JUST FOR CLARITY: Most men will not be able to afford 100% providing in todays economy; but, HE SHOULD HAVE A HEART TO DO SO. My wife has not worked a job in 28 years. When we first got married she made more money than me but I always had a vision to be the 100% provider.
@RCBlakesJr. yall keep acting like capitalism and societal wages don't play and part high paying position are limited there will never be enough jobs that pay great many more women would have providers if everyone didn't think they deserve a glam life what the heck just happened to being regular people smh
@RCBlakesJr. Sir there is no need for clarity you said it the way you said it. Hence is one of the reasons why OUR Black Women will keep being single, and waiting for perfection! This old mindset no longer works. I don't understand 50/50 but the 100% Provider is no longer either for MOST, especially when women choose to work. You are going have these ladies chasing ghosts. I wish OUR women well but with talk like this we will stay the least married and Black men will slowly keep peeling off to other groups. Sir you have to understand the world is different than how you and my father came up in this world.
Wrong! My husband provides 200% of the bills, and I make more than him. It's his job to take care of me. My money goes on vacation and savings and more shopping. The economy isn't that bad. It's all about budget and what is top priority. I shop from the Amish, not this expensive grocery stores.
Black man here: I agree 100% No way a man can position himself as the man of the relationship in a 50/50 relationship....a man who is truly masculine has protector provider instinct ...I believe a man should WAIT until he is financially stable before considering a relationship
Things can change for a couple that started out financially successful. After some life experience, the plan does not always work out as intended. To each his/her own though!
When my husband and I were dating he never asked me to pay for anything! He treated me like a queen and I respect him til this day for being so consistent! God knew what He was doing
@@BrittneySamoneSilveryes he did. I am listening to this man and I understand what he is saying, but I would fight like hell to keep my daughter from marrying a man with no job. Potential over reality are two different things.
I’d also like to add, if I may, that generosity is a heart posture. You can have a man who makes $200k+ and he’s greedy as Scrooge & on the other hand have a man pulling in $40k who will spare no expense for you. I’d rather have the generous man bc he already has that provider mindset. 💯
@@msharic85 black male here: I agree!! It's a heart posture....and the man making $40k will seek out ways to "level up" and upgrade his income to ensure his family is comfortable
I’ve been married for 18 years, together for 21 years, and my husband never said anything about 50/50 even though he was broke when we met. It probably would’ve scared me away lol also it’s not in our Mexican culture to have men expect 50/50. I’m truly blessed, also I’ve been a stay at home mom and wife for many years and also have worked and currently working, he prefers I stay home and I’m thinking about staying home again but also want to help financially too. When you honor your husband and put God first, He always provides.
I really, truly love how he said: “his wife adjusted her lifestyle/desires for him to be able to afford to take care of her.“ - It shows that she wanted him more than she wanted what he could “do” for her and that is something I 100% agree with ❤
ABSOLUTELY NEVER adjust my lifestyle for a man!!. only way is if we were married and had an issue!!. A mature man should have his own and date a mature woman who her own
If your not yet there as a man. Make sure you are the man in the house. Build stuff! Fix stuff! Pump all the gasses, carry every heavy things! Spend time with young nephews like a role model. Don’t hang out with bum friends l. Stop childish needs like games and focus on each other. Most men’s ego gets in the way off them stepping up like this etc.
F him .This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
Where I'm from almost every ◼️ woman I know cheated on the man that paid all of the bills for devil's. I believe that GOD needs to watch his back because most ◼️ women would sneak the devil back into heaven
I agree with what he saying, we may not always be able to take care of 100 percent but we should always be constantly striving to get to that point. Especially if you’re dealing with a woman that shows you proper respect and appreciation
This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
The disrespect is unnecessary. Have you not noticed how hard Black Women work, go hard in the paint to better themselves and their families, are the most educated in America and literally just tried to save our democracy once again along with responsible brothers only two weeks ago?! Just as there are misguided women, there are misguided men. Time out for the low levels of honor if you want high levels for yourself. Be a reflection of HEALING. God bless🙏🏽💜💜
@@jadew9177 my affairs are in order and I have my own boundaries when dealing with any woman . 100 provision is for traditional women . The rest are independent women and they will treated as such . I respect independent women
I'll bet if I paid all of your bills you would cash app or chime pookies and Ray Ray's some of my money and yours behind my back. Only a fool would pay all of a woman's bills
@@ascendingLOTUS You clearly don't know what masculinity means. A homeless veteran can be more masculine than a simp paying bills to define his masculinity.
--and when he gets injured suddenly and can't work (his fault or not), then what? Sounds great on paper but life happens. What do you have in place RIGHT NOW if you got marred for life TONIGHT from a natural disaster and can't provide?
@AFree-fi3oh ABSOLUTELY wrong. It's 100% sumbission from the jump. Period...case closed. Show me a job they won't give 100% submission to their boss...it's not even a question. They're in charge because they're the boss, not because you haven't gotten paid yet. 👈 Mario = leader 🍄 or 🌻 = help
@@treanaalfred148 that's a thought however, I sometimes wonder why only date a man that's ready when women multiply whatever they are given and some men become best self when they have their woman beside them as supporter, cheerleader, etc. and some of us women on actually ready when we think we are... This is definitely an interesting topic
@cherylp9963 and when life happens all savings has to be spent (ex. parental hospital bills) and he can't get a job, then what? Sound great on paper, but this scenario happens everyday.
Nothing is n me would ever subscribe to a 50/50 split… It undermines the authority of the Man in the home… There’s a lot of ramifications to this that is not considered… I am so grateful for the MAN that raised me… He was a 100% PROVIDER…
RC Blake & Tony Gaskins are blessed because they take care of their wives fully. If you’re stingy or looking for a come up or..roommate you’re not ready for a wife. This woman will bless you with a lineage or grow your vision. Why wouldn’t you pour into that?
I think there's a couple reasons most men don't "pour into" that concept. One being it wasn't modeled for them growing up. Many men grew up watching only their mothers work and pay ALL the bills. They've become accustomed and comfortable with being cared for by a woman. The other reason, they can't afford to do it.
I listen to Tony Gaskins also and he does not agree with R.C. Blakes on this subject.T.G lives in the real world and know only a small % of men can do this.
At that point we're roommates. I couldn't respect him as the "man" of the house if it starts out that way and continue. A real man wouldn't dare allow it.
I agree! Real men pay all the bills and provide the fuel to keep the foundation of the family intact. Real men take the position of leadership. It all falls on their shoulders. They are to depend on and fall on Gods shoulders!
I say a real man wouldn’t even feel right asking his wife for help, he would do what he got to do before he ever ask her for anything! I have witnessed it…
If bruh cant pay all the bills at that time but he is really working towards it ,getting a second job ,learning a skill etc....I dont think thats a problem cause he showing he wants more for both of them.
@@akyiels.2088 Two jobs? That’s too much to put on a man sorry but you’re not looking out for his best interest and that’s not a good marriage, let alone a good relationship.
If they split bills they need to split everything. Cooking, cleaning, actually raising the children (as in showing up, taking them to appointments, school, events) and everything else. These days some men think that all they have to do is work, pay a few bills and not cheat. Nope. When the roles changed and required us to have to help financially then they changed for him as well. I'm not married and I don't have kids but I definitely don't want much of what I see. This sista over here doesn't want to carry the load.
You are right sis! Cleaning, cooking, nurturing the whole family. Helping with homework, grocery shopping, laundry. And they want pornstar sex after your done with the chores! All this after your 40 hour work week. And the whole world expects you to smile all damn day & look leveled up.. lol. this shit is a joke
He said a man that has a 100% “mind” to provide not that he was able to. Immediately after he tells you that his woman made more than him. Y’all don’t listen.
I felt that when he says how a woman expresses her love and keeps things within relieving pressure and wanting you to he comfortable. Humble. Full of heart.
This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
What woman is really Worthy of a man paying all of the bills. Most ◼️ women would cheat on GOD send him to hell and bring the devil back to heaven. Real talk
This is the kind of talk that gets women going. We love a man who has a plan one who has vision. It’s a turn on and we will gladly help him execute his plan.
Well he should take care of the bills. If she wants a certain lifestyle, then she needs to work to have those things. He shouldn’t have to slave for her to have “stuff”. If he takes care of her needs, she can do the rest herself.
After listening which is fundamental....he is stating facts. He said that in the beginning he didn't have 100% but he strived for it and his wife didn't put the pressure on him to do so. As a wife, that is what you are supposed to do. Don't put your high expectations to pressure a man in doing something he can not do but stand by him. In marriage it will always get better. We all get better with time. If you are in the same place you were 5 years ago, you need to seek guidance and wisdom for more. This is a great video and I am in total agreement.
This was a beautiful message 🥰 I’ve been blessed to watch my parents do it this way for almost 50 years now. It’s been super hard finding men that think this way today, though 😕 a lot of men I’ve spoken to are almost offended by the thought of this, and say crazy stuff like “well what am I getting in return?” I can guarantee you, the conversation never went in that direction with our parents generation. I think Men wanted to step up financially, because it did something for their manhood. I know times have changed and the economy is what it is, but it was nice to hear that some people still think like this lol 😅
My and I didn’t split bills, but I felt it was duty to give him a certain amount of my money to help with the bills. He never ask I just did it because we were in it together.
I love your show... every time!! 100% truth always said. I love how it's well balanced: men level up for your household, women have patience & support his Vision.
This is what I want to know and nobody is ever able to answer this question. If a woman is working and not paying bills, what is she doing with her money? 🙄 I’m paying bills and she buying purses? Naw! BS!
@TheBoogienan32… I’m a working (outside the home) married woman and I want to know too😂 I don’t think anyone can effectively answer that question but I want them to….I’ll wait.
@@rachael862 what you described is what most would consider “50/50”. You’re contributing towards the household finances via investments. “our investments” meaning you’re just distributing your resources differently. And, if the man is paying “all the bills” you really expect him to do “housework?” What do you mean “help with housework”?
This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
Exactly, my boyfriend knows a lot about roofing but don’t know anything about credit, credit cards or creating an llc. I know about credit and creating llcs, so I’m taking his job and turning it into his own business. I’ve already added him to my cards so he can have some history, created his llc and his website. Now we just gotta get funding and takeoff 😊
@ I got funding for myself personally but didn’t get a lot because I didn’t have my business structured properly. Now I know and I just personal guarantee all my business cards because I cleaned up my personal credit.
@@alisharenee6571 Now that you did all of that you need a piece of that business for your investment of your expertise now and in the future. Add yourself as a manager to the LLC then file the S- Corp paperwork and do your taxes as an S-Corp and become a shareholder. Then start getting paid for the work you do and have done.
Some of you all need to really listen again!… The spirit of offense is heavy in the comments. Listen: 🗣️He is talking about mindset. Listen, listen, listen. Get the entire message. There are some things you have to built up to. Mindset, vision, and execution is how you get there. Just like with anything else. Don’t be uncomfortable or offended if you don’t have it right now… build up to it. Having the right mindset benefits many aspects of a relationship.
If you wanna split bills and the women don't want to, that's not the one for you. It's not bad or good. Don't let anybody bully you into a relationship you don't want to be in
I know he right. My fiancé comes all the way correct, and I take very good care of him. Men should have it no other way they should want to provide. Also he’s correct you should never live above your means. Also if you plan to have a family in the future children will need one of you to be present, and also take care of the home. I love taking care of him. He’s good to me.
I been with my husband for 16 years . He doesn’t even pay mortgage because we pay it a year . Both me and him . He puts me down for being a stay a home mom , he compares me to everyone he sees , he yells at me and the kids everyday . I have so much anxiety that I wake up shaking everyday because of the way he treats us .
I believe each house is different in its own you have to do what is best for your house weather it’s going 50-50 or a man pay all the bill or based on your salary you can split the difference that way if she makes more or you make more or however, it works for your home
A masculine man has the mind to provide for woman WITH children. 50/50 should be the standard if she is NOT raising his children. God gave women gifts, talents and abilities to generate income when NOT raising children.
A man desires to take care of his wife/family is his point…. Not tell her she couldn’t work 🤦🏻♀️…. A woman shouldn’t ever desire to provide for a man 🤦🏻♀️…. Y’all really are the men y’all seek to have…I guess you say “if I can’t have em, I’ll be him”…. The masculinity in you women is crazy… women with control and power issues…. A man that doesn’t provide for his own family is worse than an unbeliever.
Labor pains of a baby you made by yourself ? This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
@@SuperNard3mam Labour pains is not a reason at all because a lot of men take care of their women at labour and will end up having to work after giving birth. Shit up
I absolutely believe that married men should be the providers who maintain all of the financial responsibilities, but… I also believe that men should be patient, calculated, and extremely selective when vetting the proper women to build a relationship with, because the conversations about how married women should manage their roles in a marriage, are either non existent, or simply insignificant in the discovery of reasonable solutions. Divorce and family courts are full of masculine men, who are getting their resources drained.
This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
Thanks for shedding a bit of light on the remark “some women dont want to change their lifestyle for the guy” if she affords this lifestyle respect her and align yourself to be uplifted. And if you sincerely don’t see yourself there then respect her and respect yourself and move on. ✨
Average working black men make 40k a year. With inflation of mortgages, rent, food...there's no way you can act like these women will be happy living on the avg man's income.
The limiting belief that he is talking about. You didn't listen to anything he said. Example of why I'm not married bc men hear and respond like you. Incomplete hearing.
Keep the vision, you have to have the right heart posture of wanting to be able to provide 100 percent. Someone who generous and has goals of leveling up. I don’t mind being with a man that makes less than me, but we both have to have a vision/ goals of leveling up together. I will help my man get there. That’s all. Communication, consistency, clarity (Growth) will cannot lose.
This black woman making all this absorbent amount of narrative is amazing. Statistically, black men make more money than black women with far less debt and with lower poverty levels.
@@nicolet2343You’re not married because you want to believe in delusions. The avg man of all races make about 50k, and the avg married woman of all races have to work full time. You can go 50/50 with a spouse or 50/50 with a roommate, but unless you manage to attract an upper class man, you’re gonna have to go 50/50 to pay bills.
@nicolet2343 its called common sense and being logical. I have the full intent to provide fully for my wife but in reality with this economy, my wife aka my helpmate may need to help me pay some bills. God didnt say the wife is supposed to sit at home and look pretty and not contribute. Your purpose is to help however that husband sees fit. Tell me I'm wrong.
My husband and I both pays the bill together. It takes 2 of us to be able to survive. I don’t mind because we are in this together as a team. Just recently he quit his job to finish school. In a few months his paycheck will be able to cover the bills 🎉🙌
I understand what he is saying. I think his examples are not necessarily the right example. There is no way, I would agree on my daughter marrying a man on potential. I can't stop her, but I am not ordaining it either. Also just because a man can provide for his woman financially doesn't make him a masculine man either. He can provide and abuse her all day and night. I think what he is trying to say is that a man should be able to provide, protect and defend his woman. Sometimes it is not always in monetary value. Oprah is a billionaire and very few men can financially provide for her. However, Stedman gives Oprah the security, the support and the protection that she needs in a man. Providing for a woman should not be soley based on finances. However, a man should always have a job. That is my opinion.
The Wise and Foolish Builders 24 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.” I would love to hear more conversation about God as the foundation , on topics on your show, because it could easily get confusing hearing so many different (man’s) opinions. Nothing against Mr. RC Blake, this is a general observation. I believe it help your audience to have understanding that is founded upon GOD’s WORD.
Where does it say we have to provide for women? Masculine is what men are not what we could be. Men should not provide for girlfriends. The only exception is if you have children together and it’s cheaper for her to be at home while you work if you live together. Men should provide for their wife and kids. Or if she wants to work and you stay home.
American black men really need to absorb this message. They just seem raised to expect that they don't have to provide for women & children, they are able to be stronger than people around them allow & and expect them to be.
Jasmine, I am about to file for divorce, I have been in this relationship for 19 years. I would say for the last 8-10 years, the pandemic didn’t make it any better. But he owns his own business that has not contributed to the household enough. I’ve been begged and cried and begged and cried for him to make that a part-time gig and get a full-time job , to bring in more consistent money. He just refuses to and is convinced that his business will pick up I’ve done all I can. I put so much money into his business. I just can’t do it anymore. I’v been here so long because I wanted so badly for our marriage to work. I moved upstairs a month and half ago, still no job. Working on his business whenever works comes is will not work anymore.
Jasmine, I am about to file for divorce, I have been in this relationship for 19 years. I would say for the last 8-10 years, the pandemic didn’t make it any better. But he owns his own business that has not contributed to the household enough. I’ve been begged and cried and begged and cried for him to make that a part-time gig and get a full-time job , to bring in more consistent money. He just refuses to and is convinced that his business will pick up I’ve done all I can. I put so much money into his business. I just can’t do it anymore. I’v been here so long because I wanted so badly for our marriage to work. I moved upstairs a month and half ago, still no job. Working on his business whenever works comes is will not work anymore.
RC Blake gave his opinion, which is fine for his household. From a biblical standpoint, a man and woman become one in marriage. There is no 50/50. How are they one, but their finances are separate? All of the resources of their household belong to them equally. The bills and all other needs, wants, and desires are paid from their jointly held resources. The relationships he's describing sound more like modern relationships, more so than anything biblical. Finally, he mentioned that he's "old school." In those relationships, the women didn't work outside of the home. They stayed home, cooked, cleaned, and reared the children. I doubt that the women that he's addressing here would be interested in being "old school" in that context. I could be wrong, but I doubt it.
IRREGARDLESS, you created to provide 😂….. “BY THE SWEAT OF YOUR BROW”… wasn’t given to a woman …. You said all of that, and God made yiu to provide , not count a woman as a financial plan…. You’re a man, but it bothers you, that you have to take care of a family? This indeed was and is Gods design…. A woman shouldn’t ever be apart of a man’s financial plan…ever. That should already be taken care of , if you desire a wife. I also hear a little control in this statement too. You’re worried about a woman making money, as if that should have anything to do with you providing…. Again worrying about the wrong thing, when your focus should be forward…
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Wow. True
@@consuellagreen5927 I wholeheartedly agree!!
Amen
JUST FOR CLARITY: Most men will not be able to afford 100% providing in todays economy; but, HE SHOULD HAVE A HEART TO DO SO.
My wife has not worked a job in 28 years. When we first got married she made more money than me but I always had a vision to be the 100% provider.
I'm a black male and I agree with you Bishop!
@RCBlakesJr. yall keep acting like capitalism and societal wages don't play and part high paying position are limited there will never be enough jobs that pay great many more women would have providers if everyone didn't think they deserve a glam life what the heck just happened to being regular people smh
@RCBlakesJr. Sir there is no need for clarity you said it the way you said it. Hence is one of the reasons why OUR Black Women will keep being single, and waiting for perfection! This old mindset no longer works. I don't understand 50/50 but the 100% Provider is no longer either for MOST, especially when women choose to work. You are going have these ladies chasing ghosts. I wish OUR women well but with talk like this we will stay the least married and Black men will slowly keep peeling off to other groups. Sir you have to understand the world is different than how you and my father came up in this world.
@@RCBlakesJr. Having the heart to do something you cannot is not really beneficial though. 🤷🏾♀️
Wrong! My husband provides 200% of the bills, and I make more than him. It's his job to take care of me. My money goes on vacation and savings and more shopping. The economy isn't that bad. It's all about budget and what is top priority. I shop from the Amish, not this expensive grocery stores.
Black man here: I agree 100%
No way a man can position himself as the man of the relationship in a 50/50 relationship....a man who is truly masculine has protector provider instinct ...I believe a man should WAIT until he is financially stable before considering a relationship
So hook up culture until they are in their 30s.
@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473I'm tryna get my rocks off before it's too late😈
Things can change for a couple that started out financially successful. After some life experience, the plan does not always work out as intended.
To each his/her own though!
Now you're talking and I totally respect and agree with that 💯
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Anyone who splits bills 50/50 are roommates.
Wrong. 😑
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Correct.
That's the dumbest thing I've heard my mother and step dad been married 22 years, goes 50/50 and happily married
A man that wants to be a husband has to have a vision and he must be CONSISTENT with his word.
When my husband and I were dating he never asked me to pay for anything! He treated me like a queen and I respect him til this day for being so consistent! God knew what He was doing
Amen!
@@BrittneySamoneSilveryes he did. I am listening to this man and I understand what he is saying, but I would fight like hell to keep my daughter from marrying a man with no job. Potential over reality are two different things.
Amen and I'm so happy for you you were blessed 💞🙏
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@@kaylasweet5431 but wasn't that a better economy in those days
I’d also like to add, if I may, that generosity is a heart posture. You can have a man who makes $200k+ and he’s greedy as Scrooge & on the other hand have a man pulling in $40k who will spare no expense for you. I’d rather have the generous man bc he already has that provider mindset. 💯
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!! 💯
@@msharic85 black male here: I agree!! It's a heart posture....and the man making $40k will seek out ways to "level up" and upgrade his income to ensure his family is comfortable
This is very true. Thank you for your comment. ❤
That’s a great point and makes ALOT of sense!!
Are you willing to live within his means?
I’ve been married for 18 years, together for 21 years, and my husband never said anything about 50/50 even though he was broke when we met. It probably would’ve scared me away lol also it’s not in our Mexican culture to have men expect 50/50.
I’m truly blessed, also I’ve been a stay at home mom and wife for many years and also have worked and currently working, he prefers I stay home and I’m thinking about staying home again but also want to help financially too. When you honor your husband and put God first, He always provides.
Amen
Yes, when God is the head of your husband's life, he won't be approaching you with that crazy 50/50 nonsense. Bless you!
I really, truly love how he said: “his wife adjusted her lifestyle/desires for him to be able to afford to take care of her.“ - It shows that she wanted him more than she wanted what he could “do” for her and that is something I 100% agree with ❤
this!!!!
ABSOLUTELY NEVER adjust my lifestyle for a man!!. only way is if we were married and had an issue!!. A mature man should have his own and date a mature woman who her own
If you can’t provide, don’t seek a woman. Simple.
@@TheVesselGem That's so true!! He should focus on his growth and maturity especially if the man and woman are in their 50's😊
Absolutely
Periodtttttt 🎯
THIS IS WHAT O TOLD A MAN and he got pissed. But the males in my family starting with my grands instilled this in all of us.
Simp! If a woman can’t be one then don’t marry her!
If your not yet there as a man. Make sure you are the man in the house. Build stuff! Fix stuff! Pump all the gasses, carry every heavy things! Spend time with young nephews like a role model. Don’t hang out with bum friends l. Stop childish needs like games and focus on each other. Most men’s ego gets in the way off them stepping up like this etc.
@@Rockstarr101ish 👏👏
Alot of men now days don't know how 2 fix things.
@@RestingVirgoFace and if they’re not YouTubing and trying to figure it out they trifling
I honestly believe if you are not there as a man, do you really deserve a wife and children ?
This!
Bishop RC is a gift from heaven. Continue to educate us my Bishop. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
F him .This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
Where I'm from almost every ◼️ woman I know cheated on the man that paid all of the bills for devil's. I believe that GOD needs to watch his back because most ◼️ women would sneak the devil back into heaven
I agree with what he saying, we may not always be able to take care of 100 percent but we should always be constantly striving to get to that point. Especially if you’re dealing with a woman that shows you proper respect and appreciation
This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
@@thetv3583 not talking about “hos” but women so stop making excuses and get your affairs in order
The disrespect is unnecessary. Have you not noticed how hard Black Women work, go hard in the paint to better themselves and their families, are the most educated in America and literally just tried to save our democracy once again along with responsible brothers only two weeks ago?!
Just as there are misguided women, there are misguided men. Time out for the low levels of honor if you want high levels for yourself.
Be a reflection of HEALING.
God bless🙏🏽💜💜
@@jadew9177 my affairs are in order and I have my own boundaries when dealing with any woman . 100 provision is for traditional women . The rest are independent women and they will treated as such . I respect independent women
Boom! Every woman doesn't deserve this treatment, but the ones that do are top tier and understand their role, and gladly play it 💯💯
Men need to take it to the next level spiritually.
anytime i hear 50/50, my skin crawls.. literally. lol
I'll bet if I paid all of your bills you would cash app or chime pookies and Ray Ray's some of my money and yours behind my back. Only a fool would pay all of a woman's bills
Well pay your own 100% and crawl on.
@@TheKangofPop7 why would i do that when ACTUAL masculine men exist 👀😩
@@TheKangofPop7 me investing in a woman now days is similar to me giving the devil all of my money. 50/50 or beat it
@@ascendingLOTUS You clearly don't know what masculinity means. A homeless veteran can be more masculine than a simp paying bills to define his masculinity.
That makes sense. If a man desires 100% submission, shouldn't he make 100% provision?
--and when he gets injured suddenly and can't work (his fault or not), then what? Sounds great on paper but life happens.
What do you have in place RIGHT NOW if you got marred for life TONIGHT from a natural disaster and can't provide?
Facts
So truuue. Some men want to have the benefits of leadership with none of the responsibility.
@@69SalterStreet directing someone to not sit on their natural talents and benefit the family IS leadership.
@AFree-fi3oh ABSOLUTELY wrong. It's 100% sumbission from the jump. Period...case closed. Show me a job they won't give 100% submission to their boss...it's not even a question. They're in charge because they're the boss, not because you haven't gotten paid yet. 👈
Mario = leader
🍄 or 🌻 = help
My Philosophy is my Money show up where his run out… PERIOD… 💯💯💯💯💯
Absolutely that's everything right there ✔️💯 💞
@behealthymindbodyspirit9016 this it right here
@@behealthymindbodyspirit9016 💯
@@behealthymindbodyspirit9016 Yup...it's called a help mete!! You tie up the loose ends ☺️
Preachh
This the conversation so many men dont want to hear because they dont want to sacrifice comfortbaility in order to figure out how to earn more.
RC is just a fountain of wisdom. Ive read 2 of his books and learned so much from him. He's a blessing to everyone who has a teachable spirit.
I love him too,queenology was amazing ❤
@heather7119 Absolutely...I read that and Father daughter talk.♡
She made certain the lifestyle was good for him to handle. That’s thoughtful and loving. I love that.
Any good woman would💯
Why not stay single men until you are able to provide for a family?
That part...
@@treanaalfred148 that's a thought however, I sometimes wonder why only date a man that's ready when women multiply whatever they are given and some men become best self when they have their woman beside them as supporter, cheerleader, etc. and some of us women on actually ready when we think we are... This is definitely an interesting topic
Why not have sex until you are able to take care of a child?
@cherylp9963 and when life happens all savings has to be spent (ex. parental hospital bills) and he can't get a job, then what? Sound great on paper, but this scenario happens everyday.
@@truthserum3960 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Nothing is n me would ever subscribe to a 50/50 split… It undermines the authority of the Man in the home… There’s a lot of ramifications to this that is not considered… I am so grateful for the MAN that raised me… He was a 100% PROVIDER…
RC Blake & Tony Gaskins are blessed because they take care of their wives fully. If you’re stingy or looking for a come up or..roommate you’re not ready for a wife. This woman will bless you with a lineage or grow your vision. Why wouldn’t you pour into that?
I think there's a couple reasons most men don't "pour into" that concept. One being it wasn't modeled for them growing up. Many men grew up watching only their mothers work and pay ALL the bills. They've become accustomed and comfortable with being cared for by a woman. The other reason, they can't afford to do it.
I listen to Tony Gaskins also and he does not agree with R.C. Blakes on this subject.T.G lives in the real world and know only a small % of men can do this.
@@Ms.Mee777 yup!
@@TheKangofPop7Right. Tony’s wife is a true stay-at-home mom while RC’s has worked to maintain their lifestyle.
Thank you 🙏🏽
TY.. AGREED 💯🙏🥂❤️‼️men are producers, women need to be nurtured and protected.. Tears are falling.
What are you providing for men?
Men still need to be taught how to sincerely love themselves. Simply.
You praying up because you a major league bum. You bring no value other than prayer. Spanish Keisha go sit and do better🤣🤣
@@professionalpookieDebt, baggage, shortened lifespan, and worst case scenario kids that aren’t his with or without his knowledge.
@juliandixon891 🤣🤣🤣
At that point we're roommates. I couldn't respect him as the "man" of the house if it starts out that way and continue. A real man wouldn't dare allow it.
I agree with R.C. blake a man should be always striving to be the best everyday and ambitious to provide
No romance without finance!😮
I agree! Real men pay all the bills and provide the fuel to keep the foundation of the family intact. Real men take the position of leadership. It all falls on their shoulders. They are to depend on and fall on Gods shoulders!
I say a real man wouldn’t even feel right asking his wife for help, he would do what he got to do before he ever ask her for anything! I have witnessed it…
U don’t what a real man does
If bruh cant pay all the bills at that time but he is really working towards it ,getting a second job ,learning a skill etc....I dont think thats a problem cause he showing he wants more for both of them.
And what are you doing while he’s working two jobs
Working her 1 job that pays more than both of his jobs together nigga
That's right and I think the lady should give her all in any and every area that's expected of her to as well
@@akyiels.2088 Two jobs? That’s too much to put on a man sorry but you’re not looking out for his best interest and that’s not a good marriage, let alone a good relationship.
Right! As long as there's effort and realistic trajectory.
If they split bills they need to split everything. Cooking, cleaning, actually raising the children (as in showing up, taking them to appointments, school, events) and everything else. These days some men think that all they have to do is work, pay a few bills and not cheat. Nope. When the roles changed and required us to have to help financially then they changed for him as well. I'm not married and I don't have kids but I definitely don't want much of what I see. This sista over here doesn't want to carry the load.
For some reason you forget the 50/50 on protection. By the way most 50/ 50 guy do the cleaning and appointment
50/50 on being pregnant, child birth and labor delivery too 😂. God gave Adam and Eve different sentences
@@lindsaypeek63Why you comparing 9 months to severs yrs of managing the household for a potential life time. Plus you get government assistance
Governments assistance doesn’t seem to be a part of the women of conversation.
You are right sis! Cleaning, cooking, nurturing the whole family. Helping with homework, grocery shopping, laundry. And they want pornstar sex after your done with the chores! All this after your 40 hour work week. And the whole world expects you to smile all damn day & look leveled up.. lol. this shit is a joke
People need to hear what bishop talking about 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
He said a man that has a 100% “mind” to provide not that he was able to. Immediately after he tells you that his woman made more than him. Y’all don’t listen.
Exactly… listen!
He was expressing the process of how they started but he has the mindset to get more. 😅
@@None-of-yours22. I think we all got the message
You didn't pay attention to the comments because he clarified that got to a point that was able to take care of her. She hasn't worked in 28 years.
I felt that when he says how a woman expresses her love and keeps things within relieving pressure and wanting you to he comfortable. Humble. Full of heart.
So glad to see RC here!!! He’s such a treasure. Have him on more!!
It’s not always about money but his effort to do so!!
Yesssssss
As soon as he made his first statement, I hit the “like” button. 💯
When a man not doing his job and this is why woman step to do a job then they get upset. I would rather stay alone and pay my own bills.
This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
What woman is really Worthy of a man paying all of the bills. Most ◼️ women would cheat on GOD send him to hell and bring the devil back to heaven. Real talk
Problem women only want to take and not give. You need to be traditional to want traditional.
@@thetruthtings None that you will find.
@@thetv3583😂😂😂 dumb
This is the kind of talk that gets women going. We love a man who has a plan one who has vision. It’s a turn on and we will gladly help him execute his plan.
Yes, that’s right! This some good wise counsel.
Omg I see RC Blakes and click immediately!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I think most men can handle the household themselves. Is she okay with living a certain lifestyle for a while. That's the killer
That’s not the killer if y’all know the plan and the man. We are one.
Facts!
@@anitachambers6733 facts
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Well he should take care of the bills. If she wants a certain lifestyle, then she needs to work to have those things. He shouldn’t have to slave for her to have “stuff”. If he takes care of her needs, she can do the rest herself.
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! RC Blake, I totally agreed!!!❤❤❤
Amen ! I agree with Bishop R C Blakes . 💯🙏😀♥️
"Elevate and grow into it" ❤
After listening which is fundamental....he is stating facts. He said that in the beginning he didn't have 100% but he strived for it and his wife didn't put the pressure on him to do so. As a wife, that is what you are supposed to do. Don't put your high expectations to pressure a man in doing something he can not do but stand by him. In marriage it will always get better. We all get better with time. If you are in the same place you were 5 years ago, you need to seek guidance and wisdom for more. This is a great video and I am in total agreement.
So well said!! ❤❤❤❤ Thank you!
This is how you succeed as a unit. Sitting standards and goals having a vision and a accomplishing it together.
Proverbs 29:18 Where there is no prophetic vision the people cast off restraint, but blessed is he who keeps the law.
This was a beautiful message 🥰 I’ve been blessed to watch my parents do it this way for almost 50 years now. It’s been super hard finding men that think this way today, though 😕 a lot of men I’ve spoken to are almost offended by the thought of this, and say crazy stuff like “well what am I getting in return?” I can guarantee you, the conversation never went in that direction with our parents generation. I think Men wanted to step up financially, because it did something for their manhood. I know times have changed and the economy is what it is, but it was nice to hear that some people still think like this lol 😅
Great show! So needed!
My and I didn’t split bills, but I felt it was duty to give him a certain amount of my money to help with the bills. He never ask I just did it because we were in it together.
I love your show... every time!! 100% truth always said. I love how it's well balanced: men level up for your household, women have patience & support his Vision.
Communicate the vision, and I'll add executing the action steps daily to confirm alignment. Great talk, men👏🏽👏🏾
This was wonderfully and well said!
This is what I want to know and nobody is ever able to answer this question.
If a woman is working and not paying bills, what is she doing with her money? 🙄 I’m paying bills and she buying purses? Naw! BS!
Buy life insurance policy and investment and help w house make sure everything organized and then some
@TheBoogienan32…
I’m a working (outside the home) married woman and I want to know too😂
I don’t think anyone can effectively answer that question but I want them to….I’ll wait.
@@rachael862 what you described is what most would consider “50/50”. You’re contributing towards the household finances via investments. “our investments” meaning you’re just distributing your resources differently.
And, if the man is paying “all the bills” you really expect him to do “housework?” What do you mean “help with housework”?
@@joycewatt800 we will wait together! 😂🤣
This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
Love your teaching Bishop 💯
I agree… its against how the order is supposed to be. AND these ladies who are for it know deep down inside they don’t agree either.
Exactly, my boyfriend knows a lot about roofing but don’t know anything about credit, credit cards or creating an llc. I know about credit and creating llcs, so I’m taking his job and turning it into his own business. I’ve already added him to my cards so he can have some history, created his llc and his website. Now we just gotta get funding and takeoff 😊
❤💯
@alisharenee6571 that's where I am... trying to get funding.
Get married
@ I got funding for myself personally but didn’t get a lot because I didn’t have my business structured properly. Now I know and I just personal guarantee all my business cards because I cleaned up my personal credit.
@@alisharenee6571 Now that you did all of that you need a piece of that business for your investment of your expertise now and in the future. Add yourself as a manager to the LLC then file the S- Corp paperwork and do your taxes as an S-Corp and become a shareholder. Then start getting paid for the work you do and have done.
Seek God’s face. Acknowledge him in all your ways and he will direct your paths. Realistic goals and living within your means. He makes sense.
Man of God, I appreciate your perspective on the topic presented. Never heard it on this wise before. Thank you, Sir!
Some of you all need to really listen again!… The spirit of offense is heavy in the comments. Listen: 🗣️He is talking about mindset. Listen, listen, listen. Get the entire message.
There are some things you have to built up to. Mindset, vision, and execution is how you get there. Just like with anything else. Don’t be uncomfortable or offended if you don’t have it right now… build up to it. Having the right mindset benefits many aspects of a relationship.
If you wanna split bills and the women don't want to, that's not the one for you. It's not bad or good. Don't let anybody bully you into a relationship you don't want to be in
@@myronscott8611 This right here!!! 💯💯💯
Word up
Brokie
I know he right. My fiancé comes all the way correct, and I take very good care of him. Men should have it no other way they should want to provide. Also he’s correct you should never live above your means. Also if you plan to have a family in the future children will need one of you to be present, and also take care of the home. I love taking care of him. He’s good to me.
I been with my husband for 16 years . He doesn’t even pay mortgage because we pay it a year . Both me and him . He puts me down for being a stay a home mom , he compares me to everyone he sees , he yells at me and the kids everyday . I have so much anxiety that I wake up shaking everyday because of the way he treats us .
This is a rare find. Don't exist anymore.
You talking truth. I really think it is Nothing but TRURTH.Well Said.
Wow... I didn't think this kind of man still existed. Truly thought my dad was the last real masculine man in this world.
I believe each house is different in its own you have to do what is best for your house weather it’s going 50-50 or a man pay all the bill or based on your salary you can split the difference that way if she makes more or you make more or however, it works for your home
RC BLAKES THE TRUTH!! Been listening to him for years ❤❤ that’s Unc right there ❤
YOUR RIGHT PASTOR RC BLAKE'S
50/50 I CAN REMAIN BY SELF.......
ME AND JESUS......
🎲 It's funny how they want traditional men, without being traditional women-
A masculine man has the mind to provide for woman WITH children.
50/50 should be the standard if she is NOT raising his children.
God gave women gifts, talents and abilities to generate income when NOT raising children.
Valid point ☝🏽
A man desires to take care of his wife/family is his point…. Not tell her she couldn’t work 🤦🏻♀️….
A woman shouldn’t ever desire to provide for a man 🤦🏻♀️….
Y’all really are the men y’all seek to have…I guess you say “if I can’t have em, I’ll be him”….
The masculinity in you women is crazy… women with control and power issues….
A man that doesn’t provide for his own family is worse than an unbeliever.
Labor pains aren’t 50/50 and likely the household chores and child rearing will NOT be 50/50. If he “says” it will be you’re delusional.
Labor pains of a baby you made by yourself ? This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
That's the part they don't get theses soft kats aways trying to say what a real man is
@@SuperNard3mam
Labour pains is not a reason at all because a lot of men take care of their women at labour and will end up having to work after giving birth. Shit up
I absolutely believe that married men should be the providers who maintain all of the financial responsibilities, but…
I also believe that men should be patient, calculated, and extremely selective when vetting the proper women to build a relationship with, because the conversations about how married women should manage their roles in a marriage, are either non existent, or simply insignificant in the discovery of reasonable solutions.
Divorce and family courts are full of masculine men, who are getting their resources drained.
@BryceLarenz As a married woman of 17 years... you ABSOLUTELY nailed it!!!🎯
EXACTLY!!!
This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.
@ Good Point 😊
Thanks for shedding a bit of light on the remark “some women dont want to change their lifestyle for the guy” if she affords this lifestyle respect her and align yourself to be uplifted. And if you sincerely don’t see yourself there then respect her and respect yourself and move on. ✨
This was a hard task and painful to move on.
This is stellar 9:07
Bless you all for this post
Since when did masculinity become scalable? Masculinity is a ‘one way’ trait. Money or the ability to make money is variable.
Having the mind is not the same as having the ability. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Average working black men make 40k a year. With inflation of mortgages, rent, food...there's no way you can act like these women will be happy living on the avg man's income.
The limiting belief that he is talking about. You didn't listen to anything he said. Example of why I'm not married bc men hear and respond like you. Incomplete hearing.
Keep the vision, you have to have the right heart posture of wanting to be able to provide 100 percent. Someone who generous and has goals of leveling up. I don’t mind being with a man that makes less than me, but we both have to have a vision/ goals of leveling up together. I will help my man get there. That’s all. Communication, consistency, clarity (Growth) will cannot lose.
This black woman making all this absorbent amount of narrative is amazing. Statistically, black men make more money than black women with far less debt and with lower poverty levels.
@@nicolet2343You’re not married because you want to believe in delusions. The avg man of all races make about 50k, and the avg married woman of all races have to work full time.
You can go 50/50 with a spouse or 50/50 with a roommate, but unless you manage to attract an upper class man, you’re gonna have to go 50/50 to pay bills.
@nicolet2343 its called common sense and being logical. I have the full intent to provide fully for my wife but in reality with this economy, my wife aka my helpmate may need to help me pay some bills. God didnt say the wife is supposed to sit at home and look pretty and not contribute. Your purpose is to help however that husband sees fit. Tell me I'm wrong.
My husband and I both pays the bill together. It takes 2 of us to be able to survive. I don’t mind because we are in this together as a team. Just recently he quit his job to finish school. In a few months his paycheck will be able to cover the bills 🎉🙌
So what you doing with your money then? That wallet needs to submit too.
He said what he said and I approve this message 💯
I understand what he is saying. I think his examples are not necessarily the right example. There is no way, I would agree on my daughter marrying a man on potential. I can't stop her, but I am not ordaining it either. Also just because a man can provide for his woman financially doesn't make him a masculine man either. He can provide and abuse her all day and night. I think what he is trying to say is that a man should be able to provide, protect and defend his woman. Sometimes it is not always in monetary value. Oprah is a billionaire and very few men can financially provide for her. However, Stedman gives Oprah the security, the support and the protection that she needs in a man. Providing for a woman should not be soley based on finances. However, a man should always have a job. That is my opinion.
Having a decent job not minimum wage.
I dated a man who asked me for tip money. He wanted fifty fifty.I left him. Blocked his number
The Wise and Foolish Builders
24 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”
I would love to hear more conversation about God as the foundation , on topics on your show, because it could easily get confusing hearing so many different (man’s) opinions. Nothing against Mr. RC Blake, this is a general observation. I believe it help your audience to have understanding that is founded upon GOD’s WORD.
Where does it say we have to provide for women? Masculine is what men are not what we could be. Men should not provide for girlfriends. The only exception is if you have children together and it’s cheaper for her to be at home while you work if you live together. Men should provide for their wife and kids. Or if she wants to work and you stay home.
TP also said the wife that makes more should be happy if he only pays the light bill! 😂
American black men really need to absorb this message. They just seem raised to expect that they don't have to provide for women & children, they are able to be stronger than people around them allow & and expect them to be.
We agree with you Bishop!!!!!!
We have so many conversations about what a REAL MAN is yet we will never discuss what a real woman is.
Very well said... truly real men❤.
Amen!! 100% agree. ❤❤
Louder please!! My husband does not provide 100% financially for our household, but I know that when he can, he will! ❤❤❤
Thank you 🙏🏾🙏🏾
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Jasmine, I am about to file for divorce, I have been in this relationship for 19 years. I would say for the last 8-10 years, the pandemic didn’t make it any better. But he owns his own business that has not contributed to the household enough. I’ve been begged and cried and begged and cried for him to make that a part-time gig and get a full-time job , to bring in more consistent money. He just refuses to and is convinced that his business will pick up I’ve done all I can. I put so much money into his business. I just can’t do it anymore. I’v been here so long because I wanted so badly for our marriage to work. I moved upstairs a month and half ago, still no job. Working on his business whenever works comes is will not work anymore.
Jasmine, I am about to file for divorce, I have been in this relationship for 19 years. I would say for the last 8-10 years, the pandemic didn’t make it any better. But he owns his own business that has not contributed to the household enough. I’ve been begged and cried and begged and cried for him to make that a part-time gig and get a full-time job , to bring in more consistent money. He just refuses to and is convinced that his business will pick up I’ve done all I can. I put so much money into his business. I just can’t do it anymore. I’v been here so long because I wanted so badly for our marriage to work. I moved upstairs a month and half ago, still no job. Working on his business whenever works comes is will not work anymore.
Great conversation
Teach Pastor Blakes❤
RC Blake gave his opinion, which is fine for his household. From a biblical standpoint, a man and woman become one in marriage. There is no 50/50. How are they one, but their finances are separate? All of the resources of their household belong to them equally. The bills and all other needs, wants, and desires are paid from their jointly held resources.
The relationships he's describing sound more like modern relationships, more so than anything biblical.
Finally, he mentioned that he's "old school." In those relationships, the women didn't work outside of the home. They stayed home, cooked, cleaned, and reared the children. I doubt that the women that he's addressing here would be interested in being "old school" in that context. I could be wrong, but I doubt it.
IRREGARDLESS, you created to provide 😂….. “BY THE SWEAT OF YOUR BROW”… wasn’t given to a woman ….
You said all of that, and God made yiu to provide , not count a woman as a financial plan….
You’re a man, but it bothers you, that you have to take care of a family? This indeed was and is Gods design….
A woman shouldn’t ever be apart of a man’s financial plan…ever. That should already be taken care of , if you desire a wife.
I also hear a little control in this statement too. You’re worried about a woman making money, as if that should have anything to do with you providing…. Again worrying about the wrong thing, when your focus should be forward…
Awesome man right here.
That’s good question if the woman is moving too but don’t want to lose the man , should we aim low to get the man to be attractive to her?
Elevate yesss grow into it
Amen. If don’t wanna take care of the woman, he saying who he is