:
When he finally leaves,
Or ends up in the mortuary.
Sorry, but those will be his only 2 choices.
@@antoniaadderly9160 That's a horrible thing to say.
I recommend psychotherapy, but he must be willing to go.
@@antoniaadderly9160 it sometimes doesn’t even stop when you do leave.
@@grahambinho The reality of an abusive relationship is horrible.
Most people make excuses for the abuse and even try and blame themselves.
But the only way it stops is when the victim leaves the abuser, or the victim ends up in the mortuary.
Dominic is a cutie. He should be cuddled and loved not abused.😪
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Yep
Even if he was ugly !
@@jeannedecembre4514 I said he was cute so.
To the people saying leave, I wish it were that easy. If it was, I wouldn't have lived through 9 months of hell. Abusers often progressively brainwash their partners, slowly feeding them information and making them dependent, making them believe the abuser is never to blame. This is demonstrated amazingly through Dom making excuses and staying with Isaac after he got physically abused, because he had already been emotionally abused and felt he couldn't leave. By the time physical abuse happens, the person being abused is often too brainwashed to just leave. The show did brilliantly to display the emotions involved behind the scenes and between the person being abused and their friends and family - denial, blindly defending their abusive partner, cutting off anyone who tries to help because it's impossible to accept the truth when being told something else constantly by your abuser, until an extreme event like Dom's serious injuries causes clarity and the person finally realises how bad what is being done to them is.
YOU 👏🏽 DON’T 👏🏽 PUNCH THE PEOPLE 👏🏽 YOU LOVE 👏🏽 IN 👏🏽 THE 👏🏽 FACE 👏🏽. FOR ANY REASON. THAT’S NOT LOVE.
You are right! Also, I luv the claps kkk I just imagined you clapping after each word xD
Very true words 👍
You don’t punch them at all
You do not punch, slap or hit them anywhere
Exactly. You punch them in the guts so it can’t be seen.
I had a relationship with an abuser, but guess what? He chose wrong person, and I fought back.
Masa boss critain dong ...
1GoldRunner I am man n he is man, too. There are possibilities if one has relationship with an abuser; first, he just accepts because he really love him. Second, he will enjoy being abused (become a masochist person) that his sex appeal raises by the abusive behaviour. Third, he will fought back though he really loves him. I chose the third option.
All right my man, Tell him, you don't take that shit no more
arrasou Poc!
@1GoldRunner how the hell is it different. Abuse is abuse
This is so deep :( I love Dom and watching this unfold broke my heart I'm so glad that he finally got himself out of the abusive relationship. Well done with the editing its very well done especially with the quotes that are said.
I was in a verbal and emotional abusive relationship, for four years, and I knew that it was only a matter of time, before he hit me. And the first time he hit me, was the last time he hit me. I left him, and that was 6 years ago. I have no regrets.
yes sis, dump his ass.
My mom was in a verbal and emotional abusive relationship for 28 years!!!!!!!
@eldadevata I would have, except that I was working part time, and didn't earn enough to leave.
Luckily, I got a better paying job, which was when I was able to FINALLY leave him.
Everyone who goes this is so strong
*goes through this
The sad thing is that the abuser never think they are wrong. I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years. Everytime it gets physical, the only justification he gave is that he didn't mean it that he love me. He apologized all over again. And for the longest time I thought his issues was only alcoholism. After 2 broken ribs i don't think that's the only his issues. I knew I should walk away. But I just couldn't. Our relationship ended because he found someone new. Maybe that's the help sent by the higher power that I just needed.
In that 2 year period, did you tell anyone about what he was doing to you?
@@zanthus7 I didn't. We live in a country where homosexuality is a crime. Telling people about it is not an option for me. I wasn't even out to my family.
@@grujose551 Damn. I am so sorry that you live in a place like that but overjoyed that your abuser is out of your life. Just know your abuser will regret what he did to you and others. I'm sure you're not the only one he's done this to. I believe you can't mistreat people like this and your life is blissful. Karma is real and all the bad karma he's thrown out will come back to him, hard.
@@zanthus7 yeah. Thanks bruh.
Why would you let someone do such horrendous things to you my friend?
Love????
A person who loves you would never harm you in any ways.
It's sad that you invested those two years in an abusive and parasitic bondage. Please don't call it love.
The lies that your mind tells you, there is no love anywhere. I am so glad I watched this, thank you so much for showing me this TH-cam.
i was with someone for a year, i'm not with them anymore but i still do not speak about what happened between us and how we broke up to anyone to this day. abuse leaves physical scars and more psychological scars. more power to all the people out there dealing with this. i hope you find the power to stand up and leave. love.
This was like watching a film of exactly what i just went through...God
🥺hope you’re doing great... don’t let it get the best of you 😚 you deserve better hun🤍
What title this movie
More power to you
Manas ! Thank you so much for your kind response, I appreciate it very much 🥰🌟🧡
What’s the movie called
Some of the best acting I've ever seen on the show. I love Marc Elliott and David Ames. Excited to see Isaac back soon, because the acting will be incredible.
I think it'll end up with Dom getting closer to his mother. Hopefully isacc getting his commupance
Violence is wrong no matter who is perpetrating it or who it's against.
I love this song.
It is so perfect for those that do the beatings.
They need to REALLY listen to this song.
Hopefully, it would make them understand the pain that they inflect on those that love them.
I can't imagine what I would do if I found out someone I loved was in a situation like this. I do actually, I'd do anything to make sure that person never has a chance to hurt them again.
Love the video and the song you chose - thank you!
Giuseppe Calì what is the name move????
STOP WITH THE DAMN MUSIC!!!!!!!!
Gerry Hall AAAAAAAHHH😂😂💯🤦🏾♂️😂
Yo😂😂😂 I was so sad some seconds ago...
@Maikind K. Lmfaoooo "Wailing"
😂😂😂😂😂
Stop serie end music so patetic
Wow! Thanks for putting this together. The Holby City writers did a great job with this abuse storyline and the actors were superb. I hope the message got across to persons in abusive situations.
do you happen to know what season they will appear in?
Ты случайно не знаешь в каком сезоне они появятся?
@@oneyaoilove1709 series 18 and series 19 of holby city
Parents need to raise their kids to know that someone putting their hands on them is NEVER okay. if anyone did this to me I would leave them in an instant.
How do one get help if it’s coming from that home ?
do you happen to know what season they will appear in?
Ты случайно не знаешь в каком сезоне они появятся?
@@oneyaoilove1709 no sorry, ive never seen the actual show.
unfortunately parents hitting their kids is how it starts. physical abuse is not an acceptable form of punishment
I wish but to be harsh about this humans are too afraid and become useless later on unless they teach em and they fight back
People do not change my step father would abuse me. He would beat me up so bad that I couldn't go to school for weeks at a time. Things where different back then police didn't get involved like they do now. I left home at 16 because I had worked out a plan to kill him. I told my mom if I didn't get away from him I would shoot him . She said you don't mean that and I turn her around looked her straight in the eye and said I do mean it and I have the gun. I guess she believed me then because she helped me find a place of my own.
It may not mean much now, but I'm really very sorry that you went through that. Here's a hug for you
Why would your mom marry a man like that at the first place? Oh cuz she was horny. I get it. "Wemen"
Fauzi Rahim Pohan I know you’re a troll but YIKES MAN WTF
@@fauzirahimpohan3130 I really don't know why.. She was going through some stuff because my dad had been killed a few months before. She was afraid she couldn't make it on her own I guess. It only happened when she wasn't there. When they first got together it wasn't like that but once they had a baby together things changed.
don't take revenge won't make him regret please
I'm not going to say anything but when he say "Sometime... yes" with that look in his eyes. u need to see nothing else those eyes r enough.
this video really hits home for me sadly, outsiders always say just run, if only it was that easy, fear will keep you from running. it's a horrible part of life unfortunately some unworthy people must go thru because there to nice or just to passive to say no, that's why the stronger of us must stand up and defend the weaker ones. no one deserves to be abused for any reason, they don't ask for it to happen to them. usually it's a moment of desperation to feel human contact from anyone.It is human nature to feel the need to have some kind of human interaction to give us a purpose to continue our journey thru life.
Don't be scared to leave. Be scared to stay!
It’s harder then you think.
@@lukedonghyuk.3959 Yeah, I get that.
It's just a few words to try and help
Evan Rodrigues it’s just hard man yes sometimes I’m scared but it’s hard when you trust and love someone sm.
What?
do you happen to know what season they will appear in?
Ты случайно не знаешь в каком сезоне они появятся?
So many parallels to being with an addict
With a physical abuser you can see the scars and the wounds, with someone who is an addict it isn’t always that easy but it hurts just the same
This is extremely well done.
It has also brought out feelings I don’t want to deal with right now.
I have never been physically abused but have been significantly emotionally abused.
Im getting in to Hollyoaks with the carter and john paul story line, cool to see what the acter who plays cater as also done
When the relationship gives you pains that you can't handle time to save yourself
I had a relationship like this many years ago, and I was his punch bag for quite some time, until I woke up one morning and said enough is enough, and I never went back, I think I was the lucky one to escape, I said then, I'd never let another man hit or knock me about, so I do feel sorry for other guys in same sex relationships that are too nice to leave, you think every time they cry and say sorry that he'll change, but I promise u this, they never will and you gotta protect yourself, be safe peeps, whoever u are, and be strong, you deserve better!!
Why do people do that? What do they see in us?
So POWERFUL AND SO MOVING, I HAVE BEEN THERE.
do you happen to know what season they will appear in?
Ты случайно не знаешь в каком сезоне они появятся?
I feel special, I love the song.
I relate to this as a person with anger management issues and it's sad.
It is easy to say leave, but when your in this relationship it's hard to see the gravity of it. You make excuses and think that things will get better if you improve.
Cathy Ur right we always say things will get better but they never do and the Excuses people come up with is drugs Alcohol bad day money stress or work
Wow how long did i not watch for
It is better to be alone than being abused
Sometimes you are so tied up in the relationship you just don't have strength to get out. It's sad people live like this
I LOVE IT
1:09 broke my heart. That was acting on another level.
The best apology a person can make is a corrected behavior..... Abusers never.. ever figure that out. They never change, they don't even see a reason to. 💔
This really hits home 💔😪
Hi there,
I hope you are in a better place now. Sending you lots of hugs and warmest wishes for it to get better for you.
❤❤❤
I like what Dolores Claiborne did with her abuser. First time he hit her, she smacked him with a frying pan.
What movie were you watching / book did you read? That was NOT the first or last time.
Oh well
Wow. I think i love it. So full of feelings. Good one.
do you happen to know what season they will appear in?
Ты случайно не знаешь в каком сезоне они появятся?
Love this so much so happyyyyyy
Great music too
Good edit and nice song choice. Loved it..
Alex Love are you bottom??,
I don't know how I got to this but if the goal was to make me cry it succeeded !
Situation of abuse written and acted out quite well. Abuse is a situation in all relationships.
this was brutal. love is verb . anyone who loves you does not beat up mentally or physically
👏👏👏
Never allow the fear of being alone or unloved drive u to settle for less than the best.
Hi, do you know if it's a movie or series? Where can I see her, please help.
Omg young Carter!
so carter was also a victim just like Lucas Hay😭😭😭
Thirty years later I still bear the handprints on my upper arms. Sometimes I still flinch. It's not easy getting out. It's not easy to stay. I've worked on most of the inner scars left from that time in my life. The memories don't haunt me like they used to. I've had healthy relationships since. I'm grateful.
I can't judge anyone in an abusive situation. I can't tell anyone what to do. I can offer to tell of my experiences, how I left, and where I am now.
Wow just saw my past life flash in front of me. I am very emotional at the moment. Not sure why after some time why this hit so hard.
The very first time someone did that to me, that would be the END of that relationship.
That's what you think, it's not always that easy. My mother had been abused through childhood, so when it happened with her first husband who had taken her away from that abusive home she took it. Almost as if it was an obligation because he "saved" her. She eventually left, but because of certain circumstances he got the kids. The abuse at least emotional did not stop even after divorce, he took off with the kids and it took decades to find them again. For some it is just a continuation of a cycle they started at birth, so why fight it.
@@JellyBabie1984 he said 'the very first time'. Its much easier to leave when you notice abuse so early.
Its more difficult to walk out when you let him/her abuse you over and over.
I think one should make a boundary like in a relationship if the partner hit him/her then its finished. Many people tolerate this for love but its just getting worse and the longer it goes the more unlikely to break up.
I have always said the last thing a man can do to me is hit. If it ever happens, I'm out, doesn't matter if we're married with kids.
But the kids...😕
@@cheechee6473 Will come with me obviously
as u should 👑
@@cheechee6473 as someone who grew up in an abusive household, you'll be doing the kids a favour by separating. No one deserves to live like that
Took me bloody 10 years to get rid!! But 10 years later......so happy now
I have been in a abusive relationship myself when I was younger. And I was scared and Ashamed that I allowed it to happen to me. But through the strength of friends n myself I was able to leave with nothing then bad memories. And the strength to not allow it to happen to me again.
When he says 'i don't remember what that was for' shows thet he believes it is his fault and that is so sad
what the name of the series plz
I've been tied up, beaten up, bruised from my head to my feet & urinated on to the point I believed I was nothing more than garbage . I would completely shut down, not able to think or move . I use to think I deserved it but not any more . At some point you have to stand up or lay down & die . I chose to stand up & believe in God's unconditional love for me . God gave me the courage & strength to get out & move on one day at a time . 💔🧡💛💚💙💜
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dude that just broke my heart ... ;(
Love you
I was also abused many times 😢
💔😢
I was never physically abused but was mentally abused by a narcissistic. Abuse is horrendous 🥺
Jar of hearts its the song
Not everyone in class asking why am I crying 😭 😭😭
Poor domonic
I feel bad for him
Ima cry
If the person I love does this to me I’m leaving them so quickly
do you happen to know what season they will appear in?
Ты случайно не знаешь в каком сезоне они появятся?
I can't watch this, it will kill me emotionally and am typing with tears in my eyes😢😭
😭💔🤲🏽
This music is pure hell.
This abusive man could never love anyone but himself! He's a psychopath.
It's true. That's not love
abusive men don't even love themselves...
These one scares me really 😓
Jar of hearts💔💔💔
Heart is meant to be loved and cared after Juvy
rest in peace to caroline flack gone but NEVER forgotten. 2020 has taken 2 goats from us already we cant lose dominic next
sick relationship if you could call it that
A violant person will use every method to keep its prey captive both physically and mentally. The victim, if not strong enough will power, will be submissive and ultimately co-dependant to this unhealthy relationship. No one deserves that kind of love.
LOL I WAS LISTENING TO THIS SONG TODAY. What a coincidence
Chris Frye plz what name of this song?
Holby City a drama serie about life on the wards of Holby City Hospital, following the highs and lows of the staff and patients.
En verdad que es increíble. Que triste.
Que película es?? Puedes decirme
This is the first I've seen of this storyline of Dominic being a victim of an abuser. It looks good but I'm glad I did not watch this from the beginning of their relationship to Dominic reporting him after being beaten. Too emotional for me and I would have been screaming at the monitor while watching this. Obviously, this is a subject the show felt needed to be addressed. My advice, the first time you get a half of an idea/suspicion your partner may become violent with you, end that relationship faster than you can say your own name. Then talk to the police about him/her but keep in mind the police can't do anything because no physical harm has happened and they have to react to an action, not be proactive. After you’ve talked to the police and gotten their advice, tell this partner so they know the police has their name, number, and know where they live and work if anything happens to you. This should be guarantee you need to make certain they will not bother you anymore when you end the relationship. One of the absolute worse things a victim of an abuser can do is stay silent about what's happening. Keeping you silent is part of their control. Say hell no to that shit. If someone is threatening you or causing you physical or emotional harm, let the world know about it. Silence is your enemy.
I know you are referring to all kind of relationship. But for gays, atleast in my country where homosexuality is a crime, going to the police isn't even an option.
@@grujose551
So true
I hated seeing dom go through that😢 but this storyline was really well done
This is really painful.😭😭😭😭
We don't hear much about violence in same sex relationships but sometimes we don't know what happens in someone else' s life.
Bc I keep my life private.
@@lukedonghyuk.3959 please seek for help. Nothing angers me more than seeing innocent souls suffer at the hands of abusers... I hope and pray that you find your soulmate. And believe me, the universe would never punish you with an abusive partner. You're NOT an abusive person. So I don't see why you should have to put yourself through all this pain. And yes, I know it's more complicated that it seems. I know that you're scared. I know that you secretly hope and pray that he will change. But my dear, if you don't choose YOU, if you don't prioritise YOURSELF and your own well-being, this vicious cycle will keep going on and on non-stop. Give yourself the love that you're trying so hard to give to him. YOUR LIFE MATTERS. YOUR mental health and safety matter. YOU deserve to be treated with respect, dignity, compassion, love and affection. Please take action RIGHT NOW. You WILL get over him no matter how many days, weeks, or months it will take. I promise you that there's someone out there looking forward to treat you like the king that you are. So please make the right choice.🙏🏽
MkL Official you honestly have no idea how hard is it your acting as if I can just suddenly pack my bags and walk out of his life and move on. sorry to break it to you but it’s harder then you think you make it sound so easy. You just can’t leave someone you love every time I try it hurts me- Ik I sound so stupid bc he’s abusive but I just can’t leave. he loves me too much and seeing him sad makes me so sad I don’t want that for him no one can help at this point I just feel so empty and sad.
"Please I want to live here but I have fear".
There are several options:
You can have your partner legally evicted by having him or her served with an eviction order.
The only thing is that it will cost you money to have him or her served.
And it would be best that you stay with family or friends until he or she leaves.
Other option is to have a family member scare them into moving out. My nephew did that and the next day, my boyfriend moved out.
And that was a year ago.
No one should tolerate violence and abuse..... Just walk away even if it hurts.
It’s really hard to admit something is wrong as you feel like it’s your fault
This hits home, thankfully I was able to get out of it before it got more physically aggressive but it kinda fucked me mentally
do you happen to know what season they will appear in?
Ты случайно не знаешь в каком сезоне они появятся?
I freaking hated Isaac..... Dom is much better with Lofty for sure 😊
He is back!!
Aye lol spoilers but he's not
Whatever happened to Isaac?
Was Dom dumb enough to reconcile with him?
do you happen to know what season they will appear in?
Ты случайно не знаешь в каком сезоне они появятся?
I left an abuser and alcoholic after 8 years, best decision I've ever made in my life
Ugh this brought tme back painful and shameful memories.
I'll never forget the shame of letting it happen and trying vto hide.
Amiga date cuenta.
Ese hombre no te quiere....
(Más perra la otra, andaba bien presa del mayate)
Yass mama
What's the name of this series?
Holby city
This was hot
Love is gentle and sweet and con passionate
Dominic. Loved him to death. He never deserved to be abused like that.
love is such a bad excuse, people say " I love you" they put themselves in the first place, it's not "you are loved by me", the only place he should be is JAIL
If your partner beats you, it's not love !! Please leave before it ll be too late, I know It can be hard sometimes but please please please never let someone hurt, insult, beat u
He finally realized it me :yasssss I am so proud ily