Speechless | Scenarios USA
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- Desmond has a secret he cannot share with anyone. His grades are slipping, rumors are swirling and he feels powerless, especially when he sees his sister being hurt too. With the support of his father and a new friend, Desmond is able to tell his story of being sexually assaulted and end the cycle of abuse. Desmond regains his power when he uses his voice.
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Speechless was written by Roxanne Lasker-Hall when she was a junior at the Cleveland School of the Arts, in Cleveland, OH and directed by Karyn Kusama (Girlfight and Jennifer’s Body).
For 15 years, Scenarios has asked teens to share their realities, and they have responded with a raw and revealing constellation of voices of what it means to be a teenager today. Scenarios uses the incredible power of storytelling and filmmaking to create curricula the gives students the chance to speak out, be heard and lead on the issues that really matter to not only themselves but their communities. We start by bringing our REAL DEAL curriculum and films into middle school and high school classrooms. The curriculum engages students to think critically and creatively about the issues they face. And we say: Now Tell Us Your Story!
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Hello commentors!
Many of you will scroll over this comment, which is fine. That's just how social media works. I just wanted to stop by and say thank you for all the love this film has received. When I wrote this, I never realized how many people would relate to any of the characters in it. Since it's release, I have had many approach me with their own stories. This film and my work with Scenarios was the best thing I did in my youth, and arguably, probably ever. I didn't know that this short film would receive such a significant amount of attention, but I am both humbled and touched by the support. I just wanted to leave this comment to thank you all and to remind anyone who needs to hear it that there is always sunshine after storm clouds. I have and am battling my own demons, as are we all. Do not allow those demons to take away your voice. Scream, cry, shriek--it is always okay to cause attention to wrong. I urge anyone who can relate to Desmond's story to reach out to someone you can trust, whether it be a teacher, friend, parent, etc. There are many online forums available. Resources exist. I send you all my love. Thank you. None of you will ever understand how blessed I am to know that this film I wrote in high school would touch anyone outside of my area.
Thank you. I love you all, my fellow humans.
-- Roxanne Lasker-Hall, now aged 23
Roxanne L I’m so proud of you man.
You did such a great work~ this work touches a really serious matter that most people ignore or don't believe happens in real life.
I also want to say that people, not only the victims, should be brave too to report the abuse if they see it, to not keep quiet and think it's not their business, because sometimes the victims don't have someone to rely on, or can't find the courage to speak out before it's too late.
Thank you for such a great work and hope you're doing just fine too 😁♡
Roxanne L this is so great! I wonder what is the tittle of the ending song. It's so so beautifullll♥ please reply
@@tristramdomingo3512 In the credits it says "New Beginning" by Sean McCue 😊 I couldn't find in youtube tho.
Wonderful job Roxanne L!!
Most people don't understand how hard telling someone about this really is. I'm 52 and I'm still trying to deal with this. Thank you for this.
Thanks so much. If you need more support or want to share your story, please check out: 1in6.org/ or www.rainn.org/
I May don't understand how difficult it is but I also can't imagine how important it is to talk about it with people. The longer you wait the more damage it will do to you. There is hopefully someone that Will help 🙏
I understand you so very much, i has been years since the last instance my cousin sexually abused me but still never told another soul about it. Its a mental torture, sometimes I really hoped it were all just bad nightmares
I was five when it started and seventeen when it ended. I’m 58 now. I’ve been hiding it my whole life.
It is very hard. After I got raped in my early 20's (after being sexually assaulted twice before that) I fell into a very deep depression and landed in a psych ward where I was diagnosed with bipolar and cptsd. I haven't fully healed yet (I'm 32) but with a lot of therapy I've at least made progress. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Straight, gay, bi, doesn't matter. No one should have to take ANY type of abuse nor assault from anybody. NO ONE!
You have the power, you the ability, to give it a voice and make a difference about it
Ageed! ✊
What if they don't believe.
@@Shiftintoturbo-bn1rg They cannot allow fear to grip them, nor be full of pride, that they can't be able to talk to someone about it. It all starts in the mind.
@@alanboone1948unfortunately there are some people who would often "vilify" the victims even gaslighting them. Trust me I know. Some have even blamed the victim for something out of their control when in reality it was the perpetrator that started it. And as for male victims of sexual assault society believes men can't get sexually assaulted because of our gender and toughness when in fact they're wrong, dead wrong.
@@alanboone1948pride has nothing to do with it,fear and pain does.
Fear of relieving what's happened to you, that people will think of you differently, that you won't be believed.
The pain is in our heads yes, pain felt when thinking about who we might have been if it hadn't happened.
It never completely goes.
It gets less, but things like this video can trigger it, yet we can't stop pushing at that painful, damaged part of ourselves.
The human mind is truly strange.
Wonderful, unfathomable and capable of the most damaging things, while also capable of amazing strength and resilience.
May you never have to truly understand what l mean. 🙏
A young girl wrote the screenplay. She did a remarkable job of getting into the heads of each of the characters.
And what’s your point? She wasn’t supposed to be talented because shes a girl?
You can tell a girl wrote this because everybody is so emotional
@@vomm what does that even mean
@@MrWmJosephSmithIII I didn't understand his words in that way. I think he was just expressing that she was so young and did an impressive job
@@vomm sexist behavior
male victims usually don't tell because they don't want to look weak or be type cast as gay. it is such a taboo topic that most victims just want it to go away and never think about it again.
Very true. Its estimated that as many as 1 in 6 males receive unwanted sexual advances before the age of 18. Most of that goes unreported.
Rob K yes it ridiculously true especially me...I was around 7-11 years old when I was rape ,,but I'm afraid to tell it to anyone couze I know they will just ignore me..it's fucking painful couze it harassed me and threatened me to quite...I'm in that situation before but for now I would say that I freaking course those guy who abuse me...god knows what to do with him..
Mike.. What happened to you makes me very sad. I know about this, I was 4 when it started and 15 when it ended. What saved me was going to him and confronting him with the facts. I told him, "what you did to me (spelled it out) was wrong. I wasn't old enough to understand what was happening, much less consent to it." I told him how it had negatively impacted my life by making me feel shame. And that the shame i felt was not mine to own. I said this would always be wrong, but that I forgave him. (forgiveness doesn't absolved anyone. You don't forgive for them... YOU FORGIVE FOR YOU.) . I then talked to him about the cycle of sexual abuse. And ask him who did it to him..? He doesn't recall much of his earlier childhood. I later found out that he was a victim also. His father violently raped him throughout his younger years.
Understanding he was a victim let me look at him very differently with compassion. I initially said, "most victims want to never think about it again" . That doesn't happen because it will manifest in acting out. (either by addiction or by repeating it with others) Shame is directly correlated with addiction, and acting it out by repeating it with others are how children tell their story. All children have to tell their story. If they haven't been given the words to articulate what has happen (in a safe, judgement free place) they will tell their story with alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex or they will do the same to others when they get older.
Forgiving him was the most important step in my recovery. I also had to forgive myself because I felt shame. (for not telling someone and allowing it to go on)
I now understand the importance of forgiveness. Don't let someone rob you of your salvation. Matthew 6:9-13 "And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us"
This says, If we cannot forgive others who hurt us, our heavenly Father cannot forgive us. I forgave because I want to see my mother in heaven. And one of the conditions to getting into heaven is forgiveness. Many are not able to confront the molester/rapist in person because of distance, death, fear. (a very powerful thing to do) So it can be helpful to find a quiet place, go inside your mind and imagine seeing that person face to face. Imagine telling them it was wrong and will always be unacceptable, but that you forgive them. They no longer have power over you to make you feel intimidated, or shameful when you see them.
Forgiveness is taking back the power for them to influence your thoughts. Yes "God knows what to do with him" . Jesus was ridiculed when He went to talk with the sinners and prostitutes. And He responded by saying, "the righteous and good people do not need saving" Encourage the person who hurt you to ask God for forgiveness. Let them know that you have already forgiven them.
God bless you Mike. (I will be saying prayers for you brother) . "I stand at the door and knock" "Any man who comes to Me will not be turned away"
Rob K I am 19 years old right now and it happened many years ago..I know ,I can forgive him couze his my elder brother,but I could promise to forget and trust him again.But why me ? I am his younger brother .I know It's just a part of my life "where I can start another steps ,.I am trying my best to move on and I decided to forgive him with all my heart and soul..but it's still a memories of mine ..
Rob K I mean I couldn't promise to forget and trust him again if as of now I don't know if he has change..his self...I am a forgivable person . thanks for that wonderful thoughts of yours I hope we could meet someday..
I was 12 when this happened to me I remember when I was at home one day when my parents were gone I was in my room doing my homework and my brother came into my room, he's 17 and he asked if I needed help I said No, then he started rubbing his hand on my arm slowly, It felt wrong so I said I'm going to go get some water, he blocked the door and locked it, I was so scared 😨, then I asked him "Why are you in my way?" My voice was shaky he could tell I was scared, He said "Want to do something fun?" I said No, then he said "Come on it'll be quick" I was so scared I couldn't say anything then when I tried to get passed him he grabbed me and pushed me onto my bed pinning me then he put it in and all I could think of was why did it hurt so much! I screamed in agony and tried to move but he was so strong! Then he was doing it harder and he kept saying "I know you wanted it" and "You like that Jason? You like it?! I could feel tears going down my face It was so painful! I think I passed out from the pain because later I woke up he was gone and I was just laying there and when I saw blood I literally remember almost throwing up I felt so violated, used, and took advantage of, my parents came back but didn't go in my room because they go to sleep All the time I could barely move because of so much pain I've been through, they still don't know what happened I told them but they didn't believe me they just thought it was a prank! A prank!!! How could they say that I was in tears I don't want this to ever happen to any of you guys that are reading this, I'm 13 now and I am still struggling with the thoughts coming to my head😭
Jason, thank you so much for sharing this. Please go to www.rainn.org/ and get some help. You don't have to go through this alone. There are professionals who can help you.
I'm really sorry this happened to you Jason 🥺 I support you and I know that you are strong 💚 if you want a friend don't hesitate to talk to me , I feel you and wish you an endless happiness !
@@pianobysarochka728 Thank you SO much for your kindness!!💖 I love you A LOT for it!!💕💖💞
@@jasongarett4947 you're welcome 💚
I hope u doing better Jason...I know it's been a while since you posted this but just know people care ♥️hope you feeling better!!
Man I can’t read these comments without crying. I’m so, so sorry to anybody who has been sexually abused, abused at all. My heart goes out to you all. And amazing short film. A lot of times guys who are sexually abused or assaulted don’t want to speak up, because they’ll be seen as weak or gay or something, but nobody should have to go through that no matter their sex or sexual orientation.
You are right about it many people don't speak because people will think there are gay or a weak person who even enjoy it and want to speak about it just because it seems that it the right thing to do. Many don't speak because after speaking the people who heard of it will be giving a strange look of the abuse child, it has happened to me I know how it feels when someone gets sexually abused and speak it has make me to realize never to trust any one in my life about anything going on with me
I wish male survivors got more attention. They need to be told that they are strong enough and that they are good enough and that they don’t have to deal with the memories and the pain alone.
Absolutely! And if they need more help they can check out: 1in6.org/ or www.rainn.org
@marieas levinea exactly, we need to. I mean, yeah probably they can resolve their issues on their own, but many cannot, but they prefer not to say anything cause "that makes them less MEN" like bro that's so bad💀
@@emma-hd6db who even comes up with these? Sexist people? What? Not all men are powerful…women can be more powerful than some men at times, plus just because these people are men doesn’t mean that they can take all the pain and leave it inside his body.
@marieas levinea you know nothing
Typical. Once again females have monopolized the discussion just to push in their BS feminist agenda. You clearly know nothing about males or what it means to be masculine, so take your crap elsewhere
This should have ended with Christian being marched out of school in handcuffs. But, still very powerful.
With a short film, we felt we needed to make a choice to either show justice or show the start of a healing process. Part of making that choice was the fact that cases like this are very hard to prosecute. A large percentage of cases like this never go to trial or fail to get convictions. However, anyone who survives a crime like this has the ability to heal.
You are right what happend in this movie should never happen to anyone
@@scenariosusa I was wondering what evidence they hoped to collect. It's not as if Desmond would keep those sheets around for posterity. It would've been interesting to see the social dynamics at the school if Christian were arrested. Usually when Mr. Popular gets arrested, even for something heinous, the school turns against the victim as if he reminds them daily that they chose the wrong guy to praise and the victim ends up transferring. This is all just conjecture, of course. It's part of my frustration with short films. I always wish the good ones were longer.
The rape conviction rate in the UK is 1.7% that means that out of 100 rapes less then 2 men are convicted for them.
@@brittentaylor1492 it does. Every single day. Repeatedly.
This is awesome male survivors need a voice just as much as female survivors
Wonderful short movie. And Ryan Rex was a fantastic actor. I am shocked to have learned just now that he committed suicide in 2014, one year after being in "Speechless". He was immensely talented. In fifteen minutes he gave us a unique and complex performance, showing complete mastery of the art of acting. Sadly, we will never know what was in his heart. God rest his soul.
OMG, how horrible. His performance was incredible. He must have been drawing on a very deep well of pain in his own life.
happened to me at a sleepover back in 1986. my "friend" took me without my consent. I was 12 and he was 14. very powerful film.
I am so sorry that happens to you!! I hope you're fine now.
thank you! i am good. this film just brings up alot of emotions
mike smith you're welcome. It's nice to hear that you're fine now, you're such a brave person. 💗💗💗💗💗
Someone possibly took him and he continued the cycle with you
Did hurt bro I was partially awake
Well done film. The actor playing Desmond is very talented.
BigMike287 I agree!!
And I think that Desmond and Christian are hot! Yes I’m gay. And yes I agree with the comments about rape and male victims.
@Hawk Holloway That's sad. Do we know what he died from?
I'm heartbroken!! He was so talented. How did he pass?
@@misstramaine1981 I searched online and apparently it was suicide
@@hunterhendrick5793 what kind of gay are you simple guy or a man who beats his boyfriend in every single issue
imagine watching this 30 years after it happened to me in another scenario and having me in tears right now.
I wish I had the courage to report it...I wish I had the courage to tell anyone....but hey: I was 14 and didn't know how to deal with life anyway...
All we can do now is learn how to live with the memory without it tearing us down further. Your still here, choosing to LIVE so that alone is a testament to your strength. If he never had regrets in his life for what he did to you, then believe me if it hasn't already he day will come without you knowing
I am 55 years old, and I have not been able to stop crying after watching this film
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm glad to see how far you've come. ❤ You continue to survive and thrive every day, and that is what matters.
Happy Holidays.
This happened to me when I was 7 and I forgive him
@@pongwong9981 I'm so sorry.
This is the worst thing that can happen to a child.
I admire you for speaking out.
So sad to learn the actor portraying "Desmond" died. It's always sad when people die but, it's heartbreaking, when young people, at the beginning of their journey die, leaving behind thoughts of what might have been. He was very talented, though. May he rest in peace.
here's the obituary: www.legacy.com/obituaries/name/ryan-rex-obituary?pid=179213993
Albert Meza It doesn’t say how he died.
@@Luciferiandisciple1 No, it does not. I'm just sad he passed.
@@Luciferiandisciple1 suicide, age 21. Tragic, of course.
@calo10able suicide, age 21. Tragic, of course.
Stuff like this really gets to me. I was 5 when I was sexually abused and raped it lasted til I was 12 And what makes it worse is that it was by family. Was always taught that family are people you can trust but thats not the case at all. It took me years to get over it and tbh theres times I still feel lile im getting over it. I remember when I finally told my mom. We were staying with my abusers mom and he came up to visit her. I remember when I was riding home from school on the bus all these images and memories came flooding back and I started to bawl. I put my face down so no one could see I was crying that quickly got off the bus and went home. I passed him as I went up stairs and I went to my mom who was with his kom and I started crying she thought i got in trouble in school then thats when I told her. I cried for hours. Ive been through a lot because of that I felt so dirty and gross I even failed my gym classes cuz i couldnt get changed with the guys there. Its good to see a short vid that shows that guys go through things like this not just women. Dont bw afraid speak up and it will get better.
brad, thank you so much for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to overcome what you've had to deal with. There's more help and support if you or anyone reading this needs it. Please check out www.rainn.org/ or 1in6.org/
I feel you brad, I really do, I also experienced this when I was 9, it ended when I was 15, really felt ashamed about it, felt dirty and grossed about myself too, and the worst part is that it was my older male cousin who did that to me, Im 25 now and never told any soul about it. its so hard its bottling up inside me, i don't want to ruin my family, I really love my aunt and uncle(my cousin's parents) they are like my second parents, they love me so much, so its so hard for me, and I think I would just keep this to myself until i die, I salute your bravery for telling your mom, i hope you are in a safe place now.
@@HumanSagaVault I think it's great when people find out they're not alone in a situation. Though the situation sucks there's some comfort in knowing there are others out there who can truly understand you. I understand about not ruining the family too. My abuser was my cousin and I was close to my aunt. But telling the truth wasn't so he'd pay for what he did it was so I could finally be free. Plus I didnt want it to happen to anyone else and if no one knew who he really was then nothing would be done and he'd most likely would continue and I didnt want that. But I understand the fear. I just pray God helps you in this matter and restores what was taken from you by this traumatic experience. May he free you from this. That you may be able to move on.
@@HumanSagaVault - 👏❤️💐 My sympathy and understanding go to you. Things like this are awful for the psych of a child.
When a child, I was the smallest in my class, so reaching the school, that was about a mile from the place I lived and especially getting home after classes was very scary to me: very often, boys in gangs were waiting for me to beat and humiliate. No sexual assault, thanks God! I used to complain to my parents about it, hoping they would go to talk to parents of my offenders, but to no avail: my father used harsh words against me in response, so I stopped complaining feeling like something that was not worth of being loved... I even started thinking that I was not good. I started hating my golden hair that was more blond than any girl had in the school and blue eyes... To the point that I started pulling my hair to get rid of it. Self-hatred, I guess, originated an auto-immune disorder that started around the age of 16.
Only later, when I started attending a high school and became one of the best in academic achievements (kids used to call me ’professor'), it inspired more respect to my injured personality, so my soul started to heal... But it keeps the scars.
Even now, so many years after, I still keep carrying that wound, caused by my parents' attitude...
Brad really
Second time watching this and it still delivers a powerful message.
Victim here many, many years ago. Back then the law wouldn't do anything and it was hushed up. I'm glad "the system" has changed for the better.
Thanks so much! If you need help or support please check out 1in6.org/ or www.rainn.org/
Same. I've been assaulted 3 times. The first time was when I was 14 (32 now) at school by 2 classmates. And when I reported it to the school counselor, she made it out to boys being boys and nothing was ever done.
The actor who played Desmond ( Ryan alex ) passed away. Rest in peace ❤️
Evan A1 I think about him quite frequently. He’s never forgotten and am always thankful for his help creating my story. I hope he truly is resting in peace.
No!
May he rip. Amen😕
@@CurrentlyDrowning
Does he happen to be this actor: Alexander Francis Neustaedter?
What is the caused of his death?
Takes a lot of courage to do what he did because a lot of people don’t report such things and carry such a weight in their heart
This happens to a lot of boys we just find it easier to forget and act like it never happened.
Later it shows up in drugs and alcohol 🍻🍻🍻
True
@ Issac Powell so true we self medicate with alcohol and drugs , for example as me sure did, Now in the path of Recovery and Sobriety .
@@CYBDD likewise ... #justfortoday
@@charlo919 Thanks hope is well with you and take it easy
OMG this is so true, I was sexually abused by my older male cousin when I was 9 years old, im 25 years old now and going through serious depression, the last time he sexually abused me was 10 years ago, and I still never told a single soul about it because I am ashamed and dont want to ruin any relationship in the family. I really hate my cousin, I really hate him for Destroying my innocence T_T
Poor baby. This is a really good tool to spread awareness of this problem.
I love this
This film is sensitive and powerful at the same time. It is needed now more than ever, as recent news events make painfully clear. I hope that everyone who needs to see this film will find it.
A powerful and important film for all people who are victims of sexual assault which shows the necessity of not keeping quiet about it. There is no point in suffering in silence when there are people around who can help you and see that offenders are prosecuted.
I see you every where omg 😂
We all don‘t know how often this happens to young boys/men. Most of them will be ashamed and rather say nothing. I really hope your film gives some of them the required strength to speak up and report it. Thanks for this great short film 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Thanks so much, so do we!
Thank you for making this film. Sexual abuse of men and boys is all too common and gets addressed far less than it should. I was 14 in a very conservative and rural part of the country when it happened to me. Secrets and silence were a way of life -ingrained in how everyone lived. Predators use this to their advantage. I feared that if I spoke up I'd be seen as weak, or guilty, or that no one would believe me. And so I told no one. It seemed a horrible nightmare and that one day, i would just wake up. But that's not how it works. Many years later -when I was able - I did speak up and got some help. What happened to me was not my fault. But my choice not to tell anyone was, and the silence did as much damage as the assault itself. So don't wait. Speak out. And think of the others who may be saved.
I was 12 when the same thing happened to me at home.. The difference is that for me it was something often... Almost half a year I suffered in silence.. I gave my mom signs that I'm not well and I need help, but nothing came from her... I was too scared to say anything... I wasn't able to talk to anyone, I felt like shit.. Until my mom catched him after he left my room and I was unclothed.. I was beaten cause of that.. Mom said I was at fault for everything, cause I was the one who seduced a man 25 years older than I am... I went to police, but because of the incapability of proving that I was assaulted, they closed the case and my mom abandoned me to my grandmother just to have a happy life with that man and my brother.. I think I'm fine now.. after 4 years, but it's still sad.. since I needed to heal myself and thank God that he healed me almost completly... But I will never forget this thing ever...
@@delspark837 I am so sorry to hear your story - You did not deserve what happened to you. But I am very heartened to hear that you are doing better now. It does take work - and time - but it does get better. Stay strong. You deserve to be happy.
Stay strong too! Everyone on this world diserve to be happy! And everyone diserve to have piece in their life! ❤
Vinicius
Sexual abuse of males is massively ignored, more often when the perpetrator is female. To have comprehensive treatment we must first educate enforcement. The training must be vigorous to stamp out discrimination. A crime, is a crime is a crime it is not gender specific. Men and boys have feelings too, and rape damages the victims irrespective of gender.
Wasn’t sure what I was expecting when I started watching. Definitely in tears by the end. Touching but scary to think about.
Ryan you stole my exact
words :-)
I feel like crying but I’m out of tears already. Thank you for this. This hits straight to my heart
Thank you so very much. This story resonated with me deeply and this is actually the only film that's made me consider telling the police about what happened to me 14 years ago.
I really hope I can do it somebody.
Again, thank you so much.
Yeah that's very true... Imagine it being done by a close relative like an uncle.
Yes I was sexually assaulted by my own uncle and I was just 5 years old..i haven't told this to anyone in my entire 18 years of life and just wanted to move on with this fear... Because of being abused ..as a child I was way much introverted.. Never used to talk to someone.. Didn't make any friends and worst never wanted to be touched.... It was a lot to handle as a child who didn't even know what just happened... Seeing this short film I feel like I should at least tell my mom about this.... Let's just hope she'll understand me.
Thanks to all those who are reading this comment... You are the only people who now know what happened to me when I was 5 years old.
I am so truly sorry you went through that, but just you know you are a suvior and I hope you don't ever feel ashamed to ever voice you're truth because there are so many of us who appreciates hearing you're truth and are here for you
Same happened to me to the point where looking at childhood photos of myself it's like looking at someone else who died. That's how divorced from myself & fragmented I became in trying to bury the past. Substances and illicit behavior years later really didn't help and neither did repressing the rage, anger, guilt, trust issues, introversion withdrawals and, like you, aversion to being touched (although hugging is okay with me because it's not a lingering thing most of the time, I mean like when people leave their hand on your arm too long, etc). The relative who did this died of cancer when I was in my teens and not one person noticed I was the only one who didn't cry nor got upset because I felt peace that he couldn't try hurting me anymore. When my mom died and I had no one else left to trust, anxiety attacks took over. I never told her because I didn't want the drama. After therapy though I've made peace with the fact that I had no business feeling ashamed because I was just a kid subjected to the "dont tell anyone. Who'd believe you over me" power trip by an adult. Still working on trust and relationships and I'm way older than you so my advice is to confide to someone you're absolutely positive won't betray you (a therapist is bound by confidentiality), has your back and please don't let these negative feelings consume you because we all think we can handle them but over time they hurt. A lot. And they can manifest themselves in unhealthy behavior. As for friends, well, it's better to have 3-4 really good friends than 30-40 acquaintances who are fickle. Best of luck and good vibes your way.
Does anyone know the outro song?
@@bahhumbug9824 yeah I totally agree. I haven't lived trough this, but I try to learn. And I find that talking about it is a very important step. The sooner the better. Wish you all the best.
same thing happened to me but it was my older male cousin who sexually abused me, lasted 7 years. its so hard, it also made me bisexual, my body grew accustomed to what he is doing to me sexually. it really causes mental torture, until now I really hoped it never happened to me...I just want to be a normal kid growing up like everybody else. and my cousin didn't let that happen because he destroyed my innocence :*(
Thanks for making this. It's amazing. I'm so glad this is being talked about and coming to light. I'm in tear's. Just thank you again
Thank you so much.
The short was amazing and brings light to a topic too often buried. But then as I read the comments, I'm brought to tears. I just want to reach through and give everyone a hug.
I love this short film! Powerful message sent through and a platform and dialogue opener for sexual assault and rape amongst young adults and teens…scary world we live in
Thanks so much!
Love is something emotional that can not be controlled
Very powerful film. I hope it gives others the strength to speak out. Ryan Rex was such a talented young man, a very sad loss.
Whoah, such a powerful film. I am so proud of Desmond for speaking up. They should show this film in every classroom and open up discussion about this issue because it is all too real. And the kids that are going through it need to know that they can have a voice and speak about it and that they are not alone.
Everyone involved with the production of this film, I applaud you. I don't care for most movies because I can't see past the actor, acting. I was in it, felt it, believed it. You guys did a beautiful job! Thanks!
Till it happens to you
You don`t know how it feels
How it feels
Excellent job loved it.
Thank you!
Sad, but great film. Awareness inspiring.
Thank you for this wonderful and powerful film! So glad to see a spotlight put on such a dark and hidden secret.
Thank you too!
Many Male victims do not come forward. And there is a severe lack of empathy by the public surrounding the issue. Many times when men and boys dont come forward, they are blamed. The female centric lends around sexual assault alienates men and boys who are also suffering.
As a Male survivor, thank you for making this film
Very true. One organization dedicated to supporting men and boys that survive sexual assault is: 1in6.org/ and of course www.rainn.org/ does great work with both female and male survivors.
Well done. A well produced film with excellent acting and storyline. Thank you
Wow! Can't believe I'm just seeing this for the time! Awesome movie! This happens to plenty of young men like Desmond all the time, and too often do people overlook it because they're boys. This is a serious issue that needs to be discussed regularly! As always, great job Scenarios USA! #ForeverYourNo.1Fan
Thanks so much flutelover1913 we couldn't agree more.
Matthew Rolle can I ask you a question? Is Christian gay? Because he abused Desmond I mean not to be rude but I'm just curious.
This happen to me almost 40years ago I'm 50 now but it was a group of young teenagers. Afterwards they basically left me for dead I never said a word until year ago..
@@verniemartin8219 I'm just seeing your comment. I don't know if you'll ever see my reply, but I truly commend you for being brave and finally telling your truth. I pray that you are helping from such a traumatic experience and I hope your story will prevent someone else from going through the same thing or worse.
Dear, Ms.Lasker Hall Thank You so much for your stunning work, I would hope this film would be shown in schools across our country and why not the world. Well done, and God bless
lynn loshe Thank you so much. I am in a constant state of belief that so many people have seen this film. I hope that it continues to reach all those who need it.
Wow... That was amazing. I was so drawn in and moved. Wow! 💕
this was incredibly powerful...thank you for sharing!
Thanks so much.
WOW!!! This is a must see in ALL SCHOOLS!!! NO QUESTIONS ASKED!!!
thnk u soooo much i was lookn all over for this movie it was stuck in my head for almost 24hrs i saw it on showtime thnk u so much
EPIC film. so powerful
I am so glad that he told his father and a law authority about what happened to him👌
This broke my heart ;'(
Perfekt umgetzt. Danke dir für dass hochladen.
Vielen Dank
Hello , I am a 61 years old woman who was sexually abused by family members over 40 something years ago. I was about 12 or 13 when I told my grandma. It takes a lot of courage to tell your truth about it. The devil will always shut you up but God will not shut you up. He has a plan for you to share so others that are being sexually abused will find hope in getting help.
Thank you for doing this video !
What a powerful short. I was in tears...great job!!
Well I am crying... such a strong story.
Thank you for this. I had no idea.
Ryan Rex did a stellar job portraying Desmond. Hats off! 👍🏻 👍🏻
He absolutely did.
Yes its true, Ryan passed in April 2014.
Scenarios USA how did he pass?
So sad...at the age of 21. :*(
So sad pass out in such a young age.
I was never sexually assaulted, but I was approached at 14/15. Even though nothing happened, I still was frightened by the fact that someone 10 years my senior had some how targeted me. And that's when you ask yourself "WHY ME!". Was it the way I looked, dressed, walked, spoke, behaved????? And, as long as those questions are left unanswered. As long as a counselor fails to be convincing in that it's not you, You will always be perceived as quiet, weak, & even scared because, until someone can truly & confidently tell you that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!, You will continue to be shy, introverted and always looking over your shoulder. Therefore, until this question is first & properly addressed, so that you may regain your confidence, no signed papers, no amount of counseling, no positive reinforcement from family and friends can possibility help You to move on. "Always start at the beginning!" D.
Thanks so much for sharing this. You’re right. It’s not your fault if a deeply troubled person assaults you.
God Bless this video..
Excellent....Props to the young writer. Its a subject thats truthful and doesnt get nearly enough attention.
This was excellent and very believable. Thank you.
I`m 80 yrs old and am still trying to process my sexual abuse by 2 school teachers..
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It was 1977 and people didn’t talk about such things, I was 16 and had a problem that stunted my growth when I was % years old, so I stopped growing for 5 years. When I was 10 I started growing again at the normal rate I would have been growing. So when I was 16 I had the body of an 11 year old.
I had a lot of abuse at home, verbally and psychologically and sometimes physically. My mom had left when I was 14 and dad had remarried a woman that was just psychotic, so I had very few people to talk to in the first place.
My best friend Jim was so popular and good looking, I wanted to be just like him and we hung out a lot together. He had a guardian named Mr Beauchamp that was the little league baseball coach. One day Jim said he was going to go to his house and he brought me along and introduced me to Mr Beauchamp, he was in his late 30’s or early 40’s , Italian with silver hair and a little overweight. He had a very boisterous personality and was always teasing and playing around, he would like to stick his finger in his mouth and then stick it in my ear, or he would grab me and tickle me. We spent a lot of time at Mr Beauchamp’s house and one night Jim said he was going to get some weed which he had just gotten me into smoking. He told me to stay with Mr. Beauchamp until he got back. While he was gone Mr Beauchamp started rough housing with me and he got me pinned up against himself with me laying on top of him facing forward my back up against his front. He started feeling my stomach and tickling me and I told him to stop and he then said that if I did the right exercises I could have a body just like Jim. So we started dong exercises where I payed on top of him and he would push his hands down on my stomach and he would tell me to clench up my muscles really tight and hold it, then let go, and repeat that over and over again, Jim came home and we stopped and didn’t mention the exercises. Over the next few weeks Jim would bring me over to Mr Beauchamp’s house and would have some reason to have to leave for an hour or so, so Mr Beauchamp always wanted us to do our exercises. One day he let his hand slip under my belt when he was pressing on my stomach and he grabbed me and fondled me. I was completely embarrassed and then we heard Jim come home. Mr Beauchamp said not to mention it to anyone and that we would finish where we left off next time.
I was very confused and at the same time curious but I avoided going over to his house for as long as I could, my home life was so volatile that I couldn’t bare being there and I had Jim come pick me up, he said he had to get some weed for some girls and once again left me with Mr Beauchamp. He started right away with us doing our exercises and he started whispering in my ear and holding me tight up against him, he told me to pull down my pants and I didn’t want to but he made me and then he said do your exercises, he told me I was doing really good and Jim would really be impressed and he would like me more if I had a better body, his hands started going everywhere and then he did the unthinkable, he pushed himself inside me and raped me. He covered my mouth so I couldn’t scream and he went on until he was finished then he told me to go to the bathroom and clean myself. There was a lot of blood and I was in shock, he told me to never tell anyone what we did together that it was our little secret. Jim came back and drove me home, where I went to take a shower and try to clean the feeling of that man off of me and I kept scrubbing and scrubbing and bleeding but I couldn’t feel clean and I cried and went to bed and cried myself to sleep.
This is when I began fainting in the middle of the hallways in school and it happened three or four times. And so I was sent to see a doctor who did a physical on me which was more than professional he felt me up and did things he shouldn’t have and he prescribed me some medication that was like speed to help me as he said my sinus passages were to small and I wasn’t getting enough air. He told me to come see him again in a week, but I didn’t want to have anything to do with him and I just took the pills. Over the next year there were many more visits to Mr Beauchamp’s house and he continued raping me the pills I took made me unable to sleep and I would crawl out my bedroom window and walk the streets all night until dawn and then go home I was becoming very depressed and withdrawn and I tried to slit my wrists with a kitchen knife but I couldn’t get the cuts deep enough. I just wanted to be dead. The visits to Mr Beauchamp went on until I graduated from high school in 1980, and I guess I blacked the whole thing out of my mind because I didn’t remember it until 5 years ago when I was 55 years old. I never told anyone about it, who could I tell? How could I tell what I had done?
Thank you for having the courage to share that here. If you want more help or support, please check out www.rainn.org/ or 1in6.org/
@@scenariosusa thank you for the support, I didn’t really think anyone would read this, and writing it all down was very liberating and allowed me to let go of a lot of the pain and confusion.I’ve come to an understanding and acceptance of my past and have not let it keep me from having hope for the future. And if I can let my story help someone who might be struggling now that would be very comforting.
This was so beautiful, and so inspiring, and very well made.
Thanks so much!
You're welcome!!
I admire your courage, I hope that the wound in your heart will heal and you will be happy
Great film, very powerful.
I was bullied so bad in school, for being gay and poor. I quit school at 16 because my anxiety was so bad. I could not handle it anymore. started working 2 jobs, to help mom with bills. got my GED. the teachers heard what kids said to me, and either laughed or pretend they don't hear. I still have anxiety, and when I went to pick my niece up from school, because she was sick. I was shaking the whole time, just being back in school building. and these teachers want to go on strike for more money????? when they not doing a good job with kids????? PISSES ME OFF teach your kids to be nice!!!!! if you find out they are bullying, talk to them. and punish them, no phone computer stuck in house etc... world would be a much better place, if parents and teachers did there job.
i was a victim to , this was really moving . thanku for this !!
Thank you so much. If you would like more support or help please check out 1in6.org/ or www.rainn.org/
Thank you so much.
I remember when I was 10-11 I went to the corner store by my haus like a block away... when an old man approached me and touched me in the street and offered me to get in a car with him ... He put his hand inside my shirt n asked me if it felt good... I was 11 and said no it doesn't ... He then grabbed my hand and asked me to go inside the car... I said No... He said he had candy or something I don't really recall exactly ... I said I can't... He kept trying to convince me n even rubbed my stomach and my lips w his cold fingers...and he tried to move his hand even lower, his cold wrinkled hands... I never had a grandfather so I thought maybe he was just affectionate... It was wrong of me to always see the good in people because I was always that kind of person to always wanted to be friendly with people in general... I think he told me about his grandson or something I honestly don't recall but he did mention his grandson and that I reminded of him... I felt weird and wrong because I felt uncomfortable and my heart was beating fast...I knew this feeling, I was nervous and I said... No stop touching me, I have to go... I then ran home and never spoke of it to anyone about it till now... That old man could've done something to me if I went inside that car but I knew somehow I wasn't safe... There was something dark in his eyes that made me nervous... I just hope he didn't do the same or worst to his grandson or anyone what he did to me... And to this man I say if I had him sit in front of me right now... I'm that kid u malested and touch inappropriately, I did hate u for years after knowing what u did to me... It was gross and nasty and I felt weird afterwards... Why did u take advantage of a child? U are sick and perverted and I hope God forgives u... I hope u didn't hurt others because no child should go through that... Kids should not know about sexual things when they are that young... Ur a sicko and I hope u get or got help because it's not ok... I do however forgive u, but not for u... For me and my mental health... I don't know if u are still alive or not but I know from where u are right now, karma always catches up to people... Ask for forgiveness because divine power exists, trust me... I also forgive myself and feeling guilty for not running away when I should've ... I understand it wasn't my fault since I was just a child ... I was around 10-11yrs old when this happened it was summer so I'm guessing it was before my bday so most likely I was 10 and not 11... I thank God it didn't end up worst...
I'm so sorry this happened to you . Stay strong 🥺
@@pianobysarochka728 thank u Sara... I did for many many years somehow blocked it from memory since I never spoke about it but I know I did wrong by not talking to no one which is why I'm sharing my story now... There are tons of older men who pray on children and we need to end this vicious cycle by speaking up because as boys we are taught to be a man and don't cry or show emotions so we bottle things up and not speak about them among other things which is what is wrong even today... We must speak up against these things so that this never happens but if it does those men end up in jail because it's not ok to take advantage of kids
Thanks so much for sharing. If you would like more support or to share your story please check out 1in6.org/ or www.rainn.org/
I can't believe this only has that much likes they should make more
People find it hard to talk about.
phthisicy yes they should have more
phthisicy jerk
crowe bobby I never said it can't happen to me it can happen to everybody and also u should say sorry for what u just said cuz when I say I can't believe how much likes it have I'm saying it in it should get more likes
Sorry, I thought you were saying the comment about the "weak wimp whining" should have more likes. My bad. (I get so pissed off with macho men who think they could never get raped . . . not you of course.)
Wonderful film, great message
Very touching and very well filmed.
Serious and real subject. Excellent and thank you!
Thank you!
Great film with a powerful message. Great acting. Good luck. 👍👌
Subed & Shared ! Thank you ! This short can help people!!
"some people act like a totally different person when something sets them off" Well, yes, sort of that is true for everyone, but if you actually feel that exact way about a person - RUN!
Very well done movie. The main actor speaks so well. Thank you for this short movie :-)
Being a survivor of sexual assault and abuse myself I can relate and many others can also. Working through all of the trauma,shame,guilt, and pain is not easy and it’s extremely difficult but the more you talk about it to someone who can help then you can begin to understand that someone truly does care and that you can speak for yourself.
Absolutely! There is also help online: check out: www.rainn.org/ or 1in6.org/
When i watch this video i not only recieve a powerful message for S.A. survivors but i see a safe place for other survivors to comment and tell their stories whether its for the first time or the 100th, I appreciate that very much I feel for & appreciate everyone for having the courage to share their horrible truths with us, its hard but truly empowering to speak the truth..I watched this roughly 5 years ago,i come back time to time to watch it, and to read the comments. I hope everyone that has been S.A. has found support and persevered throughout their lives. Bless you All, & much respect for sharing your hurtful experiences with the world..I know alot of people dont report or speak out out of shame, and fear but The power is really all in your words, Dont let the abusers take anymore of you❤
Thanks so much!
Great scenario... You can just feel it within first minute. Thank for making it... To boys/girls this still happens a lot, too many time... It's such terrible and difficult to overcome... You may never what you will do till it happens... But silence must be broke, so increase chance someone will believe you... Man are suppose to be strong (so they say...), but this have nothing to do with being strong /weak... Someone just decided to molest, drawn all his rage on you and you did not sign for it
Congratulations , fantastic film . Well played , even the Father was almost dislikable . You hit every note
I felt the same way but in the end it seems the father had his back and wanted Christian in jail. The actor left a note on Ryan Rex's obit tribute page so he seems a good bloke in real life too.
💔😔 So heartbreaking, and such a real and chilling reality.... I saw in the comments that the “actor” passed away sadly. 🥀🦋 Sorry to hear of his death, he did a great job in this short.
Tell me, what happened to him???
Thanks for this great story.
Thank you!
Bravo! Excellent film! Very Important Topic!
So incredibly sad to learn that Ryan Rex took his own life soon after this film was released at such a young age of 21. A beautiful talented man.
My mouth is full. I'm speechless.
Thank You ❤️.
I am now 55 yo male, I am still struggling with what happened to me when I was 8 years old. Our neighbor at the time did the same thing, I cannot even say it out loud. I do remember the pain, I still think about it every day. But I can not come to tell any of my family about what happened. This is the first time saying anything. Thank you.
Don't go through this alone, if you need help or support, contact www.rainn.org/ or 1in6.org/
I’m a guy and was molested by my neighbor and elementary teacher as a kid idk I was confused but thought it was normal it didn’t traumatize me like most people but it did make trusting people a problem like I look at everybody to this day and think they probably a perv or untrustworthy. Ohh I do have problems having male doctors or anything I always have to have woman doctors feel very uncomfortable around males idk if that something that came from that but yeah
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My sisters older male friends always would try to do things to me & some did but i told my sister at age 16 when i came out .she. was so mad at them & ask why i didnt say anyting ? I liked them thats why ! I really like this movie speechless
Yea, I liked the bullies too Michael and some of them may even like you. Try to stick with friends your own age though.And be careful. Some of the guys calling you a "faggot" may be gay but, they are not dealing well with it, and some straight. If you like the bullies you may have a few you admire with a touch of mental illness. And some may be just figuring things out. Don't out them. You'll get a bad response and it's not nice.
You did an awesome job. 👏 You should be very proud of yourself.
thank you !!!
thankyou kindly, this happened to me @ 13, but i wasn't able to speak about back in the 70's, but i did out him out to his whole family & our church, no matter what would occur to me, though mine me parents thought it was the wrong thing to do, i did not want anymore victims in his path of life
some people just don't understand the effects but you did what you had to do Julian
Amazing film it is so true what message you put in this film thank you it happened to me at age 12 you made this film so real how a guy feels thank you
Thank you so much. If you would like more support or need to talk, you could also check out: 1in6.org/ or www.rainn.org
I was abused by my brother in my childhood. Never told anyone.... It happened several times. I don't remember when or how exactly it started... There were times when I hated what he did to me. I was 12 when I hit puberty and he stopped doing such things to me. I had the power at the time to stop him with that excuse but he knew better and stopped it himself... But I still wonder how my life wouldve been if that never happened. I hope and pray that this doesn't happen to anybody.
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Very good acting thanks for the video.
BRAVO! 👍👍
Awearness is EVERYTHING. This film is an appropriate guide for victims of sexual abuse to take relief from the horrific circumstances forced upon them. This is not a gay issue nor a straight issue. It's a predator issue and there is help for them too. Meet with a counselor and follow course.
Watching this made my eyes well up instantly becuase i know exactly what he is dealing with!
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Wow.
Thank you
WOW, poor “Desmond” great film with a clear message, well done to all. 😊🇬🇧
Thanks so much Glen!