That's good.. keep it up.i went 48 hrs..had wine today due to anxiety ( I never had it until I drank alcohol) 😨 feel so guilty but Im definitely going to pray and try again tomorrow 🙏
Boredom after I stopped drinking, then I realized my hobby was drinking! Once I stopped drinking I got really, really good at many different hobbies and skills.
Yes!!!!! This is so true!!! I've turned my hobbies into fitness now! I love running and going to the gym, I've never ever felt better, been sober 8 months and going strong. It hasn't all been easy but the benefits I've seen since I quit booze far out weigh the pleasure I used to get from drinking. Anyone who is drinking and reads this, trust me give it up you'll thank me later 👌🏻
I remember when I was at my worst of addiction and my mom told me: "Ruby, I know you can be happy sober. I've seen you." And that really did help me quit when it was time. Now I'm 6 months today!
@Rocky Mountain Way Thompson’s drug use turned him into a cartoon version of himself. It’s really sad, actually. Most people don’t even read his work, they just use him as a justification for their addiction.
This made my day!! I think he is saying, be patient, you will feel fine without it if you are patient. I can personally tell you I lost 50 lbs, got into better shape, have more energy at work, and I can think more clearly.. I don't think many people can do those things and drink 10+ a night, which I did. You just get used to functioning sub-par when you are sober, and eventually, completely out of it, when you are drinking. Thats what happened to me at least, of course not everyone drinks to a few ticks before black out like I did, but, even two a night takes away sleep quality and sharpness the next day..
I did turn my life around when I started drinking at 16. It helped me to no longer care about what other people thought. I wish I could have done that without alcohol but I could not. I have paid a huge price ever since, but at first, it did help me.
@@stinkyham9050 That's a harsh one to swallow... I've been struggling with this question, because most of my friends I have known before we all started drinking, and I would never say our friendship is based on that, but it is just that now all we do seems to revolve around getting drunk, or getting high, or partying. And still, I love them to death, but it is kinda hard to conciliate all this right now...
@@jonathasfgoncalves1572 Only you can decide who your friends are. I would say if you were friends before all the drinking then they probably are true friends. When you really find out is when you stop drinking. If they aren't supportive or worse try to get you to drink then they defenatly aren't what I would consider a friend. I had people in my life like that and I do still talk to them but I'm not close to them because they just aren't supportive. The choice is yours. Good luck.
Why i stopped smoking weed, for one I started to get anxiety, second I noticed I had pot friends and the dynamic of out relationship revolved around my connect, having weed and smoking them out or getting them weed. I didn;t like that so I told everyone I stopped smoking and just watched them all fall off... it was dissapointing.
My father was an alcoholic until he was 42. He wasn’t the greatest Dad during his drinking years. He was a different person during his 27 years of sobriety up until his passing. Became a great father and grandfather. So thankful.
Was a drinker. Started to get sick alot. Stopped drinking and didn't know who I was. Stopped hanging out with all my friends. Became very aware of suicidal thoughts. Now, I am cycling around and camping, painting alot, just accepting myself. Really, I just wanted to live a creative life without the stresses of being tied up with people who dont see things the way I do. Solitude will save a person's life.
same here, it wasnt exactly a rebirth but i quite cos my liver was failing. i went straight and never looked back, i dont regret my old life but i reject all the pointless relationships i had. people who i thought were friends, just folk in a bar. being in the bar having fun was my life... i cycle more now. photograph stuff.... i do feel empty though some days its dificult to shake off
I was sober for 9 months and then went back and had terrible allergic reactions, and bad memories. I’ve decided I’m going to live a complete sober lifestyle going forward. 2 months in♥️ Edit: 6 months sober!
Anthony White it’s been 6 months now o haven’t even thought about it. If I do go out now, which is rare I just get “Virgin” drinks which is cool bc It eliminates the annoying “where’s your drink” ppl lmao
Im 26 and drink every day, I tried to go sober once. Made it to 90 days. Not using it as an excuse, but I had a negative life experience and went right back to it. I dont have the will power to stop now.
“I couldn’t bear the thought of doing things sober.” This is me in a nutshell, and I am still struggling with it. After decades of drinking, it’s hard for me to remember my life sober. Thank you for this video, I really needed it.
Just checking in with you. If you can hit 30 days it will be easier going forward. After 90 days you'll think less and less about it and it's amazing how much more mentally clear things are, and the extra time and money you'll have available.
Nothing like a good night out, imagine going to a wedding and not having a drink, only idiots do that. The key to a good life is to go out and get drunk once a week , what the hell is wrong with that?
@@aparks8244 you can do it brother, i been a daily smoker for years and today is my first day not smoking weed. I am bored out of my mind, but I refuse to give up and lose a fight with a substance. Think about what you want more then drinking and focus. Good luck brother, god bless
@@SeekerGoOn2013 dude been drinking every night for 16 years and trying to stop right now and your very small comment hut me in the face 🥊😁 So fucking true I need to feel real emotion. Thank you.
Absolutely. I always find it strange when people ask why don't you drink. The way people ask assumes that drinking is something you should do and if you don't you need a reason. I actually think it is the opposite. I've been sober for over three years now because I can't see a reason to drink in the first place.
@@davehall17 Good job for being sober for over 3 years. I've had to explain my whole life why I don't drink (never been drunk), but I started asking it other way around. Why do people who drink do it, and jesuschrist the amount of explanations I've gotten.
You have to be comfortable with boredom for *A WHILE* , because your dopamine is completely messed up. So, anyone who fears it's boring.... You're 100% correct, and it will take a ridiculous amount of time and effort to overcome it. But, that's worth it in the scope of the alternative. Enjoy your sickness.
Convinced myself I was a social drinker until lockdown hit and realised how deep the rabbit hole I was. After a year of struggling , I finally quit and hit my one month today.
I am Irish. I'm 31 years old. I gave up alcohol when i was 24 years old after suffering from debilitating Anxiety and Panic Attacks. Growing up in Dublin all Young people do is drink. Starting around age 16 they drink huge amounts of alcohol. Why would they do any different? They see their parents and friends drinking. By the time they are in their mid 20s they are so used to drinking it's hard to give up. Life is better without alcohol. I've attracted a beautiful wife and a great lifestyle and also moved to Paris. It's crazy the culture change in regards to alcohol i see Parisians drink a glass of wine or 3-4 beers. I've rarely seen a drunk perisian. In Ireland people just get trashed pissed drunk to the point they can't even remember what happened. Anyways those who are struggling with alcoholism I'm sending you love and strength to give it up and become healthier and happier and attract more beautiful things into your life. You deserve it.
I married into an expatriate Irish-Catholic family across the pond. The father drank a lot, abused the children, and the mother thought it was "normal" because of her Irish upbringing. Needless to say, my marriage ended because my husband followed his father's example and drank. The wee child that came of our marriage has vehemently sworn off drink. Her father has since passed (two months after receiving his 2nd Moderna vax this year), and she is learning more about French culture after three years of studying the language in high school. Her goal is to travel and learn about other cultures and to create TH-cam videos to share information so people have greater understanding and appreciation for others.
@@PositiveVibesVids same boat here. They were bad a few years ago, I’m 27 now and They’ve gotten a little better recently as I’ve learned to deal with/remedy anxiety in general. But I still see a future where I give it up for good. Alot of my friends are settling down /getting married so as fun as it was, i’m ready to hang up the binge drinking lifestyle.
@@Jiggy609 bless ya man. Basically the same happened to me getting older around the same age as you.. except I cut out a lot of people to speed up the process. I still drink every now and then just twice this year - anx has gotten so much better of the years. The body gets older only so much it can take
After being a daily drinker for over 20 years. I will hit my 3 years sober in a few weeks. I went to Schick Shadel in Seattle WA. it was amazing!! A very important thing for everyone to know is that you can use FMLA to enter rehab and will get 60% of your wages paid and insurance companies will pay everything once it goes over your deductible. Greatest decision I’ve ever made!!
Good for u Mr. Wilson AND addressing oft overlooked issue-continuity of income/limit out-of-pocket expense. Ppl don’t realize all avail supports & its ENTIRELY APPROPRIATE to max out each one. Getting sober enhances ur life/productivity & of those around u
Really fmla covers it? That's interesting. I struggle daily with pills. Gotten to the point I can go weeks without them but when I get paid, now my new thing Is binge use. Lost everything and I hate it. I'll check it out.
@@robvarley3091 yes Rob not only did I use FMLA to go to rehab but I also requested 2 additional weeks to adjust to my new life and I was paid through all of it. Once approved for FMLA you can take up to 6 months off while drawing 60% of your current wages from FMLA. I had a $1,500 deductible on my insurance but the total cost of my rehab was over $50k, so I only paid $1,500 total which is way cheaper than an ongoing addiction. Good luck and take care of yourself!!
I was 5 weeks sober and fell off the wagon. Getting back on. Could have potentially lost me a relationship. Never again will I let this stupid habit ruin anything for me
Drank big for 40 years. Started catching up to me health wise. Realized I was a slave to alcohol. So I quit. Glad I was Able to .Six months later ,I have lost over 30 pounds, feel WAY better. At 60,I have abs again ! And seems like I got a raise from not spending $$ on booze. Just do it.
More money, losing weight, abs?? You are out here living the dream at 60 Paul 😁. That's great man, it's good to hear that after 40 years of drinking it is still possible to quit.
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Dam 40 years. I been drinking everyday for 25 years but I started 28 years ago, a half pint of liquor and a 24 oz of beer daily your an inspiration how did you get over the withdrawals I drink just because after work sometime I go the liquor store and I really do t even want to but end up buying the poison anyway how did you overcome the desire to drink
I wish I could say I lost weight when I quit drinking but I actually gained. Probably because I used to replace food with beer, and when I stopped drinking I developed a sugar habit. I did finally level out after a couple years and I'm back to an average weight. Being sober is so freeing. I feel like I have nothing to hide and nothing to worry about. The financial boost is great as well. Of course when I was under the age of 30 all my drinks were free... Lol.. but as I reached my late thirties I realized this was going to cost me some money. Good time to quit.
I'm at 301 days now. Every morning I wake up and write the number on the dry erase board on my refrigerator. I see it, my family sees it. Just a number, a "score". It's a motivating thing for me. How embarrassing or disappointing it would be to erase that number and start over at "1" again tomorrow. At first, I thought that time is the only way to judge my success in sobriety, but now I think it's best just to say "Drinking is something I don't do anymore." But keeping track of the days is a good way to motivate you to get through today without drinking, at least at the beginning.
My father was an alcoholic when I was growing up and I was amazed at how easily I slipped into drinking daily. When I would think about stopping, then I'd get hit with that boredom. My brain was searching for that usual dopamine hit and it was rocky for a while there. Thankfully I got it under control now. I can't bring no liquor in the house or Imma drink the whole bottle. Some of us have addiction in our DNA so we gotta be careful.
I'm doing at least a full year by next month. But that never would have happened had the covid shutdowns not been a thing. I'm definitely healthier and less prone to depression but it's definitely boring. I'll start drinking again socially at some point when things go back to normal.
@@localbod thank you. I am very proud. Life can be tough. Just putting it out there that if I can do it so can anyone who's thinking about quitting. Wishing everyone the best on their journey
@@wyattburp2395 You're welcome. Life can be very tough and having an addiction / problem makes it doubly so. For many years I was a working and functioning drug addict. I've been clean / sober for 7 years. The best thing I ever did was admitting I had the problem in the first place and seeking help. I have one regret and that is not trying to quit sooner, but perhaps we only stop our damaging / negative behaviour when we are ready to do so. Good luck in the future and stay strong. Respect. 🙂
@BJ dirty Gaslighting? No it’s just stating facts. Some people can’t drink, or simply choose not to. For some people, alcohol is a demon, some go through addictions of other kinds. What it may be, addiction is all the same. There are people here that have fallen back in love with life without poison and Im proud. Diminishing their accomplishment is childish, apathetic, and not needed here. Learn to care about people, kid. Just because it’s a story that you can’t relate to, doesn’t mean you can disrespect that. No one deserves that kind of treatment overcoming any kind of addiction, whatever it may be.
Started drinking at 12 year of age was a regular weekend drinker at 16 after many failed attempts at quitting I got to the point where it was quit or die.I am not the religious type but the power I prayed to answered my prayer , haven't had a drink since June 13th 1982 I'm 78 years old. To those who are trying to quit and slip get back up and keep trying.
Thanks 4 the advice! Acid reflux, bloating gut, weight gain, and severe joint pains did it for me. I had enough! I quit cold turkey on July 10th this year after months of tapering off. 14 years of use and abuse of alcohol had taken a toll on my body. Now, I am 102 days sober and moving forward, doing Yoga, light cardio, and many hobbies that I should have taken into consideration a long time. At the age of 34, reaching 35 on Veteran's Day, I will never go back to alcohol again.
I wish I would have recognized the signs of addiction when I was younger; I could have avoided a lot of trouble. After experimenting with hard drugs in my late teens/early 20’s, it got to the point where every time I got really drunk, I’d be like a fiend looking for cocaine or ecstasy or anything else. The thing was, I wouldn’t drink all the time and I’d go months without using hard drugs sometimes so I thought everything was fine. Fast forward a few years and I find myself using heroin and cocaine daily and anything else I could get my hands on. Went into detox, did 100+ days rehab and now I’ve been sober for a little over four years.
I’m 25 also and everyone here is such a inspiration to me so I can get better alcohol is ruining me and everything around me I hope your still staying strong brother thanks for the motivation 💯
It’s amazing how sobriety slows life down , weekends become long & weeks go by so much slower . Productivity & energy levels go through the roof . Nothing good ever comes out of drinking . 🤙🏻💯😎🕺
Dam I haven’t been sober in 30 years I’m 46 and what you said makes sense I keep saying to myself if I stop drinking I bet everything will slow down I will more productive, I will make more money, I will a lot more accomplished in life I will be a better auto mechanic my energy will be at a all time high. I just scared because I heard one of my friends had a seizure when he stop drinking cold turkey but fuck it I have to do this I feel like I’ve been I a mental prison for 30 years it’s time for me to make a change thank you for your comment
Of course good things come out of drinking. It depends if you use drinking as a way to escape because you have trauma, or whether you just do it on a certain occasion.
well done Bev, i have 36. i have never questioned or regretted my choice. actually the passing time has only proven we did the right thing. lots of people fell by the wayside, literally and figuratively. people just living to drink.
Just remember to not be so hard on yourself & acknowledge that sadness/anger is not a negative thing but just another emotion I hope you get through it!
Hello my friend even an old man like me still gets so blue. And alone. But we have to learn to love our selves and be comfortable in our minds were stuck Together for a long time:) embrace the real feelings and the emotions even though they feel so much stronger off the substances. When I was drinking and doped up I never moved on from the things in my life happening. I still cry and get angry but understand the role of these emotions. And their purpose in my life so much better. You can do it friend. There is always pain the the world but conquering it and strength don’t lie in not experiencing that pain its living and every day growing from it. I don’t know u but I believe in u. Johnathan
You'll get there, avoid negative energy. Go do the things you think you'll enjoy. I grew up thinking running the streets was a life cause that's just my family. Nah, turns out like museums , riding bikes (because I wrecked every vehicle I owned and now it's the only solution) but I'm working on my credit, paying off debt and taking care of my work. Now I wanna start TH-cam and save and invest. I was dead for 3 years bro . Even if you don't think so there's a plan for you bro. It starts with you . No excuses keep ya head up
It's a long way to go. Some specialists say that one needs at least five years to clean mind and soul.. it's so hard sometimes... they say ALCOHOL CAN WAIT... all right let it wait 🙂. I have to change my life, I have just one life and it goes by...
Thanks man...tears came to my eyes near the end when you said " You WILL quit...You are watching these videos because your on the path to quitting..." .. You are helping people probably more than you even know.
Brother when you're born and a small child you have no alchol and caffeine passing through ur veins but u feel great and happy and peaceful just as you are. u gott go back to that point in ur life. most adults are messed up, most children aren't. i quit caffeine from daily consumption and im 50yrs old. it felt like i went back to being 10 but with all the wisdom of a 50 yr old. im loving it. life has become more fun. we adults make life harder than it really is.
Sobriety has given me everything that drugs/alcohol promised me. My life has changed drastically and all did was get honest with myself and have a little faith.
I can absolutely positively relate. I was a hard core raging alcoholic 21 years ago. Back then I never thought I’d be able to quit drinking or smoking cigarettes. I’m coming up on a year tobacco free and couldn’t be happier about that. I’m 52 years old and I think the next thing I’m quitting will be my welding job of 22 years. I think I’m ready for change. You’ve been an inspiration to me Tim. I thank you!
yes!! that's it. I have not been able to put my finger why ive felt like I have during my sobriety. I am 56 days today. the highs are not as high but the good news is...the lows are not as low!!! thank you!!!
So much of this resonates with me. I have 841 days of sobriety. I lost 40lbs, got back into mountain biking, ran a pair of half marathons, started ice climbing. These are all things I never thought I would be able to do when I was drinking.
I know this comment is several years old, but I just wanted to say that that’s awesome! I’m a year sober and now doing CrossFit (controversial, I know, but I go to an excellent place with great coaching) which I’ve been loving - there’s no way I could be doing it multiple times a week and Olympic lifting if I were still drinking.
I actually enjoy my life more when i don't drink. I feel healthier, happier etc however it can feel lonely cuz all adults tend to revolve around alcohol.
@@anthonywhite9912 I'm in my mid-30s and I've never been a drinker, and I'm always the odd guy out at work bc the social activities always revolve around drinking. Most people meet their friends at work, so it puts me at a disadvantage
C E bruh just go and tell them your sober. No one will give a fuck and if they ask questions just answer. Most of my friends drink after work so I tend to drive them to the bars and have a good time. The best part of being sober is being able to remember the nights and living in the moment
Don’t say “I can’t drink”, say “I don’t drink.” You’re making an active choice. You’re not missing out on something you want to do anymore. You’ve decided the costs aren’t worth the benefits; so you’ve intentionally changed your lifestyle.
This is what Psy doctors and even Allen carr in his book said "i DONT Drink" is the ideal answer not DOnt nEED, or Don't Want just "I DONT drink" make it aware to others and to yourself mentally and verbally
Mathew B.; Somebody said to me a while back, "Why cant you drink", I replied that I can indeed drink, however I will retain the power of choice as to when I will do so, and today is not that day. Looking at that guy I thought that I have probably spilled more booze than he will ever drink, I didnt say to him, that as I just smiled at him...
I'd like to point out an important nuance for those watching this video especially if they currently drink and are thinking about cutting down or stopping: There are two distinct flavours of boredom that can be generated depending on what kind of drinker you used to be. Their existential characteristics are quite different. One kind, which is the more often emphasised here, is the product of having sacrificed a stimulating lifestyle that appeared to rely on drinking or other drugs to continue. This is the realm of partying and all the thrills and spills that go with it. People who have given up this kind of social or engine drinking will often come to have unrealistic expectations of their sobriety because they are hoping it will fill the void left by a lifestyle they have abandoned. Since in and of itself sobriety is unable to fill such a void as it is not strictly a lifestyle, a kind of inverse evaluation emerges in which one reminds themself of alcohol's drawbacks that they are no longer subject to (the morning after, the regret etc). This kind of boredom or angst can be difficult to redress because it revolves around the axiom that you are in fact missing out on something, it's just that thing isn't worth paying the price for. Some addicts within this domain may pursue other extreme lifestyles as a way of compensating for their perceived loss. The other kind of boredom is the one that I have experienced and is less bittersweet. It is a genuine boredom, not brought on by lack of stimulation but by lack of purpose. It exists because alcohol has hollowed out your life and left a cavernous altar with only itself at the centre. Here, alcoholism is an all encompassing belief structure like buddhism, hinduism or nihilism. And now, by miracle, dumb luck or sheer determination, you have broken free of the toxic dogma. The paralytic idol has crumbled to dust and left you feeling lighter, more aware. In this state, the assertion that everything is better with alcohol seems as absurd to you as the assertion that God is in everything seems to an atheist. All you know now is that your obsession has melted everything else away and left only you, the present, and the future. This is a beautiful boredom; it is an invitation from the universe to start living your life. Have fun with it!
This is one of the most impactful comments I’ve ever had the pleasure of reading. I’m still early in sobriety, but I believe you have helped me foster a healthy and realistic mindset on the days to come. You have excellent and articulate prose my friend! Thanks.
I’m 40 and been an addict since my early 20s Started using at school , I’m from U.K. and have just completed 6 months rehab and have just entered a move on project I’m so lucky I was given a second chance
“The highs aren’t as high but the lows aren’t as low...” eloquently said. I used to consistently show up to work hungover, tired, sleep deprived, etc. etc., until finally I had enough and decided to grow up. I love waking up ready to take on the day. I am a lot more productive at work and that entails fatter checks!
Thank you so much for this. I have had a similar experience with alcohol. I always get to the point where I binge/black out & it’s dangerous. I’ve quit for short spurts before but it always creeps back into my life and bad things happen. I had another bad night last night and I’m just horrified that I let it happen again. I’ve sugar coated my issue with alcohol for years, but finally admitted to myself that I have a problem. And I’m not someone who can just have an occasional drink. I can go months where I don’t overdo it, but eventually I always always get back to this point. A night of black out, getting sick, feeling shame. I’m vowing to make this change in my life. I don’t want to be a slave to this poison anymore.
Fellow "Timothy" here. I'm 56 and haven't had a drink in 33 years. I went the treatment/AA route, but I certainly don't insist that it's the only way for everyone. What DOES have to happen is to get totally honest with oneself, about everything. I still struggle with anxiety and depression sometimes, but that's just par for the course. I accept it. Life can either be difficult or impossible. I'll take difficult any day of the week.
Hi Timothy. So proud of you wow that's incredible... I be 56 yrs this Nov & celebrating one year of sobriety today am so thankful.. 34 yrs on & off drinkin is a long time .. well done congratulations 🎊 keep up with the good works . .Thanks..
I binge drank for two days I had to call in sick from work because I still wasn’t sober enough to work. I can’t do this anymore today is day one I hope I never drink again.
It's amazing you did it on your own 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I've been sober for almost 3yrs but I went to rehab for 180 days yup yup a half year but I got it done best decision EVER 😁 God is good ☺️
Watching this with having one of my last drinks from my last bottle. I only drink at home with my boyfriend, but it’s been every night for over a year. I’m tired of waking up feeling bloated from over snacking and depressed. Sometimes I can’t even remember conversations we had. It’s only weekends when it gets that bad, but I’m so over it.
@Aprende Billar I was like that for several years until I finally broke free of the cycle. It was really hard, especially the first few weeks when I had physical withdrawls and a very strong "urge" to drink. One thing that helped me was keeping a cup filled with a mix of water and gatorade. Mixing the ingredients and sipping on it satisfied that habit of making and sipping on an alcoholic drink. It helped reduce the anxiety, and got me hydrated. Good luck to you. One last thing, depending on how much alcohol you drink in a day, you may need to slowly ramp down your intake before quitting entirely (I had to do this). Alcohol withdrawl can be fatal. It is always recommended to do it with medical guidance, but that has all kinds of bad stigma associated with it and in many cases backfires for a number of reasons. It can be done on your own like I did, but just be careful
When you try to quit something don't focus on the quitting. Focus on the start.
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I'm 11 years sober come February 2021. I stewed for 28 straight years, like a wild animal. One morning I finally had it, resolved to stay sober, and simply flipped a switch. When I announced my new choice, my buddy from childhood told me, "You'll never make it without going to AA." I scoffed at that notion and NEVER attended a meeting . I never accept other people's limitations or rules. If I can stay sober, ANYBODY can.
I’m same as you bro I started drinking in grade 7 and by high school I was drinking every day I’m 46 now and been sober for 10 years just woke up Christmas morning 10 years ago and thought screw it im done ! It was only 2 weeks of withdrawals and it wasn’t two bad and I never looked back ! Life is definitely better but I do miss my friends! Once I quit I realized that drinking really was the only thing we had in common ! But I will admit 2020 I have thought about drinking almost daily this has been the hardest year 👍
Good job, I will be sober 7 years in February. Went to AA but didn't like it. Individual therapy didn't work too. It's actually youtube people that helped me out because my social life ceased to exist without alcohol.
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@A W Yes, Feb 1st is 11 years dry. What would've been MORE impressive was never drinking like an animal to begin with...
I think you're the first person I've ever heard talk about this! Thank you! ❤️ My bestie of 30+ years struggles with drinking. She was sober for over a year once, and the being bored part was SUPER HARD for her! We were together all the time, and it usually involved drinking. So when she decided to get sober, I started doing non-alcohol-related things like showing up at her house with fancy snacks and a ridiculous '80s Richard Simmons workout video, because I knew we would laugh our asses off doing it. And we'd go outside and blow bubbles into the street for all of the passers by, which made us both feel so good. She rediscovered her love for baking and went to school to get her pastry and baking certificate. It's definitely a transition. And people need to KNOW that it'll take time, but that they will have fun again! Thank you for talking about this! ❤️
My name is Tim also. And today I searched living richeously and sober. You were the first video. It spoke to me, you could say. Today I start a new life.
‘When I drink, bad things happen’ is something I relate to so much. Last weekend, I lost a whole day not knowing what happened because I got black out drunk. People had to take care of me and I was worrying the people I love, yet again. I really need to commit to sobriety because I deserve a life where I don’t make things worse.
6 days sober. I've been drinking for over 10 years, and had 10+ drinks a day, every day, for the past two years. It's been tough. I appreciate your video, Tim!
I don't know how this video appeared under my recommended but I'm glad it did. Been drinking hard for the last 5 years with weak attempts of going sober and obviously failing. I've never thought about how I was happy before alcohol. Today is day 1 for me, I will remember your wise words on my journey.
How does sobriety (from alcohol) benefit society as a whole? The only way I can see it being of benefit is that it would decrease the number of people who drive under the influence. As long as people who drink (or use other substances) don't drive while intoxicated, then they're not harming society, they are only harming themselves. Edit: Actually, I thought of one more thing besides decreasing driving under the influence, and that is decreasing public urination and other inappropriate public displays. Anyone who has been to Manhattan knows that public urination is a definite issue there. There are way too many bars and liquor stores and not enough public bathrooms.
@@skiddybipbop6844 You make a lot of good points. It can be tricky to correlate how much the consumption of alcohol/other substances affects the productivity of a society. For example, the United States and Japan are both major consumers of alcohol and yet both American and Japanese citizens are consistently ranked as taking the lowest number of vacation days per year compared to other developed nations. I wonder which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Is widespread alcohol/substance consumption responsible for a large number of problems in society? Or are a large number of problems in society responsible for widespread alcohol/substance consumption? It's personally easier for me to make a case for the latter. I'm doubtful that we would see many drastic changes in society if more people starting practicing sobriety. I think the problems that lead people to drink in the first place would still exist, and I imagine most people would simply seek new forms of escapism to replace the alcohol. (As a side note, I'll add that I don't think alcohol benefits society either. I'm mainly questioning what in society would change/improve if alcohol consumption decreased.)
Thanks for making this. Recently quit smoking weed and cigarettes and only have a drink once in a while. Being able to remember more details of my life and not constantly being high has helped me appreciate my life in new ways. Save money, life better, and stay healthy friends.
this is important stuff. When you're still drinking, you aren't able to internalize the fact that you will feel better after you have quit long enough. You have to "just trust" that your physical & mental health will dramatically improve and you'll feel great, and that's hard to do. You have thoughts like "well, HOW much better will I feel? And how soon? Can I get an exact number of days?" But, after you've gotten your health and well-being back on track enough, those ways of thinking quietly fall away and they're gone and replaced by a more accurate picture of reality and more positive mindframe before you even know it has happened. Hope that makes sense! Great video!
Wow, I really hope so.. I'm stuck in a cycle of stopping for a few days, picking up 2 days, stop, start, stop, start. I'll remember these words. Thanks
@@dylskyh4439 each of us is different. I was a "weekend warrior" who didn't touch a drop during the work week, then got knock-an-elephant-out life-debilitatingly drunk on Friday evening/night--at home, alone --and spent the absolute entire weekend nursing the hangover (they last 2 days instead of just one when you reach a certain age, haha). But, I had had HAD to have that one weekly drunkenness session. I felt like I couldn't get through the rest of the week--really, ultimately, couldn't get through *life*--without knowing I had the Friday Night Blowout to look forward to. I think that regardless of the time frames of the drinking, it simply is going to be about getting over that hump; you feel like you're summoning up all the strength you have and the feeling of uncertainty that it will pay off is what makes it such a difficult hump. But, you can get over it. You can totally do it, man! In my opinion, it probably should not take years or even a year to get your brain and body into a noticeably better place (like some might scare you into believing). More like a couple/few months, or maybe even weeks is probably closer to the common reality, it just feels like longer... though, again, everyone is different. If you are consciously going in the direction of improving your life in general, like health, fitness, mental health, etc., that helps a lot (in fact, I have a bit of trouble seeing the point in quitting drinking just to quit drinking. You quit because you want a better life, right?) Good luck brother!
@@dylskyh4439 my mom is the same way I think nutrition helps her but she us still back to it. I wish I could someone help themselves its all I want sometimes.
I'm 26, been drinking heavy since I was 16, mostly every day, on average 80-120 units a week. For about a month I've been on a ketogenic/raw carnivore/primal diet, and I feel so good that I don't even look at alcohol the same way. I never chose to quit, but I was just drinking as normal one night and it made me feel worse and made me feel I was poisoning myself. I've been sober a week now, which is the longest in those 10 years. Your analogy about your brain having to reprogram to bring the fun level back down to sober is absolutely spot on.
I don't know why but your video popped in my feeds. Funny how things work I'm a recovering heroin addict been clean for 80 plus days and I'm really struggling to keep my sobriety going. I haven't left the house in a month cuz I know that I'm going to relapse if I leave. I know I need an outlet but like you said everything seems boring and the only outlet that I know It's getting high. Damn man what a struggle addiction is I never imagined this would happen to me. Sometimes I think it's karma hitting me back because I use to make fun of addicts and I always judged them so here I am paying the ultimate price. I can't hold back the tears as I type this because I'm stuck in a zone of uncertainty. Like, is this it? Am I going to be an addict for the rest of my life? How is it that this thing takes away everything from me but I can't take myself away from it is what I don't understand. God bless to all the addicts that got out and those fighting to do so.🙏
Javier, sorry to hear you are suffering so much right now with your addiction. The fact that you are 80 days clean is awesome! Let's acknowledge that first! The struggle won't last forever, eventually the day will come when you can leave the house and lead a normal life without thinking about drugs. Please know that the rest of us who suffer from addiction are with you and we are praying for you. You have the strength brother, you just have to get past these worst few months!!!
Thank you for taking the time to reply. Yesterday was a hard day but today is a better day. And no matter how hard it was at the end of the day I still didn't use..
@@TimothyWard Stay strong mate! It's simply not worth going back to that shit that is trying to control your life. I can recommend physical exercise which doesn't even have to be outside or in a gym, you can just do callisthenics at home. Or learning a new language, with duolingo app, of a country you'd love to visit or live in, creating a passion for food and/or cooking, or actual travel when this pandemic shit ends, doesn't even have to be far or expensive, you can hitchhike and couch surf through Europe or wherever you are from
Almost 4 months!!! When I used to meet people that didn’t consume alcohol, I would look at them and wonder “How do they do it?! Now here I am. 100% committed to not ever drinking alcohol. caused nothing but problems!! Love how you spoke Brother! Absolutely talk to my soul!!😀 thank you!!❤️ To those of you struggling out there it is possible! You can and I will do it. It’s a journey that you have to take and just know that there absolutely is hope for a better way of living. 🌈 Hands-down the best decision I ever made in my adult life.
I have a litre of vodka, unopened in the kitchen. I write, paint, draw, DIY. Cook, clean even mess around on TH-cam. Just to show that bloody bottle, see I'm in control, not you!
@@justafighter1346 I never said they. Should! Just what I happened to be up to at the time. You find your own path, don't follow mine. The point you are missing is you can find all sorts of little things to do if you wish. Nothing to do with anything else.
I've been sober 15 months now and it's the first time sober since I was 15 years old I'm now 30 so I had 15 years of destroying myself under my belt. Honestly I'd say the best thing of being sober is waking up every morning and feeling the same not always great but never as bad as hungover. I've picked up new hobbies etc and it's starting to feel better. I lost my dog of 9 years 3 days ago and that was one of my first real tests and having to deal with my emotions without turning to drugs and alcohol. Keep it up
Anyone who has ever had drinking as a habit understands that just about everything this guy said is 100% true. I don’t like to keep track of how long I’ve quit as well but I do like that I’m experiencing things with a different mindset now for sure. Thank you sir
I’ve been sober going on 3 years. I honestly have zero desire to start again. Since I’m a musician my focus turned to music. Going headlong into my music was more satisfying to me than drinking. That combined with confronting my inner demons and ptsd made me a better person and a much better musician. My ability as a drummer suffered as a result of my drinking. Once I was sober long enough to have a clear head I realized just how much a better drummer I am as a sober musician. I’m definitely not bored, my life is WAY more exciting now. Best of luck to all of you. 🙏🏼
As a person with a drinking problem, I really appreciate your thoughts on the whole "once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic." That phrase is pretty discouraging. Thanks 👌🏾
I randomly searched "scared of getting sober" and your video was there to meet me. I needed this so much tonight. I just started my sobriety journey and I'm absolutely terrified. I've had an alcohol problem since my teens, I'm 28 now. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.🖤🖤🖤🖤
I'm glad my videos could be of help to you. I know how hard it is struggling with drinking and it means the world to me if I have helped you to maintain and stay sober. It's a rough fight sometimes but one that's worth fighting. And one that can be won!
@@TimothyWard Absolutely! You have no idea how much this simple video helped. I saved it to a playlist to go back and rewatch when times get rough. Thank you again!🖤
I first watched this video in April 2021. Haven’t drank alcohol since. It’s now May 2024. This video has really stuck with me. When it was hard in the beginning, I reminded myself that I simply will be bored and it’s fine. I’ve been free for so long now and think back about this message with a smile. Appreciate you, Tim!
why does not drinking make us irritated? I have the same problem. I want to be sober, but when I'm sober I want a drink to take the edge off. My biggest problem, is after the edge has been smoothed out, I continue to drink.
Almost 7 years sober from drugs and 1 year sober from alcohol. Alcohol was the one thing that I made excuses for and was hardest to give up. I drank since I was 12. It was the steadiest thing in my life and I didn’t think I would ever stop. This has been the best year of my life COMPLETELY sober!!
I’m in the early days and already enjoying life sober. Shouldn’t take long if you don’t overthink it! Great thing is you can have a good time without any bad stuff and roughness associated to it! Good times that are good for you! In sobriety you have freedom of your wildest dreams! You can wake up and do what you want every day!
The problem is how fun being drunk is. You don't have any inhibitions. It's just really, really, fun. That's the lure. Then you find yourself drunk, and alone.
@@mver191 I'm jealous. I'm the opposite. Weed makes me anxious, and alcohol is so accessible, and, not to mention, LEGAL. I always hated worrying about being ripped off. I wish I could enjoy pot like that. No hangovers, no regrets, no stupid mistakes, no overdoses... Lucky bastard. Stick with it, it's really the perfect drug other than perhaps the cognitive impairments it might cause, but that isn't a problem for most people.
I always thought that the people who thought like that were weak. Not in the usual sense of the word, it's not like they're spineless or have low willpower. But in the sense of "How useless are you if you can't have fun or even bother trying to enjoy youself without using alcohol? You're disabled, with your ability to have fun crippled. It's sad. And pathetic."
This is the best f**n sober video I've ever seen. Dude just gives it to us straight. One thing drinking does is it numbs physical and emotional pain. And that might hit you HARD. Like a semi. Seek therapy if you need help and support during this, because you sometimes need to learn how to cope with LIFE again, without a substance. And trust me, life that's more even-keel without super highs and super lows, DOES feel great. I didn't think I could be this happy when I stopped drinking. But after a month or so, I really did feel energized and happy, just like I thought I felt when I was drinking.
I was a bartender for 15 yrs, cured me of the desire for booze. You see the negative effects on good people and it can be pretty sad. One of the common things I would hear would be that people would be afraid to lose their friends because drinking was central to their social lives.
Your smile is literally such a light! I'm 24 years sober from drugs and 4 years sober from alcohol. I almost drank many times in 2021 but I AM STILL SOBER! I'm so thankful I did not relapse. Thank you for sharing your story.
Im on day 3. After the last 2 years of trying and failing to quit. I feel like something just finally clicked. Im done with the drinking. its my life and family or drinking. And I choose my family. I love watching these inspiring videos'. AA is old and outdated and never worked for me. Realizing that alcohol is poison and is literally changing your personality. I know its day 3 but it finally clicked.
Much respect and best wishes man. Been a hard drinker for 16 years and it's really taking a toll on my body. Abdominal pains, acid reflux, tired and unmotivated outside of work, etc. I'm ready to give it up and start a new life!
Quit drinking for two years and was the happiest I've been. Then went through a bad break up and was offered a shot of whiskey. That was almost 4yrs ago and haven't stopped since. It's time to get back to being the person that I was
This guy looks like he snorted a line of fresh air
Hahaha! Best.comment.ever!
I got fat fluffy sacks on the low low. Hit up cha boy!
We all do thousands of times per day Mmmmmmm freshhhhhhhhh air is the bomb
@@benhartart9487 they Finna charge you by the gram soon watch
Underrated lol
I know doesn’t sound like much but 9 days and counting. Can’t wait to enjoy life sober again
Great job man.. that’s nine days forward .. you can do it !
You still going strong?
14 days stronger
That's good.. keep it up.i went 48 hrs..had wine today due to anxiety ( I never had it until I drank alcohol) 😨 feel so guilty but Im definitely going to pray and try again tomorrow 🙏
@@fredrikandersson1538 🙏🙏
Boredom after I stopped drinking, then I realized my hobby was drinking!
Once I stopped drinking I got really, really good at many different hobbies and skills.
Like what
Yes!!!!! This is so true!!! I've turned my hobbies into fitness now! I love running and going to the gym, I've never ever felt better, been sober 8 months and going strong. It hasn't all been easy but the benefits I've seen since I quit booze far out weigh the pleasure I used to get from drinking. Anyone who is drinking and reads this, trust me give it up you'll thank me later 👌🏻
This is something I needed to see. I might be a complete stranger on TH-cam, but thank you, seriously.
Same for me and smoking weed. Once I stopped I did way more things
@@munterboy9298 Good man 💪🏻
I remember when I was at my worst of addiction and my mom told me: "Ruby, I know you can be happy sober. I've seen you." And that really did help me quit when it was time. Now I'm 6 months today!
Congrats!!
👏❤️
God bless you
Proud of you Ruby 🙏
I pray you are still sober!
No one ever said, " I really turned my life around when I started drinking."
Haha! So true!
@Rocky Mountain Way Thompson’s drug use turned him into a cartoon version of himself. It’s really sad, actually. Most people don’t even read his work, they just use him as a justification for their addiction.
I really turned my life around when I started drinking.
This made my day!! I think he is saying, be patient, you will feel fine without it if you are patient. I can personally tell you I lost 50 lbs, got into better shape, have more energy at work, and I can think more clearly.. I don't think many people can do those things and drink 10+ a night, which I did. You just get used to functioning sub-par when you are sober, and eventually, completely out of it, when you are drinking. Thats what happened to me at least, of course not everyone drinks to a few ticks before black out like I did, but, even two a night takes away sleep quality and sharpness the next day..
I did turn my life around when I started drinking at 16. It helped me to no longer care about what other people thought. I wish I could have done that without alcohol but I could not. I have paid a huge price ever since, but at first, it did help me.
I’m trying to get off meth .. four years straight of smoking that shit smh pray for me
Sending prayers your way right now Adrian! You can do this!
Well done mate already because you've chose to fight this demon and u can do it !!
Sober people, sober places praying for you
I'm going to pray for you. 4yr 3month clean off meth. You can do it. Gotta cut off ties with everyone and everything ya know. Fresh start
Watched meth destroy someone I knew, kick that shit. You got it!
Having 'friends' that completely revolve around being high is just as painful as being alone.
This 100%.
If the only thing you have in common with someone is drinking then they aren't really a friend.
@@stinkyham9050 That's a harsh one to swallow... I've been struggling with this question, because most of my friends I have known before we all started drinking, and I would never say our friendship is based on that, but it is just that now all we do seems to revolve around getting drunk, or getting high, or partying. And still, I love them to death, but it is kinda hard to conciliate all this right now...
@@jonathasfgoncalves1572 Only you can decide who your friends are. I would say if you were friends before all the drinking then they probably are true friends. When you really find out is when you stop drinking. If they aren't supportive or worse try to get you to drink then they defenatly aren't what I would consider a friend. I had people in my life like that and I do still talk to them but I'm not close to them because they just aren't supportive. The choice is yours. Good luck.
Why i stopped smoking weed, for one I started to get anxiety, second I noticed I had pot friends and the dynamic of out relationship revolved around my connect, having weed and smoking them out or getting them weed. I didn;t like that so I told everyone I stopped smoking and just watched them all fall off... it was dissapointing.
My father was an alcoholic until he was 42. He wasn’t the greatest Dad during his drinking years. He was a different person during his 27 years of sobriety up until his passing. Became a great father and grandfather. So thankful.
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Was a drinker. Started to get sick alot. Stopped drinking and didn't know who I was. Stopped hanging out with all my friends. Became very aware of suicidal thoughts.
Now, I am cycling around and camping, painting alot, just accepting myself.
Really, I just wanted to live a creative life without the stresses of being tied up with people who dont see things the way I do. Solitude will save a person's life.
Beautiful comment. I absolutely agree on your point about solitude and finding out what makes you tick and doing 'that'.
I totally agree with you about the benefits of solitude Micah. Solo hiking has been a blessing for me.
I relate a lot to this, was in the same position still am
same here, it wasnt exactly a rebirth but i quite cos my liver was failing. i went straight and never looked back, i dont regret my old life but i reject all the pointless relationships i had. people who i thought were friends, just folk in a bar. being in the bar having fun was my life... i cycle more now. photograph stuff.... i do feel empty though some days its dificult to shake off
Hey that's me! I'm so tempted to move out to a mountain town and never speak to anyone I knew before except a select few. And reboot my life
I was sober for 9 months and then went back and had terrible allergic reactions, and bad memories. I’ve decided I’m going to live a complete sober lifestyle going forward. 2 months in♥️ Edit: 6 months sober!
I'm 11 months in and I'm not missing it at all....I even enjoy telling people that I'm a non drinker now..
You really don't miss it after a while...
Anthony White it’s been 6 months now o haven’t even thought about it. If I do go out now, which is rare I just get “Virgin” drinks which is cool bc It eliminates the annoying “where’s your drink” ppl lmao
Nice edit!
SO proud
26 years old. Drink everyday. Have for the past 4 years. Today marks 2 days sober. I needed this video. Thanks mate.
Get into tea - two sugars
I know ones too many and a hundreds not enough.
Correction: 26 years YOUNG.
Nice!!!
You got this. If you quit now your life in 10 years will light years ahead of where you would be with alcohol. Guaranfukinteed!!!
Im 26 and drink every day, I tried to go sober once. Made it to 90 days. Not using it as an excuse, but I had a negative life experience and went right back to it. I dont have the will power to stop now.
“I couldn’t bear the thought of doing things sober.” This is me in a nutshell, and I am still struggling with it. After decades of drinking, it’s hard for me to remember my life sober. Thank you for this video, I really needed it.
just keep sober, at all costs. there is plenty of help out there, i am pulling for ya.
Just checking in with you. If you can hit 30 days it will be easier going forward. After 90 days you'll think less and less about it and it's amazing how much more mentally clear things are, and the extra time and money you'll have available.
Hope you sober thriving 5 more months to internalize
Thank you for your honesty. 🙏 for you. Xo
Nothing like a good night out, imagine going to a wedding and not having a drink, only idiots do that. The key to a good life is to go out and get drunk once a week , what the hell is wrong with that?
Been sober for 3 years
Best thing I have ever done for myself
The clarity is priceless
Nice sir :)
Real emotions start coming back, like an old friend.
im too scared to quit. got a 24oz. in my hand. this video is helpful. i dont know. i drink a lot.
@@aparks8244 you can do it brother, i been a daily smoker for years and today is my first day not smoking weed. I am bored out of my mind, but I refuse to give up and lose a fight with a substance. Think about what you want more then drinking and focus. Good luck brother, god bless
@@SeekerGoOn2013 dude been drinking every night for 16 years and trying to stop right now and your very small comment hut me in the face 🥊😁
So fucking true I need to feel real emotion.
Thank you.
21 years old.
I've been smoking and drinking since I was sixteen. Today I completed 5 days sober.
Congratulations Victor!!! Keep up the good work!
keep going
@@joshluna1956 12 days and going.
Glad to see young people realising the benefits of being sober keep going bro
@@dimitris99able Thank you!! I'm gonna reach what I want.
we live in a Society where people find it strange that you don’t drink…………..
Ikr
Absolutely. I always find it strange when people ask why don't you drink. The way people ask assumes that drinking is something you should do and if you don't you need a reason. I actually think it is the opposite. I've been sober for over three years now because I can't see a reason to drink in the first place.
@@davehall17 Good job for being sober for over 3 years. I've had to explain my whole life why I don't drink (never been drunk), but I started asking it other way around. Why do people who drink do it, and jesuschrist the amount of explanations I've gotten.
@@RetreatHell518 Alcoholism usually runs in the family.
Consumerism, they find it weird when you don’t eat junk foods and buy other useless crap too
You have to be comfortable with boredom for *A WHILE* , because your dopamine is completely messed up. So, anyone who fears it's boring.... You're 100% correct, and it will take a ridiculous amount of time and effort to overcome it. But, that's worth it in the scope of the alternative. Enjoy your sickness.
Convinced myself I was a social drinker until lockdown hit and realised how deep the rabbit hole I was. After a year of struggling , I finally quit and hit my one month today.
Eventually you'll wonder why you did it in the first place
Congratulations !! Good on you.
Awesome!!
Great job man .keep pushing ,one day at a time
Keep it up 105 days sober here
I am Irish. I'm 31 years old. I gave up alcohol when i was 24 years old after suffering from debilitating Anxiety and Panic Attacks. Growing up in Dublin all Young people do is drink. Starting around age 16 they drink huge amounts of alcohol. Why would they do any different? They see their parents and friends drinking. By the time they are in their mid 20s they are so used to drinking it's hard to give up.
Life is better without alcohol. I've attracted a beautiful wife and a great lifestyle and also moved to Paris. It's crazy the culture change in regards to alcohol i see Parisians drink a glass of wine or 3-4 beers. I've rarely seen a drunk perisian. In Ireland people just get trashed pissed drunk to the point they can't even remember what happened.
Anyways those who are struggling with alcoholism I'm sending you love and strength to give it up and become healthier and happier and attract more beautiful things into your life. You deserve it.
I married into an expatriate Irish-Catholic family across the pond. The father drank a lot, abused the children, and the mother thought it was "normal" because of her Irish upbringing. Needless to say, my marriage ended because my husband followed his father's example and drank. The wee child that came of our marriage has vehemently sworn off drink. Her father has since passed (two months after receiving his 2nd Moderna vax this year), and she is learning more about French culture after three years of studying the language in high school. Her goal is to travel and learn about other cultures and to create TH-cam videos to share information so people have greater understanding and appreciation for others.
Man those panic attacks from alc were the first wake up for me too.
@@PositiveVibesVids same boat here. They were bad a few years ago, I’m 27 now and They’ve gotten a little better recently as I’ve learned to deal with/remedy anxiety in general. But I still see a future where I give it up for good. Alot of my friends are settling down /getting married so as fun as it was, i’m ready to hang up the binge drinking lifestyle.
@@Jiggy609 bless ya man. Basically the same happened to me getting older around the same age as you.. except I cut out a lot of people to speed up the process. I still drink every now and then just twice this year - anx has gotten so much better of the years. The body gets older only so much it can take
@@PositiveVibesVids nice brother, hope you continue living healthily
6 days sober, I’m tired of poisoning my body... update 3-20-21, almost 2 months sober!
Nice
Keep relapsing
Don’t give in! You gain more power the longer you go without poisoning yourself! ✌🏽😀
How are you going?
@@stellamary204 doing great! Still no drinking, read Allen Carr’s quit drinking without willpower, amazing book!!!
After being a daily drinker for over 20 years. I will hit my 3 years sober in a few weeks. I went to Schick Shadel in Seattle WA. it was amazing!! A very important thing for everyone to know is that you can use FMLA to enter rehab and will get 60% of your wages paid and insurance companies will pay everything once it goes over your deductible. Greatest decision I’ve ever made!!
Good for u Mr. Wilson AND addressing oft overlooked issue-continuity of income/limit out-of-pocket expense. Ppl don’t realize all avail supports & its ENTIRELY APPROPRIATE to max out each one. Getting sober enhances ur life/productivity & of those around u
Really fmla covers it? That's interesting. I struggle daily with pills. Gotten to the point I can go weeks without them but when I get paid, now my new thing Is binge use. Lost everything and I hate it. I'll check it out.
@@robvarley3091 yes Rob not only did I use FMLA to go to rehab but I also requested 2 additional weeks to adjust to my new life and I was paid through all of it. Once approved for FMLA you can take up to 6 months off while drawing 60% of your current wages from FMLA. I had a $1,500 deductible on my insurance but the total cost of my rehab was over $50k, so I only paid $1,500 total which is way cheaper than an ongoing addiction. Good luck and take care of yourself!!
Thanks for sharing man! 13 days sober for me. Giving this a shot, one day at a time
Keep it up 👍
No problem. You got this!!!
I was 5 weeks sober and fell off the wagon. Getting back on. Could have potentially lost me a relationship. Never again will I let this stupid habit ruin anything for me
@monkry abroad how’s it going bro? Still fighting the good fight?
@@jeremygalten ye boi, it's been about 3 weeks now. Still holding strong. Thanks
Drank big for 40 years. Started catching up to me health wise. Realized I was a slave to alcohol. So I quit. Glad I was Able to .Six months later ,I have lost over 30 pounds, feel WAY better. At 60,I have abs again ! And seems like I got a raise from not spending $$ on booze. Just do it.
More money, losing weight, abs?? You are out here living the dream at 60 Paul 😁. That's great man, it's good to hear that after 40 years of drinking it is still possible to quit.
Dam 40 years. I been drinking everyday for 25 years but I started 28 years ago, a half pint of liquor and a 24 oz of beer daily your an inspiration how did you get over the withdrawals I drink just because after work sometime I go the liquor store and I really do t even want to but end up buying the poison anyway how did you overcome the desire to drink
I wish I could say I lost weight when I quit drinking but I actually gained. Probably because I used to replace food with beer, and when I stopped drinking I developed a sugar habit. I did finally level out after a couple years and I'm back to an average weight. Being sober is so freeing. I feel like I have nothing to hide and nothing to worry about. The financial boost is great as well. Of course when I was under the age of 30 all my drinks were free... Lol.. but as I reached my late thirties I realized this was going to cost me some money. Good time to quit.
@ keep at it man, i know im not the one you’re asking but the only thing i ask is you keep looking for the answers you’re looking for
"The time doesn't matter. The sobriety matters" nice!
Exactly!
@@TimothyWard Lazer focus! 🔥
Iv battled demons and that statement speaks volumes!! Mindset is everything
I'm at 301 days now. Every morning I wake up and write the number on the dry erase board on my refrigerator. I see it, my family sees it. Just a number, a "score". It's a motivating thing for me. How embarrassing or disappointing it would be to erase that number and start over at "1" again tomorrow.
At first, I thought that time is the only way to judge my success in sobriety, but now I think it's best just to say "Drinking is something I don't do anymore." But keeping track of the days is a good way to motivate you to get through today without drinking, at least at the beginning.
Yes. The process
My father was an alcoholic when I was growing up and I was amazed at how easily I slipped into drinking daily. When I would think about stopping, then I'd get hit with that boredom. My brain was searching for that usual dopamine hit and it was rocky for a while there. Thankfully I got it under control now. I can't bring no liquor in the house or Imma drink the whole bottle. Some of us have addiction in our DNA so we gotta be careful.
This week will be a year no alcohol. Best decision I've ever made.
Congrats on the 1 year of sobriety Wyatt!
I'm doing at least a full year by next month. But that never would have happened had the covid shutdowns not been a thing. I'm definitely healthier and less prone to depression but it's definitely boring. I'll start drinking again socially at some point when things go back to normal.
Well done. I hope you feel proud of yourself.
Great name btw.
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@@localbod thank you. I am very proud. Life can be tough. Just putting it out there that if I can do it so can anyone who's thinking about quitting. Wishing everyone the best on their journey
@@wyattburp2395 You're welcome. Life can be very tough and having an addiction / problem makes it doubly so.
For many years I was a working and functioning drug addict.
I've been clean / sober for 7 years.
The best thing I ever did was admitting I had the problem in the first place and seeking help.
I have one regret and that is not trying to quit sooner, but perhaps we only stop our damaging / negative behaviour when we are ready to do so.
Good luck in the future and stay strong.
Respect. 🙂
One year alcohol free, and it’s honestly been my best one yet!
Sobriety is awesome, and anyone who’s doing it, we’re all proud of you💖💖
Ayy me too! Have a good one!
@BJ dirty if you need alcohol to have fun, who’s boring now?
@BJ dirty Gaslighting? No it’s just stating facts. Some people can’t drink, or simply choose not to. For some people, alcohol is a demon, some go through addictions of other kinds.
What it may be, addiction is all the same.
There are people here that have fallen back in love with life without poison and Im proud. Diminishing their accomplishment is childish, apathetic, and not needed here.
Learn to care about people, kid. Just because it’s a story that you can’t relate to, doesn’t mean you can disrespect that.
No one deserves that kind of treatment overcoming any kind of addiction, whatever it may be.
@@forgotmyun the world is boring thats why people need highs
bless
Started drinking at 12 year of age was a regular weekend drinker at 16 after many failed attempts at quitting I got to the point where it was quit or die.I am not the religious type but the power I prayed to answered my prayer , haven't had a drink since June 13th 1982 I'm 78 years old. To those who are trying to quit and slip get back up and keep trying.
tried to die.. they wont let me..
@@thothheartmaat2833 Maybe that's you getting another chance to fix it.
thats amazing .thats along time with no drinking
Thanks 4 the advice! Acid reflux, bloating gut, weight gain, and severe joint pains did it for me. I had enough! I quit cold turkey on July 10th this year after months of tapering off. 14 years of use and abuse of alcohol had taken a toll on my body. Now, I am 102 days sober and moving forward, doing Yoga, light cardio, and many hobbies that I should have taken into consideration a long time. At the age of 34, reaching 35 on Veteran's Day, I will never go back to alcohol again.
How you doing now??
@@newavatar2947 get blind drunk I’m guessing
I wish I would have recognized the signs of addiction when I was younger; I could have avoided a lot of trouble. After experimenting with hard drugs in my late teens/early 20’s, it got to the point where every time I got really drunk, I’d be like a fiend looking for cocaine or ecstasy or anything else. The thing was, I wouldn’t drink all the time and I’d go months without using hard drugs sometimes so I thought everything was fine. Fast forward a few years and I find myself using heroin and cocaine daily and anything else I could get my hands on.
Went into detox, did 100+ days rehab and now I’ve been sober for a little over four years.
Thanks for sharing your sobriety story Jake!
@@TimothyWard thank YOU.
Good job, Jake
Congrats
proud of you
I relapsed for 2 months straight. Enough is enough. I'm only 25 and something needs to change.
It takes time brother. Congrats on the 2 months. Now it's time to get back up and start over.
Yeah man I’m 25 too. Trying to quit alcohol and tobacco. At least we are trying to quit young
I’m 25 also and everyone here is such a inspiration to me so I can get better alcohol is ruining me and everything around me I hope your still staying strong brother thanks for the motivation 💯
27 and same. Let's get it now yall!!!
23 bro, shits getting outta control fr
It’s amazing how sobriety slows life down , weekends become long & weeks go by so much slower . Productivity & energy levels go through the roof . Nothing good ever comes out of drinking . 🤙🏻💯😎🕺
Shid, good sex and conversation but I get where youre coming from 😂
Dam I haven’t been sober in 30 years I’m 46 and what you said makes sense I keep saying to myself if I stop drinking I bet everything will slow down I will more productive, I will make more money, I will a lot more accomplished in life I will be a better auto mechanic my energy will be at a all time high. I just scared because I heard one of my friends had a seizure when he stop drinking cold turkey but fuck it I have to do this I feel like I’ve been I a mental prison for 30 years it’s time for me to make a change thank you for your comment
Of course good things come out of drinking. It depends if you use drinking as a way to escape because you have trauma, or whether you just do it on a certain occasion.
@@joseph1845 name some good things that come from drinking alcohol
@@jkkennedy8919 nothing 😂
I've kept up with my Sobriety I'm headed toward my 30th year and still happy about it. Impossible to forget . So so so Grateful!!!
well done Bev, i have 36. i have never questioned or regretted my choice. actually the passing time has only proven we did the right thing. lots of people fell by the wayside, literally and figuratively. people just living to drink.
@@tekay44 Thank you for sharing. Congratulations my friend. Life is Wonderful ❤️
Pray this depression and suicidal thoughts leave. I’m drinking way too much and partying a lot. Great video, brother. I needed to hear this.
Read Allen Carr’s “Quit Drinking Without Willpower”... it’s life changing
Just remember to not be so hard on yourself & acknowledge that sadness/anger is not a negative thing but just another emotion I hope you get through it!
Hello my friend even an old man like me still gets so blue. And alone. But we have to learn to love our selves and be comfortable in our minds were stuck
Together for a long time:) embrace the real feelings and the emotions even though they feel so much stronger off the substances. When I was drinking and doped up I never moved on from the things in my life happening. I still cry and get angry but understand the role of these emotions. And their purpose in my life so much better. You can do it friend. There is always pain the the world but conquering it and strength don’t lie in not experiencing that pain its living and every day growing from it. I don’t know u but I believe in u.
Johnathan
At least you’re partying
You'll get there, avoid negative energy. Go do the things you think you'll enjoy. I grew up thinking running the streets was a life cause that's just my family. Nah, turns out like museums , riding bikes (because I wrecked every vehicle I owned and now it's the only solution) but I'm working on my credit, paying off debt and taking care of my work. Now I wanna start TH-cam and save and invest. I was dead for 3 years bro . Even if you don't think so there's a plan for you bro. It starts with you . No excuses keep ya head up
I am a russian, I haven't drunk for about 5 months. Yeah sometimes it feels boring, but now I learn to accumulate my energy from the inside.
Dude ,good job! Getting sober in russia has to be tough there is a huge drinking culture there. Keep it up. I am 5 months too. in california
It's a long way to go. Some specialists say that one needs at least five years to clean mind and soul.. it's so hard sometimes... they say ALCOHOL CAN WAIT... all right let it wait 🙂. I have to change my life, I have just one life and it goes by...
Thanks man...tears came to my eyes near the end when you said " You WILL quit...You are watching these videos because your on the path to quitting..." .. You are helping people probably more than you even know.
Brother when you're born and a small child you have no alchol and caffeine passing through ur veins but u feel great and happy and peaceful just as you are.
u gott go back to that point in ur life. most adults are messed up, most children aren't. i quit caffeine from daily consumption and im 50yrs old. it felt like i went back to being 10 but with all the wisdom of a 50 yr old. im loving it. life has become more fun. we adults make life harder than it really is.
Sobriety has given me everything that drugs/alcohol promised me. My life has changed drastically and all did was get honest with myself and have a little faith.
Awesome bro, good to hear it’s going well
That’s motivating thanks you sir
One of my favorite quotes. It’s so true. Being honest with people saved me the shame of living a lie and it’s so easy now just being good.
I can absolutely positively relate. I was a hard core raging alcoholic 21 years ago. Back then I never thought I’d be able to quit drinking or smoking cigarettes. I’m coming up on a year tobacco free and couldn’t be happier about that. I’m 52 years old and I think the next thing I’m quitting will be my welding job of 22 years. I think I’m ready for change. You’ve been an inspiration to me Tim. I thank you!
yes!! that's it. I have not been able to put my finger why ive felt like I have during my sobriety. I am 56 days today. the highs are not as high but the good news is...the lows are not as low!!! thank you!!!
You’re welcome! Congratulations on the 56 days and I hope you have many, many more!
So much of this resonates with me. I have 841 days of sobriety. I lost 40lbs, got back into mountain biking, ran a pair of half marathons, started ice climbing. These are all things I never thought I would be able to do when I was drinking.
right on!
👏👏👏 that's an amazing testimony!
I know this comment is several years old, but I just wanted to say that that’s awesome! I’m a year sober and now doing CrossFit (controversial, I know, but I go to an excellent place with great coaching) which I’ve been loving - there’s no way I could be doing it multiple times a week and Olympic lifting if I were still drinking.
You're saving lives with this video.
Thank you 🙏🙏. It means alot to me for you to say that.
I actually enjoy my life more when i don't drink. I feel healthier, happier etc however it can feel lonely cuz all adults tend to revolve around alcohol.
Not all adults drink, there's groups you can join that don't involve alcohol .
Anthony White where are these groups?
@@anthonywhite9912 I'm in my mid-30s and I've never been a drinker, and I'm always the odd guy out at work bc the social activities always revolve around drinking. Most people meet their friends at work, so it puts me at a disadvantage
@@ce1474 Most my friends my drinkers but I can still socialise with them.... I just leave if they start getting too pissed.
C E bruh just go and tell them your sober. No one will give a fuck and if they ask questions just answer. Most of my friends drink after work so I tend to drive them to the bars and have a good time. The best part of being sober is being able to remember the nights and living in the moment
Don’t say “I can’t drink”, say “I don’t drink.” You’re making an active choice. You’re not missing out on something you want to do anymore. You’ve decided the costs aren’t worth the benefits; so you’ve intentionally changed your lifestyle.
Some people think you should say the complete opposite.
This is what Psy doctors and even Allen carr in his book said
"i DONT Drink" is the ideal answer
not DOnt nEED, or Don't Want
just "I DONT drink"
make it aware to others and to yourself mentally and verbally
Someone has read Allen Carr
Mathew B.; Somebody said to me a while back, "Why cant you drink", I replied that I can indeed drink, however I will retain the power of choice as to when I will do so, and today is not that day.
Looking at that guy I thought that I have probably spilled more booze than he will ever drink, I didnt say to him, that as I just smiled at him...
I'd like to point out an important nuance for those watching this video especially if they currently drink and are thinking about cutting down or stopping:
There are two distinct flavours of boredom that can be generated depending on what kind of drinker you used to be. Their existential characteristics are quite different.
One kind, which is the more often emphasised here, is the product of having sacrificed a stimulating lifestyle that appeared to rely on drinking or other drugs to continue. This is the realm of partying and all the thrills and spills that go with it. People who have given up this kind of social or engine drinking will often come to have unrealistic expectations of their sobriety because they are hoping it will fill the void left by a lifestyle they have abandoned.
Since in and of itself sobriety is unable to fill such a void as it is not strictly a lifestyle, a kind of inverse evaluation emerges in which one reminds themself of alcohol's drawbacks that they are no longer subject to (the morning after, the regret etc).
This kind of boredom or angst can be difficult to redress because it revolves around the axiom that you are in fact missing out on something, it's just that thing isn't worth paying the price for. Some addicts within this domain may pursue other extreme lifestyles as a way of compensating for their perceived loss.
The other kind of boredom is the one that I have experienced and is less bittersweet. It is a genuine boredom, not brought on by lack of stimulation but by lack of purpose. It exists because alcohol has hollowed out your life and left a cavernous altar with only itself at the centre.
Here, alcoholism is an all encompassing belief structure like buddhism, hinduism or nihilism. And now, by miracle, dumb luck or sheer determination, you have broken free of the toxic dogma. The paralytic idol has crumbled to dust and left you feeling lighter, more aware. In this state, the assertion that everything is better with alcohol seems as absurd to you as the assertion that God is in everything seems to an atheist.
All you know now is that your obsession has melted everything else away and left only you, the present, and the future. This is a beautiful boredom; it is an invitation from the universe to start living your life.
Have fun with it!
@Tranzor Z sure thing and glad to hear it helped
This is one of the most impactful comments I’ve ever had the pleasure of reading. I’m still early in sobriety, but I believe you have helped me foster a healthy and realistic mindset on the days to come. You have excellent and articulate prose my friend! Thanks.
I’m 40 and been an addict since my early 20s
Started using at school , I’m from U.K.
and have just completed 6 months rehab and have just entered a move on project
I’m so lucky I was given a second chance
Glad to hear you are getting clean King Louis!!!
“The highs aren’t as high but the lows aren’t as low...” eloquently said. I used to consistently show up to work hungover, tired, sleep deprived, etc. etc., until finally I had enough and decided to grow up. I love waking up ready to take on the day. I am a lot more productive at work and that entails fatter checks!
For sure, this was one of the main reasons I began to work for sobriety
Thank you so much for this. I have had a similar experience with alcohol. I always get to the point where I binge/black out & it’s dangerous. I’ve quit for short spurts before but it always creeps back into my life and bad things happen. I had another bad night last night and I’m just horrified that I let it happen again. I’ve sugar coated my issue with alcohol for years, but finally admitted to myself that I have a problem. And I’m not someone who can just have an occasional drink. I can go months where I don’t overdo it, but eventually I always always get back to this point. A night of black out, getting sick, feeling shame. I’m vowing to make this change in my life. I don’t want to be a slave to this poison anymore.
Fellow "Timothy" here. I'm 56 and haven't had a drink in 33 years. I went the treatment/AA route, but I certainly don't insist that it's the only way for everyone. What DOES have to happen is to get totally honest with oneself, about everything. I still struggle with anxiety and depression sometimes, but that's just par for the course. I accept it. Life can either be difficult or impossible. I'll take difficult any day of the week.
amen to that!, impossible or difficult, i like it!
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Hi Timothy I'm Timothy and I haven't had a drink in 3 years (but I'm 26 so a bit younger)
@@T1MB05L1C3 That means we each quit drinking at about the same age (I was almost 23). Keep up the good work!
Hi Timothy. So proud of you wow that's incredible... I be 56 yrs this Nov & celebrating one year of sobriety today am so thankful.. 34 yrs on & off drinkin is a long time .. well done congratulations 🎊 keep up with the good works . .Thanks..
I binge drank for two days I had to call in sick from work because I still wasn’t sober enough to work. I can’t do this anymore today is day one I hope I never drink again.
You got this Bethanie! Good luck on your journey to sober living!
I quit drinking two years ago. Everything is better now. Everything. Listening to you is like talking to myself in the mirror.
I haven't had a drink in 43 years, I don't miss it, ever. Hasn't been even a thought in over 30 years. Its the best
Awesome i feel the same way and i hate the way people act when they drink
Massive respect to you…. I hope I can say that one day !
Been sober almost 2 years and I absolutely love it. Now I enjoy my time with my wife and kids being sober.
It's changing that mindset from loving getting intoxicated to loving not getting intoxicated
When the lows are worse than the highs it’s time to hang up boozing - Bill Burr ( getting old )
It's amazing you did it on your own 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I've been sober for almost 3yrs but I went to rehab for 180 days yup yup a half year but I got it done best decision EVER 😁 God is good ☺️
Watching this with having one of my last drinks from my last bottle. I only drink at home with my boyfriend, but it’s been every night for over a year. I’m tired of waking up feeling bloated from over snacking and depressed. Sometimes I can’t even remember conversations we had. It’s only weekends when it gets that bad, but I’m so over it.
You still quit ?
@Aprende Billar I was like that for several years until I finally broke free of the cycle. It was really hard, especially the first few weeks when I had physical withdrawls and a very strong "urge" to drink. One thing that helped me was keeping a cup filled with a mix of water and gatorade. Mixing the ingredients and sipping on it satisfied that habit of making and sipping on an alcoholic drink. It helped reduce the anxiety, and got me hydrated. Good luck to you. One last thing, depending on how much alcohol you drink in a day, you may need to slowly ramp down your intake before quitting entirely (I had to do this). Alcohol withdrawl can be fatal. It is always recommended to do it with medical guidance, but that has all kinds of bad stigma associated with it and in many cases backfires for a number of reasons. It can be done on your own like I did, but just be careful
Sweet cashew • Then change it up do another activity instead.
When you try to quit something don't focus on the quitting. Focus on the start.
I'm 11 years sober come February 2021. I stewed for 28 straight years, like a wild animal. One morning I finally had it, resolved to stay sober, and simply flipped a switch. When I announced my new choice, my buddy from childhood told me, "You'll never make it without going to AA." I scoffed at that notion and NEVER attended a meeting . I never accept other people's limitations or rules. If I can stay sober, ANYBODY can.
Great job! Same experience in almost as much time and having it. 1 year in Feb.
I'm so with you in the never accepting others limitations and rules!!!
I’m same as you bro I started drinking in grade 7 and by high school I was drinking every day I’m 46 now and been sober for 10 years just woke up Christmas morning 10 years ago and thought screw it im done ! It was only 2 weeks of withdrawals and it wasn’t two bad and I never looked back ! Life is definitely better but I do miss my friends! Once I quit I realized that drinking really was the only thing we had in common ! But I will admit 2020 I have thought about drinking almost daily this has been the hardest year 👍
Good job, I will be sober 7 years in February. Went to AA but didn't like it. Individual therapy didn't work too. It's actually youtube people that helped me out because my social life ceased to exist without alcohol.
@A W Yes, Feb 1st is 11 years dry. What would've been MORE impressive was never drinking like an animal to begin with...
I’ll have 8 years this august. Nobody is more surprised than me. One day at a time
Awesome job. I am day 148 today.
@@Mindfully-me great job! Keep up the good work
Right on bud. Lovely to hear. 14 year for me I am surprised every day :) Johnathan
Proud of you all❤
Nice I'm gonna quit soon hopefully
I think you're the first person I've ever heard talk about this! Thank you! ❤️ My bestie of 30+ years struggles with drinking. She was sober for over a year once, and the being bored part was SUPER HARD for her! We were together all the time, and it usually involved drinking. So when she decided to get sober, I started doing non-alcohol-related things like showing up at her house with fancy snacks and a ridiculous '80s Richard Simmons workout video, because I knew we would laugh our asses off doing it. And we'd go outside and blow bubbles into the street for all of the passers by, which made us both feel so good. She rediscovered her love for baking and went to school to get her pastry and baking certificate. It's definitely a transition. And people need to KNOW that it'll take time, but that they will have fun again! Thank you for talking about this! ❤️
Don't think they'd be as many ppl addicted to bad things if they had a friend or family like you. She's very lucky.
Your friend was very fortunate to have a true friend like you 😃👍🏼
My name is Tim also. And today I searched living richeously and sober. You were the first video. It spoke to me, you could say. Today I start a new life.
That's awesome Tim! Good luck om your sobriety journey!
Hope your still going mate and if not get back on track you can do this !!!!
I've been sober since 2005. One of the best things I've ever done! I can definitely identify. Congratulations. Awesome topic👍🏿⚘💯
"One of"? .. whats another?
That's my first year of sobriety too! Thanks for sharing!
Bro what is the secret
‘When I drink, bad things happen’ is something I relate to so much. Last weekend, I lost a whole day not knowing what happened because I got black out drunk. People had to take care of me and I was worrying the people I love, yet again. I really need to commit to sobriety because I deserve a life where I don’t make things worse.
When I was in my teens, I asked my doctor about drinking. He told me, no, you’re just young and having fun. The “having fun” nearly killed me.
The number of doctors who “just have fun” would amaze you
6 days sober. I've been drinking for over 10 years, and had 10+ drinks a day, every day, for the past two years. It's been tough. I appreciate your video, Tim!
Congrats on the 6 days! I know it has to be tough. But you got this!
I don't know how this video appeared under my recommended but I'm glad it did. Been drinking hard for the last 5 years with weak attempts of going sober and obviously failing. I've never thought about how I was happy before alcohol. Today is day 1 for me, I will remember your wise words on my journey.
I am rooting for you, you got this 😊🙏
Being sober doesn’t just benefit you, its benefits your community and society as a whole.
@Marcus Straya he knows, he said it doesn’t JUST benefit you, it benefits you and many more
How does sobriety (from alcohol) benefit society as a whole? The only way I can see it being of benefit is that it would decrease the number of people who drive under the influence. As long as people who drink (or use other substances) don't drive while intoxicated, then they're not harming society, they are only harming themselves.
Edit: Actually, I thought of one more thing besides decreasing driving under the influence, and that is decreasing public urination and other inappropriate public displays. Anyone who has been to Manhattan knows that public urination is a definite issue there. There are way too many bars and liquor stores and not enough public bathrooms.
Ye but fuck that
@@skiddybipbop6844 You make a lot of good points. It can be tricky to correlate how much the consumption of alcohol/other substances affects the productivity of a society. For example, the United States and Japan are both major consumers of alcohol and yet both American and Japanese citizens are consistently ranked as taking the lowest number of vacation days per year compared to other developed nations. I wonder which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Is widespread alcohol/substance consumption responsible for a large number of problems in society? Or are a large number of problems in society responsible for widespread alcohol/substance consumption? It's personally easier for me to make a case for the latter. I'm doubtful that we would see many drastic changes in society if more people starting practicing sobriety. I think the problems that lead people to drink in the first place would still exist, and I imagine most people would simply seek new forms of escapism to replace the alcohol. (As a side note, I'll add that I don't think alcohol benefits society either. I'm mainly questioning what in society would change/improve if alcohol consumption decreased.)
Doesn’t benefit the drinks companies 😆
Thanks for making this. Recently quit smoking weed and cigarettes and only have a drink once in a while. Being able to remember more details of my life and not constantly being high has helped me appreciate my life in new ways. Save money, life better, and stay healthy friends.
I love this vid, because it is inspiring and you're not selling merch or begging for money. You genuinely want to help people. Well done!!
Thank you Bruce!
@@TimothyWard where are you hiking? Looks wonderful there!
Agreed. Great guy and video.
this is important stuff. When you're still drinking, you aren't able to internalize the fact that you will feel better after you have quit long enough. You have to "just trust" that your physical & mental health will dramatically improve and you'll feel great, and that's hard to do. You have thoughts like "well, HOW much better will I feel? And how soon? Can I get an exact number of days?" But, after you've gotten your health and well-being back on track enough, those ways of thinking quietly fall away and they're gone and replaced by a more accurate picture of reality and more positive mindframe before you even know it has happened. Hope that makes sense! Great video!
Wow, I really hope so.. I'm stuck in a cycle of stopping for a few days, picking up 2 days, stop, start, stop, start. I'll remember these words. Thanks
@@dylskyh4439 each of us is different. I was a "weekend warrior" who didn't touch a drop during the work week, then got knock-an-elephant-out life-debilitatingly drunk on Friday evening/night--at home, alone --and spent the absolute entire weekend nursing the hangover (they last 2 days instead of just one when you reach a certain age, haha). But, I had had HAD to have that one weekly drunkenness session. I felt like I couldn't get through the rest of the week--really, ultimately, couldn't get through *life*--without knowing I had the Friday Night Blowout to look forward to. I think that regardless of the time frames of the drinking, it simply is going to be about getting over that hump; you feel like you're summoning up all the strength you have and the feeling of uncertainty that it will pay off is what makes it such a difficult hump. But, you can get over it. You can totally do it, man! In my opinion, it probably should not take years or even a year to get your brain and body into a noticeably better place (like some might scare you into believing). More like a couple/few months, or maybe even weeks is probably closer to the common reality, it just feels like longer... though, again, everyone is different. If you are consciously going in the direction of improving your life in general, like health, fitness, mental health, etc., that helps a lot (in fact, I have a bit of trouble seeing the point in quitting drinking just to quit drinking. You quit because you want a better life, right?) Good luck brother!
@@dylskyh4439 my mom is the same way I think nutrition helps her but she us still back to it. I wish I could someone help themselves its all I want sometimes.
So true man 💯
I'm 10 months sober from alcohol. I do not miss it one bit. You grow as a person in such a profound way.
The title of this video is exactly how I feel about sobriety and living life through sobriety. Life is dull being sober
I'm 26, been drinking heavy since I was 16, mostly every day, on average 80-120 units a week. For about a month I've been on a ketogenic/raw carnivore/primal diet, and I feel so good that I don't even look at alcohol the same way. I never chose to quit, but I was just drinking as normal one night and it made me feel worse and made me feel I was poisoning myself. I've been sober a week now, which is the longest in those 10 years.
Your analogy about your brain having to reprogram to bring the fun level back down to sober is absolutely spot on.
I've been hearing a lot about this carnivore diet lately. That's awesome that it's made you not want to drink 👍
I don't know why but your video popped in my feeds. Funny how things work I'm a recovering heroin addict been clean for 80 plus days and I'm really struggling to keep my sobriety going. I haven't left the house in a month cuz I know that I'm going to relapse if I leave. I know I need an outlet but like you said everything seems boring and the only outlet that I know It's getting high. Damn man what a struggle addiction is I never imagined this would happen to me. Sometimes I think it's karma hitting me back because I use to make fun of addicts and I always judged them so here I am paying the ultimate price. I can't hold back the tears as I type this because I'm stuck in a zone of uncertainty. Like, is this it? Am I going to be an addict for the rest of my life? How is it that this thing takes away everything from me but I can't take myself away from it is what I don't understand. God bless to all the addicts that got out and those fighting to do so.🙏
Javier, sorry to hear you are suffering so much right now with your addiction. The fact that you are 80 days clean is awesome! Let's acknowledge that first! The struggle won't last forever, eventually the day will come when you can leave the house and lead a normal life without thinking about drugs. Please know that the rest of us who suffer from addiction are with you and we are praying for you. You have the strength brother, you just have to get past these worst few months!!!
Thank you for taking the time to reply. Yesterday was a hard day but today is a better day. And no matter how hard it was at the end of the day I still didn't use..
@Ruth O Thank you 🙏
Your brain chemicals just need to balance back out. Can you afford a High quality DHA supplement and eating salmon? Both very good for the brain.
@@TimothyWard Stay strong mate!
It's simply not worth going back to that shit that is trying to control your life.
I can recommend physical exercise which doesn't even have to be outside or in a gym, you can just do callisthenics at home. Or learning a new language, with duolingo app, of a country you'd love to visit or live in, creating a passion for food and/or cooking, or actual travel when this pandemic shit ends, doesn't even have to be far or expensive, you can hitchhike and couch surf through Europe or wherever you are from
18 months sober from alchohol and drugs !! Love to see videos like this . It's a beautiful journey brother 💫🤙🧡
Congratulations on the 18 months!!!
This guy has such a great voice. A perfect "radio voice."
Almost 4 months!!! When I used to meet people that didn’t consume alcohol, I would look at them and wonder “How do they do it?! Now here I am. 100% committed to not ever drinking alcohol. caused nothing but problems!! Love how you spoke Brother! Absolutely talk to my soul!!😀 thank you!!❤️
To those of you struggling out there it is possible! You can and I will do it. It’s a journey that you have to take and just know that there absolutely is hope for a better way of living. 🌈
Hands-down the best decision I ever made in my adult life.
So relevant in covid time. Tried to quit,..but...bored, isolated, lonely .
same here
I have a litre of vodka, unopened in the kitchen. I write, paint, draw, DIY. Cook, clean even mess around on TH-cam. Just to show that bloody bottle, see I'm in control, not you!
@@simonpowell2559 😅👌❤️
@@simonpowell2559 most people should DEFINITELY not do this.
@@justafighter1346 I never said they. Should!
Just what I happened to be up to at the time. You find your own path, don't follow mine.
The point you are missing is you can find all sorts of little things to do if you wish.
Nothing to do with anything else.
I've been sober 15 months now and it's the first time sober since I was 15 years old I'm now 30 so I had 15 years of destroying myself under my belt. Honestly I'd say the best thing of being sober is waking up every morning and feeling the same not always great but never as bad as hungover. I've picked up new hobbies etc and it's starting to feel better. I lost my dog of 9 years 3 days ago and that was one of my first real tests and having to deal with my emotions without turning to drugs and alcohol. Keep it up
Sorry about your dog, I hope you’re still on the narrow path! Every day is a chance to beat this addiction
Anyone who has ever had drinking as a habit understands that just about everything this guy said is 100% true. I don’t like to keep track of how long I’ve quit as well but I do like that I’m experiencing things with a different mindset now for sure. Thank you sir
I’ve been sober going on 3 years. I honestly have zero desire to start again. Since I’m a musician my focus turned to music. Going headlong into my music was more satisfying to me than drinking. That combined with confronting my inner demons and ptsd made me a better person and a much better musician. My ability as a drummer suffered as a result of my drinking. Once I was sober long enough to have a clear head I realized just how much a better drummer I am as a sober musician. I’m definitely not bored, my life is WAY more exciting now. Best of luck to all of you. 🙏🏼
As a person with a drinking problem, I really appreciate your thoughts on the whole "once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic." That phrase is pretty discouraging. Thanks 👌🏾
I randomly searched "scared of getting sober" and your video was there to meet me. I needed this so much tonight. I just started my sobriety journey and I'm absolutely terrified. I've had an alcohol problem since my teens, I'm 28 now. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.🖤🖤🖤🖤
I'm glad my videos could be of help to you. I know how hard it is struggling with drinking and it means the world to me if I have helped you to maintain and stay sober. It's a rough fight sometimes but one that's worth fighting. And one that can be won!
@@TimothyWard Absolutely! You have no idea how much this simple video helped. I saved it to a playlist to go back and rewatch when times get rough. Thank you again!🖤
I first watched this video in April 2021. Haven’t drank alcohol since. It’s now May 2024. This video has really stuck with me. When it was hard in the beginning, I reminded myself that I simply will be bored and it’s fine. I’ve been free for so long now and think back about this message with a smile. Appreciate you, Tim!
I am a guitarist and it was so hard to start playing after quit drinking . Thanks , I needed to hear this .
10 days sober I’ve been getting irritated easily but I’m not giving up
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How are you getting on brother ?
why does not drinking make us irritated? I have the same problem. I want to be sober, but when I'm sober I want a drink to take the edge off. My biggest problem, is after the edge has been smoothed out, I continue to drink.
@@darrensmith9640 keep fighting brother
Almost 7 years sober from drugs and 1 year sober from alcohol. Alcohol was the one thing that I made excuses for and was hardest to give up. I drank since I was 12. It was the steadiest thing in my life and I didn’t think I would ever stop. This has been the best year of my life COMPLETELY sober!!
That's awesome FSU!
I’m in the early days and already enjoying life sober. Shouldn’t take long if you don’t overthink it! Great thing is you can have a good time without any bad stuff and roughness associated to it! Good times that are good for you!
In sobriety you have freedom of your wildest dreams! You can wake up and do what you want every day!
The problem is how fun being drunk is. You don't have any inhibitions. It's just really, really, fun. That's the lure. Then you find yourself drunk, and alone.
Same thing with being high. Feels great. Then, you high and alone.
I don't like the feeling of alcohol. Weed is my drug of choice. Much better.
Only thing that stops me drinking all the time is money and hangovers.
@@mver191 I'm jealous. I'm the opposite. Weed makes me anxious, and alcohol is so accessible, and, not to mention, LEGAL. I always hated worrying about being ripped off. I wish I could enjoy pot like that. No hangovers, no regrets, no stupid mistakes, no overdoses... Lucky bastard. Stick with it, it's really the perfect drug other than perhaps the cognitive impairments it might cause, but that isn't a problem for most people.
I always thought that the people who thought like that were weak. Not in the usual sense of the word, it's not like they're spineless or have low willpower.
But in the sense of "How useless are you if you can't have fun or even bother trying to enjoy youself without using alcohol? You're disabled, with your ability to have fun crippled. It's sad. And pathetic."
he's a good speaker.
Yes, everything is smooth and straight to the point.
very good and makes so much sense
@@pearlvv what are you insinuating?
@@pearlvv That's just unbelievably dumb and delegitimises real racism.
My highs aren't as high, but my lows aren't as low, really resonated with me!
Your Lucky and be happy every day, every night and you can make it All Right.
This is the best f**n sober video I've ever seen. Dude just gives it to us straight.
One thing drinking does is it numbs physical and emotional pain. And that might hit you HARD. Like a semi. Seek therapy if you need help and support during this, because you sometimes need to learn how to cope with LIFE again, without a substance.
And trust me, life that's more even-keel without super highs and super lows, DOES feel great. I didn't think I could be this happy when I stopped drinking. But after a month or so, I really did feel energized and happy, just like I thought I felt when I was drinking.
also that heavy "depression" feeling after a weekend of heavy drinking
I have that feeling right now, it feels like it lasts forever, the days go by so slowly
Reikia kita diena isgerti bent kokteiliuka kad numusti gruza :)
@@Flexer2kLOD Vien šņabis, ko dzeram bez glāzēm
Mums stāsta - vairs tālu nav gals
I hate that feeling. 12 days sober now
@@packk9246 my anxiety is more physical from drinking. racing heart, shaky, foggy. planning on giving it up but hard to give up social life
almost 4 years sober! Thank you for sharing your story!!
I hope i can get to four years one day.
"if your watching videos like this, You are going to quit your already on that path" thank you for that
I was a bartender for 15 yrs, cured me of the desire for booze.
You see the negative effects on good people and it can be pretty sad.
One of the common things I would hear would be that people would be afraid to lose their friends because drinking was central to their social lives.
Actually being alone is best. But was self taught by me. When we were young, we thought friends were everything.
Your smile is literally such a light! I'm 24 years sober from drugs and 4 years sober from alcohol. I almost drank many times in 2021 but I AM STILL SOBER! I'm so thankful I did not relapse. Thank you for sharing your story.
I'm so glad you didn't let 2021 get to you and cause you to slip up Laurie!
@@TimothyWard Thank you so much! I'm glad too. On New Yeara Eve, I was like omg, I made it! I did it!
Im on day 3. After the last 2 years of trying and failing to quit. I feel like something just finally clicked. Im done with the drinking. its my life and family or drinking. And I choose my family. I love watching these inspiring videos'. AA is old and outdated and never worked for me. Realizing that alcohol is poison and is literally changing your personality. I know its day 3 but it finally clicked.
im watching this drunk, almost made me cry. so organic and real, thank you for these words my friend, the path is rocky, but able to be prevailed
Much respect and best wishes man. Been a hard drinker for 16 years and it's really taking a toll on my body. Abdominal pains, acid reflux, tired and unmotivated outside of work, etc. I'm ready to give it up and start a new life!
Quit drinking for two years and was the happiest I've been. Then went through a bad break up and was offered a shot of whiskey. That was almost 4yrs ago and haven't stopped since. It's time to get back to being the person that I was
You got this man! You have the advantage of knowing how sweet sobriety is! Good luck on getting back on the wagon!
@@TimothyWard thank you brother! Hope all is well!
Hang in there. I’m trying to quit now ! Thanks for the help. We are in this together
I felt that. Glad you're back brother. It's a journey
@@IndecisionTelevision it's going to be tough, but we got it