Women are doing this because of their anxious attachment wounds. In their childhood they were not loved correctly so when they have a small hope that someone may be interested in them they hold on to that person for there dear life. It requires working on yourself and healing the childhood wound. It's hard work.
It’s true sometimes we do…if he doesn’t want you love, respect you, or want you…let him go . Your identity is not rooted in his rejection of you. You’re not for him and he’s not for you, that’s ok. Don’t guilt trip him because he doesn’t love you, accept it, let God heal you and learn to wait on God rather than awakening love before it’s time. I pray that God gives those that need to the grace and discernment to let go, and let go peacefully surrendering those tender parts to the Lord for healing.
It's funny because nowadays showing egocentric men the minimum interest in return is already forcing, yet a man ego's gets easily crushed when you refocus your energy to someone that doesn't feel the need of all this nonsense of forcing or not. If you are interested in someone you should feel comfortable in showing that, if the man doesn't want it then he should express it accordingly instead of pretending to feed his own EGO. It's laughable how these egocentric type of men are babied by society and including by us women like they are toddlers that we have to constantly redirect ourselves for in order to please their little egos? The point is to refocus whom you give energy to, if they are immature to be TRANSPARENT, it has nothing to do with forcing. The babying of egocentric men in society has to stop.
We initiate, pursue, chase, suggest, ignore hints, repress intuition, push, pressure, romanticize, project future, fantasize, hope, strategicly plan, wish. Focus on your best self, ob you...let him lead and if its not right for you move on quickly walk next.
Exactly!! Sometimes, as women, we break our own hearts, by not raising our standards and loving ourselves well! We are the imago dei, as well! We deserve even our own love & dignity!
We really need to teach more of this to younger women and men well before 40 years of age. Very few churches teach this type of information about relationships and how to navigate
Its Rough Out, the boy chases until he gets what he wants. Then he is bored with you and pulls back. Then the lady is trying to get back the boy she had before he got what he wanted. Its all a game to get what he wants. Then on to the next pretty shiny glittery new thing.
Bishop Blakes you hit the nail on the head! If us women don’t learn some sense, wake up, and self examine ourselves we will remain a save to our own actions!
Block Toxicity. Grow. Evolve. Stay open to New WAYS to Stay Ready. Stick with JOY. PURPOSE & Intentional Focus. Balance the tension between moving in Silence & Letting Your Bright Light..left, climb & maintain! Help someone along your journey. It pays massive dividends and wellness. My Monday Observation. NO MEN CHASING. Final Answer.❣️
I really like RC Blakes. He is the mentor many need. I would love to hear more conversations about the depths of manipulation etc. Everything he said is 100%, but we have to ask the question why so many people are getting in relationships and even married and will eventually admit they settled or they never really wanted to do it. If someone is integral they would not be wasting time with someone they know they don’t see a future with. I would love for more people to learn how to stand on their own two-feet without needing to entertain people to fill time. This subject has so many layers.
Wow i needed this Rev Blake . I’m 27 , been in a 9 year long relationship without any marriage yet so after we had a baby ( last year ) and I started to see him collecting women’s numbers so after that I stated to be overly protective and chased often … thank you for teaching me about when he is a 6 be a 4 🥹🥰🌻!
The man at 5, she is at 20. A lot of women don't want to or know how to earn or gain value in a relationship. They have a strong sense of entitlement or fear of abandonment.
Amen ❤🙏🏾, we hear the same things decade after decade, but everytime that man comes around and our flesh is present we going to fall weak. That’s why God says, keep your mind stayed on him and then he will bring forth great things. What’s funny is, bringing a man is the furthers things from his mind, depending on what our soul needs 😂❤🙏🏾 Be patient ladies and gentlemen, only God can create that special thing we want, most people don’t have it. That’s why God has to bind it together for us 🙏🏾
Very well said … what we need in this lifetime might not even be a “man” .. we have have made marriage into such an idol and 1 time I went to this women’s conference and the teacher said that she spends most of her ministry tryna convince single women to stop having s*x and married women to start having s*x again. There’s so many single women that wanna be married, while secretly there’s so many married women that wish they were single; struggling in their marriages… this is why the divorce rate is so high!! SMH
This is a subject that can be equated to the elephant in the room. This is what should be discussed in singles ministries because it's real. I never thought that i was chasing a man. I was transparent and upfront with him but didn't view it that way. Looking back, i definitely ran him down. I don't have brothers, so here i am thinking, I'm being truthful but i was out of order. I own it. Smh.
I agree! We want the relstionship but the man does not always think the same way. I am learning to love me and get myself right and then everything else will come to me. The right person will find us. Just my opinion
I saw the full interview. It feels wrong to hear “there is no clock”. A man can easily make this statement if he’s not interested or if he’s giving counsel when he has a wife and children. I understand the point of the statement, but I think it can be framed differently. I believe they are saying, women should not show a man desperation.
Exactly! In my own personal life, I couldn't stand when people made this statement-especially in instances where they had a child early on maybe teens or early 20s, or ex-marriage. They are no longer seeking a relationship or have urge for commitment because they already have had their children ..and here I was still pure and wanting that relationship/marriage and children and to hear someone say "There's no clock or take your time or no rush etc." I get the concept of it but, we don't have our entire lives to start a family etc. Sometimes a person will say those things because they've been tainted by the pain of their past relationships and they are not looking at you with an open mind of what could be new.
@@GigiG-n6e right, that’s why we both said we get the concept of where he’s coming from with the statement. However, when you are wanting to progress into marriage at a younger age due to wanting have children and a family when people say you don’t have a clock-that feels dismissive.
Ghosting is for weak people. I tell you respectfully that I don't see this going anywhere anymore. Bye and good luck. Men are excused for this weakness and woman have to take this weakness as "don't wanna hurt you" bs. You hurt me by disrespecting me with your non verbal attitude. This is bs. People need to communicate.
Agreed to an extent. But sometimes u really don't want to hurt them. They're doing too much, u did let them know on a lot of occasions, and it's not getting thru....what do u do then?
@@KimberlyH. be clear and end the thing. Words are simple to use. If you use your words you can stop replying to text and stop the comunication al together. That's the right thing to do. But....if you "let them know" with ghosting or another low energy action, then your'e mean and will get that back done to you. Not personally intended, just stating an example in this case.
Although my situation was unique, I would agree in general circumstances. My husband is shy and has mom issues so I made it very clear to him that I wanted him. Once he gave the inclination that he was feeling me even a little bit, I was in his heels. He needed groceries, so did I. 😂 I was in his face and on him like Winnie The Pooh on honey. We laugh about it to this day. We've been together 10 years; married for 8. Again, however, our situation was unique.
Hello. New to your channel. I really enjoyed this and great content and conversation with Pastor R. C. Blake. Keep on keeping on, my beautiful sister🎉🎉🎉
I never knew this is what I've been doing bcuz I was approached by a man who was my mechanic owner of the business nd he pursued me it got complicated nd I removed myself b4 the feelings got deep nd now we're the best of friends bcuz I didn't get caught up in his life I had things to do nd places to go nd no time to chase even though he got money
He is telling the truth! A woman knows if a man wants her. And that’s the 1st sign You calling and texting a man too much. Let him lead. And you won’t break your own heart.
While men force sex and attraction. Also real reason men are afraid of longterm is because he may not feel he can keep up the energy if u know what i mean. Long-term. He is confident he can perform once however.
This is so double standard. A man can do this to us but if we reciprocate the same energy then they run. I do agree on some things but most of these men are unfortunately playing games. And the men 55-65, GOD help us. I'm taking notes Pastor 😊
Sometimes????!! Chile. Thats why its so much cheating. At least one of the reasons. You manipulated that man into a relationship and now you're holding him hostage.
I understand woman can act a way and hyper focus when we want something; especially a man but let’s not use the word forced. Men are autonomous beings as well. Why deny the fact that it’s manipulation on both sides & both men and women need to do better when selecting, keeping and choosing to create life and livelihood w someone else as opposed to constantly making it the woman’s place to be smarter and better equipped mentally so as to avoid certain problems or shortcomings !
Listen. It's strictly correlated with the wants and needs of having children. People who do not plan it are off the clock completly. Otherwise yes there is such a thing as biological clock and it applies to both women a d men (quality of seed lowers with time)
I hear ya but I cannot count the women I know who have had children (healthy and natural) in their 40s. I tuned into a session during a study we were doing with my church at the time. This man said I am the 9th of 9 children. My parents had me at 52. He is a grown man now and his parents are still living. This was in Ghana. I tend to notice that Western society puts ALOT of pressure on age. “You better do this by this time or that time.” God control all things in your life. Nowhere in word of God or even in the earth did it say all women will have children by certain age. It’s an unrealistic expectation.
@KFontLab sure. And also I know a lot of women who do have their first child after 40 and they struggle mentally even though the child is healthy. The child after having a whole life for herself and now it's flipped upside down....maybe after 4p it's good to be wealthy and afford a nanny to help then maybe it works....I agree with you though that women even have a child in their 50s. I had mines in 20s and yearly 30s and would never want to go back there now that I'm 40.
No. Leave him alone then! You don't have to take his calls or reply. If he's going too fast he lacks wisdom. Doesn't sound Godly. Evaporate for a while. Stop being a people pleaser.
You are the only one that knows all the details to your situation. When you feel something is off , it probably is. If it’s moving too fast have a conversation to let him know. IF he does not adhere to boundaries you create after the conversation that tells you what you need to know.
Good content, but Sis, did you not consider you were interviewing a married Pastor when you selected your atire. We can be more mindful and more demure when the occasion calls for it.
Such lies God will bring a man??? Easy to say that when you're dating in relationships loved like married engaged!! Y'all telling women their wrong for pursuing for wanting men today cowards!! What grown man scared of a loving great woman they miss out
If ur running that man down, u don't look like a loving, great woman. U look crazy, especially if ur not even exclusive yet. If ur crazy without a commitment, imagine when in a commitment. There's nothing wrong with wanting a man, but u should want to be chosen by him.
“When a man is for you, he will find you at the appropriate time.” Rc Blake’s, Jr.
Women are doing this because of their anxious attachment wounds. In their childhood they were not loved correctly so when they have a small hope that someone may be interested in them they hold on to that person for there dear life. It requires working on yourself and healing the childhood wound. It's hard work.
Hands down the TRUTH and nothing but the TRUTH
Very true childhood wounds and especially father wounds are 💯 making a lot of women settle and lower their standards to be’loved’by the wrong man 😭
It does take hard work. It's doable though. God will help. He helped me!!
AMEN
In order to work on self a person has to see that there is a need for it.
It’s true sometimes we do…if he doesn’t want you love, respect you, or want you…let him go . Your identity is not rooted in his rejection of you. You’re not for him and he’s not for you, that’s ok. Don’t guilt trip him because he doesn’t love you, accept it, let God heal you and learn to wait on God rather than awakening love before it’s time. I pray that God gives those that need to the grace and discernment to let go, and let go peacefully surrendering those tender parts to the Lord for healing.
Well said
Oh MY GOD 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😭😭
Beautifully said!
It's funny because nowadays showing egocentric men the minimum interest in return is already forcing, yet a man ego's gets easily crushed when you refocus your energy to someone that doesn't feel the need of all this nonsense of forcing or not. If you are interested in someone you should feel comfortable in showing that, if the man doesn't want it then he should express it accordingly instead of pretending to feed his own EGO. It's laughable how these egocentric type of men are babied by society and including by us women like they are toddlers that we have to constantly redirect ourselves for in order to please their little egos? The point is to refocus whom you give energy to, if they are immature to be TRANSPARENT, it has nothing to do with forcing. The babying of egocentric men in society has to stop.
We initiate, pursue, chase, suggest, ignore hints, repress intuition, push, pressure, romanticize, project future, fantasize, hope, strategicly plan, wish. Focus on your best self, ob you...let him lead and if its not right for you move on quickly walk next.
Exactly!! Sometimes, as women, we break our own hearts, by not raising our standards and loving ourselves well! We are the imago dei, as well! We deserve even our own love & dignity!
We really need to teach more of this to younger women and men well before 40 years of age. Very few churches teach this type of information about relationships and how to navigate
Its Rough Out, the boy chases until he gets what he wants. Then he is bored with you and pulls back. Then the lady is trying to get back the boy she had before he got what he wanted. Its all a game to get what he wants. Then on to the next pretty shiny glittery new thing.
Nah, an interested man will chase all the time, even after
YES!!! I'm 58 and I'm about to do things I NEVER thought possible in my 20s and 30s. I totally agree Bishop!!
Bishop Blakes you hit the nail on the head! If us women don’t learn some sense, wake up, and self examine ourselves we will remain a save to our own actions!
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
How can they wake up? I genuinely want to know
RC is dropping that fire. Don't look at the clock baby. We are worthy of the wait. 💯 Praise God🙌🏼
I never understood the desperation. I would hurt and move in silence before I lower my standards. I was always taught men are the chasers.
Same here ❤
Exactly, you were taught, many of us weren’t , but there is a time to learn!
Block Toxicity. Grow. Evolve. Stay open to New WAYS to Stay Ready.
Stick with JOY. PURPOSE & Intentional Focus. Balance the tension between moving in Silence & Letting Your Bright Light..left, climb & maintain! Help someone along your journey. It pays massive dividends and wellness.
My Monday Observation.
NO MEN CHASING.
Final Answer.❣️
Lift. (Spell check 🤣🥰🤣❣️). Climb.. Maintain.
Great listen!!! No clock, No chasing, No projecting! Yes God, Yes God, Yes God!!
I really like RC Blakes. He is the mentor many need. I would love to hear more conversations about the depths of manipulation etc. Everything he said is 100%, but we have to ask the question why so many people are getting in relationships and even married and will eventually admit they settled or they never really wanted to do it.
If someone is integral they would not be wasting time with someone they know they don’t see a future with. I would love for more people to learn how to stand on their own two-feet without needing to entertain people to fill time. This subject has so many layers.
Wow i needed this Rev Blake . I’m 27 , been in a 9 year long relationship without any marriage yet so after we had a baby ( last year ) and I started to see him collecting women’s numbers so after that I stated to be overly protective and chased often … thank you for teaching me about when he is a 6 be a 4 🥹🥰🌻!
You are lucky you have Rev RCB at 27. If I only knew…my life would have been so much better
Run and save yourself, before you waste the rest of your youth, trying to fix something you can’t change 🙏🏾
Me too @@hishandywork55
Baby that man PREACHED!!
The man at 5, she is at 20. A lot of women don't want to or know how to earn or gain value in a relationship. They have a strong sense of entitlement or fear of abandonment.
Amen ❤🙏🏾, we hear the same things decade after decade, but everytime that man comes around and our flesh is present we going to fall weak. That’s why God says, keep your mind stayed on him and then he will bring forth great things. What’s funny is, bringing a man is the furthers things from his mind, depending on what our soul needs 😂❤🙏🏾
Be patient ladies and gentlemen, only God can create that special thing we want, most people don’t have it. That’s why God has to bind it together for us 🙏🏾
Very well said … what we need in this lifetime might not even be a “man” .. we have have made marriage into such an idol and 1 time I went to this women’s conference and the teacher said that she spends most of her ministry tryna convince single women to stop having s*x and married women to start having s*x again. There’s so many single women that wanna be married, while secretly there’s so many married women that wish they were single; struggling in their marriages… this is why the divorce rate is so high!! SMH
Lord help us ladies to chill on our feminine and receive what is chasing us. Then it is through the process of testing and proving.
This is definitely a much needed topic of discussion.
If you don’t understand it, pray for understanding. 🙏🏽
Let there be light ✨️ 🙏🏿 💛
❤Romantic Love...no chaser, ✝️Amen❤️
Too Many Women Give Value Without Price!!
Well. I know this one is for me. I’m getting my act together starting today. Thanks.
This is a subject that can be equated to the elephant in the room. This is what should be discussed in singles ministries because it's real. I never thought that i was chasing a man. I was transparent and upfront with him but didn't view it that way. Looking back, i definitely ran him down. I don't have brothers, so here i am thinking, I'm being truthful but i was out of order. I own it. Smh.
I love the way she laughs, she very classy.
I agree! We want the relstionship but the man does not always think the same way. I am learning to love me and get myself right and then everything else will come to me. The right person will find us. Just my opinion
This is so good and true. 💯
I saw the full interview. It feels wrong to hear “there is no clock”. A man can easily make this statement if he’s not interested or if he’s giving counsel when he has a wife and children. I understand the point of the statement, but I think it can be framed differently. I believe they are saying, women should not show a man desperation.
I agree. Women have a biological clock.
Exactly! In my own personal life, I couldn't stand when people made this statement-especially in instances where they had a child early on maybe teens or early 20s, or ex-marriage. They are no longer seeking a relationship or have urge for commitment because they already have had their children ..and here I was still pure and wanting that relationship/marriage and children and to hear someone say "There's no clock or take your time or no rush etc." I get the concept of it but, we don't have our entire lives to start a family etc. Sometimes a person will say those things because they've been tainted by the pain of their past relationships and they are not looking at you with an open mind of what could be new.
He wasn’t talking about children. They were talking about becoming fulfilled.
@@GigiG-n6e right, that’s why we both said we get the concept of where he’s coming from with the statement.
However, when you are wanting to progress into marriage at a younger age due to wanting have children and a family when people say you don’t have a clock-that feels dismissive.
@@camillehomez1894well stated.
Ghosting is for weak people. I tell you respectfully that I don't see this going anywhere anymore. Bye and good luck. Men are excused for this weakness and woman have to take this weakness as "don't wanna hurt you" bs. You hurt me by disrespecting me with your non verbal attitude.
This is bs. People need to communicate.
absolutely
Agreed to an extent. But sometimes u really don't want to hurt them. They're doing too much, u did let them know on a lot of occasions, and it's not getting thru....what do u do then?
Amen ❤
@@KimberlyH. thats not ghosting if you tell them its not going anywhere
@@KimberlyH. be clear and end the thing. Words are simple to use. If you use your words you can stop replying to text and stop the comunication al together. That's the right thing to do. But....if you "let them know" with ghosting or another low energy action, then your'e mean and will get that back done to you.
Not personally intended, just stating an example in this case.
These are gems 💎
This was good!
This is good already. I know I did this in my first relationship
he had save the lives of many gullible desperate Women thank you Sir !
Although my situation was unique, I would agree in general circumstances. My husband is shy and has mom issues so I made it very clear to him that I wanted him. Once he gave the inclination that he was feeling me even a little bit, I was in his heels. He needed groceries, so did I. 😂 I was in his face and on him like Winnie The Pooh on honey. We laugh about it to this day. We've been together 10 years; married for 8. Again, however, our situation was unique.
Hello. New to your channel.
I really enjoyed this and great content and conversation with Pastor R. C. Blake. Keep on keeping on, my beautiful sister🎉🎉🎉
This is so true
God is the creator of time. However, there's a season for everything.
I never knew this is what I've been doing bcuz I was approached by a man who was my mechanic owner of the business nd he pursued me it got complicated nd I removed myself b4 the feelings got deep nd now we're the best of friends bcuz I didn't get caught up in his life I had things to do nd places to go nd no time to chase even though he got money
I needed this. Thank you ❤🙏🏿
A man knows the woman he needs and he will go for her when he recognizes her. Never chase a man.
You played your position and GOT Jamal Bryant!!! You did NOT play it very well!!! Next😂
5:34 I’m the same way lol ❤😂
Never ever Sir, a woman cannot force a relationship. If she chase him, he will use the mess out of her! Be warned
Right. She's giving him the green light to use her.
Amen 💜
He is telling the truth! A woman knows if a man wants her. And that’s the 1st sign You calling and texting a man too much.
Let him lead. And you won’t break your own heart.
While men force sex and attraction.
Also real reason men are afraid of longterm is because he may not feel he can keep up the energy if u know what i mean. Long-term. He is confident he can perform once however.
Facts... In south Africa they pay their own bride prices... For the married status... Sad....
Men don’t like it when we tell them
There going to fast 💨 they get offended
Your generalizing. A Godly man is prudent.
😂 not true
Godly men are patient 🩵
True enough
This is so double standard. A man can do this to us but if we reciprocate the same energy then they run. I do agree on some things but most of these men are unfortunately playing games. And the men 55-65, GOD help us. I'm taking notes Pastor 😊
What? I believe you have comprehension issues. What's the double standard? You want to chase men? Is that it?
The adult boys 55 and older are definitely a problem and sad cases 😂
Next time visit Auguilla, St. Kitts and Nevis and Montserrat.
Sometimes????!! Chile. Thats why its so much cheating. At least one of the reasons. You manipulated that man into a relationship and now you're holding him hostage.
Even married men… I’ve even had women compete w me. If dude gonna go for that, bye.
I understand woman can act a way and hyper focus when we want something; especially a man but let’s not use the word forced. Men are autonomous beings as well. Why deny the fact that it’s manipulation on both sides & both men and women need to do better when selecting, keeping and choosing to create life and livelihood w someone else as opposed to constantly making it the woman’s place to be smarter and better equipped mentally so as to avoid certain problems or shortcomings !
This is exactly why these men keep spinning y'all in circles. You're being obtuse.
Learn to enjoy your own company
Wish I knew this 11 years ago lol
Yes “some” women do this, it is absolutely shameful.
Block out the conditioning of the world and do exploits for the Lord ! Amen 🙏
🥰😍😍😍😍😍🤩🤩🤩🤩
Listen. It's strictly correlated with the wants and needs of having children. People who do not plan it are off the clock completly. Otherwise yes there is such a thing as biological clock and it applies to both women a d men (quality of seed lowers with time)
I hear ya but I cannot count the women I know who have had children (healthy and natural) in their 40s. I tuned into a session during a study we were doing with my church at the time. This man said I am the 9th of 9 children. My parents had me at 52. He is a grown man now and his parents are still living. This was in Ghana. I tend to notice that Western society puts ALOT of pressure on age. “You better do this by this time or that time.”
God control all things in your life. Nowhere in word of God or even in the earth did it say all women will have children by certain age. It’s an unrealistic expectation.
@KFontLab sure. And also I know a lot of women who do have their first child after 40 and they struggle mentally even though the child is healthy. The child after having a whole life for herself and now it's flipped upside down....maybe after 4p it's good to be wealthy and afford a nanny to help then maybe it works....I agree with you though that women even have a child in their 50s. I had mines in 20s and yearly 30s and would never want to go back there now that I'm 40.
Change me 🤩🤩🤩🤩😘
God can do it!!!
Is it wrong that I feel this man is moving too fast for me? Slow down sir
No. Leave him alone then! You don't have to take his calls or reply. If he's going too fast he lacks wisdom. Doesn't sound Godly. Evaporate for a while. Stop being a people pleaser.
He's probably in that love bombing phase. Don't want you to see the real him.
You are the only one that knows all the details to your situation. When you feel something is off , it probably is. If it’s moving too fast have a conversation to let him know. IF he does not adhere to boundaries you create after the conversation that tells you what you need to know.
Good content, but Sis, did you not consider you were interviewing a married Pastor when you selected your atire. We can be more mindful and more demure when the occasion calls for it.
Such lies God will bring a man??? Easy to say that when you're dating in relationships loved like married engaged!! Y'all telling women their wrong for pursuing for wanting men today cowards!! What grown man scared of a loving great woman they miss out
If ur running that man down, u don't look like a loving, great woman. U look crazy, especially if ur not even exclusive yet. If ur crazy without a commitment, imagine when in a commitment.
There's nothing wrong with wanting a man, but u should want to be chosen by him.
They are the exceptions, not the rule.
??? Really
dumb video