THIS part: "As men we're always trying to figure out the best way to deliver information so that our wives don't take it the wrong way." HOW and WHEN you say are just as important as WHAT you say.
The how and when is not exactly straightforward. Sometimes the time is never right. And sometimes the how is also never right. I remember I tried so hard to edit what I was trying to say to my wife for a particular issue we were having, the original message was completely lost. She had to reconsider how she heard what I said eventually because what I had to say would have bothered her no matter how it was said or when. So yes I have to watch how and when I say what I say, but she has to consider how she's interpreting what's being said as well. It's a give and take.
This is by far the hardest thing in communicating with a gf/wife. Most of the time, we men are used to saying things "matter-of-factly", straight to the point. The editing tend to often erode the original message, and sometimes, it's never quite right. I think it's because men are typically more logical and women more emotional (before you crucify me, I don't mean that in a deregatory way, I mean they listen more with emotions, to try to get the feeling behind the message -- see, I'm already editing myself for the women in the audience here 😅). It goes the other way as well: we guys usually just want to hear what the problem is, and how we can solve it, tend to get confused/impatient when the problem is described through feelings and emotions (and sometimes, there isn't even anything to fix, we just need to listen, but that's not how our minds operate lol)
I feel when we are in our courting and dating stages of any relationship these are the things we should talk about period when your destination is marriage I’m so blessed on what I have
Dear Black Love Team, thank you so much for creating this series. I am having a difficult day today. I have lost my job, I am anxious, and I am worried about my future. It was nice to listen to the couples. I love that they tackle serious issues, and can do so with laughter. Please keep this up. Thank you for including different kinds of relationships among your guests. The hosts are wonderful, and they interact well with the guests. I also love how they are with each other (the hosts). Everyone looks so comfortable.
I am sorry you are feeling this way. I would like to encourage you today that despite your situation, God has a plan for your life. Give all your anxiety and worries to Him because He cares for you. 🙏🏼❤️
@@mrsb0215, thank you so much for taking the time to read my comment, and for responding. Thank you so much for encouraging me as well. I am trying to trust in God, and I am struggling with my faith. This is very painful for me. I am probably going to have to move in 6 weeks or so, and that adds to my anxiety as well, as I do not know where I will be going (yet).
@@sylvietapos807 You’re very welcome. I pray that your faith will be renewed and that this time will be an opportunity for you to draw closer to Him, for you to truly trust in the plans He has for you. Easier said than done of course but one thing I know for sure is that no matter what we are going through, God cares for us and He sees our cries. The word also tells us to cast our anxiety on Him because he cares for us. One step at a time. Call on His name in those moments of anxiety and worry. Meditate on His word and listen to worship songs to life you up. I’ve been in a rut these past few days but I made a conscious decision to just praise Him despite it all. To just call on His name knowing that He’s truly in control even when we don’t see it. I pray that you will receive clarity and peace about what’s next for you. I pray that despite it all, you would have a grateful spirit. As I pray for you on this, I’m ministering to myself as well. 🙏🏼❤️
@@mrsb0215, thank you again, so much! Thank you for your prayers as well, I appreciate them so much. Thank you for ministering to me, while you are also ministering to yourself. I have done that in the past, so I understand. I am so sorry that you have had a few challenging days. I will be praying for you, and praying that things will get better for you. I spent three hours this morning with God, and I will write in my gratitude journal this evening. It helps me to pray for others, I tend to intercede better for others, and press through for them, than I do for myself. I have unfortunately given too many days to the enemy, by worrying, being anxious, and beating up on myself. I am working on having a different attitude. 1-Praise God as you suggested, 2-continuing to be in His Word, and 3-listening to worship songs. Have you watched the video "The God Who sees?" I only watched it today, it is soooo good. It ministered to me. I watched it twice, and I was crying both times. Have a great evening! And thank you again for your time 💜🙏
Been married 22 years and two boys... My husband is in banking for 20+ and I’m a IT project manager,but I run our finances because I’m the saver and think 🤔 of the future Always. My hubbie is right now
This is excellent. Black folks/people of color can be uncomfortable discussing money but it's very important. Now that I'm over 40. I have to know a guy's financial situation. I've been in relationships where the guys didn't have much and I stepped up during most of the relationship but at this stage in my life I'm not willing to be the bread winner but I can be a HELP mate.
I hear that!! I think that someone’s financial situation is really important. I have my own, and I’m not gonna have anyone Leach off of me or not be able to handle them self. I want someone that’s going to help contribute , not take away
@AveolarD True, but many don’t discuss investing, saving, and planning for the unexpected. Also, discussing is one thing, follow through is everything.
As a married women I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. It's the authenticity for me. ALL couples on the couch from what I observed seemed to keep it REAL. And that's pivotal for others to see, especially when there's a history of marriage being glamorized. Marriage is beautiful but it's challenging at times too!
I want them next episode to talk about how children kill your finances . In a way they are an added expense that should be planned but, it’s over looked and ppl end up resenting their partner.
Very well said. People always ask : when are you gonna have children, just throwing that question around. Anytime I’m around I take the floor and tell them: children are EXPENSIVE, let people have kids when that can and are ready to care for them while maintaining a balance.
This was fun to watch! We just filmed an episode about managing finances, especially as a couple who met when we were already grown and set in our ways. We loved that yall took what can be a really heavy topic and brought some levity to it.
I find this so interesting. I have the same situation. My partner was taken care of by his family all his life. He never had to manage his finances and lived at home until we moved in together. I however, grew up poor. I always had to take care of myself and had experience living on my own. I seem to be the person controlling the finances to make sure bills are paid and we have savings. He had to come to terms with his finances and his spending habits. He realized how much he was being covered by his family. It's nice seeing couples who grew up in different financial backgrounds and how they deal with it.
I swear I love these segments because its always a part that hits home. Other couples can truly relate. Thank you. We need more like this... keep em coming!!!!
I agree on having joint finances. I also think it's wise for a wife to have "just-in-case-$" or "what-if-$." 😬Hubby wake up 1 day and decide he doesn't want to be marry.
@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 I’ve heard so many people tell me to basically have money stashed. I know things happen (my parents had an ugly divorce) but I’m choosing to believe that when we said “I do” five years ago, it was forever. Our names are on all the accounts so we both have rights to it.
Im not going to lie marrying someone who I am financially incompatible with would drive me nuts. I like the spreadsheets and frugal spending, although I still like to enjoy life.
Y'all all (on the couch and in the comments) need Financial Peace University (Dave Ramsey) or something like it!! Save your stress and your marriage ahead of time!!🤑
Married for 11 yrs and never had an argument on finances. Firstly, growing up i never had money so i never cared for it. Just having enough made me happy. I was blessed with a wife who is a miser like me and both of us make good money. We have multiple investments and multiple bank accounts. I'm driven by ambition, making money is a consequence. The only thing we love spending money on is travelling. We take too many vacations.
As first time watcher of 2 Episodes this was really good. It was great to hear the differences and likeness of how married couples manage their money. In Our marriage everything goes into one account and it works!
I really enjoyed this session. I loved the fact that I was able to laugh while learning at the same time. Talking about Finances should be a topic that is NORMALIZED in our culture and this session absolutely did that. It was spot on!! Great job team! #couchconversations #blacklove
I'm Jamaican and I was taught absolutely zero about finances. Nada. My parents and the people around me didn't know much so I can't fault them but it's so important to teach this to my child so I've started early...
I have never laughed this hard in my entire TH-cam watching life 😂 😂 😂 very informative, truly appreciate these kind of conversations. I have a spreadsheet prepared since May, to this day we still havent sat down to discuss it, its always excuses after excuse
This is so important in relationships. I had a friend of mine who called me for help at a gas station! He made great money! But didn’t carry cash so when his debit card didn’t work, he was in trouble!! And I came from a family where we always carried emergency cash when going out of town! So I was shocked! It definitely was a red flag
I’ve watched a couple of these today... all the heterosexual couples have described their marriages as “hard work”, “learning experience”, “tough”. The lesbian couple... “rewarding”, “ a blessing” 😂😂😂
When you marry, you show each other ALL YOUR accounts and you decided to share everything, the finances, the spending, the child support, the food, the communication and so forth. It's like saying, we do 50/50 in walking and talking. we as humans use both feet to walk, NOT JUST ONE...so 50/50 is stressful living, and you SHOULD BOTH BE INAGREEMENT to how to spend the money. Common sense, and you agree on this BEFORE U GET MARRIED!!!
Not sure why folks say spoiled. If your parents took care of you and worked hard to provide a better life, that’s fine. Folks who don’t have that background sound sad when they let the bitterness show.
This is beautiful love the conversation while I am cooking. 🥘 what blow my mind is when the conversation came up about financial difficulties the security of household expenses. One part of this was about knowing your spouse and their burden that they are carrying. When it comes to a marriage it take the strength of both partners to help carry each other’s burden and the burden shouldn’t be on one spouse to carry along but it’s takes both spouse in Unity in oneness and it takes the cooperation of both partners to build their empires together. . ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎
I noticed they didn't even interact with the same sex couple much. They must have been invited for inclusivity but yet there isn't equivocal respect regarding love and relationship
Maybe it’s not because they’re same sex but they have only been together for one year. The other couples have been together over five years so they’re more relatable and experienced. The same sex is still in the honeymoon phase plus the darker skin girl stated that she gets money and spend. And they almost split up within that year due to finances.
They made the effort, for sure. It's not their typical interaction so of course it takes extra effort to stray away from the usual man vs. woman comparisons that the marriage convos tend to lean towards when female/male couples come together. There are just some aspects of female/female marriages that don't translate to female/male marriages and vice versa, and that is okay. I think they were acknowledging of the differences and did a good job of trying to balance that.
Seriously this was a great discussion!! I LOVE THE ELLISES KHADEEN YOUR DREAMS ARE COMING TO FRUITION ❤️❤️❤️ WITH HOSTING YOU'RE PHENOMENAL AND TOGETHER YOU TWO ARE A FORCE KEEP IT UP🥰
Me, as the man that i am, i am good at soending money and naking it! Lol. I will definitely need a woman whose better at managing and saving our finances
"Some of it could've been my delivery because, AS MEN, we're always tryna figure out the best way to deliver information so that our WIVES don't take it the wrong way..." As evidenced by the composition, emphasized words, tone & *delivery* of that sentence, I'm pretty sure he fails at that...a lot.
This is the realistic conversation I've heard on TH-cam in a long time. Real life situations and marriage issues. My hudnabd didn't believe he was spending $1000 on fast food. And I cook! And that spending denial is real. My husband swears he doesn't spend $.
Very good subject and point to discuss. Cuz before hand no one knows how trustworthy your partner is with your money. That seems the mist scary part of marriage. Always on the look out for what you worked hard for. What if your partner steals
Guys he said a key word: MY WEDDING, when she stated "my wedding" red flags.....I guess they are marrying themselves. LOL...... When you find a true partner or a special woman that wants to EQUALLY bring as much to the table you definitely got a winner. She's not selfish or self-centered, she truly loves you and wants to build not take as a lot of women continually do.....
Correction, sir: the women you know of or focus on may be like that, but that is not the whole of us. I see you dropping your little poison pills into the comments all along the thread... just know that what you can see after imbibing all that MGTOW and AWALT poison you are dribbling out is not a true picture. There are approximately 3.7 BILLION women in the world. We will not fit the caricature you'd like us to be so that you can justify your bitterness and disrespect of us. Just know that if you REALLY were able to go your own way, you wouldn't be here trying to poison positive discussion -- WE SEE YOU, sir, in your pettiness and weakness.
Everyone has to budget buy cheaper doesn't always mean better sometimes you have to invest in what you want🤷🏾♀️
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Honestly speaking, you noticed that most women say marriage is “challenging.” It is usually the man who respond in a positive way. As a rule, romance without finance is a nuisance. The woman shut the brother down and told him she can speaks for herself. Wow, sister is boss. In a marriage, it’s best that the parties keep and maintain their own banking accounts and share an account that covers the bills and household expenses. The primary reason why couples get divorce is due to finances and money.
Love this series crazy we have a couples couch series on our channel. This is the set up I envisioned it would transform into. I just watched the other episode and Love it! These conversations are Sooo Necessary!
"MAKIN money without MANAGING money leaves you with NO money"....................Nuff said.
True
In MY marriage we have our own personal spending account and A joint spending/ savings account. Being married does not take away individuality
I really like that idea. It’s like you need to be able to be on your own if you need to. People change
Completely love this idea. That’s what I’ll be doing if I ever get married.
This is how I'm gonna wanna do things this is how my parents did it.
Do you pay the household bills out of the joint account?
thank u!
THIS part: "As men we're always trying to figure out the best way to deliver information so that our wives don't take it the wrong way." HOW and WHEN you say are just as important as WHAT you say.
The how and when is not exactly straightforward. Sometimes the time is never right. And sometimes the how is also never right.
I remember I tried so hard to edit what I was trying to say to my wife for a particular issue we were having, the original message was completely lost. She had to reconsider how she heard what I said eventually because what I had to say would have bothered her no matter how it was said or when.
So yes I have to watch how and when I say what I say, but she has to consider how she's interpreting what's being said as well. It's a give and take.
Women can't handle truth.
This is by far the hardest thing in communicating with a gf/wife. Most of the time, we men are used to saying things "matter-of-factly", straight to the point. The editing tend to often erode the original message, and sometimes, it's never quite right. I think it's because men are typically more logical and women more emotional (before you crucify me, I don't mean that in a deregatory way, I mean they listen more with emotions, to try to get the feeling behind the message -- see, I'm already editing myself for the women in the audience here 😅). It goes the other way as well: we guys usually just want to hear what the problem is, and how we can solve it, tend to get confused/impatient when the problem is described through feelings and emotions (and sometimes, there isn't even anything to fix, we just need to listen, but that's not how our minds operate lol)
I feel when we are in our courting and dating stages of any relationship these are the things we should talk about period when your destination is marriage I’m so blessed on what I have
Dear Black Love Team, thank you so much for creating this series. I am having a difficult day today. I have lost my job, I am anxious, and I am worried about my future.
It was nice to listen to the couples. I love that they tackle serious issues, and can do so with laughter.
Please keep this up. Thank you for including different kinds of relationships among your guests. The hosts are wonderful, and they interact well with the guests. I also love how they are with each other (the hosts). Everyone looks so comfortable.
I am sorry you are feeling this way. I would like to encourage you today that despite your situation, God has a plan for your life. Give all your anxiety and worries to Him because He cares for you. 🙏🏼❤️
@@mrsb0215, thank you so much for taking the time to read my comment, and for responding. Thank you so much for encouraging me as well. I am trying to trust in God, and I am struggling with my faith. This is very painful for me. I am probably going to have to move in 6 weeks or so, and that adds to my anxiety as well, as I do not know where I will be going (yet).
@@sylvietapos807 You’re very welcome. I pray that your faith will be renewed and that this time will be an opportunity for you to draw closer to Him, for you to truly trust in the plans He has for you. Easier said than done of course but one thing I know for sure is that no matter what we are going through, God cares for us and He sees our cries. The word also tells us to cast our anxiety on Him because he cares for us. One step at a time. Call on His name in those moments of anxiety and worry. Meditate on His word and listen to worship songs to life you up. I’ve been in a rut these past few days but I made a conscious decision to just praise Him despite it all. To just call on His name knowing that He’s truly in control even when we don’t see it. I pray that you will receive clarity and peace about what’s next for you. I pray that despite it all, you would have a grateful spirit. As I pray for you on this, I’m ministering to myself as well. 🙏🏼❤️
@@mrsb0215, thank you again, so much! Thank you for your prayers as well, I appreciate them so much. Thank you for ministering to me, while you are also ministering to yourself. I have done that in the past, so I understand.
I am so sorry that you have had a few challenging days. I will be praying for you, and praying that things will get better for you.
I spent three hours this morning with God, and I will write in my gratitude journal this evening. It helps me to pray for others, I tend to intercede better for others, and press through for them, than I do for myself. I have unfortunately given too many days to the enemy, by worrying, being anxious, and beating up on myself. I am working on having a different attitude. 1-Praise God as you suggested, 2-continuing to be in His Word, and 3-listening to worship songs. Have you watched the video "The God Who sees?" I only watched it today, it is soooo good. It ministered to me. I watched it twice, and I was crying both times.
Have a great evening! And thank you again for your time 💜🙏
@@sylvietapos807 You’re very welcome!! You are not alone. ❤️
I’m devale let’s “invite the 5 ppl we like “ 🤣🤣
Its crazy how the opposite money patterns attract.
yes,my man doesn't know anything about budgeting. drives me nuts with money. I'm in finance so I'm frugal
Been married 22 years and two boys... My husband is in banking for 20+ and I’m a IT project manager,but I run our finances because I’m the saver and think 🤔 of the future Always. My hubbie is right now
This is excellent. Black folks/people of color can be uncomfortable discussing money but it's very important. Now that I'm over 40. I have to know a guy's financial situation. I've been in relationships where the guys didn't have much and I stepped up during most of the relationship but at this stage in my life I'm not willing to be the bread winner but I can be a HELP mate.
I hear that!! I think that someone’s financial situation is really important. I have my own, and I’m not gonna have anyone Leach off of me or not be able to handle them self. I want someone that’s going to help contribute , not take away
@Connor Dusty Hickory I don't know if that's true for all couples
@AveolarD True, but many don’t discuss investing, saving, and planning for the unexpected. Also, discussing is one thing, follow through is everything.
As a married women I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. It's the authenticity for me. ALL couples on the couch from what I observed seemed to keep it REAL. And that's pivotal for others to see, especially when there's a history of marriage being glamorized. Marriage is beautiful but it's challenging at times too!
This was a great conversation and I'm glad they were able to laugh and yet still be real.
This was SUCH a good conversation. I just loved the energy everyone brought and I love this channel in general!❤️❤️
Just subscribed after watching 2 episodes a few hours ago and I agree
I already love the black love series, found these on TH-cam last week and I am in HEAVEN!!
I can't wait to get married lord 😍😘 loved all the couples
Pray for me 🙏
Can somebody please eat some apple and some popcorn on that table.
Maybe because the table is far af. Ain't nobody tryna break their backs for some popcorn lol
I know riiiiiiight
AHAHA
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I would’ve been ignorant asf, eating a red delicious apple all in the mic 🤣🤣 kicked off the set 😂
I want them next episode to talk about how children kill your finances . In a way they are an added expense that should be planned but, it’s over looked and ppl end up resenting their partner.
THIS is a profound truth that I didn’t understand until recently! Parenthood preparation is KEY, it has a SIGNIFICANT financial impact on individuals.
Very well said. People always ask : when are you gonna have children, just throwing that question around. Anytime I’m around I take the floor and tell them: children are EXPENSIVE, let people have kids when that can and are ready to care for them while maintaining a balance.
This show = DOPE!
This was fun to watch! We just filmed an episode about managing finances, especially as a couple who met when we were already grown and set in our ways. We loved that yall took what can be a really heavy topic and brought some levity to it.
I find this so interesting. I have the same situation. My partner was taken care of by his family all his life. He never had to manage his finances and lived at home until we moved in together. I however, grew up poor. I always had to take care of myself and had experience living on my own. I seem to be the person controlling the finances to make sure bills are paid and we have savings. He had to come to terms with his finances and his spending habits. He realized how much he was being covered by his family. It's nice seeing couples who grew up in different financial backgrounds and how they deal with it.
These couples have great chemistry!
23:04 the lesbian couple like “we don’t have them ‘men’ problems 👀’l 🤣
True 😁😂😂🤩🤩🤩🤩
LOL!
Their problems are the same base on same energy.
😂😂😂😂❤️
Facts😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅
I swear I love these segments because its always a part that hits home. Other couples can truly relate. Thank you. We need more like this... keep em coming!!!!
I love this series...and Kay and Devalle. Been following them for a while and love seeing their success and growth! 🥰
Perfect timing. I have to speak at a workshop about this topic. Communication with your spouse is huge when it comes to finance
As a married woman, I believe in joining finances. We are one so what we make is for us. We are not roommates where we split anything 50/50.
I agree
I agree on having joint finances. I also think it's wise for a wife to have "just-in-case-$" or "what-if-$." 😬Hubby wake up 1 day and decide he doesn't want to be marry.
@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 I’ve heard so many people tell me to basically have money stashed. I know things happen (my parents had an ugly divorce) but I’m choosing to believe that when we said “I do” five years ago, it was forever. Our names are on all the accounts so we both have rights to it.
So what is joining finances? That sounds like u would be splitting things.
@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 should the man have some just in case money hidden too cuz it’s usually the women who file for divorce
This!!!!!! Crazy to learn that everyone really does have the same issues for the most part and they can be worked out light heartedly.
22:00 "Is this your spirit animal, expensive" Yo he had me dying when he said that
It's important to yield at your pride in marriage. It's ok to ask your mate for help. Money is the place to be more transparent.
Omg kadeen is sooo jamaican loool. I love her she cracks me up😂
pls keep the marriage focused conversations coming..its what we need especially spending some much more time these days together
I want a part 2. Legit, every couple sentences i had to pause, breathe and walk around. This so real
Love the Ellisses and love this show, keep up the great work with bringing us great content ❤
A great conversation new couples should watch. Finances is the #1 relationship KILLER because nobody wants to discuss it in the beginning.
Im not going to lie marrying someone who I am financially incompatible with would drive me nuts. I like the spreadsheets and frugal spending, although I still like to enjoy life.
Y'all all (on the couch and in the comments) need Financial Peace University (Dave Ramsey) or something like it!! Save your stress and your marriage ahead of time!!🤑
Facts
Married for 11 yrs and never had an argument on finances. Firstly, growing up i never had money so i never cared for it. Just having enough made me happy. I was blessed with a wife who is a miser like me and both of us make good money. We have multiple investments and multiple bank accounts. I'm driven by ambition, making money is a consequence. The only thing we love spending money on is travelling. We take too many vacations.
That girl on the right is a Hilary. "Daddy, I need 300 dollars"
😆😆You are so right, and I just remember aunt Vivi imitating Hilary asking for it. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
‘ you need hangers’ 😂😂😂 ‘ it don’t preserve nothing’
I love this couple, I need to see more of them. I would watch them all day.
Great episode !
As first time watcher of 2 Episodes this was really good. It was great to hear the differences and likeness of how married couples manage their money. In Our marriage everything goes into one account and it works!
I definitely am a New family member! I am loving these conversations King and Queen 👑 keep the discussions coming ❤️
I really enjoyed this session. I loved the fact that I was able to laugh while learning at the same time. Talking about Finances should be a topic that is NORMALIZED in our culture and this session absolutely did that. It was spot on!! Great job team! #couchconversations #blacklove
Thank you. This is my new show to watch while I’m in the kitchen getting meals prepared. Very beneficial and entertaining. Again, thank you.
I'm Jamaican and I was taught absolutely zero about finances. Nada. My parents and the people around me didn't know much so I can't fault them but it's so important to teach this to my child so I've started early...
I have never laughed this hard in my entire TH-cam watching life 😂 😂 😂 very informative, truly appreciate these kind of conversations. I have a spreadsheet prepared since May, to this day we still havent sat down to discuss it, its always excuses after excuse
Y’all are blessed. Glad y’all were able to work through this because many couples fall apart over money.
This has been the best one yet!
Wow look at y’all and it’s funny - all type of couples. I’m single but I can relate. Great show.
This is so important in relationships. I had a friend of mine who called me for help at a gas station! He made great money! But didn’t carry cash so when his debit card didn’t work, he was in trouble!! And I came from a family where we always carried emergency cash when going out of town! So I was shocked! It definitely was a red flag
Great point. My father taught us to always carry emergency cash when you are out.
@@lisacox3750 exactly! Some people weren’t taught that unfortunately
I never carry cash ever.
Yeah. I used to always have at least a small amount of cash but I’ve gotten away from it. Need to get back to that. Especially in these days and times
Wonderful 👍Financises can either brake or sustain a relationship 😳
Love the main show and just found these. Love it! Thank you
Love the financial literacy
Devale "You don't even look at the price?!"
Just started watching and I LOVE IT!!!
This was great! I loved the energy and how you guys made a sensitive subject I. A relationship funny.
Loving this Fun Way of dealing with Relationship Issues....Makes My Heart Smile.....
Really enjoyed this especially The Whose moving with who recap at the end 😂👑
This show is amazing you guys are helping couples all over
I absolutely love it! Great people, show and conversations!
I’ve watched a couple of these today... all the heterosexual couples have described their marriages as “hard work”, “learning experience”, “tough”. The lesbian couple... “rewarding”, “ a blessing” 😂😂😂
lol
They really need to bring this back 🥰🥰🥰
I love this discussion and the transparency here!!!!
When you marry, you show each other ALL YOUR accounts and you decided to share everything, the finances, the spending, the child support, the food, the communication and so forth. It's like saying, we do 50/50 in walking and talking. we as humans use both feet to walk, NOT JUST ONE...so 50/50 is stressful living, and you SHOULD BOTH BE INAGREEMENT to how to spend the money. Common sense, and you agree on this BEFORE U GET MARRIED!!!
Not sure why folks say spoiled. If your parents took care of you and worked hard to provide a better life, that’s fine. Folks who don’t have that background sound sad when they let the bitterness show.
This is beautiful love the conversation while I am cooking. 🥘 what blow my mind is when the conversation came up about financial difficulties the security of household expenses. One part of this was about knowing your spouse and their burden that they are carrying.
When it comes to a marriage it take the strength of both partners to help carry each other’s burden and the burden shouldn’t be on one spouse to carry along but it’s takes both spouse in Unity in oneness and it takes the cooperation of both partners to build their empires together. . ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎
This was a great video and I really enjoyed it!
I noticed they didn't even interact with the same sex couple much. They must have been invited for inclusivity but yet there isn't equivocal respect regarding love and relationship
I notice that too
Maybe it’s not because they’re same sex but they have only been together for one year. The other couples have been together over five years so they’re more relatable and experienced. The same sex is still in the honeymoon phase plus the darker skin girl stated that she gets money and spend. And they almost split up within that year due to finances.
They made the effort, for sure. It's not their typical interaction so of course it takes extra effort to stray away from the usual man vs. woman comparisons that the marriage convos tend to lean towards when female/male couples come together. There are just some aspects of female/female marriages that don't translate to female/male marriages and vice versa, and that is okay. I think they were acknowledging of the differences and did a good job of trying to balance that.
It's very important to have a budget and to save and invest or you will forever be in financial problems.
This was THEE BEST episode!!!! I love DeVale and Khadeen!
Great convo again! I'm so guilty of many of the behaviors that the men see in their women. I have to self reflect a little now lol
I'm no longer married and I still can relate..Love it! #Blacklove
This is awesome ! I’m definitely sharing so people can watch!
Great show! I think it would have been also beneficial if you had a couple thats been married 15 year plus. Thanks again!
Seriously this was a great discussion!! I LOVE THE ELLISES KHADEEN YOUR DREAMS ARE COMING TO FRUITION ❤️❤️❤️ WITH HOSTING YOU'RE PHENOMENAL AND TOGETHER YOU TWO ARE A FORCE KEEP IT UP🥰
That was a wonderful conversation. Thanks cousins.
This was absolutely adorable!!!
This is so funny 🤣. I have the same issue when I go grocery shopping. They are not alone.
I so can relate...great conversation.
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Luv this vid!!! So real💯✨❤️
Great show, have to have these tough conversations.
Me, as the man that i am, i am good at soending money and naking it! Lol. I will definitely need a woman whose better at managing and saving our finances
I pray you find her! Woman are beautiful and unique. She’ll make your life 100 better
So hilarious but informative at the same time.
"Some of it could've been my delivery because, AS MEN, we're always tryna figure out the best way to deliver information so that our WIVES don't take it the wrong way..."
As evidenced by the composition, emphasized words, tone & *delivery* of that sentence, I'm pretty sure he fails at that...a lot.
This is the realistic conversation I've heard on TH-cam in a long time. Real life situations and marriage issues. My hudnabd didn't believe he was spending $1000 on fast food. And I cook!
And that spending denial is real. My husband swears he doesn't spend $.
It's important to yield at your proud in marriage. It's ok to ask your mate for help. Money is the place to be more transparent.
Very good subject and point to discuss. Cuz before hand no one knows how trustworthy your partner is with your money. That seems the mist scary part of marriage. Always on the look out for what you worked hard for. What if your partner steals
Ya'll got you a new fan over here.....
Just watch for the first time I tell you I love this guys they always keep it 💯🤴👸♥️😊👍
Great discussion! The couple on the far right seem to have some communication struggles. Best wishes to them 🙏🏿
Guys he said a key word: MY WEDDING, when she stated "my wedding" red flags.....I guess they are marrying themselves. LOL...... When you find a true partner or a special woman that wants to EQUALLY bring as much to the table you definitely got a winner. She's not selfish or self-centered, she truly loves you and wants to build not take as a lot of women continually do.....
Women think its 'cute' to recklessly spend money.
Correction, sir: the women you know of or focus on may be like that, but that is not the whole of us.
I see you dropping your little poison pills into the comments all along the thread... just know that what you can see after imbibing all that MGTOW and AWALT poison you are dribbling out is not a true picture. There are approximately 3.7 BILLION women in the world. We will not fit the caricature you'd like us to be so that you can justify your bitterness and disrespect of us. Just know that if you REALLY were able to go your own way, you wouldn't be here trying to poison positive discussion -- WE SEE YOU, sir, in your pettiness and weakness.
Oh this is a whole new show!?
Nopee
Love this...learnt a lot
This was so fun!!
Everyone has to budget buy cheaper doesn't always mean better sometimes you have to invest in what you want🤷🏾♀️
Honestly speaking, you noticed that most women say marriage is “challenging.” It is usually the man who respond in a positive way. As a rule, romance without finance is a nuisance. The woman shut the brother down and told him she can speaks for herself. Wow, sister is boss. In a marriage, it’s best that the parties keep and maintain their own banking accounts and share an account that covers the bills and household expenses. The primary reason why couples get divorce is due to finances and money.
Loveeeeee this series! More please!
This is so relatable.
This was a good ass episode
Love this series crazy we have a couples couch series on our channel. This is the set up I envisioned it would transform into. I just watched the other episode and Love it! These conversations are Sooo Necessary!