As a Mexican man, born in America, I was raised by 2 old school parents who always told me that we have to be the ones to pay cause it’s a men’s job to do so, and show that we are masculine and mature. We Mexican man can be very close books that’s one thing I learn about myself until I met my white girl friend who told me you gotta learn to start being an open book cause she won’t ever know what’s going on in my head. So yeah to any American women who wanna date Mexican men, get a friend who’s Mexican and ask them questions what Mexican men’s like and what are some of pro and cons on dating and learning to get use to there culture cause remember your Mexico not in America where you can just be ignoring them. I enjoy your video (:
lol, I don’t ignore them ☺️ and I’m Venezuelan. But by the time I made this video I had talked to my local friends and came up empty handed. Cus their needs were different than mine, so what I saw as unusual, they saw as easy to understand. I haven’t dated in over a year now and it feels pretty good. It has allowed me more flexibility to travel. Thank you so much for sharing your growth ❤️.
I was dating in Mexico for 3ish years. It was a constant struggle between cultural differences, confusion about expectations / relationship dynamics, and the “dark sides” of it all (like prevalence of cheating and how acceptable it seems to be). Relationships are hard in general but it’s a wildly different ballgame in a different country.
This was an awesome video. I haven't seen this transparency in dating abroad yet. Sounds like there will be promise as well as a lot to learn culturally about potential partners. Thanks so much for sharing with us❤
Hola friend 👋👋 great vlog. ❤ Glad your first date was awesome, sounded like a real gentleman. 🙏 Thanks for sharing your time with us. Good luck and stay safe. Have a blessed day. Cheers from 2 Canadians 🇨🇦 living in the Yucatan Mexico. ✌️🐕
Thank you 🙏. I’m a traditional woman, christian values, being submissive and a helpmate. Definitely NOT RICH, but I’m educated and not willing to just be a cook, housekeeper and bed warmer. I heard there are MANY men that cheat and chase foreign woman for money or a throphy😓
I think it might be common for Mexican men to wait until they're 30-40 to start seriously dating (dating with marriage in mind) because maybe that's when they feel more established? And for women... if dating with the intent of marriage is common, then it makes sense to marry younger... because they're not expected to be as established as the men... Not sure if that makes perfect sense... And in our age group (I'm 46) I'm betting it's acceptable to date any established man (so 30-40 but even higher to the 50-60's?) but less likely to be a "first wife" for a man because of our age (and kids)?
Seems reasonable, but not sure it applies to all the cultures… I’ve met so many men in their 20s and 30s that are married. And heard chat from parents on the girls not being really “allowed “ to casual date because of what “people would think”. I feel like this area doesn’t really have a “dating casually” type of culture…
Karen, You did a fabulous job!! My experience has been similar and I, too, decided to stop dating (I lived in Oaxaca for 15 months) Mexican men. I am coming to San Cris at the end of the month for three months and would LOVE to meet you🥰
Hola amiga … dating in Mexico is quiet interesting especially if you are ‘gringa’ Latina 😂🤣 One thing I have found is that personal development i not a thing here so that sense of getting to know the others and their point of view is not part of the ‘get to know you’ in deeper level I dated someone for about 8 months and later he shared how he thought I was running away from US 🤦🏻♀️ Crazy that I could move somewhere and not know anyone 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ and to bring my son 😂🤣 All learning lessons and not sure if I could date another Mexican who is not spiritually, has done trauma work on himself and can be open to diff cultures 😁 Maybe you can do video on asking men about dating - maybe blurr out their face… I like to hear what they have to say Great video 🥳💗
Hola Karen !!!! Que alegría ver un video tuyo nuevamente, Voy manejando y escuchando tu video (raro no 😅 porque son para ver no para escuchar lol) por un momento pensé que rico sería un podcast tuyo , tu voz es adecuada para ser agradable de escuchar , por si te animas ya cuentas con un audio escucha 😊al 100%, que pases lindo día !!!!
Siiii.. me encantaría… ya empecé a añadir a estos videos a TH-cam podcasts… espero un día , con mejor equipo, hacer algo más profesional ☺️❤️ gracias, Franko!
American dating in Mexico as well, lived in Merida and was just in San Cristobal, I ended up not dating in San Cristobal. I can definitely feel that which you said about finding us too independent. And a major cultural incongruence I find dating Mexican men is that I find them very responsive and perhaps what we would call clingy. If we matched on the apps they would message immediately and constantly. Took me a while to realize this is just kind of culturally acceptable.
Yes, the constant messaging felt like a lot for me aswell. I phrased it in this video as "I" was not clingy enough, but part of me felt it at the moment as you worded it.
Also get the opening line is "Are you alone?" which is kind of a red flag because it seems like they are probing to see how vulnerable you are. Took me a while to realize they are genuinely shocked you do anything alone! lol
Y añadiéndole algún comentario al video creo que no me alcanzaría para explicarte pero solo puedo decir que las parejas disparejas son las que mejor se llevan , como caliente con frío o aceite con agua , cuando los dos son lo mismo en cuestión de carácter o gustos mmmm no se si va bien , todo tiene que ir 50-50 , cada persona es un mundo y no existen mundos paralelos si no mundos que complementan al otro. Perdón si es confuso pero igual Gracias por la libertad que nos das de comentar 😅!!
Muy lindo tu comentario. Creo que estoy de acuerdo contigo, a mi me gusta mucho poder descubrir los elementos que caracterizan a la persona, y es más interesante si es differente a uno. ☺️
one of the things I found about using dating websites in MX is that there are way fewer people on them. the selection has to be maybe 1/20th what I am used to in Canada. my guess is that people are still more traditional in the ways they meet and a lot of people dont have money to subscribe to a dating website. and if you arent in a big city the choices are so restricted that it is pointless. this is a bit off topic but one thing I have noticed a lot is couples making out and practically having sex in the parks here in GDL. and its because like you said, people tend to stay living at home later into life and they have nowhere to go for privacy, so they use parks! as for trying to date and be intimate when you have kids at home... that would really be a hardship to me to not be able to have sex in the kitchen. its my favorite room! the counter is just the right height. I gave up chasing women at least 10-15 years ago. I let them chase me and I can decide if I am interested. I am looking more for what you suggested, having the relationship be like a team and that both just go with the flow and organically it grows over time without "trying" to make it work out to some planned result. the biggest thing for me is just being with someone that it feels comfortable being around and you get along well with... that neither one pressures the other or complains too much. trust and respect are big for me. once I lose respect for someone then that's it. in 2 years here in MX I have dated 3 women. the first one was an American woman that was 5 years older than me and who I didnt find that attractive. I was lonely at the time and was happy to just have someone to spend time with and do things. I think we were together about 2 months, met up a dozen times but never kissed. so I guess she was really more a friend for me, but I know she wanted more. I stopped seeing her when I traveled from Puerto Vallarta to Cancun to spend time with my family while they were on vacation. the 2nd woman was a Canadian I met when I was living in Ajijic. she was there on vacation and had other travel plans so I only knew her a few weeks. I think we kissed at the end of the first date and every time we met up. she was fun but was an alcoholic. and the 3rd one is the woman I am still with now. She is Mexican. we met on Plenty of Fish dating website in January 2022 and kissed at the end of the first date. she lived in Guadalajara about an hour away from Ajijic. she had a car so shewould come to see me on her weekends and holidays. she did all the chasing... and at first I wondered if it was because I was a "gringo". I do always pay for almost everything. but we just clicked. we are both generally easy going and she is not a materialistic person. and one of the cultural things is that she expects the man to make all the decisions, so that works for me! although, I always consult with her and ask is it ok if we do this? or can we eat here? or do these travel plans suit your schedule? etc. but then it does get difficult at times when one person has to always come up with plans. we hardly ever argue and when we do the bad feelings are short lived. neither of us holds onto them (which is new for me because my previous gf was a narcissist who would hold on to everything to use it against me in the future). neither of us smokes or drinks so that part is very easy. the biggest obstacle is communication... she is a maestra de ingles but her English isnt perfect. its more about the way the 2 cultures think differently. I find that US and Canadian people think in a more logical process sort of way where Mexicans just act on whatever comes to mind or do things that are illogical. its hard to put into words. I have had several conversations with her that go like this in circles... her - I need to put this money in my savings account. me - what do you have a savings account for? her - to save money. me - but why are you saving money? her - because I have a savings account. and it went in circles like that 3 or 4 times! any non Mexican person would know right away that I wanted to know what goal she had for saving the money. another example is times when I have gotten a tummy bug from swallowing the water or eating bad food, she tries to give me antacid tablets. its very frustrating at times to try and communicate with her. I'm a guy so I dont care about the emotional feelings stuff so much. some days we have lots of fun and feel in love and happy and some days we just decide to catch up on our sleep and rest... me watching youtube or editing photos in the bedroom and her watching Netflix in the living room. I cant stand the clingy crap. its not like we are teenagers. everyone needs their own time and space. just go with the flow and dont have ridiculous expectations. I tease her often about being a "good wife", but we dont have any plans to make it official. we cant even agree on living together. she has a college age daughter still at home and 3 dogs so her place isnt big enough for me to go there and its not in a nice area. she doesnt feel confident enough about moving to a more expensive place since it would be further from her work and I dont have my residency, so she worries what would happen if we broke up after she gave up her cheap 2000 pesos a month apartment. it took me about 7 or 8 months before I met any of her family and even then it was just her mom. with the language barrier there is not much point for me when everyone else is talking and laughing and I am just sitting there. and wow - you told us your age! 45 huh? I would have guessed younger based on your looks and the ages of your kids. I'm 53.
Thank you for sharing, this was a very interesting read. I love to hear people’s experiences. And yes 45 and proud ☺️… I love this age, feels good. And I feel like age makes such a difference in dating, cus our needs are so different as we grow older.
I know black women who won’t date black men only Mexican men… I know white women who won’t date white men only Mexican men… They love us down here in Texas ❤
Thanks for sharing your experiences with us, it didn't seem like a comfortable subject for you. I live in the U.S. but have heard that there is a lot of misogyny in Mexican culture. Independent women will not bend to their will the way they would like? Don't have to rely on the man to take care of everything, thus he doesn't have all of the power in the relationship? I have no clue but it sounds very difficult for foreign women to successfully date in Mexico and that is a shame.
I'm not knocking the Mexican culture, just sharing what I have heard. I was wondering whether dating in a different state would make a difference, if the dating culture would be different, in Queretaro or San Luis Potosi, Quintana Roo . . .
My thoughts on this are quit deep because I find that relationship standards here are so ingrained with the culture and upbringing, that it is something that it’s not noticed by most. So a lot of the men I dated considered themselves very modern in their dating style, but would not notice the small things that they considered normal that could have been labeled as misogyny. It’s a complicated subject because their misogyny is not presented from a place of control but of love…. Like if you love me then do this or that…. Or I love you so don’t do this or that for your well being…
Thank you so much for your honesty and transparency. This is a really good video.
Thank you so much ☺️
As a Mexican man, born in America, I was raised by 2 old school parents who always told me that we have to be the ones to pay cause it’s a men’s job to do so, and show that we are masculine and mature. We Mexican man can be very close books that’s one thing I learn about myself until I met my white girl friend who told me you gotta learn to start being an open book cause she won’t ever know what’s going on in my head. So yeah to any American women who wanna date Mexican men, get a friend who’s Mexican and ask them questions what Mexican men’s like and what are some of pro and cons on dating and learning to get use to there culture cause remember your Mexico not in America where you can just be ignoring them. I enjoy your video (:
lol, I don’t ignore them ☺️ and I’m Venezuelan. But by the time I made this video I had talked to my local friends and came up empty handed. Cus their needs were different than mine, so what I saw as unusual, they saw as easy to understand. I haven’t dated in over a year now and it feels pretty good. It has allowed me more flexibility to travel. Thank you so much for sharing your growth ❤️.
I was dating in Mexico for 3ish years. It was a constant struggle between cultural differences, confusion about expectations / relationship dynamics, and the “dark sides” of it all (like prevalence of cheating and how acceptable it seems to be). Relationships are hard in general but it’s a wildly different ballgame in a different country.
P.S. This is a hard and complex topic and you did a great job sharing your experiences. Well-presented video!
Interesting video 👍🏼
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You have an awesome channel, with such a great meaning behind it. Keep going and supporting single Moms! Subscribed!
Thank you ☺️ I subscribed to yours to watch while I’m back in Miami. Can’t wait to binge! And you are so close to 1000! Congratulations 🎉
Ohhh I'm quite sad about your conclusion.
Because I relate so much with your experience.
And I still have hope and so much love to give.
Great video, Karen !
Thank you ☺️
This was an awesome video. I haven't seen this transparency in dating abroad yet. Sounds like there will be promise as well as a lot to learn culturally about potential partners. Thanks so much for sharing with us❤
Im glad you enjoyed it! So much to learn ☺️Good luck on your journey ❤️
Hola friend 👋👋 great vlog. ❤ Glad your first date was awesome, sounded like a real gentleman. 🙏
Thanks for sharing your time with us. Good luck and stay safe. Have a blessed day.
Cheers from 2 Canadians 🇨🇦 living in the Yucatan Mexico. ✌️🐕
So happy to hear from you ❤️ just saw you are still at it ☺️ so happy to see, I need to catch up on your videos
Thank you 🙏. I’m a traditional woman, christian values, being submissive and a helpmate. Definitely NOT RICH, but I’m educated and not willing to just be a cook, housekeeper and bed warmer. I heard there are MANY men that cheat and chase foreign woman for money or a throphy😓
I think it might be common for Mexican men to wait until they're 30-40 to start seriously dating (dating with marriage in mind) because maybe that's when they feel more established? And for women... if dating with the intent of marriage is common, then it makes sense to marry younger... because they're not expected to be as established as the men...
Not sure if that makes perfect sense...
And in our age group (I'm 46) I'm betting it's acceptable to date any established man (so 30-40 but even higher to the 50-60's?) but less likely to be a "first wife" for a man because of our age (and kids)?
Seems reasonable, but not sure it applies to all the cultures… I’ve met so many men in their 20s and 30s that are married. And heard chat from parents on the girls not being really “allowed “ to casual date because of what “people would think”. I feel like this area doesn’t really have a “dating casually” type of culture…
@@MomonaJourney ...so interesting!
Karen, You did a fabulous job!! My experience has been similar and I, too, decided to stop dating (I lived in Oaxaca for 15 months) Mexican men. I am coming to San Cris at the end of the month for three months and would LOVE to meet you🥰
Wonderful, I will be in town until Oct 2nd. Let me know when you are free. Safe travels ☺️
Hola amiga … dating in Mexico is quiet interesting especially if you are ‘gringa’ Latina 😂🤣
One thing I have found is that personal development i not a thing here so that sense of getting to know the others and their point of view is not part of the ‘get to know you’ in deeper level
I dated someone for about 8 months and later he shared how he thought I was running away from US 🤦🏻♀️
Crazy that I could move somewhere and not know anyone 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ and to bring my son 😂🤣
All learning lessons and not sure if I could date another Mexican who is not spiritually, has done trauma work on himself and can be open to diff cultures 😁
Maybe you can do video on asking men about dating - maybe blurr out their face… I like to hear what they have to say
Great video 🥳💗
I completely agree. I need someone that has “done the work “ and is self aware. And I’ll see if I can get some men on camera… 😂 no promises
Hola Karen !!!! Que alegría ver un video tuyo nuevamente, Voy manejando y escuchando tu video (raro no 😅 porque son para ver no para escuchar lol) por un momento pensé que rico sería un podcast tuyo , tu voz es adecuada para ser agradable de escuchar , por si te animas ya cuentas con un audio escucha 😊al 100%, que pases lindo día !!!!
Siiii.. me encantaría… ya empecé a añadir a estos videos a TH-cam podcasts… espero un día , con mejor equipo, hacer algo más profesional ☺️❤️ gracias, Franko!
American dating in Mexico as well, lived in Merida and was just in San Cristobal, I ended up not dating in San Cristobal. I can definitely feel that which you said about finding us too independent. And a major cultural incongruence I find dating Mexican men is that I find them very responsive and perhaps what we would call clingy. If we matched on the apps they would message immediately and constantly. Took me a while to realize this is just kind of culturally acceptable.
and from what I have heard from Mexican women, its also something many of them dont like.
Yes, the constant messaging felt like a lot for me aswell. I phrased it in this video as "I" was not clingy enough, but part of me felt it at the moment as you worded it.
Also get the opening line is "Are you alone?" which is kind of a red flag because it seems like they are probing to see how vulnerable you are. Took me a while to realize they are genuinely shocked you do anything alone! lol
@@cccherry05 😂 yesss, for me most of them assumed that my mom lives with us and were shocked when they found out otherwise 🤦🏼♀️
Love hearing about your experiences dating there... thanks for sharing!❤
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Y añadiéndole algún comentario al video creo que no me alcanzaría para explicarte pero solo puedo decir que las parejas disparejas son las que mejor se llevan , como caliente con frío o aceite con agua , cuando los dos son lo mismo en cuestión de carácter o gustos mmmm no se si va bien , todo tiene que ir 50-50 , cada persona es un mundo y no existen mundos paralelos si no mundos que complementan al otro. Perdón si es confuso pero igual Gracias por la libertad que nos das de comentar 😅!!
Muy lindo tu comentario. Creo que estoy de acuerdo contigo, a mi me gusta mucho poder descubrir los elementos que caracterizan a la persona, y es más interesante si es differente a uno. ☺️
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one of the things I found about using dating websites in MX is that there are way fewer people on them. the selection has to be maybe 1/20th what I am used to in Canada. my guess is that people are still more traditional in the ways they meet and a lot of people dont have money to subscribe to a dating website. and if you arent in a big city the choices are so restricted that it is pointless.
this is a bit off topic but one thing I have noticed a lot is couples making out and practically having sex in the parks here in GDL. and its because like you said, people tend to stay living at home later into life and they have nowhere to go for privacy, so they use parks! as for trying to date and be intimate when you have kids at home... that would really be a hardship to me to not be able to have sex in the kitchen. its my favorite room! the counter is just the right height.
I gave up chasing women at least 10-15 years ago. I let them chase me and I can decide if I am interested. I am looking more for what you suggested, having the relationship be like a team and that both just go with the flow and organically it grows over time without "trying" to make it work out to some planned result. the biggest thing for me is just being with someone that it feels comfortable being around and you get along well with... that neither one pressures the other or complains too much. trust and respect are big for me. once I lose respect for someone then that's it.
in 2 years here in MX I have dated 3 women. the first one was an American woman that was 5 years older than me and who I didnt find that attractive. I was lonely at the time and was happy to just have someone to spend time with and do things. I think we were together about 2 months, met up a dozen times but never kissed. so I guess she was really more a friend for me, but I know she wanted more. I stopped seeing her when I traveled from Puerto Vallarta to Cancun to spend time with my family while they were on vacation. the 2nd woman was a Canadian I met when I was living in Ajijic. she was there on vacation and had other travel plans so I only knew her a few weeks. I think we kissed at the end of the first date and every time we met up. she was fun but was an alcoholic. and the 3rd one is the woman I am still with now. She is Mexican. we met on Plenty of Fish dating website in January 2022 and kissed at the end of the first date. she lived in Guadalajara about an hour away from Ajijic. she had a car so shewould come to see me on her weekends and holidays. she did all the chasing... and at first I wondered if it was because I was a "gringo". I do always pay for almost everything. but we just clicked. we are both generally easy going and she is not a materialistic person. and one of the cultural things is that she expects the man to make all the decisions, so that works for me! although, I always consult with her and ask is it ok if we do this? or can we eat here? or do these travel plans suit your schedule? etc. but then it does get difficult at times when one person has to always come up with plans. we hardly ever argue and when we do the bad feelings are short lived. neither of us holds onto them (which is new for me because my previous gf was a narcissist who would hold on to everything to use it against me in the future). neither of us smokes or drinks so that part is very easy.
the biggest obstacle is communication... she is a maestra de ingles but her English isnt perfect. its more about the way the 2 cultures think differently. I find that US and Canadian people think in a more logical process sort of way where Mexicans just act on whatever comes to mind or do things that are illogical. its hard to put into words. I have had several conversations with her that go like this in circles... her - I need to put this money in my savings account. me - what do you have a savings account for? her - to save money. me - but why are you saving money? her - because I have a savings account. and it went in circles like that 3 or 4 times! any non Mexican person would know right away that I wanted to know what goal she had for saving the money. another example is times when I have gotten a tummy bug from swallowing the water or eating bad food, she tries to give me antacid tablets. its very frustrating at times to try and communicate with her. I'm a guy so I dont care about the emotional feelings stuff so much. some days we have lots of fun and feel in love and happy and some days we just decide to catch up on our sleep and rest... me watching youtube or editing photos in the bedroom and her watching Netflix in the living room. I cant stand the clingy crap. its not like we are teenagers. everyone needs their own time and space. just go with the flow and dont have ridiculous expectations.
I tease her often about being a "good wife", but we dont have any plans to make it official. we cant even agree on living together. she has a college age daughter still at home and 3 dogs so her place isnt big enough for me to go there and its not in a nice area. she doesnt feel confident enough about moving to a more expensive place since it would be further from her work and I dont have my residency, so she worries what would happen if we broke up after she gave up her cheap 2000 pesos a month apartment. it took me about 7 or 8 months before I met any of her family and even then it was just her mom. with the language barrier there is not much point for me when everyone else is talking and laughing and I am just sitting there.
and wow - you told us your age! 45 huh? I would have guessed younger based on your looks and the ages of your kids. I'm 53.
Thank you for sharing, this was a very interesting read. I love to hear people’s experiences.
And yes 45 and proud ☺️… I love this age, feels good. And I feel like age makes such a difference in dating, cus our needs are so different as we grow older.
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It takes time to learn whether the person we date is a visa seeker. 🤔😢
None of the people I dated had any interest in the USA at all… but I have heard extranjeros share this as a concern or something to think about.
Lol I know Mexican women who will not date a Mexican man. My preference is a Mexicana and I married one. Best Wishes
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I know black women who won’t date black men only Mexican men… I know white women who won’t date white men only Mexican men… They love us down here in Texas ❤
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I have dated Mexican men in the USA and my experience was very different than dating in Mexico. I would never lump everyone together.
Thanks for sharing your experiences with us, it didn't seem like a comfortable subject for you. I live in the U.S. but have heard that there is a lot of misogyny in Mexican culture. Independent women will not bend to their will the way they would like? Don't have to rely on the man to take care of everything, thus he doesn't have all of the power in the relationship? I have no clue but it sounds very difficult for foreign women to successfully date in Mexico and that is a shame.
I'm not knocking the Mexican culture, just sharing what I have heard. I was wondering whether dating in a different state would make a difference, if the dating culture would be different, in Queretaro or San Luis Potosi, Quintana Roo . . .
I have been told that I would have to be in the North to find someone, but I don’t like the idea of moving for that 😂.
My thoughts on this are quit deep because I find that relationship standards here are so ingrained with the culture and upbringing, that it is something that it’s not noticed by most. So a lot of the men I dated considered themselves very modern in their dating style, but would not notice the small things that they considered normal that could have been labeled as misogyny. It’s a complicated subject because their misogyny is not presented from a place of control but of love…. Like if you love me then do this or that…. Or I love you so don’t do this or that for your well being…