How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves You - Jordan Peterson
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That is the essence of compassion, empathy, and unconditional love.
I wish i had those in my marriage
I broke my own heart. We both got caught up in problems that prevented us from being together. At the end we were both broken in different ways but we finally had the chance to get together and at the moment I realised I couldn't give him what he wanted and needed and he deserved to have what he wanted and needed he deserved to be happy I didn't have the ability to do it so I let him go and I carefully told him what he needed to hear to get closure and to move on and heal. And he did and he happily got married and had a family and got what deserved and I'm happy for him.
My goodness I love this guy. It’s been far to long to hear a man that is not only passionate about what his topic is but also he genuinely wants you to feel it also. He has helped me to understand so much. He’s walked thru the fire. He already knows and has felt some of life’s biggest obstacles. Much respect.
Much respect
So true... Like in the earlier stages of the relationship you have hawk eyes looking out for red flags (like serious ones, not the he sleeps with socks on) . You check their idealogy, future plans and stuff and then if you decide to stick together you stick together like a team. Fighting the battle together, working on issues together, putting in efforts and everything.
😆 you got it !!
I sleep with my socks on in winters, is that bad in some way? Didn't know it could be a red flag.
@@rupanshidhruv no its just a habit. SM is saying real red flags are not little personality quirks like that. I mean its not even a real quirk since we all do that when cold at night. She used it as an example as NOT a red flag, because so many young pple can be confused these days cuz we can pick & choose with dating apps to exact characteristics its causing pple to get so picky. I mean love is love & while certain basic commonalities ensure more strength & closeness in s union, true love is when the partner does thngs or has quirks you may not embrace but you love them in spite of because it makes them unique & if the bond is strong their good points far outwiegh like say a sport obsession, or loving a food u totally hate.
@@rupanshidhruv it's okay bro, just don't wear red socks 👍
@@rupanshidhruv no bro that was sarcastic... It's totally fine, I do it to.
he loves his family so much that he shares his life to give examples
His wife is lucky and he's a good person.
The personal secret is the fragility of the soul. Biggest risk to open up for anybody, as it could get hurt by being abused.
YESSSSSSS!
I realized that, be careful what you tell people about yourself it can be a big part of what they abuse you for if they want to do great harm and damage!
An adult who was an injured child is not going to get stronger or better if they are constantly being bullied and abused by the people they thought they could trust!
You’re right. It’s happened to me.
Absolutely 🥺
It's so difficult to just be yourself for fear of it being used as ammunition against you or people who you thought were true friends...just... walking away. I can't trust anyone anymore. It's like this terrible game that you can never stop playing 😶
@@tourbillon13 😔
That’s why you keep looking for the RIGHT person, who won’t let you down, or betray you somehow. ❤️
And NEVER let em go when you find them. 🫂
I wish more people thought like this, because in this day in age it just feels like so many people are just phoning it in, and their love doesn’t feel like it’s unconditional.
Love helps us manage it. If we were perfect we wouldn’t need each other for support, imo.
I wish I had found Jordan years ago.
I don't feel so out of place as much since I realize he knows my well is deep and cold and lonely.
We all have something. I'm still strong hearty but have bladder problems. Another friend is loosing her memory .dementia. and we are not like really old. ..everyone has a cross to bear.
@@cindyrobertson3798 We carry our cross with its rewards also☺💓🙏🇺🇸
There's no point in even attempting to love someone who says that they have no flaws
Exactly... but the difficulty is to let them go, when you know clearly that she/he doesn't have the same feeling.
Eloquence is God's gift for us to be able to hear and understand. The teachers are out teaching. There is one for every ear and every vocation and every status in life. You will recognize them by the Truth comi g from them. God bless this man, his words and the transmittal of this video.
It is also a sign that he is a deep and complex thinker, being able to use an abundant of sources, pre-analyze them, make sense of them and put them into words which all of us can relate.
I wouldn't give so much credit to god as I would to he. himself.
@Mazimaz it's for that same reason that I would attribute it to God.
It reminds me of Ecclesiastes 3:11,
"He hath made all things good in their time, and hath delivered the world to their consideration, so that man cannot find out the work which God hath made from the beginning to the end."
"..and hath delivered the world to their consideration.." in a more modern translation becomes "..He has also set eternity in the human heart.."
We have the incredible ability to contemplate eternity, yet have to accept that we exist with earthly limitations.
The translations used are DRC1752 and the NIV for further context/reading.
You know these things are the most difficult to resolve, mentally people can not make it passed the terror barrier. This is why people need to live by faith, not by sight.
How do I live by faith?
@@daisyjeffs Conviction and acting upon it.
Hebrews 11:1-3
New International Version
Faith in Action
11 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for(A) and assurance about what we do not see.(B) 2 This is what the ancients were commended for.(C)
Stop with the denial act, it’s an Excusable excuse. Or should I say blackball? Faith without works is dead. Walk by faith not by sight, don’t just walk away you who think you have the keys of the kingdom. Easy? For without Him, big nothing burger for you. Or a good flame Broiling.
I love Jordan Peterson. Such an outstanding guy. It sucks how much people my age seem to hate him and act like he’s this horrible bigoted person when he’s actually very tolerant and uplifting.
LOVE THIS MAN FOR HIS COURAGE AND INTELLIGENT DISCOURSES OVER HUMAN BEINGS.GLAD HE IS ON EARTH WITH ALL OF US FOOLISH NATURES HELPING US SORT OUT LIFE MESSES.THANK YOU DR. PETERSON FOR BEING YOU!!!!!!
Yes, unconditional love to my kids !!🥰😊😼
This reminds me so much of the story of Jesus and the woman at the well. That woman realized that Jesus loved her and she became an evangelist
I've never watched anything of this giant and dont get shaken by positive emotions,love him dearly🇿🇦🙏🙏🌹🌹❤️❤️🤝🤝❤️
His insight is a gift. ❤
To truly love someone you must love them unconditionally, this requires risk on your part by exposing your vulnerabilities your attributes, good and bad. Dr. Peterson speaks with candour and wisdom, and expresses his vulnerability with great honesty and dignity.
totally. love unconditionally. I learn from him what my parents failed to teach like boundaries. it's like he teaches the opposite of what most people learn. to see things from both sides. we are all so one sided but he forces us to expand our minds.
Embracing our limitations is the first step of discarding our egos and ridding denial. Like Yin and Yang, it draws us closer to harmony within our souls
his mindset is next level.
Thank you Jordan Peterson
Depends on the limitation! If you are dealing with an insane or abusive person, love is pointless and counter productive. Avoidance or a kick up the backside works much better!
You can love and still avoid.
Which is basically what he’s always talking about ,love others even when they don’t love you. It s sort of like “I don’t want you in my life anymore but I still care for your well-being and I hope you heal from the things that influence your negativity” whether it adds changes or not,it’s still engraved in your character and moral standard that you love without conditions .
@@beebay4269 yeah i still love him but it wasn't better to be together for both of our well being so i broke up
@@beebay4269 I agree in principle. Apparent cessation of love can also occur after long avoidance, which solves the problem anyway.
Obviously
@@Nous520 It is easy to guess that you have never loved an insane or abusive person.
Powerful mind and good hearted. We need more of this kind.
Love this guy. His abilities of speaking and articulating so precisely is incredible. He most definitely has the capability of speaking to one's soul. A gift from God and now an absolute North American treasure. Canada has no choice but to share him. He's my favorite Canuck
True love is accepting a person as they are, and not put unrealistic expectations on a person. That's love. I love yall, no matter what, and I'm grateful for yall.
Exactly. Nobody is perfect. Acceptance of the whole person's is real love.
This is so damn true.if someone is broken from inside we label them as toxic people.
I want the whole world to hear this clip!! I’m a autistic autism mom. I accept my daughter and myself as we are. If we could see Everybody in the way Dr. Peterson is describing we’d all be to much more at peace. Thank you, Dr. Peterson. 🙏❤️
Acceptance is the ultimate truth.
Yes, Absolutely the case. How beautifully said. God bless you!
Imagine being able to speak what's on your mind like this.
I'm only this articulately fluid when I'm alone . When people are around, thoughtless
That's it, right there. I had guys tell me that the reason they 'love' me is because of the value i can add to their lives, looking at me as some sort of superwoman who can add greatness to them. Granted, i want to be of value to my future spouse. But what irks me is that they tell me they love me without recognizing my fragility as a woman and have zero thought about whether or not they can also add value to my life. It's just about what they can get from me. That's not love. That's consumerism.
We think so much about the credentials of the person we want to have without thinking if we are also the person that deserves the person we like. And you dont get to answer that without looking at the person you love, recognize areas of weakness, and think of how you can help make the life of the beloved better. Imagine if people loved each other this way.
Yes indeed. Be with a giver, not a taker. Who can outgive eachother?
Very insightful and quite biblical.
This man speaks with such depth to the soul, beyond our daily thoughtless criticism with fear. Biblical psychology with love. The world NEEDS THIS DEPTH!!!!
When working in a nursing home, I realized what I would learn -- true compassion. There was value in their fragility.
Genius is never obvious , but always quality.
He has such emotional intelligence. Tapping into that and his intellect. I think it's an experience I didn't expect
Love this man's passion.
I would love to feel as passionate about anything in the world as this man does about just talking to others. Truly inspiring.
Love this beautiful passionate speach ❤️
His insight is a gift. ❤
I feel like he takes my soul to church more than an actually sermon nowadays
Exactly what I told my ex after she left me. I love this guy he’s someone special indeed.
True. Fragility is the best word
GOD BLESS JORDAN KEEP HELPING THE PEOPLE NEED IT!!!!
This is why I have trouble loving myself
Are you broke? Cos if you are, loving yourself is a difficult thing to achieve...Good luck.
Don't give up. Keep working on it.
Same, dude.....
Another meaningful observation. 💛
This was so unbelievably beautiful!💜🕊🕊🕊
True Love Never Dies
This Man is Full of Wisdom..
That's there the 100% breakdown. Leave it to him! Love this thanks!
Unconditional love and acceptance ❤
Argue for your limitations and sure enough they’re yours ♥️
LOVE HIM❤
Love truth, thank you, Jordan Peterson !
…and we all GROW UP best within this environment of love and patience with our common infantile issues…while not enabling them.
This man is Incredible
Acceptance on humans behavior unconditionally loving them for who they are ❤❤
You're a great teacher!!!
This is a key point
Limited and simultaneously Unlimited. 🙌
Deep passionate caring man Jordan Peterson ♥️
Sometimes I'm not exactly certain of what he's conveying...he takes simplicity to a confusing level..but I greatly admire him anyway.
I have to slower the videos speed sometime.
What’s so confusing here. Yeah he doesn’t always use simple terms but he still gets his points across clearly, if you listen carefully of course.
listen to it 15 or 30 times like I do
Definitely glad that you actually understand the meaning of defending and helping those whom have less of the ability to help themselves strongly!
Bullies are bullies until the person being bullied decides too !
Such wisdom from this guy...
Love is circumstantial and conditional, period. We are all biased to this basic concept. It is what it is.
Me whenever Jordan Peterson speaks: "I like your funny words, magic man"
Yes, oh my gosh AMEN
Yes, this reality makes Us expand as men & Women 🎉 Acceptance of what we cannot control. Empowering what We & who we can. True Love!
Jordan is Awesome 👏🏻🙏🎩😃
Thanks. I needed this
I LOVE THE IMPERFECTIONS TO JORDAN😇😇😇
So I'm in love 🤔🤔🤔 just yesterday night I felt something for him which I never felt for anyone before. And I know I'm fully aware of who he is in real not how he represent himself to the world. His inner world is not hidden to me though I just started to explore his inner world 🌎 and just after exposing to his inner world , I started to feel something for him . Now I don't care who he is in real, I just want to explore him and feel him, help each other to grow better . Wow 😳 such a strong feeling is developing within me 🤧🤧🤧 . Ohh god!!!
Yes! Over the years I have loved everyone even the ones that hurt me. But after a while you just get tired of people judging you so you step back to protect yourself but then they judge you in a different way for doing that! I just wish EVERYONE could except EVERYONE & love them because we are ALL broken in some way & need each other.
Spiritual Warfare is SO prevalent not & it’s crazy!!
💜🙏❣️✝️🕊️💛
Where I found God, at the end of my limits, that somehow I knew God could do what I knew I could not. I gave my problems and got serenity. That is a miracle.
Solidness not limitation. Limitation is the way we perceive it now. But solidness is the level of viewing it when we go off the limitation.
I may have to listen to this again...I was stuck after "if you love someone"🤧
Ty
So wise
I love this guy❤️
Becareful
Yeah!!
Interesting concept of we accepting human limitation. I hate being limited. Was very much athletic and 16 yrs disability. I hate it. I like that JP mentions we accept limitations of others fragility. Had a man w decent pension, home in country, car and nice truck paid for. Tried hard to woo me. I knee he couldn't deal in a supportive caring way w a disabled person. I got worse over a decade plus and was correct about that assessment. Better alone than someone who blames you for your physical short comming. That isn't love. Hard to find that degree of love. I had it 2 a beautiful man 20 years and it was mutual. He was quadriplegic. He got his PhD in Sociology, minor in Biblical studies, and thought in philosophical ways. We had great talks. Now my mental stimulation comes through inet PhD's. I took my best friend camping < 1 yr after we met. So great. He loved it. I miss our times.
oh my, listening to him, watching him do his rhythm, his dance (watch his video on Phoenixs performance in the Joker, you'll know what i mean...)...and that bone chiller of scene from The Matrix flashes before my eyes, "Mr Anderson..." and then everything about our fragility Agent Smith points out on Neo's face ..before Neo brings out the Mayhem to the multitude of Agent Smith..
You can take an argument too far, into confusion. God Is perfect and created us perfect, with the ability to choose otherwise and we chose outside of Him, where it is imperfect, so don't celebrate imperfection. We receive The Holy Spirit and His perfection is ours and we are seen and function in His perfection. Celebrate Him and His amazing Grace. I trust Him.
So true
What if a parent shields themself with their fragility towards a child when they express what they feel? (the parent is deep within the fragility, as a victim to all expression of pain of others)
I literally dreamed I was attending 1 of his lectures!
It's not limitation
It's *distraction* by some other things
Great video 👍
Amen
Fragility of all life, actually. ❤️
Dang... Always so good... with the best stuff!!
In a world where we are willing to trade in our partners, because we need to happy and believe that you could love them if they only changed into the person you want them to be. Instead of accepting that person and not relying on them to make us happy
Totally
OMFG thank you for this. I learn something new 1 day @ a time or faster just depends yup
Cheers
Wisdom
He's very intelligent for me, i dont always understand what he is saying
Something about them