I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 4 years ago and since then, I have serious abandonment issues because my ex decided to end our 3,5-year relationship a few months later, by saying things like "I don't like to have holidays in Greece all the time like you do", etc. The reason was obvious, just he didn't want to admit that he hated to be with a "sick" person. Since then I am just struggling with how and when I should announce my chronic illness, which was actually never really an issue until now, except that one time that I was diagnosed with it. Great video, very very helpful and very brave of you to talk about something so sensitive, because it definitely gives us more perspectives. You are a cool badass.
Hey, I just found your channel. I can relate to you so much, I struggle with chronic pain/illness too, and I haven't dated in years because I'm afraid to. You give great advice :) It's nice to find someone who understands.
Your feelings with chronic illnesses and dating are totally valid. I went through many of the same feelings as well with my crohns disease. On top of that I didn't have a good support network. My parents didn't care, none of my friends at the time understood, and people in my life made me feel like a burden, and even told me I was. Having a lot of issues with my body due to chronic illness also did not help. Just zero self esteem, and being very insecure. Today things are a lot better, I have a wonderful partner, we are married, and things are good. I still have bad days though with feeling like a burden. My crohns disease makes me sick so often, and I never know day to day how I am going to feel, if my body is going to fail on me. Its tough when another human being relies on me, and I rely on them.
Listening to all of this podcast, and I am so happy for you! It sounds like you have met a great person who is super awesome. I'm completely in your corner, Paula, cheering you on. I know i'm just a random person on the internet that doesn't matter, and I don't want to get all parasocial, but just feeling like you're an awesome friend and we are catching up.
I have CMT1A. I wear braces on both legs from foot to thigh. I also use a cane. So women see that and think I need a care taker and look the other way. I totally understand! It's horrible.
This video and all that you said has really made me feel a whole lot better and better equipped for meeting ppl now. Ty so much for making and posting this. I super appreciate it ❤
As a young disabled guy, where's a good place to meet people to date? I don't really care if they're disabled or not. Do you meet them online or in person?
Even though I have a different disease (epilepsy ) but I totally can relate to your feelings and thoughts through the multiple experience you had , just want to let you know hope one day I would be as much as brave as you are , The fact that you speak about this whole hard experience and you didn’t give up try to find your person and I’m sure that God would let you meet the proper person in the right time ♥️♥️ Also I’m agreeing with the fact that don’t tell the person about what happened to you before he get to know you✅
I also have the fear of rejecting just like you because of my disease and I thought there’s no one in the world could relate to this feeling but you just had all what I need to hear in this video thanks from all the bottom of my heart
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I've been single for 4.5 years and wouldn't have it any other way.
I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 4 years ago and since then, I have serious abandonment issues because my ex decided to end our 3,5-year relationship a few months later, by saying things like "I don't like to have holidays in Greece all the time like you do", etc. The reason was obvious, just he didn't want to admit that he hated to be with a "sick" person. Since then I am just struggling with how and when I should announce my chronic illness, which was actually never really an issue until now, except that one time that I was diagnosed with it.
Great video, very very helpful and very brave of you to talk about something so sensitive, because it definitely gives us more perspectives. You are a cool badass.
Avoidant attachment are known for doing this. Luckily it has nothing to do with you
Hey, I just found your channel. I can relate to you so much, I struggle with chronic pain/illness too, and I haven't dated in years because I'm afraid to. You give great advice :) It's nice to find someone who understands.
Your feelings with chronic illnesses and dating are totally valid. I went through many of the same feelings as well with my crohns disease. On top of that I didn't have a good support network. My parents didn't care, none of my friends at the time understood, and people in my life made me feel like a burden, and even told me I was. Having a lot of issues with my body due to chronic illness also did not help. Just zero self esteem, and being very insecure. Today things are a lot better, I have a wonderful partner, we are married, and things are good. I still have bad days though with feeling like a burden. My crohns disease makes me sick so often, and I never know day to day how I am going to feel, if my body is going to fail on me. Its tough when another human being relies on me, and I rely on them.
Listening to all of this podcast, and I am so happy for you! It sounds like you have met a great person who is super awesome. I'm completely in your corner, Paula, cheering you on. I know i'm just a random person on the internet that doesn't matter, and I don't want to get all parasocial, but just feeling like you're an awesome friend and we are catching up.
I feel like i'm sitting with my best friend just chatting right now❤ love you and your positivity angel
ILY my queen 🥹💖
I have CMT1A. I wear braces on both legs from foot to thigh. I also use a cane. So women see that and think I need a care taker and look the other way. I totally understand! It's horrible.
This video and all that you said has really made me feel a whole lot better and better equipped for meeting ppl now. Ty so much for making and posting this. I super appreciate it ❤
excited about this weeks podcast! Thank you Paula. Youre the best.
I’m so excited for you to listen ❤️❤️
@@paulasojoro if it is okay, I want to give my thoughts after watching. 💖
As a young disabled guy, where's a good place to meet people to date? I don't really care if they're disabled or not.
Do you meet them online or in person?
Even though I have a different disease (epilepsy ) but I totally can relate to your feelings and thoughts through the multiple experience you had , just want to let you know hope one day I would be as much as brave as you are , The fact that you speak about this whole hard experience and you didn’t give up try to find your person and I’m sure that God would let you meet the proper person in the right time ♥️♥️
Also I’m agreeing with the fact that don’t tell the person about what happened to you before he get to know you✅
I also have the fear of rejecting just like you because of my disease and I thought there’s no one in the world could relate to this feeling but you just had all what I need to hear in this video thanks from all the bottom of my heart
thank you for this video! ❤
Thank you! Pmdd and many others just sound dumb 😢