So glad you're back! Love watching you answer all these questions and can't wait to see what videos you post in the future. I work with Head Start - an early childhood education program that also works with the kiddos' parents and I have to say you're DEAD ON with the parenting bit. Keep it up! :)
Actually no. Its a mixture of situational and dispositional factors. In fact it coldnt be the case tht genes dictate entirely because your prefrontal cortex isnt even done developing until about 21, and while it develops its taking in the situational and environmental inputs which ultimately help to make up your disposition later on.
I agree so much on the parenting one. I'm a Psych major, and I put a lot of value on the discoveries on behavior psychology, learning, and developmental psych. I honestly think that most of the worlds problems could be solved with two things. Education and Good Parenting.
@BeardedBill86 The short answer to your question (because I have to step away from the computer right now) is, yes. I have seen schizophrenia, ADHD, bipolar, and even mild autism reversed. Narcissism, passive-aggression, obsessive-compulsion, histrionic personality and paranoia are comparatively a piece of cake. But it takes a lot of hard emotional work. Sometimes years. There's no quick fix.
I'm happy to find you have a YT channel.....I'm very late discovering it though : ) Was looking at some B&B videos from red carpet and so on and there you told it. You are one of my favourite actors in B&B !! Seems it has been a while since you uploaded a video so I'm looking forward to that. Lovely greetings from Belgium.
Well, don't worry. You will do things you may feel is a mistake but that just shows your a concerned mother. That is a positive thing. That doesnt make you a bad parent if you have her best interests at heart. The lessons she learns from you will stay with her thoughout her life, including that it's ok to make a mistake and how to learn from it. The best advise I can give is to encourage her curiosity and imagination and let her find her own niche.
@quaternio "aversion to the use of the word "theory" prior to establishing a hypothesis to a very thorough degree" I do agree with you here. I think it can be misleading. "Theory" was used because of how comprehensive it is. And it just sounds better than "hypothesis", which gives the impression of a yet-to-be-scrutinized assertion. "I apologize." Oh thank you, but no need. I can't assume I know where you're coming from. I can only check in by telling you how it seems. Thanks for clarifying.
its such a scary thought that humanity could and probably will destroy itself, makes me consider whether having children is selfish and wrong, bringing a family into a world that is doomed.
You only ever need one wish because you simply wish for reality to be in a particular state that you desire, and use all necessary language to describe that state.
@322RedBaron "there are actually brain scans of father to son that prove that there are different brain activity occurring in different sections of the brain which differ." This is not antithetical to anything I've said. Experiences can physically and chemically change the brain. This is neuroscientific fact. Good parenting may not be able to "cure" Asperger's, but it can prevent it.
I completely agree about parenting, and about a short history of nearly everything. It's one of the few books on the list I recommend people read. It's a particularly good read for people who think they aren't really into science.
Though I completely agree, good parenting is absolutely necessary for our society to progress and thrive, from what I understand of modern psychology, it turns out that often peers have a larger influence on a child then the parents in the overall scheme. None-the-less, obviously parents, can to some degree, determine who their peers end up being, so ultimately the parents do have a significant amount of control, just not as much as our intuitions seem to tell us.
I feel that the mystery of the universe is what gives humans a sense of ambition, the very notion that we want to find out things about the world in its self motivates us; scientifically, culturally and philosophically. I think spontaneous absolute knowledge will somewhat bring a sense of apathy and laziness.
@Compact3 Yes, they did do something wrong. Parenting theory can be conducted like any other science. Hypothesis, prediction, testing, falsification, and repetition. You don't learn how to become a perfect parent by always parenting perfectly. I was the "lab rat" so to speak, and the mistakes my mom made raising me are just as valuable as the things she got right. As for the parenting book, I've gotten a lot of questions on that, and I'll definitely keep everyone posted on its availability!
Oh man, I've read Bill Bryson's "A Short History of Nearly Everything" too! That book is so freakin' amazing! As for the parenting thing I think what is most important is a kid having a good role-model. This is from experience of having really crappy parents and no one in my family having ever been to college but having world class teachers who cared deeply about me and would do anything for me and as a result I got a full ride to one of the best public schools in the country.
@GodofCider Cool! Well what sucks is that TIPP only has locations in Southern California, but there are ways to order several versions of the parenting class (on CD and DVD) over the phone or online. Try tipponline(dot)org.
When you made this video, my daughter was six years old. Now she's 14, and I couldn't agree with you more about the parenting bit. I see poor parenting everywhere: at her school, at the shops, on the train. Parents who can't be arsed to put time into their children and to give them the attention they deserve, to answer their questions, to encourage them to consider others in the world and the turbulence they leave in their wake, to think of themselves as deserving the attention and respect of others, and to attend and respect in turn. It was a lesser problem when you spoke on this subject, but phones have given parents such an easy way to ignore their kids now, and I feel so sorry for them; both the kids and the parents who don't know what they're missing out on. My parenting's not perfect, but I do my best, as those of us who know we're shaping the future adult do. You haven't been here in a long time, but you seem like such a lovely person. I wish you and your family well. :)
My parents seemed to have raised me quiet similarly to you. Introducing me to a bunch of things and letting me experience as much culture, religion and philosophy as possible. I agree entirely with your views on parenting. I've seen the effects of bad parenting alot of my classmates were in and out of jail and i live in the suburbs. I personally believe that parenting classes should mandatory.
I feel like the first wish is in direct opposition to the conclusion of Gotthold Ephraim Lessing, which is to choose the drive for the truth over the truth. You did say that you would only have answers that you chose to have, but I think that humans give in to the path of least resistance frequently, and it would be easy to justify getting answers the easy way once you had that power.
I completely agree with you on the parenting thing, most people don't understand the enormous (brain) damage bad parenting can cause to a child. It's good to know that someone else cares about this subject too, and a clinical psychologist too!
I completely agree that the world needs better parenting. Everything starts there.....the people we become. We learnt of lot from friends of ours.....specially how to NOT do it. We saw with our friends so many blunders/mistakes with their children and we learnt so much from that. And we leant it before we had children so that's a good thing : )
Regarding your comments about parenting, I agree wholeheartedly! I'd like to add that there is far too much onus on school teachers to take on a parental role toward their students. ( At least, here in Aus). It's not working, nor will it ever work.
Good parenting can help all children tremendously. I agree it is and essential perhaps the essential skill of human beings, Nevertheless part of good parenting is realizing the children aren't clay to be shaped. Each one is unique, with strength, weakness, limitations, potentials, proclivities, and temperaments. Genetics is not destiny, but it is a starting point and a constant pull. The scientific evidence for this is very clear. There are also other factors beyond the control of parents.
@quaternio You seem to think I'm advocating some sort of academic consensus, or claiming that Causal Theory is a work of peer-reviewed scholarship. These are not claims I'm making, although I hope to be able to make them some day. It's just a very reputable parenting class. And it's amazing. And I want people to see for themselves. I'm not expecting anyone to take my word for it. I'm not advertising TIPP/Causal Theory as "proven science".
@bennybradycom I think what I'm failing to understand is the either/or mentality. I don't think any good scientist working on the issue would argue that you can control for environment. But in the same way, you can't control for genes. For example, you could argue the institute that your mother runs attracts a certain kind of parent. Could that not bring in an uncontrolled genetic element? I'm not sure how narrow you're defining behavior to be. Is it happy/sad/angry? musical? Artistic?
There is only one good wish--the other two aren't even needed: That all sentient beings everywhere in existence could know and understand ALL things ever--past, present, and future that could ever be known. EVERYTHING. If would end ALL strife in the universe, and every being could immediately seek and find....their ideal state. There would be no conflict in this, because conflicts would be known and understood and would be resolved.
Thanks a bunch for the book link. I read Pinker's "Clean slate" and I was somewhat ambivalent about it, especially since the studies at best showed that genes have an impact on the observed variation of personalities if if the social environment is pretty much comparable (go figure ...). I'll put on the list. Would you be up for a Stickam discussion. If yes I'd love to also bring in the controversial book "No Two Alike: Human Nature and Human Individuality".
"A short history of nearly everything" by bill bryson, "the end of faith" by Sam Harris, "the gene illusion" by jay Joseph, ***The TIPP institute for professional parenting founder recent book on parenting****
@quaternio This feels condescending. I know how science works, and again, I am not demanding that anyone treat TIPP as more than a parenting class that yields exceptional results. WHY does it yield such results? Probably because it wasn't "dreamed up" over night, but continually tested, revised, and tested again over the course of a 1/4 century career in psychotherapy. What doesn't fit the data gets scrapped. The evidence is readily available for people who take the class or buy the book.
...and behaviours, but in our capacity to attain particular personality attributes. For instance, I don't believe sexuality or gender is influenced by parenting. But I do believe someone's emotional fortitude and humour are directly effected by their upbringing. Sexuality is a large part of someone's personality, but it is also a completely separate thing. Anyway, I could go on and on! But I simply mean to say, I agree and I really would like to read your mother's book!
@quaternio Well, there's a difference between having a multitude of evidence supporting a hypothesis, and having your own published research (which takes funding). Were you to read the handbook for TIPP, you'd find hundreds of footnotes citing other research, obviously, but you would also find comprehensive accounts of how the available data supports Dr. Snyder's conclusions from her 25 years of psychotherapy. Also? This theory is tested every day, with amazing results.
@Blackmark52 I'm curious what you think is physical about autism and schizophrenia? The fact that their brain chemistry is different from, say, your or my brain chemistry? Did you know that brains physically change and release different chemicals as a result of trauma?
The correct answer to the wish question is "Infinite wishes". And why would you wish for a perfect respiratory system when you could just do away with the whole thing? You would never have to breath ever again!
As for wishes... how about wishing for a loving god - benevolent, omnipotent, and omniscient. Such a god would make your life better than you could imagine or hope for. Only minor problem is that it might be logically impossible.
cool answer for my question. would you believe when i did a video asking my audience that question, youtube removed it for somehow inappropriate content? anyway, glad you liked it. its a win/win, but also a lose/lose, depending on how you look at it :-)
hey tbs, love your vids, always intelligent enough to show me something but still funny enought to keep me watching, great job, keep it up. i'm not just here to tell you you're great, i was wondering if there is some way to read your mothers book that hasn't been published. sounds like something worth reading
I study psychology and I agree with you for most part on the parenting part of the video. I would like to know does the theory your mom works on is based of Operant theory, or classical conditioning? If it is neither would you mind sharing just the theory?
Hi, all the info you need is in this video: /watch?v=90y9iZhH-_w&lc=9TH4UB_1f7M0sCP6pD_-5OB031Z7cWpdGjVOhM_PGZQ&feature=inbox Thanks for your interest!
Have you read any work by Lloyd deMause concerning psychohistory? I think you might find it very interesting considering your view on parenting (which I completely agree with btw).
I don't think we will ever get our shit together based on how things are going now. Some may call me a pessimist but I like to thin k of myself as a realist...
completely agree with the parenting comments tbs. easily the most important and most difficult job on the planet. that said, i've got a question that Id be very interested to hear your response to. If/when you have a son and/or daughter and when they grew up to be adults they decided that they think theism is the most reasonable conclusion. How would you treat that situation? would it bother you? how would it change your outlook on the issue of theism/atheism in general?
1. Much more energy, an island home, and a wife. 2. Bailey's Irish Cream ice cream by Haagen Dasz 3. vanilla. 4. logic. 5. Insomnia (Stephen King), The Neo-Tech Discoveries (Frank Wallace), the Wrinkle In Time series (Madeleine L'Engle) 6. B (I'd rather be a complete dupe. knowing when people lie right to your face really sucks. I'm good at it.) 7. Swords 8. Backwards, to the dark ages (rampant RPG geek), Forwards to the new age of reason.
3 wishes. The first one is awesome. (Knowing any quantifiable thing) The second one, I think I may go with reincarnation(into another human) while keeping all my previous life's memories that kick in about age 2 to 3. The third one, The powers of the Death Note. Shape the world as I see fit, and if I get too deep in trouble, I can die and come back and then stay under the radar until I feel I need to exert myself again on the world. Teach every human: Teach them about the concept of Moral Luck.
@bennybradycom "I don't think any good scientist working on the issue would argue that you can control for environment." But that's what they do say. In fact, that's what the EEA assumes, which is a research flaw. "But in the same way, you can't control for genes." Sure you can. Identical twins. "you could argue the institute that your mother runs attracts a certain kind of parent." But, they don't. In fact, they are often polarized.
3:12 - finally someone said it. I'm only 16 so my opinions on parenting aren't exactly worth much to most people, but it's pretty useful being able to observe other kids and their parents and compare it all to my upbringing. It's too bad that the worst parents are usually the ones who haven't had the discipline to listen in sex ed class, and bring hoards of mini-mes into the world that will grow up to be just as bad parents.
Atheism itself is just a label that means without the belief in god or gods. It's a lack of belief or rejection of a belief. Anything an atheist does or says that's more than that doesn't necessarily mean that it represents all atheists.
The problem with eradicating disease would be there would be no (natural) death. And, if one plays the semantics game, there would be no death at all. Consider the ramifications... and the paradoxes.
Hey scott big fan of yours watch you on the bold with my mom lol but just wanted to know if you can put your moms book on the link so i can purchase it thanks man keep up the great work
@TheBunter88 Sounds like you might be talking about epigenetics, which is purely speculative. If not though, are you saying that something like schizophrenia is the product of multiple genes being combined? If so, we don't have evidence for that, either. Again, so far it's completely speculative. None of the studies on this have been replicable, and unfortunately the media LOVES to prematurely publish conclusions we haven't actually verified.
It seems to me that people in general are very well aware that parenting influence their child's personality way more than genetics. When someone gets a child they will do whatever they can to give it a perfect upbringing. No one just says it's genetics. Also since most people believe that a psychologist can change the personality of adults why would they think that children are immune? Makes no sense.
Also, with wish two, wouldn't perfect health entail not dying in a very Captain America sort of way? Why would you want to live until the heat death of the universe, (assuming an accident or some such didn't kill you sooner)? Living for billions of years sounds hellish to me.
I would have loved to hear more of your thoughts on the parenting issue, and I will look around to see if I can find additional shared ideas on the subject. While I do not subscribe to the notion of children being nothing more than the sum of their genetic coding, I don't agree with the concept of society -or more specifically parents- being the most significant influence on how a child will progress. I have several reasons, and It's a pity for me I cannot amicably debate this with you.
I wouldn't go as far as saying that genes don't play a role in personality but they are by no means the sole factor and I would agree that parenting plays a large role. If you've ever watched how kids act in public, those who parents pay attention and keep control tend to be much more respectful than those who's parents don't pay attention and allow their kids to do as they please.
hey, what is the name of your mothers book? Can you do a video on that when it comes out, explaining a little more what it is about and where one can get the book, that would be interesting.
genetics do not pre-determine our personality, however they do increase our susceptibility to certain personality traits. It is not single genes, but many genes that can together cause us to be more susceptible, as it is for any complex neurological trait. in genetics it is almost always a trade off of what is laid down in the biochemistry and the interaction with our environment. environment is pretty much always the causing factor in subtleties such as personality but genetics do have a role.
I agree about the parenting .(I'm raising 3 boys) My fav book abpuit it is Your Child's Self Esteem- plz check it out- that book changed me in so many ways!
@bennybradycom "The consensus is that genetics play a part." Well the consensus is to *assume* genetics play a part. But in 30 years, we've never isolated one gene (or set) for a personality trait. *Something* is wrong, here. "To fault a sibling study because it's in the best interest of a geneticist" But that's not why I'm faulting them. I'm faulting them because of poorly conducted and sloppy research, based on demonstrably false assumptions about environment.
Thanks for the book recommendations, and it's great to have you back.
Awesome to see you back, been waiting to see a new video for months.
So glad you're back! Love watching you answer all these questions and can't wait to see what videos you post in the future. I work with Head Start - an early childhood education program that also works with the kiddos' parents and I have to say you're DEAD ON with the parenting bit. Keep it up! :)
So glad you're back! Love watching you answer all these questions and can't wait to see what videos you post in the future. :)
"Rocky Road."
Touch of brilliance there, Scott.
Scott, you are awesome. I always love your videos.
Actually no. Its a mixture of situational and dispositional factors. In fact it coldnt be the case tht genes dictate entirely because your prefrontal cortex isnt even done developing until about 21, and while it develops its taking in the situational and environmental inputs which ultimately help to make up your disposition later on.
Bill Bryson - A Short History of just about everything is also one of mine!
The way he writes reminds me of my favourite lecturer at university.
I agree so much on the parenting one. I'm a Psych major, and I put a lot of value on the discoveries on behavior psychology, learning, and developmental psych. I honestly think that most of the worlds problems could be solved with two things. Education and Good Parenting.
Outstanding! Love your vids, Scott.
@BeardedBill86 The short answer to your question (because I have to step away from the computer right now) is, yes. I have seen schizophrenia, ADHD, bipolar, and even mild autism reversed. Narcissism, passive-aggression, obsessive-compulsion, histrionic personality and paranoia are comparatively a piece of cake. But it takes a lot of hard emotional work. Sometimes years. There's no quick fix.
I'm happy to find you have a YT channel.....I'm very late discovering it though : ) Was looking at some B&B videos from red carpet and so on and there you told it. You are one of my favourite actors in B&B !! Seems it has been a while since you uploaded a video so I'm looking forward to that. Lovely greetings from Belgium.
Well, don't worry. You will do things you may feel is a mistake but that just shows your a concerned mother. That is a positive thing. That doesnt make you a bad parent if you have her best interests at heart. The lessons she learns from you will stay with her thoughout her life, including that it's ok to make a mistake and how to learn from it. The best advise I can give is to encourage her curiosity and imagination and let her find her own niche.
@4McClain Yes, and Stephen Pinker is an ideologue.
@quaternio "aversion to the use of the word "theory" prior to establishing a hypothesis to a very thorough degree"
I do agree with you here. I think it can be misleading. "Theory" was used because of how comprehensive it is. And it just sounds better than "hypothesis", which gives the impression of a yet-to-be-scrutinized assertion.
"I apologize."
Oh thank you, but no need. I can't assume I know where you're coming from. I can only check in by telling you how it seems. Thanks for clarifying.
The parts with pinkberry and Sawyer were just too adorable.
its such a scary thought that humanity could and probably will destroy itself, makes me consider whether having children is selfish and wrong, bringing a family into a world that is doomed.
You only ever need one wish because you simply wish for reality to be in a particular state that you desire, and use all necessary language to describe that state.
@322RedBaron "there are actually brain scans of father to son that prove that there are different brain activity occurring in different sections of the brain which differ."
This is not antithetical to anything I've said. Experiences can physically and chemically change the brain. This is neuroscientific fact.
Good parenting may not be able to "cure" Asperger's, but it can prevent it.
@Veritas48 Cool. Yeah, we'll talk about it sometime soon.
I completely agree about parenting, and about a short history of nearly everything. It's one of the few books on the list I recommend people read. It's a particularly good read for people who think they aren't really into science.
Though I completely agree, good parenting is absolutely necessary for our society to progress and thrive, from what I understand of modern psychology, it turns out that often peers have a larger influence on a child then the parents in the overall scheme. None-the-less, obviously parents, can to some degree, determine who their peers end up being, so ultimately the parents do have a significant amount of control, just not as much as our intuitions seem to tell us.
I feel that the mystery of the universe is what gives humans a sense of ambition, the very notion that we want to find out things about the world in its self motivates us; scientifically, culturally and philosophically. I think spontaneous absolute knowledge will somewhat bring a sense of apathy and laziness.
@kausidya I completely agree with you there there's no such thing as a perfect parent (or at least that there don't seem to have been any so far).
@Compact3 Yes, they did do something wrong. Parenting theory can be conducted like any other science. Hypothesis, prediction, testing, falsification, and repetition. You don't learn how to become a perfect parent by always parenting perfectly. I was the "lab rat" so to speak, and the mistakes my mom made raising me are just as valuable as the things she got right.
As for the parenting book, I've gotten a lot of questions on that, and I'll definitely keep everyone posted on its availability!
@quaternio "I'm enjoying my subscription immensely!"
Thanks!
@GodofCider A most excellent question.
Oh man, I've read Bill Bryson's "A Short History of Nearly Everything" too! That book is so freakin' amazing! As for the parenting thing I think what is most important is a kid having a good role-model. This is from experience of having really crappy parents and no one in my family having ever been to college but having world class teachers who cared deeply about me and would do anything for me and as a result I got a full ride to one of the best public schools in the country.
@GodofCider Cool! Well what sucks is that TIPP only has locations in Southern California, but there are ways to order several versions of the parenting class (on CD and DVD) over the phone or online. Try tipponline(dot)org.
Scott, could you maybe do a video or possible video series on your views of parenting? I'm curious to know more.
Genes dictate personality. The alternative means that I would have to take responsibility for stuff, and that just isn't gonna happen.
@spunkyfrog22 Yeah, no two children, in any family, have the same parenting or childhood experience.
When you made this video, my daughter was six years old. Now she's 14, and I couldn't agree with you more about the parenting bit.
I see poor parenting everywhere: at her school, at the shops, on the train. Parents who can't be arsed to put time into their children and to give them the attention they deserve, to answer their questions, to encourage them to consider others in the world and the turbulence they leave in their wake, to think of themselves as deserving the attention and respect of others, and to attend and respect in turn.
It was a lesser problem when you spoke on this subject, but phones have given parents such an easy way to ignore their kids now, and I feel so sorry for them; both the kids and the parents who don't know what they're missing out on.
My parenting's not perfect, but I do my best, as those of us who know we're shaping the future adult do.
You haven't been here in a long time, but you seem like such a lovely person. I wish you and your family well. :)
My parents seemed to have raised me quiet similarly to you. Introducing me to a bunch of things and letting me experience as much culture, religion and philosophy as possible. I agree entirely with your views on parenting. I've seen the effects of bad parenting alot of my classmates were in and out of jail and i live in the suburbs. I personally believe that parenting classes should mandatory.
I feel like the first wish is in direct opposition to the conclusion of Gotthold Ephraim Lessing, which is to choose the drive for the truth over the truth. You did say that you would only have answers that you chose to have, but I think that humans give in to the path of least resistance frequently, and it would be easy to justify getting answers the easy way once you had that power.
I completely agree with you on the parenting thing, most people don't understand the enormous (brain) damage bad parenting can cause to a child. It's good to know that someone else cares about this subject too, and a clinical psychologist too!
I completely agree that the world needs better parenting. Everything starts there.....the people we become. We learnt of lot from friends of ours.....specially how to NOT do it. We saw with our friends so many blunders/mistakes with their children and we learnt so much from that. And we leant it before we had children so that's a good thing : )
Now I actually got really interested in seeing you do a video on parenting.
Regarding your comments about parenting, I agree wholeheartedly! I'd like to add that there is far too much onus on school teachers to take on a parental role toward their students. ( At least, here in Aus). It's not working, nor will it ever work.
Good parenting can help all children tremendously. I agree it is and essential perhaps the essential skill of human beings, Nevertheless part of good parenting is realizing the children aren't clay to be shaped. Each one is unique, with strength, weakness, limitations, potentials, proclivities, and temperaments. Genetics is not destiny, but it is a starting point and a constant pull. The scientific evidence for this is very clear. There are also other factors beyond the control of parents.
@quaternio You seem to think I'm advocating some sort of academic consensus, or claiming that Causal Theory is a work of peer-reviewed scholarship. These are not claims I'm making, although I hope to be able to make them some day.
It's just a very reputable parenting class. And it's amazing. And I want people to see for themselves. I'm not expecting anyone to take my word for it.
I'm not advertising TIPP/Causal Theory as "proven science".
@bennybradycom I think what I'm failing to understand is the either/or mentality. I don't think any good scientist working on the issue would argue that you can control for environment. But in the same way, you can't control for genes. For example, you could argue the institute that your mother runs attracts a certain kind of parent. Could that not bring in an uncontrolled genetic element? I'm not sure how narrow you're defining behavior to be. Is it happy/sad/angry? musical? Artistic?
the hell is pinkberry?
I can see someone cutting this up and using it on a video dating service.
link the book when it comes out! I dont ever plan to have any kids, but it sounds interesting!
There is only one good wish--the other two aren't even needed: That all sentient beings everywhere in existence could know and understand ALL things ever--past, present, and future that could ever be known. EVERYTHING.
If would end ALL strife in the universe, and every being could immediately seek and find....their ideal state. There would be no conflict in this, because conflicts would be known and understood and would be resolved.
@GodofCider It's a brand of frozen yogurt.... that is awesome.
In the "one dessert" question, you sounded like Rod Serling…
Thanks a bunch for the book link. I read Pinker's "Clean slate" and I was somewhat ambivalent about it, especially since the studies at best showed that genes have an impact on the observed variation of personalities if if the social environment is pretty much comparable (go figure ...). I'll put on the list. Would you be up for a Stickam discussion. If yes I'd love to also bring in the controversial book "No Two Alike: Human Nature and Human Individuality".
"A short history of nearly everything" by bill bryson, "the end of faith" by Sam Harris, "the gene illusion" by jay Joseph, ***The TIPP institute for professional parenting founder recent book on parenting****
@quaternio This feels condescending. I know how science works, and again, I am not demanding that anyone treat TIPP as more than a parenting class that yields exceptional results.
WHY does it yield such results? Probably because it wasn't "dreamed up" over night, but continually tested, revised, and tested again over the course of a 1/4 century career in psychotherapy. What doesn't fit the data gets scrapped.
The evidence is readily available for people who take the class or buy the book.
...and behaviours, but in our capacity to attain particular personality attributes. For instance, I don't believe sexuality or gender is influenced by parenting. But I do believe someone's emotional fortitude and humour are directly effected by their upbringing. Sexuality is a large part of someone's personality, but it is also a completely separate thing. Anyway, I could go on and on! But I simply mean to say, I agree and I really would like to read your mother's book!
I'm pretty sure Ricky Gervais had a movie where he was in the situation described in the deceitfulness question! It's called The Invention of Lying.
Agree 100% about Sam Harris. Your own clarity of argument and presentation reminds me of Sam.
@quaternio Well, there's a difference between having a multitude of evidence supporting a hypothesis, and having your own published research (which takes funding). Were you to read the handbook for TIPP, you'd find hundreds of footnotes citing other research, obviously, but you would also find comprehensive accounts of how the available data supports Dr. Snyder's conclusions from her 25 years of psychotherapy.
Also? This theory is tested every day, with amazing results.
@Blackmark52 I'm curious what you think is physical about autism and schizophrenia? The fact that their brain chemistry is different from, say, your or my brain chemistry? Did you know that brains physically change and release different chemicals as a result of trauma?
The correct answer to the wish question is "Infinite wishes". And why would you wish for a perfect respiratory system when you could just do away with the whole thing? You would never have to breath ever again!
I'd love to read your Mother's book... any chance it'll be published soon?
I agree that parenting plays a huge role in child development. Good solid education and good parenting :)
AWE!!! You have a pretty kitty!
As for wishes... how about wishing for a loving god - benevolent, omnipotent, and omniscient. Such a god would make your life better than you could imagine or hope for. Only minor problem is that it might be logically impossible.
A Short History of Nearly Everything, I just ordered it. Thanks for the suggestion.
cool answer for my question. would you believe when i did a video asking my audience that question, youtube removed it for somehow inappropriate content? anyway, glad you liked it. its a win/win, but also a lose/lose, depending on how you look at it :-)
hey tbs, love your vids, always intelligent enough to show me something but still funny enought to keep me watching, great job, keep it up. i'm not just here to tell you you're great, i was wondering if there is some way to read your mothers book that hasn't been published. sounds like something worth reading
I study psychology and I agree with you for most part on the parenting part of the video. I would like to know does the theory your mom works on is based of Operant theory, or classical conditioning? If it is neither would you mind sharing just the theory?
You always use the third wish to wish for more wishes...
Hi, all the info you need is in this video:
/watch?v=90y9iZhH-_w&lc=9TH4UB_1f7M0sCP6pD_-5OB031Z7cWpdGjVOhM_PGZQ&feature=inbox
Thanks for your interest!
Have you read any work by Lloyd deMause concerning psychohistory? I think you might find it very interesting considering your view on parenting (which I completely agree with btw).
I agree that while nature can set some predispositions it is nurture that carries the day. It is interesting that you teach some parenting classes.
you look soooooo much like Liam from B&B!! OH wait Scott its youuu!!! I watch the show just for youuu!!!
Haha, I really missed your videos. Also, your cat is awesome.
No wishing for more wishes?
I don't think we will ever get our shit together based on how things are going now. Some may call me a pessimist but I like to thin k of myself as a realist...
completely agree with the parenting comments tbs. easily the most important and most difficult job on the planet. that said, i've got a question that Id be very interested to hear your response to. If/when you have a son and/or daughter and when they grew up to be adults they decided that they think theism is the most reasonable conclusion. How would you treat that situation? would it bother you? how would it change your outlook on the issue of theism/atheism in general?
1. Much more energy, an island home, and a wife. 2. Bailey's Irish Cream ice cream by Haagen Dasz 3. vanilla. 4. logic. 5. Insomnia (Stephen King), The Neo-Tech Discoveries (Frank Wallace), the Wrinkle In Time series (Madeleine L'Engle) 6. B (I'd rather be a complete dupe. knowing when people lie right to your face really sucks. I'm good at it.) 7. Swords 8. Backwards, to the dark ages (rampant RPG geek), Forwards to the new age of reason.
3 wishes.
The first one is awesome. (Knowing any quantifiable thing)
The second one, I think I may go with reincarnation(into another human) while keeping all my previous life's memories that kick in about age 2 to 3.
The third one, The powers of the Death Note.
Shape the world as I see fit, and if I get too deep in trouble, I can die and come back and then stay under the radar until I feel I need to exert myself again on the world.
Teach every human: Teach them about the concept of Moral Luck.
@michalchik Thaaaaaaaank you.
@bennybradycom "I don't think any good scientist working on the issue would argue that you can control for environment."
But that's what they do say. In fact, that's what the EEA assumes, which is a research flaw.
"But in the same way, you can't control for genes."
Sure you can. Identical twins.
"you could argue the institute that your mother runs attracts a certain kind of parent."
But, they don't. In fact, they are often polarized.
3:12 - finally someone said it.
I'm only 16 so my opinions on parenting aren't exactly worth much to most people, but it's pretty useful being able to observe other kids and their parents and compare it all to my upbringing. It's too bad that the worst parents are usually the ones who haven't had the discipline to listen in sex ed class, and bring hoards of mini-mes into the world that will grow up to be just as bad parents.
Atheism itself is just a label that means without the belief in god or gods. It's a lack of belief or rejection of a belief. Anything an atheist does or says that's more than that doesn't necessarily mean that it represents all atheists.
he's 5'11.
What is pink berry?
The problem with eradicating disease would be there would be no (natural) death. And, if one plays the semantics game, there would be no death at all. Consider the ramifications... and the paradoxes.
Hey scott big fan of yours watch you on the bold with my mom lol but just wanted to know if you can put your moms book on the link so i can purchase it thanks man keep up the great work
Nature vs Nurture? I will get the book. However I thought that was so settled. Nature AND Nurture. Have you read Pinker's Blank Slate?
The first 95 pages of the gene illusion are on google books.
Is the cat the first guest appearance on a TB video?
@TheBunter88 Sounds like you might be talking about epigenetics, which is purely speculative. If not though, are you saying that something like schizophrenia is the product of multiple genes being combined? If so, we don't have evidence for that, either. Again, so far it's completely speculative. None of the studies on this have been replicable, and unfortunately the media LOVES to prematurely publish conclusions we haven't actually verified.
It seems to me that people in general are very well aware that parenting influence their child's personality way more than genetics. When someone gets a child they will do whatever they can to give it a perfect upbringing. No one just says it's genetics. Also since most people believe that a psychologist can change the personality of adults why would they think that children are immune? Makes no sense.
Also, with wish two, wouldn't perfect health entail not dying in a very Captain America sort of way? Why would you want to live until the heat death of the universe, (assuming an accident or some such didn't kill you sooner)? Living for billions of years sounds hellish to me.
Atheist?
This the best. I'd pick 300 years too.
I would have loved to hear more of your thoughts on the parenting issue, and I will look around to see if I can find additional shared ideas on the subject. While I do not subscribe to the notion of children being nothing more than the sum of their genetic coding, I don't agree with the concept of society -or more specifically parents- being the most significant influence on how a child will progress. I have several reasons, and It's a pity for me I cannot amicably debate this with you.
I wouldn't go as far as saying that genes don't play a role in personality but they are by no means the sole factor and I would agree that parenting plays a large role. If you've ever watched how kids act in public, those who parents pay attention and keep control tend to be much more respectful than those who's parents don't pay attention and allow their kids to do as they please.
hey, what is the name of your mothers book? Can you do a video on that when it comes out, explaining a little more what it is about and where one can get the book, that would be interesting.
genetics do not pre-determine our personality, however they do increase our susceptibility to certain personality traits. It is not single genes, but many genes that can together cause us to be more susceptible, as it is for any complex neurological trait. in genetics it is almost always a trade off of what is laid down in the biochemistry and the interaction with our environment. environment is pretty much always the causing factor in subtleties such as personality but genetics do have a role.
One dessert only for the rest of my life? RAINBOW SHERBERT!!!
I agree about the parenting .(I'm raising 3 boys) My fav book abpuit it is Your Child's Self Esteem- plz check it out- that book changed me in so many ways!
I like the attack on evo pop psychology in this. Maybe attack is a strong word, but you get what I mean.
@bennybradycom "The consensus is that genetics play a part." Well the consensus is to *assume* genetics play a part. But in 30 years, we've never isolated one gene (or set) for a personality trait. *Something* is wrong, here.
"To fault a sibling study because it's in the best interest of a geneticist"
But that's not why I'm faulting them. I'm faulting them because of poorly conducted and sloppy research, based on demonstrably false assumptions about environment.