Hey everyone! I just want to specify that my first paycheck was $2,300 a month, not biweekly. That’s not a livable wage. Also, though I am not married, I don’t think teaching would have allowed me to be a good partner because I was always tired and grumpy. So, even if married, I would not have been able to stay in the profession with dual income due to the mental and physical impact. From the outside looking in, I was like a zombie. Just barely making it day by day. I feel so much happier since leaving and I nearly have a nightmare anytime I drive by a school.
Think it's every where. Am a teacher in Africa and I have been thinking about stopping 😢it's draining 😞 Of course there are certain pupils who are a joy but most of them are just something else. Been a teacher for 6years and am tired 😢😢😢
@@agapeshekinah4444 I naively thought that students behavior was much better abroad. I’m sorry to hear this. What do you think is the cause of the misbehavior in your country?
The children blame the children!! Blame the parents!! God forbid you wake up and recognize these parents and children are living without the guarantee of a government paycheck and instead are largely living with housing insecurity, no fathers, mothers working overtime to barely survive. If the officials werent so pressured to be concerned with war$ and gender/sex BS and taking care of the rest of the world, maybe, just maybe they would be supporting American families and communities! Get your head out of the government's arse. You're eating what they pass you from other people's blood and poop and have nerve to blame the people under you beat and starving.
@brooklynqueen7089- I agree, especially Asia and Africa. In America Asians (including India) and Africans tend to be the better and more focused students. I have many friends from different countries in Africa and ALL of their children are extremely successful. I’m talking lawyer,, doctor, engineering, business owner, etc. Also, my friends from Africa and their husbands did not play when it came to education.
i'm a highschool student and i 100% feel the same way about the disrespect towards teachers. the kids in my class swear, say disrespectful and offensive things, fight, etc, and everything gets swept under the rug by the principal or they get punished and then do it over and over again. it's one of the reasons why i am switching to online school
unfortunately it’s so common for kids to disrespect teachers. In highschool I had a teacher with a heavy Indian accent and students would mock and make fun of her and took her less seriously. its sad.
I'm a student and I want to say from the very bottom of my heart that I am sorry to all teachers that out generation is like this. I've wanted to be a teacher my entire life, but I've seen and heard about so much horrible situations I'm not even sure it'd be worth it.
@@thatgirl5630my brother teaches special education. He has been manhandled by students and had his eye sliced open. Administration did not do anything to support him and from what he has described it sounds absolutely horrifying. Nobody treats teachers like humans. Be careful. I thought about being a teacher as well. No thanks.
You are the reason why we teach :) I can’t tell you what to do, that’s for you to decide, but as a teacher, and a young one who feels sometimes more like an older sibling mentor to her students, I want to say, the kind ones like you, make my day and are the reason I’ve stuck around for 5 years. I don’t know how many more I can do, but the few who tell me they feel for me, and show respect, and remind me that they care, are the reason I feel purpose and haven’t given up on the job yet. Please tell your real life teachers this too! On rough days, a little kind comment, email, or note, has made me tear up, and made my day!
@@katiec8844 AWW this is so sweet of you to say!! I promise you I will! 😭😭Teachers are really awesome for what they do and I appreciate what you do so much :D
That sounds familiar. Smh. I guess people don’t really want to acknowledge it or talk about it because they don’t have a solution…. Or don’t want to come up with one…
Yes it’s only when we decide to speak up that many are called negative to people don’t realize that it takes time for a person to speak up and say something after not saying anything for so long
I recall students with behavior issues being sent to the principal’s office and sent back to class. The principal would ask them, “ are you ready to make good choices?” The student replies,”yes” and commences to acting up again. Lol that is an example of toxic positivity
I hate how admin always sugarcoats their language. Don't say "make good choices", tell them to behave themselves. It's not "challenging behaviors", it's poor behavior. They don't have a "chaotic home life", they have derelict parents.
I was a math major in college. I had aspirations of becoming a teacher. I did one clinical and said, “no, this isn’t for me”. I changed to engineering and all my math credits went to my degree. I’m an electrical engineer now. I do not regret my decision.
I used to be a Pre-K teacher, and all of the points you made are eerily similar to my own experiences. I had kids that were five years old that couldn't tell me their last names, their parents' names, their ABC's, were not potty trained, and the behavioral issues were absolutely out of control to the point of being dangerous and violent. Administration applied toxic positivity to my concerns, and eventually told me, "All that's important is that they stay alive." This class was supposed to prepare these children for public school, and with no help from admins or parents, I eventually had to throw my hands up and leave. Parents, teach your children basic life and educational skills, or you will be caring for them in their twenties. You can't grow out of neglect.
The people who raised me were pathologically mentally unstable, physically and emotionally abusive, etc…yet they still made sure I knew my home address, knew how to spell their very complicated German last name in case I needed to tell a helpful authority figure in case I got lost, knew all that kinda stuff. They really didn’t like me, but they liked me enough to make sure I had a basic grasp on how to navigate social environments for survival purposes and that a classroom is public place where everyone deserves respect and kindness. I cannot imagine what sort of pressure parents are under, especially these days. I am not a parent and I do not plan to be. But I also cannot imagine having children and then just abandoning them to point where they are unable to function in society or even in their own lives on even the most basic of levels.
It’s very sad because the good teachers get ran out, then the kids are stuck with the ones who fuel their hatred for school, that don’t support them in the way they need, so they grow up to continue disrespecting teachers.
I left teaching after 1 year High school math teacher. I was young 23 years old. School was a jungle I love maths and wanted to make scholars out these kids. The classes were too big- over 25 students. The kids were hormonal and disrespectful. And the dean and principal did not support me and this was my first job, and dealing with these rude kids- the had no consequences- no detention, nothing
I had subbed for 2 years prior but it was one and done for me, too (1 year as permanent classroom teacher). They were even pressuring me to teach summer school and considering extending the school day 1 hour for the coming year! As if I wasn't completely exhausted already. During my first year, one teacher quit after 3 days, another after one. And the winner was a long-term sub who left for lunch only to call back and say she wasn't coming back. Really. She wouldn't even return to finish the school day. She had had more than enough! 😂 Because I decided not to return the following year, the principal refused to write me a letter of recommendation, even though she had provided me with a written contract offer to return, including a raise, and had given me marks of distinction on my evaluation. . . She took it personally. She also refused to recommend a very bright student from my class to attend an accelerated school because it would decrease 'her numbers.' A real piece of work, she was.
I was a teacher for 26 years. Should have walked away years ago. It literally has ruined my health. I have been “retired” since 2021 and when I come across videos like these, I always want to leave a comment to say that you made a great decision. Never look back. ❤. Best wishes for a successful future.
@@lovekesiashaniThank you for being honest about the toxic positivity and the" cliques" among staff! Yes, it is a form of bullying. If you speak the truth, you are viewed as an instigator and alienated.
I taught for 33 years and absolutely loved my job! However, like you, I should have retired long before I did. Like you, the stress ruined my health. I retired in March of 2018 and it took almost three years for me to totally recover and not take naps during the day. I was completely exhausted. I thought I would enjoy subbing after retirement but to this day I do not want you to go near a classroom.
You are absolutely right! My sister taught for 35 years. She passed away 6 years after retirement. She always use to say “ We have no idea what is going to be unleashed on our society.” She almost lost her life teaching High School! The kids poured oil on the floor, and she slipped, fell and hit her head on a desk. She was carried out by ambulance. She was out for over 2 months. Her principal NEVER CALLED HER TO SEE HOW SHE WAS DOING!!! You have chosen yourself and your well being over teaching. I personally am a retired Kindergarten teacher. I taught 12 years and left the profession. I certainly can speak to this topic. God bless you going forward, and I wish you the very best! ❤
Wow! Thank you for sharing your story ❤ I am sorry about the loss of your sister. That is bonkers that her admin never checked in on her 😢 that really sunk in with me that you need to take care of yourself, these leadership teams do not care about us!
In 1967 my father was a high school teacher. He left after 2 years of teaching because there was so many problems- outdated text books from the 1930s, administration did not care students acted out or skipped class. My dad brought these issues up, and they told him "not every student is meant to succeed." My dad left and joined the military. He said many times that they are letting publuc schools get so bad that no one will want to teach so the govt has an excuse to shut down public schools for good and keep the federal money spent on them. He said this in the 80s and it makes sense because look at how bad it is everywhere at every school.
Funny this took place in the 80s, iphone didn't even EXIST in the 80s. Phones are one of the greatest sources of entropy in the public school system, as it is the root of almost ALL problems there.
This reminds me of the movie Lean On Me, where the state wanted to take over the school. However, I don't understand what your dad was saying about the goal being to shut down schools altogether. What would come after that? They don't want parents homeschooling their kids. They want to control our kids' education.
Not only these problems happen in high school; they take place in middle school, and even in some adult classes. People are people, wherever you go. Take it from me!❤
It's really is like that here as a highschool student 😢, I'm not kidding some students would just go to online school just to be kept sane. It's so hard to watch the disrespect every day with the same people with no change.
@@nb0009 Also, misbehavior happens in employment training programs and elsewhere in places where adults are supposed to be real examples of learning properly. I believe that the lessons in the adult classrooms are "controlled."
@@captainkeyboard1007oh, I agree. The lessons are a lot more controlled than teaching spaces for K-12. Adults are also likely paying to participate so they behave better. Not always, but still. I couldn’t imagine how annoying toxic positivity would be while dealing with ungovernable children AND their parents.
@@nb0009 Your comment reminds me of my promotion from elementary school to junior high school in 1965. When I entered junior high school, I saw lots of misbehavior from the "new" students that I never saw at elementary school. Boys and girls smoked cigarettes on the school grounds; children made loud sounds in the classroom during lessons; they cursed at the teachers, and behaved insubordinately like employees spoke to employers with angry voices. Nearly all of the bad students lived in the hellhole part of East New York, where the broken houses, crooked sidewalks, and squalid stores were found to be. According to the statement, "No one is perfect," that means that grownups make mistakes Some people make mistakes so much that their sins appear to be done deliberately, as in on purpose. I saw this problem when I was a child. However, I trusted the grownup as a grownup, when I needed to learn to trust Gracious Great God with that same strength. I know that there are teachers and school faculty members who do go wrong. Others like transit workers, policemen and policewomen, physicians, lawyers, storekeepers, government leaders, and all the rest go wrong. "As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one. There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, one." Romans 3:10-12. I leave you with one more caveat: "There is no fear of God before their eyes." Romans 3:18. Today, people continue to call right "wrong," and wrong "right." Thank you for typing to me.
I am not a teacher but as a nurse I can tell you that many of the problems you encounter in the classroom are directly related to how kids are raised nowadays. I do respect teachers a lot. All the best with your new endeavors.
Me, too. I still respect older people, teachers, police, my health care practitioners, and others who are in charge in their places. Fortunately, I have not lost my good-old fashioned manners, even though I do not have chances to practice them to everyone in the general public. Good manners work nicely for me, including at church. I am blessed that I am living at the age of 71 years old.❤
@@Crowski In many homes, parents obey their children. That is how the children become too valuable in the eyes of their parents to withstand every kind of punishment meted out to them.
@@captainkeyboard1007honestly I don't think it's like that. the parents don't obey the children, the children don't obey the parents, and the children aren't valuable to the parents. that's exactly why these children turn out like this, because the parents don't care about them. some of them do see their kids super valuable as you're saying, but they don't care enough to actually shape the child into a decent person. it's sad they'd rather pay money for an iPad than to pay nothing to love their child properly. they don't seem to care enough to make any consequences or simply aren't even there at all. I've known kids who lived with their grandparents because their dads out of the picture and their mom went to jail
@@dreamofmaizie You may be surprised to know that in some [American] families the parents subject themselves to the whims and wishes the children express. When the children do not get what they want, they cry out tantrums and outbursts. The parents do not discipline them the way I would have been disciplined such as with a stern scolding, perhaps a slap on the face or the backside just above my buttocks, even denied a privilege. Some parents even speak obscene language to their children, expected to know everything, as though they were born with instinct like animals. Little children are raised collegiately, instead of being given the proper discipline and correction needed for their age. Perhaps I am not a father, but you and I have seen so much through the years. Thank you for typing to me.
@@kadesamcgowen8799mostly women because women are nurtures. They have need to want to care. I’ve had male teachers, they were made fun of too and burned out. The problem is the parents of the students.
@@Douglass10 they’re talking about difference in regards to how much teachers are paid. if the majority of teachers were men, they’d be making way more than teachers are making now.
I was at Lowe's shopping for flowers probably about a month ago and one of my children's past teachers came up to say hello. His exact words were, if all the children were well behaved like yours, I would still be teaching today. I quickly realized he was an employee at Lowe's. I felt like this poor man was willing to work anywhere but education. My heart really went out to him. I was taught respect and passed this on also to my kids. I am in my late 30s and remember kids being so mean to the nicest teachers. I would get so frustrated as an eager to learn child, that these misbehaving kids were messing up my learning time. My children also come home and voice their concerns how they feel so bad for their teachers. I also wanted to add cellphones have no need at school. So many children are way too young for them. Look how children back in the day survived without them. I'm so happy for you that found what your callimg was. I can guarantee you're going to help a lot of people.
@@lindsayb1329 Wow. It really is heartbreaking that he would rather work anywhere else than education but this is what it has come to. I can tell that you are a great mom.
This is so saddening and unfortunate that the teachers aren't getting paid their worth and then on top of that not being appreciated or protected by the administration! AMEN!
And cliques are also big in education. And when you refuse to be in their clique, you’re attacked passive aggressively. And it is frustrating witnessing these people get praised as heroes by the public when behind the scenes you know how evil these “educators and leaders” are
@@anitaknight3915 Get yourself in a classroom full of 25 kids then tell us about it....counseling, SS, EMT and nursing you can at least go pee or drink water but if u are in a locked classroom full of 20 something kids all vying for your attention while you are teaching while administration is constantly demanding you complete paperwork and turn it in immedialy (while you are still juggling all 20 some kids in class) then lunch comes and you have duty stay standing up in the cafeteria taking care of 80 some kids take em outside and eat your lunch while walking around then get back to class then teach again....only teachers will know....not teacher aides, not secretaries in school ONLY a teacher will know how terrible it is....WHY?? because the teacher is the one with the responsibility of working full time and completing the overload of paperwork while in class and at home....teacher aides and secretaries who work in school only put in the day watching kids and leave at the end of the day and that is that....but teachers stay late and go home and continue with grading, posting grades online, calling parents, preparing for the following day.......then add on weeekends spend your money on buying items for class and kids....etc etc....horrible
“Lack for respect for authority” has to be the number one issue in most school settings. I’m not a school teacher, but have sat in many high school classrooms as a RN with student(s) who either had diabetes or seizures; requiring 1:1 monitoring. This lady is telling the truth! Public high school settings are especially toxic and brutal! Teens say and do as they please… Notifying parent(s) is a waste of time bc it usually inflames the situation. “The fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree.” I pray that you will receive emotional, physical, and spiritual healing. Thank you for sharing. God bless you. Ann (Retired RN)
This same matter also applies to middle school that may also be called intermediate school or junior high school. Yet, it may seep into primary school. Kesia seems to be a very fine lady, much like yourself. I am not a teacher nor a faculty member in a school, but I am blessed to mention that I learned my basic manners in elementary school, and they work wonderfully for me nearly everywhere I go. Gracious Great God has blessed me very much in this 2024 year to be 71 years old.
Former student lol and your right most kids do not respect authority but that’s on the teacher to degree most teachers aren’t connecting with students they are treating their job as a job not as if their a mentor to young people, subconsciously the students know the teachers don’t care so they get disrespected
There is a lack of respect, hope, compassion, and degradation of morality. The systems are collapsing and the family unit is broken down which transfers over to the classroom. Helping professionals are burned out and have severe compassion fatigue. These jobs are a calling for most but not sustainable for anyone's health.
Counter-claim: your first point about the pay: even with the low pay as a married woman, this job still SUCKS. I am married, and he can provide all of our needs BUT as an educator since 2008, I REFUSE to go back into the classroom. Even if they increase the pay, I refuse to go back. I will fold cardigans at Target before I go back into the classroom. I just want to you hear from the "other side" of marital status, so that you won't think that once you get married, it won't be so bad...because it won't. Girl, pray and ask the Lord to guide you ANYWHERE but a classroom! lol I hope that all of this doesn't come off pretentious, because I sincerely mean it. I have struggled with whether or not to return, and now...I REFUSE.
I feel the same way. The money is not worth the health risks that come along with the job. I choose to be healthy. That means staying away from certain environments.
@nappyashley The custodians at my school had it better than me as a teacher where I used to teach. Better than me in every respect...pay, hours, working conditions.
Emphasis on anywhere but a classroom!! I quit in 2019 went back and it was a terrible mistake left in 2022. I pray I NEVER enter a classroom as mine EVER again 🙏🏾
I am not a teacher, I am an office worker in pest control and the most interaction I have with any kids/teenagers is the super market/fast food or company parties with coworkers families. I am, however, very invested in this struggle that teachers face as someone who does hiring. I have people come in who have graduated in the past couple years and they cannot read past a 5th grade level and cannot hold a pencil correctly(these are people with no limitations keeping them from doing so). I know there are bad teachers, there's bad apples is any profession, but there is no way that all the teachers in America are this bad. There isn't an education system, it's a baby sitting system where you bide your time until you pass them off to the next person.
Its bc public schools lose funding when they hold back students and actually discipline them. The state goes, 'students are failing to pass? Must be the fault of the school' and reduces funding. when so many schools are already either underfunded or their funds are grossly misallocated (or both!) so any kind of reduction in funds is a huge blow. So instead of holding kids back they just pass them on and their issues are never resolved. Technically kids can get held back but only if their parents request it and so many dont give a fuck. Were failing a whole generation man its insane.
I signed up to be a substitute teacher. I accepted one assignment for a kindergarten class and that was my first and last day. The problem was the teachers ( looking at me as if I’m competition and it was my own race that was doing this )and the students ( just bad as h*ll) it was horrible. I can’t imagine years of this 😩
@@MaydayMay91 It’s very hurtful when you expect people who look like you to have your back and they don’t. I’ve experienced this, too. I learned to not have any expectations of people. They make their own choices and I made my choice to leave. Just like you did. Good for you for doing what was best for you.
@@chanyoung3725 My experience as an elementary school teacher was the unreal expectations of the parents. I can deal with children because there is sincere ignorance with children. You can help children through education but it was the conscientious stupidity of some parents that I found distressing. You would expect parents to know how things work and not through sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity be a roadblock to their kids. Politicians have pot stirred and fear mongered parents to the extreme about what is to be taught in school. I am glad I am retired.
I'm white and have had 3 different careers. In all 3 I noticed Black folks in charge feeling free to treat other black folks under them like crap. One guy even slapped a young girl in her face. I was absolutely shocked. White people treat each other like crap too btw. I don't think color matters.
1:30 "Its easy to talk about how to take care of your mental health but when you actually take those steps people look at you as if you did something wrong" never heard truer words in my life all we do is talk about mental health and how bad it is to over work yourself but it's never actually encourage or well received once you start to do those things
True, but teaching is a war zone. It's a sign of strong mental health to make the decision to leave and move on to the rest of your life. This woman made the best choice.
@@Claudialupperocd if teaching is like a war zone then the soldiers are carrying deep mental wounds which will manifest in negative consequences but to each their own. All the best.
@@PrimordialChaos07can’t compare teachers to soldiers. Thats comparing apples to oranges. Every struggle is valid. Shouldn’t try to discredit one’s experience because they’re not a “trained soldier”
Our American society is so individualistic and it reflects in parenting and how kids act around and towards others. Not enough empathy or respect in kids.
It all starts at home. I hate to crap on my own generation…I love being a millennial, the 90s/2000s was a great time to be a kid. But I’ll be the first to say that millennial parents do NOT know how to parent. Most of them treat kids as mini friends instead of humans that they’re responsible for raising and being an authority figure to.
When I was a kid growing up I already knew that the teachers had it rough when it came to dealing with hard headed ass kids. They deserved my respect, and I was one of those kids who always try to be good and do what I was told.
I don't know where your located but I recommend working for a small daycare instead or working down south in the country because people from the south are pleasant, respectful, considerate, and appreciative! The pay isn't great but the environment is cozy and welcoming! AMEN! AMEN!
I went to Catholic school in the 70s, deep in the hood. Those nuns didn't play. Everybody got the memo by the 3rd grade. Those who didn't and wanted to act out would get kicked out after their parent(s) paid tuition for the semester. No refund given. Off to the buck wild public school across the street they went. Sad thing is that both schools had basically the same kids from the same community but the outcomes were so different.
I quit too. I almost had a heart attack teaching 1st Grade In Catholic school. The kids were unbelievable. I had to go down to the kindergarten class every day to rest my heart I would have serious heart pain going down my arm every day. You did the right thing
Catholic schools aren't what they used to be. I think the disappearance of nuns has something do with it. The things those nuns did back in the day to instill discipline and provide clear examples of consequences just wouldn't be acceptable today. I saw some gangster stuff… the priests in high school took it next level.
I was at the park with my daughter one day for an end of year picnic (parents met the teachers and students at the park). I looked at the teachers and what I felt in my Spirit was: “These women look exhausted. They are doing the work of a parent for all these kids and it’s not right.” I really appreciate my daughter’s teachers and she had many great moments but we are transitioning to a home school hybrid (some group classes with the rest homeschooling). We are asking teachers to parent 20 plus kids five days a week-that’s too much!!! It’s too much! We need an alternate model where teachers teach maybe three days a week and have two days for planning or REST/exercise/cooking/time with their own families and parents figure out the rest. It is too much on teachers! We are running them into the ground.
Honestly, as a young STUDENT, watching this made me realize that I need to appreciate teachers much more due to teachers and maybe the dean, MAYBE, care about us and our wellbeing and teaching. Thank you for teaching us.
Teaching , social work , home Health aides are all horrible pay. I’ll be glad to see people leave in droves where there is no choice but to increase wages
All of these jobs are coded "feminine" and "feminized work." They have a veneer of respectability, but in exchange they drain you of joy, grind you down, pay you less than "masculine" jobs in the same field, and absolutely, they presume that you are a married to a m@n who is the breadwinner. This is unacceptable. Thank you for speaking up.
Me, too. As a prime "product" of the public school system, the problems cut both ways. The government does not represent well-qualified and excellent teachers as in the past; and lots of children appear to be raised by wolves, are being raised in single-parent homes, usually by unwedded mothers who are like children themselves. All in all, today's youngsters are not made like you and me anymore.
I hear you. I am a 20 year veteran math teacher. I have led teams of people for sixteen years, Teacher of the Year after designing materials used to train all elementary teachers in our district, and developed instruction that embedded technology that led to Chromebooks being placed in the hands of every student across the district. I love teaching! Two years ago a new admin came on campus and degraded and targeted one teacher after the other, leading five department chairs to resign. I assisted our union to file a grievance as I was the current math department chair. By year end, union had zero influence, I had all math classes wiped off my schedule and my department chair removed in front of my team. Targeting the most dedicated and experienced teachers seems to be the new theme, while giving zero support with the unimaginable behavior problems we now are facing after the pandemic. With all that said, I implemented an intervention system this year that brought every failing math student to proficiency. Never allow anyone to define who you are and what you will do next. I just invited the district to my new TikTok channel where I will be telling my story and speaking about bullying in the workplace across US public schools.
@@lovekesiashani I can tell you as a department chair for sixteen years that the public school system is about to implode. Teachers who I learned with for the last decade who love this job are constantly talking about leaving. The factory model system is not keeping up with the evolution of education. There are many opportunities to teach online as well as private schools that support teachers and hold high expectations of behaviors in the learning space. If teaching is your purpose in life, don’t let the dusty factory model steer you away from it.
Online and homeschool learning will thrive. Since retiring I have found great opportunities working with homeschoolers. It's how teaching is supposed to be. The fact is that the US will soon become a nation of mass illiteracy because students have zero incentive to learn (not even mentioning the millions of recent arrivals who will never learn English and who are illiterate in their first languages). The twentieth century was an anomaly because widespread illiteracy has always been the norm, especially with uncivilized countries, which is what we have become. No morality, no drive to learn, no responsibility. Public schools will close sooner than most people realize because it is as bad as this young woman described, and in most places worse. If they don't close outright, they will transition into daycare style warehouses. Really sad times of massive illiteracy are coming.
@@Claudialupperocd I attended a zoom meeting with a teacher inside the occupied area of Kashmir. Thousands of troops roaming outside their school and homes, yet those students many Americans would classify as “third world” outperformed our students in ways I never imagined. They could shout the answer to math problems after looking at it for less than a minute without paper or pencil. They replied to the teacher with every question with “Yes Sir” in the most respectful way. That hour of witnessing that was the most eye opening greatest lesson of my life. After class the teacher explained to me he and other teachers had walked for miles to deliver food to the kids so they wouldn’t be hungry during lessons due to the extreme poverty created by the govt in that area. He said they were more than happy to do it and were grateful for the blessing of teaching their students. Not a single teacher in the area had less than a masters degree and most were working on their PhD.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I was a high school teacher for 4.5 years and had to leave for my sanity. The pay isn't right. The treatment isn't right. The kids don't have the right kind of support to actually learn and function. It's depressingly sad, but I wish you well moving on to new things! Teachers are adaptable, and I'm sure you'll do great at what lies ahead.
After teaching my heart out for 15 years, my immune system checked out on me. Countless years of strep, flu, working in a mold infested mobile classroom, and holding my urine bc I couldn’t trust my class to even leave them to go to restroom, finally took its toil on me. I became disabled at 44 years old, and diagnosed with autoimmune disease, as well as interstitial cystitis of the bladder. I had no choice, and was bedridden for over a year. I now am so grateful I’m out, my cup was always empty. My disability allows me to now care for myself. Good for you, you listened to your mental health and your body. Wished I had sooner, I don’t think I would be disabled today if I had.🍎
I’m a small group intervention teacher but I hear stories about what other teachers and staff deal with. It’s sad that kids are allowed to get away with anything and neither admin or parents want to do anything about it.
I live in New York. And I work as a teacher assistant/floater. And I make 18 an hour, and my pay is 1,229 bi weekly. As a teacher, I’m always drained physically and mentally. After a long day at work, I don’t have time to do anything else besides shower, brush my teeth, drink some tea, and off to bed. I’m always dealing with children that have behavioral issues. And that’s the most challenging part of the job. These kids are so hard and challenging, because these kids will challenge you. Also, I deal with toxic positivity at work as well. I deal with teachers that don’t include me as well. So I’m not being included, I’m being excluded, because I’m new. But you definitely nailed the “toxic positivity”. I’m always observing how teachers act and behave. Dealing with teacher drama is the worst. I’ve been there for two weeks. But I’m looking for another job, so I’m deciding to go back to school as well. Also, I’ve been doing teaching for 5+ years. A wise person told me “no amount of money or being at a toxic work environment isn’t worth your mental health”.
I’m an instructional paraprofessional and make $21000 a year in Texas. I love the students but the pay is sooooo low for all the work we do especially at a middle school
@ashleylee651 if i stayed working at hardees i wouldve been making more than you, if you know anywhere that i can sign a petition to raise paras wages, i know how hard i was to deal with and i was onw of the "better" ones
you're speaking the truth. my mom's a kindergarten teacher.... a few weeks ago she fell and broke her shoulder and while in excruciating pain was already saying "at least i might not have to go to work." they have paid her so little... like $35k a year, for more than the decade that she's served the school. She comes home and drops onto her bed, unconscious immediately, heartbreaking. Then has to be up at 5 AM being a teacher requires also being counselor, nurse, behavior therapist, parental coach, baby sitter, instructor, community volunteer, and even putting yourself up for verbal abuse from parents and bladder and kidney infections back to back because you might not be guaranteed time to drink water or go to the bathroom while in the classroom. my mom had three kidney infections this year.
First, I hope that your mom is okay. I feel so sad for teachers who feel stuck in the profession. It can truly break your spirit if you don’t take the time to recover. I am wishing your mom the best. ❤
I am going to show my husband this video and allow him to read the comments of other educators who have chimed in because I want him to know that I have not made this stuff up. Much of your video, I have lived myself EXACTLY here in Florida. It is scary just how similar your story is. God bless you and keep, and may His face shine upon you as you begin your career outside of the classroom, in Jesus' name.
Thank you, love. I believe God will guide me in this next phase of my life. He will guide you, too. It always helps to know you’re not alone. So many similar stories.
Thank you for being bold and honest and truthful about this profession! I am also leaving teaching and going back to grad school to change careers due to the strain it has had on my mental health. May the Lord bless and guide you on your next path, as with all of us who have decided to step away from teaching. You are in my prayers and keep moving forward with God by your side!
@@1975mickeymouse Aw. This made my heart glad. I am in grad school to become a therapist. I’m sure I’ll have some teachers in my office from the trauma they’ve endured from a job that does not appreciate them. I am also praying for you that you find a career that you love and that pays you well! ❤
student here. i strongly dislike when other peers are so mean to the teachers like yall teachers take the time to get a degree to help us learn and people take it for granted. at my school, a teacher once quit bc she was body shamed SO bad she QUIT teaching. im very blessed for all the teachers i get to learn from. thank you teachers yall are the best!❤
I forgot to say my daughter started teaching last school year and already she was saying every everything you are saying that is going on in the school, she was beat out and drained every day after work when I called to check on her. She couldn't believe this is what teachers have been going through, we both said it's not only sad but it is also very dangerous to your mental and physical health, a few months after she started she was told a young teacher in her 20's was very stressed out and collapsed at school but died on the way to the hospital. My daughter will be returning back in August but, her plans is to get out as soon as possible so she won't develop any health issues . 🙏
@@nellielee2915 Oh my. I am so sorry to hear all of this. I started having chest pains, anxiety, and couldn’t sleep at night. Although I am doing better, I am still recovering and learning how to sleep again. It really is sad.
@@lovekesiashani sorry to hear you went through that, and I’m praying my daughter be able to quit without anything happening to her health, because her pressure was unbelievable high towards the closing of the school year and now better during the summer.
@@lovekesiashani I’m going through this as well. Every time when it’s the end of the day at work, I have this strange anxiety, and having chest pains. But also trouble sleeping. And I have issues with my heart.
@kesia_shani I started waking up in the middle of the night feeling like my chest was tight and I couldn't breathe. I was always on edge when I got off. It's hard to explain it to other people who don't teach because from the outside looking in you're just dealing with kids. It's almost embarrassing. SMH
It’s not talked enough that the students also feel the same way. I am a good student, good grades, no records of being problematic. But I just failed chemistry for my mental health and I was blamed, and had to do after school detention. I mean I’m not perfect!
@@NyeShawn1986 Wow, I hope you never go through what I went through. And also remember the times you were vulnerable emotionally and you wanted compassion and help and support😉
I am a high school teacher in the Netherlands. Although it's a little bit better here, I still recongize a lot of what you are telling, especially feeling exhausted after a school day. I wish you all the best in the future. 🙏🏼
I worked with kids last year and I will never ever ever do that again ! They were disrespectful! Illiterate and toxic and I gained nothing from helping them and they don’t appreciate anything so I removed myself and will never bother with other people’s kids ever again ! I feel sorry for the youth of today !
You ain’t lied about not having energy to do anything afterwards! Teaching has its perks, but you definitely need the power of God to empower you!! It’s beautiful to see the growth in your students, but mannnnnn it’s a sacrifice!! M
All you said is truth. I am a high school math teacher myself. I do not want to do this anymore. The kids are disrespectful but the biggest thing for me is administration. Omg!!! They are biased and if you are not their favorite. Oh my God!!! Good for you. I will be leaving soon. I wish I could leave today!!!!
@@sharinaross1865I taught special education so none of them were on grade level. If they were then we had a meeting to end their IEP. That was very rare though.
America is built off of mysogyny. The reason teachers are underpaid in America is because they see teaching as "woman's work" and therefore it is undervalued. It absolutely disgusting. Teachers should be getting $30/hr minimum. When I was in school (public school), some of the kids I ran into actually scared and upset me. I was labeled the weird one because I stayed quiet, and I didn't like to talk about drama or bully people. High school kids are scary when they are taught to have no moral compass. I have my own set of issues but I never acted like a dick to animals or other people, like I saw them do. And if you speak up about it, you get labeled the bad one. One time I tried to tell a popular kid in my anatomy class (he was trying to impress some girls) to stop sexually assaulting a dead animal with his dissection tools, (we were dissecting cats) and the whole table of popular kids gave me dirty looks and probably would have tried to physically fight me if the teacher wasn't there, just cause I spoke up. Some kids are just really messed up and need therapy. I also got made fun of for crying when my cat passed away.
Don't sacrifice your HEALTH for this nonsense. You're not a bad person by having values and self-respect. My husband had tried to get me to leave years before I left but it's been one of the very BEST decisions EVER! I thank God 👑 for peace.
I relate to almost everything you talked about. (Not the pay. I was in Colorado with a masters degree, so the pay was alright.) The complete lack of boundaries, the daily insults, the admin who didn’t want to deal with any of the obvious problems… All of that is so familiar to me. I also used to come home and go straight to bed. If I got out of bed, it was just to get high and watch cartoons (Colorado). My apartment went uncleaned for months and I was so embarrassed because I saw the mess, I just didn’t have the energy to deal with it. All I did, all day long, was play whack-a-mole with bad behaviors and try to bribe kids out of my pocket (PBIS) to do literally any school work. None of these problems were unique to me in my building. Teaching was DESTROYING my mental health and my life. I knew I had to quit when I had a panic attack on the last day of winter break. I wouldn’t go back into teaching for a million dollars a year. If you convinced me that my only option was to teach for the rest of my life, I would kill myself. And then there was the response from most of my family when I told them I was quitting: “Well, I hate my job, and I don’t quit.” Ugh. People don’t get that this teacher exodus is not happening because we all want to follow our bliss and be artists or whatever; it’s happening because this career is KILLING us, and no one cares.
First and foremost, thank you for sharing this with me. I’m sorry that you had such an unbearable experience, but it helps to know that you are not alone and you made the choice to put your health first. Have you considered therapy? It truly is traumatizing. The insults, gaslighting, and abuse really sinks deep when no one is there to listen and you were not able to release those feelings. Someone told me to never take things personally because they are kids, but it doesn’t mean it hurts any less or make the abuse ok. I hear you and your feelings are 100% valid. I’ll be posting videos about what I am doing to heal from the trauma and abuse. It is most definitely a process and I hope you choose to invest in your healing. Sending a virtual hug to you. 💙
I'm so glad that you and others are being transparent -- it helps to feel validated, especially since there is so much of that "toxic positivity" going on (I think it's a coping mechanism sometimes, while at other times, it's true -- it will be okay). When you hear it, it makes you feel like something's wrong with you; that maybe it's that you're just inadequate and what you feel isn't normal for everyone else. I'm stubborn, though. I know if what I'm seeing/experiencing is toxic and wrong, I don't need another person to agree with me because I know how it's affecting ME. Still ticks me off for someone else to be dismissive about the issues, ESPECIALLY a fellow teacher/admin. As for those outside of the profession -- at the end of the day, only teachers truly "get it." Please don't ever count on anyone else understanding what we go through. The only ones who even come close to "getting it" are spouses and children of teachers. Their lives can be miserably impacted by it, too. May you find your purpose and joy in whatever that is.
You are beautiful and kind, and it hurts my heart when kind people are mistreated. All of these teacher stories are making me rethink school for my daughter who is 3. If there’s no respect there, why have my child corrupted in such a toxic environment? So much to think about. Thank you for choosing yourself and walking away.
Thank you for your kind comment. ❤️ I don’t have children yet, but it would also concern me if I was a parent. I would definitely not want to send my kids to public school.
I [was] a highschool student (who graduated this year), and through those years I saw how hellish it was for my poor beloved teachers- especially during covid. My transition year from middle school to highschool was during the peak of covid and it SHOWS by how many teens in my year continued to act like they were in 7th grade. My teachers are often highly disrespected by their students, hearing many of them directly yell at them and insult them behind their backs… when… what they’re complaining about is quite literally not their fault. The amount of times my poor teachers were called “b1tches” for… doing their job.. is INSANE. Many of them have worked extremely hard to try get these kids to do their work, very very patiently and kindly holding back yelling and trying to coerce the kids to even just try do homework, but they never listen. It’s a pattern that continued as these kids NEVER changed in my 4 years up til my graduation. My teachers saved me from giving up because of my educational disabilities, helped me so closely and gave me hope I could graduate when no one supported me at home. And I made it thanks to them. I owe them my life and I to this day email them my thanks whenever I achieve a new opportunity in my life as without them I wouldn’t be here. You guys deserve so much more than what this system gives and treats you. You all are so, so strong, and I deeply apologize for how much negative emotions my generation has caused- alongside the system that seems to always be against you. I wish you the best on your new ventures. You deserve that peace after so many years of fighting a war that was never on your side ❤
As a student going into 8th grade, I am PRAYING that I have an old fashioned teacher when September rolls around. My generation needs to realize that their teachers aren’t one of their “little friends”
This needs to be posted on all social media platforms!! I always say this! I make sure my daughter has respect. Her teachers always tell me she’s very well behaved. The kids in this generation are way beyond any words can explain
Preach! Everything you said hits home. You do get labeled at being negative when you talk about the facts. Teaching started to take a toll on my health, so I’m getting to go back to school to get out of the field period. Life is too short to be miserable!
Me too, I’m a health coach on the side and teaching hits mentally not physically. I told my mom I’m ok with being physically tired sometimes bc I can rest but being mentally exhausted is on a different level.
I dealt through everything you experienced, but more. I was an educator at one of the most underserved, violent, urban districts in the U.S. I advise those that are thinking about teaching to 🏃🏽♀️It truly will destroy your mental health, family life and lifestyle. I remained because it was my second career. That was a mistake. I wish you peace, happiness, and prosperity. No one knows what it’s like until they’ve experienced it❣️👸🏽
"No one knows what it’s like until they’ve experienced it" PERIOD!!! But the main ones with something cold and ugly to say about teacher issues are those who have NEVER experienced any of it. Teaching is a profession that has one of the highest rates of depression and teachers are kicked while they are down. They work around the clock and at least for me, I was rarely able to keep my family afloat! The starting salary should be $75k MINIMUM, with serious perks (some would say that the time we get to clock out is a perk, or the unpaid summer "break" where you work or go into debt if you didn't save your meager funds throughout the year and plan for next year...). School loans should be forgiven after sticking it out for 3 years (after which, many teachers quit).
I took my three teenagers to tour a public charter school. About 10% of the students would loiter in the hall the entire time, students they shadowed didn’t even attend most of their classes and when they did a kid told the Algebra II teacher to shut the F up. My kids are still happily homeschooled. 😂 I’m so sorry this was your experience. We respect and value your heart!!
As a former middle school teacher who quit after two months, I completely empathize with you. Thank you for saying these things. Teaching in America’s public schools is one of the most stressful, under-appreciated, under-paying jobs one can imagine. I totally understand that “toxic positivity” you mentioned. It’s just a facade to cover up the fact nobody wants to fix any of the problems, and thus the vicious cycle continues.
I'm sorry for your experience. I've been in education for 20 years. I spent 13 years teaching SPED, kinder, first and fourth grade, and I loved it. God blessed me with a pink slip from one district (the great teacher layoffs in California in 2009) and I moved to another. In this district, God has blessed me to be at great schools with great teachers, students and principals. The pay has also been pretty good. I then became the Vice Principal at a couple of schools and that's where i can say, I saw what truly goes on behind the scenes. The student and parent disrespect is real. I know admin gets blamed for a lot, but many times our hands are tied by the Board. I am now an administrator who oversees the afterschool program for 3 schools in our district. Everything has been fine, but for this new school year, we've been told that ALL children, regardless of their behaviors, cannot be dismissed from our program. No matter what they do, my staff, who are in their late teens to mid-20s, have to deal with them. How can these kids (my staff) deal with the behaviors that teachers and administrators can't? It's outrageous. But Im going into the year knowing that with God, all things are possible, and my after-school sites will not be overrun by crazy parents and bad behind kids. Bless you, my sister, for the work you put in trying to educate children. May God keep you as you move on to the next adventure. No one should stay at a job that is ruining your life.
@@SonicX6400 Hi! Thank you for sharing that. I often feel bad for admin, too. I had a few great principals and they would also tell me that their hands were tied. I watched the great principals leave as well. So sad! I could see the difference in those who were trying and those who felt defeated or just didn’t care. Some also simply didn’t stand on discipline. The system is failing on many levels. I am so happy that you’ve had a great experience. I wish I did. Blessings!
Thank you! I’ve tolerated all the abuse also. As long as lawyers keep school districts terrified, the parents will always be sided with. As a mom there’s no way my kids will ever teach!
I tell my kids that everyday. Even yesterday, I reminded them my ghost will haunt them if they ever dared to become a teacher. Ironically, I'm a teacher🤷🏽♀️
Well yeah, schools aren't designed to teach, they're designed to create a complicit workforce. Why would the government care about teachers or about educating kids when teachers aren't meant to teach and schools aren't meant to educate. I mean the way the government treats teachers makes sense when you think about it, if they don't care about teachers actually teaching, and teaching is a teacher's job, then why should they pay teachers a good wage? What the schools teach doesn't matter to the government, so the parents can influence what they teach as much as they want. Kids getting mistreated by schools and getting sent down pipelines to prison doesn't matter to schools, because if a kid is in that position, they've proven to the school, and to the government, that they're not a valuable worker becaue they're defiant. So, we have teachers who aren't cared for, uneducated kids, and kids who act up (and kids who "act up" but aren't really doing anything wrong) all the time and either get mistreated for it, or are allowed to do it and continue to mistreat teachers and other kids, but are never spoken to in a healthy way about why they act that way. The only way this toxic culture around teaching changes is if we as a society change first. That probably won't happen though. I'm happy though that so many teachers are able to stand strong in the face of how everyone treats them, but I also hope they're able to recognize how poorly they're treated.
@@skeletorthepublicnuisance6707 yes you are absolutely right,i want to see the society as a whole to have a big fucking change. I mean,you better change you ways
After almost 30 years of teaching, I'd like to leave you with some advice. Never let one teaching assignment, school, or even administrator dull your sparkle. While there are commonalities, every school is different. Try a different dynamic and type of school. After 24 years at schools with students of the greatest need and elementary school, I switched to middle school with different dynamics. Best decision of my life. While there are problems at this level, it works for me.
I tried 3 different schools. It’s exhausting to keep switching. 😞 I also tried middle school and high school. I wouldn’t say that it dulled my sparkle, I would say that the system does not appreciate my sparkle. I’m glad you found what works for you. How long did it take to find something suitable for you in the education field?
@kesia_shani It took 24 years, sadly, and it's not perfect. You are correct about everything you said in your video. You could always get a supplemental certificate and teach something different and less demanding. Get your masters while you are young and work on another level or another field. I'm proud of you for standing in your truth. The professional jealousy and toxic positivity are real. Play the game, advance, and bear them at their own games.
Cliques! Yes!! In addition to the denial of the toxic teachers, the cliques are obnoxious. I worked in a school where those teachers roped the students in on that one as well and gossiped with them, creating a terrible culture - and set a horrible example for our young charges. Yes, like being in HS all over again.
@@erinmelon I think you're right. Most teachers are great in my experience, but I've noticed what seems like an over-representation of people in the profession who are emotionally immature.
@HomeEcSewing I don’t disagree with the cliques. While I do causally get along with all of my staff members respectfully. I’ve seen my share of cliques. During my first year as a TA, I was a credential program college student and the fellow TAs who were students too were in their early-mid 20s like me. Which sounds exciting at first but….most of them had clicky vibes and didn’t bother to welcome me into their group. They were ok in the sense that we communicated professionally and said “hi” to me . But it would’ve been nice to have work besties, so that was kind of disappointing. There were a couple here and there that I talked to but not as much as I would’ve liked.
I am Italian and live on the other side of the world from where you are and these are the same reasons why I quit school . Every single on of them, I experienced it. So it seems school is sinking as a system itself ..
I am a substitute teacher with 7 years subbing experience. I wrote a list of all the shenanigans kids pull in the classroom. I estimated I would come up with about 50 or 75. My list is now MORE THAN 225 Rude Misbehaviors kids do during class! The problem is the public has an idea that kids are a bit misbehaved... but it is WAY WORSE THAN THAT. Sometimes there are multiple kids in the same room doing different rude things. For example chasing each other around the room, cussing at each other, throwing things, eating in class and throwing food & wrappers on the floor, Laughing and talking VERY LOUDLY and NOT STOPPING, sitting on the floor or counter tops rather than their assigned seat, Busting inkpens apart and throwing all the pieces except the ink cartridge which they pour out the ink all over the floor/desk/ and other students seat so he sits on it and ruins their clothes, Handwash lotion is glopped into their hand and they slap it into the face of another kid, pushing/slapping each other constantly doing "Fake-Fights", Bickering constantly with other student the whole class and WONT SHUT UP, insulting the teacher in many many ways such as saying "YOU'RE SO OLD!"... or "YOU STINK".... or "THE TEACHER FARTED!!" (whole class laughs, but you DIDN"T fart!), doing a nasty dance IN CLASS recording it on Tik Tok, ........ etc etc.....etc.... if anyone wants the WHOLE LIST just email me and I will attach it to the email. my name is David Mundy my emaill is framistan@sbcglogal dot net. ask for the 200 shenanigan list.
I can relate to this. I was a Social Worker for 22 years. I stayed way too long but during the pandemic I had enough. I respect anyone who becomes a teacher. You're dealing with students, the workload, planning, dealing with unruly students, safeguarding issues, other staff etc. Glad that you made the best decision for you and I wish you all the best!
0:25 Yikes! I work at McDonald's, a notorious "bad job", and I would definitely not be relieved about not going to work because of an accident! Like many kids in elementary school, I wanted to be a teacher when I grew up, but my mom talked me out of it by telling me about her awful experiences with Karens of parents. At least in a job like fast food the Karens only stay for maybe ten minutes at most. Even the worst of them won't invest too much time in getting a free smoothie/full refund for their order because of something small or whatever. But with uncaring or entitled parents, they will heckle you all year for disciplining their little angel even lightly. Oh---and that reminds me of a funny story. One of my mom's students was literally named that---Mon petit ange. Yes---he was "My Little Angel", in French. And he was the worst behaved little snob she had taught in a long time. And his mom refused to discipline him. My mom even happened to see him at the store once, and he was climbing all over the clothing racks and horsing around while the mom did absolutely nothing.
Wow, so many things to say...As a teacher of more than 20 years, I'll say these things: I am sooo sorry about your experience as a teacher. Those toxic positive teachers are sometimes in denial or, and this is typically the case, the environment SLOWLY grew to be intolerable for them with one disrespect or problem at a time. With that being the case, they honestly don't understand how/why someone just coming in finds the environment intolerable. Think of the parable of frogs and boiling water. With regard to the blame game, I'm going to play a little bit. I believe that the school system is the way it is because of what admin tolerates and what teachers are limited by. To be clear though, expectations of behavior START IN THE HOME. Back in my day, we called it home training and there's a serious lack of that now. Finally, I'm so glad you recovered from your accident!
I am deeply moved by your kindness and understanding. I was nervous to share this experience because I thought people would be overly critical. It feels good to be understood especially by someone who has as much experience as you. People just accept the intolerable conditions because it’s what they’re used to but it doesn’t make it okay. Home training is a HUGE thing lacking in this generation. It’s really heartbreaking to witness.
@@lovekesiashanihome training goes undone when you're a working, stressed out ,or not working but strung out single mother who probably didn't have home training themselves!
Schools are not only chaotic, they are spiritually dark. That toxic positivity got to me too, and going straight to bed after school was real too. So glad you’re taking care of yourself now. 👌🏽
I firmly believe I should be teaching. I taught for 8 years, up until the pandemic. Lord knows it was NOT for the paycheck, as I made about 800 every two weeks. I devoted my life outside of work to lesson planning/prepping, and some of my paycheck for supplies for the classroom. But it was still never good enough. There was always something wrong, and eventually, though I tried to stay positive, I was exhausted and burnt out. I saw the pandemic as a break, and a way out. I miss teaching sooo much, but I cannot go back into it, knowing I will be paid absolutely nothing, and take all the never ending work and worry home with me. This country needs help in so many ways, and education is one of them... There is a problem when people who want to teach, and are good at it, will not go into the field because of allllllll the reasons you listed off. I hear you. And you aren't alone.
Yes. Teaching is an extremely hard job. I quit teaching in 2018 for all of the reasons you've mentioned, and I told myself that I would never come back, but during the pandemic, I missed teaching and I felt a calling to come back in 2020. I like teaching, and I have a passion for it, but this profession is challenging. The negative student behavior, horrible parents, and lack of support from admin make the job harder than it needs to be.
I hear you sister! On a healing journey from teaching - I'm subbing for private, charter, and smaller school districts; venturing into new areas, healing my body (moving my bodyin new ways, healthy living, got a mentor, etc) and learning boundaries. I took time off and I'm going back - I may teach adults. I'm going in eyes wide open and equipped to not lose myself but BE myself unapologetically!!!! All the best to you truly!
Hi Kesia, I just found your video. I started teaching last year (elementary school) and it was an absolute nightmare. My number 1 problem was student behaviors. These kids have literally gone feral. Not all of them, but I'd say half of my classes the kids' behaviors were atrocious. I'm a specials teacher so I see the entire school, weekly. I had to write up at least 6 fights last year. And I mean kids literally punching each other, slapping, hitting etc. One kid, out of the blue, went ballistic and hit 7 kids in my classroom. There was no rhyme or reason, he just got up and started hitting and kicking kids. It was crazy. How is anyone supposed to teach in an environment like this? So many times I had to stop my lesson because a kid was hitting another kid, or calling him names. It was a constant struggle of dealing with all these emotional problems the kids came to school with. And like you said, so many times I had to stop my lesson and give a lecture on why we don't hit each other, why we don't call each other names, why we dont stick our fingers and objects in electrical outlets (yes I had 7 and 8 year olds trying to do this in my classroom). It was so draining mentally, every single day. I know kids did not act this awful when I was a kid. They have literally gone feral. I completely understand your frustration and wanting to quit. I am giving myself one more year (Im trying a different school) and see what happens. I pray things are better cause I cant handle another year like last year. Thank you for sharing, and you're definitely not alone in your feelings and struggles!!
The behavior is literally out of control and like you mentioned, how do you teach? Teachers have become parents and counselors without any additional compensation for it. I truly hope that this school year is better for you, but I found that it’s better to leave before you invest too much time. That’s just my personal opinion. If this is what it is the first year, can you commit to this for another 20-30 years? 😬 Something to think about…
@@lovekesiashani yes exactly! These kids act like wild hyenas. I'm not exaggerating either 😢. We are supposed to be parents and counselors too, on top of teaching! It's impossible! I felt like the majority of my job was just babysitting the kids so the teachers could get their planning periods. You're absolutely right, do I want to do this for the next 30 years?? No, I definitely do not. I pray God help me find another career that I don't dread going to everyday. I wanted to try teaching one more year because I put so much effort into my college degree. Plus we are in a financial bind right now and I have to pay bills. But I do not want to continue in this for the rest of my life. Thank you for your reply ❤️
@@lovekesiashaniNot only is there no additional compensation, but many admin will now suggest “getting the kids on your side,” by buying them treats out of your own pocket on at least a weekly basis. This was the #1 discipline advice I was given, over and over again. “They won’t behave or turn in their work? Have you tried bringing in cupcakes on Fridays?”
@@bonusvampirusOOOOH!! This is a GREAT point!!! There were teachers at the previous school I worked at who were praised for using their own money to buy supplies and food. That should NOT be something teachers have to do. It should be forbidden! Teachers already don’t make enough.
@@RP-vy8stI will pray for you, too! I didn’t think I could afford grad school but God made a way for me. Keep your faith and trust that there is a way that God already has planned for you. ❤
I taught for 12 years, left teaching in 2010 and it was the BEST decision I’ve ever made for myself mentally, emotionally, and financially! Kudos to you for having the strength & courage to leave, take your power back, and reinvent your life. Life is way too short to be stressed out everyday in your career!
Nine years as a teacher, nine years as a school counselor.......I am so glad I left the education system. I 100% agree with you. At one point when I was a teacher, I sat in my car at 6:30 AM every day, dreading to go into the building. I am at peace now and realize how demanding those years were.
To all the teachers out there, THANK YOU FOR THE JOB YOU DO. I love teachers and I wish they were appreciated and paid their worth. It’s a shame you had such a bad experience. Wishing you all the best for a successful future.
As a high school student myself I can confirm the problems we have within schools. The constant disrespect and disruption that teachers face can cause teachers to be fed up with terrible behaviors. Parents have to do better and teach their kids respect, the lack of authority , discipline and accountability can cause students to bring that behavior in schools. Even as a student I learn that kids can be severely cruel it’s sad.
@@lovekesiashani me too. I've been on summer vacation for about thirty days now and I still haven't been able to get my selff out of the house trying to recuperate from the exhausted school year . Just been laying around all day.
as a high school student myself i agree with everything you said. After all the years ive been going to school i just dont understand how teachers can put up with so much. thank you for trying to help students i know it must have been a nightmare
It makes me so sad to hear this. I just finished my 22nd year of teaching middle school and have been on the struggle bus since COVID. Virtual/Hybrid teaching negatively affected teaching, learning, and social/emotional learning. Unfortunately, you entered teaching during this difficult time and I'm not surprised to hear you say you're done. I'm a mentor teacher in my district and I've heard some of our new teachers echo many of the same things you have said. My advice to them (and you) is before throwing away your dream of teaching, switch districts/schools, grade levels, or both. It's important to find a district or school that is a good fit for you. Having a great administrator can make a world of difference. I've had seven principals within those 22 years. Very few of them were phenomenal and most were mediocre. If I didn't have a phenomenal one right now (and if retirement wasn't in sight), I'm not sure what I would do. I hope that you find joy, passion, and love in whatever position you pursue next.
I appreciate your wisdom. I’ve tried three different schools. Some were better than others, but only by a very tiny bit which was barely noticeable. I really tried to hang in there and I tried many different things. It just didn’t work for me.
If you’ve never experienced what she’s speaking about as an educator, you might not understand. Everyone doesn’t have the same experience in education; however, those situations are real. Educational society, the demands and requirements of educators and the expectations of parents has drastically changed. Do what you can, as much as you can, for as long as you can. Blessings to everyone.😊
A common thread I'm picking up from this story, others' stories, and my story: No support from the school. The admins give zero F's about what's happening, how poorly students act, what state the building is in, how worn out teachers are, etc. Nobody backs you up when you have to deal with a student acting poorly, and if you do take it into your own hands (which you will most likely have to), you're going to get in trouble. Students are encouraged to act out, because they know nothing will happen to them for acting a fool.
I taught special education students ages 3-12 in NJ public schools for 23 years. I loved it for the first 14 years. Then the public’s attitude towards teachers began to change. Teachers went from being respected to being expected to tolerate all kinds of bs from students, parents, and at times, administrators. I hung in there another nine years, hoping to make it to 25 years to get lifetime retirement health benefits. But it was after a school board member visited our school’s classrooms and decided special education teachers shouldn’t have desks anymore that I put in my retirement papers. Some a$$ who never taught had the arrogance to make my life harder didn’t deserve to have me teaching in that district. I left and I have never regretted it one single second. Micromanaging a classroom and treating teachers as “entertainers” rather than educators is the quickest way to lose good teachers. I miss my colleagues but nothing else.
You are extremely emotionally intelligent. Unfortunately you have to be either a narcissist or dead inside to survive in most industries during this time. It’s so important to know that your feelings are valid and it’s not your fault. There’s a reason why I’ve seen lawyers, teachers, nurses, doctors, engineers who all feel this way. I believe it all traces back to corporate greed and misplaced resources. Any time you feel this way, remember that someone is laughing to the bank at your expense.
You hit the nail on the head with the "toxic positivity." No time to teach because of putting out fires. A student threatened to beat the sh#t out of me because I asked them to put their backpack away. My students grew academically, but it was a very tough road helping them get there. I'm so tired. I'm so happy for you.
I loved seeing the growth in my students. To me that was one of the best things about teaching. I had a student threaten to get their mom to fight me. It’s crazy how in different locations teachers still have stories that are so similar. I’m sorry that happened to you and thank you for your service to the future generations. 🙂 Maybe I’ll do a video about the positives next.
What a shame that your story isn't a "one and done." Instead, it's one that across the country, we've all known and heard too well and often. Still, I'm sorry you experienced that, you don't deserve it. I would ask what disciplinary action was taken but I'm afraid that answer will be an insufficient, very familiar answer as well.😞
@kesia_shani If you do a video on the positives, I'd watch it. So, I did watch this video in its entirety and your health and mental health are very important. Once you recognized that you were not happy, yes it's time to bounce up out of there. I have children and even they come home from school and tell me how they have a headache from the noise and loud talking and arguments of their fellow classmates and even the bus rides are often rough. I feel it for them. I've observed the unruly children and I know that proper structure and discipline is lacking in their dwelling place. I'm always grateful towards all of my children's instructors and teachers because I do see the growth in their education in their academics. Continue to take care of yourself and continue to seek God's will for your life. 🫂
I was an English teaching assistant in France for two contracts. During my first contract, I thought about becoming a teacher - I saw the pros and cons. But by the end of the second contract, I knew I couldn’t. Even in France the kids have attention and behavioral issues. Congrats to you for making the decision. Teaching can be incredibly rewarding, but unfortunately in today’s society, it can be very hard to come out of a workday feeling rewarded.
I remember my 10th grade English teacher telling the class she lived in Price Hill (a low income and high crime area in Cincinnati). The mean kids snickered and made rude comments, but I found it sad. A position that requires a bachelors, push them for a master’s degree, and she is living in a terrible area. Its all she could afford, and Teachers deserve better.
Hey everyone! I just want to specify that my first paycheck was $2,300 a month, not biweekly. That’s not a livable wage. Also, though I am not married, I don’t think teaching would have allowed me to be a good partner because I was always tired and grumpy. So, even if married, I would not have been able to stay in the profession with dual income due to the mental and physical impact. From the outside looking in, I was like a zombie. Just barely making it day by day. I feel so much happier since leaving and I nearly have a nightmare anytime I drive by a school.
Omg that's horrible. Hope you're doing better and getting what you deserve.
OMG!!! What State were you Teaching???
Leave and apply for an airline position❤ I hope you get better soon.
@@jeannineholmes4390 I live in the southern states
@@tgreenwood3193 I’m in grad school. God is providing for me as I figure out the next steps.
No job is worth feeling like that.
@@discipleslim9506 Facts
AT ALL! ❤
❤im a student but everyday I get disrespected and im drained from going to school
@@Anat-0 Yes, have you parents fill out a form for you to do homeschooling or virtual school. You can take all of your classes online either way.
Amen...
The problem in America is that students are pampered like newborns instead of discipling them and having accountability.
@@Jesus-The-Everlasting-Father I agree 1000%! I witnessed it first hand.
Think it's every where. Am a teacher in Africa and I have been thinking about stopping 😢it's draining 😞
Of course there are certain pupils who are a joy but most of them are just something else.
Been a teacher for 6years and am tired 😢😢😢
@@agapeshekinah4444 I naively thought that students behavior was much better abroad. I’m sorry to hear this. What do you think is the cause of the misbehavior in your country?
The children blame the children!! Blame the parents!! God forbid you wake up and recognize these parents and children are living without the guarantee of a government paycheck and instead are largely living with housing insecurity, no fathers, mothers working overtime to barely survive. If the officials werent so pressured to be concerned with war$ and gender/sex BS and taking care of the rest of the world, maybe, just maybe they would be supporting American families and communities! Get your head out of the government's arse. You're eating what they pass you from other people's blood and poop and have nerve to blame the people under you beat and starving.
@brooklynqueen7089- I agree, especially Asia and Africa. In America Asians (including India) and Africans tend to be the better and more focused students. I have many friends from different countries in Africa and ALL of their children are extremely successful. I’m talking lawyer,, doctor, engineering, business owner, etc. Also, my friends from Africa and their husbands did not play when it came to education.
Toxic Positivity - Nailed it! I used to sit in my classroom thinking "is this a cult"
YEAH! AND IT IS!!!!
This toxic positive is a by product of new age teachings.
It is a cult IF you drink the Koolaid. You're forced to limit your conversations if you're not part of the cult/clique.
@@Momo-po5tnwho knows I believe there are a bunch of cults everywhere consciously and subconsciously
@@Momo-po5tnand you sound ignorant
i'm a highschool student and i 100% feel the same way about the disrespect towards teachers. the kids in my class swear, say disrespectful and offensive things, fight, etc, and everything gets swept under the rug by the principal or they get punished and then do it over and over again. it's one of the reasons why i am switching to online school
And now the use of cellphones in the classrooms has gotten out of hand.
@@whatchamacallit70literally!! And this media they watch and get influenced by is no better
Bless your soul darling. You seem like a well raised human being ❤️
unfortunately it’s so common for kids to disrespect teachers. In highschool I had a teacher with a heavy Indian accent and students would mock and make fun of her and took her less seriously. its sad.
Exactly , this is in like all of my classes. I'm only in the first year of HS and just so sick of it all already
I'm a student and I want to say from the very bottom of my heart that I am sorry to all teachers that out generation is like this. I've wanted to be a teacher my entire life, but I've seen and heard about so much horrible situations I'm not even sure it'd be worth it.
I’m currently studying to be a teacher too and I am fearful but I wanna teach…idk idk
@@thatgirl5630 yes same 😭
@@thatgirl5630my brother teaches special education. He has been manhandled by students and had his eye sliced open. Administration did not do anything to support him and from what he has described it sounds absolutely horrifying. Nobody treats teachers like humans. Be careful. I thought about being a teacher as well. No thanks.
You are the reason why we teach :) I can’t tell you what to do, that’s for you to decide, but as a teacher, and a young one who feels sometimes more like an older sibling mentor to her students, I want to say, the kind ones like you, make my day and are the reason I’ve stuck around for 5 years. I don’t know how many more I can do, but the few who tell me they feel for me, and show respect, and remind me that they care, are the reason I feel purpose and haven’t given up on the job yet. Please tell your real life teachers this too! On rough days, a little kind comment, email, or note, has made me tear up, and made my day!
@@katiec8844 AWW this is so sweet of you to say!! I promise you I will! 😭😭Teachers are really awesome for what they do and I appreciate what you do so much :D
anytime I mention problems, I get labeled negative
That sounds familiar. Smh. I guess people don’t really want to acknowledge it or talk about it because they don’t have a solution…. Or don’t want to come up with one…
That’s even if they let you speak on it. I’ve seen where they dodged the teachers that speak out, sad but true.
I used to be that way. Now when I am negative and someone says something, I tell them to fire me. Lord knows they can’t. It’s a losing field.
@@lovekesiashani Our government does not want us to do better. Its all by design, just my opinion.
Yes it’s only when we decide to speak up that many are called negative to people don’t realize that it takes time for a person to speak up and say something after not saying anything for so long
I recall students with behavior issues being sent to the principal’s office and sent back to class. The principal would ask them, “ are you ready to make good choices?” The student replies,”yes” and commences to acting up again. Lol that is an example of toxic positivity
That’s crazy. It find it insane is that new teachers always get the difficult students with all these behavioral issues.
They sent me to ISS and I recall my mom beating my ass in school when my PE teacher called her. I had it coming no doubt I was hella disrespectful.
Delusional behavior. Those kids are confused and abused.
I hate how admin always sugarcoats their language. Don't say "make good choices", tell them to behave themselves. It's not "challenging behaviors", it's poor behavior. They don't have a "chaotic home life", they have derelict parents.
Good for you! ✊🏽❤️ I’m proud of your decision to take care of yourself…
I was a math major in college. I had aspirations of becoming a teacher.
I did one clinical and said, “no, this isn’t for me”. I changed to engineering and all my math credits went to my degree.
I’m an electrical engineer now. I do not regret my decision.
Do what you feel, and feel what you do.
You made the right choice. Now, you are earning a good income.
@@hmm-zoolol
I make almost three times what a teacher does.
Shit crazy fr
@@hmm-zoolol
That is indeed the truth.
Without them I wouldn’t have the education necessary to be qualified for my job.
Good
It's getting bad for teachers who want to come to school to teach, and even worse for kids who want to come to school to learn.
I used to be a Pre-K teacher, and all of the points you made are eerily similar to my own experiences. I had kids that were five years old that couldn't tell me their last names, their parents' names, their ABC's, were not potty trained, and the behavioral issues were absolutely out of control to the point of being dangerous and violent. Administration applied toxic positivity to my concerns, and eventually told me, "All that's important is that they stay alive." This class was supposed to prepare these children for public school, and with no help from admins or parents, I eventually had to throw my hands up and leave.
Parents, teach your children basic life and educational skills, or you will be caring for them in their twenties. You can't grow out of neglect.
that quote terrifies me. Like the attitude of some schools are no longer focusing on preparing the youth but just glorified babysitting??
The people who raised me were pathologically mentally unstable, physically and emotionally abusive, etc…yet they still made sure I knew my home address, knew how to spell their very complicated German last name in case I needed to tell a helpful authority figure in case I got lost, knew all that kinda stuff. They really didn’t like me, but they liked me enough to make sure I had a basic grasp on how to navigate social environments for survival purposes and that a classroom is public place where everyone deserves respect and kindness.
I cannot imagine what sort of pressure parents are under, especially these days. I am not a parent and I do not plan to be. But I also cannot imagine having children and then just abandoning them to point where they are unable to function in society or even in their own lives on even the most basic of levels.
They weren't potty trained!?!?!? 😅..... Some parents really set up their kids for failure...
are you sure they just didn’t gaf about what you were asking them because they were kids using pre-k as a stand in babysitter?
There were night club products. Can't expect too much from those kind of children.
Im sad you no longer teach. You seem to be a calm, grounded person. Kids need that. But im glad you are having a better life now.
Unfortunately, that's a learned skill when becoming a teacher haha
For me who knows the truth, children were not made like us anymore.
@@Mel-me9swsome teachers don’t stick to that skill and are rude af soooo
It’s very sad because the good teachers get ran out, then the kids are stuck with the ones who fuel their hatred for school, that don’t support them in the way they need, so they grow up to continue disrespecting teachers.
the good ones know their worth and she knew she had to save herself. its a messed up situation
I left teaching after 1 year
High school math teacher.
I was young 23 years old. School was a jungle
I love maths and wanted to make scholars out these kids.
The classes were too big- over 25 students.
The kids were hormonal and disrespectful. And the dean and principal did not support me and this was my first job, and dealing with these rude kids- the had no consequences- no detention, nothing
@@SRoseBlog You said one and done, huh? Lol good for you. Three years was too long for me. I’m happy we both made it out.
I had subbed for 2 years prior but it was one and done for me, too (1 year as permanent classroom teacher). They were even pressuring me to teach summer school and considering extending the school day 1 hour for the coming year! As if I wasn't completely exhausted already. During my first year, one teacher quit after 3 days, another after one. And the winner was a long-term sub who left for lunch only to call back and say she wasn't coming back. Really. She wouldn't even return to finish the school day. She had had more than enough! 😂 Because I decided not to return the following year, the principal refused to write me a letter of recommendation, even though she had provided me with a written contract offer to return, including a raise, and had given me marks of distinction on my evaluation. . . She took it personally. She also refused to recommend a very bright student from my class to attend an accelerated school because it would decrease 'her numbers.' A real piece of work, she was.
School is like a circus as well.
@@keciaaskew5166I’ve always felt this way. Even when I was a child I hated being around other kids. They annoyed Tf outta me!
@@extrashotofespresso_ I totally understand. And teaching isn’t for everyone.
I was a teacher for 26 years. Should have walked away years ago. It literally has ruined my health. I have been “retired” since 2021 and when I come across videos like these, I always want to leave a comment to say that you made a great decision. Never look back. ❤. Best wishes for a successful future.
Thank you! ❤️
@@lovekesiashaniit is Gas Lighting and Manipulation to the fullest.
@@lovekesiashaniThank you for being honest about the toxic positivity and the" cliques" among staff! Yes, it is a form of bullying. If you speak the truth, you are viewed as an instigator and alienated.
I taught for 33 years and absolutely loved my job! However, like you, I should have retired long before I did. Like you, the stress ruined my health. I retired in March of 2018 and it took almost three years for me to totally recover and not take naps during the day. I was completely exhausted. I thought I would enjoy subbing after retirement but to this day I do not want you to go near a classroom.
Ditto! 26 years. It ruined my health. Should have left long ago... Stayed to raise a child as a single mom! Be glad you got out when you did.
You are absolutely right! My sister taught for 35 years. She passed away 6 years after retirement.
She always use to say “ We have no idea what is going to be unleashed on our society.”
She almost lost her life teaching High School! The kids poured oil on the floor, and she slipped, fell and hit her head on a desk. She was carried out by ambulance. She was out for over 2 months.
Her principal NEVER CALLED HER TO SEE HOW SHE WAS DOING!!!
You have chosen yourself and your well being over teaching.
I personally am a retired Kindergarten teacher. I taught 12 years and left the profession.
I certainly can speak to this topic.
God bless you going forward, and I wish you the very best! ❤
Wow! Thank you for sharing your story ❤ I am sorry about the loss of your sister. That is bonkers that her admin never checked in on her 😢 that really sunk in with me that you need to take care of yourself, these leadership teams do not care about us!
My heart goes out to your sister❤❤❤❤😢
God bless 🙏🙏
I’m sorry about your sister, and jeez.. so terribly cruel, I hope she enjoyed life regardless.
@blessedontheboulevardwithl339 wow that’s horrible I hate your sister went through that
In 1967 my father was a high school teacher. He left after 2 years of teaching because there was so many problems- outdated text books from the 1930s, administration did not care students acted out or skipped class. My dad brought these issues up, and they told him "not every student is meant to succeed." My dad left and joined the military. He said many times that they are letting publuc schools get so bad that no one will want to teach so the govt has an excuse to shut down public schools for good and keep the federal money spent on them. He said this in the 80s and it makes sense because look at how bad it is everywhere at every school.
Funny this took place in the 80s, iphone didn't even EXIST in the 80s. Phones are one of the greatest sources of entropy in the public school system, as it is the root of almost ALL problems there.
This reminds me of the movie Lean On Me, where the state wanted to take over the school. However, I don't understand what your dad was saying about the goal being to shut down schools altogether. What would come after that? They don't want parents homeschooling their kids. They want to control our kids' education.
Wow when you said HIGH school my jaw dropped. I was so sure you were talking about elementary school. Good for you for getting out
Also, you may want to include middle school.
Not only these problems happen in high school; they take place in middle school, and even in some adult classes. People are people, wherever you go. Take it from me!❤
I had the same reaction. As an elementary teacher, I was like," oh, sounds like my class." Then she said high school, and I was shocked.
It's really is like that here as a highschool student 😢, I'm not kidding some students would just go to online school just to be kept sane. It's so hard to watch the disrespect every day with the same people with no change.
I’m so glad I graduated Highschool 11 yrs ago
Toxic Positivity and Gaslighting is definitely a thing in professions where there are high workloads and risk of burnout.
personalhygeinebliss
It is definitely like this in Higher Education.
@@nb0009 Also, misbehavior happens in employment training programs and elsewhere in places where adults are supposed to be real examples of learning properly. I believe that the lessons in the adult classrooms are "controlled."
@@captainkeyboard1007oh, I agree. The lessons are a lot more controlled than teaching spaces for K-12. Adults are also likely paying to participate so they behave better. Not always, but still. I couldn’t imagine how annoying toxic positivity would be while dealing with ungovernable children AND their parents.
@@nb0009 Your comment reminds me of my promotion from elementary school to junior high school in 1965. When I entered junior high school, I saw lots of misbehavior from the "new" students that I never saw at elementary school. Boys and girls smoked cigarettes on the school grounds; children made loud sounds in the classroom during lessons; they cursed at the teachers, and behaved insubordinately like employees spoke to employers with angry voices. Nearly all of the bad students lived in the hellhole part of East New York, where the broken houses, crooked sidewalks, and squalid stores were found to be. According to the statement, "No one is perfect," that means that grownups make mistakes Some people make mistakes so much that their sins appear to be done deliberately, as in on purpose. I saw this problem when I was a child. However, I trusted the grownup as a grownup, when I needed to learn to trust Gracious Great God with that same strength. I know that there are teachers and school faculty members who do go wrong. Others like transit workers, policemen and policewomen, physicians, lawyers, storekeepers, government leaders, and all the rest go wrong. "As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one. There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, one." Romans 3:10-12. I leave you with one more caveat: "There is no fear of God before their eyes." Romans 3:18. Today, people continue to call right "wrong," and wrong "right." Thank you for typing to me.
I am not a teacher but as a nurse I can tell you that many of the problems you encounter in the classroom are directly related to how kids are raised nowadays. I do respect teachers a lot. All the best with your new endeavors.
Me, too. I still respect older people, teachers, police, my health care practitioners, and others who are in charge in their places. Fortunately, I have not lost my good-old fashioned manners, even though I do not have chances to practice them to everyone in the general public. Good manners work nicely for me, including at church. I am blessed that I am living at the age of 71 years old.❤
Parents don’t raise kids. iPads and phones do. 😢
@@Crowski In many homes, parents obey their children. That is how the children become too valuable in the eyes of their parents to withstand every kind of punishment meted out to them.
@@captainkeyboard1007honestly I don't think it's like that. the parents don't obey the children, the children don't obey the parents, and the children aren't valuable to the parents. that's exactly why these children turn out like this, because the parents don't care about them. some of them do see their kids super valuable as you're saying, but they don't care enough to actually shape the child into a decent person. it's sad they'd rather pay money for an iPad than to pay nothing to love their child properly. they don't seem to care enough to make any consequences or simply aren't even there at all. I've known kids who lived with their grandparents because their dads out of the picture and their mom went to jail
@@dreamofmaizie You may be surprised to know that in some [American] families the parents subject themselves to the whims and wishes the children express. When the children do not get what they want, they cry out tantrums and outbursts. The parents do not discipline them the way I would have been disciplined such as with a stern scolding, perhaps a slap on the face or the backside just above my buttocks, even denied a privilege. Some parents even speak obscene language to their children, expected to know everything, as though they were born with instinct like animals. Little children are raised collegiately, instead of being given the proper discipline and correction needed for their age. Perhaps I am not a father, but you and I have seen so much through the years. Thank you for typing to me.
Teachers mold the minds of tomorrows generations. I’ve always thought it was weird teachers didn’t get paid more.
@@Trevorspam Same!
It would be different if it was a male-dominated profession.
@@kadesamcgowen8799mostly women because women are nurtures. They have need to want to care. I’ve had male teachers, they were made fun of too and burned out. The problem is the parents of the students.
@@Douglass10 they’re talking about difference in regards to how much teachers are paid. if the majority of teachers were men, they’d be making way more than teachers are making now.
@@pabloescobarschanclas yes because men work harder than women. Most women aren’t working 60hr-80hrs+ and that’s okay.
I was at Lowe's shopping for flowers probably about a month ago and one of my children's past teachers came up to say hello. His exact words were, if all the children were well behaved like yours, I would still be teaching today. I quickly realized he was an employee at Lowe's. I felt like this poor man was willing to work anywhere but education. My heart really went out to him. I was taught respect and passed this on also to my kids. I am in my late 30s and remember kids being so mean to the nicest teachers. I would get so frustrated as an eager to learn child, that these misbehaving kids were messing up my learning time. My children also come home and voice their concerns how they feel so bad for their teachers. I also wanted to add cellphones have no need at school. So many children are way too young for them. Look how children back in the day survived without them. I'm so happy for you that found what your callimg was. I can guarantee you're going to help a lot of people.
@@lindsayb1329 Wow. It really is heartbreaking that he would rather work anywhere else than education but this is what it has come to. I can tell that you are a great mom.
“Toxic positivity .” You nailed it!
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This is so saddening and unfortunate that the teachers aren't getting paid their worth and then on top of that not being appreciated or protected by the administration!
AMEN!
That also means the public school is a house of a "hostile environment."
You gone use that one loosely ain’t you ? Smh the way internet got ahold of people is sad
And cliques are also big in education. And when you refuse to be in their clique, you’re attacked passive aggressively. And it is frustrating witnessing these people get praised as heroes by the public when behind the scenes you know how evil these “educators and leaders” are
You have told no lies!!! It it's an exhausting and draining job
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I totally agree.
it is
So is counseling, social services, EMT, and nursing too.
@@anitaknight3915 Get yourself in a classroom full of 25 kids then tell us about it....counseling, SS, EMT and nursing you can at least go pee or drink water but if u are in a locked classroom full of 20 something kids all vying for your attention while you are teaching while administration is constantly demanding you complete paperwork and turn it in immedialy (while you are still juggling all 20 some kids in class) then lunch comes and you have duty stay standing up in the cafeteria taking care of 80 some kids take em outside and eat your lunch while walking around then get back to class then teach again....only teachers will know....not teacher aides, not secretaries in school ONLY a teacher will know how terrible it is....WHY?? because the teacher is the one with the responsibility of working full time and completing the overload of paperwork while in class and at home....teacher aides and secretaries who work in school only put in the day watching kids and leave at the end of the day and that is that....but teachers stay late and go home and continue with grading, posting grades online, calling parents, preparing for the following day.......then add on weeekends spend your money on buying items for class and kids....etc etc....horrible
I was a teacher for 15 year. Was sick all the Time. I was done with it
Lord have mercy
Love that phrase “toxic positivity.” You are so right!
"The environment is complete chaos because everyone is trying to survive." You hit the nail on the head with this sentence.
@@thepragmatist Facts!
@@lovekesiashani I completely agree with what you said in this video. Good luck to you.
“Lack for respect for authority” has to be the number one issue in most school settings.
I’m not a school teacher, but have sat in many high school classrooms as a RN with student(s) who either had diabetes or seizures; requiring 1:1 monitoring.
This lady is telling the truth! Public high school settings are especially toxic and brutal! Teens say and do as they please…
Notifying parent(s) is a waste of time bc it usually inflames the situation.
“The fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree.”
I pray that you will receive emotional, physical, and spiritual healing.
Thank you for sharing.
God bless you.
Ann (Retired RN)
This same matter also applies to middle school that may also be called intermediate school or junior high school. Yet, it may seep into primary school. Kesia seems to be a very fine lady, much like yourself. I am not a teacher nor a faculty member in a school, but I am blessed to mention that I learned my basic manners in elementary school, and they work wonderfully for me nearly everywhere I go. Gracious Great God has blessed me very much in this 2024 year to be 71 years old.
So true. So true. And guess what? It ain’t getting any better.
Former student lol and your right most kids do not respect authority but that’s on the teacher to degree most teachers aren’t connecting with students they are treating their job as a job not as if their a mentor to young people, subconsciously the students know the teachers don’t care so they get disrespected
There is a lack of respect, hope, compassion, and degradation of morality. The systems are collapsing and the family unit is broken down which transfers over to the classroom. Helping professionals are burned out and have severe compassion fatigue. These jobs are a calling for most but not sustainable for anyone's health.
Counter-claim: your first point about the pay: even with the low pay as a married woman, this job still SUCKS. I am married, and he can provide all of our needs BUT as an educator since 2008, I REFUSE to go back into the classroom. Even if they increase the pay, I refuse to go back. I will fold cardigans at Target before I go back into the classroom. I just want to you hear from the "other side" of marital status, so that you won't think that once you get married, it won't be so bad...because it won't. Girl, pray and ask the Lord to guide you ANYWHERE but a classroom! lol I hope that all of this doesn't come off pretentious, because I sincerely mean it. I have struggled with whether or not to return, and now...I REFUSE.
I feel the same way. The money is not worth the health risks that come along with the job. I choose to be healthy. That means staying away from certain environments.
@nappyashley The custodians at my school had it better than me as a teacher where I used to teach. Better than me in every respect...pay, hours, working conditions.
God only helps those that help themselves. Get out and don't look back.
Emphasis on anywhere but a classroom!! I quit in 2019 went back and it was a terrible mistake left in 2022. I pray I NEVER enter a classroom as mine EVER again 🙏🏾
@@lovekesiashani Amen 🙏 being in a toxic workplace can cause unhealthy environments. Like one teacher was trying to start trouble with me yesterday.
I have been a middle school teacher for 10 years, and I agree with everything she said. My advice for anyone who wants to become a teacher, DON’T!!!!
I am currently an English major to be an English teacher…I’m worried.. I am scared
I am not a teacher, I am an office worker in pest control and the most interaction I have with any kids/teenagers is the super market/fast food or company parties with coworkers families. I am, however, very invested in this struggle that teachers face as someone who does hiring. I have people come in who have graduated in the past couple years and they cannot read past a 5th grade level and cannot hold a pencil correctly(these are people with no limitations keeping them from doing so). I know there are bad teachers, there's bad apples is any profession, but there is no way that all the teachers in America are this bad. There isn't an education system, it's a baby sitting system where you bide your time until you pass them off to the next person.
You can blame apathetic parents and administrators who push the backwards policies of the school districts that are controlled by the government.
Its bc public schools lose funding when they hold back students and actually discipline them. The state goes, 'students are failing to pass? Must be the fault of the school' and reduces funding. when so many schools are already either underfunded or their funds are grossly misallocated (or both!) so any kind of reduction in funds is a huge blow. So instead of holding kids back they just pass them on and their issues are never resolved. Technically kids can get held back but only if their parents request it and so many dont give a fuck. Were failing a whole generation man its insane.
I signed up to be a substitute teacher. I accepted one assignment for a kindergarten class and that was my first and last day. The problem was the teachers ( looking at me as if I’m competition and it was my own race that was doing this )and the students ( just bad as h*ll) it was horrible. I can’t imagine years of this 😩
@@MaydayMay91 It’s very hurtful when you expect people who look like you to have your back and they don’t. I’ve experienced this, too. I learned to not have any expectations of people. They make their own choices and I made my choice to leave. Just like you did. Good for you for doing what was best for you.
I've experienced this as well. Very rude teachers and the administrative staff looking down on you.
@@chanyoung3725 My experience as an elementary school teacher was the unreal expectations of the parents. I can deal with children because there is sincere ignorance with children. You can help children through education but it was the conscientious stupidity of some parents that I found distressing. You would expect parents to know how things work and not through sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity be a roadblock to their kids. Politicians have pot stirred and fear mongered parents to the extreme about what is to be taught in school. I am glad I am retired.
I was a sub once, it was horrible.
I'm white and have had 3 different careers. In all 3 I noticed Black folks in charge feeling free to treat other black folks under them like crap. One guy even slapped a young girl in her face. I was absolutely shocked. White people treat each other like crap too btw. I don't think color matters.
1:30 "Its easy to talk about how to take care of your mental health but when you actually take those steps people look at you as if you did something wrong" never heard truer words in my life all we do is talk about mental health and how bad it is to over work yourself but it's never actually encourage or well received once you start to do those things
If you’re struggling mentally it’s never too late to seek mental health care and it’s NO ONE Business.
@@PrimordialChaos07 I left and I’m good. Thanks!
True, but teaching is a war zone. It's a sign of strong mental health to make the decision to leave and move on to the rest of your life. This woman made the best choice.
@@Claudialupperocd if teaching is like a war zone then the soldiers are carrying deep mental wounds which will manifest in negative consequences but to each their own. All the best.
@@PrimordialChaos07can’t compare teachers to soldiers. Thats comparing apples to oranges. Every struggle is valid. Shouldn’t try to discredit one’s experience because they’re not a “trained soldier”
@@extrashotofespresso_ take your time and reread my response to another comment.
Our American society is so individualistic and it reflects in parenting and how kids act around and towards others. Not enough empathy or respect in kids.
It all starts at home. I hate to crap on my own generation…I love being a millennial, the 90s/2000s was a great time to be a kid. But I’ll be the first to say that millennial parents do NOT know how to parent. Most of them treat kids as mini friends instead of humans that they’re responsible for raising and being an authority figure to.
When I was a kid growing up I already knew that the teachers had it rough when it came to dealing with hard headed ass kids. They deserved my respect, and I was one of those kids who always try to be good and do what I was told.
God bless your soul!
@@AishaMBudgets You're most welcome :D
I’m sorry you had this awful experience. It’s such a shame because I can tell that you’re a good teacher. So many good ones are leaving.😢
@@msteach3082 Aw! Thank you. 😊 💕
I don't know where your located but I recommend working for a small daycare instead or working down south in the country because people from the south are pleasant, respectful, considerate, and appreciative!
The pay isn't great but the environment is cozy and welcoming!
AMEN!
AMEN!
I just found out that King Edward III once said, "The one thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children."
I was in school in the 70s. I never heard a student cuss out or disrespect a teacher. Never, but life was different then.
@@danilaroche1156 Oh it’s VERY common now.
I know. Maybe you get a job at a private school or Christian school? You seem very grounded. Lord Jesus, take care of this beautiful lady.
I went to school in the 90s through early 2000s and never saw anything like that. I don’t think it got really bad until pretty recently
I went to Catholic school in the 70s, deep in the hood. Those nuns didn't play. Everybody got the memo by the 3rd grade. Those who didn't and wanted to act out would get kicked out after their parent(s) paid tuition for the semester. No refund given. Off to the buck wild public school across the street they went. Sad thing is that both schools had basically the same kids from the same community but the outcomes were so different.
me too. Kids very rarely got out of line. We were too afraid of our parents.
I quit too. I almost had a heart attack teaching 1st Grade In Catholic school. The kids were unbelievable. I had to go down to the kindergarten class every day to rest my heart I would have serious heart pain going down my arm every day. You did the right thing
@@kimberlyhuff9617 I hope you are doing better! I began having chest pains from the stress. So I understand how it impacts your physical health.
So sad. So glad you left.
Catholic schools aren't what they used to be. I think the disappearance of nuns has something do with it. The things those nuns did back in the day to instill discipline and provide clear examples of consequences just wouldn't be acceptable today. I saw some gangster stuff… the priests in high school took it next level.
I was at the park with my daughter one day for an end of year picnic (parents met the teachers and students at the park). I looked at the teachers and what I felt in my Spirit was: “These women look exhausted. They are doing the work of a parent for all these kids and it’s not right.” I really appreciate my daughter’s teachers and she had many great moments but we are transitioning to a home school hybrid (some group classes with the rest homeschooling). We are asking teachers to parent 20 plus kids five days a week-that’s too much!!! It’s too much! We need an alternate model where teachers teach maybe three days a week and have two days for planning or REST/exercise/cooking/time with their own families and parents figure out the rest. It is too much on teachers! We are running them into the ground.
@@Moving_Forward247 🎯
Lady, are you running for president? You’ve got my vote! 😅
Honestly, as a young STUDENT, watching this made me realize that I need to appreciate teachers much more due to teachers and maybe the dean, MAYBE, care about us and our wellbeing and teaching. Thank you for teaching us.
@@avemskers 💗💗 You’re welcome
Teaching , social work , home
Health aides are all horrible pay. I’ll be glad to see people leave in droves where there is no choice but to increase wages
@@Laswm4950 that’s right! You do what’s best for you. I am sick of
This county taking advantage of
My school district lost a lot of good teachers. They retired or went to other districts. This forced my district to increase the pay!
@@starrjohnson1327 excellent . Time
For Americans to stand up
All of these jobs are coded "feminine" and "feminized work."
They have a veneer of respectability, but in exchange they drain you of joy, grind you down, pay you less than "masculine" jobs in the same field, and absolutely, they presume that you are a married to a m@n who is the breadwinner.
This is unacceptable.
Thank you for speaking up.
Me, too. As a prime "product" of the public school system, the problems cut both ways. The government does not represent well-qualified and excellent teachers as in the past; and lots of children appear to be raised by wolves, are being raised in single-parent homes, usually by unwedded mothers who are like children themselves. All in all, today's youngsters are not made like you and me anymore.
"People talk a lot about mental health, but once you take the steps to do that, they act as if you're doing something wrong." Very well put!!
I hear you. I am a 20 year veteran math teacher. I have led teams of people for sixteen years, Teacher of the Year after designing materials used to train all elementary teachers in our district, and developed instruction that embedded technology that led to Chromebooks being placed in the hands of every student across the district. I love teaching! Two years ago a new admin came on campus and degraded and targeted one teacher after the other, leading five department chairs to resign. I assisted our union to file a grievance as I was the current math department chair. By year end, union had zero influence, I had all math classes wiped off my schedule and my department chair removed in front of my team. Targeting the most dedicated and experienced teachers seems to be the new theme, while giving zero support with the unimaginable behavior problems we now are facing after the pandemic. With all that said, I implemented an intervention system this year that brought every failing math student to proficiency. Never allow anyone to define who you are and what you will do next. I just invited the district to my new TikTok channel where I will be telling my story and speaking about bullying in the workplace across US public schools.
@@AncientHistor33 How inspiring! So good for you. I can tell you are an amazing educator. I really appreciate your insight.
@@lovekesiashani I can tell you as a department chair for sixteen years that the public school system is about to implode. Teachers who I learned with for the last decade who love this job are constantly talking about leaving. The factory model system is not keeping up with the evolution of education. There are many opportunities to teach online as well as private schools that support teachers and hold high expectations of behaviors in the learning space. If teaching is your purpose in life, don’t let the dusty factory model steer you away from it.
@@AncientHistor33 This is so well said. What you’ve mentioned sounds more enjoyable than public school. Online sounds interesting, too! Thank you.
Online and homeschool learning will thrive. Since retiring I have found great opportunities working with homeschoolers. It's how teaching is supposed to be. The fact is that the US will soon become a nation of mass illiteracy because students have zero incentive to learn (not even mentioning the millions of recent arrivals who will never learn English and who are illiterate in their first languages). The twentieth century was an anomaly because widespread illiteracy has always been the norm, especially with uncivilized countries, which is what we have become. No morality, no drive to learn, no responsibility. Public schools will close sooner than most people realize because it is as bad as this young woman described, and in most places worse. If they don't close outright, they will transition into daycare style warehouses.
Really sad times of massive illiteracy are coming.
@@Claudialupperocd I attended a zoom meeting with a teacher inside the occupied area of Kashmir. Thousands of troops roaming outside their school and homes, yet those students many Americans would classify as “third world” outperformed our students in ways I never imagined. They could shout the answer to math problems after looking at it for less than a minute without paper or pencil. They replied to the teacher with every question with “Yes Sir” in the most respectful way. That hour of witnessing that was the most eye opening greatest lesson of my life. After class the teacher explained to me he and other teachers had walked for miles to deliver food to the kids so they wouldn’t be hungry during lessons due to the extreme poverty created by the govt in that area. He said they were more than happy to do it and were grateful for the blessing of teaching their students. Not a single teacher in the area had less than a masters degree and most were working on their PhD.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I was a high school teacher for 4.5 years and had to leave for my sanity. The pay isn't right. The treatment isn't right. The kids don't have the right kind of support to actually learn and function. It's depressingly sad, but I wish you well moving on to new things! Teachers are adaptable, and I'm sure you'll do great at what lies ahead.
@@millenniumcat Thank you! ❤️
After teaching my heart out for 15 years, my immune system checked out on me. Countless years of strep, flu, working in a mold infested mobile classroom, and holding my urine bc I couldn’t trust my class to even leave them to go to restroom, finally took its toil on me. I became disabled at 44 years old, and diagnosed with autoimmune disease, as well as interstitial cystitis of the bladder. I had no choice, and was bedridden for over a year. I now am so grateful I’m out, my cup was always empty. My disability allows me to now care for myself. Good for you, you listened to your mental health and your body. Wished I had sooner, I don’t think I would be disabled today if I had.🍎
I’m a small group intervention teacher but I hear stories about what other teachers and staff deal with. It’s sad that kids are allowed to get away with anything and neither admin or parents want to do anything about it.
I’m so sorry you went through that. ❤
I live in New York. And I work as a teacher assistant/floater. And I make 18 an hour, and my pay is 1,229 bi weekly. As a teacher, I’m always drained physically and mentally. After a long day at work, I don’t have time to do anything else besides shower, brush my teeth, drink some tea, and off to bed. I’m always dealing with children that have behavioral issues. And that’s the most challenging part of the job. These kids are so hard and challenging, because these kids will challenge you. Also, I deal with toxic positivity at work as well. I deal with teachers that don’t include me as well. So I’m not being included, I’m being excluded, because I’m new. But you definitely nailed the “toxic positivity”. I’m always observing how teachers act and behave. Dealing with teacher drama is the worst. I’ve been there for two weeks. But I’m looking for another job, so I’m deciding to go back to school as well. Also, I’ve been doing teaching for 5+ years. A wise person told me “no amount of money or being at a toxic work environment isn’t worth your mental health”.
I’m an instructional paraprofessional and make $21000 a year in Texas. I love the students but the pay is sooooo low for all the work we do especially at a middle school
@@ashleylee651That’s really low for all the amount of work you have to do.
i make that much working at fast food dang
@@yattzz69 Sometimes my pay would be 651 dollars
@ashleylee651 if i stayed working at hardees i wouldve been making more than you, if you know anywhere that i can sign a petition to raise paras wages, i know how hard i was to deal with and i was onw of the "better" ones
you're speaking the truth. my mom's a kindergarten teacher....
a few weeks ago she fell and broke her shoulder and while in excruciating pain was already saying "at least i might not have to go to work."
they have paid her so little... like $35k a year, for more than the decade that she's served the school. She comes home and drops onto her bed, unconscious immediately, heartbreaking. Then has to be up at 5 AM
being a teacher requires also being counselor, nurse, behavior therapist, parental coach, baby sitter, instructor, community volunteer, and even putting yourself up for verbal abuse from parents and bladder and kidney infections back to back because you might not be guaranteed time to drink water or go to the bathroom while in the classroom. my mom had three kidney infections this year.
First, I hope that your mom is okay. I feel so sad for teachers who feel stuck in the profession. It can truly break your spirit if you don’t take the time to recover. I am wishing your mom the best. ❤
@@lovekesiashani Wishing you the best after your accident also. You deserve the best.❤️
@@lostieaddictThank you!
The kidney infection risk is serious and real. So many teachers suffer from this.
For me it was diverticulitis. Severe infections. Hospitalized twice in two years. @@Claudialupperocd
I am going to show my husband this video and allow him to read the comments of other educators who have chimed in because I want him to know that I have not made this stuff up. Much of your video, I have lived myself EXACTLY here in Florida. It is scary just how similar your story is. God bless you and keep, and may His face shine upon you as you begin your career outside of the classroom, in Jesus' name.
Thank you, love. I believe God will guide me in this next phase of my life. He will guide you, too. It always helps to know you’re not alone. So many similar stories.
Thank you for being bold and honest and truthful about this profession! I am also leaving teaching and going back to grad school to change careers due to the strain it has had on my mental health. May the Lord bless and guide you on your next path, as with all of us who have decided to step away from teaching. You are in my prayers and keep moving forward with God by your side!
@@1975mickeymouse Aw. This made my heart glad. I am in grad school to become a therapist. I’m sure I’ll have some teachers in my office from the trauma they’ve endured from a job that does not appreciate them.
I am also praying for you that you find a career that you love and that pays you well! ❤
It concerns me that your spouse doesn't believe you. Does he know Christ?
If your husband is not supporting you, if he does not believe your experiences, DUMP HIM, He ain’t no husband, he is an ENEMY of yours.
As a substitute I saw regular teachers verbally abused by students and also put physically at risk. It is a terrible situation.
student here. i strongly dislike when other peers are so mean to the teachers like yall teachers take the time to get a degree to help us learn and people take it for granted. at my school, a teacher once quit bc she was body shamed SO bad she QUIT teaching. im very blessed for all the teachers i get to learn from. thank you teachers yall are the best!❤
Love the term "toxic positivity". I feel that, gurl!!!
Me too! That hit the nail on the head for me
Taught for 5 years. Quit teaching 4 years ago. Best decision I ever made. No regrets ❤️
I forgot to say my daughter started teaching last school year and already she was saying every everything you are saying that is going on in the school, she was beat out and drained every day after work when I called to check on her. She couldn't believe this is what teachers have been going through, we both said it's not only sad but it is also very dangerous to your mental and physical health, a few months after she started she was told a young teacher in her 20's was very stressed out and collapsed at school but died on the way to the hospital. My daughter will be returning back in August but, her plans is to get out as soon as possible so she won't develop any health issues . 🙏
@@nellielee2915 Oh my. I am so sorry to hear all of this. I started having chest pains, anxiety, and couldn’t sleep at night. Although I am doing better, I am still recovering and learning how to sleep again. It really is sad.
@@lovekesiashani sorry to hear you went through that, and I’m praying my daughter be able to quit without anything happening to her health, because her pressure was unbelievable high towards the closing of the school year and now better during the summer.
@@lovekesiashani I’m going through this as well. Every time when it’s the end of the day at work, I have this strange anxiety, and having chest pains. But also trouble sleeping. And I have issues with my heart.
@kesia_shani I started waking up in the middle of the night feeling like my chest was tight and I couldn't breathe. I was always on edge when I got off. It's hard to explain it to other people who don't teach because from the outside looking in you're just dealing with kids. It's almost embarrassing. SMH
Was the teacher on drugs or unknown medical condition
It’s not talked enough that the students also feel the same way. I am a good student, good grades, no records of being problematic. But I just failed chemistry for my mental health and I was blamed, and had to do after school detention. I mean I’m not perfect!
Take accountability. U failed the class. 🤷🏽♀️
@@NyeShawn1986 Wow, I hope you never go through what I went through. And also remember the times you were vulnerable emotionally and you wanted compassion and help and support😉
I am a high school teacher in the Netherlands. Although it's a little bit better here, I still recongize a lot of what you are telling, especially feeling exhausted after a school day.
I wish you all the best in the future. 🙏🏼
I worked with kids last year and I will never ever ever do that again ! They were disrespectful! Illiterate and toxic and I gained nothing from helping them and they don’t appreciate anything so I removed myself and will never bother with other people’s kids ever again ! I feel sorry for the youth of today !
@@nunyafawkingbiz I love kids but just not as a teacher. I like more of the counseling or mentor role.
You ain’t lied about not having energy to do anything afterwards! Teaching has its perks, but you definitely need the power of God to empower you!! It’s beautiful to see the growth in your students, but mannnnnn it’s a sacrifice!!
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Amen!! This is what their missing. GOD! 👑🙏🏿
All you said is truth. I am a high school math teacher myself. I do not want to do this anymore. The kids are disrespectful but the biggest thing for me is administration. Omg!!! They are biased and if you are not their favorite. Oh my God!!! Good for you. I will be leaving soon. I wish I could leave today!!!!
Hey are most of your students on grade level.
@@sharinaross1865I taught special education so none of them were on grade level. If they were then we had a meeting to end their IEP. That was very rare though.
America is built off of mysogyny. The reason teachers are underpaid in America is because they see teaching as "woman's work" and therefore it is undervalued. It absolutely disgusting. Teachers should be getting $30/hr minimum. When I was in school (public school), some of the kids I ran into actually scared and upset me. I was labeled the weird one because I stayed quiet, and I didn't like to talk about drama or bully people. High school kids are scary when they are taught to have no moral compass. I have my own set of issues but I never acted like a dick to animals or other people, like I saw them do. And if you speak up about it, you get labeled the bad one. One time I tried to tell a popular kid in my anatomy class (he was trying to impress some girls) to stop sexually assaulting a dead animal with his dissection tools, (we were dissecting cats) and the whole table of popular kids gave me dirty looks and probably would have tried to physically fight me if the teacher wasn't there, just cause I spoke up. Some kids are just really messed up and need therapy. I also got made fun of for crying when my cat passed away.
@@killerbeanmachine Smh! Unfortunately
Don't sacrifice your HEALTH for this nonsense. You're not a bad person by having values and self-respect. My husband had tried to get me to leave years before I left but it's been one of the very BEST decisions EVER! I thank God 👑 for peace.
@@hopelove1595 Amen to that! ❤️
I relate to almost everything you talked about. (Not the pay. I was in Colorado with a masters degree, so the pay was alright.) The complete lack of boundaries, the daily insults, the admin who didn’t want to deal with any of the obvious problems… All of that is so familiar to me. I also used to come home and go straight to bed. If I got out of bed, it was just to get high and watch cartoons (Colorado). My apartment went uncleaned for months and I was so embarrassed because I saw the mess, I just didn’t have the energy to deal with it. All I did, all day long, was play whack-a-mole with bad behaviors and try to bribe kids out of my pocket (PBIS) to do literally any school work. None of these problems were unique to me in my building.
Teaching was DESTROYING my mental health and my life. I knew I had to quit when I had a panic attack on the last day of winter break. I wouldn’t go back into teaching for a million dollars a year. If you convinced me that my only option was to teach for the rest of my life, I would kill myself.
And then there was the response from most of my family when I told them I was quitting: “Well, I hate my job, and I don’t quit.” Ugh. People don’t get that this teacher exodus is not happening because we all want to follow our bliss and be artists or whatever; it’s happening because this career is KILLING us, and no one cares.
First and foremost, thank you for sharing this with me. I’m sorry that you had such an unbearable experience, but it helps to know that you are not alone and you made the choice to put your health first. Have you considered therapy? It truly is traumatizing. The insults, gaslighting, and abuse really sinks deep when no one is there to listen and you were not able to release those feelings. Someone told me to never take things personally because they are kids, but it doesn’t mean it hurts any less or make the abuse ok. I hear you and your feelings are 100% valid.
I’ll be posting videos about what I am doing to heal from the trauma and abuse. It is most definitely a process and I hope you choose to invest in your healing. Sending a virtual hug to you. 💙
I endorse everything you have written.
I'm so glad that you and others are being transparent -- it helps to feel validated, especially since there is so much of that "toxic positivity" going on (I think it's a coping mechanism sometimes, while at other times, it's true -- it will be okay). When you hear it, it makes you feel like something's wrong with you; that maybe it's that you're just inadequate and what you feel isn't normal for everyone else. I'm stubborn, though. I know if what I'm seeing/experiencing is toxic and wrong, I don't need another person to agree with me because I know how it's affecting ME. Still ticks me off for someone else to be dismissive about the issues, ESPECIALLY a fellow teacher/admin. As for those outside of the profession -- at the end of the day, only teachers truly "get it." Please don't ever count on anyone else understanding what we go through. The only ones who even come close to "getting it" are spouses and children of teachers. Their lives can be miserably impacted by it, too. May you find your purpose and joy in whatever that is.
You are beautiful and kind, and it hurts my heart when kind people are mistreated. All of these teacher stories are making me rethink school for my daughter who is 3. If there’s no respect there, why have my child corrupted in such a toxic environment? So much to think about. Thank you for choosing yourself and walking away.
Thank you for your kind comment. ❤️ I don’t have children yet, but it would also concern me if I was a parent. I would definitely not want to send my kids to public school.
I pray you find a profession and place that values you an works for you my beautiful young sister!
I [was] a highschool student (who graduated this year), and through those years I saw how hellish it was for my poor beloved teachers- especially during covid. My transition year from middle school to highschool was during the peak of covid and it SHOWS by how many teens in my year continued to act like they were in 7th grade.
My teachers are often highly disrespected by their students, hearing many of them directly yell at them and insult them behind their backs… when… what they’re complaining about is quite literally not their fault. The amount of times my poor teachers were called “b1tches” for… doing their job.. is INSANE. Many of them have worked extremely hard to try get these kids to do their work, very very patiently and kindly holding back yelling and trying to coerce the kids to even just try do homework, but they never listen. It’s a pattern that continued as these kids NEVER changed in my 4 years up til my graduation.
My teachers saved me from giving up because of my educational disabilities, helped me so closely and gave me hope I could graduate when no one supported me at home. And I made it thanks to them. I owe them my life and I to this day email them my thanks whenever I achieve a new opportunity in my life as without them I wouldn’t be here. You guys deserve so much more than what this system gives and treats you. You all are so, so strong, and I deeply apologize for how much negative emotions my generation has caused- alongside the system that seems to always be against you. I wish you the best on your new ventures. You deserve that peace after so many years of fighting a war that was never on your side ❤
@@phelinmelon1007 So kind of you! Thank you so much!
As a student going into 8th grade, I am PRAYING that I have an old fashioned teacher when September rolls around. My generation needs to realize that their teachers aren’t one of their “little friends”
@@bxrrybxba8419 💯
This needs to be posted on all social media platforms!! I always say this! I make sure my daughter has respect. Her teachers always tell me she’s very well behaved. The kids in this generation are way beyond any words can explain
Preach! Everything you said hits home. You do get labeled at being negative when you talk about the facts. Teaching started to take a toll on my health, so I’m getting to go back to school to get out of the field period. Life is too short to be miserable!
So proud of you! What are you going back to school for? I’m doing counseling.
@@lovekesiashani I’m going for dental hygiene. Proud of you too and good luck on your new journey! We got this!
@@shanitab.4988 Oh nice! That’s great to hear. I hope you enjoy it.
Me too, I’m a health coach on the side and teaching hits mentally not physically. I told my mom I’m ok with being physically tired sometimes bc I can rest but being mentally exhausted is on a different level.
@@keshaharrington5847 Teaching affected me both mentally and physically. It was horrible😩
I dealt through everything you experienced, but more. I was an educator at one of the most underserved, violent, urban districts in the U.S. I advise those that are thinking about teaching to 🏃🏽♀️It truly will destroy your mental health, family life and lifestyle. I remained because it was my second career. That was a mistake. I wish you peace, happiness, and prosperity. No one knows what it’s like until they’ve experienced it❣️👸🏽
"No one knows what it’s like until they’ve experienced it" PERIOD!!! But the main ones with something cold and ugly to say about teacher issues are those who have NEVER experienced any of it. Teaching is a profession that has one of the highest rates of depression and teachers are kicked while they are down. They work around the clock and at least for me, I was rarely able to keep my family afloat! The starting salary should be $75k MINIMUM, with serious perks (some would say that the time we get to clock out is a perk, or the unpaid summer "break" where you work or go into debt if you didn't save your meager funds throughout the year and plan for next year...). School loans should be forgiven after sticking it out for 3 years (after which, many teachers quit).
I took my three teenagers to tour a public charter school. About 10% of the students would loiter in the hall the entire time, students they shadowed didn’t even attend most of their classes and when they did a kid told the Algebra II teacher to shut the F up. My kids are still happily homeschooled. 😂 I’m so sorry this was your experience. We respect and value your heart!!
Thank you! ❤
As a former middle school teacher who quit after two months, I completely empathize with you. Thank you for saying these things. Teaching in America’s public schools is one of the most stressful, under-appreciated, under-paying jobs one can imagine. I totally understand that “toxic positivity” you mentioned. It’s just a facade to cover up the fact nobody wants to fix any of the problems, and thus the vicious cycle continues.
@@Shadbraw You are preaching!
I'm sorry for your experience. I've been in education for 20 years. I spent 13 years teaching SPED, kinder, first and fourth grade, and I loved it. God blessed me with a pink slip from one district (the great teacher layoffs in California in 2009) and I moved to another. In this district, God has blessed me to be at great schools with great teachers, students and principals. The pay has also been pretty good. I then became the Vice Principal at a couple of schools and that's where i can say, I saw what truly goes on behind the scenes. The student and parent disrespect is real. I know admin gets blamed for a lot, but many times our hands are tied by the Board. I am now an administrator who oversees the afterschool program for 3 schools in our district. Everything has been fine, but for this new school year, we've been told that ALL children, regardless of their behaviors, cannot be dismissed from our program. No matter what they do, my staff, who are in their late teens to mid-20s, have to deal with them. How can these kids (my staff) deal with the behaviors that teachers and administrators can't? It's outrageous. But Im going into the year knowing that with God, all things are possible, and my after-school sites will not be overrun by crazy parents and bad behind kids. Bless you, my sister, for the work you put in trying to educate children. May God keep you as you move on to the next adventure. No one should stay at a job that is ruining your life.
@@SonicX6400 Hi! Thank you for sharing that. I often feel bad for admin, too. I had a few great principals and they would also tell me that their hands were tied. I watched the great principals leave as well. So sad! I could see the difference in those who were trying and those who felt defeated or just didn’t care. Some also simply didn’t stand on discipline. The system is failing on many levels. I am so happy that you’ve had a great experience. I wish I did. Blessings!
Thank you! I’ve tolerated all the abuse also. As long as lawyers keep school districts terrified, the parents will always be sided with. As a mom there’s no way my kids will ever teach!
I tell my kids that everyday. Even yesterday, I reminded them my ghost will haunt them if they ever dared to become a teacher. Ironically, I'm a teacher🤷🏽♀️
Well yeah, schools aren't designed to teach, they're designed to create a complicit workforce. Why would the government care about teachers or about educating kids when teachers aren't meant to teach and schools aren't meant to educate. I mean the way the government treats teachers makes sense when you think about it, if they don't care about teachers actually teaching, and teaching is a teacher's job, then why should they pay teachers a good wage? What the schools teach doesn't matter to the government, so the parents can influence what they teach as much as they want. Kids getting mistreated by schools and getting sent down pipelines to prison doesn't matter to schools, because if a kid is in that position, they've proven to the school, and to the government, that they're not a valuable worker becaue they're defiant. So, we have teachers who aren't cared for, uneducated kids, and kids who act up (and kids who "act up" but aren't really doing anything wrong) all the time and either get mistreated for it, or are allowed to do it and continue to mistreat teachers and other kids, but are never spoken to in a healthy way about why they act that way. The only way this toxic culture around teaching changes is if we as a society change first. That probably won't happen though. I'm happy though that so many teachers are able to stand strong in the face of how everyone treats them, but I also hope they're able to recognize how poorly they're treated.
@@skeletorthepublicnuisance6707 yes you are absolutely right,i want to see the society as a whole to have a big fucking change.
I mean,you better change you ways
After almost 30 years of teaching, I'd like to leave you with some advice. Never let one teaching assignment, school, or even administrator dull your sparkle. While there are commonalities, every school is different. Try a different dynamic and type of school. After 24 years at schools with students of the greatest need and elementary school, I switched to middle school with different dynamics. Best decision of my life. While there are problems at this level, it works for me.
I tried 3 different schools. It’s exhausting to keep switching. 😞 I also tried middle school and high school. I wouldn’t say that it dulled my sparkle, I would say that the system does not appreciate my sparkle. I’m glad you found what works for you. How long did it take to find something suitable for you in the education field?
@kesia_shani It took 24 years, sadly, and it's not perfect. You are correct about everything you said in your video. You could always get a supplemental certificate and teach something different and less demanding. Get your masters while you are young and work on another level or another field. I'm proud of you for standing in your truth. The professional jealousy and toxic positivity are real. Play the game, advance, and bear them at their own games.
@@thepurplediva2957 Professional jealousy...That was also exhausting. I never understood why this exists in teaching.
Thank you for your honesty. You explained so much of what I’m feeling. I’m close to leaving. No more than 2 yrs. I’m at year 13.
@@lovekesiashaniit’s ok to know that teaching isn’t for you
Cliques! Yes!! In addition to the denial of the toxic teachers, the cliques are obnoxious. I worked in a school where those teachers roped the students in on that one as well and gossiped with them, creating a terrible culture - and set a horrible example for our young charges. Yes, like being in HS all over again.
I’ve seen it, too. Gossiping with students is next level petty. Smh…
Sad, but true.
@@erinmelonThat’s a good point. Sad for them but a great observation on your end lol.
@@erinmelon I think you're right. Most teachers are great in my experience, but I've noticed what seems like an over-representation of people in the profession who are emotionally immature.
@HomeEcSewing
I don’t disagree with the cliques. While I do causally get along with all of my staff members respectfully. I’ve seen my share of cliques. During my first year as a TA, I was a credential program college student and the fellow TAs who were students too were in their early-mid 20s like me. Which sounds exciting at first but….most of them had clicky vibes and didn’t bother to welcome me into their group. They were ok in the sense that we communicated professionally and said “hi” to me . But it would’ve been nice to have work besties, so that was kind of disappointing. There were a couple here and there that I talked to but not as much as I would’ve liked.
I am Italian and live on the other side of the world from where you are and these are the same reasons why I quit school . Every single on of them, I experienced it. So it seems school is sinking as a system itself ..
I am a substitute teacher with 7 years subbing experience. I wrote a list of all the shenanigans kids pull in the classroom. I estimated I would come up with about 50 or 75. My list is now MORE THAN 225 Rude Misbehaviors kids do during class! The problem is the public has an idea that kids are a bit misbehaved... but it is WAY WORSE THAN THAT. Sometimes there are multiple kids in the same room doing different rude things. For example chasing each other around the room, cussing at each other, throwing things, eating in class and throwing food & wrappers on the floor, Laughing and talking VERY LOUDLY and NOT STOPPING, sitting on the floor or counter tops rather than their assigned seat, Busting inkpens apart and throwing all the pieces except the ink cartridge which they pour out the ink all over the floor/desk/ and other students seat so he sits on it and ruins their clothes, Handwash lotion is glopped into their hand and they slap it into the face of another kid, pushing/slapping each other constantly doing "Fake-Fights", Bickering constantly with other student the whole class and WONT SHUT UP, insulting the teacher in many many ways such as saying "YOU'RE SO OLD!"... or "YOU STINK".... or "THE TEACHER FARTED!!" (whole class laughs, but you DIDN"T fart!), doing a nasty dance IN CLASS recording it on Tik Tok, ........ etc etc.....etc.... if anyone wants the WHOLE LIST just email me and I will attach it to the email. my name is David Mundy my emaill is framistan@sbcglogal dot net. ask for the 200 shenanigan list.
I can relate to this. I was a Social Worker for 22 years. I stayed way too long but during the pandemic I had enough. I respect anyone who becomes a teacher. You're dealing with students, the workload, planning, dealing with unruly students, safeguarding issues, other staff etc. Glad that you made the best decision for you and I wish you all the best!
0:25 Yikes! I work at McDonald's, a notorious "bad job", and I would definitely not be relieved about not going to work because of an accident! Like many kids in elementary school, I wanted to be a teacher when I grew up, but my mom talked me out of it by telling me about her awful experiences with Karens of parents. At least in a job like fast food the Karens only stay for maybe ten minutes at most. Even the worst of them won't invest too much time in getting a free smoothie/full refund for their order because of something small or whatever.
But with uncaring or entitled parents, they will heckle you all year for disciplining their little angel even lightly. Oh---and that reminds me of a funny story. One of my mom's students was literally named that---Mon petit ange. Yes---he was "My Little Angel", in French. And he was the worst behaved little snob she had taught in a long time. And his mom refused to discipline him. My mom even happened to see him at the store once, and he was climbing all over the clothing racks and horsing around while the mom did absolutely nothing.
@@Tail_sez Yes! In teaching you are forced to see the people who abused you on a daily basis. Which takes an even bigger toll on your mental health!
Wow, so many things to say...As a teacher of more than 20 years, I'll say these things:
I am sooo sorry about your experience as a teacher. Those toxic positive teachers are sometimes in denial or, and this is typically the case, the environment SLOWLY grew to be intolerable for them with one disrespect or problem at a time. With that being the case, they honestly don't understand how/why someone just coming in finds the environment intolerable. Think of the parable of frogs and boiling water.
With regard to the blame game, I'm going to play a little bit. I believe that the school system is the way it is because of what admin tolerates and what teachers are limited by. To be clear though, expectations of behavior START IN THE HOME. Back in my day, we called it home training and there's a serious lack of that now.
Finally, I'm so glad you recovered from your accident!
I am deeply moved by your kindness and understanding. I was nervous to share this experience because I thought people would be overly critical. It feels good to be understood especially by someone who has as much experience as you. People just accept the intolerable conditions because it’s what they’re used to but it doesn’t make it okay. Home training is a HUGE thing lacking in this generation. It’s really heartbreaking to witness.
@@lovekesiashanihome training goes undone when you're a working, stressed out ,or not working but strung out single mother who probably didn't have home training themselves!
Schools are not only chaotic, they are spiritually dark. That toxic positivity got to me too, and going straight to bed after school was real too. So glad you’re taking care of yourself now. 👌🏽
@@freezo244 💯 I am about to upload a video about that!
I firmly believe I should be teaching. I taught for 8 years, up until the pandemic. Lord knows it was NOT for the paycheck, as I made about 800 every two weeks. I devoted my life outside of work to lesson planning/prepping, and some of my paycheck for supplies for the classroom.
But it was still never good enough. There was always something wrong, and eventually, though I tried to stay positive, I was exhausted and burnt out. I saw the pandemic as a break, and a way out. I miss teaching sooo much, but I cannot go back into it, knowing I will be paid absolutely nothing, and take all the never ending work and worry home with me. This country needs help in so many ways, and education is one of them... There is a problem when people who want to teach, and are good at it, will not go into the field because of allllllll the reasons you listed off.
I hear you. And you aren't alone.
800 every two weeks for teaching is insane.
Yes. Teaching is an extremely hard job. I quit teaching in 2018 for all of the reasons you've mentioned, and I told myself that I would never come back, but during the pandemic, I missed teaching and I felt a calling to come back in 2020.
I like teaching, and I have a passion for it, but this profession is challenging. The negative student behavior, horrible parents, and lack of support from admin make the job harder than it needs to be.
I pray that God gives you the strength and wisdom to carry on in this profession without it burning you out again. Thank you for all you do. ❤
I hear you sister! On a healing journey from teaching - I'm subbing for private, charter, and smaller school districts; venturing into new areas, healing my body (moving my bodyin new ways, healthy living, got a mentor, etc) and learning boundaries. I took time off and I'm going back - I may teach adults. I'm going in eyes wide open and equipped to not lose myself but BE myself unapologetically!!!! All the best to you truly!
Hi Kesia, I just found your video. I started teaching last year (elementary school) and it was an absolute nightmare. My number 1 problem was student behaviors. These kids have literally gone feral. Not all of them, but I'd say half of my classes the kids' behaviors were atrocious. I'm a specials teacher so I see the entire school, weekly. I had to write up at least 6 fights last year. And I mean kids literally punching each other, slapping, hitting etc. One kid, out of the blue, went ballistic and hit 7 kids in my classroom. There was no rhyme or reason, he just got up and started hitting and kicking kids. It was crazy. How is anyone supposed to teach in an environment like this? So many times I had to stop my lesson because a kid was hitting another kid, or calling him names. It was a constant struggle of dealing with all these emotional problems the kids came to school with. And like you said, so many times I had to stop my lesson and give a lecture on why we don't hit each other, why we don't call each other names, why we dont stick our fingers and objects in electrical outlets (yes I had 7 and 8 year olds trying to do this in my classroom). It was so draining mentally, every single day. I know kids did not act this awful when I was a kid. They have literally gone feral. I completely understand your frustration and wanting to quit. I am giving myself one more year (Im trying a different school) and see what happens. I pray things are better cause I cant handle another year like last year. Thank you for sharing, and you're definitely not alone in your feelings and struggles!!
The behavior is literally out of control and like you mentioned, how do you teach? Teachers have become parents and counselors without any additional compensation for it. I truly hope that this school year is better for you, but I found that it’s better to leave before you invest too much time. That’s just my personal opinion. If this is what it is the first year, can you commit to this for another 20-30 years? 😬 Something to think about…
@@lovekesiashani yes exactly! These kids act like wild hyenas. I'm not exaggerating either 😢. We are supposed to be parents and counselors too, on top of teaching! It's impossible! I felt like the majority of my job was just babysitting the kids so the teachers could get their planning periods. You're absolutely right, do I want to do this for the next 30 years?? No, I definitely do not. I pray God help me find another career that I don't dread going to everyday. I wanted to try teaching one more year because I put so much effort into my college degree. Plus we are in a financial bind right now and I have to pay bills. But I do not want to continue in this for the rest of my life. Thank you for your reply ❤️
@@lovekesiashaniNot only is there no additional compensation, but many admin will now suggest “getting the kids on your side,” by buying them treats out of your own pocket on at least a weekly basis. This was the #1 discipline advice I was given, over and over again. “They won’t behave or turn in their work? Have you tried bringing in cupcakes on Fridays?”
@@bonusvampirusOOOOH!! This is a GREAT point!!! There were teachers at the previous school I worked at who were praised for using their own money to buy supplies and food. That should NOT be something teachers have to do. It should be forbidden! Teachers already don’t make enough.
@@RP-vy8stI will pray for you, too! I didn’t think I could afford grad school but God made a way for me. Keep your faith and trust that there is a way that God already has planned for you. ❤
I taught for 12 years, left teaching in 2010 and it was the BEST decision I’ve ever made for myself mentally, emotionally, and financially! Kudos to you for having the strength & courage to leave, take your power back, and reinvent your life. Life is way too short to be stressed out everyday in your career!
Nine years as a teacher, nine years as a school counselor.......I am so glad I left the education system. I 100% agree with you. At one point when I was a teacher, I sat in my car at 6:30 AM every day, dreading to go into the building. I am at peace now and realize how demanding those years were.
@@silviasimpson8140 What do you do now?
As a Student myself. I never thought that many other students around the country would be this bad. Best wishes
@@dogmanandborisproductions Thank you! ❤️
To all the teachers out there, THANK YOU FOR THE JOB YOU DO.
I love teachers and I wish they were appreciated and paid their worth. It’s a shame you had such a bad experience. Wishing you all the best for a successful future.
It's bad when you'd rather recover from a car accident than go to the classroom. Love and support to you and all our teachers❤
As a psychotherapist, yes she is so accurate. I counsel many teachers and principals. It’s really rough for them in some school systems.
As a high school student myself I can confirm the problems we have within schools. The constant disrespect and disruption that teachers face can cause teachers to be fed up with terrible behaviors. Parents have to do better and teach their kids respect, the lack of authority , discipline and accountability can cause students to bring that behavior in schools. Even as a student I learn that kids can be severely cruel it’s sad.
I feel you 1000% the job is exhausting and teachers are bullied by the students, admin and the parents. Good for you for getting out😅
I am over exhausted! It’s gonna take me a while to recover.
@@lovekesiashani me too. I've been on summer vacation for about thirty days now and I still haven't been able to get my selff out of the house trying to recuperate from the exhausted school year . Just been laying around all day.
as a high school student myself i agree with everything you said. After all the years ive been going to school i just dont understand how teachers can put up with so much. thank you for trying to help students i know it must have been a nightmare
@@Sino_fr 😇
It makes me so sad to hear this. I just finished my 22nd year of teaching middle school and have been on the struggle bus since COVID. Virtual/Hybrid teaching negatively affected teaching, learning, and social/emotional learning. Unfortunately, you entered teaching during this difficult time and I'm not surprised to hear you say you're done. I'm a mentor teacher in my district and I've heard some of our new teachers echo many of the same things you have said. My advice to them (and you) is before throwing away your dream of teaching, switch districts/schools, grade levels, or both. It's important to find a district or school that is a good fit for you. Having a great administrator can make a world of difference. I've had seven principals within those 22 years. Very few of them were phenomenal and most were mediocre. If I didn't have a phenomenal one right now (and if retirement wasn't in sight), I'm not sure what I would do. I hope that you find joy, passion, and love in whatever position you pursue next.
I appreciate your wisdom. I’ve tried three different schools. Some were better than others, but only by a very tiny bit which was barely noticeable. I really tried to hang in there and I tried many different things. It just didn’t work for me.
If you’ve never experienced what she’s speaking about as an educator, you might not understand. Everyone doesn’t have the same experience in education; however, those situations are real. Educational society, the demands and requirements of educators and the expectations of parents has drastically changed. Do what you can, as much as you can, for as long as you can. Blessings to everyone.😊
A common thread I'm picking up from this story, others' stories, and my story: No support from the school. The admins give zero F's about what's happening, how poorly students act, what state the building is in, how worn out teachers are, etc. Nobody backs you up when you have to deal with a student acting poorly, and if you do take it into your own hands (which you will most likely have to), you're going to get in trouble. Students are encouraged to act out, because they know nothing will happen to them for acting a fool.
I taught special education students ages 3-12 in NJ public schools for 23 years. I loved it for the first 14 years. Then the public’s attitude towards teachers began to change. Teachers went from being respected to being expected to tolerate all kinds of bs from students, parents, and at times, administrators. I hung in there another nine years, hoping to make it to 25 years to get lifetime retirement health benefits. But it was after a school board member visited our school’s classrooms and decided special education teachers shouldn’t have desks anymore that I put in my retirement papers. Some a$$ who never taught had the arrogance to make my life harder didn’t deserve to have me teaching in that district. I left and I have never regretted it one single second. Micromanaging a classroom and treating teachers as “entertainers” rather than educators is the quickest way to lose good teachers. I miss my colleagues but nothing else.
Obama got involved in education and discipline remember that?
You are extremely emotionally intelligent. Unfortunately you have to be either a narcissist or dead inside to survive in most industries during this time. It’s so important to know that your feelings are valid and it’s not your fault. There’s a reason why I’ve seen lawyers, teachers, nurses, doctors, engineers who all feel this way. I believe it all traces back to corporate greed and misplaced resources. Any time you feel this way, remember that someone is laughing to the bank at your expense.
@@cynthiag.5048 Wow!!! You are preaching. Thank you for your encouragement and support. I appreciate you.
You hit the nail on the head with the "toxic positivity." No time to teach because of putting out fires. A student threatened to beat the sh#t out of me because I asked them to put their backpack away. My students grew academically, but it was a very tough road helping them get there. I'm so tired. I'm so happy for you.
I loved seeing the growth in my students. To me that was one of the best things about teaching.
I had a student threaten to get their mom to fight me. It’s crazy how in different locations teachers still have stories that are so similar. I’m sorry that happened to you and thank you for your service to the future generations. 🙂
Maybe I’ll do a video about the positives next.
What a shame that your story isn't a "one and done." Instead, it's one that across the country, we've all known and heard too well and often. Still, I'm sorry you experienced that, you don't deserve it. I would ask what disciplinary action was taken but I'm afraid that answer will be an insufficient, very familiar answer as well.😞
So what happened to the student
@@ceceprincess4758She came back to class the next day. Smh…
@kesia_shani If you do a video on the positives, I'd watch it. So, I did watch this video in its entirety and your health and mental health are very important. Once you recognized that you were not happy, yes it's time to bounce up out of there. I have children and even they come home from school and tell me how they have a headache from the noise and loud talking and arguments of their fellow classmates and even the bus rides are often rough. I feel it for them. I've observed the unruly children and I know that proper structure and discipline is lacking in their dwelling place.
I'm always grateful towards all of my children's instructors and teachers because I do see the growth in their education in their academics.
Continue to take care of yourself and continue to seek God's will for your life.
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I was an English teaching assistant in France for two contracts. During my first contract, I thought about becoming a teacher - I saw the pros and cons. But by the end of the second contract, I knew I couldn’t. Even in France the kids have attention and behavioral issues. Congrats to you for making the decision. Teaching can be incredibly rewarding, but unfortunately in today’s society, it can be very hard to come out of a workday feeling rewarded.
I remember my 10th grade English teacher telling the class she lived in Price Hill (a low income and high crime area in Cincinnati). The mean kids snickered and made rude comments, but I found it sad. A position that requires a bachelors, push them for a master’s degree, and she is living in a terrible area. Its all she could afford, and Teachers deserve better.