I always tell my clients, “I changed my major 3 times in college. My Dad’s cousin is in his 50s and still cannot decide. It is okay to change your mind.”
@@Katimorton I also tell them that if they cannot decide and want to take a gap year, to at least go to a community college and get the basic classes taken care of. It is cheaper and then they can focus on their major’s classes when they decide.
@@Katimorton Katy there is a fake account called "Kati Morton" with your name. they replied to my comment above. I've reported them, I wanted to let you know maybe you can take it up with YT :)
"We have to have (etc) by the age of 30". I'm 34 and I had and ditched all of that to find what I wanted, not what I was pressured to want. It's still not easy, the pressure is still there from the family. But I'm taking it from here.
Late to the party here but I’m 37 and still working out what I want and drowning out everyone else’s opinions. It’s not always obvious what we all want. It’s a process.
I just dropped out of dental school this year to figure out what actually “I” want to do with my life and not my parents dictating my life to me! It actually took a lot of courage and a whole lot of panic attacks for me to finally stand up to them and speak my truth! To tell them Exactly what you said that good grades don’t automatically imply that I wanna become a doctor! Maybe l wanna be a writer or a teacher! I just have to figure it out by myself in my own time.
U r right. I think about people who also get married, or have kids in their 20s, and before they turn 40, they're exhausted, suffocated. So they get divorced, and try to make up for single life they missed.
@youngen rich after my divorce I “dated” myself for 2yrs & spent that time learning to love myself and knowing my worth. I’m just reentering the dating pool right now & I’m so glad I took that time off because I’m much more confident & I’m not putting pressure on myself or in potential partner
I’m 33. I have a BA in psychology and am currently in trade school to become an electrician. I remind myself regularly that what I’m doing now doesn’t have to be what I’m doing forever.
reasons cited by Kati 1. we grow and change 2.people pleasing is a trap 3.not every decision is final 4.careers and productivity are not the only ways to build a happy healthy life
Thank you Kati, so true. The pressure to have it all "figured out" by a certain age is a conversation people need to have more often. I think as a society we need think about our standards, being OK with taking non traditional career paths and reevaluating our values for what is really important- especially after the events of 2020.
I recently quit my job and everyone around kept asking “where you going? What’s next for you? What are you going to do for a job?” And I just keep telling them “I don’t know” and they all act so shocked about it. This really bothers me since I don’t know and I’ve been feeling that’s wrong. This video was super helpful for getting rid of my self doubt and fear. Thank you Kati.
Unfortunately it’ s very common. But next time instead of spiraling in self doubt ( totally normal ) try to hang on and look this people closely just to notice how what they’re talking about it’s their fears projecting on you. It s their problem not yours. Their fears have nothing to do with you. Anyway congrats for the bravery and best luck💪
You can start by asking "what state, or country, do I want to live in?" You just relinquished your tie that binds you. The world is your oyster so to speak. Glad you listened to your gut. It will tell you what is next. It could be a throw away job to pay rent while you decide. I've moved so many times in my life. I decided a long time ago at least 2 hours is a good distance from family. Lol (and now I'm 1000!) 😊🤟🏾 The day after college graduation, at the tender age of 20, I got hired by mail half way across the country (1400 miles) and left pulling a u-haul. Except for school 2 miles from my always home, I had barely left my tiny town. I moved to one of the largest cities in the US. No regrets. BTW, I was an RN and in my 40s, I spent 2 years between jobs washing dogs at a groomer. Best job ever! 😆
@@MrSpirals I want a high level of drawing skill. I'm obsessed with this. I'm writing and drawing my own comics. But I'm always thinking about what if everything I've done has been a waste of time? What if I never reach the level I want? Meanwhile everyone I know is now married and living in these amazing places and having these amazing lives. Its as if they found some secret to it all. I'm just desperate to figure it all out. I hope that by the time I'm your age I'll have improved some aspects of my life. God I seriously hope so.
You’re right on track! Your twenties are the time to figure out who you are and what you love outside of your family and upbringing. Live your life on your timeline
I'm 25 and this video hits close to home. In my country, women are usually expected to get married young. I'm still single af and pressured to get married asap. Tbh, it frustrates me because all of the pressure. I feel like this video is a validation that it is ok to do your things at your own pace. Thanks and much love, Kati :)!
I’m so happy you made this video. I’m 19 and have felt so much anxiety and pressure from having to having my entire life mapped out and picking a specific career. Now I am really secure in the fact that it’s okay for things to change and I don’t need to have life figured out 😅
Thank you so much for this video! I’m 26, two bachelor’s degrees and I dropped out of my grad school during my final year which was last year. I’ve been struggling daily with what my next career step should be as I’m completely lost. It’s been the biggest stressor I’ve been tackling in therapy as I’ve always had the next step planned out and now suddenly I don’t. It feels silly to freak out over this at age 26, but I have a bad habit of comparing my career journey with friends and their journeys. I don’t know if I’ll make it in my degree field one day or if I’ll end up in a whole new direction. I’m slowly learning that while the unknown is scary, it can also be kind of exciting.
I didn't want to explore anything when I was 18. The entire bag called 'being an adult' looked like endless tedium and waiting till the weekend. I didn't want kids or to get married. When I listened to adults, I realized how sad they felt and how my life was unlikely to be any different.
I just turned 35 on March 23...I felt very depressed and confused because I am going through a change in my life. I’m in the midst of a career change and I have brand new interests. I had to realize that I want to live life at my own pace and I’m allowed to do that
Such a good reminder “it’s okay to go as we learn!” So much needed when we are always on the manager mode to try to check all the boxes for life. Thank you for this amazing reminder!!
Neded to hear this today (turning 30 towards the end of the month and still have no clue what I'm doing with my life). Thank you for this.. feeling validated, once again. X
Thank you once again Katie, sitting as a security guard being made to feel less than by my older brother over the years for not having followed the conventional routine regarding employment/career. This has helped me feel my confidence and courage build up again. Thank you.
One day when I have kids, the number one thing I wish for them is self-compassion and having lots of mercy on themselves, just like we so often have for others. Being happy with who you are now. And I’m really excited to say I’ve been feeling like that now for a couple weeks, for the first time since middle school, which was like 7 years ago.💓 Things can change!
I really needed this today 😔 27 year old who left her job a year ago and just so down about what my next step is. Imposter syndrome has always been my life..I truly dislike what I went for school for so I feel so indebted in a way like I’ve wasted time.. now I’m thinking ..what do I want to do with my life? What career do I want? So much pressure comes with this I just hope it all works out 🥺❤️ Thanks Katie
I feel ya friend and I’m right there with you. Thanks for being open and vulnerable here by sharing that part of your story. I hope and wish the best for you
I'm here as well, 27 not knowing what I want to do, with an added breakup on top so now I am single again as well 😔 I worked in support work for years until realising I no longer wanted to. I went through a traumatic event that rearranged all my priorities. It's not just you, I'm sure there are many of us out there at this age but we just don't see it around us. Things will fall into place, have faith ✨
I really needed this video, thank you so much. I’m 15 and sometimes I feel like it’s already too late to explore different things, that I should already know what to focus on for the rest of my life and all...honestly all I want to do is explore as much as I can before making my decisions and this video really reassured me, so thanks.
Problem is, a lot of support is only available for people till the age of 25 or 27 or so. If you still need support because you haven't figured it out, or you for some reason are behind (like spending years sick) have fun figuring it out on your own.
Kati i am sooo much greatful for all your help and support, and I understand that you are very emotionally intelligent .💖 This video is very helpful. Our society always puts that pressure on people instead of giving them ample time to figure out what they would really love to do.
Hi Kati, I started therapy last month and it’s been life changing. I also started reading your book and love it. Thank you for your videos and putting up all this amazing videos. It’s a pool of knowledge. Im very grateful for my therapist 💙💛
I am now caught in this mess of "finding my future path." I really cannot explain well without typing a 2 page essay, but I guess the point is that this video is needed and more. Thanks you for this message. I felt like I would come back to this video from time to time in the future.
I love the long hair! I remember when I told my dad I wasn’t sure what I wanted to go to grad school for and told him I was considering waiting another year. My rationale was that I would submit a better application because I would have certainty of my path and have goals. (Sorry Papi, I’m throwing you under the bus). He said “you should apply now.” “You should go where the money is, go into nursing, not psychology.” Not only did I feel like someone just imposed their agenda for me with no questions asked, but i felt offended and more stressed. How is taking time and waiting to think things through a bad idea? It felt like he was the one ashamed, not me. There is so much pressure to produce that we sacrifice our happiness in the process, and we enter unsustainable lifestyles just to appease someone’s expectations. It’s like we are told we are not enough unless we can show success. Overall, I learned something from this interaction.I recognized the trauma that my dad has suffered from his generation and our society, and decided I would rise above and do what was better for me. Thanks for the video Katie! Such a powerful reminder! We are not our success, we are not our grades.
God I really needed to hear this today.. My bf and I are in a LDR and I'm often the one who's stressed and anxious about closing the distance. But we still have so much time ahead of us where things could change. I always tell myself to take it day by day. I want everything RIGHT NOW, but thats not how life works.. xD So yeah. Thank you very much
Aww I can relate! In our LDR, it’s usually my bf who freaks out about the future 😅 I do understand his perspective (he’s some years older, just over 30 now) but I also tell him it’s okay to figure it out in small steps and live the moment 😊 All the best for you two!
@@jennyj.9560 Thats what my boyfriend tells me aswell. Take it day by day and we'll get there eventually. We are both in our 20s now, so yeah. I'm excited for the future :) Best of luck to you two aswell
Yes!!! This has come at a great time! My mum was worrying at me last night about this exact thing because ‘I’m not doing anything worth while’!!! I wish I saw this before last night because I could have said something that night! So helpful Kati thank you! 🙂 x
Hi Kati, I’m a masters level social work student. I was going to get my masters in a year (graduating in a month), but I had a mental health break and my college isn’t letting me return to my internship. Even though I know I want to be a social worker, I have no idea what I want to do, or if I’m even emotionally capable at this point to be a social worker. I feel like such a failure to not be able to finish my masters this year, and for not knowing what to do for the next year (I’ll graduate spring 2022). I love seeing another social worker being so influential on TH-cam, you’re the best!
I’m 52 and thinking of a career change into a completely different field! So, all you young people can do it too! You can be multi-passionate, or find fulfillment in several different occupations. Start somewhere and figure out what you like along the way.
Life in general just scares me. Just existing is already expensive and I am afraid of getting out there in the world to gain money. I'm 23 and still/again living with my parents and for the moment it is ok but I don't think the things I study really help me figuring out what I want. The second semester of university starts next week and I'm not motivated doing an online semester again, where I don't really get to know anyone who studies with me. I don't want to sit in front of a screen all the time, learning things but not going forward. I feel stuck. At the same time I know it would scare me very much to have to get to know people if Covid would be over and there would be things to do. I know, it's paradoxical. Sometimes I think not existing would be much better because what for? I can't believe in a bigger picture, a greater plan, a meaning and therefore, everything remains meaningless. Why should I try find a meaning then which is inherently meaningless? Sometimes I wish there would be no one who knows me because then I could disappear. On the other hand, I am terribly afraid of dieing, of feeling pain and everything that a human life accompanies. I'm just lost in this absurd world. (There are probably some mistakes above because English is not my first language so sorry.)
Thank you for reaching out here. There are so many folks who will listen. Continue to please reach out to a mental health professional via a text or hotline and I’ve felt exactly as you have before.
I was really looking forward to this video. You have talked about this many times on AKA. It really irritates me how the society places this timeline for our lives: college at 20, married at 28, a bunch of kids... I’m 21 in med school and there’s always an uncertainty about whether I should change to something else or a possibilty of doing a double major or taking a grant and moving somewhere else. I like the fact that I’m challenging the standard plan that my surroundings are trying to put on me, but it’s leaving me with so much anxiety that I’ll regret it later, especially when I feel like I’ve wasted enough time already and that I won’t be able to live the life that’s meant for me unless I go out in the world and take responsiblity for myself.
What timing! I literally just discovered your channel and earlier today I was having a dilemma regarding what to pursue in college! I still worry too much about it and still do not have an answer I would be able to accept, but this video made me feel a lot better. It's still scary becoming a fully fledged adult on such short notice and it feels like I am clueless in a world of masters and people around me seem to have all their things planned out while I'm sitting here like a disaster waiting to happen. But I'm glad that I'm at least not the only one that feels a bit scared and overwhelmed by the world. Thanks, Kati! 💕😊
I feel like some older adults are really selfish in knowing how hard life is and yet still choose to put such pressure on young teens and young adults to succeed in life. They really do treat it like a shopping list but, never stop to check in on the person's mental and physical health. (I am speaking on my experiences, no one else).
You are right!! So many people think that they need to be married, have a mortgage paid off, a full-time high paying job, be in a serious relationship and have children by the time they are 30. That same family and couple will change and realize that they are misreable and unhappy. Social media is a scam to make young people feel worthless for not having this and that by this age.
I turned 30 last fall and have felt so behind and in the wrong lane for so long and feared making a bad decision... this is so incredibly important and validating to hear ✌🏻
Thank you for posting this! I was just talking to my daughter last night who is a senior in high school and is about to graduate in May. she's very confused on what she wants to do and feels like she has a lot of pressure on her to make a decision right now! She's afraid to make the wrong decision and she feels like she has to decide on the right thing right now and she can't change her mind later. I was trying to explain exactly what you said in this video to her but couldn't find the words and you said it so perfectly! I just shared this video with her in hopes that it'll help her. I've been following you for a while now and think you're amazing and wish you were my therapist! I have borderline personality disorder, bipolar 2, cptsd, along with a few anxiety disorders. Your videos have helped me a lot and you're so down to earth! you're everything I've ever wanted in a therapist and was never able to find. Thank you for your videos and all your help 💜
This has hit me a couple times in the past few years. I am in the hospitality industry and have every once in awhile gotten the question of "when are you going to look at getting a ReAL jOB?" Or overhearing the narcissistic, rich dad telling his obvioisly embarrassed kid at the table to "make sure to go to college so that you don't have to do what "this guy" is doing." That shit can be demoralizing. I've be financially ruined a few times in my life because of a late diagnosis of type 1 diabetes at age 30. Its been hard to catch back up because of the hundreds of dollars per month to stay alive. Shit happens, pain can change lives, getting in to trouble can change lives. Systemic issues can change lives. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I don't think many people can honestly admit to themselves that they have the answer for people on how to have a good life. Especially from the entrepreneurial, tech-guy, motivational speaking snake-oil salesman. Life is just chaos and I've always needed to not compare my situation with others.
Dang right. The more you make the more stressed you are typically do to responsibly. At my job its pretty easy and pay is decent with no stress when I leave. My life starts outside of work. I work to have fun not to pay for the ADHD meds to keep my edge in the technology field
OMG!! I needed this video. I just got off the phone with my colleges career development center, asking what services they provide to help people figure out what career they want to go into...
Thank you! This is something I need to tell myself more often, being 25 and only working part time I often feel a lot of pressure to figure out my life but I have no idea what I'm doing, having ADHD to makes it even harder as my interests are constantly changing and I never stick to any one thing for too long, over the last year with everything that's happened I've just been trying to work on myself learning to take care of myself better and love myself more but no one seems to see that, they just see all the thngs I haven't done which really sucks :(
I’m going through a hard time right now. Recent break up, started a new job, lots of new adult responsibilities I didn’t feel ready for. The panic and anxiety has been exhausting and each day brings new challenges, but also new opportunities. Growth isn’t easy, but videos like yours help to calm me down and keep me grounded. Thank you for sharing.
This was so helpful,as I am just learning this now. My job / career does not define me. I'm 50, and I still get that pressure from my peers about making a final decision based only on a career. I love that you brought up that "we are no robots" . We live in a society where we have to keep working that way.
Hi, Kati! What a great topic! I love love the intelligent way that you bring the most common psychological challenges of people into this platform! You’re such unique!!💙❤️🤗
01:25 "Now reason number one is that we grow and change and learn new things. Imagine that. And that kinda rhymes also. Maybe I missed my calling as a poet."
Thank you so much for this! I needed another gentle reminder that it’s ok to not have EVERYTHING figured out. For the longest time I wanted to be an ER nurse but there is A LOT of math and math has always been my weakness. So fast forward to 24 soon to be 25 I am thinking about doing a culinary arts class to become a pastry chef I need to step out of my comfort zone,even though it’s scary but I got it😊
@@lautaro8275 Sorry, I have no idea what that means. I would love to support you with fundings, but I live in Sweden and might have a different system..? Or I'm hopelessly behind on how things work. Am impressed by you and hope you will post things forever - even from your sick bed at 120 years old.
Oh my gosh Kati, thank you so much for posting this video. I lost count to how many people I left behind that made me feel like I needed to know who, what, when, where, how and why that I would love to play this for. I did take a giant step forward and in the process of moving to a new state and despite all the hassles I have; it feels so good to be away from all of these people on the one hand, however; I would be lying if I didn't admit to the heartache I feel about leaving behind the small amount of good friends/inspirational instructors that made a positive difference in my life.
Hi, I just wanted to thank you for this video. It found me at the best time possible. Right now I am really struggling with going my way. I know what I want but other people try to tell me that it’s not what I want and that it’s wrong. Right now the thing that’s most important to me is being happy and focusing on my mental health and relationship with my partner and my friends. I have lost so much happiness in the last few years and I want to get that back again. That’s really most important right now. Thank you for helping me to finalize my already made decision ❤
This is exactly what I needed today! At the moment, I’m on the process of moving to my own house, since I have just fled my restrictive and idiotic family behind and I have made a deal with my father to give me some money until I find a job to make my first money. The next step is JUST to build financial safety and I hope someday to have more time to give to my passions (philosophy, psychology, poetry, literature etc.). After all, Carpe Diem!
I‘m 28, recently broke up with my longterm boyfriend, still not done with university and financially dependant on my parents. I feel like a loser and I‘m so scared about turning 30. And I wanted to travel a lot before 30 but I never did and I think now it’s too late.
I remember once when I personally was travelling i sat next to a 70 year old woman on a train who was travelling by herself and how happy she was. You have so much time. I travelled when I was young but I jumped into it and took no time paying attention to my mental health, even though i was "young" and travelling it was the worst ive ever felt. Theres no right way to do things. I reckon, taking the time to heal and find yourself first is so okay. (maybe even preferred?)
The worst part is that while i think society or my surroundings are putting that pressure on me, the only one who is making that pressure is myself! 🙈 Literally no one in my life is specifically creating that pressure, but we feel obligated to fit in or go certain path in general .. this video, especially the fourth point was very helpful, because I'm in the stage of my life where i "should" have it figured out, I'm 30, living by myself, working for few years and people expect to see "the next" ..and honestly i felt like i HAVE to have the next steps figured out.. but as you said sometimes we need to just calm down and take it for what it is and focus on what we have and what our soul is hungry for 😊
Thank you for this, Kati! I’m 36 and still not sure what I want to do for a career. Good to know that it’s ok to just have a job while I figure it out. I have read articles and other vids that talk about this but you put it in such a simple and grounded way. Good to be reminded and not get too worked up about it lol
This video means so much to me. I often think if I had gone to a big university and completed school right away that maybe life would be better. There's no way that would work for me though. The pace I'm going at allows me to make the decisions I need and make them right. This video helped remind me that's ok. Thank you so much.
I love love LOVE this video and all your points. I immediately sent this to my 2 boys in college. They get so much pressure from everyone to have it all figured out. I only recently figured out in my late 40's what I wanted to do with my life "when I grew up." I just want them to do whatever it is that will make them happiest. Life is too short to squander being unhappy! Thank you again for helping me and my family with your videos ❤
@@lautaro8275 I am confused. Are you really providing financial advice for cryptocurrency? Or is it possible that your communication channel has been hacked? Don’t get me wrong; I’m a huge fan of yours. I just can’t perceive that it is prudent to mix my TH-cam psychology education with my financial decisions. Thoughts?
Thank you for this video! At 34, I still struggle with figuring out what I want to do, I think in part because I let other people's opinions push me in directions I don't want to go. I have just taken a step in the right direction by putting in my notice at a "good" job where I'm miserable, so that I can pursue my dream of working for myself, living simply, and having more time for creative projects and travel. I have learned that I don't care about being the best in a job or climbing the corporate ladder, which goes against everything our society tells us. This mindset is really hard for people in my life to understand, but I've realized that their problem with me just really isn't *my* problem anymore. Their reaction is just a reflection of their own fears and disappointments in life, and I no longer accept responsibility for them. To anyone else struggling to make a decision or to have the courage to pursue a nontraditional path, it's okay! Take your time, plan wisely, and go forth with the confidence that you know what's best for you!
Thank you so much. This helped. I'm in a weird limbo spot. I have much to heal, making many break throughs. I make good money, but what I do can be stressful not to mention the last place I worked was pretty toxic. I love not having a job because I'm able to really do me without the work stress. I need to put less pressure on myself to preform at such a high level. I get burnt out. I don't feel the passion or drive much anymore. I'm not sure what that means
Thank you for this!! It's perfect timing for my daughter & her friends about to start their last year in August @ our mutual Alma Mater! You're the best!!
What good timing! My 20 year son was very anxious this past week about this very topic. He isn’t sure that he actually wants to go into the field that he is in school for right now. I showed him this video as soon as it popped up in my feed a few hours after he was talking to me about this.
I really needed to watch this video! Thank you so much for sharing this information. Life can be overwhelming when everyone is coming at you wanting to what you are going to do. About everything.
My husband wants kids. We just got married a week ago. I love him and want the world for him. Personally I want to love my life first. Why do people give up their life because of kids? Why cant you finish your lives with kids? I want kids but not at this very moment . I love your discussions and points. They all make sense. I am litterally going through a work crisis. I hate my job and wish to change it. I have applied for so many jobs and where I live it's apparently hard to find a job. So I'm making a move with my husband and hopefully we will find what we want near places I can find a job
Hey sweetie! I know that children are a huuuge change and responsibility in your life, so it's normal to feel this way. Usually people say that they will miss everything they will lose when they make children, but they don't realise that they will still like their "new life" with their children. But I get what you're saying, I hope you enjoy your life either way, especially in a difficult time like this one. I wish you all best, take care!
@@lenadesu2544 thank you, it's difficult but I prayed on it and I belive if nows the right time then I geuss now it is but that doesnt mean imma stop being me. Until the actually comes I'm gonna just do my normal do. Continuing on my path and finding new things I love.
I always tell my clients, “I changed my major 3 times in college. My Dad’s cousin is in his 50s and still cannot decide. It is okay to change your mind.”
Yes yes yes!! xoxo
@@Katimorton I also tell them that if they cannot decide and want to take a gap year, to at least go to a community college and get the basic classes taken care of. It is cheaper and then they can focus on their major’s classes when they decide.
@@Katimorton Katy there is a fake account called "Kati Morton" with your name. they replied to my comment above. I've reported them, I wanted to let you know maybe you can take it up with YT :)
This video is necessary for the vast majority of the young people
Yes I wish I found this sooner
Older people need this message too.
@@sophiadavenport3959 right. Im 29 and need this.
@@sixteen.candles.4644 29 isn’t old you are still young .😊
Also for the older people who push them. It's hard to push back when you are young.
"We have to have (etc) by the age of 30". I'm 34 and I had and ditched all of that to find what I wanted, not what I was pressured to want. It's still not easy, the pressure is still there from the family. But I'm taking it from here.
43yrs here... Yup so true what you are saying!
I just turned 35 two weeks ago and I’m right here with you! Live life at your own pace...that’s what makes it fun!
That's amazing. You don't know how much this comment has helped me!
@@graced.6711 You're welcome.
Late to the party here but I’m 37 and still working out what I want and drowning out everyone else’s opinions. It’s not always obvious what we all want. It’s a process.
I just dropped out of dental school this year to figure out what actually “I” want to do with my life and not my parents dictating my life to me! It actually took a lot of courage and a whole lot of panic attacks for me to finally stand up to them and speak my truth! To tell them Exactly what you said that good grades don’t automatically imply that I wanna become a doctor! Maybe l wanna be a writer or a teacher! I just have to figure it out by myself in my own time.
I am proud of you
U r right. I think about people who also get married, or have kids in their 20s, and before they turn 40, they're exhausted, suffocated. So they get divorced, and try to make up for single life they missed.
@youngen rich after my divorce I “dated” myself for 2yrs & spent that time learning to love myself and knowing my worth. I’m just reentering the dating pool right now & I’m so glad I took that time off because I’m much more confident & I’m not putting pressure on myself or in potential partner
I’m 33. I have a BA in psychology and am currently in trade school to become an electrician. I remind myself regularly that what I’m doing now doesn’t have to be what I’m doing forever.
As a student approaching her senior year of college and still not knowing what to do with her life, I needed this video. Thank you Kati
Awe of course!! So happy to help :) xoxo
Good luck!
@@Katimorton i needed to hear this too. Thank you ❤
This whole comment section makes me feel calm n safe.. That I'm not alone in this.. Thank you💙
xoxo
reasons cited by Kati 1. we grow and change
2.people pleasing is a trap 3.not every decision is final 4.careers and productivity are not the only ways to build a happy healthy life
Thank you Kati, so true. The pressure to have it all "figured out" by a certain age is a conversation people need to have more often. I think as a society we need think about our standards, being OK with taking non traditional career paths and reevaluating our values for what is really important- especially after the events of 2020.
I recently quit my job and everyone around kept asking “where you going? What’s next for you? What are you going to do for a job?” And I just keep telling them “I don’t know” and they all act so shocked about it. This really bothers me since I don’t know and I’ve been feeling that’s wrong. This video was super helpful for getting rid of my self doubt and fear. Thank you Kati.
Unfortunately it’ s very common. But next time instead of spiraling in self doubt ( totally normal ) try to hang on and look this people closely just to notice how what they’re talking about it’s their fears projecting on you. It s their problem not yours. Their fears have nothing to do with you. Anyway congrats for the bravery and best luck💪
You can start by asking "what state, or country, do I want to live in?" You just relinquished your tie that binds you. The world is your oyster so to speak. Glad you listened to your gut. It will tell you what is next. It could be a throw away job to pay rent while you decide. I've moved so many times in my life. I decided a long time ago at least 2 hours is a good distance from family. Lol (and now I'm 1000!) 😊🤟🏾 The day after college graduation, at the tender age of 20, I got hired by mail half way across the country (1400 miles) and left pulling a u-haul. Except for school 2 miles from my always home, I had barely left my tiny town. I moved to one of the largest cities in the US. No regrets. BTW, I was an RN and in my 40s, I spent 2 years between jobs washing dogs at a groomer. Best job ever! 😆
Kati's videos always here to save lives.
I can relate so much to this video! Thank you Kati
I'm 24 and still freaking out about all this stuff. I have a direction I'm working towards but I'm still worried about everything.
I'm 28 and I feel this very much - it's one of the things I've been focusing on in therapy. I don't even think I have a direction right now.
@@MrSpirals I want a high level of drawing skill. I'm obsessed with this. I'm writing and drawing my own comics. But I'm always thinking about what if everything I've done has been a waste of time? What if I never reach the level I want? Meanwhile everyone I know is now married and living in these amazing places and having these amazing lives. Its as if they found some secret to it all. I'm just desperate to figure it all out. I hope that by the time I'm your age I'll have improved some aspects of my life. God I seriously hope so.
@@mangagnome9764 You're 24 and everyone you know is married living in amazing places?
@@thisisntallowed9560 a lot of them seem to be doing quite well.
You’re right on track! Your twenties are the time to figure out who you are and what you love outside of your family and upbringing. Live your life on your timeline
I'm 25 and this video hits close to home. In my country, women are usually expected to get married young. I'm still single af and pressured to get married asap. Tbh, it frustrates me because all of the pressure. I feel like this video is a validation that it is ok to do your things at your own pace. Thanks and much love, Kati :)!
I hope you're doing well, just thought I'd remind you of your own motivational words since it's been some time since you posted your comment.
I’m so happy you made this video. I’m 19 and have felt so much anxiety and pressure from having to having my entire life mapped out and picking a specific career. Now I am really secure in the fact that it’s okay for things to change and I don’t need to have life figured out 😅
Thank you so much for this video! I’m 26, two bachelor’s degrees and I dropped out of my grad school during my final year which was last year. I’ve been struggling daily with what my next career step should be as I’m completely lost. It’s been the biggest stressor I’ve been tackling in therapy as I’ve always had the next step planned out and now suddenly I don’t. It feels silly to freak out over this at age 26, but I have a bad habit of comparing my career journey with friends and their journeys. I don’t know if I’ll make it in my degree field one day or if I’ll end up in a whole new direction. I’m slowly learning that while the unknown is scary, it can also be kind of exciting.
This is part of why I am a school counselor: to be a guide while my students develop as humans. What ever you want to explore, go for it :D
I didn't want to explore anything when I was 18. The entire bag called 'being an adult' looked like endless tedium and waiting till the weekend. I didn't want kids or to get married. When I listened to adults, I realized how sad they felt and how my life was unlikely to be any different.
I applaud you! 🥰
@@AMYBIERHAUS Thank you
I just turned 35 on March 23...I felt very depressed and confused because I am going through a change in my life. I’m in the midst of a career change and I have brand new interests. I had to realize that I want to live life at my own pace and I’m allowed to do that
This might be the single most important message in mental health. Thanks.
Such a good reminder “it’s okay to go as we learn!” So much needed when we are always on the manager mode to try to check all the boxes for life. Thank you for this amazing reminder!!
This is just the video I needed
Neded to hear this today (turning 30 towards the end of the month and still have no clue what I'm doing with my life).
Thank you for this.. feeling validated, once again. X
Totally I’m almost there reaching 30 and I appreciate your comment
@@adrianaavila8853 the pressure 😩 x
My dad literally just discussed this with me.....
Perfect timing!
You’re an angel. Such an important message.
This video was right on time.
Family has me by the neck when it comes to stuff like this.
I hope the video was helpful :) xoxo
I haven't watched your videos in a while but this is exactly what I needed right now. Thank you.
Of course! So glad it was helpful :) xoxo
Thank you, Kati, for releasing this video. I'm 23, and even I am struggling with this.
Thank you once again Katie, sitting as a security guard being made to feel less than by my older brother over the years for not having followed the conventional routine regarding employment/career. This has helped me feel my confidence and courage build up again. Thank you.
Of course!!! I am so glad it was helpful :) Cause you get to do what you want to do.. because it's your life and your time :) xoxox
Yes and this is so true. I learned alot from my professor and she helped me out.
One day when I have kids, the number one thing I wish for them is self-compassion and having lots of mercy on themselves, just like we so often have for others. Being happy with who you are now. And I’m really excited to say I’ve been feeling like that now for a couple weeks, for the first time since middle school, which was like 7 years ago.💓 Things can change!
I really needed this today 😔 27 year old who left her job a year ago and just so down about what my next step is. Imposter syndrome has always been my life..I truly dislike what I went for school for so I feel so indebted in a way like I’ve wasted time.. now I’m thinking ..what do I want to do with my life? What career do I want? So much pressure comes with this I just hope it all works out 🥺❤️
Thanks Katie
I feel ya friend and I’m right there with you. Thanks for being open and vulnerable here by sharing that part of your story. I hope and wish the best for you
I'm here as well, 27 not knowing what I want to do, with an added breakup on top so now I am single again as well 😔 I worked in support work for years until realising I no longer wanted to. I went through a traumatic event that rearranged all my priorities. It's not just you, I'm sure there are many of us out there at this age but we just don't see it around us. Things will fall into place, have faith ✨
@@adrianaavila8853 I hope all goes well with you❤️ thank u for the sweet words 🥺
I really needed this video, thank you so much. I’m 15 and sometimes I feel like it’s already too late to explore different things, that I should already know what to focus on for the rest of my life and all...honestly all I want to do is explore as much as I can before making my decisions and this video really reassured me, so thanks.
Problem is, a lot of support is only available for people till the age of 25 or 27 or so. If you still need support because you haven't figured it out, or you for some reason are behind (like spending years sick) have fun figuring it out on your own.
Ugh that sucks. Lots of insurances only cover you until the age of 26 and that’s too bad
Kati i am sooo much greatful for all your help and support, and I understand that you are very emotionally intelligent .💖 This video is very helpful. Our society always puts that pressure on people instead of giving them ample time to figure out what they would really love to do.
This IS a helpful conversation, thank you for taking the time and knowledge to put this out!
Hi Kati, I started therapy last month and it’s been life changing.
I also started reading your book and love it.
Thank you for your videos and putting up all this amazing videos. It’s a pool of knowledge.
Im very grateful for my therapist 💙💛
Love your videos! they helped a lotttttttttt!
Awe I am so glad :) Yay!! xoxo
I am now caught in this mess of "finding my future path." I really cannot explain well without typing a 2 page essay, but I guess the point is that this video is needed and more. Thanks you for this message. I felt like I would come back to this video from time to time in the future.
This pandemic has stressed me out I desperately needed this message God bless you Kati! 🙏🏻
Thnks a lot as a professional psychiatric Social worker and even as a person it is very helpful. Thanks a lot
I love the long hair!
I remember when I told my dad I wasn’t sure what I wanted to go to grad school for and told him I was considering waiting another year. My rationale was that I would submit a better application because I would have certainty of my path and have goals. (Sorry Papi, I’m throwing you under the bus). He said “you should apply now.” “You should go where the money is, go into nursing, not psychology.”
Not only did I feel like someone just imposed their agenda for me with no questions asked, but i felt offended and more stressed. How is taking time and waiting to think things through a bad idea? It felt like he was the one ashamed, not me.
There is so much pressure to produce that we sacrifice our happiness in the process, and we enter unsustainable lifestyles just to appease someone’s expectations. It’s like we are told we are not enough unless we can show success.
Overall, I learned something from this interaction.I recognized the trauma that my dad has suffered from his generation and our society, and decided I would rise above and do what was better for me.
Thanks for the video Katie! Such a powerful reminder! We are not our success, we are not our grades.
Awe thanks!! xoxo
Thank you ❤️As someone who is in that 18-21 year old phase of life right now, this is really reassuring to hear.
I'm 31 and I'm still trying to figure out exactly what I want to do when I grow up.
I have a few ideas, but it's always changing
Same im 29
God I really needed to hear this today.. My bf and I are in a LDR and I'm often the one who's stressed and anxious about closing the distance. But we still have so much time ahead of us where things could change. I always tell myself to take it day by day. I want everything RIGHT NOW, but thats not how life works.. xD So yeah. Thank you very much
Aww I can relate! In our LDR, it’s usually my bf who freaks out about the future 😅 I do understand his perspective (he’s some years older, just over 30 now) but I also tell him it’s okay to figure it out in small steps and live the moment 😊 All the best for you two!
@@jennyj.9560 Thats what my boyfriend tells me aswell. Take it day by day and we'll get there eventually. We are both in our 20s now, so yeah. I'm excited for the future :) Best of luck to you two aswell
Yes!!! This has come at a great time! My mum was worrying at me last night about this exact thing because ‘I’m not doing anything worth while’!!! I wish I saw this before last night because I could have said something that night! So helpful Kati thank you! 🙂 x
Great video Kati! I completely agree! It's crazy to think you should have your whole life figured out by such a young age!
Hi Kati, I’m a masters level social work student. I was going to get my masters in a year (graduating in a month), but I had a mental health break and my college isn’t letting me return to my internship. Even though I know I want to be a social worker, I have no idea what I want to do, or if I’m even emotionally capable at this point to be a social worker. I feel like such a failure to not be able to finish my masters this year, and for not knowing what to do for the next year (I’ll graduate spring 2022). I love seeing another social worker being so influential on TH-cam, you’re the best!
Oh my gosh. I didn't think I would start crying during this. I needed to hear this today.
I’m 52 and thinking of a career change into a completely different field! So, all you young people can do it too! You can be multi-passionate, or find fulfillment in several different occupations. Start somewhere and figure out what you like along the way.
Life in general just scares me. Just existing is already expensive and I am afraid of getting out there in the world to gain money. I'm 23 and still/again living with my parents and for the moment it is ok but I don't think the things I study really help me figuring out what I want. The second semester of university starts next week and I'm not motivated doing an online semester again, where I don't really get to know anyone who studies with me. I don't want to sit in front of a screen all the time, learning things but not going forward. I feel stuck. At the same time I know it would scare me very much to have to get to know people if Covid would be over and there would be things to do. I know, it's paradoxical.
Sometimes I think not existing would be much better because what for? I can't believe in a bigger picture, a greater plan, a meaning and therefore, everything remains meaningless. Why should I try find a meaning then which is inherently meaningless? Sometimes I wish there would be no one who knows me because then I could disappear. On the other hand, I am terribly afraid of dieing, of feeling pain and everything that a human life accompanies. I'm just lost in this absurd world.
(There are probably some mistakes above because English is not my first language so sorry.)
I’m in the same boat.
@@sakunaruful I am sending some love.. :/❤️
@@hannahh8119 Thanks!
Thank you for reaching out here. There are so many folks who will listen. Continue to please reach out to a mental health professional via a text or hotline and I’ve felt exactly as you have before.
I feel the same thing 😔
I was really looking forward to this video. You have talked about this many times on AKA. It really irritates me how the society places this timeline for our lives: college at 20, married at 28, a bunch of kids... I’m 21 in med school and there’s always an uncertainty about whether I should change to something else or a possibilty of doing a double major or taking a grant and moving somewhere else. I like the fact that I’m challenging the standard plan that my surroundings are trying to put on me, but it’s leaving me with so much anxiety that I’ll regret it later, especially when I feel like I’ve wasted enough time already and that I won’t be able to live the life that’s meant for me unless I go out in the world and take responsiblity for myself.
What timing! I literally just discovered your channel and earlier today I was having a dilemma regarding what to pursue in college! I still worry too much about it and still do not have an answer I would be able to accept, but this video made me feel a lot better. It's still scary becoming a fully fledged adult on such short notice and it feels like I am clueless in a world of masters and people around me seem to have all their things planned out while I'm sitting here like a disaster waiting to happen. But I'm glad that I'm at least not the only one that feels a bit scared and overwhelmed by the world. Thanks, Kati! 💕😊
I feel like some older adults are really selfish in knowing how hard life is and yet still choose to put such pressure on young teens and young adults to succeed in life. They really do treat it like a shopping list but, never stop to check in on the person's mental and physical health. (I am speaking on my experiences, no one else).
As a 21 year old who's about to graduate from university and has no idea what to do next, I needed to hear this. Thank you!!!
Any and all overcomers of Narcissistic Abuse will benefit from this video. Thanks Kati! :)
You are right!! So many people think that they need to be married, have a mortgage paid off, a full-time high paying job, be in a serious relationship and have children by the time they are 30. That same family and couple will change and realize that they are misreable and unhappy. Social media is a scam to make young people feel worthless for not having this and that by this age.
I turned 30 last fall and have felt so behind and in the wrong lane for so long and feared making a bad decision... this is so incredibly important and validating to hear ✌🏻
Thank you for posting this! I was just talking to my daughter last night who is a senior in high school and is about to graduate in May. she's very confused on what she wants to do and feels like she has a lot of pressure on her to make a decision right now! She's afraid to make the wrong decision and she feels like she has to decide on the right thing right now and she can't change her mind later. I was trying to explain exactly what you said in this video to her but couldn't find the words and you said it so perfectly! I just shared this video with her in hopes that it'll help her. I've been following you for a while now and think you're amazing and wish you were my therapist! I have borderline personality disorder, bipolar 2, cptsd, along with a few anxiety disorders. Your videos have helped me a lot and you're so down to earth! you're everything I've ever wanted in a therapist and was never able to find. Thank you for your videos and all your help 💜
This has hit me a couple times in the past few years. I am in the hospitality industry and have every once in awhile gotten the question of "when are you going to look at getting a ReAL jOB?"
Or overhearing the narcissistic, rich dad telling his obvioisly embarrassed kid at the table to "make sure to go to college so that you don't have to do what "this guy" is doing." That shit can be demoralizing. I've be financially ruined a few times in my life because of a late diagnosis of type 1 diabetes at age 30. Its been hard to catch back up because of the hundreds of dollars per month to stay alive. Shit happens, pain can change lives, getting in to trouble can change lives. Systemic issues can change lives. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I don't think many people can honestly admit to themselves that they have the answer for people on how to have a good life. Especially from the entrepreneurial, tech-guy, motivational speaking snake-oil salesman. Life is just chaos and I've always needed to not compare my situation with others.
Dang right. The more you make the more stressed you are typically do to responsibly. At my job its pretty easy and pay is decent with no stress when I leave. My life starts outside of work. I work to have fun not to pay for the ADHD meds to keep my edge in the technology field
That's so Smart having your other things outside the job is ok.
OMG!! I needed this video. I just got off the phone with my colleges career development center, asking what services they provide to help people figure out what career they want to go into...
Thank you for this reminder to utilize that resource!
Thank you! This is something I need to tell myself more often, being 25 and only working part time I often feel a lot of pressure to figure out my life but I have no idea what I'm doing, having ADHD to makes it even harder as my interests are constantly changing and I never stick to any one thing for too long, over the last year with everything that's happened I've just been trying to work on myself learning to take care of myself better and love myself more but no one seems to see that, they just see all the thngs I haven't done which really sucks :(
I’m going through a hard time right now. Recent break up, started a new job, lots of new adult responsibilities I didn’t feel ready for. The panic and anxiety has been exhausting and each day brings new challenges, but also new opportunities. Growth isn’t easy, but videos like yours help to calm me down and keep me grounded. Thank you for sharing.
This was so helpful,as I am just learning this now. My job / career does not define me. I'm 50, and I still get that pressure from my peers about making a final decision based only on a career. I love that you brought up that "we are no robots" . We live in a society where we have to keep working that way.
Hi, Kati! What a great topic! I love love the intelligent way that you bring the most common psychological challenges of people into this platform! You’re such unique!!💙❤️🤗
01:25 "Now reason number one is that we grow and change and learn new things. Imagine that. And that kinda rhymes also. Maybe I missed my calling as a poet."
Thank you so much for this! I needed another gentle reminder that it’s ok to not have EVERYTHING figured out. For the longest time I wanted to be an ER nurse but there is A LOT of math and math has always been my weakness.
So fast forward to 24 soon to be 25 I am thinking about doing a culinary arts class to become a pastry chef I need to step out of my comfort zone,even though it’s scary but I got it😊
Knowledgeable, humble and beautiful. I always greatly enjoy your videos. Thank you so much!
@@lautaro8275 Sorry, I have no idea what that means. I would love to support you with fundings, but I live in Sweden and might have a different system..? Or I'm hopelessly behind on how things work.
Am impressed by you and hope you will post things forever - even from your sick bed at 120 years old.
College student with crippling anxiety about life. Thank you for this video 😞
Exactly what I needed right now.. Past months have been tough jst bcoz I'm confused about what I want
Oh my gosh Kati, thank you so much for posting this video. I lost count to how many people I left behind that made me feel like I needed to know who, what, when, where, how and why that I would love to play this for. I did take a giant step forward and in the process of moving to a new state and despite all the hassles I have; it feels so good to be away from all of these people on the one hand, however; I would be lying if I didn't admit to the heartache I feel about leaving behind the small amount of good friends/inspirational instructors that made a positive difference in my life.
Congratulations on your move and fresh start! 🎉
Hi, I just wanted to thank you for this video. It found me at the best time possible. Right now I am really struggling with going my way. I know what I want but other people try to tell me that it’s not what I want and that it’s wrong. Right now the thing that’s most important to me is being happy and focusing on my mental health and relationship with my partner and my friends. I have lost so much happiness in the last few years and I want to get that back again. That’s really most important right now. Thank you for helping me to finalize my already made decision ❤
THANK YOU SO MUCH this is really what I needed to hear I was so overwhelmed thinking about what I was supposed to do in life.
This is exactly what I needed,Thank you
u have no idea how much this helped me , thank u so much & i hope you have an amazing day
I am so glad :) I hope you have an amazing day too!! xoxo
This is exactly what I needed today! At the moment, I’m on the process of moving to my own house, since I have just fled my restrictive and idiotic family behind and I have made a deal with my father to give me some money until I find a job to make my first money. The next step is JUST to build financial safety and I hope someday to have more time to give to my passions (philosophy, psychology, poetry, literature etc.). After all, Carpe Diem!
I‘m 28, recently broke up with my longterm boyfriend, still not done with university and financially dependant on my parents. I feel like a loser and I‘m so scared about turning 30. And I wanted to travel a lot before 30 but I never did and I think now it’s too late.
It’s never too late.
I remember once when I personally was travelling i sat next to a 70 year old woman on a train who was travelling by herself and how happy she was. You have so much time.
I travelled when I was young but I jumped into it and took no time paying attention to my mental health, even though i was "young" and travelling it was the worst ive ever felt. Theres no right way to do things. I reckon, taking the time to heal and find yourself first is so okay. (maybe even preferred?)
Thank you so much for this. I have been struggling greatly with this exact topic and needed to hear this message ❤️
This is the video I needed between the ages of 27 and 37.
you're so so kind this helped me with my overwhelm.. thank you Kati
The worst part is that while i think society or my surroundings are putting that pressure on me, the only one who is making that pressure is myself! 🙈 Literally no one in my life is specifically creating that pressure, but we feel obligated to fit in or go certain path in general .. this video, especially the fourth point was very helpful, because I'm in the stage of my life where i "should" have it figured out, I'm 30, living by myself, working for few years and people expect to see "the next" ..and honestly i felt like i HAVE to have the next steps figured out.. but as you said sometimes we need to just calm down and take it for what it is and focus on what we have and what our soul is hungry for 😊
I soo needed to hear this, thank you Katie for all the mental health advice you have helped millions of people with!! You're amazing❤❤
Thank you for this, Kati!
I’m 36 and still not sure what I want to do for a career. Good to know that it’s ok to just have a job while I figure it out. I have read articles and other vids that talk about this but you put it in such a simple and grounded way. Good to be reminded and not get too worked up about it lol
This video means so much to me. I often think if I had gone to a big university and completed school right away that maybe life would be better. There's no way that would work for me though. The pace I'm going at allows me to make the decisions I need and make them right. This video helped remind me that's ok. Thank you so much.
I love love LOVE this video and all your points. I immediately sent this to my 2 boys in college. They get so much pressure from everyone to have it all figured out. I only recently figured out in my late 40's what I wanted to do with my life "when I grew up." I just want them to do whatever it is that will make them happiest. Life is too short to squander being unhappy! Thank you again for helping me and my family with your videos ❤
I wish I had seen this video when I was 18.
Great job, Kati. One of my favorites.
You have no idea how much I need this right now in my life.. Thank you
...this is great for older people, too. I appreciate this video.
@@lautaro8275 I am confused. Are you really providing financial advice for cryptocurrency? Or is it possible that your communication channel has been hacked? Don’t get me wrong; I’m a huge fan of yours. I just can’t perceive that it is prudent to mix my TH-cam psychology education with my financial decisions. Thoughts?
I was just talking about this with my mom the other day!! Thank you for posting Kati...you're awesome!!
Thank you for this video! At 34, I still struggle with figuring out what I want to do, I think in part because I let other people's opinions push me in directions I don't want to go. I have just taken a step in the right direction by putting in my notice at a "good" job where I'm miserable, so that I can pursue my dream of working for myself, living simply, and having more time for creative projects and travel. I have learned that I don't care about being the best in a job or climbing the corporate ladder, which goes against everything our society tells us. This mindset is really hard for people in my life to understand, but I've realized that their problem with me just really isn't *my* problem anymore. Their reaction is just a reflection of their own fears and disappointments in life, and I no longer accept responsibility for them. To anyone else struggling to make a decision or to have the courage to pursue a nontraditional path, it's okay! Take your time, plan wisely, and go forth with the confidence that you know what's best for you!
Felt really relaxed after listening this.
Thank you so much. This helped. I'm in a weird limbo spot. I have much to heal, making many break throughs. I make good money, but what I do can be stressful not to mention the last place I worked was pretty toxic. I love not having a job because I'm able to really do me without the work stress. I need to put less pressure on myself to preform at such a high level. I get burnt out. I don't feel the passion or drive much anymore. I'm not sure what that means
Thank you for this!! It's perfect timing for my daughter & her friends about to start their last year in August @ our mutual Alma Mater! You're the best!!
Thank you Kati for making a video about this topic, being okay with being unsure of yourself is super critical to good mental health!
So freeing to hear this! Keep up the good work Kati xxx
What good timing! My 20 year son was very anxious this past week about this very topic. He isn’t sure that he actually wants to go into the field that he is in school for right now. I showed him this video as soon as it popped up in my feed a few hours after he was talking to me about this.
Thanks for this video I've been having anxiety about my future all day. I appreciate this fresh perspective about just figuring things out
I need to listen to this every day. Thank you!
I really needed to watch this video! Thank you so much for sharing this information. Life can be overwhelming when everyone is coming at you wanting to what you are going to do. About everything.
My husband wants kids. We just got married a week ago. I love him and want the world for him. Personally I want to love my life first. Why do people give up their life because of kids? Why cant you finish your lives with kids? I want kids but not at this very moment . I love your discussions and points. They all make sense. I am litterally going through a work crisis. I hate my job and wish to change it. I have applied for so many jobs and where I live it's apparently hard to find a job. So I'm making a move with my husband and hopefully we will find what we want near places I can find a job
Reach out to a mental health professional because you don’t have to handle all of this on your own!
Hey sweetie! I know that children are a huuuge change and responsibility in your life, so it's normal to feel this way. Usually people say that they will miss everything they will lose when they make children, but they don't realise that they will still like their "new life" with their children. But I get what you're saying, I hope you enjoy your life either way, especially in a difficult time like this one. I wish you all best, take care!
@@lenadesu2544 thank you, it's difficult but I prayed on it and I belive if nows the right time then I geuss now it is but that doesnt mean imma stop being me. Until the actually comes I'm gonna just do my normal do. Continuing on my path and finding new things I love.