Abroad: My Wife Drove Me Out Of My House In The Cold & Took My House! Women Are Showing Us Shege
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- Abroad Drama: My Wife Drove Me Out Of My House In The Cold And Took My House! Women Are Showing Us Shege Abroad. ~Men Speak.
My wife brought me to America. She grew up in America and all her family are here in America. We have two kids. She is the best woman in the world. A very small Igbo girl. My wife is my Destiny. I can’t tell you everything here. There are good women.
When you marry a woman who grew up in America, and understands helping the immediate family, you have less worry cause she won't be worried about sending money back to Africa and letting the bills be solely on the man's income. You tend to avoid a lot of issues that can lead to quarrels in the home. Uprooting a plant to a different land can either grow or die.
Good reports 👍🏾
Very rare Brother
hey she grown up here, naija lady that was born here or grown up here are different and are the best. the naija igbo women that waka come here with their legs or the one the man bring here no be better woman ooooooo
@@BlitDesign She came here at the age of 6 years with her family.
It's funny to hear some stories shared by our Nigerian men. I'm a British citizen and also an Australian resident and having lived in both countries, my advise is our men need to evolve by understanding the present woman and also learn to improve themselves. Let's stop blaming women for our shortcomings. Improve yourself and you'll earn respect.
God bless you sr
And you are a man? God bless you...
@@preyekwalmi3251 Amean
@Preye kwalmi Yes my brother I am a man. My first wife whom we had a son took my son and kicked me out of the house and she's from the same country and the same tribe. I have to eat a humble pie and reinvent myself instead of crying foul. I went back to university and read Mental health. All I've lost since 2010, God have restored in ten folds. My son that was taken from me when he was 3 yrs old is now living with me since 2020 and we've moved to Aussie and doing fine. I've now remarried to someone (non Nigeria) who I believe is a God sent. I want to encourage our men to equip themselves with knowledge and skills sets to help them survive when marriage goes south. I feel their pain but there's always light at the end of the tunnel.
my brother a woman has no respect for any man outside Africa
There’s always two sides to a story. A woman acts exactly how a man treats them.
So women never tell lies???
To you they are saints.
A woman can never strike a bargain by telling lies. Every word uttered by a woman is always the truth.
So u think some married women never built their marriages on lies?
And if the man finds out and reacts, he made her so... Hmmmm
@@militarybishop6053So think from another angle too. If a man maltreats his wife and she divorces him, is it her fault or did she make him so? Some women are bad but there are good women who are not treated right by their husbands. Likewise men, some are bad but there are good ones that fall in the hands of horrible women. Don’t just support men because you’re a man, most of them don’t come abroad with the right mindset.
Never bring your wife in this country.
NEVER in your life.
The guy from Canada is making sense Africa men need to change their mindset help your wife at home and respect them stop disrespect your wife's at home GOD bless Africa women worldwide 🙏
Sometimes I don’t understand people, I live in the US too and I am married. My husband and I both have our names on the house deed, no one can send anyone out without a judge!
Very correct but I suspect a lot of those men have DV claims against them or there is more to the story than they are saying.
Often times it is the authorities that put the men out of the house due to the risks posed to the woman and children in the household . It doesn't matter whose names appear on the property Deed .Had a lot of men come to view rooms because they have been put out of the family home while the wife and kids remained . Some of these men only had their own names on the property deed yet they still had to leave Women usually dont have the power to send a man packing so Its the police or the judge . The woman can also file an injunction or non molestation order to stop him coming anywhere close to the area
Here is the reason, when children are involved they take the house and who ever has custody of the kids lives with them, parents are secondary, the children welfare is the most priority
@@nuhugoragarba1716 In so doing, they have ruined a lot of families. How are western families faring? Their lives can be chaotic.
@@yawos9024 they don't care, over there it's nothing when they take your child away from you in just a second with their flimsy excuses, lots of families have been ruined
What I can say is that it all varies. You have the good, the bad and the ugly like in any other places of the world. I came here to school, met a Nigerian descent who has never been to Nigeria, we got married now with two kids, bought houses and we’re going years together, God’s grace. It’s what you make of it and not one cap fits all. So daddy Freeze, you can come here if you want but like my father advised me when I was leaving Nigeria, when you get to Rome, behave like a Roman. Don’t be too Yorubaish, Igboish, Hausaish…be opened to westernization and the land will give way to you. Being staunch cultural might be a stumbling block here, even out there on the job or social. My 2 cents 😊
Well said
The issue is most Nigerian men think they can do the same they do in Nigeria abroad. And then the wives, it depends also on the woman.
@ Kinsley if behaving like people in rome hurts you to the point of death, run ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
I helped a Nigerian man who is sleeping on the street only for him to come to my house and started telling me women are supposed to be in the kitchen 🤣 he expected me to cook for him and will make me feel bad for asking him to clean the house just like me I told him we are room mates and all chores should be shared equally we only cook together through contribution I later kicked him out .
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@@natachaganthier5837 story of my life hahahaha 🤣😂 he even called his friend and gave me the phone to talk to him his friend thanked me and started saying I should give his friend a chance to be my boyfriend I had to end the conversation politely It makes me wonder can a woman really help a African man without him feeling entitled to her body? 🤣😂 My answer is probably no .
They are addicted to sex😂😂😂
Jesu I can't stop laughing
🤣🤣🤣🤣I know what you Mean 🤣🤣
God bless this 3rd man. He spoke the whole truth.
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And the other man could not stand and left. That is the problem with African men, want to dey claim entitlement.
@@positivesmile33 He left how? It was DF ending the discussion. Na wa o
If you are a baby-daddy or a husband living abroad, simply obey the domestic household laws, and you will have no issues with the law regarding your home. But if you become an abusive man or husband, and engage in unlawful acts, yes, you will have major issues with the law. A Judge could also issue an order for the Police to forcibly remove you from your house, because you are seen as a threat to the well-being of your wife and children. Vice-versa, the same could happen to a woman or wife. In the Western world, a husband can't force his wife to give him her income. She will have to willing give her husband her money but not by force. Unfortunately, because many African men come from lawless countries, or where the rule of law is not enforced, living abroad where the opposite is the case is extremely stressful for them.
@@xtopuzee No. However, in most countries, the man is the head of the household. Should he not take care of his family? If the wife is working m, she should help, but some African men demand that their wives hand over their entire bi-weekly or monthly salary. The latter is isn't right.
@@jcjohnson628 Have you ever been married to an African man?
@@xtopuzee through legal proceedings yes she can get money from him.
The only difference between women abroad and back in Nigeria is that women abroad have the privilege to fight for their right and they get all the support they need. . A woman won't kick you out if you leave your typical black man bad character behind in Nigeria. If Nigeria should give women same right, 90 percent of Nigerian men back in Nigeria will be on the street. I live about and I will say that I've not seen a Nigerian man who treats his wife with respect or completely committed to his wife and kids.
If you have not seen God fearing men then you must be mingling with wolves. They are many abroad and many in my church. I have seen a few women with hard head that provoke their men as well. Yet everyone will be quick to paint the man as weak, soft when the man refused to swallow consistent disrespect. Everyone has a breaking point.
Shut up mugu
@@basilsunday3148 I'm so glad that this pushed a button in you. I can see that the cap fits you so well...as you chose to wear it.
@@godfirst7479 mumu nigeria men are not your problem ode
@@basilsunday3148 😊Oh man es tut mir so leid für die Frau, die dich heiraten oder mit dir zusammen leben muss. Du kannst dich gar nicht äußern ohne jemanden zu beleidigen. Du arme... Wie unverschämt ist das denn.
I wish abroad women will get the chance to tell their own story. I leave abroad, and I can tell you that our men are horrible. Our men maltreat their women, don't even take care of them because they see them as money making machine. The women will be working together to invest in Nigeria, the man will invest everything in his name, and even marry a wife secretly in Nigeria. The men act like a God and maltreat their wife when the wife have no job, when the woman now have a job, they still want to control the woman. The rate of infedility is high. Bills are shared equally, the man forgets that he is the head of the family but instead, they leave most of the responsibilities for the woman.
Hmmmmm you just said what was in my mind. I just wish these type of men are taking to court more often! Most African women abroad educate themselves, better themselves and are supportive towards their spouses and family abroad while some men sit down waiting for the woman's salary instead of improving themselves to get better too. When the situation no longer works, these men starts blaming women. When will you all learn that abroad isn't Africa or Nigeria where the abuse of women including vulnerable people are prevalence? Please learn, improve your lives and stop blaming others for your stupidity.
Stop talking nonsense. I live abroad like you . Black relationships are useless because our women want to be equal to the man . I will wait until it happens to your brother or family member
God bless you o, women should speak out o.
My own husband dealt with me in the UK till I lost my mind, I am just trying to find myself.
Thanks so muc
I'm a man and I can attest to this write up.. I have a friend here in the UK, I've been a witness between him and 3 women he has been married to. I will say some of my male gender doesn't want to offroot themselves from that backward mentality of our fore fathers. I was ones like that but thank God my wife was still there till I understood what life is. I love you my obimm
Men that truly understand how best to treat their women won’t experience any of the negative comments or experiences some men are having. Women are the simplest to deal sincerely.
Ur very correct. Just show us love and care… we will return it tenfold
You don't know what you're talking about
@@houston10 y'all misuse, abuse and take that "love and care" for granted whenever you get it
@@vinimarcben5889 Maybe for some who married for the wrong reasons tho but I sure know what am talking about.
@@vinimarcben5889 it’s u that doesn’t know what he is talking about. If what u have been doing as a bully in ur relationships has been working for u then continue. No need to appoint blame to all women or claiming we don’t value being treated with decency.
Daddy Freeze, women have bitter experience with men here in abroad.
They can't cope with following the laws of the land.
But most times these men nor dey talk wetin dem do. What my friend is going through in the hands of her husband right now ehh. , you will weep for her but if she say make she call police na the man go say na abroad. The men too have their own. Many of them misbehave alot. But there are still a few responsible ones. So men make una dey talk true.
THE THIRD GUY IS AN ALPHA MALE! 🙌🏾 his wife is blessed ❤
Is Alpha male a good thing? How is the wife blessed??
I agree
@@atiking1 Alpha male takes charges and win, confident and unshakeable, respect others and expect same in return the list goes on…depends on how you want to define it though…I live with one so alpha male is a good thing to me and I’m blessed for marrying one.
Thank you the caller @11minutes. The men that change their ways and adjust to understand the system and how to make the home livable enjoy their marriages.
Pls ask the first caller what he did to his wife to be looked outside over and over again. Plus how much is the child support we are talking about sef? Its funny when they say the women are spending it on themselves.
I bought a house in the US and my ex thinks its the $300 child support i get monthly i used to purchase my house . 😅
Don't mind them! They think they are still living in 5000 BCE.
Done mind then
How did you treat your wife that made her drive you out of your home. Treat a woman like a human with love, dignity and respect and get the best support from her.
Don't you believe there are evil women same as men? If you have a son, surely you will think differently
You can't satisfy a woman...
Exactly!!that man has negative behaviour that has been ongoing. That his wife will not just send you out for no reason. If its domestic violence is the judge that will send you out. Husband and wife should be nice to each other not to find yourselves in a mess in another mans country.
Marry a woman that suit ur lifestyle period.....men
Men who are high in confidence, will walk away. If a woman throw me out once, twice, thrice, I am done with that relationship.
The last guy spoke with so much wisdom👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you daddy freeze…may God continually strengthen you and bless you sir….but we women need to talk our own too sir❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏
The guy in Canada made a lot of sense . Nigerian men needs to understand that they cannot bring their patriarchal mentality to the abroad . Women in Nigeria are oppressed by men . They consider themselves superior and will throw a woman out with children without any child support or maintenance. Some will retain the children and deny their mother access to her own children because the men have financial means while the woman has nothing to her name . All the years she invested in building that home/family goes to waste , she is left broken emotionally as she tries to navigate her life back on track . That’s barbaric but the western world does not oppress the vulnerable I.e women , children and the disabled . Instead we are empowered and protected from these wolves calling themselves husbands . It is actually good to throw them out when they misbehave that’s the only way they will understand what it feels like to be thrown out of your own home . These men will go home and bring a wife in order to rule over her because she is naive but then the women integrates into the society , get educated and start making money that’s when the men become insecure and start nagging oh is it because you now have money that you talk back at me , she endured all your abuse because she was dependent on you but now she can actually speak up and challenge you on your excesses. If a woman is helping you to secure resident permit please show her respect which she deserves and not try to belittle her whenever she speaks up for herself . You can’t bring your sick mentally to abroad and expect not to have issues . Be a good husband . Support your wife and you will be fine .
Men are superior. God made it that way for a reason. Oppression is when you become a single mother.
100% agreed 👍
Your head too correct ✅ the men will not tell you all the nonsense they have put women through, then women start talking they will now be attributing it to money or anything else. They will say she’s disrespectful.my husband brought me and said I should not work stay home and take care of the children, he won’t give me money for anything he makes food available at home ,that’s all.even money to do my hair ordinary corn rows he will be telling me it’s too expensive.when I broke loose he attributed it the fact that I got citizenship.that’s what he went about telling people.when I opened the can of worms all I had endured for well over 8 years,the person he reported me to couldn’t believe it, and foolishly he was tryin to defend all his actions so I did not have to struggle to prove anything.he already admitted to everything.
Very right 💯
You nailed it 100℅
The third man said it all. God bless you dear.
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Kudos!!!!!!! to the last speaker.There's no smoke without fire.
The 3rd man spoke the truth, men pay attention to your family, stop putting money 1st, change your mentality. Get Prof. Couples Counselling or intervention before running to divorce.
He said the truth but for me I don’t think supporting your wife and putting your family first should be an abroad thing. This should be a normal norms for marriages regardless of abroad or Nigeria. Being the head of the house doesn’t me you should act anyhow. you should the accountable to your wife and supportive as well
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For the guy who lives in Canada who thinks he knows it all and others don’t pray the wife you brought from Nigeria don t kick you out one day or treat you wrong. This is the problem ,it doesn’t mean all is well for you and others are doing things wrongly. The system is a rot and doesn’t favour men.
It does not favour men in your book because it is balance and does not subjugate women.
@@ehigold1358
That's not balance, its supremacy.
African men have always make rules or cultural law to favour themselves from ages, thankGod women have a place in the part of the world where they can breath
Then move back to Nigeria you are only annoyed because he said the true
OGA Micheal just be humble and take a cue from the Canadian brother, action and reaction are equal and opposite, sow what you want to reap.he doesn’t need to pray the prayer you suggested because he doing it right.if you want to stick to the method your father / uncles used then don’t complain when breakfast is served especially if you live in the west.
Lol I got a baby momma in Nigeria who used to bait me and embarrass me much back then. Now she wants to use my son as yardstick to join me where I'm at, but I'm willing to wait till my son is 18 and set him up to join me independently. I'm good just hustling and having a few surface relationships here and there. Miss me with the bullshit. .
That's right, all those bringing there wives from Nigeria deserve what they get. How many stories like this do they want to hear.
Good one bro
Correct guy, too much sense. Stay strong bro.
I have been in the United States since 1997 and been married to my wife for 13 years. We have up and down moments but we both understand the bigger picture. I have come to conclusion that we don’t belong here. Vast majority of Nigerian men are very unwilling to change, they have seen their parents’ marriage and how their father maltreat their mothers without complaints. African men must realize that young African women of today are not like your mothers.
God bless you
Tell them bros, we are not like your mother…. You hear 👂🏻!
They will call it submission but it was actually a very abusive marriage and they want to replicate such in the western world . My Igbo ex used to tell me that’s his mother did this or that . He said his mother went to the farm whilst pregnant therefore I should stop complaining of back pain and asking him to take part in the house work whilst heavily pregnant with a high risk pregnancy in the UK .
We need Husband not another son.
The Nigeria women abroad should also be given a chance to share their stories. You will be surprise what this men who think they are still in Nigeria, where men is superior do . Men In Nigeria are kings, women are servants. My advice to men just remain in Nigeria , don't go aboard. That is if they want to still be kings. In Nigeria if your wife misbehave you can beat her, slap her, drive her out of the house even with the kids, marry another woman, if you die the properties will go to the man family even if both of you contributed to it. Women are blamed if marriages didn't work out, alot of women prefer even to stay in bad marriage because nobody will support you as a divorced woman, even women like yourself will blame you, this is because our culture is programed that way, the women you see today in Nigeria showing off that they are divorced are the celebrities, because they have money and fame.
@Priceeless Love. They are already sharing their stories. If you go to Obodo Oyinbo TV, you'll hear stories until your ear begins to cringe. Men like the man that complained about his wife sending him out have patriachal mindset and will never learn but they are quick to complain about women in diaspora
@@godschild4615 I will have to subscribe to that obodo yindo tv, africa is the worse place to be a woman unfortunately. I have seen alot in this life, to the extend am beginning to have phobia for marriage.
@@godschild4615 I will have to subscribe to that obodo yindo tv, africa is the worse place to be a woman unfortunately. I have seen alot in this life, to the extend am beginning to have phobia for marriage.
@@priceelesslove8846 Na God go bless u 4dis ur comment.
U said my mind
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I was boxing arrogant/violent men before I left Nigeria to include two of my teachers who thought I was fair play for sex! It depends on the father that brought you up. Mine brought me up never to allow any man to use me as his punchbag. When I got married, my father asked me two questions - (1) if he had ever hit me throughout my childhood and said no. (2) If he taught me how to box and I said yes. So he told me that if a man ever lays his hands on me, I should punch that man to the ground like I did those naughty boys who used to try to take my money and food at school.
We are only hearing one side of this narration, from this man so let's not jump to conclusions. A lot of Nigerian men abroad slap their wives for some pathetic reasons such as there is not enough salt in their food, she had the audacity to complain about being tired and could not cook even though both of them have full time jobs and sometimes the husband is home before the wife but he still expects his food on the table, on time. I work in the legal profession in the UK and I have seen a lot of Nigerian men who suddenly find themselves on the wrong side of the law due mainly to their stupid arrogance believing women are inferior and for slapping/punching their wives. And before I am vilified for writing this, I do concede that there are horrible and narcissistic women out there BUT by and large, men, in particular, African men, are more notorious for treating their women badly. The only difference is they are called to account for such behaviour abroad.
Marriage is a partnership and men are meant to love their wives like their own skin and you don't go about bashing your skin against hard objects!
Did you know bad behavior is rampant among men of different colors? Have heard the story of a white man told me by his now ex wife that the man used to demand for food even on days he got home before the wife. Let's stop throwing African men under the bus, there are good ones way better than what you would get from men of other colors. Just know who they are before falling in love.
What a beautiful answer 👍
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You’re mostly right, however; I don’t believe all Nigerian men beat their wives. If you conduct a research, I believe you will find that there is no correlation btwn the number of wife beaters and the number that experienced hell from their wife. There are just those who would do anything to wreck a man, when things don’t go their way.
You sense the empathy in the 1st speakers words, who would not report the wife’s misdeeds to the govt because he doesn’t see any world where only him raise the kids ( it is opposite for the women) Women are encouraged to strike and take all the spoil bcuz the system rewards them more for divorce ( or so they think).
And the ignorance or many of us foreigners about the ‘fair intent’ of the laws lead to many regrettable situations. The laws can only have equitable outcomes when the two parties fight for their rights in court.
Here, the men fold to the pressure, preemptively accepting defeat.
Men (good men) - if you are in this situation, for God sake, READ, RESEARCH; we have rights too.
I love my kids… and I told myself that even if I loose these cases, the story would not be that - I gave them up for another man to raise, without a fight.
Thank God for help, thank God for victory!
Are you married?
Any guy on the horizon?
Did any one support dv?
I am glad that some men gave a balanced and objective explanation of the situation rather than the first guy who just blames women for all the marriage woes.
You can tell that the first guy looks abusive😮. His face says it all.
@@olytee2142 Looks deceive. Serial killers in history have had the most innocent looks. So he may actually be the victim.
This third guy is genius
Good to see a lotta guys come on d live.
Well done Dr Daddy Freeze for giving these guys a space to talk. I see a lot of hurt men [most African men not only Nigerian men also Congolese men Sierra Leone men Ghanian Ugandan etc] who've been thrown out by their wives - it's painful to see.
My dear don't just pity them, contact one of them and marry him so that you can enjoy what their wives enjoyed but did not appreciate
@God's child haha tell her Mrs sympathizers ,
What you forgot is these men come aboard and forget their responsibility everything becomes a woman responsibility I mean all the bills is the wife job to pay all of them.
@@deeelizabeth2095 I don't understand how on one hand you claim the husband doesn't live up to his responsibilities, but once the wife divorces him he dutifully pays child support and spousal support. Even gives up his house for you, how was he so irresponsible to the extent of even owning a home?
@@godschild4615 don't worry. She has low self asteem and just wants the adulation of men.
My brother i was a victim too,my wife drove me out of my house for a year ,but i thank my Boss who came to my rescue.
What did you do ?
I Do Not feel for this men ,because if you treat your wife well.she wont drive you out🙄.Thanks to the law over here abroad,Not like home .were women are Not valued😡
Very correct!
Thank you my dear, I don’t have even a drop of sympathy for those toxic patriarchy men 🤣🤣🤣, developed countries are the best match to tame toxic primitive men.
That’s a lie
Lies
Thank you, women like being treated like babies and if they see a man who values and treat them right, they will never chase away such a man. The problem is that most men especially those who brought their wives from Nigeria see themselves as a mini God, controlling every aspect of the lives of those women and when these women are tired of being pushed around and begin to react, then the men start crying oh I brought my wife from Nigeria she is doing this and doing that, forgetting they are the root cause of who they are getting from their wives.
Don't marry or bring your wife to abroad especially western countries, guys please don't do it forget good women or bad women do not let any body deceive you
Odiegwu
You are just insecure...Beta male😅😅
@@adaugo thanks, I received this comment a lot but I don't care. Once bitten twice shy
Women don't bring your husband abroad too. They'll still exhibit that patriachal mentality like @Toheeb A. People like him never learn
Do at your own risk of divorce and high BP.😂😂
Men take responsibility for your life and the state of your union and stop pointing fingers at your wife. If you stop trying to control women and treat them like actual partners with love, honor, and respect your case won’t end up in court. If you are doing this and your partner no gree, then just know you’re roommates and start working on your exit plan quietly. 😅
How did you come to thar conclusion? In your mind all the women were angels and the men were devils?
Insanely stupid comment
Good for some men most of them have broken girls hearts and ran to the village to marry
Rubbish
This is not a therapy group, take your personal problems elsewhere 🤣
@@MrGandoff Men have shown her shege and pepper 🌶 so she is happy men are receiving shege and pepper 🌶 from women abroad 😂. This life isn’t balance 🤣, last last everyone will be alright.
So true.
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Oga abeg talk wetin u dey do too. Cos these men come with the Nigerian mentality you want to enjoy her sharing the bill and you want to still be almighty lord and master, when she work and pay as much as you do if not more because in most home the women go the extra mile to make the home run smoothly. Go and listen to Pst. Shola and learn.
See them na them be this. Naija ladies with their weak mentality of the men must do it all for them. Naija I omen are so ignorant and still bask in it. Nonsense
Yet other races of women do the same and still maintain their homes. That's why black women are known single mothers. Who wants to deal with this
Naija men with mentality that a woman must do all the housework and still pay half the bills should also stop the nonsense!
The problem is that most men don't tell thier wife's what they are coming to face "when they go to Nigeria to marry the woman they make them believe they are rich men. Is time men should let the women sign aggrement what they should do. 1. They should help in house to pay bills and the men should be able to help taking care of their children as well. Because people don't get it, that marriage is a contract,
You are very correct.
God bless that man that raised the issue of men being Patriarchal
I love the comment of the Canada man. Men have a role to play. They have to change in their thought process when moving abroad.
The men saying we are living peacefully how do we know that you are living peacefully 😂😂
i dated a naigerian guy in Germany... little did i know he only wanted my papers ..not forgetting he could slap me for no good reason.. i called him the police...let him slap women in his igbo community but not i. Germany
You didn't tell us what you did to him too funny woman
did you sleep with the whole neighbourhood? DOGS
A lot of these guys need self assessment. What is the part you played in the dissolution of your relationship. Example: 3rd guy said he went a whole week not talking to his woman to punish her for something he deemed a small argument... why? Not to say what she did was good, but she reacted the way she did for that reason and probably more ( whats the full story?). Abroad laws make men accountable and empower women to not take BS they would have been subjected to if they were back home. It levels the playing field and unfortunately some men fall short.
Is both side, same with me, l join my husband in UK not knowing that he want to use me as his slave, collect my salary, if we have misunderstanding, in his own house he will ask me to pay 400pds cash, that if l rent house l will pay. Due to empowerment he has on me, if l go shopping getting home, he will ask me to put the items on the table for him to see. Any issues he will put me out in the cold, l got no friend, family abroad. Five years of abuse, l kept it within myself that one day when lm pregnant for him, he may change, because age gap, he senior me with 11 years, thinking he can be a father role, but l lied to myself. Each time, l was beating by him, l only run to my GP, the doctor will say to me that he cannot treat me until l call the police, then l do tell the doctor, that in my tribe, if l report to the police, that means my marriage has ended, with my patient to stay in my marriage l lost one eye, one fallopians tube, teeths, have to come to Nigeria to fit it. My dear after l have the baby boy, while lm pregnant, he went and pregnant another woman, at last when he did not stop fighting, one day l was beating while breast feeding my baby, 6mths bady covered with blood, that was when l hands up and run out for my life with the bady, now l’m happy, went to university to study, l divorce him, he got 6 houses, l asked the judge that l want nothing just my freedom with my baby, scared to marry again, my son is 16years now raised him alone, he never asked of him, but we are fine, and doing well. So please not only men, is both side. Almighty God should give us peace of mind, Daddy Freeze.
@Ami. I'm so sorry to hear about your experience. I wish @Blessing Ogbu will hear your story. She's waiting for her husband to take her abroad and blaming the women because she thinks this man complaining here is actually telling the whole truth. Which Nigerian or even African woman doesn't want to be married? Sebi na African men we dey talk with their patriachal mentality. Abeg!
You see my love ones, what l understand after my bitter experience was that, Africas, we got good parental up bring, like me , lm the only girl and a brother, bought up from very very poor parent, so l was well trained, while growing up in Nigeria, when l saw the way my parent loved each other as poor as they are, that mentality with me was that, lm going to look for a man like my Dad like even prefer a poor man to start life with, but as life change, our thinking changed. I was comfortable in Nigeria when l rented my ex house, so his mum live with him here abroad, when they noticed how l maintain the house, then they wanted to met me, from there l met the guy, with the age gay, l thought he can be well mature, because l was young then, remember my thought, looking for a father figure. Now the life in abroad are not design from our culture where we came from, trust me, no matter who or your up bringing, if you get to abroad, one thing or the other, system or ways of life will change you and the way you behave. Abroad is not design for our ways of morality, loving and kind nature that we grow to understand back home, so sad from the victims, is not easy, but keep strong. My advised to victim like me, be strong, pick up the pieces and have hope in God, because when there is life there is hope, if l have dead in hand of this guy, l would not be advising someone today. Not all men are this bad, and not all women are bad, we are just victim of circumstances, that is life.
Please what tribe are you from?
@@thetruth5429 lbira, Kogi State
@@ami5824 ha, most people from your state are Muslims and islam teachings are part of most of your people lifestyle. Most of your tribe people are good and they respect marriage, family and friends. All the women commenting here you are the only one that did not say a man should be put into fire without a pity. God will see you through all your trials my sister. Wish you the best
I wanted to judge the guy for smoking 😆 but he kept giving punchline after punchlines that guy is filled with wisdom period.🤷
I was already judging him in my mind sef only for me to realize he actually makes more sense than most of them. I give him my respect
I am in US and I am married to an American. Sometimes I wish the women can explain their own side because some of our brothers can be misbehaving and when the women take them to the law, they always said the law favors women. Justice in USA is equal to all. Men pay child support so as women as well. When you go into a relationship with some kind of bad mentality, some people works towards their own bad ideas. But it's not true, that the law favors women over men in the USA.
Yes, women pay child support as well. What people don't understand is that what you get in child support is nowhere close to what you would spend if that child lived directly with you. Men crying about paying are crying because the child support money gets deposited into that witch account 😆
How many percent of women pay child support.
@@seyiakinbade7784child is support is based on BOTH PARENTS INCOME!! Mumu!! Stop coming to western country with your Nigerian mentality. A lot of y’all are tribalism… one way of thinking no matter how educated u people are.
Until that woman shares her story, I can’t believe one thing these men are saying. This usurping is both end. Why would she put you outside?
Single mother are rising among nigerian women in america
Me too
Good question! Stop cheating rather divorce and leave rather than oppress and cheat on her
@@DrMaa which country are u commenting from
@@Radio9730killer Uk sir
Don’t be afraid to start from the scratch. Develop/work on yourself for the sake of the people that look up to you, not just your family
That first guy weh talk I sabi am like money. Na lie e dey lie na akata do paper for am and dem dey rent, him wife dey Nigeria. EKELE CHUKWU 😅🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I agree with the other guy, I’ve dealt with Nigerian men and they have this African mentality and expect it to work here. You hear the other one saying the women don’t use the “ child support for the kids, they use it on their small small boyfriend “ 🤣😂 I agree some of the women don’t use child support for the kids, doesn’t mean it’s being used on other men if you’re on CHILD support what most people don’t say, you can contest the child support in court! A lot of these Africans, especially Nigerian men are stuck with their tribalism mentality, they’ll keep complaining about their women until they change. Living in the WESTERN society is not for the WEAK!
Shut up and mind your business you're not nigeria mumu
@@basilsunday3148 lmfao b!tch this the internet!! Shut up?? Mr Nigerian clown, I know the truth a lot of your Nigerian men will continue to have these results with their BUSH/VILLAGE mentality! The biggest Mumu here is you dusty!
Some of these men can't take what their dish out. I'm a witness to emotional abuse a man dished out to her wife in the UK. This marriage was just 1 month old. He had already planned how he would treat her when she arrives to the friend and the friend was very angry with him.
this one na mumu🤣 how did he even get visa
Awwww this person looks familiar ke ! that’s Olumide naw 😅 , woah ! Nice words , i like ur angle of thoughts , correc👍👍 i agree with you. you really made alot of sense. 😊
Thank you sir for your show ... I love this program
Isn't it possible to arrange an interview with these women to ask what happened
Finally someone said the most intelligent comment 🙏🏾
If they come online do you sincerely think they will say the truth?…… you will be wrong to believe women on their word. Evry single time
The third guy made lot sense. men!!!!!
what did you do to your wives to warrant their behaviors.
15:55 .....
Dear Men, now u understand wot it feels lik 2know ur partner is cheating, yet u endure & continue in d relationship.
Men xpect women 2condone cheating. Una tink say women no get feelings, women suppose shut up & worship d man evn wen d man is cheating 2her face.
Some men are so mean and when you push her to the wall, na you go complain. On the other hand, some women are also mean that they’ll make your life miserable. If your plans was to mistreat anyone, think twice.
Nigerian Men please give Nigerian women the opportunity to prove themselves to you before you start to go out of your way to do things for them…Nigerian men seem not to allow women to earn their love/commitment
You mean have struggle love like bm in america? They can't try the rubbish you do to your women to Nigerian women because culturally no woman would con sider him. Our fathers live and participate in our lives. They won't entertain any pookyish behavior towards their daughter. I forgot your individualized community will look the other way, but our community will deal with the man and his family. So please go sit down with your struggle
Very True!
Every marriage once claims to be peacefully but suddenly devoiced.
Our problems is gread and lack of culture.
What this brother says is very true.
The way the 3rd guy talks very fluent and eloquent . If you go and marry a cultural man anything you see you take it
I don’t blame the women, all the blame goes to those men that choose to go back to Nigeria to bring a wife. Sometimes some of those men don’t even know anything about the woman they married.As for me I completely refused to marry a Nigeria woman I know nothing about.peace of mind is very important to me.
African women abroad are hardworking and very objective. If she's down for you, she's real. Their love is real cuz most of them have their own or are at least able to afford their own. So for a woman to throw a man out especially husband/father to her kids, alot must have really gone down. In Africa most women stick to men and tolerate their excess toxicity because they are entirely dependent on them, which makes it difficult to tell if these category of women ever truly love the men or just with them for survival. With a little exposure, you see their true personalities. So the problem isn't the women abroad or the law or money or whatever. The major problem is the partriachal mindset of african men. Instead of being a partner, they rather exercise Authority, superiority, abuse n all those terrible things they mastered from their fathers. It's a different ballgame here people.
That is a damn lie! Many are so insensitive and have unrealistic expectation.
The day you are born and its discovered say na boy na wahala you dey so! A man's truth is never considered in a marriage. He is always at fault no matter how hard he tries
My dear sister I dey abroad most of our men are lazy, they do not pay bills. Women pay every Damm bill. Most time is 50/50.
Not in my zone, our brothers here are bonafide hustlers and make progress steadily. I dunno the kind of guys u see
Are you talking about Nigerian men?
Daddy freeze this guy is saying the truth, I went through the same thing from the lady I got married to in Nigeria and brought to America. As a matter of fact I went through the court system for a year and half. Thanks God I got out of that marriage alive
My Pastors last name is Ukpong. Pastor is this you?
Noooo, I’m not a pastor
@@Akakatang lol
We need to hear from your wife beforehand judging
Incase u will marry again treat her right. Women Don't forget how bad you treated them in the past..... when they have the opportunity they Strike. You must have treated her Bad back in Nigeria coming abroad was the revenge.
I will do more than this if i were in abroad bcoz we women in 9ja are really suffering in the hands of this 9ja men
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Its very sad no more love in abroad marriage.American Is women world. Daddy thank for this show foe men .Not all men are bad.pleas support our men too.thank u
The question here is ! How are Indians succeeding in their own marriages why Africans are struggling.
This guy’s story just be like replica of mine. But in my own case, God saved me. I found an American woman who advised me through all those foolish havoc my Nigerian Ex. planned to wreck on me. I have since married the American, and have researched all these laws since then. My conclusion is that they are fair, despite the child support that I have faithfully and consistently paid. I wish I was on this podcast, to advise that first speaker, how he shouldn’t loose his whole house’s equity.
The first guy, it’s clear that he And his wife are not friends and do not know how to resolve conflicts or disagreements. Abroad there’s no inlaw, or family friends to help you resolve your matter. You must do it on your own or go to court. Men and women need to learn life skills like effective communication and conflict resolution. If you both bring your gra gra abroad, it will end up in court.
Men should understand that they are not doing a woman any favour when she leaves all at home to join him abroad !!
Once abroad,It usually takes time for them to adapt and settle.During that lapse of time often times,the men treat them like they’re such a burden and are lousing out “staying at home” (with many little kids in some cases).
Just what do you expect when she starts working?!
It’s more to just the money she makes.She feels valued once more and becomes more self confident.
You men then feel threatened and get violent towards them.
Women as I know adapt only well enough to how their men treat them.
You reap x10 what you sow in a woman.
I am a guy,but that’s my POV!
Cheers!!
Mugu you can never be a man
That's Europe for you. In the UK, dogs have more powers than men. Animal rights matters more than men's rights.
It all depends, the one situation I know, the man was given full custody of his children, house and she gets to pay him alimony Money and also pay the man for the kids upkeep.
You practically know a unicorn. What are the odds?
Yes it possible but it might not be much in this kind of cases. Most time it favour's women more
@obi the 🦄 I know, was the aggressor, had DUI, and proven by the court of law that she's unable to safely care for their children.
@@Trendingnewsandupdates How many men have such substantial receipts? Hardly do men keep records in the name of love/sacrifice.
Any man who gets married in the US is maaaaad!!! I am 48 yo, never married and never will!! Forget dat tin!!!
Body go tell you for old age.
When you old you will wish you can reverse time
Fact, only a fool with marry in US or western countries
@@Avy999 can you explain?
Agba man 😂i hail o
Thank you my brother you are saying the fact
Don't base your judgment on a one sided story. Abuse physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually, psychologically can be experienced by a man or a woman.
Many women serve and take care of their husbands and still go unappreciated. Most men when their wives are serving and sacrificing for the husband and, the men will think the woman is stupid. The man will be traveling back and forth to chase young girls and second and 3rd hand women in Nigeria, making those women think they have it together. Mean while the clothes and shoes they use to chase other women is bought by their wives.
It could be either way, some women also do this to their men. No one side fit all. You have to take it case by case. Hear the other side of the story before you judge. For example see what Mercy Aigbe did to Funso Adeoti. Look @ how she stole that woman's long suffering for her husband, children and herself. When some women see this this, they get ahead of their spouses before he destroys them. It is case by case for peoples court.
Daddy freeze women need a chance to tell their own story leaving abroad.
But u've been tellin ur side since MeToo movement....lolz. Women can lie for africa.
Chaiii...true talk full inzd, but some men folks who ve not bn a victim of d system that has bn skewed in favor of women will always argue against the obvious in favor of women, even if u say d Earth is round or water is wet! They will still ask u how u take know or why is it like that😤🧐 B'cos "Abroad women" never happen to them, that doesn't mean or remove d fact that there re bad mannered ladies wt follow-come characters or good intention women/men in Abroad. Just choose your own headaches or heartaches wt wisdom.
Good man is the man from Canada,he said the truth
First man still hasn’t learnt his lessons, be good to your wife, she’s human. Stop treating her like trash and expect her to take it all.
Learn from those your friends that their marriages are working
The story is simple don’t bring ur wife abroad
@@elvisatanga5493 I swear ❤
@@xtopuzee Nigeria women don’t contribute, all their money goes to their families and when they spend kobo in a relationship the whole world will know that they have been spending, this Uchenchi Njemanze is a feminist and what do you expect from her?
@@elvisatanga5493 if you are a useless husband doesn’t matter where you stay
@@kind2423 so they are useless after bringing you to America they are not useless when you’re still in Africa,this whonna feminism thing go keep whonna single na why that black women are the last to get married because they want to behave like the men
As I am talking to you now, 3 Nigerian men have been chased out of their homes in my community in Canada. If you see these Nigerian women doing this thing, you would think they can't kill a fly. They always wait when houses have been bought, and the men have enough money to pay child support.
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Which community is that?
You are very correct. I have also heard of these kindof story from a friend.
"They can't kill a fly"
@@oluwaseunshabi897 but they can kill you.
Married a woman who have the fear of Allah that's just the best thing to do wallahi
Daddy Freeze please interview the women abroad as well. It’s on both sides and most of these men are beast. This is bullshit one sided story, bro. I’m a man and I live in the USA.
I wish the women here in Euro have the Chance to say their own
This is good for men, at least women get their values right without having to be intimidated, unlike in Nigeria 🇳🇬
I got married to my late husband and we stayed together and I took care of him very well, I can share with you what I did for him till he passed away, someone that had 100% dementia could not remember his name , but remember my name, I bath , fed him and cut all his hair. I have a lot to tell our women in abroad.
God bless you more
Good for you, I assume he must have treated you decently.
If you live in UK, the woman cannot take the house from you if you bought the house in your own name.
Also do not add her name to your property.
In UK or US she has not right over your property as long as you don't buy the property together.
Even if you're renting she cannot chase you out, if she did, she take over the tenancy and pay for rent.
He needs to go to court, if she has children for you, ask the court to put the children's name on the property.
That way she cannot sell the house.
Google lawyer
They can only chase you out if there is a domestic violence claim against you.
@@iretirotimi6961 which typical a woman with manipulative attitude can do, lay a DV against you.
Move to Texas,it's a community state,no woman can kick you out
Really? How is the law there, please educate me
@@thetruth5429 yes
@@thetruth5429 it's a community state so everything is 50/50, the highest the corpse can do is separate you guys in 2 different rooms,d house will be sold and shared equally if it was bought during the marriage,but if not,d buyer keeps d house.That is why all African men are in Texas cos you don't loose much.
@@vanessachi5088 WoW, thanks for educating me, that’s Good and fair law there, some folks don’t want to work and build with you but they are eager to take over your properties.
@@xtopuzee yes
9:35 The man made a great point. The reason people stay in relationships in Nigeria is because of their dependence on finance (to get their financial needs met).
If there were an enabling environment for people (particularly women) to earn a comfortable living for themselves they will not to be in relationships. Almost all the women enter relationships to be dependent on the men. That is why when they go abroad and become financialy independent they discard their men and begin to say, "I don't need a man."
You are very correct
While other race of women are busy marrying nigerian men up and down
The reason women disrespect you guys and drive you out is because they can't take the rubbish they would have taken in Nigeria.
Abroad women work and earn their money. The only thing they need from you is to be a responsible man, when you can't do that you simply become useless 💯.
Only a few contributors asked the pertinent question. What do the men do, that makes their wives decide they have had it. It's not like all of these women are out of their minds. For a woman who has children with a man to decide to go it alone without the help of grannies, househelp and extended family, there's a lot to think about. How much is child support, really compared to the expenses of raising a child alone? Men are broke after child support due to taxes that they have to pay just like everyone else. As one of them said, Nigerian men need to leave their archaic mentality behind if they must thrive in any relationship in the West. The family unit is still safer, cheaper, and the best in every way.
All those single men are single for a reason.
My opinion is it all boil down to the man and woman from the beginning. It's understanding. The man is the head doesn't work here you are both equal. Both have to have input. You the man should not impose.
Why I no marry dis kind wife??? Its probable that those type of girls were played on or maltreated and this is probably karma...
System here in the Abroad is designed to favour women, so we here in Germany we don wise up too, nobody dey marry again for here. If u wanna make pikin, na agreement for here now, no wahala, lol 😆 😂 🤣
Wait! How many times was he married? Did he say a colonizer divorced him too? So we don't see the common denominator?