Literally what I was thinking, like this title makes it sound far more trivial than it it ToT This isn't the run of the mill A-hole EX, these are literal pyschos!
I was thinking this too, because I decided to watch it, thinking the situations wouldn't be super serious, maybe surface level, based on the title "worst ex ever" only for all the situations to be so serious and horrendous... like what??!
netflix has seen people are interested in true crime and put out these docs for those folks and i honestly, i find people that consume this content do it more so for entertainment and titillation than empathy for the victims - seeing as how netflix often makes these programs without consent or involvement from families.
There's another documentary on Netflix that I watched that also really illustrates the huge problem with why women don't feel safe enough to report called "victim/suspect" I think? It's been a minute since I watched it but god it was so heartbreaking.
no, because my sister called the cops to kick out her husband at the time (now ex-husband) cause he punched the wall and was becoming aggressive with us because we found out he was cheating. The cops arrive and say "We can't do anything 'cause you invited him into your home and he lives here." He ended up leaving after the cops to talk to him. I was downstairs hiding when the cops talked to him, and let me say the conversation I heard made me mad with RAGE. The cops and he spoke about how "women are crazy" and that he should just leave before we say he did something else or we lie... They were talking so much shit and they were laughing with him. I have never trusted cops after that because wtf.
I get ur rage.i really do.ive been in the exact same situation except it was my dad,with a big ass knife.ur moms husband at the time only left bc that officer seemed to be on his side.it might actually be a tactic.
Its called 'deescalating'. Or so they say 🙄Like, I get trying to get him to leave because 'its his own idea', but if they start bad talking the victim (and women in general) then thats just giving him justification to continue with his shit. They aren't trained to do that. Thats not the deescalation procedure, thats just proving what kind of man you are AND guaranteeing further incidents. I'm so sorry your sister got a-holes instead of someone even slightly professional - they took procedure and switched it
The second episode really made my blood boil. Did the police not run a background check on this woman? She had a pristine record. She worked on Wall Street, owned her own restaurant, and had absolutely no criminal record. So wouldn’t even a first year cop take a step back and say “Why would this woman who is very successful with a pristine record just wake up one day and decide to rob people at gunpoint?” AND what makes matters worse is that the cops KNEW of this monster and knew he had a record of impersonating police officers.
That episode was infuriating. This woman lost her home and business because of all those lies and accusations that the police never even corroborated! I felt horrible for her. I knew immediately that man was not a police officer…I hope he’s miserable in prison as we speak.
He was a CI. They protect their CIs when they commit crimes. They probably stalled his case a bit. He did the heavy lifting for getting out of it by framing her, but they probably helped with deliberate incompetence. Look around. There are tons of stories where CIs commit crimes and the police are the ones who do the framing. And nothing is done at all when it comes to light.
Right! I could never love my kid enough to bail them out of jail for doing a DV crime, especially something as clear as what was going to be murder. Shes probably one of those toxic boy moms that always finds a way to believe that the woman he harmed “made” him do it.
Sounds very accurate to how I experienced things, too. Called the police because of DV at neighbors house in two different cases. They did NOTHING. One time they didn`t even bother finding out from which flat the commotion came from. The second time they only talked to the guy without seeing the woman joking with him about "hysteric girlfriends". On the other hand I had a few taxi drivers at night making sure I went into my house safely and closed the door behind me before they drove away.
@@aronhelios1734 Also on Netflix "Unbelievable". That story had me fuming for a week and gave me hope about the rare cops that do their shit instead of ignoring signs of violence.
As a victim of DV, people who have never been in those situations love to say what they would do. The truth is you’ll never know what you would do until you’re in that situation yourself.
Exactly. So many people are all "Just leave, its that easy!" or "Throw him out, its just that easy!" It is NEVER that easy. Ever. Sometimes you only get one chance, and you have to play the long game to even get that chance. I have all the respect for survivors who got out, and I don't care how it took to get there
The world doesn't work in the way most of us think it does. We might expect institutions whose responsibilities it is to protect and prevent harm to meet those expectations whether you need them or not and are met with a rude awakening when they don't meet those expectations. You don't get that rude awakening when you've never been in that situation. Maybe you attribute your luck/odds to institutions doing their jobs as they are supposed to. It's smoke and mirrors. It's a false sense of security meant to prevent panic. Once you see how inept institutions are at protecting people, it becomes clearer at how far humans have to go to adequately deal with DV in a consistent way. It becomes clearer how very much in its infacy institutional level DV solutions are compared to the history of casual violence.
It's crazy that the quality of policework you're going to get can vary literally from one jurisdiction to another across the entire United States. You'll hear a story where a department pulled out all the stops to find a missing person and in the next county over they'll be routinely lying to people about needing to wait to file a report so they don't have to do the work. It's so whack.
right! separating police services along county lines is the worst practice. police from MY home jurisdiction REFUSED to help me because i didn't know where a crime was committed. even though i had texts from the perpetrator confessing to the crime, plus IMAGES of the person they beat, with a trach on, in the hospital, PLUS some threats toward me! i thought it was cops' job to FIND missing people, but they straight up said they couldn't help and also accused me of lying 🙃
Police from the town I used to live in were the ones who perpetrated the crime but thankfully someone found them guilty of murder because the girl ended up killing herself
Sometimes the differences are in the same state. On one hand, I've had police officers escort me to get my stuff from my extremely dangerous ex roommates' house so I would be safe while moving out. On the other hand, I live in Minneapolis....
It all comes down to one very important factor usually.... Is the person who needs help rich or from a family with a good name in town? If so, you are golden. If not? "Get a restraining order so we can follow the paper trail when he kills you" is the response you will likely get. The latter increases drastically if you happen to be poor plus you are also a woman plus you are black or brown and/ or part of the LGBTQIA community. Or an addict. Or a sex worker of any kind. Or you are disabled or mentally ill. All of these things further decrease the chances they will even bother investigating your murder after they let the abuser kill you. Once you listen to enough true crime, it becomes painfully clear just how little this country's system cares about victims.
Except for Eric (one of the victims). He was genuinely a good guy and his ex unalived his 91yo grandma. But choosing the bear every other time 100% Edit bc yt won't post a follow up response: this absolutely isn't intended with a wholesale "not all men". I'm a lesbian and survivor myself. I would be far more comfortable around someone like Eric than the average man, and yet, 99.9% of the time I would still choose the bear
@@jazzminegoddess7968 it was this thing going around social media a couple months ago where women would give reasons why they would "choose the bear" ie would feel safer in the company of a bear in the woods rather than a random man. I think it started on insta? Side note: I never realized how cute that emoji is aaa
For everyone going through a lack of faith in humanity, remember the cab driver, the best friend who BEAT DOWN THE DOOR when her friend was attacked, and the people who chose to speak out against the monsters. There are good people.
Yeah it's just so scary sometimes to think that you have to be lucky enough to have people coming forward for you like that, or that have enough power or an absolutely indisputable proof of evidence to defend you, not only against brutes but also against a failed system
This is why whenever people respond to "defund the police" with "what about the rapists and murderer?" I'm like "they either enable rapists and murderers or **are** the rapists and murderers, lets not give them any more money than they need."
@@grandempressvicky6387we need a police force. We don’t need an incompetent police force. That one girlfriend he beat that the police took to jail despite the fact he had a record and she didn’t is just asinine. The police had the means to determine who was at fault and they just didn’t use it.
@@spencerbowden2979 police forces are designed to be incompetent in every situation but dealing with murder and violation of property. They were created (at least in the us) as paramilitary bullies to break strikes. The US Supreme Court said themselves that the Police do not have to protect US citizens from harm, just uphold the law when they see fit. The system itself does not allow for a competent police force as that would undernine the system
“his mom paid his bail so he was just walking around” KILLS ME. i cannot imagine opening my wallet to save a convicted r@pist and ppl do it All The Time as if we never established that thats a vile offense. And then it kept going😭😡
To be fair, he was charged not convicted. She paid bail to secure the suspect's release under investigation and as his mum probably assumed him innocent.
He was not convicted. You can't bail out people who are convicted. You can only bail out people who have been charged with a crime and are awaiting trial. Like there was a lot of people fucking up in this one, but to be clear, no one let a convicted rapist out for a bribe...
Ben didn't discriminate: the black partner went to jail. The Hispanic roommate would not go on the witness stand. But when he severely assaulted the white roommate, he ran and committed murder and then suicide.
In the second one, the police were protecting her ex, because he was an informant (snitch). And cops tend to protect them even when they do crimes. She deserved way more than 2 mil, and people should have been fired for what they did to her.
@@redleeks6253the victim was also an innocent taxpayer both as a citizen and business owner. As a citizen, she's entitled to the damages caused by the incompetence of the people that earn a living from her taxes and that also paid Jerry, a police informant; and her attacker, and the man they allowed to conspire against her.
They arrested HER (Amber)? They arrested HER (Simona) again and she had to STAY in jail?! Havent police officers heard of darvo??? They arrested the innocent friend too??! 😡 Edit: #acab
now im no big city lawyer or nuffin but is anybody else noticing that no matter what documentary or true crime story it is always the blundering of the police (no matter what country) and their complete lack of skill that really stalls justice?
All they had to do was run his criminal history that shit is accessible from their car. They just assumed one party was lying when they had the means to determine who was lying.
Worst ex ever is like a sibling show to worst neighbor ever. I watched worst neighbor ever so I already knew worst ex ever would be horribly traumatic 😭 these documentaries really make me not want to have neighbors or exes
It got me so bad to think of her and her boyfriend; them and their little cocktail hour was so WHOLESOME 😭and that was taken away by this crazy duo's shitty plan to fuck up someone's life
To have the opportunity and blessing to live until 91 years old, just to be murdered by someone who solely viewed her as a casualty for their selfish plot. Senseless violence only to carry out “Operation Custody” which failed for those monsters.
I'm in tears, I've been watching Kennie for years and this video dropped at the perfect time. My male uni roommate has been increasingly creepy towards me; we are the only ones on the top floor and there have been several downright unacceptable instances. Today, I found a lighter in my room (I don't smoke anymore, haven't for YEARS) and I confronted him about sneaking into my room. I'd suspected someone had been in my room for weeks as I'm very meticulous about my stuff, and things kept going missing/moving about. I honestly expected him to say it wasn't his, but he said "yes that's mine" with no hesitation with a blank look on his face. My friend was on the phone when I confronted him and even she was terrified. I left to take the bus to my uni office immediately and filed a complaint, but they said they could only be able to move me IN A MONTH. I've just decided to take showers at the gym and avoid home until then. You yelling at how egregious these men's behaviour was so cathartic. I love my room, it's my comfort place, I took time to decorate it so nicely, and now I have to move, and I don't feel safe at all. This made me feel mad instead of sad, and I'd much rather that. Thank you.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and university systems/on-campus police are just as bad as what was described here. PLEASE trust your instincts and stay safe until you can move out! Stay with a friend and take multiple friends with you when you move. ❤
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Stay safe and hope you love the new space. And do not forgive him or be cordial with him if he tries to apologize and be around you again. He crossed the line. Hoping you stay safe🙏🏾❤️
@@preciousbeing97THISSS! Please check what else could be in your room. Tell all your support system/family about what’s happening.I’m praying for you OP.
Don't just go to UNI office, go to the city police of whatever town it is and reported there too, and tell your family, if you have any uncles, brothers, or anyone let them KNOW. It is crucial to let everyone around you know, if you are close with any professors let them KNOW!! It is exhausting having to explain yourself, again, and again, and again but this what has to happen when UNI offices don't listen. ALSO MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT! I've been an RA before its BULLSHIT that they are making you wait a month to be moved. There are instances where there are emergency moves that can be made on campus. This is one of them, tell them you feel unsafe! Tell them you CANNOT wait a month, and if they do so, they will be liable for anything that may happen to you. I am so sorry this was not taking seriously, it is! DO NO take no for an answer when your wellbeing is one the line. Someone you talk to, family, professors, or friends will be able to help you, even if it's just to help advocate for you with you!
The craziest thing about watching “The Worst Ex Ever” is that me and my best friend watched the first episode together and then went to the movies to watch “Blink Twice” we were scared of men the whole night.
One thing that’s taking me out is how little money people need to be bribed to do the most heinous shit like 20k to frame a woman and ruin her life and everything she worked so hard for and 2600 TO MURDER AN INNOCENT WOMAN AND TO FLEX ON SOME BONNIE AND CLYDE TYPE SHIT like it genuinely makes me sick
This was actually crazy, when the guy said he was paid 2400 dollars to kill someone, knowing full well that there were children in the house and that it "didn't change his decision"
It’s insane. Here in South Africa it’s even worse. it’s reported that you can hire someone to kill for as little as R500 (around USD25). When I’m out alone or thinking of getting sassy with someone I just remember how cheap it may be for someone to take me out and decide to stfu. It’s really an indictment of humanity how little regard we have for each others lives. Scariest of times.
My ex rammed my head into a portable radiator heater. I had to get stitches. They handcuffing both of us because he too injured himself and lied on me. I never hit him or defended myself because I was little dazed. We didn’t go to jail but I did have to go to the emergency room because of my injuries. I was obviously the victim and my neighbor was trying to defend me but they still handcuffed me. I remember crying the entire time.
But when men try to report abuse it's "tHeRe'S nO way A wOmAn cOUld hUrT A mAn 🤨" The GYMNASTICS! They will do! trying to be this fucking useless!! I'm sorry this happenned to you, I hope you're recovering well and you have a good support system around you ❤
Jesus Christ. Men suck. I've been going through this comment section after being peaked by my abusive ex who is still stalking me (the police keep letting him go and I've been fighting for 3 years after escaping), and I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you're doing better, too. I wish I could hug you. I wish we could all be vigilantes, but the cops would arrest us faster than they would our abusers. Ugh. I hate this planet.
I watched it last night and the first story was so so frustrating! why were most of the victims turned into the perpetrators??? the level of incompetence is astounding.
Simona was in jail for LONGER than ben the 2nd time he was arrested ☠️ smoke coming out of my ears rn. Her charge? Absolutely nothing. His? Nearly killed 2 women to put it very lightly
I am happy this documentary exists. It ruined me emotionally but it puts into perspective what cops do most of the time you go to them with a case of domestic abuse instead of the fantasy we see in scripted shows. Cops don't keep us safe. The behavior in this documentary is PAINFULLY common. Really the norm.
I read a really interesting article once about how the police in shows like Law and Order SVU is the police force we wish existed: kind, compassionate, ever aware of survivors and on their side. That's one of the reasons the show is so successful: because it depicts the police as it should be, not as it is. I mean, the article didn't go into details about the history of American police and its direct links to enforcing American slavery but, on the "believing survivors" front, I think it was correct.
@@delphinedelphinedelphine Meh, it shows a police force that the general (white middleclass suburban Nielsen-rating) public already believes exists. That's how propaganda works; it doesn't introduce _new_ ideas, it feeds the existing belief system.
i didn’t watch it but i am mad. This is why victims never speak out or report things. Law enforcement doesn’t care unless you’re dead and even then,if you’re not a perfect victim your case will not be solved.
I spent years and years of my life wishing I was de*d, drowning my trauma in liquor, hoping that I would work up the courage to end it. My being an alcoholic (in recovery) means that I will never, ever be considered "good enough" to be a proper victim in their eyes (not that they did anything before either) Too many cops are exactly the same kind of entitled bullies that think that they have the right to lord their will over other people. You know how high the police DV rate is? They have never been on our side, not really
I worked in social services and the way survivors called us before calling the police is real. I had cases where cops were the abusers, those were the hardest to prosecute. I lost survivors (killed by their abuser) only after they left. One year we lost maybe 8 women…who all left. So please be kind to survivors yall. Help them create safety plans.
My ex husband refused to leave my house , I had to move in with my parents for a few years. Now I'm back, in MY house , with my kids , and he's back to having no job, no car, and living in his mom's basement.
I was brought to tears when Simona said she lost her business because of him….all this is heartbreaking but something about being SA’d, being thrown in jail and subsequently having your business snatched away is particularly painful.
I am sobbing at the thought but Punky being killed hurt so deeply. It’s the combo of her hating him to start, the killers being so nonchalant but young, this devil knowing the kids would be there…All the stories were horrid, not sure why this one was the one to make me sob. RIP Sally and Punky, all these lives stolen.
It's not abnormal for women who are not victims of DV getting killed or harmed as collateral damage. Im Portugal there's the case of Marta. This girl was 19 when she started dating a man in his 30s. They dated only for 3 months because he started to display controlling behavior so she ended thr relationship. He tried to convince her to get back but she declined. So he went to her work place, a family's bakery where she worked with her cousin (another woman) with a gun and calling Marta out. Her cousin told him to go away or she was calling the police, meanwhile he went after Marta and her cousin tried to stop him. He immediately shot the cousin who died on the spot and then shot Marta in the head 2 times. Marta survived but was left as a vegetable, she has been recovering for years now and lives of people's donations to keep with therapy so relearned how to talk (struggles) and can walk few steps. She lives with the bullets in her head and she's dependent for the rest of her life, her mother had to quit her job to become her full time carer. Her cousin wasn't a victim of DV and barely knew the perpetrator but she happened to be Marta's co-worker. 2 young lives ended that day, the guy caught 25 years in jail (max time in Portugal) and probably hes already out and still on time to live life. I'm sure the first thing he will do is download dating apps.
The most recent example of this I've seen is of Lauren Johansen, where the court basically let her violent ex out on bond and used her address for his ankle monitor without verifying, and he kidnapped her...
This video hit close to home for me. About 9 months ago I broke up with my abusive ex and was contacted by a group chat of his ex’s, all who had gone through similar abuse that I had. The most recent victim was underaged and the case was going to be held in my county and was asked if I’d like to be apart of taking him down, obviously, this is any victims dream so ofc I said yes. Only for the judge to look all 7 of us in the eyes to say he was only getting parole. (I have a restraining order against him and he still makes new numbers to call me, the courts do nothing obviously.)
Funny how we get three strikes for carrying fun lettuce but unlimited strikes for beating women. Let’s start normalizing leaving an ounce in your abuser’s car and calling in a tip
Please I watched this last night and it’s worse than the roommate one, makes you want to stay single since half the stuff happened after years of being together 😭 Also ACAB, “who are you gonna call when you need help” well clearly not the cops or I might go to jail or die 😭
The doc didn't make it clear that they saw her and they found the gun in her pocket when they searched her outside. But he was running AWAY from them into another room but not out of the house, so why tase him at all?? And the female officer said when he was in the back of the police car he was yelling to every officer who WALKED BY that they did something to his grandma. Looked like she was the only one who listened at first. Ugh.
"oh but if we didn't have cops, who would solve the murders?" how about you do your job so that situations don't escalate to murder??? how about you do what you're supposed to an PROTECT people?! what do you mean you can't take a couple hours to accompany a woman to her home, and make sure someone actively threatening her isn't still there? how about you do a check the next day to make sure she's still safe? what is the purpose of cops except terrorize people?
Watch any kind of true crime stuff, and you'll see cops only want to do about 1/3 to 1/2 of the work they're supposed to do. The portion they don't want to do is arguably the most important: detective work. They don't want to help people if it means they have to do any investigating. It's WILD. You choose that profession (at this point, we know why), but you 100% come into it not wanting to do ALL of the damn job. Or you come into it and let others convince you not to do your damn job.
I had a cop say to my face that they weren't even going to bother looking up the license plate of this guy's car because he could have been borrowing someone else's car. Then talk to them! Investigate! This guy stalked me, knew where I live & work, and committed a s*x crime! Do your effing job! ACAB
As someone who went through stuff like this unfortunately seeing your and yalls anger is so validating and somewhat healing to know that other ppl know things like this are wrong and real
Everyone say ‘Thank You Kennie!’ for watching and reviewing all of the mediocre Netflix films/tv series so we don’t have to. Thank you for your service queen! ❤
Yeah they tend to be some of the worst abusers bc they absolutely know that no one is going to stop or arrest the offficer....ever. Imagine the horrors that polices women and children go through. They dont do shit bc they know if they are in the busibess of stopping abuse eventually they themselves will have to stop abusing people.
My abusive ex stepfather had been a police officer that had multiple questionable shootings(he bragged he did it just because he wanted to)and went to prison for kidnapping a man to torture him for days. He went to jail for that because he was off duty. He engaged in DV with his first wife when he was a police officer and with my mom/us as a parole officer. The fact that he managed to become a parole officer after going to jail still shocks me. I do not trust any police officers ever now.
@@alexacarrillo4339 I'm sorry that happened to you. And that is absolutely insane that he was able to get a job as a parole officer after going to jail. This is a perfect example of why policing needs to be reformed.
@@antihistamine I hate what he and his police friends did to me which I won’t get into because it is just too much but I often think of how he abused the people he was checking up on as a parole officer. I dread knowing what they endured because I could have talked and gotten him in trouble which created a limit but parolees are even more vulnerable.
This reminds me of the time I went to the police to report my ex who had cut me with a knife (nothing terrible just my hand but still). I wasn't gonna do it bc I don't trust police to do jackshit, but his own dad called me to tell me to report him or he will do it for me so I did. In the like hour and a half I was at the police station to report him, only 3 other ppl came in to also report stuff. All 3 were women all three were reporting some kind of assault or harassment by a man. And unsurprisingly all 4 of us left with nothing. They said they couldn't do anything for me except take my statement so if he does it again there will be proof it's not the first time. A little girl who was getting followed home by a stranger on her way back from school for like 2 weeks was told that well he didn't technically do anything yet so can't do anything. That one pissed me the fuck off bc wdym you're gonna wait for this little girl to get assaulted or kidnapped before getting off your ass.
A cut with a knife is something terrible. Something that could've easily escalated to a stabbing the next incident. Glad to hear his dad supported you and that he's your ex now. Stay safe!
That is crazy about the little girl. Like, you could hang out on her walk home, easy pick up, scare the guy off or find him doing something arrest worthy like having rope in his side seat, public indecency, or even another kid in the back. You could be a hero and it’s right there waiting - but no, too full of apathy
I felt so personally spoken to. I had a similar experience ("just" verbal abuse) but he also made me afraid to come home. Thank you Kennie for saying these things I needed to hear back then!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
Them wanting to have kids immediately is DEFINITELY a red flag because you are tied to that person forever and they know they can use it to abuse you through the children and the system help them with the abuse. That’s why some women sign away their parental rights to save themselves from the abuser since the court system refuses to keep the children away from the abuser.
Episode 2: I’m from Nassau County, that is exactly how they do things. They could have solid evidence you didn’t do it and still say you did. There are a lot of innocent people locked up. The feeling of shock disappeared as soon as you said that
I'm glad they covered a man's DV situation also. This is not exclusive to women. That said the thing that really really REALLY broke my heart was when Rose or whomever said "your grandma is in the garage". And it wasn't a lie. Just fucking sad
The woman's case was very different. She didn't want anything with the man or was cheating on him or was trying to keep him in abusive relationship. It most looks like she hated him but was being pressured to have a child. She got married, had the child but didn't want to stay with her husband or keep subjecting him to abuse. It's not a typical case of domestic violence but murder of due to child custody.
@@redleeks6253Are you forgetting that Rose literally tried to HIT ERIC a few months into their relationship? She wasn’t an innocent victim trapped within her circumstances, she was a serial liar and abuser who conspired with her mother to kill her ex husband for custody.
The incompetence doesn't even stop there. I love hearing unsolved mysteries, but after a while you notice a pattern. A lot of these unsolved mysteries over the years can be blamed on police incompetence or corruption tbh.
I think what's so frustrating about these is that across the board there are so many places where if someone had taken DV or these people's safety seriously it wouldn't have escalated to a point where someone was dead or been seriously injured. I've known people who have gotten out of abusive relationships where the ex is stalking them, harassing them, one had sabotaged their car and the police basically said they just weren't taking the break up well but they couldn't do anything until he'd done something worse. And it's like when? When she's dead or hospitalized you can step in but you can't do something about a man calling his ex on a burner phone because she keeps blocking his number to scream at her about where she is because he drove past her house at 11 PM and her car isn't there? When he lives and works in a different city altogether and has no reason to be at her house in the first place other than to stalk her? The legal system can just be incredibly frustrating.
Those are the consequences of trying to bave relationships with men of any kind. Usually women aren't killed or harmed by gang members or serial killers or anything like that. Domestic violence is the main cause of serious injury in women and more than half of female victims of homicide are murdered by partners or ex partners. In both 2 episodes we have a pattern of women letting a man who was boyfriend or just a fuckbuddy into their homes. Episode 1: Girlfriend takes boyfriend inside her house (a man obsessed with guns and knives..charmer). He attacks her. Then she sees him around the house and instead of calling someone she lets him in. I believe the woman was lying when she said he popped up after her (she probably let him in)..and then years after he comes with apologies and she lets him in again. Then the second woman, who's not serious, just a fuckbuddy, and allows him in her house when he gets unemployed. Free puxi, free house and free service? This man has family why didn't he ask for help to his family? She ended up captive and beaten in her own house. 3rd case: Another woman decides to allow her coworker, a fuckbuddy, inside her house. Then gets him fired. Again, i dont think she became suspicious of the urine favor but probably found out he was seeing/flirting other women and got him fired. He was inside the house waiting for her. Come on..shes dating a serial kidnapper, Domestic abuser, tells her boss and gets him fired and goes back at the home she leaves unlocked? I've made mistakes too. Living abroad and letting a man inside my apartment because he was helping me without even going to his place first. But my boss and coworkers knew him and the place i lived had reception and cameras. This was in china so if he killed me he would get life sentence. I was also his dirty little secret so i was never a threat because i was in other town and never tried to contact anyone. So nobody in his social circle knew i existed. Ofc these types of men lurk on dating apps and i was a very vulnerable target as foreigner and knew to the city without much English...still in a country where even dogs assholes have cameras.
i'd also like to add that not all abusers are all caps crazy like this. That kind of constant low level abuse that is always present but cannot be articulated to friends/family/authorities is so so dangerous. And it can always escalate to violence.
This is the video I want the people who say back the blue to see. The fact that it truly depends on who is helping you that day. The police really be so incompetent 🤦♀️
my aunt fainted in court out of sheer anxiety and fear when she had to physically be there to press charges against her abusive ex cops don't do a shit, a local women's shelter did more for her than they ever did (she's doing really well now, independent and happy, thank goodness)
yea happens all the time. so many women ini jail for killing or harming their abuser...acaaaab literally all and always. true crime is traumatizing omg
will never forget when i was being stalked and the cop, who came to my job after the guy had shown up there and was sitting there while i was in shock in the back office, said to me verbatim: "well, we could wait until he does something to get you a protective order, but i'll be honest with you. a piece of paper won't stop a bullet or a knife."
He wasn't wrong, unfortunately. Protective orders generally do very little against individuals with a history of violence and/or an increased likelihood to become so in the future (i.e. stalkers). They're more useful for limiting social access to you and providing crucial evidence for any potential future court cases if they escalate, which, categorically, they're likely to do. Basically, it could help you put them behind bars, but it certainly won't guarantee your safety until then. Quite the opposite, in many cases. Also, laws regarding stalking in the U.S. aren't always comprehensive enough to be helpful until the stalker has attempted to harm the victim. For good reason, to be fair, but by that point it's often too late.
@@leylamam Totally fair. The current legislation is grossly insufficient, yet there’s limited room to expand its protections given our constitutional ethics. Assault prosecutions also echo this issue. It all sucks. Idk what the ethical solution would be, but I know I’d be pissed too.
The second episode was a nightmare she was in there for ALMOST TWO HUNDRED DAYS with ONLY WITNESS TESTIMONIES, NO EVIDENCE, COUNTER EVIDENCE, AND THEN THEY LOCKED UP THE GUY WHO TRIED TO COME FORWARD ABOUT THE SCHEME!!!!
My friend went to the police station a day or two after an SA and they ended up threatening to put HER in custody because she was "aggressive" and wanted to leave the police station because it was obvious they didnt believe her or cared. Some of the police officers were women which is even more aggravating.
I was furious watching this show. I've had my own issues with the cops. I was arrested for something that my crazy ex did. I was put in the local news and lost my job. It took almost 3 years for the truth to come out and for me to be released of all wrong doing but of course the news didn't release that information.
Watched this show with my boyfriend last night and we literally were so shocked it was traumatic. We had to watch a silly show afterwards to not go to bed traumatized. Bro the system is a joke wtf. 😭
I watched a bodycam the other day of a guy breaking in to two places and he got 20 years. Imagine only 2 years time served for kidnapping, torture and arguably attempted murder. Disgusting. DV and SA are never treated the way they should be. I dont understand
Media like this is why I sort of stopped watching true crime anything. It got to where I was just getting incredibly angry about the lack of competency from the police and the idea the only thing they can punish is when the woman is murdered.
I just don’t like how desensitized people are to true crimes… like I saw a lady that told murders/ true crimes stories while putting on makeup!? It’s truly bizzare…
After Sandy Hook and Uvalde, I went down a rabbit hole and found a Legal Eagle video that cited Town of Castle Rock v. Gonzales (also found another case DeShaney v. Winnebago County) that stated that the police are not legally obligated to protect and serve. Definitely changed my perception of the role of police in instances of abuse
I was looking for this comment. Sure, *"NoT alL COps", and I'll currently still say call 911 in emergencies, but it is so depressing to see our state of emergency services. They need less intensive training to become police officers than it takes to do hair.
Yes, I don’t remember the specific court cases but I learned about this after watching a true crime video about a man who went a rampage in NYC. Killed a woman who had rejected him and then went on the run car-jacking, injuring and killing people throughout NYC. He finally made his way to the subway where multiple police officers identified him but hid instead of trying to stop him. Despite them having guns and him having a knife. He then attacked the T driver and I think someone else. The T driver apprehended him. I remember reading about how the police did nothing and thinking how ridiculous that was and that they should be fired. But, nope. He went on to sue where his case was thrown out because PO are not required to protect civilians. And the previous Supreme Court cases were referenced.
What the hell?! That’s exactly like if these useless cops accidentally did their jobs, got shot doing it, they got taken to the hospital and the doctor said „Well do you know what organ the bullet hit? No? Then why are you bothering me?“
You definitely hit a note now that in a NYC subway they went after a guy who avoided subway fare and not only shot him and 2 bystanders but also shot another cop while doing it
Listening to the first case and I’m from Oregon. I remember it being everywhere at the time. I really feel for these women and the guy Eric. I was stalked by an ex for years and he only stopped because he went to prison for unaliving someone else. Police don’t do anything until someone passes it’s so sad that I wouldn’t even want to call them if I was in danger
Seemona’s story PISSED ME OFF. The whole time I was like I can’t wait for her to SUE THE SHIT out of everyone involved. All of the stories were infuriating but hers was absolutely ridiculous. If you framed me and I was in jail for a year don’t worry about the law! I’ll take care of it myself, at least then I’ll be in jail for a good reason 🤷🏽♀️
That third case reminded me so much of the documentary Dear Zachary. I am glad it didn't end up the same way, though it's cruel they went after his grandma :(
tw: DV mention, DV homicide mention Not sure if I could adequately articulate how hearing your frustration makes me feel as someone who lost a dear and close cousin to DV m*rder/s*icide with a firearm. Relief is the first word that comes to mind, but I guess vindication would be a closer match. My cousin was killed four years ago on the 21st of August and we celebrated her on the anniversary last weekend, and this weekend my family was part of a sort-of conference to raise awareness for DV victims and their families. So all of that together and then this video comes out....yeah I can't say how much it both hurts deeply and feels amazing to hear others be so upset and wanting real justice for DV victims/DV families. My cousin's name is Gabby and I miss her dearly. She left a daughter behind who just started high school this year and I wish she was here to see her baby get older. 💜
There’s also a similar series that’s been out called “worst roommate ever” and it’s literally more cases of “cops AND the legal system don’t do shit for no one”
As an animation student those animations look great! I was 1. Not expecting animation 2. Thinking that it would look cheap and bad But it looks so cool im glad they did that. Might have to watch the show just for animation. But it would make me so mad idk if i can do it
This is the same studio who did Worst Roommate Ever and when I tell you, the police will fail you EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!! These stories are heart breaking.
The more I watch true crime, it’s impossible to not realize that most unsolved and /or preventable crimes are due to insufficient police/detective/DA, etc work. It’s incompetence that is present across the board. It’s real bad
Its sad when a young person loses their life to senseless violence, but making it to 80 to be murdered in a convoluted scheme of your grandson's in-law, is tragic.
15:02 on first watch I thought you said “he sh!t himself and succumbed to his wounds” and then I realized you mean pew pew’d himself not poo poo’d himself.
This is literally why I’ve sworn off men. And there are so many other women who feel as though they’re better off single. If they can not drastically add to your life then I believe they are not worth it.
Well i can understand this. Sometimes i feel the same way about women. Ive been catfished several times and had women just treat me borderline abusive. Hope you have a good time being single.
@@HalasterBlackCloak-u2w Yeah I think it’s perfectly okay for people of all genders to seek fulfillment outside of dating. It’s truly based on how everyone individually values romantic love. And for some, the trauma from past relationships or plain life experiences outweighs the want/desire to gamble on person after the other, after the other. All just to get an experience of love, lust or affection that /many/ cannot sustainably provide another human being, let alone themselves. Like this documentary shows, women and men can both be out to do no good to others and unfortunately the ones who aren’t like that have to share the world with irrational people who are led by their whims.
The cops completely ignored the black girl in the first episode. I lost my mind when she let him come back but if law enforcement gaslights you into thinking you're in the wrong then what do you expect?
police be like: “yeah so we can’t do anything about it until they kill you”
literally
Police: yea well we can’t do anything unless someone dies. Then we will do very little.
Even after they won't do a damn thing!
your ass is grass if you do a rolling stop in a small town though
literally. that is what they say
Netflix is crazy cause how are you gonna tell a story so real and serious and harrowing and name it some shit like "worst ex ever 🤪!"
Literally what I was thinking, like this title makes it sound far more trivial than it it ToT
This isn't the run of the mill A-hole EX, these are literal pyschos!
This
They also have "worst roommate ever" docuseries, and i promise you, it's not just having a roommate that doesn't do their dishes on time.
I was thinking this too, because I decided to watch it, thinking the situations wouldn't be super serious, maybe surface level, based on the title "worst ex ever" only for all the situations to be so serious and horrendous... like what??!
netflix has seen people are interested in true crime and put out these docs for those folks and i honestly, i find people that consume this content do it more so for entertainment and titillation than empathy for the victims - seeing as how netflix often makes these programs without consent or involvement from families.
People who question why women don’t go to the police when they’re raped or abused should be forced to watch this documentary.
What’s ironic is that that question alone, and the general act of putting any fault on women, is the answer to the question they’re asking.
agreed
There's another documentary on Netflix that I watched that also really illustrates the huge problem with why women don't feel safe enough to report called "victim/suspect" I think? It's been a minute since I watched it but god it was so heartbreaking.
there's a movie called unbelievable that's even worse (but also accurate)
it getting worst
no, because my sister called the cops to kick out her husband at the time (now ex-husband) cause he punched the wall and was becoming aggressive with us because we found out he was cheating. The cops arrive and say "We can't do anything 'cause you invited him into your home and he lives here." He ended up leaving after the cops to talk to him. I was downstairs hiding when the cops talked to him, and let me say the conversation I heard made me mad with RAGE. The cops and he spoke about how "women are crazy" and that he should just leave before we say he did something else or we lie... They were talking so much shit and they were laughing with him. I have never trusted cops after that because wtf.
ACAB!!
Cops ain’t shit and i need people to stop acting as if they are.
I get ur rage.i really do.ive been in the exact same situation except it was my dad,with a big ass knife.ur moms husband at the time only left bc that officer seemed to be on his side.it might actually be a tactic.
Its called 'deescalating'. Or so they say 🙄Like, I get trying to get him to leave because 'its his own idea', but if they start bad talking the victim (and women in general) then thats just giving him justification to continue with his shit. They aren't trained to do that. Thats not the deescalation procedure, thats just proving what kind of man you are AND guaranteeing further incidents. I'm so sorry your sister got a-holes instead of someone even slightly professional - they took procedure and switched it
@@impposter560thank you for putting into words why that excuse has never sat right with me
abusers protect abusers
The second episode really made my blood boil. Did the police not run a background check on this woman? She had a pristine record. She worked on Wall Street, owned her own restaurant, and had absolutely no criminal record. So wouldn’t even a first year cop take a step back and say “Why would this woman who is very successful with a pristine record just wake up one day and decide to rob people at gunpoint?” AND what makes matters worse is that the cops KNEW of this monster and knew he had a record of impersonating police officers.
That episode was infuriating. This woman lost her home and business because of all those lies and accusations that the police never even corroborated! I felt horrible for her. I knew immediately that man was not a police officer…I hope he’s miserable in prison as we speak.
I hope the woman is thriving now! She didn't deserve to lose everything she worked to get.
He was a CI. They protect their CIs when they commit crimes. They probably stalled his case a bit. He did the heavy lifting for getting out of it by framing her, but they probably helped with deliberate incompetence. Look around. There are tons of stories where CIs commit crimes and the police are the ones who do the framing. And nothing is done at all when it comes to light.
@@kobaltkween what is a CI?
@@lolothesillyconfidential informant
the fact that his mom posted his bail for him is actually insane...
It's toxic boy mom behavior to another level
It's insane but all too common sadly
Right! I could never love my kid enough to bail them out of jail for doing a DV crime, especially something as clear as what was going to be murder.
Shes probably one of those toxic boy moms that always finds a way to believe that the woman he harmed “made” him do it.
Classic toxic boy mom behaviour. The phenomena is even worse if they are of Indian origin.
It happens a lot. Mothers deny and defend their sons’ bad behavior. It’s messed up.
you’re telling me,,, that a cab driver,, did a better job at protecting a woman and being a police officer, THAN THE POLICE OFFICERS
The cops protect their own, and their own are racist psychopathic misogynistic abusers.
Yep. Better than ALL the cops in ALL the cases, esp those where women of color were fucking PUNISHED for being victims of monsters
Sounds very accurate to how I experienced things, too. Called the police because of DV at neighbors house in two different cases. They did NOTHING. One time they didn`t even bother finding out from which flat the commotion came from. The second time they only talked to the guy without seeing the woman joking with him about "hysteric girlfriends".
On the other hand I had a few taxi drivers at night making sure I went into my house safely and closed the door behind me before they drove away.
I mean there’s a high DV rate among cops so likely they’re protecting their own 🤷🏽♀️
They should probably change the title to "The Police won't do SH*T!"
Worst cops ever!
@aronhelios1734 cops are bad period.
@@aronhelios1734 Also on Netflix "Unbelievable". That story had me fuming for a week and gave me hope about the rare cops that do their shit instead of ignoring signs of violence.
Omg fr
As a victim of DV, people who have never been in those situations love to say what they would do. The truth is you’ll never know what you would do until you’re in that situation yourself.
Exactly. So many people are all "Just leave, its that easy!" or "Throw him out, its just that easy!" It is NEVER that easy. Ever. Sometimes you only get one chance, and you have to play the long game to even get that chance. I have all the respect for survivors who got out, and I don't care how it took to get there
Leaving an abusive relationship, in fact, is the most dangerous time for the victim
The world doesn't work in the way most of us think it does. We might expect institutions whose responsibilities it is to protect and prevent harm to meet those expectations whether you need them or not and are met with a rude awakening when they don't meet those expectations. You don't get that rude awakening when you've never been in that situation. Maybe you attribute your luck/odds to institutions doing their jobs as they are supposed to. It's smoke and mirrors. It's a false sense of security meant to prevent panic. Once you see how inept institutions are at protecting people, it becomes clearer at how far humans have to go to adequately deal with DV in a consistent way. It becomes clearer how very much in its infacy institutional level DV solutions are compared to the history of casual violence.
THANK YOU
No fr. So many people would just freeze or try to run away😅 i know i would be scared as FUCK
It's crazy that the quality of policework you're going to get can vary literally from one jurisdiction to another across the entire United States. You'll hear a story where a department pulled out all the stops to find a missing person and in the next county over they'll be routinely lying to people about needing to wait to file a report so they don't have to do the work. It's so whack.
right! separating police services along county lines is the worst practice.
police from MY home jurisdiction REFUSED to help me because i didn't know where a crime was committed. even though i had texts from the perpetrator confessing to the crime, plus IMAGES of the person they beat, with a trach on, in the hospital, PLUS some threats toward me!
i thought it was cops' job to FIND missing people, but they straight up said they couldn't help and also accused me of lying 🙃
That's awful, I'm so sorry! I hope your life is better now?! @@alyxxm1019
Police from the town I used to live in were the ones who perpetrated the crime but thankfully someone found them guilty of murder because the girl ended up killing herself
Sometimes the differences are in the same state. On one hand, I've had police officers escort me to get my stuff from my extremely dangerous ex roommates' house so I would be safe while moving out. On the other hand, I live in Minneapolis....
It all comes down to one very important factor usually....
Is the person who needs help rich or from a family with a good name in town? If so, you are golden. If not? "Get a restraining order so we can follow the paper trail when he kills you" is the response you will likely get.
The latter increases drastically if you happen to be poor plus you are also a woman plus you are black or brown and/ or part of the LGBTQIA community. Or an addict. Or a sex worker of any kind. Or you are disabled or mentally ill. All of these things further decrease the chances they will even bother investigating your murder after they let the abuser kill you.
Once you listen to enough true crime, it becomes painfully clear just how little this country's system cares about victims.
this is why women CHOOSE THE BEAR
Except for Eric (one of the victims). He was genuinely a good guy and his ex unalived his 91yo grandma.
But choosing the bear every other time 100%
Edit bc yt won't post a follow up response: this absolutely isn't intended with a wholesale "not all men". I'm a lesbian and survivor myself. I would be far more comfortable around someone like Eric than the average man, and yet, 99.9% of the time I would still choose the bear
What’s THE BEAR 🐻?
@@jazzminegoddess7968 it was this thing going around social media a couple months ago where women would give reasons why they would "choose the bear" ie would feel safer in the company of a bear in the woods rather than a random man. I think it started on insta?
Side note: I never realized how cute that emoji is aaa
When asked if a woman would rather be stuck in the woods with a man or a bear, the majority of women chose the bear. @@jazzminegoddess7968
@@jazzminegoddess7968 it was a hypothetical question posed to women asking would you rather be trapped in the wood with a man or a bear.
Oh I was HEATED watching episode two when Simone had a 1 mill bail for robbery, but that AH only had a 150k bail for graping her at gunpoint!
*raping
😢😢😢
And the alleged robbery was like 2k Lmao why would a successful business owner woman rob wtf
It was so blatantly sexist as well as they knew him or of him. Just sick
@@Gmhfseyhbexactly, completely illogical. It baffles me that they get away with this ish, like who approves it?
For everyone going through a lack of faith in humanity, remember the cab driver, the best friend who BEAT DOWN THE DOOR when her friend was attacked, and the people who chose to speak out against the monsters. There are good people.
Yeah it's just so scary sometimes to think that you have to be lucky enough to have people coming forward for you like that, or that have enough power or an absolutely indisputable proof of evidence to defend you, not only against brutes but also against a failed system
I was actually surprised that the second woman came forward knowing they put a man in jail for saying the exact same thing
The fact that the cops really don’t do shit UNTIL THE VICTIM IS MURDERED?!!? 😤😤😤 and people get mad at me when I say they’re useless across the board
And even then "oh look a body with 14 stabwounds: Suicide!"
This is why whenever people respond to "defund the police" with "what about the rapists and murderer?" I'm like "they either enable rapists and murderers or **are** the rapists and murderers, lets not give them any more money than they need."
@@grandempressvicky6387 HELLO! Say it louder please.
@@grandempressvicky6387we need a police force.
We don’t need an incompetent police force.
That one girlfriend he beat that the police took to jail despite the fact he had a record and she didn’t is just asinine.
The police had the means to determine who was at fault and they just didn’t use it.
@@spencerbowden2979 police forces are designed to be incompetent in every situation but dealing with murder and violation of property. They were created (at least in the us) as paramilitary bullies to break strikes. The US Supreme Court said themselves that the Police do not have to protect US citizens from harm, just uphold the law when they see fit. The system itself does not allow for a competent police force as that would undernine the system
“his mom paid his bail so he was just walking around” KILLS ME. i cannot imagine opening my wallet to save a convicted r@pist and ppl do it All The Time as if we never established that thats a vile offense. And then it kept going😭😡
To be fair, he was charged not convicted. She paid bail to secure the suspect's release under investigation and as his mum probably assumed him innocent.
Bail shouldn’t be a thing.
He was not convicted. You can't bail out people who are convicted. You can only bail out people who have been charged with a crime and are awaiting trial.
Like there was a lot of people fucking up in this one, but to be clear, no one let a convicted rapist out for a bribe...
We know the real reason the first two got arrested and its not just police incompetence.
Exactly....
THIS! Because that’s exactly what I was thinking when I first watched it
Ben didn't discriminate: the black partner went to jail. The Hispanic roommate would not go on the witness stand. But when he severely assaulted the white roommate, he ran and committed murder and then suicide.
In the second one, the police were protecting her ex, because he was an informant (snitch). And cops tend to protect them even when they do crimes. She deserved way more than 2 mil, and people should have been fired for what they did to her.
Was scrolling looking for this exact comment
The first two episodes made me especially furious. I actually applauded when Seemona said she sued the city. Like, fuck yes, girl!
But innocent tax payers had to pay for the incompetence and malicious intent of the police.
@@redleeks6253the victim was also an innocent taxpayer both as a citizen and business owner. As a citizen, she's entitled to the damages caused by the incompetence of the people that earn a living from her taxes and that also paid Jerry, a police informant; and her attacker, and the man they allowed to conspire against her.
They arrested HER (Amber)? They arrested HER (Simona) again and she had to STAY in jail?! Havent police officers heard of darvo??? They arrested the innocent friend too??!
😡
Edit: #acab
He ended up homeless and she kidnapped their daughter???!
😡😡😡
They killed his grandma?! Omg no!
💔😢
Omg not the sister!
💔💔💔
😢😢😢
ACAB
Sickening 😢😢 absolutely sickening 😠
They’ve heard of DARVO, they use it on their spouses at least 40% of the time.
Madness
now im no big city lawyer or nuffin but is anybody else noticing that no matter what documentary or true crime story it is always the blundering of the police (no matter what country) and their complete lack of skill that really stalls justice?
Systemic worldwide issue!!!
They always side with criminals (men)
All they had to do was run his criminal history that shit is accessible from their car.
They just assumed one party was lying when they had the means to determine who was lying.
Just another case of qualified people not doing their job. The incompetence infuriates me.
Worst ex ever is like a sibling show to worst neighbor ever. I watched worst neighbor ever so I already knew worst ex ever would be horribly traumatic 😭 these documentaries really make me not want to have neighbors or exes
Keeping my ass in my house
I don’t know… this is sooooo much worse. These are people you trusted and were intimate with… probably saw a future with… 😞
Lol true. Think there is also worst roommate ever😅
Ooo I hope she covers this one too!
@@mwaxie07that show is so crazy😭
Grandma Sally seemed like such a wonderful person 😢
It got me so bad to think of her and her boyfriend; them and their little cocktail hour was so WHOLESOME 😭and that was taken away by this crazy duo's shitty plan to fuck up someone's life
I cried when Lester died a year later after Sally. They were so cute together.
To have the opportunity and blessing to live until 91 years old, just to be murdered by someone who solely viewed her as a casualty for their selfish plot. Senseless violence only to carry out “Operation Custody” which failed for those monsters.
I'm in tears, I've been watching Kennie for years and this video dropped at the perfect time. My male uni roommate has been increasingly creepy towards me; we are the only ones on the top floor and there have been several downright unacceptable instances. Today, I found a lighter in my room (I don't smoke anymore, haven't for YEARS) and I confronted him about sneaking into my room. I'd suspected someone had been in my room for weeks as I'm very meticulous about my stuff, and things kept going missing/moving about. I honestly expected him to say it wasn't his, but he said "yes that's mine" with no hesitation with a blank look on his face. My friend was on the phone when I confronted him and even she was terrified. I left to take the bus to my uni office immediately and filed a complaint, but they said they could only be able to move me IN A MONTH. I've just decided to take showers at the gym and avoid home until then. You yelling at how egregious these men's behaviour was so cathartic. I love my room, it's my comfort place, I took time to decorate it so nicely, and now I have to move, and I don't feel safe at all. This made me feel mad instead of sad, and I'd much rather that. Thank you.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and university systems/on-campus police are just as bad as what was described here. PLEASE trust your instincts and stay safe until you can move out! Stay with a friend and take multiple friends with you when you move. ❤
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Stay safe and hope you love the new space. And do not forgive him or be cordial with him if he tries to apologize and be around you again. He crossed the line. Hoping you stay safe🙏🏾❤️
Please check if there is any cameras hidden in your room.
@@preciousbeing97THISSS! Please check what else could be in your room. Tell all your support system/family about what’s happening.I’m praying for you OP.
Don't just go to UNI office, go to the city police of whatever town it is and reported there too, and tell your family, if you have any uncles, brothers, or anyone let them KNOW. It is crucial to let everyone around you know, if you are close with any professors let them KNOW!! It is exhausting having to explain yourself, again, and again, and again but this what has to happen when UNI offices don't listen. ALSO MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT! I've been an RA before its BULLSHIT that they are making you wait a month to be moved. There are instances where there are emergency moves that can be made on campus. This is one of them, tell them you feel unsafe! Tell them you CANNOT wait a month, and if they do so, they will be liable for anything that may happen to you. I am so sorry this was not taking seriously, it is! DO NO take no for an answer when your wellbeing is one the line. Someone you talk to, family, professors, or friends will be able to help you, even if it's just to help advocate for you with you!
The craziest thing about watching “The Worst Ex Ever” is that me and my best friend watched the first episode together and then went to the movies to watch “Blink Twice” we were scared of men the whole night.
Blink twice fucked me up man
Ooo double feature 😅
just for the night? 😆
@@cathkindip5556 +1
@@cathkindip5556 That’s what I was thinking lol. Men are always scary because of how unpredictable they are.
One thing that’s taking me out is how little money people need to be bribed to do the most heinous shit like 20k to frame a woman and ruin her life and everything she worked so hard for and 2600 TO MURDER AN INNOCENT WOMAN AND TO FLEX ON SOME BONNIE AND CLYDE TYPE SHIT like it genuinely makes me sick
Yes and the people that Jerry bribed the 20k to frame her never even got paid lol
This was actually crazy, when the guy said he was paid 2400 dollars to kill someone, knowing full well that there were children in the house and that it "didn't change his decision"
right?!!
It’s insane. Here in South Africa it’s even worse. it’s reported that you can hire someone to kill for as little as R500 (around USD25). When I’m out alone or thinking of getting sassy with someone I just remember how cheap it may be for someone to take me out and decide to stfu. It’s really an indictment of humanity how little regard we have for each others lives. Scariest of times.
He really felt nothing about it, that lil sociopath was proud and accomplished afterwards, didn't give a FUCK
My ex rammed my head into a portable radiator heater. I had to get stitches. They handcuffing both of us because he too injured himself and lied on me. I never hit him or defended myself because I was little dazed. We didn’t go to jail but I did have to go to the emergency room because of my injuries. I was obviously the victim and my neighbor was trying to defend me but they still handcuffed me. I remember crying the entire time.
But when men try to report abuse it's "tHeRe'S nO way A wOmAn cOUld hUrT A mAn 🤨"
The GYMNASTICS! They will do! trying to be this fucking useless!!
I'm sorry this happenned to you, I hope you're recovering well and you have a good support system around you ❤
I hope you’re okay and safe now 💓
Jesus Christ. Men suck. I've been going through this comment section after being peaked by my abusive ex who is still stalking me (the police keep letting him go and I've been fighting for 3 years after escaping), and I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you're doing better, too. I wish I could hug you. I wish we could all be vigilantes, but the cops would arrest us faster than they would our abusers. Ugh. I hate this planet.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Wish you nothing but love and safety ❤
@@GreatColorsayo I hope you're doing okay! Stay safe ❤
I watched it last night and the first story was so so frustrating! why were most of the victims turned into the perpetrators??? the level of incompetence is astounding.
I think racism tbh
@@seers1942 true. ALOT of the victims who were put into police cars are woc. It's not cool and not fair. But yk, cops am'i'right?
@@seers1942 And misogyny.
The police are probably the same type of people as the abusers are. To imprison them would be punishing people just like them
Simona was in jail for LONGER than ben the 2nd time he was arrested ☠️ smoke coming out of my ears rn. Her charge? Absolutely nothing. His? Nearly killed 2 women to put it very lightly
I am happy this documentary exists. It ruined me emotionally but it puts into perspective what cops do most of the time you go to them with a case of domestic abuse instead of the fantasy we see in scripted shows. Cops don't keep us safe. The behavior in this documentary is PAINFULLY common. Really the norm.
I read a really interesting article once about how the police in shows like Law and Order SVU is the police force we wish existed: kind, compassionate, ever aware of survivors and on their side. That's one of the reasons the show is so successful: because it depicts the police as it should be, not as it is.
I mean, the article didn't go into details about the history of American police and its direct links to enforcing American slavery but, on the "believing survivors" front, I think it was correct.
@@delphinedelphinedelphine Meh, it shows a police force that the general (white middleclass suburban Nielsen-rating) public already believes exists. That's how propaganda works; it doesn't introduce _new_ ideas, it feeds the existing belief system.
Yeah this show was a great reminder of how fucked our Justice system is
Yup this show is a great reminder about how broken our justice system is
i didn’t watch it but i am mad. This is why victims never speak out or report things. Law enforcement doesn’t care unless you’re dead and even then,if you’re not a perfect victim your case will not be solved.
I spent years and years of my life wishing I was de*d, drowning my trauma in liquor, hoping that I would work up the courage to end it. My being an alcoholic (in recovery) means that I will never, ever be considered "good enough" to be a proper victim in their eyes (not that they did anything before either)
Too many cops are exactly the same kind of entitled bullies that think that they have the right to lord their will over other people. You know how high the police DV rate is? They have never been on our side, not really
I worked in social services and the way survivors called us before calling the police is real. I had cases where cops were the abusers, those were the hardest to prosecute. I lost survivors (killed by their abuser) only after they left. One year we lost maybe 8 women…who all left. So please be kind to survivors yall. Help them create safety plans.
My ex husband refused to leave my house , I had to move in with my parents for a few years. Now I'm back, in MY house , with my kids , and he's back to having no job, no car, and living in his mom's basement.
And that’s where he belongs. Good for you queen.
What a complete & utter loser. You’re such a strong person ❤
God thats so scary!!! I’m glad you got rid of him queen
I was brought to tears when Simona said she lost her business because of him….all this is heartbreaking but something about being SA’d, being thrown in jail and subsequently having your business snatched away is particularly painful.
I am sobbing at the thought but Punky being killed hurt so deeply. It’s the combo of her hating him to start, the killers being so nonchalant but young, this devil knowing the kids would be there…All the stories were horrid, not sure why this one was the one to make me sob. RIP Sally and Punky, all these lives stolen.
@lexi_catherine truly the layers to this travesty are too much!
It's not abnormal for women who are not victims of DV getting killed or harmed as collateral damage.
Im Portugal there's the case of Marta. This girl was 19 when she started dating a man in his 30s. They dated only for 3 months because he started to display controlling behavior so she ended thr relationship.
He tried to convince her to get back but she declined. So he went to her work place, a family's bakery where she worked with her cousin (another woman) with a gun and calling Marta out. Her cousin told him to go away or she was calling the police, meanwhile he went after Marta and her cousin tried to stop him. He immediately shot the cousin who died on the spot and then shot Marta in the head 2 times. Marta survived but was left as a vegetable, she has been recovering for years now and lives of people's donations to keep with therapy so relearned how to talk (struggles) and can walk few steps. She lives with the bullets in her head and she's dependent for the rest of her life, her mother had to quit her job to become her full time carer.
Her cousin wasn't a victim of DV and barely knew the perpetrator but she happened to be Marta's co-worker.
2 young lives ended that day, the guy caught 25 years in jail (max time in Portugal) and probably hes already out and still on time to live life. I'm sure the first thing he will do is download dating apps.
@@redleeks6253 yes, sadly very common. This is so tragic, and until we care about the ever high rates of femicide, this will continue.
Gramma Sally broke my heart but i cried with Punky 😭
The sad fact is a lot of law enforcement won’t do ANYTHING until someone dies 😒
The most recent example of this I've seen is of Lauren Johansen, where the court basically let her violent ex out on bond and used her address for his ankle monitor without verifying, and he kidnapped her...
WHAT... and I can't stress this enough, THE ACTUAL FUCK!!!!!!!!!!
Come again now?
Unacceptable
Excuse me WHAT
The justice system is so often more interested in protecting the status quo than it is in actually bringing about justice.
This video hit close to home for me. About 9 months ago I broke up with my abusive ex and was contacted by a group chat of his ex’s, all who had gone through similar abuse that I had. The most recent victim was underaged and the case was going to be held in my county and was asked if I’d like to be apart of taking him down, obviously, this is any victims dream so ofc I said yes. Only for the judge to look all 7 of us in the eyes to say he was only getting parole. (I have a restraining order against him and he still makes new numbers to call me, the courts do nothing obviously.)
I hate the justice system!
Funny how we get three strikes for carrying fun lettuce but unlimited strikes for beating women. Let’s start normalizing leaving an ounce in your abuser’s car and calling in a tip
Over 50 women joined together to eliminate their abuser/rapists in India.....just....saying 😅
His grandma!!!!! That sweet lady!! I did not expect that honestly
Right! Episode 3 absolutely broke me.
Please I watched this last night and it’s worse than the roommate one, makes you want to stay single since half the stuff happened after years of being together 😭
Also ACAB, “who are you gonna call when you need help” well clearly not the cops or I might go to jail or die 😭
'She's pointing a gun at me! I can't freeze!' - How stupid are these police officers to tell them to freeze instead of telling her to drop the gun?
THATS WHAT IM SAYING AND THEN THEY TASE HIM… like how incompetent are these cops bro???
The doc didn't make it clear that they saw her and they found the gun in her pocket when they searched her outside. But he was running AWAY from them into another room but not out of the house, so why tase him at all??
And the female officer said when he was in the back of the police car he was yelling to every officer who WALKED BY that they did something to his grandma. Looked like she was the only one who listened at first. Ugh.
This man was traumatised. The way he was breaking down when he recalled he would give full custody to Rose at gunpoint.😢😢😢 We should look out for men
Every time I see a survivor I breathe a sigh of relief.
"oh but if we didn't have cops, who would solve the murders?" how about you do your job so that situations don't escalate to murder??? how about you do what you're supposed to an PROTECT people?! what do you mean you can't take a couple hours to accompany a woman to her home, and make sure someone actively threatening her isn't still there? how about you do a check the next day to make sure she's still safe? what is the purpose of cops except terrorize people?
Literally Reddit solved murders better than said cops. So suck it!
Watch any kind of true crime stuff, and you'll see cops only want to do about 1/3 to 1/2 of the work they're supposed to do. The portion they don't want to do is arguably the most important: detective work. They don't want to help people if it means they have to do any investigating. It's WILD. You choose that profession (at this point, we know why), but you 100% come into it not wanting to do ALL of the damn job. Or you come into it and let others convince you not to do your damn job.
I had a cop say to my face that they weren't even going to bother looking up the license plate of this guy's car because he could have been borrowing someone else's car. Then talk to them! Investigate! This guy stalked me, knew where I live & work, and committed a s*x crime! Do your effing job! ACAB
As someone who went through stuff like this unfortunately seeing your and yalls anger is so validating and somewhat healing to know that other ppl know things like this are wrong and real
Everyone say ‘Thank You Kennie!’ for watching and reviewing all of the mediocre Netflix films/tv series so we don’t have to. Thank you for your service queen! ❤
🫡💕
we don't have to anyway but ok
Thank you kennie ‼️
This one isn’t mediocre it’s very good
This isn't a mediocre show. Its a serious documentary.
This really isn't surprising, given most cops are violent against their own spouses. Absolutely insane.
Yeah they tend to be some of the worst abusers bc they absolutely know that no one is going to stop or arrest the offficer....ever. Imagine the horrors that polices women and children go through. They dont do shit bc they know if they are in the busibess of stopping abuse eventually they themselves will have to stop abusing people.
My abusive ex stepfather had been a police officer that had multiple questionable shootings(he bragged he did it just because he wanted to)and went to prison for kidnapping a man to torture him for days. He went to jail for that because he was off duty. He engaged in DV with his first wife when he was a police officer and with my mom/us as a parole officer. The fact that he managed to become a parole officer after going to jail still shocks me. I do not trust any police officers ever now.
@@alexacarrillo4339 I'm sorry that happened to you. And that is absolutely insane that he was able to get a job as a parole officer after going to jail. This is a perfect example of why policing needs to be reformed.
@@antihistamine I hate what he and his police friends did to me which I won’t get into because it is just too much but I often think of how he abused the people he was checking up on as a parole officer. I dread knowing what they endured because I could have talked and gotten him in trouble which created a limit but parolees are even more vulnerable.
This reminds me of the time I went to the police to report my ex who had cut me with a knife (nothing terrible just my hand but still). I wasn't gonna do it bc I don't trust police to do jackshit, but his own dad called me to tell me to report him or he will do it for me so I did. In the like hour and a half I was at the police station to report him, only 3 other ppl came in to also report stuff. All 3 were women all three were reporting some kind of assault or harassment by a man. And unsurprisingly all 4 of us left with nothing. They said they couldn't do anything for me except take my statement so if he does it again there will be proof it's not the first time. A little girl who was getting followed home by a stranger on her way back from school for like 2 weeks was told that well he didn't technically do anything yet so can't do anything. That one pissed me the fuck off bc wdym you're gonna wait for this little girl to get assaulted or kidnapped before getting off your ass.
A cut with a knife is something terrible. Something that could've easily escalated to a stabbing the next incident. Glad to hear his dad supported you and that he's your ex now. Stay safe!
there definitely needs to be a law that says that following someone without consent IS ACRIME
Don’t downplay it. Any injury to your body is a BIG deal. The police make you feel it isn’t. ❤
That is crazy about the little girl. Like, you could hang out on her walk home, easy pick up, scare the guy off or find him doing something arrest worthy like having rope in his side seat, public indecency, or even another kid in the back. You could be a hero and it’s right there waiting - but no, too full of apathy
@@dirtyprancing5930 So now the little girl has TWO stalkers?
10:25 - that too just sent me into a rage. no one should be SO afraid of their abuser that they’re afraid to step into their own home……. holy f**k.
I felt so personally spoken to. I had a similar experience ("just" verbal abuse) but he also made me afraid to come home.
Thank you Kennie for saying these things I needed to hear back then!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
Them wanting to have kids immediately is DEFINITELY a red flag because you are tied to that person forever and they know they can use it to abuse you through the children and the system help them with the abuse. That’s why some women sign away their parental rights to save themselves from the abuser since the court system refuses to keep the children away from the abuser.
Episode 2: I’m from Nassau County, that is exactly how they do things. They could have solid evidence you didn’t do it and still say you did. There are a lot of innocent people locked up. The feeling of shock disappeared as soon as you said that
It really is Fuck You the DocuSeries because the police basically is saying "Fuck You" to these people until the last minute.
I'm glad they covered a man's DV situation also. This is not exclusive to women. That said the thing that really really REALLY broke my heart was when Rose or whomever said "your grandma is in the garage". And it wasn't a lie. Just fucking sad
The woman's case was very different. She didn't want anything with the man or was cheating on him or was trying to keep him in abusive relationship.
It most looks like she hated him but was being pressured to have a child. She got married, had the child but didn't want to stay with her husband or keep subjecting him to abuse.
It's not a typical case of domestic violence but murder of due to child custody.
@redleeks6253 ...are you really trying to sympathize with the killer??
@@redleeks6253Are you forgetting that Rose literally tried to HIT ERIC a few months into their relationship? She wasn’t an innocent victim trapped within her circumstances, she was a serial liar and abuser who conspired with her mother to kill her ex husband for custody.
appalled but not shocked by the police not doing anything
I love when Russet pops up and is like, “Yeah!”
kennie: "but yeah thats episode 1"
me: one?! THAT WAS ONE EPISODE? NO I'M NOT OK
The incompetence doesn't even stop there. I love hearing unsolved mysteries, but after a while you notice a pattern. A lot of these unsolved mysteries over the years can be blamed on police incompetence or corruption tbh.
I think what's so frustrating about these is that across the board there are so many places where if someone had taken DV or these people's safety seriously it wouldn't have escalated to a point where someone was dead or been seriously injured. I've known people who have gotten out of abusive relationships where the ex is stalking them, harassing them, one had sabotaged their car and the police basically said they just weren't taking the break up well but they couldn't do anything until he'd done something worse. And it's like when? When she's dead or hospitalized you can step in but you can't do something about a man calling his ex on a burner phone because she keeps blocking his number to scream at her about where she is because he drove past her house at 11 PM and her car isn't there? When he lives and works in a different city altogether and has no reason to be at her house in the first place other than to stalk her? The legal system can just be incredibly frustrating.
Those are the consequences of trying to bave relationships with men of any kind.
Usually women aren't killed or harmed by gang members or serial killers or anything like that.
Domestic violence is the main cause of serious injury in women and more than half of female victims of homicide are murdered by partners or ex partners.
In both 2 episodes we have a pattern of women letting a man who was boyfriend or just a fuckbuddy into their homes.
Episode 1:
Girlfriend takes boyfriend inside her house (a man obsessed with guns and knives..charmer). He attacks her. Then she sees him around the house and instead of calling someone she lets him in. I believe the woman was lying when she said he popped up after her (she probably let him in)..and then years after he comes with apologies and she lets him in again.
Then the second woman, who's not serious, just a fuckbuddy, and allows him in her house when he gets unemployed. Free puxi, free house and free service? This man has family why didn't he ask for help to his family? She ended up captive and beaten in her own house.
3rd case:
Another woman decides to allow her coworker, a fuckbuddy, inside her house. Then gets him fired. Again, i dont think she became suspicious of the urine favor but probably found out he was seeing/flirting other women and got him fired. He was inside the house waiting for her. Come on..shes dating a serial kidnapper, Domestic abuser, tells her boss and gets him fired and goes back at the home she leaves unlocked?
I've made mistakes too. Living abroad and letting a man inside my apartment because he was helping me without even going to his place first. But my boss and coworkers knew him and the place i lived had reception and cameras. This was in china so if he killed me he would get life sentence. I was also his dirty little secret so i was never a threat because i was in other town and never tried to contact anyone.
So nobody in his social circle knew i existed.
Ofc these types of men lurk on dating apps and i was a very vulnerable target as foreigner and knew to the city without much English...still in a country where even dogs assholes have cameras.
i'd also like to add that not all abusers are all caps crazy like this. That kind of constant low level abuse that is always present but cannot be articulated to friends/family/authorities is so so dangerous. And it can always escalate to violence.
"Do you love humanity? Would you like to stop?" made me straight up cackle
This is the video I want the people who say back the blue to see. The fact that it truly depends on who is helping you that day. The police really be so incompetent 🤦♀️
Daily reminder: these kinds of people don’t change (for the better), they get worse.
my aunt fainted in court out of sheer anxiety and fear when she had to physically be there to press charges against her abusive ex
cops don't do a shit, a local women's shelter did more for her than they ever did
(she's doing really well now, independent and happy, thank goodness)
yea happens all the time. so many women ini jail for killing or harming their abuser...acaaaab literally all and always. true crime is traumatizing omg
That man's cry was gut wrenching. We really got to do a better job with policing and mental health in this country.
Let’s all remember why the police force was created… 👀 iykyk
Yep..... :/
Why?
@Olivetree144 slaves catcher...
@@Olivetree144to catch slaves
@@Olivetree144 catching runaway slaves
Bruh the Guyanese lady from NY…that ish was wild and $2,000,000 is NOT enough
will never forget when i was being stalked and the cop, who came to my job after the guy had shown up there and was sitting there while i was in shock in the back office, said to me verbatim: "well, we could wait until he does something to get you a protective order, but i'll be honest with you. a piece of paper won't stop a bullet or a knife."
He wasn't wrong, unfortunately. Protective orders generally do very little against individuals with a history of violence and/or an increased likelihood to become so in the future (i.e. stalkers). They're more useful for limiting social access to you and providing crucial evidence for any potential future court cases if they escalate, which, categorically, they're likely to do. Basically, it could help you put them behind bars, but it certainly won't guarantee your safety until then. Quite the opposite, in many cases. Also, laws regarding stalking in the U.S. aren't always comprehensive enough to be helpful until the stalker has attempted to harm the victim. For good reason, to be fair, but by that point it's often too late.
@@424strawberry i'm aware. that's why i'm still upset about it six years later.
@@leylamam Totally fair. The current legislation is grossly insufficient, yet there’s limited room to expand its protections given our constitutional ethics. Assault prosecutions also echo this issue. It all sucks. Idk what the ethical solution would be, but I know I’d be pissed too.
The second episode was a nightmare she was in there for ALMOST TWO HUNDRED DAYS with ONLY WITNESS TESTIMONIES, NO EVIDENCE, COUNTER EVIDENCE, AND THEN THEY LOCKED UP THE GUY WHO TRIED TO COME FORWARD ABOUT THE SCHEME!!!!
I’m with Russet when she said “WHAT?” and “Ew”. Girl I agree
My friend went to the police station a day or two after an SA and they ended up threatening to put HER in custody because she was "aggressive" and wanted to leave the police station because it was obvious they didnt believe her or cared. Some of the police officers were women which is even more aggravating.
I was furious watching this show. I've had my own issues with the cops. I was arrested for something that my crazy ex did. I was put in the local news and lost my job. It took almost 3 years for the truth to come out and for me to be released of all wrong doing but of course the news didn't release that information.
Watched this show with my boyfriend last night and we literally were so shocked it was traumatic. We had to watch a silly show afterwards to not go to bed traumatized. Bro the system is a joke wtf. 😭
Rule #1: NEVER GO BACK!!!
Rule #2: Go to rule #1
Get firearm training and a gun with a fingerprint trigger lock
it's easier said than done. and people still listen to Chris Brown...
@@delphinedelphinedelphine Who do they have to blame?
I watched a bodycam the other day of a guy breaking in to two places and he got 20 years. Imagine only 2 years time served for kidnapping, torture and arguably attempted murder. Disgusting. DV and SA are never treated the way they should be. I dont understand
Cops are not legally obligated to protect and serve the public- the Supreme Court said so. They're only obligated to protect property
Russet's little head popping up is so needed. Cutie
Not this show supporting my notion to not date while I'm trying to heal my trauma. But also just frightening that people like this exist
Media like this is why I sort of stopped watching true crime anything. It got to where I was just getting incredibly angry about the lack of competency from the police and the idea the only thing they can punish is when the woman is murdered.
I just don’t like how desensitized people are to true crimes… like I saw a lady that told murders/ true crimes stories while putting on makeup!? It’s truly bizzare…
After Sandy Hook and Uvalde, I went down a rabbit hole and found a Legal Eagle video that cited Town of Castle Rock v. Gonzales (also found another case DeShaney v. Winnebago County) that stated that the police are not legally obligated to protect and serve. Definitely changed my perception of the role of police in instances of abuse
So what are the cops for?!
I was looking for this comment. Sure, *"NoT alL COps", and I'll currently still say call 911 in emergencies, but it is so depressing to see our state of emergency services. They need less intensive training to become police officers than it takes to do hair.
Yes, I don’t remember the specific court cases but I learned about this after watching a true crime video about a man who went a rampage in NYC. Killed a woman who had rejected him and then went on the run car-jacking, injuring and killing people throughout NYC. He finally made his way to the subway where multiple police officers identified him but hid instead of trying to stop him. Despite them having guns and him having a knife. He then attacked the T driver and I think someone else. The T driver apprehended him.
I remember reading about how the police did nothing and thinking how ridiculous that was and that they should be fired. But, nope. He went on to sue where his case was thrown out because PO are not required to protect civilians. And the previous Supreme Court cases were referenced.
@@NurseKayPi remember that! Wasnt far from my neighborhood. Certain jurisdictions here are completely incompetent. 😑
What the hell?! That’s exactly like if these useless cops accidentally did their jobs, got shot doing it, they got taken to the hospital and the doctor said „Well do you know what organ the bullet hit? No? Then why are you bothering me?“
Yes!
You definitely hit a note now that in a NYC subway they went after a guy who avoided subway fare and not only shot him and 2 bystanders but also shot another cop while doing it
I didn't watch this because Netflix, but this little summary got me hot. RIP grandma, RIP Punky and 2 million was not enough
Listening to the first case and I’m from Oregon. I remember it being everywhere at the time.
I really feel for these women and the guy Eric. I was stalked by an ex for years and he only stopped because he went to prison for unaliving someone else. Police don’t do anything until someone passes it’s so sad that I wouldn’t even want to call them if I was in danger
Rename that documentary "Cops aint Sh!t"
You can say shit don’t censor yourself
@@CanIswearinmyhandle TH-cam deletes certain peoples’ comments if they curse or write somethings.
@@iammar1159 no they don’t
@@CanIswearinmyhandle idgaf.... i like the way sh!t looks more...
@@CanIswearinmyhandlesometimes they do but it also depends on what the channel blocks/filters.
Seemona’s story PISSED ME OFF. The whole time I was like I can’t wait for her to SUE THE SHIT out of everyone involved. All of the stories were infuriating but hers was absolutely ridiculous. If you framed me and I was in jail for a year don’t worry about the law! I’ll take care of it myself, at least then I’ll be in jail for a good reason 🤷🏽♀️
What I have learned from watching true crime:
1. Police investigate crime they do not stop it
2. Police are bad at investigating crime
I'm only 7 minutes into your summary and I'm already furious.
That third case reminded me so much of the documentary Dear Zachary. I am glad it didn't end up the same way, though it's cruel they went after his grandma :(
Great documentary especially if you wanna get real fucking sad
tw: DV mention, DV homicide mention
Not sure if I could adequately articulate how hearing your frustration makes me feel as someone who lost a dear and close cousin to DV m*rder/s*icide with a firearm. Relief is the first word that comes to mind, but I guess vindication would be a closer match. My cousin was killed four years ago on the 21st of August and we celebrated her on the anniversary last weekend, and this weekend my family was part of a sort-of conference to raise awareness for DV victims and their families. So all of that together and then this video comes out....yeah I can't say how much it both hurts deeply and feels amazing to hear others be so upset and wanting real justice for DV victims/DV families. My cousin's name is Gabby and I miss her dearly. She left a daughter behind who just started high school this year and I wish she was here to see her baby get older. 💜
Sending you and your family warm thoughts. RIP Gabby and thank you for your awareness work
If you want something to simmer down for the next video, a Tubi movie called ‘Blood, Sweat, and Cheer would make for a good bad movies and a beat.
There’s also a similar series that’s been out called “worst roommate ever” and it’s literally more cases of “cops AND the legal system don’t do shit for no one”
Worst Roommate Ever next? Oh boyyy that will piss you off too.
As an animation student those animations look great! I was 1. Not expecting animation 2. Thinking that it would look cheap and bad
But it looks so cool im glad they did that. Might have to watch the show just for animation. But it would make me so mad idk if i can do it
This is the same studio who did Worst Roommate Ever and when I tell you, the police will fail you EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!! These stories are heart breaking.
The more I watch true crime, it’s impossible to not realize that most unsolved and /or preventable crimes are due to insufficient police/detective/DA, etc work. It’s incompetence that is present across the board. It’s real bad
when i was watching the documentary, i wanted to pull my eyes and bash my head against the wall. MY GODDDDDDD 😭😭
Its sad when a young person loses their life to senseless violence, but making it to 80 to be murdered in a convoluted scheme of your grandson's in-law, is tragic.
as someone who studied domestic violence... not surprised honestly. It's like hearing the same stories over and over again in a different font
15:02 on first watch I thought you said “he sh!t himself and succumbed to his wounds” and then I realized you mean pew pew’d himself not poo poo’d himself.
16:17 no, I am not 🤢
I'm not either
This is literally why I’ve sworn off men. And there are so many other women who feel as though they’re better off single. If they can not drastically add to your life then I believe they are not worth it.
Well i can understand this. Sometimes i feel the same way about women. Ive been catfished several times and had women just treat me borderline abusive. Hope you have a good time being single.
@@HalasterBlackCloak-u2w
Yeah I think it’s perfectly okay for people of all genders to seek fulfillment outside of dating. It’s truly based on how everyone individually values romantic love.
And for some, the trauma from past relationships or plain life experiences outweighs the want/desire to gamble on person after the other, after the other. All just to get an experience of love, lust or affection that /many/ cannot sustainably provide another human being, let alone themselves.
Like this documentary shows, women and men can both be out to do no good to others and unfortunately the ones who aren’t like that have to share the world with irrational people who are led by their whims.
The cops completely ignored the black girl in the first episode. I lost my mind when she let him come back but if law enforcement gaslights you into thinking you're in the wrong then what do you expect?