Tim, I wish you were born a girl
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ค. 2021
- Little video made to the song Tim, I wish you were born a girl, by Of Montreal.
I've, for years, wanted to make an animation to a song by Of Montreal :)
Of course I had to choose this song, it's definitely the one I most wanted to animate!
Poor narrator, he doesn't have a name, but poor poor narrator...
(EDIT: Narrator has a name! Decided to call him Eddie. Thought it would suit him.)
I didn't intend to take the meaning of the song so literally, but I think that's the best way I could portray it through animation, interpret it as you will :)
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Song: As already stated....
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i like how tim doesn't change into a girl in eddie's imagination, he stays the exact same. i think it shows how he subconsciously doesn't want him to change, he just wishes he was a girl so it was acceptable
that's so sad :(
I think you got it right on the money friend
“i’m not saying we can’t be all those things for each other but it’s not the same cause you’re a man, and so am i.” of montreal paints a beautiful portrait of queer struggles hagagGgh
sometimes you b loving bro but like that's gay yn
@@amoraromero8430 Fr. The writing is really good. I’m straight and it still hits hard cause it’s articulated so well 🤌
I love that in all the art, even though the lyrics say "I wish you were born a girl," Tim is drawn as a boy, implying that what the singer really wants is not for Tim to be any different, but for their relationship to be different.
im confused, what other implication could there be?
no way to look like girl or boy though
@@aWERFRGT6545BGFGfrom the child's perspective there definitely is a way to look like a girl. long hair+ maybe wearing a skirt or smth
@@jamwithme173that's a learned distinction, depending on the environment/who raised them, a child might think the opposite. When I was a kid girls had pretty short hair.
Yeah! Just my interpretation, I had always thought of the song as being about two boys/men, but I also love if the animation can still come across as gender-open and trans inclusive!
a great representation of how discrimination isn't just people shoving you into the closet with pitchforks, it's also them convincing you that the closet is your room
‘It’s also them convincing you that the closet is your room’ -@atoucangirl I can’t stop think about this comment. Thank you
@@chloerose6842 i'm somewhat of a poet myself
that last sentence really stings in so many different ways
What does this mean
@@justinisorange that people can often internalize biggotry, and this can lead to some queer ppl denying they're queer their entire lives because they think they must be "normal". like the kid in this song who clearly has feelings for Tim but wishes Tim was a girl because he can't imagine a relationship otherwise than between a guy and a girl. when they could very well date as guys (if Tim wants). but he thinks he can't access these feelings if Tim is a guy because he was taught "relationship is when guy and girl".
I’m a girl and I’ve never gotten over my ‘tim’. We went to a catholic all girls school together, she joined later because her family moved around a lot and when I saw her it was like my heart stopped. She was the prettiest person I had ever seen, and when she held my hand I felt safe and at home. She kissed me once when we were skipping class and hiding out in the changing rooms.
She said sorry after she kissed me. Said she didn’t know what came over herself and she left.
I’ll always regret not going after her and saying that she didn’t need to be sorry, and that I had never felt the way I did now before.
She moved to England a week later without telling me or even saying goodbye, but I wonder if the kiss was her way of saying goodbye.
I thought this only ocurred in movies
@@llanollano nah Irish Catholic all girls school is just wild
@ed3_873 At their core, movies are based on real life.
Everyone in Catholic school is gay
mf you had ur main character moment and you let it go
"just a touch of oregano"
>absolutely fucks it full of oregano
as it should be
No salt either, or pasta water, or meatballs, just spaghetti + garnish, ( This might be missing the point of the video, Idk )
the fact that tim and eddie are made out of wiggly lines that move around a lot is great visual storytelling. it really represents how not straight they are
Heehe yeaah! You read the description of his name! and lol thank you ;]
Or how demented kids are.
1,000TH!!! >:*)
@@JeremiahWdabullfrog
skill issue
Lol
Historians: “they were great friends”
This lmao 🤣
Best friends, even.
Roommates, even.
And I heard they threw the best of parties!
@@arturocordova5670 💀 I do not like what this is implying
me personally, i would date someone who makes me spaghetti with tomato sauce with just a touch of oregano and a parsley stem regardless of their gender
Then date me
i can do that and im a female so no homo
Us personally
Saucepansexual
shouldve added black pepper
I always looked at this song as a gay child who doesn’t know that being gay is a thing and this is their first experience with falling in love and not knowing that they could date the same gender
That's a great interpretation! I definitely can see that
Or maybe the other boy is trans
@@charlesancer6101 enby non binary its not your genitalia make you who you are its you gender expression
Or just bring a "straight" dude who wishes his good male friend was a girl 😭
Or just anyone who wishes things could be different than they are right now 💜
This reminds me of when I was 9 and had no idea what being gay was, but I really fell for this girl and every night I’d cry to my mum wishing I were a boy so that she could be my girlfriend lol. My mum said she’d suspected it all along but wanted me to figure out who I am by myself :] ❤️
That's so so sweeet : ]
@@greentuff1531are u okay??
@@greentuff1531never seen anyone be more confused about words and ideas. Their mother didn't say anything to them, and if she did it would've been a good thing. It's impossible to turn someone gay, but it is possible to make gay kids happier by telling them that they can feel good about who they are
@@greentuff1531 and I’d prefer if you didn’t call my mother deranged. She’s done nothing but support me for being who I am, she’s never said a word about the lgbt+ community until I came out to her. So please just leave people alone and keep ur thoughts to yourself.
@@greentuff1531 Uh- okay? lol- think what u want man just don’t push ur opinions onto others. “Understand your emotions more” it took me years to understand my emotions, and now I’m here living happily alongside my partner who happens to be the same gender as me. If it really bothers you that much I think you need help lol
I had a Tim once. God It’s been about four years now since I really hung out with him. During the Covid lockdown I ended up moving away from a lot of my friends to a new town and because of the lockdown I wasn’t really able to see them much. But one of my friends got his license right before the lockdown went into full effect so some days he would drive over and me and him would go to the trails in the woods by my new house and just goof off and talk a lot. After a few months it got more “intimate”, we would often lay by a small stream or under a tree in an open field and cuddle with eachother while listening to music. Although we never really admitted that we had feelings for each other it was nice. The area we live in doesn’t have the most accepting people anyway so we weren’t gonna be open about it. But after the lockdown ended we kinda just drifted apart and stopped talking. We‘ll see each other every now and again when we’re at a party or something but we never talk about anything we did. We both have girlfriends now, but I admit I’ll think about our time together every now and again and it makes me happy. It’s bittersweet.
What a nice comment
1. Do you love your girlfriend?
2. Why did you moved to a town if towns aren't the most accepting areas anyway? Or have you been living in rural areas for your whole life?
3. So, the area where you lived during that period of time is a very conservative town, am I right? If so, why? Please, explain your answer in detail.
4. Would you like to have a relationship with a guy like the guy you met? Or do you really love your girlfriend?
@@jmrabinez9254
1: I love my girlfriend and wouldn’t trade her for anything
2: I didn’t have a choice where I moved because I was still in high school and lived with my family. And no actually, I’ve generally lived in small townships most my life
3: yes it is a conservative area. As to why, that’s just how everyone there was raised? Idk I guess it is what it is
4: I’m bi and again, I love my girlfriend and wouldn’t trade anything for the relationship I have with her now. It’s just a guilty pleasure of mine to reflect on the past I suppose
@@jmrabinez9254 obviously not the op, but the interviewing is kinda weird. Life isn't black and white
@@jmrabinez9254 1. Bisexual people exist.
2. Well, yeah, people in conservative areas hide, what did you expect? Not everyone has the capacity to move.
It's really emotional for me because I remember as a kid thinking "wow Lisa is so beautiful, if I were a man I would have asked her out" and this song just felt really close to home. Great job
yes, this was always me too, growing up as a girl and realizing i was gay. it lead to a lot of gender dysphoria for me. for me the song is reversed: emily, i wish i was a boy so i could ask you out, etc...
I'm neurodivergent so attraction has always been confusing for me but subconsciously I knew that it was wrong to be anything other than straight...I don't even remember I specific point where I learned this..I guess I just subconsciously picked it up
I thought the song was gonna be dumb, but then it was...wow
"Wish you were born a girl so i could've been your boyfriend" has the same vibes as "i wish i could be a girl and that way youd with i could be your girlfriend, boyfriend"
EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT NO WAY 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
@@ImTired17 oh hey it's you
WIM WOOL
@@Doveghost hello!
@@greatestyoutuber WILIM WO
i watch this video like once a month you dont even know how much this video means to me. i love this song so much so finding this video made me love it even more
Heh. I know it's my own video, but I love to go revisit it too. Thank you so much, I'm glad you're able to resonate with it so well. I think I made it in only a day or two, but it's good I did. I didn't let there be any time for me to lose whatever I wanted to express at the time, so I suppose it came quite naturally. Thank you again!
Same ngl
It's so unbearably cute
My best friend was a sheltered guy who said he wished my friend was a girl so he could date him. We let him figure himself out naturally without trying to push him in any direction and he’s figured out he’s pan and is with that guy now lmao
You letting him figure it out and not pushing him to a conclusion is something everyone should do regardless of their views
Nice
HELP THATS SO CUTE
sh I'm pan too, pan love fr
AWWWWWW so cute 🥰
God, isn't it nice to be someone's Tim.
My best friend one day came out to me, her being straight. I liked her too, so I accepted.
A month and a half later she cut me off by text message, saying she was disgusted to be with another woman, but loved me anyway.
A big part of the problem was her homophobic family, and even her thinking that way too. But there was nothing else that hurt me more than when she used to tell me verbatim, " Dammit, why couldn't you be born a boy?"
In short, it hit too close to home.
i love how he describes exactly describes how he's gonna make spaghetti
yummy
Me vibes
I hope Tim and Eddie get to live happily ever after.
heternormitivity has fucked up so many of us
edit: heteronormitivity refers to the idea that being straight is normal. it is not the same as homophobia. heteronormitivity isnt a "thing" or a "trait of a person". it is a fact of how modern human society is built. most of us didnt know being gay was even a thing or that it was okay till we were older. it is introduced to us as something "different" and external, something we can never see ourselves being a part of. this genuinely harms queer people a lot. even as small children they are unable to comprehend this feeling for the same gender due to this.
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@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 Eddie wants Tim to be a girl, because it was frowned upon for a man to date a man, but Eddie didn't want Tim to change either, he just wanted to be with him.
In the "Hetero normative" the name says it all, the norm was to be straight, meaning that something different from that was considered something bad.
@@PERSONA4GOLDENN No? That doesn’t make any sense. That’s not quite how it’s happenin! What does that have to do with what I just said 😂 and it’s not considered bad he’s just not into men. If it were the lyrics would be a lot more different.
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 I'm going to assume you didn't see the video.
@@PERSONA4GOLDENN I did. 🤨
I like how the lines are intentionally so wiggly. it perfectly communicates the feeling of grasping at an explanation for why it is the way it is and simply can’t be helped but every time you accidentally ask yourself “but why can’t it be helped?” your whole justification falls apart in your hands and you’re left scrambling for the pieces, jamming them back together in warped perspective just to make the picture whole and fine again. very cathartic to watch this and lose my mind along with eddie
I had a tim once. When I was 10 i went to this weird Viking role play festival camp thing with my grandma and a few freinds we had a camp site and next to our camp site was another camp the camp next to us was two sisters and their grandparents one of the sisters was also 10 like me so obviously she became like my best friend for the next week we spent every moment together and i REALLY liked her but me being a Christian girl at the time I had no idea what being gay was I knew I liked her more than my other friends that were girls I just didn't know why or how I just remember thinking she was the coolest prettiest person I had ever seen. The day we left I remember the two of us just hugging and crying the whole time my grandma packed up our stuff when we finally left the girl said she hoped she would see me at next years festival I said I couldn't wait to see her to but sadly I never did see her again. It's been almost six years now and I still think about her and I have a feeling she might still think of me to. Her name was skyler and I promise if I ever see her again I'll tell her how I feel. I have a feeling one day we will meet again.
Ah, I hope very much you see her again :,]
I hope more than anything that you see her again
I hope more than anything that you see her again
I need an update when that happens. This is now one of the most important matters in my life.
Mannn!!!! Now I'll always somewhere in my heart pray and hope that you two meet again. Please let us know if you ever do.
This is incredible 💖I thought it was an official music video at first! Stellar job
THANK YOU!! That's a great compliment heh!!
IT ISN'T??
OMG YOU HERE?? I LOVE YOUR ART
Its not?
@@nova.millerno lol, the original song is by of montreal & came out in 1997
This video recommends me. And I realised I also had a person who as same as Tim. He is a handsome boy and have a deep voice. There once, I sent a message to him by saying 'take care' and he said to me that I treated him like a girlfriend. Many days later he confessed me that he loves me. Then, we always do our love stuff, like when I hugged him and then he blushed, I kissed him and later he kissed me back, also we both dating and had a dinner, face-to-face, laughing at him how silly he eat. Then, after like 7 months later, he told me that he want to be friend with me, not a lover. After that incident, I'm getting farther away from him, because it's awkward to talk to him. Even worse, me and him are classmates. I hate it if someone pairs me and him in every group project. And now what? Today is his birthday as I write this comment. Why TH-cam's recommendation always related to my life? Why? Why?
thats one heck of a story man, damn
Send him this video, you wont regret it
@@llanollano Nah, i don't want to, it makes more awkward with him, as i no longer chat with him 😬
It's a part of life, you're not always in control of what goes on inside someone else, especially not when it comes to romantic feelings. Just roll with it, accept it, and some day there will be someone there who's special and ready to make a commitment. By them this will just be a memory you can laugh about.
If you're still interested, just let him know he can come back to you no matter what, and the rest is in the air
0:39 “I coulda made you CHICKEN SOUUUPP😔”
This art style fits so well with this song in a way I can't explain, just so sweet
This is actually really sweet and sad at the same time. I just wanna give the poor guy a hug :(
poor guy needs it...
I like that this song is about love itself, and just wanting to be with the person. We tend to equate sexuality way to much to pure physical attraction and sex, when it is really love and caring for each other that’s important
i like the lyrics “i’m not saying you can’t be all these things for me, but it’s just not the same, cuz you’re a man, and so am i” at the end, cuz it shows a sense of internalized homophobia-not that the narrator doesn’t know what being gay is, or is homophobic, but that he can’t accept that about himself because of his own preconceived notions/outside prejudice
YESS i feel like thats what most of these comments are misunderstanding. Yes, there is a childlike innocence with not even having the vocabularity to describe it and the short and simple musical structure-- YET what hits the hardest is those last few lines. "[..]but its just not the same, cuz you're a man, and so am I" is such a simple yet self-aware declaration, highlighting the dissonance of fantasy and brutal reality that he can't overcome his own internalized shame. he is aware of a theoretical possibility for a relationship, but whats stopping him is his own guilt of what HE could never be.
Maybe he just doesn't like the d ever consider that?
Exactly. The other comments are just ignoring this like that seems super important to me
Or just not instinctively attracted to men
I would type out a paragraph about how deep and lovely this is, but people have already done that. There's nothing else to say.
It's really just lovely. It's sad, and lovely.
Poor little dude.
This is why we need to tell kids that being gay is real and valid and that their feelings are valid. It's not brainwashing, it's.. loving. And caring.
Do teachers suppose to teach it?
It is brainwashing. You can maintain the boundaries of brotherhood and be close friends affectionate to each other but nothing beyond that.
love as a construct is bullpoop. its origin is egoistic in nature. all love should be banned and prohibited, unnatural, which does not lead to procreation even more so. or maybe even less so if you consider procreation an act of evil, cause existence is suffering and poop. if you consider love's effect on mental health it's a lie every consumer tells himself. altruism is egoistic and vice versa. so just admit that your love for boys comes from sick affection as does every other feeling and stop romanticizing your dirty sinful existence as a human being that wants to put his stick in a hole and held safe under a protection of lesser minded or hold lesser minded under your control. admit you're evil and stop all this stupid bigotry vs bigotry war
@@MrM0gus Teach what? Being gay? How is that even taught?
@@Flow-Fi-Teach students about gay history not teach them how to *be* gay 💀
The constantly shifting style of the animation makes this so homey and bittersweet. It feels like a little kid drew it. You captured the song’s feeling so well - I love this :)
Thank you : ] I was going for the "kids drawing" look!
is it bad that i read homey as something else for a moment? not to ruin the mood or anything, but you know
@@reygenne1 It’s not bad but I’m not sure why you pointed it out haha
ohh you know it's just cause i like sparking things sometimes with fun and sometimes a little too much!@@shiny_cats2727
I totally get what you are feeling. One of my art teachers said that her favorite kind of art is when the artist expresses something with the sensitivity of a child who saw the world for the first time but with the concepts and understanding of an adult. I feel the same way.
my heart hurts for little squiggly drawn people and those who see themselves in them. i am manifesting a wave of self acceptance and self kindness and a welcoming world and i am turning this idea round and round in my head so fast its gonna pop into existence just gimme a minute
I like imagining these are all things Eddie has seen his parents doing for each other
AWWW😭😭😭😭😭
For me, this song hits home. Its like of course for us, theres nothing wrong with being gay, but a lot of people and society throughout history made it seem like the worst thing you could ever do, even now.
Im trans and im out of the closet with my close friends and online as well. And in those moments im like "hey yk life isnt so bad, theyre pretty accepting". And then i get slapped in the face with reality of people who weren't raised to be accepting and understanding and realize thats most of the world. T-T
Its not the worst thing ever, its just degenerate.
@@THERealJesusChrist333basically explained how i also feel abt bein trans. my father was never supportive of me, and always called me mentally ill out of the blue whenever i felt safe in my own skin for once
@@THERealJesusChrist333 I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. You deserve to be accepted and understood and loved. It's even worse when it's people that you care about that dont show that they care about you like they should, especially over something like that. And sometimes I feel like most of the people in the world are horrible people too, but you have to hold onto hope that people will try to better themselves. A lot of people have been coming around and trying to do better, but yeah, we still have a long way to go. Good luck with everything
@@lmaoeyisdead Same thing I told the other commenter, you should've never had to deal with that and you deserve way better. Sometimes people are just so afraid of change and are stuck in their ways that they can't see what's more important than tradition, which is their child. Most people just don't understand, but others are just so hateful about it and it's honestly really sad to see. That's why I'll never tell my parents that I'm bi, especially not my dad, because I just know he'd flip out and I don't feel safe telling him. Which I know is the reality for a lot of us, and it makes me mad that things are the way they are because they shouldn't be. But either way, I hope you get all the love and support that you need and that you might've missed out on before, and just know that you're not alone in your struggles. Much love 🤍
THIS IS SO CUTE WTF IM IN LOVE WITH THE STYLE OF THIS
Thank you so much :D
This music made me cry a lot. Basically, the story you created is perfectly mine. I have a boyfriend, who isn't bisexual or homosexual. But even though I'm a boy, he loves me much more than any girl he's ever seen, but he's not attracted to my looks, and he always wishes I'd been born a girl as well as me. My masculine features make me cry every day, because I don't want that either. My mother is religious and doesn't help me in this matter, so, being a minor, living in Brazil and having very few conditions, I can't buy women's clothes on my own, let alone make a gender transition. We've been together for four years and this whole situation makes us uncomfortable and sad, because we're thinking of separating at once, and we've tried, but we can't stay away from each other.
We love each other very much, we comfort each other, and finally...
All these problems because of my masculine appearance.
I "wish I'd been born a girl".
I'm so sorry, I hope when you are old enough to move out etc. you can pursue the life and gender presentation you want
Yes. In our country (im Brazilian too) transsexuals still a gigant taboo. Principally with these alt-right protestants getting this huge popularity, and the Bolsonaro’s alt-right still being present as a strong ideology, unfortunately, this happens to all the minor and poor LGBT+ community on the nation. All luck of the world for you, greetings from Bahia, and keep going.
Deep down, he seems to have always known that u were a girl, which is really beautiful, i hope u can transition soon, im on the wait for that too, even if im an adult already
Thanks to all of you. :)
I was embarrassed to reply these days, but I managed to find the courage!
Thank you!
This is a very delicate subject, and yes, we're still together and happy. With a little money that I got as a gift at the end of the year from family members, I managed to buy a beautiful women's wig yesterday.
Now I'm waiting for it to arrive to see how it looks on me.
My boyfriend and I are looking forward to it.
My mother doesn't know yet, and it's very likely that her reaction will be terrible, but not to the point of kicking me out of the house, because she said she'd never go that far.
But anyway, I'll finally be able to be happy with the way I look.
I really hope that I'll have more opportunities to be happy in the future.
Thank you for supporting me! ^^
I really need people like this in my life!
@@LeoAzevedo-yb4qu Muito obrigado!!
As coisas realmente são bem dificeis aqui em nosso país sobre esses assuntos. :(
Mas sabe, estou vivendo em uma bolha de pessoas saudáveis por enquanto. O problema, é quando eu me tornar adulto, e precisar cumprir minhas obrigações com empregos, trabalhos e etc, que eu irei ter que furar essa bolha e conhecer pessoas novas. Eu realmente não sei como será, mas espero que não seja tão ruim.
guys, fuck society, love has no gender 🥲
But society are judgemental.
No just love, just everything.
Then ignore it, live your life, be happy.@@TheFreakJessie
We all got that one friend in the homie group that would sing this in a cruise night to his passenger princess, staring directly to his eyes as he drives, nearly crashing along the way.
I’m the passenger princess
I think thats just ur homie group bro,,
Your Homie group sound sweet.
idk, sounds oddly specific...
This is exactly how I felt when I had a crush on my girl bestfriend in elementary school.
I straight up told her "If I was a boy, I would love dating you" and she replied with "YUCKK!!"😭😭
😢
Used to say things like "If you were a boy I would date you" (I'm female) to my friends as a kid. Nice to know I wasn't the only one.
Love the animation and the lyrics. It displays that feeling perfectly.
Xefros pfp
Gang can't know I fw this 😭
it's over...your caught..
I like that the first half of this song/video is just mundane trivialities of day-to-day life in a relationship (cooking, being sick), and the second half straight-up talks about feeling like a failure and the importance of love.
Only saw this now, but I love this song and video so much. As an in-denial / closeted gay teen boy back in the day that was infatuated with my very own “Tim” in 2008-09, if I had discovered this song back then, it would have been my favorite song of all time.
Im not gay nor queer, Have never will never. but this strikes somewhere with me. I have a freind who i wish i could be a girl for, we've known eachother so long but yeah
i think u might be queer lol. you might not be, but "will never" is a way of thinking that will just cause you unnecessary pain. you do not have to commit to any label or identity and those are things that can change with time. just like in this song a lot of people view queerness as something external to them something that they can never see themselves being a part of, its how most of us are raised. even if youre not raised being taught homophobia and even if youre taught tolerance you were likely not raised to see yourself in queer people. i did not even consider the possibility that i was gay until a female friend in highschool started dating another girl and the concept of that sort of became real to me, if that makes sense. its hard to explain but its the way a lot of people think without even realizing it
@@BlisaBLisa Yeah, over the last 2 months a load of major things have happened.
Falling out with said friend from political views (he’s alt-right)
Very-very short stint and dating a female friend
Grandmother dying and more, but during all this I’ve been spending a load of time on trans or queer spaces because they’ve been really great for support and has gotten me to open up a little more.
I’m questioning a ton of stuff about myself right now but until I move out I can’t experiment. I’m not comfortable in my skin or with who I am currently so I have a deep rotted feeling that this might be an indicator that I’m trans.
God knows though, I’ve had these feelings on and off for a long time and I just need the space to explore
Can kind of relate, my friendships have always been far more beautiful and loving than my relationships to the point where I have stopped dating because platonic love has always felt more genuine, if we swung that way, we would definitely be married already…
Man, everything in this makes me so sad. The fact that he secretly wishes he wouldn't change but their relationship would, the way the lyrics are written like a confused little boy would think in his head, the way all of this is drawn. And to know the exact feelings he is going through. Everything is so innocent and yet so tragic, because you KNOW everything is pure-intentioned, but still there are people picturing same-sex relationships as taboo/ bad/ satanic. Heartbreaking
I already love this song and how other than its obvious reading as being about being a gay kid and not realizing that you have the option to date "your best friend who you think about more than any girl youve ever met", it can also be kind of read as a trans kid singing to themself, about themself, about "ah, I wish I was born as this gender, it would be great and I'd be so happy, too bad that cant happen" because a lot of my formative memories are wishing I'd been born a boy but "that's just not possible is it?"
Basically, the childlike voice the singer uses reminds me of being a little boy when I didn't know I was allowed to be one. Also, I hope someday I'll also find a song that is specifically about that!
Ah yes... that's such a good way to think about it, from the perspective of a trans person. It's quite shocking when you find out, later on in life, that you actually are a man heh.
the trans community makes little gay kids like the one in this song think that they’re born in the wrong body so no, i dont think that should be celebrated 🥰
@@ellepalmer I'm sorry your experience was a negative one, but the fact that you've decided to invalidate others' experiences reveals your self centered nature.
@@ellepalmer Finally, some common sense
@@ellepalmerthat’s flat wrong, considering cishet society is so heavily doing the *exact opposite*. The dumbest thing about your argument is it doesn’t make sense. Why would we want to force people to deal with the same dysphoria we have to go through. Your lack of knowledge and bias on the subject is incredible
omg i've been wanting to make an animation for this song for a while now too! you beat me to it, and very well done lol. great job
oh wow, hey you can still make your own version hehe! Thank you! 💞💖
When I first heard this song, I was in my sophomore year of high school. I had had my heart broken a few months earlier. It was winter and I had fallen in love with Kevin Barnes’s early works. I remember reading somewhere that he would only sing this song “at a child’s birthday party.” I related so hard to this song, and though I’m sure him its just him moving on from his feelings, I took it as him continuing to see his feelings as silly and impossible. Thats his life with this Tim guy was something that was a frivolous daydream, and that terrified me. That I would only find a frivolous love I could only daydream about instead of pursuing something. I absolutely love this song and I’m so happy to see others love this song. I’ve found someone I’ve grown fond of now. Someone who I maybe don’t have to be afraid of loving anymore. It’s very nice, but I won’t forget this song, and my feelings. I absolutely adore your art. 🤍
Thank you,,, and your comment is beautiful. I am genuinely happy for you!!
this reminds me of when i was around 12 and only just realising i was bi, there was a boy ,he was very kind to me and i was very confused because i fely confused, i thought things like "if i was a girl i would want to date him" it then progressed to having thoughts and being in denial and saying to myself "i'm not gay, ive liked women so theres no way i'm into men", soon after i realised i was bisexual, he never felt the same way and his friends mocked me after i did say it to him, however i am grateful it did happen allowing me to realise who i was and be true to myself.
I literally love this, I love your interpretation
Thank you
I’m going to have a different opinion here- I think this song is helpful to a lot of straight men growing up just as it is gay people. From the time of birth, men are told they cannot love the same gender not just romantically, but PLATONICALLY like women do. So instead of a boy growing up thinking his male friend HAS to be a woman he cares for in a romantic manner, it should teach that boys can have friendships like girls- loving and caring and emotional without it always having to be considered gay.
im confused though, boys usually have their homies and are friends with boys.
@@penguin22penguin22not like girls do 😅 girls hold hands, embrace each other, cuddle, and are not considered, nor need to be lesbians. Two guys cuddling is automatically seen as gay.
@@PearlsAnneHeels Oh. i mean im a girl and i dont think i ever hugged a friend of mine unless it was a forcehug from when i was really young... But i dont have much friends so i guess i cant relate, but i guess i see what you mean, sadly people say that when it's boys and not girls, that's what you're saying right.? Ok.
I think that EMBEEAY's comment is the first top-level comment I have seen in this comment section that interprets the text in a way that is not obviously idiotic. That should not be a high bar, but apparently it is. So well done.
@@PearlsAnneHeelsLol I am glad to be from a country where holding hands or cuddling by men is not considered as gay.
It may be because we're conservative country and that gay relationships are as good as negligible
I guess i had a Tim, although it ended it bit differently when they transitioned. We're happy now
Cute
Sometimes I wish it wasn't as relatable for me as it actually is
I love this artstyle it’s reminds me of one of those 2000’s PBS Kids shows
Yess!!! I love kids animations heh
I'm sending this to someone named Tim.
Thank you.
ive never seen a view-to-like ratio like this video, an *eighth* of the people who have watched this, not even considering rewatches, have left it a like and i think that stands testament just how good this video is
the opposite end of "i wish i could be a girl and that way you wish i could be your girlfriend"
This is the first time I've heard this song and it really reminds me of the way I used to think when I was younger, not knowing what being gay was and just thinking that the people I liked had to be girls for me to "actually like them". That aspect both makes this video really sweet but also melancholic, reminding me of a time where I didn't understand much but still felt happier. I'm glad this little animation can take me back and give me the warm fuzzies of being a kid again. Thank you for making this.
Thank you
Ofcourse you have a Jojo profile
were you ever molested
By now, it will have been about one year ago since I decided to confess to my best friend that I loved her. I was initially told that she reciprocated those feelings, but when we went out for lunch the following day, she told me she didn't want a relationship simply because she hadn't planned on dating anyone. Honestly, being told someone shared the same feelings for me only to be turned down later felt worse than just being rejected out-right. I wish she had just told me that from the beginning. In the end, we're still really good friends and I've since gotten over my crush, but every time I think about that time now, it's still painful...I don't exactly connect with the part of wishing someone was another gender/identity as I could date basically anyone and I'm comfortable with my sexuality by now, but I connect with wanting your relationship with someone else to be different, and feeling like you'll never have that. This song made me really emotional and the scribbly animation only contributed to that rush of emotions. Thank you for making this, it's extremely unique and I bet it will bring a lot of other people some sort of connection or relatability or comfort.
Thank you... it is astonishing what responses I've gotten, yours included. The stories people have are so beautiful in a way, and terribly heartbreaking. if my silly animation can bring comfort to anyone it means so much to me. Thank you :]
Damn, your comment maks me emotional. Had a similar experience with a good friend where i confessed my love for him and he said yes. We was a couple for two months and then he said he is not ready for a relationship.
It was painful for me but now we are good friends again. I had other crushes and relationships but i still have this feelings for him and its hurt.
I can relate. A few months ago, I had a crush on one of my friends, she's a girl. She is just so nice and friendly, you can be comfortable around her. We both take art class and she is always impressed by my work, and I'm always impressed by her work too. When you see her for the first time, I think you might be scared of her because she's an anime kid hahaha, but when you get to meet her she's just the most humble, funny, smart, talented, and sweet person you could meet. I started to question if I was straight a year ago quietly, and my feelings for her explained that I wasn't straight, I honestly never really felt straight ever. Still having a crush on her, I tried to come out to my parents. Obviously, they didn't accept me. They said "God made men and women for a reason." And "So you wanna have sex with a woman?" And "You're just confused. We won't accept lesbians here." (I'm not a lesbian mom, I'm Biromantic. I don't wanna have sex with anyone at this age.) After a few months, I tried to come out again to my parents to see if anything would change. To my surprise, they said the exact same thing. By this point, I was thinking if I should tell my crush my feelings since she was Bi too. Spoiler alert, I didn't. I got a friend to do it for me. Sadly, she said no. Honestly, I understand. Having a crush on your friend is weird, regardless of gender. Even though, my clingy self wouldn't let her go, until I finally understood she didn't like me anymore so I let her go. I'm a proud Biromantic person, but I still feel regret and sadness for having crushes on girls because I feel like a failure to my family sometimes; like if having these feelings are bad and for the confused. I wish they could just know that I can't do anything about it, I really can't. I still sort of wish my crush was born a boy so I can be accepted.
@@LadyVenus125 you are not a failure, you perfect as you are. And i hope you parents come to the Point, where they realize that have feelings for the same sax isn't bad or horrible.
@@milch_mutter Thank you so much for your kind words. You just made my day.
i love how this is getting recommended to every single queer person in youtube 2 years late
I'm pan, and have always told my 8 year old she can love whoever she wants. Last year she had a crush on a boy. This year, it's a girl.
You’re such a sweet parent😭🫶
THAT'S SO CUTE
Exactly. And you know what? Both crushes are equally silly, elementary school stuff. I think it's great to let your kid grow up and be silly and do harmless stuff and not get mad because a book or your own parents taught you that one is right and one is wrong. AND also not to ascribe a label to any of it because kids are the definition of "still figuring it out".
I think culture war has kinda ruined childhood whimsy on both sides. I think everyone should feel the need to "come out" to their parents. Straight, gay, mspec, ace, or anything. I think that ability to be curious is a person's greatest tool of self-invention and understanding of all the wacky systems in this universe.
I even think people should kinda stop hardlining labels entirely, because, as Whitman so perfectly put it, "Do I contradict myself? / Very well then I contradict myself, / (I am large, I contain multitudes)".
But that's enough of my meandering manifesto, buried in a comment section under a short animation of a song capturing a naive, but truly felt emotion. TL;DR: Good on'ya
this is so cute I love the style so damn much, what a wonderful little video
aa thank you I truly appreciate that 💞💖 I'm happy especially you like my doodle style :D
Lovely, perfectly fits the themes in the song.
Thank you
What an insanely sad song, I hope he got together with tim or at least found another guy to be with
More realisticly, he fond out he was not straight all along and found someone. Way after.
this video makes me so proud to be a fruity lil fella
“i wish you were a boy Irina”.
I was 7 and so were you.
I was a girl and so were you.
I loved you, and so did you.
glad to see this song getting love. Literally no one i know has even heard of this song.
Why is this so wholesome...
This is so sad, im genuinely so upset about this ! but i love how it made me cry.
this is so lovely. what a beautiful emotion this creates.
Ah thank you : ] I'm glad you feel the emotion from it
This is such a sweet song and the animation is just precious. I feel for the poor fella.
Incredibly bitter sweet
The style is PERFECTT for this!
Thank you :- o !!!!!
Ofc!! ^^ Great job!
This is how I rizz my bros (they beat my as after)
Oil up, I'll be there in 5
honestly i love the way you drew it, especially considering its supposed to be the internal thoughts of the main character. its messy and not well defined despite having a clear subject matter, and really respresents the way the character views themselves and their world, a messy scribble of lines that's supposed to be one thing, but it doesn't quite clearly show what it is. idk if that makes sense but it does to me
Thank you - yes, you're right it's from his perspective! I do imagine them to be kids/young people so it's a reflection of their childishness, too : ]
Wait until he finds out about being gay
Just kidding, but this is beautiful. It’s so expressive and tells so much for being crude squiggly lines. really hits home too. I love it
I'm so glad this is getting more popular :} I've loved this song for years and it makes me so happy to know that now even more people are loving it!!!
This song makes my heart hurt in a nice way
This is so cute 🥺🥺, this animation makes song million times better! Love it so much, thank you for warmth!
Thank you
wtf this made me cry
i'm gonna cry
So glad this blew up right now. As a closeted gay teen, it means the world to see stuff like this. I wish I had known I was gay sooner because it didn't even occur to me that guys could like guys before I realized I was gay. I feel like I could have had much deeper relationships with some people had I known. That intense despair I feel from knowing how much time I've wasted before I knew I was gay, and even now, being closeted, makes this song hit so ridiculously close to home. Your art so thoughtfully heightens the experience of the song. The visceral style feels to me like a stream of consciousness, looking at my life and all the boys I've liked, especially when I'm looking far back into the past and thinking about the boys I didn't even know I liked. I love the humor and beauty and clear passion in all of this. This is one of the only pieces of media to ever make me feel this deeply. Thank you so much for bringing your talent into this, heightening an already-perfect song.
Thank you this is an incredible comment and it warms my heart to read this. You're very right about the stream of consciousness thing. I had actually created this animation in only a few days, whilst I felt some strong emotional connection to that song, so to see that sort of "transferred" to you and others is astonishing!
and P.S. thank you for sharing your story, I know that it's extremely cheesy to say this, but the fact you have even realised you're gay and seemingly accepted it, within yourself at least, is so important. It's a bittersweet feeling to find that you understand yourself better (for all the years lost in which you didn't), but it's exciting for the future, too!
Maybe it isn’t such a good idea to avoid mentioning gay people around children. A lot of people are afraid that talking about it would turn straight kids gay, but I think avoiding it just makes gay kids feel bad because they don’t know that they’re allowed to naturally fall in love just like everyone else.
I had a tim, many tims in fact, in my life. I still talk with some of them, and one of these friends i fell for is now my best friend. I just wish things turned out different for me, for us, for the experiences we shared but couldn't share, for the love that stayed buried underneath a sea of bittersweet tears. Thinking about the past feels so bittersweet, a mix of happiness and nostalgia, along with a regret for holding back and shying away from things. This animation is so cute and adorable i honestly love it, it made me feel some things lol.
As a straight guy this animation is really nice I like it and W for of Montreal been listening to them since 2013
god this is so relatable as a gay person 😭 before i realized i was gay this was the things i would think. hope the kid realizes there's nothing wrong with liking tim
as a queer girl i can also relate to this song, my first crush was on a straight girl and at the time i didn't know girls could date another girls yk, i think past me would have loved this song
That Guitar solo at the end is bittersweet as it is, it perfectly matches the animation. Love this
I wish I wasn't born in the 2000s, So I identify as a man with a leather jacket and greasy pompadour who goes hot rodding in a blue Cadillac Eldorado 59 to the bowling alley with his golly dolly and fellow cool cats after eating at Joe's diner while listening to Rock & Roll.
ive thought about this so many times about my best friend... i got transported into this wigly world for a minute and it makes me feel like I am cozying up to a part of my emotions I don't get to do often. relatable on a spiritual level.
i remember watching this when it was posted and it seriously changed me lol, like this video is so good and makes me cry. i think about it a lot, so thank you for making great art. ❤️
aahw my goodness thank you!!!
AAAAH I love Of Montreal and to see this song animated is making me really giddy :D
Even though I'm not gay, this song feels like the most accurate portrayal of love and heartbreak I've ever heard in a song and has helped me get through some extremely rough times. Just for some reason it speaks to me like no other song.
NO LE PUEDES HECHAR ORÉGANO A LOS TALLARINESSSSSSSSSSSSSS
this animation tickles the itches in my brain that my hands cannot reach
I wish for a day where no kid feels their sweet and innocent emotions are wrong or shameful
I tried coming out to my Mom. She said “you’re not gay, I know you’re not attracted to men.”
No, you don’t. You don’t know me. What exactly does this mean anyways? Because if it means what I think it means, then that’s stupid. You really messed me up for a few good years until I realized. Hell, some days I think of Men just to confirm if I still find them attractive. And guess what? I still do.
So no, Mom. You don’t know me. Don’t try to talk to me to make me “understand.” I understand already. You don’t know me better than I know myself. I know what I like and Men is one of them.
So shut up and let me enjoy what I enjoy without judgement.
I get so happy every time I see someone make art dedicated to of Montreal. This one was really beautiful and definitely the top one I’ve seen so far :) love this 💖💕
Thank you : ] +!!!
I know this isn't the intended reading of this song, but as someone who has dated a trans girl and watched her deal with the struggles that come with being trans, I can relate to this song. It would have been easier for both of us if she had just been born a girl in the first place, but life and love aren't always that simple and convenient so we make the best of the hand we're dealt.
❤
your art looks like the art you find in a French book you haven’t touched for years at the end of the hallway in a small book shelf that no one uses
Man, I haven't heard that song in so long, but I was obsessed with that entire album.
I know its supposed to be a song about the realization of being gay, but the concept of "wish you were born a girl" is something i repeat to myself daily and its interesting to hear it contextualized differently (im transfem btw in case the message didnt come across clearly there, im pretty bad with words :p).
Yeah, I get you!
Pokemon needs less of you 💀 I'm sorry but I can't
Ugh. Why do you even wish to be a girl? You will never be one of us.
@@TMHLBPFansomeone sayd im trans and they got yall triggered💀
@@Cris-hs4zn ?