Its so real when your parents are all of a sudden "yeah its your choice after all" and you're just sitting there in complete disbelief like ".....I HAD A CHOICE?"
Yeaaahh as someone of Arab descent it felt like the older you got the more of a right you had to opinions about your life lol. Parents are trying their best but they aren't masters at organically letting passions develop. They're just trying to guide us on a safe path. And sometimes, we gotta yeet that path into the stratosphere and become something else!
Asian Parents are scary to confront ... I can confirm that ;; I'm glad you made a life changing decision, and I wish you the best of luck moving forward Hono! - Hosuh
NOT THE "Are you pregante?" QUESTIONNN Jokes aside Im so happy for you that your channel has grown so much and that your parents accepted the choices you've made GO HONOBREAD GOOO!!!
My cousin dropped out of law school this past year because he wanted to be an artist. He always loved painting and it was one of the only things that brought him joy. His parents thought he was being stupid and told him to go back to school at once. They said they won't help provide for him and his son anymore (btw he had a son a pretty young age, 16) unless he went back to school, but he stood his ground and said why he wants to be an artist and how it makes him happy. His parents were shocked and finally accepting. They said they were sorry and just were overwhelmed with the fact that first he has a four year old son and two because he has a legitimate job now, he has to worry about where he will live, food, clothes, etc. He lives in Chicago now and creates some wonderful art! I'm so proud of him for doing what he loves and I hope he keeps pursuing this passion.
Honobread is like that silly friend you love listening to. She has an aura of a character from a slice-of-life comedy. That green shirt reminds me of someone and that pink hair is adorable !!! Also, that "R U PRAGNAN ?" question is so relatable; definitely what every Asian parent would ask !!!!! It was nice to see how parents handled the news of you dropping school positively.
This encourages all those ppl who’re scared of pursuing what they want cuz it comes with risks rather than a secure 9-5 Job. But as a student still figuring out their life I feel relived not being alone in this struggle tysm hono
Yea I've never really got that type of pressure but it's nice to see other perspectives. Other than the standard get good grades go to school I was never pushing to pursue a certain field by my grandma. Only time I've felt that way was when entrepreneurship became more popular during quarantine, and my biology stopped her whole lesson to tells us about the joys of starting you're own business. Then my dad started doin that too and I was pretty much fake agreeing with him about being a CEO 💀
I'm 30 and going to be 31 soon & I'm still figuring my life (doesn't mean that I don't have a job or not able to provide for my family but I just feel like this is not "it"), you're early so don't worry. You'll understand that the best part of life that you're still "figuring" it so you'd try something new everytime an opportunity presents itself.
I had to fight crying so hard during this video Hono omg I cant ruin my eyeliner I just put it on- I'm in the "didn't go to uni and now still don't know what I wanna do with my life a couple years later" existential dread phase of life it suuucks. I feel like such a failure because I had such high academic expectations for myself during school and even though it killed me I still feel like I should have met them and am a failure because I haven't, and worse still I feel like I'm not succeeding out of school because I just have a stupid low paying job and no idea what to do as a career. I just feel so so lost lol
It’s so normal to not know what to do. How can anyone be expected to make a decision on what we want to be for the REST of our lives in highschool when we’ve only lived a little over 10% percent of it? People are still maturing and growing even through the early years of uni. Some people realize early on their passion and that’s wonderful, some don’t find clarity until fully going down a path that didn’t work out, and some people don’t find out until they’ve lived half their life. We all have different timelines and that’s ok! You’re doing your best to keep yourself afloat with your current situation and that’s a good thing. i hope one day an opportunity arises for you to find fulfillment in something 💖✨
You're fortunate to have figured this out while you are young. I'm old now and am struggling with figuring out what I want to do as a career. Unfortunately I have too much responsibility now riding on me to just quit and start over. I now suppress burn out and depression daily all for the sake of maintaining my current career, lifestyle and have no idea what to do about it. I honestly don't even recognize myself anymore because I've worked towards this false life for so long that I have no idea who I am or what I want to do. All you youngins take it from me... Don't build a life for yourself on what others expect of you as you WILL wake up one day in a similar crisis to mine. Take care.
You can be old and still pursuing what you like, you still breathing and healthy? Go for it maybe you don't have the courage now but I hope one day you will do what you like!
The “are you pregnant?!” Had me wheezing and I was so loud my parents thought I was having an asthma attack. 😂😭 You never fail with your humor. I pray that TH-cam is the job you want it to be and you can be successful and enjoy what you love, as well as just get what you want with it! With more stories and videos like these I see you easily hitting 500k subscribers and then soon the road to a million! ❤
You know I actually understand how you feel hono because my parents, ever since I was little always wanted me to be a lawyer just as they did so I could have a good future so studied so hard just to make them proud and being born from Japan and having very, very, VERY, strict parents they made me choose occupations that would be the most successful such as doctors, lawyers, cops, or being homeless which they told me all the time which really scared me ever since I was little since no one wants to be homeless but I didn’t have time to do anything for myself because of part-time jobs and collage work. But then I got into graphic designing and I enjoyed it way more then I expected, so I thought for months on what to do, 1 either leave collage and do what I’m passionate about, or 2 continue collage and have a secure future. Like Hono I choose to drop out expect when I told my parents that they got super mad at me and cut me off. Honestly I knew this would happen so I didn’t care but when I told my siblings and grandparents they all supported me. After all of that I decided to go to a collage that had a graphic designing program and I’m enjoying way more then I ever did with my other collage of me trying to become a lawyer.
Your parents cut you off because you wanted to pursue graphic design!? It seems like your parents sound have zero idea how successful a career in graphic design can turn out.
My dad wanted me to be a car mechanic like himself and my mom didn't really care what I wanted, she just wanted me to be happy. My grandfarther feared I might persue a field in computers as I was pretty adept at pretty much anything technical I got my hands on. I knew from the start that I wanted something physical, so I ended up combining them all and became a wide-skill electrician. For me that means I'm licenced to work on a very wide array of stuff like houses, machines, servers, vehicles, grid infastructure, robots, programming, ect. My grandfarther was the proudest man alive when I graduated with top marks for that licence. RIP grandfarther, I miss you. 😇🤗
Just last year, I made it to my 5th year in a Physics degree in the Philippines when I suddenly had the realization that maybe doing math and learning harder and harder equations and techniques isn't going to be my life. My mom raised me to be an achiever as I was a very smart kid. She would scold me for every opportunity that I flunked out of my subjects when I was little. Through the years though, she no longer did and learned to become a more empathetic mother. I love her for that. But still, that lingering feeling of guilt for failing or getting delayed would cripple me... It was a tough realization considering that my parents worked their butt off to get me to where I am now only to have second thoughts about the degree program I chose when I was 1 semester away from graduating. What's worse is that I had a really good standing in school and am due to graduate with honors, but with the mental turmoil I had experienced doing my thesis, I was pretty sure I wouldn't make it to graduation. My thesis was not even 30% done, my girlfriend broke up with me, and my friends and I had a big falling apart. Everything was going to shit. One day, I just couldn't take it anymore. I went home to my mom's house crying, breaking to tears in the middle of the street as I ran to hug her. There, I just unloaded everything and to my surprise, she hugged me back and told me that "everyone has their weaknesses and it's fine for you to have some because we all do". She then approved of my temporary leave from college and now, here I am, still figuring things out. With the time that I now have, I am venturing into all the things I have always wanted to do like singing and voice acting. Watching this video really made me feel validated and confident about the things I'm about to step into. Thanks Honobreed! Here's to a bright future for all of us!!
This is such a touching story thank you for sharing! Its wonderful to have a loving and supporting family, your journey sounded extremely hard you should be VERY proud for how hard youre working to do your best and get through this! ✨
Honestly, This video resonates with me a lot. I'm currently in high school, and for multiple years I've put work over my happiness never truly achieving what I want or knowing on a deeper level what I wanna strive for. In various ways, I'm scared to leap off into the world, work, and my own life because I don't want to crash and burn. I love learning but I always push myself too hard to the point I burn out. I'm especially glad you uploaded a lot of these videos. An especially this one. It really helps to hear from someone with experience and advice. A different perspective, to a sort of similar situation. Thank you Hono
@lilsis4441 of course! im so glad you appreciated the message, i was so worried i rambled too much and overshared lol but i know it helps me to know I'm not alone so I wanted you to know that too
7:45 YES fr. I've worked jobs with 10+ hour shifts, and one with 3 hour shifts with kids, and the 10+ hour ones are WAY easier. Hono you are seen you are heard you are understood
Aawwww Hono, I'm the exact same way, and it makes me happy to realize I'm not alone in this struggle. I spent all of my high school career running around participating in clubs, programs, working, and studying to make all A's. Now I'm in college, working towards a forensic biology degree. But I'm scared that this is all for nothing because it doesn't make me happy; I really love to draw, and watching artists like you makes me think I can do it too. Art has been my passion since I was nine, and I really want to make a living off of my hobby, but I'm only just now starting to take commissions and sell prints. It's so stressful, and I've always wanted to do what you do, I just dont know where to start.
10:47 It only seem that easy now cause they mellowed out with age! Seriously though, i understand parents wanting the best for their kid but when they make it seem like there are no other options it's just needless stress. Especially when said parents are hovering over your shoulder nonstop leaving no room for any form of failure
Mmm from my experience with my parents it's working within a limited system. I think there's whiplash coming from a background where everyone is struggling like crazy VS one where there's a lot more freedom for failure. It isn't that there aren't other options, it's that for their situation/under the systems they grew up under those weren’t options *open to them.* Alternatively there are stigmas in those cultures against freelance work from relatives ("You let your kid have more than 3 hours of screen time? What irresponsible parents! They're wasting their life away.") Partially true, we spend years on our devices, but it isn't inherently a negative for everyone either (unless it's REALLY extreme). Even then, whether it falls on the parent or the child to redirect themselves is a hot question for debate.
I decided my passion was writing since middle school (graduated 2022). I went from wanting to go to harvard, to texas A&M, to th university of houston because they had a great writing program, to lonestar (a community college), and then telling people i'm not going at all. They all told me I was going to have no stability, and I told them that I don't need college to write - have you seen english majors? lol. I had a job immediately after highschool and my manager was unaccommodating (I have a foot condition, and I cant stand for long periods of time.) and I worked 12 hours a day, for 4 days out of the week. The only reason I couldn't work and would ask off all the time was because my feet were pulsing from pain and i could barely walk. It took my uncle dying and for her to tell me I need to stay there when I needed to go see him for me to quit. I've been writing for two years now, thinking about stories to write and attempting to improved. I gave up writing so many times between then. I know once I get a job that i would lose all that passion because when I was working then, I lost ANY motivation to do literally anything. It was sleep, work, bath, sleep, work, bath, sleep. I need a job because my grandma is getting really old and she isn't going to be able to support me forever. I also know that writing probably wont make me money either. I know this story isn't that similar, but it's the same battle I'm fighting currently, for sure. Passion versus money. And the money isn't a guarantee either. Most places around me pay 8-12 an hour. Even 20 an hour isn't enough anymore.
Im not old enough to have a job so i can't give any advice or something but i hope things work out for you and you find what you wanna really do. Hang it there!
i ended up crying by the end of the video, didn't think i would but i did.. i went through something very similar.. i dropped out of a masters degree a year and a half ago, still very clueless, anxious and under confident about life, feel like all my peers are moving ahead and i'm just left behind, i don't have a source of income at the moment, i also don't have a youtube channel where i could earn some money(i wish i did, but i don't) but hey it's atleast thousand times better than studying something i didn't like, it maybe a bit depressing at the moment but i'll get through it. (i usually don't comment under yt vids but i just needed to get this off of my chest, i feel a lot better now ^^)
Its a really hard experience to go through and I’m happy to meet and read about people like you who went through similar 🥹🤝 we’re struggling , but we’re free!
I went to school specifically for art. The curriculum I had was dog shit and was a jack of all trades rather than a specific focus. I’ve spent the last 5 years working a 9-5 office job and I feel unfulfilled as animation studio jobs crash and burn with A.I. art and voice acting, strikes for unfair labor, and outsourcing rather than hire talent. I chose to “grow up” and survive and have put off taking a risk to go after what I love. And the funny thing is I got a “normal job” and I’m still struggling. It never mattered. Put in the work to what you love. Don’t just survive.
I feel you on a LOT of this, imma finish college in like two semesters & i'm still kinda on the fence about the crossroads and trying to figure this all out. I really appreciate seeing your perspective on your challenges and decisions (& the jokes lol) on these things 🙏
Hi Hono! I’ve been a fan and a advocate viewer since your first video. Always makes me laugh. Thanks 🙏🏼 And this video hit home. ‘Cause I too had strict (but Latinos) parents with all the straight A’s, and graduating with honors in my bachelor. But after I graduated… I was un happy with my work. I change jobs three times. The third one was my last one. My mental was on the floor. I did not know what to do next. Going to work make me anxious and nauseous. So I quit. Thankfully, my now husband supports me and takes care of me every day. Then one day he suggested content creation. He knows I love video games. So he suggested streaming. At least to not get bored alone in the house. I’m not making a single dollar on content creator. But it those make me happy. I do feel sad of my years of study down the drain. But then I remember those days of misery on my jobs. So thank you for your video. ❤ It really reminded me on keep on perusing what I love.
Hono you’re such a gem 💗 I’m so happy you truly are finding your passion! This story really is reminiscent, growing up with my Filipino parents instilling medical jobs in my mind since birth, the driving by homeless lectures, also the pregnant lectures hahaha. Totally get all of it. Personally, I stuck with it and found my path in becoming a nurse, and though it was not the most conventional way at the time, looking back, my parents always supported me. Through every shift, back track, everything. At the end of the day, I’ve learned our parents just want us to be happy and set in life. Your parents are amazing in supporting you, talking through a plan and options. Lastly, after working as a nurse, I can assure you that nursing will always be there. I work with so many nurses from different walks of life, started nursing as a 18 year old, to people in their 30s wanting a different pace / career change, all the way to some who have grandkids and wanted something “fun” to do. Just trust your heart and fill your soul with what makes you happy. You’ll do amazing 💗 so excited to see you bloom with your channel!
I dropped out of high school as well, to pursue youtube or be a content creator but have been experiencing massive burnouts from family pressuring me to do this or that. It has been overwhelming but I remembered that most of my friends are content creators and do live somewhat good lives so I slowly calm down and focus on what I wanted to do in the future. Seeing my fav artist have similar experience as me also made me feel confident to post this comment and my story. It shows I am not alone and that it's gonna be okay. In my own advice to everyone who is experiencing the same thing, it's okay to take a long break to figure out your life there is no rush to anything just take it at your own pace and do what makes you happy the most and always have plans in case so you know your fully prepared for anything!
Well, this inspired me lot!! I also dropped out of college as well... and for past 2 months I have been dealing with burnout, procrastination, Laziness, existential crisis and so much more I want to pursue animation and film making and TH-cam I actually want to create a serious of my own and I am also writing the story, actually no I couldn't get the time to write the story and what do I do in my whole day? Nothing at all, and still I can't get the time for writing and drawing WTF is going on 💀💀 Thanks HONO! It's creators like you who give me hope that dropping out of school wasn't a bad idea It was MY choice and mine alone and I should cherish every moment of my life I am 19 btw and I am trying my best to overcome this procrastination Thanks HONO!
The brief breakdown and resonating with tough Filipino parents it’s gut wrenching. The push felt like it would have a shove back, I’m glad they’ve become understanding about your struggles.
I’m going into my junior year of high school soon, and this video really resonates with me, so thank you Hono for putting this out there. Since the end of my 8th grade year, I’ve always thought my dream job was to be a 3D animator for movies, and my parents say they’ll support me and my dreams no matter what. But in my sophomore year of high school when I took my game design class, I realized I wanted a career revolving around video games, and decided that I want to study game art instead. However, here’s the thing: I’ve done close to nothing with 3D software, and I barely like to draw. There’s always a little voice in my head whenever I draw that calls my art bad, no matter how hard I try to improve, and nitpicks at every single little detail. I gave up on drawing because of this over a year ago. But I still love viewing other people’s art, especially animations, and wish I could express myself in such a way. I have many other creative interests, including writing and graphic design, both of which I have turned into hobbies. But there’s one interest of mine that doesn’t fit into this category and throws me off: chemistry. I love chem, all of it is so interesting and fascinating to me. I’ve been passionate about chem for almost 5 years now and I’ll be starting AP chem soon, but I’ve always said I wanted a career in art, now I’m starting to think otherwise (partly because of money) and it’s scaring me. People praise me for my love of learning and having so many interests, but it feels like a curse. I don’t want to admit I’m having the “money vs passion” and career debate with myself right now, but I am, and I don’t know whether to continue gaslighting myself or find a new path.
So I went through something similar. I started college as an ingeneering major but not even halfway into my first semester I knew that I absolutely hated the field. I've always loved art and as a kid I wanted to be an artist when I grew up. So mid semester care around and I transfered into fine arts without telling anyone. My parents are both STEM majors and focus more on money rather than happiness (which I can't judge them for) they weren't happy with my decision but ultimately it's my life. I have no idea what the future has in store for me but I know that if I didn't at least try, I'd regret it for the rest of my life. So yeah, now I'm just trying my best to get internships and also pursue a minor in marketing!
I have a similar experience and it's still ongoing hahaha... I just graduated in the medical field and I'm reviewing for the board exams. I have a lot of free time while reviewing so I continue to keep on drawing as much as I can. The board exams is just right around the corner and after I passed that exams I always wonder if I'll even have free time to draw or am I gonna give up on drawing or pursuing an art career because later on I'll be working in a job that I don't enjoy and might've a breakdown in the future because I won't have much time to draw anymore. Now... I don't really earn a lot of money doing art commissions and don't have anything big to prove that this art career is worth the risk dropping the medical field for my future and financial stability. The hardest part is my parents expects so much of me to succeed and be the breadwinner of this family (since the eldest of the family haven't done a very good job doing that). I would put on a face showing them that I'm fine and love this medical career I'm taking but deep down I really want to be an artist. So.... There's my little story and vent ha ha...
10:26 GRABE! PLOT TWIST PALA YUN!!! (Man! That's a plot twist!!!) All I know is some manga artist named Naoko Takeuchi, she's an author of Sailor Moon, she's a licensed pharmacist and also never leave her passion for manga artist.
I relate a lot to this video as a high schooler. I also take a lot of AP Classes, and I also do dual enrollment (which is college classes in high school) and I constantly find myself stressing over what to do in the future. I love playing games and art so I make videos occasionally for fun however it's hard when you see your peers saying they know exactly what they want to be like a neurosurgeon, physicts, or lawyer while you're still torn between following your passion or getting a job to financially support your art. Thank you Hono for making this video, I love your insight and storytelling. You give me a new perspective and hope that things will work out all right in the end. I'll keep on trying my best! Thank you again!!!
Thank you Hono! This video is so relatable honestly I’ve been feeling the same. I have a job and responsibility’s but it’s barely full time and not enough pay for the amount of extra work I do. I always wanted to be a 2D animator either for youtube or an animation studio but it didn’t work out. And now even my normal job isn’t cutting it and I don’t know what I want to do next for my future. I always love drawing since a young age too! The only time I felt truly happy was animating and drawing. So watching your video really helped me remember I wasn’t alone in this struggle. I just need that courage to take the leap of faith and just do it.
hi hono. your video hits close to home. i found myself sobbing because i was in this situation years ago. ever since childhood, my dream was to become a medical doctor and was convinced that this is my future career and that i have to work hard in order to prepare myself from such a difficult road ahead of me. i took a pre-medical degree in college and the nearer graduation day is, the more i started questioning if this is really what i want. i felt so out of place when my college friends are so excited talking about medical school while i just feel empty. still, i lied to myself and dismissed it as me just being an overthinker but deep down, i know that my path will be different than everyone else. soon, i graduated uni with flying colors and applied to multiple med schools that offered me free tuition fee. after choosing among the options, i finally became a freshman medical student. but even though the lectures were interesting enough, i can no longer stop my mind from thinking that this isn't for me and forcing myself to study won't do me any good. and like you said, lives are at stake so after a month of struggling to survive med school, i withdrew from the program and fell into depression. i knew lots of people would be disappointed and would consider me a failure but i knew dropping out of school as early as first year is better than doing so later on. all my life i have held on to this goal and i felt so lost that i let go of it so easily. i sometimes question myself if i was stupid for not holding on and fighting for what was once a childhood dream. but life goes on. i applied and got rejected from multiple job interviews. i was heartbroken but then i got hired and now i am working as a laboratory assistant in a genetics research facility. this field piqued my interest and i slowly got that passion and motivation back again. right now, i am an aspiring scientist. i know the road ahead is going to be full of challenges and there will come a time that i will doubt my capabilities again but i know better. i am happy i dropped out of med school because no matter how exhausting my current work is, i was able to enjoy the little things in life after my shift for the day is over (little things like surfing the internet, reading fictions books, watching horror movies, taking care of stray cats, etc.) thank you so much for this video. i felt seen and validated because of this. i wish the best of luck to all of us and may our tears soon be replaced by smiles.
As someone with strict immigrant parents I felt this. They have personally pushed me forward to continue my education and pursue careers that will leave me well off as well. From doctor to lawyer and so on. Thankfully I was a good student by nature. I liked learning and was always able to put full effort in my work and get good grades, but that was it. I had no passions and no clear future plans set up. I realized I was simply riding the course set out of go to school, go to college, and get a job or continue to get a masters. And I'm still like this. Sure I chose a major I decently liked but I cant even imagine if I wish to continue or how to do so. I'm honestly just living day by day hoping for the best.
I’m glad your parents were accepting. Mine would just try to gaslight me into thinking I wanted it and think of every excuse it’s my fault. What’s worse is sometimes they’ll listen, make you think things are okay now that we just talked, and continue their toxic af behavior because they never actually think they’re doing anything wrong. The cherry on top is I’ve told them outright I wanted to move as far away as possible. That fell through, and they still think I’m joking.
Hono your parents are so relatable😭 I also dropped out of college, but it took me a long time to tell my Asian parents because I was afraid and knew they would yell at me. I lied about it for a few months but when I finally build up the courage told them all they had to say was," Thats it?". In the end they gave me a 30-minute talk about it and made me go back to school for a different major😂
That’s amazing of how ur parents were very understanding Hono. 😊 For me as an Asian person, after graduating from high school in 2018, my mom asked me of what I wanted to do and so I told her that I wanted to become a Psychologist or maybe a Marriage Counselor but my mom told me that it’ll be difficult to find jobs like that and how it’s probably not a good paying job. So my mom suggests that I should go and study to become a medical assistant. I asked her of what MAs do and after of what my mom described to me of what MAs do, I was thinking to myself “Oh? That’s what they do? That sounds a bit easy! Plus it’s a good career to earn a lot of good amount of money.” But during my time at my externship, I’ve learned that MAs are most likely to know almost everything that doctors know about BUT except that you’re just an assistant to them. So I was thinking “Damn, I thought ur just taking vitals and doing shots to the patients and that’s all. This is not what my mom described to me!!!” 😂 And so after finishing college in 2020 and wasting those 2 years of studying to become a MA student, I was happy that I’m over with it but my mom expected me to find a MA job but I didn’t know of how to approach her and tell her that I didn’t want to. After throughout the years of getting jobs like dental assistant but got laid off twice from different clinics and working at a warehouse but quit during day 1 😂 and so that’s when me and my mom had a talk and I broke down in tears cuz I was expecting for her to be disappointed in me but instead she supported me and comforted me. Plus my mom paid a lot for the college that I went to which I felt a bit guilty of it but my mom would do anything for her kids ❤but now I’m paying all of my student loans with a good paying job as an assistant teacher at a daycare center where I can be myself with my amazing co-workers. 😊 Also plus, I’ve been cheating throughout my whole entire 2 years during in college on online since my classes and tests are mostly based on online. 😂😂😂 So you gotta do what you gotta do you know? 😅 And I also did NOT tell that part to my mom or else. 🫣
Hey Hono! I've been watching your videos for a while and I always found them incredibly entertaining and funny, but this one was very endearing to me. I just started my senior year of high school, and it feels like all that everyone talks about is college. My friends, my teachers, my girlfriend, everyone. I'm incredibly happy for them that they know what they want in life, but I've always been nervous to contribute to these conversations because everyone seems to at least have a general idea of what they wanna do (what college they're going to, what they wanna major in, etc), and when people ask me, I feel like I have to make up an answer that's "satisfactory". I know college CAN give you long-term financial stability, but I'm really scared to commit to something that I have no idea if I'll enjoy for the rest of my life, and not to mention the costs (🇺🇲). I'm fortunate to have a very supportive mom, but the social pressure and uncertainty has made me really insecure and scared. I know your experience is pretty different, but it's really reassuring to know that people can live a life doing the things they enjoy without succumbing to the pristine education "requirement". ANYWAYS SORRY FOR YAPPING I just wanted to thank you for this video, like I said it was very reassuring and comforting. And congratulations on all the success! I'm glad you decided to follow your dreams because you're amazing at it. We love you Hono! :>
Wow. I dropped out of two pre-university programs, and two grad school programs later on in life. This really resonated with me, I have been at that point of mental stress leading me to not be able to take it anymore. The guilt that came each time I sent in the withdrawal email was enough to sink my heart so deep, and the experience of breaking it down to my parents during then was the same. Honestly, first off - grad school isn't for everyone. It really becomes a test of endurance more than test of knowledge as you up the difficulty. Thanks for sharing this experience to the world, for all those who may be at one of the same life crossroads you've been at. Life has always been hard, but I hope that with this you're much happier than you would've been if you continued. 😊❤
I've been here since your ER video, and my goodness it's been THREE YEARS?! Jeez, shocker. I've always been inspired by you, and other very popular artists that maybe I should try it out, it won't be anytime too soon but seeing videos like these really inspires me and even if I don't become a TH-camr like this I've always known what my dream job was and have always known that in one way or another I'll forever do art. It's a blast to watch your videos
I’m really happy you got to be here where you are now. Doing what you love in life, feels so hard especially when your told you should do this and that and your use to doing stuff. Ty for this lovely vid about this topic, I know I’m struggling on what I should do and even if I can do what I might wanna do. Glad your parents were accepting about it. We happy you are here, we love you and your content 💕
This video really resonates with me. I recently got into a medical program, but I don't feel excited at all. I feel conflicted because this career offers financial stability, but I'm so burnt out. I've always wanted to be a baker and open my own café, but I'm scared of dropping out and pursuing my true dreams. I'm worried about disappointing my parents, and I don't know if I'll make it as a baker. I've already invested so much time and money into these medical classes. With classes starting in less than a week, I already have so much reading and studying to do, but I'm too depressed to do any of it or even think about it. I don't remember any anatomy, I feel so lost, and I just feel like I'm wasting time. I won't have time to draw, hang out with friends as often, or actually be myself. I don't know what to do
Recently these days, I coudnt stop thinking about what was I doing and if I was doing was truly what I wanted, I wanted to follow a path that my parents made for me but the more I walked in it, the more I realized that, I was not happy and I coudnt help but feel that I´m wasting time doing that. This year I took the courage and said to them that I wanted to follow an art career because I do love to draw and I love to share my art with others. I can see that you went for the same struggle Hono and I´m glad I´m not alonde in this decision to follow art and start something on your own, but its just like you said, we only live once, why live a regretfull life yknow? awesome vid
Wouldn’t say I dropped out of school or anything but I am trying to get into a college now it’s been a few years since I graduate. to be honest it took me a while to figure out what I might wanna do and I’m still figuring out right now. regardless what it is I’m trying my best to be more independent and to find what makes me happy. sure I have my own struggles that I’m dealing with at the moment that are similar to your struggles in this video. but we all have to deal with her own way regardless of what happens in the future. thanks for the video and I can’t wait for the next.😊
I have recently graduated high school and now going into a community college to persue the basics for college. Though the track that I chose for it isnt exactly what I want to do. Im still getting the hang of things of being an adult and matchuring and balancing what I need todo and what I want to do. I really want to persue art as a job and or hobby whether it be voice acting, animation, or just comics though it is hard to start up nowadays. Everyday im slowly making my way to achiving my dream and this video really helped me. Thank you
I had kind of an opposite situation where every grown up wanted for me to be designer or architecture student. So I ignored everybody and aplyed for atomic energy because I love physics bua-ha-ha.
trying to figure out what to do with your life is hard. When i got out of high school i had no idea what i wanted to do you see during high school i lost motivation for everything so everything i did enjoy was now lost. But i did know i didn’t want to end up in a cardboard box on the side of the street i had to do something so i went to collage and took a transition year which is just upgrading your high school courses. i struggled a lot trying to find sth to do i would have daily counselling hours while i was in college but when march break hit i found sth that maybe i could do, pharmacy tech. Ofc i don’t know if i could do it or not but talking with my mom i realize you only live once and i still have a lot of time since I’m only 19 so if i do this and it doesn’t work out i can drop or better yet i could love it. i start pharmacy tech in September I’m nervous but also excited I’m not a big study person since i find it hard to understand things and keep information in my head but ill give it a shot.
Omg I love you Hono, I'm so proud of you!! You are so so brave to do this, and you're so right!! I'm sure you telling this sorry has made a lot of us feel less alone in this type of struggle, me included ^^ Getting the bravery to talk to your parents and tell them “I don't went this” takes a lot of courage, and oml the same thing happened to me when they were mostly chill about and confused why I was having a mental breakdown about wanting to pursue art and not computer engineering, like what?? 😭 I swear, I feel like the pressure of trying to live up to our parents expectations makes us forget that they just want us to be happy, no matter what career we may pursue. Anyway!! I always enjoy your videos, they always make my day. Keep up the amazing work Hono!!! 💜💜💜
During my last month of school was when my mental was at a low, I would stay up at night and just cry because of how stressed I was for having to do something after high school, it took many weeks but my parents now see how much stress I had just to make sure they were proud of me, as with being autistic I felt they weren’t going to care about me due to it and the people I know have jobs and it made me feel ashamed as my parents would talk about it and the amount of timers they want me to go to college and/or get a job, was too much, I’m just glad that they’re now letting take it easy and watching this video was very needed have a good day
What a good story. I'm going through my final semester of university doing a degree in robotics and automation engineering. When I'm done I'm going to pursue my passion of doing car and cooking videos on my TH-cam channel for a few months full-time and see if it works out. Then I'll only go try a full-time engineering job. Your story inspired me to do this, keep up the good work!
I'm doing like the exact opposite, I started getting super stressed thinking sbt the fact that I probably won't get a job in the art industry (my parents were supportive abt me wanting to art but also that I changed my mind), I'm deciding to pursue business instead but I will be starting my own little online art business soon (selling stickers and such) hoping I'll have a better future bc I am interested in this career path
From parent expectations to school life: I can 100% relate to all of it. Having similar family history as yours and feeling the burnout of school is all too familiar... As of now, I'm enjoying my life - to a certain degree - while working to keep my parents from worrying (though easier said than done). Glad that your parents see your side (wish mine could too...). I have gone through the same wild roller coaster that you have, so stay strong!
I am an undeclared student that just went to college because it was the norm. I feel regret immediately going to college instead of figuring out something I want to do because you dont really have that much time to "explore" especially if you're going to an expensive college. Its really admirable that hono decided to make that important decision to drop out. Ive considered dropping out on multiple occasions but its hard to give up when you're on a full ride scholarship however i do feel like im wasting time. As a a person who has zero passion for anything, the things that seem more bearable than the rest to me always has people telling me that "its not a good degree" or "i wont find a job with a BA in ___" or the final one "you need to go to grad school to succeed in ___ field"
This is the first video of yours that I've seen and I automatically subscribed. Your art style is very pretty and your story touched my heart. While I don't have a specific passion like art, I know how it feels to be stuck in the middle and not knowing what to do next. Honestly for a long time I was only in college because I didn't want to be left behind. I was feeling really lost and depressed so I dropped out and felt like a failure for several years. A year ago I started school again to work towards becoming an elementary school teacher, it's something I always wanted to be since I was a kid. I don't know if I'll love it or hate it (everyone is very discouraging bc its a low paying field and hard work) but I at least have to try. Otherwise I'll never know. I'm glad you found success, I look forward to watching your next video! :)
This brings me memories, of the time I drop an engineer career, at a 1 year to end it, to start a career that I like it more as an accountant, and currently I finally graduated as an accountant and have a job that I really love.
honestly, I really love watching videos like this. It makes me less worried about my furture. Next year I'll be entering the phase of high school where you start applying to unis, interships etc. I'll need to chose my subjects soon, it feels like life and death honestly but I know my (chinese if worth mentioning) parents really just do want me to have a stable future, seeing you quit your job makes me feel a bit more relieved knowing that even after college it isnt too late
OMG 😂 same sorta, parents always wanted me to be a doctor and I grinded through all the schooling until basically after Uni I didn't get into medical school immediately, so I got a job in a completely different field (tech) during my gap years and when I finally got into medical school, I took all my PTO for the year (told my manager umm I have a personal thing and need to take 4 weeks), instead of quitting my job and tried medical school for 4 weeks and realized it was like the most soul-draining stressful thing, so I quit medical school with no regrets and went back to work (phew 😅 so glad I had a backup plan/job) MANNNN working a regular desk job is like a million times better and easier than medical school path was. Now a couple more years later, I'm doing really well in my career and got married recently too (never had a social life grinding through all the schooling before). Anyway, same as you, my parents are like oh we just wanted you to have a good successful life, didn't really care what I did in the end career wise and I'm like whatttt you didn't just want me to be a doctor, what a uno reverse 😂
Thank u for posting this today, Cause this is the day when my a levels ( a grade system where it dictates whether u go to university or not) came out and I wasn’t really proud of my final grades while doing art and I truly felt like I was alone. But u talking about how strong u are about perusing in a passion u don’t regret really help me to clear my mind in major areas. I’m so thankful TH-cam recommended your channel to me u don’t understand 😭.
I had a really similar experience dropping out of school myself, took me way too long to see I was killing myself doing something I didn't like. The anxiety of it all is something I wouldn't wish on anyone, talking about it is what helped me in the end, I first opened up to a couple of friends about it and they were super supportive and made me realize that it wasn't that big of a deal, what matters most is that you are thriving.
Here come the tears! I did well in school and am blessed to have parents that want me to reach for my dreams whilst being realistic. Ever since I was a kid I’ve loved reading and writing and at a young age I decided I wanted to write the same kind of stories I grew up enjoying and getting lost in. But then things changed for me health wise forever. In 3rd grade I had my first panic attack. Panic attacks and debilitating anxiety were soon to follow as I later entered junior high and reappeared again and stayed after starting high school. By the grace of God I still managed to make good grades, graduate, and even finish community college and graduate with my associates. But I had big dreams for college. I wanted to go to a beautiful private school that was close to home that a lot of my friends were also going to attend. I applied and got accepted! My parents and I put money towards me getting a phenomenal education with lots of career opportunities for after graduation with this school, but unfortunately… Things really came crashing down. My mental health was at an all time low. I had trouble commuting to class because getting out of bed was hard and I would often miss mandated school events that I needed to attend in order to graduate as a result. I struggled in my Spanish class, having not been great at it in high school. I found my professors to be confusing and my work load to be too demanding for the amount of energy I could barely muster. Halfway through it was clear I was failing. My parents and I had a long talk. I dropped out. I tried the next semester, but to no avail. I even tried a public university and I still struggled too much with the change. So I stopped. I thought “maybe this is how it’s supposed to be. Maybe I’m supposed to NOT go to college.” So I haven’t been back. It’s been heartbreaking. I felt like a failure because my own brain seemed to be conspiring against me. I took time to rest and heal. Right now, things are still difficult. I don’t have a full time job and I’m afraid of what my future holds. I’m afraid of letting younger me down. But I’m hopeful that I can find a job in writing somewhere. That I can hold down a job from home and build up savings. See where life takes me and if it decides to take me back to school to get my bachelors. It’s really scary not knowing. But all I can do is take this one day at a time and pray I end up somewhere where I’m happy.
This video... thank you for this videoooo!!! I've been so anxious and depressed about what I really wanted to do for about a year now after I graduated high school last year, but didn't go to school right away because I was so unsure and scared if I went right away that I'd be so miserable.. I too grew up with parents that always pushed me to think about doing something in the medical field because oh "it's great money" oh "if you push you'll get a good job" but art has always been my passion. Though because of my parents raising me to think about my future and money I had tbh am still going through a battle within myself of which path I should really take. I also get the feeling of that sense I didn't go to school right away that I'm so behind now, I KNOW IM NOT but still feels a little embarrassing... I just applied for University though to take digital art and design, and ngl I still feel depressed and conflicted because, I really don't have to go to school to pursue a career in art, I'm more of just going to school for it now for my mom's satisfaction that all her kids went to University. I feel guilty for going to school late, picking a risky career, and making my mom worried.
As someone about to start college without a major, (I have no idea what I’m doing) I’m glad you were able to find a job that you’re happy with, and that you can continue to make what you love ❤️ Also I love the new color scheme :)
honestly ive been feeling really stressed as im approaching the end of high school and im not up to the straight a 4.0 gpa standard of an asian parent and not knowing what i want to do with my life, or major or college or a job. your video reminded me that its ok to take a step back even though i feel like im underachieving and find out what i want to do as my passion instead, i still dont have the best idea of what i want to do but i hope i can be as happy as you and pursue what i want too! thanks hono 😭
my hobbies are art and gaming which are usually unstable job options. My plan is to become a tattoo artist and have a calm other part time job if needed. However I love to make gaming videos so if that ends up being my job I would be very happy and grateful :)
Hello Hono! Once again, I really love how you make your experience really relatable as you do not mince your words from your own experiences. It's crazy for how much your channel has grown since I first subscribed to your channel. So keep at it, and follow the passion that you feel will make you happy. If I had anything to relate to this video, I actually had a complete opposite experience from this story. I went to a private art college for my career thinking that I was going to be an awesome storyboarder or videographer once I graduated. After I graduated, I realized I made the biggest mistake of not getting any actual work experience into any of the fields, and that is what ended costing me most of the jobs I tried to apply for. I did however get one videographer job for a small advertising company, but the boss was so scummy with her work practices that everyone ended up leaving her because she wouldn't give anyone any raises after a whole year. I worked for this job on 10 dollars an hour and this was before taxes were taken out. After a year and a half of working for the company, I decided to quit because I was being ask to crank out 8 advertising videos a week with the only reward being that I get a bonus of an extra 2 dollars an hour for the week for all the hours I worked. That is only if the companies that bought her plan actually knew what they wanted for their videos after all the constant revisions they needed to decide on. So after I quit the job, I was unemployed for half a year with no luck for any video jobs. I had only a year and a half of experience in the video industry, no car to travel with, and I was going up against veterans in the job field with many years of experiences and a huge list of demo reels to boot. What actually ended up saving me in the end was my 3 years of working as an IT assistant during my work study in college. I had a lucky break with an IT job that did not need me to have a car right away. With how much they paid me, I was able to buy a car and was really able to stand on my own two feet for once. So after 6+ years of working in the IT field now, I feel that I would never really want to go back to searching and working for low pay jobs like that again. I think I found a new passion with making my first car I owned into damn near a race car. So I may have wasted some years for a degree that won't help me really in the long run, but I will say that I have learned some valuable lessons from it all. So good luck with your pursuit in TH-cam, Hono! I've been a subscriber for many years, and it's awesome to see you blossom to the awesome person that you are today! Live life with no regrets! I'll always be supporting you!
Damn, what a story, also Congratulations I know it took every ounce of your soul and existential dread when that phone call happened, I too have been there 😅. Also a tip for when you don't know what to do and just cower and stare at the darkness is to just flip a coin, that's what I did before and after the military. Hope this helps hahaha I love you Hono, stay safe you have a heart of Gold, don't lose it.
this is honestly so inspiring, i'm 14 years old and living with my asian parents pressuring me to go to girl's boarding school to be a lawyer and get a law degree, but for years i've dreamed about being an actress, i would constantly enroll in theatre programs and take acting, singing, and dancing lessons, all while my parents thought that acting as just a side activity to help me get into college. i really look up to you and your courage of what you did and i hope someday, i'm able to follow my dreams aswell :)
As for the parents thing, I'm not in any medical field nor a parent mysef (I'm not even in college 🧍) but if I had to guess maybe your parents have slowly calmed down over the years. I have a single mother and we live as immigrants, back when I was little she was hell on earth for me and made me feel so pressured. Slowly as I grew up though she became a lot calmer, I'm not sure what it was but whenever she thinks back to her younger years she always mentions she was so angry and stressed out all the time and for what? Apparently she was always stressed out because she was constantly worried about me (some context: I was born sick and grew up in a city where kidnapping kids was SO common we need photos in our birth certificates) but as since I'm grown up now she feels more at peace that I'll be okay. Maybe seeing you all grown up made your parents feel less stressed out and more secure that you're going to be alright but still obviously warning you because they want you to live your best life
I remember finding your channel for the first time while I was eating dinner and never had my jaw dropped and laughed so many times. One time I showed your videos to my bsf and we spend the night watching them she found the video of when you and you’re friend went to that maid cafe and her saying “we should go to one lol”. From watching your videos I feel such a comforting aura from you to your art style to your humour and to making me realise it’s ok to make mistakes this year wasn’t mine so discovering your channel brightened it up a bit. I love your content hono and I’m so proud of you for taking the risk.💗💗 (ps sorry for the grammar lol)
in 2016 i was forced to drop out of school because i had just started a job at walmart. the problem was that i applied in the summer so i set my availability as just about any time and day. well after i get the job i am told that i cant change my availability for 6 months which is why i had to drop out. i was never able to go back ( mostly because of how walmart dose there changing of availability) well that was the case until 2020 happened. i ended up leaving walmart because my parents who i live with fell in to the high danger group. i then decided to get my degree online. and in 2023 i got ma bachelors in game art and development. however i have yet to land a job yet. ( i believe its because im just not good enough) i have considered trying doing something on my own but i keep feeling like i am going to fail if i try so i end up not doing it and applying for jobs but i keep getting rejected. anyways nice vid and sorry about my downer of a comment.
As someone who’s currently working 2 jobs that’s suck I’m glad your enjoying your new one, love your videos, miss story times, and hope to see more, go be happy one of us has got too
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Why only 1 comment that's not me
I loved when you played Genshin
AHEM I am 280th. Such a great achievement right?
In the wise words of Heiter from Frieren “You never become an adult when you grow up, you only pretend to act like one”
Your hair has been slowly changing from brown to pink , now it's reaching full pink potential
How did I just notice that-
YAY
Holy crap, he's right
Does the word, "Maso" mean, "Masochism?"
LOLLL I’ve been trying to be slick with the rebrand 😩
you are so brave.... like i cant even imagine doing this with my brown parents oml 💀
it def came with a price LMAOSoSoskzk
You are alive :000
yoooo hi :00
all hail the amazing amaazing
YOOO, HES STILL BREATHING
Its so real when your parents are all of a sudden "yeah its your choice after all" and you're just sitting there in complete disbelief like ".....I HAD A CHOICE?"
Yeaaahh as someone of Arab descent it felt like the older you got the more of a right you had to opinions about your life lol. Parents are trying their best but they aren't masters at organically letting passions develop. They're just trying to guide us on a safe path.
And sometimes, we gotta yeet that path into the stratosphere and become something else!
Asian Parents are scary to confront ... I can confirm that ;;
I'm glad you made a life changing decision, and I wish you the best of luck moving forward Hono!
- Hosuh
here before this blows up.
Glad to see you here Hosuh! I understand aswell ^^ Have a great day.🎉 May all your lives be granted happiness!
AWW HOSUH🥺💗
OOOOOOOOOOOOO HOSUH NO WAY
Soon i would be one I feel they were right somehow
I'm so relieved that your parents didn't berate you for dropping out lol
You're doing a great job, Hono!! Keep having fun drawing!!!! >:D
yeah agreed!
I don't know what I want to do and everybody is stressing till the fact I cry so much for not knowing what I want to do...
0:44 is so real
NOT THE "Are you pregante?" QUESTIONNN
Jokes aside Im so happy for you that your channel has grown so much and that your parents accepted the choices you've made
GO HONOBREAD GOOO!!!
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Bre I felt that. When u made the realization that the job doesn't bring you joy. That it was pushed on you rather than you making the choice.
My cousin dropped out of law school this past year because he wanted to be an artist. He always loved painting and it was one of the only things that brought him joy. His parents thought he was being stupid and told him to go back to school at once. They said they won't help provide for him and his son anymore (btw he had a son a pretty young age, 16) unless he went back to school, but he stood his ground and said why he wants to be an artist and how it makes him happy. His parents were shocked and finally accepting. They said they were sorry and just were overwhelmed with the fact that first he has a four year old son and two because he has a legitimate job now, he has to worry about where he will live, food, clothes, etc. He lives in Chicago now and creates some wonderful art! I'm so proud of him for doing what he loves and I hope he keeps pursuing this passion.
Nice
Reverse Phoenix Wright basically
Honobread is like that silly friend you love listening to. She has an aura of a character from a slice-of-life comedy. That green shirt reminds me of someone and that pink hair is adorable !!!
Also, that "R U PRAGNAN ?" question is so relatable; definitely what every Asian parent would ask !!!!! It was nice to see how parents handled the news of you dropping school positively.
OK, it looks like TJ gave you his shirt after he returned. Or you took it ? LOL !!!
This encourages all those ppl who’re scared of pursuing what they want cuz it comes with risks rather than a secure 9-5 Job. But as a student still figuring out their life I feel relived not being alone in this struggle tysm hono
Yea I've never really got that type of pressure but it's nice to see other perspectives. Other than the standard get good grades go to school I was never pushing to pursue a certain field by my grandma. Only time I've felt that way was when entrepreneurship became more popular during quarantine, and my biology stopped her whole lesson to tells us about the joys of starting you're own business. Then my dad started doin that too and I was pretty much fake agreeing with him about being a CEO 💀
Same :3
I'm 30 and going to be 31 soon & I'm still figuring my life (doesn't mean that I don't have a job or not able to provide for my family but I just feel like this is not "it"), you're early so don't worry. You'll understand that the best part of life that you're still "figuring" it so you'd try something new everytime an opportunity presents itself.
I had to fight crying so hard during this video Hono omg I cant ruin my eyeliner I just put it on- I'm in the "didn't go to uni and now still don't know what I wanna do with my life a couple years later" existential dread phase of life it suuucks. I feel like such a failure because I had such high academic expectations for myself during school and even though it killed me I still feel like I should have met them and am a failure because I haven't, and worse still I feel like I'm not succeeding out of school because I just have a stupid low paying job and no idea what to do as a career. I just feel so so lost lol
It’s so normal to not know what to do. How can anyone be expected to make a decision on what we want to be for the REST of our lives in highschool when we’ve only lived a little over 10% percent of it? People are still maturing and growing even through the early years of uni. Some people realize early on their passion and that’s wonderful, some don’t find clarity until fully going down a path that didn’t work out, and some people don’t find out until they’ve lived half their life. We all have different timelines and that’s ok! You’re doing your best to keep yourself afloat with your current situation and that’s a good thing. i hope one day an opportunity arises for you to find fulfillment in something 💖✨
@@HonobreadYT Thank you, I appreciate you saying that so much
You're fortunate to have figured this out while you are young. I'm old now and am struggling with figuring out what I want to do as a career. Unfortunately I have too much responsibility now riding on me to just quit and start over. I now suppress burn out and depression daily all for the sake of maintaining my current career, lifestyle and have no idea what to do about it.
I honestly don't even recognize myself anymore because I've worked towards this false life for so long that I have no idea who I am or what I want to do.
All you youngins take it from me...
Don't build a life for yourself on what others expect of you as you WILL wake up one day in a similar crisis to mine.
Take care.
Godbless I hope you find happiness ❤️❤️
You can be old and still pursuing what you like, you still breathing and healthy? Go for it maybe you don't have the courage now but I hope one day you will do what you like!
The “are you pregnant?!” Had me wheezing and I was so loud my parents thought I was having an asthma attack. 😂😭 You never fail with your humor. I pray that TH-cam is the job you want it to be and you can be successful and enjoy what you love, as well as just get what you want with it! With more stories and videos like these I see you easily hitting 500k subscribers and then soon the road to a million! ❤
You know I actually understand how you feel hono because my parents, ever since I was little always wanted me to be a lawyer just as they did so I could have a good future so studied so hard just to make them proud and being born from Japan and having very, very, VERY, strict parents they made me choose occupations that would be the most successful such as doctors, lawyers, cops, or being homeless which they told me all the time which really scared me ever since I was little since no one wants to be homeless but I didn’t have time to do anything for myself because of part-time jobs and collage work. But then I got into graphic designing and I enjoyed it way more then I expected, so I thought for months on what to do, 1 either leave collage and do what I’m passionate about, or 2 continue collage and have a secure future. Like Hono I choose to drop out expect when I told my parents that they got super mad at me and cut me off. Honestly I knew this would happen so I didn’t care but when I told my siblings and grandparents they all supported me. After all of that I decided to go to a collage that had a graphic designing program and I’m enjoying way more then I ever did with my other collage of me trying to become a lawyer.
happy for you
Your parents cut you off because you wanted to pursue graphic design!? It seems like your parents sound have zero idea how successful a career in graphic design can turn out.
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My dad wanted me to be a car mechanic like himself and my mom didn't really care what I wanted, she just wanted me to be happy. My grandfarther feared I might persue a field in computers as I was pretty adept at pretty much anything technical I got my hands on. I knew from the start that I wanted something physical, so I ended up combining them all and became a wide-skill electrician. For me that means I'm licenced to work on a very wide array of stuff like houses, machines, servers, vehicles, grid infastructure, robots, programming, ect. My grandfarther was the proudest man alive when I graduated with top marks for that licence. RIP grandfarther, I miss you. 😇🤗
Just last year, I made it to my 5th year in a Physics degree in the Philippines when I suddenly had the realization that maybe doing math and learning harder and harder equations and techniques isn't going to be my life. My mom raised me to be an achiever as I was a very smart kid. She would scold me for every opportunity that I flunked out of my subjects when I was little. Through the years though, she no longer did and learned to become a more empathetic mother. I love her for that. But still, that lingering feeling of guilt for failing or getting delayed would cripple me...
It was a tough realization considering that my parents worked their butt off to get me to where I am now only to have second thoughts about the degree program I chose when I was 1 semester away from graduating. What's worse is that I had a really good standing in school and am due to graduate with honors, but with the mental turmoil I had experienced doing my thesis, I was pretty sure I wouldn't make it to graduation. My thesis was not even 30% done, my girlfriend broke up with me, and my friends and I had a big falling apart. Everything was going to shit. One day, I just couldn't take it anymore. I went home to my mom's house crying, breaking to tears in the middle of the street as I ran to hug her. There, I just unloaded everything and to my surprise, she hugged me back and told me that "everyone has their weaknesses and it's fine for you to have some because we all do". She then approved of my temporary leave from college and now, here I am, still figuring things out. With the time that I now have, I am venturing into all the things I have always wanted to do like singing and voice acting. Watching this video really made me feel validated and confident about the things I'm about to step into.
Thanks Honobreed! Here's to a bright future for all of us!!
This is such a touching story thank you for sharing! Its wonderful to have a loving and supporting family, your journey sounded extremely hard you should be VERY proud for how hard youre working to do your best and get through this! ✨
Dang bro we appreciate ppl like that man
@@BeezTheDocthat's the most true thing I have heard in my life 💀🤔
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9:59 why is no one talking abt how funny this was 😭😭😭
IKR?
Why does this feel like a draw my life instead of "why I dropped out of school for yt" Edit 474 likes thx everyone for liking :)
Kinda is lol
Fr
The art work on 2:26 is so good I can't believe it
Honestly, This video resonates with me a lot. I'm currently in high school, and for multiple years I've put work over my happiness never truly achieving what I want or knowing on a deeper level what I wanna strive for. In various ways, I'm scared to leap off into the world, work, and my own life because I don't want to crash and burn. I love learning but I always push myself too hard to the point I burn out. I'm especially glad you uploaded a lot of these videos. An especially this one. It really helps to hear from someone with experience and advice. A different perspective, to a sort of similar situation. Thank you Hono
you're not alone in this friend
@@reshi8256 Yes!! Your comment genuinely made me tear up! thank you!
@lilsis4441 of course! im so glad you appreciated the message, i was so worried i rambled too much and overshared lol but i know it helps me to know I'm not alone so I wanted you to know that too
7:45 YES fr. I've worked jobs with 10+ hour shifts, and one with 3 hour shifts with kids, and the 10+ hour ones are WAY easier. Hono you are seen you are heard you are understood
Aawwww Hono, I'm the exact same way, and it makes me happy to realize I'm not alone in this struggle. I spent all of my high school career running around participating in clubs, programs, working, and studying to make all A's. Now I'm in college, working towards a forensic biology degree. But I'm scared that this is all for nothing because it doesn't make me happy; I really love to draw, and watching artists like you makes me think I can do it too. Art has been my passion since I was nine, and I really want to make a living off of my hobby, but I'm only just now starting to take commissions and sell prints. It's so stressful, and I've always wanted to do what you do, I just dont know where to start.
So damn true... Parents put on pressure on us and don't even realize, also the gojo confession- 😭😭
10:47 It only seem that easy now cause they mellowed out with age! Seriously though, i understand parents wanting the best for their kid but when they make it seem like there are no other options it's just needless stress. Especially when said parents are hovering over your shoulder nonstop leaving no room for any form of failure
Mmm from my experience with my parents it's working within a limited system. I think there's whiplash coming from a background where everyone is struggling like crazy VS one where there's a lot more freedom for failure. It isn't that there aren't other options, it's that for their situation/under the systems they grew up under those weren’t options *open to them.* Alternatively there are stigmas in those cultures against freelance work from relatives ("You let your kid have more than 3 hours of screen time? What irresponsible parents! They're wasting their life away.") Partially true, we spend years on our devices, but it isn't inherently a negative for everyone either (unless it's REALLY extreme). Even then, whether it falls on the parent or the child to redirect themselves is a hot question for debate.
10:05 HELP
Lol
I decided my passion was writing since middle school (graduated 2022). I went from wanting to go to harvard, to texas A&M, to th university of houston because they had a great writing program, to lonestar (a community college), and then telling people i'm not going at all. They all told me I was going to have no stability, and I told them that I don't need college to write - have you seen english majors? lol. I had a job immediately after highschool and my manager was unaccommodating (I have a foot condition, and I cant stand for long periods of time.) and I worked 12 hours a day, for 4 days out of the week. The only reason I couldn't work and would ask off all the time was because my feet were pulsing from pain and i could barely walk.
It took my uncle dying and for her to tell me I need to stay there when I needed to go see him for me to quit. I've been writing for two years now, thinking about stories to write and attempting to improved. I gave up writing so many times between then. I know once I get a job that i would lose all that passion because when I was working then, I lost ANY motivation to do literally anything. It was sleep, work, bath, sleep, work, bath, sleep.
I need a job because my grandma is getting really old and she isn't going to be able to support me forever. I also know that writing probably wont make me money either. I know this story isn't that similar, but it's the same battle I'm fighting currently, for sure. Passion versus money. And the money isn't a guarantee either. Most places around me pay 8-12 an hour. Even 20 an hour isn't enough anymore.
Im not old enough to have a job so i can't give any advice or something but i hope things work out for you and you find what you wanna really do. Hang it there!
i ended up crying by the end of the video, didn't think i would but i did.. i went through something very similar.. i dropped out of a masters degree a year and a half ago, still very clueless, anxious and under confident about life, feel like all my peers are moving ahead and i'm just left behind, i don't have a source of income at the moment, i also don't have a youtube channel where i could earn some money(i wish i did, but i don't) but hey it's atleast thousand times better than studying something i didn't like, it maybe a bit depressing at the moment but i'll get through it. (i usually don't comment under yt vids but i just needed to get this off of my chest, i feel a lot better now ^^)
Its a really hard experience to go through and I’m happy to meet and read about people like you who went through similar 🥹🤝 we’re struggling , but we’re free!
This is why Hono is my favorite relatable TH-camr 😭😭
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I went to school specifically for art. The curriculum I had was dog shit and was a jack of all trades rather than a specific focus. I’ve spent the last 5 years working a 9-5 office job and I feel unfulfilled as animation studio jobs crash and burn with A.I. art and voice acting, strikes for unfair labor, and outsourcing rather than hire talent. I chose to “grow up” and survive and have put off taking a risk to go after what I love. And the funny thing is I got a “normal job” and I’m still struggling. It never mattered. Put in the work to what you love. Don’t just survive.
I feel you on a LOT of this, imma finish college in like two semesters & i'm still kinda on the fence about the crossroads and trying to figure this all out. I really appreciate seeing your perspective on your challenges and decisions (& the jokes lol) on these things 🙏
0:24 I can relate very hard
"Row yourself in a bucket to school" best quote of 2024
Hi Hono! I’ve been a fan and a advocate viewer since your first video. Always makes me laugh. Thanks 🙏🏼 And this video hit home. ‘Cause I too had strict (but Latinos) parents with all the straight A’s, and graduating with honors in my bachelor.
But after I graduated… I was un happy with my work. I change jobs three times. The third one was my last one. My mental was on the floor. I did not know what to do next. Going to work make me anxious and nauseous. So I quit.
Thankfully, my now husband supports me and takes care of me every day. Then one day he suggested content creation. He knows I love video games. So he suggested streaming. At least to not get bored alone in the house. I’m not making a single dollar on content creator. But it those make me happy.
I do feel sad of my years of study down the drain. But then I remember those days of misery on my jobs. So thank you for your video. ❤ It really reminded me on keep on perusing what I love.
Hono you’re such a gem 💗 I’m so happy you truly are finding your passion! This story really is reminiscent, growing up with my Filipino parents instilling medical jobs in my mind since birth, the driving by homeless lectures, also the pregnant lectures hahaha. Totally get all of it.
Personally, I stuck with it and found my path in becoming a nurse, and though it was not the most conventional way at the time, looking back, my parents always supported me. Through every shift, back track, everything. At the end of the day, I’ve learned our parents just want us to be happy and set in life. Your parents are amazing in supporting you, talking through a plan and options.
Lastly, after working as a nurse, I can assure you that nursing will always be there. I work with so many nurses from different walks of life, started nursing as a 18 year old, to people in their 30s wanting a different pace / career change, all the way to some who have grandkids and wanted something “fun” to do.
Just trust your heart and fill your soul with what makes you happy. You’ll do amazing 💗 so excited to see you bloom with your channel!
I dropped out of high school as well, to pursue youtube or be a content creator but have been experiencing massive burnouts from family pressuring me to do this or that. It has been overwhelming but I remembered that most of my friends are content creators and do live somewhat good lives so I slowly calm down and focus on what I wanted to do in the future. Seeing my fav artist have similar experience as me also made me feel confident to post this comment and my story. It shows I am not alone and that it's gonna be okay.
In my own advice to everyone who is experiencing the same thing, it's okay to take a long break to figure out your life there is no rush to anything just take it at your own pace and do what makes you happy the most and always have plans in case so you know your fully prepared for anything!
You should have finished high school that’s the bare minimum but whatever
Well, this inspired me lot!!
I also dropped out of college as well...
and for past 2 months I have been dealing with burnout, procrastination, Laziness, existential crisis and so much more
I want to pursue animation and film making and TH-cam
I actually want to create a serious of my own and I am also writing the story, actually no
I couldn't get the time to write the story and what do I do in my whole day?
Nothing at all, and still I can't get the time for writing and drawing
WTF is going on 💀💀
Thanks HONO!
It's creators like you who give me hope that dropping out of school wasn't a bad idea
It was MY choice and mine alone and I should cherish every moment of my life
I am 19 btw
and I am trying my best to overcome this procrastination
Thanks HONO!
Damn
The brief breakdown and resonating with tough Filipino parents it’s gut wrenching. The push felt like it would have a shove back, I’m glad they’ve become understanding about your struggles.
I’m going into my junior year of high school soon, and this video really resonates with me, so thank you Hono for putting this out there. Since the end of my 8th grade year, I’ve always thought my dream job was to be a 3D animator for movies, and my parents say they’ll support me and my dreams no matter what. But in my sophomore year of high school when I took my game design class, I realized I wanted a career revolving around video games, and decided that I want to study game art instead. However, here’s the thing: I’ve done close to nothing with 3D software, and I barely like to draw. There’s always a little voice in my head whenever I draw that calls my art bad, no matter how hard I try to improve, and nitpicks at every single little detail. I gave up on drawing because of this over a year ago. But I still love viewing other people’s art, especially animations, and wish I could express myself in such a way. I have many other creative interests, including writing and graphic design, both of which I have turned into hobbies. But there’s one interest of mine that doesn’t fit into this category and throws me off: chemistry. I love chem, all of it is so interesting and fascinating to me. I’ve been passionate about chem for almost 5 years now and I’ll be starting AP chem soon, but I’ve always said I wanted a career in art, now I’m starting to think otherwise (partly because of money) and it’s scaring me. People praise me for my love of learning and having so many interests, but it feels like a curse. I don’t want to admit I’m having the “money vs passion” and career debate with myself right now, but I am, and I don’t know whether to continue gaslighting myself or find a new path.
when you called your parents (9:51) I PHYSICALLY flinched at the reaction despite knowing it wasn't directed at me, and it already happened 💀
So I went through something similar. I started college as an ingeneering major but not even halfway into my first semester I knew that I absolutely hated the field. I've always loved art and as a kid I wanted to be an artist when I grew up. So mid semester care around and I transfered into fine arts without telling anyone. My parents are both STEM majors and focus more on money rather than happiness (which I can't judge them for) they weren't happy with my decision but ultimately it's my life. I have no idea what the future has in store for me but I know that if I didn't at least try, I'd regret it for the rest of my life. So yeah, now I'm just trying my best to get internships and also pursue a minor in marketing!
I have a similar experience and it's still ongoing hahaha... I just graduated in the medical field and I'm reviewing for the board exams. I have a lot of free time while reviewing so I continue to keep on drawing as much as I can. The board exams is just right around the corner and after I passed that exams I always wonder if I'll even have free time to draw or am I gonna give up on drawing or pursuing an art career because later on I'll be working in a job that I don't enjoy and might've a breakdown in the future because I won't have much time to draw anymore. Now... I don't really earn a lot of money doing art commissions and don't have anything big to prove that this art career is worth the risk dropping the medical field for my future and financial stability. The hardest part is my parents expects so much of me to succeed and be the breadwinner of this family (since the eldest of the family haven't done a very good job doing that). I would put on a face showing them that I'm fine and love this medical career I'm taking but deep down I really want to be an artist. So.... There's my little story and vent ha ha...
10:26 GRABE! PLOT TWIST PALA YUN!!! (Man! That's a plot twist!!!)
All I know is some manga artist named Naoko Takeuchi, she's an author of Sailor Moon, she's a licensed pharmacist and also never leave her passion for manga artist.
My parents always encouraged me to follow my dreams and what I want to do as it is my life.im really thankful for them
I relate a lot to this video as a high schooler. I also take a lot of AP Classes, and I also do dual enrollment (which is college classes in high school) and I constantly find myself stressing over what to do in the future. I love playing games and art so I make videos occasionally for fun however it's hard when you see your peers saying they know exactly what they want to be like a neurosurgeon, physicts, or lawyer while you're still torn between following your passion or getting a job to financially support your art. Thank you Hono for making this video, I love your insight and storytelling. You give me a new perspective and hope that things will work out all right in the end. I'll keep on trying my best!
Thank you again!!!
lol I love that she put ell on the vid (the computer screen 5:42 )🫰
Thank you Hono! This video is so relatable honestly I’ve been feeling the same. I have a job and responsibility’s but it’s barely full time and not enough pay for the amount of extra work I do. I always wanted to be a 2D animator either for youtube or an animation studio but it didn’t work out. And now even my normal job isn’t cutting it and I don’t know what I want to do next for my future. I always love drawing since a young age too! The only time I felt truly happy was animating and drawing. So watching your video really helped me remember I wasn’t alone in this struggle. I just need that courage to take the leap of faith and just do it.
hi hono. your video hits close to home. i found myself sobbing because i was in this situation years ago. ever since childhood, my dream was to become a medical doctor and was convinced that this is my future career and that i have to work hard in order to prepare myself from such a difficult road ahead of me. i took a pre-medical degree in college and the nearer graduation day is, the more i started questioning if this is really what i want. i felt so out of place when my college friends are so excited talking about medical school while i just feel empty. still, i lied to myself and dismissed it as me just being an overthinker but deep down, i know that my path will be different than everyone else. soon, i graduated uni with flying colors and applied to multiple med schools that offered me free tuition fee. after choosing among the options, i finally became a freshman medical student. but even though the lectures were interesting enough, i can no longer stop my mind from thinking that this isn't for me and forcing myself to study won't do me any good. and like you said, lives are at stake so after a month of struggling to survive med school, i withdrew from the program and fell into depression. i knew lots of people would be disappointed and would consider me a failure but i knew dropping out of school as early as first year is better than doing so later on.
all my life i have held on to this goal and i felt so lost that i let go of it so easily. i sometimes question myself if i was stupid for not holding on and fighting for what was once a childhood dream. but life goes on. i applied and got rejected from multiple job interviews. i was heartbroken but then i got hired and now i am working as a laboratory assistant in a genetics research facility. this field piqued my interest and i slowly got that passion and motivation back again. right now, i am an aspiring scientist. i know the road ahead is going to be full of challenges and there will come a time that i will doubt my capabilities again but i know better. i am happy i dropped out of med school because no matter how exhausting my current work is, i was able to enjoy the little things in life after my shift for the day is over (little things like surfing the internet, reading fictions books, watching horror movies, taking care of stray cats, etc.)
thank you so much for this video. i felt seen and validated because of this. i wish the best of luck to all of us and may our tears soon be replaced by smiles.
As someone with strict immigrant parents I felt this. They have personally pushed me forward to continue my education and pursue careers that will leave me well off as well. From doctor to lawyer and so on. Thankfully I was a good student by nature. I liked learning and was always able to put full effort in my work and get good grades, but that was it. I had no passions and no clear future plans set up. I realized I was simply riding the course set out of go to school, go to college, and get a job or continue to get a masters. And I'm still like this. Sure I chose a major I decently liked but I cant even imagine if I wish to continue or how to do so. I'm honestly just living day by day hoping for the best.
he just like me frfr....
As a Filipino and as someone who accepted his love for art later in life… this hit me like the first bite into my jollibee so I’m subscribing
I’m glad your parents were accepting. Mine would just try to gaslight me into thinking I wanted it and think of every excuse it’s my fault. What’s worse is sometimes they’ll listen, make you think things are okay now that we just talked, and continue their toxic af behavior because they never actually think they’re doing anything wrong. The cherry on top is I’ve told them outright I wanted to move as far away as possible. That fell through, and they still think I’m joking.
Hono your parents are so relatable😭 I also dropped out of college, but it took me a long time to tell my Asian parents because I was afraid and knew they would yell at me. I lied about it for a few months but when I finally build up the courage told them all they had to say was," Thats it?". In the end they gave me a 30-minute talk about it and made me go back to school for a different major😂
That’s amazing of how ur parents were very understanding Hono. 😊
For me as an Asian person, after graduating from high school in 2018, my mom asked me of what I wanted to do and so I told her that I wanted to become a Psychologist or maybe a Marriage Counselor but my mom told me that it’ll be difficult to find jobs like that and how it’s probably not a good paying job. So my mom suggests that I should go and study to become a medical assistant. I asked her of what MAs do and after of what my mom described to me of what MAs do, I was thinking to myself “Oh? That’s what they do? That sounds a bit easy! Plus it’s a good career to earn a lot of good amount of money.”
But during my time at my externship, I’ve learned that MAs are most likely to know almost everything that doctors know about BUT except that you’re just an assistant to them. So I was thinking “Damn, I thought ur just taking vitals and doing shots to the patients and that’s all. This is not what my mom described to me!!!” 😂 And so after finishing college in 2020 and wasting those 2 years of studying to become a MA student, I was happy that I’m over with it but my mom expected me to find a MA job but I didn’t know of how to approach her and tell her that I didn’t want to. After throughout the years of getting jobs like dental assistant but got laid off twice from different clinics and working at a warehouse but quit during day 1 😂 and so that’s when me and my mom had a talk and I broke down in tears cuz I was expecting for her to be disappointed in me but instead she supported me and comforted me. Plus my mom paid a lot for the college that I went to which I felt a bit guilty of it but my mom would do anything for her kids ❤but now I’m paying all of my student loans with a good paying job as an assistant teacher at a daycare center where I can be myself with my amazing co-workers. 😊
Also plus, I’ve been cheating throughout my whole entire 2 years during in college on online since my classes and tests are mostly based on online. 😂😂😂 So you gotta do what you gotta do you know? 😅 And I also did NOT tell that part to my mom or else. 🫣
Hey Hono! I've been watching your videos for a while and I always found them incredibly entertaining and funny, but this one was very endearing to me. I just started my senior year of high school, and it feels like all that everyone talks about is college. My friends, my teachers, my girlfriend, everyone. I'm incredibly happy for them that they know what they want in life, but I've always been nervous to contribute to these conversations because everyone seems to at least have a general idea of what they wanna do (what college they're going to, what they wanna major in, etc), and when people ask me, I feel like I have to make up an answer that's "satisfactory". I know college CAN give you long-term financial stability, but I'm really scared to commit to something that I have no idea if I'll enjoy for the rest of my life, and not to mention the costs (🇺🇲). I'm fortunate to have a very supportive mom, but the social pressure and uncertainty has made me really insecure and scared. I know your experience is pretty different, but it's really reassuring to know that people can live a life doing the things they enjoy without succumbing to the pristine education "requirement". ANYWAYS SORRY FOR YAPPING I just wanted to thank you for this video, like I said it was very reassuring and comforting. And congratulations on all the success! I'm glad you decided to follow your dreams because you're amazing at it. We love you Hono! :>
0:44 help how much do only fans girls make💀💀
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Wow. I dropped out of two pre-university programs, and two grad school programs later on in life. This really resonated with me, I have been at that point of mental stress leading me to not be able to take it anymore. The guilt that came each time I sent in the withdrawal email was enough to sink my heart so deep, and the experience of breaking it down to my parents during then was the same.
Honestly, first off - grad school isn't for everyone. It really becomes a test of endurance more than test of knowledge as you up the difficulty. Thanks for sharing this experience to the world, for all those who may be at one of the same life crossroads you've been at. Life has always been hard, but I hope that with this you're much happier than you would've been if you continued. 😊❤
I’m so glad you were able to pick a choice that satisfies you and pray you’ll be able to benefit from this choice ☺️❤
I've been here since your ER video, and my goodness it's been THREE YEARS?! Jeez, shocker. I've always been inspired by you, and other very popular artists that maybe I should try it out, it won't be anytime too soon but seeing videos like these really inspires me and even if I don't become a TH-camr like this I've always known what my dream job was and have always known that in one way or another I'll forever do art. It's a blast to watch your videos
I'm actually really lucky I'm currently studying a BA in Game Design and my parents are really supportive and just want me to be happy and successful.
I’m really happy you got to be here where you are now. Doing what you love in life, feels so hard especially when your told you should do this and that and your use to doing stuff. Ty for this lovely vid about this topic, I know I’m struggling on what I should do and even if I can do what I might wanna do. Glad your parents were accepting about it. We happy you are here, we love you and your content 💕
Babe we can’t go out, Honobread posted
This video really resonates with me. I recently got into a medical program, but I don't feel excited at all.
I feel conflicted because this career offers financial stability, but I'm so burnt out. I've always wanted to be a baker and open my own café, but I'm scared of dropping out and pursuing my true dreams.
I'm worried about disappointing my parents, and I don't know if I'll make it as a baker. I've already invested so much time and money into these medical classes.
With classes starting in less than a week, I already have so much reading and studying to do, but I'm too depressed to do any of it or even think about it. I don't remember any anatomy, I feel so lost, and I just feel like I'm wasting time. I won't have time to draw, hang out with friends as often, or actually be myself. I don't know what to do
YAHOO NEW VIDEO :D
( the “r you pregnant” is so real😭).
Recently these days, I coudnt stop thinking about what was I doing and if I was doing was truly what I wanted, I wanted to follow a path that my parents made for me but the more I walked in it, the more I realized that, I was not happy and I coudnt help but feel that I´m wasting time doing that. This year I took the courage and said to them that I wanted to follow an art career because I do love to draw and I love to share my art with others. I can see that you went for the same struggle Hono and I´m glad I´m not alonde in this decision to follow art and start something on your own, but its just like you said, we only live once, why live a regretfull life yknow? awesome vid
Wouldn’t say I dropped out of school or anything but I am trying to get into a college now it’s been a few years since I graduate. to be honest it took me a while to figure out what I might wanna do and I’m still figuring out right now. regardless what it is I’m trying my best to be more independent and to find what makes me happy. sure I have my own struggles that I’m dealing with at the moment that are similar to your struggles in this video. but we all have to deal with her own way regardless of what happens in the future. thanks for the video and I can’t wait for the next.😊
I have recently graduated high school and now going into a community college to persue the basics for college. Though the track that I chose for it isnt exactly what I want to do. Im still getting the hang of things of being an adult and matchuring and balancing what I need todo and what I want to do. I really want to persue art as a job and or hobby whether it be voice acting, animation, or just comics though it is hard to start up nowadays. Everyday im slowly making my way to achiving my dream and this video really helped me. Thank you
I had kind of an opposite situation where every grown up wanted for me to be designer or architecture student. So I ignored everybody and aplyed for atomic energy because I love physics bua-ha-ha.
trying to figure out what to do with your life is hard. When i got out of high school i had no idea what i wanted to do you see during high school i lost motivation for everything so everything i did enjoy was now lost. But i did know i didn’t want to end up in a cardboard box on the side of the street i had to do something so i went to collage and took a transition year which is just upgrading your high school courses. i struggled a lot trying to find sth to do i would have daily counselling hours while i was in college but when march break hit i found sth that maybe i could do, pharmacy tech. Ofc i don’t know if i could do it or not but talking with my mom i realize you only live once and i still have a lot of time since I’m only 19 so if i do this and it doesn’t work out i can drop or better yet i could love it. i start pharmacy tech in September I’m nervous but also excited I’m not a big study person since i find it hard to understand things and keep information in my head but ill give it a shot.
Omg I love you Hono, I'm so proud of you!! You are so so brave to do this, and you're so right!! I'm sure you telling this sorry has made a lot of us feel less alone in this type of struggle, me included ^^
Getting the bravery to talk to your parents and tell them “I don't went this” takes a lot of courage, and oml the same thing happened to me when they were mostly chill about and confused why I was having a mental breakdown about wanting to pursue art and not computer engineering, like what?? 😭 I swear, I feel like the pressure of trying to live up to our parents expectations makes us forget that they just want us to be happy, no matter what career we may pursue.
Anyway!! I always enjoy your videos, they always make my day. Keep up the amazing work Hono!!! 💜💜💜
During my last month of school was when my mental was at a low, I would stay up at night and just cry because of how stressed I was for having to do something after high school, it took many weeks but my parents now see how much stress I had just to make sure they were proud of me, as with being autistic I felt they weren’t going to care about me due to it and the people I know have jobs and it made me feel ashamed as my parents would talk about it and the amount of timers they want me to go to college and/or get a job, was too much, I’m just glad that they’re now letting take it easy and watching this video was very needed
have a good day
What a good story. I'm going through my final semester of university doing a degree in robotics and automation engineering. When I'm done I'm going to pursue my passion of doing car and cooking videos on my TH-cam channel for a few months full-time and see if it works out. Then I'll only go try a full-time engineering job. Your story inspired me to do this, keep up the good work!
10:45 yeeeeeeeeeah a lot of parents tend to struggle with communicating their thoughts to their kids properly
I'm doing like the exact opposite, I started getting super stressed thinking sbt the fact that I probably won't get a job in the art industry (my parents were supportive abt me wanting to art but also that I changed my mind), I'm deciding to pursue business instead but I will be starting my own little online art business soon (selling stickers and such) hoping I'll have a better future bc I am interested in this career path
From parent expectations to school life: I can 100% relate to all of it. Having similar family history as yours and feeling the burnout of school is all too familiar... As of now, I'm enjoying my life - to a certain degree - while working to keep my parents from worrying (though easier said than done). Glad that your parents see your side (wish mine could too...). I have gone through the same wild roller coaster that you have, so stay strong!
I am an undeclared student that just went to college because it was the norm. I feel regret immediately going to college instead of figuring out something I want to do because you dont really have that much time to "explore" especially if you're going to an expensive college. Its really admirable that hono decided to make that important decision to drop out. Ive considered dropping out on multiple occasions but its hard to give up when you're on a full ride scholarship however i do feel like im wasting time. As a a person who has zero passion for anything, the things that seem more bearable than the rest to me always has people telling me that "its not a good degree" or "i wont find a job with a BA in ___" or the final one "you need to go to grad school to succeed in ___ field"
This is the first video of yours that I've seen and I automatically subscribed. Your art style is very pretty and your story touched my heart. While I don't have a specific passion like art, I know how it feels to be stuck in the middle and not knowing what to do next. Honestly for a long time I was only in college because I didn't want to be left behind. I was feeling really lost and depressed so I dropped out and felt like a failure for several years. A year ago I started school again to work towards becoming an elementary school teacher, it's something I always wanted to be since I was a kid. I don't know if I'll love it or hate it (everyone is very discouraging bc its a low paying field and hard work) but I at least have to try. Otherwise I'll never know. I'm glad you found success, I look forward to watching your next video! :)
This brings me memories, of the time I drop an engineer career, at a 1 year to end it, to start a career that I like it more as an accountant, and currently I finally graduated as an accountant and have a job that I really love.
honestly, I really love watching videos like this. It makes me less worried about my furture. Next year I'll be entering the phase of high school where you start applying to unis, interships etc. I'll need to chose my subjects soon, it feels like life and death honestly but I know my (chinese if worth mentioning) parents really just do want me to have a stable future, seeing you quit your job makes me feel a bit more relieved knowing that even after college it isnt too late
OMG 😂 same sorta, parents always wanted me to be a doctor and I grinded through all the schooling until basically after Uni I didn't get into medical school immediately, so I got a job in a completely different field (tech) during my gap years and when I finally got into medical school, I took all my PTO for the year (told my manager umm I have a personal thing and need to take 4 weeks), instead of quitting my job and tried medical school for 4 weeks and realized it was like the most soul-draining stressful thing, so I quit medical school with no regrets and went back to work (phew 😅 so glad I had a backup plan/job) MANNNN working a regular desk job is like a million times better and easier than medical school path was. Now a couple more years later, I'm doing really well in my career and got married recently too (never had a social life grinding through all the schooling before). Anyway, same as you, my parents are like oh we just wanted you to have a good successful life, didn't really care what I did in the end career wise and I'm like whatttt you didn't just want me to be a doctor, what a uno reverse 😂
Thank u for posting this today, Cause this is the day when my a levels ( a grade system where it dictates whether u go to university or not) came out and I wasn’t really proud of my final grades while doing art and I truly felt like I was alone. But u talking about how strong u are about perusing in a passion u don’t regret really help me to clear my mind in major areas. I’m so thankful TH-cam recommended your channel to me u don’t understand 😭.
0:59 can relate
I had a really similar experience dropping out of school myself, took me way too long to see I was killing myself doing something I didn't like. The anxiety of it all is something I wouldn't wish on anyone, talking about it is what helped me in the end, I first opened up to a couple of friends about it and they were super supportive and made me realize that it wasn't that big of a deal, what matters most is that you are thriving.
Here come the tears! I did well in school and am blessed to have parents that want me to reach for my dreams whilst being realistic. Ever since I was a kid I’ve loved reading and writing and at a young age I decided I wanted to write the same kind of stories I grew up enjoying and getting lost in. But then things changed for me health wise forever.
In 3rd grade I had my first panic attack. Panic attacks and debilitating anxiety were soon to follow as I later entered junior high and reappeared again and stayed after starting high school. By the grace of God I still managed to make good grades, graduate, and even finish community college and graduate with my associates. But I had big dreams for college. I wanted to go to a beautiful private school that was close to home that a lot of my friends were also going to attend. I applied and got accepted! My parents and I put money towards me getting a phenomenal education with lots of career opportunities for after graduation with this school, but unfortunately…
Things really came crashing down. My mental health was at an all time low. I had trouble commuting to class because getting out of bed was hard and I would often miss mandated school events that I needed to attend in order to graduate as a result. I struggled in my Spanish class, having not been great at it in high school. I found my professors to be confusing and my work load to be too demanding for the amount of energy I could barely muster. Halfway through it was clear I was failing. My parents and I had a long talk.
I dropped out. I tried the next semester, but to no avail. I even tried a public university and I still struggled too much with the change. So I stopped. I thought “maybe this is how it’s supposed to be. Maybe I’m supposed to NOT go to college.” So I haven’t been back. It’s been heartbreaking. I felt like a failure because my own brain seemed to be conspiring against me. I took time to rest and heal.
Right now, things are still difficult. I don’t have a full time job and I’m afraid of what my future holds. I’m afraid of letting younger me down. But I’m hopeful that I can find a job in writing somewhere. That I can hold down a job from home and build up savings. See where life takes me and if it decides to take me back to school to get my bachelors.
It’s really scary not knowing. But all I can do is take this one day at a time and pray I end up somewhere where I’m happy.
This video... thank you for this videoooo!!! I've been so anxious and depressed about what I really wanted to do for about a year now after I graduated high school last year, but didn't go to school right away because I was so unsure and scared if I went right away that I'd be so miserable.. I too grew up with parents that always pushed me to think about doing something in the medical field because oh "it's great money" oh "if you push you'll get a good job" but art has always been my passion. Though because of my parents raising me to think about my future and money I had tbh am still going through a battle within myself of which path I should really take. I also get the feeling of that sense I didn't go to school right away that I'm so behind now, I KNOW IM NOT but still feels a little embarrassing...
I just applied for University though to take digital art and design, and ngl I still feel depressed and conflicted because, I really don't have to go to school to pursue a career in art, I'm more of just going to school for it now for my mom's satisfaction that all her kids went to University. I feel guilty for going to school late, picking a risky career, and making my mom worried.
As someone about to start college without a major, (I have no idea what I’m doing) I’m glad you were able to find a job that you’re happy with, and that you can continue to make what you love ❤️
Also I love the new color scheme :)
honestly ive been feeling really stressed as im approaching the end of high school and im not up to the straight a 4.0 gpa standard of an asian parent and not knowing what i want to do with my life, or major or college or a job. your video reminded me that its ok to take a step back even though i feel like im underachieving and find out what i want to do as my passion instead, i still dont have the best idea of what i want to do but i hope i can be as happy as you and pursue what i want too! thanks hono 😭
my hobbies are art and gaming which are usually unstable job options. My plan is to become a tattoo artist and have a calm other part time job if needed. However I love to make gaming videos so if that ends up being my job I would be very happy and grateful :)
Hello Hono! Once again, I really love how you make your experience really relatable as you do not mince your words from your own experiences. It's crazy for how much your channel has grown since I first subscribed to your channel. So keep at it, and follow the passion that you feel will make you happy.
If I had anything to relate to this video, I actually had a complete opposite experience from this story. I went to a private art college for my career thinking that I was going to be an awesome storyboarder or videographer once I graduated. After I graduated, I realized I made the biggest mistake of not getting any actual work experience into any of the fields, and that is what ended costing me most of the jobs I tried to apply for. I did however get one videographer job for a small advertising company, but the boss was so scummy with her work practices that everyone ended up leaving her because she wouldn't give anyone any raises after a whole year. I worked for this job on 10 dollars an hour and this was before taxes were taken out. After a year and a half of working for the company, I decided to quit because I was being ask to crank out 8 advertising videos a week with the only reward being that I get a bonus of an extra 2 dollars an hour for the week for all the hours I worked. That is only if the companies that bought her plan actually knew what they wanted for their videos after all the constant revisions they needed to decide on.
So after I quit the job, I was unemployed for half a year with no luck for any video jobs. I had only a year and a half of experience in the video industry, no car to travel with, and I was going up against veterans in the job field with many years of experiences and a huge list of demo reels to boot. What actually ended up saving me in the end was my 3 years of working as an IT assistant during my work study in college. I had a lucky break with an IT job that did not need me to have a car right away. With how much they paid me, I was able to buy a car and was really able to stand on my own two feet for once. So after 6+ years of working in the IT field now, I feel that I would never really want to go back to searching and working for low pay jobs like that again. I think I found a new passion with making my first car I owned into damn near a race car. So I may have wasted some years for a degree that won't help me really in the long run, but I will say that I have learned some valuable lessons from it all.
So good luck with your pursuit in TH-cam, Hono! I've been a subscriber for many years, and it's awesome to see you blossom to the awesome person that you are today! Live life with no regrets! I'll always be supporting you!
Damn, what a story, also Congratulations I know it took every ounce of your soul and existential dread when that phone call happened, I too have been there 😅.
Also a tip for when you don't know what to do and just cower and stare at the darkness is to just flip a coin, that's what I did before and after the military. Hope this helps hahaha
I love you Hono, stay safe you have a heart of Gold, don't lose it.
The parents response was way funny and seeing your expression from the words was hilarious to me 😂😂😂😂😂
this is honestly so inspiring, i'm 14 years old and living with my asian parents pressuring me to go to girl's boarding school to be a lawyer and get a law degree, but for years i've dreamed about being an actress, i would constantly enroll in theatre programs and take acting, singing, and dancing lessons, all while my parents thought that acting as just a side activity to help me get into college. i really look up to you and your courage of what you did and i hope someday, i'm able to follow my dreams aswell :)
Ooooh I honestly know this feeling all too well! My Filipino parents were also not the biggest fans of me choosing TH-cam over being a nurse lol
As for the parents thing, I'm not in any medical field nor a parent mysef (I'm not even in college 🧍) but if I had to guess maybe your parents have slowly calmed down over the years. I have a single mother and we live as immigrants, back when I was little she was hell on earth for me and made me feel so pressured. Slowly as I grew up though she became a lot calmer, I'm not sure what it was but whenever she thinks back to her younger years she always mentions she was so angry and stressed out all the time and for what? Apparently she was always stressed out because she was constantly worried about me (some context: I was born sick and grew up in a city where kidnapping kids was SO common we need photos in our birth certificates) but as since I'm grown up now she feels more at peace that I'll be okay. Maybe seeing you all grown up made your parents feel less stressed out and more secure that you're going to be alright but still obviously warning you because they want you to live your best life
I remember finding your channel for the first time while I was eating dinner and never had my jaw dropped and laughed so many times. One time I showed your videos to my bsf and we spend the night watching them she found the video of when you and you’re friend went to that maid cafe and her saying “we should go to one lol”. From watching your videos I feel such a comforting aura from you to your art style to your humour and to making me realise it’s ok to make mistakes this year wasn’t mine so discovering your channel brightened it up a bit. I love your content hono and I’m so proud of you for taking the risk.💗💗 (ps sorry for the grammar lol)
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Good parents jumpscare
10:00 got me dying, I shouldn’t be cackling this much
in 2016 i was forced to drop out of school because i had just started a job at walmart. the problem was that i applied in the summer so i set my availability as just about any time and day. well after i get the job i am told that i cant change my availability for 6 months which is why i had to drop out. i was never able to go back ( mostly because of how walmart dose there changing of availability) well that was the case until 2020 happened. i ended up leaving walmart because my parents who i live with fell in to the high danger group. i then decided to get my degree online. and in 2023 i got ma bachelors in game art and development. however i have yet to land a job yet. ( i believe its because im just not good enough) i have considered trying doing something on my own but i keep feeling like i am going to fail if i try so i end up not doing it and applying for jobs but i keep getting rejected. anyways nice vid and sorry about my downer of a comment.
As someone who’s currently working 2 jobs that’s suck I’m glad your enjoying your new one, love your videos, miss story times, and hope to see more, go be happy one of us has got too
Literally
I’m getting WAR FLASHBACKS
@HonobreadYT I get reminded of them when I watch my younger relatives get the treatment :^)))