You were preaching in this video! I’m not trying to be mean but weight is definitely holding back A LOT OF BW from getting the man they desire! No Shade! I seen it with my own eyes with my older sister! She lost almost 200lbs last April and she is about to meet her boyfriend’s parents in Spain this weekend!
Allot of Women think they offer allot of attributes to men but in reality that don't. Men are shallow , beauty , fit , feminine, and cooperative will always be first of most men's list .
@@Nicholes-Dad Mind you, my older sister is an OB/GYN and very successful! The weight was the only thing holding her back! I thank God she finally stopped being delusional and got it together!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Funny thing is it’s not holding them back from men in the their reality but from the men of their dreams (rich, high value men). These men want attractive women. You know by 21 if you are sexy, hot, attractive, etc. This show only shows how delusional a lot of bw are.
She's dressing "invisible". She looks married and like she doesn't have to impress anyone anymore. The intelligent women work so hard on the inside, that the outside just needs to be clean, neutral, and pressed. She just needs to find her inner Jacqueline from Boomerang lol. She can do this.
Being married and not having to impress anymore is the quick way to end a marriage. Never understand why women feel the need to do that. Like why wouldn't you man want to see you at your best?
A lot of women don’twant to accept that they are not finding these men because they are invisible to the men they want. You can let your girlfriends gas you up all day but unless you’re trying to date a woman it doesn’t help🤷🏽♀️
@@Higfsyourvioihb Majority of men who actually have money don’t date/marry the “baddie”. Yes many do especially in the entertainment world. Directors and Executives of Tech, Operations, Banking, Finance, Politics, and many other fields that make the world go round are married to average looking women. The % of high earning men is low anyway so demanding or requiring that you want to attract that man is setting you up for around a potential of a 4% success rate. ( % adjusted for age, sexual preference, marriage status and locality.) It’s already distasteful to require it, then you aren’t the most attractive, struggle to comprehend that these men are all around and there is no specific place to find them lowers her chance to .02%🤷🏽♀️
She is not lying! I don't wear dresses often, and one day I wore a dress for a TV interview, wore the dress out of the store I bought it from and I kid you out this man followed me to my car offered to carry my bags and asked if I was married. Also, I noticed whenever I leave the gym men holla as well, it's something about a man liking a woman who's taking care of herself...so she is not lying your life will change once you level up men will come out of the woodworks lol
What Ashley said gently was- she’s giving plain Jane. Therefore, it doesn’t matter where you go, bc the men are not checking for you! Take the glasses off. Make the hair more polished. We’re women of a certain age, never leave the house without makeup. No one is saying a lash at 8 am. But mix your foundation with your daily moisturizer-to make a tinted moisturizer, put concealer under the eyes, mascara, and lip gloss-always! Put on some perfume, get that signature scent! You will feel sexy and confident and you’ll draw men in. Think 2/3…out of hair, makeup, and outfit 2/3 has to be on point!
Plain jane is fine... overweight is not. We also don't care about makeup. You women give each other trash advice instead of just asking men what we want and then doing exactly what we ask for. Most of us successful men will choose a fit younger childless woman over an overweight older woman all day.
@DanteFortson I tend to agree, but the thing is men say they like "no makeup" but what they really mean is "natural looking makeup" -- what she described above is the type of makeup that gives a glow (esp to women late 20s and up), not heavy. If this lady had a little glow to her skin (even with better moisturizer and lip gloss) she would look 10xs better. Perhaps another way to put it -- Ashley is wearing heavy makeup, yet 99.9% of men are going to approach her over Nari. Much like women who proclaim to like "good guys", results speak differently. - Signed a woman that always wears makeup, married 20 yrs to a man that loves "natural". ❤
As I get older I’m noticing that a lot of us (myself included) think that degrees and high-income jobs are what certain men care about… and that’s not the case. I grew up in a strict household that pushed higher education. While this isn’t bad and I’m grateful for the financial security I started to realize that the men that I was attracted to didn’t care about those things and I went a long time without making my looks a priority because I never felt that I had to. I’m getting to a point where it takes balance. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being intentional with your appearance and it doesn’t make you any less serious. I’m learning that taking pride in your appearance does not make you vain. If I can put in all this effort in school, and work and everyone else, I should be able to pour some of that back into myself too. I found that I was disciplined in career and school but lazy in other areas..
She laughed when Ashley said book a session. She won’t change because she thinks she is perfect. She feels her degree , career , and her lifestyle should be what men want. She needs to lose weight and dress herself up. Her press needs more silk added.
Trust me even if a great man likes/accepts u as is- you’re gonna feel insecure and less than when u get into that circle. All the other women will be on a certain level and you’ll stand out in a bad way n feel like ppl look/talk down to u. You HAVE to do the inner work. It’s a lot but worth it. She can do it!
Nari don't want to hear anything about improving herself. She want these men who worked their way to the top to approach and compete for her as she is. She said forget all that weight talk, where these men at 😂
Looking at her shoulders, she gives me the vibe where she is probably smaller than what she looks. I think her face is on the bigger side because her shoulders are narrow.
Ashley you are so right. When I lost weight and was at the gym , I was more confident and had so many guys. I gained weight and it’s not the same. I need to get back to myself and hit the gym.
You are so right. I also live in NYC. I’m an average looking older black woman wearing glasses, but decided to really level up one day and two men-one Asian and one White-couldn’t get to the doors quick enough to open them up for me. I was also trying to get a cab and I did not have to do anything. The White man hailed one for me. I have so many stories, but Narie needs a complete makeover!
I work with 98% men who are multi millionaire men. There are a lot of great men. But as women we have to look presentable, speak nicely, take care of our physical self, and not being in our bubble. All the men who are my business partners are great men. As classy women, it’s important to find common interests and speak to these great men. They know other great men. If you open up to change, you will be surprised that your husband has been in front of you the whole time.
That analogy was so spot on!! Men are everywhere, they are always there. That’s a word!!It’s up to you to show up as your best self for them to see you!!
7:25 “when you look good and you look put together you won’t even make it to the location”. This is an actual factual! Men approach me everyday when I go outside, and even more so when I wear dresses or skirts.
It seems like she wants to rush to the fairytale outcome without doing the work first. You have to be the best version of yourself to attract the best options in the market. You can't out strategize the realities of the dating market.
@@moblack5883 right... I'm so sick of their education and careers... I'll take a younger childless woman with no job over old overweight career women all day long.
@@moblack5883 I have 2 women. Both of which know each other and are in shape. Respectful and non combative. 1 is 41 and the other is 22 y/o aspiring model. Both are very attractive and we all had dinner together just 2 days ago. I happen to be tall and successful... and nothing most of you women think we want is remotely close to what men at my level actually want. We don't settle because we don't have to. We aren't monogamous unless we choose to be because we don't have to be. We don't deal with a lot of talk back nor do we play step daddy if we don't want to... and the majority of us don't. Listening to what us men say would actually help a lot of you but instead y'all get sugar coated advice from women that don't wanna hurt your feelings. Unattractive women likely aren't getting a HVM if she doesn't bring another woman to the table with her. Where it will fall apart for most women is trying to require monogamy. We can simply replace you with 2 women that don't ask for monogamy... and there are plenty out there. Many women are shooting way above their level and aren't even close to competing with our options.
No lie I started going to the gym about two years ago and now I attract men that I have always thought was out of my league. And I mean fine idris elba type of men! I go to gym regularly and it feels so nice when they even notice my weight loss. Having a gym/yoga/step class/ run class hobby is good to get you out your normal routine and around new people
I think Nari's typical work outfits look like what she's wearing in the video. If she gets more attention from the men she wants while she has her ends bumped and lashes then she'd have to do all that more often. Consistency is key!
She didn't want to hear nothing about the appearance. She's already in the right place she just doesn't have the look yet. Ashley is right I'm taking the advice great video 💯🤦🏾♀️
I'm totally agreeing with you 💯.... I'm a og now but bayybee back in the day i was that extraordinary young lady and went through to be that extraordinary middle aged woman..... I'm close to being a senior citizen but I'm still that lady..... Literally ‼️💯
Love your perspectives and how you always keep it real but also real classy. Men and women both have self reflection and leveling up to do before they should even think to disparage the other sex for their wants. Subscribed.
@shygirl920 yes I said on the live have lunch in Bryant Park. I remember telling my boss about the men n how bad it got she was overprotective like get pepper spray their neck 😂😂. Like on a busy block no 😂
It’s actually scary how these men will come to you in nyc💀 I was visiting and had a man trail me in his car until I went into the train entrance I needed😭
Ashley is telling the absolute truth. Since levelling up, I can't get these men away from me😅. It's actually so overwhelming. Everyday some man wants to talk.
Ashley always hits it right on the head! When you can’t even get all the way to where you going without being approached, you know you doing the damn thang!!! In real life doe!!! 😏😂❤
Ashley body is straight 🔥🔥🔥, that a huge plus if you do in fact have that beautiful body, men truly desires to be seen with Ashley is absolutely beautiful on all levels 🌹🌹🌹
She is 100% correct. We want everyone to accept us as-is, but not willing to accept any kind of man in that "as-is" state. It makes no sense. Even the "Average" men are not interested in "bummy" women. Forget high value men, most of us are not even being competitive for the average man. Most black women would be so lucky to get an average man. Think ladies! The consumer doesn't want what we're selling. It's the same concept with earning these degrees. We all know we can't even get an interview for that higher-paying job if we don't meet the minimum requirement such as having a college degree. The degree is the entrance fee to be considered.The same goes for our physical image. It is the entrance fee.
Its hilarious how she spoke about people (not specifically men) in the comment section and the filter stuff. Yet, you glossed over everything she stated about how a woman needs to improve herself. As if you ignored that part on purpose.
I told my gfs so often about physical attraction , whenever I gained weight, I would go to the gym, and men at the gym paid more attention to a fly on the wall than me 😂🤣 When I got in shape and looked good, the same men , that were ignoring me, would chase me 😂🤣 As unfortunate as it is, that’s the reality!😁
Let's be real . If a man is already established why would he want to settle down when so many women him . I don't care how much a woman works on herself. The bottom line is that high earning men regardless of color are in demand .
Mostly for status reasons. In many of my networks, the majority of established men are married across all races. Whether they're sexually faithful is a different story though, most of them obviously not. Nonetheless, your point is still largely valid, because there's far less of an incentive for a successful man to get married and "settle down" today compared to 40yrs ago. The women are far easier to access, less sacred, and more entitled.
Despite what is spewed in the media, many men want one woman. High caliber high character men who are grounded and truly living in their purpose don’t have time and have no desire to allocate their time/resources to multiple women. It’s counterproductive to their mission, defies discipline and quite frankly is a waste of energy.
Nari thinks she knows what she's doing and just needs to know where the men are. She's putting the cart before the horse. The key isn't being around men, it's how to behave when she's in their company. Ashley gave good guidance that Nari needed to work on maximizing her appearance first, but Nari didn't want to hear that. There are loads of men who can give her valuable guidance about how to present herself to men, but I'm confident Nari wouldn't want to hear that either. If a woman looks her best and conducts herself in a way that is pleasing to men, it doesn't matter where she goes, the men will find her.
3:30 into this video. She has a problem liatening and answering questions that she asked directly. Most people in general have this problem. Most dudes about their bauiness are not gonna keep asking yiu the same question over and over waiting for you to comprehend the question. She asked her directly, how are you showing up? Then she proceeds to tell you which restaurants she does or does not go to. That's a turn-off for any man. Its especually turn off for a man who values his time.
I don't know her, but I can see the truth. You don't just snap your fingers and declare yourself as highly coveted and expect to be entitled to the best. She wants top 10% of men. OK, fine, but those men want top 10% of women based on THEIR criteria. She feels left out and wondering why she can't get those men, yet there's also 90% of men she is ignoring and telling to bite the dust. She is passing up SO many other men that's right for her, but she's overvaluing herself. The equivalent would be an average man (pay wise) constantly chasing after top 10% women and continuing to fail, then wanting to turn around and blame all women for his predicament passing up lots of good women. At her current state, she's not going to attract a super rich man and needs to let that go. Rich men put in a LOT of work. To be with a rich man, you also have to put in a LOT of work. Even if I were a very rich man and attracted to her, I still wouldn't talk to her. Her focus seems to be on more of what I can provide for her and give her, than it is about ME. If my money were to dry up tomorrow in a stock market crash, will she be there for me? The answer is NO. She is looking for sponsorship and a lifestyle and many men can see that. Ashley is trying to be nice, but doesn't have the heart to tell her the honest truth. She is not beautiful in her present state and she needs to resort to clothes or makeup to look like someone she is not. Sorry to say that.
Would love to know if any of these ladies that NEED Ashley, actually book a private with her. If I wasn't married or getting the results I wanted, I would book her so quick without question.
She is not beautiful!!! Yall need to start telling the truth. Beautiful women gets results. Clearly she is not getting results. Men dont find her beautiful, you females just cant stamd to.hurt each others feelings.
I don’t know why another woman has to tell another woman this info it’s common sense .smh and this is why women hate because they lack self awareness’s 😢.
She sugar coating it to this girl. She’s around successful everyday yet none of them are trying to date her. She’s not pretty enough or out together enough for the type of man she wants
0:57 She said most black men in America dont make enough to have a family, yet black women are still having babies by them. Also, black men still average 45k per year. Thats more than enough considering men dont spend frivolously like women.
I was thinking the same thing! BW are still having babies by broke dudes. But the narrative that BW are making more than BM has been proven false so many times. I believe the average income for BM has reached 50k, which is the US average! BM make more than BW on average.
Not only that, you can't get something for nothing. If a man pays for you or makes a certain amount, you will have to tolerate some things. You have no clue of the demands a high value man makes on his woman. Bc if you did, you would not be requesting them...
We literally attract everyone. We just don’t notice or entertain everyone. Who you entertain speaks to what’s happening inside of you, not what you attract.
@@kimberly329 I think in this particular case, she's actually not attracting the man she has in her head. I don't think the problem is that Mr. Big is approaching her for a date at Carbone and she's turning him down. Gotta be real about that.
@@okbutexplainthis I think the problem is the men she’s interested in have a type and her appearance here doesn’t project that. Although it could with a few changes. Right now that guy might notice her for reasons that don’t align with something serious but it’s an attraction nonetheless.
@@kimberly329 It sounds like you're agreeing with me. The problem isn't that she's entertaining the wrong men. She's not attracting (like romantic attraction) the guy she wants. Those guys are dating beautiful NYU grad students. She doesn't realize who she's competing against, unfortunately.
Ashley: "I'm mot saying you're not beautiful" Lol, that's exactly what Ashley is saying. The reality is, she is not beautiful. She's not gorgeous. She is average - like most women. Even if she lost the weight I can see she'd still be average. And thus, will end up with an average dude and not a rich dude. But she does not want to face that reality. And average is ok. There's nothing wrong with average! Nature granted true beauty (guy beauty) and looks to only a small percentage of women, despite how they gas each other up with lies. Nature is not fair, and it does not have to be. I mean, every woman thinks she is beautiful. And every woman tells other woman they're beautiful. If you're average be satisfied with a man on your level, which is also average: in money, wealth, looks, height, etc
Exactly what Ashley is saying...she has to OVER produce in the looks category. Bria myles could wear sweats everyday and get more attention this this girl.
Unless Nari is open to the middle aged yt men or other races, it doesn’t matter where she goes bc the amount of Blk millionaires is negligible- and the few are mostly 45+. And people need to stop confusing income and wealth. And sistas stay getting on BM, when in 2022, the average median wealth value of us was $3300. Just stop with the Becky games, and find a good working, stable working or middle class man you’re compatible with and build. Broke isn’t fun, but having someone you can be yourself with and having steady regular dates with the occasional splurge builds solid relationships.
You were preaching in this video! I’m not trying to be mean but weight is definitely holding back A LOT OF BW from getting the man they desire! No Shade! I seen it with my own eyes with my older sister! She lost almost 200lbs last April and she is about to meet her boyfriend’s parents in Spain this weekend!
Allot of Women think they offer allot of attributes to men but in reality that don't. Men are shallow , beauty , fit , feminine, and cooperative will always be first of most men's list .
Exactly! Finally, a woman that gets it! Weight issues are ABSOLUTELY holding back a lot of black women.
@@Nicholes-Dad Mind you, my older sister is an OB/GYN and very successful! The weight was the only thing holding her back! I thank God she finally stopped being delusional and got it together!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Funny thing is it’s not holding them back from men in the their reality but from the men of their dreams (rich, high value men). These men want attractive women. You know by 21 if you are sexy, hot, attractive, etc. This show only shows how delusional a lot of bw are.
What men?Most men don’t make enough money to afford a wife.
She's dressing "invisible". She looks married and like she doesn't have to impress anyone anymore. The intelligent women work so hard on the inside, that the outside just needs to be clean, neutral, and pressed. She just needs to find her inner Jacqueline from Boomerang lol. She can do this.
Being married and not having to impress anymore is the quick way to end a marriage. Never understand why women feel the need to do that. Like why wouldn't you man want to see you at your best?
A lot of women don’twant to accept that they are not finding these men because they are invisible to the men they want. You can let your girlfriends gas you up all day but unless you’re trying to date a woman it doesn’t help🤷🏽♀️
Exactly!
Big Facts...for Rich men you have to look the part...
@@Higfsyourvioihb Majority of men who actually have money don’t date/marry the “baddie”. Yes many do especially in the entertainment world. Directors and Executives of Tech, Operations, Banking, Finance, Politics, and many other fields that make the world go round are married to average looking women. The % of high earning men is low anyway so demanding or requiring that you want to attract that man is setting you up for around a potential of a 4% success rate. ( % adjusted for age, sexual preference, marriage status and locality.) It’s already distasteful to require it, then you aren’t the most attractive, struggle to comprehend that these men are all around and there is no specific place to find them lowers her chance to .02%🤷🏽♀️
Man it's good hearing a woman say this & actually know this about men. I bet you got a man
@@shynebayarea510 I do 💍 🤣
Im a man and agree 100000% MEN are visual. Women must prioritize their appearance, men must prioritize their finances
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She is not lying! I don't wear dresses often, and one day I wore a dress for a TV interview, wore the dress out of the store I bought it from and I kid you out this man followed me to my car offered to carry my bags and asked if I was married. Also, I noticed whenever I leave the gym men holla as well, it's something about a man liking a woman who's taking care of herself...so she is not lying your life will change once you level up men will come out of the woodworks lol
“My stomach flat” baby Nara doesn’t think she needs to change a damn thing 😂😂😂😂😂
Women in her circle been lying to her.
It might be, but she has a lot of masculine energy
@@PSYCHDEGREE63 and she ain't pretty
@@maxlogan7388 Folks gassing her up. Who would take a second look at this girl!
@@maxlogan7388Average at best😂😂😂😂
What Ashley said gently was- she’s giving plain Jane. Therefore, it doesn’t matter where you go, bc the men are not checking for you! Take the glasses off. Make the hair more polished. We’re women of a certain age, never leave the house without makeup. No one is saying a lash at 8 am. But mix your foundation with your daily moisturizer-to make a tinted moisturizer, put concealer under the eyes, mascara, and lip gloss-always!
Put on some perfume, get that signature scent! You will feel sexy and confident and you’ll draw men in.
Think 2/3…out of hair, makeup, and outfit 2/3 has to be on point!
Plain jane is fine... overweight is not. We also don't care about makeup.
You women give each other trash advice instead of just asking men what we want and then doing exactly what we ask for.
Most of us successful men will choose a fit younger childless woman over an overweight older woman all day.
Yes, lips must be moisturized.
@DanteFortson I tend to agree, but the thing is men say they like "no makeup" but what they really mean is "natural looking makeup" -- what she described above is the type of makeup that gives a glow (esp to women late 20s and up), not heavy. If this lady had a little glow to her skin (even with better moisturizer and lip gloss) she would look 10xs better.
Perhaps another way to put it -- Ashley is wearing heavy makeup, yet 99.9% of men are going to approach her over Nari. Much like women who proclaim to like "good guys", results speak differently.
- Signed a woman that always wears makeup, married 20 yrs to a man that loves "natural". ❤
You definitely Do Not need to wear makeup to look put together!!!
As I get older I’m noticing that a lot of us (myself included) think that degrees and high-income jobs are what certain men care about… and that’s not the case. I grew up in a strict household that pushed higher education. While this isn’t bad and I’m grateful for the financial security I started to realize that the men that I was attracted to didn’t care about those things and I went a long time without making my looks a priority because I never felt that I had to. I’m getting to a point where it takes balance. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being intentional with your appearance and it doesn’t make you any less serious. I’m learning that taking pride in your appearance does not make you vain. If I can put in all this effort in school, and work and everyone else, I should be able to pour some of that back into myself too. I found that I was disciplined in career and school but lazy in other areas..
She laughed when Ashley said book a session. She won’t change because she thinks she is perfect. She feels her degree , career , and her lifestyle should be what men want. She needs to lose weight and dress herself up. Her press needs more silk added.
Totally agree but that last sentence took me out lol
@@LadyVeee7878 as a dad who pays for a silk press I’ve come to pay attention to that hairstyle.
@@moblack5883 Love that! But I do think this is a wig
@@LadyVeee7878 🤣
Yeah she needs a little sprucing up
Men are everywhere. Ladies upgrade your look, be feminine and smile. Wear more dresses.
Trust me even if a great man likes/accepts u as is- you’re gonna feel insecure and less than when u get into that circle.
All the other women will be on a certain level and you’ll stand out in a bad way n feel like ppl look/talk down to u.
You HAVE to do the inner work. It’s a lot but worth it.
She can do it!
Nari don't want to hear anything about improving herself. She want these men who worked their way to the top to approach and compete for her as she is. She said forget all that weight talk, where these men at 😂
Agreed.
And that is sad because it's not going to change how men view her. High earners value thin women
Lmaoo word
@taylorthenatural5509 she is high value too.. she needs a non American man, she is right😂
Looking at her shoulders, she gives me the vibe where she is probably smaller than what she looks. I think her face is on the bigger side because her shoulders are narrow.
Ashley you are so right. When I lost weight and was at the gym , I was more confident and had so many guys. I gained weight and it’s not the same. I need to get back to myself and hit the gym.
It's just that simple; lose the weight and dating options improve.
You are so right. I also live in NYC. I’m an average looking older black woman wearing glasses, but decided to really level up one day and two men-one Asian and one White-couldn’t get to the doors quick enough to open them up for me. I was also trying to get a cab and I did not have to do anything. The White man hailed one for me. I have so many stories, but Narie needs a complete makeover!
I work with 98% men who are multi millionaire men. There are a lot of great men. But as women we have to look presentable, speak nicely, take care of our physical self, and not being in our bubble. All the men who are my business partners are great men. As classy women, it’s important to find common interests and speak to these great men. They know other great men. If you open up to change, you will be surprised that your husband has been in front of you the whole time.
Exactly. You sound like a woman that gets it.
What industry are you in?
How do I learn more things
You weren't hard on her you were practical.
High caliber men like high caliber and beautiful, fit, self aware women.
Fit and beautiful gets them to look. that is it.
Self awareness is big, some people don't realise that lips need moisture. Some people look tired and old because they won't groom themselves.
Women all you be is fit! Not young always! Sad Women wit no kids so out of shape.100k-200k man getting fit women even if they paying 😂
@@Quinten4M what?
That analogy was so spot on!! Men are everywhere, they are always there. That’s a word!!It’s up to you to show up as your best self for them to see you!!
Shes not lying... and you dont even have to overdo the clothing cause your confidence will draw men to you
Yea....Pookie or Ray Ray
7:25 “when you look good and you look put together you won’t even make it to the location”. This is an actual factual! Men approach me everyday when I go outside, and even more so when I wear dresses or skirts.
It seems like she wants to rush to the fairytale outcome without doing the work first. You have to be the best version of yourself to attract the best options in the market. You can't out strategize the realities of the dating market.
She feels her education and career should push her to the front of the line. That just doesn’t work lol.
@@moblack5883it doesn’t even work for men anymore either, definitely not going to work for a woman.
@@moblack5883 right... I'm so sick of their education and careers... I'll take a younger childless woman with no job over old overweight career women all day long.
@@DanteFortson are you dating someone with those qualities ?
@@moblack5883 I have 2 women. Both of which know each other and are in shape. Respectful and non combative. 1 is 41 and the other is 22 y/o aspiring model. Both are very attractive and we all had dinner together just 2 days ago.
I happen to be tall and successful... and nothing most of you women think we want is remotely close to what men at my level actually want.
We don't settle because we don't have to. We aren't monogamous unless we choose to be because we don't have to be. We don't deal with a lot of talk back nor do we play step daddy if we don't want to... and the majority of us don't.
Listening to what us men say would actually help a lot of you but instead y'all get sugar coated advice from women that don't wanna hurt your feelings.
Unattractive women likely aren't getting a HVM if she doesn't bring another woman to the table with her.
Where it will fall apart for most women is trying to require monogamy. We can simply replace you with 2 women that don't ask for monogamy... and there are plenty out there. Many women are shooting way above their level and aren't even close to competing with our options.
👉🏽 One thing about Ashley, she gone practice what she preach!! 😉 So don't come for her... keep it cute or keep it moving!! 😆
No lie I started going to the gym about two years ago and now I attract men that I have always thought was out of my league. And I mean fine idris elba type of men! I go to gym regularly and it feels so nice when they even notice my weight loss. Having a gym/yoga/step class/ run class hobby is good to get you out your normal routine and around new people
She wasn't ready to receive the advice
Exactly. And that will continue to hold her back.
She needs a makeover
She needs to lose weight, end of story.
"She needs to be reincarnated"...Kevin Samuels.
And she has the money. Just adding color to her 👗 and 💄, she'll see a difference.
I think Nari's typical work outfits look like what she's wearing in the video. If she gets more attention from the men she wants while she has her ends bumped and lashes then she'd have to do all that more often. Consistency is key!
6:51 She said “My stomach is relatively flat.” Right, and an elephant’s trunk is relatively small too. 😂
My goodness 😂😂
The face doesn’t lie - she was clearly overweight
She didn't want to hear nothing about the appearance. She's already in the right place she just doesn't have the look yet. Ashley is right I'm taking the advice great video 💯🤦🏾♀️
I'm totally agreeing with you 💯....
I'm a og now but bayybee back in the day i was that extraordinary young lady and went through to be that extraordinary middle aged woman.....
I'm close to being a senior citizen but I'm still that lady..... Literally ‼️💯
Yes facts , men are visual ..smart, great personality comes after they approach! …
Love your perspectives and how you always keep it real but also real classy. Men and women both have self reflection and leveling up to do before they should even think to disparage the other sex for their wants. Subscribed.
Ash is 💯💯💯 right. I hope she listen and book 30 mins consultation. This video is full of great informations❤❤❤
I havent been in nyc in years but in midtown guys will stop you everywhere on the st , starbucks any place basically
Right! It's the same way. They'll approach you on the subway, on the street, at the park!
@shygirl920 yes I said on the live have lunch in Bryant Park. I remember telling my boss about the men n how bad it got she was overprotective like get pepper spray their neck 😂😂. Like on a busy block no 😂
It’s actually scary how these men will come to you in nyc💀 I was visiting and had a man trail me in his car until I went into the train entrance I needed😭
Ashley is telling the absolute truth. Since levelling up, I can't get these men away from me😅. It's actually so overwhelming. Everyday some man wants to talk.
Ashley always hits it right on the head! When you can’t even get all the way to where you going without being approached, you know you doing the damn thang!!! In real life doe!!! 😏😂❤
Facts! 🎉🎉🎉
Ashley body is straight 🔥🔥🔥, that a huge plus if you do in fact have that beautiful body, men truly desires to be seen with
Ashley is absolutely beautiful on all levels 🌹🌹🌹
Ppl have to understand you can’t out work a bad diet weight loss starts in the kitchen. Sending prayers hugs and strength hope she finds someone.
Thank you! I need to hear this ❤
Ashley can you make a video on basic pieces we should have for every day wear when entering our 30s? Thanks ❤
Filter where?
Get them, Ashley! 🔥
Ashley is the truth, so glad I found your channel ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
The read at the end was sooo good. I grabbed my waist trainer with the quickness 😂
She is 100% correct. We want everyone to accept us as-is, but not willing to accept any kind of man in that "as-is" state. It makes no sense. Even the "Average" men are not interested in "bummy" women. Forget high value men, most of us are not even being competitive for the average man. Most black women would be so lucky to get an average man. Think ladies! The consumer doesn't want what we're selling. It's the same concept with earning these degrees. We all know we can't even get an interview for that higher-paying job if we don't meet the minimum requirement such as having a college degree. The degree is the entrance fee to be considered.The same goes for our physical image. It is the entrance fee.
love you Nari, Ashley you are the sister everyone need in life
Ommmmg Ashley you’re so right‼️
ASHLEY!! The G Wagon analogy!! Come the fk through 💯💅🏾 see it. Its coming, its here, its yours! Manifest
The fastest way for her to level up is getting contacts, nicer glasses that distract less from her pretty face, and makeup and wardrobe
She needs to glam up. Take makeup lessons, get a stylist, etc. start going to the opera and symphony, join the expensive gym.
I’m glad Ashley addressed the broke loser men who are always in the comment section 😂 they need to hear it.
Yall swear yall know someones bank account. You people keep showing why the black race is at the bottom and will remain there.
Its hilarious how she spoke about people (not specifically men) in the comment section and the filter stuff. Yet, you glossed over everything she stated about how a woman needs to improve herself. As if you ignored that part on purpose.
Why does she get a millionaire?
Let’s keep it CUTE!!! 😂😂😂
I told my gfs so often about physical attraction , whenever I gained weight, I would go to the gym, and men at the gym paid more attention to a fly on the wall than me 😂🤣
When I got in shape and looked good, the same men , that were ignoring me, would chase me 😂🤣
As unfortunate as it is, that’s the reality!😁
When you are too desperate for something it will never come to you
And Ashley you are always beautiful ❤ Queen
Loved this video especially the last portion. Reminds me of the old videos you used to post. I love listening to them while I run! 😂❤ #coachash
Let's be real . If a man is already established why would he want to settle down when so many women him . I don't care how much a woman works on herself. The bottom line is that high earning men regardless of color are in demand .
Mostly for status reasons. In many of my networks, the majority of established men are married across all races. Whether they're sexually faithful is a different story though, most of them obviously not. Nonetheless, your point is still largely valid, because there's far less of an incentive for a successful man to get married and "settle down" today compared to 40yrs ago. The women are far easier to access, less sacred, and more entitled.
Despite what is spewed in the media, many men want one woman. High caliber high character men who are grounded and truly living in their purpose don’t have time and have no desire to allocate their time/resources to multiple women. It’s counterproductive to their mission, defies discipline and quite frankly is a waste of energy.
"Let me stop playing with the lotion at night ".😂😂😂
I saw your comment as she said that. 😂
I cackled 😂
She preached on this one!!! Yeesss!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
Ashley, you are a godsend! Sending love from South Africa!
Nari thinks she knows what she's doing and just needs to know where the men are. She's putting the cart before the horse. The key isn't being around men, it's how to behave when she's in their company. Ashley gave good guidance that Nari needed to work on maximizing her appearance first, but Nari didn't want to hear that. There are loads of men who can give her valuable guidance about how to present herself to men, but I'm confident Nari wouldn't want to hear that either. If a woman looks her best and conducts herself in a way that is pleasing to men, it doesn't matter where she goes, the men will find her.
3:30 into this video.
She has a problem liatening and answering questions that she asked directly.
Most people in general have this problem.
Most dudes about their bauiness are not gonna keep asking yiu the same question over and over waiting for you to comprehend the question.
She asked her directly, how are you showing up?
Then she proceeds to tell you which restaurants she does or does not go to. That's a turn-off for any man. Its especually turn off for a man who values his time.
I started working out 🏋🏾♀️ honey 😊
She kind of reminds me of Oh Steph Co ❤
I love stephco
you tryna be shady?
She’s preaching!
I don't know her, but I can see the truth. You don't just snap your fingers and declare yourself as highly coveted and expect to be entitled to the best. She wants top 10% of men. OK, fine, but those men want top 10% of women based on THEIR criteria. She feels left out and wondering why she can't get those men, yet there's also 90% of men she is ignoring and telling to bite the dust. She is passing up SO many other men that's right for her, but she's overvaluing herself. The equivalent would be an average man (pay wise) constantly chasing after top 10% women and continuing to fail, then wanting to turn around and blame all women for his predicament passing up lots of good women.
At her current state, she's not going to attract a super rich man and needs to let that go. Rich men put in a LOT of work. To be with a rich man, you also have to put in a LOT of work. Even if I were a very rich man and attracted to her, I still wouldn't talk to her. Her focus seems to be on more of what I can provide for her and give her, than it is about ME. If my money were to dry up tomorrow in a stock market crash, will she be there for me? The answer is NO. She is looking for sponsorship and a lifestyle and many men can see that.
Ashley is trying to be nice, but doesn't have the heart to tell her the honest truth. She is not beautiful in her present state and she needs to resort to clothes or makeup to look like someone she is not. Sorry to say that.
Agreed. Sometimes the truth hurts.
Talk that talk Big Ash!!
You told no lies 🫶🏾
Period Ashley 👏🏾
She said stop smoking and playing with the lotion 😂
Would love to know if any of these ladies that NEED Ashley, actually book a private with her. If I wasn't married or getting the results I wanted, I would book her so quick without question.
Thanks for the help in getting men and women together the RIGHT way.
Nari is beautiful ❤️ , nice face, nice hands , she just needs a bit of “ drizzle “ …. Because unfortunately this is the reality out there!
Right, she is cute, but needs some umph..probably 4-5 months of serious leveling up
@@mzzzd818 …. It can even be 1-2 months, depending on willpower and budget 😀👍🏼
She is not beautiful!!! Yall need to start telling the truth. Beautiful women gets results. Clearly she is not getting results. Men dont find her beautiful, you females just cant stamd to.hurt each others feelings.
Yes she is just plain looking. No shade because I am a plain jane as well lol but I do put myself together when I go out with friends
@@mzzzd818More like a year😊
I think she should come back for date night looks
Ladies do one thing, research well known "high value" men's partners. That's what you need to look like. If you don't, level up or give up.
Beautiful hair
I don’t know why another woman has to tell another woman this info it’s common sense .smh and this is why women hate because they lack self awareness’s 😢.
Pharmacy, media and finance . Wow that’s a full plate for a person
Please be tough !!! We need to hear the truth
She sugar coating it to this girl. She’s around successful everyday yet none of them are trying to date her. She’s not pretty enough or out together enough for the type of man she wants
Nari is a very beautiful and I found lovely woman. I really hope she books the 1-2-1 with Ashley... she will set her straight...
Stop it!!! She is not beautiful.
Ashley didn't wanna tell her. The Godfather would have told her the truth.
Kevin Samuels: "Be reincarnated, if you want a high value man!" 😂😂😂
The who
@@shynebayarea510 go back to school. Learn how to read
You calling some man god farther is weird. Stop glazing him @maxlogan7388
@@maxlogan7388 the who?
Hersh!!! Yass!
😁. Love her feistiness!!!
0:57
She said most black men in America dont make enough to have a family, yet black women are still having babies by them. Also, black men still average 45k per year. Thats more than enough considering men dont spend frivolously like women.
Yes, I thought that comment was offensive.
I was thinking the same thing! BW are still having babies by broke dudes. But the narrative that BW are making more than BM has been proven false so many times.
I believe the average income for BM has reached 50k, which is the US average! BM make more than BW on average.
she isnt having babies with them
@@Godwill3 did you even read what was written.
Learning Kong fooooooo 😂😂😂
I struggle to get 10k how do you do that
Not only that, you can't get something for nothing. If a man pays for you or makes a certain amount, you will have to tolerate some things. You have no clue of the demands a high value man makes on his woman. Bc if you did, you would not be requesting them...
How much for a 30 min session
Less than $200
To be so educated she sure can’t answer a direct question lol
How much does it cost for a phone consult?
Based on looks alone her best bet is middle aged white man.
Nari needs needs new eye glasses to begin.
That's the truth ❤
You are what you attract
We literally attract everyone. We just don’t notice or entertain everyone. Who you entertain speaks to what’s happening inside of you, not what you attract.
@@kimberly329Thank you. Exactly this.
@@kimberly329 I think in this particular case, she's actually not attracting the man she has in her head. I don't think the problem is that Mr. Big is approaching her for a date at Carbone and she's turning him down. Gotta be real about that.
@@okbutexplainthis I think the problem is the men she’s interested in have a type and her appearance here doesn’t project that. Although it could with a few changes. Right now that guy might notice her for reasons that don’t align with something serious but it’s an attraction nonetheless.
@@kimberly329 It sounds like you're agreeing with me. The problem isn't that she's entertaining the wrong men. She's not attracting (like romantic attraction) the guy she wants. Those guys are dating beautiful NYU grad students. She doesn't realize who she's competing against, unfortunately.
Kevin Samuels said it …
Gurl you do not need a Rich person to be happy
Ashley: "I'm mot saying you're not beautiful" Lol, that's exactly what Ashley is saying. The reality is, she is not beautiful. She's not gorgeous. She is average - like most women. Even if she lost the weight I can see she'd still be average. And thus, will end up with an average dude and not a rich dude. But she does not want to face that reality. And average is ok. There's nothing wrong with average!
Nature granted true beauty (guy beauty) and looks to only a small percentage of women, despite how they gas each other up with lies. Nature is not fair, and it does not have to be. I mean, every woman thinks she is beautiful. And every woman tells other woman they're beautiful.
If you're average be satisfied with a man on your level, which is also average: in money, wealth, looks, height, etc
The most sensible comments ive seen so far! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Exactly what Ashley is saying...she has to OVER produce in the looks category. Bria myles could wear sweats everyday and get more attention this this girl.
She does not look fit and in shape but says her stomach is flat😁Is that the new euphemism for being overweight?
She straight up lied to Ashley. My stomach has a slight pouch and I'm 150 pounds. 5'8
Right 😂! Fitness self-awareness? No way she in shape 😂. Why Ashley need to tell women this?😂😮
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Nari needs some polishing and trimming. She is too uptight.
Unless Nari is open to the middle aged yt men or other races, it doesn’t matter where she goes bc the amount of Blk millionaires is negligible- and the few are mostly 45+. And people need to stop confusing income and wealth. And sistas stay getting on BM, when in 2022, the average median wealth value of us was $3300. Just stop with the Becky games, and find a good working, stable working or middle class man you’re compatible with and build. Broke isn’t fun, but having someone you can be yourself with and having steady regular dates with the occasional splurge builds solid relationships.
Also- Harlem stand up!
Rich man choose who they want. They dont care if youre beautyfull, ugly, young, old, poor, rich. Women make puzzles about man but they dont. 🤷🏿♀️
They literally live in an alternate universe. Completely disassociated from reality. Do you see yourself?
She’s being willfully obtuse and acting like she doesn’t get what Ashley is saying.
Because she bought into the idea that her degree would supersede natural selection in attraction.
Amen Ashley!!!
A lot women will never get the man of their dreams.
I agree.. many men and women won’t get the person they think they deserve, I always say we always will compromise on something