Me interesa mucho lo del balance en volumen, en colores y en destape de piel. Pero sobretodo el tema de la mezcla de estilos. Felicitaciones desde Puerto Rico.
I'm French and I watched just out of pure curiosity when I read the title, I thought hah let's see if I follow those rules. Then you said that all french girls learn rules from their mothers / grand mothers and I thought no I didn't ! And then you explained the rules and yes I actually do remember the exact moments when my mom taught me those rules ! Hehe well done.
I did the exact same thing! I always despise when someone say "all blabla do this or know that I actually don't remember being taught these rules and I don't follow them most of the time. For example I often like to hide my body under baggy clothes but when it's very hot in the summer I will go the less dressed as I can x) It was interesting anyway. Bye
I wish my mother had taught me rules. I wore uniforms for school and for my first jobs. I think I was around 35 before I had to figure out clothing - it was hard. Pretty much settled on traditional for work and now a laid back retired woman. Thanks for this.
I'm French too, no one directly taught me those rules, but seeing how everyone dresses did😅 The only thing my mother taught me directly is to not do tone-on-tone (and my rebel teenager ass said "as if" and dressed all in red, all in green, or all in purple any chance I'd get)
Raised in a household of "if it's revealing on top, cover the bottom. If it's revealing on the bottom, cover the top" and it hasn't steered us wrong yet! Loved learning the other tips!
I'm French, and I learned almost all of these rules when I arrived in Paris for my studies, either by observing or reading women's magazines, some were even taught to me by my boyfriend! Another rule that has served me well: when you have a small budget, you have to put the money into shoes and hairstyle, the rest is less important to look classy.
@@silviadarling3622the context is fashion. Your hair is part of your look, your bed is not. And they specifically mentioned a good haircut (meaning an experienced stylist that knows how to cut your hair well, so that it looks amazing, and grows out still looking great), not getting your hair washed.
I agree, 100%- shoes and hair and a good As an English speaking native, there is one rule of thumb when it comes to the subject of "classy" i.e. never use the word "classy." It is worse than wearing a Christmas sweater to a black tie event in June.
@@silviadarling3622 I wash my hair at home budget or not, but I travel about 3 hours round trip to ATL for cut and color. Dress from Goodwill, buy makeup at the drug store, but the hair is sacrosanct. Decor is a different question, but I agree. First work out the bed i.e. mattress, pillows, sheets, blanket/quilts/duvet ( best you can afford) then window dressing and rugs. Even when moving install your bedroom first. Also always spring for custom curtains and natural rugs.
Great advice re hair & shoes! I have seen (& continue to see) how hair in a (non-styled) ponytail and/or (sloppy, no-thought) shoes completely change the entire look. I have only recently began matching the leathers of shoes & bag. This definitely surprised me on its impact!. Someone made the comment that the "downside" to French dressing is it makes everyone homogeneous. As a woman in her mid-50's my wardrobe, I find, is turning more "French". I am grateful for this. Elegance feels wonderfully restful to the eyes & to the spirit. ❤
True! I just sent the video to my boyfriend and he loved it, because the first half of the video works just as well for men, he only has to imagine the male examples :) thank you a lot, Ariane!
The same, it is similar to what I was taught mothers would teach their daughters, though I did learn a couple of new things, specifically choosing wide styles or showing skin either at the top or the bottom but not both. Makes perfect sense, but I didn't have it as a rule.
I'm a guy and not interested in fashion, I clicked by pure curiosity and yet ended up watching the whole thing. It was honestly very interesting. If I had a daughter I'd show her this for sure. Now you should make a similar video for men because I feel most of us could really use some help 😂
Hello Frank....well said. Good potential Father attitude. Regarding learning mens' fashion....the gentleman you are will shine through any clothing "flaw". 😊
Hey you can be a guy into fashion, like me. Mens fashion isn’t really covered much sadly especially by many popular fashion youtubers, but it’s out there.
I'm American and as I was trying to figure out how to explain "appropriate clothing" for our 12-13 year old daughter, I made a rule that she could wear shorter shorts with a loose top or a fitted top with longer shorts or long pants/jeans. It helped us to stop disagreeing about outfits she would put on! Your video is very helpful because you broke down each style with examples.
That's funny, I made that rule up for myself in college. I used it on running clothes, but it's so similar. One tight one loose. Or one revealing and one concealing.
As a French woman, it’s quite surprising to see all these rules in one video. We don’t learn them at once, we learn one rule at a time during all our childhood/teenage years, growing up. But yes, it’s true that we follow these in all formal settings. Some people do criticize it, because it makes our society look too homogeneous compared to other countries in which personnalities are more refleted in their clothing (like Britain for example). But I think it’s a good tool for adults, it helps elevate our looks in formal or public events and in the workplace. Thank you for sharing it with people, I didn’t think some people could not know these, since it’s quite basic to us to know them. ❤️
@@108ladylena depends where you're coming from, or which era. I learned those rules from my german grandmother, a stuck up seamstress from the bourgeoisie. My parisian grandmother had more fantasy and this 'chic sans y toucher' which is REALLY French. Risk is french, sisters Sans-culotte!
And those southern U.S. women were influenced by their French Grand-mères. If tou remember your history it was the French that settled the south first.
This was THE BEST Style video Ive ever seen on the internet. Everyone with Daughters should share this to help them understand 'The Rules" before they try to break them
@@butterflyeffect9424 . . it's spelled 'there' to teach the 'World' . . oh & God is spelled with a Capital my Dear but thank you for highlighting the sentiment I was conveying
@@selenaclarke oh thank you for correcting my mistakes Madame JESAISTOUT, I admit that my 5th laguage is sometimes a challenge. How could we live without one who tell us how to dress and an other one who correct our mistakes. Merci merci merci merci
One thing I've learned to pay attention to is hardware (A coat with a silver zipper/a belt with a bright gold buckle/ handbag with brass metal/Rose gold jewelry, etc). When all your metals are cohesive it instantly looks more elegant.
For sure! When you find out if you are a 'cool' or 'warm' skin type, you usually stick to all silver or all gold colored metal (jewelry included) and that includes handbag hardare as well. Harder to find handbags with silver toned metal though.
I love this video. Not only did you explain everything so well but you also didn’t insult or shame people who prefer dressing otherwise. Thank you for being sensitive! Looking forward to more content!
The other think the French know (both men and women) is the power of the scarf. I never walk out in France without a scarf; it can elevate a basic look, keep me warm, tie in otherwise disparate wardrobe pieces, make a statement and so much more!
Loved this video but I was also thinking scarf and/or gloves were going to come up. I'm heading to France and was just thinking that I am going to buy myself a nice scarf
I moved to France 2 months ago, never having worn a scarf before (instead of winter days in the mountainsl. I had to buy one because I was freezing and didn't yet receive all my clothes from my home country, and now I'M IN LOVE WITH IT!!! it upgrades every outfit that I wear!!!
This is, by far, the most helpful fashion video I have ever seen in my life. IN MY LIFE! I have always struggled with fashion and the way you explained it, using the system of points, made so much sense. I had such a lightbulb moment in my brain. Thank you so much.
@@MademoiselleSpends Pin it 😄 as a french woman living abroad, 100% agree on all of these rules, although my mom never taught me the point system, that's exactly how it is in my head ^^ and the either you show your cleavage or your legs is GOLD to look sexy but not "easy" amazing video, bien joue, continue come ca c'etait tres clair et le rythme est parfait 👌
@@MademoiselleSpends Let’s talk about the bubble charts in more detail. You did split one of them- so there are new aces and shades of gray Let’s talk about it ❤👗❤
Same, i was taking screenshots with ideas because now i know how to organize my closet: instead of all shirts in one and pants in the other, I’m going to organize my stuff into the 3 categories that i use. I spend an hour flipping through shirts that are all too sporty/casual when I’m getting ready for work. Makes no sense. Organize your stuff by their purpose and style. Truly amazing video.
I’m Australian and in my early 50’s and I have only recently found the confidence to dress “elegantly” (in my opinion). Surprise surprise- I’m following your rules. I recently went to a fancy work conference and my basic outfits for all 5 days were- white trousers, sandals or heels, a neutral shirt or striped T and a a beige trench, or neutral jacket. A good waist defining belt and gold hoop earrings. And fabulous sunglasses! I was complimented on my style constantly. Finally! I dress like a French woman.
The rules are not that different tbh. As said by Meanne, instead of a handbag matched to shoes, make sure your belt matches your shoes if wearing a more classic or professional outfit like a suit. Otherwise most of the same point-based system with categories will apply. You can look well put together with a pair of sneakers, some chinos, a neutral well fitting t-shirt and a blazer. You want to be a bit more mindful about the shapes, because we're not as lucky as women in that department and have a bit less choice. And the sexy category is a bit different as well. Women can choose specific items to openly signal sexyness, but with a bit of thought we can get that too, mainly in how we wear specific items and by keeping in mind what people find attractive in a man/you. Emphasize your shoulders with a slim cut top if you don't have too much of a belly. If you are a bit more rotund (as we tend to become with age. Gods to be young again...), a slightly more flowy but well cut shirt will do. Choose a good shirt that you can keep partly unbuttoned to push the width of your upper chest and shoulders. Pants that will show rear volume but not entirely reveal the shape of your legs. It's all about small adjustments. extra tip when it comes to matching: your socks should match shoes or pants in color. If you want to look taller, match your socks to your pants, it will elongate the silhouette of the legs. Extra extra tip to train the eye: look at suits, even from different eras. On the surface, it's business attire. But it's the "manly man sexy successful" outfit for a reason. The shapes are very interesting and can be very different from one another. The variance within a three piece suit (the cuts, the lengths, the silhouette) can give you an idea about the shapes you're looking for, and what will make you comfortable, even with casual attire.
Very easy, wear pants on your legs and shirts on your arms 😂 But actually, the best advice for men that I've seen so far anywhere - find a celebrity with body and complexion similar to yours, and who's style you like, and try to recreate their casual looks for starters. You will discover a lot of things about style and yourself!
Tuba Avalon (on Yt) is female but herself often wears menswear abs reviews it/ suggests options for finding it in good quality yet trying to be mindful also of cost.
@@k.v.7681 I think matching socks is good for some categories (like maybe professional, preppy, and the traditional categories), but socks can be a super fun and subtle way for men to add personality to their outfits! Look at Booth from the TV show Bones for example- he's an FBI agent that wears office formal suits every day but he throws on some fun socks to show that he still has a quirky side underneath. You could even do socks that mostly match (like have black as a main colour to match with black shoes/pants) but that have a quirky design or print on them.
I love that you framed this as "rules to follow if you want to look elegant and put together," instead of "hard rules to always follow or else you're trashy and uncool." Also, thank you for the bit about larger bodies still having shapes that are worth showing off!
As a parisian myself, i have to say this is pretty accurate. I think my way of categorizing is a bit different, but i unconsciously do It (like every day i'm like "how professionnal do i look and how much do i need to look it today?" And like : the rule about the number of sexy elements, definetely. I would also add a few more : - no more than 3 total colors - try to match the "cuts" (les coupes, je sais pas comment on dit en anglais) or silhouette of your main frame (shirt / jean) with your coat - colors (veeeery distinctive of french fashion) : keep it sober* (black, White, beige, Navy blue) with touches of color in general, only go wild in special occasions *Edit: as someone made me realize, "sober" in French means "simple"/"serious" as well as without alcool!
@Safi_JC that is so amazing that you invest in how you look everyday walking out the door. I never give it a thought on day to day basic, just any jeans and any T-shirt, any shoes as long as it doesn't look ridiculous 😮
@@ivyhays3478it all depends on what you do on a daily basis. Some of us have to look differently and put more thoughts into it depending on what activities are planned that day.
@@ivyhays3478I tend to rely on 'uniforms' based on what I'm willing or not willing to faff about with. For example I know I can't usually be bothered to wear shoes with a heel or jeans I can't sit on the grass in. Therefore I rely on pretty shirts and a nipped belt to elevate my comfort garb. An item of jewellery somewhere that doesn't make me feel constrained or stuffy helps make me feel as though I'm wearing an outfit rather than just clothes
Also I would add: black or white goes with any colour. And don't wear really light colours as a main if you have pale skin, this will make you look sick. And really important, top and legs witht the same colour but slightly different shades don't match well.
As much as I'm a "follow your joy" person, I still find these rules really help and I apply them almost instinctively most of the time. My favourite is baggy/vs/tight. It really changes the game, especially as I get older. It's worth mentioning that nothing in these rules prevents anyone from wearing really funky clothes, it's really easy to use these rules with some pieces you might never see on an elegant French woman. There's room for lots of creativity and yet the tips will really help balance the outfit
Very true. I'm a french-speaking Swiss woman, who now lives in the US. I grew up learning all this unconsciously, but it's very easy to wear a western pearl-snap shirt as an elegant piece instead of a blazer for example, or boot-cut jeans instead of professional trousers, and get the same vibe. And don't be afraid of colors. You can also get elegant vibes using bright colors paired with grey instead of the terminally boring beiges...
Exactly, build your style, have some fun figuring things out, these rules are a great basis for how to build an outfit for specific feels. Break the rules when you want to, use them when they're helpful and aid you in being perceived the way you want to be seen. Also, I'd argue you can do baggy top and baggy bottoms *if* you define the waist and potentially shoulders. At least from a French pov, the waist is fairly key.
the red bra under a white top is something new to me! i have many white tops. thanks for the tip. I have been to France a few times and noticed the women like to go braless even on thin and translucent tops *.*
That is so true! At least the underwear is not visible then 😂 Not something I would advise if you want to look elegant, but definitely a very French thing to do for the women who like a laid-back feminine vibe, with a dash of “rebel” 👌 So glad the red bra tip helped ♥️
@@amycurtis4641 No... she advised matching your skin tone first... I have followed this advice for wearing white and cream tops for ages... but would not wear red unless my skin tone is very light.
When I was only 22 (now 61 😊) I was on holiday in Spain and spotted this dark skinned French girl, with her hair up, wearing a plain white T-Shirt and French Navy wide leg ankle grazer culottes and black ballet flats....I was so mesmerised by her class and style but couldn't work out what it was, she was so chic....and now I realise it was pairing outfits down looking sharp and clean, comfortable and confident. I can remember her to this day....and there's nothing more attractive than authenticity.
When I clicked on this video and heard "I haven't seen any of those French fashion rules on the internet", I was like "Really?... Another video about "French style"?" But the information given is actually so great! It's simple, yet genius system! I want to try it out for sure. (And I definitely need a wardrobe refresh... Haven't bought anything new in years) Thank you!
This was such a helpful video. I never thought about the "limiting sexy elements in your outfit to 2", and I also didn't realize that fitted pants on women were a bit on the "sexy" category. I wear a lot of fitted pants (mainly because they are stretchy and comfy) but I think I'll look into buying straight pants that are more flowy as well! Thank you for the video!
A thing that many people don't know about bras (at least in the US) is that band size and cup size are inverse when you're figuring out your size. So. If your bra doesn’t fit quite right and it's mainly an overflow problem, first try up a cup size or two and DOWN a band size, then go up a band size if you need to. The bigger cups are adding length to the band. Your band shouldn't be hurting you, but it should be doing just as much or slightly more of the work than your straps.
Smaller women (32 band) wearing a D cup is not the same a 36 D cup. Get the band right first. Then experiment with the cup. Band will relax over time so make sure the tighter hooks will be available for later on
Plus I find those foam cup bras that are everywhere really do not fit as well as seamed cups. They don't separate the breasts well which leads to the overflow thing.
This was great! Another one my mom taught me (she isn’t French but lived there for a bit) is to buy 2-4 staple pieces and build your outfit around them. She’d often get 5 outfits from each piece. Instead of having 45 cheap articles, use that money to buy 3-4 quality pieces that will elevate your outfits overall. Some examples could be a motorcycle jacket, black dress, camel coat for winter, and a lovely button down. And never underestimate the power of jewelry and accessories!
My mom also taught me that one. With proper care, quality clothes can last you a very long time, and if you're careful and more or less keep your weight, you can build a very nice wardrobe over time. You can certainly add new elements and stay current with fashion without too much money.
absolutely. It even works with cheaper stuff (maybe you don't have any money, are very young / still growing or live somewhere for a limited amount of time). Nowadays I can make that work, but it took me a long time to understand fashion (not only in a trendy way but in the way of the video) and develop my own taste. I was really bad at putting together wardrobes and the very best I could do was looking normal (jeans, shirt) but everything above that was...weird :D But I got the grip of it once I reached my early twenties. Also, I could buy my own stuff from wherever, and my body reached its adult female-shaped size.
I have just discovered you. You appeared on my "new to you" section. I have been following Justine Le Conte, Marie-Anne Le coure and Frederique Boss for many years and they alwats give french styling tips but have NEVER explained it like this! Just brilliant . I'm in the UK so have some European dressing etiquette , but this was so informative. I have now subscribed. Keep up the great work.
I was never taught how to dress, I looked ad photos and ads and cultivated similar clothing mostly from affordable used and vintage shops. This breaks it down in a much more understandable way than trying to figure it out on my own. Thank you!
But do you forget that it was french fashion houses that pushed all the trashy elements in their seasonal shows? When the overlords do it, it's OK, but should the peasants follow its not. That is rule #1. What's truly hideous are those tattoos, piercings and poison coloured hair - also the ultra fashionable portion of an entire generation of women in the west. No one has the fortitude of any organ or system to call that out because that would be against the euphemistic term known as " body art".
American here 👋 This was neat. I definitely find it way more stylish to mix styles a bit within an outfit. I just never broke down the styles into these explicit categories like she does. What was missing for me was any rules for hair and jewelry. That’s also where you can mess up a look with the wrong earrings or hair style. I appreciated her comment on natural vs synthetic materials. My mom taught me that. But another rule my grandmother taught me is to invest in your shoes!! Your shoes should always be the most expensive part of your look. Nice shoes can turn an average outfit around.
I’m French, but my mom wasn’t. Never got that kind of guidance from her, but it’s nice to find that advice eventually. This is one of the most concise videos I’ve seen on the topic :) and very helpful
This is always what I’m telling my husband when he says my wardrobe is getting out of control. I have many stories to tell! I’m not French but this has always been intuitive to me. You’ve explained it beautifully 🖤
I watched this video even if I am French because I was doubtful but all tips are true and well explained. I would also add another rule that we are told (that can summarise a part of the video): "never too much". Actually, we would ask regularly our mother or friend like "Is it too much?". Also a good tip is that if you have a doubt always ask mom and dad (if you can). Mom will know what is trendy, the social codes for special events and what looks good on you. On the other hand, Dad will always tell you (if you ask) when an outfit is not flattering. (Never expect a big approvals because he doesn't care much) Another good tip that my mother taught me is to always do your shopping alone, so you can take your time trying and thinking if you really need it, if it really looks good and you don't feel pressured about buying something that you will never wear.
New subscriber. Love this. Both of my grandmas were stylish but one grandma was chic and would have looked at home sitting in a café in Paris. She taught me this same technique. Born in the early 1920s, she didn't wear jeans until she was 70! And even then she had a heel on. I'm excited to see more of your content. Merci beaucoup, for the memories.❤👠
I felt the rule about wearing baggy clothes when you don’t feel as thin as you’d like just makes you look bigger!! Fotos helped to see the truth in this! Thank you.
Girl, please don't stop. Fashion was always a nightmare in my head, but I am really trying to make peace with it and figure it out my style. Watching your videos are making everything a little bit more easier. Please, continue, I'm counting on it!
My mom was a seamstress from Mexico and she taught me a large handful of your tips! I hear her voice in my head when i show leg not to show chest and vise versa
This was great thank you! My mom never taught me these as a Canadian girl but some of it I definitely picked up some how? Looking forward to teaching my daughter these and glad I have been on the right track. Now I can only improve.
I'm NGL, I didn't have the best mother-ing or female role models in my life, and this legit was done in a way that I could understand & I can't tell you how helpful this was to watch, so, thank you.
My grandmother was Italian and she taught me basics and “fancy grandma”. I loved the additional categories you included. I noticed a lot of French women love the aesthetics of the 1970s. I do too; earth tones, textiles, shirts etc.
Thank you so much for this. I've had no luck remembering seemingly arbitrary and fickle fashion rules, but the way you explain the WHY makes it finally make sense. Could you do a follow-up to this for accessories and/or hairstyles?
i'm french and was working in fashion and luxury industry in paris, and i have to say this is the most accurate video on this particular topic i ever seen (and i didn't realize this rules are so specific to french fashion ˆˆ) bravo 😘
It's interesting how my Greek mother taught me those rules you mentioned some decades ago...those french rules of yours apparently were the rules for every woman who wanted to be elegante back then ❤
My mom gave me great advice. There were 3 elements to factor in: tight/loose, short/long, neckline/decolletage. You could choose a maximum of 2 out of 3. Something can be tight and short but cover the rest of your body. Or it can have decolletage and be tight but long. You also have to take into consideration your body type. I love plunging neckines but I'm busty so that makes me look cheap. But more flat-chested women look great with them (envy!)
I am not following the 2/3 method. You are naming all three in the very next of examples …???
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@@ArtU4All I think she meant 2 out of the 3 can be the sexier option but then the third is supposed to be laid back / professional. So anything that's tight AND short AND not covering your skin is too sexy.
Oh my goodness 🙏so helpful! I loved the example where you showed each piece has something it says, and creates a whole picture. I also loved when you showed yourself in the examples that really helped me picture the point you were making. That to me works more than just the influencer pictures! Thank you from upstate New York ❤
Appreciate the categories. Recently went shopping in Japan where the styles were diverse! But your 9 looks helped me recognize the styles that appeal to me! Boy it was taxing to go through every shop but now I can make sense of the trends through that system. I love that these “rules” which we are free to break as we like is just there as a short cut / quick guide for a more put together look. People’s impressions are smething we cannot control but its nice to understand how our fashion can be perceived. But we also understand its a form of self expression so we are free to mix styles and break these rules ❤
Excellent! Vraiment très éducatif. Je t’encourage de continuer à faire des vidéos comme ceci. On a tous besoin d’apprendre comment bien s’habiller tout en respectant notre style préféré.
This is amazing thank you for the awesome tips! I unconciously do a few but the wide pants and big top, I hadn't thought of but it makes perfect sense!!
I love the Polène bagas appearing in the outfits at the beginning of the video 😊 The tip on ironing/cleaning the bags is so underrated, but it makes a huge difference. Especially taking care of leather bags feel very therapeutic.
I like to feel comfortable and professional when dressing for work and thus far I have not failed on the basics you mentioned. There are a few things I have learned with regard to shoes and purses and when dressing for casual everyday activities. Thank you for your advice.
I would add jewelry: either big necklace or big earrings. Never both. The same for rings and bracelets. And maximum 3 elements out or the 4 at the same time.
So helpful...i've instinctively done some of these because they felt "right", but the categories are really helpful as sometimes i get into a spin trying to put something together.
A summary: Heels will always make an item more feminine - around 7cm elegant, above 7cm sexy. Tucking in your shirt t-shirt or pullover will elongate your legs and emphasise your waist Balance out the volume of your outfit, never do all skinny or all baggy. Natural materials look expensive and artificial ones look cheap. So, chose cotton over polyester. Your underwear should not be visible in colour or shape. Take UW that matches your skin colour. Pick one size up for panties to avoid liners. Match leather accessories -If you are wearing brown shoes, wear a brown bag. Wide clothes make you look bigger regardless of your body size. If you are showing cleavage, don’t show legs, and if you are showing legs, don’t show cleavage. Ironed clothes make a world of difference. Limit the amount of sexy elements in your outfit, so your look doesn’t fall into tacky-sexy.
I'm French, and I do follow most of these rules implicitly! The things I would add to your great video are: - Avoiding colors that are too bright, plain, straightforward, without nuance (my mum calls them "dumb colors"). For example, a powder pink, coral or fuschia will usually look fancier and more interesting than the sort of pink you would find in the girl section of a toy store. - Pairing colors is not always straightforward. For example, pink and red, or pink and orange, are difficult combos to pull off and may clash. I personally really dislike yellow and grey together. Yellow and black gives bee, orange and black gives Halloween... On the other hand, khaki complements all shades of red, and beige/off white elevates almost everything. Have fun, but think it through! - As it goes with the most important rule of balance, one eye-catching element per outfit is enough. Never too much, always enough. Thank you for a great video!
I actually love red and pink, it's very candy cane and I like that ❤🩷 They're often the same color just different value (Unless you mean magenta in which case, magenta is a hard color to pull off).
Red bra, white top…who knew?? Not this lady. Thank you! I think the “art” of dressing is lost, I did not grow up learning “how to dress”. Thank you for some simple, easy, and effective rules to help with the madness that goes on anytime I get dressed!!!!
This is the best fashion advice I’ve ever seen! You touched on so many things, didn’t say negative things about styles you might not like personally, and used a variety of body types in your photo examples! A lot of people will just show their advice in themselves which is great! Loved seeing how you dress to work with these rules, but my body doesn’t look like yours lol glad to see you explain how these rules can work with anyone! ❤
I am French and I can tell you that the French style you are speaking about only concerns middle class well off women. In the video they show classy French actrices. But if you go in the street you won’t see such simplicity and elegance! But in the whole, French women are better dressed than English ones, there is no doubt about that.
Random comment - I love your hair! I love the volume you have, and your up-dos are also so cute and elegant. Could you please make a video on how you style your hair for your curly followers? :)
As a French woman I know our moms and grandmas teach us about skincare, dressing, hair and manners. And culture comes at the dinner table and family reunions and outings 😊
Love your content! I would like to see more French content regarding makeup, hair, perhaps even affordable clothing capsules for the season? So excited that I found your channel! 😊
Vidéo géniale, claire, concise ! Ça me motive pour "affiner" ma garde robe et ameliorer, je l'espère, mon style. Ça fait des années que je remets ça à plus tard parce que "non mais je vais maigrir, ça sert à rien que j'achète tant de fringues en grande taille" 🙃. J'ai 34 ans maintenant donc grosse ou pas, j'ai juste envie d'être BIEN habillée. Il y a pas mal de règles que je connaissais mais c'est toujours très utile de les avoir sous la main de façon aussi synthétique et percutante. En revanche, le détail des différents styles principaux, et comment emprunter des éléments ici et là et les assembler c'est une pépite, je n'avais jamais vu ça expliqué de façon aussi abordable et je pense que ça va BEAUCOUP m'aider à composer mes tenues et à faire des achats plus qualitatifs et que je pourrai utiliser dans des looks différents. Un grand merci 💐
Merci beaucoup! I've been searching the net for years throng to find someone who can explain to me the basics as clearly as you did in this video. I'm so happy I found your channel! Thank you for sharing, take good care of yourself and keep up the good work! 😊❤️🤗
I love to wear tops and blouses with floral patterns, so I miss a combination roule for this. You only mention flower patterns once at 0:43 . Does someone know a rule about this? Thank you!
Generally, the rule is only one piece that has flower patterns. Too many can make you look either immature or elderly, depending on the pattern. The remainder of the outfit should be simple to complement it. You also want to match the "story" of the print with your accessory/ies. Very bold, will require simple and bold (like a big black belt with a 60's type mod print) if any. A more delicate print might require a more "rustic" country vibe, as with a chintz skirt, you might wear a straw hat or carry a straw bag. the delicate print might be able to support a delicate piece of jewelry. The bold look might require none (unless you're a model and a stylist has done it). Very hard to add much to a bold look besides the piece.
Absolutely amazing video! I'm not French (proud Polish-Canadian woman over here), but I was taught many of these rules by the women in my life as well. Keep up the fantastic fashion ❤
The red bra was new to me, too. I always wore beige (which also disappears under white and sheerer/paler fabrics). I was gratified to note that some of the rules I have already been following intuitively: revealed cleavage OR revealed legs; tight top with loose bottoms or vice versa. Others are new to me, and I really appreciate the information. Thank you!
I'm entering my mid 40's, and these guidelines are super useful for people like me that still love items in my closet that I've been wearing since my late 20's, but I want to style in a more sophisticated way. Thanks!!!
I am not French, but all the American Fashion magazines, used to do story after story promoting exactly what you are discussing, and try to dress that everything goes with everything else.
Great video! I love how smoothly and easily you communicate in English. Elegance and class are universal, it seems. My southern grandma taught us almost all of these same rules on how to dress as a lady.. The red bra is definitely new tho, lol. Thank you for posting. I'll definitely be sharing.
Such a great way to explain styling! Incredibly practical tips! This articulated some things that I intuitively knew as well as some things that I always liked, but could never quite put my finger on! Thanks for a great video!
Good video--well illustrated and well organized. I adore your ruffled striped top. A lot of us (the type who consume content like this, anyway) aspire to either French or Italian stylishness. I wonder-what differences do you find when you travel? Does another country/region have a distinctive style that you like? Edit: I am also pleased that you used models with a variety of shapes, sizes, ethnicities, and ages. Good rules are those that can be adapted for a variety of situations, in this case differing bodies.
Thank you! I love traditional outfits. I am always curious about the local, traditional outfit and I love to incorporate elements of it in my outfit (the silver from the Norwegian bunad, Indian/pakistani jumkas, Thai embroidery etc…) I haven’t travelled enough to answer your question without generalizing, but it seems to me that different cultures have a different relation to whether or not it is important to be elegantly dressed/have style. In Norway it is very accepted to look sloppy, whereas in Thailand, where I lived for a short while, style seems very important. I hope this was a useful answer 😊
It would be so cool to see if you could do videos breaking down the different categories more in depth. For instance, if a person wanted to lean more into the traditional category, what type of elements should they looks for? What are the characteristics that make an article of clothing a part of a particular category. I feel like casual is obvious but some of the other ones could do with some further explanation.
Also, make sure you’ve chosen well made clothing and that it fits well. Get a tailor to ensure your clothes lay properly, and keep your proportions in mind to keep a balanced look.
What proportions exactly? What do you mean, if you refer to natural body proportions they come in all different shapes and sizes, impossible to standarize to some beauty cannon
I love this! I just realised I think this way when I dress each day for different activities and to make different impressions. Sometimes with all one focus, and sometimes with a bit of a mix. Thanks for giving words to this. I’ll send this video to my lovely daughter, now🤓🤩
great video! I realised most of these things by myself, but its good that i heard them eloquentlly explained like this. I would just like i tmore if pictures were longer on the screen :)
WOW! That was the absolute best styling advice I have ever heard! I am one of those people that has a hard time putting together an outfit because I always feel like I look I’m trying to hard. I love an understated style that looks effortless. This is so perfect it actually makes so much sense!!!
During the week I dress for the office, which means black, grey, navy dresses with dark coloured shirts, opaque stockings and flat leather shoes. On the weekends I dress for comfort, which means sports leggings, long or short sleeved tees and podiatrist approved sneakers. On the rare occasions that I do go out, cocktail attire is usually sufficient, and I do have a few really classy evening dresses and killer heels for really really fancy events (which happens more often in imagination than reality).
YES…. FYI…Head over to Tuba Avalon’s channel which does involve some expectation of being able to afford (at least occasionally or via “re-use websites,” or thrift stores) some high quality pieces pairing with less costly basic options NEARLY anyone can afford. even if you can’t afford it all, her insights are invaluable and delivered sardonically, wittily, and never when unkind at anyone else’s expense (just her own).
I am so happy I found this specific video of yours. This is so basic. Thank you! ❤ The advices are so on point for people like me, who tend to go for a bit boring outfits. You are showing ways to spice it up but without being too flashy.
Which rule did you find most useful? 👀
I lerned these wrules by my mother and grandmother too. I m Belgian
You did a grate job! Mercie beaucoup
Traditional old lady. I don't think so. Coco Chanel is not old. It's elegant and classy.
I'm french and never knew we had these rules😂
Me interesa mucho lo del balance en volumen, en colores y en destape de piel.
Pero sobretodo el tema de la mezcla de estilos.
Felicitaciones desde Puerto Rico.
I'm French and I watched just out of pure curiosity when I read the title, I thought hah let's see if I follow those rules. Then you said that all french girls learn rules from their mothers / grand mothers and I thought no I didn't ! And then you explained the rules and yes I actually do remember the exact moments when my mom taught me those rules ! Hehe well done.
I did the exact same thing!
I always despise when someone say "all blabla do this or know that
I actually don't remember being taught these rules and I don't follow them most of the time.
For example I often like to hide my body under baggy clothes but when it's very hot in the summer I will go the less dressed as I can x)
It was interesting anyway.
Bye
I wish my mother had taught me rules. I wore uniforms for school and for my first jobs. I think I was around 35 before I had to figure out clothing - it was hard. Pretty much settled on traditional for work and now a laid back retired woman. Thanks for this.
I'm French too, no one directly taught me those rules, but seeing how everyone dresses did😅
The only thing my mother taught me directly is to not do tone-on-tone (and my rebel teenager ass said "as if" and dressed all in red, all in green, or all in purple any chance I'd get)
Where is the patterned jacket in the ethnic grouping from? I LOVE it
@@oceanegougeon3025 well that's actually how my French mom dresses haha
Raised in a household of "if it's revealing on top, cover the bottom. If it's revealing on the bottom, cover the top" and it hasn't steered us wrong yet! Loved learning the other tips!
I’ve actually never been taught that but I’ve always consciously had this rule in the back of my mind
@@Mysteriuminiquitatis1998 You can get away with so much with that one rule haha ❤ it's cool you practiced it without being taught it!
That's like the either a bright eyeshadow or a bright lipstick rule!
@@empathybadger506 Yes exactly! Always balance to set the right tone (unless it's NYE or party night something)
Same ✨👌🏼
Learning that Fancy Grandma is my style is the best thing I’ve heard all day
Fancy Grandma is maybe the only style that looks good on everyone, no matter the body type. After all, how one looks not good in something classy.
My style is fancy laid back grandma - honestly a state of mind I've been striving for since I was a teenager!
I agree
Same!
aaah, this is also my favourite style !!! It reminds me of the 1930s, my favourite incarnation ;-)
I'm French, and I learned almost all of these rules when I arrived in Paris for my studies, either by observing or reading women's magazines, some were even taught to me by my boyfriend!
Another rule that has served me well: when you have a small budget, you have to put the money into shoes and hairstyle, the rest is less important to look classy.
I learned: 1., your shoes and 2., your bed. Who cares about the hair? You can wash it at home.
@@silviadarling3622the context is fashion. Your hair is part of your look, your bed is not. And they specifically mentioned a good haircut (meaning an experienced stylist that knows how to cut your hair well, so that it looks amazing, and grows out still looking great), not getting your hair washed.
I agree, 100%- shoes and hair and a good
As an English speaking native, there is one rule of thumb when it comes to the subject of "classy" i.e. never use the word "classy." It is worse than wearing a Christmas sweater to a black tie event in June.
@@silviadarling3622 I wash my hair at home budget or not, but I travel about 3 hours round trip to ATL for cut and color. Dress from Goodwill, buy makeup at the drug store, but the hair is sacrosanct.
Decor is a different question, but I agree. First work out the bed i.e. mattress, pillows, sheets, blanket/quilts/duvet ( best you can afford) then window dressing and rugs. Even when moving install your bedroom first. Also always spring for custom curtains and natural rugs.
Great advice re hair & shoes! I have seen (& continue to see) how hair in a (non-styled) ponytail and/or (sloppy, no-thought) shoes completely change the entire look.
I have only recently began matching the leathers of shoes & bag. This definitely surprised me on its impact!. Someone made the comment that the "downside" to French dressing is it makes everyone homogeneous. As a woman in her mid-50's my wardrobe, I find, is turning more "French". I am grateful for this. Elegance feels wonderfully restful to the eyes & to the spirit.
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These rules aren't new to me, but I've never seen them broken down and explained so well. You've created a gem with this video - thank you!
Thank you for your kind words 😊
I agree ... This is a great video!
True! I just sent the video to my boyfriend and he loved it, because the first half of the video works just as well for men, he only has to imagine the male examples :) thank you a lot, Ariane!
Same here,
The same, it is similar to what I was taught mothers would teach their daughters, though I did learn a couple of new things, specifically choosing wide styles or showing skin either at the top or the bottom but not both. Makes perfect sense, but I didn't have it as a rule.
I'm a guy and not interested in fashion, I clicked by pure curiosity and yet ended up watching the whole thing. It was honestly very interesting. If I had a daughter I'd show her this for sure. Now you should make a similar video for men because I feel most of us could really use some help 😂
Same lol
Grandpa style !
Hello Frank....well said. Good potential Father attitude. Regarding learning mens' fashion....the gentleman you are will shine through any clothing "flaw". 😊
Hey you can be a guy into fashion, like me. Mens fashion isn’t really covered much sadly especially by many popular fashion youtubers, but it’s out there.
Love the on-screen graphic showing the different styles part of each outfit
I’m so glad 😄
Yes, very good idea, so analytical and clear!
I was just commenting on that!!!! The only thing is that I wish they stay a bit longer so I can study them more.
I'm American and as I was trying to figure out how to explain "appropriate clothing" for our 12-13 year old daughter, I made a rule that she could wear shorter shorts with a loose top or a fitted top with longer shorts or long pants/jeans. It helped us to stop disagreeing about outfits she would put on!
Your video is very helpful because you broke down each style with examples.
That's funny, I made that rule up for myself in college. I used it on running clothes, but it's so similar. One tight one loose. Or one revealing and one concealing.
@@kaitlynnp582 that’s very awesome of you to do for yourself! Thanks for sharing!
As a French woman, it’s quite surprising to see all these rules in one video. We don’t learn them at once, we learn one rule at a time during all our childhood/teenage years, growing up. But yes, it’s true that we follow these in all formal settings.
Some people do criticize it, because it makes our society look too homogeneous compared to other countries in which personnalities are more refleted in their clothing (like Britain for example). But I think it’s a good tool for adults, it helps elevate our looks in formal or public events and in the workplace.
Thank you for sharing it with people, I didn’t think some people could not know these, since it’s quite basic to us to know them. ❤️
As a german women you don't know how much that helps!! All we learn is how to dress according to the weather...
@@108ladylena depends where you're coming from, or which era. I learned those rules from my german grandmother, a stuck up seamstress from the bourgeoisie. My parisian grandmother had more fantasy and this 'chic sans y toucher' which is REALLY French. Risk is french, sisters Sans-culotte!
I learned much of this from the Southern American women in my family. But as a fashion girl, I only wanted to break all the "rules"
And those southern U.S. women were influenced by their French Grand-mères.
If tou remember your history it was the French that settled the south first.
If it wasn't for all the videos pointing out how rude french are I'd let my mind think I'd like it in France. 😂😂😂
When she said " ... the professional kind of sexy ... ", I was sold. This is diplomacy & tact at its finest! New sub all the way from Hong Kong!
This was THE BEST Style video Ive ever seen on the internet. Everyone with Daughters should share this to help them understand 'The Rules" before they try to break them
Thank you for your kind words!
Thank god that you are their to teach the wold that an outfit is a combination of different elements…. Pffffffff
@@butterflyeffect9424 . . it's spelled 'there' to teach the 'World' . . oh & God is spelled with a Capital my Dear but thank you for highlighting the sentiment I was conveying
@@selenaclarke oh thank you for correcting my mistakes Madame JESAISTOUT, I admit that my 5th laguage is sometimes a challenge. How could we live without one who tell us how to dress and an other one who correct our mistakes. Merci merci merci merci
I agree, very very good video and clear explanation
One thing I've learned to pay attention to is hardware (A coat with a silver zipper/a belt with a bright gold buckle/ handbag with brass metal/Rose gold jewelry, etc). When all your metals are cohesive it instantly looks more elegant.
Absolutely!!!!
For sure! When you find out if you are a 'cool' or 'warm' skin type, you usually stick to all silver or all gold colored metal (jewelry included) and that includes handbag hardare as well. Harder to find handbags with silver toned metal though.
@@dutchpainter602haha also my shoes are nearly all the same color and my bags too, it makes more possibilities of combination
I love this video. Not only did you explain everything so well but you also didn’t insult or shame people who prefer dressing otherwise. Thank you for being sensitive! Looking forward to more content!
The other think the French know (both men and women) is the power of the scarf. I never walk out in France without a scarf; it can elevate a basic look, keep me warm, tie in otherwise disparate wardrobe pieces, make a statement and so much more!
Please make a video on ways to style a scarf, please. 😊
Loved this video but I was also thinking scarf and/or gloves were going to come up. I'm heading to France and was just thinking that I am going to buy myself a nice scarf
I moved to France 2 months ago, never having worn a scarf before (instead of winter days in the mountainsl. I had to buy one because I was freezing and didn't yet receive all my clothes from my home country, and now I'M IN LOVE WITH IT!!! it upgrades every outfit that I wear!!!
This is, by far, the most helpful fashion video I have ever seen in my life. IN MY LIFE! I have always struggled with fashion and the way you explained it, using the system of points, made so much sense. I had such a lightbulb moment in my brain. Thank you so much.
Oh I’m going to frame that comment 😍 I am so so happy it was so helpful for you!!
@@MademoiselleSpends Pin it 😄
as a french woman living abroad, 100% agree on all of these rules, although my mom never taught me the point system, that's exactly how it is in my head ^^
and the either you show your cleavage or your legs is GOLD to look sexy but not "easy"
amazing video, bien joue, continue come ca c'etait tres clair et le rythme est parfait 👌
@@MademoiselleSpends
Let’s talk about the bubble charts in more detail. You did split one of them- so there are new aces and shades of gray
Let’s talk about it
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Same, i was taking screenshots with ideas because now i know how to organize my closet: instead of all shirts in one and pants in the other, I’m going to organize my stuff into the 3 categories that i use.
I spend an hour flipping through shirts that are all too sporty/casual when I’m getting ready for work. Makes no sense. Organize your stuff by their purpose and style.
Truly amazing video.
I’m Australian and in my early 50’s and I have only recently found the confidence to dress “elegantly” (in my opinion). Surprise surprise- I’m following your rules.
I recently went to a fancy work conference and my basic outfits for all 5 days were- white trousers, sandals or heels, a neutral shirt or striped T and a a beige trench, or neutral jacket. A good waist defining belt and gold hoop earrings. And fabulous sunglasses!
I was complimented on my style constantly.
Finally! I dress like a French woman.
Same I’m 56 and want to start really putting in to what I wear. Finally getting confident.
Et voilà 🎉
@@tessH we can finally wear white!!! Xox
I love your casual elegance! I pretty much dress the same but in a darker palette: red, navy, charcoal grey, black and cream.
I am a man and I watched the entire video, so well done. Can we have a similar video for the sad gents😂
Match your belt with your shoes ;)
The rules are not that different tbh. As said by Meanne, instead of a handbag matched to shoes, make sure your belt matches your shoes if wearing a more classic or professional outfit like a suit. Otherwise most of the same point-based system with categories will apply. You can look well put together with a pair of sneakers, some chinos, a neutral well fitting t-shirt and a blazer. You want to be a bit more mindful about the shapes, because we're not as lucky as women in that department and have a bit less choice. And the sexy category is a bit different as well. Women can choose specific items to openly signal sexyness, but with a bit of thought we can get that too, mainly in how we wear specific items and by keeping in mind what people find attractive in a man/you. Emphasize your shoulders with a slim cut top if you don't have too much of a belly. If you are a bit more rotund (as we tend to become with age. Gods to be young again...), a slightly more flowy but well cut shirt will do. Choose a good shirt that you can keep partly unbuttoned to push the width of your upper chest and shoulders. Pants that will show rear volume but not entirely reveal the shape of your legs. It's all about small adjustments.
extra tip when it comes to matching: your socks should match shoes or pants in color. If you want to look taller, match your socks to your pants, it will elongate the silhouette of the legs.
Extra extra tip to train the eye: look at suits, even from different eras. On the surface, it's business attire. But it's the "manly man sexy successful" outfit for a reason. The shapes are very interesting and can be very different from one another. The variance within a three piece suit (the cuts, the lengths, the silhouette) can give you an idea about the shapes you're looking for, and what will make you comfortable, even with casual attire.
Very easy, wear pants on your legs and shirts on your arms 😂
But actually, the best advice for men that I've seen so far anywhere - find a celebrity with body and complexion similar to yours, and who's style you like, and try to recreate their casual looks for starters. You will discover a lot of things about style and yourself!
Tuba Avalon (on Yt) is female but herself often wears menswear abs reviews it/ suggests options for finding it in good quality yet trying to be mindful also of cost.
@@k.v.7681 I think matching socks is good for some categories (like maybe professional, preppy, and the traditional categories), but socks can be a super fun and subtle way for men to add personality to their outfits! Look at Booth from the TV show Bones for example- he's an FBI agent that wears office formal suits every day but he throws on some fun socks to show that he still has a quirky side underneath. You could even do socks that mostly match (like have black as a main colour to match with black shoes/pants) but that have a quirky design or print on them.
I love that you framed this as "rules to follow if you want to look elegant and put together," instead of "hard rules to always follow or else you're trashy and uncool." Also, thank you for the bit about larger bodies still having shapes that are worth showing off!
As a parisian myself, i have to say this is pretty accurate.
I think my way of categorizing is a bit different, but i unconsciously do It (like every day i'm like "how professionnal do i look and how much do i need to look it today?"
And like : the rule about the number of sexy elements, definetely.
I would also add a few more :
- no more than 3 total colors
- try to match the "cuts" (les coupes, je sais pas comment on dit en anglais) or silhouette of your main frame (shirt / jean) with your coat
- colors (veeeery distinctive of french fashion) : keep it sober* (black, White, beige, Navy blue) with touches of color in general, only go wild in special occasions
*Edit: as someone made me realize, "sober" in French means "simple"/"serious" as well as without alcool!
As an Italian living in France I couldn’t agree more with your “added” rules 👏
@Safi_JC that is so amazing that you invest in how you look everyday walking out the door. I never give it a thought on day to day basic, just any jeans and any T-shirt, any shoes as long as it doesn't look ridiculous 😮
@@ivyhays3478it all depends on what you do on a daily basis. Some of us have to look differently and put more thoughts into it depending on what activities are planned that day.
@@ivyhays3478I tend to rely on 'uniforms' based on what I'm willing or not willing to faff about with. For example I know I can't usually be bothered to wear shoes with a heel or jeans I can't sit on the grass in. Therefore I rely on pretty shirts and a nipped belt to elevate my comfort garb.
An item of jewellery somewhere that doesn't make me feel constrained or stuffy helps make me feel as though I'm wearing an outfit rather than just clothes
Also I would add: black or white goes with any colour.
And don't wear really light colours as a main if you have pale skin, this will make you look sick.
And really important, top and legs witht the same colour but slightly different shades don't match well.
As much as I'm a "follow your joy" person, I still find these rules really help and I apply them almost instinctively most of the time. My favourite is baggy/vs/tight. It really changes the game, especially as I get older. It's worth mentioning that nothing in these rules prevents anyone from wearing really funky clothes, it's really easy to use these rules with some pieces you might never see on an elegant French woman. There's room for lots of creativity and yet the tips will really help balance the outfit
Very true. I'm a french-speaking Swiss woman, who now lives in the US. I grew up learning all this unconsciously, but it's very easy to wear a western pearl-snap shirt as an elegant piece instead of a blazer for example, or boot-cut jeans instead of professional trousers, and get the same vibe. And don't be afraid of colors. You can also get elegant vibes using bright colors paired with grey instead of the terminally boring beiges...
Exactly, build your style, have some fun figuring things out, these rules are a great basis for how to build an outfit for specific feels. Break the rules when you want to, use them when they're helpful and aid you in being perceived the way you want to be seen.
Also, I'd argue you can do baggy top and baggy bottoms *if* you define the waist and potentially shoulders. At least from a French pov, the waist is fairly key.
the red bra under a white top is something new to me! i have many white tops. thanks for the tip. I have been to France a few times and noticed the women like to go braless even on thin and translucent tops *.*
That is so true! At least the underwear is not visible then 😂
Not something I would advise if you want to look elegant, but definitely a very French thing to do for the women who like a laid-back feminine vibe, with a dash of “rebel” 👌
So glad the red bra tip helped ♥️
The red bra trick doesn't work with deep tone skin
@amycurtis4641 ah another thing we all learned 😀
@@amycurtis4641so true I came here to say this. Red underclothes only disappear under white clothes if the wearer has fair skin.
@@amycurtis4641 No... she advised matching your skin tone first... I have followed this advice for wearing white and cream tops for ages... but would not wear red unless my skin tone is very light.
When I was only 22 (now 61 😊) I was on holiday in Spain and spotted this dark skinned French girl, with her hair up, wearing a plain white T-Shirt and French Navy wide leg ankle grazer culottes and black ballet flats....I was so mesmerised by her class and style but couldn't work out what it was, she was so chic....and now I realise it was pairing outfits down looking sharp and clean, comfortable and confident. I can remember her to this day....and there's nothing more attractive than authenticity.
These guidelines were not only helpful, but easy to digest. This is a fantastic video and I hope you make more like it!
Thank you so much for your kind words!
YES! I can not agree more! I immediately subscribed because of her style of presenting. The information was clear and simple but effective.
My husband (from Paris) hated my bras because of the overflow (push up bras)... amazing to hear her speak about it! I learned a lot, thank you!
When I clicked on this video and heard "I haven't seen any of those French fashion rules on the internet", I was like "Really?... Another video about "French style"?"
But the information given is actually so great! It's simple, yet genius system! I want to try it out for sure. (And I definitely need a wardrobe refresh... Haven't bought anything new in years)
Thank you!
This was such a helpful video. I never thought about the "limiting sexy elements in your outfit to 2", and I also didn't realize that fitted pants on women were a bit on the "sexy" category. I wear a lot of fitted pants (mainly because they are stretchy and comfy) but I think I'll look into buying straight pants that are more flowy as well! Thank you for the video!
A thing that many people don't know about bras (at least in the US) is that band size and cup size are inverse when you're figuring out your size. So. If your bra doesn’t fit quite right and it's mainly an overflow problem, first try up a cup size or two and DOWN a band size, then go up a band size if you need to. The bigger cups are adding length to the band. Your band shouldn't be hurting you, but it should be doing just as much or slightly more of the work than your straps.
I find that the CUPS are the most important as for the band you can buy an extension for better fit.
I’d say that bands are to do as much work as they can; a well fitted bra holds even without straps
Smaller women (32 band) wearing a D cup is not the same a 36 D cup. Get the band right first. Then experiment with the cup. Band will relax over time so make sure the tighter hooks will be available for later on
@jem2250 I get so frustrated with lack of band size options. I am 30 to 31 around.
Plus I find those foam cup bras that are everywhere really do not fit as well as seamed cups. They don't separate the breasts well which leads to the overflow thing.
This was great! Another one my mom taught me (she isn’t French but lived there for a bit) is to buy 2-4 staple pieces and build your outfit around them. She’d often get 5 outfits from each piece. Instead of having 45 cheap articles, use that money to buy 3-4 quality pieces that will elevate your outfits overall. Some examples could be a motorcycle jacket, black dress, camel coat for winter, and a lovely button down. And never underestimate the power of jewelry and accessories!
Agree, less but high quality always. Besides it’s better for the planet.
My mom also taught me that one. With proper care, quality clothes can last you a very long time, and if you're careful and more or less keep your weight, you can build a very nice wardrobe over time. You can certainly add new elements and stay current with fashion without too much money.
absolutely. It even works with cheaper stuff (maybe you don't have any money, are very young / still growing or live somewhere for a limited amount of time).
Nowadays I can make that work, but it took me a long time to understand fashion (not only in a trendy way but in the way of the video) and develop my own taste. I was really bad at putting together wardrobes and the very best I could do was looking normal (jeans, shirt) but everything above that was...weird :D But I got the grip of it once I reached my early twenties. Also, I could buy my own stuff from wherever, and my body reached its adult female-shaped size.
I have just discovered you. You appeared on my "new to you" section. I have been following Justine Le Conte, Marie-Anne Le coure and Frederique Boss for many years
and they alwats give french styling tips but have NEVER explained it like this! Just brilliant . I'm in the UK so have some European dressing etiquette , but this was so informative. I have now subscribed. Keep up the great work.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It’s a pleasure to welcome you here!
I was never taught how to dress, I looked ad photos and ads and cultivated similar clothing mostly from affordable used and vintage shops. This breaks it down in a much more understandable way than trying to figure it out on my own. Thank you!
Same. Takes a while but we get it eventually.
I'm happy to see someone with the intestinal fortitude to call-out trashy.
LOL
But do you forget that it was french fashion houses that pushed all the trashy elements in their seasonal shows? When the overlords do it, it's OK, but should the peasants follow its not. That is rule #1.
What's truly hideous are those tattoos, piercings and poison coloured hair - also the ultra fashionable portion of an entire generation of women in the west. No one has the fortitude of any organ or system to call that out because that would be against the euphemistic term known as " body art".
American here 👋 This was neat. I definitely find it way more stylish to mix styles a bit within an outfit. I just never broke down the styles into these explicit categories like she does. What was missing for me was any rules for hair and jewelry. That’s also where you can mess up a look with the wrong earrings or hair style.
I appreciated her comment on natural vs synthetic materials. My mom taught me that. But another rule my grandmother taught me is to invest in your shoes!! Your shoes should always be the most expensive part of your look. Nice shoes can turn an average outfit around.
I’m French, but my mom wasn’t. Never got that kind of guidance from her, but it’s nice to find that advice eventually. This is one of the most concise videos I’ve seen on the topic :) and very helpful
This is always what I’m telling my husband when he says my wardrobe is getting out of control. I have many stories to tell!
I’m not French but this has always been intuitive to me. You’ve explained it beautifully 🖤
😂😂😂 EXACTLY!
Thank you ♥️
I watched this video even if I am French because I was doubtful but all tips are true and well explained. I would also add another rule that we are told (that can summarise a part of the video): "never too much". Actually, we would ask regularly our mother or friend like "Is it too much?".
Also a good tip is that if you have a doubt always ask mom and dad (if you can). Mom will know what is trendy, the social codes for special events and what looks good on you. On the other hand, Dad will always tell you (if you ask) when an outfit is not flattering. (Never expect a big approvals because he doesn't care much)
Another good tip that my mother taught me is to always do your shopping alone, so you can take your time trying and thinking if you really need it, if it really looks good and you don't feel pressured about buying something that you will never wear.
I’ve never thought it could be broke down in this way. It’s so clear and helpful! Thanks for sharing all the rules and ideas.❤
New subscriber. Love this. Both of my grandmas were stylish but one grandma was chic and would have looked at home sitting in a café in Paris.
She taught me this same technique. Born in the early 1920s, she didn't wear jeans until she was 70! And even then she had a heel on.
I'm excited to see more of your content. Merci beaucoup, for the memories.❤👠
Oh this is lovely!
I felt the rule about wearing baggy clothes when you don’t feel as thin as you’d like just makes you look bigger!! Fotos helped to see the truth in this! Thank you.
I love the "my ladies" 😂 and i couldn't agree more about the overflow. Regular sizing the ladies helps
Girl, please don't stop. Fashion was always a nightmare in my head, but I am really trying to make peace with it and figure it out my style. Watching your videos are making everything a little bit more easier.
Please, continue, I'm counting on it!
My mom was a seamstress from Mexico and she taught me a large handful of your tips! I hear her voice in my head when i show leg not to show chest and vise versa
This was great thank you! My mom never taught me these as a Canadian girl but some of it I definitely picked up some how? Looking forward to teaching my daughter these and glad I have been on the right track. Now I can only improve.
I'm NGL, I didn't have the best mother-ing or female role models in my life, and this legit was done in a way that I could understand & I can't tell you how helpful this was to watch, so, thank you.
Thanks
Thank you!! ♥️
My grandmother was Italian and she taught me basics and “fancy grandma”. I loved the additional categories you included. I noticed a lot of French women love the aesthetics of the 1970s. I do too; earth tones, textiles, shirts etc.
Thank you so much for this. I've had no luck remembering seemingly arbitrary and fickle fashion rules, but the way you explain the WHY makes it finally make sense.
Could you do a follow-up to this for accessories and/or hairstyles?
i'm french and was working in fashion and luxury industry in paris, and i have to say this is the most accurate video on this particular topic i ever seen (and i didn't realize this rules are so specific to french fashion ˆˆ) bravo 😘
It's interesting how my Greek mother taught me those rules you mentioned some decades ago...those french rules of yours apparently were the rules for every woman who wanted to be elegante back then ❤
I learnt this through trial and error over time, would have been very useful to my younger self! You summarised it really succinctly!
My mom gave me great advice. There were 3 elements to factor in: tight/loose, short/long, neckline/decolletage. You could choose a maximum of 2 out of 3. Something can be tight and short but cover the rest of your body. Or it can have decolletage and be tight but long. You also have to take into consideration your body type. I love plunging neckines but I'm busty so that makes me look cheap. But more flat-chested women look great with them (envy!)
I am not following the 2/3 method. You are naming all three in the very next of examples …???
@@ArtU4All I think she meant 2 out of the 3 can be the sexier option but then the third is supposed to be laid back / professional. So anything that's tight AND short AND not covering your skin is too sexy.
Oh my goodness 🙏so helpful! I loved the example where you showed each piece has something it says, and creates a whole picture. I also loved when you showed yourself in the examples that really helped me picture the point you were making. That to me works more than just the influencer pictures! Thank you from upstate New York ❤
Appreciate the categories. Recently went shopping in Japan where the styles were diverse! But your 9 looks helped me recognize the styles that appeal to me! Boy it was taxing to go through every shop but now I can make sense of the trends through that system.
I love that these “rules” which we are free to break as we like is just there as a short cut / quick guide for a more put together look. People’s impressions are smething we cannot control but its nice to understand how our fashion can be perceived. But we also understand its a form of self expression so we are free to mix styles and break these rules ❤
Excellent! Vraiment très éducatif. Je t’encourage de continuer à faire des vidéos comme ceci. On a tous besoin d’apprendre comment bien s’habiller tout en respectant notre style préféré.
This is amazing thank you for the awesome tips! I unconciously do a few but the wide pants and big top, I hadn't thought of but it makes perfect sense!!
I love the Polène bagas appearing in the outfits at the beginning of the video 😊
The tip on ironing/cleaning the bags is so underrated, but it makes a huge difference. Especially taking care of leather bags feel very therapeutic.
I agree! It’s like giving love to the things you own 🧡
And leather shoes. I love putting leather wax on my leather goods, it really makes a huge difference to their longevity 😊.
I like to feel comfortable and professional when dressing for work and thus far I have not failed on the basics you mentioned. There are a few things I have learned with regard to shoes and purses and when dressing for casual everyday activities. Thank you for your advice.
The clarity the professionalism and the eloquence! Brava :)
Wow, I love this video! I feel lost in putting outfits together, even at 46 yrs old. 😅 Very helpful, thank you.
Loved your video! As an American I had heard many of these rules over the years, but not all. I agree with everything you said!!
I would add jewelry: either big necklace or big earrings. Never both.
The same for rings and bracelets. And maximum 3 elements out or the 4 at the same time.
One of the BEST fashion videos ever made. Very well done.
So helpful...i've instinctively done some of these because they felt "right", but the categories are really helpful as sometimes i get into a spin trying to put something together.
A summary:
Heels will always make an item more feminine - around 7cm elegant, above 7cm sexy.
Tucking in your shirt t-shirt or pullover will elongate your legs and emphasise your waist
Balance out the volume of your outfit, never do all skinny or all baggy.
Natural materials look expensive and artificial ones look cheap. So, chose cotton over polyester.
Your underwear should not be visible in colour or shape. Take UW that matches your skin colour. Pick one size up for panties to avoid liners.
Match leather accessories -If you are wearing brown shoes, wear a brown bag.
Wide clothes make you look bigger regardless of your body size.
If you are showing cleavage, don’t show legs, and if you are showing legs, don’t show cleavage.
Ironed clothes make a world of difference.
Limit the amount of sexy elements in your outfit, so your look doesn’t fall into tacky-sexy.
I like this!
Love you darling for the summary 😊😅
I just found your channel and I'm OBSESSED. I've been trying to hone in on "my style" for YEARS and this is the perfect guide. Thank you!
I'm French, and I do follow most of these rules implicitly! The things I would add to your great video are:
- Avoiding colors that are too bright, plain, straightforward, without nuance (my mum calls them "dumb colors"). For example, a powder pink, coral or fuschia will usually look fancier and more interesting than the sort of pink you would find in the girl section of a toy store.
- Pairing colors is not always straightforward. For example, pink and red, or pink and orange, are difficult combos to pull off and may clash. I personally really dislike yellow and grey together. Yellow and black gives bee, orange and black gives Halloween... On the other hand, khaki complements all shades of red, and beige/off white elevates almost everything. Have fun, but think it through!
- As it goes with the most important rule of balance, one eye-catching element per outfit is enough. Never too much, always enough.
Thank you for a great video!
Nooo plz kaki and red are horrendous together
I actually love red and pink, it's very candy cane and I like that ❤🩷 They're often the same color just different value (Unless you mean magenta in which case, magenta is a hard color to pull off).
Frencho too here. I agree on all those unsaid rules! I was also expecting the makeup one "lips or eyes" in line with "legs or clivage".
Red bra, white top…who knew?? Not this lady. Thank you! I think the “art” of dressing is lost, I did not grow up learning “how to dress”. Thank you for some simple, easy, and effective rules to help with the madness that goes on anytime I get dressed!!!!
Skin colour bra would also be comfy
Red disappears under white - it’s colour theory in action.
Soft Pink works too, at least for me
This is the best fashion advice I’ve ever seen! You touched on so many things, didn’t say negative things about styles you might not like personally, and used a variety of body types in your photo examples! A lot of people will just show their advice in themselves which is great! Loved seeing how you dress to work with these rules, but my body doesn’t look like yours lol glad to see you explain how these rules can work with anyone! ❤
I'm French and never realized that I knew all this subconsciously 😂. Thanks for bringing all that knowledge to the surface.
I don’t know why but her kindness and way of delivery made me happy! ❤ please continue being your wonderful self
I am French and I can tell you that the French style you are speaking about only concerns middle class well off women. In the video they show classy French actrices. But if you go in the street you won’t see such simplicity and elegance! But in the whole, French women are better dressed than English ones, there is no doubt about that.
Random comment - I love your hair! I love the volume you have, and your up-dos are also so cute and elegant. Could you please make a video on how you style your hair for your curly followers? :)
As a French woman I know our moms and grandmas teach us about skincare, dressing, hair and manners. And culture comes at the dinner table and family reunions and outings 😊
Love your content! I would like to see more French content regarding makeup, hair, perhaps even affordable clothing capsules for the season? So excited that I found your channel! 😊
Great Video! Something I always did intuitively… But you found the right words and made it so clear!!!
I am so glad to hear! Thank you for your kind words!
This is the absolute best explanation of French style i have ever seen!
Vidéo géniale, claire, concise ! Ça me motive pour "affiner" ma garde robe et ameliorer, je l'espère, mon style. Ça fait des années que je remets ça à plus tard parce que "non mais je vais maigrir, ça sert à rien que j'achète tant de fringues en grande taille" 🙃. J'ai 34 ans maintenant donc grosse ou pas, j'ai juste envie d'être BIEN habillée. Il y a pas mal de règles que je connaissais mais c'est toujours très utile de les avoir sous la main de façon aussi synthétique et percutante. En revanche, le détail des différents styles principaux, et comment emprunter des éléments ici et là et les assembler c'est une pépite, je n'avais jamais vu ça expliqué de façon aussi abordable et je pense que ça va BEAUCOUP m'aider à composer mes tenues et à faire des achats plus qualitatifs et que je pourrai utiliser dans des looks différents. Un grand merci 💐
Merci beaucoup! I've been searching the net for years throng to find someone who can explain to me the basics as clearly as you did in this video. I'm so happy I found your channel! Thank you for sharing, take good care of yourself and keep up the good work! 😊❤️🤗
I love to wear tops and blouses with floral patterns, so I miss a combination roule for this. You only mention flower patterns once at 0:43 . Does someone know a rule about this? Thank you!
Generally, the rule is only one piece that has flower patterns. Too many can make you look either immature or elderly, depending on the pattern. The remainder of the outfit should be simple to complement it. You also want to match the "story" of the print with your accessory/ies. Very bold, will require simple and bold (like a big black belt with a 60's type mod print) if any. A more delicate print might require a more "rustic" country vibe, as with a chintz skirt, you might wear a straw hat or carry a straw bag. the delicate print might be able to support a delicate piece of jewelry. The bold look might require none (unless you're a model and a stylist has done it). Very hard to add much to a bold look besides the piece.
Absolutely amazing video! I'm not French (proud Polish-Canadian woman over here), but I was taught many of these rules by the women in my life as well. Keep up the fantastic fashion ❤
The red bra was new to me, too. I always wore beige (which also disappears under white and sheerer/paler fabrics).
I was gratified to note that some of the rules I have already been following intuitively: revealed cleavage OR revealed legs; tight top with loose bottoms or vice versa. Others are new to me, and I really appreciate the information. Thank you!
I'm entering my mid 40's, and these guidelines are super useful for people like me that still love items in my closet that I've been wearing since my late 20's, but I want to style in a more sophisticated way. Thanks!!!
I was so surprised to realise I discussed everyone of those rules as a French teenager either with my mom or out shopping with friends. Very accurate!
Excellent summary ! Most straightforward, matter-of-fact presentation ever!!
I am not French, but all the American Fashion magazines, used to do story after story promoting exactly what you are discussing, and try to dress that everything goes with everything else.
Love that!!
Great video! I love how smoothly and easily you communicate in English. Elegance and class are universal, it seems. My southern grandma taught us almost all of these same rules on how to dress as a lady.. The red bra is definitely new tho, lol. Thank you for posting. I'll definitely be sharing.
It would appear I am a preppy grandma 👵🏻❤ what wonderful advice, thank you for sharing your culture with us! Love from Scotland 🏴
Such a great way to explain styling! Incredibly practical tips! This articulated some things that I intuitively knew as well as some things that I always liked, but could never quite put my finger on! Thanks for a great video!
Good video--well illustrated and well organized. I adore your ruffled striped top. A lot of us (the type who consume content like this, anyway) aspire to either French or Italian stylishness.
I wonder-what differences do you find when you travel? Does another country/region have a distinctive style that you like?
Edit: I am also pleased that you used models with a variety of shapes, sizes, ethnicities, and ages. Good rules are those that can be adapted for a variety of situations, in this case differing bodies.
Thank you!
I love traditional outfits. I am always curious about the local, traditional outfit and I love to incorporate elements of it in my outfit (the silver from the Norwegian bunad, Indian/pakistani jumkas, Thai embroidery etc…)
I haven’t travelled enough to answer your question without generalizing, but it seems to me that different cultures have a different relation to whether or not it is important to be elegantly dressed/have style.
In Norway it is very accepted to look sloppy, whereas in Thailand, where I lived for a short while, style seems very important.
I hope this was a useful answer 😊
It would be so cool to see if you could do videos breaking down the different categories more in depth. For instance, if a person wanted to lean more into the traditional category, what type of elements should they looks for? What are the characteristics that make an article of clothing a part of a particular category. I feel like casual is obvious but some of the other ones could do with some further explanation.
Im afraid you'll have to think for yourself on that one
Also, make sure you’ve chosen well made clothing and that it fits well.
Get a tailor to ensure your clothes lay properly, and keep your proportions in mind to keep a balanced look.
What proportions exactly? What do you mean, if you refer to natural body proportions they come in all different shapes and sizes, impossible to standarize to some beauty cannon
And there is no way to figure out good proportions without going into mathematical relations
I love this! I just realised I think this way when I dress each day for different activities and to make different impressions. Sometimes with all one focus, and sometimes with a bit of a mix. Thanks for giving words to this. I’ll send this video to my lovely daughter, now🤓🤩
Preppy looks very different in the US. More classic, wealthy, country club, yacht club look.
European and US interpretations of the same style are indeed very different.
How interesting!
Preppy style changed for worse last 25 years.
That was my reaction. To me, preppy has the connotation of old money and conservative style that was very popular during the 80’s in the US.
@@MademoiselleSpends Think Ralph Lauren or Tommy Hilfiger for examples of this.
great video! I realised most of these things by myself, but its good that i heard them eloquentlly explained like this. I would just like i tmore if pictures were longer on the screen :)
I appreciate the explanation if the categories. I'm going to look at my closet differently now.
Glad it was helpful!
WOW! That was the absolute best styling advice I have ever heard! I am one of those people that has a hard time putting together an outfit because I always feel like I look I’m trying to hard. I love an understated style that looks effortless. This is so perfect it actually makes so much sense!!!
During the week I dress for the office, which means black, grey, navy dresses with dark coloured shirts, opaque stockings and flat leather shoes. On the weekends I dress for comfort, which means sports leggings, long or short sleeved tees and podiatrist approved sneakers. On the rare occasions that I do go out, cocktail attire is usually sufficient, and I do have a few really classy evening dresses and killer heels for really really fancy events (which happens more often in imagination than reality).
YES…. FYI…Head over to Tuba Avalon’s channel which does involve some expectation of being able to afford (at least occasionally or via “re-use websites,” or thrift stores) some high quality pieces pairing with less costly basic options NEARLY anyone can afford. even if you can’t afford it all, her insights are invaluable and delivered sardonically, wittily, and never when unkind at anyone else’s expense (just her own).
I am so happy I found this specific video of yours. This is so basic. Thank you! ❤ The advices are so on point for people like me, who tend to go for a bit boring outfits. You are showing ways to spice it up but without being too flashy.
I used those rules when I was looking for my own style at the age of 18. Didn't know they were French rules and that they really are rules. 🇧🇪