I've dated younger and I've dated my age and I can tell you the person my age was more immature than the younger ones....you can complain about immaturity and it doesn't mean it's because of an age gap.
@@DerEisenhammer And l think it hurts way more than a stranger because that person is getting hurt by someone close to them. “It makes her feel that she's less than by the one person in the world whose opinion matters most to her.”
He married a girl half his age so he could control and verbally abuse her. They both said it wasn’t verbal abuse but then the Judge raddled off all the horrible things he calls her. I do not like his treatment of her at all.
Brittany Norris ..I Feel You & Agree But People Treat Us Like We Allow Them Too . She Must Learn To Stand Up For Herself If Not People Are Going To Always Run Over Her.
@@sallysharp4126 *EVERYONE IS A PROBLEM EXCEPT THE B.W 🤨😂😂😂 JESUS CHRIST YOU CHICKS ARE PATHETIC 😂😂😂 SHE'S LIKE COME ON GIRL BECOME A SASSY MOUTH NARCISSISTIC POS AMAZONIAN LIKE US AND LIVE FOR DRAMA 😂😂 I REPEAT NOBODYYYYYYYYYY WANTS A B.W IN AMERICA*
This man is a narcissist and he knows hes hurting her it turns him on thats why when the judge told him he was abusive he was smiling. Beware of the evil amongst us in the form of humans.
I think he was laughing because was her expressiveness and him not understanding the depth of what she was saying. Like his understanding was so shallow that he couldn’t get past that.
Not being able to focus or being disorganized, sounds like she might have a touch of adhd or add. Also low self-esteem. Or she could have some type of disability.
@@face1647 Lol My guy. She doesn't have ADHD and my sisters and myself and my brothers have ADHD. She doesn't show a single symptom. ADHD is much more than just disorganization or focus or anything it's much more serious.
@@Fallerin Have you researched candida? My son was diagnosed with ADHD. When you get a chance research it. Candida is a fungus (yeast) that can come from being on antibiotics, birth control pills, too much sugar in the diet among other things. Can cause yeast in the gut to be unbalanced. Kills off good bacteria. Bad bacteria increases and becomes fungus and puts holds in the gut. Which causes leaky gut. Research leaky also. What's in the gut gets into the bloodstream. The bad yeast, food particles and so on. When she mentioned crone's disease, it clicked. Do any of you have sugar cravings?
@@fancybrooks3156 if he is a narcissist he understands only lust, not love or marriage. maybe he prepared special vows: 'you will obey me, give 'narcissistic supply' and worship the ground i walk on.' They will make partner fulfill their marriage vows but have millions excuses not to do it by themselves. They see marriage as form of one sided slavery, to serve them. narcissists manipulate, and at the beginning do 'love bombing', 'mirror' victims behavior to perfection. He could make her feel she met a soul mate, a doppelganger. she could genuinely fall for him, believe, trust, love and cherish.
i see many narcissistic traits in his behavior, story. narcissists are cowards, select for victims kind, emphatic, also young, inexperienced, vulnerable people.
He did the same to his ex wife though. I think he just likes trying to control women and he found someone who can pick on (regardless of age because there are women older with the same tendencies). I don’t think they age helped though
@@marienguessan8520 yes it’s very so much personality, but he’s also a predator as narcissist typically are. He tried it with a woman his age sure, but he also figured he could pray on the vulnerability of a young 21 yo BLACK young woman to project and exert his power and control over and was able to get away with it for 6 years, even succeeding in tearing her self esteem down. So yes age very so much has a lot to do with it. Why else do you think older men seek younger women?! It’s because of their lack of experience, vulnerability and easily to control.
"I'm a great person", said the man who has been divorced twice, called his 2nd wife horrible names, and can't listen to anyone outside his head. O-K 🙄🙄🙄
He’s evil. This is my third comment. He’s disturbing me with his arrogance. She’s an angel. I’m praying for her liberation and that her innocence be protected. He’s not supposed to be with her. I hope she reads this. Leave him!
She needs to get out of that marriage and get help. Her self esteem is gone. If she stays in that marriage she will wind up in a mental institution. She is so frail.
This case is an example of what is wrong with many white women's notion of feminism. Push comes to shove, they will be standing right next to the wrong often yet thinks he is always right, white man. For this reason white women and their bootleg whitened feminism may get on down and away from me.
Michaela Dale her connection is still with him not her. If they divorced she still has to deal with because of their children. She never have to see her again if they split up
He has to be in control and it’s not what you say it’s how you say it. He married a younger lady and she may have issues. But I’m sure he has issues himself
Only Caribbean people write the sound of sucked teeth, but I'm going to guess you're Guyanese and/or were raised by them. I'm from a small idland myself
@@jjblack4905 narcissists are master manipulators, really it's difficult to recognize them because they do what normal people do as well only with them it's repeated pattern of certain behaviors. they pray on good, kind people. also well educated, professionals who can listen without prejudice. look up 'narcissism red flags', sam vaknin, joanna kujath, Vital Mind Psychology, Michele Lee Nieves Coaching, dr les carter ... it's a lot of knowledge but once these women will learn what are they dealing with they will see how predictable their partner is
I think I get what she’s trying to say...even though he’s trying to “help” her, his delivery may be condescending in a way that makes her feel incompetent.
Thank you :c I was looking for this. I’ve been living with that for a year and a half now. It really is hard, we can start completely questioning our abilities to function and to reason through things. The more time is spent questioning our reasoning skills the more they get diminished. Because even when we are able to reason through something well, we start doubting ourselves and think that we are probably wrong so we try to correct it and think too hard about it to the point that nothing works out in the end. It’s not only that the delivery might be condescending, but also imagine someone keeps telling you how to do EVERYTHING. That means they don’t trust in your ability to do anything at all. It feels like we are entirely unreliable and completely lack any kind of agency. At some point, we don’t even want to try doing anything anymore because we know we’re not gonna be allowed to complete it without getting that look of disappointment/distrust. So we never get the chance to prove that we learned anything or that we are able to do something at least. It’s almost like living with someone who is constantly looking at what you’re doing and judging every step, every move, every decision, everything you do. It’s this feeling of being constantly watched. The worst is that the feeling is not only a feeling, it’s reality.
@@mariamaalouf2138 Hey!! I’m sorry you have to deal with that . Hope God (or whatever you believe in) equips you with everything you need to leave that horrible situation, and be great .❤️💞
@@Gnabaj02 I appreciate it ^^ yep hopefully I'll be moving out of there In a year or so. I just still can't believe Julia was able to deal with this for almost 6 years. I hope she is feeling better now that she is no longer living with that.
He is a narcissist! That’s obvious. Multiple people are telling him the same thing and all of us watching are seeing the same thing, yet he still has excuses. Wife #2 is so broken, she has a lot of self esteem issues because the entire time she spoke negative about herself. She is NOT confrontational and that EVIL man has destroyed her. He is NOT a great guy! I feel bad for the next woman.
Women are always attracted to guys like this. It's obviously not his looks ?? What is it ? Maybe he's an "asshole", and there is an attraction to that.
YES HE IS! After awhile my ex narc never wanted to agree to disagree. I didn't know that was the beginning of the end. Whether its actually narcissist, I'm not sure but its definitely TOXIC behavior.
That whole bit about her rattling off her own sins when she was asked about his was so sad. I'm glad Judge Toler made that young woman more aware of the way she was thinking about herself and the way he was manipulating her. Now, she can look out for herself better in the future. Great work, Judge Toler!
@@heyryanisonx3141 Just because she is a stay at home mum doesn't mean all the house duties and responsibilities fall on her. You do what you are good at. If he makes the money and knows she forgets to pay bills, he can simply take over the responsibility of paying the bills.
you hit the nail on the head. He is ok working with special ed students because it makes him feel superior. He has no compassion or empathy for others.
I believe they said her EX boyfriend was the comedian (as sated at 6:10). He appears to be a lawyer. But yes I agree with you on all the above characteristics!!
She strikes me as an adult with ADHD or a lot of stress that’s impacting her executive functioning. He married a very young woman. She doesn’t seem close to 30 years old. So, I think she was probably a very naive 21 year old. But he wants her to function like a 44 year old woman. This was sad to me. He doesn’t even see that he married someone who was ill prepared to manage a household and he attacked her over things she is struggling to learn. Still she has such a big heart.
As a parent of a special needs child, I am 100% certain that this man was not patient, kind, of loving with his students. A dude like that is the kind of guy who would argue with parents about what their kids need, throw his hands up when the kids don't get things, and give them a passing grade to just get them out of his little braided hair. Its so sad bc a lot of special ed teachers are like that & they get away with it bc the kids don't have the skills to express what is going on in class on a daily basis.
I love how after the Judge gives her ruling Megan hold her head n shoulder high n just walked.out the room without even looking back..great move this man is a.fam MORAN point blank period argument dunn
my heart felt like it melted, when she gave him the bedroom sets and said, i don't know where i will go... she should've been awarded everything and let him go back to his other wife... but i doubt she would have him around all day... he's a problem...
Goal Digger His child and apparently she’s the only one that pays the bills and car payments. She also brings love to the home which is something he can’t do.
My ex was exactly like this dude. He was constantly telling me where and why I was wrong and he'd shout and call me so many different names. Shit like that really messes up with a person's self esteem. I'm so glad I left him.
Judge Toler... you rock. This guy needed to hear some truth. You nailed him. He’s an awful person. Deceitful and a jerk. Beautiful woman. Ex wife too. I hope this helped her as well. Psychological abuse.. wow!
Did she say she has Crohn's Disease? I'm battling that disease myself and I feel her pain. I know what it is like to have that disease. Question: Why is he consulting with his ex wife about his problems in his new marriage?
I am so sorry ..I had Friends have Crones..God help please!! I can not describe the pain & discomfort i saw them suffer!! At least on the Job..everyone was nice & supportive!! It could be anyone! Stress aggravated the Disease!!
And even when he does he still doesn’t listen that the crazy thing and you can tell because all three women in that court spoke to him his failures and he refused to accept it
This man should never be in a relationship..period. He’s the kind that if he wants you to have an opinion he will give it to you.. hope she’s happier with out him.. the Ex should get a life and stay out of his ..
Yup. I heard that too. Reiterating what her therapist says to her is just down right mean. This poor young lady never stood a chance with him. I can’t imagine that he ever loved her. Just knew she’d be easy to manipulate
She’s beautiful. I hope that she can get some counseling and build herself up! He had a smirk the whole time the judge was talking to him at the end. Smh he’s a mess
Yes I caught that too... he's a very controlling devil ...and can't admit that he is the cause of his troubles period..glad the sister Left his dusty behind 🤪🤪🤪the judge hit him hard and she saw straight through his lying behind ‼️‼️‼️‼️
He's a brow beater, has no patience and he married he when she was just legal to drink and expected her to act older than she was? He's petty and childish and he is verbally abusive.
He married a kid and that’s what he got he thought he could mold her into a women he wanted and that didn’t happen on top of that she have health issues and that’s a lot to deal when she not feeling he got what he ask her!!!
narcissist married vulnerable, kind woman to control, abuse her. he could cause her number of psychosomatic illnesses. he cares for his needs only, not hers, not her well being.
Oh My..the present Wife was Emotionally Beat Down & Held Down & Put Down!! She is Numb & has no fight in her! Husband is a Narrsasist !! X Wife is enjoying being his advisor too much!! Where is Her Man?! Prayers for Wife with Crones ..hopefully she can heal now!! She should walk away & never look back!!
Right when the second wife started talking I was like that girl has no self esteem because of that man. She has obviosly spent years with him telling her whatever she does isnt good enough
@@naomireber256 Well, in case of narcissism as 'Narcissistic Personality Disorder' it's not that easy. See what about narcissists say: Michele Lee Nieves, Dr. Les Carr, SoulGPS, Joanna Kujath, and many more. They do abuse others, have no conscience, are compulsive liars, are charismatic manipulators, etc.
@@RG-CooperTrooper yeah I guess it right but u know she kind of needs to step up a little bit...I also feel like he should step up too...she was definitely hiding ssomething tho because she looked so scared
Being with a narissistic partner can and does make you physically sick. Her illness is directly related to his verbal, mental and emotional abuse. It's very insidious and devastating. And it's clear that her self-esteem has been severely affected! Bless her heart....she needs to leave and get away from him as soon as possible. She needs time and space to heal her spirit, soul and body. He is dangerous...smh he isn't even listening to the Judge.
look up 'narcissism red flags', sam vaknin, joanna kujath, Vital Mind Psychology, Michele Lee Nieves Coaching, dr les carter ,,, :) ba amazed, amazing and well educated
No man on Earth can denounce and belittle his woman like a good ole white man. Women seem to think it's attractive especially black women. Years ago when I was a kid I heard a white man tell his wife who was a black woman to shut her dick sucker lol we were in line at Kroger she looked so humiliated my lil brother and I laugh our ass off.
The way he was "agreeing" with everything the judge was saying at one point... I don't know how to explain it but I feel like he was doing it to set the stage to manipulate her to his favor. In that situation, people would normally be defensive but he's all "yeah, you're right. I agree.". That just seemed off to me. And then he suddenly made a statement to rebut and he was now expecting the Judge to agree with him like he was doing earlier. He seemed so used to doing this. That's scary.
And its crazy how he taught special ed but can't appreciate that maybe she didn't have a good teacher who could have helped her with those issues so he should be. Its disgusting to hear him say, "I don't have patience for adults" when someone of his profession should know better than anyone how many adults didn't have that help when they were kids & WHY special ed teachers are so important.
to me it sounds he is a narcissist, controls, emotionally and psychologically abuses her affecting her immune system, possibly causing psychosomatic diseases. please look up 'gaslighting', trick used bu narcissist to confuse and abuse his victim. see 'red flags of narcissism'
@@sheranda77 if he is a narcissist both women aren't married at all. person with NPD does not get idea of (unconditional) love only lust will really understand. in his eyes marriage is a way to tie some woman to him, make her fulfill marriage vows which he is not going to respect at all. he may mimic behavior of person in love, do 'love bombing' but he can't process what love is really about.
I was with someone like him when I was too young to know better. He taught me to never ever allow anyone to make me feel bad about myself. What a little "man."
He keeps arguing with the judge and he doesn't even see that is proving her points! I hope his lovely, lovely wife see's him for who he really is and gets the hell out.
@@lonelyronin2428 Hexenbiest comes from a TV show of 2010s named "Grimm" (which was a very good show) and used as a German term to identify a type of female Wesen who are witches. The male version is a Zauberbiest.
I'm so sick of these older men and women marrying these younger men and women and then mad because they're not as mature as they are!
Yes.
I’m 22 and I get terrified if I’m flirting with someone I find out is 18-19. Been burned too many times by the youngins
True
I've dated younger and I've dated my age and I can tell you the person my age was more immature than the younger ones....you can complain about immaturity and it doesn't mean it's because of an age gap.
Ronni, here rather a narcissism or NPD is a problem not age.
How great can you be, when the woman you are with feels like nothing when she’s with ya! -Judge Toler
YASSSS 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Maaaaaan. She needs to tell all the abusers in the world about themselves!
This works in sooo many cases, relationships, parenting, friendships and so on... really love that quote
@@DerEisenhammer And l think it hurts way more than a stranger because that person is getting hurt by someone close to them. “It makes her feel that she's less than by the one person in the world whose opinion matters most to her.”
Absolutely
The best lines I heard
He married a girl half his age so he could control and verbally abuse her. They both said it wasn’t verbal abuse but then the Judge raddled off all the horrible things he calls her. I do not like his treatment of her at all.
@Rene S hit the nail on the head!!!
@ She could then date a younger man. Lol
@Rene S *DID YOU WATCH THE SHOW GENIUS HIS EX WIFE NO 1 IS HIS AGE AND SHE SAID THE SAME THING 🤧🤨*
Brittany Norris ..I Feel You & Agree But People Treat Us Like We Allow Them Too . She Must Learn To Stand Up For Herself If Not People Are Going To Always Run Over Her.
@@sallysharp4126 *EVERYONE IS A PROBLEM EXCEPT THE B.W 🤨😂😂😂 JESUS CHRIST YOU CHICKS ARE PATHETIC 😂😂😂 SHE'S LIKE COME ON GIRL BECOME A SASSY MOUTH NARCISSISTIC POS AMAZONIAN LIKE US AND LIVE FOR DRAMA 😂😂 I REPEAT NOBODYYYYYYYYYY WANTS A B.W IN AMERICA*
This man is a narcissist and he knows hes hurting her it turns him on thats why when the judge told him he was abusive he was smiling. Beware of the evil amongst us in the form of humans.
In that order
Amen
I think he was laughing because was her expressiveness and him not understanding the depth of what she was saying. Like his understanding was so shallow that he couldn’t get past that.
Without empathy, he's a humanoid. No feelings. It's all about him. He needs to go. She needs to be free of that nonsense.
Damn u don’t rly think every narcissist is evil or has the intention of being evil 😒
He is abusive. She seems to be such a nice woman with low self esteem. I would leave him
Not being able to focus or being disorganized, sounds like she might have a touch of adhd or add. Also low self-esteem. Or she could have some type of disability.
YEAH AND RHATS WHY THEY ALL NEGATIVITY WITH THEIR WVABUER WHEN THDEY AN THEM BRADS IN THE HAT WHEN HE WENT 😂
@@face1647 Lol My guy. She doesn't have ADHD and my sisters and myself and my brothers have ADHD. She doesn't show a single symptom. ADHD is much more than just disorganization or focus or anything it's much more serious.
@@Fallerin Have you researched candida? My son was diagnosed with ADHD. When you get a chance research it. Candida is a fungus (yeast) that can come from being on antibiotics, birth control pills, too much sugar in the diet among other things. Can cause yeast in the gut to be unbalanced. Kills off good bacteria. Bad bacteria increases and becomes fungus and puts holds in the gut. Which causes leaky gut. Research leaky also. What's in the gut gets into the bloodstream. The bad yeast, food particles and so on. When she mentioned crone's disease, it clicked. Do any of you have sugar cravings?
@@Fallerin Not diagnosing, just information I've learned about.
She is such a sweet girl,she deserves better than this narcissist. She lost her self esteem because of this jerk
She is 27 yrs old and a mother.
She's not a "girl"...she is a grown woman
@@xochi8560 she looks young though and sweet.
@@xochi8560 first off I said girl cause I wanted to clearly see 👀 she's a grown woman duh 🙄
you do know they are actors.
She is, but she needs to either dye her hair black or bleach it again.
Omg did he just say "actually that wasn't our vows???" Let me out the car I'll walk I'm done with this dude
Okay🤦🏿♀️
So if he didn't promise to love, honor and cherish her, what DID he vow??? They must have been in lust. I see no love there.
@@fancybrooks3156 if he is a narcissist he understands only lust, not love or marriage. maybe he prepared special vows: 'you will obey me, give 'narcissistic supply' and worship the ground i walk on.'
They will make partner fulfill their marriage vows but have millions excuses not to do it by themselves. They see marriage as form of one sided slavery, to serve them.
narcissists manipulate, and at the beginning do 'love bombing', 'mirror' victims behavior to perfection.
He could make her feel she met a soul mate, a doppelganger. she could genuinely fall for him, believe, trust, love and cherish.
He sounds like a Narcissist.
LMAO!!! I almost fell out my seat. He's a bit petty.
He bullies her and I think the age factor is one reason why
i see many narcissistic traits in his behavior, story.
narcissists are cowards, select for victims kind, emphatic, also young, inexperienced, vulnerable people.
I don't think it's the age factor because his ex wife is about his age and still experienced that. It's mostly on the personality basis
He did the same to his ex wife though. I think he just likes trying to control women and he found someone who can pick on (regardless of age because there are women older with the same tendencies). I don’t think they age helped though
@@marienguessan8520 yes it’s very so much personality, but he’s also a predator as narcissist typically are. He tried it with a woman his age sure, but he also figured he could pray on the vulnerability of a young 21 yo BLACK young woman to project and exert his power and control over and was able to get away with it for 6 years, even succeeding in tearing her self esteem down. So yes age very so much has a lot to do with it. Why else do you think older men seek younger women?! It’s because of their lack of experience, vulnerability and easily to control.
@@TRene-up9zq I'm not saying age is not a factor but it is not the primary factor nor the most prominent one. How long was he married to his ex wife?
"I'm a great person", said the man who has been divorced twice, called his 2nd wife horrible names, and can't listen to anyone outside his head. O-K 🙄🙄🙄
She’s a free spirit he doesn’t deserve to be on her path.
He’s evil. This is my third comment. He’s disturbing me with his arrogance. She’s an angel. I’m praying for her liberation and that her innocence be protected. He’s not supposed to be with her. I hope she reads this. Leave him!
my mom was divorced twice and married 3 times shes a great person.
@@kennedicampbell8505 It's more the fact that he was given a second chance to make a marriage work and just blatantly disrespected her
She is gorgeous she can do better
The second wife would easily get another man. She is beautiful.
I pray she gets more confidence in herself and gets someone who truly loves and respects her 👍
Omg I am just like her personality wise and my hubs is a serious man too but not that bad 🤬 I wanted to slap that fucker for her
If she wants one.
Agree!
That means nothing you just attract a no good man quicker
She needs to get out of that marriage and get help. Her self esteem is gone. If she stays in that marriage she will wind up in a mental institution. She is so frail.
She's out of it. Didn't you hear what was said at the end. She's looking forward to the new chapter in her life.
Whiteboys exploit everybody and if you dont understand that its your problem
She is fine woman, he is so narcissistic, he is wrong for any wife. no partner will satisfy him.
He sounds NARSASISTIC
@@RG-CooperTrooper So happy she got away from him he was beating her up emotionally
Sis! U are wayyyyyyy too gorgeous to put up with that loser! Send him back to his ex wife and find ur happy!
I don't think his ex wants him back
The ex wife should be on the wife's side lol she basically just backed everything the current wife is saying lol
This case is an example of what is wrong with many white women's notion of feminism. Push comes to shove, they will be standing right next to the wrong often yet thinks he is always right, white man.
For this reason white women and their bootleg whitened feminism may get on down and away from me.
Michaela Dale her connection is still with him not her. If they divorced she still has to deal with because of their children. She never have to see her again if they split up
@@fp2361 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 boo preach it louder to the people in the back!
Ok you got a 7.00 bill pay it
He has to be in control and it’s not what you say it’s how you say it. He married a younger lady and she may have issues. But I’m sure he has issues himself
I get a "cult leader wannabe" vibe from this guy.
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Nailed it 👏🏻
Very Charles Manson-esque
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His last name is Burger cause his hair on Wendy's
Lol. She should put the onion on him
😂😂😂😂😂
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That’s funny!
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He talking about grow up and up there with 2 ponytails. All he's missing is 2 ribbons stupse
😅😂😂
Only Caribbean people write the sound of sucked teeth, but I'm going to guess you're Guyanese and/or were raised by them. I'm from a small idland myself
No please. Im from barbados
@@ashlei9522 its not about his hair...its about his attitude...
And his attitude sucks and is verry controling...
LOL
The husband is a grade A jerk. I feel sorry for his 1st wife, his 2nd, and soon to be 3rd wife. So help them God.
Yeah he is a a hole but if your can find dunb ass women and run them so be it
@@jjblack4905 narcissists are master manipulators, really it's difficult to recognize them because they do what normal people do as well only with them it's repeated pattern of certain behaviors.
they pray on good, kind people. also well educated, professionals who can listen without prejudice.
look up 'narcissism red flags', sam vaknin, joanna kujath, Vital Mind Psychology,
Michele Lee Nieves Coaching, dr les carter ...
it's a lot of knowledge but once these women will learn what are they dealing with they will see how predictable their partner is
@@RG-CooperTrooperYou are right they are predictable as hell that why it was funny watching him you know exactly where he is going
I don’t feel sorry for the Ex wife!! She’s right there by his side. 🙄 She needed to be over there with the current wife!‼️
They normally get good women to scar for life
“It makes her feel that she's less than by the one person in the world whose opinion matters most to her.” That just hit me so hard...☹️
This right here…😞🥺
If this dude is so right all the time like he thinks he is then why does he have two divorces now on his resume? this matter was adjourned
Jazzy Jeff Real Talk because he’s always “right” he has two divorces on his resume.
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 facts 💯
Right fighters never win
WusPopN Mane? When you get married it’s BOTH of your property. You buy everything together so when you split everything is split. 💁🏽♀️
Exactly
that guy is outright abusive, and he chose a much younger wife because he doesnt want a partner, he wants a servant
And he thinks it is funny to say "all her personalities" about the Cybal comment. What a jack*ss
I think I get what she’s trying to say...even though he’s trying to “help” her, his delivery may be condescending in a way that makes her feel incompetent.
Thank you :c I was looking for this. I’ve been living with that for a year and a half now. It really is hard, we can start completely questioning our abilities to function and to reason through things. The more time is spent questioning our reasoning skills the more they get diminished. Because even when we are able to reason through something well, we start doubting ourselves and think that we are probably wrong so we try to correct it and think too hard about it to the point that nothing works out in the end.
It’s not only that the delivery might be condescending, but also imagine someone keeps telling you how to do EVERYTHING. That means they don’t trust in your ability to do anything at all.
It feels like we are entirely unreliable and completely lack any kind of agency. At some point, we don’t even want to try doing anything anymore because we know we’re not gonna be allowed to complete it without getting that look of disappointment/distrust. So we never get the chance to prove that we learned anything or that we are able to do something at least.
It’s almost like living with someone who is constantly looking at what you’re doing and judging every step, every move, every decision, everything you do. It’s this feeling of being constantly watched. The worst is that the feeling is not only a feeling, it’s reality.
@@mariamaalouf2138 Hey!! I’m sorry you have to deal with that . Hope God (or whatever you believe in) equips you with everything you need to leave that horrible situation, and be great .❤️💞
@@Gnabaj02 I appreciate it ^^ yep hopefully I'll be moving out of there In a year or so. I just still can't believe Julia was able to deal with this for almost 6 years. I hope she is feeling better now that she is no longer living with that.
EXACTLY! And what does he do to uplift her? He said he used to a year-and-a-half ago, what about daily? SMH
Yeah, he’s not trying to help her though. He is abusive.
How can your ex be the one advising you on your new marriage? Just ridiculous!
He is a narcissist! That’s obvious. Multiple people are telling him the same thing and all of us watching are seeing the same thing, yet he still has excuses. Wife #2 is so broken, she has a lot of self esteem issues because the entire time she spoke negative about herself. She is NOT confrontational and that EVIL man has destroyed her. He is NOT a great guy! I feel bad for the next woman.
Women are always attracted to guys like this. It's obviously not his looks ?? What is it ? Maybe he's an "asshole", and there is an attraction to that.
@ stfu clown.
Kevwe Tony imagine still grouping human beings into a group just because they’re black 🤣
Sunflower please go read some books instead of hearing a new word and applying this man is nowhere near being a narcissist
YES HE IS! After awhile my ex narc never wanted to agree to disagree. I didn't know that was the beginning of the end. Whether its actually narcissist, I'm not sure but its definitely TOXIC behavior.
That whole bit about her rattling off her own sins when she was asked about his was so sad. I'm glad Judge Toler made that young woman more aware of the way she was thinking about herself and the way he was manipulating her. Now, she can look out for herself better in the future. Great work, Judge Toler!
Pippi can't pay a bill? Oh, it's her fault- he knows she goofs up but he still gives her the responsibility. Is he stupid or something?-
Except that she's the stay at home housewife?
Exactly, so he can find a reason to put her down. I bet he is still waiting for that $7 bill to get paid.
@@heyryanisonx3141 Just because she is a stay at home mum doesn't mean all the house duties and responsibilities fall on her. You do what you are good at. If he makes the money and knows she forgets to pay bills, he can simply take over the responsibility of paying the bills.
@@rachelpaul28 my thoughts exactly.
@@rachelpaul28 Jesus Jesus
He is a true Narc, always right, always putting u down, controlling and abusive. RUN 🏃♀️ they never change!!
Very true💯
RUN FAST I'M SO SORRY I DIDN'T KNOW
If he’s so right all the time then why did he have those pigtails in his head That certainly was the wrong decision.
LOL!!!
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HAHAHAHAHA this is too good!
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He lost two wifes the same way for the same reason....
True
Dude doesn't need a wife.
Calvin McDougle @ all
No but he needs a haircut.
Your right people like him need a dog , dogs are very obedient.
He needs a dog
He doesn’t deserve one either
As a comedian, he is obsessive compulsive, and narcissistic, pessimistic, ego-maniac, and ruthless. He can't understand what love is.
you hit the nail on the head. He is ok working with special ed students because it makes him feel superior. He has no compassion or empathy for others.
I believe they said her EX boyfriend was the comedian (as sated at 6:10). He appears to be a lawyer. But yes I agree with you on all the above characteristics!!
" Actually that wasn't in our vows........" okay petty petunia
Rozell Vousden not petty petunia 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm shocked
Why she's not getting a divorce.
i was dying when i heard that, i was like, "isn't the vow the most imposrtant thing in the begining of a marriage ?" xD
He said that... WTH some people just don't want to see themselves as wrong
She strikes me as an adult with ADHD or a lot of stress that’s impacting her executive functioning. He married a very young woman. She doesn’t seem close to 30 years old. So, I think she was probably a very naive 21 year old. But he wants her to function like a 44 year old woman. This was sad to me. He doesn’t even see that he married someone who was ill prepared to manage a household and he attacked her over things she is struggling to learn. Still she has such a big heart.
She’s 27
True
True
Yes ADHD marries narcissists
Exactly he just married her so her could control her
As a parent of a special needs child, I am 100% certain that this man was not patient, kind, of loving with his students. A dude like that is the kind of guy who would argue with parents about what their kids need, throw his hands up when the kids don't get things, and give them a passing grade to just get them out of his little braided hair.
Its so sad bc a lot of special ed teachers are like that & they get away with it bc the kids don't have the skills to express what is going on in class on a daily basis.
that's sad
I AGREE
I love how after the Judge gives her ruling Megan hold her head n shoulder high n just walked.out the room without even looking back..great move this man is a.fam MORAN point blank period argument dunn
my heart felt like it melted, when she gave him the bedroom sets and said, i don't know where i will go... she should've been awarded everything and let him go back to his other wife... but i doubt she would have him around all day... he's a problem...
😢 god don’t like ugly he will reap
That ex who think she won will too
Can we all agree his wife is gorgeous 😍😍
Space1TV .!. Fine where?? 😂😂
nikki kelly 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Space1TV .!. He look washed up
nikki kelly Dear you are most gorgeous
Very I was
Like woah whaattt😍
Hes not even listening to judge toler he just missed the whole point
he is a white boy what he cares
@@jjblack4905 narcissists you will find in every nation, group, creed.
Cool ass name 😆
@@jjblack4905 there's men in general who are like that
@@nicnic6703 thank u
She is awfully pretty. I hate to see people victimized. Good luck to her.
Goal Digger His child and apparently she’s the only one that pays the bills and car payments. She also brings love to the home which is something he can’t do.
My ex was exactly like this dude. He was constantly telling me where and why I was wrong and he'd shout and call me so many different names. Shit like that really messes up with a person's self esteem. I'm so glad I left him.
I’m happy you left him, too
I hope I can get out with all of the whits I'm left with. 11yrs and I've almost become too exhausted to shower anymore.
You promised to love, honor and cherish....
...actually that wasn't our vows
Man what?!?! Sir goodbye. Wtf is this mess she got into right here....
poshpearls23 he’s a FOOL!!!!
Uh uh smh
Exactly hot mess ❤
I can't stand how he blames her for everything!!! She can do so much better! Look at him...ugh!
He’s a narcissist. She majorly needs confidence
Judge Toler... you rock. This guy needed to hear some truth. You nailed him. He’s an awful person. Deceitful and a jerk.
Beautiful woman. Ex wife too. I hope this helped her as well.
Psychological abuse.. wow!
Yep!!
Did she say she has Crohn's Disease? I'm battling that disease myself and I feel her pain. I know what it is like to have that disease.
Question: Why is he consulting with his ex wife about his problems in his new marriage?
Because he has no respect for his current wife, and still has love for his past wife.
Kemisha Anderson narcissists don’t how to love anyone! Especially other than themselves...
@@bw_locked_in_arms_globally5732 Tru
I am so sorry ..I had Friends have Crones..God help please!! I can not describe the pain & discomfort i saw them suffer!! At least on the Job..everyone was nice & supportive!! It could be anyone! Stress aggravated the Disease!!
And even when he does he still doesn’t listen that the crazy thing and you can tell because all three women in that court spoke to him his failures and he refused to accept it
"you promised to love, honor and cherish her for the rest of her life"
"That wasnt our vows"
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This man should never be in a relationship..period.
He’s the kind that if he wants you to have an opinion he will give it to you..
hope she’s happier with out him..
the Ex should get a life and stay out of his ..
Goal Digger 😂😂😂😂 he can make his own..not as well as I can, but his own none the less.
Kathy that's so typical for narcissists :D
He looks like Dorothy, from wizard of oz.
@Jon Harris funny lady
He has kids with the ex, so I guess she can't totally go away-- but she shouldn't have come to court with him. No reason for her to be there really.
She’s stunning and seems so sweet. I hate that she had to deal with such psychological manipulation for so long.
Sooo y'all just sitting in the house with no gas? If she can't manage to pay the bills then he needs to step up.
He won't. It's more ammo for him to degrade her with.
Exactly, like pay the bill yourself 🤷🏼♀️
If the genders were reversed I bet you would say she needs to leave if he can't pay.
@@sugarplum2467 Nope. They have the money. She just isn't paying the bill.
Sugar Plum lord I swear the slow ones always out themselves where you come from with this cause you make no sense
when he asserts her psychologist also tells her shes "wrong" i feel that really shows the level of manipulation hes taken to put her "in her place"
Yup. I heard that too. Reiterating what her therapist says to her is just down right mean. This poor young lady never stood a chance with him. I can’t imagine that he ever loved her. Just knew she’d be easy to manipulate
He should have just done pre authorized payments for the bill
Solves everything!
Exactly. I was like if she isn't doing it/remembering
wth are u not🤔🤦🏽♀️
18:09 Her delight at Judge Tolar's comment is invigorating. Yet you can still see her hiding herself from him.
She’s beautiful. I hope that she can get some counseling and build herself up! He had a smirk the whole time the judge was talking to him at the end. Smh he’s a mess
I think the illness is what incapacitates her from seeing her full potential.
@@creating1_c1999 it could be psychosomatic illness caused by him. immune system is affected by prolonged stress.
when he said "that wasn't our vows" I wanted to flip a table
If Pippy Longstockings Daddy don’t gone somewhere 🙄 TOXIC‼️
Lexie D 🤣
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lol
Huh? .. don’t gone somewhere?
But, yeah toxic!!! ‼️
@@thesun-N-moon8885 like "don't go on somewhere" I think. It got me at first too xD
"AcTuAlLy ThOsE aReNt OuR vOwS" hes so mean to his wife and sees nothing wrong with it
Anybody else catch him elbowing his ex-wife at 10:01 as if to say "shut up"
Cosmic Giraffe yup!!!
Yes I saw it too.
Yes I caught that too... he's a very controlling devil ...and can't admit that he is the cause of his troubles period..glad the sister Left his dusty behind 🤪🤪🤪the judge hit him hard and she saw straight through his lying behind ‼️‼️‼️‼️
I had to go back and see it again, and your right he did it ...smh
Oh my goodness so true
I cut onions in my hand! Always had and never cut myself! He is a controlling individual. He wanted to mould her into what he wanted.
That's country culinary lol my mom does the same thing
Regardless of everything.. her smile is beautiful it made my heart warm up ❤
What a beautiful woman. And such a sincere smile and personality.
He's a brow beater, has no patience and he married he when she was just legal to drink and expected her to act older than she was? He's petty and childish and he is verbally abusive.
to me he looks like a narcissist, or NPD person
This one actually made me cry. No one should bash anyone despite of any emotions or whatever they are going through. I hurt for her.
I could say a lot but, I’m pretty sure this episode speaks for itself.
you still have to run it down to the dummies out here
@@jjblack4905 dummies? knowledge about narcissism, NPD isn't as common as it should be.
The fact that he objected to what the judge said about promising to honor and cherish your spouse tells you all you need to know about him.
That man looks like a fool with those braids- OMG- LOL
Haaaaa😂😂😂🤣 lol I can't stop laughing, it's soo true
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Wow, she's free at last👏
The audacity of him saying “those weren’t our vows” 🙄✋🏻
And he meant that!
He married a kid and that’s what he got he thought he could mold her into a women he wanted and that didn’t happen on top of that she have health issues and that’s a lot to deal when she not feeling he got what he ask her!!!
narcissist married vulnerable, kind woman to control, abuse her. he could cause her number of psychosomatic illnesses. he cares for his needs only, not hers, not her well being.
Oh My..the present Wife was Emotionally Beat Down & Held Down & Put Down!! She is Numb & has no fight in her! Husband is a Narrsasist !! X Wife is enjoying being his advisor too much!! Where is Her Man?! Prayers for Wife with Crones ..hopefully she can heal now!! She should walk away & never look back!!
He is HORRIBLE!!!!!!!!! PRAY SHE LEAVE HIM FAST!!!!
Well unfortunately she has to because they have a child 😭but I pray she finds her self worth and confidence to stand firm for what she deserves
she is pretty,
Right when the second wife started talking I was like that girl has no self esteem because of that man. She has obviosly spent years with him telling her whatever she does isnt good enough
Did he elbow his ex...trying to shut her up?!?!
Yup
Asshole smh
he's a piece of work
Yes he did
Having Chron's disease is no joke. Many blessings to her and him.
to her yes. his narcissistic behavior could give her various psychosomatic diseases affect immune system by prolonged stress.
@@RG-CooperTrooper I feel like they should just work it out and realize that they have different mindsets
@@naomireber256 Well, in case of narcissism as 'Narcissistic Personality Disorder' it's not that easy. See what about narcissists say: Michele Lee Nieves, Dr. Les Carr, SoulGPS, Joanna Kujath, and many more. They do abuse others, have no conscience, are compulsive liars, are charismatic manipulators, etc.
@@RG-CooperTrooper yeah I guess it right but u know she kind of needs to step up a little bit...I also feel like he should step up too...she was definitely hiding ssomething tho because she looked so scared
Being with a narissistic partner can and does make you physically sick. Her illness is directly related to his verbal, mental and emotional abuse. It's very insidious and devastating. And it's clear that her self-esteem has been severely affected! Bless her heart....she needs to leave and get away from him as soon as possible. She needs time and space to heal her spirit, soul and body. He is dangerous...smh he isn't even listening to the Judge.
This was very eye opening for me.
look up 'narcissism red flags', sam vaknin, joanna kujath, Vital Mind Psychology,
Michele Lee Nieves Coaching, dr les carter ,,,
:) ba amazed, amazing and well educated
No man on Earth can denounce and belittle his woman like a good ole white man. Women seem to think it's attractive especially black women. Years ago when I was a kid I heard a white man tell his wife who was a black woman to shut her dick sucker lol we were in line at Kroger she looked so humiliated my lil brother and I laugh our ass off.
Judge Lynn Toler wisdom is a blessing 🙏 🙌
The fact that he said "actually that wasn't our vows" is just shocking to me. *Girl move on.*
The way he was "agreeing" with everything the judge was saying at one point... I don't know how to explain it but I feel like he was doing it to set the stage to manipulate her to his favor. In that situation, people would normally be defensive but he's all "yeah, you're right. I agree.". That just seemed off to me. And then he suddenly made a statement to rebut and he was now expecting the Judge to agree with him like he was doing earlier. He seemed so used to doing this. That's scary.
She got away while she was young! Whew 😅! Live your life, beautiful woman! And love yourself always 💓.
10:16 He didnt even realise he was doing exactly what the judge was saying.
Sounds like she have ADHD, and a dad
She did say she has health issues
And its crazy how he taught special ed but can't appreciate that maybe she didn't have a good teacher who could have helped her with those issues so he should be.
Its disgusting to hear him say, "I don't have patience for adults" when someone of his profession should know better than anyone how many adults didn't have that help when they were kids & WHY special ed teachers are so important.
@@OSMRDucksLIB more like how man adults have Autism, the the function as a child in an adult body
to me it sounds he is a narcissist, controls, emotionally and psychologically abuses her affecting her immune system, possibly causing psychosomatic diseases.
please look up 'gaslighting', trick used bu narcissist to confuse and abuse his victim.
see 'red flags of narcissism'
Judge set her up to take the whole 16k.. one “yeah I want all of it” would have made her 8k richer
Sounds like he needs to get back with his ex-wife
I think that's what the ex-wife wants
Wife #1 is beat down too and now she finally feels good because he’s just using her against his 2nd wife.
I dont think she want em either
They might as well reconcile, their still one flesh for life. The 2nd so called marriage is adultery anyway.
@@sheranda77 if he is a narcissist both women aren't married at all. person with NPD does not get idea of (unconditional) love only lust will really understand. in his eyes marriage is a way to tie some woman to him, make her fulfill marriage vows which he is not going to respect at all.
he may mimic behavior of person in love, do 'love bombing' but he can't process what love is really about.
You can have the bedroom set’s! ... judge TOLER....”That’s a sign a woman really wants to get away from ya!”
I was with someone like him when I was too young to know better. He taught me to never ever allow anyone to make me feel bad about myself. What a little "man."
10:01 that sneaky little nudge he makes towards his ex was like.. Shhh now woman, we suppose to have each others backs.. He's a control freak.
She didn't pay those bills, cause she's pissed.
Her behavior may in part be due to his treatment of her.
I ❤Judge Lynn Toler!!
She is so cool!!
“That’s wasn’t in our vows”?
Oh fuck that I’d be gone .
What in the Annabelle Comes Homes kinda hair is that on that dude?
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Lol exactly
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He keeps arguing with the judge and he doesn't even see that is proving her points! I hope his lovely, lovely wife see's him for who he really is and gets the hell out.
Vocal Violence is quite Abusive as Loud or as Soft it's still Abuse... LOVE Like Respect & Support ur Spouse.
She is sweet. This man had me ready to go across the screen!
She is going through a lot for this hexanbeast. Hope she in fact got free from the snare and avoid all others.
Hexanbeast 💀💀💀💀💀😂
I don't even know what means but it made me chuckle😂
What's a hexanbeast? Sounds like my sister.
@@lonelyronin2428 Hexenbiest comes from a TV show of 2010s named "Grimm" (which was a very good show) and used as a German term to identify a type of female Wesen who are witches. The male version is a Zauberbiest.
"actually that wasn't our vows" i'm dying XD
I love this Judge, always throws gems to those who are ready to listen
His wife is so cute and humble 😊😩😍😍😍🥰😍😍
I swore this Post Malone's dad.
K Y-H But no face tattoos! The braids are Willie Nelson all the way!😁🎈⛄
K Y-H 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🥃🥃
this judge is really wise respect every word out of her mouth she talks to you and gives you an example at the same time
This bottom shelf Brad.
I felt that lady's relief of being granted that divorce.
The price of being right, child support for three kids across two mums.
Also he's low key punching above hes weight.