The most incredible part about the whole thing is that Monica and Ross get along so well. Usually, when parents make such big differences between their children, the kids tend to hate each other as adults.
Jack and Judy messed them up in different ways. For Monica her constant needing to please people and wanting things to be perfect stems from her just wanting to be noticed and loved by her parents. For Ross I think him constantly being spoilt by his parents meant this he is emotionally immature, hence why his job and divorces happen (among other things). Despite Monica being the younger sibling she often takes care of Ross because she is use to taking care and Ross is used to being cared for. TL:DR - they both have shared issues aba
My grandpa was the unfavorite, but he and my uncle got along great (ironically PawPaw is much more like Ross than Monica). PawPaw is very easy going and made other friends easy, so I am sure that helped. I think part of it was my uncle and many of their friends were troublemakers, so PawPaw always looked like an angel compared to them.
Why did her parents thought that she won't get married? She was gorgeous, successful, polite, kind and so fun. Judy was always very rude to Monica, but here her Father also did a horrible thing.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
This is rough, especially knowing that they paid for TWO of Ross' weddings. Update: I forgot that he was married to Carol, whose family likely paid for the first wedding. Still unfair that they paid for Ross' but couldn't pay for their own daughters.
Normally the father has to pay for the wedding of his daughter, so...because Ross is not female, the father(s) of his bride(s) payed for the weddings...
Monica’s parents were just awful to her. If they no longer wanted to pay for her wedding that’s their prerogative but they shouldn’t have waited until she got engaged to tell her.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
Their parents, especially their mom, was AWFUL to Monica. All her little snide comments about the way she looked or how she was gonna be alone forever and the constant comparisons to Ross. I’m so annoyed that Monica never got a true apology before the show ended or some sort of closing to their story.
@@joseeduardotschen9186 an apology from her awful mother like I said… just because she got kids of her own doesn’t mean she should forgive her mother for sucking at raising kids
Ross has always been his parents’ favourite, and so was Rachel. Monica and Chandler went through tons of traumatic hardships since childhood, hence why their relationship works so well and Ross and Rachel’s a complete mess
@Gray Mid and why do we consume media? To feel stuff we wouldn't otherwise, to empathize with others, to think about situations that might happen to others. This "it's just a sitcom" is such bs
@@itachistan437 there's no perfect relationship, but if you compare the two (Rosschel and Mondler) Mondler is healthier, because they give and take. Monica may be a control freak, but whenever Chandler burst out and explain himself, if he has a point, Monica knows when to pull down her pride and comfort her husband. Rachel couldn't even take responsibility with her faults.
It was karma for pretending he was the massager just so he could massage the woman bare skin but it wasn't her who was getting the massage it was her father and Ross deserved it.
Monica is really kind to still respect her parents. Not just this wedding fund, they had been rude to her every time they were around. If they can't love their child why did they choose to have one?
@@Snowaxe3D geezus fuck, sitcoms are based on real life situations, or possible real life situations, the whole point is that it can be relatable, I'm so fucking sick of this "chill it's just a sitcom" bs... We consume media exactly to feel emotions we wouldn't otherwise, to empathize with others.
I guarantee you that when they were discussing if they should pay for Ross’ second wedding, Judy ended it with, “Well it’s not like he has a sibling.” I’m not even joking. Rachel literally said that Judy saw her as the daughter she never had.
Or the one with the memorial service when Ross faked his death and he was talking to her on the phone. She said if he died they would be childless. Ross responded with "mom, if I died you wouldn't have been left childless", to which he had to remind her about Monica 😂😂😂
@@gejamugamlatsoomanam7716 Material items aren’t a substitute for familial affection-which Monica lacked (especially by her mother). And as others mentioned earlier, Jack gifted Monica the car-after accidentally destroying her childhood memories in a flood to protect said vehicle.
For people said that at least her dad gave her the porsche, she got it because her childhood stuff were used as a barier for Ross's stuff from flood. Jack felt sorry because Monica thought that they love Ross more than her (which is true). And Judy kept telling Jack to get rid of the porsche anyway so...
It wasn't used as a barrier for Ross's stuff, it was used as a barrier for the porsche. I doubt Jack had any idea what was in the boxes. Now, Judy would have made sure they were Monica's before using them.
Jack and Judy was just absolutely and positivity horrible parents towards Monica. 😭😟🥺😡Monica is a beautiful, intelligent, and independent woman that deserves recognition and credibility. Any mother and father would be proud to have Monica for a daughter. 😍😎💯👍
Yes. No wonder Monica always complained how unfair their parents treat them. Like she's the one being left out in literally everything. Parents should not be like this. When it comes to marriage, parents should fund the ceremony. It is the same thing with any culture. In Asia, parents are the ones who would fund the ceremony. Coz it's the celebration of getting new family member.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@Snowaxe3D nope. Parents should pay. Just pay according their capabilities. In Malaysia, it's like that. For catering, parents spend the money, but for other things like wedding dress or gift money to the bride, it's on the groom
They did paid for Ross's wedding with Emily in very short time notice (he proposed only after 2 weeks knowing her and got married in 3 month after that) . Why can't they just do the same for Monica?
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@Snowaxe3D And besides, Monica had already been planning to pay for her own wedding, hence the wedding fund she'd been,building up that her parents unfairly stole from. Like I said in my comment, Monica's still too hung up on feeling validated as their daughter to ever make them do that for her.
@@ReallyKeepingFictional as anyone says The show never said they paid for Both of Ross's weddings, they paid only once that too half, Next, Monica also didn't tell them about her relationship with Chandler, they could have saved money if she had told them earlier, Didn't they say they saved it again for Richard? So they could have done it again for Chandler. Lastly, they still got married and Monica refused to use Chandler's savings so the question is where did the wedding money come from? It's safe to assume, Everyone, chipped in a bit including her parents. I am including her parents because it's still a Sitcom and the sitcom has a happy ending.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@21minute as anyone says, The show never said that they paid for Both of Ross's weddings, they paid only once that too half, Next, Monica also didn't tell them about her relationship with Chandler, they could have saved money if she had told them earlier, Didn't they say they saved it again for Richard? So they could have done it again for Chandler. Lastly, they still got married and Monica refused to use Chandler's savings so the question is where did the wedding money come from? It's safe to assume, Everyone, chipped in a bit including her parents. I am including her parents because it's still a Sitcom and the sitcom has a happy ending.
@@Snowaxe3D if that's true , parents shouldn't pay for any of their children's wedding. Cuz they are not liable . But paying for one child and nor for the other is straight up horrible. Don't defend favoritism under all comments of this section.
@@Some_guy_passing_by I am not defending, I am stating the obvious, In case you missed my 2nd comment you can go read it. It's not like Monica had no hands in it.
Yes, it's a tv show. But the characters were emotionally abusive. Also, the anger I'm seeing in the comments is that her parents promised they'd pay for at least part of it and then never told her they changed their minds until it was too late. It's not saying they are obligated to pay but they reneged on their promise and were never honest with her about it. They didn't even bring it up until Monica did.
Monica has a wonderful heart, a beautiful girl like her deserves great parents. I'm feeling double standard here... her parents would never do the same thing to Ross.
Everyone "deserves" great parents, no matter what we look like. Most people actually do not get great parents. But yes, Monica is a beautiful girl, nonetheless.
Friends is the only show in history that exposed that parents could be really awful to their children and we learn to tolerate them with a smile. I am glad Monica had Chandler. My parents are not very differeny from Monica's. My mom is worse infact. I pray one day I will find my Chandler Bing.
i always imagined that Jack and Judy payed lip service to baby Erica and Jack, because they were adopted, and didn't treat them that great. saying things like "My daughter adopted the babies, she can't have any of her own" like it was a bad thing, or they were lesser babies, and when Monica and Chandler fell naturally, and it can happen and the couple were overjoyed because now they were having a third. Jack and Judy did the full on "baby shower, gender reveal, and bragging about their real grandbaby" and after that, Monica and Chandler cut them both off. and jack geller bing. who was about six decided to go by his middle name Daniel. because grandpa didn't love him the geller bing family of eventually five, won't allow toxic people in their lives.
Yeah, but by the series finale I don't think Chandler would have let Judy or Jack say anything nasty to Monica or the kids. He would draw a line saying "Those are my family you're talking about ". And probably cut ties with them in later years
I think Jack would be great to his grand babies (although he would definitely still say stupid stuff about them being adopted). But he and Monica made peace. She named her son Jack. She did not name her daughter Judy. 😂
Chandler is one of my favorites characters he is one of the most eminent actors in the friend sitcom I think it's beyond a shadow of a doubt that Chandler is not going to give up he is a go-getter person
Very true.. They are caricatures of the ultimate "bad parents"..I am an Indian.....so the way the parents show preferential treatment to the son is nothing new to me..this behaviour is considered normal in India.
@@mathangeevijayraghavan202 I don't think it's this bad here Monica is treated like trash but in India the wedding is celebrated with grandeur for the daughters too
@@hsd287 true that they may be giving daughters less value but since the day daughter is born all they plan even before education is her wedding they save up from their childhood so they can celebrate her wedding grandly and give perfect farewell.
Her dad was more ignorant, he at least took further steps, such as seeing how she was after she broke up with Richard or when he gave her his porche. Her mother is a bitch.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@srsgas1 as anyone says, The show never said that they paid for Both of Ross's weddings, they paid only once that too half, Next, Monica also didn't tell them about her relationship with Chandler, they could have saved money if she had told them earlier, Didn't they say they saved it again for Richard? So they could have done it again for Chandler. Lastly, they still got married and Monica refused to use Chandler's savings so the question is where did the wedding money come from? It's safe to assume, Everyone, chipped in a bit including her parents. I am including her parents because it's still a Sitcom and the sitcom has a happy ending.
Their parents really show no respect to Monica when they said 'we thought you would pay after 30' and it was very clear that they didn't love her when they had double standard for ross
You know I never noticed the first time around so much, but watching the reruns I now realise just how predatory Ross was, posing as a masseuse to trick a woman into getting undressed in his apartment and the way he calls for Rachel just cos he sees her naked in her apartment, it’s grotesque behaviour and Joey with Janine is almost watchable, too. When he takes the shower curtain down and puts the heat up in his apartment to encourage Janine to walk around in her underwear, it’s awful behaviour.
2:46 - lol, i love how her father is telling chandler good luck, clearly implying like mother like daughter , poor chandler is in for some tough times : )
the fact that they were fine planning on paying for the wedding between their youngest child and their friend who's basically their age but it never even crossed their mind that Chandler might propose is honestly so weird
Even I agree with your viewpoint but if my parents paid for my brother's wedding and then refused me for mine then I would certainly know who they value more.
I remember someone did an estimation on the rent for Monica’s apartment in central New York. Was something like $4k per month and chandlers was $3k per month. In short they both would have needed 3X that in salary as a general rule which mean Monica needed to earn about $150k per year. So it’s just Hollywood being unrealistic. I mean we watch films about alien superhero’s based on Norse legends these days so best to have a bit of artistic flexibility. This point was was too long and over explained. I need to get a girlfriend.
@@wallygropius4451 nice attention to detail also. Just realised that chandlers salary would be hard to determine since he is a “transponster” so he could well be earning over 140k per annum
Okay this doesn't add up, in this episode Jack is saying he got Judy pregnant while they were engaged but somewhere in season 7 he also mentions that he and Judy had trouble conceiving and Ross was a medical marvel.
It might. They didn't say that child was Ross. She could have miscarried and that caused complications and then they thought she wouldn't be able to have children. Copied theory!
I just hate everything The Gellers did to Mon Judy is always very rude to Her... They spent the wedding fund... Never appreciated on her successes... Destroyed her childhood memories... Always favoured Ross and admitted openly about him being their favourite... I mean... What kind of parents are those...!!!
I don't get it. They spent Monica's wedding fund to buy a beach house when she was only 23 and they kept on taunting her about her marriage. What if she decided to get married at age 24 when she didn't have that much of a career? How the hell did they expect her to afford it? So it's a good thing that she married late (when she turned 30) because they expected her to pay for her own wedding so I don't think she deserved any of those pressure and taunts about marriage.
That's why monica and chandler deserves each other. They fill each other's void that their respective parents created.. They both have issues about their parents that only they can understand about each other..
Never understood why her parents mean bad to her. But atleast her father gifted her thd Porsche. That's the least he did for her after eating up her wedding fund and ruining all her childhood memories but still better than her mom.
I love "Friends" it's very funny and always makes me laugh, but with this episode I've always wandered, what was Ross's intention with the woman and the massage? I mean, was he going to try to make a move on her while she was half naked in his house?
I think Judy manipulated Jack into buying the house, she didn't want her owm daughter to be marry and to be happy: There is an episode when Judy tells Monica that her own mother was awful to her; she almost confessed that that's the reason he treated Monica so poorly: because Judy wants Monica to suffer like she did. I know this is supposed to be funny but it is very interesting to talk about.
You can see the use of their multi camera setup at 2:18 when it's focused on Chandler and Monica's mouth is moving and then it pans to Monica and you can see the slight head turn chandler just did from a different angle.
This episode was infuriating. Chandler was 100% Correct, spending tens of thousands of dollars is just ridiculous and stupid. It makes me angry how entitled the women in that episode were, that they just demanded him to pay for the wedding with all of his savings. Infuriating! And this kind of stuff sets a standard in people's heads that is just self destructive.
Right? I've probably seen every episode ten times, and I don't even remember Monica's wedding. Been to one wedding and you've been to them all. Chandler should have said "Oh HELL no! I'm out. Get the NEXT guy to pay for your Barbie doll wedding." Ever notice how much happier he was in the first couple seasons?
They could have used her wedding fund to support her while doing a chef's apprentice program or put the money into her catering. I know it was supposed to be funny but re-watching this makes my blood boil. The after thirty comment was simply stupid because wasn't Ross 30 when he married the English woman? They paid for that
Monica talking but no sound at 2:19 then we get the same scene right after but this time the camera focuses on her :p... A lot of TV Series butchered their HD versions :D !
That's one of the biggest problems I've had with Friends, even before the widescreen versions. They would take reaction shots a half to full second later than it happened in real time. Depending on the angle, you could see the actor having the same reaction twice. It's always off putting when I see it.
@@OneLoveRSR I know… and I agree but it’s also a reality for many other TV Series from the late 90s / early 2000s ! I’m a huge Buffy the Vampire Slayer fan and the HD version is so bad that some night-time scenes look like it’s during the day or we can even see the staff during a few fight scenes and even see boom mics hanging at the top of the screen… I don’t know much about filming and what can be fixed in that matter but I guess no one is willing to put a dime into doing it… I guess it costs too much… Maybe it’ll be done in a decade or two when the technology allows it without extra costs.
Monica's parents are the ones we read about on reddit From aita forum.. in real life she would have gone no contact with them. They always treated her badly and after promising her that there would be a wedding fund she can use one day they spent it without telling her. And her mom was a special kind of sh*t woman, always giving Ross preference and treating him like gift from God.
Watching this again made me realize that in my third world country a " Wedding Fund" is very uncomon, at least for most people. Personally, I've never met someone whose parents had a special fund for a future wedding, only for college. Are these wedding funds some kind of tradition in the US?
Yes, it started with Dowery in Europe. These days a dowery isn't expected but the brides' family usually pays for the wedding. In the US the average cost of a wedding is 14,000 USD.
@@moonlightdragonrider wow! Lot better than in India then (as compared to other cost of living). Wedding is a big deal in India and parents (mostly girls) always pay
The most incredible part about the whole thing is that Monica and Ross get along so well. Usually, when parents make such big differences between their children, the kids tend to hate each other as adults.
Jack and Judy messed them up in different ways.
For Monica her constant needing to please people and wanting things to be perfect stems from her just wanting to be noticed and loved by her parents.
For Ross I think him constantly being spoilt by his parents meant this he is emotionally immature, hence why his job and divorces happen (among other things). Despite Monica being the younger sibling she often takes care of Ross because she is use to taking care and Ross is used to being cared for.
TL:DR - they both have shared issues aba
Monica wasn't that stupid
Ross sticks up for her with them
My grandpa was the unfavorite, but he and my uncle got along great (ironically PawPaw is much more like Ross than Monica). PawPaw is very easy going and made other friends easy, so I am sure that helped. I think part of it was my uncle and many of their friends were troublemakers, so PawPaw always looked like an angel compared to them.
Maybe living apart from their parents brought them closer. And Ross also sticks up for Monica in front of them.
Why did her parents thought that she won't get married? She was gorgeous, successful, polite, kind and so fun. Judy was always very rude to Monica, but here her Father also did a horrible thing.
They were always terrible to her.
Because the writers wanted them so.
@@buca9696 People don't understand that. 🤣🤣🤣
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding.
If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@buca9696 wow genius.
This is rough, especially knowing that they paid for TWO of Ross' weddings.
Update: I forgot that he was married to Carol, whose family likely paid for the first wedding. Still unfair that they paid for Ross' but couldn't pay for their own daughters.
That’s something I never really thought of wow, makes it all worse
Normally the father has to pay for the wedding of his daughter, so...because Ross is not female, the father(s) of his bride(s) payed for the weddings...
They are suckers for Ross.
@@unkommentiertesgameplay They paid for half of Emily and Ross's wedding
Idk, most likely Carol’s parents paid
Monica’s parents were just awful to her. If they no longer wanted to pay for her wedding that’s their prerogative but they shouldn’t have waited until she got engaged to tell her.
Let's not forget that they paid for Ross' wedding twice.
They should have just given her the money. Not spent it on whatever.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
It's only a TV show. Settle down dude it's not real
Hey 👋, non-Westerner here. To clarify, the bride's parents are supposed to pay for their daughter's wedding? What's the groom and his family's role?
Their parents, especially their mom, was AWFUL to Monica. All her little snide comments about the way she looked or how she was gonna be alone forever and the constant comparisons to Ross. I’m so annoyed that Monica never got a true apology before the show ended or some sort of closing to their story.
Only from her dad a little bit by giving her his car
Her mom prob didnt even support that discistion and sides with Ross getting it
Makes for great TV, but they’d be horrible in real life. I always liked the episodes they were in.
She got 2 kids… what more could she ask for
@@joseeduardotschen9186 an apology from her awful mother like I said… just because she got kids of her own doesn’t mean she should forgive her mother for sucking at raising kids
She did she named her child after jack that buried everything
Ross has always been his parents’ favourite, and so was Rachel. Monica and Chandler went through tons of traumatic hardships since childhood, hence why their relationship works so well and Ross and Rachel’s a complete mess
Their relationship had rough spots as well. Monica acted like a control freak and treated chandler like her son instead of husband at times.
@Gray Mid IKR,
@Gray Mid
So a show shouldn't have well written characters just because it's a sitcom? You must love Big Bang Theory.
@Gray Mid and why do we consume media? To feel stuff we wouldn't otherwise, to empathize with others, to think about situations that might happen to others.
This "it's just a sitcom" is such bs
@@itachistan437 there's no perfect relationship, but if you compare the two (Rosschel and Mondler) Mondler is healthier, because they give and take. Monica may be a control freak, but whenever Chandler burst out and explain himself, if he has a point, Monica knows when to pull down her pride and comfort her husband. Rachel couldn't even take responsibility with her faults.
I will never get tired of saying this but Ross always end up in the most awkward situations .he is just effortlessly funny🤣👍
It was karma for pretending he was the massager just so he could massage the woman bare skin but it wasn't her who was getting the massage it was her father and Ross deserved it.
@@fantasyland3646 Masseur*
Why didn't he just call 🤙🏽 phoebe up and NOT massage the man 😅😂😂😂
Monica is really kind to still respect her parents. Not just this wedding fund, they had been rude to her every time they were around. If they can't love their child why did they choose to have one?
Because writer told them to, Duh......It's a sitcom, chill.
@@Snowaxe3D haha...😄
@@Snowaxe3D god forbid someone has critical thoughts on a piece of media, right
Nobody chooses to have a child. It just happens
@@Snowaxe3D geezus fuck, sitcoms are based on real life situations, or possible real life situations, the whole point is that it can be relatable, I'm so fucking sick of this "chill it's just a sitcom" bs... We consume media exactly to feel emotions we wouldn't otherwise, to empathize with others.
I guarantee you that when they were discussing if they should pay for Ross’ second wedding, Judy ended it with, “Well it’s not like he has a sibling.”
I’m not even joking. Rachel literally said that Judy saw her as the daughter she never had.
Or the one with the memorial service when Ross faked his death and he was talking to her on the phone. She said if he died they would be childless. Ross responded with "mom, if I died you wouldn't have been left childless", to which he had to remind her about Monica 😂😂😂
I’m surprised nobody has made a video essay about how terrible the gellers are to
Monica
They gave her a porsche, that alone redeemed them
@@gejamugamlatsoomanam7716 It was Jack that gave her a porsche. Judy gave her nothing.
@@gejamugamlatsoomanam7716 no *jack* gave her a Porsche, judy had nothing to do with that
@@gejamugamlatsoomanam7716 Material items aren’t a substitute for familial affection-which Monica lacked (especially by her mother). And as others mentioned earlier, Jack gifted Monica the car-after accidentally destroying her childhood memories in a flood to protect said vehicle.
@@gejamugamlatsoomanam7716 That was out of guilt for what Jack had done , not of any place of love
For people said that at least her dad gave her the porsche, she got it because her childhood stuff were used as a barier for Ross's stuff from flood. Jack felt sorry because Monica thought that they love Ross more than her (which is true). And Judy kept telling Jack to get rid of the porsche anyway so...
It wasn't used as a barrier for Ross's stuff, it was used as a barrier for the porsche. I doubt Jack had any idea what was in the boxes. Now, Judy would have made sure they were Monica's before using them.
Jack and Judy was just absolutely and positivity horrible parents towards Monica. 😭😟🥺😡Monica is a beautiful, intelligent, and independent woman that deserves recognition and credibility. Any mother and father would be proud to have Monica for a daughter. 😍😎💯👍
Come on. It’s a tv show lady.
Grow up the girl is over 30, she can pay for her own wedding.
Yes. No wonder Monica always complained how unfair their parents treat them. Like she's the one being left out in literally everything.
Parents should not be like this. When it comes to marriage, parents should fund the ceremony. It is the same thing with any culture. In Asia, parents are the ones who would fund the ceremony. Coz it's the celebration of getting new family member.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@Snowaxe3D nope. Parents should pay. Just pay according their capabilities. In Malaysia, it's like that. For catering, parents spend the money, but for other things like wedding dress or gift money to the bride, it's on the groom
"Good luck Chandler" 😂😂😂
This is so cool that Monica and Ross still have good relationship despite the fact that their parents were playing favorites
It’s not real though is it. They had a good relationship because the script said they had to.
@@Squadron_Bodron omg, have you ever had to write an essay on a book? They're talking about the characters as written.
@@lucystoner should make that clear then
They did paid for Ross's wedding with Emily in very short time notice (he proposed only after 2 weeks knowing her and got married in 3 month after that) . Why can't they just do the same for Monica?
Because they play favorites and Monica's too hung up on finally getting validation from them to have the courage to take them to task like that.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@Snowaxe3D
And besides, Monica had already been planning to pay for her own wedding, hence the wedding fund she'd been,building up that her parents unfairly stole from. Like I said in my comment, Monica's still too hung up on feeling validated as their daughter to ever make them do that for her.
@@ReallyKeepingFictional as anyone says The show never said they paid for Both of Ross's weddings, they paid only once that too half,
Next, Monica also didn't tell them about her relationship with Chandler, they could have saved money if she had told them earlier,
Didn't they say they saved it again for Richard? So they could have done it again for Chandler.
Lastly, they still got married and Monica refused to use Chandler's savings so the question is where did the wedding money come from?
It's safe to assume, Everyone, chipped in a bit including her parents. I am including her parents because it's still a Sitcom and the sitcom has a happy ending.
@@Snowaxe3D poor you
Elliott Gould saying, “Good luck, Chandler” makes me laugh out loud every time. He and Christina Pickles were genius as the Gellers.
Finally a comment by an adult . Tired of seeing all these kids commenting about how awful monicas parents were . Its a show for gods sake.
Holy sh*t. How did it take me this long to connect the fact that Monica's dad is also the guy from Ocean's 11!?
@@Notkuff Dissecting media and writing isn't solely for children. 😂
I really got satisfied when Monica get the Porsche because her parents were just awful to her 😌
Let me get this straight, they paid for Ross's wedding twice, second was an expensive one but used up all of Monica's wedding fund.
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@Snowaxe3D It's still a pretty unfair treatment when you think about it and shows how much they favor Ross over Monica.
@@21minute as anyone says, The show never said that they paid for Both of Ross's weddings, they paid only once that too half,
Next, Monica also didn't tell them about her relationship with Chandler, they could have saved money if she had told them earlier,
Didn't they say they saved it again for Richard? So they could have done it again for Chandler.
Lastly, they still got married and Monica refused to use Chandler's savings so the question is where did the wedding money come from?
It's safe to assume, Everyone, chipped in a bit including her parents. I am including her parents because it's still a Sitcom and the sitcom has a happy ending.
@@Snowaxe3D if that's true , parents shouldn't pay for any of their children's wedding. Cuz they are not liable . But paying for one child and nor for the other is straight up horrible. Don't defend favoritism under all comments of this section.
@@Some_guy_passing_by I am not defending, I am stating the obvious,
In case you missed my 2nd comment you can go read it.
It's not like Monica had no hands in it.
Yes, it's a tv show. But the characters were emotionally abusive. Also, the anger I'm seeing in the comments is that her parents promised they'd pay for at least part of it and then never told her they changed their minds until it was too late. It's not saying they are obligated to pay but they reneged on their promise and were never honest with her about it. They didn't even bring it up until Monica did.
Jack and Judy are amazing. Great actors on the show!
Ross is the King of awkward moments. 👑
Did Ross get abandoned in a public toilet wearing nothing but panties?
Always felt bad for Monica
Monica has a wonderful heart, a beautiful girl like her deserves great parents. I'm feeling double standard here... her parents would never do the same thing to Ross.
Everyone "deserves" great parents, no matter what we look like. Most people actually do not get great parents. But yes, Monica is a beautiful girl, nonetheless.
Everybody deserves a good parent
Matthew Perry was and is a very funny actor.
“Stupid Jack, the word is stupid.”
damn Judy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Friends is the only show in history that exposed that parents could be really awful to their children and we learn to tolerate them with a smile.
I am glad Monica had Chandler. My parents are not very differeny from Monica's. My mom is worse infact. I pray one day I will find my Chandler Bing.
I'm right with you Chandler...I would be drinking too.☠😂🤣😅
Their parents got engaged because jack got judy pregnant. But they call Ross a miracle as they thought judy couldn't have kids for years.
You have heard of miscarriage, right?
that's probably why she got pregnant
I think she must have miscarried, possibly several times. The first time she miss carried must have been way after they got married.
i always imagined that Jack and Judy payed lip service to baby Erica and Jack, because they were adopted, and didn't treat them that great. saying things like "My daughter adopted the babies, she can't have any of her own" like it was a bad thing, or they were lesser babies, and when Monica and Chandler fell naturally, and it can happen and the couple were overjoyed because now they were having a third. Jack and Judy did the full on "baby shower, gender reveal, and bragging about their real grandbaby" and after that, Monica and Chandler cut them both off. and jack geller bing. who was about six decided to go by his middle name Daniel. because grandpa didn't love him
the geller bing family of eventually five, won't allow toxic people in their lives.
Yeah, but by the series finale I don't think Chandler would have let Judy or Jack say anything nasty to Monica or the kids. He would draw a line saying "Those are my family you're talking about ". And probably cut ties with them in later years
I think Jack would be great to his grand babies (although he would definitely still say stupid stuff about them being adopted). But he and Monica made peace. She named her son Jack.
She did not name her daughter Judy. 😂
Chandler is one of my favorites characters he is one of the most eminent actors in the friend sitcom I think it's beyond a shadow of a doubt that Chandler is not going to give up he is a go-getter person
Monica and Ross' parents were raised on the show for fun, but not to set an example for how to treat their children.
Sadly thousands if not tens of thousands actually do that lol
Very true.. They are caricatures of the ultimate "bad parents"..I am an Indian.....so the way the parents show preferential treatment to the son is nothing new to me..this behaviour is considered normal in India.
@@mathangeevijayraghavan202 I don't think it's this bad here Monica is treated like trash but in India the wedding is celebrated with grandeur for the daughters too
@@hsd287 true that they may be giving daughters less value but since the day daughter is born all they plan even before education is her wedding they save up from their childhood so they can celebrate her wedding grandly and give perfect farewell.
2:46 good luck Chandler 😂
Her parents were so awful to her but she still named her son after his dad what an ideal daughter she was
Her dad was more ignorant, he at least took further steps, such as seeing how she was after she broke up with Richard or when he gave her his porche.
Her mother is a bitch.
And Jack was actually surprised to hear that Monica « thought » that they liked Ross more than her 😓
They could always sell the beach house and get a good amount for it. They did owe her big time
Second mortgage on the beach house or on their regular house even.
You know this is a comedy show and not a real situation so no there no need for whinning
Parents should not be/are not responsible for YOUR wedding. If they want to pay then they can, otherwise, it's not their liability/Responsibility, You are 30, pay for it, or get a cheap court marriage
@@Snowaxe3D Well, it's still awful that they chose now to tell her!
@@srsgas1 as anyone says, The show never said that they paid for Both of Ross's weddings, they paid only once that too half,
Next, Monica also didn't tell them about her relationship with Chandler, they could have saved money if she had told them earlier,
Didn't they say they saved it again for Richard? So they could have done it again for Chandler.
Lastly, they still got married and Monica refused to use Chandler's savings so the question is where did the wedding money come from?
It's safe to assume, Everyone, chipped in a bit including her parents. I am including her parents because it's still a Sitcom and the sitcom has a happy ending.
"Good luck Chandler"!!........ 😆😆😆
Jack such a wonderful actor and great comedic timing. 2:45 Good Luck Chandler lol
I don’t even know why Monica, still bothers with her parents. Obviously they prefer Ross, more. I would just continue my life without them.
Their parents really show no respect to Monica when they said 'we thought you would pay after 30' and it was very clear that they didn't love her when they had double standard for ross
You know I never noticed the first time around so much, but watching the reruns I now realise just how predatory Ross was, posing as a masseuse to trick a woman into getting undressed in his apartment and the way he calls for Rachel just cos he sees her naked in her apartment, it’s grotesque behaviour and Joey with Janine is almost watchable, too. When he takes the shower curtain down and puts the heat up in his apartment to encourage Janine to walk around in her underwear, it’s awful behaviour.
David schiwimmer’s acting is gold 😂😂
2:46 - lol, i love how her father is telling chandler good luck, clearly implying like mother like daughter , poor chandler is in for some tough times : )
monicas parents always treated her like shit
Schwimmer has excellent physical comedy lol
the fact that they were fine planning on paying for the wedding between their youngest child and their friend who's basically their age but it never even crossed their mind that Chandler might propose is honestly so weird
Monica: "My parents spent the money for our wedding".
Phoebe: "My God, what did you order?"
Good luck Chandler 😆
this was incredibly sad to watch but the selling ice over the internet thing gets me every time
I never would expect the parents to pay
Even I agree with your viewpoint but if my parents paid for my brother's wedding and then refused me for mine then I would certainly know who they value more.
I don’t think that’s the point of this video.
They should coz it's their precious daughter who is having a wedding it's a happy occasion for them
In our places.. parents put their money too for marriage..bcoz they never see children as outsider or burden
It would be more than fair to give the beach house to Monica!
Why? Let her buy her own damned beach house, and pay for her own ninny-shit wedding.
Surely a beach house would cost waaaaay more than what a sane person would be prepared to pay for a wedding?
It was probably a large down payment
I remember someone did an estimation on the rent for Monica’s apartment in central New York. Was something like $4k per month and chandlers was $3k per month. In short they both would have needed 3X that in salary as a general rule which mean Monica needed to earn about $150k per year. So it’s just Hollywood being unrealistic. I mean we watch films about alien superhero’s based on Norse legends these days so best to have a bit of artistic flexibility. This point was was too long and over explained. I need to get a girlfriend.
@@George-zx5dk Monica was illegally living under her grandma's name, who had rent control and the rent was $200 per month.
@@wallygropius4451 ah okay that makes a lot more sense. Very generous of the grandmother. She could have made a lot more money :)
@@wallygropius4451 nice attention to detail also. Just realised that chandlers salary would be hard to determine since he is a “transponster” so he could well be earning over 140k per annum
I'd much rather have a beach house to inherit than a wedding fund lol. They definitely should've told her sooner though
Chandler is a real
man didn't back off
Okay this doesn't add up, in this episode Jack is saying he got Judy pregnant while they were engaged but somewhere in season 7 he also mentions that he and Judy had trouble conceiving and Ross was a medical marvel.
It might. They didn't say that child was Ross. She could have miscarried and that caused complications and then they thought she wouldn't be able to have children. Copied theory!
I just hate everything The Gellers did to Mon
Judy is always very rude to Her... They spent the wedding fund... Never appreciated on her successes... Destroyed her childhood memories... Always favoured Ross and admitted openly about him being their favourite... I mean... What kind of parents are those...!!!
Don't forget remodeling her old beroom for their own use but left Ross's room they way it was.
That’s why Monica made the worst anniversary toast ever!
Ross turned out to be quite innovative when he got stuck with the old gentleman. The massage technique involving wooden spoons could take off lol
Monica’s parents were down right mean to her always!!! 😮
I don't get it. They spent Monica's wedding fund to buy a beach house when she was only 23 and they kept on taunting her about her marriage. What if she decided to get married at age 24 when she didn't have that much of a career? How the hell did they expect her to afford it? So it's a good thing that she married late (when she turned 30) because they expected her to pay for her own wedding so I don't think she deserved any of those pressure and taunts about marriage.
Of course, the table is drinking wine and Chandler is drinking a piña colada
0:18 hello 🤣🤣🤣
That's why monica and chandler deserves each other. They fill each other's void that their respective parents created.. They both have issues about their parents that only they can understand about each other..
Never understood why her parents mean bad to her. But atleast her father gifted her thd Porsche. That's the least he did for her after eating up her wedding fund and ruining all her childhood memories but still better than her mom.
Because Ross is their favorite son.
They can sell the beach house..😅
Seeing as they spent Monica's wedding fund on the beach house, they could have sold the beach house to raise the money. Or given the house to Monica.
I love "Friends" it's very funny and always makes me laugh, but with this episode I've always wandered, what was Ross's intention with the woman and the massage? I mean, was he going to try to make a move on her while she was half naked in his house?
It's just for comedy, perhaps he was hoping to give her a good massage so that she stays in touch and he can have her number.. who knows
This is my favorite scene of all time it’s so funny and very entertaining
I think Judy manipulated Jack into buying the house, she didn't want her owm daughter to be marry and to be happy: There is an episode when Judy tells Monica that her own mother was awful to her; she almost confessed that that's the reason he treated Monica so poorly: because Judy wants Monica to suffer like she did.
I know this is supposed to be funny but it is very interesting to talk about.
You can see the use of their multi camera setup at 2:18 when it's focused on Chandler and Monica's mouth is moving and then it pans to Monica and you can see the slight head turn chandler just did from a different angle.
We have it .. only now we call it the beach house ... kills me everytime lmaoo
This is the best "men will be men" moment
That pink fruity drink that Chandler had looked good.
I REALLY WANTED HER TO NOT INVITE THEM TO HER OWN WEDDING ..IDC IF IT'S HER PARENTS . I wouldn't have
People taking a sitcom and analysing it like a game of thrones 😁
Both are fiction. And Friends is way more relatable. Only pompous morons take GoT seriously.
This is why I think Jack and Erica see Nora and Charles more
Ross is a true friend
This episode was infuriating. Chandler was 100% Correct, spending tens of thousands of dollars is just ridiculous and stupid. It makes me angry how entitled the women in that episode were, that they just demanded him to pay for the wedding with all of his savings. Infuriating! And this kind of stuff sets a standard in people's heads that is just self destructive.
Right? I've probably seen every episode ten times, and I don't even remember Monica's wedding. Been to one wedding and you've been to them all. Chandler should have said "Oh HELL no! I'm out. Get the NEXT guy to pay for your Barbie doll wedding." Ever notice how much happier he was in the first couple seasons?
Relax, not all women choose to even have a wedding.
@@lookaroundyou8108not all women? Only not those who become liberal to hate normal things too... maximum does do wedding..even little
Respect that everyone in the comments also thinks that her parents are awful
Ross is the best 😂
Monica's parents are so cruel, they paid for 2 of Ross's weddings!!!! But left Monica without nothing.
Love u matthew ❤❤❤❤
2000s, doesn‘t seem that long ago…
Until you peek into a Friends episode
Ross' dad will forever be the 1 arm man to me.
They could have used her wedding fund to support her while doing a chef's apprentice program or put the money into her catering. I know it was supposed to be funny but re-watching this makes my blood boil. The after thirty comment was simply stupid because wasn't Ross 30 when he married the English woman? They paid for that
Technically 29
Monica talking but no sound at 2:19 then we get the same scene right after but this time the camera focuses on her :p... A lot of TV Series butchered their HD versions :D !
That's one of the biggest problems I've had with Friends, even before the widescreen versions. They would take reaction shots a half to full second later than it happened in real time. Depending on the angle, you could see the actor having the same reaction twice. It's always off putting when I see it.
@@OneLoveRSR I know… and I agree but it’s also a reality for many other TV Series from the late 90s / early 2000s ! I’m a huge Buffy the Vampire Slayer fan and the HD version is so bad that some night-time scenes look like it’s during the day or we can even see the staff during a few fight scenes and even see boom mics hanging at the top of the screen…
I don’t know much about filming and what can be fixed in that matter but I guess no one is willing to put a dime into doing it… I guess it costs too much… Maybe it’ll be done in a decade or two when the technology allows it without extra costs.
If I were Monica , I would Slowly And Lowkey Disown those parents
I love ross
What makes it even more annoying is that they barely apologized (and they were never confronted for their terrible behavior)
Chandler end up saving their wedding by having a ton of money saved up for 6 yrs, but then monica wanted to waste it all on her dream wedding
But she didnt spend it all
But she didn't waste it wanted to but didn't. She didn't use the money after Chandler told her about how he envisioned their life to be
@@serixirose7575 she didn’t use all of it, maybe just part of his savings
She didn't she agreed to have simple wedding
Lol selling ice over the internet
She got the Porsche.
i feel bad that monicas mom and dad didnt have the money for her wedding
Because they spent it 😂😂😂
Seriously, does anyone know what's the pink drink that Chandler was having?
It could be a strawberry daiquiri
good
Jack and Judy were great as comedic characters; horrible as human beings and parents
Clearly I did not start drinking enough at the start of the meal
Courteney Cox is absolutely gorgeous in this episode. . So is Lisa Kudrow.
😂😂😂
Monica's parents are the ones we read about on reddit From aita forum.. in real life she would have gone no contact with them. They always treated her badly and after promising her that there would be a wedding fund she can use one day they spent it without telling her. And her mom was a special kind of sh*t woman, always giving Ross preference and treating him like gift from God.
Watching this again made me realize that in my third world country a " Wedding Fund" is very uncomon, at least for most people. Personally, I've never met someone whose parents had a special fund for a future wedding, only for college. Are these wedding funds some kind of tradition in the US?
Yes, it started with Dowery in Europe. These days a dowery isn't expected but the brides' family usually pays for the wedding. In the US the average cost of a wedding is 14,000 USD.
@@moonlightdragonrider wow! Lot better than in India then (as compared to other cost of living).
Wedding is a big deal in India and parents (mostly girls) always pay
Wasnt ross a miracle baby because they thought they couldnt have kids? And now they were pregnant with him before marriage? Lol