CPTSD and Coping With The Grief & Loss of a Pet

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  • @grinklar10
    @grinklar10 ปีที่แล้ว +861

    It can be harder to lose a pet than a person because they are truly innocent and unconditional.

    • @techjunkie68smusicandtech56
      @techjunkie68smusicandtech56 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      absolutely and I allow myself to grieve and be sad when it happens, I have experienced a lot of loss of pets as I have always had multiple cats around the house and they absolutely help with the grieving process, I talk to our cats and express how grateful I am for their companionship during the grieving, as they're part of it too. They are missing their companions too.

    • @TheHighExecutioner
      @TheHighExecutioner ปีที่แล้ว +9

      So true my friend.

    • @mandygreen9152
      @mandygreen9152 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      yes i agree they love you unconditional, my sweet cat hase artrose he is 15 years now and i don't know when is is no longer whit me 😪 he got medication for the pain, but it is hard to see how he walks he is the love of my live!

    • @sweetjellyasmr1
      @sweetjellyasmr1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      EXACTLY! The love is so pure, so genuine. It’s so hard to go through this 💔 I hate it.

    • @commoveo1
      @commoveo1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      So agree 😢! ✨❤️✨

  • @darcybarwick3766
    @darcybarwick3766 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +358

    My dog was my life … he was my family .. I’m truly devastated , I cannot stop crying . I see him everywhere . RIP Humphrey

    • @KalebJurickovich
      @KalebJurickovich 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Long live Humphrey

    • @pitsnpistols1005
      @pitsnpistols1005 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      I’m sorry! I lost my pitbull 10 months ago and I miss him everyday. And today I took my Bearded Dragon in for surgery, come to find out his tumor grew and is touching his heart so there’s nothing they can do. Im so crushed. I love them
      Both very much.

    • @thetexassaint6571
      @thetexassaint6571 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I lost my Bro Oso of 14.5 years three days ago. How blessed we were to have had the time we did with these majestic and truly innocent souls

    • @76TomD
      @76TomD 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      I lost mine 2 days ago. The best part of my soul is gone.

    • @donnabelitz3105
      @donnabelitz3105 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I understand, I'm so sorry for your loss of Humphrey.

  • @craigfrober316
    @craigfrober316 ปีที่แล้ว +490

    It can be especially difficult when your pet had shown more humanity than most people around you. All we can do is be grateful for the memories and to have been a part of their journey.

    • @bethetruth6428
      @bethetruth6428 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      😢😓🙏💖 can relate. xo.

    • @7uc1f3r.
      @7uc1f3r. ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you

    • @jeanmariesworld4358
      @jeanmariesworld4358 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My dog was my whole life. I was home with her and she was in a stroller because it’s hot ❤ here in Florida. She likes going shopping and gave me company at home. My vet gave her a rabies shot the Jan. He said she was he healthiest 15 year old shihpoo. No diabetes or n heart problems. I’m went back three weeks to get eye drops and the vet gave her another rabies shot three weeks after the first one. Couldn’t he look on the chart. I was busy trying pick her up to put on the scale. She died at my home just shook and threw me four kisses and died. Any advice would be helpful. He admitted he shouldn’t have given her two shots

    • @Derekanic.
      @Derekanic. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@jeanmariesworld4358That is terrible. Definitely sue that vet for taking a choice they had known was wrong.

    • @j.t2548
      @j.t2548 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My thoughts exactly about my beloved Rabbit. Rest in peace and eat your heavenly carrots, my love ❤❤❤

  • @gempath5533
    @gempath5533 ปีที่แล้ว +212

    I think the death of a pet, can be worse than the death of a person, depending on the person. Animals are innocent and good and absolutely genuine in their love. They are the closest thing to Angel's on this earth.

    • @singingchannel2648
      @singingchannel2648 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      true

    • @darcybarwick3766
      @darcybarwick3766 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      So true

    • @estherphill1076
      @estherphill1076 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @gempath5533 Agreed and i think the only grief above that is losing a young child

    • @johnchoate4758
      @johnchoate4758 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agree. I’m sorry.

    • @j.t2548
      @j.t2548 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      100% brother.. Or sister...

  • @davidhorvath8022
    @davidhorvath8022 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    I put my dog down today 😢 I was and am extremely grief stricken. Could not stop crying very ugly tears, gut wrenching ache. I loved my Brady girl, she was a sweet heart. She was a part of my soul that got ripped out of me. It is so raw

    • @Voltedd
      @Voltedd 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      i just put my puppy down yesterday.. she was only 2 :( i feel for you man.. I hope everything gets better! Sending much love!!!

    • @singingchannel2648
      @singingchannel2648 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I feel your pain...nothing anyone can say or do can take it away....it just hurts and the heart aches,...I miss my Ari boy, such good dog😢 Passed away 3 weeks ago

    • @christinajeans7325
      @christinajeans7325 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I feel your pain. I have lost 3 pets and I love each one so much. I used to tell them that if I had to I would have birthed them to have them in my life. That is how much I love them.
      Please know that your love gave them the best life they could have had while they were here. You, you had both the honor and privilege of being the one in their life that truly loved them, and they you. You were a blessing to each other. So many animals and humans never have that. May that understanding give you peace and know that your grieving honors their life. It is a deserved tribute to the reality of the love they gave you.
      God bless and comfort you 🙏🐾❤️🌹🕊️

    • @suzannenuckols1252
      @suzannenuckols1252 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      So sorry, 4 your loss

    • @karenFlowers-p8q
      @karenFlowers-p8q 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Raw and in that rawness is such tenderness and vulnerability-that’s the sweet spot. My boy taught me how irresistible that is-to fling oneself into the arms of love with abandon! Tuning forks for that they are

  • @LIVINGINFRISCO
    @LIVINGINFRISCO หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I lost my baby boy chihuahua tonight. He was going to be 17 years old in two months. We knew it was coming but it’s hitting me so hard. I’ve had him since he was born so he’s grown with me through my 20s and 30s. My anxiety hasn’t calmed down and that is why I’m here. Reading everyone’s comments has helped me a bit. He gave us the best 17 years. I don’t think I can go through this hurt again. RIP Raphy. 11/17/2007 - August 15, 2024 💙 🐕

  • @mrl1593
    @mrl1593 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +292

    Lost my dog 3 days ago. Been crying everyday since then. I miss him so much

    • @Ichigo-gp9vq
      @Ichigo-gp9vq 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      How are you now

    • @joerogan5433
      @joerogan5433 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      So sorry my friend. Me too. It cuts like a knife.

    • @coltvan7948
      @coltvan7948 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Lost mine 2 days ago I’ve had her almost all my life since I can remember I’m 18 now and she was still jumpy and full of energy at 15 we had to put her down bc of cancer and financial issues I fr don’t know how to cope with it she was like everything to me and she had a emotional attachment to me I love her more than anything and would give anything to bring her back ima try to stay positive and work on things but not having her by my side hurts so bad

    • @thinkforyourself7262
      @thinkforyourself7262 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Feel you my dog got ran over two days ago, it’s horrific

    • @raq540
      @raq540 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ugh me too 😢

  • @corb5654
    @corb5654 ปีที่แล้ว +224

    I have always grieved the loss of my pets far deeper than the loss of humans...

    • @seer1623
      @seer1623 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      You are spot on; just lost my beloved cat Tequila, 20 years young, a week ago today and the pain surpassed the grief of the death of three immediate family members combined, all of whom screwed me over in a variety of ways. Cats and dogs just want us to love them; they have no sinister agenda.

    • @marion5198
      @marion5198 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@seer1623 l do agree !

    • @energyisenergy
      @energyisenergy ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💯

    • @unocualqu1era
      @unocualqu1era ปีที่แล้ว +22

      "It's just a pet" some say. They fucking wish they were 1/100th as nice and innocent as my pet. Fuck 90% of people I just want these little animals to live forever but I can't do anything

    • @marion5198
      @marion5198 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@unocualqu1era Most animals are so much better than people. I have no idea where this " people are more important than animals " comes from. Open up your eyes folks !!! Maybe our sweethearts will come back one day ❤️ like us.

  • @sw6454
    @sw6454 ปีที่แล้ว +174

    My two doggies protected me from my narcissistic husband and now they have both gone, it’s a very lonely life. I did promise my last dog before he died that he didn’t have to worry anymore and protect me because I will make sure sure I will be ok. That promise to him has kept me going during the really dark parts. The bigger the love, the bigger the grief.

    • @orianemeijerink6983
      @orianemeijerink6983 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      That's really beautiful, animals really are our best friends, and im glad you are honouring their memory by protecting yourself. I also hope you got out and are safe❤

    • @susanraeisi1459
      @susanraeisi1459 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I truly believe it that animals come to our life when we need them the most and leave when their purpose is complete. I went through a tough time of my life 10 years ago and just before I start that period I met my dogs( both rescued) one died 6 months ago and one is close to leaving me. I miss my dog that’s gone and I cry everyday for the one with sickness. I know I would be completely lost if they didn’t come to my life

    • @geomcc39
      @geomcc39 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      its so hard ! lost my Caroline yesterday to most people she was a dog, To me she was my Sanity I do not trust anyone that don't love animals. My Caroline was at the pound for over a year ,everyone took her back she was a hard dog to train. But I never gave up on my furry little girl. I had 12 good years she was the best !!

  • @itsawowman_
    @itsawowman_ ปีที่แล้ว +106

    What helps me is remember to be grateful.
    We are all here for a finite amount of time, but we have had the chance to be part of their lifetime, enjoy their existence, and have the privilege to get to know them. Which is all we can truly have.
    My condolences to everyone.

    • @dannyduggan4324
      @dannyduggan4324 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Really like this way of thinking. Thank you.

  • @colleendensmore7731
    @colleendensmore7731 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    When my parents died and when I left my marriage, it was stressful. However, when I lost my dog, Lily, it was just pure agonizing grief.

    • @pinky9440
      @pinky9440 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I am so sorry for your loss. The pain is tremendous and it comes and goes, but it feels like it would never end. I hope you feel better now.

    • @thetexassaint6571
      @thetexassaint6571 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I understand. I’m an only child and I was surprised and super saddened when my beloved father passed.
      When my dude Oso passed a few days ago…shit, the first week I was crying every literal hour. Almost two weeks later I’m down to a few times per day.
      What an epic journey it was. I had no idea it would change me forever and be so beautiful. The sorrow and sadness I have now is worth it. Worth the thousands of beautiful moments. I didn’t realize that until this moment…

    • @darcybarwick3766
      @darcybarwick3766 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I understand

    • @Frezo-gg2mf
      @Frezo-gg2mf 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      probably cause its unnatural for our babies to pass before us it goes against the natural order of the universe.

    • @vjc25
      @vjc25 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I was just saying to my boyfriend…. The death of our dog is more painful and difficult for me to cope with than the death of my beloved mother. This is a grief I’ve never felt before.

  • @Games-df5uh
    @Games-df5uh 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    I lost my dog at 5:45 AM from a stroke she had. I walked in the room she was in and I saw her on the floor shaking on the floor and she was still alive. I wanted to save her and I was to scared to do anything. I was trying to call a 24/7 vet but it was too late and she died in my hands. I have been crying ever since that night and I just can't bare with this sadness. I miss her so much and her life was taken at a young age. I had gotten her back in summer and I still remember taking care of her when she was just a baby. I have learned to accept the sadness and let it overtake me but to also remember how such a great dog she was.

    • @davelaseer1344
      @davelaseer1344 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Watching cat die from a stroke 1 night and unable to save her made me felt totally helpless & heartbroken. We rush her to the ER but they couldn’t save her as her heart has just stop and her vein collapsed so they couldn’t even get an IV into her. I am so lost without her. And still grief after a year.

  • @animalliberationCLBB
    @animalliberationCLBB 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you; but instead I am deeply honored knowing you spent the rest of your life with me.” -Camille Marcotte
    Just ❤to everyone. R.I.P. 🐈‍⬛ Blacky

    • @howdoesitgetbetter
      @howdoesitgetbetter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you for being so supportive. I found the quote you posted under some other video, it meant so much to me that I made a beautiful print out of it and inserted it into every framed photo of my souldoggy that I have in my house. Thank you.

    • @animalliberationCLBB
      @animalliberationCLBB 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@howdoesitgetbetter 💝💜they don't want us sad and crying, they are really fine now!! It's like they are with us just in another room where we can't see them,but they are with us! Much💝

    • @howdoesitgetbetter
      @howdoesitgetbetter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@animalliberationCLBB Yes, my brain comprehends this and yet I cannot cope with the emotional pain and how much I miss my souldoggy. We were together 24/7 for 16 years, travelled through three continents, survived Fukushima earthquake and nuclear plant incident, sailed in North and South Pacific ocean together, so many memories that I will cherish forever. No bond with human is this deep, magical and Divine!

    • @animalliberationCLBB
      @animalliberationCLBB 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@howdoesitgetbetter no one can ever take these moments from you both 💎there are always in your ❤️!! and you will meet again!
      I'm still so broken after the loss of my cat. He was special. I cry every day almost one year now.💔
      But they are fine and don't want us to cry!
      True the love is different so deep 💜

    • @howdoesitgetbetter
      @howdoesitgetbetter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@animalliberationCLBB Thank you very much for your kind, warm and comforting words. It is so true that they don't want us to cry because even while alive, my sweetest, dearest souldoggy was extremely worry about me whenever he saw me crying. 🐕🐾🐾💞💖

  • @evelinaiuliano3547
    @evelinaiuliano3547 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    It's 5 months and I'm still grieving. Depression, not sleeping, crying 😢 all the time. Miss my Furbabies 😢

    • @singingchannel2648
      @singingchannel2648 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      its really raw still since my boy passed away in April....my heart longs to have him here, I understand, how grief can throw us into a rollercoaster of emotions... for me this has been the most extreme grief I have felt from the loss of a loved one, because of our deep love connection. I feel your heartbreak💔

    • @nicoloclemente6564
      @nicoloclemente6564 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do you believe in reincarnation?❤

  • @oltskooler
    @oltskooler 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Her dying in my arms at home broke me. I've no one. I buried her in my backyard. Her body was still warm. I'm 52 and screamed and cried holding her and inside I'm screaming since then. 10 days I buried everything that gave life joy. 15 years we were never separated a single day. Its difficult to be home or laying down without her. 9 pounds of innocent love. I feel horrible for not being able to be there for her. I feel like she's scared and devastated lonely in the dark. Just like I am. Until my last breath I will be grieving

    • @suchilravishankar608
      @suchilravishankar608 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I believe she's with you, her energy is with you and she's looking after you!

    • @sunshine9122
      @sunshine9122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I'm so sorry. I feel your comment. My husband died ten years ago, then my dog a few months later, now my 14 year old cat who was my only remaining best friend. I'm devastated.

    • @oltskooler
      @oltskooler 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@sunshine9122 hug ❤

    • @sunshine9122
      @sunshine9122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@oltskooler Thank you❤

    • @NikD215
      @NikD215 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Can relate to your comment. When my dog passed away I was the same and racked with guilt. But the night he died, he came to me healthy and playful in my dream. I woke up with peace knowing he was fine. That day on my phone a saying came up, death is for the living and I understood he was fine. I was not because I was left to deal with that lost. I’m going to tell you this, I was blessed to have my dog for 13 years. He lived a great life and we had a great life together and I regret nothing because most animals don’t have that. I celebrated his life and grieved the loss of my baby and then I save another dog. The best thing I ever did, but I know, that this one will break my heart too but right now we have a life to live together. That is the same for you and your dog. It was/is a blessing that that dog was with you for the amount of years that you had her, don’t be sad rejoice in the joy of those years that you had. Heal and go save something else, because they will save you too. Sending you love

  • @h.p.dominocus
    @h.p.dominocus ปีที่แล้ว +58

    I lost a 15 year old Tuxedo cat named Max early this year. Never had such a strong bond with an animal before him. He was unusually empathetic towards humans and always sensed if something was wrong. He would put his paw on my heart when I was in the middle of a panic attack. Putting him down was one of the most traumatic things I've ever experienced in my life. The weeks following I started having multiple panic attacks every damn day and night. I never felt so out of control. I'm mostly ok now but still have random moments where the weight of this loss re-emerges in very vivid flashbacks. My heart goes out to anyone currently dealing with this.

    • @braklola
      @braklola ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @jeremyeichelberger9243
      @jeremyeichelberger9243 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🖐😪🖤

    • @iTadakimAsu85
      @iTadakimAsu85 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm dealing with it right now. His conditioned deteriorated quickly and didn't want him to suffer so had at home euthanasia. Had him 14+ years.

    • @h.p.dominocus
      @h.p.dominocus 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@iTadakimAsu85 Im so sorry that had to happen. Sending you positive thoughts as you heal from your loss.

  • @scorpiolove674
    @scorpiolove674 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    Animals are beyond humans when it comes to unconditional lifelong loyalty .

    • @yollaurban
      @yollaurban ปีที่แล้ว +4

      So true.

    • @TheHighExecutioner
      @TheHighExecutioner 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Gaysexisdisgusting

    • @TheHighExecutioner
      @TheHighExecutioner 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@yollaurban you wish honey

    • @commoveo1
      @commoveo1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ✨❤️😢✨

  • @lindseygrace11LoveAlchemist
    @lindseygrace11LoveAlchemist ปีที่แล้ว +191

    I lost my cat Tibbles on 10th January this year.
    I had him for 15 years.
    He was killed in front of me by a staff dog that had got off his lead. I can honestly say Tibbles was their with me through all my life traumas and heartache.
    I love him so much.
    He helped me to open up my heart again ♥️
    So much love and comfort to all of you that have lost your beloved pets. ♥️♥️

  • @jaydee8697
    @jaydee8697 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    Oh man … I lost my 12 yr old lab last December frig it was like relearning to walk again in a way, so much old crap came back up I thought I was done with 😢
    Was the longest, healthiest relationship I’ve ever had, didn’t realize how much I relied on that relationship until it was gone

    • @fr33bird.33
      @fr33bird.33 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I am right there with you. My dog was a few months away from being 16. So many years and memories and unconditional love and adventure. Now all just a memory as of 10/26 😭

    • @jaydee8697
      @jaydee8697 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@fr33bird.33 hugs, sorry for your loss, a big loss indeed

    • @chrisdaniel5004
      @chrisdaniel5004 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I feel your pain.

    • @judithgee7011
      @judithgee7011 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Your words could be mine.

  • @verschwenderin
    @verschwenderin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I just lost my pet today. She was everything to me and it is true that my grief mirrors the immense love my dog felt for me and me for her. I know time heals in some way but the pain is never truly gone. My heart goes out to all the ones who lost their furry family.

  • @bluenetmarketing
    @bluenetmarketing ปีที่แล้ว +78

    I lost my dear little precious Penelope Jack Russell last week. She was my everything. I could face anything because she was there to come home to each night, and now the house is empty and my life is empty and cold. Some people have no idea how broken people are without the unconditional love from their warm, happy dogs and cats. If Penelope isn't in Heaven when I pass, I want to go where she is instead. I can't go through this soul deep pain again.

    • @maryhampton4410
      @maryhampton4410 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      God gave us pets to show us a little about Himself. They are not fallen. Find out about God, not only His love and companionship, but all the rest. He never leaves us and I am never alone. I too have grieved for losing my dogs. Believe me when I say that their goodness cannot be anywhere else than in heaven. God Himself planned for our salvation so we could all be together for eternity. Find out about His plan.:)

    • @stevefurness6303
      @stevefurness6303 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I had a parson Russell terrier and like your Jack small on legs big on personality. It's been 6 years since he passed I miss him every single day

    • @bluenetmarketing
      @bluenetmarketing ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@stevefurness6303 The Russell terriers are so heartwarming and special beyond words. Sorry to hear of your loss. I'm sure they are playing together in Heaven right now.

    • @bluenetmarketing
      @bluenetmarketing ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@maryhampton4410 Amen and amen. Thanks, Mary.

    • @stevefurness6303
      @stevefurness6303 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@bluenetmarketing of that I have no doubt probably getting up to all kinds of mischief

  • @EuropaThePirateTwin3
    @EuropaThePirateTwin3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    I have accepted the death of my wonderful dog Honey, but since she died in September 2019 I haven't been ok. I've sat with the sadness, the grief and the change, I've been in counselling for many many years anyway delaing with the trauma of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of my father, but I'm always reminded of her and the pain doesn't seem to be getting much easier. I have anxiety, depression and CPTSD, her death was handled so dispicably by the vets, and I watched the life leave her beautiful big eyes. She was only 12 , (I'd had her since she was a puppy) and apparently had a very sudden and aggressive onset of cancer. I find that more than ever I pray that God will take me in my sleep and let me be with her. She means everything to me and I'm still devastaed over 3 years later. We don't deserve dogs. They're too good for this world. I stick around for my family, but I'm just reminded that they will die too, and I will have to go through so much grief again anyway. It's a hard thing to come to terms with for me. Much love and hugs to all of you who are missing your baby/ best friend 💖

    • @marilynminer677
      @marilynminer677 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      There are so many companion animals in need of homes and even just loving interactions. There are senior animals in shelters whose "owners" had to leave them behind, as well as all ages. Please find a way to spend some time with them, visit them if you cannot bring them home. Wishing you the best.

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm so sorry the vets didn't give you the comfort and help you needed. Honey knew how much you loved her💙

  • @Missdaisy247
    @Missdaisy247 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Cats have been constant companions throughout every day of my adult life. Saying the final goodnight to my beloved Kitkat after nearly 20 years was so painful. Always missed 💔

  • @Random_Patriot
    @Random_Patriot 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My dog was everything to me. He was my best friend. It's been 4 weeks since I lost him. It's not getting any easier. I'm so damn devastated. The pain is so unbearable. I just miss him every minute of everyday.

  • @karenlewkowitz5858
    @karenlewkowitz5858 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Zack, my best friend, a schnouzer jrt, was suffering kidney failure at 15 years. We had so many good times and were connected heart to heart. He left peacefully 2weeks ago. This is a difficult passage

    • @phoenixd9679
      @phoenixd9679 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💜🙏🌹🌹

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So sorry for your loss🐕🐾💞🙏🙌🌷

  • @mint_soup9743
    @mint_soup9743 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I lost my sweet dog recently. I held her in her last moments. I was glad I got to be by her side and that I was home when it happened. I pray I get to see her again someday. I've had many pets but she was something so special to me. I find peace in that she's not suffering but the grief is so real. I feel... hollow. It's hard to believe it's real. We buried her under her favorite cherry tree where she'd like to lay in the shade.🌳 My heart hurts beyond words.

    • @thetexassaint6571
      @thetexassaint6571 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My dude Oso went to sleep and was next to me on the floor, with my arm on him as he passed . Of all the violent and brutal ways people and dogs can go in this life, what an incredible thing to be released from his battle worn body of 14.5 years. I’ve had to learn how to live again as he and I had a lifestyle together. We moved into many states many times . I understand the empty hollow feeling. I made vow to him to is all my resources in the next world to find him, and to continually pray for hep in doing so. Delusional perhaps but i genuinely don’t believe so. It’s not even two weeks since and I’m down to only crying a few times per day, versus every single waking hour. We are blessed and they were too to exit so peacefully…I’m forever grateful

    • @mint_soup9743
      @mint_soup9743 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thetexassaint6571 bless you and it will get easier I promise, how lucky we both are to experience such tremendous love from our respective companions. Really angels in our lives. Im so glad you were there when he went.

  • @dawnandhallahavingfun5313
    @dawnandhallahavingfun5313 ปีที่แล้ว +150

    Richard, this came at the right time for me. I just lost my Sheba on December 2. She was more than a pet- she was a service animal and companion for me. She helped with both my physical illness and my ptsd. I'm lost without her right now.

    • @mercedessanchez6844
      @mercedessanchez6844 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I’m so sorry for your loss. Much light for her and a hug for you.

    • @TrishCanyon8
      @TrishCanyon8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Condolences 🙏

    • @heavenstobetsy3843
      @heavenstobetsy3843 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      So sorry for the loss of your beloved dog. Prayers to you. Maybe think about another sweet fur baby soon. I have been there.

    • @mariabekos3484
      @mariabekos3484 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Dogs are so awesome. When the time is right a new buddy will light your days once again.

    • @h.p.dominocus
      @h.p.dominocus ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I felt the same way when I lost my cat this year. He was my emotional support during some rough times and having him leave so abruptly really messed me up for months. It takes time but you will get through this. ♥

  • @Krisztina.Williams
    @Krisztina.Williams ปีที่แล้ว +94

    Thank you for doing this one. I had my German Shepherd Emma for over 10 yrs. She was my support animal and was by my side all the time. She was so incredibly in tune with me and was so loving and made me feel safe. She passed this Summer and it’s been so hard to cope at times.

    • @stevefurness6303
      @stevefurness6303 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      No one will ever understand what these lovely furry people mean to us.

    • @TrishCanyon8
      @TrishCanyon8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Condolences. It's such a loss to lose a beautiful friend.

    • @Krisztina.Williams
      @Krisztina.Williams ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@TrishCanyon8 Thank you

    • @mint_soup9743
      @mint_soup9743 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      So many gsd lovers here. They are amazing dogs. I'm sorry about your Emma 💔

    • @mercedessanchez6844
      @mercedessanchez6844 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Much light for her and a hug for you!

  • @mayaluna5881
    @mayaluna5881 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    I've lost my Labrador end of october after ten years. She died in my arms, I buried her in my garden, for two weeks her spirit was still around, but now, even that I feel that death is just a transition, the fact of separation and loss is hard to bear.

    • @stevefurness6303
      @stevefurness6303 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I'm so sorry to hear that , I lost my parsons terrier 6 years ago I miss him so much, about 10 years ago I lost my job, money was really tight and I was doing some shopping and the lady on the till said "you have spent more on the dog then you have on on yourself"
      And I replied "whatever happens he will never do without I will do without before he does"

    • @jaydee8697
      @jaydee8697 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I lost my lab almost a year ago and I still hear him laying down in the hallway and the bang of the linen closet ♥️

    • @Whgss
      @Whgss ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So sorry. ❤

  • @mamandapanda185
    @mamandapanda185 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I'm so fkn scared of losing my feline soul mate. I got him, or he got me, already as an older cat when lockdowns began and have become scarily attached to him. I've never loved anything or anyone like this before. I'm saving this video. :(

  • @terris7842
    @terris7842 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    I just lost my dog two weeks ago after 14 yrs. I realised that I had spent more time with him during that time than I had with any other living being. Now I really am alone. No humans, no other pets, just me. The stillness is excruciating. Thank you for this video. You have helped me with cptsd stuff before,but I stopped watching you there for a while. I was in so much grief pain tonight, I was desperately searching for some help and this came up. It has helped. Just having someone acknowledge that this grief is real and valid helps more than you know.

    • @carmensusma8148
      @carmensusma8148 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Lucca on the 16 of Sep. It feels like yesterday… I miss him so very much.
      I know is hard but I hope you are doing better. I understand your pain and the fact that the house is silent. If you want to talk, please let me know. I don’t want you to feel that you are alone. Hugs goes your way. 💔🌹

    • @terris7842
      @terris7842 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@carmensusma8148 Thank you. I really appreciate you reaching out. I have my moments, but I am okay. I hope you are too. They leave such a hole in your life when they go. Hugs to you too. 💚

    • @runner2008
      @runner2008 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I just lost my beloved cat Dixie. I feel like I have been punched in the stomach. I love her sooooo much. I understand your pain, you are not alone. I'm feeling it too. One day at a time. We will be okay.

    • @terris7842
      @terris7842 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@runner2008 I’m so sorry for your loss. It really is excruciating.

    • @runner2008
      @runner2008 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@terris7842 Thank you. And same to you as well on the loss of your dog. I am in the regret stage, thinking what have I done, I think I could have done more. I just pray she is not up there in heaven mad at me saying why did you do this to me. I am having a hard time. When I come home and she is not there to greet me, I lose it. I understand what you mean by the stillness is excruciating. I feel it too.

  • @kellymc6812
    @kellymc6812 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I just put my twenty year old cat to sleep 😢 it was such an honor to have been his human and to grieve him was and is a moments tough. Thank you for this ❤❤❤❤

  • @bumblebee_ms
    @bumblebee_ms ปีที่แล้ว +22

    My favourite pet died 5 months ago, and I'm still devastated. I have a photo of him next to me every day and I talk to him.
    He was born in my house 13 years ago. I still have his mum.

  • @elainetuck936
    @elainetuck936 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I know this man means well and I really appreciate that. My dog was my everything and not just like losing a pet, he was my baby and I will never get over it

  • @overseaoversea6602
    @overseaoversea6602 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Who understands it is like a loss of your child, a very dear friend...
    Thinking about them with love. Thank you Richard

  • @peaplecreative
    @peaplecreative 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Watching this a day after I put my lab to sleep. He was only 6.5 years old but had multiple health issues. He was my life every single day and my family protector. I am destroyed because 1. It was only half his life cycle 2. I had to make the decision to put him to sleep. I will try to spend the next week(s) trying to accept this…it’s truly devastating. 😢

    • @LAJ602
      @LAJ602 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m sorry, I went through something similar. Had to put my French bulldog to sleep a few days ago. He was only 6 years old. He had a health issue that progressively got worse. I did everything I could but had to make the difficult decision to let him go so that he didn’t suffer. I’m sorry for your loss 😔

  • @gaelle4328
    @gaelle4328 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Toughest part is when you know there is probably something you could have done better sometimes you actually could have so now you know better but there is also the part that you probably love the animals way more than most people because you actually trust them.

    • @bluenetmarketing
      @bluenetmarketing ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Your comment about trust is so incredible. That is one of their best qualities that I haven't found in too many people.

    • @sunshine9122
      @sunshine9122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is so true. This is why I'm devastated over the loss of my 14 year old blind cat.

  • @Theowlhawk
    @Theowlhawk ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Perfect timing, anticipatory grief, of a pet that is going to pass, that pre loss, my last pet, and loss of 3 pets in the last 2 years, its like my home was a safe haven for pets, like they have all left, flown the nest in death ! Veterinary fees have sky rocket, its becoming very expensive to have a pet! I don't know life without pets! Rescues, (for all my life, ) abandoned, I just love animal Companionship ❤ their unconditional ♥, their courage, engagement, presence, loyalty, protection, a soulful connection, playfulness, their amazing heartfelt ❤

    • @makaveli8979
      @makaveli8979 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      God bless you and your pets 🙏🏼

  • @BigBossIvan
    @BigBossIvan ปีที่แล้ว +17

    My best friend is gone. The worst part is my parents, I take such good care of, poisoned him. My father, specifically. It was an accident, but so unnecessary, so stupid, such a nightmare to wake up to and wonder what went wrong at the animal ER... I can't stop wailing in the night, away from my wife. I don't think I can ever forgive this. My little friend, my only real friend, had so many more years to go.

  • @lauraparkes6591
    @lauraparkes6591 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    My german shepherd of almost 12 yrs was just diagnosed with Lymphoma. She has been my emotional support. I am finally sorta free of a 43 yr toxic marriage where I was always the problem. 2 of my 6 children hate me because I left. I didn’t know what to call what I was dealing with, until I did.
    It is going to be hard to let my best friend, my confidant, my comforter and the one who has stood by me when others shunned and scorned and blamed and accused. I’m starting to realize that love is a true power and it’s real and it doesn’t disappear, it grows. I try to look at life now as a way to make every last minute with Ida-girl as minutes I can celebrate her. When she’s gone, I will morn for myself, but I can testify she has fulfilled her mission in this life, she returns to the creator valiant. What a gift I have been given ❤

    • @lauraparkes6591
      @lauraparkes6591 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Quite frankly she is the best person I’ve ever met!!!

    • @marilynminer677
      @marilynminer677 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Feel the same way about my Mainecoon cat, Amy, who was with me deeply throughout a very similar situation, nonstop, darkest of days. "Returns to the Creator valiant." Beautiful, exactly that. Such gratitude. Come into my heart, and there reside.

    • @Treezp1
      @Treezp1 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Laura, I'm Theresa. I agree with what you say about Love. Love has been & continues to be a powerful force in my life. I am so relieved & thankful that I'm able to feel Love, even though feeling so much sometimes feels hard 😭 Love makes my life rich & meaningful🙂 Be sure to take good care of yourself as well as Ida❤ It's called a *good* cry for a reason 😭😱🤗❤ Love T

    • @spiroguru
      @spiroguru ปีที่แล้ว +2

      you were lucky to have each other...mine also a male black german shepard died yesterday from lymphoma!!!my heart is broken!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!but i am thankfull for the memories!!!!!

  • @pamgori8008
    @pamgori8008 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I have only pet children..no husband
    I have worked at animal hospitals for over 15 years..3 horses..many dogs and cats..they are the most loving creatures on the planet..thank God they don't have our Egos..without them I would be lost..the pain I go through with each one is like loosing
    A piece of my own soul..it takes me months to get over..each and every time..but to ignore their eyes which are the window to their soul would be impossible.. BOSTON 🍀

  • @mishalscott7192
    @mishalscott7192 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I lost my dog today, and this video is truly comforting. I am really grateful for the time I shared with my dog.❤🐕

    • @connysieben
      @connysieben 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i feel for you !

  • @MariskaBrown
    @MariskaBrown ปีที่แล้ว +44

    My sweet 15 year old black lab Monty passed a few months ago and I have been seriously struggling. He got me through EVERYTHING and was part of my healing. My best friend. My baby. My confidante.
    Thank you RG. As usual, perfect timing.

    • @BuddhatheRockstar
      @BuddhatheRockstar ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Be kind to yourself.

    • @rebeccadelbridge2998
      @rebeccadelbridge2998 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm so very sorry for your loss. My black lab Zero is 11, and is really slowing down. His hips are terrible, but for now he is happy enough being a couch potato. We come to him for cuddles and love these days, but I feel terrible that he can only do short walks about twice a week nowadays, and needs anti inflamitories, painkillers and rapigel. Black labs are everything. I wish you the absolute deepest love and empathy. I don't know how on earth I will cope when he goes, but I know it will have been worth the pain, to have had him in my life. Ive lost pets before, but this one, is different. Bless you, dear heart.

    • @Journeyoflove13
      @Journeyoflove13 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My black French Bulldog of 15 years past away last friday and it's really hard. I could alnost copy paste your comment. Her food she did'nt eat is still in her bucket. Crazy perhaps. Just want to leave really everything like it was for at least a week. Upcoming weekend I'll clean everything. Then I take away one thing at a time. I'm not the person who can say goodbye to material things that have lots of memories attached to it. Hopefully you and everyone else here are doing better now. Bless you all. ❤

    • @Journeyoflove13
      @Journeyoflove13 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@rebeccadelbridge2998 I had a stroller for my dog, because she only could walk about 40 meters with many stops. Think I looked senile with a dog in a stroller, but it uplifted my dog so much. It was like she had became kind of depressed and than so happy and relaxed again. She even had shoes on because of injured paws and a jacket for the winter. Completely senile, but I felt so lucky those problemsolvers excisted. Hopefully your couch patato will fit in some kind of stroller. Be blessed ❤

  • @cici5904
    @cici5904 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    So happy ur doing this. I just lost my cat 🐱 Jake this past summer and am still grieving pretty deeply. I can’t even look at pictures of him it it’s still too painful. Ty 🙏🤍🌟

    • @oanaalexia
      @oanaalexia ปีที่แล้ว +6

      They're family members and it's natural to grieve. It's very good to find some guidance in doing it right. I wish all our loved ones lived forever. Celebrate the life Jake had rather than imagine a life without him. Celebrate those unique memories and think to maybe, in time, getting adopted, once again by another feline friend?
      Take care.

    • @thingi
      @thingi ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I lost my 🐱 Milo on the 10th January, he was over 18. The bond I had with my cat was stronger than any with a human I've had in my adult life. It does get easier, for months all you'll feel is pain but over time you will remember the happy times more than the loss. Oana is right, celebrate those moments, but they will only come with time. Thankfully my friends all 'got it', seek support from your animal lover friends, I bet you already know who they are. In fact don't even speak about it to non-animal lovers, all they'll do it upset you albeit unintentionally.

    • @lesliesantos8595
      @lesliesantos8595 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel you too.

    • @lesliesantos8595
      @lesliesantos8595 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@thingi i look at the happy times and it hurts because i cant hold her anymore. Or give her things that made her happy. And i feel like i couldve done better for her.

    • @lesliesantos8595
      @lesliesantos8595 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@thingi it feels empty being without her presence. And it could be because my bond with her was stronger than anyone else..she was my example to be brave and strong and fight everyday. For sure her loss made me realize the issues with my bf were so pointless...for her and my family i know i need to choose to focus on what really matters.
      I was away from her the week of her passing..the night before i didnt really stay with her too long because it killed me to see her blind and bleeding alot..because she was in the last stages of diabetes her kidneys were out..and man she still greeted me with an energy i couldnt greet her the same. I didnt want to accept that it was time to have her euthanized. Im not blaming my relationship with my bf but for sure i did that to myself.. had i known better i know i wouldve focused my attention on her more than anything else..

  • @RedFoxBlueMoon
    @RedFoxBlueMoon 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I lost my 16 year old dog yesterday, it was her birthday. I am crushed, just crushed, I miss her so much. ❤

    • @MyAngelAlfie
      @MyAngelAlfie 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I understand ❤ I lost my beautiful alfie today it is so hard, they are not gone your bond is stronger than anything and they live inside your heart forever with you nothing can break that 💙 ❤️ ♥️ 💗 💜 🐕🌟

  • @wowwowwow185
    @wowwowwow185 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    When my dog died it was the worst grief I ever felt so painful but still wouldn't regret having my dog

  • @genie674
    @genie674 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I lost both of my dogs 3 years apart 8 & 5 years ago. I am still grieving. I also lost my Mum (narcissist) 3 years ago but the pain of losing my dogs is terrible and the worst. People say I should get another dog but I just can't. It's not logical but I feel disloyal thinking about getting another and also it's having to face the pain again. 😢

  • @TrishCanyon8
    @TrishCanyon8 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    When my Sheppard passed I held a small memorial for her. Guest who knew her came and were given an opportunity to speak about her. We had candles, incense and a buddhist-type memorial and a poster-size picture of her. It helped us all.

    • @ktmggg
      @ktmggg ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's good to know people in your circle valued her presence as much as you did.

  • @therange4033
    @therange4033 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    As my dog has got older, now 10, I've thought of losing him. He has been with me through so much life trauma. Depression and more. He has been my furry crutch with his love and companionship. He is stubborn and clever, for a dog! I am mentally preparing a little bit for his walk over the doggy rainbow. So its not a complete surprise.
    I understand some pets wait for their owners in the afterlife. I KNOW he will be there, patiently waiting. That helps, a lot.

    • @raedarden9830
      @raedarden9830 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Just lost my girl of 13 1/2 years. The poem which has helped me with the passing of my special babies is: "Rainbow Bridge". I believe. Treasure every moment with your baby boy. God bless.

  • @sisaacs2
    @sisaacs2 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I lost my dog yesterday and this video was very comforting. Thank you.

    • @garrettahern3813
      @garrettahern3813 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same, we just had to put max down our dog down today:(

  • @pjm91788
    @pjm91788 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It'll be 6 months on March 9th since my golden passed away. I know the decision I made was the right one because he was in lots of pain. But man i miss him every second of every single day. If i could give away 14 plus years of my own life to have him with me again I would do it in a heart beat...i miss my buddy. Nothing has been the same without him. Its all a mixture of emotions because I'm also going to be a dad to a baby boy in April. Lots of changes have transpired in a short time. I'm always praying for strength and guidance.

  • @PaulRoseGuitar
    @PaulRoseGuitar ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yesterday we had let our beloved Springer spaniel go with acute kidney failure. Not 5 years old. An absolute catastrophe for us in so many ways. Thank you for this video, there's no stopping the pain so let it flow. It is after all an expression of pure unconditional love.

  • @tonjacech9868
    @tonjacech9868 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thank you for this . I ost my chi Chihuahua 💕 in February she was 16. I have had her since a baby. I don't. Know how I could of went through the last 16 years without her ♡♡♡

  • @marioricci6650
    @marioricci6650 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I had to put down my beautiful Pomeranian, Ginger, today after 16 beautiful years. We were truly blessed to have Ginger in our lives. She would come running to me when I came home. Truly unconditional love. My heart is broken since I raised her since she was a puppy. Ginger would cheer me up when I had bad days, and was always excited to see me. Ginger was spoiled rotten, and she deserved every bit of it. Thanks for the video. I allowed myself to grieve and cried like a baby. Animals are truly a blessing in our lives!

  • @graham5990
    @graham5990 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I just had to put my best friend of 9.5 years down Tue June 11 2024 and I am just lost. Got him when I was at a really low point in my life stationed in VA in the NAVY with no friends or relatives and was quite depressed. It was him and I for about 2 years before I got another dog, but it was always him that held the most special place in my heart. He is gone now and I still have my other dog, but I have never felt more alone than I do right now. I'm 38 and single with no kids so he was quite literally my everything. Tried to take my dog out for a walk yesterday and realized I hadn't been on a walk without my best friend Maverick in almost a decade only grabbing one dog bowl, seeing a ball, not hearing his bark at a knock at the door, not seeing his head poke through the bathroom door, no longer seeing his happy smile, no more of him resting his head on my chest and licking me every morning I wake up..........................I feel like I don't ever want another dog cause no dog can ever be or measure up to what he did for me. My life is just a wreck at the moment.

  • @scorchedearthcreations
    @scorchedearthcreations ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Just had my pet euthanised a week ago due to illness. I did the same thing. I fully accepted the grief let it all out. I didn’t want to go through the same hell for months like last time and just embraced it. I’ve given away his toys etc. and not holding on to mementos like I normally would as that seems to prolong things. I kept one little thing.
    A week later and I’m ‘okay’ and just thankful for the time I had with him comforted in the knowledge that he was loved and had a good life.

  • @MN_MAGA
    @MN_MAGA 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I said goodbye to my little friend three days ago. I love you Joey. Thank you for being my friend for 14 years

  • @deec1601
    @deec1601 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I lost my dog almost 11 months ago, I had him 16 years and I can still have moments of grief and tears when someone mentions him or I see a photograph. The grief was like being on an emotional rollercoaster, it was an all consuming pain but as time has gone on it has become easier to deal with. I don't think I'll ever fully get over it, I've avoided having another dog because I don't want to go through that again.

  • @crystalwomack8344
    @crystalwomack8344 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It has been ok days and deeply depressed days for me lately when I lost Chase in May. I only had him for 4 years and he gave me so many great memories especially with my mom sickness and when I had COVID. I miss him a lot. Thank you for the video of comforting words. Doing my best to take it one day at a time.

  • @asdf4678z
    @asdf4678z 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you ❤️ I just lost a very dear pet and my heart is aching something dreadful.

    • @rjay7019
      @rjay7019 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Mine to, my Dave passed 2/13/24 we were together for 15 years. He helped me get through the loss of my husband. I just feel so empty 😢

  • @j.m8480
    @j.m8480 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I lost my best friend of 16 years today, my sweet sweet angry, grumpy kitty. I have never experienced this kind of grief - I was not ready for it. Thank you for this video.

  • @moirosalina
    @moirosalina ปีที่แล้ว +7

    An animal sees you, not your image. That makes a connection very authentic imo. It hurts like hell, what helped me (last year) was a counseler who really paid attention to my story and my sadness, she was very good at listening and after that one session I was okay; still sad but I was okay.

  • @ginarivera9921
    @ginarivera9921 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My dog Pepe just passed away yesterday. The pain is hard to bear. He's been with us, with me for 14 yrs. 😢 I, we didn't see it coming, so unexpected, so sudden. I love him so much. 😢😢😢 He's been my companion since I became an empty nester 2 yrs ago. I love him so much.😢

  • @ayeshasingh30
    @ayeshasingh30 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I lost my cat recently. She was my world and I had raised her since she was a little baby and she was about to turn 5 in a month but she suddenly got ill and passed away.
    The thing that hurts the most is she was so young and could have lived a much longer life. But I do understand that I would have grieved the same and felt the same pain even if I lost her at age 15 or 20 .
    But she was loved so dearly and adored by everyone in the family and she was spoiled by us. And that makes me happy to know she lived a life full of love and affection even though a short one .
    Love you Ginny baby 💕

  • @tomgambrel7519
    @tomgambrel7519 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I had to put my dog Reggie down today. We spent 11 years together and he was definitely a part of my soul. I feel alone without him. Going to allow myself to grieve and heal. I love you buddy, and we’ll see each other again ❤

  • @Max_Snellink
    @Max_Snellink ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My cat Bazzi died last night. This is the first TH-cam video in my feed.

  • @chrisdaniel5004
    @chrisdaniel5004 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    We lost our pet on 12/20/2023. I found this video and it did help with the loss our Newfie. Thank you Richard for posting this. It did help with the grieving process. Much Appreciated. Thanks again.

  • @marinaluna2799
    @marinaluna2799 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m on a rampage of watching videos relating to this topic. I lost my boy 2 weeks ago & it feels like eternity since he’s been gone. I feel so alone in losing my best friend of 15 years & I feel as if there’s no way anyone can relate to the pain of losing the most important soul in my life. But reading these comments shows me how many of us have shared such intense beautiful profound bonds with our fury little children. I’m broken forever but trying to heal even half of my heart, for him. This videos was really nice sweet & to the point. Thank you

  • @madaboutflowers3136
    @madaboutflowers3136 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I euthanized my 20.5-year-old cat yesterday. It was so very hard, and I'm feeling incredibly sad today. I have complex post-traumatic stress disorder as a result of childhood trauma. I really needed to hear this video today. Thank you.

  • @zoutsider88
    @zoutsider88 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    unimaginable pain. thank you for this video. i lost my four legged best friend of 14 years today. she was the sweetest, bestest, goodest, dog a person could ever want or have. i am sad, i will be sad, and i will honor her passing.

    • @sunshine9122
      @sunshine9122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My Lobo (dog) died ten years ago and it still hurts. I miss him so much.

  • @BuddhatheRockstar
    @BuddhatheRockstar ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I really really appreciate you talking about the loss of a pet. I rescue, I train and I volunteer my time with dogs. Sometimes I think of giving up for a lot of reason but that would be selfish.

  • @zitapatockova7182
    @zitapatockova7182 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you so much,I just lost my Nelly yesterday and the grief is just massive.
    She made me a better person.
    She was special.

  • @9459viola
    @9459viola หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I still grieve my Johnny dog, 20 years after he died. I hope he knew how much he was loved

  • @pearljamin
    @pearljamin 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I had to put down the only being that’s ever loved me unconditionally two months ago. Todays her birthday. I’m scared to grieve. That I won’t come back. There are no words for how much I loved my baby

  • @rhondabrynko8393
    @rhondabrynko8393 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Timely. 😢 Karma was my faithful beast and it’s still killing me… August 29th was a brutal day. Interesting that in your last video for calculating CPTSD I didn’t really tick all the boxes but holy shit, this pain lingers.

  • @LeeLocke
    @LeeLocke ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you Richard. I am here crying. My head and heart are aching. I know what has to be done and feel sick. My Bailey is going to leave me soon. He has been suffering too long with diabetes. One of two dog twins that will soon be a rest. 🙏 Thank you for helping us right now.

  • @clarissavaida4058
    @clarissavaida4058 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m watching this video over and over again on the first day without my beloved Ruby. Thank you so much for the wise and comforting words.

    • @daysure
      @daysure ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope you will be able to feel better soon.

    • @clarissavaida4058
      @clarissavaida4058 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@daysure Thank you so much for caring. Every day is just a little bit easier but it’s hard to look where she should be and she’s not there. I appreciate your comment Dasyure.

    • @daysure
      @daysure ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@clarissavaida4058 I know how that feels I've had three guinea pigs pass away but it will get easier every day.

    • @clarissavaida4058
      @clarissavaida4058 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@daysure I’m so sorry. It’s amazing that even little animals can make such an big impact on our hearts. Take care!

    • @daysure
      @daysure ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@clarissavaida4058 ditto

  • @imalwaysme4332
    @imalwaysme4332 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I lost my beautiful Cali the day after Thanksgiving last year 😪. She was my sweety🥰 I trusted a neighbor that offered to walk both my babies while I was at work. I paid her WELL! she had a key to my home (of course).... I gave her set rules for my Cali (she is a runner) . The walker knew not to EVER let her of her leash. Well, she did. I got a call at work....RUSHED to my Cali.... got her to ER..... She didn't make it....... The temptation to beat fire from the dog walker was overwhelming..... along with that urge, was my heart literally breaking..... it's been a bit over a year now. When I see this woman, my mind still goes to beating fire from her .... she never apologized, she's never paid for the vet bills or cremation.....the loss of my Cali still hurts, just not as bad..... still hurts to remember the good times 😪

  • @kimberlyhelbing
    @kimberlyhelbing ปีที่แล้ว +12

    On Khalil Gibran, his poem referring to the amount of grief correlates to the amount of joy experienced- this was recommended to me by an animal communicator Sondy Kaska 💚 reading the poem helped me to somewhat define what I was feeling, I was a little better.

  • @cherrinepfister1231
    @cherrinepfister1231 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Coming on 1 yr with the loss of my bpf, (best pet friend), my shadow, my help, my fiercest protector, silliest, funniest, truest, most loyal companion. I'm just now barely able to add up how the loss affected. Me. I look down and I don't know where the grief is because I was unfortunately not afforded an opportunity to feel the loss. It was tragic in nature; her death. And cruel. Too much to describe. I am cptsd and though she was not technically trained for it....she was my unintentional but much needed support dog. She instinctively gave pressure therapy before I ever heard the term. And she just could feel my very heart rate change.
    She was abused as a pup. I showed a Lil love and Turns out she picked me. And we shared so much in 8 yrs. She was hit by a car, survived parvo, had surgery to remove a tumor we thought would be terminal cancer but she again defied the odds! and in the end she suffered a cruel death while I was away. I didn't even have a body to recover. So idk about others but to honor her ì had to get up.....and walk again. Hope again. And who knows maybe one day another miracle could happen to me. I'm open. But till then I'll find a way to grieve properly and remember her with all my love. She was and is the best friend a girl like me could've ever had! Thanks Noodle.....for everything. C ya again. Psalm 36:6

    • @sunshine9122
      @sunshine9122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so sorry. May Noodle rest in peace.🙏❤

  • @Inv_Enot
    @Inv_Enot 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I lost my pet dory years ago but it neverr gets easier for me… we put her down after her kidneys where failing and we could do anything, I would do anything to open my door and see her walk in to snuggle one last time… I just miss her so much she was such a sweet dog and I loved her

  • @nryane
    @nryane ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you, Richard.
    I agree with you.
    For pets, people, places, relationships, and things, I’ve learned to “BE SAD” for as long as it takes. When I’ve done that, I recover sooner than when I have attempted to resist the pain of grief.
    Blessings!

  • @Chiselchip
    @Chiselchip 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Lost my baby bird today. hardest thing I've experienced especially when I came so close to saving it! What an innocent, beautiful creature!

  • @lesliesantos8595
    @lesliesantos8595 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Wow...omg i lost my best friend last Tuesday..and i still feel empty. And lost without her. She was my biggest mentor..when i asked for one she was the one i was looking for..and asking for. And i feel guilty. Because she had diabetes. I didnt walk her alot like i used to because i was too focused on fixing another relationship that i didnt realize to have let it go the issues i had with my bf. I know crying isnt gonna bring her back or fix what happened. But man.. she was so brave and strong. And she didnt like anyone to be crying. She always licked my tears away. Wanted me to be happy. Loved me and everyone no matter what they look like..how they were...

  • @sibelsaran-b3l
    @sibelsaran-b3l 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I just unexpectadly lost my 4 year old labrador the other day, and no one ever talks or prepares you for the pain of losing an animal - I was truly not prepared for the pain that I would feel losing my dog. I am completely devastated and heartbroken, especially seeing her suffer the last moments of her life. I am trying to learn how to cope with the grief (as this is something that is not often talked about - the pain of losing your dog). Thank you for sharing this podcast, it did truly help me heal slightly and made me not feel so alone. Thank you.

  • @yasmindavidson5171
    @yasmindavidson5171 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I lost my 20 year old cat in March, and in August my 18 year old cat also. I vowed I would never go through it again after losing the 20 year old, but when the 18 year old got sick, I knew I would get another one because I honestly felt I would go to dust if I didn't have a distraction and also another rescue to love. Not to replace the other two, just an extension of the ongoing love I had to give another one. I got a kitten who was 12 weeks old. Now 8 months. We're figuring it out, Flo and I. I don't think there's a grief mountain we ever climb to the top of, human or animal loss. You carry the loves and the losses always. I can barely talk about my other two cats I lost this year, it's still too raw. I was able to keep moving through the grief by continuing to focus on another rescue who needed a home.

    • @runner2008
      @runner2008 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I completely understand what you just wrote. I just lost my cat, she went over the rainbow ridge. Knowing others feel the same way is comforting. Thank you

  • @cynthiastogden7000
    @cynthiastogden7000 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am almost 79 and from the age of 11 when I lost my Mum to cancer and my first dog to a rta( when hardly any cars were about), I have loved and lost over 35 pets. The losses were all traumatic, some to be fair more than others but still I have pets and remember them all. They have been more loyal and special than any human has ever been. I could not have lived or live now without my furry ( and once feathered) friends.

  • @Tainteddragon
    @Tainteddragon ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The cost is worth the price of love and being loved, the longer deeper you have loved the harder the loss. The honesty of my animals love - many furry faces over the decades, has been of great solace and joy. They have taught me so much, each individual history as connected to mine. Miss them all still, of course, but more fur faces need my love too. I take joy in that. Love and peace to all at this time.

  • @michellembarre5032
    @michellembarre5032 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Never got over my MAXX-I swear if he was human he was my sole mate! Always w me, silent but big to protect. He reminds me of my favorite man…my 6’3 huge buff gentle giant grandfather

  • @Stotinkica
    @Stotinkica ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I lost Lucky, my cat, 2 years ago and still I miss him and cry sometimes. I have other cats, but I miss him nevertheless. Thanks for sharing your experience and advice ❤️

  • @shanteljones7502
    @shanteljones7502 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    The pain is so loud!! I recently had the dreadful decision to put my best friend down. My heart is consumed with pain and guilt😢😢😢 I will love her forever😢 Rip Sasha🙏💔💔💔

  • @ladyoflimerick519
    @ladyoflimerick519 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Lovely to listen to this. Last my beautiful Sooty Scottie Westie cross a few weeks ago. I rescued her from a dogs home way back in 2008. She was 17. When she passed. She was family to me. Having a narcissist mother and being the black sheep child means that I prefer dogs as members of my chosen family
    I miss her terribly and her loss is overwhelming. But I know that my grief is a testimony to how much she is loved.
    I vowed to never get another dog as she was my "soulmate" dog. And this grief is like an illness. But I will in honour of her and the huge amount of love dogs bring into your world. The grief we feel is because they are such pure innocent souls. Our relationships with them is very deep. Beyond language and is tainted with baggage and issues as our relationships with humans can be. Thankyou. X

  • @beckyr1668
    @beckyr1668 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My dog, Jax, was hit by a car and killed this past Sunday and it has been very difficult for my family. This is perfect timing. Thank you❤️

    • @samymansion2431
      @samymansion2431 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm sorry 😢 my puppy got hit by a car this past Sunday and died instantly, this is devastating and still not able to accept it. Stay strong ❤

    • @beckyr1668
      @beckyr1668 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@samymansion2431 I'm so sorry. It really is very difficult. Try and hang in there.❤️

  • @KatyWithAWhyyy
    @KatyWithAWhyyy ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is appropriate timing for me. My dog Josie has lung cancer and horrible arthritis and while she still has more good days than bad, I'm facing losing her and can't imagine my life without her. I don't have kids but I can't imagine loving anyone or anything more than I love my dog. 💔

    • @stevefurness6303
      @stevefurness6303 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I lost my Parsons terrier 6 years ago and I still grieve everyday just give her as much love as you can for the time you have left

    • @Theowlhawk
      @Theowlhawk ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It's a very painful process, pre grieving, the loss,knowing Josie is on her way,, my Jill is unexpectedly , sudden, on her way too,
      We are so intune, it's like her gift to me is my caring for her, this time is precious, making her as comfortableas possible, I believe they are our soul, heart, companions, in this life, their unconditional love, their gaze, their comfort, nurtures, I don't know any human that has loved me like my fury friends 💔
      Be in the moment, be present each day, with Joise, I find that helps me cope.

    • @TrishCanyon8
      @TrishCanyon8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I know. Me too with my 10 y/o Shelby.

  • @michaelauldredge2112
    @michaelauldredge2112 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Lost my dear tiny chihuahua this last Thursday and this video meant the world to me. Totally justified the deep sadness and devastation I've been feeling but I made a choice just to feel it all and I definitely don't regret. This absolutely sucks and its pain and time is slow...but I know if I just stay with the pain it will dissipate some day.

  • @loba49
    @loba49 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you for addressing this. Before I had done any healing, losing my dog was beyond devastating especially because her euthanasia wasn’t smooth 😢. Just lost my sweet boy dog in August and the loss was horrible too but the healing I’ve done (including EMDR and your 30 day tapping challenge thingy) helped me handle it much better than before. I still tear up when I think of him but I’m not debilitated by the loss like I was for my other dog.
    So appreciate you! ❤

    • @MCP920
      @MCP920 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Your comment stopped me.
      I knew the moment Bob was born into my life, the day he would leave would be very painful for me.
      I’m 63 and have never not had pets. I feel so naïve because it never occurred to me that it would be beyond brutal for Bob.
      I’d never known a euthanasia to go anyway other than peacefully for my pet. I’ll never forgive myself for taking him to a vet in a new town. I see it, hear it and cannot let it go.
      It was the most difficult experience I’ve ever had.
      I’m strong, but not that strong.
      🐕‍🦺

    • @loba49
      @loba49 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MCP920 I’m so so sorry 😔 ❤️

    • @Hootowls5
      @Hootowls5 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@MCP920 My daughter and I were with Kiki when she was put to sleep. We are severely traumatized. What an extremely hard thing to experience.

  • @SearchforScratch
    @SearchforScratch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Feel broken. Been through some tough times in my life but had my heart ripped out yesterday as had to help my little buddy end his suffering. For 18 years this little guy went through every stage of our life, protecting our home and children. Sharing in adventures and going everywhere with us. I feel so guilty even though I know in my heart that it was such a relief for him. I won’t deny the grief and will let it come. Am in floods sitting by his day bed on the kitchen floor in the middle of the night. Such a hilarious, loyal, energetic brilliant friend. We have been so blessed to have had him in our lives.

  • @countcoupblessings979
    @countcoupblessings979 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    The amazing timeliness of these are often so perfect . Boy I needed this one this week .

  • @roma5770
    @roma5770 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    After you lose a beloved animal , if you can in due course open your heart again to a new one it is a testament to the love you received from the animal you have lost.
    Someone said that to me once & it just resonated.
    Love heals the wound it makes.
    It's the only way.

  • @truthcooperator4683
    @truthcooperator4683 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Much needed, thank you ❤️🙏