Hello Charlie. Your authenticity is preserved which is reflected through your videos. You are now in a position that you don't have anything to ask more from the divinity or whatever you call the higher power.I appreciate your way of sharing your life experience. I want to ask you for a favour as a human. I am from India and through my childhood I have experienced what is poverty. The salary from job is not going to fully fill the stomachs of my family members . The only resource I have is internet and I keep learning from it. I cannot afford books because so I find free podcasts, audiobooks and ebooks and make my notes in pen and paper. The pain I endure everyday is so much. Can you make your next video how a person can flip their destiny with little or zero resources. My path became so dark that I am asking you to show a way out. This is a request from a human to a human. I don't know if this message would reach to you but this is the only way for me to connect to you. I apologize for this long message.
Thank you Charlie, I started crying I have so much trauma to deal with(generational trauma included) just so much. and I was always lost on how to deal with. after watching your video I have an edge of the rope. Thank you so much. Best video on youtube in years. Much love keep prospering❤
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🔄 *The speaker discusses the dual nature within oneself, oscillating between a positive, growth-oriented side and a destructive, negative side.* 02:31 💡 *The video promises to provide insights on breaking the cycle of oscillation, offering a solution to achieve lasting success and personal development.* 04:21 🏡 *The speaker shares personal success, living in Dubai with an 8-figure business, emphasizing the potential life-changing impact of the upcoming information.* 06:11 📈 *Describes the concept of oscillation in behavior, representing a continuous cycle of building up to a peak of positivity, then breaking down into negativity.* 13:46 🌡️ *Introduces the idea of an "emotional thermostat" that regulates one's behavior, preventing extreme highs or lows, aiming for an average state.* 19:07 💰 *Discusses how personal financial patterns exhibit an oscillation between a perceived ceiling and a floor, emphasizing the importance of understanding and adjusting one's standards.* 20:01 📈 *Life outcomes often depend on the average or midpoint, not just the highs and lows. Understandingyour average in various aspects of life is crucial for improvement.* 23:15 📊 *Drawing an oscillation chart for different aspects of your life helps identify patterns and cycles. This can include finances, fitness, emotional states, and more.* 25:58 💰 *Success and financial goals vary individually; what might be a significant achievement for one person could be a hygiene standard for another. Awareness of your own standards is essential.* 29:42 🔄 *Life tends to follow stages: building, peaking, breaking down, and rebuilding. Recognizing these stages can help navigate challenges and understand personal cycles.* 32:37 🧠 *Fixing behavioral patterns requires addressing the underlying psychology rather than just focusing on external behaviors. The mind shapes behaviors, and understanding the root cause is crucial for lasting change.* 39:41 🔄 *Understanding the emotional cycle: Anger is the starting point, often directed at oneself, leading to destructive behavior.* 43:25 🚀 *Emotions drive behavior: Anger transforms into drive, a positive emotion associated with determination, discipline, and motivation.* 44:45 🏆 *Transformation to Pride: Drive peaks into Pride when positive actions yield results, creating a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.* 45:37 ☕ *Pitfall of Comfort: Pride leads to Comfort, a state where one starts to relax, lose drive, and engage in undesired behaviors, creating a cycle.* 47:40 🔄 *Gradual emotional transitions: Emotional states shift gradually, and each stage has a threshold leading to the next state.* 49:45 ⚖️ *First principle of human behavior: The avoidance of pain is a fundamental motivator for human actions.* 52:03 📈 *Pain levels and action: Different emotional states carry varying levels of pain, influencing the actions taken to alleviate or avoid that pain.* 53:10 💡 *Constant progress through pain: The secret to consistent progress is embracing pain, maintaining a continuous upward emotional cycle.* 56:23 🔄 *Flipping the floor and ceiling: To break the cycle, reframe your perception by feeling the pain associated with your lowest point even at your highest achievements.* 59:48 🚫 *Entrepreneurial journey isn't about feeling good or being comfortable; it's a constant cycle of breaking through challenges.* 01:01:20 🎯 *Achieving financial milestones may not bring lasting happiness; setting higher standards is crucial for progress.* 01:02:55 😖 *Successful entrepreneurs don't always feel happy; pain is essential for progress, and deriving pleasure from discomfort is crucial.* 01:05:02 📉 *Lower your acceptable standards to increase motivation; associate emotional pain with not reaching your goals.* 01:07:41 📈 *To make progress, focus on raising your lowest standards rather than only aiming for higher goals.* 01:10:12 🔍Self-sabotage *often stems from trauma; the speaker shares a personal experience of childhood bullying.* 01:13:35 💔 *Negative behavior, like self-sabotage, may be rooted in a part of oneself that wants to prevent progress and growth.* 01:16:55 🧠 *Understanding the psychological conditions that drive unique progress in entrepreneurship is crucial; it often stems from unconventional thinking.* 01:18:03 🛡️ *Entrepreneurial pursuits can serve as a form of self-protection, rooted in past traumas; the business becomes a shield against fears.* 01:18:31 🧠 *Trauma shapes your psychology: If you're pursuing an unconventional life or business, there's likely a unique experience or trauma that influenced your choices. Understanding this is crucial.* 01:20:09 🤯 *Trauma burial: When faced with trauma, the mind often buries it deep into the psyche, preventing proper processing. This buried trauma can influence behavior without conscious awareness.* 01:22:39 🏛️ *Unconscious trauma manifestation: Unprocessed trauma creates a part of the psyche living in the past. This unconscious part can influence self-sabotage, affecting progress and success.* 01:27:22 🔄 *Unconscious influence: Until you address and make the unconscious conscious, it will govern your life.Unprocessed trauma can lead to self-sabotage and inconsistent behavior.* 01:32:44 🤝 *Integration is the key: To overcome self-sabotage and inner conflicts, integration of different parts of your psyche is necessary. This involves recognizing, understanding, and aligning these psychological aspects.* 01:34:24 💡 *Integration success: The process of integrating past trauma led to a significant positive shift, reflected in personal and business success. Seeking professional help and revisiting the past can aid in this integration process.* 01:35:54 🧠 *Unconscious memories can affect your life without awareness; processing trauma is crucial for personal growth.* 01:39:07 🤯 *Integrating trauma involves visualizing, processing, and embracing past experiences to free oneself from emotional burdens.* 01:41:24 🚪 *Integration allows one to face and acknowledge unconscious parts, lifting the burden of past traumas and facilitating personal growth.* 01:43:12 🧠 *The integration of unconscious aspects helps in overcoming limiting beliefs and negative behaviors that stem from unprocessed traumas.* 01:45:32 📚 *Recommended books for understanding and starting the process of integrating unconscious aspects include works by Carl Jung.* 01:49:34 🔄 *Self-sabotage stems from unconscious parts resisting progress; understanding and integrating these aspects is essential for personal and professional success.* 01:51:37 📈 *Progress involves navigating oscillations between highs and lows while continually raising personal standards for sustained success.* 01:53:53 📈 *Personal growth is reflected in transforming old goals into new standards, continually pushing oneself to higher levels of achievement.* 01:54:33 🔄 *Embracing pain as a tool for growth, without self-harm, is a crucial aspect of the business and personal development journey.* 01:54:47 🚫 *Celebrating too soon after reaching a goal can lead to complacency; maintaining discomfort and drive is essential for sustained progress.* 01:55:42 🔄 *Awareness of emotional states, like anger, when approaching comfort, helps maintain motivation and prevent stagnation in personal and professional growth.* 01:56:39 🧠 *Emotions serve as communication from different parts of the psyche; exploring and understanding emotions can lead to self-discovery and growth.* 01:57:44 🎯 *Aligning all psychological parts with a goal reduces internal conflicts and facilitates smoother progress.* 01:58:12 ⚔️ *Total War within oneself occurs when parts of the psyche are not aligned towards a common goal, leading to internal struggles and ups and downs.* 01:58:54 🛣️ *Understanding and integrating the unconscious is the key to progress; self-improvement is ineffective without addressing the underlying psychological conflicts.* Made with HARPA AI
I'm 33. I've been bullied and had traumatic family experiences. I wish somebody explained this to me 15 years ago. Thanks, you've planted a seed in me, I'm gonna make it grow.
I just can’t find words to describe how useful this video is Thank you Charlie Thank you so much Thank you I’m 18 and I’m from Kazakhstan. I faced a lot of troubles when I was eleven. My father left me and all my family members from my father’s side (the closest people) stopped talking to me. I had troubles at school too. I just didn’t know what is happening to me. But you perfectly described every aspect of my life. I really can’t find word to show how thankful I am and what relief I feel after understanding that I am not alone
Believe me a million of us have this family turning backs for nothing but greed, i suppose.. it's horrible. Id give everything for no one coming back to me....💔 I had the best God cared sooo much to give. He never left, i feel..still isolated, but have hope. I miss my Mom and Dad. Still upset my sisted slandered an dumped me after dragging me from a good life. She slandered and broke up all my closeness by slander and litterally lying, but i fell for it. She used what if's to get me to do for her needs and never considered how she destroyed all i was joyfully living and going with my daughter. I had nothing to back us, when i came for her...I was pushed into the rirst scenarios and had never left my daughter a minute. My sister dumped me and turned my daughter against me by saying it was her mother choosing this hardship for her.... My daughter believed her. She saw no other side as i stayed instead of going back home due to them turning her Dad against me, too. It was made to look as though it was..to all. As, i believed she would not do what was going on and it must be me, or all in my mind, knowing things were way too unimaginable to be what was really going on. We must see reality than keep hoping things are not what was really going on because i was nooooot a complainer, i got plenty. Some do plenty wrong to the easy going It's pretty rough to face.
Charlie this has been life-changing. Went through Sam Oven's consulting accelerator 2 years ago, and understood this concept inside and out, but I've never realized that it's just a symptom. With explaining the trauma part you have probably saved 3-5+ years of my life. Thank you, man, I feel in debt to you. Keep on going.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
thats physical pain due to health conditions bro, not the same when you feel a resistance when you try to work towards your goal, thats a mental pain or suffering. @@dineshm75
@@dineshm75he talks about the pain more in a way that: If you let the current situation you are in keep being in the way it is. You should feel Disgusted and painful that you let this situation keep being as it is.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
Thank you for not making a well filmed, edited video. Thank you for bringing your true self, this is what the world is needing. I am just starting but I think you will change my life for real.❤
Life changing… not going to lie I got emotional during the latter part of the video when you explained your childhood trauma, i’ve been bullied as a child as well, you brought up some old memories and I believe you given me the strength and tools to face them. Thank you so much!
This is EXACTLY what I needed. If anyone has trauma you need to watch this. And if you don't have trauma, you need to watch this to understand those who do have trauma. And if you look at the world around you, 99% of the world has suffered trauma.
@@Ankhar2332 Maybe its a matter of proportion and a matter of managment. E.g. we throw criminals in prison in spite of them may having trauma that lead to their crime because we need to *insulate* society from dangerous people and deter their actions. Similarly there might be people giving you trauma that have upstream reasons for why they are the way they are but you must still *insulate* yourself from the worst toxicity in your life even if they had their reasons.
The best video I've ever watched in my entire life. Hands down, nothing is ever topping this, you just solved 25 years of frustration. I always struggled with the same problems in my life and always wanted so badly to know why. I can clearly see it was hard for you to make. And I relate with your traumas a lot, so in some parts it was like listening to myself. The hole vid is amazing, can't believe this content is actually free. Thank you so so much, I wish you the best from the bottom of my heart
your channel is the best thing youtube ever put in my home page. this video feels like I opened a door in my life, and I can never get back trough that door again. this might really change my life. In anyway, this video already had a big impact on me, thank you, I'll be forever grateful
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
You absolutely hit the nail in the head about the trauma and self sabotaging - Excellent to see other business owners come to realization and SHARE it properly with others. Your videos are great hidden gems
Your videos and mindset have truly helped me to stop being a lazy ass and start actually pursuing my goals. Thank you for being a genuine and helpful person who truly cares about his audience.
Understanding pain leads to peaks, comfort leads to troughs. Work to raise your bottoms, not your ceilings. Accepting pain as improvement, comfort as regression. Shadow work and integration of ones younger traumatized self 1:53:00 summary Anger > drive > pride > comfort. Become aware of pride and re-establish drive Watch the entire video, these are just my notes
Good God Charlie, You are performing a surgical operation on a wound in which my favorite self help gurus have been putting bandaids on all these years. Thank you for not beating around the bush, thank you for this elaborate two-hour journey you took me on. I could not have predicted the ending of this masterpiece even an hour in, and somehow you kept me on the “edge of my seat” through it all.
I’ve been addicted to self help videos for years but this channel is by far the best and I’ve only seen 2 videos from him. He has immense focus and the things he talks about is incredibly valuable. I can’t describe how much this has changed my life with one video.
Bro stop watching those vedeos. The videos can't change your life, only you can. You have enough knowledge already srsly. This comment literaly reads like a coke addict celebrating how good his new dealers stuff is. don't get me wrong the video is graet but still...
Yeah dude literally listen to the other guy who replied to you. Have you done anything different in the past 2 weeks? If not pick a business to start and JUST START.
I'm stuck at 1:12hour, and I can't stop even though is 24:00 :D Man It is second video I've watched, taken a lot of notes and you already provide me with 9999x more value than any of the 'gurus'. Keep up the good work... It is 100% worth you do this stuff. Thank you!
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
This video is exactly what I needed. I have this demon that beats me down saying I'm worthless. That I'm undeserving. My parents divorced, I was bullied. It's exactly why I feel that way. You're right. If I could get through that bad self talk the other side of myself is unstoppable. Thanks bro. God bless.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
You did hit the nail on the head bro, there wasn't a single minute I missed on this vid. Thank you for being authentic and open. This is what I needed to hear to start another journey once again.
I must say... it is actually the best video I've ever seen on TH-cam. No joke. Very deep, very good video. I watched it from the beginning to the end. Charlie, thank you very much for giving us this free content with a lot of value. I hope all that you give to us in this video you get 10x back! Thank you!
Thank you so so so much. I can't even explain how instrumental this was. I have never watched a video with so much pure value and depth. This video deserves an award quite honestly. great work!
When you were talking about your traumas you were literally explaining everything that also happened to me. I would fight with adults forcing me to do what they wanted, and was bullied by many. Now I understand why the idea of having a boss disgusts me so much. Thank you very much for this, the amount of value is absolutely gold. I will be making $1M a month as soon as possible, anything less than that is truly disgusting (lol). But really, my goal is to keep making more and more for the rest of my life because I enjoy the game.
The breakthrough that I just had is mind blowing. It all makes sense now. I felt it coming (a new breakthrough) but never would have imagined it would show up this way. I can’t thank you enough for making this video. It has changed my life forever. This (moment in time for me) was inevitable. Thank you
I really needed to hear this message. So many self discoveries of our psyche and how breaking the cycle of defeat. Raising your floor while raising your ceiling was so powerful! 🎯 These 2 hours were well worth the time! Thank you, Charlie 😊😊
I cant put into words how valuable this is for me - i never thought about how what’s really holding me back is the trauma i went through as a kid and now i see exactly how it is manifesting today 😅
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
I’ve been burying my head in the sand for the last 5 years. I’m getting back to myself and looking to make up for lost time. I appreciate you taking the time to share this wisdom brother. He who feels it knows it aye. Respect
Make a video on how to set good goals. How to break them down into monthly, weekly, daily goals. And how to hold yourself accountable. I have a problem of not knowing how to gradually overload my goals to hit my main yearly goal without burning myself out.
Charlie I just want to thank you from the absolute bottom of my heart for making this video. this has not only changed the perspective of myself but also the goals that I have for myself AND my steps to go about them. Every time I watch one of your videos i’m learning something new. weather it be some of your shorter 10 min videos or your 2-3 hour long videos I get genuine information and satisfaction from watching them. You’ve changed my life in ways I couldn’t have ever changed myself. So thank you for that charlie. Also I want to say thank you for sharing that part of yourself to us. I know that if i’ve gotten genuine value from it that others have too. You’re a life changer and you’ve done so much good in this world.
Amazing to see you finally found non-clickbait thumbnails that really appreciate your content! Charlie, your content has changed my life. I am living my dream right now living in Asia and making $20K+ profit per month. Your content has given me enough food for thought to keep going. Thank you so much Charlie. You are the best. Hope to meet you in Dubai when possible.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
@@dineshm75start a business or pursue a goal, whenever something pulls you away from that like: you don’t want to reach out to potential customers or you don’t feel like going to the gym or you don’t want to approach that girl. The pain is just doing something that you don’t want to do and when that becomes comfortable, find something else you don’t want to do
dude, ive realized this principle myself and even talked discussed it with people and the fact we can manipulate it to our advantage. but i was never able to put it into words quite like you have done here and also extrapolate it to so many parts of life. only 26 minutes in but felt like i just had to comment, you are creating some life changing content here
Hey charile, it'll be very good if you made a video about the thinking process and how to think properly and make decision without letting emotions affect that
The first 2 min hooked me. Legit what I'm going through the last year in my life. I am 22 years old and finding your channel this week has been the greatest channel I've come across.
Great system but don’t forget to be happy. Celebration is thankfulness, thankfulness is a secret to wealth. If you’re never happy Why then do it ? Do it while beeing happy just don’t settle. Thanks again for the knowledge shared in this video.
This is it right here. This is the truth. I’ve been wrestling with the principles/ideas discussed in this video for sometime and when I realized Charlie was speaking about the same issues I’ve battled with (but didn’t really know how to fully describe) I knew I landed in a goldmine. Thanks Charlie, this a tremendously valuable video.
Charlie, you will probably never read this but if you do I want you to know that: You just saved my life. You literally made me cry when going into the trauma stuff, I know there are things deep down there and I start working on them to get this done. Thank you a million and give me 5 years and I will thank you in person in Dubai ;)
I have a lot of respect for you for opening up like that. It takes a looooot of courage to be vulnerable like that with hundreds of thousands and possibly millions of viewers who will see this.
Just been able to watch to the last part. Charlie. I have a very traumatic childhood. I never understood why I’m self sabotaging all the time until now. I will never forget you. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart. I hope to meet you one day. Thank you personally
"If you want to raise the ceiling, you have to bring the floor with you" Literally gasped when you said that. You're a Buddha, man. This is SO FUCKING PERFECT. Thank you for this video. I'm bookmarking this. I take pride in my understanding of life, but I'm a total mess... I need to shut up and listen to you now.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
Fantastic explanation! Hats off. I can relate to the circle of ( Pride, Comfort, Pain , Drive ) from another book I read last year: " The Power Of Letting Go" . In that book, the circle represents as -- 1. SURRENDER 2. JOY 3. EGO 4. PAIN Once we stay in the Surrender state , we no longer get into the celebration. Surrender state is having no Pride. Awesome Video , Thank you mate. ❤
Just went through the training you described in this video. Put on some headphones and reflected on my past and my trauma, why I am the way I am with money, relationships, and bad habits. I was able to speak with my younger self, and tell him that everything turns out just fine. We do not have anything to worry about. We’ve accomplished so much in life. Gotten rid of our insecurities, gained muscle, grew taller, became more social, have real friends, etc. Cried during that whole 30 minute session. As I approached the end it felt like weight leaving my body. I forgave everyone, and let go of grudges and having to prove a point to them. Told myself I have to become the best and we’re on that path now. Hope this video will help lots of other people, great value in this. Thank you Charlie.
The fact that Amber is one of your favourite songs makes me appreciate this even more. Flume is a god. Shadow work works. Thanks for sharing this Charlie, this stuff is truly priceless.
I ever don't comment on youtube videos to be honest. But I felt like I needed to for this one. As young entrepreneur in his mid 20's I think this may have been one of the best videos I've watched to date. I think the amazing thing about youtube that I was chuckling about while watching this is that listening to you speak is so refreshing because I actually feel like I can relate to someone, which doesn't happen often. The most apparent thing from watching this video is that you actually care. I can tell this was hard for you to make but arguably this may be your most valuable videos. I clearly have a lot of learning to do about integration and I'm excited to make some progress on this because I think i've been holding myself back. Thank you Charlie
Thanks for sharing your story and your vulnerability Charlie- what a powerful story! And never apologise for crying. It has been a privilege to be part of your learning journey. ❤
Bro you made me cry at 1:40:00 that really resonated with me and my trauma as a kid. This video really opened my eyes, thank you for opening up yourself like this to help people like me. It’s been eating me up for way too long now. But I’m here today, and I’m ok.
Every time Charlie uploads a video I'm so excited to watch it immediately. Charlie, can you please share your daily routine and how do you manage your energy? Like full 7 hrs of sleep or 4hrs in the evening and 3hrs in the afternoon?
Thank you. My biggest takeaway from this that i badly needed was the shadow work… I knew about shadow work and Jung for a lot of years, just recently found the integration process but no one ever really outlined it as well as you did. Anyway, i went into the memories, felt them through all POV’s. I then picked up my younger self from those dark memories and i remember he held onto me really hard. As soon as i uttered the words: ”I’ve got you”… Uncontrollable crying, full body shaking, like nothing i’ve ever experienced.. It’s like we went through a portal to the current moment and i showed him what i have now and that everything is okay. Incredible. (I should say, i live for self-development on this scale so it wasn’t hard for me to do, especially bearing in mind the life i’ve lived up to this point.)
can you make a video on "when you want to work but you get carried off and waste your time but deep inside you want to work but irl u cant" and all the psychology behind it and how to fix that, that would be of great help and thanks for making videos like these charlie :)
There are two chapters in my life. One is for every single day from the day I was born, and the other for the days in my life to come after watching this video. The most life-altering 2 hours I have ever spent. Thank you Charlie.
Woah. . . I did a bit of research in my mind as you said, Charlie and I think one of the reasons my younger self wanted to become successful is because When he was younger, at school, he used to cry a lot and developed a bad reputation and perhaps he wanted to change that and become the man that gets respect from everybody. . . Bro, that's insane. It's like a coridor lit up in my mind and I can see in that area. It's so clear now. And there are some more pain points that are more or less powerful. . . Amazing value, Charlie.
Thanks Charlie, this is the first video on TH-cam I have seen of a man being so real. You’re extremely strong and I bet those kids that bullied you are working jobs they hate.
Oh my god, I just did the shadow work, and it was more intense than I thought. I did psychedelics in my life and those aren't even close to what I just felt. Thank you Charlie for sharing this, I feel very unfucked and very grateful.
Wow, amazing content! This is the first time ever in my life I’m commenting on a Yt video. I’m 37 years old and have been looking for answers for my self destructing behavior for a loooong time now. By watching this video, everything suddenly clicked. Thank you!
The actionable advice from the video: Recognize and understand the two sides of yourself: One that builds and grows, and another that destroys. By mapping your behavior on an oscillation graph, you can identify patterns of behavior between peaks and troughs. The key is to channel the pain and negative emotions experienced during low points into fuel for progress, maintaining a mindset of discomfort and striving for continuous improvement. Additionally, it's essential to address underlying traumas or psychological blocks that may be hindering progress, as resolving these issues can lead to breakthroughs and clarity in pursuing goals.
I am going to be 24, I am so thankful I found and pushed through this entire video. It took me 4 hours. I am so grateful for your insights and understanding. I am so thankful you talk about all the things my body, mind and soul have been asking me to address.
I will be forever grateful to you, you changed my whole life and I will continue to preach on your behalf for the whole world to hear that you saved me from huge financial debt with just a small Investment, thank you Ava Maria Turner you're such a life saver.
This explains why when I peak at $1000/mon I revneue online I slack off and quit posting. I posted videos that have gotten 300k+ and 900k+ views and then right after those videos I don’t post and I see now why I do this. The sense of Pride and Comfort I feel when I’m at what I tell myself is my top. I had to sit there and think what happened to me as a kid like you said at the end. I feel I was always praised as a kid and had no criticism. I always did what was right and people always put me up on a pedestal. I was the A+++ student and did everything right. When my videos went crazy I would attract negative feedback and wouldn’t continue. I didn’t want to push through the criticism because it was foreign to me and I became comfortable with the $1500/month and my life style didn’t need anymore. This video is really good. Thank you.
Charlie...Thank you so much for having the courage to share your stories in this video. I was bullied as well. This video has made my day, and I will be doing this exercise tonight to start healing my inner child. Blessings to you!
Damn man, this is probably the one video on the internet that hit me deep, got me remembering all my memories. It is true that to be different to the normal, one must have different experiences to what normal people go through. I’m grateful for all that happening, because it led me to this point in life. Have a great day boys, we will all make it- with enough pain will come growth, it comes slow but it will inevitably be here if you keep going.
I've seen his amazing house 3 times at this point, and it only just motivates me more! He is not flashy, he just genuinely does this to help. Thank you Charlie. By the way, Its scary how accurate you are about us. 😂
I am so glad I didn’t click off when my TikTok brain told me to. I watched the whole video and I will do exactly what you did and put myself in the state of that young kid that is a victim.
bro your point about single mother household father not being around, i never understood it at first, maybe because i was pushing it away like you said. but after watching this again, it hit me. I'm the way i am because my dad would always say he was too busy or didnt have enough money when i was young. i have psychologically trapped this part of me and its never been dealt with. and it now makes sense why i am the way i am. and that needs to change . thank you for allowing me to understand myself more.
Charlie.... man.... what a video! Thank you for being so humble, sharing your tears and trauma. Thank you for being so authentic. You are a real man doing just that, just a top G. Respect and lots of love. Thank you
I'm 24 and I wish I was told this 6 years ago. I couldn't runaway from trauma anymore and crashed sometime towards the end of last year and have been working on resenting and learning new patterns. This video has been key, I'd like to thank you for your good work and not only breaking this down but pushing yourself through it as a former victim, God knows it's not easy. Just want to say good luck to Charlie and anyone who's had their own fair share of trouble. We can do the work!
This dude is a bloody genius Absolutely love the content super informative and to sit here and hear how a millionaires brain works makes absolute sense you have to FOCUS 💯
I actually tried what you discussed about sitting down and thinking back on your trauma, it felt really good. Thank you for having been that vulnerable in front of us
49:00 - 1:03:30 it’s all about making pain to increase standards. Make your “content” level about something your rock bottoms to enforce pain to raise the standards - “We do not become the highest version of ourselves that we imagine, we become the lowest level of standards we are willing to accept.”
All of these concepts weren't knew to me, but the way you thoroughly explain everything and form this huge, detailed narrative resonates on such a fundamental level that I have no words. Processed some trauma myself during the second half ngl. This video showed me that I'm already on the right path, but now it's like I just turned the headlights on. Thank you!
Charlie, you'll probably never see this, but this is the best video I've ever seen on youtube, ever. And I've been watching self improvement and biz content for 4 years.... THANK YOU.
Daaaaaamn Charlie you outstand yourself! I made it to the end with relief that this was the thing I needed to hear since looooong fricking time. as you said "thank you for watching", I say back to you thank you for talking.
Watched this video more than 3 times now and I absolutely love it. I think something I'd love to see is an explanation on how to make your goals into standards, because that's something I'm still struggling to apply.
I am pursuing my dream of being a professional basketball player while I want to raise my family to a better life, I will advance my goals by embracing work and evolutionary pain
I watched the entire video and it's beautiful. I know exactly what you're talking about because I've been through it. In fact, after a year and a half of psychotherapy, I woke up thinking 'I see the unconscious.' My life has changed at an incredible speed since then, and pain is an integral part of my life and my main balance. I too have been bullied, mocked, lost a sister when I was young, was betrayed in a 10-year relationship, and injured my knee playing sports. But things have never been better. Not only have I recovered, but I am managing to do everything I never could before, including diving into sales with intelligence and happiness (and of course, growing my photography studio). Your videos are unique and have deeply touched me. In the future, we will work together, as soon as I am ready. Thank you for your dedication.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
I got chills watching this video, just thinking about things I experienced as a child gave me a lot of emotions but since I understand why I deeply thank you Charlie your video, I'm only 17 but I'm convinced that your already changed the course of my life. 🙏
creds to Sam Ovens and his idea of the graph for inspiring this video
Charlie, thank you.
lol when i watched this last night i was like did sam say this too or have i watched this video before? Great video
Hello Charlie. Your authenticity is preserved which is reflected through your videos. You are now in a position that you don't have anything to ask more from the divinity or whatever you call the higher power.I appreciate your way of sharing your life experience.
I want to ask you for a favour as a human. I am from India and through my childhood I have experienced what is poverty. The salary from job is not going to fully fill the stomachs of my family members . The only resource I have is internet and I keep learning from it. I cannot afford books because so I find free podcasts, audiobooks and ebooks and make my notes in pen and paper. The pain I endure everyday is so much. Can you make your next video how a person can flip their destiny with little or zero resources. My path became so dark that I am asking you to show a way out.
This is a request from a human to a human. I don't know if this message would reach to you but this is the only way for me to connect to you.
I apologize for this long message.
"if you want to build the ceiling, you have to bring the floor with you"
based as fuck
Thank you Charlie, I started crying I have so much trauma to deal with(generational trauma included) just so much. and I was always lost on how to deal with. after watching your video I have an edge of the rope. Thank you so much. Best video on youtube in years. Much love keep prospering❤
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🔄 *The speaker discusses the dual nature within oneself, oscillating between a positive, growth-oriented side and a destructive, negative side.*
02:31 💡 *The video promises to provide insights on breaking the cycle of oscillation, offering a solution to achieve lasting success and personal development.*
04:21 🏡 *The speaker shares personal success, living in Dubai with an 8-figure business, emphasizing the potential life-changing impact of the upcoming information.*
06:11 📈 *Describes the concept of oscillation in behavior, representing a continuous cycle of building up to a peak of positivity, then breaking down into negativity.*
13:46 🌡️ *Introduces the idea of an "emotional thermostat" that regulates one's behavior, preventing extreme highs or lows, aiming for an average state.*
19:07 💰 *Discusses how personal financial patterns exhibit an oscillation between a perceived ceiling and a floor, emphasizing the importance of understanding and adjusting one's standards.*
20:01 📈 *Life outcomes often depend on the average or midpoint, not just the highs and lows. Understandingyour average in various aspects of life is crucial for improvement.*
23:15 📊 *Drawing an oscillation chart for different aspects of your life helps identify patterns and cycles. This can include finances, fitness, emotional states, and more.*
25:58 💰 *Success and financial goals vary individually; what might be a significant achievement for one person could be a hygiene standard for another. Awareness of your own standards is essential.*
29:42 🔄 *Life tends to follow stages: building, peaking, breaking down, and rebuilding. Recognizing these stages can help navigate challenges and understand personal cycles.*
32:37 🧠 *Fixing behavioral patterns requires addressing the underlying psychology rather than just focusing on external behaviors. The mind shapes behaviors, and understanding the root cause is crucial for lasting change.*
39:41 🔄 *Understanding the emotional cycle: Anger is the starting point, often directed at oneself, leading to destructive behavior.*
43:25 🚀 *Emotions drive behavior: Anger transforms into drive, a positive emotion associated with determination, discipline, and motivation.*
44:45 🏆 *Transformation to Pride: Drive peaks into Pride when positive actions yield results, creating a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.*
45:37 ☕ *Pitfall of Comfort: Pride leads to Comfort, a state where one starts to relax, lose drive, and engage in undesired behaviors, creating a cycle.*
47:40 🔄 *Gradual emotional transitions: Emotional states shift gradually, and each stage has a threshold leading to the next state.*
49:45 ⚖️ *First principle of human behavior: The avoidance of pain is a fundamental motivator for human actions.*
52:03 📈 *Pain levels and action: Different emotional states carry varying levels of pain, influencing the actions taken to alleviate or avoid that pain.*
53:10 💡 *Constant progress through pain: The secret to consistent progress is embracing pain, maintaining a continuous upward emotional cycle.*
56:23 🔄 *Flipping the floor and ceiling: To break the cycle, reframe your perception by feeling the pain associated with your lowest point even at your highest achievements.*
59:48 🚫 *Entrepreneurial journey isn't about feeling good or being comfortable; it's a constant cycle of breaking through challenges.*
01:01:20 🎯 *Achieving financial milestones may not bring lasting happiness; setting higher standards is crucial for progress.*
01:02:55 😖 *Successful entrepreneurs don't always feel happy; pain is essential for progress, and deriving pleasure from discomfort is crucial.*
01:05:02 📉 *Lower your acceptable standards to increase motivation; associate emotional pain with not reaching your goals.*
01:07:41 📈 *To make progress, focus on raising your lowest standards rather than only aiming for higher goals.*
01:10:12 🔍Self-sabotage *often stems from trauma; the speaker shares a personal experience of childhood bullying.*
01:13:35 💔 *Negative behavior, like self-sabotage, may be rooted in a part of oneself that wants to prevent progress and growth.*
01:16:55 🧠 *Understanding the psychological conditions that drive unique progress in entrepreneurship is crucial; it often stems from unconventional thinking.*
01:18:03 🛡️ *Entrepreneurial pursuits can serve as a form of self-protection, rooted in past traumas; the business becomes a shield against fears.*
01:18:31 🧠 *Trauma shapes your psychology: If you're pursuing an unconventional life or business, there's likely a unique experience or trauma that influenced your choices. Understanding this is crucial.*
01:20:09 🤯 *Trauma burial: When faced with trauma, the mind often buries it deep into the psyche, preventing proper processing. This buried trauma can influence behavior without conscious awareness.*
01:22:39 🏛️ *Unconscious trauma manifestation: Unprocessed trauma creates a part of the psyche living in the past. This unconscious part can influence self-sabotage, affecting progress and success.*
01:27:22 🔄 *Unconscious influence: Until you address and make the unconscious conscious, it will govern your life.Unprocessed trauma can lead to self-sabotage and inconsistent behavior.*
01:32:44 🤝 *Integration is the key: To overcome self-sabotage and inner conflicts, integration of different parts of your psyche is necessary. This involves recognizing, understanding, and aligning these psychological aspects.*
01:34:24 💡 *Integration success: The process of integrating past trauma led to a significant positive shift, reflected in personal and business success. Seeking professional help and revisiting the past can aid in this integration process.*
01:35:54 🧠 *Unconscious memories can affect your life without awareness; processing trauma is crucial for personal growth.*
01:39:07 🤯 *Integrating trauma involves visualizing, processing, and embracing past experiences to free oneself from emotional burdens.*
01:41:24 🚪 *Integration allows one to face and acknowledge unconscious parts, lifting the burden of past traumas and facilitating personal growth.*
01:43:12 🧠 *The integration of unconscious aspects helps in overcoming limiting beliefs and negative behaviors that stem from unprocessed traumas.*
01:45:32 📚 *Recommended books for understanding and starting the process of integrating unconscious aspects include works by Carl Jung.*
01:49:34 🔄 *Self-sabotage stems from unconscious parts resisting progress; understanding and integrating these aspects is essential for personal and professional success.*
01:51:37 📈 *Progress involves navigating oscillations between highs and lows while continually raising personal standards for sustained success.*
01:53:53 📈 *Personal growth is reflected in transforming old goals into new standards, continually pushing oneself to higher levels of achievement.*
01:54:33 🔄 *Embracing pain as a tool for growth, without self-harm, is a crucial aspect of the business and personal development journey.*
01:54:47 🚫 *Celebrating too soon after reaching a goal can lead to complacency; maintaining discomfort and drive is essential for sustained progress.*
01:55:42 🔄 *Awareness of emotional states, like anger, when approaching comfort, helps maintain motivation and prevent stagnation in personal and professional growth.*
01:56:39 🧠 *Emotions serve as communication from different parts of the psyche; exploring and understanding emotions can lead to self-discovery and growth.*
01:57:44 🎯 *Aligning all psychological parts with a goal reduces internal conflicts and facilitates smoother progress.*
01:58:12 ⚔️ *Total War within oneself occurs when parts of the psyche are not aligned towards a common goal, leading to internal struggles and ups and downs.*
01:58:54 🛣️ *Understanding and integrating the unconscious is the key to progress; self-improvement is ineffective without addressing the underlying psychological conflicts.*
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Thanks for doing this.
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Wow thanks. It was really helpful. God bless you
I'm 33. I've been bullied and had traumatic family experiences. I wish somebody explained this to me 15 years ago. Thanks, you've planted a seed in me, I'm gonna make it grow.
Omg thank you for saying that your 33 because I though I was too old to listen to this, I'm 33 btw
Doubt😂
i’m 39@@christianayerst5919
Also 33. Bullied. Family trauma. Hope I can get out of this hell.
36 but doesnt matter when you starting.
i learned Guitar 3 Years ago and playing since.
Most People are astounded by it.
Just Focus
The only long format videos I wait to watch
so true
whenever he uploads, i smile
@@sonal7987 same here broski
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Same here 😊
😏😏😏😏
I just can’t find words to describe how useful this video is
Thank you Charlie
Thank you so much
Thank you
I’m 18 and I’m from Kazakhstan. I faced a lot of troubles when I was eleven. My father left me and all my family members from my father’s side (the closest people) stopped talking to me. I had troubles at school too. I just didn’t know what is happening to me. But you perfectly described every aspect of my life. I really can’t find word to show how thankful I am and what relief I feel after understanding that I am not alone
Keep your head up, king 🤴
Hey kazakh bro, get yourself 'Cant Hurt Me' by David Goggins. His story will inspire you Im sure since he had pretty toxic childhood as well
Believe me a million of us have this family turning backs for nothing but greed, i suppose.. it's horrible. Id give everything for no one coming back to me....💔 I had the best God cared sooo much to give. He never left, i feel..still isolated, but have hope. I miss my Mom and Dad. Still upset my sisted slandered an dumped me after dragging me from a good life. She slandered and broke up all my closeness by slander and litterally lying, but i fell for it. She used what if's to get me to do for her needs and never considered how she destroyed all i was joyfully living and going with my daughter. I had nothing to back us, when i came for her...I was pushed into the rirst scenarios and had never left my daughter a minute. My sister dumped me and turned my daughter against me by saying it was her mother choosing this hardship for her.... My daughter believed her. She saw no other side as i stayed instead of going back home due to them turning her Dad against me, too. It was made to look as though it was..to all. As, i believed she would not do what was going on and it must be me, or all in my mind, knowing things were way too unimaginable to be what was really going on. We must see reality than keep hoping things are not what was really going on because i was nooooot a complainer, i got plenty. Some do plenty wrong to the easy going It's pretty rough to face.
Charlie this has been life-changing. Went through Sam Oven's consulting accelerator 2 years ago, and understood this concept inside and out, but I've never realized that it's just a symptom. With explaining the trauma part you have probably saved 3-5+ years of my life. Thank you, man, I feel in debt to you. Keep on going.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
thats physical pain due to health conditions bro, not the same when you feel a resistance when you try to work towards your goal, thats a mental pain or suffering. @@dineshm75
@@dineshm75he talks about the pain more in a way that: If you let the current situation you are in keep being in the way it is. You should feel Disgusted and painful that you let this situation keep being as it is.
No flashy editing.
He has the credibility
Charlie Morgan is my favorite right now.
Good work Charlie
Just missing the part where he gives credits to Sam ovens😂😂
@@garry197 Literally does that in the video. LOL. Everyone knows Sam Ovens is the goat anyway.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
Thank you for not making a well filmed, edited video. Thank you for bringing your true self, this is what the world is needing. I am just starting but I think you will change my life for real.❤
We do not become the highest version of ourselves that we can imagine, we become the lowest version of ourselves we can accept.
Damn this hit me hard.
"You will never be your highest dream. You will be the lowest version of yourself that you will tolerate"
Life changing… not going to lie I got emotional during the latter part of the video when you explained your childhood trauma, i’ve been bullied as a child as well, you brought up some old memories and I believe you given me the strength and tools to face them. Thank you so much!
This is EXACTLY what I needed. If anyone has trauma you need to watch this. And if you don't have trauma, you need to watch this to understand those who do have trauma. And if you look at the world around you, 99% of the world has suffered trauma.
But... How does one understands that those who give you a trauma had trauma too?
@@Ankhar2332 Maybe its a matter of proportion and a matter of managment.
E.g. we throw criminals in prison in spite of them may having trauma that lead to their crime because we need to *insulate* society from dangerous people and deter their actions.
Similarly there might be people giving you trauma that have upstream reasons for why they are the way they are but you must still *insulate* yourself from the worst toxicity in your life even if they had their reasons.
The best video I've ever watched in my entire life. Hands down, nothing is ever topping this, you just solved 25 years of frustration. I always struggled with the same problems in my life and always wanted so badly to know why.
I can clearly see it was hard for you to make. And I relate with your traumas a lot, so in some parts it was like listening to myself. The hole vid is amazing, can't believe this content is actually free.
Thank you so so much, I wish you the best from the bottom of my heart
your channel is the best thing youtube ever put in my home page. this video feels like I opened a door in my life, and I can never get back trough that door again. this might really change my life. In anyway, this video already had a big impact on me, thank you, I'll be forever grateful
This is the best YT video I’ve ever watched, thanks Charlie.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
You absolutely hit the nail in the head about the trauma and self sabotaging - Excellent to see other business owners come to realization and SHARE it properly with others. Your videos are great hidden gems
Your videos and mindset have truly helped me to stop being a lazy ass and start actually pursuing my goals. Thank you for being a genuine and helpful person who truly cares about his audience.
Understanding pain leads to peaks, comfort leads to troughs. Work to raise your bottoms, not your ceilings. Accepting pain as improvement, comfort as regression. Shadow work and integration of ones younger traumatized self 1:53:00 summary
Anger > drive > pride > comfort. Become aware of pride and re-establish drive
Watch the entire video, these are just my notes
Good God Charlie,
You are performing a surgical operation on a wound in which my favorite self help gurus have been putting bandaids on all these years.
Thank you for not beating around the bush, thank you for this elaborate two-hour journey you took me on.
I could not have predicted the ending of this masterpiece even an hour in, and somehow you kept me on the “edge of my seat” through it all.
Best description I've seen ever, will remember
I’ve been addicted to self help videos for years but this channel is by far the best and I’ve only seen 2 videos from him. He has immense focus and the things he talks about is incredibly valuable. I can’t describe how much this has changed my life with one video.
Bro stop watching those vedeos. The videos can't change your life, only you can. You have enough knowledge already srsly.
This comment literaly reads like a coke addict celebrating how good his new dealers stuff is.
don't get me wrong the video is graet but still...
@@123kebabaffe shut the fuck up imma do what I want.
Yeah dude literally listen to the other guy who replied to you. Have you done anything different in the past 2 weeks? If not pick a business to start and JUST START.
@@Monkofthecaribbean there are actually really a lot of things one can do other than businesses.
I'm stuck at 1:12hour, and I can't stop even though is 24:00 :D Man It is second video I've watched, taken a lot of notes and you already provide me with 9999x more value than any of the 'gurus'.
Keep up the good work...
It is 100% worth you do this stuff. Thank you!
Can you share your thoughts and notes with us?
”Pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall.“
Proverbs 16:18 NLT
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
The Bible said it better
Are you calling this brother prideful?
@@dineshm75start taking your shoes off and standing on the earth and doing breath work and drink more water
Sorry. I see now. He talks about pride later on. Okay. Sorry.
This video is exactly what I needed. I have this demon that beats me down saying I'm worthless. That I'm undeserving. My parents divorced, I was bullied. It's exactly why I feel that way. You're right. If I could get through that bad self talk the other side of myself is unstoppable. Thanks bro. God bless.
did you do the integrating exercise?
Charlie exactly describing what I’m going through right now
All are same 😮😢
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
Most valuable TH-camr atm
loved how you broke down this complex psychological aspect of a human life, Thank you.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
You did hit the nail on the head bro, there wasn't a single minute I missed on this vid. Thank you for being authentic and open. This is what I needed to hear to start another journey once again.
I must say... it is actually the best video I've ever seen on TH-cam. No joke. Very deep, very good video. I watched it from the beginning to the end. Charlie, thank you very much for giving us this free content with a lot of value. I hope all that you give to us in this video you get 10x back! Thank you!
Thank you so so so much. I can't even explain how instrumental this was. I have never watched a video with so much pure value and depth. This video deserves an award quite honestly. great work!
When you were talking about your traumas you were literally explaining everything that also happened to me. I would fight with adults forcing me to do what they wanted, and was bullied by many. Now I understand why the idea of having a boss disgusts me so much. Thank you very much for this, the amount of value is absolutely gold. I will be making $1M a month as soon as possible, anything less than that is truly disgusting (lol). But really, my goal is to keep making more and more for the rest of my life because I enjoy the game.
The breakthrough that I just had is mind blowing. It all makes sense now. I felt it coming (a new breakthrough) but never would have imagined it would show up this way. I can’t thank you enough for making this video. It has changed my life forever. This (moment in time for me) was inevitable. Thank you
The real flex is that he’s releasing that just for free! Thx Charlie !
I really needed to hear this message. So many self discoveries of our psyche and how breaking the cycle of defeat.
Raising your floor while raising your ceiling was so powerful! 🎯
These 2 hours were well worth the time!
Thank you, Charlie 😊😊
I cant put into words how valuable this is for me - i never thought about how what’s really holding me back is the trauma i went through as a kid and now i see exactly how it is manifesting today 😅
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
I’ve been burying my head in the sand for the last 5 years. I’m getting back to myself and looking to make up for lost time. I appreciate you taking the time to share this wisdom brother. He who feels it knows it aye. Respect
Make a video on how to set good goals. How to break them down into monthly, weekly, daily goals. And how to hold yourself accountable. I have a problem of not knowing how to gradually overload my goals to hit my main yearly goal without burning myself out.
TRY TO DO THINGS STEP BY STEP IF YOU DO ALL AT Once you burnout
Charlie I just want to thank you from the absolute bottom of my heart for making this video. this has not only changed the perspective of myself but also the goals that I have for myself AND my steps to go about them. Every time I watch one of your videos i’m learning something new. weather it be some of your shorter 10 min videos or your 2-3 hour long videos I get genuine information and satisfaction from watching them. You’ve changed my life in ways I couldn’t have ever changed myself. So thank you for that charlie. Also I want to say thank you for sharing that part of yourself to us. I know that if i’ve gotten genuine value from it that others have too. You’re a life changer and you’ve done so much good in this world.
Amazing to see you finally found non-clickbait thumbnails that really appreciate your content!
Charlie, your content has changed my life. I am living my dream right now living in Asia and making $20K+ profit per month. Your content has given me enough food for thought to keep going.
Thank you so much Charlie. You are the best. Hope to meet you in Dubai when possible.
what do you do to make money?
@@abelchandy Just do exactly what Charlie says and you'll come a long way.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
@@dineshm75start a business or pursue a goal, whenever something pulls you away from that like: you don’t want to reach out to potential customers or you don’t feel like going to the gym or you don’t want to approach that girl. The pain is just doing something that you don’t want to do and when that becomes comfortable, find something else you don’t want to do
dude, ive realized this principle myself and even talked discussed it with people and the fact we can manipulate it to our advantage.
but i was never able to put it into words quite like you have done here and also extrapolate it to so many parts of life.
only 26 minutes in but felt like i just had to comment, you are creating some life changing content here
Hey charile, it'll be very good if you made a video about the thinking process and how to think properly and make decision without letting emotions affect that
The first 2 min hooked me. Legit what I'm going through the last year in my life. I am 22 years old and finding your channel this week has been the greatest channel I've come across.
Great system but don’t forget to be happy. Celebration is thankfulness, thankfulness is a secret to wealth. If you’re never happy Why then do it ? Do it while beeing happy just don’t settle. Thanks again for the knowledge shared in this video.
This is it right here. This is the truth. I’ve been wrestling with the principles/ideas discussed in this video for sometime and when I realized Charlie was speaking about the same issues I’ve battled with (but didn’t really know how to fully describe) I knew I landed in a goldmine. Thanks Charlie, this a tremendously valuable video.
Charlie, you will probably never read this but if you do I want you to know that:
You just saved my life.
You literally made me cry when going into the trauma stuff, I know there are things deep down there and I start working on them to get this done.
Thank you a million and give me 5 years and I will thank you in person in Dubai ;)
I have a lot of respect for you for opening up like that. It takes a looooot of courage to be vulnerable like that with hundreds of thousands and possibly millions of viewers who will see this.
Thanks for taking the time to share this Charlie.
Just been able to watch to the last part. Charlie. I have a very traumatic childhood. I never understood why I’m self sabotaging all the time until now. I will never forget you. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart. I hope to meet you one day. Thank you personally
Was looking forward to your video today. Thank you mate, your videos(especially the long ones) really mean a lot to me.
Respect.
"If you want to raise the ceiling, you have to bring the floor with you"
Literally gasped when you said that. You're a Buddha, man. This is SO FUCKING PERFECT. Thank you for this video. I'm bookmarking this. I take pride in my understanding of life, but I'm a total mess... I need to shut up and listen to you now.
Thank you charlie. I was also bullied and started crying. Had to pause. at 1:40:41
I'm watching this multiple times to figure this out.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
Fantastic explanation! Hats off.
I can relate to the circle of ( Pride, Comfort, Pain , Drive ) from another book I read last year: " The Power Of Letting Go" .
In that book, the circle represents as --
1. SURRENDER
2. JOY
3. EGO
4. PAIN
Once we stay in the Surrender state , we no longer get into the celebration.
Surrender state is having no Pride.
Awesome Video , Thank you mate. ❤
i really need this, i was also getting bullied and this could help me thanks man
Just went through the training you described in this video. Put on some headphones and reflected on my past and my trauma, why I am the way I am with money, relationships, and bad habits. I was able to speak with my younger self, and tell him that everything turns out just fine. We do not have anything to worry about. We’ve accomplished so much in life. Gotten rid of our insecurities, gained muscle, grew taller, became more social, have real friends, etc. Cried during that whole 30 minute session. As I approached the end it felt like weight leaving my body. I forgave everyone, and let go of grudges and having to prove a point to them. Told myself I have to become the best and we’re on that path now. Hope this video will help lots of other people, great value in this. Thank you Charlie.
The fact that Amber is one of your favourite songs makes me appreciate this even more.
Flume is a god.
Shadow work works.
Thanks for sharing this Charlie, this stuff is truly priceless.
this is probably the best psychology video on youtube, in terms of practical help, im mind blowned to learn your philosophy
I ever don't comment on youtube videos to be honest. But I felt like I needed to for this one.
As young entrepreneur in his mid 20's I think this may have been one of the best videos I've watched to date. I think the amazing thing about youtube that I was chuckling about while watching this is that listening to you speak is so refreshing because I actually feel like I can relate to someone, which doesn't happen often.
The most apparent thing from watching this video is that you actually care. I can tell this was hard for you to make but arguably this may be your most valuable videos. I clearly have a lot of learning to do about integration and I'm excited to make some progress on this because I think i've been holding myself back.
Thank you Charlie
Thanks for sharing your story and your vulnerability Charlie- what a powerful story! And never apologise for crying. It has been a privilege to be part of your learning journey. ❤
Bro you made me cry at 1:40:00 that really resonated with me and my trauma as a kid. This video really opened my eyes, thank you for opening up yourself like this to help people like me. It’s been eating me up for way too long now. But I’m here today, and I’m ok.
Your video should be shown to every single 15 yr old across the country.I feel lighter already. Omg!!! You my friend have a special gift. Thank you
The secret to constant progress is pain. Well said 👏🏻👏🏻
That's most bullshit thing i've ever read. Secret is realization you don't need pain anymore. But u were learnt wrong.
just raw content, no talking around the topic bullshit. I like that
Every time Charlie uploads a video I'm so excited to watch it immediately.
Charlie, can you please share your daily routine and how do you manage your energy? Like full 7 hrs of sleep or 4hrs in the evening and 3hrs in the afternoon?
He talked about it in his last video, its like 7 am standing up,
Morning routine (1,5h)
Work
Lunch
Work
Evening meal 8pm
Thats about his day
Thank you. My biggest takeaway from this that i badly needed was the shadow work… I knew about shadow work and Jung for a lot of years, just recently found the integration process but no one ever really outlined it as well as you did.
Anyway, i went into the memories, felt them through all POV’s. I then picked up my younger self from those dark memories and i remember he held onto me really hard. As soon as i uttered the words: ”I’ve got you”… Uncontrollable crying, full body shaking, like nothing i’ve ever experienced.. It’s like we went through a portal to the current moment and i showed him what i have now and that everything is okay. Incredible.
(I should say, i live for self-development on this scale so it wasn’t hard for me to do, especially bearing in mind the life i’ve lived up to this point.)
can you make a video on "when you want to work but you get carried off and waste your time but deep inside you want to work but irl u cant" and all the psychology behind it and how to fix that, that would be of great help and thanks for making videos like these charlie :)
Yeah!!!
@charliemofficial do this next baby 🍼
He did make that, “how to focus for 12+ hours”
There are two chapters in my life. One is for every single day from the day I was born, and the other for the days in my life to come after watching this video.
The most life-altering 2 hours I have ever spent. Thank you Charlie.
Woah. . . I did a bit of research in my mind as you said, Charlie and I think one of the reasons my younger self wanted to become successful is because
When he was younger, at school, he used to cry a lot and developed a bad reputation and perhaps he wanted to change that and become the man that gets respect from everybody. . .
Bro, that's insane. It's like a coridor lit up in my mind and I can see in that area. It's so clear now. And there are some more pain points that are more or less powerful. . .
Amazing value, Charlie.
Thanks Charlie, this is the first video on TH-cam I have seen of a man being so real. You’re extremely strong and I bet those kids that bullied you are working jobs they hate.
This has to be your best video yet, don't know how your gonna out do this one bro😅
Oh my god, I just did the shadow work, and it was more intense than I thought.
I did psychedelics in my life and those aren't even close to what I just felt.
Thank you Charlie for sharing this, I feel very unfucked and very grateful.
Howwww idek what my traumatic moments were how tf am i gonna tap into it
@@csmith411dig deep bro
What did you do?
How do you do it on your own
Wow, amazing content! This is the first time ever in my life I’m commenting on a Yt video. I’m 37 years old and have been looking for answers for my self destructing behavior for a loooong time now. By watching this video, everything suddenly clicked. Thank you!
Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing. Great stuff and super helpful. I appreciate your candor.
The actionable advice from the video:
Recognize and understand the two sides of yourself:
One that builds and grows, and another that destroys.
By mapping your behavior on an oscillation graph, you can identify patterns of behavior between peaks and troughs.
The key is to channel the pain and negative emotions experienced during low points into fuel for progress, maintaining a mindset of discomfort and striving for continuous improvement.
Additionally, it's essential to address underlying traumas or psychological blocks that may be hindering progress, as resolving these issues can lead to breakthroughs and clarity in pursuing goals.
Those types of videos are top tier ❤
I am going to be 24, I am so thankful I found and pushed through this entire video. It took me 4 hours. I am so grateful for your insights and understanding. I am so thankful you talk about all the things my body, mind and soul have been asking me to address.
I will be forever grateful to you, you changed my whole life and I will continue to preach on your behalf for the whole world to hear that you saved me from huge financial debt with just a small Investment, thank you Ava Maria Turner you're such a life saver.
The very first time we tried, we invested $1000 and after a week, we received $4500. That really helped us a lot to pay up our bills.
SHe's always active on....Nicegram
@InvestWithAva
Watched from start to end. Please keep your content un-monetized. More people should watched this. God bless you.
Today's the day. No more mediocrity
This explains why when I peak at $1000/mon I revneue online I slack off and quit posting.
I posted videos that have gotten 300k+ and 900k+ views and then right after those videos I don’t post and I see now why I do this. The sense of Pride and Comfort I feel when I’m at what I tell myself is my top.
I had to sit there and think what happened to me as a kid like you said at the end. I feel I was always praised as a kid and had no criticism. I always did what was right and people always put me up on a pedestal. I was the A+++ student and did everything right. When my videos went crazy I would attract negative feedback and wouldn’t continue. I didn’t want to push through the criticism because it was foreign to me and I became comfortable with the $1500/month and my life style didn’t need anymore.
This video is really good. Thank you.
Please remove this video😂 not a lot of people deserve it, this should be paid to watch or smth. (I am sorry about your trauma btw) You greattt!
For real 😂😂😂 he drop some gem
Everyone who is willing deserves to get this for free
Ahh greed...
They won’t apply it anyway
Charlie...Thank you so much for having the courage to share your stories in this video. I was bullied as well. This video has made my day, and I will be doing this exercise tonight to start healing my inner child. Blessings to you!
Give Sam Ovens some credit
Edit: He did.
I was looking for this
Bro’s just stealing OG Sam’s videos
1:05:05
This is one of the best, no bullshit channels on TH-cam. Thank you so much Charlie for the value you provide in your videos.
Damn man, this is probably the one video on the internet that hit me deep, got me remembering all my memories. It is true that to be different to the normal, one must have different experiences to what normal people go through. I’m grateful for all that happening, because it led me to this point in life. Have a great day boys, we will all make it- with enough pain will come growth, it comes slow but it will inevitably be here if you keep going.
I've seen his amazing house 3 times at this point, and it only just motivates me more! He is not flashy, he just genuinely does this to help. Thank you Charlie. By the way, Its scary how accurate you are about us. 😂
I am so glad I didn’t click off when my TikTok brain told me to. I watched the whole video and I will do exactly what you did and put myself in the state of that young kid that is a victim.
bro your point about single mother household father not being around, i never understood it at first, maybe because i was pushing it away like you said. but after watching this again, it hit me. I'm the way i am because my dad would always say he was too busy or didnt have enough money when i was young. i have psychologically trapped this part of me and its never been dealt with. and it now makes sense why i am the way i am. and that needs to change . thank you for allowing me to understand myself more.
magik mushrooms gets rid of ptsd and thats your answer.
Ive been noticing this inner child concept since new year, and this video has convinced me that its what im supposed to do next. Thank you Charlie
Charlie.... man.... what a video! Thank you for being so humble, sharing your tears and trauma. Thank you for being so authentic. You are a real man doing just that, just a top G. Respect and lots of love. Thank you
i'm so proud of you man, you went through that much shit and still you grow to inspire and help other people. congrats
I'm 24 and I wish I was told this 6 years ago. I couldn't runaway from trauma anymore and crashed sometime towards the end of last year and have been working on resenting and learning new patterns. This video has been key, I'd like to thank you for your good work and not only breaking this down but pushing yourself through it as a former victim, God knows it's not easy.
Just want to say good luck to Charlie and anyone who's had their own fair share of trouble. We can do the work!
This dude is a bloody genius
Absolutely love the content super informative and to sit here and hear how a millionaires brain works makes absolute sense you have to FOCUS 💯
I actually tried what you discussed about sitting down and thinking back on your trauma, it felt really good. Thank you for having been that vulnerable in front of us
49:00 - 1:03:30 it’s all about making pain to increase standards. Make your “content” level about something your rock bottoms to enforce pain to raise the standards - “We do not become the highest version of ourselves that we imagine, we become the lowest level of standards we are willing to accept.”
All of these concepts weren't knew to me, but the way you thoroughly explain everything and form this huge, detailed narrative resonates on such a fundamental level that I have no words. Processed some trauma myself during the second half ngl.
This video showed me that I'm already on the right path, but now it's like I just turned the headlights on. Thank you!
Charlie, you'll probably never see this, but this is the best video I've ever seen on youtube, ever. And I've been watching self improvement and biz content for 4 years.... THANK YOU.
I’m 55 mins in and very grateful you opened up to share this with us.
Daaaaaamn Charlie you outstand yourself! I made it to the end with relief that this was the thing I needed to hear since looooong fricking time. as you said "thank you for watching", I say back to you thank you for talking.
Watched this video more than 3 times now and I absolutely love it. I think something I'd love to see is an explanation on how to make your goals into standards, because that's something I'm still struggling to apply.
Charlie, I'm 18, I'm about to turn 19, and I'm very grateful to be able to learn and shape my reality. thank you very much really thank you very much
I am pursuing my dream of being a professional basketball player while I want to raise my family to a better life, I will advance my goals by embracing work and evolutionary pain
I watched the entire video and it's beautiful. I know exactly what you're talking about because I've been through it. In fact, after a year and a half of psychotherapy, I woke up thinking 'I see the unconscious.' My life has changed at an incredible speed since then, and pain is an integral part of my life and my main balance. I too have been bullied, mocked, lost a sister when I was young, was betrayed in a 10-year relationship, and injured my knee playing sports. But things have never been better. Not only have I recovered, but I am managing to do everything I never could before, including diving into sales with intelligence and happiness (and of course, growing my photography studio). Your videos are unique and have deeply touched me. In the future, we will work together, as soon as I am ready. Thank you for your dedication.
Pain. What does that feel like. I get that. But how it actually feel like. I have my blood pressure raising and heart thumping. Is this how the pain he talk about should I always have. Kindly can you say me something about this. ( because I misunderstood something like if I am always under this pain. I might have medical issues. What exactly or how should the pain be.) Kindly reply😊
I have been trying to figure this cycle out for 4 years. You just explained the whole thing to me, thank you so much.
I got chills watching this video, just thinking about things I experienced as a child gave me a lot of emotions but since I understand why I deeply thank you Charlie your video, I'm only 17 but I'm convinced that your already changed the course of my life. 🙏