when the aligations are found to be just lies, why does the one who is found to have lied in court and on their statements not punished especially when it is a woman?
@@BlackBeltBarrister emailed to the court directly and asked to be sealed or included in the application bundle? That's what I have done this time. So much emotional abuse taking place. Blatant defiance of court orders and out and out breaking of prohibited steps orders.
@@testicarls It also needs to be referenced in statements and depending on the evidence, permission of the court for which you / your counsel can seek.
Just got out of a four year court battle and the final Hearring my ex turned around and said she’s not scared of me After four years of telling anyone who would listen that she’s petrified of me. ended up getting everything I asked for there is justice in this world
@tgale3866, you are lieing! You probably a payed scammer from the "women's remain as victim, although women are lieing murderous creatures" group. Pigs will fly before a family court makes a fair, competent, and non corrupt decision for the men. The family court is only existing because of the favouritism they show for the women. Keep attacking men they say, he'll pay taxes.
The problem is that the courts do not take the time to do finding of fact investigations. And, what's more, you have to pay for your own defense. What about those without sufficient resources for legal defense? Does the State provide for that? No! What about the punishment to the children for not being able to see a loving parent ripped from their lives? Does the State pay for that? No! What about due process and punishment fitting the "crime"? Not happening. What about restorative justice measures against the false accuser? Also, not happening. What about the cost to the tax payer? Too bad. Public pays. No one cares. Politicians are too busy building bridges to no where.
Trials are fixed to the advantages of the prosecution. I think it's biased towards the rich. Team up with people and create your own legal team of non-lawyers. Doesn't solve problem of the judge though... Continue to try and keep in contact with the children and they should be able to override the other parent and see you Good luck Kids are lucky to have fathers who love them
15 months of lies and being looked at as a monster social services writing reports that are just wrong based on someone's lies. Cafcass officers spitting venom about domestic abuse that never happened. I have seen my ex 3 times and been falsely arrested and any accusations through out, the court as stated siding with the ex. I'm begging for a finding of fact but after 3 hearing still no decision on getting that. As a father your guilty until proven innocent but if no one want to actually listen how do you have a voice. I understand the cautious view but the way you are presented and spoken to and the way the mother is listen to isn't just bias it's the system. How many fathers just fall away under the strain and stress or lack of money. The system is set up to close the book on fathers at the earliest opportunity it close the case and everyone get a result pat on the back at the expense of the father. To cap it all everyone says don't worry your lad will come back one day he will work it out while the system set up for child protection does the exact opposite and the child court in England is held in secret with no reporting I wonder why.
@@darrensmith7545 Get the children to say it how it is and write reports for you. References from friends, relatives etc. Lie detector tests? Photographic evidence of your contributions to the home. Prove that she was lying where she was lying to discredit her. Read about masculinism. And confirmation biases. Complain about CAFCASS if they have no evidence for their opinions. Good luck.
@@julietcrowson3503 The children aren't listened to. Sorry, correction, the children ARE listened to and what they say is usually noted but nothing is actually done about their begging to see their parent(s), and other requests. That is mine and my daughter's experiences. It seems we are kept apart "just in case" I do some kind of harm to my daughter. The evidence is the reports made by my ex, which aren't backed up by my daughter. Unfortunately in a family court it is CAFCASS and SS who are listened to by the judge, and the rest of us are just liars if we don't go along with what the SW says as far as the court is concerned. I did manage to get legal aid but the legal aid lawyers just grease the cogs for the court.
@@Electrowave it is one f**** up system so sad. She's so lucky to have a Dad who wants to see her too. Not all actually want to remain doing the social father role. As a whistleblower about SS, I understand a bit how injustices are made and families split up by poor quality decisions in the courts. It's c@@@@pt. It's a myth that the truth comes out in court. Wish I could help you. As she gets older, your daughter will have increasing 'power' to decide when she sees you, so keep trying and if you pray, pray more and some way round it might happen. Remember important dates to write to her and make contacts... you're entitled to go to parents' evenings, to the Dr with her and there will b other chances... D'you think putting in surveillance equipment would help you? It would be annoying to feel watched but might reassure cafSS...? Good luck 🙏✝️
Allow me to undermine your theory with a real example. In my case the mother made false allegations of domestic violence against me. But in real life she was assaulting me, and in court I made allegations of domestic violence against her, providing police reports. What did the judge do? Starting on day one, the judge asked no questions about who was assaulting who, in order to figure out the truth. And at the same time, the court gave primary custody to the mother... Even with mutual allegations of domestic violence. It took me over 3 years to prove to the court that she was the violent one and only then did I get custody of our child. So the court's behavior is not caution. The court's behavior is laziness and gender discrimination.
Hi mate, same thing is happening to me right now, I am not named on the birth certificate, I have spoken to my solicitor and raised this but the court has said we will have to wait for the hearing to bring this up. Our baby is with a foster carer, they have given me a no contact order with the mother so can not go with her to the court to get put on it, I am going to the family court for the hearing in 5 days to face this. Have you got any advice you think will help me from your experience? Thanks
@@emily7635The court should investigate properly as the OP wants it to do! Have you a problem with that regardless of the gender of the complainent or dependent?
If serious allegations are made against the mother, the court does sweet FA, whereas if an allegation is made against the man then the court is all over it, that is why the father is 8 times more likely to commit suicide going through family court
@@FTDTalk not true, my daughter has had my Grandchildren removed over false allegations perpetuated by the social worker lying with impunity in court. She has fought so hard but all her evidence is refuted even when that evidence is official
I’ve just been charged with assaulting both my children. I’m devastated. My ex wife has carried out a 6 year campaign to destroy our children’s relationship with me. Countless false inconsistent allegations, poisonous false messages about me to the kids. Now she’s got both my children to say I’ve got them and I’m no longer allowed unsupervised contact. She’s weaponised the police, the social services, the school, the doctors, woman’s aid etc. I feel like I’ve been thrown to the wolves. I’m a devoted father to my two children and now I face the prospect of losing them because the system enables mothers to lie and create a false narrative
@@SkylineTechnology I was arrested and charged but the court dropped the charges in August after having sight of the litany of lies and false allegations she had made over the years. I now have my children back and she is now being investigated for coercive control and using our children
My kids father lied and got a PO and included our children against me. I’ve been dealing with the family courts for 9 months! I wasn’t able to see or talk to my children for 3 weeks. He kept filing things to delay. I got the PO dismissed. Right now I have primary custody but it has been a long 9 months and we are not finished. God bless you and what happened to you. It’s really a hard position to be in when someone uses the kids as pawns, lies and manipulates. The amount of unnecessary stress on you and the children. I personally think the parents lying and manipulating should be charged criminally. It’s especially bad for the children and what they have to go through.
@@northern_lights9333thousands of women get mistreated by men and courts so don't think you are victimized because you are a man. there were other reasons.
The problem with this is that no one prosecutes the false accusers for psychological and financial abuse of the other parent and the children. The result of which is that there is an incentive to lie and waste valuable public resources which strip the real victims of opportunities to protect themselves and the children. So, in essence, the system is complicit in the abuse and creation of even greater victimization by taking this "risk of abuse" approach.
The problem with this system is it is low risk and high reward to the accuser… while high cost and high risk to the accused with little or no redress. I did well in my case but it damaged the relationship with my kids and cost me tens of thousands. My lawyer said highly unlikely that I could get costs as my ex was on support… conversely had I lost she would have been awarded costs. Wrap your head around that one… lol the law is a joke.
Meanwhile 2 or 3 years has gone by between the allegations and the trial... If you're seeing red flags while you're dating them they're going to be 10 times worse when you're in court with them!
I agree it takes too long for the courts to figure out the actual facts.. Assuming the courts have a process to figure out the facts at all. That's why I now teach dads how to overcome the false allegations. It has gotten out of control.
The issue is that there are hardly ever any punishment dished out for people that make serious allegations that are then found to be untrue. Ultimately it leads to unfortunately generally mothers making horrific claims. The children then suffer from being obstructed from seeing both parents. The legal industry should fight for equal parenting by default. And on top of that if there have never been any abuse or violence claims made officially prior to separation then the judges should never prevent any parent from seeing their children. It's a terribly flawed system we have that doesn't help children much at all unfortunately.
I disagree. It is the reverse for me. Why would I flee and then the other party concocts spurious false allegations supported by enablers...it is a very difficult thing to leave. Im truly sorry if your experience is the total reverse....narcissism can greatly challenge the court's ability to know who is the real "spartacus" and this can occur to either party. Mutual abuse is unlikely. Generally there is reactive abuse which is entirely different.
The women involved not only don't face any deterrent, they are positively encouraged to lie - the money they can make is phenomenal, I reckon it at about £20,000 per hour (for lying and crying to a solicitor) after expenses - and as far as I can see it's tax free. But the children are torn apart and men deprived of their every day infrastructure so they cannot continue to make a living. For people who don't understand the psychology behind it, Narcissistic/psychopathic women want to degrade and character assassinate a man who has left them so they A) won't themselves get exposed B) can continue to control/gaslight him C) keep him subdued and on the back-foot so he will not find a partner to replace her. D) keep him down so he cannot afford legal recourse of hundreds of thousands of pounds (for a case now becoming in any way complex)
@@TheKezmeister2011 i think your wrong social workers judges all favour mothers help advise tell them what to say to get injunctions while they look down at fathers predict an assume an have rights to take away all the fathers rights have meetings make dississions orders an control your kids futures there rights on the basis of allegations after no charges an full investigation by police c.i.d an highly trained proffesonal domestic violence team an CPS all concludes it was false no charges appolligys an advised to stay away an mother dangerous but still get labled treated guilty lose kids fathers rights no options over choices aknowledgement contact or help its disgracefull kills dads everyday mothers should be charged an fethers rights become effected if guilty after conviction not without charge its inhumane wrong criminal insane an creates suicide mental torture breakdowns destroys fathers an kids ????????????laws need to change
I was served an ex parte non-molestation order and I had to attend a hearing for a occupation order for the house which I was living at. The female judge said that she'd used her 'discretion' to order the occupation order.. said my mother's right to home exceeded mine as she was supposedly old with health problems.. she completely disregarded the fact that I'd be made homeless and didn't even consider the fact that I'd not be given priority status so there would not have been any duty on a local authority to place me in emergency housing ..I was truthful as I said that I'd have to spend my savings to pay towards hotel costs so the judge casually said I'd means. She failed to understand that the accuser was being accommodated by the local authority prior to moving back into my father's house. Where was the application of discretion for me? It is humiliating that have to go through a third party such as the police to get my belongings 😢 I can't visit my childhood home 🏡
Speaking legal jargons don't really help the falsely accused person. I make it easy for you. All a woman has to do if she doesn't get what she wants is claim that her husband "touched" (you know what I mean) while she was half-asleep/not sure/not ready/not 100 with it, etc.... and the police can arrest the guy at work in front of his colleagues. The problem is that the police first arrests the man publicly THEN investigates privately while the woman remains anonymous and can get away with it. There's almost no risk for the woman unless the case gets some publicity.
What about women who falsely accuse someone of Rape? What can a man do especially when the police don't want to know, yet they were all too quick to take samples and then drop the case without giving you any information on the evidence
You are angry at the police that they take samples? I think it's their policy they have to follow. They must take samples! If you had nothing to hide why are you bothered with samples? You can get results from Police. Follow the procedure on obtaining reports. You don't say Police denied you results so go and ask for them.
They don't read the paperwork even a simple 6 page bundle including the original orders of 3 pages and judge said in middle of hearing I haven't seen the original orders until it was pointed out to her it was in the bundle. Incompetency at best dereliction of duty violation of oath of office and endangerment under common law 'wanton' in reality, the judge really didn't like being cautioned under section 10.1 pace and is mortified if you notify senior ministry of justice MP'S, threatening high court until you say yes escalate it to high court then they refuse to do so showing one they are scared of it being put in high court and two they are scared of being exposed.
The same thing happened to me. The court did not bother to read my petitions which contained 15 allegations of the mother's criminal or bad behavior... And they gave her custody, temporarily. It took me 3 years and 28 hours of testimony to force the court to pay attention to the actual facts... Only then was I awarded custody of our son.
The judges act like that they are infallible 😮 They don't really take the time.. It is how you present yourself in court so if they see a sniffling frail woman crying then they will by default side with her. They don't realise that such women are cunning manipulators and crafted this act over a period of many years..😢
I have had a woman make three harassment claims against me. The first went to trial and was thrown out of court. The second went to the CPS and came back no further action. The third did not make it out of the police station and was concluded no further action but not closed kept open in case further evidence comes to light. This woman has told countless provable lies in her police statement. She has made false claims of stalking to the stalking help line. The stalking help line letter of support can not be verified as being from the Stalking Help Line people so it may be fake. The police are not interested in prosecuting this woman and make excuses to cover up their very obvious mistake in not properly investigating this woman's claims. I have been arrested twice one time having to spend 12 hours in a police cell. Cautioned once at a police station when I attended voluntarily to the police station (never do that people it's a trap). Every time I have made attempts to have this woman brought to book for her wrong doing I get frustrated by the lack of interest from the police. There is also clear evidence of fraud but the police are simply not interested. WHAT CAN I DO!
Dick Dastardly Did you honestly expect any help from the police? Try lodging a complaint against the Constables involved, it won't go anywhere but it may force some higher up to actually find out what should have been done and they may have the matter discussed at further training events where how these matters should be dealt with can be taught.
@@wjf0ne None of my police complaints ever go anywhere. Even though they botched everything up, nothing happens to them. They should be sacked if they do their job wrongly.
Contrarily, A cautious approach would be to protect the child from no contact, and let the child continue to have contact with both parents until those allegations are found to be true...
doesnt happen thats the whole arguement its inhumane for dads an the children needs addressing laws an fathers rights in place an stop good dads killing themselves everyday without any justice statistics evidence proves its inhumane destroying innocent dads lives without a thought an caused millions of suicides each year WTF why is it legal ???????
Been arrested and released on sec 20 and had to wait a year to see my daughter, the entire family court process has taken over 3 years and over a year of that was a clear stalling tactic. Me and the mother are now on talking terms, would it be wise to see her charged for accusing me of such things and destroying a year of my life? Sadly I just have to take it for what it is. Contact is still supervised at my mum's, but it's almost at its end and I'm about ready to ask for a decision to be made. It's a hard thing to experience and even harder to face the fact there is no recourse. You just grow stronger as a person. That's it. That's all
It’s hideous, it’s absolutely destroying they all get away with murder and it ruins lives. Enough is enough too many people have suffered. Proactive actions need to be addressed
I had a friend excluded from his children and home on the basis he was abusing them, he wasn't. The mother was a drug addict and wanted him out of the house and 'supporting' her habit. He is the kind of man that lived for his family and being a provider. It took him over a year to get access to his children. But he was distraught because he knew what was really going on and no one would believe him. Eventually got an emergency order to protect the children. He had to pay for his solicitors, social workers/ safety officer, the judge and police. Remember it was just her word that was taken 100%. They did an unexpected home visit on the mother. Children were neglected, mother was out of her face on drugs in the middle of an orgy when the police forced entry (middle of the afternoon). He got his children back, but nothing happened to the mother.
That's so sad and messed up. But doesn't surprise me 1 bit. It says on women's aid website that if a woman has no evidence then her words can be used as evidence. Says it all about the legal system in this country.
I hear what you are saying. However, it is almost impossible to overturn a negative and false statement of dv made by a women. A family member of mine did q fact find, and despite this they agreed with the false accusations from his ex based on her words alone. They didn't consider any letters from the police saying her aligations were unfounded and that things she stated were untrue. Nor would they consider messages from a witness she has asked to falsify a statement. They courts are unbalanced and biased towards women. You only need to look at the amber heard uk trial to see this. Its a carbon copy of my family members case. Hasn't seen daughter in 7 years now
The issue is yes they act cautiously and act to protect the child. But when the allegations are found to be untrue /malicious the the court does not act and hold the person to account for perjury. Not only that the time lost by the she from the other parent which 99% of the time is the father is irreplaceable. The emotional damage done to the child in not having contact for months can take years to repair. All because of a bitter lying ex. Simple fact. Family court perjury is allowed and accepted. Contempt of court is allowed and accepted openly.
I agree. When the court knows the mother lied but refuses to hold her accountable for perjury or contempt of court... It is a clear indication that the court has no interest in maintaining the integrity of the Justice system. There is no hiding from that obvious fact. And all family court judges who hide from this obvious fact are demonstrating their lack of character.
When the court does a finding of fact and concludes the allegations are false, why doesn't the liar never get punished. So for example, during a child custody case. The mother makes a false allegation of child abuse against the father. Custody is temporarily ordered to the mother. Then by the time the court finally concludes she lied, the court then says a child has bonded with the mother and awards her custody. Why isn't the mother punished for lying to the court? Why is she awarded for her lie by getting custody?
Keep in touch with your children - send photos, birthday cards, write to them, tell them you love them, telephone them, take them out - if you're allowed to - small but frequent you love them to keep you in their thoughts. Kids can and do override their parents' wishes and when they're old enough, can decide and insist on seeing both parents Good luck
@@keithcolman9868 that is so sad I wish I could help. Keep trying and some things will get through - maybe keep photos of what you've sent so you can prove you're trying to maintain your parental rights? To show children when they're older? Isn't it illegal to deny a child contact with their father? Churches or Citizens advice might suggest ways of helping? Good luck ✝️☮️🙏☯️🫂
maybe court knew that she spoke the truth 😮 why are fathers not punished for false allegations and helped to not to be accountable? so this is apparently ok?
My wife has had a non molestation order against me and lied through her teeth to the courts and now I'm not allowed to MY home and now can't get any of my belongings the judge even talked me out of having my day in court, as I was unfamiliar with the court system and my mental health was very poor due to the mental abuse my wife had put me through I agreed not to do it
happen to me to bud. They are rewarded for lying. Every second person knows a dad in this exact same position. The only reason mothers are in the parks is because all the dads have non molestation orders on them. I have one on me also, i know 10 fathers just taking to the barba, new coffee shop owner, fathers at the school, everyone knows someone with a non molesation order on them. NO criminal record, no police chargers.
My daughter had her two children taken off her after a PLO court order. My grandchildren are with a foster carer. When my daughter when to see her children at a contact center. She noticed her 2 month old son had a tight bib on him that was cutting into his neck. There was two other people who witnessed it. Yet nothing was done about it. Also my grandaughter had bruises down her legs while in the care of the foster carer. Can you tell us please where we stand. Also social service lied in court saying that my daughter never let them in when they came round which was a lie.@BlackBeltBarrister
My friends wife has been abusing his two children mentally and physically the kids made a statement against her but the stupid judge still let her stay in the house which he pays for from mortgage to bills and food, the judge knows the kids don't want to be with her but I don't know what the judge was thinking, the school was a cross the road from his house but now it's about 5 miles away because the kids are staying at the father's parents home. The system is messed up big time and the solicitor he has is only interested in making his bill higher and higher even charging him if he sends her a message over the phone lol. Bloody joke. Best thing DONT GET MARRIED
So what happeneds then if it has gone to court 4 times and all four time I had the same aligaions and all 4 times they were found fales each time and yet the court didn't investigate any aligaions from me only from the mum
I also recognized that the courts only pay attention to allegations against the father while ignoring any bad actions alleged against the mother. Now I teach dads how to overcome that bias, and force the courts to pay attention to the actual facts instead of being lazy.
What if your partner was forced by social services to make a false allegation of domestic violence coercive and controlling behaviour because the social worker told your partner that if she didn’t make the statement they would make sure that your child will never be seen again the police invested the allegations and it was proved that there was no grounds for the allegation
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Been through unfounded allegations (all false of course) My advice, don't take it personally (hard how that might be - your attitude will be noted) just be completely transparent with CAFCASS/Child Guardian. Make all appointments (early if possible) Remember the case isn't about the parents (you guys don't matter!) Family law isnt about parents personal s*it! Family law is solely about the wellbeing of the child/children. Their physical, emotional, educational & health needs are paramount! Always think "What is best for the child/children?"
I wish wholeheartedly this was true however cafcass found my ex to be mentally abusing my daughter however still only gave me 1 extra night so not even 50/50. They said my home was loving and safe and my daughter wanted to spend more time with me but still that was there verdict. The system is biased towards mothers and this is one of thousands of examples. They say it’s equal rights but that only comes down to paying for them and nothing else unfortunately
All very correct, but, the women (it is mostly women) know how the system works, once you get back to court (months later) and all the false allegations are dismissed, they then say that a routine has been established and they don't want that routine disrupted, so mother gets custody. The system is biased in women's favour, and there are no repercussions to the party who made the false allegations.
My son's mother got temporary custody based on false allegations. I proved she was the violent one in court after 3 years. And I told the judge that the current routine, where the mother is primary custodial parent, was initially made based on false allegations and is not in the best interests of the child. So we cannot continue a bad routine that is in the worst interests of the child... Just because the court made an uninformed decision on day one.
I had a court hearing today and the local authority had 3 different reports written by experts. MY ex-wife solicitor came out with some nonsense and despite the overwhelming evidence they wanto another hearing. I was appalled by it! I had the feeling the none of those people had actually read any of the reports.
I'm sorry to hear about your case. A friend of mine is going through something similar. Nothing moves quickly, unfortunately, the system is too slow and your expectations are never met because nothing makes sense with family courts. Judges keep placing hearings despite evidence and common sense. Apparently, a verbal accusation of something you've never done is stronger than 100s of solid proofs. Wish you all the best, let's know how it goes.
They don't read the paperwork even a simple 6 page bundle including the original orders of 3 pages and judge said in middle of hearing I haven't seen the original orders until it was pointed out to her it was in the bundle. Incompetency at best dereliction of duty violation of oath of office and endangerment under common law 'wanton', the judge really didn't like being cautioned under section 10.1 pace and is mortified if you notify senior ministry of justice MP'S, threatening high court until you say yes escalate it to high court then they refuse to do so showing one they are scared of it being put in high court and two they are scared of being exposed.
Absolutely disgusting this system. My story I gave birth and she was removed for domestic violence. I got her back and the farthers disappeared. He at a later date put in for contact, that was supervision. They deemed him fit to have contact by himself. I then argued against this and I stopped contact every time she came back she was sick. I logged everything with 111 but nothing made a difference with social services and the judge my then 2 year old daughter made allegations about daddy and her..... You know what. I called the police who said no evidence. I was then subject to child protection conference accused of paternal alienation. The documents during that investigation were falsified refering to her medical notes. I had an investigation from the GP who said yes the medical records were falsified. I asked the judge what he was going to do he said it's nothing to do with him. I then got a letter saying at the child protection conference it is agreed that because you have stopped and started contact it is classified as emotional abuse. This is still private law there is no care order application from them they just said that. This is corruption at the very core of the family court. Social services and the same judge have had this case since 2018 to date all in private law proceedings. They no they placed her with someone who's a risk and to cover there own backs they can't admit it, they rather blame me for emotional abuse. Cowardly lien corrupted system. I have represented my case for 4 years and if someone independent was to look into this case it would most certainly be of public interest. U have only said the half of what's going on. Meanwhile I know If I Stop contact ever again she will be gone my only daughter. This is a violent man who subjected me to horrific domestic violence. There's no excuse for there disgusting behaviour they have put me through 4 years of hell. I live in fear every second knowing if I ever try again to protect my baby daughter from that monster she will be gone and so will I.
i was giving full custody of my children .4 years ago .and she never bothered.having contact with them .two xmas ago when i took children to her .she slammed the door on me and my children..SS spoke to my children about that incident .her allegations to police and then to the courts .prove beyond doubt that she has lied to police and the family court..6 months ago she broke the court order by snatching my two youngest and has not allowed me any contact with them since ..i took my 14 year old to her last xmas...i texted her last week asking her if i could bring daughter to her in school holiday .and for her to drop my daughter back.she ignored my text..just had email saying the new court case has been moved to her town .4 hour drive away..can some one please advise me please .
this happened to me 3 weeks ago was horrible. the worst thing that happened in my life im still a bit in shock. My life ended with 3 lies easily proven there and then if they gave me the chance to show it before they arrest me. The worst it is happening so much that these woman really abuse it. There must be a better way. This is not on. Hit me really hard fisically emotionally financially i lost everyhting my daughters the dog ive trained the house i refurbished my belongings was left with summer clothes in the cold without bank cards phones any to comunicate or work.
My narcissistic Ex oozed charm, & had totally convinced the mediator & the court appointed psychologist that I was an negligent evil child molester. She got everything she wanted & I was left with only a few hours of visitation a month. I had to bite my tongue & lay low. Before long, she was using me as a near daily baby sitter & several times left our toddler daughter overnight. I made sure to documented visits with a variety of witness when possible. I asked several people to write statements to the mediator, including several people who were her friends & relatives. We subsequently had several joint sessions with the psychologist which sometimes ended in arguments between the two. The psychologist later admitted that he had been totally duped by her. The mediator also flipped. The ex- disappeared with the child for 8 months. I was given total custody. When she was bribed back, the court tried to make visitation work with more session with the psychologist. The court also had me investigated by the Probation Dept. Further false accusation lead to 4-5 investigations by CPS, once by the local police, & once by the FBI. I was physically assaulted annually for nearly a decade, which were documented by police reports & police photos, which were totally ignored by the court. Other than shame in losing custody, she was never penalized for any of her actions. It was never a fair fight at any point. When the daughter was around 12, she decided to cut off all ties with her mom & has held steady to that position for over 30 years. She is now a therapist who specializes in trauma using EMDR, neurofeedback, & Havening. She now believes mom that should never have had custody or any visitation at anytime.
They should not be entertained by family Courts. But we all know the exact opposite is true. Men are openly slandered and accused of the vilest things to give a woman what she wants. Slander is hard currency in family Courts. Outside of it its a criminal offence. Judges throw a dice based on 'balance of probability'. The system is evil. Using slanderous claims on court is evil. An it is encouraged by solicitors to get a quick result. How they sleep at night is the only real mystery.
I think that family court judges are too lazy, incompetent, and gender biased to be able to make intelligent decisions in the best interests of the child.
So you are presumed guilty and punitive action taken against until you are able to refute the allegation. Kinda goes against the basis of law, there again they say the want to err on the side of caution which we must accept is sensible. There again there must be punitive action taken against anyone who makes false allegations as not to makes a mockery of the court, and as we all realize that despite what they tell you about the welfare of the child, vulnerable person, deceitful liar or honest accuser is paramount, the authority of the court trumps all.
Just just came across your channel and its very insightful. I have a question. I have a experience with a social worker with no affiliation to me or any professional working with me. Said social worker went behind our professionals back and ours without any disclosure of intention and never asked consent. They called up my childs nursery to ask if he had a speech therapist of anything like that. Guess to try and make a case against us. Is this criminal? If so is it classed and invasion of privacy? I'm aware that each jurisdiction may work on a different set of laws. Like Acts and Laws. If it's of any help I like in Scotland
had this happen to me, its been 6 months and we finally filing, but it will take 1 year. Soliciotrs say the evidence is in my favour. I know so many dads this has happened to. But by the end it will be 1/2 years and i miss my kids growing up. The whole system is wrong.
I am currently victime of false allegation that the family court believed. They took my son sash from me in supervised visits. The allegations are absurd and irrational but I believe that discrimination against me is also the reason
I know someone who made a sexual assault/rape claim against her then partner, in an effort to obtain a non molestation order and stop them from seeing their child, it took a while, but he got a solicitor and fought back, proved there was no assault or rape, no police record of abuse, was not present at the times stated, the order was dropped, and he can see his child, nothing has been done about the false allegation, turns out the social never even reported the poor living condition the mother had the child in, there are photos showing the condition the solicitor presented, but with nothing from the social worker it still goes on.
Hey barrister, my ex gf accused me of attempted manslaughter and rape. I was arrested and held for 14 hours in a cell. Police put me on parole for 6 months, after this a detective told me due to a lack of evidence the case is being closed so I wasnt charged.. my ex gf lied and used a false allegation against me because when we split up I said I'm getting social services involved because your an illegal immigrant and you cant feed my child; I need custody and you cant provide a life for her in this country. So yeh, police chose her side and ruined my life for 6 months. That was back in january 2018, and to this day I still struggle to get to see my daughter, I was on video chat with my daughter a month ago who now calls me by my first name not dad and right after the call, the ex gf went to police and said I was violent on the video chat. So shes blocked me from seeing my kid indefinitely. Plz explain to me, I'm a uk citizen, no charges, no criminal record and I'm working full time with a gf - do we have a case against my ex for false allegations and custody of my child. Ps not happy with Cambridgeshire police, you guys did an utter shamble of a job
Good morning! I really enjoy your content. It would be amazing to see a 20-minute video offering an introduction to family law. I think it would be incredibly engaging and helpful.
The problem I think are the dominant borderline traits in women and higher narcissism in men, even if you don’t have the condition. I am by no means a narcissist but if I would make a false allegation against my ex, I am almost 100% certain that it would be found to have been made out of malice. Why? Because I would not even be capable of playing the concerned victim. However, this is what the borderline side does to perfection. If they make the false allegations they are the concerned victim and if the false allegation is being made against them they are the accused victim. I think it has a lot to do with these subtleties and how you come across and men are just not so good at these things. Men show overtly what they are about for everyone to see (also the court). Women do this way more covertly leaving everyone confused and siding with them in the first instance and even if the allegation turns out false they portray themselves as the so concerned “protective mother”. There needs to be a robust judge and an experienced psychologist to uncover the bullshxt and see behind it. Often the hearing where contact is cut is lead by magistrates or lower positioned judges who have no clue and want to better be safe than sorry and that is unfortunately siding with the victim. The psychologist in my case said that it is important that claimed victims are believed in the first instance but at some point reality needs to kick in….she did not like that and what did she do….play the victim….”the psychologist is against me” and the judge fell for it. After almost 5 years I am one hearing away from a residency transfer but it was one hell of a ride. Litigating against a borderline women is hell. Not because she makes the false allegations but because everyone believes her crap (also when she pretends to support the relationship between me and my child). I needed a clinician with 40 years experience in the family courts to unravel what is really going on, namely the severe emotional abuse of our child
In other words: if you're a man, expect to be utterly screwed over by the court in the short to medium term, with a possibility that the screwing might stop in the longer term once the court has actually examined evidence.
The court now has been improved. They gave the court order and as soon as the mum says no and give a false accusation, the court believes her and withdraw the court order and keep believing the accusations. I’ve never seen this high level of corruption before 😂
It is a massive problem for a male... the amount of money that gets burnt through to have legal representation is beyond imagining till you go through it. Your own legal representivitive is going to sting you a massive fee for discovery, then a big fee just to answer the phone to you every time a phone call between you and them occurs. There will be pre hearings and attempts at mediation all of which build your hopes up that the crazy expensive night mare is ending soon, but chances are it won't. And there is a very good chance at some point in all of this you will be coerced into getting new legal representation requiring new discovery fees and phone calls. Of course the more money you have the more meetings you can afford! Then you get to court and in many cases your lawyer will hand you over to a barrister... and they can charge you figures to make your eyes water, yet likely categorise you as all the other males in the system 'the payer'. Luck seems to play a big part in how much you get taken off you... and just ignore any suggestions part if the property settlement will count towards child support. Then when you hear false accusations being made... what are you going to do... you can just shut up and get it over with.... or you could challenge it... the court will order a certain settlement, so if you argue the false accusations it will not save the asset, only take you down maybe the path of trying to get money out of the settlement process... allowing the legal companies to stall your settlement and hole both parties money in trust for extended periods doing neither party any good. Mean while more legal expenses, which could very well add up to more than you would get from any adjusted settlement. My advice is knowing only 30% of marriages do not get past 20 years...and very many more are failed marriages in which the couple stay together in misery, since they cannot afford the legal losses...... use your brain and don't get married! And something to look forward to is your child support will be calculated on your gross income but deducted from your nett income... One last thing your likely to find starting a new life, you might be paying 35% income tax but then on top of that 30% child support, both calculated in your gross but deducted from your nett income, leaving you 35% of your income to live on after loosing all your home and all your assets.and that is not uncommon! If any of it makes you angry towards your former partner, expect they will take out a restraining order against you, because they can and that will save them having to share custody with you.... or hear any of your complaints.
My question would be why false allegations seem to be taken seriously no matter how many times previous allegations from the same party have been proven false? I don't want to sound like some people in this comments section, but it does seem like it's usually one side who gets the benefit of the doubt, and one who's assumed guilty until proven innocent, and that doesn't seem to change no matter how many times the evidence contradicts the first party or how many times the second party is shown to genuinely have the best interest of the children in mind.
With police and courts it is important to speak first. what is said first becomes the initial case. they will then defended it by all comers. It is comforting to believe that people are open minded and every one is heard equally, but human psychology just isn't like that and these people whatever their position in the justice system are human the same as the rest of us. Knowing how they think and prosess the information is just as important as the law.
If an ex makes up you have a drinking problem but you literally drink like once a month so it’s so far from the truth it’s a joke. How can you disprove someone? Should I do a liver test?
How would I go about filing a non molestation order without a solicitor? The person in question has a previous conviction of assault against me and his emotional abuse is ongoing towards me and my family
What can i do to get my name cleared , i was tlaken to a family Court . I was not given adequete time to find a Solicitor . My ex lied in Court and the courts did not what to see any evidence to show that i was innocant and i now what my name cleared .
Hi. I have been a L.i.p for the past 4 years. Only recently my ex partner made a false rape allegation during a section 7 interview. This was published in section 7. Completely and totally fabricated. Now I have a hearing on 22/12/2020 which is a full days hearing regarding repeated breaches by expartner. Would it be in my best interest to begin civil proceedings against her for defamation and libel?
@@BlackBeltBarrister She was not punished for false accusations in court. She was punished for a public campaign of vilification, including sending 100s of lying emails less than 24 hours after a court order forbade her from further defamation. The judge only took action because otherwise his authority would have become an utter joke. That this is the only irrelevant "example" you can find to even pretend to address the issue shows how completely corrupt our system is.
My ex partner has applied for a non molestation order based on lies. The things he’s put on the order contradict what is on the police reports he made. What do I do about this? I submitted my evidence but he got an emergency order granted. I’ve spoken to the police and they’ve told me that it’s unlikely he will still have it after I’ve contested it. But what’s the likelyhood of it being dropped if they see that it’s all false? And what will be done about him lying?
I spent 30k on legal fees and im still no able to see my children. I need help to go to court but how do i get help in court now with no money? Please can you help
Hi, I hope you read this: I am a Qualified Law Graduate. I Specialise in Criminal and Prison Law. However, after the cut backs to Legal Aid, I am without any good Job Prospects in this Field. Nevertheless, I find myself constantly Fighting Cases in the Family Courts for Friends, as a Mackenzie Friend. This obviously restricts me, as to the Right to ask questions myself for my Friend. (I'm NOT a fee earner) Question: if my Friend cannot read, is it not possible for me to ask the questions for her? This is really relevant as Social Services lie in all the Cases I've been involved with. This is really concerning, but I just wish to help this Lady as much as I can. Kind regards
Hi BBB, One Q please. I would be greatfull if you could give your best ever response to me here to this question. What is your view and the Laws Order Justice with Remedy To a Judge saying verbally in court and confirming the same in a Judgement Document which I hold saying as follows, “” It is irrelevant and makes no difference as it has no bearing to the case or facts that the social workers have lied about everything “”.
What happens if you are falsely accused and thay are found untrue and then you are accused of the same allegations a second time round only to be found false a second time what do the do then
I have a situation My ex using my son to acuse me of sexual abuse/since december2019 until now she refuses acess,police did conclude the investigaton,sent a file to pps,(no actions taken)because until today i denied all.(she made this in order to stop a court order for acess,granted by court.social services dont want to get envolve..they claim that they dont know how the child come up with such high alegations(he was 4y(p1 school) Now im goin for "administrative first directions" In march What actions can the court take to ensure that second false alegations don't happen/if is prove in court that they are false. Does the court have the power to remove the child from his mom? Or wil they do it in order to protect the child of any more danger. Thanks
@@BlackBeltBarrister thanks,my solicitor is dealing with all the steps,that is the question that makes me wonder how far a court is willing to go,or to say enough is enough. Because its 5years in this figth and i'm getting tired of seeing that she can do anything to prevent my acess with my son and nothing happens to her/i did never expect to be acuse of such crime,and until now the legal sistem is a joke. Based on the assement of social services..the child was coach...to say this words...because they did ask him again if he enjoys time with his father "he said to them yes"/and "he would like to see his father again"
This has to be the dumbest shit I have heard in a while. You can play word games ALL day long but the truth is as follows.... if allegations are believed, the court IS taking sides
I agree with social services in Stoke on trent I moved away to keep my children safe . Social services say I had low q and I asked over 20 years for a device and never got done I never put my children in danger the court say my gran died when Joshua was born and she never did the court did bleave tham its made me angry with court and solicitors and social services I been blamed for something I did not do
Over 20 years I have been asked to devose my ex nothing got done when I went to court the court say we are taken money out of public funding and don't tell the public thay are taken money for children and courts how come thay get away with it
Thank you for this. I'm an adult survivor of childhood abuse. I'm contemplating legal action for historical abuse 40 years ago. Can you advise who in I should speak to?. For what it's worth I live near Lichfield.
I lost my hole life with wot seemed 2 me as no evidence at all. I was told by my solicitor to sign an undertaking but that meant I had to leave everything. I haven't seen my children 4 6yrs now. I had no previous I have never been arrested there was no evidence of violence but I lost everything. And it will be the death of me. It need sorting out.
My court oder is not working the court oder says i should pick up my kid Sundays and drop her Monday but my ex saying I can only pick my child on Saturday and drop of on Sunday cuz my ex goes to work on Monday but the went I pick my child up on Saturday my ex she away late by 30 min an went I tell her u breaking the court oder she says I'm not breaking no court order cuz the court oder says Sunday and if im breaking court order on Saturday im not really breaking no court oder cuz the coud says on Sunday what shoud i do I need s advice please
If the woman makes an allegation of abuse she will receice legal aid. So good strategy. Man who wants to defend against it will need a sack full of money. He will probably be advised to accept the conditions of the initial decision butvnot accept the allegations. Rrputation tarnished because the system favours women.
Set some ground rules how careers can text parents and talk about parents infront of child also on medical reports. As you need permission from all adults due to patient confidentiality a doctor can’t discuss another patient confidentiality about them and apparently they can do so without it being a concern of not being a fact only a opinon that can be misleading. As a personal opinion. That’s my opinion as I forgiven my mothers friend.
This is beautifully spoken BUT the courts are not in the best interest of the child - children - kid kids or the family, if the story on both side effect the court system How on earth does jusice be donw and the wrongdoer/s be accountable...BlackBeltBarrister
Don't be too harsh on this bootlicker... as a barrister, he has to work with judges etc.... daily. He simply CANNOT admit that the family court system is grossly biased along gender lines. If he did admit that....or any such truth....he would be quietly marginalised. his career would be harmed. and future outcomes to any cases he worked on....well they would be worse. but he can't even admit THAT. for the same reasons. read between the lines he reads....he's telling you that our system is a joke
This is such a weak, gas lighting, argument. The whole foundation of our legal system is based on the presumption of innocence. The massaging of this fundamental principle of law,p as outlined in this video, is a very slippery slope which has led to the gross abuses of our justice system. If the courts, were even remotely efficient in hearing such cases than this 'conservative' approach could arguably be tolerated though certainly not justified. Such cases take years not weeks to work their way through the courts. In regards to investigations, this is a furphy. There is no investigation. The police do not investigate these false allegations but instead take the conservative approach of 'least harm' and act on the behalf of the accuser, leaving it to the courts to administer justice. In cases such as those mentioned in the video, due to the courts 'conservative' approach, the onus of proof has disturbingly creeped from the state being required to prove guilt to the falsely accused needing to prove their innocence; at great expense. Aside from the emotional and finacial toll of this 'conservative' approach on the falsely accused, this shift in the burdon of proof is a disturbing breakdown of the fundamental principles that make up our system of justice. Moreover, in the cases of divorce where the most spurious charges can be made into an avo and children added to that avo, the courts are not protecting children but instead often emboldening the dangerous, falsely accusing, narcissistic parent that is causing emotional or physical harm to thie children. As there is no recourse for this party's false accusations due to the courts fear that genuine victims will not come forward, the false victim is able to abuse this system with impunity. This 'conservative' approach moreoften does not help children it harms them. This goal seems to want to gaslight the falsely accused into thinking their unfair treatment by the courts is fair and just, which is just not true.
Wish I could put pic of screenshot between my mom and daughters mom and her saying we are offto court because my mom told her to shut her legs. Got a 6 month promise rather than 12 mo nth 1
My daughter will be our judge. She will no her daddy cares even if it takes another 15 years. That mother she will obviously no. The judges are named. I will be able to look my lilly in the eyes and tell her I tried. Unlike the ones she thinks love her but have used her
If you have made a POLICE report, within time keeping of family court, before it is stated ‘insufficient evidence’ with POLICE. You have to order for an ANNEX H, so that your case POLICE, can be viewed in entirety. The practice procedure 12J, (fact finding) is a none applicable procedure. You have a time limit, once the POLICE, state evidential difficulties, an ANNEX H within ‘fact finding’ will be void. Even when the crimes committed against adult and child are extremely serious and classified as torture. Do not feel like a liar, do not judge yourself. If you were pervasively tortured and raped and abducted as an adult or even if your child or newborn was abducted. They will always, DROP that case, they will downgrade it by merits to ‘false imprisonment’ not holding justice to prevalence as ‘adult abduction or kidnap’, ‘honour base abuse’, ‘rape’, ‘child sexual assault’ until they state that the finalised all the reports to ‘evidential difficulties’. You must, ask for order of ANNEX H. Also be aware, every family case you will be assessed the duration for litigation and psychological capacity, This is low level, law.
when the aligations are found to be just lies, why does the one who is found to have lied in court and on their statements not punished especially when it is a woman?
Unfortunately family court proceedings are confidential and they chose to either ignore it or pretend it never happened
Evidence must be served properly in order to be considered under the rules.
@@BlackBeltBarrister emailed to the court directly and asked to be sealed or included in the application bundle? That's what I have done this time. So much emotional abuse taking place. Blatant defiance of court orders and out and out breaking of prohibited steps orders.
@@testicarls It also needs to be referenced in statements and depending on the evidence, permission of the court for which you / your counsel can seek.
Because #BelieveWomen has become a matter of public policy instead of a matter of common sense.
Just got out of a four year court battle and the final Hearring my ex turned around and said she’s not scared of me After four years of telling anyone who would listen that she’s petrified of me. ended up getting everything I asked for there is justice in this world
Thank God. Well done You
@tgale3866, you are lieing!
You probably a payed scammer from the "women's remain as victim, although women are lieing murderous creatures" group.
Pigs will fly before a family court makes a fair, competent, and non corrupt decision for the men.
The family court is only existing because of the favouritism they show for the women. Keep attacking men they say, he'll pay taxes.
The problem is that the courts do not take the time to do finding of fact investigations. And, what's more, you have to pay for your own defense. What about those without sufficient resources for legal defense? Does the State provide for that? No! What about the punishment to the children for not being able to see a loving parent ripped from their lives? Does the State pay for that? No! What about due process and punishment fitting the "crime"? Not happening. What about restorative justice measures against the false accuser? Also, not happening. What about the cost to the tax payer? Too bad. Public pays. No one cares. Politicians are too busy building bridges to no where.
Trials are fixed to the advantages of the prosecution. I think it's biased towards the rich.
Team up with people and create your own legal team of non-lawyers.
Doesn't solve problem of the judge though...
Continue to try and keep in contact with the children and they should be able to override the other parent and see you
Good luck
Kids are lucky to have fathers who love them
15 months of lies and being looked at as a monster social services writing reports that are just wrong based on someone's lies. Cafcass officers spitting venom about domestic abuse that never happened. I have seen my ex 3 times and been falsely arrested and any accusations through out, the court as stated siding with the ex. I'm begging for a finding of fact but after 3 hearing still no decision on getting that. As a father your guilty until proven innocent but if no one want to actually listen how do you have a voice. I understand the cautious view but the way you are presented and spoken to and the way the mother is listen to isn't just bias it's the system. How many fathers just fall away under the strain and stress or lack of money. The system is set up to close the book on fathers at the earliest opportunity it close the case and everyone get a result pat on the back at the expense of the father. To cap it all everyone says don't worry your lad will come back one day he will work it out while the system set up for child protection does the exact opposite and the child court in England is held in secret with no reporting I wonder why.
@@darrensmith7545 Get the children to say it how it is and write reports for you. References from friends, relatives etc. Lie detector tests? Photographic evidence of your contributions to the home. Prove that she was lying where she was lying to discredit her. Read about masculinism. And confirmation biases. Complain about CAFCASS if they have no evidence for their opinions.
Good luck.
@@julietcrowson3503 The children aren't listened to. Sorry, correction, the children ARE listened to and what they say is usually noted but nothing is actually done about their begging to see their parent(s), and other requests. That is mine and my daughter's experiences. It seems we are kept apart "just in case" I do some kind of harm to my daughter. The evidence is the reports made by my ex, which aren't backed up by my daughter. Unfortunately in a family court it is CAFCASS and SS who are listened to by the judge, and the rest of us are just liars if we don't go along with what the SW says as far as the court is concerned. I did manage to get legal aid but the legal aid lawyers just grease the cogs for the court.
@@Electrowave it is one f**** up system so sad. She's so lucky to have a Dad who wants to see her too. Not all actually want to remain doing the social father role.
As a whistleblower about SS, I understand a bit how injustices are made and families split up by poor quality decisions in the courts. It's c@@@@pt. It's a myth that the truth comes out in court.
Wish I could help you.
As she gets older, your daughter will have increasing 'power' to decide when she sees you, so keep trying and if you pray, pray more and some way round it might happen.
Remember important dates to write to her and make contacts... you're entitled to go to parents' evenings, to the Dr with her and there will b other chances...
D'you think putting in surveillance equipment would help you? It would be annoying to feel watched but might reassure cafSS...?
Good luck
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Allow me to undermine your theory with a real example. In my case the mother made false allegations of domestic violence against me. But in real life she was assaulting me, and in court I made allegations of domestic violence against her, providing police reports. What did the judge do? Starting on day one, the judge asked no questions about who was assaulting who, in order to figure out the truth. And at the same time, the court gave primary custody to the mother... Even with mutual allegations of domestic violence. It took me over 3 years to prove to the court that she was the violent one and only then did I get custody of our child. So the court's behavior is not caution. The court's behavior is laziness and gender discrimination.
Hi mate, same thing is happening to me right now, I am not named on the birth certificate, I have spoken to my solicitor and raised this but the court has said we will have to wait for the hearing to bring this up. Our baby is with a foster carer, they have given me a no contact order with the mother so can not go with her to the court to get put on it, I am going to the family court for the hearing in 5 days to face this. Have you got any advice you think will help me from your experience? Thanks
some delusional people will always think they are victims when facts state different
in many cases fathers make false allegations, what is your stand on this fact?
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@@emily7635The court should investigate properly as the OP wants it to do! Have you a problem with that regardless of the gender of the complainent or dependent?
If serious allegations are made against the mother, the court does sweet FA, whereas if an allegation is made against the man then the court is all over it, that is why the father is 8 times more likely to commit suicide going through family court
@@FTDTalk not true, my daughter has had my Grandchildren removed over false allegations perpetuated by the social worker lying with impunity in court. She has fought so hard but all her evidence is refuted even when that evidence is official
I’ve just been charged with assaulting both my children. I’m devastated. My ex wife has carried out a 6 year campaign to destroy our children’s relationship with me. Countless false inconsistent allegations, poisonous false messages about me to the kids. Now she’s got both my children to say I’ve got them and I’m no longer allowed unsupervised contact. She’s weaponised the police, the social services, the school, the doctors, woman’s aid etc.
I feel like I’ve been thrown to the wolves. I’m a devoted father to my two children and now I face the prospect of losing them because the system enables mothers to lie and create a false narrative
charged or accused? a charge of assault would be a criminal matter. from your message it sounds like your were accused not charged
May god grant you help and justice, god promises he will never allow some one to oppress and lie on some one god will get you your children back
@@SkylineTechnology I was arrested and charged but the court dropped the charges in August after having sight of the litany of lies and false allegations she had made over the years. I now have my children back and she is now being investigated for coercive control and using our children
My kids father lied and got a PO and included our children against me. I’ve been dealing with the family courts for 9 months! I wasn’t able to see or talk to my children for 3 weeks. He kept filing things to delay. I got the PO dismissed. Right now I have primary custody but it has been a long 9 months and we are not finished. God bless you and what happened to you. It’s really a hard position to be in when someone uses the kids as pawns, lies and manipulates. The amount of unnecessary stress on you and the children. I personally think the parents lying and manipulating should be charged criminally. It’s especially bad for the children and what they have to go through.
@@northern_lights9333thousands of women get mistreated by men and courts so don't think you are victimized because you are a man. there were other reasons.
I think with everything that's been happening recently it's safe to say the family courts are just corrupt and sexist now kills me
Of course your absolutely right the court think only females can look after children not males as well stupid court hate em
Yep. Far too patriarchal
@@TheKezmeister2011the family court has failed most men I know. It supports lieing and abusive mothers
False allegations should be punishable... as they get used as a defacto tool by some women to try and put a wedge between farther and child!
you don't include fact that some fathers make false allegations and they are not accountable
The problem with this is that no one prosecutes the false accusers for psychological and financial abuse of the other parent and the children. The result of which is that there is an incentive to lie and waste valuable public resources which strip the real victims of opportunities to protect themselves and the children. So, in essence, the system is complicit in the abuse and creation of even greater victimization by taking this "risk of abuse" approach.
Exactly, the system is an absolute shambles. It's not fit for purpose.
The problem with this system is it is low risk and high reward to the accuser… while high cost and high risk to the accused with little or no redress. I did well in my case but it damaged the relationship with my kids and cost me tens of thousands. My lawyer said highly unlikely that I could get costs as my ex was on support… conversely had I lost she would have been awarded costs. Wrap your head around that one… lol the law is a joke.
Meanwhile 2 or 3 years has gone by between the allegations and the trial...
If you're seeing red flags while you're dating them they're going to be 10 times worse when you're in court with them!
I agree it takes too long for the courts to figure out the actual facts.. Assuming the courts have a process to figure out the facts at all. That's why I now teach dads how to overcome the false allegations. It has gotten out of control.
The issue is that there are hardly ever any punishment dished out for people that make serious allegations that are then found to be untrue. Ultimately it leads to unfortunately generally mothers making horrific claims. The children then suffer from being obstructed from seeing both parents. The legal industry should fight for equal parenting by default. And on top of that if there have never been any abuse or violence claims made officially prior to separation then the judges should never prevent any parent from seeing their children. It's a terribly flawed system we have that doesn't help children much at all unfortunately.
I disagree. It is the reverse for me. Why would I flee and then the other party concocts spurious false allegations supported by enablers...it is a very difficult thing to leave. Im truly sorry if your experience is the total reverse....narcissism can greatly challenge the court's ability to know who is the real "spartacus" and this can occur to either party. Mutual abuse is unlikely. Generally there is reactive abuse which is entirely different.
The women involved not only don't face any deterrent, they are positively encouraged to lie - the money they can make is phenomenal, I reckon it at about £20,000 per hour (for lying and crying to a solicitor) after expenses - and as far as I can see it's tax free. But the children are torn apart and men deprived of their every day infrastructure so they cannot continue to make a living. For people who don't understand the psychology behind it, Narcissistic/psychopathic women want to degrade and character assassinate a man who has left them so they A) won't themselves get exposed B) can continue to control/gaslight him C) keep him subdued and on the back-foot so he will not find a partner to replace her. D) keep him down so he cannot afford legal recourse of hundreds of thousands of pounds (for a case now becoming in any way complex)
@@TheKezmeister2011 i think your wrong social workers judges all favour mothers help advise tell them what to say to get injunctions while they look down at fathers predict an assume an have rights to take away all the fathers rights have meetings make dississions orders an control your kids futures there rights on the basis of allegations after no charges an full investigation by police c.i.d an highly trained proffesonal domestic violence team an CPS all concludes it was false no charges appolligys an advised to stay away an mother dangerous but still get labled treated guilty lose kids fathers rights no options over choices aknowledgement contact or help its disgracefull kills dads everyday mothers should be charged an fethers rights become effected if guilty after conviction not without charge its inhumane wrong criminal insane an creates suicide mental torture breakdowns destroys fathers an kids ????????????laws need to change
I was served an ex parte non-molestation order and I had to attend a hearing for a occupation order for the house which I was living at. The female judge said that she'd used her 'discretion' to order the occupation order.. said my mother's right to home exceeded mine as she was supposedly old with health problems.. she completely disregarded the fact that I'd be made homeless and didn't even consider the fact that I'd not be given priority status so there would not have been any duty on a local authority to place me in emergency housing ..I was truthful as I said that I'd have to spend my savings to pay towards hotel costs so the judge casually said I'd means. She failed to understand that the accuser was being accommodated by the local authority prior to moving back into my father's house. Where was the application of discretion for me? It is humiliating that have to go through a third party such as the police to get my belongings 😢 I can't visit my childhood home 🏡
Speaking legal jargons don't really help the falsely accused person. I make it easy for you. All a woman has to do if she doesn't get what she wants is claim that her husband "touched" (you know what I mean) while she was half-asleep/not sure/not ready/not 100 with it, etc.... and the police can arrest the guy at work in front of his colleagues.
The problem is that the police first arrests the man publicly THEN investigates privately while the woman remains anonymous and can get away with it. There's almost no risk for the woman unless the case gets some publicity.
What about women who falsely accuse someone of Rape? What can a man do especially when the police don't want to know, yet they were all too quick to take samples and then drop the case without giving you any information on the evidence
You are angry at the police that they take samples? I think it's their policy they have to follow. They must take samples! If you had nothing to hide why are you bothered with samples? You can get results from Police. Follow the procedure on obtaining reports. You don't say Police denied you results so go and ask for them.
They don't read the paperwork even a simple 6 page bundle including the original orders of 3 pages and judge said in middle of hearing I haven't seen the original orders until it was pointed out to her it was in the bundle. Incompetency at best dereliction of duty violation of oath of office and endangerment under common law 'wanton' in reality, the judge really didn't like being cautioned under section 10.1 pace and is mortified if you notify senior ministry of justice MP'S, threatening high court until you say yes escalate it to high court then they refuse to do so showing one they are scared of it being put in high court and two they are scared of being exposed.
The same thing happened to me. The court did not bother to read my petitions which contained 15 allegations of the mother's criminal or bad behavior... And they gave her custody, temporarily. It took me 3 years and 28 hours of testimony to force the court to pay attention to the actual facts... Only then was I awarded custody of our son.
The judges act like that they are infallible 😮 They don't really take the time.. It is how you present yourself in court so if they see a sniffling frail woman crying then they will by default side with her. They don't realise that such women are cunning manipulators and crafted this act over a period of many years..😢
@@FatherX2022why aren't I not surprised 😢
I have had a woman make three harassment claims against me. The first went to trial and was thrown out of court. The second went to the CPS and came back no further action. The third did not make it out of the police station and was concluded no further action but not closed kept open in case further evidence comes to light. This woman has told countless provable lies in her police statement. She has made false claims of stalking to the stalking help line. The stalking help line letter of support can not be verified as being from the Stalking Help Line people so it may be fake. The police are not interested in prosecuting this woman and make excuses to cover up their very obvious mistake in not properly investigating this woman's claims. I have been arrested twice one time having to spend 12 hours in a police cell. Cautioned once at a police station when I attended voluntarily to the police station (never do that people it's a trap). Every time I have made attempts to have this woman brought to book for her wrong doing I get frustrated by the lack of interest from the police. There is also clear evidence of fraud but the police are simply not interested. WHAT CAN I DO!
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Did you honestly expect any help from the police? Try lodging a complaint against the Constables involved, it won't go anywhere but it may force some higher up to actually find out what should have been done and they may have the matter discussed at further training events where how these matters should be dealt with can be taught.
@@wjf0ne None of my police complaints ever go anywhere. Even though they botched everything up, nothing happens to them. They should be sacked if they do their job wrongly.
@@wjf0ne The acronym IOPC means Intend Obscuring Police Corruption.
this "interim period" is also know as the period where mother alienates the children.
The other parent just steps up their game to make it so. Unfortunately the delay in family courts assists in that.
Not true
Contrarily, A cautious approach would be to protect the child from no contact, and let the child continue to have contact with both parents until those allegations are found to be true...
doesnt happen thats the whole arguement its inhumane for dads an the children needs addressing laws an fathers rights in place an stop good dads killing themselves everyday without any justice statistics evidence proves its inhumane destroying innocent dads lives without a thought an caused millions of suicides each year WTF why is it legal ???????
Been arrested and released on sec 20 and had to wait a year to see my daughter, the entire family court process has taken over 3 years and over a year of that was a clear stalling tactic. Me and the mother are now on talking terms, would it be wise to see her charged for accusing me of such things and destroying a year of my life? Sadly I just have to take it for what it is. Contact is still supervised at my mum's, but it's almost at its end and I'm about ready to ask for a decision to be made. It's a hard thing to experience and even harder to face the fact there is no recourse. You just grow stronger as a person. That's it. That's all
It’s hideous, it’s absolutely destroying they all get away with murder and it ruins lives. Enough is enough too many people have suffered. Proactive actions need to be addressed
Jesus. U got it man. U are not alone. Its so unfair. Stay strong.
I had a friend excluded from his children and home on the basis he was abusing them, he wasn't.
The mother was a drug addict and wanted him out of the house and 'supporting' her habit. He is the kind of man that lived for his family and being a provider. It took him over a year to get access to his children. But he was distraught because he knew what was really going on and no one would believe him.
Eventually got an emergency order to protect the children. He had to pay for his solicitors, social workers/ safety officer, the judge and police.
Remember it was just her word that was taken 100%.
They did an unexpected home visit on the mother. Children were neglected, mother was out of her face on drugs in the middle of an orgy when the police forced entry (middle of the afternoon). He got his children back, but nothing happened to the mother.
That's so sad and messed up. But doesn't surprise me 1 bit. It says on women's aid website that if a woman has no evidence then her words can be used as evidence. Says it all about the legal system in this country.
I hear what you are saying. However, it is almost impossible to overturn a negative and false statement of dv made by a women. A family member of mine did q fact find, and despite this they agreed with the false accusations from his ex based on her words alone. They didn't consider any letters from the police saying her aligations were unfounded and that things she stated were untrue. Nor would they consider messages from a witness she has asked to falsify a statement. They courts are unbalanced and biased towards women. You only need to look at the amber heard uk trial to see this. Its a carbon copy of my family members case. Hasn't seen daughter in 7 years now
The issue is yes they act cautiously and act to protect the child.
But when the allegations are found to be untrue /malicious the the court does not act and hold the person to account for perjury. Not only that the time lost by the she from the other parent which 99% of the time is the father is irreplaceable. The emotional damage done to the child in not having contact for months can take years to repair. All because of a bitter lying ex. Simple fact. Family court perjury is allowed and accepted. Contempt of court is allowed and accepted openly.
I agree. When the court knows the mother lied but refuses to hold her accountable for perjury or contempt of court... It is a clear indication that the court has no interest in maintaining the integrity of the Justice system. There is no hiding from that obvious fact. And all family court judges who hide from this obvious fact are demonstrating their lack of character.
When the court does a finding of fact and concludes the allegations are false, why doesn't the liar never get punished.
So for example, during a child custody case. The mother makes a false allegation of child abuse against the father. Custody is temporarily ordered to the mother. Then by the time the court finally concludes she lied, the court then says a child has bonded with the mother and awards her custody. Why isn't the mother punished for lying to the court? Why is she awarded for her lie by getting custody?
Keep in touch with your children - send photos, birthday cards, write to them, tell them you love them, telephone them, take them out - if you're allowed to - small but frequent you love them to keep you in their thoughts.
Kids can and do override their parents' wishes and when they're old enough, can decide and insist on seeing both parents
Good luck
@@julietcrowson3503 can't keep in touch when the mother throws away the letters and presents.
@@keithcolman9868 that is so sad I wish I could help. Keep trying and some things will get through - maybe keep photos of what you've sent so you can prove you're trying to maintain your parental rights? To show children when they're older? Isn't it illegal to deny a child contact with their father? Churches or Citizens advice might suggest ways of helping?
Good luck
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maybe court knew that she spoke the truth 😮 why are fathers not punished for false allegations and helped to not to be accountable? so this is apparently ok?
My wife has had a non molestation order against me and lied through her teeth to the courts and now I'm not allowed to MY home and now can't get any of my belongings the judge even talked me out of having my day in court, as I was unfamiliar with the court system and my mental health was very poor due to the mental abuse my wife had put me through I agreed not to do it
happen to me to bud. They are rewarded for lying. Every second person knows a dad in this exact same position. The only reason mothers are in the parks is because all the dads have non molestation orders on them. I have one on me also, i know 10 fathers just taking to the barba, new coffee shop owner, fathers at the school, everyone knows someone with a non molesation order on them. NO criminal record, no police chargers.
My daughter had her two children taken off her after a PLO court order. My grandchildren are with a foster carer. When my daughter when to see her children at a contact center. She noticed her 2 month old son had a tight bib on him that was cutting into his neck. There was two other people who witnessed it. Yet nothing was done about it. Also my grandaughter had bruises down her legs while in the care of the foster carer. Can you tell us please where we stand. Also social service lied in court saying that my daughter never let them in when they came round which was a lie.@BlackBeltBarrister
A real help... This is exactly the situation I'm faced with... Had an initial hearing today. Thanks.
My friends wife has been abusing his two children mentally and physically the kids made a statement against her but the stupid judge still let her stay in the house which he pays for from mortgage to bills and food, the judge knows the kids don't want to be with her but I don't know what the judge was thinking, the school was a cross the road from his house but now it's about 5 miles away because the kids are staying at the father's parents home. The system is messed up big time and the solicitor he has is only interested in making his bill higher and higher even charging him if he sends her a message over the phone lol. Bloody joke. Best thing DONT GET MARRIED
You mean in 90% of cases the mother can act and say what she wants
So what happeneds then if it has gone to court 4 times and all four time I had the same aligaions and all 4 times they were found fales each time and yet the court didn't investigate any aligaions from me only from the mum
I also recognized that the courts only pay attention to allegations against the father while ignoring any bad actions alleged against the mother. Now I teach dads how to overcome that bias, and force the courts to pay attention to the actual facts instead of being lazy.
What if your partner was forced by social services to make a false allegation of domestic violence coercive and controlling behaviour because the social worker told your partner that if she didn’t make the statement they would make sure that your child will never be seen again the police invested the allegations and it was proved that there was no grounds for the allegation
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Been through unfounded allegations (all false of course) My advice, don't take it personally (hard how that might be - your attitude will be noted) just be completely transparent with CAFCASS/Child Guardian. Make all appointments (early if possible)
Remember the case isn't about the parents (you guys don't matter!)
Family law isnt about parents personal s*it!
Family law is solely about the wellbeing of the child/children.
Their physical, emotional, educational & health needs are paramount!
Always think "What is best for the child/children?"
I wish wholeheartedly this was true however cafcass found my ex to be mentally abusing my daughter however still only gave me 1 extra night so not even 50/50. They said my home was loving and safe and my daughter wanted to spend more time with me but still that was there verdict. The system is biased towards mothers and this is one of thousands of examples. They say it’s equal rights but that only comes down to paying for them and nothing else unfortunately
Terrible advice. I can't tell you how much of a disgrace CAFCAS can be.
All very correct, but, the women (it is mostly women) know how the system works, once you get back to court (months later) and all the false allegations are dismissed, they then say that a routine has been established and they don't want that routine disrupted, so mother gets custody.
The system is biased in women's favour, and there are no repercussions to the party who made the false allegations.
My son's mother got temporary custody based on false allegations. I proved she was the violent one in court after 3 years. And I told the judge that the current routine, where the mother is primary custodial parent, was initially made based on false allegations and is not in the best interests of the child. So we cannot continue a bad routine that is in the worst interests of the child... Just because the court made an uninformed decision on day one.
the system is abusing innocent including mothers and children, the system allows facts perverting and this is flipping wrong.
The problem is it takes so long to get to the facts that the children's relationship with the wronged parent can be irretrievably damaged.
I had a court hearing today and the local authority had 3 different reports written by experts. MY ex-wife solicitor came out with some nonsense and despite the overwhelming evidence they wanto another hearing. I was appalled by it! I had the feeling the none of those people had actually read any of the reports.
I'm sorry to hear about your case. A friend of mine is going through something similar. Nothing moves quickly, unfortunately, the system is too slow and your expectations are never met because nothing makes sense with family courts. Judges keep placing hearings despite evidence and common sense. Apparently, a verbal accusation of something you've never done is stronger than 100s of solid proofs. Wish you all the best, let's know how it goes.
They don't read the paperwork even a simple 6 page bundle including the original orders of 3 pages and judge said in middle of hearing I haven't seen the original orders until it was pointed out to her it was in the bundle. Incompetency at best dereliction of duty violation of oath of office and endangerment under common law 'wanton', the judge really didn't like being cautioned under section 10.1 pace and is mortified if you notify senior ministry of justice MP'S, threatening high court until you say yes escalate it to high court then they refuse to do so showing one they are scared of it being put in high court and two they are scared of being exposed.
What if your solicitor didn't include your evidence? Even when you have proof that you sent that information over ?
Absolutely disgusting this system. My story I gave birth and she was removed for domestic violence. I got her back and the farthers disappeared. He at a later date put in for contact, that was supervision. They deemed him fit to have contact by himself. I then argued against this and I stopped contact every time she came back she was sick. I logged everything with 111 but nothing made a difference with social services and the judge my then 2 year old daughter made allegations about daddy and her..... You know what. I called the police who said no evidence. I was then subject to child protection conference accused of paternal alienation. The documents during that investigation were falsified refering to her medical notes. I had an investigation from the GP who said yes the medical records were falsified. I asked the judge what he was going to do he said it's nothing to do with him. I then got a letter saying at the child protection conference it is agreed that because you have stopped and started contact it is classified as emotional abuse. This is still private law there is no care order application from them they just said that. This is corruption at the very core of the family court. Social services and the same judge have had this case since 2018 to date all in private law proceedings. They no they placed her with someone who's a risk and to cover there own backs they can't admit it, they rather blame me for emotional abuse. Cowardly lien corrupted system. I have represented my case for 4 years and if someone independent was to look into this case it would most certainly be of public interest. U have only said the half of what's going on. Meanwhile I know If I Stop contact ever again she will be gone my only daughter. This is a violent man who subjected me to horrific domestic violence. There's no excuse for there disgusting behaviour they have put me through 4 years of hell. I live in fear every second knowing if I ever try again to protect my baby daughter from that monster she will be gone and so will I.
You sound like a psychopath.
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i was giving full custody of my children .4 years ago .and she never bothered.having contact with them .two xmas ago when i took children to her .she slammed the door on me and my children..SS spoke to my children about that incident .her allegations to police and then to the courts .prove beyond doubt that she has lied to police and the family court..6 months ago she broke the court order by snatching my two youngest and has not allowed me any contact with them since ..i took my 14 year old to her last xmas...i texted her last week asking her if i could bring daughter to her in school holiday .and for her to drop my daughter back.she ignored my text..just had email saying the new court case has been moved to her town .4 hour drive away..can some one please advise me please .
this happened to me 3 weeks ago was horrible. the worst thing that happened in my life im still a bit in shock.
My life ended with 3 lies easily proven there and then if they gave me the chance to show it before they arrest me.
The worst it is happening so much that these woman really abuse it.
There must be a better way. This is not on.
Hit me really hard fisically emotionally financially i lost everyhting my daughters the dog ive trained the house i refurbished my belongings was left with summer clothes in the cold without bank cards phones any to comunicate or work.
Omg 😮 are you ok now? I am in a similar situation.
My narcissistic Ex oozed charm, & had totally convinced the mediator & the court appointed psychologist that I was an negligent evil child molester. She got everything she wanted & I was left with only a few hours of visitation a month. I had to bite my tongue & lay low. Before long, she was using me as a near daily baby sitter & several times left our toddler daughter overnight. I made sure to documented visits with a variety of witness when possible. I asked several people to write statements to the mediator, including several people who were her friends & relatives. We subsequently had several joint sessions with the psychologist which sometimes ended in arguments between the two. The psychologist later admitted that he had been totally duped by her. The mediator also flipped.
The ex- disappeared with the child for 8 months. I was given total custody. When she was bribed back, the court tried to make visitation work with more session with the psychologist. The court also had me investigated by the Probation Dept. Further false accusation lead to 4-5 investigations by CPS, once by the local police, & once by the FBI. I was physically assaulted annually for nearly a decade, which were documented by police reports & police photos, which were totally ignored by the court. Other than shame in losing custody, she was never penalized for any of her actions. It was never a fair fight at any point.
When the daughter was around 12, she decided to cut off all ties with her mom & has held steady to that position for over 30 years. She is now a therapist who specializes in trauma using EMDR, neurofeedback, & Havening. She now believes mom that should never have had custody or any visitation at anytime.
They should not be entertained by family Courts. But we all know the exact opposite is true.
Men are openly slandered and accused of the vilest things to give a woman what she wants.
Slander is hard currency in family Courts.
Outside of it its a criminal offence.
Judges throw a dice based on 'balance of probability'.
The system is evil. Using slanderous claims on court is evil. An it is encouraged by solicitors to get a quick result.
How they sleep at night is the only real mystery.
I think that family court judges are too lazy, incompetent, and gender biased to be able to make intelligent decisions in the best interests of the child.
Appologys I cannot read the response.
So you are presumed guilty and punitive action taken against until you are able to refute the allegation.
Kinda goes against the basis of law, there again they say the want to err on the side of caution which we must accept is sensible.
There again there must be punitive action taken against anyone who makes false allegations as not to makes a mockery of the court, and as we all realize that despite what they tell you about the welfare of the child, vulnerable person, deceitful liar or honest accuser is paramount, the authority of the court trumps all.
Just just came across your channel and its very insightful. I have a question. I have a experience with a social worker with no affiliation to me or any professional working with me. Said social worker went behind our professionals back and ours without any disclosure of intention and never asked consent. They called up my childs nursery to ask if he had a speech therapist of anything like that. Guess to try and make a case against us. Is this criminal? If so is it classed and invasion of privacy? I'm aware that each jurisdiction may work on a different set of laws. Like Acts and Laws. If it's of any help I like in Scotland
had this happen to me, its been 6 months and we finally filing, but it will take 1 year. Soliciotrs say the evidence is in my favour. I know so many dads this has happened to. But by the end it will be 1/2 years and i miss my kids growing up. The whole system is wrong.
I am currently victime of false allegation that the family court believed. They took my son sash from me in supervised visits. The allegations are absurd and irrational but I believe that discrimination against me is also the reason
I know someone who made a sexual assault/rape claim against her then partner, in an effort to obtain a non molestation order and stop them from seeing their child, it took a while, but he got a solicitor and fought back, proved there was no assault or rape, no police record of abuse, was not present at the times stated, the order was dropped, and he can see his child, nothing has been done about the false allegation, turns out the social never even reported the poor living condition the mother had the child in, there are photos showing the condition the solicitor presented, but with nothing from the social worker it still goes on.
Hey barrister, my ex gf accused me of attempted manslaughter and rape. I was arrested and held for 14 hours in a cell. Police put me on parole for 6 months, after this a detective told me due to a lack of evidence the case is being closed so I wasnt charged.. my ex gf lied and used a false allegation against me because when we split up I said I'm getting social services involved because your an illegal immigrant and you cant feed my child; I need custody and you cant provide a life for her in this country. So yeh, police chose her side and ruined my life for 6 months. That was back in january 2018, and to this day I still struggle to get to see my daughter, I was on video chat with my daughter a month ago who now calls me by my first name not dad and right after the call, the ex gf went to police and said I was violent on the video chat. So shes blocked me from seeing my kid indefinitely. Plz explain to me, I'm a uk citizen, no charges, no criminal record and I'm working full time with a gf - do we have a case against my ex for false allegations and custody of my child. Ps not happy with Cambridgeshire police, you guys did an utter shamble of a job
Make an application to court in form c100 and get a child arrangements order.
Absolutely disgraceful behaviour, women in this country seem to get away with lying all the time in the courts 😮
Good morning! I really enjoy your content. It would be amazing to see a 20-minute video offering an introduction to family law. I think it would be incredibly engaging and helpful.
The problem I think are the dominant borderline traits in women and higher narcissism in men, even if you don’t have the condition. I am by no means a narcissist but if I would make a false allegation against my ex, I am almost 100% certain that it would be found to have been made out of malice. Why? Because I would not even be capable of playing the concerned victim. However, this is what the borderline side does to perfection. If they make the false allegations they are the concerned victim and if the false allegation is being made against them they are the accused victim.
I think it has a lot to do with these subtleties and how you come across and men are just not so good at these things. Men show overtly what they are about for everyone to see (also the court). Women do this way more covertly leaving everyone confused and siding with them in the first instance and even if the allegation turns out false they portray themselves as the so concerned “protective mother”.
There needs to be a robust judge and an experienced psychologist to uncover the bullshxt and see behind it.
Often the hearing where contact is cut is lead by magistrates or lower positioned judges who have no clue and want to better be safe than sorry and that is unfortunately siding with the victim.
The psychologist in my case said that it is important that claimed victims are believed in the first instance but at some point reality needs to kick in….she did not like that and what did she do….play the victim….”the psychologist is against me” and the judge fell for it.
After almost 5 years I am one hearing away from a residency transfer but it was one hell of a ride. Litigating against a borderline women is hell. Not because she makes the false allegations but because everyone believes her crap (also when she pretends to support the relationship between me and my child). I needed a clinician with 40 years experience in the family courts to unravel what is really going on, namely the severe emotional abuse of our child
In other words: if you're a man, expect to be utterly screwed over by the court in the short to medium term, with a possibility that the screwing might stop in the longer term once the court has actually examined evidence.
many women can say the same 😮
@@emily7635 No. That's untrue. False allegations in family court are overwhelmingly made by women against men.
The court now has been improved. They gave the court order and as soon as the mum says no and give a false accusation, the court believes her and withdraw the court order and keep believing the accusations. I’ve never seen this high level of corruption before 😂
It is a massive problem for a male... the amount of money that gets burnt through to have legal representation is beyond imagining till you go through it. Your own legal representivitive is going to sting you a massive fee for discovery, then a big fee just to answer the phone to you every time a phone call between you and them occurs. There will be pre hearings and attempts at mediation all of which build your hopes up that the crazy expensive night mare is ending soon, but chances are it won't. And there is a very good chance at some point in all of this you will be coerced into getting new legal representation requiring new discovery fees and phone calls. Of course the more money you have the more meetings you can afford!
Then you get to court and in many cases your lawyer will hand you over to a barrister... and they can charge you figures to make your eyes water, yet likely categorise you as all the other males in the system 'the payer'. Luck seems to play a big part in how much you get taken off you... and just ignore any suggestions part if the property settlement will count towards child support.
Then when you hear false accusations being made... what are you going to do... you can just shut up and get it over with.... or you could challenge it... the court will order a certain settlement, so if you argue the false accusations it will not save the asset, only take you down maybe the path of trying to get money out of the settlement process... allowing the legal companies to stall your settlement and hole both parties money in trust for extended periods doing neither party any good. Mean while more legal expenses, which could very well add up to more than you would get from any adjusted settlement.
My advice is knowing only 30% of marriages do not get past 20 years...and very many more are failed marriages in which the couple stay together in misery, since they cannot afford the legal losses...... use your brain and don't get married! And something to look forward to is your child support will be calculated on your gross income but deducted from your nett income...
One last thing your likely to find starting a new life, you might be paying 35% income tax but then on top of that 30% child support, both calculated in your gross but deducted from your nett income, leaving you 35% of your income to live on after loosing all your home and all your assets.and that is not uncommon!
If any of it makes you angry towards your former partner, expect they will take out a restraining order against you, because they can and that will save them having to share custody with you.... or hear any of your complaints.
Family courts in the USA do not follow several areas of "due process" as guaranteed by our Constitution...this violation makes them illegal courts
Her witness statement contains lies and deceit. If I complete the FL403 discharge form, what happens if there is a hearing and I lose?
My question would be why false allegations seem to be taken seriously no matter how many times previous allegations from the same party have been proven false?
I don't want to sound like some people in this comments section, but it does seem like it's usually one side who gets the benefit of the doubt, and one who's assumed guilty until proven innocent, and that doesn't seem to change no matter how many times the evidence contradicts the first party or how many times the second party is shown to genuinely have the best interest of the children in mind.
Awwww
I cried watching this
I really am broken from betrayal
I know I’ve s unfair but doesn’t stop fear or lack of trust
With police and courts it is important to speak first. what is said first becomes the initial case. they will then defended it by all comers. It is comforting to believe that people are open minded and every one is heard equally, but human psychology just isn't like that and these people whatever their position in the justice system are human the same as the rest of us. Knowing how they think and prosess the information is just as important as the law.
Does not work.
If an ex makes up you have a drinking problem but you literally drink like once a month so it’s so far from the truth it’s a joke.
How can you disprove someone?
Should I do a liver test?
How would I go about filing a non molestation order without a solicitor? The person in question has a previous conviction of assault against me and his emotional abuse is ongoing towards me and my family
Answered on #BlackBeltSecrets !
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I need help myself but everyone ive reached out like police, social services, council does not help
And if the judge refuses to see the evidence?
What can i do to get my name cleared , i was tlaken to a family Court . I was not given adequete time to find a Solicitor . My ex lied in Court and the courts did not what to see any evidence to show that i was innocant and i now what my name cleared .
Hi. I have been a L.i.p for the past 4 years. Only recently my ex partner made a false rape allegation during a section 7 interview. This was published in section 7. Completely and totally fabricated. Now I have a hearing on 22/12/2020 which is a full days hearing regarding repeated breaches by expartner. Would it be in my best interest to begin civil proceedings against her for defamation and libel?
This is example of false accusations: www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/blog/2017/07/06/ex-wife-jailed-for-contempt-after-defaming-husband/
@@BlackBeltBarrister That is a helpful link. Thank you.
@@BlackBeltBarrister She was not punished for false accusations in court. She was punished for a public campaign of vilification, including sending 100s of lying emails less than 24 hours after a court order forbade her from further defamation. The judge only took action because otherwise his authority would have become an utter joke. That this is the only irrelevant "example" you can find to even pretend to address the issue shows how completely corrupt our system is.
Reading the comments below makes me glad to be ugly and never had or will have a relationship with a woman. No 80/20 divorce for me.
My ex partner has applied for a non molestation order based on lies. The things he’s put on the order contradict what is on the police reports he made. What do I do about this? I submitted my evidence but he got an emergency order granted. I’ve spoken to the police and they’ve told me that it’s unlikely he will still have it after I’ve contested it. But what’s the likelyhood of it being dropped if they see that it’s all false? And what will be done about him lying?
I suggest you seek advice from a barrister and compile your evidence properly to contest it.
@@BlackBeltBarrister Really?!
You can do nothing. Absolutely nothing. Once its issued its done. The court is deaf. Evidence wont matter. No one is listening
I spent 30k on legal fees and im still no able to see my children. I need help to go to court but how do i get help in court now with no money? Please can you help
Hi, I hope you read this:
I am a Qualified Law Graduate. I Specialise in Criminal and Prison Law.
However, after the cut backs to Legal Aid, I am without any good Job Prospects in this Field.
Nevertheless, I find myself constantly Fighting Cases in the Family Courts for Friends, as a Mackenzie Friend.
This obviously restricts me, as to the Right to ask questions myself for my Friend. (I'm NOT a fee earner)
Question: if my Friend cannot read, is it not possible for me to ask the questions for her?
This is really relevant as Social Services lie in all the Cases I've been involved with.
This is really concerning, but I just wish to help this Lady as much as I can.
Kind regards
Hi BBB,
One Q please.
I would be greatfull if you could give your best ever response to me here to this question.
What is your view and the Laws Order Justice with Remedy
To a Judge saying verbally in court and confirming the same in a Judgement Document which I hold saying as follows,
“” It is irrelevant and makes no difference as it has no bearing to the case or facts that the social workers have lied about everything “”.
What happens if you are falsely accused and thay are found untrue and then you are accused of the same allegations a second time round only to be found false a second time what do the do then
Start saving your money for counsel. You're in for a long ride.
I have a situation
My ex using my son to acuse me of sexual abuse/since december2019 until now she refuses acess,police did conclude the investigaton,sent a file to pps,(no actions taken)because until today i denied all.(she made this in order to stop a court order for acess,granted by court.social services dont want to get envolve..they claim that they dont know how the child come up with such high alegations(he was 4y(p1 school)
Now im goin for "administrative first directions"
In march
What actions can the court take to ensure that second false alegations don't happen/if is prove in court that they are false.
Does the court have the power to remove the child from his mom?
Or wil they do it in order to protect the child of any more danger.
Thanks
Hi, you need to secure representation to make sure the case is put properly- feel free to get in touch we can arrange this.
@@BlackBeltBarrister thanks,my solicitor is dealing with all the steps,that is the question that makes me wonder how far a court is willing to go,or to say enough is enough.
Because its 5years in this figth and i'm getting tired of seeing that she can do anything to prevent my acess with my son and nothing happens to her/i did never expect to be acuse of such crime,and until now the legal sistem is a joke.
Based on the assement of social services..the child was coach...to say this words...because they did ask him again if he enjoys time with his father "he said to them yes"/and "he would like to see his father again"
This has to be the dumbest shit I have heard in a while.
You can play word games ALL day long but the truth is as follows.... if allegations are believed, the court IS taking sides
Only in britain no investigation made before proceeding
I agree with social services in Stoke on trent I moved away to keep my children safe . Social services say I had low q and I asked over 20 years for a device and never got done I never put my children in danger the court say my gran died when Joshua was born and she never did the court did bleave tham its made me angry with court and solicitors and social services I been blamed for something I did not do
Over 20 years I have been asked to devose my ex nothing got done when I went to court the court say we are taken money out of public funding and don't tell the public thay are taken money for children and courts how come thay get away with it
Thank you for this. I'm an adult survivor of childhood abuse. I'm contemplating legal action for historical abuse 40 years ago. Can you advise who in I should speak to?. For what it's worth I live near Lichfield.
Children are traumatized when dad suddenly disappears. Protect children?? By removing children from mom. For adoption?? Crazyness..
I lost my hole life with wot seemed 2 me as no evidence at all. I was told by my solicitor to sign an undertaking but that meant I had to leave everything. I haven't seen my children 4 6yrs now. I had no previous I have never been arrested there was no evidence of violence but I lost everything. And it will be the death of me. It need sorting out.
did you get barring order? go back with c100 form, without clown solicitor
@@jamesappleby sorry. Wot is a barring order?
How do you fight the system with a section 12 gag order what is the sentence going against this order
The court doesnt investigate anything except how much money they can extract from your life
My court oder is not working the court oder says i should pick up my kid Sundays and drop her Monday but my ex saying I can only pick my child on Saturday and drop of on Sunday cuz my ex goes to work on Monday but the went I pick my child up on Saturday my ex she away late by 30 min an went I tell her u breaking the court oder she says I'm not breaking no court order cuz the court oder says Sunday and if im breaking court order on Saturday im not really breaking no court oder cuz the coud says on Sunday what shoud i do I need s advice please
Feel free to get in touch with us and we can review it. clerks@ShenSmith.com
If the woman makes an allegation of abuse she will receice legal aid. So good strategy. Man who wants to defend against it will need a sack full of money. He will probably be advised to accept the conditions of the initial decision butvnot accept the allegations. Rrputation tarnished because the system favours women.
I was gagged through out so good luck with this
Set some ground rules how careers can text parents and talk about parents infront of child also on medical reports. As you need permission from all adults due to patient confidentiality a doctor can’t discuss another patient confidentiality about them and apparently they can do so without it being a concern of not being a fact only a opinon that can be misleading. As a personal opinion. That’s my opinion as I forgiven my mothers friend.
I could really do with your help .. police and court of protection matter .. Are you taking cases?
Yes we do! www.ShenSmith.com
This is beautifully spoken BUT the courts are not in the best interest of the child - children - kid kids or the family, if the story on both side effect the court system How on earth does jusice be donw and the wrongdoer/s be accountable...BlackBeltBarrister
How to deal? Run far far away...
I they don’t in the Northeast
Services do this all the time to remove children and stop contact
Don't be too harsh on this bootlicker...
as a barrister, he has to work with judges etc.... daily. He simply CANNOT admit that the family court system is grossly biased along gender lines.
If he did admit that....or any such truth....he would be quietly marginalised. his career would be harmed. and future outcomes to any cases he worked on....well they would be worse.
but he can't even admit THAT. for the same reasons.
read between the lines he reads....he's telling you that our system is a joke
much love to the poor, downtrodden BBB
Fantastic
Hi, you talked for two minutes without providing any answer.
If only your words were the case.
This is such a weak, gas lighting, argument. The whole foundation of our legal system is based on the presumption of innocence. The massaging of this fundamental principle of law,p as outlined in this video, is a very slippery slope which has led to the gross abuses of our justice system. If the courts, were even remotely efficient in hearing such cases than this 'conservative' approach could arguably be tolerated though certainly not justified. Such cases take years not weeks to work their way through the courts. In regards to investigations, this is a furphy. There is no investigation. The police do not investigate these false allegations but instead take the conservative approach of 'least harm' and act on the behalf of the accuser, leaving it to the courts to administer justice. In cases such as those mentioned in the video, due to the courts 'conservative' approach, the onus of proof has disturbingly creeped from the state being required to prove guilt to the falsely accused needing to prove their innocence; at great expense. Aside from the emotional and finacial toll of this 'conservative' approach on the falsely accused, this shift in the burdon of proof is a disturbing breakdown of the fundamental principles that make up our system of justice. Moreover, in the cases of divorce where the most spurious charges can be made into an avo and children added to that avo, the courts are not protecting children but instead often emboldening the dangerous, falsely accusing, narcissistic parent that is causing emotional or physical harm to thie children. As there is no recourse for this party's false accusations due to the courts fear that genuine victims will not come forward, the false victim is able to abuse this system with impunity. This 'conservative' approach moreoften does not help children it harms them. This goal seems to want to gaslight the falsely accused into thinking their unfair treatment by the courts is fair and just, which is just not true.
Please help me
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The court does not give a fuck if they are true the mother of my baby her shotgun got non molestation order without anything like im a peado
Wish I could put pic of screenshot between my mom and daughters mom and her saying we are offto court because my mom told her to shut her legs. Got a 6 month promise rather than 12 mo nth 1
Truth always comes out
My daughter will be our judge. She will no her daddy cares even if it takes another 15 years. That mother she will obviously no. The judges are named. I will be able to look my lilly in the eyes and tell her I tried. Unlike the ones she thinks love her but have used her
If you have made a POLICE report, within time keeping of family court, before it is stated ‘insufficient evidence’ with POLICE. You have to order for an ANNEX H, so that your case POLICE, can be viewed in entirety.
The practice procedure 12J, (fact finding)
is a none applicable procedure.
You have a time limit, once the POLICE, state evidential difficulties, an ANNEX H within ‘fact finding’ will be void. Even when the crimes committed against adult and child are extremely serious and classified as torture.
Do not feel like a liar, do not judge yourself.
If you were pervasively tortured and raped and abducted as an adult or even if your child or newborn was abducted.
They will always, DROP that case, they will downgrade it by merits to ‘false imprisonment’ not holding justice to prevalence as ‘adult abduction or kidnap’, ‘honour base abuse’, ‘rape’, ‘child sexual assault’ until they state that the finalised all the reports to ‘evidential difficulties’.
You must, ask for order of ANNEX H.
Also be aware, every family case you will be assessed the duration for litigation and psychological capacity,
This is low level, law.
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