Crying, fear, and worry during perimenopause and menopause
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 มิ.ย. 2024
- Crying for no reason? Feeling more fearful? Worrying all the time? This week, I explain the physical and hormonal reasons behind these three emotions and recommend simple ways to help yourself and support your emotional well-being during perimenopause and menopause.
Chapters:
0:00 Crying, fear, and worry during perimenopause and menopause
0:59 Emotional control during perimenopause and menopause
2:05 Crying
4:24 Fear
6:35 Worry
7:47 What can help?
10:57 When to consult your doctor
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*Eileen Durward is a certified menopause coach (3rd age woman peri-post menopause instructor). The information in this video is for informational or educational purposes only and does not substitute professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.*
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The part when you said that family members can think you are going out of your head is so true. Especially in the Latin culture. My family is of Latin/Spanish decent and they always talk about this phase of a woman’s life as if it’s the end of a woman and that she’s a menopausal mess. I am changing that narrative in my family. It’s not easy to break the programming but I do feel it’s getting through to some of them. I pray that soon everyone can stop this nonsense and realize and understand that this is a vital part of a woman’s journey and we deserve support and understanding, not shaming. Have a blessed day everyone and thank you Aileen for always talking about this phase in our lives ❤❤❤
That's fantastic Janet, hoping your message gets out there!
Best Wishes
Eileen
My emotional and psychological symptoms hit me like a truck and were something I definitely wasn’t prepared for. Turning to alcohol was a massive mistake. Giving up alcohol, along with television and social media, has relieved me of a whole list of symptoms meaning that I can focus properly on myself, my family life and interests with a clear head.
That's a great result!
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Eileen
HRT saved my life - literally! Nobel Prize whoever invented it. I would be an agoraphobic with panic attacks stuck at home. I work now, I run the household of 6 people including teenagers, I am calm and ‘normal’. No more crying spells for no reason. I am not afraid of supermarkets, driving and going for hikes on my own. HRT is my best friend!💖
Good to hear that it's helping well for you
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Eileen
I just started taking it how long does it take to work
@@35delois, for me it was 3-4 weeks to see my anxiety disappear.
I’m an all natural gal usually but I’m so close to asking for some Hrt! So glad that here can be a hopeful outcome for some of us. 💪🏻
Thank you Eileen. I have been feeling like I am losing it. So much doom and crying episodes. I knew that hormones can be an issue but I had no real idea about the doom feelings that I am having. And the crying...sometimes I feel like a little girl again, crying over something so little, but I can't stop the tears. It is like a sadness that takes over and I feel hopeless about everything. Then the next day, I will be up, and positive, feeling like I have got myself back...only to have this cycle repeat in days, or weeks later. I have not watched the news in a year. I can't handle social media, although I don't think that is such a bad thing, but I am sooo different than who I used to be. Little things that I would have found funny, I now find aggravating or sad, or justbplain ridiculous. I all of a sudden, feel so relieved after watching this. I am 54 and my last 3 periods have been totally out of the blue, and are just barely spotting for 4 days. So I think I am almost out of perimenapause, at least I hope so. Thank you so very much for your video...I am so grateful!! ❤❤😊
Hi Kathy
Glad that you found this helpful. Hopefully, this will be one of the phases that will ease soon for you
Best Wishes
Eileen
Yes, oversensitive, overwhelmed and fearful... I'm afraid of a breakdown. Intermitant fasting a few days of the week seemed to improve it. I need to get back to doing that again. Im heading into year 2 of menopause this summer and wonder how much longer before things level off. Thank you for this encouraging comforting vid.
You're welcome, hope this eases soon for you
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Eileen
This makes so much sense I just subscribed
Thanks for subscribing!
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Eileen
You're so right,. I'm having all of these symptoms.. thank you for updating us
You're welcome Angela!
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Eileen
🤲🏻 My panic 🙀 has skyrocketed because of perio thee last 6 mos!
Ty for this video. 🤗
Hope my tips are helpful for you!
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Eileen
Thanks a lot Eileen...i have all the symptoms u mentioned in the video...ur comforting words really helping women like me during this difficult phase of life
You're welcome Lakshmi, glad to be of help!
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Eileen
Very relatable with news and movies. I have stopped watching news. I also try to watch neutral or comedy movies/ series.
I have had bouts of the the overthinking, doom and gloom, the palpitations, the worry, the fear, my self esteem went down and had no idea what was going on with me. I finally opened up to a girlfriend who helped me to understand theses were symptoms of menopause. I'm so happy i came across this channel!!
Glad you found us Florence and great to hear that your friend has helped you!
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Eileen
It has been very hard for me. I’m 46 and I found it I was in the perimenopause phase last year. Lots of crying, fear I’m going to die or a loved one will, always worried something is going to happen. When my daughters get sick I get so scared and cry over the stress. If I get sick it scares me so much. When will it stop? It’s been a year already. I take all my vitamins I have lost so much weight over GI issues because of anxiety. Than you for this video Eileen. ❤It really helps calm things down knowing it’s all hormonal. I need to stay strong.
Omg, I'm the same way! These videos have kept me sain though, and have helped me through the hardest times during peri-menopause and menopause. I love the fact that she replies to the questions in such an heartfelt way. 👍🏽😊
I've been the same way. Even afraid to leave my house. I struggle at the grocery or any where I have to go. It's awful and I'm only 14 months in. 😢 I love watching these videos they bring me back down to earth if only for a bit. Let's stay strong ladies !! I pray that once this passes we will be normal again!❤
@@user-nd8yl8gi7o Praying for you! We can do this. We are strong! ❤️
Hi Aideen
You're welcome, hope you find my tips helpful! It's difficult to say how long this phase may last as it is different for everyone but we do find that addressing the symptoms as much as possible can speed up the process. You may find the herb Maca helpful for this kind of scenario so worth trying for a few months
Best Wishes
Eileen
Great to hear that you find the vlogs helpful, thank you Pauline!
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Eileen
Thank you Eileen ❤🌹👍
You're welcome Patricia!
Many thanks for your videos which are very qualitative and useful. I am 59 and I am suffering a lot of menopause symptoms. In crisis moments I help myself with the Bach flowers.
Hi Nathalie
You're welcome!
Yes, I love the Flower Essences, they can be so supportive!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Hello, are A Vogel products available in Australia?
You are amazing and I love your videos very much.💟
Thank you for your lovely comment!
Yes, some are, please see www.avogel.com.au
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Eileen
Yes! All the above, this only happens like every 3months with me😢
I use kalms herbel tablets are good for anxiety and sleep ❤
Crying and fear think I am dyeing 😭
Hope my tips are helpful for you Patricia
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Eileen
same- I fear I am dying of a fatal disease with all my symptoms :/
Yes same here especially when I get palpitations and that adrenaline rush. I'm only 35yrs old!!
I've thought I've got a heart condition 😮
Me too
When I started taking magnesium it helped me a lot but lately I feel that when I take magnesium at night it interferes with my sleep. I don’t get sound sleep.
That's a shame, maybe try taking it at lunch time or breakfast to see if that makes a difference
Best Wishes
Eileen
I have always had tears just under my eyes and mum and dad just ignore me they know it's just me. But recently if I get frustrated with something I then start to cry.
How to know if you experiencing depression or state of your mind is caused by perimenopause? I've experienced all what you said last year, it was horrible , I remember fearing that something will happen to my son out of nowhere, remember crying at work for no reason , I still get emotional when I watch news or some TV shows when I know it wouldn't make me cry in the past ! I do expierience brain fog too but I'm only 39 years old . Also lack of concentration and motivation are big for me too .
I began perio when I was 37 .
When I've asked my doctor if she thinks my symptoms could be peri she just said its impossible because of my age .
@@dd-fy2mhOh my love absolutely nothing is impossible and as others have stated a test isn’t really conclusive because of how fast our hormones shift. Check out this book 📖 called “Natural Menopause “ by Anne Henderson & Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su. There are also lots of perimenopause books. I drink raspberry leaf tea, red clover tea and anything calming with lavender and chamomile, passionflower, vitamin d and k2. Avoid triggers like sugar, processed foods, caffeine and alcohol. Also as mentioned in the video magnesium can help with anxiety , sleep and muscle function. I have magnesium citrate gummies. I pray 🙏 you stay strong 💪🏻 through this and know what your body is telling you and not a stranger. 😉
Thank you for your fantastic advice NHA, all of these can make such a difference.
@dd, there are many women that start the perimenopause before forty so you are not alone here. It can often be hereditary so if you know that your mum or grandmother or aunts started around the same age, this is a big clue.
It is difficult to say whether symptoms are hormonal or are associated with depression, you may find seeking the advice of a Herbalist or Naturopathic Doctor helpful as they can often find out what's really going on and formulate a personalised treatment plan for you
Best Wishes
Eileen
The state of panic wakes me throughout the night, it's always a night time thing.
Do all these horrible symptoms mentioned ever go away Eileen? I already take supplements and drink plenty but still the doom & panic doesn't go away
Same!
Hi Andrea
This does usually tend to be a phase which slowly eases over time but I know how hard it can be when you're in the midst of it. Have you tried Ashwagandha as this can often work well for this kind of scenario?
Best Wishes
Eileen
i am 43 and i havent been to a doctor to be diagnose with Perimenopause but all the signs and symptoms are really existing, this fear and worries are disturbing me everyday, i overthinked and i always think of the worst things. and i think it triggers my anxiety because i feel like i always have this small palpitations and i just felt so worry and scared.
Hope this has eased your fears Charmaine
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Eileen
Same .I’m almost 42 and this has been one crazy roller coaster 🎢 !
Hi Eileen I have developed fear of checking my blood pressure now after 3 years of menopause , Every time I go to my doc to check it it goes terribly high and it worries me, I used to be able to check it at home but suddenly scared to check it at all, I don't know what to do as I take medication for it, thanks 🙏
Hi Emma
This is really common, as you get get really anxious about things which then affects blood pressure so it can become a real vicious cycle. You could try the Passiflora Spray and take about 30 min before you take your blood pressure. Passionflower is known to calm the heart.
www.avogel.co.uk/herbal-remedies/passiflora-complex-spray/
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Eileen
I am crying all time 😢
Hope my tips are helpful for you
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Eileen
Me to I cry all the time
Me too and im 61 i thought it was something wrong with me but many friends and family are telling me that is menopause my sister also told me that omg i feel as if im dying too its been 3 months now and i havent had a period in 13 yrs so i wonder how possible this can be the sadness the lonelyness headache tears fear anxiety and panic hot flashes morning noon and night are all on me sometimes i wonder if i would get over it or im going to die from it because days i has to sit outside in my yard for hours.
Can you get a period just been put on estrogen cream down there about three weeks ago please thank you Eileen ❤
Hi Patricia
I'm not sure about this, sorry. Best thing to do is ask your pharmacist. They will have a list of all the known side effects of the cream you are using.
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Eileen
Will this ever get better?
Unfortunatley, this is a really difficult question to answer as it is different for everyone, sorry. Some women will find that symptoms ease over time but for others they may go on for a long time.
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Eileen
I have been suffering with the same symptoms from 2 years. Breast heavyness, pain around and bottom of breast concentrated mostly on the left breast.All tests normal.Gastric problem us there Can you please suggest in this. Thanks in advance
Hi You may find a kelp supplement helpful for the breast pain and remember to drink at least 1.5 litres of plain water as dehydration can also cause breast pain. A wrong size bra can be another reason so make sure that you get yourself measured properly!
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Eileen
Thank you so much.
Mam i would like to ask i dont have a period for 2.5 years then last january its suddenly came and this february again it happened my concern is do i hv a chance to be pregnant again once we have contact?thank u
Hi
It is best to take precautions just in case!
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Eileen
I am using estrogen cream for down there only started it it has give me a bleed and dierhoe can this happen please thank you l hate everybody ❤
Hi Patricia
I have already replied to the query you posted on this earlier
Right now my anxiety is worse than before i dont know if its seasonal because heat makes it worst i live in tropics and this time till September the heat is unbearable 😢
Hi
It is possible, hot weather can make you more dehydrated and this can impact quite dramatically on the nervous system so do make sure that you re drinking plenty of plain water every day, over and above your other drinks.
Best Wishes
Eileen
Hi i get bad Anxiety
Hi
I have posted several blogs on anxiety so please do take a look.
www.avogel.co.uk/health/menopause/videos/anxiety-and-the-emotional-turmoil-of-the-menopause/
www.avogel.co.uk/health/menopause/videos/is-anxiety-in-the-morning-a-menopause-symptom/
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Eileen
I took chinese herbs. It took away the night sweats.
Fantastic!
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Eileen
This seems to have been going on for yeeeeears.....is this usual?
Hi Joanne
Yes, this can happen. For some women symptoms can continue for quite a while so it is a good idea to try and treat symptoms, if possible
Best Wishes
Eileen
@AvogelCoUk Thank you very much for replying, , Eileen. I shall rewatch and try things...good to know I'm not just 'losing my mind' as it were.