At the grand old age of 60, the wife and I finally figured this out. Paid off ALL. debt, drive 20 year old vehicles, cook at home and learned to grow food. Turn off the TV and it is amazing how you figure out you want things, you don't need them. Good for you young man!
I retire in two weeks. I learned the same lessons about 6 years ago. Paid off the debt paid off credit cards & the car. Turned off the idiot/propaganda machine (TV) and enjoy a less hectic life. Red pilled and happier then ever in my life. Get out of the rat race and proverbial, 'keeping up with the Joneses'. Gotta go now... Ride my motorcycle to the gym. Best of luck to you and your wife!
I agree! He figured it out young! I turned off tv in my 40's and stopped going into stores as a past time, suddenly didn't need all those things they convince you you need. But it's been a process like most things, and now I am ready to downsize much more and start doing some of the things I've wanted to do even if I don't have others with the same interests. They can sit in their lives and criticize, I don't care anymore.
At the age of 42 I cashed in and i moved to south America. It has been the best 2 years of my life. Not having to work 12-14 hours a day in jibs that i hated! Now i only do things that makes me happy and i dont have to work for a living. I just needed courage and i thank God ge gave it to me. I feel blessed everyday. God bless you reading this with health, wisdom and prosperity.
After living many years in New York City, I gave up on the American Dream. Returned to the west of Ireland 🇮🇪 Healthier food, astounding scenery and easier lifestyle.
Can’t imagine how much better you felt. I’ve been to both. Ireland’s natural beauty and kind people have New York beat by miles. They still have you guys on food though, I’ll say that much
As an "insider", I can tell you that the American Dream involves being a wage and debt slave. I'm nearing retirement (the end of my economic incarceration) and I'm sorry I spent the healthiest years of my life chained to a desk. Keep the faith, Tim.
there's nothing wrong with the dream, it's just not for most people. if you don't see yourself marrying and starting a family settling down in a house doing the 9 to 5 until you're 70 and retiring to do cruises, the american dream isn't for you. it's not so much about giving up the dream, but rather about dreaming a better dream.
The American dream is bs. You go in debt & paying on a mortgage that may outlive you. As soon as the majority get money thinking they can now afford something the price of it went up. Forever trying to catch up if you do not have more money than the days you live. BS!!
I lived 7 months in my car in Florida. LOVED IT! Then I moved to Wisconsin and I lived in a tent in the forest for 3 months in the winter. LOVED IT! The lesson that I learned is : don't tell anyone! Other people will fuck your dreams.
@@cassandratype4 In my car, I had a membership to Planet Fitness. Also, the beaches have public showers. In my self made tent or teepee, I sponge bathed. I had a wood stove in the tent. With the tent, I had an out house for pooing.
You nailed it. When I was in my forties, still chasing it, my aunt said to me, "no one says on their deathbed, as their final words, 'I wish I'd made more meetings' during my life." Loving the retired life.
At the age of 23 I learned from a 3rd grade drop out who happens to be my father in law..... if you live within your means and live debt free and stop chasing expensive material possessions that mean nothing you’ll be a lot happier. I’m 30 now and 1000% debt free and I do what I want🙏🏽
Indeed. My parents taught me these same principles. Never being in debt if you are pay off as quickly as you can, always buy used in cash. Should you buy anything new know you are going to use it extensively. Live below your means. It's helped me in many situations in my life where I've saved up enough money to get by for emergencies always be in cash and if I did not have enough paying in installments when I had to. Had a lot of criticism especially when I've worked with others in the workforce, it's given me a safety net knowing that I I'm able to do it.
"Sometimes you have to let go of 'The American Dream' to find your dream." It's time to look within and go after YOUR OWN DREAM while in this one and only life. Only you know what's best for you to make you happy.
Ok wtf is this guy talking about though? Is he homeless? Is that his dream cause hes not convincing me to do what I want? He doesnt want to work a 9 to 5 neither do I, but how is he getting money? I dont need a mansion but wtf. Where is the bed to sleep in? Where is the food? Where can I go to the bathroom and brush my teeth and shower? Things like this? Its nice to say I have no boss and do what I want. It's not nice to be homeless and have none of the things I talked about. So can someone tell me wtf this guy is talking about.
@@WM-mu8ep So we must live poor have very little or nothing? Are we really going to be happy with nothing or always having to watch what we spend or live below our means or not being able to eat what we want? What if you want to study travel etc. We all want to be happy. You can't be happy either if you have nothing. I suppose it depends from person to person. When we stop dreaming part of us also dies. We die unfulfilled. I think one of the secrets to live is living DEBT FREE so we can enjoy life more instead of working endlessly to pay off all of our debts. We only have one life we shouldn't deprive ourselves of certain things that are even considered basics. I believe in having balance & not chasing unnecessary things but I get what his saying. Living a simple life is probably living a more uncomplicated life but simple means something different for everyone. I get the point of living your own dream but who wouldn't want an abundant life?
@@tizb5178 yes but hes being cryptic about it. What I mean by that is hes saying just quit your job if you dont want to work. Well we have to work. He can only do that cause hes getting yt money. So hes being very cryptic and not being specific about how he gets by and gets his money. Hes leaving that for us to assume hes getting enough money from yt. We cant just quit a job we dont like. Hes not being honest and giving us all the details. Just saying quit your job is not enough. Yes he does need to give private info and I dont mean his social security or anything. By private he needs to tell us how he gets money food and place to shower and brush his teeth. If he cant explain in further detail how to survive when quitting your job then his advice is useless. It's just talk and not backing up what he says with logic.
I totally am with you. I was making $40/hr and left my job that was making me miserable after I was there for 19 years. I spend more time with my 11 year old son now and I earn $15/hour working part time at a school but I am happy now. 😊 I also used to have brand new cars all the time. I drive a 2010 car now but have no car payment.
No fancy effects, no dramatic music, no impostering, showing off or endless self-pity; just straightforward insights on life with all its highs and lows, appreciating both to ease off the gas in the ''rat race'' people call life. This is the truly valuable side of TH-cam.
There Never was an American dream for non White people. The American dream was a lie told to rest of the world, in order to attract Cheap Immigrant Labor to work for US corporations.
@@_Wai_Wai_ the american dream for wtes was to get scalped and terrorized by indns and use as dogs for the treacherous war machine of a government that hates their rayce, only to be buried by the rest of the world and scorned by them as they disappear from humanity forever. I Wonder why the migrant outrage when we chose to close our borders?
Same thing happened to me, I finally woke up at 33, quit my job, bought land and started building and growing, 6 years later, still have cc debt, but no mortgage. People mocked me at first, but now they ask me advise on how to break free. Stay true to yourself and find peace with God's creation.
Tim, I did 20 years in the US Army and my last 5 years were the roughest ever. I was 33 and had been to war three times for what I feel was someone else’s greed. I forced myself to make the full 20 so I could retire at 38 and live this “American dream “ . Now at 41, all I want to do is leave this country and NEVER come back. My wife sent me this video while was sleeping and even though I woke up earlier than expected, I’m so glad I watched it. I am now a subscriber and look forward to seeing all of your content. Stay blessed my brother!!!
Fuck the rat race I've been so confused lately I'm only 29 and ive always been a minimalist but as I got older I started getting very depressed and anxious about my life I've had a rough go so I've been homeless a lot but I like it I always figure out shelter and works it's an adventure and the feeling of leaving your camp to go try to figure out how your going to eat today and whatever else you want when you get it it's the instant gratification of success I love the adventure of it and the mystery. I'm buying a motorcycle soon and I'm hitting the road.
That seems to be the narrative of most returning veterans... They go in with the singing the star spangled banner and came home jamming rage against the machine. Fuck politics send them bitches in to get killed.
A huge part of chasing the "American Dream" is remaining on top of the "financial treadmill of life". You have to keep running on that "treadmill" in order to pay for everything. I'm 62, owned a couple homes, drove nice cars,....and for decades I had to keep running in order to pay for this dream. -- I don't know how younger people these days are going to be able to keep up. The prices of EVERYTHING these days is way higher (in proportion) to what it was for me, when I was growing up. In my 30's, I was able to pay for my house, bills, taxes, car, insurance, etc., on ONE mediocre-paying job. It's almost impossible to do that these days!
At least you’re honest. Other people in your demographic and older are lying to the younger generations, saying that MORE hard work and MORE time will give them what they seek. It’s lies
Amen 🙏🏿 I’m 36 and I remember as a kid you could go into a grocery store and buy a buggy full of groceries for $25 and now You can’t get milk and bread for that!!
First, congrats on making that kind of money at 22! That is something. On the other hand, all it takes is one emergency (sickness, job loss, etc.) to wipe out your gains. Happened to me at 40. That tanked my entire investment in school, health, and finances over the decades, and it irks me to think I put in so many time and hard work just to be dumped down the chute once I got sick. I'm not trying to be bleak with this comment, but to say don't give them everything (you sound like you've got a head start in knowing that up front!).
I hope you at least realize that unless you're living in certain very expensive cities, you're making a lot of money for 22. I'm making 70k at 25 and I considered that pretty crazy. But I get it, I don't want to do this shit for 40 years either.
65K per year may seem like a good amount of money, but it’s all relative to where your geographic location is. That being said, every year from the last few forward, that amount of liquidity is decreasing at a rapid rate on its purchasing power due to inflation thanks to our wonderful politicians that are diluting the money supply by unrestrained money printing. Cash currently is a liability. It’s like a big block of ice that’s melting at 15 to 20% per year currently. (The government CPI number of 1.9%-4.8% is misleading) At the rate of decline that our country is currently experiencing in many areas like, civil unrest, government overreach, attempted socialist programs, and the ever decreasing confidence of the world in our fiat global reserve currency, weakens the Dollar and brings it closer and closer to its collapse. If you haven’t already, it would be a good idea to start investing in hard assets.
@@petrolo72 yeah I’m currently investing rn, putting up about 45-60% of my income in investments. I’m worried about inflation rn. 65k is good enough for me because I don’t have any crazy overhead or responsibilities. I plan on trying to keep my overhead low for as long as I can
Tell my wife I ve keep telling her all the time. She don’t care. She said there is always one life enjoy the life trips , go out , That’s why I am broke lol
as a 26 yr old man, who has the pressures of getting married & starting a family, to working a career that isn’t fulfilling, & buying cars & homes to impress others & racking up debt because “it’s apart of adulting”….this video is just what I need. God bless you brotha 🙏🏾
A lot of men peak around 35-40, you have more time than you think. Men have all the advantages past 30 compared to women for sure, I wouldn't worry too much about things like marriage. I honestly think the best husband material actually tends to be between 35-40 and for women(for wife material) it tends to be early 20's and for women it's more about maintaining value, which is largely low body count and youth and so many young women don't realize this. By then you should be fairly sure if marriage is for you or not. That tends to be the age men really start to hit their stride too, it takes longer than young men think, especially considering how lacking in guidance young men are these days. For the most part I think most young men your age these days getting married young is a mistake, arguably marrying at all. I'm 35 now and the amount I've grown since 30 blows my mind, more than the entirety of my 20's. I can't stress enough how shocked you'd be how well top men around 35 can do with young attractive women that are marriage minded, compared to young women that want to 'have fun' all their prime, then when they're 30+ wonder why all the top older men are looking at younger women. Focus on bettering yourself, keeping up appearances, don't let yourself go, ect. You might actually reach peak physical attractiveness between 35-40 then, and have more wealth and whatnot than when you were younger, and be more of a man, it'll improve your chances of finding a young woman that wants to settle down. It takes some luck with genetics though, but it's really best to focus on becoming the best version of yourself you can until you're at least 30.
Enjoy a few years and marriage should be no earlier than 35-40 years when people are more mature, lived many experiences, travelled lot... and financially well off which is somewhat important.
@@last7509 I dont think most people can go for it these days. I dont mind as long as both the man and women are on birth control pills as the future the economy will be bad so any possible children will grow up in slave poverty so birth control pills daily atleast for the woman
After raising 6 kids (working 2 or 3 jobs at a time to do it), getting my Masters degree, driving a new car, having management jobs...I was not happy. My kids are grown, I have a lower paying job that I love, have 2 used cars that are paid for, live a minimalist lifestyle, and spend time out in nature...I've never been happier.
I’m an American and I recently said to myself I’m tired of stressing trying to have the American dream. I’m selling my house and buying me some land and a small home for me and my two sons and enjoy traveling. That’s what I want to do
As an european i can say you are making a good life decission for you and you're two sons. Life is way different here then over there in you're country. God bless you and you're sons. Stay safe and be smart Ma'am :)
Maybe it's time for the so-called American dream to be re-defined. I consider my dream to live a free/independent life without too much financial/material responsibilities. The less clutter I own the easier my life is. And better.
Wow this video really hit me in the feels , I recently discovered your channel and also have identified with you with alcohol issues in the past , severe depression, I am a forty year old usaf veteran had to move back in with my parents , In this economy. I couldn't afford a house and now With these prices probably never will , Never been married, No children, And feeling like a complete loser and feeling completely hopeless, This is a new way to reframe things so I thank you.
You’re not a loser! And you’re not alone. There are so many of us in similar situations or living similar lifestyles. We’re probably the new ‘normal’ at this point lol
@@TimothyWard facts !! It's just hard being a millennial because I think that we saw half of our lives where For the most part, dad would work on one income. He had a house and cars . And now like the second half of our lives, you have to live with, like, 20 roommates, it's crazy.
I’m in a similar position. I’m 37, never married, no kids and I have recently moved back in with my parents too. I don’t have a stable career or any money. I often feel like a failure, that a lot of things are out of my control and are unattainable. However, we are both lucky in that we have family that are able to support and help us. We aren’t on the streets yet. And there are things that we can focus on, control and change. We can look after our bodies, be kind to ourselves and work on changing our mindsets. We just have to let go of things which are unattainable or holding us back and be inventive to achieve what we really want out of life. Achieving happiness and doing what we love will attract positivity into our lives.
@@Ms.Irod2024 @anthonytanner2343 Im with you guys! Feel like shit being without kids and stable career. Not stupid, but stressed all the time and just cant move.
I’m 52, never been married, no kids, no girlfriend. 5 years ago I quit my 6-figure job to start freelancing. Still going strong, I love it. I work about 26-30 weeks out of the year, the rest of the time I’m doing what I want to do. It is awesome. When people ask me where I live, my typical answer is “I don’t know” 😃
@@leighanneboles6609 I am available, just not putting any effort into looking. Figure sooner or later I will find a compatible woman. Maybe. Maybe not. Working with a bunch of people in my early 20’s who were just divorced or currently going through one helped shape that a little for me 😃
@@heiko272 Take your time and don't worry about others questioning the fact that you are single, no kids, retired, and not knowing where you live. I guarantee you are happy. I just retired and thinking about selling my house to possibly say the same about where I live. 🤣🤣
I was on the grind until the age of 39. I hated it. So I calculated my finances, assumed that I would die before 80, made a budget, and ended up retiring abroad. I've visited 3 countries thus far, and will be getting my permanent residency in one of those countries soon. I'll be 41 this year and I'm happier than I could ever be!
@Sunkissed Nubian assume what? My years of life on this earth? Because I don't want to live, nor do I think I will live beyond 80. I calculated the amount necessary from my age now to the age of 80. There are other sources of revenue that are not calculated in my projections. I just used the two main sources to make my assumption (my bank account and my monthly passive income). If I live beyond 80, I have other forms if income that arrive by the time I turn 62...
@Sunkissed Nubian I visit cemeteries a lot. I'm not sure what you mean by modern but lifespans were similar 150 years ago. But I will agree. Most of what many consume is garbage.
The American Dream™ I don’t know very many happy people who’ve “achieved” it. The older I get, it’s not even about my money wasted, it’s about the time I’ll never get back.
@Jason Pursell - I get what you're saying but I've finally come to the realization that my time here is pre-detrimened. The time left is well spent looking forward and not back. Looking back is wasted energy. Best wishes!
@@sierrachoco5271 - I don’t look back, except for the lessons on what not to do anymore. Knowing I’ve wasted money and time is a reminder, not a regret. However, I’m keenly aware that my REMAINING time on earth is measured in heartbeats. I want to make them count.
Exactly, chasing a rich boy's dream leads to nothing but misery. Lying to ourselves, enslaving ourselves, wasting the most precious thing we will ever have...our time, our happiness. The things you own end up owning you.
Wow, wise words and wish this was taught in schools ....cause people really don’t care what you have and achieving it makes you happy for a second, at least thats how I felt wasted and emotionally empty. When I let go I felt freer than I ever have.
Yes, when I quit being the General Manager of everyone’s problems around me I found I couldn’t even be in a room by myself. The walls closed in and I fell apart. That’s when life became interesting again...really scary but really fresh! Curiosity returned for the neglected person I had become. Going forward I developed my ‘project of the self’. I didn’t need to judge myself anymore because I was too busy learning about who I was. What followed was I stopped the judgements in my head about everyone else and I gave everyone a “get out of jail free card”. I have more than enough problems to solve now because I’m truly living them instead of evading them. It makes for an interesting life once again.
Amen to that! Similar situation for me as well. I heard a great saying recently regarding letting all that "American Dream" junk go, "You have to become lighter in order to fly." 🕊
Im from Mexico, and relate with your thoughts. I've decided years ago living my youth the way I want, without caring about others or what how the system want us to live. I live with my dog simply in the forest and way happier than ever. 😊Thank you for spreading awarness ❤😊
We paid our debts sold our beautiful home in Atlanta shipped some of our goods and moved to Africa! We are older however there are still some good years of living left. The peace and freedom is paramount. Glad I stumbled on your video! To those of you A Lot Younger. Do It! You wont regret it.
@@skepticalmechanic its ok for general needs. Specialty needs not so much. Its something to consider especially if you have specific needs for specific car.
@@livelovedaydream im from africa and before my trip to the clinic 4months ago, last time i went was 2016 for being light headed. We aint full of sicknesses over here (no offense). Or maybe we where exposed to alot of them since birh. Or maybe it's just me. #Namibia
@@TimothyWard Wow the complete opposite journey as you. I gave up on the dream kind of early. I was 21 about to start my career at a top finance company and said screw this and dropped out of college, started a business and moved to Las Vegas. After doing that for years and years I realized that maybe I want the dream after all. Maybe there is something I can study that I'm interested in. So I went back to college to study another degree from scratch and I'm loving it. I was a C student my entire life partying 24/7 and now I have a 4.0 in a super difficult major and love nerding out and studying! So I totally agree, we should not blindly follow the route society tells us to, we should do what we want and dare to be different. I see so many people with careers they hate or miserable in their relationships, and its like THIS IS A CHOICE! Do you get that? You can just say fuck it and travel the world or meet cool people and actually live a life worth living. Esp if you don't have a family, debt or commitments. You might disappoint your family or friends but trust me they'll get over it lol.
I'm thinking of eventually leaving the country too. But my question is what is the best jobs to take if living in a new country or how to make money while abroad?
I started into the minimalist lifestyle and haven't looked back. I simply love your videos. I have found this giving up the American Dream only 3 years ago. I bought a RV, tow my vehicle behind it and travel around visiting friends and family across the country. I have never felt so free and at peace. My peace and freedom are the only things that are important now. Just me and my 3 dogs. I always joke with everyone that if I ever find someone to date, he will have to have his own RV, because I don't want to give up my me time and he definitely needs his me time too.
I lived in the States for 13 years, 12 in Madison, WI, and one in Baltimore, MD. Had to come back to Mexico. Just couldn't fit in with living the American Dream. There are many things I miss from your great country, but couldn't figure out why people wanted to live a life that didn't give them time to live.
Thank you. I came to this conclusion over a decade ago, so I recently talked to my parents years ago and moved in with them and work part time and do what I want in life now
Then, explain to me how you managed find this nugget of wisdom?. Had you followed your own advice, ...... People say life is all about moderation, I say life is most about sensibility. What isn't sensible to indulge in is just as bad in moderation as it is otherwise.
Maybe get away from their families, too. There's peace of mind starting fresh. No old ties, no old crappy memories, new state, chosen by you this time... I have the wealth to enjoy the "American dream" he's not fond of, and tbh, that's what I'm doing. Just improving the properties, especially the main one. I exercise the opposite of minimalism, lots of stuff, all neatly organized. Almost looks like a Cosco. But I didn't get it to impress people. In fact, I regularly try to hide it. It's for me. In the future, maybe it'll be for a new family that I create, something not at all like the old one I left behind.
As someone told me, "If you're lucky enough to have a high paying job in America, the best thing you can do is work for 5 to 10 years while saying everything possible so you can leave."
2 years ago I paused a lot! I am more focused on self care and working to death to pay for material things just isn't worth it. I am 48 and I'm looking to retire at 55 living a basic life. That's MY dream.
@@timmartin723 Retiring is for people who spent their entires working jobs they never wanted to work in the first place. If you've doing what you truly love, why on earth would you retire? My aunt "retired" from teaching after 40 years but still tutors kids and illiterate adults how to read. She's still happy and vibrant and is the busiest 75 year old in town! I pray to God I can be like that!
This video changed my life honestly. I'm in a weird place in my life, questioning what I really want and I'm definitely afraid of what others (family members especially) might think. This video was a sign for me to keep working towards my dream life.
I've lived the "American Dream" for most of my life. Worked in a job I generally liked. Married, bought her a house, adopted a wonderful child, etc. What it generally is for many men and women is sacrifice. I scrimped and saved in order to buy things and pay for things my spouse wanted. For me, those material things were largely a waste. Sacrificed happily to make my daughter's life better. Doing things my spouse wanted to do and gave up on my dreams. All life is balance, compromise, and finding what works for you and what you can give up. Your insightful and intelligent video is very entertaining and thought provoking.
The day i accepted that i will be okay if i never married and started a family is the day i had true joy and happiness.. and till tomorrow i will always be happy in life
This is so true, Man of God, true happiness comes from within. And Pure Joy is something that comes from knowing God, and deeply expressing his Love no matter what were going through or how we feel. When we are content with where God has us at in our lives;then we learn to embrace the Joy of the Lord. Which isn't based on what happens,but based on our Love for God, in knowing that he's the Joy of our salvation!💃God bless🙏 🙏
This makes me feel incredibly fortunate to have figured this out starting at just 21 years old. I'm about to be 28 and I may not have as much 'stuff' or 'status' as my peers, but you know what? I'm perfectly okay with that. It's not a race, and frankly, all I need is a good place to live, healthy food to eat, a decent car to drive, and time to explore my ambitions.
same man! i just turned 29. all my peers are making 6figura salary while im making less than half what they do. im in healthcare rn and it is damn stressful and i hate it. i would love to do something that makes me happy even if it does not pay well but it is very hard to make that decision when u have multiple health issues and need health insurance. if only healthcare was free or cheaper in the US, i would totally do something else even if it doesnt pay well
Come to india where 80% population doesn't even know what even health insurance is. Its your mental contruct that if only u had that u will be perfect. In reality if u will look, really look u have so many things tht people just dream of. Atleast u have food and water available. Think about middle east, and think about being a women there. Don't want to preach or something buts uts the truth
@@whyme7996 - He definitely had some conveniences. He did work, in his fathers pencil manufacturing shop where he developed advancements still used today. He also did surveying work, tutoring and handyman work for families such as Emerson’s. He did all this while dying young at 43.
@@whyme7996 you and Pippi don't really know much about H.D Thoreau's life, do you? Easier to judge someone that way, isn't it? I suggest you and Pippi need to dig deeper before you make statements that reveal your profound ignorance
You nailed it. Full time vanlife in a $2500 minivan for over a year now. Hiking, traveling, ect all the things I didn’t have time to do with mortage and stuck in a carrier in a zip code.
A health issue will wake you up real fast. I changed everything after my health crisis. Now, 13 years later, I'm retired, debt free and living a simple life. My spouse now has health issues and I am free to give my time to that. Relationships, love and time is what it's all about. That's the dream.
Yep most people don't even have 50-100k saved up in case of an emergency; constantly "paying off" something that either depreciates (car) or has insane interest (house). Insurance doesn't cover everything and MANY problems are caused by stress and lack of sleep.
I'm 33 and I feel the same, I stopped chasing. I am working to put food on the table and a roof over my head. I have stopped looking for external gratification. I am enjoying myself living in the present, eating better, Meditating, and manifesting happiness. I am not existing anymore, I am living :)
@@Rockstar-iy9re don't live on 100% of ur income, live below ur means.. I didn't say I was going bat shit crazy, I said I'm living and it could mean a lot of things.. I am blessed with a rainy day fund and have assets 😊😊 maybe should have typed it in the comment..
Tim I have a question though, is there anything you recommend to the younger generation of men in terms of living happily. If you could go back would you have any certain thoughts or opinions. love you bro peace be with you.
I'm 16 and I've been thinking a lot about this lately. I'm so tempted to get rid of all social media (except youtube of course xD) and go out & seize my dreamlife I often like daydreaming about living in a small rural home with my dog, collecting herbs and flowers everyday, drinking tea while reading a good book, growing my own crops, sewing my own clothes and blankets, and occasionally going out to a coffee or book shop in the evening :)
It’s a shame how the American Dream changed from being a pursuit of freedom and happiness to a pursuit of purely money. People still think the more money they have, the happier they’ll be. But in the end they find out too late
It's not even money, it's validation. Think about it most people in America with all these nice things can barely afford them and 90% of them are constantly in debt because of it. All to impress other people, they aren't even happy.
Money is great to a point but then it is never enough. I know too many guys that could be living very nice and relaxed lives on the salary they make but nope - they keep buying bigger and better toys and this forces them into the madness
Careers, Wealth, Big Houses, Kids, Boats, Vacations, Wives, Drugs, Cars, Sex etc. The Capitalist mindset. More more more it’s never enough. What is success? We all have an expiration date. It’s a lack of identity which is the biggest problem for Americans. The political ideology of Right vs Left for control is where most end up and that’s the most dangerous. It’s called the American Dream because when you wake up it was all a Dream
The dream has changed socially. 1st it was to be an independent state or country. Then it was to own a home. Which gave us the dream of land. Then they make the dream home on the land. Dude, there is no more land. Next dream is on the moon or mars. Ugh. Sooo crazy, wild and interesting times. Right now. Just my opinion. I know there are plot holes.
I’m currently working a high-paying job for my age and I have been moving up the ladder like the dream tells us. I’m so stressed out all the time and I wonder what I’m even working for sometimes. Starting to fantasize about being a park ranger and I happened to run across this today. Very motivating. I’m so close to saying fuck it. Kudos to you for having the balls to live your own life. You are the real winner!
If you follow the crowd, you fall into all the traps put on the main path in life. The things everyone want, cost more. You need to follow your heart but also your head and be practical.
Finding the right path is an actual challenge. Funny you said Park Ranger. I did that and the reality of the that job was not like the movies! Life is filled with paths, we tend to stick to the ones we know.
I did this too but with an RV. Bought my raw land in 2009, fully paid off now with well, electric, septic. I still work but have the freedom to change on a dime.
"The wealthiest place in the world is a graveyard site. Its filled with dreams and hopes that were never fulfilled because people were too comfortable to get uncomfortable"- Les Brown
I’m 31 and I’ve figured this out years ago, the simple life is much more rewarding! Guess what!? When you realize you don’t need expensive cars, bags, clothes, houses, and everything else you can save money and put it towards experiences. Eat well, take care of yourself, go travel, have new experiences and enjoy life!
It’s taken me finally 33 years to realize this. I’ve been slowly selling and donating a majority of my things because I realized that none of it made me happy. Finally taking a stab at the simple living and focusing on what I want. It’s a difficult process for natural people pleasers but it’s already been really rewarding.
I’m realizing this now 29 ! Being from a small country town in Louisiana made me very ambitious but now I’m questioning things like why I really want all this …I be traveling an love seeing the hills the mountains beaches oceans… having a decent bank account you can live a amazing simple life you don’t have to be wealthy or rich cause truth be told known of this real it’s just a experience we should be enjoying
Been doing this since I quit high school as a JR back in 04. I turned my back on the "American Dream" when I learned what kind of obsessive, spoiled, narcissistic brats it created in it's wake. I work hard, pay my bills and keep it simple. I don't have much to lose nor do I plan on gaining alot other than experience. I've been pretty friggin happy to be honest. I'm not doing the whole family thing yet but it may happen if it's in the cards for me but I always feel a family forces you into the "Dream".
I’m cooking as I listen to this video oh man I’m 29 no kids not married not a home owner my mommy blessed me with a ranch home and I have a 2016 Kia Sorento and I felt so behind in life and I never felt like that until I started watching TH-cam and couples on here how much money and stuff they have and it really does distract you and the blessing that we already have when you try to live this American dream and start comparing yourself to others ya know: THANK YOU. You make a whole lot of sense. You have a new subscriber
This video is so true. I’m in this place in life where I’m wondering why I’m stressing myself out 95% of the time, trying to fulfill what other people say I should want, and berating myself when I don’t make what other people consider acceptable timelines. I just want to live my life doing what I want and find acceptable.
Yeah I agree. Seems like life in the west is all about impressing others and trying to compete with each other,who has the best career,who went to college or University,who has the nicest house or car. It's honestly exhausting and toxic.
This is YOUR journey, not theirs. I heard once that we should never listen to someone else’s advice because if we fail or hate it that it was their mistake, not our own, however, If we make our own decision it was our mistakes and/or happiness, not there’s and can lead to less resentments.
The American Dream was originally about freedom and individual liberty, not about acquiring and possessing things. Many people around the world are not as free as Americans. But we have twisted the term and made it about making money and having "stuff" based on what society says.
Facts many have gotten the term "American dream" confused with materialism and keeping up with the Jones and unfortunately this confusion is common in a certain segment of the population material and possession can never be a solution or source of freedom the ability to live life on your on terms
100%. It was a marketing slogan, sorry for those that are suckers to commercials, as we sit here and watch you tube which is just a big marketing campaign. If you're truly living life without that mindset, you don't make your tube videos.
@@cady3997 in the 90s it was so obvious they were using the phrase American Dream to sell everything including the kitchen sink an folks actually fell for fit Hook line an sinker
It is true that there are places in the world that people aren't as free as Americans, but it is also true that there are country's in the world that are freer than the USA. Travel, see the world, and don't believe all the propaganda that you have been fed.
"Think about it. All the stuff in the American dream, typically involves you paying money out to other people". Straight bars. You just earned a subscriber.
Well, as your big bro, I'ma tell you, you've done right by yourself. I'm 45. I've been all over the world and back. Though I recognize that I don't own much of anything, no house, kids, etc, there are people I went to school with who are jealous of me. Jealous because they don't have the courage to do what I've chosen to do. They can't step out and travel the world or start a business and fail because they're afraid of what other people are gonna say. Everyone's life is different and it's supposed to be. Regardless of how people act or parents think, it's not a competition. Keep it up. Keep being you!
As George Carlin once said “The American dream, because you have to be asleep to believe it.” And I agree with this. I went to Columbia University and I’m almost 40 and graduated back when I was 22 and realized I must not of been born to the right family when I’m still making under $50,000 and it wasn’t from a lack of trying. I’m so done with the rat race and tired of this narrative of “keeping up with the Joneses.” Love your videos man! 👍🏻
Same here. University degree. Never landed the great job. Never was able to get a Mentor. Just grinded away for twenty years at two jobs and kept trying to land that "great job". I have had enough. I'm done.
I'm in the same position now. I earn way above my means, have a mortgage on my apartment, fuel efficient car, can take care of myself but single, unfulfilled, barely traveled and feel burnt out in the industry I work in. When I turned 30, I truly woke up and started wondering what I want out of life. I'm still trying to figure it out at 32. I got some hope watching this video. Thanks for putting it out there.
Since we are in the final 7 years of hell before the millenium of peace, get right with Christ, gather a year supply of food, and get ready to flee to one of Christ's goshens so you can be here for the millenium. Nothing else matters now.
I was just in SINY, we had 33 sh0e+ens in 1 w/end...I was supposed to go to Queens & they had 10 alone over there :(( I was supposed to stay 2 maybe 3 days FUGGHEDDABOUTIT! I went back to the boondocks of northwest CT.., I can count w/my fingers how many times I went to our place in BRK'Lyn, even then I no longer go out at night now deBozo wants store owners restaurantors to check ID to get in ....lol...(vaccine iD prior to ppL in NYC B4 they get their lunch specials or food... I'm like yeah ok, who's goin 2 go to the tough areas & demand an iD 4 the $1+ food? etc)
Sunshine Shoulders utuber says get also a passport ID card in addition to a regular passport...also just carry that about town & got to places that have a safe, skip places in eastern EU that require U to keep ure passport they will take it or make copies...make sure U get a passive USA income stream...
The "American Dream" is an economic dream of wealth, based on conservative Right-wing beliefs. If you do some research you can see this point of view. When he talks about how society rejecting his choices when he is not inline with everyone's identification, he's not talking about the "American Dream", that is social ostracism. He in fact is living the "American Dream" even though he doesn't see it. The dream has always been the ability to be happy and successful in your own right. In this new age era, millions of people are living the same dream he is, so this thought is not a new concept
You are so correct! I've been beating my head against a wall for 66 years now. Our society has degraded to the point of collapse. I was born in Washington, D.C., 'Home of the Brave', not. More like home of the corrupt. If I could scrape the money together, I'd join you out west. Be well, Brother. Cheers, Tim. (My name, as well)
@Jam Frost Snowgood for you but it's not your house yet until it's paid off. The bank own that house. You and your hubby stay healthy and pay down that mortgage as quickly as you can.
I don't mind so much working for a living but a four-day work week and three day weekend would be so much more beneficial and make people much more productive and happy
There is good research that people are more productive at the same job if they do the same amount of work in 4 days instead of 5 . People tend to hedge their energy to survive the five days. They know they need to get it done in 4 and plan better, are more efficient, have a better attitude, come back rested, don't waste the last weekend day preparing to come back.
I agree with every single thing you said. Gave up on the American dream in 2013 and haven't looked back since. Thanks for making your content man, love these walk-n-talks
I got tired of being lead, fed and having to beg for "success" and started landscaping in May 2019, when the pandemic hit I went full time on my own and while I still make less than I used to at my 9 to 5, I've never been happier or freer in my life and not a single day feels like work.
I saw a utube video docu about South Africans years & years...long ago left for the Congo then 1 family several went further in the bush 1 particular family after 1 year living away far fr other South Africans (away fr comfy expats), the farmed vegies in like a 33 hectar farmland & made 6X as much money than they would have in South Africa etc. sold them to the foreigners in the city... I was on a utube marathon the other day
This video just saved my life. I’ve been driving myself crazy and literally miserable and feeling worthless because I can’t meet the societal standards. Even in church it’s the same. Success is equated with red bottom shoes and big houses and cars. While investigating how I want to move forward after my son moves out next year I decided I want to just take some time and discover me. Thanks so much. ❤
Finding happiness is a good purpose try Not to forget that not commodities ..You may find happiness in a cave , if you surprise yourself then Remember your mantra , look for your own happiness
@@JJ_FLAputting your kids out at 18 or even thinking someone can make it out here at 18 is u setting them up for failure u brought them in this world tf u in a rush to put them out college isn’t any good at all unless they are going to make 6 figures from it people have to stay together or move off grid like the brother in the video have to stop that bs narrative when my kid leaves home they are literally going to go in debt it’s way more expensive then when y’all were coming up an yall couldn’t even do good in those eras it was cheaper to live in.
I'm a 32 year old vagabond. Was in the military from 18-29 and never wanted to start a family while bouncing from duty station to duty station. BUT THEN I got medically retired & had no idea what to do so I hit the road. Fifteen countries so far. It's was jarring going from so much structure and guidance to literally doing whatever I want, free of any unfulfilling, obligatory responsibilities or relationships. Just me and God out here. Curious to see what becomes of America in the next few decades. Nice video homie.
At 31 I got all of the things I had wanted and realized they didn't make me even slightly happier than I was in before. The most expensive cars feel ordinary after a few months.
The American dream is dead , am 34 and been looking at these videos of simple living, minimalism etc. Am so glad to hear am not alone in my thoughts 😅. I made up my mind. Am going off grid and seeking more of a farmer type lifestyle, even if I have to give up electric am going to keep my wealth in my family!! Am with you bro 💪
That is it. I am a nurse, I can take as many extra shifts as I want and make good money. I hate my profession. Listening to you I just realized That my dream is to be a farmer. I want to wake up and go outside and work in my garden and with my animals not to go to nursing home. I told my wife. She said, are you drunk again? 😀
Omgoodness, I'm literally crying at your post (not with laughter, but releasing heaviness of heart). You don't understand. As a fellow nurse, this was never my dream. This was God's dream for me. I've shared my heart with friends that I would feel so much better doing something different (teaching/leading the youth, singing background or with a group, praying/interceding for others, etc), and they don't understand. One friend has even called me self-centered because I'm "making [my life] it about me" when it's supposed to be about God. Upon my inspection, she hasn't yet been called to something she never wanted to do, doesn't have a degree, isn't working, etc. It's very easy to tell others what they are doing wrong when you don't even know the cost of my obedience to the Father. I'm trying to figure out now, how to make this life manageable for me. Because I have been losing motivation for life more and more ober the years, especially the more that I obey God. It's almost like I have terrible feeling like there's anything in it for me. I don't want to turn my back on Him, but I need something different. Thank you for your post.
That’s the American dream tho 😭 chasing your dreams is the American dream it means something different to everyone there’s the basic American dream and then the real one
Chasing the "American Dream" will lead to an early grave. I am not completely free, but I have paid off my debts, and live way below my means. Very low stress compared to some people I know who prisoners of their mortgages are, car payments, credit cards etc. I have a small but nice house, older nice car, all paid for, and money in the bank. No stress.
i buy most of my clothes used, i don't buy fastfood too often - bring a lunchpack myself, i look at the cost for food before buying it, and i don't purchase things that i don't need. also, you don't have to go abroad for many vacations. can just choose a cheaper option closer to home, or be with family etc..
Dont forget AmeriKKKan women(white ones especially) will bleed you dry, u will never be good enough for them unless ur the top 1% alpha male, even then no guarantees like Elon Musk 3rd divorce
It makes me so happy to see this video and to read all the comments. I think there is a big shift in how people see the American dream, especially among the younger generation. I’m a gen x and watched my parents and the rest of there generation go after the dream . Struggling to have all the things they were told you needed to be happy and successful. Somewhere along the way I decided that I wasn’t going to live that way. I was going to live the way that made me happy. Now I’m 52 , and I have lived in a tiny off grid house in the woods that I built slowly without borrowing money from a bank. I’m pretty much debt free, which gives me the flexibility to get out and enjoy my life doing what I like to do. I used to get a lot of criticism for my lifestyle, but after the whole lockdown of 2020 I get more people telling me they wish they had done done things the way I have. People ask how can we fight against this capitalist society that keeps us slaves to debt. My answer is don’t buy into this notion that you need all these material objects to be successful. Happiness is success. For me happinesses isn’t having a BMW or a big house, it’s waking up to a beautiful sunrise while camping on a remote lake here in Maine where I live. I wouldn’t have time to do that if I was straddled with debt . We are present for a big awakening and It makes me very happy to be here to see it.
This came up on my feed today. Could of not been better time for me. Sick and tired of chasing the American dream. 56 years old, divorced with 2 grown daughters…nothing holding me back…I really need to start thinking about this Tim.
@Michael Pondo oooooooo......its STILL all about Trump isnt it'? Focus exclusively on trump and you won't have to pay attention to how the ENTIRE SYSTEM is robbing you blind. They have you right where they want you which is succumbing to the false belief in partisan politics of Divide and Conquer. Time to awaken
I can completely relate to this. I had to finally come to realization that accumulating objects and chasing money is not important and being healthy and enjoying yourself is what is matters in life.
I’ll never forget a conversation I had with an electrician that was new in his field wiring up my Mom’s new central AC she had installed. I asked if he liked his job and he said “I have the house, the cars, the kids even though I barely get to spend time with them, but now I’m a slave to my job.” All I could say was wow and never looked at work and life the same. A conversation I was glad I had. I’m not where I want to be still but I know what I don’t want and get away from doing things I hate.
The American dream still exists for the more fortunate/favored few, but for most citizens the American dream is more and more unachievable and more like a bad dream/nightmare when houses on a large lot are almost impossible to purchase/rent to own, except in cheaper cities where there's few good paying jobs, unless you can work remotely and not too many get that good opportunity
I gave up on it years ago. I am doing what I want and building “my dream” brick by brick. As long as I keep at what I’m doing and pay debt off. That’s my road to happiness.
To be honest, I strongly feel that's why many of us in America are depressed/stressed. Outside of the cares of life, we're pressured to do and be a certain way by a certain age and or time-frame. When we don't add up to that, we feel like failures or we rush into things knowing deep within we're not ready to take on certain things. I agree that we should live our own dream(s) regardless as to what people say or think we should be doing. Be encouraged everyone and thank you sir for this video. Yahuah bless you all💛💕
I absolutely agree, 5 years ago I burnt out, I got really sick and stopped working. For the last few years I just felt lost, this video has given me some focus and I’m so grateful for you sharing this.
I got to this conclusion after losing both my parents a year from each other. My dad died from a heart attack and I lost my mom a year later to ovarian cancer. It made me realize that life is short and I spent my entire adult life worrying about being a "functional" adult rather than just enjoying what little time I have here.
I'm realizing that right now. I have anxiety and I worry too much and always tell myself I'll feel happy when I reach my goals but in doing that I'm not living in the present making good memories for myself. My whole life I've been worried I'm 24 now and its exhausting. Add to it that I'm single and gay.
I grew up in CA, the pandemic happened, we got out of there. Best decision I’ve ever made, I’m in Arkansas not just living but loving life. Simple , healthy & family oriented 🙏
I have a family member who sold his house in CA and trying to find a nice quiet area of AK. Think their still looking. They do both still work Maybe they can’t be too far out Any nice area ideas?
I hate living in liberal, woke, morally deviant east-coast USA. I would love to move to a southern state, because I like southerners. But I'm not white like the majority of southerners, and they would not like me.
I sold everything I owned in 2018, retired at 51 and began traveling the world. Now my life is full of experiences instead of possessions.
@@st436564 you are a freeman .. congratulations
You are the man..
Beautiful 💕
Wow!
Amen dude.
At the grand old age of 60, the wife and I finally figured this out. Paid off ALL. debt, drive 20 year old vehicles, cook at home and learned to grow food. Turn off the TV and it is amazing how you figure out you want things, you don't need them. Good for you young man!
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I learned this very early. I am glad I did.
I retire in two weeks. I learned the same lessons about 6 years ago.
Paid off the debt paid off credit cards & the car.
Turned off the idiot/propaganda machine (TV) and enjoy a less hectic life.
Red pilled and happier then ever in my life.
Get out of the rat race and proverbial, 'keeping up with the Joneses'.
Gotta go now... Ride my motorcycle to the gym.
Best of luck to you and your wife!
I agree! He figured it out young! I turned off tv in my 40's and stopped going into stores as a past time, suddenly didn't need all those things they convince you you need. But it's been a process like most things, and now I am ready to downsize much more and start doing some of the things I've wanted to do even if I don't have others with the same interests. They can sit in their lives and criticize, I don't care anymore.
Age 55 all these things are on my mind and more.
At the age of 42 I cashed in and i moved to south America. It has been the best 2 years of my life. Not having to work 12-14 hours a day in jibs that i hated! Now i only do things that makes me happy and i dont have to work for a living.
I just needed courage and i thank God ge gave it to me. I feel blessed everyday.
God bless you reading this with health, wisdom and prosperity.
I would never live anywhere a government doesn't allow you to own guns. Just plain stupid
How is it possible for you to do this and still survive if you don't have any income?
If you end up rich you won the game. If you don’t care and enjoyed your life, you beat the game.
FACTS!!!!
Spot on!
All while eating cat food when your elderly because you didn't save anything.
@@8corymix8 i once ate some dry cat food. Tasted like cardboard and cheerios.
The oxymoron is exuberant on this one
After living many years in New York City, I gave up on the American Dream. Returned to the west of Ireland 🇮🇪 Healthier food, astounding scenery and easier lifestyle.
Can’t imagine how much better you felt. I’ve been to both. Ireland’s natural beauty and kind people have New York beat by miles. They still have you guys on food though, I’ll say that much
New York City is a terrible place and not a good representation of america
I live in Canada but I would love to visit Ireland one day.
@@oldyeller6518 the few times I have been to NYC I didn't like the vibe. People seemed rude and hostile.
Im contemplating leaving new york city too. But to where? lol another chapter again
As an "insider", I can tell you that the American Dream involves being a wage and debt slave. I'm nearing retirement (the end of my economic incarceration) and I'm sorry I spent the healthiest years of my life chained to a desk. Keep the faith, Tim.
there's nothing wrong with the dream, it's just not for most people. if you don't see yourself marrying and starting a family settling down in a house doing the 9 to 5 until you're 70 and retiring to do cruises, the american dream isn't for you. it's not so much about giving up the dream, but rather about dreaming a better dream.
thank you for that pearl of wisdom my friend
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The American dream is bs. You go in debt & paying on a mortgage that may outlive you. As soon as the majority get money thinking they can now afford something the price of it went up. Forever trying to catch up if you do not have more money than the days you live. BS!!
Omg that hits me so hard
I’m 32 and feel that my job is sucking me dry
I lived 7 months in my car in Florida. LOVED IT! Then I moved to Wisconsin and I lived in a tent in the forest for 3 months in the winter. LOVED IT! The lesson that I learned is : don't tell anyone! Other people will fuck your dreams.
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Amen 🙏 Moving out of the country, not telling my family until the day I leave 🙏
how did you take a shower, ect? Inquiring mind
@@cassandratype4 In my car, I had a membership to Planet Fitness. Also, the beaches have public showers. In my self made tent or teepee, I sponge bathed. I had a wood stove in the tent. With the tent, I had an out house for pooing.
@@boomAJ6104 Dam Straight
You nailed it. When I was in my forties, still chasing it, my aunt said to me, "no one says on their deathbed, as their final words, 'I wish I'd made more meetings' during my life." Loving the retired life.
At the age of 23 I learned from a 3rd grade drop out who happens to be my father in law..... if you live within your means and live debt free and stop chasing expensive material possessions that mean nothing you’ll be a lot happier. I’m 30 now and 1000% debt free and I do what I want🙏🏽
Your father in law is a wise man, and so are you for listening to him
Smart man.. I'm talking about your father law, you sir are a great listener.
Indeed. My parents taught me these same principles. Never being in debt if you are pay off as quickly as you can, always buy used in cash. Should you buy anything new know you are going to use it extensively. Live below your means. It's helped me in many situations in my life where I've saved up enough money to get by for emergencies always be in cash and if I did not have enough paying in installments when I had to. Had a lot of criticism especially when I've worked with others in the workforce, it's given me a safety net knowing that I I'm able to do it.
Amen
"I do what I want!...I do what I want!..."
Number one regret of the dying: "I wish I had lived a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
Bulls eye....
@HKJ SOME humans are viruses.
@HKJ I think you can still do both at the same time, making an impact, for like idk your local community, while living for yourself
You have to stop believing in self-regulation strategies.
WORD
“Sometimes you have to let go of the American dream to find your dream” A word, Tim!
"Sometimes you have to let go of 'The American Dream' to find your dream." It's time to look within and go after YOUR OWN DREAM while in this one and only life. Only you know what's best for you to make you happy.
Ok wtf is this guy talking about though? Is he homeless? Is that his dream cause hes not convincing me to do what I want? He doesnt want to work a 9 to 5 neither do I, but how is he getting money? I dont need a mansion but wtf. Where is the bed to sleep in? Where is the food? Where can I go to the bathroom and brush my teeth and shower? Things like this? Its nice to say I have no boss and do what I want. It's not nice to be homeless and have none of the things I talked about. So can someone tell me wtf this guy is talking about.
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So we must live poor have very little or nothing? Are we really going to be happy with nothing or always having to watch what we spend or live below our means or not being able to eat what we want? What if you want to study travel etc. We all want to be happy. You can't be happy either if you have nothing. I suppose it depends from person to person. When we stop dreaming part of us also dies. We die unfulfilled. I think one of the secrets to live is living DEBT FREE so we can enjoy life more instead of working endlessly to pay off all of our debts. We only have one life we shouldn't deprive ourselves of certain things that are even considered basics. I believe in having balance & not chasing unnecessary things but I get what his saying. Living a simple life is probably living a more uncomplicated life but simple means something different for everyone. I get the point of living your own dream but who wouldn't want an abundant life?
@@tizb5178 yes but hes being cryptic about it. What I mean by that is hes saying just quit your job if you dont want to work. Well we have to work. He can only do that cause hes getting yt money. So hes being very cryptic and not being specific about how he gets by and gets his money. Hes leaving that for us to assume hes getting enough money from yt. We cant just quit a job we dont like. Hes not being honest and giving us all the details. Just saying quit your job is not enough. Yes he does need to give private info and I dont mean his social security or anything. By private he needs to tell us how he gets money food and place to shower and brush his teeth. If he cant explain in further detail how to survive when quitting your job then his advice is useless. It's just talk and not backing up what he says with logic.
I totally am with you. I was making $40/hr and left my job that was making me miserable after I was there for 19 years. I spend more time with my 11 year old son now and I earn $15/hour working part time at a school but I am happy now. 😊 I also used to have brand new cars all the time. I drive a 2010 car now but have no car payment.
If you made 40/hr for 19yrs you should be ok😬
Driving a 2000 car myself
My car is 17 years old. I will keep it as long as possible.
@petrusi.7669 I hope mine lasts that long. 🙂
Wow 40 an hour I hope you invested in stuff that sounds awesome But sometimes you get tired of jobs
America is a corporation NOT a country!
Enough said! We are all tired! We deserve better!
Yep
When you can't reach out for the grapes then the only solace is assuming it to be sour ....
America is run by organized crime dressed up in suits!
Preach!
You’re right. I am done with this Corrupt country. Europe is my Dream! 💯
No fancy effects, no dramatic music, no impostering, showing off or endless self-pity; just straightforward insights on life with all its highs and lows, appreciating both to ease off the gas in the ''rat race'' people call life. This is the truly valuable side of TH-cam.
Unrated comment but not unseen my brutha
@@FuckTheFedMayne ^^^ what this guy said ^^^
The best comment I’ve seen 🙏🏾. Ease off the gas…priceless
Your comment just made me cry. So loving. Thank you
Well said. 👌
“That’s why they call it ‘The American Dream’, because you’ve got to be asleep to believe it.” -George Carlin
Indeed
And everyone on the Earth demands it
Lol..love me some George!! Man, I wish he were still around to see this shit now..but glad he isn't.
There Never was an American dream for non White people. The American dream was a lie told to rest of the world, in order to attract Cheap Immigrant Labor to work for US corporations.
@@_Wai_Wai_ the american dream for wtes was to get scalped and terrorized by indns and use as dogs for the treacherous war machine of a government that hates their rayce, only to be buried by the rest of the world and scorned by them as they disappear from humanity forever.
I Wonder why the migrant outrage when we chose to close our borders?
Same thing happened to me, I finally woke up at 33, quit my job, bought land and started building and growing, 6 years later, still have cc debt, but no mortgage. People mocked me at first, but now they ask me advise on how to break free. Stay true to yourself and find peace with God's creation.
Amen brother! Happy you got out. I’m trying to figure a way out myself.
You got lucky.
This is so real. I was living paycheck to paycheck in a place I barely could afford. The dream is a trap.
Don't ever rent. Unless your temporarily traveling for business that pays extremely well
Me too!😭
Same
That statement was PROFOUND 🧐
never get house broke. or rent. people without a leg up are fked kinda. but you can still get there with margage loan on good credit.
We've been deeply programmed with other people's programming. It's great to hear when people break free.
yes.
Tim, I did 20 years in the US Army and my last 5 years were the roughest ever. I was 33 and had been to war three times for what I feel was someone else’s greed. I forced myself to make the full 20 so I could retire at 38 and live this “American dream “ . Now at 41, all I want to do is leave this country and NEVER come back. My wife sent me this video while was sleeping and even though I woke up earlier than expected, I’m so glad I watched it. I am now a subscriber and look forward to seeing all of your content. Stay blessed my brother!!!
I'm glad you lived to type this comment. All the best to you and your wife.
Bu-Bye.
Fuck the rat race I've been so confused lately I'm only 29 and ive always been a minimalist but as I got older I started getting very depressed and anxious about my life I've had a rough go so I've been homeless a lot but I like it I always figure out shelter and works it's an adventure and the feeling of leaving your camp to go try to figure out how your going to eat today and whatever else you want when you get it it's the instant gratification of success I love the adventure of it and the mystery. I'm buying a motorcycle soon and I'm hitting the road.
That seems to be the narrative of most returning veterans... They go in with the singing the star spangled banner and came home jamming rage against the machine. Fuck politics send them bitches in to get killed.
We're in the final 7 years. Get right with Christ, get a year supply of food, get ready to flee to one of His goshens. Notjing else matters now.
Wish I had seen this 60 years ago! You are speaking the words of my heart. Hope there are a lot of younger people who value your wisdom!
A huge part of chasing the "American Dream" is remaining on top of the "financial treadmill of life". You have to keep running on that "treadmill" in order to pay for everything. I'm 62, owned a couple homes, drove nice cars,....and for decades I had to keep running in order to pay for this dream. -- I don't know how younger people these days are going to be able to keep up. The prices of EVERYTHING these days is way higher (in proportion) to what it was for me, when I was growing up. In my 30's, I was able to pay for my house, bills, taxes, car, insurance, etc., on ONE mediocre-paying job. It's almost impossible to do that these days!
At least you’re honest. Other people in your demographic and older are lying to the younger generations, saying that MORE hard work and MORE time will give them what they seek. It’s lies
It's terrible for young people financially. Can't afford a house let alone a family.
Amen 🙏🏿 I’m 36 and I remember as a kid you could go into a grocery store and buy a buggy full of groceries for $25 and now You can’t get milk and bread for that!!
@@barrett7893 Dam Straight
Thanks very much bless you
I’m 22 earning 65k a year, and boy am I tired of this shit already. No fkn way I’m going to do this for the next 40 years. There’s just no way.
First, congrats on making that kind of money at 22! That is something. On the other hand, all it takes is one emergency (sickness, job loss, etc.) to wipe out your gains. Happened to me at 40. That tanked my entire investment in school, health, and finances over the decades, and it irks me to think I put in so many time and hard work just to be dumped down the chute once I got sick. I'm not trying to be bleak with this comment, but to say don't give them everything (you sound like you've got a head start in knowing that up front!).
I hope you at least realize that unless you're living in certain very expensive cities, you're making a lot of money for 22. I'm making 70k at 25 and I considered that pretty crazy.
But I get it, I don't want to do this shit for 40 years either.
65K per year may seem like a good amount of money, but it’s all relative to where your geographic location is. That being said, every year from the last few forward, that amount of liquidity is decreasing at a rapid rate on its purchasing power due to inflation thanks to our wonderful politicians that are diluting the money supply by unrestrained money printing.
Cash currently is a liability. It’s like a big block of ice that’s melting at 15 to 20% per year currently. (The government CPI number of 1.9%-4.8% is misleading)
At the rate of decline that our country is currently experiencing in many areas like, civil unrest, government overreach, attempted socialist programs, and the ever decreasing confidence of the world in our fiat global reserve currency, weakens the Dollar and brings it closer and closer to its collapse.
If you haven’t already, it would be a good idea to start investing in hard assets.
@@petrolo72 yeah I’m currently investing rn, putting up about 45-60% of my income in investments. I’m worried about inflation rn. 65k is good enough for me because I don’t have any crazy overhead or responsibilities. I plan on trying to keep my overhead low for as long as I can
@@ryno4ever433 i live in souther Cali, my money is definitely not stretching here, but I don’t want to leave either 😭
"We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like." - Brad Pitt as Tyler Durden in 'Fight Club'
Very WELL said and I have "heard" this phrase MANY a time and never knew where it came from".....Kudos!!!
@@lorenl9262 It was Orson Welles original discription of HollyWood. He said it was full of people who did that.
BossMode!
Tell my wife I ve keep telling her all the time. She don’t care. She said there is always one life enjoy the life trips , go out , That’s why I am broke lol
@@pecv4776 damn
I gave up on other people's dreams, went with my own, now I am much happier. Poorer - but happier ....
as a 26 yr old man, who has the pressures of getting married & starting a family, to working a career that isn’t fulfilling, & buying cars & homes to impress others & racking up debt because “it’s apart of adulting”….this video is just what I need. God bless you brotha 🙏🏾
A lot of men peak around 35-40, you have more time than you think. Men have all the advantages past 30 compared to women for sure, I wouldn't worry too much about things like marriage. I honestly think the best husband material actually tends to be between 35-40 and for women(for wife material) it tends to be early 20's and for women it's more about maintaining value, which is largely low body count and youth and so many young women don't realize this. By then you should be fairly sure if marriage is for you or not. That tends to be the age men really start to hit their stride too, it takes longer than young men think, especially considering how lacking in guidance young men are these days. For the most part I think most young men your age these days getting married young is a mistake, arguably marrying at all.
I'm 35 now and the amount I've grown since 30 blows my mind, more than the entirety of my 20's. I can't stress enough how shocked you'd be how well top men around 35 can do with young attractive women that are marriage minded, compared to young women that want to 'have fun' all their prime, then when they're 30+ wonder why all the top older men are looking at younger women. Focus on bettering yourself, keeping up appearances, don't let yourself go, ect. You might actually reach peak physical attractiveness between 35-40 then, and have more wealth and whatnot than when you were younger, and be more of a man, it'll improve your chances of finding a young woman that wants to settle down. It takes some luck with genetics though, but it's really best to focus on becoming the best version of yourself you can until you're at least 30.
look into "lying flat" philosophy. its trending in Asia, particularly in China
Enjoy a few years and marriage should be no earlier than 35-40 years when people are more mature, lived many experiences, travelled lot... and financially well off which is somewhat important.
@@last7509 I dont think most people can go for it these days. I dont mind as long as both the man and women are on birth control pills as the future the economy will be bad so any possible children will grow up in slave poverty so birth control pills daily atleast for the woman
@@brians1793 great comment Sir
After raising 6 kids (working 2 or 3 jobs at a time to do it), getting my Masters degree, driving a new car, having management jobs...I was not happy. My kids are grown, I have a lower paying job that I love, have 2 used cars that are paid for, live a minimalist lifestyle, and spend time out in nature...I've never been happier.
Yes sometimes having less = more
💯
May I ask what the job is that you love? Doing some deep digging with my values and trying to learn what's out there.
Six. Kids.
@waterdog9500 yeah like kids
I’m an American and I recently said to myself I’m tired of stressing trying to have the American dream. I’m selling my house and buying me some land and a small home for me and my two sons and enjoy traveling. That’s what I want to do
I did it as well , and it's easy but difficult if you are not ready to be a wonder but I ll give a hint .
The universe will always decide !
As an european i can say you are making a good life decission for you and you're two sons. Life is way different here then over there in you're country. God bless you and you're sons. Stay safe and be smart Ma'am :)
Maybe it's time for the so-called American dream to be re-defined. I consider my dream to live a free/independent life without too much financial/material responsibilities.
The less clutter I own the easier my life is. And better.
you're lucky you have a house. It's an american nightmare out here for a lot of people
Started this process already never looking back
Wow this video really hit me in the feels , I recently discovered your channel and also have identified with you with alcohol issues in the past , severe depression, I am a forty year old usaf veteran had to move back in with my parents , In this economy. I couldn't afford a house and now With these prices probably never will , Never been married, No children, And feeling like a complete loser and feeling completely hopeless, This is a new way to reframe things so I thank you.
You’re not a loser! And you’re not alone. There are so many of us in similar situations or living similar lifestyles. We’re probably the new ‘normal’ at this point lol
@@TimothyWard facts !! It's just hard being a millennial because I think that we saw half of our lives where For the most part, dad would work on one income. He had a house and cars . And now like the second half of our lives, you have to live with, like, 20 roommates, it's crazy.
I’m in a similar position. I’m 37, never married, no kids and I have recently moved back in with my parents too. I don’t have a stable career or any money. I often feel like a failure, that a lot of things are out of my control and are unattainable.
However, we are both lucky in that we have family that are able to support and help us. We aren’t on the streets yet. And there are things that we can focus on, control and change. We can look after our bodies, be kind to ourselves and work on changing our mindsets. We just have to let go of things which are unattainable or holding us back and be inventive to achieve what we really want out of life.
Achieving happiness and doing what we love will attract positivity into our lives.
@@anthonytanner2343 ❤
@@Ms.Irod2024 @anthonytanner2343 Im with you guys! Feel like shit being without kids and stable career. Not stupid, but stressed all the time and just cant move.
I’m 52, never been married, no kids, no girlfriend. 5 years ago I quit my 6-figure job to start freelancing. Still going strong, I love it. I work about 26-30 weeks out of the year, the rest of the time I’m doing what I want to do. It is awesome. When people ask me where I live, my typical answer is “I don’t know” 😃
I used to be a vagabond. Best times of my life.
@@HateDietPepsi happy to hear your story
No kids or girlfriend.. hmmm
@@leighanneboles6609 I am available, just not putting any effort into looking. Figure sooner or later I will find a compatible woman. Maybe. Maybe not. Working with a bunch of people in my early 20’s who were just divorced or currently going through one helped shape that a little for me 😃
@@heiko272 Take your time and don't worry about others questioning the fact that you are single, no kids, retired, and not knowing where you live. I guarantee you are happy. I just retired and thinking about selling my house to possibly say the same about where I live. 🤣🤣
I was on the grind until the age of 39. I hated it. So I calculated my finances, assumed that I would die before 80, made a budget, and ended up retiring abroad. I've visited 3 countries thus far, and will be getting my permanent residency in one of those countries soon. I'll be 41 this year and I'm happier than I could ever be!
Absolutely brilliant.
Keep on keeping on.
Good 4 u. I'm too broke.
@Sunkissed Nubian assume what? My years of life on this earth? Because I don't want to live, nor do I think I will live beyond 80. I calculated the amount necessary from my age now to the age of 80. There are other sources of revenue that are not calculated in my projections. I just used the two main sources to make my assumption (my bank account and my monthly passive income). If I live beyond 80, I have other forms if income that arrive by the time I turn 62...
@Sunkissed Nubian I visit cemeteries a lot. I'm not sure what you mean by modern but lifespans were similar 150 years ago. But I will agree. Most of what many consume is garbage.
You are very lucky to realize this at only 39 years of age. Good luck.
I'm 29 & i needed this man
All i can say is thank you for this gem
The American Dream™
I don’t know very many happy people who’ve “achieved” it. The older I get, it’s not even about my money wasted, it’s about the time I’ll never get back.
@Jason Pursell - I get what you're saying but I've finally come to the realization that my time here is pre-detrimened. The time left is well spent looking forward and not back. Looking back is wasted energy. Best wishes!
@@sierrachoco5271 - I don’t look back, except for the lessons on what not to do anymore. Knowing I’ve wasted money and time is a reminder, not a regret. However, I’m keenly aware that my REMAINING time on earth is measured in heartbeats. I want to make them count.
@@HalfwayHikes I agree about past lessons. I wish you the bestz!
Yes🇬🇧
This!! for the love of God, This! Nothing hurts me more than looking back at my life and seeing so much time wasted doing nothing but pointless work.
Exactly, chasing a rich boy's dream leads to nothing but misery. Lying to ourselves, enslaving ourselves, wasting the most precious thing we will ever have...our time, our happiness. The things you own end up owning you.
As a famous quote goes, you gotta be asleep to believe it...!
But they keep telling us just keep working hard 😂
@@donk9189 Yea, keep working hard to line their pockets with money while they break us off the crumbs
I love your phrase "the things you own end up owning you". That's very true!
Wow, wise words and wish this was taught in schools ....cause people really don’t care what you have and achieving it makes you happy for a second, at least thats how I felt wasted and emotionally empty. When I let go I felt freer than I ever have.
This is me right now. I keep saying, "My life fell apart" when in reality...my life is coming together.
Fantastic.
Live life on your terms.
Yes, when I quit being the General Manager of everyone’s problems around me I found I couldn’t even be in a room by myself. The walls closed in and I fell apart. That’s when life became interesting again...really scary but really fresh! Curiosity returned for the neglected person I had become. Going forward I developed my ‘project of the self’. I didn’t need to judge myself anymore because I was too busy learning about who I was. What followed was I stopped the judgements in my head about everyone else and I gave everyone a “get out of jail free card”. I have more than enough problems to solve now because I’m truly living them instead of evading them. It makes for an interesting life once again.
Amen to that! Similar situation for me as well. I heard a great saying recently regarding letting all that "American Dream" junk go, "You have to become lighter in order to fly." 🕊
@@mercyme8014 Wow! 😊Very interesting!🤔👍
@@mercyme8014 "General manager of everybody's problems"🤣🤣👍Love it!🤣
Im from Mexico, and relate with your thoughts. I've decided years ago living my youth the way I want, without caring about others or what how the system want us to live.
I live with my dog simply in the forest and way happier than ever. 😊Thank you for spreading awarness ❤😊
We paid our debts sold our beautiful home in Atlanta shipped some of our goods and moved to Africa! We are older however there are still some good years of living left. The peace and freedom is paramount. Glad I stumbled on your video! To those of you A Lot Younger. Do It! You wont regret it.
Which African nation did you guys go to? hope it's my nation of Ghana!
How is the health care system there?
@@skepticalmechanic its ok for general needs. Specialty needs not so much. Its something to consider especially if you have specific needs for specific car.
@@iamarethaLynette that scares me bc what if something comes up. I worry about being far from a hospital even tho i just have asthma
@@livelovedaydream im from africa and before my trip to the clinic 4months ago, last time i went was 2016 for being light headed. We aint full of sicknesses over here (no offense). Or maybe we where exposed to alot of them since birh. Or maybe it's just me. #Namibia
Tim, you changed thousands of lives with this one. 99% won't come back to say thank you but you should feel good about this regardless.
Thank you!
Big Facts he was one of the First to do it
New subscriber thank you for this video
Disagree. Most people watching this can't afford to live like this. Me, for example.
@@TimothyWard Wow the complete opposite journey as you. I gave up on the dream kind of early. I was 21 about to start my career at a top finance company and said screw this and dropped out of college, started a business and moved to Las Vegas. After doing that for years and years I realized that maybe I want the dream after all. Maybe there is something I can study that I'm interested in. So I went back to college to study another degree from scratch and I'm loving it. I was a C student my entire life partying 24/7 and now I have a 4.0 in a super difficult major and love nerding out and studying!
So I totally agree, we should not blindly follow the route society tells us to, we should do what we want and dare to be different. I see so many people with careers they hate or miserable in their relationships, and its like THIS IS A CHOICE! Do you get that? You can just say fuck it and travel the world or meet cool people and actually live a life worth living. Esp if you don't have a family, debt or commitments. You might disappoint your family or friends but trust me they'll get over it lol.
OMGGGG THIS IS IS SO ACCURATE!!! I JUST QUIT MY JOB AND GAVE UP ON THE AMERICAN DREAM TOO. MOVED TO BALI. GOT ENGAGED. AND FINALLY FEELING FREE 😊
That is awesome! i bet Bali is beautiful! So happy for you sis!
Omg Bali is beautiful! Good for you 🌸🌈!
Is Bali affordable
@@pridefulebony3905 heck yes!
I'm thinking of eventually leaving the country too. But my question is what is the best jobs to take if living in a new country or how to make money while abroad?
I started into the minimalist lifestyle and haven't looked back. I simply love your videos. I have found this giving up the American Dream only 3 years ago. I bought a RV, tow my vehicle behind it and travel around visiting friends and family across the country. I have never felt so free and at peace. My peace and freedom are the only things that are important now. Just me and my 3 dogs. I always joke with everyone that if I ever find someone to date, he will have to have his own RV, because I don't want to give up my me time and he definitely needs his me time too.
I lived in the States for 13 years, 12 in Madison, WI, and one in Baltimore, MD. Had to come back to Mexico. Just couldn't fit in with living the American Dream. There are many things I miss from your great country, but couldn't figure out why people wanted to live a life that didn't give them time to live.
So the answer to this mystery has been quantified...bravo!
You are absolutely right, but you lived in Madison. Very boring town in the U.S. I hear you though! I live in Las Vegas and I’m planning my exit.
BOOM! 😎 👊 🎤 drop
Thank you. I came to this conclusion over a decade ago, so I recently talked to my parents years ago and moved in with them and work part time and do what I want in life now
People just need to get off the internet, off social media and turn off the TV for a while. That's a big part of the problem for so many people
They always worrying about what other people think 🤔.
Then, explain to me how you managed find this nugget of wisdom?. Had you followed your own advice, ...... People say life is all about moderation, I say life is most about sensibility. What isn't sensible to indulge in is just as bad in moderation as it is otherwise.
That is not entirely possible for the many people you are talking about.
Maybe get away from their families, too. There's peace of mind starting fresh. No old ties, no old crappy memories, new state, chosen by you this time... I have the wealth to enjoy the "American dream" he's not fond of, and tbh, that's what I'm doing. Just improving the properties, especially the main one.
I exercise the opposite of minimalism, lots of stuff, all neatly organized. Almost looks like a Cosco. But I didn't get it to impress people. In fact, I regularly try to hide it. It's for me. In the future, maybe it'll be for a new family that I create, something not at all like the old one I left behind.
go back to work and paying bills
As someone told me, "If you're lucky enough to have a high paying job in America, the best thing you can do is work for 5 to 10 years while saying everything possible so you can leave."
Yes!!!?
**saving everything
But I agree nonetheless. Great comments
@Zay, Where are you running to?
@@martinko4086 yeah lets not normalize 10 years of suffering... never sell your soul for a buck.
10 yrs of suffering
Never in my life have I ever needed to hear this advice more.
Thank you.
2 years ago I paused a lot! I am more focused on self care and working to death to pay for material things just isn't worth it. I am 48 and I'm looking to retire at 55 living a basic life. That's MY dream.
Pray you get to retire!
Go for it!!!
@@timmartin723 Retiring is for people who spent their entires working jobs they never wanted to work in the first place. If you've doing what you truly love, why on earth would you retire? My aunt "retired" from teaching after 40 years but still tutors kids and illiterate adults how to read. She's still happy and vibrant and is the busiest 75 year old in town! I pray to God I can be like that!
"we will give up happiness in life, just so we don't have to hear anyone talk about us" 🙌 That hit hard! Thank you x
Yikes. That one cut me. Thanks for the honesty ❤️
Exactly and that originated from our school days
@@djstravels4828 same here. Wow. Takes a lot for something to hit like a brick.
This video changed my life honestly. I'm in a weird place in my life, questioning what I really want and I'm definitely afraid of what others (family members especially) might think. This video was a sign for me to keep working towards my dream life.
Nobody knows you as well as you know yourself.
Seconded. 🦉
Family can be suffocating. We need to be freed.
Ask God to deliver you from people/family pleasing and do what makes you happy. We only live once. I pray all goes well for you.
No! America needs you on the hamster wheel to pay these loans. Youre a skrong INDEPENDENT woman. Dont listen to this patriarchal man. Lol
I've lived the "American Dream" for most of my life. Worked in a job I generally liked. Married, bought her a house, adopted a wonderful child, etc. What it generally is for many men and women is sacrifice. I scrimped and saved in order to buy things and pay for things my spouse wanted. For me, those material things were largely a waste. Sacrificed happily to make my daughter's life better. Doing things my spouse wanted to do and gave up on my dreams. All life is balance, compromise, and finding what works for you and what you can give up. Your insightful and intelligent video is very entertaining and thought provoking.
The day i accepted that i will be okay if i never married and started a family is the day i had true joy and happiness.. and till tomorrow i will always be happy in life
I’m beginning to try and accept I may never have love and just want to be happy and healthy
@@darlynnlyons742 true joy comes from within not from what we achieve in life.. stay blessed
🗣THIS!! 🥰💪🏾
This is so true, Man of God, true
happiness comes from within.
And Pure Joy is something that comes from
knowing God, and deeply expressing his
Love no matter what were going through or how we feel. When we are content with where God has us at in our lives;then we learn to embrace the Joy of the Lord.
Which isn't based on what happens,but
based on our Love for God, in knowing that he's the Joy of our salvation!💃God bless🙏 🙏
@@antinettesmith2129 wow.. very powerful sis.. thank you for sharing.. Stay blessed 🙌 😇 🙏
This makes me feel incredibly fortunate to have figured this out starting at just 21 years old. I'm about to be 28 and I may not have as much 'stuff' or 'status' as my peers, but you know what? I'm perfectly okay with that. It's not a race, and frankly, all I need is a good place to live, healthy food to eat, a decent car to drive, and time to explore my ambitions.
That’s all yah need
Half of that is almost unattainable today at least in the uk
same man! i just turned 29. all my peers are making 6figura salary while im making less than half what they do. im in healthcare rn and it is damn stressful and i hate it. i would love to do something that makes me happy even if it does not pay well but it is very hard to make that decision when u have multiple health issues and need health insurance. if only healthcare was free or cheaper in the US, i would totally do something else even if it doesnt pay well
Yes I totally agree, I want to live in a tiny house and sustain my self. Peace of mind so important. 🙏
Come to india where 80% population doesn't even know what even health insurance is. Its your mental contruct that if only u had that u will be perfect. In reality if u will look, really look u have so many things tht people just dream of. Atleast u have food and water available. Think about middle east, and think about being a women there. Don't want to preach or something buts uts the truth
“A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone.” -Henry Thoreau. Keep at it Tim. 👍
Henry Thoreau was a kept friend who didn't have to work or pay for his meals and housing.
@@whyme7996 - He definitely had some conveniences. He did work, in his fathers pencil manufacturing shop where he developed advancements still used today. He also did surveying work, tutoring and handyman work for families such as Emerson’s. He did all this while dying young at 43.
@@whyme7996 you and Pippi don't really know much about H.D Thoreau's life, do you? Easier to judge someone that way, isn't it? I suggest you and Pippi need to dig deeper before you make statements that reveal your profound ignorance
You nailed it. Full time vanlife in a $2500 minivan for over a year now. Hiking, traveling, ect all the things I didn’t have time to do with mortage and stuck in a carrier in a zip code.
A health issue will wake you up real fast. I changed everything after my health crisis. Now, 13 years later, I'm retired, debt free and living a simple life. My spouse now has health issues and I am free to give my time to that. Relationships, love and time is what it's all about. That's the dream.
Yep most people don't even have 50-100k saved up in case of an emergency; constantly "paying off" something that either depreciates (car) or has insane interest (house). Insurance doesn't cover everything and MANY problems are caused by stress and lack of sleep.
Some ppl are lucky to have a good spouse when health issues strike, but some are not! unfortunately.
@@andreyzagoruyko5390 In this economy it's hard to accumulate savings, much less keep it. Inflation takes it from your wallet and portfolio.
Relationships are dead in America. There's nothing but succubuses now.
@@lincmerc1581 It's called working bloody overtime mate!
I'm 33 and I feel the same, I stopped chasing. I am working to put food on the table and a roof over my head. I have stopped looking for external gratification. I am enjoying myself living in the present, eating better, Meditating, and manifesting happiness. I am not existing anymore, I am living :)
Whe you get old and have no energy to work to put food on the table or medical expenses..how would you manage it?
@@Rockstar-iy9re don't live on 100% of ur income, live below ur means.. I didn't say I was going bat shit crazy, I said I'm living and it could mean a lot of things.. I am blessed with a rainy day fund and have assets 😊😊 maybe should have typed it in the comment..
The amazing thing is to see the others around you change too!
@@Rockstar-iy9re Wim Hof, Dr. Joe Meditation, Sadhgruru. You can change it now you have to choose to change
33? Masonic wink wink?
More and more people are waking up to this....and it's beautiful!! Blessings to you!
Facts hi Ms Heather Feather
American Dream is for wht people. It is not for us.
You're awesome man, I am 25 and already feel this way.
Tim I have a question though, is there anything you recommend to the younger generation of men in terms of living happily. If you could go back would you have any certain thoughts or opinions. love you bro peace be with you.
I'm 16 and I've been thinking a lot about this lately. I'm so tempted to get rid of all social media (except youtube of course xD) and go out & seize my dreamlife
I often like daydreaming about living in a small rural home with my dog, collecting herbs and flowers everyday, drinking tea while reading a good book, growing my own crops, sewing my own clothes and blankets, and occasionally going out to a coffee or book shop in the evening :)
Go for it Lauren! Start making decisions now that will led to that simple, rural life that you are dreaming of!
Do it! Live your life for yourself and Jesus! Be happy!
you need to look into ripple xrp and xlm
Do it! Less is more and you have already figured it out at your young age. ❤️💯😘
@@everydaynine_2282 I have them! 💯💯💯
It’s a shame how the American Dream changed from being a pursuit of freedom and happiness to a pursuit of purely money. People still think the more money they have, the happier they’ll be. But in the end they find out too late
It's not even money, it's validation. Think about it most people in America with all these nice things can barely afford them and 90% of them are constantly in debt because of it. All to impress other people, they aren't even happy.
Money is great to a point but then it is never enough. I know too many guys that could be living very nice and relaxed lives on the salary they make but nope - they keep buying bigger and better toys and this forces them into the madness
Such a society is called a plutocracy.
Careers, Wealth, Big Houses, Kids, Boats, Vacations, Wives, Drugs, Cars, Sex etc. The Capitalist mindset. More more more it’s never enough. What is success? We all have an expiration date. It’s a lack of identity which is the biggest problem for Americans. The political ideology of Right vs Left for control is where most end up and that’s the most dangerous. It’s called the American Dream because when you wake up it was all a Dream
The dream has changed socially. 1st it was to be an independent state or country. Then it was to own a home. Which gave us the dream of land. Then they make the dream home on the land. Dude, there is no more land. Next dream is on the moon or mars. Ugh. Sooo crazy, wild and interesting times. Right now. Just my opinion. I know there are plot holes.
I’m currently working a high-paying job for my age and I have been moving up the ladder like the dream tells us. I’m so stressed out all the time and I wonder what I’m even working for sometimes. Starting to fantasize about being a park ranger and I happened to run across this today. Very motivating. I’m so close to saying fuck it. Kudos to you for having the balls to live your own life. You are the real winner!
Do it, say Fuck it, go live your dream!
If you follow the crowd, you fall into all the traps put on the main path in life. The things everyone want, cost more. You need to follow your heart but also your head and be practical.
Exactly how I feel too
Finding the right path is an actual challenge. Funny you said Park Ranger. I did that and the reality of the that job was not like the movies! Life is filled with paths, we tend to stick to the ones we know.
So did you quit your job yet?
We bought land, a tiny home, and will be homesteading. Self-reliance is freedom. I wasn't happy with my old life either. You're right! 💖
I did this too but with an RV. Bought my raw land in 2009, fully paid off now with well, electric, septic. I still work but have the freedom to change on a dime.
What this speaker is talking about is the pursuit of Happiness...in the Constitution, the American Dream!
man alive, I want a tiny home! ❤️❤️
I bought off grid property, but with a manufactured home that needs a little love. Eventually, I want a small cabin, but it all about the land!💜
"The wealthiest place in the world is a graveyard site. Its filled with dreams and hopes that were never fulfilled because people were too comfortable to get uncomfortable"- Les Brown
People were or are not comfortable. They pretend they are. 😢 7:17
❤ Love this
Exactly, that is often soo true for the billions that have died/will die
@tracymarquez6875 we are all born with a talent(s). It is up to us to actualize it and use it to help humanity
I’m 31 and I’ve figured this out years ago, the simple life is much more rewarding! Guess what!? When you realize you don’t need expensive cars, bags, clothes, houses, and everything else you can save money and put it towards experiences. Eat well, take care of yourself, go travel, have new experiences and enjoy life!
You just described my dream life Craig!
You are 💯% spot on (seriously)....and you are wise beyond your years.
It’s taken me finally 33 years to realize this. I’ve been slowly selling and donating a majority of my things because I realized that none of it made me happy. Finally taking a stab at the simple living and focusing on what I want. It’s a difficult process for natural people pleasers but it’s already been really rewarding.
I’m realizing this now 29 ! Being from a small country town in Louisiana made me very ambitious but now I’m questioning things like why I really want all this …I be traveling an love seeing the hills the mountains beaches oceans… having a decent bank account you can live a amazing simple life you don’t have to be wealthy or rich cause truth be told known of this real it’s just a experience we should be enjoying
Been doing this since I quit high school as a JR back in 04. I turned my back on the "American Dream" when I learned what kind of obsessive, spoiled, narcissistic brats it created in it's wake. I work hard, pay my bills and keep it simple. I don't have much to lose nor do I plan on gaining alot other than experience. I've been pretty friggin happy to be honest. I'm not doing the whole family thing yet but it may happen if it's in the cards for me but I always feel a family forces you into the "Dream".
This guy is a definition of humbleness. :)
I’m cooking as I listen to this video oh man I’m 29 no kids not married not a home owner my mommy blessed me with a ranch home and I have a 2016 Kia Sorento and I felt so behind in life and I never felt like that until I started watching TH-cam and couples on here how much money and stuff they have and it really does distract you and the blessing that we already have when you try to live this American dream and start comparing yourself to others ya know: THANK YOU. You make a whole lot of sense. You have a new subscriber
This video is so true. I’m in this place in life where I’m wondering why I’m stressing myself out 95% of the time, trying to fulfill what other people say I should want, and berating myself when I don’t make what other people consider acceptable timelines. I just want to live my life doing what I want and find acceptable.
Yeah I agree. Seems like life in the west is all about impressing others and trying to compete with each other,who has the best career,who went to college or University,who has the nicest house or car. It's honestly exhausting and toxic.
This is YOUR journey, not theirs. I heard once that we should never listen to someone else’s advice because if we fail or hate it that it was their mistake, not our own, however, If we make our own decision it was our mistakes and/or happiness, not there’s and can lead to less resentments.
@@lacigalvanssleepmeditation8160 that's true. It's never a good idea to let other people know what your real goals and plans are.
You're beautiful 🙂
@@iamthanos554 down bad
I'm only 24 and I already went off grid, own my own home and small farm, I created my own American dream, not a corporation's idea of it
Do you ever worry about retirement? What are you gonna do when your body gives in? Just interested in people’s plan when going off grid. No judgement.
29 and I'm trying to do the same shit this year
you created YOUR dream! not everybody can say that
Can’t wait for the day when success is measured by the goodness in someone’s heart, and not by what material possessions are owned.
The American Dream was originally about freedom and individual liberty, not about acquiring and possessing things. Many people around the world are not as free as Americans. But we have twisted the term and made it about making money and having "stuff" based on what society says.
Facts many have gotten the term "American dream" confused with materialism and keeping up with the Jones and unfortunately this confusion is common in a certain segment of the population material and possession can never be a solution or source of freedom the ability to live life on your on terms
100%. It was a marketing slogan, sorry for those that are suckers to commercials, as we sit here and watch you tube which is just a big marketing campaign. If you're truly living life without that mindset, you don't make your tube videos.
@@cady3997 in the 90s it was so obvious they were using the phrase American Dream to sell everything including the kitchen sink an folks actually fell for fit
Hook line an sinker
Well said!
It is true that there are places in the world that people aren't as free as Americans, but it is also true that there are country's in the world that are freer than the USA. Travel, see the world, and don't believe all the propaganda that you have been fed.
"Think about it. All the stuff in the American dream, typically involves you paying money out to other people".
Straight bars. You just earned a subscriber.
Well, as your big bro, I'ma tell you, you've done right by yourself. I'm 45. I've been all over the world and back. Though I recognize that I don't own much of anything, no house, kids, etc, there are people I went to school with who are jealous of me. Jealous because they don't have the courage to do what I've chosen to do. They can't step out and travel the world or start a business and fail because they're afraid of what other people are gonna say. Everyone's life is different and it's supposed to be. Regardless of how people act or parents think, it's not a competition. Keep it up. Keep being you!
I appreciate you saying that Darryl. I agree with you 100%
As George Carlin once said “The American dream, because you have to be asleep to believe it.” And I agree with this. I went to Columbia University and I’m almost 40 and graduated back when I was 22 and realized I must not of been born to the right family when I’m still making under $50,000 and it wasn’t from a lack of trying. I’m so done with the rat race and tired of this narrative of “keeping up with the Joneses.” Love your videos man! 👍🏻
@Forty Seven me two. I was surprised it wasn't the first one.
Same here.
University degree.
Never landed the great job.
Never was able to get a Mentor.
Just grinded away for twenty years at two jobs and kept trying to land that "great job".
I have had enough.
I'm done.
serious question, what is the American dream to you?
@MystictalksI just started to post Carlin. That's one of my favorite quotes.
you graduated from columbia and you still don't know it's "must have" and not "must of"??? you're kidding me.
I'm in the same position now. I earn way above my means, have a mortgage on my apartment, fuel efficient car, can take care of myself but single, unfulfilled, barely traveled and feel burnt out in the industry I work in.
When I turned 30, I truly woke up and started wondering what I want out of life. I'm still trying to figure it out at 32.
I got some hope watching this video. Thanks for putting it out there.
May i Ask which career you are in...?
Pay off your debt. Save. Travel. You might be able to better answer your own questions once you have less stress and are somewhere else.
Give back. You'll feel fulfilled.
Since we are in the final 7 years of hell before the millenium of peace, get right with Christ, gather a year supply of food, and get ready to flee to one of Christ's goshens so you can be here for the millenium. Nothing else matters now.
@@davisstephens8405 i respect your opinion but not everybody is a Christian..
I want my own dreams. Not an American dream.
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Aww thats nice😌👍
I was just in SINY, we had 33 sh0e+ens in 1 w/end...I was supposed to go to Queens & they had 10 alone over there :(( I was supposed to stay 2 maybe 3 days FUGGHEDDABOUTIT! I went back to the boondocks of northwest CT.., I can count w/my fingers how many times I went to our place in BRK'Lyn, even then I no longer go out at night now deBozo wants store owners restaurantors to check ID to get in ....lol...(vaccine iD prior to ppL in NYC B4 they get their lunch specials or food... I'm like yeah ok, who's goin 2 go to the tough areas & demand an iD 4 the $1+ food? etc)
Sunshine Shoulders utuber says get also a passport ID card in addition to a regular passport...also just carry that about town & got to places that have a safe, skip places in eastern EU that require U to keep ure passport they will take it or make copies...make sure U get a passive USA income stream...
The "American Dream" is an economic dream of wealth, based on conservative Right-wing beliefs. If you do some research you can see this point of view. When he talks about how society rejecting his choices when he is not inline with everyone's identification, he's not talking about the "American Dream", that is social ostracism. He in fact is living the "American Dream" even though he doesn't see it. The dream has always been the ability to be happy and successful in your own right. In this new age era, millions of people are living the same dream he is, so this thought is not a new concept
You are so correct! I've been beating my head against a wall for 66 years now. Our society has degraded to the point of collapse. I was born in Washington, D.C., 'Home of the Brave', not. More like home of the corrupt. If I could scrape the money together, I'd join you out west. Be well, Brother. Cheers, Tim. (My name, as well)
People are so busy living a LIE instead of LIFE. This video is spot on brother👍.
@Jam Frost Snowgood for you but it's not your house yet until it's paid off. The bank own that house. You and your hubby stay healthy and pay down that mortgage as quickly as you can.
I don't mind so much working for a living but a four-day work week and three day weekend would be so much more beneficial and make people much more productive and happy
This is exactly what I am working on.
3 days off sounds pretty good, though I’d want it on Wednesdays so it spaces out the time off. Too many days in a row off is not good for productivity
Yea the work week should be mon-Thurs with friday, Saturday and Sunday being the days off
There is good research that people are more productive at the same job if they do the same amount of work in 4 days instead of 5 . People tend to hedge their energy to survive the five days. They know they need to get it done in 4 and plan better, are more efficient, have a better attitude, come back rested, don't waste the last weekend day preparing to come back.
@@de14jabs lol thats what I always do, when starting working somewhere I say I want to work 4 days, with wensday or either friday free.
I agree with every single thing you said. Gave up on the American dream in 2013 and haven't looked back since. Thanks for making your content man, love these walk-n-talks
As George Carlin quoted. It's a dream because you'd have to be asleep to believe it.
I got tired of being lead, fed and having to beg for "success" and started landscaping in May 2019, when the pandemic hit I went full time on my own and while I still make less than I used to at my 9 to 5, I've never been happier or freer in my life and not a single day feels like work.
@@St.CrimsonTweets that’s a blessing
He did alright. Telling jokes for money.
I saw a utube video docu about South Africans years & years...long ago left for the Congo then 1 family several went further in the bush 1 particular family after 1 year living away far fr other South Africans (away fr comfy expats), the farmed vegies in like a 33 hectar farmland & made 6X as much money than they would have in South Africa etc. sold them to the foreigners in the city... I was on a utube marathon the other day
Thanks for this great talk! This got me started on your channel.
Thank you so much for the support! Glad you enjoyed the video!
This video just saved my life. I’ve been driving myself crazy and literally miserable and feeling worthless because I can’t meet the societal standards. Even in church it’s the same. Success is equated with red bottom shoes and big houses and cars. While investigating how I want to move forward after my son moves out next year I decided I want to just take some time and discover me. Thanks so much. ❤
I’m in the same boat. My child is almost 18 and I’ve been single most of his life. I’m ready for a new beginning...but not sure where to start.
thats islam
Finding happiness is a good purpose try Not to forget that not commodities ..You may find happiness in a cave , if you surprise yourself then Remember your mantra , look for your own happiness
@@JJ_FLAputting your kids out at 18 or even thinking someone can make it out here at 18 is u setting them up for failure u brought them in this world tf u in a rush to put them out college isn’t any good at all unless they are going to make 6 figures from it people have to stay together or move off grid like the brother in the video have to stop that bs narrative when my kid leaves home they are literally going to go in debt it’s way more expensive then when y’all were coming up an yall couldn’t even do good in those eras it was cheaper to live in.
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I'm a 32 year old vagabond. Was in the military from 18-29 and never wanted to start a family while bouncing from duty station to duty station. BUT THEN I got medically retired & had no idea what to do so I hit the road. Fifteen countries so far. It's was jarring going from so much structure and guidance to literally doing whatever I want, free of any unfulfilling, obligatory responsibilities or relationships. Just me and God out here. Curious to see what becomes of America in the next few decades. Nice video homie.
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Yeah you can do that because those checks are nice 😉
At 31 I got all of the things I had wanted and realized they didn't make me even slightly happier than I was in before. The most expensive cars feel ordinary after a few months.
Right. Now you just want more lol. I'm 32
The American dream is dead , am 34 and been looking at these videos of simple living, minimalism etc. Am so glad to hear am not alone in my thoughts 😅. I made up my mind. Am going off grid and seeking more of a farmer type lifestyle, even if I have to give up electric am going to keep my wealth in my family!! Am with you bro 💪
That is it. I am a nurse, I can take as many extra shifts as I want and make good money. I hate my profession. Listening to you I just realized That my dream is to be a farmer. I want to wake up and go outside and work in my garden and with my animals not to go to nursing home. I told my wife. She said, are you drunk again? 😀
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Omgoodness, I'm literally crying at your post (not with laughter, but releasing heaviness of heart). You don't understand. As a fellow nurse, this was never my dream. This was God's dream for me. I've shared my heart with friends that I would feel so much better doing something different (teaching/leading the youth, singing background or with a group, praying/interceding for others, etc), and they don't understand. One friend has even called me self-centered because I'm "making [my life] it about me" when it's supposed to be about God. Upon my inspection, she hasn't yet been called to something she never wanted to do, doesn't have a degree, isn't working, etc. It's very easy to tell others what they are doing wrong when you don't even know the cost of my obedience to the Father. I'm trying to figure out now, how to make this life manageable for me. Because I have been losing motivation for life more and more ober the years, especially the more that I obey God. It's almost like I have terrible feeling like there's anything in it for me. I don't want to turn my back on Him, but I need something different. Thank you for your post.
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I really hated being a nurse despite making "great" money. My high salaryI wasnt enough to repair my sanity.
Wow
Tim nails it right at the end.. "you won't believe how happy you can be chasing after your dreams and not going after society's dreams"
That’s the American dream tho 😭 chasing your dreams is the American dream it means something different to everyone there’s the basic American dream and then the real one
What this speaker is talking about is the pursuit of Happiness...in the Constitution, the American Dream!
Chasing the "American Dream" will lead to an early grave. I am not completely free, but I have paid off my debts, and live way below my means. Very low stress compared to some people I know who prisoners of their mortgages are, car payments, credit cards etc. I have a small but nice house, older nice car, all paid for, and money in the bank. No stress.
It sounds awfully like you are already living the American Dream without realizing it. 🙂
The probem is that what you think is modest and living with little is not achievable for.most
i buy most of my clothes used, i don't buy fastfood too often - bring a lunchpack myself, i look at the cost for food before buying it, and i don't purchase things that i don't need. also, you don't have to go abroad for many vacations. can just choose a cheaper option closer to home, or be with family etc..
Dont forget AmeriKKKan women(white ones especially) will bleed you dry, u will never be good enough for them unless ur the top 1% alpha male, even then no guarantees like Elon Musk 3rd divorce
As long as the money is in the bank it is not yours, put it to work you'll be even more stress free
It makes me so happy to see this video and to read all the comments.
I think there is a big shift in how people see the American dream, especially among the younger generation. I’m a gen x and watched my parents and the rest of there generation go after the dream . Struggling to have all the things they were told you needed to be happy and successful. Somewhere along the way I decided that I wasn’t going to live that way. I was going to live the way that made me happy. Now I’m 52 , and I have lived in a tiny off grid house in the woods that I built slowly without borrowing money from a bank. I’m pretty much debt free, which gives me the flexibility to get out and enjoy my life doing what I like to do. I used to get a lot of criticism for my lifestyle, but after the whole lockdown of 2020 I get more people telling me they wish they had done done things the way I have. People ask how can we fight against this capitalist society that keeps us slaves to debt. My answer is don’t buy into this notion that you need all these material objects to be successful. Happiness is success. For me happinesses isn’t having a BMW or a big house, it’s waking up to a beautiful sunrise while camping on a remote lake here in Maine where I live. I wouldn’t have time to do that if I was straddled with debt . We are present for a big awakening and It makes me very happy to be here to see it.
This came up on my feed today. Could of not been better time for me. Sick and tired of chasing the American dream. 56 years old, divorced with 2 grown daughters…nothing holding me back…I really need to start thinking about this Tim.
Go for it Timmy! Like you said, there's nothing holding you back anymore!
God bless you, Tim.
Keep me posted on your journey
To quote George Carlin: "The reason they call it the American Dream, is that you have to be ASLEEP to believe it."
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The world needs another George Carlin desperately. If he were alive I'm sure he'd have more material than he could cope with. RIP George.
@Michael Pondo oooooooo......its STILL all about Trump isnt it'? Focus exclusively on trump and you won't have to pay attention to how the ENTIRE SYSTEM is robbing you blind. They have you right where they want you which is succumbing to the false belief in partisan politics of Divide and Conquer. Time to awaken
This has to be one of the most common types of TH-cam comment.
He warned us of all we see now
I can completely relate to this. I had to finally come to realization that accumulating objects and chasing money is not important and being healthy and enjoying yourself is what is matters in life.
Thanks!
Thank you so much for the support Toriano!!!!
We’ve given up on it as of last year. Pulled our kids to homeschool, moved to a homestead from a McMansion and found a faith community.
So awesome!
Way to go! Wishing you guys all the best 🙏
Smart choice, good decision.
That is the real American dream tho
Joining a cult?
I’ll never forget a conversation I had with an electrician that was new in his field wiring up my Mom’s new central AC she had installed. I asked if he liked his job and he said “I have the house, the cars, the kids even though I barely get to spend time with them, but now I’m a slave to my job.” All I could say was wow and never looked at work and life the same. A conversation I was glad I had. I’m not where I want to be still but I know what I don’t want and get away from doing things I hate.
New age of slavery.
Slavery hasn't gone away from our world, but only acquired new forms.
And, all in the name of a bunch of masters...
The angriest mother phuckers drive the nicest trucks...those payments are EXPENSIVE meow lol
There's no "American Dream," it is a NIGHTMARE!
The American dream still exists for the more fortunate/favored few, but for most citizens the American dream is more and more unachievable and more like a bad dream/nightmare when houses on a large lot are almost impossible to purchase/rent to own, except in cheaper cities where there's few good paying jobs, unless you can work remotely and not too many get that good opportunity
I gave up on it years ago. I am doing what I want and building “my dream” brick by brick. As long as I keep at what I’m doing and pay debt off. That’s my road to happiness.
To be honest, I strongly feel that's why many of us in America are depressed/stressed. Outside of the cares of life, we're pressured to do and be a certain way by a certain age and or time-frame. When we don't add up to that, we feel like failures or we rush into things knowing deep within we're not ready to take on certain things. I agree that we should live our own dream(s) regardless as to what people say or think we should be doing. Be encouraged everyone and thank you sir for this video. Yahuah bless you all💛💕
As I've gotten older I now see why, when I was younger, people wanted to live away from people, off grid or someplace rural.
I absolutely agree, 5 years ago I burnt out, I got really sick and stopped working. For the last few years I just felt lost, this video has given me some focus and I’m so grateful for you sharing this.
Same here @ms Lou
Most people won't do the work. They'd prefer to complain. I applaud you. Don't forget giving is part of happiness.
I honestly feel like you are saving lives by spreading this message. Thank you 🙏🏿
He sure is......
I got to this conclusion after losing both my parents a year from each other. My dad died from a heart attack and I lost my mom a year later to ovarian cancer. It made me realize that life is short and I spent my entire adult life worrying about being a "functional" adult rather than just enjoying what little time I have here.
I'm realizing that right now. I have anxiety and I worry too much and always tell myself I'll feel happy when I reach my goals but in doing that I'm not living in the present making good memories for myself. My whole life I've been worried I'm 24 now and its exhausting. Add to it that I'm single and gay.
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I grew up in CA, the pandemic happened, we got out of there. Best decision I’ve ever made, I’m in Arkansas not just living but loving life. Simple , healthy & family oriented 🙏
Why would anyone stay there if they can’t afford it. There are 49 other states
I have a family member who sold his house in CA and trying to find a nice quiet area of AK.
Think their still looking. They do both still work
Maybe they can’t be too far out
Any nice area ideas?
@@anybodyoutthere3208
Fort Smith
Rogers
Bentonville
Springdale
Fayetteville
These are the best parts of AK
@@thatcryptofool554 AR is Arkansas, AK is Alaska
I hate living in liberal, woke, morally deviant east-coast USA. I would love to move to a southern state, because I like southerners. But I'm not white like the majority of southerners, and they would not like me.