KAT CHATS #2- Marrying young, Kids? + MORE!

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  • @aaronchan6529
    @aaronchan6529 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4278

    "i didnt want a nice wedding, i wanted a nice marriage"
    best thing i've heard on the internet.

    • @swapnagupta9427
      @swapnagupta9427 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      so true...

    • @jamiebennett8455
      @jamiebennett8455 9 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I agree with you! My sister had a lavish wedding but she's in the crappiest marriage!

    • @brendastansbury3396
      @brendastansbury3396 9 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      me tooooo! my hubbs and I didn't have a traditional wedding either or an engagement for that matter. we just knew we didn't want to waste anymore time apart so we did the damn thaaang! we went to a courthouse lol 💏💍💐

    • @StephanieGuzmanC
      @StephanieGuzmanC 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Brenda Stansbury loved it!

    • @carrieoakey6167
      @carrieoakey6167 9 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      We met in a widow's support group, and were married 4 years later on Feb 29th 2012 (leap year!), in our living room, wearing Steelers slippers, while a blizzard raged outside.
      For us, it was absolutely perfect :)

  • @sabrinatanumiharja6416
    @sabrinatanumiharja6416 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1528

    'I don't want a nice wedding, just a nice marriage' wow that quote hits me and im 18

    • @Dawn2Dusk23
      @Dawn2Dusk23 8 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I know right!? such a wise sentiment.

    • @justanobody9111
      @justanobody9111 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      exactly same here.

    • @rasanyaisabella9847
      @rasanyaisabella9847 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      U ppl clearly haven't watched friends... and kathleen's a huge friends so

    • @srhlnz
      @srhlnz 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sabrina Oktavelia Tanumiharja holyy shit same!!!

  • @KellyGooch
    @KellyGooch 8 ปีที่แล้ว +396

    Crazy to think this was uploaded in 2014 and you mention in the video that you're going to see if youtube will take you anywhere and here you are in 2016 with 2 million subscribers! Kathleen you are so inspiring. Love you so much!

    • @meganperine5933
      @meganperine5933 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Kelly Gooch and in 2017 with 3.5 million!!

    • @lizziefashionlover
      @lizziefashionlover 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      2018 now !

    • @edasuarat3809
      @edasuarat3809 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Kelly Gooch its 2018 and she has 3 million subscribers!

    • @DDelilahM
      @DDelilahM 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      3.8 mil now

    • @takecontrolbeauty6402
      @takecontrolbeauty6402 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Kelly Gooch now I am seeing this in 2018 👍

  • @JRosimo727
    @JRosimo727 10 ปีที่แล้ว +607

    "I didn't want a nice wedding, I wanted a nice marriage" all the more reason for me to idolize you. You are my new favorite person. ♥♥♥

    • @juliearmymom7807
      @juliearmymom7807 10 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I focused on the marriage. Had the wedding my 1st husband. My 2nd, have had an amazing 21 year ride :). We married so quickly...two weeks after dating we were engaged. Love hit hard and fast, and has stayed. Now, the kids are gone and in college and that makes me sad..VERY sad, but lucky to have Lee. I can't imagine being alone again with anyone else. That is something else to consider, the person will be alone with you for the rest of your life once the babies are gone, you had better get along with them!

    • @citizenjoevotes
      @citizenjoevotes 9 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Same here! Big Italian wedding and brief marriage; eloped after 4 dates and been married 27 years.

    • @mrspokitstheriot477
      @mrspokitstheriot477 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Julie Kent My husband and I had loved each other since 14. we "tried" dating when 18 and that failed, horribly. didnt talk much for 3 years, then got back in contact, 3 days later got engaged and were married a couple weeks later. That was nearly 4 yrs ago, and we have a 9 months old and im 11wks pregnant. His family has reacted like shit, mine got over it pretty quickly. Oh, we didnt tell our families we were getting married. His family didnt even know we were back together. my family did because he moved in (my father was moving 4 hrs away for work and wanted someone with my mom and I) The majority of his family are still assholes about me.

  • @candiezcm
    @candiezcm 10 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    No. Danny doesnt look like ur dad but he looks like a tough guy who will protect you and never let you fall. You guys a re adorable. Wedding is like every girl's dream, but just announcing and throw a party, it will be one of the best memories, but that doesnt mean it's the guarantee that they will live happily ever after. It's about two people.
    The point is, im having long distance relationship. And i've been watching your vdos for a while.... And how positive and supportive you are, that calms me down a lot. U helped me in a way :) thanks! xoxo

  • @alyssamendoza3719
    @alyssamendoza3719 8 ปีที่แล้ว +208

    They way Danny walked in the room😭💖

  • @pearlamaechi4655
    @pearlamaechi4655 10 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    Kathleen, this is one of the best videos on your channel! Not necessarily because of the topics discussed, but because we can really see your personality shine through. You were candid with us. You've really blossomed so much throughout your time on TH-cam. Looking forward to more!

  •  10 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    I looove how spontaneous Danny is !! You are a beautiful couple and don't pay attention to those who say he looks like your father...because people should start having a real life.

  • @kaylatrausch1394
    @kaylatrausch1394 8 ปีที่แล้ว +382

    My husband and I got married at 18. We've basically been married all of our adult life. We met in the military and now I'm a stay at home mom. Young love is possible ❤️

    • @gracestenvers8376
      @gracestenvers8376 8 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      The hope this gives me is amazing

    • @annika4942
      @annika4942 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amazing!!!!

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      let's see 10 years from now

    • @alexisbruno5585
      @alexisbruno5585 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Als Don’t be bitter

  • @orangepeelzz
    @orangepeelzz 9 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Wow. You are not just another makeup girl on TH-cam...you are an incredibly strong woman. I can't even imagine how you got through those 8 months after your marriage. More power to you, lady!!

  • @AnhLe-zl4ws
    @AnhLe-zl4ws 9 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I love how you're focused on the marriage more than the wedding, very admirable

  • @jeffrahmon7892
    @jeffrahmon7892 8 ปีที่แล้ว +323

    I hope her kids have beautiful green eyes like Kathleen!

  • @hjones9984
    @hjones9984 10 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    "I didn't want a nice wedding, I wanted a nice marriage." Girl, you are wise beyond your years! And, just for the record, I think you and Danny are adorable together because you're both happy. In the end, age and where and when and how you got married won't matter, all that matters is your commitment to making each other happy.

  • @ratolina
    @ratolina 10 ปีที่แล้ว +118

    I just have to say that I'm 24. I got married last year on my birthday actually, so I was 23. My husband was 37 difference. So that's 14 years. And as you, we had been dating for 2 months when we decided to get married, and 6 months later we got married.
    And you know what? That was the best decission of my entire life, and today I live with my best friend, so here's to us knowing what we want and actually embracing things as they come. Cheers!

    • @sheelajoyful
      @sheelajoyful 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ....... :/

    • @PatryJonas
      @PatryJonas 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      martabeldiaz ratolina :D

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      creepy af

    • @monicaperez6263
      @monicaperez6263 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Total, que ahora ya entiendo por qué en los vídeos en los que sale con su marido bloqueó los comentarios... No entiendo qué le importa a la gente la edad, la apariencia o lo que narises sea de la persona a la que quieres... 😑💁🏼
      EN FIN, MARTA, que les den, sobre todo al que dijo que esto es creepy y tal...

    • @rebkabayou7964
      @rebkabayou7964 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Do you still feel this way?

  • @alyforry1087
    @alyforry1087 8 ปีที่แล้ว +386

    Not bundles of joy... Little lights.

  • @c.mathews806
    @c.mathews806 8 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    I'm watching this 2 years after you published this (thereabouts) because I'm a new-ish subscriber. I was married at the age of 18, 2 months before my 19th birthday. I became pregnant with our first child two months after we got married (yikes!). Although we married young and had our kids (all 3 are now adults) we had no regrets. It was a good thing that we had our family early because my husband died 4 years ago, and at least he lived long enough to see the birth of his first grandson. So, Kathleen, live your life with joy, in love, with no regrets. I wish you and Danny many many years of happiness. And, on the subject of the age difference, that's nobody's business and it doesn't make a difference in the long run, so ignore the haters. I love your vids and I appreciate you sharing your life with us in the TH-cam world. Sending love...

    • @princesstotita
      @princesstotita 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      +Carolyn Mathews Loved this comment, I couldn't agree with you more! I'm sorry to hear about your husband, but I'm glad he got to enjoy his family. In my opinion that is one of the best things in life. God Bless!

  • @mariapham3381
    @mariapham3381 9 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    15:08 I CAN'T STOP WATCHING DANNY COMING IN AND KISSING YOU its so cute and funny! Your love story is one for the fairy tales. I admire you both and I thank Danny for his service :)

  • @WhereTheBeaversLive
    @WhereTheBeaversLive 8 ปีที่แล้ว +347

    I got married a month after I turned 20, hubby was 27. We met online and only spent 2 weeks together in person. He was military on the east coast and I was a west-coaster. We had our first son a week before our first anniversary, and we have just celebrated our 19th anniversary! Now our son is joining the military. (I also get told I look way young still)

    • @WhereTheBeaversLive
      @WhereTheBeaversLive 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Also, I was at a restaurant last week with my 18 year old and hubby and the waiter asked me for ID 😂 Mortified my son who is only 1 year away from legal drinking age here in Canada 🇨🇦 So, I am pretty sure I think he thought hubby was my dad.

    • @sheraeguerrero
      @sheraeguerrero 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ferrero Rocher my fiancee is 38 and I'm 24:)

    • @MelsLife570
      @MelsLife570 8 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I met my hub and we became engaged after 2 weeks of 1st meeting! Then we married after 2 months of knowing eachother!! We just celebrated our 22nd!! Thank your hub for his military service! My oldest sons in the Army.

    • @WhereTheBeaversLive
      @WhereTheBeaversLive 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      MoGhetto Mel I love hearing other success stories! Congrats on 22 years and thank your son for his service! ❤

  • @originalmrgrta
    @originalmrgrta 9 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    My advice: wait to have kids. My husband and I have been together since we were 19, married at 24 yrs old, first child at 29. My husband and I got to really enjoy ourselves and being "us" together. We traveled, we went out for drinks and dancing. I finished nursing school, we bought a house, and we felt like we were needing something more in our lives. Our "partying days" weren't fun anymore. It's like we were maturing and "growing out" of it just being us two. We felt we were ready to enjoy the next phase in our life and we weren't getting any younger (obvi) lol. It all turned out perfectly. My husband and I were at a good point in our carers and we had no financial issues supporting children. It worked. We're able to give our children what we didn't have growing up. don't let anyone make you feel bad for not wanting to have kids yet. IF it happens unexpectedly then by all means enjoy it and welcome it but stick to your decision to wait until you feel the biological clock start ticking.

  • @elleandish
    @elleandish 10 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I'm with you about the age difference thing, my guy is 8 years older than me and it is not a big deal at all... I feel that once you're out of grade school and college, age difference doesn't matter as much anymore (whereas during school a 1 year difference was HUGE haha)

  • @hollybiamonte9835
    @hollybiamonte9835 8 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    I'm 23 and my husband is 7 years older then me. People always have things to say about our age difference and how I married young. Don't let it bother you. Age is just a number when it has to do with two legal adults.

    • @VeroniqueBeauty1
      @VeroniqueBeauty1 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      My parents have the same age difference and theyre 30 years together and very happy☺️ so i see ur point!

    • @hollybiamonte9835
      @hollybiamonte9835 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +VeroniqueBeauty1 you can't help who you fall in love with! And even if you could... A seven year age difference isn't really a factor :) as long as you are happy.

    • @lolpuppet9935
      @lolpuppet9935 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      My parents are 20 years apart. Fight ne

  • @orangecurly
    @orangecurly 9 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    OMG THAT WAS SO SWEET!!! When he walked in and just kissed her.

  • @lexywalters1259
    @lexywalters1259 9 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    I always say I want to marry my boyfriend before I'm 20.
    I'm 19 though so I don't think it'll happen, his family is weird about it.
    We've been through it all, though.
    My older brother & sister died, my dad battled cancer, my one big sister moved cross country & the other one moved to the other side of the state, my anxiety got ridiculous after all that because I went from having 4 siblings always either living with me or 5 minutes away & now 2 are passed away & the other 2 I see MAYBE 3 times a year. Plus my dad went from being vibrant, goofy, and loving to withdrawn & depressed. I felt so abandoned & alone.
    My boyfriend stuck with me through it all, always encouraging, the only constant in my life.
    He says the same about me, he doesn't see ever loving anyone but me.
    I definitely understand marrying young, the heart wants what it wants & sometimes life just has a way of putting you on the fast track to growing up.

    • @lexywalters1259
      @lexywalters1259 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Shania Atesh
      I don't mind (:
      My mom died when I was 7.

    • @najahmatthews8279
      @najahmatthews8279 9 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Lexy Walters I'm really sorry about all you've been through, but I really admire you because you sound like such a trooper and I hope that things work out for you. God has got big things for you and He knows how strong you are, just remember that.

    • @MultipleDaysOfMeags
      @MultipleDaysOfMeags 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lexy Walters Aw Lexy, I'm so sorry to hear all this, It made me want to cry, you're so strong! I hope you and your boyfriend can get married as soon as possible!

    • @luciem4562
      @luciem4562 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Marriage is not what makes the relationship work, it's you two. So don't focus on the numbers so much because in the long run they are irrelevant. :-)

    • @maddiemarosek5177
      @maddiemarosek5177 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Lexy Walters
      This is something my friend tells me all the time and I think it might be helpful for you H.O.P.E.:
      Hold,
      On,
      Pain,
      Ends.
      I hope it helps. I know things will work out for you so just keep on Hoping and things will get better.

  • @RatherBeeVintage
    @RatherBeeVintage 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I got married when I was 18. Had a son at 19 and a daughter at 23. People thought we were crazy but we will be married for 13 years this month. It works if your with the right person!

  • @iheartspanish1
    @iheartspanish1 9 ปีที่แล้ว +262

    you married your best friend's older brother?? you're living out every middle schooler's dream 😂😂

  • @PalermoGirl77
    @PalermoGirl77 8 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I'm watching this video over two years after it was posted and it makes me so happy how back when she made this video, she was hoping for a future on youtube and now its amazing how far she has come...with her collabs and now her own nail polish brand! you're amazing Kathleen, keep doing you!

  • @silenceiseverything4
    @silenceiseverything4 8 ปีที่แล้ว +347

    STOP!! So your best friend ended up being your sister in law? Thats like every girls biggest dream !! Congrats on life

    • @lifewiththelovelies8217
      @lifewiththelovelies8217 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Joselyne Hernandez YES! the same thing happened to me! I married my best friend's big brother and now have an amazing sister-in-law and auntie to my babies ♡

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      it can ruin relationships

    • @intothemystic5223
      @intothemystic5223 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My mom married her best friend's brother too...my dad.

  • @adri89tas
    @adri89tas 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1014

    He does NOT look like your dad

    • @happyfacefries
      @happyfacefries 8 ปีที่แล้ว +96

      Lili08 no kidding. I was shocked that people think that.

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      uncle maybe

  • @ekanoorulamanina2690
    @ekanoorulamanina2690 5 ปีที่แล้ว +183

    "Do you think zodiac astrology stuff is accurate"
    "Naaah, I don't"
    Explain this Kathleen! 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @cdonnellyp
      @cdonnellyp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      😂😂 now she’s obsessed!

    • @cir3nn3
      @cir3nn3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Omg!! This comment😂 the IRONY cus she’s OB-SESSED now!!

  • @irush321
    @irush321 8 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    7 years isn't even that far apart! My step mum and my dad are 20 years apart! You guys are the cutest couple ❤️

  • @vocalmommy2004
    @vocalmommy2004 10 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Yes on anxiety video! And girl don't listen to the haters. I married a guy 8 years older then me at 19 years old, at a courthouse, and next month is our 10 year anniversary, and we are still very happy!

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      OMG that's amazing!!!! Congrats

  • @frustyface
    @frustyface 10 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Kathleen! I love these Kat chats! #1 Danny definitely does not look like your dad! 7 years is not a big difference...love is love..there is no time stamp on when you fall in love, when you get married...just think how great it is that you have a whole lifetime to love each other. Some people don't find their "one" til late in life...you guys are lucky! You two are adorable. You arena very mature, smart 22 year old...I hope TH-cam takes you everywhere you can imagine and more. You genuinely seem like such a good person, and deserve the world...xoxoxoxo

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      This was the sweetest comment ever!!! Thank you so so very much

  • @anu.
    @anu. 8 ปีที่แล้ว +286

    How can people be so mean/shitty? Like I didn't even notice that people would even talk about the age difference. I actually didn't even care about it cause you guys obviously make a good pair. Plus since I'm good at guessing ages I guessed that you were 24/23 so I just do not think it's a big deal. Anyway, don't let the negativity bother you. You guys make a great pair :)

  • @zigazagaaddiction
    @zigazagaaddiction 10 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Please do make them once a month~! You're so nice to watch and listen to :)

    • @zigazagaaddiction
      @zigazagaaddiction 10 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Oh, and idk about the other comments, but you talking about him regularly, mentioning Danny or me watching you be so cute and funny toghether (like, literally, I've been on a video marathon on your channel since yesterday and this is the second time I see him come into the room and your reaction and I just cracked up lol) made me a huge fan of..well..your channel (and I love your makeup). That's also why I was extatic about the vlog channel haha. Great idea!!

  • @katiekilgore6319
    @katiekilgore6319 8 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Being 18 and completely in love with my boyfriend I so love the "when you know, you know" thing.

  • @hannahf8882
    @hannahf8882 8 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    My husband and I are 8 years apart! I forget about it most of the time! We are best friends and I have never regret the decision :)

    • @hannahf8882
      @hannahf8882 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Also, I was almost 20 when we got married. And he's an army officer, so I feel your pain on many things

  • @angiepartridge4168
    @angiepartridge4168 10 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I would love to hear how you deal with your anxiety and pls tell Danny thank you for his service !!

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you!!

    • @bigbadasslbc
      @bigbadasslbc 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      KathleenLights yess! thank you danny! & how do you deal with your anxiety when people make fun of you for it, well idk about you but they do to me any advice on how to handle it?& your my fav. youtuber!!!!

  • @laceh5950
    @laceh5950 8 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    I married at 22. Not super young...but young. My husband is 5 years older than me. Guys mature later than us ladies. Gotta date up so they are at your same level ;)

    • @roadaroom386
      @roadaroom386 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lace H I completely agree!

    • @elizabethgreer27
      @elizabethgreer27 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lace H agree

    • @madelenCarlson3834
      @madelenCarlson3834 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I don't think they mature later from a biological standpoint, I think patriarchy 'enables' them...and society also pushes women to marry older by that and other reasoning bc of pure misogyny...so this mindset is very toxic, esp for women. However if the marriage is good, fair and equal,and actually honoring the vows; no cheating and actually stay for the bad days too (ofc not toxic and abusive relationship whether it's emotional or physical) I guess it's the best one can expect in this day and age...but educating myself, I realize I was just so used to misogyny that I didn't realize a lot of thing was bc I would always think worst case scenarios and when it wasn't I would find excuses if it concerned ppl I loved and I wasn't ready to face it truth, bc one you do it becomes a very dark world, esp when trying to confront others abt it, esp men, but also women, which understand as this defense mechanism is something we've been taught and still I feel uncomfortable confronting men and everytime I hear men standing up for female empowerment I feel like praising them which is a part of the issue, bc equality IS a basic human righr which everyone should fight for whether it concerns racism, misogyny or homophobia, it's the job of those endowered to use it to enable these social systems and stigmas, as social priviledge is something no one is entitled to. Went on a bit , but it's within the subject. Have a Nice day, I hope you and your family are doing well! 🥰

    • @theoriginalawesomeglowsome7712
      @theoriginalawesomeglowsome7712 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      That’s a good tip!

    • @billieseyelashes
      @billieseyelashes ปีที่แล้ว

      yup@@madelenCarlson3834

  • @bekkapfer6333
    @bekkapfer6333 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My mom and dad are 12 years apart and were only together for about a year before they got married. Like dated, engaged, and married within a year and a half. And 35 years later and two kids, they are still madly in love and best friends. So forget what people say about age and all that ish, love the person you're with and you'll love your life forever!

    • @Ronniethegoblin
      @Ronniethegoblin 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      My parents knew each other 6 weeks before they got engaged and they are still so happy.

  • @kellytormey4650
    @kellytormey4650 8 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    You and Danny are so good together, how people can leave hurtful horrible comments and feel ok with themselves? Don't ever feel the need to justify or have to explain anything. You're a beautiful person 😘 lots of love from the UK 🇬🇧 xxxxxx

  • @Blackenergie63
    @Blackenergie63 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I needed to acknowledge few things about me about you for no reason at all :
    - I discovered you yesterday
    - I usually make a big deal about "subscribing" to any channel and wait for a long time before I do
    - I subscribed to your channel yesterday as well
    - The first video I saw of you, Danny would not stop calling and picking on you (nicely) and I thought - only based on his -voice "probably her dad, haha" and then when I saw him in the frame "is this her dad ?" and then you looked at him and I saw a certain kind of love in your eyes and I was like "either she gives this beautiful look to anybody, or this is her soul-mate"
    - Then I've seen the "I do my husband's makeup" and I instantly loved you both
    - I don't understand people who say such rude comments because they sould know that you and Danny are actually able to READ them
    - I LOVE originality and I found your couple beautiful and GENUINE
    - I love your personality I'm on youtube for many years and I rarely subscribe to anyone so quickly
    - I wish you a beautiful life :)

  • @paigetobin7777
    @paigetobin7777 8 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I always adore you but after this video I also have a TON of respect for you as well. You handle yourself with so much poise and maturity, it's no wonder your relationship has been successful! Many of my friends and myself are in military or long distance relationships, and we're all in our early 20s and facing the scrutiny of friends/family as engagements happen. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years, and it will likely be another two until we can settle down together, thanks to some challenging logistics, but it is SO nice to hear a such a positive perspective on the whole thing. And it's absolutely true, when you know, you know

  • @Lunamcmanus
    @Lunamcmanus 9 ปีที่แล้ว +182

    You and Danny are 7 years apart and Luke Hemmings and I are a 6 years apart...this gives me hope

  • @pigeoncoo5125
    @pigeoncoo5125 9 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    "I didn't want a nice wedding. I wanted a nice marriage."

  • @caseyajb03
    @caseyajb03 8 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I don't see a thing wrong with marrying at younger ages. As long as you're both in love & doing it for the right reasons, go for it! My bff married at 17, she hadn't even graduated yet. They were each others 1st. They had a beautiful, intimate wedding. That was almost 17 years ago (dang getting old!). They have 2 beautiful kids & both still work at the same places they started in high school. They aren't super rich, but they have a wonderful, happy marriage & family. That's most important. My daughters Dad is 7yrs older than me & I *use* to look years younger than I was. So I got a few comments, but it was always from new ppl in my life that didn't know us. We knew each other all our lives, started dating when I was 14, dated on n off 7yrs. I had my one & only child at 19. And even though things didn't work out with him were still friends. We get along better apart, which is fine.

  • @meganrodriguez6326
    @meganrodriguez6326 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    About the older brother thing, YES OMG that has to be relatable for at least 80% of the female population

  • @brightside786
    @brightside786 10 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    Being married is no different to being in a relationship at a young age, there shouldn't be a different attitude towards marriage. Marriage is better purer and more secure wouldn't you want that for the person you love, strengthen the bind for life - dedication commitment true love

    • @allisonho1646
      @allisonho1646 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I love that you said that!

    • @brightside786
      @brightside786 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      marriage is the way prescribed by God )Allaah) for 2 that love eachother. islam is the true way of life for all of mankind.

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  • @g.g.3929
    @g.g.3929 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Honestly 7 years is no big deal, my parents are 8 years apart in age.
    Now being married young, this made me have peace. My husband proposed to me on my 19th birthday and then we got married 4 days later. I didn't want a wedding either. So the courthouse worked for us and that's it. The worst part for me during this first year of marriage (anniversary is Sept 28, 2017) was the rumors and the judgment from marrying young, the pregnancy rumors, the "she's easy" or "she's desperate" rumors and judgments. My family were so supportive and that has helped with my marriage. Thank you, I'm so glad I found this video, it has helped me find peace

  • @heidiyoule6721
    @heidiyoule6721 9 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    I say "oh POO" to all those people who say 18 is tooo young to get married!!!
    my daughter go married when she was 17 ( they met when she was 13 he's her brothers best friend) and she has been blissfully married for over 6 years and has 3 beautiful children.
    I got married at 18 and we will celebrate our 26th anniversary this year!!
    just because ur young doesnt mean it can't work!!

  • @aseelaj5360
    @aseelaj5360 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love how sparkly your eyes become when you talk about Danny 😍 You guys are so cute 😍 God bless you! ❤

  • @virtualjoke
    @virtualjoke 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    The way he proposed to you, made me cry. When a man shows that he is just as nervous and loving as you are, that's just marvellous. 😍

  • @alisonhenryy
    @alisonhenryy 10 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    hi friend

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Aww yay!!! Thanks for watching sista friend! Ilyyyyy moreeee duhhhh

  • @tonyajones6142
    @tonyajones6142 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My husband and I have been together for 7+ years and there is a 16.5 year difference between us. He doesn't act like someone his age and he's got a young spirit. Age doesn't matter, honestly, especially once you're out of high school/college. If you find someone you fit with and are happy with, what does it matter to other people?

  • @nweaver5212
    @nweaver5212 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have been following you for about a year now, because of my 15 year old daughter, I just now came across this video. My husband is 2 years older than me, we got married when I was 18 years (3 months shy of turning 19) We just met for the first time ever 5 months prior. We have now been married for 18 years. You have to do what you feel is right. It's your life and you only get 1. Good for you! 7 years older isn't a big deal. It's if he treats/loves you the way you want to be treated/loved; then that is all that matters. You are beautiful and an amazing talented person! Keep on doing what you are doing!

  • @Heyitskatieortega
    @Heyitskatieortega 10 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I love your thoughts on the marriage and not having a wedding. A good marriage beats a good wedding any day. :)

  • @ADultingisHarD91011
    @ADultingisHarD91011 10 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    it was crazy when I was listening to you say how he kinda saved you and that you got married at the perfect time. That sounds exactly like my situation. I was going through a lot and my husband brought new light to my life. I loved this video. :D

    • @ADultingisHarD91011
      @ADultingisHarD91011 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      and I'm dead at " I know this is so unhealthy for you, but hey, we've been drinking more water *whips out water bottle* " HILARIOUS.

    • @GlamazonJay
      @GlamazonJay 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same. I was going to through a lot when my husband married me and he whisked me away from all the BS.

  • @MeganLFarr
    @MeganLFarr 8 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Even though you are young you seem like you have it all together. I know you have anxiety but everyone has their issues and you handle things well. I'm Danny's age and I look up to you!

  • @shelbirusty
    @shelbirusty 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    shout out to getting married young. My husband and I got married when I was 19, 7 years ago and still going string deep in love! go girl!

  • @kaytiemyers2698
    @kaytiemyers2698 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    I got married at 22 and I too have diagnosed anxiety. I think it is easy to know when you find that one person that understands your anxiety and loves you and can help you through it. My husband and I got married 9 days short of being together for a year.

  • @katig153
    @katig153 10 ปีที่แล้ว +244

    "I didn't want a nice wedding, I wanted a nice marriage" wow

    • @katig153
      @katig153 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And btw, I'm an aquarius too, and I'm also nothing like my sign.

    • @admikbren5673
      @admikbren5673 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      A lot of people don't realize they have a rising sign and a moon sign too. When you say your sign, that's your sun sign, but your moon sign represents your emotions, and your rising sign is how you present yourself to the world. You should look into those signs of yours and maybe you will understand more.

    • @katig153
      @katig153 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Admik Bren I had to do that for school, and still, I'm nothing like my sign(s)

    • @christianaxtiana3297
      @christianaxtiana3297 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      so deep! I am 22 as well and seeing her makes me realise how much i need to grow and mature in so many ways :). She seems such a wonderful, down to earth person!

  • @clara6946
    @clara6946 10 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You are one of my favorite TH-camrs! ive seen every single one of your videos and im addicted

    • @clara6946
      @clara6946 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      P.S. Danny looks nothing like your dad... at all

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yayyyy thank you!

  • @graceescalante9276
    @graceescalante9276 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You and Danny's relationship is adorable! Your advice on being a military wife truly reassured me, since my boyfriend is going to go into the military and we are planning to get married in the next year or so. You are such an inspiration, Kathleen! I always watch your Kat Chat's and I never feel alone. God bless 💗

  • @leapyearbaby09
    @leapyearbaby09 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    that age difference is nothing lol
    people are always gonna hate sadly
    just brush it off and stay true to you
    i just found your channel today and im kinda obsessed
    can't wait to keep watching...love you already xoxo

  • @Erens.fulltime.attorney
    @Erens.fulltime.attorney 9 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    7 years apart??!? THATS NOTHING. Not a big deal tbh. You and Danny are perfect😍😩💕💪🏽

  • @florcontitamayo6786
    @florcontitamayo6786 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My husband is 36 and i'm 29... and we are together the last 11 years now! Love you Kathleen!

  • @jaimecarnes5796
    @jaimecarnes5796 10 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Such a beautiful person, inside out ❤️

  • @corneliamccoy9128
    @corneliamccoy9128 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    you don't have to explain or justify why you've made the decisions you have. You are happy and confident with your choices and that's all the counts :)

  • @kristin5035
    @kristin5035 8 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    omg Kathleen! I met my husband through my best friend. He is her half brother and I met him around age 14. He is 8 years older than me. This is insane! I love that we have this in common❤️

    • @kristin5035
      @kristin5035 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      oh and we got married when I turned 18 too!

  • @almost555evil
    @almost555evil 8 ปีที่แล้ว +216

    Danny doesn't look like your dad, at all.. Lol
    People just like to be extra haha

  • @laurenpawlik3081
    @laurenpawlik3081 9 ปีที่แล้ว +268

    don't listen to the hate! he really DOES NOT look like ur dad! haha people just always have to say negative shit just to be mean ! you guys are happy together and thats all that matters :)

    • @gleegleek4eva
      @gleegleek4eva 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      +Lauren Pawlik Not trying to be funny or anything but I'm a new subscriber and the fact that Kat looks really young and Danny ver mature does make the age difference look larger than it really is. While I believe some people were being malicious I think others were just... being extremely (albeit rudely) blunt? Like we get it, one looks older and one looks younger, no need to comment 'he looks like your dad' simply because its the first thing that comes to mind. They should be respectful and consider how Kat and Danny would feel before just speaking out their mouth. And the sad part is I think on the internet some people lose their sense of self and what it means to be polite and consider the feelings of others.

    • @allysonmessina1785
      @allysonmessina1785 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lauren Pawlik Agreed!!

  • @RainwalkerSequoia
    @RainwalkerSequoia 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    My wedding was done in a church that had enough room for 18 people to sit, no heat or electricity, in the snow, in Michigan, and my wedding dress was a 50's style red dress. The marriage is 100% the important part. I am so glad you feel that way, you have a smart heart and soul.

  • @JazzMarie
    @JazzMarie 9 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    i just started watching your channel and its soooo crazy how we both married on the same day(different year), im from Miami, im currently 22. my hubby is ex-army and plays video games for a living, hes 5 years older than i am. Omg

    • @unpopped
      @unpopped 9 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      +Jazz Marie "plays video games for a living"
      lmao

    • @fadoua-12
      @fadoua-12 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      PewDiePie "plays video games for a living" as well.. AND well he is a millionaire ;)

  • @tmahar08
    @tmahar08 10 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You and Danny are so cute together. I love seeing you guys together actually and I have so much respect for the both of you. Also it even bothers me when I see people commenting negatively towards you and Danny so I can't imagine how you feel because it's really none of their business and they aren't in your lives so don't know how you two are together or how well you fit together and like you said when you know you know and all that matters is that you both know your meant to be together and anyone that tries to rain on that parade needs to find something better to do with their lives and mind their own business and find something productive to occupy their time. Their negativity says more about them than it does about either of you. So random but what's your favorite Disney movie? Love you xoxo ♡

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You're so right! I feel bad for people who are sooo negative!!! Andddddd it's probably the lion king!

  • @aileen9615
    @aileen9615 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amen girl!
    I'm 20 and I got married one month after my 19th birthday.
    I got engaged with 17. It's been the best decision of my life.
    You do what you do. No need to justify anything.

  • @saruhashilee
    @saruhashilee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Anyone watching in 2019? When she said "when you know, you know," and they're still married 9 years now. :)

  • @brittneyjablonski8915
    @brittneyjablonski8915 10 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Who cares if you didn't have a wedding the wedding isn't the important part the marriage is!!.. all that should matter is what works for you and Danny!. . Of course Danny doesn't look like your father people will say anything to just be mean it's crazy to me how people can find it in themselves to be so mean and hurtful to other people I have noticed it's really bad on youtube people think they are big stuff when they are hiding behind a computer screen!.. really enjoyed both parts of this video thank you for sharing so much of your life with us!! 💟💟

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yesssssssssssss to everything you just said!!!! Xoxo

    • @NewDawnFades608
      @NewDawnFades608 10 ปีที่แล้ว

      Weddings are important to a lot of people. They don't have to be anything close to extravagant, but to some, there's no marriage if there's no ceremony.

    • @brittneyjablonski8915
      @brittneyjablonski8915 10 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, you're right it is important to a lot of people I have been married for over 3 years and yes we had a wedding but if I couldn't of had a wedding and just went to the court house I would of been perfectly fine with that because I still would be married to my best friend and happily married!.. the wedding is just one day it's not that important compared to your marriage, your lifetime with your husband/wife... just my opinion.

    • @C2kp189lI
      @C2kp189lI 10 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      NewDawnFades608 Are you serious? Who honestly thinks if you don't have a ceremony there is no marriage? Seriously the dumbest thing I've heard all day.

  • @jesspine72
    @jesspine72 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    kathleen! I've been a subscriber for about half a year and I've never taken the time to watch your older videos.. watching this one and I've fallen completely in love with your channel all over again!!!! thank you so much for being so comfortable with us and putting yourself out there!!! love you so much!

  • @ashtonelizabeth7993
    @ashtonelizabeth7993 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    and definitelyyyy do the video on anxiety. That would be so helpful to me and other people.

  • @MelsLife570
    @MelsLife570 8 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Danny looks his age. Miss Kat just looks a lot younger for her age-she looks like 16 to me. But that's awesome!! She always will look young. They're a sweet couple!!!

  • @wissousmile5698
    @wissousmile5698 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    all of us go through a phase .when we are lost and negative. I'm glad you found you husband supporting you .

  • @hannahbarmer4101
    @hannahbarmer4101 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I got married at 19...a month after i turned 19. My husband proposed at his turning blue ceremony at basic training. We got married on a whim and I wouldn't have had it different. Being a military spouse isn't easy, but it's doable! I'm about 7 weeks into my his first tour to Afghanistan and it's not easy (especially since i stayed at his duty station instead of going home) but i'm making it work. I wish y'all luck in your future deployments!

  • @miabosco4351
    @miabosco4351 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I LOVE hearing stories about true love. God does not put an age difference or an amount of time you must be with someone to know they are the person you truly belong with. I wish you nothing but endless love and happiness.
    Also, an enormous thank you to Danny for serving this country and allowing us to continue our normal lives. I have nothing but the up most respect for your husband. I cannot believe how hard this is for both of you and you are always in my prayers.

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you! That really means a lof

  • @maryworley9522
    @maryworley9522 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It was super good to hear you talk about your husbands deployments! My husband is also in the Navy and he has gone on a few, and it's always the hardest thing. Positive people and family help me more than anything!

  • @stacyforsyth3237
    @stacyforsyth3237 9 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    I married my wife 4 days after a year of being together. I am also a military spouse and was the first in my family to marry the same sex. I wouldn't change it for the world. My wife and I got married in Denmark at the city hall because she was in another country serving our country.

    • @jenn7753
      @jenn7753 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Much happiness to you!

    • @dinah3939
      @dinah3939 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      So happy for you!

    • @AshleyEstrada86
      @AshleyEstrada86 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Stacy Rowe Good for you! 💗✌😀🙌

    • @stacyforsyth3237
      @stacyforsyth3237 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      +Lucy Ornelas I'm not saying anyone does. I'm sorry that you have such a miserable life that you have to go and attack others. I hope things change for you. :-)

    • @sofiarosales9509
      @sofiarosales9509 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's so cute!! Good for you 💕

  • @michikomanalang6733
    @michikomanalang6733 9 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    Danny's random entrance omfg

    • @swells911
      @swells911 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Michiko Yeung They are in love. OMGosh. You are just jealous it isn't you.

    • @gellichan09
      @gellichan09 9 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      +S Wells if you arent being sarcastic, im like hella 201% sure she didn't mean that as a negative comment hahahaha wth. people making issues out of nothing

    • @michikomanalang6733
      @michikomanalang6733 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      gellichan09 YES THANK YOU

    • @swells911
      @swells911 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Seems people are for sure making issues out of nothing. What's wrong with them being in love and affectionately displaying such? Nada!

    • @summerbreezesxo
      @summerbreezesxo 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +S Wells she's not making issues she's just expressing how she found it so funny omg lol how can you even interpret "omfg" as making issues out of nothing and being jealous LOL

  • @leikatrina1275
    @leikatrina1275 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    it's sooooo sweet!!! everyone can tell how much you two love each other from the way you talk about Danny, it just so sweet

  • @orliathjones6347
    @orliathjones6347 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My mom and dad are 8 years apart but age is just a number.
    Love is love dosent matter what age you are!

  • @mistydawnxo
    @mistydawnxo 9 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    "I didn't want a nice wedding, i wanted a nice marriage"

  • @DeasRay
    @DeasRay 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is so nice! I got married when i was 18 and i had so much trouble with other people judging me. My housband is 11 years older than me and for me it's perfectly normal and natural, but people really lie to make you feel like you are doing the worst thing ever.
    Now, 6 years after that, we're still together and love each other like the first day

  • @StephanieElayne
    @StephanieElayne 8 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Loling my ass off at Danny coming in like that haha

  • @Jasmination21
    @Jasmination21 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Shocked to hear Kathleen say she wasn’t into zodiacs, what a difference a few yrs makes

  • @04sportstud
    @04sportstud 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    I got married at 18! My husband, Beto, is 4 years older. He saved me from horrible circumstances and loved all of my imperfections. Fast forward NINE years, three children, and so much more. I couldn't live without him. He's an amazing man.

  • @aleena3216
    @aleena3216 8 ปีที่แล้ว +252

    My mom got married when she was 16 and my dad is 10 years older than her. It's been almost 30 years and they're still together and going strong. Age is literally just a number (when it's legal)

    • @searose777
      @searose777 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Emily O Dwyer Why? They're still together and they love eachother so what?

    • @wanderlands
      @wanderlands 7 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      that's gross

    • @AllyV0621
      @AllyV0621 7 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      you said it yourself: when it's legal. that's not legal.

    • @aleena3216
      @aleena3216 7 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      It's legal in my country just as long as both the man and woman agree and they should have parental consent.

    • @sylviagoodman7642
      @sylviagoodman7642 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aleen A yaaaaasss

  • @madelinehornsey6845
    @madelinehornsey6845 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I WAS RE-WATCHING THIS VIDEO AND I JUST NOTICED THAT TODAY IS YOUR ANNIVERSARY HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!!

  • @xchyeeaboi
    @xchyeeaboi 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm in the exact same boat! My husband is also in the Navy & we got married literally 7 months after dating (but we had been friends for almost 3 years previously). We both got married young as well (me at 22 & him at 25) but when you meet that special one you just know. Some people can't understand that but it's okay, love shouldn't have to be explained

  • @rocioescobar6747
    @rocioescobar6747 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I though I was alone in this world!! I got married at 18 too and look super young. A lot of people say that my husband looks like my dad, or people actually think he's my dad. Which also bothers me soo much! And when people ask me how long I've been married I have your same reaction! So I totally understand you.

    • @KathleenLights
      @KathleenLights  10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Glad I'm not alone!

    • @mihaelastoiov
      @mihaelastoiov 10 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Rocio Lewis when I go out with my dad people think he is my husband and once an old lady said loudly to her son: "look at that guy! how could he marry such a young girl?" :)) So, don't feel bad! No matter the situation, there will be always people to say bad things :)

    • @Massey12able
      @Massey12able 10 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mihaela Stoiov I've had similar experiences. Kinda happy to sad to hear that someone else has had the same thing happen to them

  • @afra1015
    @afra1015 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    could you do a memory box video??I'd love to watch that!!

  • @ladychips
    @ladychips 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    What surprises me more is how your parents are supportive of you getting married early which is great! coming from a strict parent who didn't allow me to have a boyfriend until I graduated college!

  • @hannah-sofia8304
    @hannah-sofia8304 9 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Aww when he comes in to kiss her! so cute

  • @jackyt98
    @jackyt98 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Her eyes are so big and beautiful. Ugh I love them.