Microaggressions: Being A Black Woman/Femme In The Workplace
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ก.ค. 2019
- #microaggressions #blackgirlmagic #blacklivesmatter
In Episode 2 of the "Just A Preference" series, seven black women talk about how microaggressions have often forced them to change how they behave in the workplace. - บันเทิง
The comment section filled with people trying to discredit these women is proof that microagression exists.
Facts!!!
"Microaggresion" while kids are dying on the same streets your driving. Grown up
Exactly
Microagressions are the worse things to ever happen in the world. I know that genocides are happening in china and Ethiopia, Ethiopia is in a civil war, millions are at risk of famine in Yemen, civilians are being bombed in the middle east, boko haram kidnapped over 300 children, over 300 thousand Americans died of covid but thats not important. White people say mean words. Thats the real problem.
@@LS-qt9bo NOBODY is saying that children dying isn't an issue but this isn't what this video is about! I don't know why people keep bringing that up like there isn't other issues that are just as problematic as some.
"I shouldn''t have to prove my humanity to someone else". That. 😢❤️
Literally sitting here crying and trying to research more things on how to deal with this because I’m tired. I’m trying to stay positive.
Same here 😮💨😤
@@wc.m.5087 I pray it gets better
Same here💔
@@XailensWorld Think your success through daily, even in the most painful moments. Trick your mind, trick your enemy. Start over. Engage in clever patterns only. 🌼
Same. I spent a decade going back to school in the evenings while raising my young daughter as a divorcee. I obtained my MBA and a host of certifications, but my career didn't start until I asked the 'right person' OUTSIDE of the company. A prior coworker was my "in" at a new company; she was married to a manager. Without her reference, I would not have my current job.
Whew. I had to leave and start my own business. And on top of it many older black employees that have been “molded” would disrespect me just the same. Sad.
This right here! Many of my issues were with black people being so used to being disrespected
What I’m working to do!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽
Girl yes and yes
I know EXACTLY what you're talking about!! Smh 🤦♀️
Yup
I am a Black female SCIENTIST on the West Coast! I have experienced super microaggressions and other oppressive behaviors in my field from Domestic and especially international scientist. This video bring tears to my eyes because I have felt the same thing...
lmao L
I'm sorry girl :( hope it will get better
Get better at your job and maybe you won’t feel this way😢
@@fatllama69 🤡🍼
@@fatllama69 People will treat them like trash regardless of how good they are. Why did you assume such a disgusting thing?
The more “woke” I become the less I want to live in the US
Likewise :\
Same
@@jmundi2002 yes
Please leave. We don't want you here. You can be work somewhere else.
Ok bye,see ya latter, go play your fake victim hood crap in Nigeria or the Congo, see how loving the people are there ,you live in the most accepting nation and free country in the world and still have to be a victim? Phuck off and grow up, your not oppressed, your lazy, get off your butt and make a better life for yourself. If you don't like where you live...move, if your not making enough money...find a better job .phucking christ there are so many bullschitt liberal white guilt morons out there giving free schitt to black people you can probably gett a B.S or masters degree for free
Being the only visible minority, it can feel like you're held to a higher standard and you are scrutinized alot more. Alot of it is so subtle too. For instance, any mistakes you make is seen as more "serious" and "magnified" with harsher punishments. Whereas, the white coworkers who make exact, same mistake are given a pass ("Oh, it's a learning curve.", "Oh, it's no big deal. Everybody makes mistakes. They're only human."). Visible minority makes a mistake it's seen as "Oh, he's incompetent at his job and doesn't know anything!". It's almost like you have to work 10x harder than white coworkers just to prove yourself.
Absolute facts! Dealing with this ignorance now.
@@karinazrzu yep. I find white women in particular are the worst with this kind of behavior. I.e the "Karens". Be extra careful with this demographic.
@@n.m.3760 Yes, I have had my experience with them. Also, Mex women...but I am on the West Coast where there is a large population.
THIS DAMN COMMENT RIGHT HERE!!! SMDH 🎯🎯🤦♀️🤦♀️
Why are people from other races always telling people of color or black people what THEY go through? Just because something doesn't happen to you doesn't mean it isn't happening.
Lack of empathy and love
@@candice446 its sad but it’s true…💔
It means leave us alone and go with your own.
@@beauberry6179, silencio
I left a toxic workplace 2 years ago and I wish I had left sooner. I’m highly accomplished in my field but the constant micro aggressions had me on the verge of burnout. Self care is not selfish.
I’m going through it right now. I’m 59 and exhausted. It’s impacting my health.
I remember working for a very well known fortune 500 company in my 20's & was insulted by both my white coworkers & BM, unfortunately! My first week there I was in a conversation with a bellman & he immediately asked, "what city did you say you were from again because I saw your photo on the new employee wall?" When I told him, (mind you I was hesitant), he almost choked & asked very loudly, "wait a min, "so let me get this straight, a little birdie told me you're not married either, w/no kids?" I responded. Then he continues his foolishness with, "mannn...sooo um you're a black girl, in her 20's, college graduate, not married, no kids, no baby daddys, like at all?" "Wow, you're a unicorn!" He quickly wiped the stupid smile off his face when I responded, "man, I wish I could say the same about you, I run into assholes, way too often!" Smh🙄🤦♀️
I face micro aggression every day ..it sucks. My entire department is white except me.
Tell me about it. I work in the same environment and I really hated it pre covid, because if the managers weren't watching me 24/7/giving me dirty looks, then some of the colleagues would not talk to me. I always felt so out of place everyday wishing for them to hire another ethnic person.
Same
Same. I'm really learning what it is to be an adult black woman with zero institutions to help you. We only have each other.
Girl....I have put ppl in their place at work all the time for making making microaggression comnents all the time.
Same here. I’m sick of it.
These conversations are so real. Daily it's about becoming for us and continuing to shine our magic. 💙
I wish that I could be like the lady who said she struggled with code switching.
I fucking HATE that I have to do this shit to get ahead at work.
this video is cathartic as a black woman in corporate america
Why soo many dislikes !? People don’t want to hear the truth huh
Probably because people don't want to hear racist bs
They never do
@M Rrr1994 if you aren’t black or experiencing this you don’t have the range to comment sir
@@missbabygurlgurl I’m biracial and the idea of micro aggressions is truly insane to me. It makes us (persons of color) out to be the most fragile people on earth.
@@antonkarkkainen6392
You couldn’t explain how it was racist without being a hypocrite
I’m exhausted just from watching. It’s real.
Thank you for this video. I have used it for a presentation at work entitled 'A Minority Woman's Perspective'. It hit well with so many of our employees. Thank you for sharing. And please send my thanks to the STRONG women in the video for sharing their experiences. I pray that God holds them up and makes their cup full!!!!
This comment section tho! Now that folks have to actually hear about our experiences, they want us to be quiet or put the spotlight on themselves. Shhhhhhh...it’s not about you. The title of the video is Microaggressions: Being a BLACK woman/femme in the Workplace”....so sit in your discomfort like we’ve had to do for generations and LIIIIIISSSTEEENNN to their experiences.
There’s soooooo much more I could say, but based on these comments...it would be a complete waste of time and energy.
Cry
@@jmundi2002 shut up
@@T2G-DJT literally 2 months late
@@jmundi2002 still told you to shut up though. Here is another month shut up
Which comment..
Most of the microaggressions I have experienced in the work place has come from other minorities e.g Pakistanis and Indians
When I say this was THERAPY! Thank You so much for this video!
So sad to say but I experience this from some colleagues who are women of color. And my other coworkers who are white just follow suit. It's so draining .
Same
From Asians too, just unbelievable
As a woman and that's it I already can't stand how difficult and challenging it is to navigate the world, especially professionally. I can't even imagine of what it might be like for black women, especially in the US.
as a woman and that’s it 😭😭😭😭 not trying to nitpick but this is what’s wrong with society
We should all learn to read the room and act accordingly. However, each and every person should be free to be themselves at all times.
When the comment section drives the message / point of the video home even more
I’ve learned that if I don’t code switch they act like they act like they can’t understand what I’m saying. So I end up having to code switch.
I pray y’all continue to make content but this was amazing and so needed!
I'm almost out. The last six years of my professional life has been rough but I switched career paths to inbound marketing contracting my own clients 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Holy crap this was eye-opening
I might have to watch this everyday single day before and after work to wooosa my way through the day.
These comments are crazy, but not at all surprising.
From a white male perspective, you all are STRONG and BEAUTIFUL... keep being yourselves. Humanity will catch up. I appreciate and look UP to you!
@@coder928 you know him?
@@s.s5933 Yes cuz there are thousands like him.
Thanks for the love! We hope to continue building UNITY amongst all people.
Thank you but please stop telling us we’re strong, thank you.
We are tired of being “strong “
Microagressions are also assuming a person doesn’t know how to do their job just because they asked a question or they my need help with a task… In a public forum, at a brand new job for which I’m barely a month old… I got reminded that I am an “Art Director” and what that means to the project - as if I forgot… Who the fuk does that to a coworker??
Girl i just got called in for apparently underperforming at my job. The whole thing is a complete lie.Ive had microagressions daily since i started.Mental
These people are just mad because we are a powerful race of people! ☝🏽
"It's like being uplifted but put in a box" -Welcome to the Democratic Party.
I often wonder how they would feel if they were the only white person in the room. It's quite frustrating to not be understood and often questioned, monitored, and disrespected daily and expected to do well.
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This is a great video. It allows for people to hear your experiences in a positive manner.
I hear what you are saying, and it is valid.
Some things may be because of the way one was raised, others because a work environment is not a friend or casual environment. I learned that back in my 20's. I had to dress appropriately, speak with forethought, and wear appropriate hair for what I did. Women were entering the workplace in droves. At one point suits, looked like scaled down men's apparel 😆
In certain work environments, profanity or disrespectful terms are unprofessional. Just as wearing a bikini to a concert, or a gown to a picnic is inappropriate. There is a time and place for everything. Hair too! If working in a dental office, or a restaurant, surgery, or working as an esthetician, wearing one's hair down, if long, nails that are in fashion or long, certain types of jewelry, is cumbersome,inappropriate and even unsanitary. Why? Sanitation codes and health codes, workplace safety etc.. One may wear dreads up, long hair straight or any texture, in a gorgeous scarf, etc. I have long a curly hair. I have to pull it up or back, because of my profession. My nails must be short. Part of what has experienced is about being a woman, as well as a woman of ethnicity, and part because people are unaware. This video helps with that. We are all learning and all need to be patient with ourselves, others, and open to discussion.
irreleant, shut up
I like how the video starts with Marty King coming right out and confessing to his greatest sin. Jackie Kennedy felt King microaggressed her to the point she felt he was an awful man, and she should know. And I believe her, as I do all women who complain about men.
This is an important topic, please, keep the foul words out ! Kids need to hear these things are happening and learn. I love eloquent expression that does not need curse words !
Thank you for opening up, you all are beautiful
Whether you think its discredit or not I've worked a couple different places and not only do black women not get treated wrong and within these past years black women are going to get the job more than a skinny white guy like that girl said. Whether y'all hate me now or not what I said is true- I'm not putting Anyone down
How do you know? What makes you think you know enough to “read” the nuances?
The people leaving negative comments are missing the point of why they have to code switch. These women have valid stories to share and it should be heard.
Stories with false information
@@scott5388 tru, pics or it didn't happen
But everyone code switches. It's called behaving; you do it in public.
Romey Louangvilay Valid stories? My boss hates me because I’m black, well yea I only work 4 days a week and do a bad job, why does that matter?
@@borgchap1191 you ASSuming they did a bad job is why this matter. You created a whole story in your head
I code switch for both white and black coworkers...it's tiring and then pack on the expectations of other black coworkers who think it's okay to say or allude to certain things,, it's like why would you think it's okay to say this in the work place infront of other people?
This Is my reality.
Every aspect.
You want some welfare don't u
@@jmundi2002 way to rally stick it to me Joan 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Bet you had to really think about that one
Especially they threatened you and try to make you the bad employee. They just you want to kiss ass for them. I've actually got fired twice for something that was wayyy beyond my job description and I walked away as me being "disrespectful" and I got threatened so say i rolled my eyes aththe manager and will fire if I ever do it again.
This video is so informative and provides an accurate depiction of what it’s like to be a black woman in corporate America
It's not even true
@@scott5388 what's not true?
INDIGO T.V. Any of it. It’s all anecdotes to prove a point. You can’t prove any of their statements and also what they face isn’t race. Wow I’m a terrible worker and my boss hates me for it but can’t fire me because I’m black, she is just preduced to my skin.
Last Nyanmurai You are right
@@s.s5933 1 all of these are fabricated and make no logical sense if they could pay women $.66 they wouldn't even bother hiring men
2:34 I experience that everyday
I applaud each of the women for sharing their experiences. This was a great perspective to have on the microagressions topic as well. This video taught me about the real issues black women face trying to authenticity, professionalism and survival in work and life. I look forward to more of these videos.
Holy shit! A couple days ago when I first saw this awful video, this was the only comment. I'm so glad other people have showed up to call out this bullshit. That's why I came back
@@l.ronhubbard5445 welcome back to the party!
@@l.ronhubbard5445 You must be a racist. No wonder you are trying to discredit what they are saying.
@@l.ronhubbard5445 You "came back?" Are you patrolling videos in which people discuss their experiences specifically so that you can discredit them?
This is so hard 😭😭😭😭
Sometimes it’s other black women. Unfortunately
Listen to the lyrics to Hale Bailey song "Angel"
Greatful for this video!
Thank you for watching!
As a trans non binary person I find that when I am around cis men my voice suddenly goes all dude bro and I’m saying stuff like “awesome” and “cool” a lot. (I want to stress not a comparison at all just my experience)
4:34 I don’t understand why Africans feel like they have to appropriate Black American identity as well. It’s perfectly fine for you to be Nigerian and then code switch to a proper voice, but I truly don’t understand the need to appropriate.
White male 20 years old have to put on my best self and adapt my language to older folks just like anyone else in any job ever. White or black has nothing to do with it, simply a matter of courtesy and respect. Get over yourselves. And call out those who are actually racist
yeah maybe the real problem is old people
CoraLeigh May-Dewitt are you unfamiliar with the term?
Please share your definition of racism. What is your racial resume that makes you qualified to enter the conversation? What experts on the subject have you read?
Lots of folks can talk but, as you should know at the ripe and mature life stage of 20, talk is cheap.
@@spicey1731 my definition of racism lacks the “racial/class power” that is so often now associated with the term these days. I have a degree in sociology and criminal justice and have read a plethora of studies/books on the subject. 5 long years from this comment and working everyday with underprivileged youth of all races in a juvenile hall setting and my statement still stands.
I grew up in a society far far more racist than America is today and I have an amazing life and I always have. Seek microaggressions and you shall find them. If you assume that 5% of the population, of every race and ethnicity, is sociopathic and racist, and that another 5% is plain ignorant, you will have a realistic sense of how much we all have to deal with in hearing daily insults and stupid comments. Don't aspire to be a victim. Ignore sociopaths and fools and create a circle of awesome friends and coworkers. In 2021, you can create a beautiful successful life. Looking for offense and reasons to be resentful will only bring you down.
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They are talking about this in a work context.Nobody goes out and seeks this on a daily
As I wrote, “create a circle of awesome friends and coworkers.” Also, if you are in a job where you encounter bigots, search out a better work environment. Code switching is not unique to us. Work culture requires everyone to conform to work standards. For example, to succeed in a professional work environment, a white or Latino person, who grew up in a poor disadvantaged community has to adapt her language and behavior. A white person who grew up in a hillbilly culture is going to achieve her greatest potential at work and sidestep a significant amount of bigotry by dropping hillbilly accent, vocabulary and mannerisms and speaking in standard English. Considering that there is so much media from which Americans from all environments can learn standard English, there is no reason why anyone should not be able to speak it fluently enough to make a good impression.
Like it or not, there is a certain amount of conformity required to gain acceptance. Every culture has the same characteristics. If we were living in Nigeria or in Viet Nam, we would be expected to speak and behave according to preset standards.
White male 31, I have never been able to be myself at work.
if i was myself at work, i wouldn't even show up xD
Regardless of race, one tries to conform with those in positions of power. That said, due to undue privilege accorded to whites, mostly as a result of their supremacists forebares, they tend to be in those positions. This sees those, particularly of other races, having to compromise themselves to have any chance to progress.
Now imagine how it is for us! That’s the point
😂😂😂...
@@geotubar supremacist forebares or whites population dominates the country, so it makes sense they dominate the position of power and culture in the work place.
No
Im tired of this shit
1:10 I look like I just walked of the set of a Conan movie...Why won't people take me seriously?!
May you NEVER find happiness. May your life be full of misery and pain. Except you change this horrible toxic character you have. Enjoy Basking in horrible. Or actually. Don’t.
South park
If being your full, unfiltered, unbridled self is that important to you and is what makes you happy, then to do. But when people find your unfiltered personality grating and wish to disassociate from you, it's not your place to demand that the rest of society accept it. Everyone makes concessions in order to get the things they want in life. Join the club.
sounds like you have someone very specific in mind?
I hear what you are saying, and it is valid. Just as what they are saying is valid.
Yoooo!!.. thank you.
Cringe lol
Who talks to their boss like they do their friends? Who can be their “full authentic self” at work? You’re not special, you’re not the only one wearing a veil, you’re not the only one that has to accommodate others in the workplace. You’re definitely not the only one who is stuck with a jerk for a coworker. I hope you all learn to get over your insecurities and prejudices because they aren’t doing you any favors.
correction- we are ALL special
@@MuricaFist when everyone is special, no one is special.
@@henryviii4629 everyone is special in their own way. you may be the king of england, but I am the king of great comments on youtube
So you think dealing with racism is the same as dealing with a "jerk for a coworker." Inch resting.
@@tempinformal what is racist about what they said...
I honestly want to know where the figures they use come from. For example where I work all but 3 (out of 20) of the main managers are black women, they even have white assistant managers underneath them. So please enlighten me someone.
CoraLeigh May-Dewitt I still need figures, also to clarify 17 of the 20 managers I’m referring to are black WOMEN. You’d think one of them would face the same MICROAGGRESSIONS stated by these mostly women. It’s all about character. The content of one’s character dictates many aspects of their life.
Where you specifically work may not be representative of an environment in which black women feel held back or subjugated but there are countless workplaces in which the dynamics may be very different.
@@AvecPoesie a year later, and that does not answer my question.
@@marshallosantos9035 What is the more logical assessment...that I saw your comment a year ago and decided to wait 12 months to state a reply or that I just read your comment? You could have asked the creators of the content directly, or you could have sought the information you seem so demanding of yourself. You've chosen to sit and fester in ignorance about this subject all this time?
@@AvecPoesie you missed my point. Goodbye.
0:32 I’m calling BS on that one
tru, it's more like 50 cents per dollar white men make
MuricaFist 1776 Wow you are very intelligent
@@borgchap1191 thnx for noticing. just got my GED!
MuricaFist 1776 I can tell
Bruh literally everyone at some point is not taken seriously. Like I’m literally never taken seriously lol and I’m a white male
bruh is this even a serious comment?
@@MuricaFist your not very murican yet you have a very murican name. Explain yourself
Why isn't that there always putting balled black women on the screen or in the middle I have hair.
Then make a video of your own rapunzel
Your suffering from Wetiko … and your weird
“They’re being racist towards me because they’re a skinny white man” sounds like someone forgot that they acquired the racist trait
That’s not what she said
By all means keep the chips on your shoulder and see how far it gets you. Anyone of any color can go far treating others with respect, correctness and friendliness in the work environment.
v tru
@CoraLeigh May-Dewitt Good afternoon, ignoramus
What...
How do you define "correctness?"
Uhh you haven't lived as a black person. Being those things isn't enough while working with other races. Non black ppl want to feel that all blacks are beneath them and if you have something about you as a black person that a non black person sees as a threat, they will try to make your life miserable, no matter how respectful you are. Black ppl deal with unnecessary hate/discrimination/micro-aggression in the work place, mostly due to envy.
Wow my IQ just dropped
from zero to negative?
It was never up
You’re suffering from bigotry and Wetiko …
Everything is racist!!!!!!!! Never mind my entitlement! If you do your racist!!!!!!
Doom Sausage everything is not racist but it’s offensive
Your suffering from Wetiko …
LMAO
which part?
😢😢😢😢😢 babies
i would cry too if i was treated that way
@@MuricaFist go ahead, watch the baby channel
Damn, people don’t give you their full attention and respect right out the gate?
They must hate you.
Earn respect, don’t expect ppl to just give you everything.
you tell em
Expecting basic human decency and cordiality in the workplace is not an outrageous expectation. One can be a model person and employee quite worthy of respect and still encounter prejudiced behaviors from others.
@@AvecPoesie 🎯
How privileged can you be?? You people are delusional.
You’re suffering from Wetiko…
I think microaggresions are useful to some degree due to it being like a small insight of how the person talking to you views you and people who look like you.
Ain’t nothing useful about disrespect. I’ll pass.
@@p994able I get that bro. It's just that I'd rather find out if they're racist when they're being descreet as opposed to them being overt with their racism.
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WEIMERICA
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