This is a topic I have great passion for. Most guys really don't know how to properly approach the situation. The on going joke is "hi I'm Dave. Here is my asl. I'm looking for fun and I'm down for whatever." Now they wait for you to pick them. Had one couple that was in the open relationship situation and at first it was way easier for her to find guys. After some tweaks to his profile and some tips, that is no longer the case. Now she has a harder time finding quality guys that aren't just creepy. Would love to eventually do a workshop for this very thing. Relationship psychology and laws of attraction have been a special interest of mine for about 8 years. Shout out to Colette Houston!
You guys are so awesome I have to say I stumbled across your videos late last night and have just been binge watching them. I've been slowly introducing my husband to the idea of at the least a three some or maybe for him to go have some experiences for a couple of different reasons and you guys just explain everything so well and you can just see and feel the sincerity in your energy and I can see how much the two of you love each other and it gives me hope that not only we may be able to take this step but that it really will strengthen our relationship. I was never able to properly explain why I wanted to k always said for the experience and it is that but it's so much more than that too. I just want to say thank you because I can literally just show these videos to my partner and I agree with everything you guys say believe ect. My only problem is that he self identifies as demi-sexual I believe is what it's called. Basically he can't have sex with someone unless he loves them basically. But more than that he also has some self confidence issues that I feel we could overcome with him having some play partners. Idk any advice
My wife and I have a bit of a different situation, although the end result is still the same ! I am paralyzed from my neck down, and living with those obvious physical limitations ! Fortunately, we were in a very open relationship prior to my injury ! While I am totally willing to have my wife find an individual gentleman, we have found that it just works better for us, and for my wife as an individual, for us to look for other couples for my wife to play with, sometimes it is with both the husband, and his wife, and sometimes, it might be just with the husband. And, on occasion, they are willing, and actually want to include me in their playtime ! There are NEVER any trust issues ! If there are, then you shouldn't be in the playing situation to begin with, in our option ! While it is obviously much different for us than most couples, we have definitely found that finding other lifestyle couples work for us !
John and I were just talking about the importance of trust this morning! We agree with your sentiment regarding play and trust. Thanks for sharing your story!
@@openlove101 Thanks to both of you ! I know my opinion may be a bit harsh, but our choice to be in the lifestyle, is made in loving each other, and complete trust ! Trust that has been built with each other over more than 25 years in our case ! Having said that, we have been in an open relationship almost from our first few dates ! That's a little exaggeration, but not by much ! I can tell you that we had those conversations between us very early on ! Fortunately, when my injury occurred, we had been in the lifestyle for a couple of years at that time ! In fact, two of our very close playtime couples came to the hospital, not so much to visit me, but to be a great support for my wife ! We continue to be good friends to this day, and they are our closest play couples by far ! Now with the Covid-19 scare, we have limited our choices of playtime partners down to those extremely close couples that again, we KNOW, and know that we can TRUST them, and their ability to be cautious about who and what they come in contact with ! So, I will also say, that the same level of trust has to be very much the same as with us as a couple ! We have NOT gone outside of our close friends the that we have known for over 20 years ! I'm rambling on here. Thanks for your kind response ! Enjoy the wonderful day !
Was wondering about disability issues in the lifestyle. Have leg issues but one works. M S. Multiple sclerosis. Everything works. Interested because I can’t find an able bodied man to date. Now if I wasn’t on a fixed income and 70. Lolol. A person never outgrows needs and wants.
@@paulamieczkowski2152 Hi Paula ! So wonderful to hear from you ! We have SO MUCH to talk to you about ! We are just about to settle in for our dinner, but didn't want to make you wait any longer before we responded to your message ! We will be more than happy to get back to you and share a number of our thoughts with you ! Bye for now, but will be back to you yet this evening !
Can you recommend any vacation spots? My wife and myself would greatly appreciate it...we are full of fantasies and finally feel comfortable wanting to explore our options...you guys are amazing
When a woman goes out to look for a play mate, most men will come forward but it's million times tougher for a man to find a play mate and one of the reason is there are already too many men out there looking and there is a lot of competition
No. There should be no assumptions when it comes to any kind of relationship, we should all be clarifying what our boundaries are and our comfort levels when it comes to play. Great question, thanks for asking.
It's just like dating. 80% of women find around 10-15% of men attractive at most. And 80% of men find 80% of women attractive. Same with sperm and egg.
It's easy for a woman to hook-up, if she looks good. Guys unfortunately have to wait and see, unless if they have wealth, power, fame or look like an actor. Solution: escorts.
This is a topic I have great passion for. Most guys really don't know how to properly approach the situation. The on going joke is "hi I'm Dave. Here is my asl. I'm looking for fun and I'm down for whatever." Now they wait for you to pick them. Had one couple that was in the open relationship situation and at first it was way easier for her to find guys. After some tweaks to his profile and some tips, that is no longer the case. Now she has a harder time finding quality guys that aren't just creepy. Would love to eventually do a workshop for this very thing. Relationship psychology and laws of attraction have been a special interest of mine for about 8 years. Shout out to Colette Houston!
You guys are so awesome I have to say I stumbled across your videos late last night and have just been binge watching them. I've been slowly introducing my husband to the idea of at the least a three some or maybe for him to go have some experiences for a couple of different reasons and you guys just explain everything so well and you can just see and feel the sincerity in your energy and I can see how much the two of you love each other and it gives me hope that not only we may be able to take this step but that it really will strengthen our relationship. I was never able to properly explain why I wanted to k always said for the experience and it is that but it's so much more than that too. I just want to say thank you because I can literally just show these videos to my partner and I agree with everything you guys say believe ect. My only problem is that he self identifies as demi-sexual I believe is what it's called. Basically he can't have sex with someone unless he loves them basically. But more than that he also has some self confidence issues that I feel we could overcome with him having some play partners. Idk any advice
My wife and I have a bit of a different situation, although the end result is still the same !
I am paralyzed from my neck down, and living with those obvious physical limitations !
Fortunately, we were in a very open relationship prior to my injury !
While I am totally willing to have my wife find an individual gentleman,
we have found that it just works better for us, and for my wife as an individual,
for us to look for other couples for my wife to play with,
sometimes it is with both the husband, and his wife, and sometimes, it might be just with the husband.
And, on occasion, they are willing, and actually want to include me in their playtime !
There are NEVER any trust issues !
If there are,
then you shouldn't be in the playing situation to begin with, in our option !
While it is obviously much different for us than most couples,
we have definitely found that finding other lifestyle couples work for us !
John and I were just talking about the importance of trust this morning! We agree with your sentiment regarding play and trust. Thanks for sharing your story!
@@openlove101
Thanks to both of you !
I know my opinion may be a bit harsh,
but our choice to be in the lifestyle, is made in loving each other, and complete trust !
Trust that has been built with each other over more than 25 years in our case !
Having said that,
we have been in an open relationship almost from our first few dates !
That's a little exaggeration, but not by much !
I can tell you that we had those conversations between us very early on !
Fortunately,
when my injury occurred, we had been in the lifestyle for a couple of years at that time !
In fact, two of our very close playtime couples came to the hospital, not so much to visit me, but to be a great support for my wife !
We continue to be good friends to this day, and they are our closest play couples by far !
Now with the Covid-19 scare, we have limited our choices of playtime partners down to those extremely close couples that again, we KNOW, and know that we can TRUST them, and their ability to be cautious about who and what they come in contact with !
So, I will also say,
that the same level of trust has to be very much the same as with us as a couple !
We have NOT gone outside of our close friends the that we have known for over 20 years !
I'm rambling on here.
Thanks for your kind response !
Enjoy the wonderful day !
Was wondering about disability issues in the lifestyle. Have leg issues but one works. M S. Multiple sclerosis. Everything works. Interested because I can’t find an able bodied man to date. Now if I wasn’t on a fixed income and 70. Lolol. A person never outgrows needs and wants.
@@paulamieczkowski2152
Hi Paula !
So wonderful to hear from you !
We have SO MUCH to talk to you about !
We are just about to settle in for our dinner, but didn't want to make you wait any longer before we responded to your message !
We will be more than happy to get back to you and share a number of our thoughts with you !
Bye for now, but will be back to you yet this evening !
My husband says this. It's true. Sooo much harder for him
Can you recommend any vacation spots? My wife and myself would greatly appreciate it...we are full of fantasies and finally feel comfortable wanting to explore our options...you guys are amazing
We as a couple in general is the problem....individual play is simple because someone else is always interested.
This is definitely true. The ones that have similar arrangements are the way to go
When a woman goes out to look for a play mate, most men will come forward but it's million times tougher for a man to find a play mate and one of the reason is there are already too many men out there looking and there is a lot of competition
What are some Public Social Sites you recommend?
Finding local places to interact is definitely a challenge, any tips or key words to try when searching for them?
Swinger parties in (place name)
Thank You!!
Thank you Exellent advice and guide this matter
You guys are awesome ❤❤
In a open relationship is it assumed that the 2 couples play separately?
No. There should be no assumptions when it comes to any kind of relationship, we should all be clarifying what our boundaries are and our comfort levels when it comes to play. Great question, thanks for asking.
suggestion,..
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The Red Queen : Sex and The Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley
Will definitely take a look at Ridley's book. Thanks
That's because the women have the key to the cuty pie?
My problem as well....
What if I’m significantly larger than her husband should I take it easy or perform my ass off ?
Jackie you look good in that outfit!
Thank you.
It's just like dating. 80% of women find around 10-15% of men attractive at most. And 80% of men find 80% of women attractive. Same with sperm and egg.
The double standard isn't gone. It's silly, but it's still there.
It's easy for a woman to hook-up, if she looks good. Guys unfortunately have to wait and see, unless if they have wealth, power, fame or look like an actor. Solution: escorts.