I was with a boy for all of my 20s. Played the role of his mom. Paid 50/50. He was my 1st, unfortunately. And even with that the sex was boring. The conversation never had growth. WELL, at 28 I said I’m not giving him ANY of my 30s and started PLANNING MY ESCAPE. When I was ready and saved up enough I was SILENT. And left! My NOW husband, married me within 6mos. We went on to have 2beautiful children and my little boy EX- is still upset about me leaving him so smoothly. LEAVE LADIES! Get yourself together mentally/physically and prepare for your man to FIND YOU! DONT LET YOUR SORRY BOYFRIEND hide you from YOUR BIG PROVIDING HUSBAND!!!!
@@uniquek_ I’m 34,he’s 45. I was able to leave smoothly because I suffered 1 year of planning. I mean down to giving him the mailbox key was planned. Saved for almost 2years. Found a place and got it prorated so I could start moving things before my move out date. Made sure there was ONLY 2mos left of the lease that I COULD PAY MYSELF if he tried to ruin both my name and his. Got movers and scheduled them on the morning I knew he worked early and came back late. Now because he was a dusty lazy pig he never checked my actual closet to see that my things were in uHaul boxes. So they were ready for the movers. I told him weeks prior that I was decluttering and that’s why I had been cleaning so much so he never questioned my moves. Then I requested a two week vacation from work starting the day of the move so I can make sure he can’t track me at my job. At the time I worked for the post office and my area has a lot of locations I deliberately told him I changed offices so if he went there he wouldn’t find my car. Within that two weeks I changed my car! That too was planned and very intentional. I knew this man had a lot to lose by me leaving him. So I had to think about everything because I know he would have killed me! I felt it in my gut! And so I cut off anyone that was friendly with him even cousins! It’s been 5yrs and he still hates me over my leave.
I do, but on camera? I'd never. Therapy? Yes Prayer? Yes, Confidant? Yes, Wiser, older woman advice? Yes but not on camera because you can't erase it once that gets posted. These girls are different and online is so normal to them it's not a big deal. I'm so glad I didn't live my youth in this new world order.
The first girl. If she lost her v card with him or abstinence and broke it for him then its more she dont want to feel that disappointment that she gave in to him and now its ending at the year mark. I will tell her ITS OKAY. YOU LEARNED SOOO MANY LESSONS. ASK GOD TO FORGIVE AND HELP YOU WITH DISCERNMENT AND THE STRENGTH TO WALK AWAY FROM THE RED FLAGS. AND LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE. love these lives keep helping these young girls Ashley
I was in a long 10 year relationship with a gamer in my 20s and had these exact problems. I looked old, drained and defeated. Deep down we know we are betraying ourselves but sometimes we are in denial. It drains you. I finally realized I deserved way better, I walked away and immediately had a glow in my skin. I lost 30 pounds (I was very overweight) and felt a load off my chest. I started to travel, date and experienced GOOD SEX. I've been single for 6 years and finally feel love for myself I've never felt before. I found myself. In my 30s now and it breaks my heart seeing my old pics. I regret not walking away sooner. Best of luck my friend.
01:55 Baby girl you are at an age where you should have a man treating you like a princess. He may be super nice, but he doesn't give you the care you deserve, there is no point being a mother for a grown man. Don't be Ms Build-A-Man, becoming an apprentice therapist learning to diagnose him(it rarely ends well). It probably hurts to have invested so much (plus the milestone you eluted to) but just go back to building yourself and expand your options. Forgive yourself, find something else to focus on. All the best !
We often take on the roles of a mother. He’s old enough to make his own doctors appointment. Girlfriend is not a real title to me. At some point, a man should be dating/courting for marriage. Stop playing with these mommas boy and entertain only intentional men. His momma should’ve showed him how to do the basics
100% Girlfriend is a convenience fun tag for men especially when it’s stretched out for too long. It’s not really that valuable to us women lol especially bc we bear the “risk” of pregnancy so inherently we really should avoid getting short ends of the bargain stick, unless of course…you’re a woman who is not desiring committed relationships that are formalized by marriage.
Tbh I feel like in 2024 there's actually not enough to go around, so ladies should only be choosing intentional men, or no men and be sincerely okay with that👌
Just left a relationship just like this. I spent my entire 20s with that man. I’m now 29 and have been single for only 2 months and the only thing I wish was that I left a longggg time ago. No matter what you do he is not going to change. Get out now.
6:17 also thats his mom business, if he’s playing video game like that . She just put his name on the doc to say she had a business partner and at least she can leave something for him. But if he’s not up in the office with his mom figuring out the logistics he may inherit the business. But that video game going to let him loose it before he errand it. Him saying he has a business is still playing video game. Something don’t add up. He’s just claiming his mom‘s business to make him feel better that he’s doing something
Ashley your advice was so A1 with these young women, forgetting or perhaps not even realizing that at those critical ages (20-26) the world is literally their oyster, I almost wanted to cry. You are such a needed voice. So compassionate; so wise with your counsel. Thank you for all you do. ❤
Ladies, practice any form of self care to build your self love… stay consistent. Within a month or so, you will have an increase of your self worth❤❤❤ Have FIRM boundaries and standards- this will also block men/women who wish you harm.. it’s THAT SIMPLE.
First girl I understand completely. It's hard to understand that just because someone is a good/ kind guy, it doesn't mean he is a Good Man. There is a difference between a Boy and a Man. The last guy, I dated I met him at church, I feel so hurt that he invoked my love knowing he didn't intend to love me the way any woman needs, he refused to do the bare minimum. I'm heartbroken for sure, but I'm better off now. I had to block him because I feel like I get PSTD knowing that he could be so cruel to target me and use me for nothing.
A+ advice 👏🏾 The first lady: She is drained emotionally and likely financially. She can start by putting more time into hobbies and working out as she saves to leave. A lot of men are still in the mom - girlfriend pipeline. In my 20s they wanted to move in together quickly. I was not looking to get married (ever) so I never moved in with any man ever. Always lived with female roommates or by myself. Never move in together until you're married and don't be pressured to have sex with him neither, until you're married. Work on making yourself whole so youre not looking for missing pieces of yourself in other people. All the best!
Yes! Thank you Ashley this advice for redirecting my energy! My guy is constantly in a pouting attitude due to life and I feel like I am ALWAYS pulling him out and I am sick of it. He can’t focus on me because he is all in his head and I am over it. Thank you for waking me up so I can redirect my life.❤
Women who forget their worth so often mostly have daddy issues, shoot some even Mommy issues too.. you’re doing God’s work on here reminding us we are the prize Queen 🙌glad I bumped into your channel!
When will women realize that doing wifely duties until being an actual wife gets you nowhere! These men will use you. Why was she scheduling appointments for him?
Been there, done that. Trust me, as much as you love them and as sweet as they are….. you can’t settle. You have to be willing to admit and respect your own needs and wants and never settle 🙏
I like Ashley!🥰 She's like the fairy God mother🦋 that every young girl needs to check in with once in a while to be reminded of their worth...and to not fumble their youth!💯🩷
This too lol Sometimes I find it all quite interesting because I don’t see it as the ultimate goal for myself. I’ve never been that kind of woman, as a teen, a woman in my 20s and even now at 35, and I feel like I’m an anomaly in my environment. Sometimes I even think to myself, is something missing to where I don’t even have that pressing desire like it seems everybody else does? It’s not like I have a resistance, but I’ve never noticed any kind of natural thought, or pressing desire come to my mind Of course, I would enjoy a healthy marriage, of course, I would not look away from a great man / prospect, of course I would love a responsible and dutiful man to serve as a husband in my life, but so often I’ve noticed that I am not even prioritizing it. I don’t get excited or anxious about marriage and children the way a lot of women do but I know I would embrace it under the appropriate circumstance. What I will say, though, I know for a fact that I don’t like to interact with men in unserious ways, so if I do put myself in a position to courted or to spend my personal and very important time with a male, it’s not for play play, and I enter those circumstances, knowing that my time should not be wasted, and that there needs to be an actual direction and intention for the time he’s spending with me and a vision for marriage. Because outside of that, I don’t have time lol to do silly things. I already have a life that is very fulfilling. So that’s where I personally stand.
I watch this for the women in my life my niece my daughter and others. It helps me see the perspective. Young women love hard to a fault unfortunately.
I am a Man and been around the block and I am telling you - the moment she said what she was doing for him - I KNEW that she put herself in a Mother Roll. A “male” not MAN will allow you to fill that roll and not require more (something different). A woman should do her best to help a guide a male into a MANs role…simply put.
You started in at 10:22 and I am dying! She’s done too much! Whew child! 😂 Not a free gift out the machine! Snap out quick! Allow me to reintroduce myself! 😂😂😂 I love it!
They sure will! You better love yourself and stop settling for mediocre from these grown boys! Come on Ash🗣️🙌👏👋🏽 preach teach! I be feeling the same way when I hear women talk about these men and how their treated I feel sorry that they can’t walk away. I’ve been there.
For Women - relationship 01. Understand your purpose 02. Understand that your value is in your youth, feminity and woob. 03. Don't seek fun, instead seek purpose 04. Do not sacrifice your value for fun 05. Do not give yourself to just any man 06. Ensure you get a commitment first. 07. Don't be quick to trust words, watch the action... men will tell you anything or give you anything to get your value. 08. Do not invest your time and energy in a married man or a man whom is not 100% available to be committed to you 09. Ensure the man honest, responsible committed, judicious and want what you want. 10. If he doesn't want what you want, do not waste time with him. 11. Do not try to change a man. 12. Show respect and appreciation 13. Do not ask him for anything, but accept gifts and gester graciously. 14. Do not feel obligated to return any favors after receiving gifts 15. Do not raise your voice. 16. Keep your legs close until you get a marriage commitment. 17. GET THAT COMMITMENT then everything will follow
The second woman is carrying a box car full of baggage 🧳. My advice is to take all of your past trauma and baggage and check it on Malaysia Airlines flight 370.
Second has been cheated on in the past so she projecting it on her current bf.Great advice to focus on you to gain back your confidence and see your worth.
women have natural intuition, every single time my intuition was telling me that something was off with my ex I would ignored it until it came to me in my dreams literally every night at 3:33 while I was sleeping it would come to me and I would wake up and know god was revealing it to me. II would start paying more attention to him and would always find out the truth. Ladies do not ignore your god given feminine intuition it's God's gift to women.
Great advice Ashley about wasting your time while young, many women, including myself lost precious years, now in my 40s, I CAN'T get that time back. Please keep doing what your doing, being honest and open, really helps ones grow 🙌🏽
Y’all need to understand most men under 27 even 30 are not even mature enough to bring on a provider role. They are still young an experiencing their money is also in the beginning staging and they can’t teach you that much about life. Don’t fall for potential and don’t give men the benefit of the doubt because they sure won’t give it to you.
If a woman is dating a man under 35, potential is essential, but potential without action is pointless. Ladies, if you don't want to date older when you're serious about marriage (after age 25), find a man your age with potential who is also acting upon Siad potential. It's not fun being pregnant and broke!
LOLOLOL 14:15 she "goes off" on this young man because SHE had a dream, and instead of telling her she has an anger problem and is being abusive and needs therapy, the broad hosting the show tells her it's okay to behave like that...
Ashley's advice to remember "you are the prize" is solid. However, it's not taking into consideration "hypergamy". Women typically like men they feel is of higher "value" than themselves. In order for one to feel like they themselves are the prize, they would have to feel like they are of a higher value than the partner. In this dynamic you are not the adorer. Thus you won't feel the butterflies that women typically want to feel. There is no relationship where both parties like each other the exact same amount. One will always like the other a bit more. Selfishly, women want to be the one feeling the passion and deep connection, which places them in the adorer's category. In all sexual relationships there is the "adorer" and the "adored". Women want the man whom they adore to adore them the equally. It's a fantasy. The adored has the power in the relationship. However, having the power means you don't get to feel the butterflies. This is why so many young women have problems in their relationships.
Ashley's going to have these girls single, sad, and lonely. The first girl is saying the bf isn't investing in the relationship and that he is not giving her what she needs. Instead of taking the time to actually find and define what it is the girl is not getting from the relationship, the first advice is to leave him?? Men are out here cheating, being undercover, not wanting to work, being abusive, and so many other things and if the biggest drawback on this guy is that he plays video games, they should have a real discussion about it. This girl never even said she communicated her feelings with the bf. Maybe I'm crazy, but I wouldn't trade in a car if the only is issue is a bad taillight.
Actually Ashley is going to have the girls engaged and MARRIED. I helped countless woman get a ring and walk down the aisle. So hush and move around. Your negativity & assumptions aren’t welcomed here.
@ashleyldalton LMAO, love your content. Just in this example, you gave this girl strong, life altering advice w/o asking 2nd or 3rd level questions to better understand the situation. "Have you told him how you feel about his "addiction" to video games?", "What specifically are you missing from this relationship?". You're prescribing chemo and didn't care to check if she has cancer... Just my insight, 14 yrs married, have had good times and bad. Do a follow-up with her and see how happy she is in this modern dating world. She'll wish she had watched that boy play NBA2k a little, which would make him more apt to take more interest in her hobbies.
You're only looking at the surface level. It's not about the video games it's the fact that he has the expectation for her to be a mother to him and do everything for him while he can't even take her out on a date. Granted she made herself into his mother without realizing it. The guy is a mama's boy he'll never change. I dated a guy like this when I was younger he expected everything but could do nothing for me and wed argue all the time. 6 years later I look back in his IG to see what he's up to and he's still the same place I left him underemployed and immature. He's 35 now and hasn't changed.
I LOVE HOW SHE LET HER TALKKKKK 🥹🥹 its the little things that make me love watching Ash its the respect, the active listening, not just throwing random advice, no rushing to the point, she thinks before she speaks and I can seriously feel it as Im watching 😿 and Im taking notes even before she speaks, shes such a blessing 🫶🏾🥹
Embracing your youth and not wasting it tryimg to build a man that cant seem to commit to you is NEVER a bad idea 🤷♀️ Sucks for those trying to use her not Its healthy for her.
2nd young lady made me bust out laughing because those dreams aint NOTHING to play with. Thing is I never had a thought he would be that low in real life and I never had dreams like that until that day, but hey..
I think she feels guilty because of how dependent she thinks he is...also, she's holding on to the hope of what he "could be"...kind of like FOMO(fear of missing out). Also, she doesn't want her "investment" to go to waste.
At this point the chick that says she has tried to leave but is questioning herself you are being deceitful because you are not being honest with him or herself she should tell him everything she is telling her or tell him she doesn't want the relationship anymore the coach is not telling her to talk to him about it and she is hearing one side
The woman who is suspicious of her boyfriend without proof, is clearly cheating on him. Her dreams are a sign of her guilty conscience affecting her. Stop cheating on your boyfriend, and both your conscience will be clear, and the guilty dreams will disappear.
First and foremost, she messed up when she started taking care of him. Thats a rule you just dont do. He's not giving her what she needs because honestly he doesn't want too.
That’s the problem…thinking you’re the prize. It depends on what you have to offer. The term “prize” should not be based on gender, but in quality. A woman OR a man can be the prize…or BOTH.
Some of you men are gay. Just go marry your man boo. YALL are so misogynistic. 🙄 how you gonna tell her the woman isn't the prize?? Even the Bible says it!!! He who finds a wife finds a good thing!!!! Duh!
It’s your father’s job to provide for you until you are of age, then it’s your turn to be an adult. A man can’t provide for you if he chooses, and that’s if you are living with him, have his kids and is his wife. If he is not married to you, not have his kids and not his wife, ifs your responsibility to care for yourself
He already got what he wanted , you can’t get that energy back. Learn to Wait until Marriage instead of giving it to everyone you like and moving on quick if your unhappy. Both of you will feel like you’ve won
Second woman knows it isnt working, knows she deserves better, and its time to go. Because hes nice and maybe have given her the big O, or similar, shes unsure of what to do. Shake it off and move on honey. If you have so many doubts, its not for you. Im currently in a situation that in hindsight, I stayed too long in. Two kids in, and its definitely not what it should be. The remorse was strong at one point, but ive worked through it. Ladies, dont ignore red flags, dont try to help or build anyone. A parent child dynamic does not make for a good romantic relationship. Get yourself together and find someone who is already together. Time is precious and should not be wasted with the wrong person. Every relationship isnt meant to last forever. If it isn't working, if you start questioning things, if you have to keep telling an adult what to do, and what not to do, walk away.
Thank God I’m African, in my culture you’re provided marriage, a dowry, all expenses paid for, etc. I could never get with a man who wants 50/50… Allah said Men are the providers of women, providers don’t pay 50/50 and a man does not love a woman he is willing to allow to pay bills.
I was with a boy for all of my 20s. Played the role of his mom. Paid 50/50. He was my 1st, unfortunately. And even with that the sex was boring. The conversation never had growth.
WELL, at 28 I said I’m not giving him ANY of my 30s and started PLANNING MY ESCAPE. When I was ready and saved up enough I was SILENT. And left!
My NOW husband, married me within 6mos. We went on to have 2beautiful children and my little boy EX- is still upset about me leaving him so smoothly.
LEAVE LADIES! Get yourself together mentally/physically and prepare for your man to FIND YOU!
DONT LET YOUR SORRY BOYFRIEND hide you from YOUR BIG PROVIDING HUSBAND!!!!
Aaaaamennnnn sis
In 6 months! Those type of men don’t play baby! I have one too! Congrats to you!
How did you leave smoothly? And how old is your husband and how old are you?
@@MrsBDatCreole thank god for him!
@@uniquek_ I’m 34,he’s 45. I was able to leave smoothly because I suffered 1 year of planning. I mean down to giving him the mailbox key was planned. Saved for almost 2years. Found a place and got it prorated so I could start moving things before my move out date. Made sure there was ONLY 2mos left of the lease that I COULD PAY MYSELF if he tried to ruin both my name and his. Got movers and scheduled them on the morning I knew he worked early and came back late. Now because he was a dusty lazy pig he never checked my actual closet to see that my things were in uHaul boxes. So they were ready for the movers. I told him weeks prior that I was decluttering and that’s why I had been cleaning so much so he never questioned my moves. Then I requested a two week vacation from work starting the day of the move so I can make sure he can’t track me at my job. At the time I worked for the post office and my area has a lot of locations I deliberately told him I changed offices so if he went there he wouldn’t find my car. Within that two weeks I changed my car! That too was planned and very intentional.
I knew this man had a lot to lose by me leaving him. So I had to think about everything because I know he would have killed me! I felt it in my gut! And so I cut off anyone that was friendly with him even cousins!
It’s been 5yrs and he still hates me over my leave.
I commend these beauties for reaching out and seeking answers to their dilemma’s
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Yes I’m so proud of them.
They should be asking their fathers these questions. Their parents failed them
I do, but on camera? I'd never. Therapy? Yes Prayer? Yes, Confidant? Yes, Wiser, older woman advice? Yes but not on camera because you can't erase it once that gets posted. These girls are different and online is so normal to them it's not a big deal. I'm so glad I didn't live my youth in this new world order.
Alot of women know the answers. Its like they need someone else to say it out loud.
The first girl. If she lost her v card with him or abstinence and broke it for him then its more she dont want to feel that disappointment that she gave in to him and now its ending at the year mark. I will tell her ITS OKAY. YOU LEARNED SOOO MANY LESSONS. ASK GOD TO FORGIVE AND HELP YOU WITH DISCERNMENT AND THE STRENGTH TO WALK AWAY FROM THE RED FLAGS. AND LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE. love these lives keep helping these young girls Ashley
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I was in a long 10 year relationship with a gamer in my 20s and had these exact problems. I looked old, drained and defeated. Deep down we know we are betraying ourselves but sometimes we are in denial. It drains you. I finally realized I deserved way better, I walked away and immediately had a glow in my skin. I lost 30 pounds (I was very overweight) and felt a load off my chest. I started to travel, date and experienced GOOD SEX. I've been single for 6 years and finally feel love for myself I've never felt before. I found myself. In my 30s now and it breaks my heart seeing my old pics. I regret not walking away sooner. Best of luck my friend.
Caution ⚠️ Young Women, do not waste Ur prime time, before( 30) taking care of a Grown Man, without A Commitment to Marriage!!
Love what Ashley said:
“It’s time to re-introduce yourself to yourself”
GOLDEN
01:55 Baby girl you are at an age where you should have a man treating you like a princess. He may be super nice, but he doesn't give you the care you deserve, there is no point being a mother for a grown man. Don't be Ms Build-A-Man, becoming an apprentice therapist learning to diagnose him(it rarely ends well). It probably hurts to have invested so much (plus the milestone you eluted to) but just go back to building yourself and expand your options. Forgive yourself, find something else to focus on. All the best !
"You need to put yourself back on the pedestal" "bring back that energy by focusing on you"
Words to live by❤ Thank you as always for the gems 💎
We often take on the roles of a mother. He’s old enough to make his own doctors appointment. Girlfriend is not a real title to me. At some point, a man should be dating/courting for marriage. Stop playing with these mommas boy and entertain only intentional men. His momma should’ve showed him how to do the basics
Amen 🙏
100%
Girlfriend is a convenience fun tag for men especially when it’s stretched out for too long.
It’s not really that valuable to us women lol especially bc we bear the “risk” of pregnancy so inherently we really should avoid getting short ends of the bargain stick, unless of course…you’re a woman who is not desiring committed relationships that are formalized by marriage.
Tbh I feel like in 2024 there's actually not enough to go around, so ladies should only be choosing intentional men, or no men and be sincerely okay with that👌
“girlfriend is not a real title “ i completely agree.
True 👍! Because when he's ready to leave he's not going to care about all that you have done
Just left a relationship just like this. I spent my entire 20s with that man. I’m now 29 and have been single for only 2 months and the only thing I wish was that I left a longggg time ago. No matter what you do he is not going to change. Get out now.
The good thing is you got out . Some woman look up at 50 y/o & they are stuck
Same. ❤
Like I always say, if someone doesn’t recognize sunshine, you gotta go!! They don’t see it in you, go find someone that does ❤
6:17 also thats his mom business, if he’s playing video game like that . She just put his name on the doc to say she had a business partner and at least she can leave something for him. But if he’s not up in the office with his mom figuring out the logistics he may inherit the business. But that video game going to let him loose it before he errand it.
Him saying he has a business is still playing video game. Something don’t add up. He’s just claiming his mom‘s business to make him feel better that he’s doing something
They BOTH settled too quick! Date (not sleep) multiple men ESPECIALLY in your 20s!!
Ashley your advice was so A1 with these young women, forgetting or perhaps not even realizing that at those critical ages (20-26) the world is literally their oyster, I almost wanted to cry. You are such a needed voice. So compassionate; so wise with your counsel.
Thank you for all you do. ❤
Ladies, practice any form of self care to build your self love… stay consistent. Within a month or so, you will have an increase of your self worth❤❤❤
Have FIRM boundaries and standards- this will also block men/women who wish you harm.. it’s THAT SIMPLE.
First girl I understand completely. It's hard to understand that just because someone is a good/ kind guy, it doesn't mean he is a Good Man. There is a difference between a Boy and a Man. The last guy, I dated I met him at church, I feel so hurt that he invoked my love knowing he didn't intend to love me the way any woman needs, he refused to do the bare minimum. I'm heartbroken for sure, but I'm better off now. I had to block him because I feel like I get PSTD knowing that he could be so cruel to target me and use me for nothing.
Sounds like she lost her virginity to him. That "milestone" that she never hit with anyone else ... she got a soul tie.
She’ll be okay. Breaking up with your first, is always hard, but we move on!
Nah first 🌰
That or he gave her a ring
Soul ties aren’t real. People only ever mention “soul ties” in relation to women
A+ advice 👏🏾
The first lady: She is drained emotionally and likely financially. She can start by putting more time into hobbies and working out as she saves to leave.
A lot of men are still in the mom - girlfriend pipeline.
In my 20s they wanted to move in together quickly.
I was not looking to get married (ever) so I never moved in with any man ever. Always lived with female roommates or by myself.
Never move in together until you're married and don't be pressured to have sex with him neither, until you're married.
Work on making yourself whole so youre not looking for missing pieces of yourself in other people. All the best!
Yes! Thank you Ashley this advice for redirecting my energy! My guy is constantly in a pouting attitude due to life and I feel like I am ALWAYS pulling him out and I am sick of it. He can’t focus on me because he is all in his head and I am over it. Thank you for waking me up so I can redirect my life.❤
Thank you for helping that man get out of that situation without that remorse.......he was waiting for her to leave.
Unless his a streamer and making money off those gamea , he better switch it off 😂😂😂 .
😂 Hmmm I guess. I don’t even know if I want that lmao but I hear you.
Women who forget their worth so often mostly have daddy issues, shoot some even Mommy issues too.. you’re doing God’s work on here reminding us we are the prize Queen 🙌glad I bumped into your channel!
When will women realize that doing wifely duties until being an actual wife gets you nowhere! These men will use you. Why was she scheduling appointments for him?
Wow! But y’all expect a man to treat you like a wife. You can’t have it both ways.
She needed to hear this ! I hope that she realizes that she’s the prize .
The man really is the prize, yall just don't see it yet. Yall bring us Nothing really. Just kicking out money
@@jeromemock26then go get a boyfriend.
Been there, done that. Trust me, as much as you love them and as sweet as they are….. you can’t settle. You have to be willing to admit and respect your own needs and wants and never settle 🙏
I like Ashley!🥰 She's like the fairy God mother🦋 that every young girl needs to check in with once in a while to be reminded of their worth...and to not fumble their youth!💯🩷
Great advice for the 1st young lady. He is not ready and it's no reflection on her, he's just not ready.
Great advice to the young sister that was in her head about what her boyfriend is doing all the time 💯💯💯
I feel like it's his mom's business, and he works for her
Ladies please don’t look at marriage as the ultimate goal of ur life
This too lol
Sometimes I find it all quite interesting because I don’t see it as the ultimate goal for myself. I’ve never been that kind of woman, as a teen, a woman in my 20s and even now at 35, and I feel like I’m an anomaly in my environment. Sometimes I even think to myself, is something missing to where I don’t even have that pressing desire like it seems everybody else does?
It’s not like I have a resistance, but I’ve never noticed any kind of natural thought, or pressing desire come to my mind
Of course, I would enjoy a healthy marriage, of course, I would not look away from a great man / prospect, of course I would love a responsible and dutiful man to serve as a husband in my life, but so often I’ve noticed that I am not even prioritizing it. I don’t get excited or anxious about marriage and children the way a lot of women do but I know I would embrace it under the appropriate circumstance.
What I will say, though, I know for a fact that I don’t like to interact with men in unserious ways, so if I do put myself in a position to courted or to spend my personal and very important time with a male, it’s not for play play, and I enter those circumstances, knowing that my time should not be wasted, and that there needs to be an actual direction and intention for the time he’s spending with me and a vision for marriage.
Because outside of that, I don’t have time lol to do silly things. I already have a life that is very fulfilling.
So that’s where I personally stand.
I watch this for the women in my life my niece my daughter and others. It helps me see the perspective. Young women love hard to a fault unfortunately.
15:49 Judging someone or going off on someone based on a dream is CRAZY behavior & to encourage is even more insane
These young black girls need this!!! Keep up the good work!!!!!
I am a Man and been around the block and I am telling you - the moment she said what she was doing for him - I KNEW that she put herself in a Mother Roll. A “male” not MAN will allow you to fill that roll and not require more (something different). A woman should do her best to help a guide a male into a MANs role…simply put.
Ladies please listen to Ashley’s advice she is not wrong! Stop giving wife to men who aren’t even good boyfriends.
The minute she mentioned the “milestone” I knew she wasn’t gonna leave
If EVERYONE is saying the same thing- reevaluate the situation. You might be in denial
LADIES, WE GOTTA STOP BABYING THESE MEN…NO MATTER HOW SWEET THEY ARE. STOP INVESTING IN WHAT’S NOT INVESTING IN YOU
Great advice Ash I love you ! And your lives you’re so inspiring and supportive 🫶
Trauma bonding by dr ramani explains all that in details.
Worth every minute watching
You started in at 10:22 and I am dying! She’s done too much! Whew child! 😂 Not a free gift out the machine! Snap out quick! Allow me to reintroduce myself! 😂😂😂 I love it!
Her voice reminds me of nicki Minaj
She’s not leaving him. We know this. She makes excuses for him. I can’t with these women who love red flags.
Ashley you’re like the big sis I wish I had growing up ❤
Yes! I needed when i started dating.
Ashley you are such a blessing to the community 💜
This my first time seeing your videos & I'm so grateful for them. You have added value to my life. Thank you
I needed the advice you gave the second girl ❤
Ashley, you look gorg!!
They sure will! You better love yourself and stop settling for mediocre from these grown boys! Come on Ash🗣️🙌👏👋🏽 preach teach! I be feeling the same way when I hear women talk about these men and how their treated I feel sorry that they can’t walk away. I’ve been there.
I dated a gamer and I had those same feelings of coming second to the game. I felt like the side piece. Thank God I left🙏🏾
For Women - relationship
01. Understand your purpose
02. Understand that your value is in your youth, feminity and woob.
03. Don't seek fun, instead seek purpose
04. Do not sacrifice your value for fun
05. Do not give yourself to just any man
06. Ensure you get a commitment first.
07. Don't be quick to trust words, watch the action... men will tell you anything or give you anything to get your value.
08. Do not invest your time and energy in a married man or a man whom is not 100% available to be committed to you
09. Ensure the man honest, responsible committed, judicious and want what you want.
10. If he doesn't want what you want, do not waste time with him.
11. Do not try to change a man.
12. Show respect and appreciation
13. Do not ask him for anything, but accept gifts and gester graciously.
14. Do not feel obligated to return any favors after receiving gifts
15. Do not raise your voice.
16. Keep your legs close until you get a marriage commitment.
17. GET THAT COMMITMENT then everything will follow
Ashley you changing lives.
The second woman is carrying a box car full of baggage 🧳. My advice is to take all of your past trauma and baggage and check it on Malaysia Airlines flight 370.
😅 “airlines flight 370”
Second has been cheated on in the past so she projecting it on her current bf.Great advice to focus on you to gain back your confidence and see your worth.
He is innocent but your intuition is screaming big time. Women's intuition is real. What goes on in the dark is going to eventually come to the light
women have natural intuition, every single time my intuition was telling me that something was off with my ex I would ignored it until it came to me in my dreams literally every night at 3:33 while I was sleeping it would come to me and I would wake up and know god was revealing it to me. II would start paying more attention to him and would always find out the truth. Ladies do not ignore your god given feminine intuition it's God's gift to women.
Great advice Ashley about wasting your time while young, many women, including myself lost precious years, now in my 40s, I CAN'T get that time back. Please keep doing what your doing, being honest and open, really helps ones grow 🙌🏽
I needed to hear this. Thanks ashley
That’s tough, but women need to respect their man. Unfortunately she love him but she don’t respect him.
Y’all need to understand most men under 27 even 30 are not even mature enough to bring on a provider role. They are still young an experiencing their money is also in the beginning staging and they can’t teach you that much about life. Don’t fall for potential and don’t give men the benefit of the doubt because they sure won’t give it to you.
If a woman is dating a man under 35, potential is essential, but potential without action is pointless. Ladies, if you don't want to date older when you're serious about marriage (after age 25), find a man your age with potential who is also acting upon Siad potential. It's not fun being pregnant and broke!
😮 ash how you hold your head up listening to this 😢 she said he don’t have to do grand gestures 😮
Everyone should have boundaries.
The woman with the boyfriend who plays video games. Soul ties are real. Know your value.
LOLOLOL 14:15 she "goes off" on this young man because SHE had a dream, and instead of telling her she has an anger problem and is being abusive and needs therapy, the broad hosting the show tells her it's okay to behave like that...
its crazy bro, the insanity is passed down from one broad to the next generation of soon-to-be broads
Ashley you are BEAUTIFUL! ❤
Thank you gorgeous 💕
This is some good advice!!
Or/and he gets on his feet and leaves.
Her advice is 100%
Keep telling us Ashley ❤❤❤❤we need to hear it …
Ashley's advice to remember "you are the prize" is solid. However, it's not taking into consideration "hypergamy". Women typically like men they feel is of higher "value" than themselves. In order for one to feel like they themselves are the prize, they would have to feel like they are of a higher value than the partner. In this dynamic you are not the adorer. Thus you won't feel the butterflies that women typically want to feel. There is no relationship where both parties like each other the exact same amount. One will always like the other a bit more. Selfishly, women want to be the one feeling the passion and deep connection, which places them in the adorer's category. In all sexual relationships there is the "adorer" and the "adored". Women want the man whom they adore to adore them the equally. It's a fantasy. The adored has the power in the relationship. However, having the power means you don't get to feel the butterflies. This is why so many young women have problems in their relationships.
If she loves him then why cant they get counseling.
Ashley's going to have these girls single, sad, and lonely. The first girl is saying the bf isn't investing in the relationship and that he is not giving her what she needs. Instead of taking the time to actually find and define what it is the girl is not getting from the relationship, the first advice is to leave him?? Men are out here cheating, being undercover, not wanting to work, being abusive, and so many other things and if the biggest drawback on this guy is that he plays video games, they should have a real discussion about it. This girl never even said she communicated her feelings with the bf. Maybe I'm crazy, but I wouldn't trade in a car if the only is issue is a bad taillight.
Actually Ashley is going to have the girls engaged and MARRIED. I helped countless woman get a ring and walk down the aisle. So hush and move around. Your negativity & assumptions aren’t welcomed here.
@ashleyldalton LMAO, love your content. Just in this example, you gave this girl strong, life altering advice w/o asking 2nd or 3rd level questions to better understand the situation. "Have you told him how you feel about his "addiction" to video games?", "What specifically are you missing from this relationship?". You're prescribing chemo and didn't care to check if she has cancer... Just my insight, 14 yrs married, have had good times and bad. Do a follow-up with her and see how happy she is in this modern dating world. She'll wish she had watched that boy play NBA2k a little, which would make him more apt to take more interest in her hobbies.
She asked for Ashley’s opinion though, not yours.
@lexusnesmith194 Thank you comment warrior. The world is now a better place since your post.
You're only looking at the surface level. It's not about the video games it's the fact that he has the expectation for her to be a mother to him and do everything for him while he can't even take her out on a date. Granted she made herself into his mother without realizing it. The guy is a mama's boy he'll never change. I dated a guy like this when I was younger he expected everything but could do nothing for me and wed argue all the time. 6 years later I look back in his IG to see what he's up to and he's still the same place I left him underemployed and immature. He's 35 now and hasn't changed.
I LOVE HOW SHE LET HER TALKKKKK 🥹🥹 its the little things that make me love watching Ash its the respect, the active listening, not just throwing random advice, no rushing to the point, she thinks before she speaks and I can seriously feel it as Im watching 😿 and Im taking notes even before she speaks, shes such a blessing 🫶🏾🥹
A completely different experience than watching Kevin Samuels. This is how class shows up.
The advice given can be dangerous when you dont have the whole piece of the pie.
Embracing your youth and not wasting it tryimg to build a man that cant seem to commit to you is NEVER a bad idea 🤷♀️ Sucks for those trying to use her not Its healthy for her.
never break up and come back
2nd young lady made me bust out laughing because those dreams aint NOTHING to play with. Thing is I never had a thought he would be that low in real life and I never had dreams like that until that day, but hey..
She sounds like Nicki Minaj (Ashley) in the other woman when she’s talking to Cameron Diaz
EVERY WOMAN ON EARTH DOES!🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
She young and DONT KNOW YET TO NOT DO THESE THINGS FOR ANOTHER HUMAN...LET THEM DO IT THEMSELVES!
loved this vid, so real!
I relate so much!!!
I think she feels guilty because of how dependent she thinks he is...also, she's holding on to the hope of what he "could be"...kind of like FOMO(fear of missing out). Also, she doesn't want her "investment" to go to waste.
At this point the chick that says she has tried to leave but is questioning herself you are being deceitful because you are not being honest with him or herself she should tell him everything she is telling her or tell him she doesn't want the relationship anymore the coach is not telling her to talk to him about it and she is hearing one side
Aint nobody perfect but god
The woman who is suspicious of her boyfriend without proof, is clearly cheating on him. Her dreams are a sign of her guilty conscience affecting her.
Stop cheating on your boyfriend, and both your conscience will be clear, and the guilty dreams will disappear.
Great assessment.
LET ALONE THEMSELVES
Hey Ashley, do you talk to people outside of youtube??? I would love to get advice from you about my current situation.
Yes. There are two options on my website. You can book a Zoom session or “write in” it’s AshleyLDalton.com
I can almost garuntee the first bf was a former athlete thats "good looking". Shes going for looks.
First and foremost, she messed up when she started taking care of him. Thats a rule you just dont do. He's not giving her what she needs because honestly he doesn't want too.
That’s the problem…thinking you’re the prize. It depends on what you have to offer. The term “prize” should not be based on gender, but in quality. A woman OR a man can be the prize…or BOTH.
5 months layer shes still with him running back for d😂😂😂 i hated how addicted to it i was in my 20s
PLEASE stop telling all these women that they are the "prize"....
Unsubscribe if you don’t like it. Simple. Bye
Some of you men are gay. Just go marry your man boo. YALL are so misogynistic. 🙄 how you gonna tell her the woman isn't the prize?? Even the Bible says it!!! He who finds a wife finds a good thing!!!! Duh!
It’s your father’s job to provide for you until you are of age, then it’s your turn to be an adult. A man can’t provide for you if he chooses, and that’s if you are living with him, have his kids and is his wife. If he is not married to you, not have his kids and not his wife, ifs your responsibility to care for yourself
thank you bro
Women always try to find something that their second too.
He eat that apple good lol
He already got what he wanted , you can’t get that energy back. Learn to Wait until Marriage instead of giving it to everyone you like and moving on quick if your unhappy. Both of you will feel like you’ve won
Second woman knows it isnt working, knows she deserves better, and its time to go. Because hes nice and maybe have given her the big O, or similar, shes unsure of what to do. Shake it off and move on honey. If you have so many doubts, its not for you. Im currently in a situation that in hindsight, I stayed too long in. Two kids in, and its definitely not what it should be. The remorse was strong at one point, but ive worked through it. Ladies, dont ignore red flags, dont try to help or build anyone. A parent child dynamic does not make for a good romantic relationship. Get yourself together and find someone who is already together. Time is precious and should not be wasted with the wrong person. Every relationship isnt meant to last forever. If it isn't working, if you start questioning things, if you have to keep telling an adult what to do, and what not to do, walk away.
Thank God I’m African, in my culture you’re provided marriage, a dowry, all expenses paid for, etc. I could never get with a man who wants 50/50… Allah said Men are the providers of women, providers don’t pay 50/50 and a man does not love a woman he is willing to allow to pay bills.
Ashley where are you live on? Instagram?