Story 1 - NTA. Story 2- NTA. I would have done a LOT worst then that. Even though it was your sisters day, that does NOT give her the excuse to be POS bigot. She however is TAH. STORY 3 - NTA. Speaking as a stay at home mom of 5 kids ranging from 8-18, I will say your BF is definitely using your step kids as a tool against you. I will not lie, there are times when I go grocery shopping or run errands & one or more kid will say “Can I go with you?” 90% of the time I say “Of course” but the other 10% I’ll say “Not this time. Mom needs a little time to herself. Just like how sometimes you like to just play you PS4 by yourself or you want to just watch a little bit of YT by yourself, sometimes mom just needs a little time to herself too. Everyone needs a little alone time once in a while. It’s not a bad thing & doesn’t mean anything bad”. They don’t get mad or upset with me. Neither should your step kids.
For number 1 omg go girl! That can cause so much trauma thee as t the kids DONT deserve! What an awful stepmom! You are so in the right for doing this because it costs you a lot to do that! But you did the right thing!
@@Shlyna.g trauma can manifest in many ways and while YOU may be fine, they may not be the case with someone else. Stop using your experiences as a rule for everyone else’s
@@Shlyna.g what that stepmom is doing is abuse. It can affect the way the kids react in relationships of any kind and how they see themselves. It can even lead to them allowing others to abuse them in the future or even self-harm. It's not ok. Most don't come out ok. A lot of the time those that say they did just don't notice the side effects from it. I have delt with it mental and emotional abuse myself and even with being told I'm far to strong willed and logical for it to take hold of me (by someone that studies psychology). There are still effects from it.
Story 3 - the fact that she even had to submit her story shows how incredible of a manipulator this person is. He’s uses his kids like puppets in order to keep everything exactly as he wants it, which is whatever is easiest for him. He doesn’t love you.. he never will.. now go be free and don’t you dare use the kids as an excuse to stay. Don’t do that to yourself. Choose YOU. This isn’t your mess, this isn’t your family, your life is waiting for you to leave so that you can live it.
3rd story: He's the parent. His job to find a sitter. No you are NOT TA!! Go to the wedding. Let the cards fall where they may. I imagine you should be single soon. He's a RED FLAG for sure.
Story 1: obviously NTA like come on. Story 2: I would apologize with the sole purpose of saying, “yeah I’m sorry you decided that you wanted to be an AH at your own wedding. And sorry that your AH moment caused us to get up and leave. And I’m also sorry that your AHness caused you to look bad at your own wedding. I’m also sorry that now my kids and I don’t like you right now because you acted like an AH.” Lol I’m just petty. NTA. Story 3: wouldn’t even tell him anything. I would just my stuff to a friends house that I would be taking to the wedding for safe keeping because I know this man would probably sabotage her chances of going. And the day before I’m ‘expected’ to leave I’ll just leave and don’t come back. This is extremely toxic who knows what he’ll force control over her next. NTA.
Yea my sibling never changed their name. but they get constantly missgendered by our grandparents aunt and uncle and 1 of our cousins. I don't blame the kid because he doesn't even know what a Trans person really is thanks to his parents. But like seriously my grandparents and aunt and uncle get on my nerves.
No, you are absolutely not wrong. You are definitely right obviously the only two people that care about protecting those babies are you and their mother you did the right thing way to go girl
6:00 everything you make is always so gorgeous but I think this heart is one of my favorites! The colors are gorgeous! Keep up the amazing content its always very entertaining
Story 2- NTA! At all! That’s awesome that you support your son like that and ur sister should have never used her dead name and if anything she would have ruined her own wedding by being so disrespectful! You the father accept him and his aunt can’t. Smh she is horrible
Story 1 no ur not the asshole ur looking out for the kids cause they deserve love and respect:story 2 not at all ur just defending ur son against someone who’s oppressing him:story 3 it’s him cause at the end of the day those r his kids and u deserve time off especially cause that’s ur family and ur gonna support ur sister if he can’t deal he can chill out cause it seems like he does nothing for those kids cause now they rely on u
What the hell is wrong with the sister in story 2? The dad clearly set boundaries and she knew her nephew had transitioned 2 years before so it’s not like this was a last minute change. How does her nephew’s gender affect her wedding? It cost nothing to be nice.
Story 1 - NTA, the only reason your sis doesn't want them to go is to let her insecurities and anger out on them. Story 2 - NTA, she ruined her own wedding by being homophobic 🤷♀️ Story 3 - NTA, you should dump him, it's obvious he doesn't love you he just wants a free babysitter, it's his kids so he needs to own up to being a parent too
Only got through the first story atm. As a child of abuse, I wish somebody did this for me. My mother was mentally abused and her wife was physically abused, everyone in our family new, save her wife's family who I met like once or twice. The differences was my dad, though he knew, did nothing about it, his family and even his wife when he remarried kept pushing him to fight for cu7and to get me out of there since they couldn't give they technically had no legal standings. Sadly my dad didn't, and still doesn't, give a shit. I just lucky that eventually I was finally able to live with my aunt on my dad's side who loves me like her own child after I was 16. Sadly I was already so fucked up I didn't know how to just be happy and loved, and it took years to straighten myself out and realize why I kept sabotaging, and that I was even doing it, myself. I will always be grateful to her and my dad's extended family who always made sure I knew I was loved.
Story 1, obviously not the ah.. if the fiancé is okay with his kids being treated horribly, getting mentally abused by their stepmom, he seriously needs to lose custody. If the ex wife is really an amazing person it’s for the best the kids stay with her completely. And if the step mom (op sister) rly said it would be better for the ten year to disappear completely, I don’t even understand why she cares. Maybe just so she can continue making the ten year old her punching bag.
Story 2: NTA I understand that it was your sisters big day and nothing should ruin that. But if your sister really cared about everything being perfect she could’ve just used his correct name and be fine with the outfit he wears instead of making a huge fuss about it.
Story 1: NTA, these people totally deserve that Story 2: also NTA, OP is just being a good and supportive dad. They didn't even ruin the wedding, they just left because the sister transformed into bridezilla Story 3: NTA again, that man seems to be made out of red flags! Get's me wondering how they ended up together in the first place...
Story 3- Pack up everything you can take with you. go to the wedding and never come back. It'll suck for the kids but you are being used as a hole and baby sitter.
The last story like mabey the wedding was kids free because it's one of those ones where you lose you virginity like does John really want his kids seeing that
Story 1: NTA I mean you kinda are for letting it go on for so long. But you did the right thing. Story 2 good for you NTA Story 3 leave run go. You seem like a wonderful stepmother and the way you spoke you love the boys but your husband doesn't wanna take care of his own children and says things to the children to hurt you . Leave
No you protected children who were to scared to speak out. And they deserve to be loved. If the father cared he wouldn't let his new wife mistreat his children
4:39 if her calling him by her birth name was an accident I would’ve agreed with her that you shouldn’t of lashed out, but she actively and openly said that she was using “her real name” I really don’t understand what names have to do with gender, but if that’s his name just saying it really doesn’t matter what you call somebody.
Names often come with gender. Zach is commonly a boy’s name, Leah a girl’s name etc, and most trans people associate their deadname with being misgendered and overall someone who isn’t them. I chose my real name because for me my deadname came with years of hating myself and not knowing why. Also please don’t refer to it as a “birth name” as it gives the impression that it’s okay to use a trans person’s deadname.
@@OliverStarfall what about unisex names like Aaron and Riley? In my opinion names should have nothing to do with your gender, and birth name only referred to the name you were given by your parents. I think it should be normalized to call it birth name because it’s not like that side of you is dead, you’re still you, you just changed gender, and possibly your name.
@@OliverStarfall and using birth name doesn’t give that impression. If I have a really terrible name And prefer to be called Riley, and say” I hate my birth name” do you think someone else would say “ I’m sorry (birth name)” they wouldn’t they would call me by my nickname because they know I don’t like it.
@@mischievousia4582 I can’t tell if you’re trying to, but it really seems like you’re talking down to me (a trans man) about a trans experience :| We refer to it as dead name because it’s dead to us. That name doesn’t belong to us anymore nor does the past it represents (which is normally pain and suffering) All I said was the reasons why a trans person might change their name and you’re saying we shouldn’t? Our names and deadnames are our own and you can’t police what we do. If you’re saying that society as a whole shouldn’t gender names then okay, but it seems like you’re JUST talking about trans people. I gave you an answer to your question and all you’re doing is getting defensive. Seems like I shouldn’t have given you any of my time in the first place if you’re being a stubborn weirdo about it.
@@OliverStarfall I wasn’t getting defensive, you’re getting defensive, and I was truly don’t know why. In the way you brought that you’re trans shoving it down my throat, I really don’t care that you’re trans, It is none of my or anyone else’s business except yours or your families. Bringing in that your tran doesn’t change anything. I know in the past that works for you but it doesn’t work here, “ you’re racist if you don’t“ “you’re homophobic if you don’t” “you’re trans phobic if you don’t-“ The way people bring their gender, their beliefs, their race into everything is annoying. I don’t care if you’re trans, I am not telling you about your experiences, and the way you talk about the other name is like you don’t care about that other half of you, which is wrong and stupid. just because that other half isn’t what you want to be doesn’t mean you shouldn’t nurture it, because in the end you’re going to wonder why you’re depressed but it’s because you didn’t care about all of you just what you wanted.
For story 3, NTA. That man is incredibly toxic and you need to get out of there. Go to your sister's wedding. Then dump him, from what I am hearing from the story, you'd do better without him.
My sister is like that makes the man chose her over everyone of his loved ones their mom and dads best friends then kids It’s awful I guess cause she was oldest of 5 girls. Idk She’s ditched 2 full families In 25 years Well good luck all God sees
Some own sister tell you her sister is treating your kids wrong and you in turn just say she is a good stepmother. Child I would of slapped the holt hell out of him.
Story 3. You aren't the asshole for supporting your son over you daughter Also the family didn't take your side means that they might be kind of insensitive or deceptive for not understanding conners point of view
Story 3- NTA-he’s an asshole. Using you for babysitting for free! I cannot believe he would ever try and say she would choose her sister over them. It’s not a choice over anyone. It’s a wedding. You can’t be bothered to take care of ur own kids but she shld skip anything and everything for them. I feel so bad for those kids. No wonder they cling to her. He’s a POS!!!
I dont think she ruined the wedding but she shouldn't have even put her son through that knowing her sister. The family in general do not agree because they are taking the sister side
Nta #3 us as women just have to realize what can come with being with a man with kids from prior relationships especially if he had full custody realistically he is going to expect you to take on that mother and the kids will naturally connect to you so i do not blame the kids. He know what he doing though he trying to use them kids to get his way and he manipulating his women and the kids
Awesome art! 1st story: you did the right thing 2nd story: first, you should apologize to your sister and she should apologize to you. Second, you should reconsider ruining that little girl’s life by taking her through an irreversible, life altering decision at such a young age. She will hate you forever if she changes her mind later. Then you will have another video about how ungrateful she is for giving her what she wanted as a child. I beg of you to please not do that to her.
People under 18 can't get the pills unless their parents say it's ok and that's only if the kid is 17 or 16 and you need to be 18 to get the surgery, and he's been trans for 2 years so I think he is set in being a guy
1. OP=NTA 2. OP=NTA 3. OP=NTA Do I really need to say an explanation? Story one: OP is standing up for those poor kids. The kids have NOT been abused physically from what the story says but they definitely have been abused mentally. OP and the kids’ mom deserve an award. Also OP’S parents picked favorites. Story two: Can’t the sister be supportive of her nephew? Sure Connor may not have transitioned physically yet but Connor is Connor and Connor is not Nia. Story three: The relationship was toxic. Like John, just let OP go to her only sister’s wedding. It’s not that hard. Also, John, have you ever heard of hiring a babysitter? Therefore none of the OP’s are the AH.
Story One : NOT THE ASSHOLE ; the sister could kill them children you saving they life !! Story Two : How that’s homophobic 😢 Story Three : They not even her kids he’s being super weird, when he doesn’t even be around his own children 🤦🏾♀️
@@e33977 the sister was being supportive at her own wedding. Had her preffered name Nia at the table and everything. But yet the mother continued to insist that "her son" would wear a suit & tie just like all the other men in the wedding. Thereby, dismissing her "son's" preferred gender identity. All this for fact of saving face for herself in front of the other relatives. Which is completely rude and disrespectful. So she owes her son the apology first and foremost. And an apology to the sister for treating her poorly and disregarding her supportiveness. She needs to learn how to be a better mother and a sister.
@@leashy1204 ah well you see- you got the story twisted up the fathers son was actually born female but transitioned from female to male but the sister was the one who disrespected the son and deadnamed him
Exactly what Meiji said. The sister deadnamed her nephew the day before when OP showed the boys’ outfits, asking, “Where is Nia’s dress?”. She was told not to deadname him and that they won’t go if she calls him by the wrong name. She got mad when she saw him wearing a tie and had a name card with his deadname. She proceeded to say, “Nia can be a guy any other day“ when Conner had socially transitioned 2 years prior. OP is NTA, the sister is and she owes her nephew an apology.
Okay, after watching the full video and getting the whole story (and for those of you stumbling upon this, basically he did it for a tiktok trend), I’m gonna say that everyone sucks here The ex didn’t have to call her a bitch, especially since she was doing him a favor. And instead of apologizing, he just used the “oh, it’s a tiktok trend” shit and doubled down on calling her a bitch. Doesn’t matter if it was a joke or a trend or whatever, it’s demeaning and incredibly hurtful to call anyone a bitch or whatever for literally no reason (it’s different if it was said often in a more joking manner, but based on the story, I doubt it was) But, OP also didn’t have to intentionally throw the sauce into the carpet. It’d be one thing if it was accidental, but intentional? Nah, that’s a dick move right there
1. NTA 2. TA 3. NTA - You aren't their slave nor nanny. Don't have children and use women to take care of children that aren't theirs. I feel bad for them children and he needs to be a father and grow up.
Why 2 TAH He literally tells and they already know his son is trans? She is being transphobic If she didn't want the drama she shouldn't even invite them to humiliate them
@@yuri-lf7mx TAH because the parent didn't have to go in the first place and the woman showed signs of not respecting the lifestyle of the child. The parent subjected the child to this and embarrass them yet the wedding is hers and she has every right to do as she pleases. No one owes anyone anything, yes that includes respect. The parent is TAH because the parent knew the signs, disrespected the wedding and the child then acted as the hero. As I said before, no one owes anyone any respect, including lifestyle choices. She showed signs and should've either not have gone or went by themselves. The story sounds fake anyways.
@@monochromemoses8894 well First of all when she did the mistake for the first time the father said he'll not be in the wedding if she'll be like this ...but his sister insisted to come If she knew what would happen why did she even invite them and insult his father and his son like that.
@@monochromemoses8894 also idk why do you think transphobia sounds fake cause honey cis transphobia go extended to this low everytime They do without even realising it .. Also trans people are not by choice because lifestyle and stuff is choice but trans people didn't choose to be trans it's what they are
@@yuri-lf7mx as I said before, you choose to go and the disrespect was there before hand regardless if she insisted. It is her wedding and even if she was rude you don't go somewhere you aren't respected the first time. No one is entitled to someone's event even if they are trans. Idc about transphobia because everything is transphobia nowadays. Don't subject someone to the issue if the signs were present, the parent had a lack of awareness and the woman was rude but in the end, the parent subjected that child to this. No one owes anyone respect for a lifestyle, regardless of how you feel about the issue of trans people.
1 NTA but sister and parents those who agree with parents and fiance; husband of sister are. So happy that OP just so happens to see the kid's mom and when asked told the truth and I love that her cousins are doing the same thing. 2 ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NTA He stuck up for her town just like a mother son I am so proud of her I am quite upset with her sister and the other members of the family who went out on OP for picking up for her child shame on them as thousand times the shame. 3 NTA tl there is absolutely nothing wrong with OP wanting to go to her sister's wedding He's not being selfish in anyway saving form for wanting to go to her sister's wedding The One who being the a-hole and the jackass and shelf it is John and him alone I feel very sorry for his kids and for OP.
Your his girlfriend not his wife and not their mother. He needs to man up and perant his kids. Get in touch with his late wife's family about how he is behaving.
Story 1: Not really a whim and honestly, this "blood is thicker then water" nonsense is gotten to people's head, the children need a good and safe inviroment, and since your sister is not doing her job, you've saved these kids from a horrible childhood and your parents, as parents, should've seen it, agreed with you and stood by you. There is no way that a parent will see that and not care, would you like it if it was your kids? Probably not. And I mean a real parent, the ones who raise a child, not the ones that are biologically connected or play house.
Story one: NTA those kids were likely being mentally abused by that woman. You likely saved them from her because it’s very likely that the dad was being treated neglectful, but the stepmom sounds like Lady Tremaine from Cinderella. Story 2: NTA AT ALL, your sister was LITERALLY BEING TRANSPHOBIC, she should’ve called your son by his preferred name and pronouns to make her wedding more inclusive for your son Story 3: FAR FROM THE ASSHOLE, the man should have just gotten a babysitter or taken work off. He’s being so controlling and for what? Also IT’S YOUR SISTER’S WEDDING PLUS, ITS ONW EVENT. Surely he could’ve just hired a babysitter or gotten a family member to take care of the kids. Yeah the kids are innocent but the dad is a man child.
I'm sorry but in story 2, you can't force people to think of your daughter as a son simply because you want them to. Some people have a problem with it, and that's okay. It sounds like there may have been an inkling that she would do something like that.
story 2: that's a 14-year-old kid and they might have gender dysphoria now if was an adult then whatever that's their choice as long as they are in the right mental place to do so but that's a kid and it's not right but at the same time everyone deserves respect as human beings, and the aunt could have approached it in a different manner *edit* it's cool to have your own opinion about this but you disagree please answer this question for me, how is a child in the right mental state to determine if they are "transgender"?
I discovered I was transgender at the age of 10 and now I am an adult trans man. Kids above the age of 8-9 know what they want and who they want to be. They know when they’re comfortable and uncomfortable. The kid in this story was 14, bit older than most people who figure out that they’re trans at a young age. And even if the kid (though I’d think a 14 year old should be considered a teen) ends up reverting back to his gender assigned at birth, it’s at-least good for his parent to support him no matter what his decision ends up being.
I found out I was trans at twelve. Stfu about not being in the right “mental state”. We’re you in the right mental state to determine that you were cis? Or that you were whatever sexuality you are? It’s a process of self discovery and often being trans comes with dysphoria and hating how you appear and how people refer to you. Oh my GOD I want to hold you by your ankles and shake you until your lunch money falls out you idiotic child. If you are not trans, you shouldnt be speaking for OUR EXPERIENCES.
He socially transitions which means he just came out but to everyone and wears manly clothes and you know things But he hasn't transition physically which means he didn't do any operation yet
Story 1 - NTA.
Story 2- NTA. I would have done a LOT worst then that. Even though it was your sisters day, that does NOT give her the excuse to be POS bigot. She however is TAH.
STORY 3 - NTA. Speaking as a stay at home mom of 5 kids ranging from 8-18, I will say your BF is definitely using your step kids as a tool against you. I will not lie, there are times when I go grocery shopping or run errands & one or more kid will say “Can I go with you?” 90% of the time I say “Of course” but the other 10% I’ll say “Not this time. Mom needs a little time to herself. Just like how sometimes you like to just play you PS4 by yourself or you want to just watch a little bit of YT by yourself, sometimes mom just needs a little time to herself too. Everyone needs a little alone time once in a while. It’s not a bad thing & doesn’t mean anything bad”. They don’t get mad or upset with me. Neither should your step kids.
100% agree thank you for saying that
Worst part is, they aren’t her step kids. She’s not married to that guy
Story 3: girl, leave the relationship. It’s toxic and he is manipulating you into being the nanny
Ikr like it’s her sisters wedding for gods sake
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For number 1 omg go girl! That can cause so much trauma thee as t the kids DONT deserve! What an awful stepmom! You are so in the right for doing this because it costs you a lot to do that! But you did the right thing!
Well it sounds a lot like my step mom with me and my little sister. And I am still ok in life.
@@Shlyna.g trauma can manifest in many ways and while YOU may be fine, they may not be the case with someone else. Stop using your experiences as a rule for everyone else’s
@@Shlyna.g what that stepmom is doing is abuse. It can affect the way the kids react in relationships of any kind and how they see themselves. It can even lead to them allowing others to abuse them in the future or even self-harm. It's not ok. Most don't come out ok. A lot of the time those that say they did just don't notice the side effects from it. I have delt with it mental and emotional abuse myself and even with being told I'm far to strong willed and logical for it to take hold of me (by someone that studies psychology). There are still effects from it.
Story 3 - the fact that she even had to submit her story shows how incredible of a manipulator this person is. He’s uses his kids like puppets in order to keep everything exactly as he wants it, which is whatever is easiest for him. He doesn’t love you.. he never will.. now go be free and don’t you dare use the kids as an excuse to stay. Don’t do that to yourself. Choose YOU. This isn’t your mess, this isn’t your family, your life is waiting for you to leave so that you can live it.
She needs therapy too cause it looks like he has gotten to her head a lot
Please get out of that relationship live ur life
Story 1, NTA, the kids comes first no matter what. I appreciate what you did. You saved those kids from so much trauma.
The first story she did a mean thing, but it was also the right thing. Kids need someone to stand up for them. They are lucky to have you.
3rd story: He's the parent. His job to find a sitter. No you are NOT TA!! Go to the wedding. Let the cards fall where they may. I imagine you should be single soon. He's a RED FLAG for sure.
what a great dad in the second one :)
Story 2: that father is a hero straight up lol
Edit: also, holy heck, I love your stuff 😍😍😍 it's so cool!!!!
Story 1: obviously NTA like come on.
Story 2: I would apologize with the sole purpose of saying, “yeah I’m sorry you decided that you wanted to be an AH at your own wedding. And sorry that your AH moment caused us to get up and leave. And I’m also sorry that your AHness caused you to look bad at your own wedding. I’m also sorry that now my kids and I don’t like you right now because you acted like an AH.” Lol I’m just petty. NTA.
Story 3: wouldn’t even tell him anything. I would just my stuff to a friends house that I would be taking to the wedding for safe keeping because I know this man would probably sabotage her chances of going. And the day before I’m ‘expected’ to leave I’ll just leave and don’t come back. This is extremely toxic who knows what he’ll force control over her next. NTA.
Story 1: As a kid who was bullied by adults, no you're not ta at all please continue to stand up for kids
Story 2: I’m trans and I feel the same, it sucks to get deadname and I’m so sorry about this
Yea my sibling never changed their name. but they get constantly missgendered by our grandparents aunt and uncle and 1 of our cousins. I don't blame the kid because he doesn't even know what a Trans person really is thanks to his parents. But like seriously my grandparents and aunt and uncle get on my nerves.
Story 1 no you are an amazing person for caring so much about your sisters step children
No, you are absolutely not wrong. You are definitely right obviously the only two people that care about protecting those babies are you and their mother you did the right thing way to go girl
First story- NTAH
Second story- NTAH
Third story- NTAH
Story 1: your awesome protect those kids ur doing the right thing
3rd story, man is a WALKING RED FLAG!
6:00 everything you make is always so gorgeous but I think this heart is one of my favorites! The colors are gorgeous! Keep up the amazing content its always very entertaining
Story 2- NTA! At all! That’s awesome that you support your son like that and ur sister should have never used her dead name and if anything she would have ruined her own wedding by being so disrespectful! You the father accept him and his aunt can’t. Smh she is horrible
Story 1 no ur not the asshole ur looking out for the kids cause they deserve love and respect:story 2 not at all ur just defending ur son against someone who’s oppressing him:story 3 it’s him cause at the end of the day those r his kids and u deserve time off especially cause that’s ur family and ur gonna support ur sister if he can’t deal he can chill out cause it seems like he does nothing for those kids cause now they rely on u
Story 2: nothing is owed at all to that sister. If she can't accept the nephew then neither the op or the son have to accept her. NTA
All these turned out so pretty, the last one was my fav ✨❤️
I can relate to those kids.. my stepmom does the same things basically
The second story is just plain bullshit from OP’s sister. If I elaborate anymore you’ll have a book, so NTA
Pls write me a book🥺
@@The_Life_Stealer 😭
could you do lavender and baby blue cancer?
“Never trust a man named John/Jon”
That’s not possible for me! Hahaha! I have to many family members named that!
What the hell is wrong with the sister in story 2? The dad clearly set boundaries and she knew her nephew had transitioned 2 years before so it’s not like this was a last minute change. How does her nephew’s gender affect her wedding? It cost nothing to be nice.
Your a good person first story
That last story with the stepkids yeah yeah I saw a red and red flags and fire and everything else
Story 1 - NTA, the only reason your sis doesn't want them to go is to let her insecurities and anger out on them.
Story 2 - NTA, she ruined her own wedding by being homophobic 🤷♀️
Story 3 - NTA, you should dump him, it's obvious he doesn't love you he just wants a free babysitter, it's his kids so he needs to own up to being a parent too
Story 1: not the ahole like … go girl
Story 2: not the ahole she’s ok for protecting Connor
Story 3: not the ahole, HES THE A HOLE that’s ssoooo toxic
For the third one what was he doing before she was in the picture?!
Only got through the first story atm. As a child of abuse, I wish somebody did this for me. My mother was mentally abused and her wife was physically abused, everyone in our family new, save her wife's family who I met like once or twice. The differences was my dad, though he knew, did nothing about it, his family and even his wife when he remarried kept pushing him to fight for cu7and to get me out of there since they couldn't give they technically had no legal standings. Sadly my dad didn't, and still doesn't, give a shit. I just lucky that eventually I was finally able to live with my aunt on my dad's side who loves me like her own child after I was 16. Sadly I was already so fucked up I didn't know how to just be happy and loved, and it took years to straighten myself out and realize why I kept sabotaging, and that I was even doing it, myself. I will always be grateful to her and my dad's extended family who always made sure I knew I was loved.
Story 1 evil sister mil: no youre not wrong bc you are taking care of the children who are clearly in the weong hands
To the person reading these Reddit post you have an absolutely beautiful voice
Story 1, obviously not the ah.. if the fiancé is okay with his kids being treated horribly, getting mentally abused by their stepmom, he seriously needs to lose custody. If the ex wife is really an amazing person it’s for the best the kids stay with her completely. And if the step mom (op sister) rly said it would be better for the ten year to disappear completely, I don’t even understand why she cares. Maybe just so she can continue making the ten year old her punching bag.
Story 2: 'She can be a boy any other day' Thats not how it works
So👏🏻Pretty👏🏻
Story 1 nta someone has to have the kids back. Hopefully mom lets you remain in the kids life
Story 3: Gurl… D.I.V.O.R.C.E.
"Never trust a man named john"
My grandfather named John: What?
My dad in heaven, also named John: What did she just say?
Story #2- Connor is going to grow up to be an AMAZING MAN because HE has Ana amazing father ❤️❤️
Story 3: I guess it's time OP write her "dear John" letter... 🤷🏼♂️
Bro, the first story sounds like my step mom with me and my little sister! But like for real though 😮
1- NTA! She acts like children are 21!
I want to know is it bad that I’m addicted to these videos we’re they just tell stories because it’s so juicy
Story 2: NTA I understand that it was your sisters big day and nothing should ruin that. But if your sister really cared about everything being perfect she could’ve just used his correct name and be fine with the outfit he wears instead of making a huge fuss about it.
IM SORRY !?! If he LETS YOU go to the wedding!?? HELL NO. Run
John is trying to force home girl to be a mom
Story 1: NTA, these people totally deserve that
Story 2: also NTA, OP is just being a good and supportive dad. They didn't even ruin the wedding, they just left because the sister transformed into bridezilla
Story 3: NTA again, that man seems to be made out of red flags! Get's me wondering how they ended up together in the first place...
imagine a man telling u, u cant attend ur sisters wedding because u have to take care of his kids... LOL nope!!!
S1 - NTA
S2-NTA
S3-NTA, leave this man
"*deadname* can be a boy another day"
That's not how it works hun
For story 1
Story 3- Pack up everything you can take with you. go to the wedding and never come back. It'll suck for the kids but you are being used as a hole and baby sitter.
NTA in all three stories.
You need to leave him those ain’t your kids they ain’t your responsibility
No you're a good step aunt
1 story:no no ur not ur caring for the kids
The last story like mabey the wedding was kids free because it's one of those ones where you lose you virginity like does John really want his kids seeing that
Story 1: NTA I mean you kinda are for letting it go on for so long. But you did the right thing.
Story 2 good for you NTA
Story 3 leave run go. You seem like a wonderful stepmother and the way you spoke you love the boys but your husband doesn't wanna take care of his own children and says things to the children to hurt you . Leave
No you protected children who were to scared to speak out. And they deserve to be loved. If the father cared he wouldn't let his new wife mistreat his children
4:39 if her calling him by her birth name was an accident I would’ve agreed with her that you shouldn’t of lashed out, but she actively and openly said that she was using “her real name” I really don’t understand what names have to do with gender, but if that’s his name just saying it really doesn’t matter what you call somebody.
Names often come with gender. Zach is commonly a boy’s name, Leah a girl’s name etc, and most trans people associate their deadname with being misgendered and overall someone who isn’t them. I chose my real name because for me my deadname came with years of hating myself and not knowing why. Also please don’t refer to it as a “birth name” as it gives the impression that it’s okay to use a trans person’s deadname.
@@OliverStarfall what about unisex names like Aaron and Riley? In my opinion names should have nothing to do with your gender, and birth name only referred to the name you were given by your parents. I think it should be normalized to call it birth name because it’s not like that side of you is dead, you’re still you, you just changed gender, and possibly your name.
@@OliverStarfall and using birth name doesn’t give that impression. If I have a really terrible name And prefer to be called Riley, and say” I hate my birth name” do you think someone else would say “ I’m sorry (birth name)” they wouldn’t they would call me by my nickname because they know I don’t like it.
@@mischievousia4582 I can’t tell if you’re trying to, but it really seems like you’re talking down to me (a trans man) about a trans experience :|
We refer to it as dead name because it’s dead to us. That name doesn’t belong to us anymore nor does the past it represents (which is normally pain and suffering)
All I said was the reasons why a trans person might change their name and you’re saying we shouldn’t? Our names and deadnames are our own and you can’t police what we do.
If you’re saying that society as a whole shouldn’t gender names then okay, but it seems like you’re JUST talking about trans people.
I gave you an answer to your question and all you’re doing is getting defensive. Seems like I shouldn’t have given you any of my time in the first place if you’re being a stubborn weirdo about it.
@@OliverStarfall I wasn’t getting defensive, you’re getting defensive, and I was truly don’t know why. In the way you brought that you’re trans shoving it down my throat, I really don’t care that you’re trans, It is none of my or anyone else’s business except yours or your families. Bringing in that your tran doesn’t change anything. I know in the past that works for you but it doesn’t work here,
“ you’re racist if you don’t“
“you’re homophobic if you don’t”
“you’re trans phobic if you don’t-“
The way people bring their gender, their beliefs, their race into everything is annoying. I don’t care if you’re trans, I am not telling you about your experiences, and the way you talk about the other name is like you don’t care about that other half of you, which is wrong and stupid. just because that other half isn’t what you want to be doesn’t mean you shouldn’t nurture it, because in the end you’re going to wonder why you’re depressed but it’s because you didn’t care about all of you just what you wanted.
For story 3, NTA. That man is incredibly toxic and you need to get out of there. Go to your sister's wedding. Then dump him, from what I am hearing from the story, you'd do better without him.
Story 3 I'd leave, I feel bad for the kids tho.
My sister is like that makes the man chose her over everyone of his loved ones their mom and dads best friends then kids
It’s awful
I guess cause she was oldest of 5 girls. Idk
She’s ditched 2 full families
In 25 years
Well good luck all
God sees
Story 1-NTA
Story 2-TAH
Story 3-NTA
Some own sister tell you her sister is treating your kids wrong and you in turn just say she is a good stepmother. Child I would of slapped the holt hell out of him.
Story 3.
You aren't the asshole for supporting your son over you daughter
Also the family didn't take your side means that they might be kind of insensitive or deceptive for not understanding conners point of view
Story 3- NTA-he’s an asshole. Using you for babysitting for free! I cannot believe he would ever try and say she would choose her sister over them. It’s not a choice over anyone. It’s a wedding. You can’t be bothered to take care of ur own kids but she shld skip anything and everything for them. I feel so bad for those kids. No wonder they cling to her. He’s a POS!!!
POV: Your dads name is John
You are leave him now girll story3
Girl 1: no
Girl 2: nar
Girl 3: naw
Also: THE RESIN ART IS AMAZING! Nice job 👏 👍 👌
I dont think she ruined the wedding but she shouldn't have even put her son through that knowing her sister. The family in general do not agree because they are taking the sister side
Nah to the first one
My brother name is John
Story 1- NTA
Nta #3 us as women just have to realize what can come with being with a man with kids from prior relationships especially if he had full custody realistically he is going to expect you to take on that mother and the kids will naturally connect to you so i do not blame the kids. He know what he doing though he trying to use them kids to get his way and he manipulating his women and the kids
1st NTA
2nd TA because you cant seriously think your daughter is a boy. That's impossible and ridiculous.
Awesome art!
1st story: you did the right thing
2nd story: first, you should apologize to your sister and she should apologize to you. Second, you should reconsider ruining that little girl’s life by taking her through an irreversible, life altering decision at such a young age. She will hate you forever if she changes her mind later. Then you will have another video about how ungrateful she is for giving her what she wanted as a child. I beg of you to please not do that to her.
He's still trans and we don't know how old he is as far as you know he could be 17 or 23
People under 18 can't get the pills unless their parents say it's ok and that's only if the kid is 17 or 16 and you need to be 18 to get the surgery, and he's been trans for 2 years so I think he is set in being a guy
1. OP=NTA
2. OP=NTA
3. OP=NTA
Do I really need to say an explanation? Story one: OP is standing up for those poor kids. The kids have NOT been abused physically from what the story says but they definitely have been abused mentally. OP and the kids’ mom deserve an award. Also OP’S parents picked favorites. Story two: Can’t the sister be supportive of her nephew? Sure Connor may not have transitioned physically yet but Connor is Connor and Connor is not Nia. Story three: The relationship was toxic. Like John, just let OP go to her only sister’s wedding. It’s not that hard. Also, John, have you ever heard of hiring a babysitter?
Therefore none of the OP’s are the AH.
Story 3 woman you better choose your family that man is not even your husband and the children aren’t even your step kids. Also you need to leave him.
Story One : NOT THE ASSHOLE ; the sister could kill them children you saving they life !!
Story Two : How that’s homophobic 😢
Story Three : They not even her kids he’s being super weird, when he doesn’t even be around his own children 🤦🏾♀️
2nd story: YES you are TA. You owe your sis & your son an apology. You didn't support either one properly.
tf do u mean 💀💀💀
@@e33977 the sister was being supportive at her own wedding. Had her preffered name Nia at the table and everything. But yet the mother continued to insist that "her son" would wear a suit & tie just like all the other men in the wedding. Thereby, dismissing her "son's" preferred gender identity. All this for fact of saving face for herself in front of the other relatives. Which is completely rude and disrespectful. So she owes her son the apology first and foremost. And an apology to the sister for treating her poorly and disregarding her supportiveness. She needs to learn how to be a better mother and a sister.
@@leashy1204 ah well you see- you got the story twisted up the fathers son was actually born female but transitioned from female to male but the sister was the one who disrespected the son and deadnamed him
Exactly what Meiji said. The sister deadnamed her nephew the day before when OP showed the boys’ outfits, asking, “Where is Nia’s dress?”. She was told not to deadname him and that they won’t go if she calls him by the wrong name. She got mad when she saw him wearing a tie and had a name card with his deadname. She proceeded to say, “Nia can be a guy any other day“ when Conner had socially transitioned 2 years prior. OP is NTA, the sister is and she owes her nephew an apology.
@@e33977 oh ok. So I had it all backwards. Dang.
Story 2. I wouldn't have let them come to my wedding in the first place.
Okay, after watching the full video and getting the whole story (and for those of you stumbling upon this, basically he did it for a tiktok trend), I’m gonna say that everyone sucks here
The ex didn’t have to call her a bitch, especially since she was doing him a favor. And instead of apologizing, he just used the “oh, it’s a tiktok trend” shit and doubled down on calling her a bitch. Doesn’t matter if it was a joke or a trend or whatever, it’s demeaning and incredibly hurtful to call anyone a bitch or whatever for literally no reason (it’s different if it was said often in a more joking manner, but based on the story, I doubt it was)
But, OP also didn’t have to intentionally throw the sauce into the carpet. It’d be one thing if it was accidental, but intentional? Nah, that’s a dick move right there
I think your video changed as you were writing this
1. NTA
2. TA
3. NTA - You aren't their slave nor nanny. Don't have children and use women to take care of children that aren't theirs. I feel bad for them children and he needs to be a father and grow up.
Why 2 TAH
He literally tells and they already know his son is trans?
She is being transphobic
If she didn't want the drama she shouldn't even invite them to humiliate them
@@yuri-lf7mx TAH because the parent didn't have to go in the first place and the woman showed signs of not respecting the lifestyle of the child. The parent subjected the child to this and embarrass them yet the wedding is hers and she has every right to do as she pleases. No one owes anyone anything, yes that includes respect. The parent is TAH because the parent knew the signs, disrespected the wedding and the child then acted as the hero. As I said before, no one owes anyone any respect, including lifestyle choices. She showed signs and should've either not have gone or went by themselves. The story sounds fake anyways.
@@monochromemoses8894 well First of all when she did the mistake for the first time the father said he'll not be in the wedding if she'll be like this ...but his sister insisted to come
If she knew what would happen why did she even invite them and insult his father and his son like that.
@@monochromemoses8894 also idk why do you think transphobia sounds fake cause honey cis transphobia go extended to this low everytime
They do without even realising it ..
Also trans people are not by choice because lifestyle and stuff is choice but trans people didn't choose to be trans it's what they are
@@yuri-lf7mx as I said before, you choose to go and the disrespect was there before hand regardless if she insisted. It is her wedding and even if she was rude you don't go somewhere you aren't respected the first time. No one is entitled to someone's event even if they are trans. Idc about transphobia because everything is transphobia nowadays. Don't subject someone to the issue if the signs were present, the parent had a lack of awareness and the woman was rude but in the end, the parent subjected that child to this. No one owes anyone respect for a lifestyle, regardless of how you feel about the issue of trans people.
1 NTA but sister and parents those who agree with parents and fiance; husband of sister are. So happy that OP just so happens to see the kid's mom and when asked told the truth and I love that her cousins are doing the same thing.
2 ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NTA He stuck up for her town just like a mother son I am so proud of her I am quite upset with her sister and the other members of the family who went out on OP for picking up for her child shame on them as thousand times the shame.
3 NTA tl there is absolutely nothing wrong with OP wanting to go to her sister's wedding He's not being selfish in anyway saving form for wanting to go to her sister's wedding The One who being the a-hole and the jackass and shelf it is John and him alone I feel very sorry for his kids and for OP.
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No you aren't bruh ඞ
All story sends are right you spouses an family suck
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Your his girlfriend not his wife and not their mother. He needs to man up and perant his kids. Get in touch with his late wife's family about how he is behaving.
Story 1: Not really a whim and honestly, this "blood is thicker then water" nonsense is gotten to people's head, the children need a good and safe inviroment, and since your sister is not doing her job, you've saved these kids from a horrible childhood and your parents, as parents, should've seen it, agreed with you and stood by you. There is no way that a parent will see that and not care, would you like it if it was your kids? Probably not. And I mean a real parent, the ones who raise a child, not the ones that are biologically connected or play house.
Story one: NTA those kids were likely being mentally abused by that woman. You likely saved them from her because it’s very likely that the dad was being treated neglectful, but the stepmom sounds like Lady Tremaine from Cinderella.
Story 2: NTA AT ALL, your sister was LITERALLY BEING TRANSPHOBIC, she should’ve called your son by his preferred name and pronouns to make her wedding more inclusive for your son
Story 3: FAR FROM THE ASSHOLE, the man should have just gotten a babysitter or taken work off. He’s being so controlling and for what? Also IT’S YOUR SISTER’S WEDDING PLUS, ITS ONW EVENT. Surely he could’ve just hired a babysitter or gotten a family member to take care of the kids. Yeah the kids are innocent but the dad is a man child.
No you not
I'm sorry but in story 2, you can't force people to think of your daughter as a son simply because you want them to. Some people have a problem with it, and that's okay. It sounds like there may have been an inkling that she would do something like that.
But period dude needs to get over himself that's part of life your ridiculous
story 2: that's a 14-year-old kid and they might have gender dysphoria now if was an adult then whatever that's their choice as long as they are in the right mental place to do so but that's a kid and it's not right but at the same time everyone deserves respect as human beings, and the aunt could have approached it in a different manner
*edit* it's cool to have your own opinion about this but you disagree please answer this question for me, how is a child in the right mental state to determine if they are "transgender"?
I discovered I was transgender at the age of 10 and now I am an adult trans man. Kids above the age of 8-9 know what they want and who they want to be. They know when they’re comfortable and uncomfortable. The kid in this story was 14, bit older than most people who figure out that they’re trans at a young age. And even if the kid (though I’d think a 14 year old should be considered a teen) ends up reverting back to his gender assigned at birth, it’s at-least good for his parent to support him no matter what his decision ends up being.
@@GerbestOfNerbs that's a cool, different perspective, but they should at least wait till the kid is 18 or older to make that decision for themselves.
I found out I was trans at twelve. Stfu about not being in the right “mental state”. We’re you in the right mental state to determine that you were cis? Or that you were whatever sexuality you are? It’s a process of self discovery and often being trans comes with dysphoria and hating how you appear and how people refer to you. Oh my GOD I want to hold you by your ankles and shake you until your lunch money falls out you idiotic child. If you are not trans, you shouldnt be speaking for OUR EXPERIENCES.
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2- I’m not gonna say anything other then, transitioned at ten?! That’s young yta
He socially transitions which means he just came out but to everyone and wears manly clothes and you know things
But he hasn't transition physically which means he didn't do any operation yet