10 Tips To Stop Tantrums Before They Start
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 มิ.ย. 2024
- Tantrums are a challenging part of toddlerhood and unfortunately toddler tantrums can start at 9 months of age and will continue for years to come.
Dealing with toddler tantrums is HARD. In fact, our lives would be a lot easier if we were to prevent the temper tantrums from occurring in the first place. And we can! We have the power to significantly reduce the number of tantrums our little ones have, by simply removing triggers which can lead to tantrums.
In this video I share what these triggers are and 10 tips you can do right now to reduce the number of toddler tantrums your little one has each day.
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00:00 - 00:37 : Introduction
00:38 - 01:47 : Tip #1
01:48 - 02:52 : Tip #2
02:53 - 03:34 : Tip #3
03:35 - 04:21 : Tip #4
04:22 - 05:22 : Tip #5
05:23 - 06:17 : Tip #6
06:18 - 07:05 : Tip #7
07:06 - 07:41 : Tip #8
07:42 - 08:26 : Tip #9
08:27 - 09:12 : Tip #10
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What I've learned from this video is that I'm just a big toddler. 😳 Hangry, and easily frustrated. 😅😂
Lol same here. I feel like all these tips would still apply to adults 100%.
Lol haha so true 😂😂
Lol 😆 🤣 😂 🙃
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Angry? :)
5:08 The budgie accompanying your toddler is so sweet! 🦜
i appreciated this video. im a new grandma and needed a refresher. frankly this was exactly how i raised my kids and it was rewarding to see my method validated even after all these years. i was always considered rigid be because i was very consistent even until today i get poked at by those same family members. believe me i would rather have let my kids do what they wanted all the time and not be the mommy police but that is what parenting is …work.
My son is starting daycare. And has been with me for the last twenty months, with little separation. Now I'm not there for about eight hours a day. Plus, he got sick and had to stay out of school for the last two days. So, he's now all out of sorts and miserable. At one point he had become so upset we were worried his illness was getting worse so we rushed to the ER. Nope. Just over tired frustrated kid. The next day was more tantrums. And we were getting worn out. I'm so happy this video came up. It's helped me reframe what's going on and given me a check list to help him get back to the happy content kid he was before this week.
What these videos have taught me is that remembering to put love first is the best way to raise your children. I just had my first baby, and im so excited to be a mom! Its important for me to remember that my baby is exactly his own person, unique and individual with wants, needs, and desires, but no skills or experience on earth whatsoever. So its my job to love and show him how to handle his emotions and help him make his way through the world, but also without being a push over and letting him tell me what to do, i still need to be a bit bossy, just with lots of love and understanding that being bossed around isnt fun. Hard to find the right words for the point im trying to make, but this is a great video!
Maybe instead of bossy, you are referring to loving leadership?
I’m really happy and pleased with the content quality of your videos. Specially nowadays where information is everywhere and in vast diversity, having someone that explains in detail, with clear examples and following from start to end, without wasting your time ending up trying to sell you some curse/class/signature to finally deliver what they’ve promised in the beginning is hard. Thank you so much for your videos❤
Glad you like them!
Excited to watch this! My almost 13-month-old isn’t tantrum-prone (yet), but she communicates very well and clearly lets us know when she’s unhappy! I call that her ”filing a complaint with the manager”, ahaha.
😂 - It's great she is able to tell you her wants and needs. It certainly makes life a lot easier!
Keeping your kid close to you physically at all times unless they themselves choose to leave your side also helps. This is the natural way for people and still in our biology. We do that with our son and he doesn’t have proper tantrums.
Thank you for sharing this. I will apply it and let you know how it goes.
Very helpful video… thanks a lot!!!
Great info indeed. You definitely know your stuff!
Thank you Emma, your videos are always very helpful.
It’s my pleasure!
Emma, wonderful and informative as always, much appreciated vlog!
Thank you Olya! 🙂
Wonderful information. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
All the above!!! What great tips Emma!!
Glad you think so!
Such a great video, thank you!
It’s my pleasure 😊
Magnetic blocks are what's up 😂 my 18 month old loves stacking stuff but hates when they fall so I got magnetic blocks...frustration free 😂
You are the best. Thank you for your generosity sharing these information and taking time and effort making these videos.
My pleasure!
Thank you! Very useful for our whole family
Glad to hear that!
Great tips Emma!!
Thank you!!
Thank You 💜
Thank you again for your amazing video. Have a great Christmas
Thank you! You too!
Transitioning between activities is really difficult. Thanks for this!
You're so welcome!
Great tips!!
Glad you found them helpful!
Thank you so much! 🥰 Great tips !
You are so welcome!
You are amazing! Truly! I enjoy every single video.
I'm so glad! Thank you!
Great videos👍👍.... You making me confident as new parent
Thanks so much! So pumped to hear these videos are helping you to feel confident!
thank you. ♥️😊
Such a good video!! Wow thank you so much ❤
So glad you liked it!
Thank you for this valuable piece of advice.i really admire your approach to babies / toddlers that is research based and respects both children and adults. ❤ best wishes
Thanks so much!
Thank you! I'm 8months along and my neighbors have the worse child for tantrums I've ever heard. I want to get ahead of that now haha.
This video arrives just in time. Our little busy bee, almost 13 months old, just started with her tantrums. At first we weren’t sure what was happening. We thought she was in pain, or something was wrong. Thank you Emma for all your helpful information. Blessings to you and Merry Christmas to you and your family 😊
Same!!!
Hi @Tiffany Michelle it is definitely a shock when our little ones first start having tantrums. Hopefully these tips help.
Hope you and your family have an amazing Christmas too!
Hi @Cuh Dence I hope these tips help!
Oh good luck to you , mama! I’m in the same boat!
Very effective and good advice.
Glad it was helpful!
Oh my god!!... You're a Life saver!!... Just in Time👍
So glad you found it helpful!
Thanks for the tips!! Can you do a video on navigating toddler tantrums and sleep disruptions once a baby sibling arrives?
Your video came up in my feed and I am so pleased it did. I have a nearly 4 year old and I plan on applying a lot of these techniques to help her with her tantrums.
What a godsend you are.
Love her videos
Thanks so much!
So logical, so educational, so useful ... I've been watching you since our daughter was born 14 months ago and l've learnt a great deal. I understand my child better. Thank you for helping out. And Merry Christmas 🎄
Hi @Ewa Dolega this has made my day! It is so nice to hear you found these videos helpful for you and your little one. I hope you've had lots of fun watching your little one grow and explore!
@@EmmaHubbard Absolutely yes! And since I understand her more ... I stress less and enjoy more. Good luck with your mission!
Hi Emma, very helpful. What do you do when they choose the orange, you peel it, and then they 'change their minds' and want to have the apple and tantrum again? Do you then always have to give in or set boundaries and wear it out?
Thank you so much for this videos! I am mom with experience, already have two teenagers, they were so good, never had problems to communicate and to teach them. Now I have 7,5 months old baby and I’m worried if I am doing something wrong or forgetting my earlier experience .I’m watching your videos since she was born to be prepared for every situation. You are helping me to be more confident and relaxed raising third child in 43. ❤❤❤
I have similar situation 🙂 . All the best to you and your family 🙏
@@kingdomthingstnt 😃 hallo friend! I wish you and your family happy december 💕✨
In my experience the situation that is likely to create a tantrum is one you didn't mention. That is being in a store and they see something they must have. You may give in once, but you can't every time. This is what creates the public tantrum every parent dreads.
Thank you so much! Great tips!! Wish me luck 😅
Good luck!!
Thanks for sharing these informative videos Emma. Your efforts are very much appreciated. My little one is 15 months and he can definitely kick a tantrum from time to time.
You are so welcome!
Great video. Thanks. My baby started flinging herself backwards at 8 months old 🤣 her tantrums are adorable. Definitely want to avoid them as she grows tho..
Glad it was helpful!
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May I ask if her tantrums are still so adorable orrr has that changed? Lol
This is wonderful! Thank you for reinforcing. As an early childhood music educator and mom, I have seen how important it is to have these resources at the fingertips to save the drama!
Knowing and understanding how Toddlers can and can't communicate is so important. My 13m old had been screaming at a high sustained pitch for a while whenever he saw me in the kitchen preparing food. I would tell him I know he is hungry but you have to hold on food will be ready. Then I told him no screaming (I screamed like him) but you can do this instead (I cried in my chest voice) and believe it or not within days of being consistent, he started his chest voice crying instead of that piercing sound!
I would also put him to do something like his musical toys that would be more distracting to him than looking at me until I am ready.
I keep telling my husband stop telling him don't touch his glasses and allow him one day to explore it with him and explain what they are for and if he goes for it again keep doing the same and it would take some of the curiosity and excitement away.
So much brain development is taking place by 18 months, we have to understand they will always want to discover new things and are learning to regulate their emotions by how we respond to them.
Thanks so much for sharing this information!
Thank you so much Emma, this video came just in time. As a first time mom, I get confused all the time as to what to do when my 14 month old starts her tantrums. So grateful for you and your videos. Have a Merry Christmas 🎄⛄
So glad these videos are helping! I hope you have an amazing Christmas as well!
My daughter is 13 months old. Putting quite a lot of tantrums recently. What a perfect time of this vedio to cope up with those tantrums. Thanks a lot Emma❤️
My pleasure! Hope it helps!
Lady... God bless you 😁😁😁
how do you not have millions of subscribers? you videos are gold. THANK YOU
right!!!!!!
this makes so much sence, thank you! now to prepare nursery rhymes about activities, so I can get my girl away from the TV by telling her we can do what they were singing about on TV, lol
I was waiting for your video 😃 great tips 👍 Thank you Emma! There are days when my lo is the happiest baby around, playing, giggling.. with heart-melting smiles and no tantrums but there are days when she is soo fussy, clingy, crying and throwing tantrums all day. What worked yesterday doesn't work today 😕 I need lots of variety in my bag of comforting tricks. 😅
Hi @deepali pai you definitely need lots of variety with toddlers. Hopefully these tips help!
Wow thanks this video it's going to be really helpful ! My little one just in few days 9 months old and definitely going true some frustration when I don't let him to go were he want and touch subjects that are not good for him - it's really hard! Hope more videos like this are coming! Sending love from Germany!
So glad it's helpful! It's definitely a challenging time, but hopefully this makes it a little easier for you 🙂
I feel validated! I figured out tips 1 and 2 early and can confirm this works. Keeping a routine is difficult. Hiding toys is a must, and not accidentally singing the paw patrol theme (or something similar)😂
Your videos are amazing. I’ve watched a couple so far, and I love them! The irony is that I don’t have children; I’m a priest! But I love to help families have a more peaceful and joyful life. Thank you. I will share.
Thank you so much and all this time I was blaming my toddler not know I was to blame.
No worries at all.
I am sure you were doing a great job. These are just some ways that you can prevent tantrums in the future. Not always possible but they can help
Thanks for watching! Which tip are you going to try with your little one?
Good morning emma what if the baby is seven month and sometimes have tantrums
I definitely need to start rotating my son's toys
The safe drawer is ingenious!
@@IlcalaAilinon hope it works as well as it did with my kids!
@@makaveli2tt this can definitely help!
I don’t have kids, but randomly stumbled on your video ;)
I've got a 17 month old who definitely is beginning to have tantrums. It's our fourth and I'm always learning.
Thank you so much Emma !! I have been making these mistakes very often despite of constantly reminding myself not do. I’ll definitely work on it. 😊 Also, my little one is obsessed with dustbins! I mean , he definitely has this amazing habit of throwing things in dustbins and not here and there, he just wants to keep throwing tissues, even food sometimes in it and then my “No” comes out ! It seems they get obsessed with somethings that they have learnt initially and keep doing that only! He loves dustbins 😂😂
I just giggled. so adorable
Wow thanks a lot! I let my little one do what she want, within a limit of course. I definitely forgot about number 2 but otherwise i did remember the other ones before i got my little one! Hehe its a whole psychological game all the time.
Its very important to let them do what they want to do without saying no. They get bored easily if they see you not interested in them playing with the wrong things. Of course, keep them out sight in the first place hehe.
I don’t have the big issues with my baby but she definitely let me know what she want and when she want it!!! I always offer alternative if she start crying when i take away something from her and she shut her crying fast.
Again, especially tired babies just love making a big drama!
Thanks so much for sharing!
Can you do a video about how to help toddlers transition when they have a new younger sibling? Our little one has almost undergone a personality shift since the birth of the baby. Maybe personality shift is an extreme way to put it, but little activities like just reading a book with me doesn't interest my little one anymore like before and it's a bit sad to me.
Also ... A LOT of tantrums happening. They are getting better gradually, but still ... A LOT!
Currently going through the exact same thing 🙃
Do you have any videos that include info about Breath Holding Spells? If not, could you address how to handle these. My little one only has them when he gets hurt but recently had one when he was mad about getting a diaper change.
Please suggest toys for 14months old baby. And is it ok as my child grind his teeth when we ask him to do something or when he is excited.
Emma I love your videos! My son is 22 months and he communicates so well! He tell me what he wants and I try to give him other options but he gets so mad if it isn’t what he is asking for. He will bang his head on the floor and bruise himself. I try to distract him but he has a really hard time switching from the reactive side of his brain to the other. HELP ME! I need tips for what to do once we are in a tantrum!
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Do you have advice on what I should do if my 10 month old is obsessed with opening the dish washer and trying to pull things out of it and throws a tantrum when we take him away from it?
Thank you for the information. My 20 month old started throwing tantrums recently and I feel like she is having hard time coping the feelings, she lies on the floor and bangs her head or screams or Throw objects. How can I help her ?
Thanks Emma, my baby next month 18 month plan to send for day care. Possible give some advice what I can do before that?
Hi @Lim Su Ching I have a video on how to help when a bub or toddler gets upset when you leave the room/space. This video has tips which will also help with the day care transition. Here is the link in case you want to watch it: th-cam.com/video/8yXFyxgm09k/w-d-xo.html
Hi ...can you make video about toddler speech delay...
Thanks for the suggestion. I do have a video on helping littles ones start talking which might be helpful:
th-cam.com/video/yksO0xiW9DY/w-d-xo.html
What about if your toddler likes to fall out a lot and even bang their head against things like floors or walls ?
These are all great tips however these days I have a difficult time with my 17 month old when i do diaper changes. He’ll often scream and cry as if he’s afraid. Not sure really how to avoid those.
I’ve tried many times giving choices to my granddaughter but she is too stubborn to choose even when she’s in a good mood.
How to beat stranger anxiety?my 22 mos. Old still having stranger anxiety.thanku
I like showing empathy for the child's emotions. This wasn't done back in the day and I think is why we had so many tantrums, angry parents, and kids being punished for rebelling. Maybe empathetic child rearing will lead to a kinder generation in the future.
Hopefully!
I care for a toddler that has a huge amount of toys. I feel he gets frustrated with the “chaos” and overwhelming amount of choices. Is there a video on the appropriate amount of toys that should be available to a toddler or how to organize toys for optimal learning and engagement?
I read a book that talks exactly about it. It is call simplicity parenting. You might want to have 6-10 at a time, build a toy library and rotate them very 2 weeks.
Mine is 7 months & she's been throwing tantrums since 5 months. Idk what to do because when she wants something she doesn't get she throws herself back & starts crying. She fights her sleep soo bad & sleeps with a bottle most of the time. Parenting is hard. (1st time mom)
What do you do if none of this works?
I have a 22 month old with maybe 8 to 9 big tantrums a day . I try to give him choices yet it's not enough . We take him to the playroom , living room basement yet he always seems to get bored with things and moves on from one thing to the next maybe concentrates on one thing for 2 min but he always seems bored and fussy. I don't know if this is normal.
When do tantrums start to get better as he's 22 and only talking a bit not as many words as I'd hope.
Emma my toddler doesn’t throw tantrums when we change activities but he throws tantrums when I have to change his diaper or put on clothes any advice? Sometimes I sing and it kinda works but not fully
My 9 month old has decided it’s time to drop his second nap. I always try to get him to take a second nap around 3-4pm (which falls in line with his usual wake windows) but daylight savings has really thrown a wrench in that. Do you have any tips on convincing a baby to just submit to their drowsiness?
I want that recipe too! I am falling asleep before the baby do haha why we always have to try to fight with them 🤣
I assume you have blackout curtains? Our 9.5mo naps twice. 1030-12 or so then 4-5 and she doesn't have an issue with that second nap. If anything the first nap has more light coming in
Keep trying and keep the routine the same. There’s usually a regression around this age but they’ll fall back into regular nap routine.
I literally had this issue with my son but we just kept with it until he caved in it took 8 days 💀 I feel like I aged 40years due to some missed sleep for me
I have a montessori style room for my toddler, which means in short there is nothing he can really do to seriously hirt himself in there unsupervised. He even sleeps on a mattress on the floor so if he fall out its only a few inches. This has allowed me to keep a regular nap schedule even through sleep regressions. At 1pm he has to stay in his room for 1 hr woth the lights off. He can choose to play for that hour or sleep and sometimes he has not napped for a week and sometimes he naps extra long. But this allows me to have a 1 hr dedicated time i can sleep and just set myself an alarm to let him out.
Do you have a video on brushing teeth issues? I tried the nice way but didn't work. So I have to hold his face and brush while he crys and fights (I understand his discomfort but it's important for it to be done) he's 1
I have a 16 month old who never had any tantrums because I always manage to prevent it at some point although I wasn’t sure if I’m doing it right 😅 This video is very helpful now I know how to correctly do it. Thanks a lot, Emma! ❤️
That's how it was with me.. Then at 20 months I started seeing how she would get angry so much and wanted to do what she wants... At 24 Months now I have lost her 😂🙈she screams at everything now 🙈🙄 whether shoes, or going home.. I can say whatever I want or prepare her but she is very stubborn 🙈
My 19months old has figured out how to make himself vomit by putting both his hands in his mouth. He has been doing this for the last month. He does it mostly when he is upset, wants attention and not getting his way. It is so heartbreaking to watch specially when he vomits his entire milk bottle or lunch. He even does it in his car seat whilst am driving. When I Try to stop him by holding his hands down he tries to fight me and would only give up when he gets my full attention(picking him
Up for example).
How do I stop this behaviour?
I find it interesting how all of these things are also symptoms of autism which persevere into adulthood.
Ours is 3.5 months and cries is soul out when we sit him in the stroller most of the times. We end up picking him up… He cries until he’s out of breath…
Plz help how do i get my toddler to eat
My sister's toddler always pick a new toy when they go to shopping and they have to buy it anyway.if they say no he would show tantrum how can we tackle this situation?
My 11th month old arches her back bad and throws a fit at night when it's time for bed and she is super tired but fights it and screams herself back awake. Any advice for how to help that?
Your little one might be overtired and fighting sleep so you could try moving her bedtime forward. Using a bedtime routine (if you don’t already have one) might also help.
What to do every time I go to cook 14 month babe wants to be held, won't be redirected with toys?
Hello dear my 3.9 years old daughter started hitting me and her baby brother and father by no reason and some time when we say no to her for screen time.we shifted 3 months ago malaysia from Pakistan. Please guide me what to do.
My granddaughter tries to open the gate to get into the kitchen and grows a fit when her mom tells her no for not standing on the step and trying to open the gate. Any suggestions? Thanks! I love your video’s 🥰
Why isn’t she allowed in the kitchen? It is the major activity center of most homes. I have had a learning tower for my now 3 year old for 2 years. She is always in my tiny kitchen with me. She has her own apron, wooden children’s knives and cutting board. She loves cutting up fruit and vegetables and getting her bowl of oatmeal ready in the morning. (I think she likes the preparing more than the eating.). As she said, children want to be independent, do things for themselves and learn everything possible. Lots of opportunities for those in the kitchen.
This is in the morning while her Mom is getting ready for work and feeding the dog. She’s in the den with me, but it’s a sunken den. She is allowed in the kitchen all other times.
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My baby is 9 months old and she's definitely starting to have tantrums. I find it really hard because she's so little, her language skills aren't developed. The other day she had a tantrum because she was struggling to pick up pomegranate seeds with her slippery hands, but she wouldn't let me clean her hands or help to put it in her mouth 😂 fun times 😅
It can be really hard! It is so difficult when their fine motor skills are still developing and they don’t yet have words to express their frustration.
I have been walking away. 😅. So I need a better way
I need help with my 10 month old! 😫😫 he has full blown toddler tantrums! I even got bitten on me KNEE YESTERDAY BECAUSE I REMOVED THE FORMULA box that he knows he isn’t allowed to touch 😭 to be fair he was overtired because he overslept during his final nap time 😭😭😭😭
let us know has stop it’s fine
Holy cow, yall are feeding your 15 month old toddlers FIVE times a day!? I don't even know how or where I would fit anyything else in? And my tot wouldnt even eat that much. Im a first time mom and learning these things sometimes makes me feel like I'm doing everyyy thing wrong. But at same time..5 times a day just sounds excessive, no? Just me? Ok well maybe I'm doing I am doing it all wrong..but I can only do my best and continue to try and learn and adjust to what myy baby personally likes and needs.
I am sure you’re a great mom. Just keep doing what you feel like your little one needs.
It does feel like you are constantly feeding them😂
What do I do when my 27 mos old grandson is speech delayed? He gets so upset that I don’t know what he wants.
1:20 when I give my toddler two alternatives to get her to do something she doesn’t want to do, her answer is «no».
Me: «Would you like to wear this jacket or this jacket?” Toddler: “no”
Mine just looks at me like you really think that’s going to work ya no.
Hearing No as a child wanting to help out with chores ended up making me not wanting to do chores when forced.
What if my 23 month old likes to slap, hit, throw toys at his sister and all I can say is Stop Doing that ! It hurts your sister ! What should I say / do instead?
HI Ekaterina, the steps in the video outline what to do when a little one is biting, but the steps would be the same for a child who slaps, hits or throws toys. th-cam.com/video/58zhtVKiywU/w-d-xo.html
I hope it helps!