Oh my gosh, Ma'am. I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm also glad I stumbled on your comment. My wife was 16 when we got together and I have no reason to believe she won't be there to handle my funeral. You post is sad but sweet at the same time. G-d bless you, Ma'am.
This is great advice guys! I've taken everything you both have said to heart. My wife and daughter has seen me already as the protector and provider but shes also seen me emotionally vulnerable and I'll elaborate on it a bit. My wife has only seen me break down and cry 3 times. The first time was when we had a miscarriage. I sobbed because I grieved and mourned for my unborn child. The 2nd time was when a close family member of mine passed away. The 3rd time was when we had our first big fight (and it was a bad one too), and I thought I had destroyed my marriage and lost the woman I love forever. She didn't judge me any of those times, she comforted and reassured me each of those three times. She was understanding and is actually glad I have the ability to do that. It is okay for men to cry but there better be a damned good reason for those tears.
This has been such a wonderful interview. Thank you to both of you REAL MEN. If I may, too, ask..could you ask Nick’s wife to share her story to hear the woman’s, wife and mother’s role? Thank you. 🙏🙏
I think that if you do a recount, you will find that there are many, many women that listen to your podcasts. Your respect for people and your level of common sense is why I keep coming back! Have you caved to kittens yet? I also enjoy your coffee cup collection.
My wife literally just walked by while Nick was saying that the "happy wife, happy life" saying is garbage and he tells his wife when she's wrong. She says, "OK, you're not allowed to listen to Nick anymore!" 😂 Oh man, do I love her!!
When I was a teenager, my mother and father got divorced. During that time period, I was not doing things right. I had faith in Christ but had not yet grown to love him like I do today. I struggled a lot with personal shame because I was acting against my conscience and beliefs. I told myself a lot of rational-lies to justify my behavior. I say this because as I sat in my Dad's truck and we were headed out to do some work, I was thinking less than kind thoughts about him. God must have reached down and smacked me on the head because I had the intrusive thought, “Hey, you are doing a bunch of wrong things, and you are cutting yourself all kinds of breaks. Why are you holding your father to a standard that you yourself are not willing to live. Your Father's human, and he is doing the best that he can right now. So why don't you cut him a break, too?” I decided that day that I would never judge someone on a standard that I wasn't willing to live by and that we all fall short of the glory of God and are all equally in need of atonement. So I forgave my dad in that moment and I have had a good relationship with him ever since.
You guys must read or listen to CS Lewis' "The Need For Chivalry". In there Mr. Lewis gives the most eloquent description of chivalry, which is exactly what Nick was getting at when he was saying a man has to be dangerous.
I hate to say this, but the elephant in the room is that Ryan - the guy literally busting his ass trying to be a better man and learn from other great men, like Mr. Freitas here - still ended up getting the divorce papers from his wife. Twice divorced. Same as Nick's dad who by all accounts was a great father and husband, and yet still went through TWO divorces. Sure, there's probably things these men could've done differently, but it's hard to ignore that there's another side of that coin... The side with double-X chromosomes, devoid of accountability, prone to hypergamy, and subjected to lots of cultural cancer (aka feminism), social media, and other bad influence. Nick has every right to attribute the success of his marriage to the hard work that he and his wife have both put into it. At the same time, his marriage is a phenomenal exception to the vast majority of marriages/relationships out there, Christian or not. An exception that only proves the rule: that most couples have dysfunctional relationships that are either toxic or passionless. Nick was lucky to snag a great girl who was raised right while she was still young and before someone else ruined her. No matter how good of a man you are, you're still rolling the dice with the woman that you choose to be with. Unless you hit the jackpot and find a good one, you'll be walking the minefield. Know the dangers and don't ignore the red flags, fellas. Peace.
You are correct, but you also need to walk away from it understand that you can only control what you can control. Let go of the things you can't control. If it ends because of someone else, YOU know that YOU can walk away knowing YOU did everything that YOU could. But if you dont put that effort, you will always wonder if you could have done things different and better. Also- its not necessarily about being raised right. Ive been married 20 years. (Very dimilar to nick. 18 and 20 married. Him in marines. Deployed back to back for 1st 10 years. 5 kids) Raised a liberal feminist. Reformed, thank God. But its about each person making right choices to constsntly better themselves
@@MrsWarriorRed33med I'm all for personal accountability and putting forth your best effort as a man. The main point I was making was that for most men, no matter how close they are to being the best version of themselves, a lifelong relationship/marriage with a quality woman is completely out of reach simply because most women have been completely corrupted by modern culture/feminism/etc. Good for you for figuring it out with your husband though!
@@itsoktobewhite6377 unfortunately I agree with you most women have been completely corrupted. So have most men. The only thing that we can do is keep speaking up and speaking loud because the more you speak up the more people wake up and then the more people come to your side. Studies show this! Be loud with the truth!
@@MrsWarriorRed33med"let go of things u cant control"...yes and along with that lose half of your lifetime savings in this economy and along with that give a lifetime of child support and alimony. I find it interesting how u ppl kepp telling only men to do 10 more things but not want to ammend the terribly biased laws that are root of all the issues
Good interview. Consultation and conflict resolution. Centuries of experience and wisdom. Honorable men do what they can to come together and communicate the flexible fabric that serves to hold us all together and communicate the needed tools to lift society out of the murk of the swamp that would swallow all.
"One of the finest interviews I continue to watch on this channel. I sincerely appreciate all the effort and work put into delivering quality content. Your dedication and professionalism are truly admirable. Thank you!"
You absolutely ser my spirit free. I was raised in horrific circumstances and was divorced after 24 years and two very sick kids while completing a masters in nursing and having a solid nursing career. I have been verbally berated by my ex through out these years to my sons. My youngest still can't cut me slack and does the same to me now.
This is what I learned growing up in a christian family. Whenever there is a problem just pray. God is in control and if things happen is because he allows it. There is nothing we can do about it. The world is falling apart? Dont worry just pray because at the end of the day we’re going to die anyway.
I agree wholeheartedly on principle. Men need to be encouraged to do what's best for themselves, and build themselves into a man who seeks improvement and excellence for his entire life. HOWEVER and it's a big however, what this message is putting forth, in effect, is teaching metaphorically, is the intricacies and detailed techniques of tennis, when in reality, there is and will never be, anyone interested, incentivized, motivated, encouraged, admonished, or in any way, shape or form, molded into remaining a worthy and willing partner on the other side of the net with whom to engage. In other words, tennis, two players, sexual dynamics, two players. One player being molded how to play, the other left to their own devices including whether or not to ever pick up the racket at all. None of this advice or encouragement means anything or is worth a damn when for 99% of men, there will never be one single player who even WANTS to be on the other side based on this set of rules. Like it or not, this is the reality, and no amount of even the best intentioned support and encouragement for males will do anything while the other half is nearly completely empowered and encouraged and indeed CELEBRATED for doing anything BUT being a willing participant in this endeavor. Study after study, poll after poll, survey after survey.... marriage aged women do not value and are not interested in any of this by and large into the 90th percentile regarding families, having kids, being wives, being part of a man's life in any way. Summary: I agree, I feel this is a net good, and a necessary message to for all males to hear and to heed. What's missing is the harsh but inevitable reality that the other half of this dynamic in today's world are simply not going to willingly take part in this interaction. There is almost no reason for them to do so, and almost every reason for them to not engage with men who live this way. In short, you're admonishing and encouraging the one side, but given there is virtually nothing approaching the same degree of incentive for females, this is an endeavor that will simply fall far short of purported outcomes, not because it's faulty or ill-advised, but because there are two halves of humankind, and the other half is just not engaging with society on these terms anymore, and has not been for some decades. P.S. Test my hypothesis: Get your wives on with you and put out a video titled "Are You Good At Being A Woman" and see what happens.
Yep, I agree completely. Left a similar comment a minute ago. Women can do whatever and get away with it, often cheered on by their toxic feminist girlfriends. Zero standards or accountability for women. But as a man, you're in the endless rat race to "better yourself." As usual, "girls just wanna have fun" - it doesn't matter if she calls herself Christian or not. I've seen plenty of them "good church-going girls" on the dating apps looking for "fun" because they're bored of their husbands.
I'm not interested in stepping up for this society anymore. I'll simply step aside and take care of my family / immediate community but the West can burn for all I care at this point.
Youre telling me that I am a failure. And I agree. Ive applied for more than 750 jobs since 8/23 with no results. Some are advanced, along experience lines I have. Most are "no pulse required." I want my wife to stay home with our daughter, but shes the one with the ability to make 90k/yr
The part about I have to be a man so she can be a woman is bs. There is a no accountability for women precedent set that destroys families. We are accountable for everything and she just has to show up.
BS. God wants warriors not defeatists. I am so sick of its all in God's hands. Faith without works is dead. The apostles were out there in enemy territory every day preaching the Word. All but John died horrible deaths. They never backed down and never shut down.
I feel bad for people who are coming to this knucklehead looking for the definition of manliness. This guy is just limited. Hes a good guy, hes just limited.
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We got married at 15 and was married 35 years till he passed away. Don't regret a minute of it.
Oh my gosh, Ma'am. I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm also glad I stumbled on your comment. My wife was 16 when we got together and I have no reason to believe she won't be there to handle my funeral. You post is sad but sweet at the same time. G-d bless you, Ma'am.
Sorry for your loss! But your commitment to your husband during your youthful years just seems incredible these days. That part is really impressive!
This is great advice guys! I've taken everything you both have said to heart. My wife and daughter has seen me already as the protector and provider but shes also seen me emotionally vulnerable and I'll elaborate on it a bit.
My wife has only seen me break down and cry 3 times. The first time was when we had a miscarriage. I sobbed because I grieved and mourned for my unborn child. The 2nd time was when a close family member of mine passed away. The 3rd time was when we had our first big fight (and it was a bad one too), and I thought I had destroyed my marriage and lost the woman I love forever.
She didn't judge me any of those times, she comforted and reassured me each of those three times. She was understanding and is actually glad I have the ability to do that. It is okay for men to cry but there better be a damned good reason for those tears.
Amen. Literally the same story here
Two great Podcasters speaking about what they love, how to build up the family. Thank you gents.
This has been such a wonderful interview. Thank you to both of you REAL MEN. If I may, too, ask..could you ask Nick’s wife to share her story to hear the woman’s, wife and mother’s role? Thank you. 🙏🙏
I think that if you do a recount, you will find that there are many, many women that listen to your podcasts. Your respect for people and your level of common sense is why I keep coming back!
Have you caved to kittens yet?
I also enjoy your coffee cup collection.
💯
My wife literally just walked by while Nick was saying that the "happy wife, happy life" saying is garbage and he tells his wife when she's wrong.
She says, "OK, you're not allowed to listen to Nick anymore!" 😂
Oh man, do I love her!!
When I was a teenager, my mother and father got divorced. During that time period, I was not doing things right. I had faith in Christ but had not yet grown to love him like I do today. I struggled a lot with personal shame because I was acting against my conscience and beliefs. I told myself a lot of rational-lies to justify my behavior. I say this because as I sat in my Dad's truck and we were headed out to do some work, I was thinking less than kind thoughts about him. God must have reached down and smacked me on the head because I had the intrusive thought, “Hey, you are doing a bunch of wrong things, and you are cutting yourself all kinds of breaks. Why are you holding your father to a standard that you yourself are not willing to live. Your Father's human, and he is doing the best that he can right now. So why don't you cut him a break, too?” I decided that day that I would never judge someone on a standard that I wasn't willing to live by and that we all fall short of the glory of God and are all equally in need of atonement. So I forgave my dad in that moment and I have had a good relationship with him ever since.
You guys must read or listen to CS Lewis' "The Need For Chivalry". In there Mr. Lewis gives the most eloquent description of chivalry, which is exactly what Nick was getting at when he was saying a man has to be dangerous.
I hate to say this, but the elephant in the room is that Ryan - the guy literally busting his ass trying to be a better man and learn from other great men, like Mr. Freitas here - still ended up getting the divorce papers from his wife. Twice divorced. Same as Nick's dad who by all accounts was a great father and husband, and yet still went through TWO divorces. Sure, there's probably things these men could've done differently, but it's hard to ignore that there's another side of that coin... The side with double-X chromosomes, devoid of accountability, prone to hypergamy, and subjected to lots of cultural cancer (aka feminism), social media, and other bad influence.
Nick has every right to attribute the success of his marriage to the hard work that he and his wife have both put into it. At the same time, his marriage is a phenomenal exception to the vast majority of marriages/relationships out there, Christian or not. An exception that only proves the rule: that most couples have dysfunctional relationships that are either toxic or passionless. Nick was lucky to snag a great girl who was raised right while she was still young and before someone else ruined her.
No matter how good of a man you are, you're still rolling the dice with the woman that you choose to be with. Unless you hit the jackpot and find a good one, you'll be walking the minefield. Know the dangers and don't ignore the red flags, fellas. Peace.
You are correct, but you also need to walk away from it understand that you can only control what you can control.
Let go of the things you can't control.
If it ends because of someone else, YOU know that YOU can walk away knowing YOU did everything that YOU could.
But if you dont put that effort, you will always wonder if you could have done things different and better.
Also- its not necessarily about being raised right.
Ive been married 20 years. (Very dimilar to nick. 18 and 20 married. Him in marines. Deployed back to back for 1st 10 years. 5 kids) Raised a liberal feminist.
Reformed, thank God. But its about each person making right choices to constsntly better themselves
@@MrsWarriorRed33med I'm all for personal accountability and putting forth your best effort as a man. The main point I was making was that for most men, no matter how close they are to being the best version of themselves, a lifelong relationship/marriage with a quality woman is completely out of reach simply because most women have been completely corrupted by modern culture/feminism/etc.
Good for you for figuring it out with your husband though!
@@itsoktobewhite6377 unfortunately I agree with you most women have been completely corrupted. So have most men. The only thing that we can do is keep speaking up and speaking loud because the more you speak up the more people wake up and then the more people come to your side. Studies show this!
Be loud with the truth!
@@MrsWarriorRed33med"let go of things u cant control"...yes and along with that lose half of your lifetime savings in this economy and along with that give a lifetime of child support and alimony.
I find it interesting how u ppl kepp telling only men to do 10 more things but not want to ammend the terribly biased laws that are root of all the issues
@@NoOne-kx7zs you people? You dont know me, what I have done, or been through.
How beautiful a listen this was. Thank you!
Good interview. Consultation and conflict resolution. Centuries of experience and wisdom. Honorable men do what they can to come together and communicate the flexible fabric that serves to hold us all together and communicate the needed tools to lift society out of the murk of the swamp that would swallow all.
"One of the finest interviews I continue to watch on this channel. I sincerely appreciate all the effort and work put into delivering quality content. Your dedication and professionalism are truly admirable. Thank you!"
You absolutely ser my spirit free. I was raised in horrific circumstances and was divorced after 24 years and two very sick kids while completing a masters in nursing and having a solid nursing career. I have been verbally berated by my ex through out these years to my sons. My youngest still can't cut me slack and does the same to me now.
This is what I learned growing up in a christian family. Whenever there is a problem just pray. God is in control and if things happen is because he allows it. There is nothing we can do about it. The world is falling apart? Dont worry just pray because at the end of the day we’re going to die anyway.
So it doesn't matter if you pray because God's going to do what he wants anyways?
Sounds like people avoiding responsibility. Not religious in any term.
you had a weird Christian family
You have interesting profile picture 🤔
It started going downhill in 1969..or so
Thank you both for sharing, amazing conversation, glad i was able to catch this one!
I agree wholeheartedly on principle. Men need to be encouraged to do what's best for themselves, and build themselves into a man who seeks improvement and excellence for his entire life.
HOWEVER and it's a big however, what this message is putting forth, in effect, is teaching metaphorically, is the intricacies and detailed techniques of tennis, when in reality, there is and will never be, anyone interested, incentivized, motivated, encouraged, admonished, or in any way, shape or form, molded into remaining a worthy and willing partner on the other side of the net with whom to engage. In other words, tennis, two players, sexual dynamics, two players. One player being molded how to play, the other left to their own devices including whether or not to ever pick up the racket at all.
None of this advice or encouragement means anything or is worth a damn when for 99% of men, there will never be one single player who even WANTS to be on the other side based on this set of rules.
Like it or not, this is the reality, and no amount of even the best intentioned support and encouragement for males will do anything while the other half is nearly completely empowered and encouraged and indeed CELEBRATED for doing anything BUT being a willing participant in this endeavor. Study after study, poll after poll, survey after survey.... marriage aged women do not value and are not interested in any of this by and large into the 90th percentile regarding families, having kids, being wives, being part of a man's life in any way.
Summary: I agree, I feel this is a net good, and a necessary message to for all males to hear and to heed. What's missing is the harsh but inevitable reality that the other half of this dynamic in today's world are simply not going to willingly take part in this interaction. There is almost no reason for them to do so, and almost every reason for them to not engage with men who live this way. In short, you're admonishing and encouraging the one side, but given there is virtually nothing approaching the same degree of incentive for females, this is an endeavor that will simply fall far short of purported outcomes, not because it's faulty or ill-advised, but because there are two halves of humankind, and the other half is just not engaging with society on these terms anymore, and has not been for some decades.
P.S. Test my hypothesis: Get your wives on with you and put out a video titled "Are You Good At Being A Woman" and see what happens.
Yep, I agree completely. Left a similar comment a minute ago. Women can do whatever and get away with it, often cheered on by their toxic feminist girlfriends. Zero standards or accountability for women. But as a man, you're in the endless rat race to "better yourself."
As usual, "girls just wanna have fun" - it doesn't matter if she calls herself Christian or not. I've seen plenty of them "good church-going girls" on the dating apps looking for "fun" because they're bored of their husbands.
Yes I am.
Nick Freitas: born in 1979, living like it’s 1959
Vulnerability meaning you describes for what women need is correct!
Most importantly- a biblical narrative
Watching this reminds me of how much work God and I need to do on me.
My husband's saying. He is responsible for the house & I am responsible for the home.
Great conversation guys
Lack of husbands in their child's lives is half the problem.
The prisons are full because of this one thing.
I'm not interested in stepping up for this society anymore. I'll simply step aside and take care of my family / immediate community but the West can burn for all I care at this point.
Same Here
Youre telling me that I am a failure. And I agree.
Ive applied for more than 750 jobs since 8/23 with no results. Some are advanced, along experience lines I have. Most are "no pulse required."
I want my wife to stay home with our daughter, but shes the one with the ability to make 90k/yr
Keep up the work brother, you'll be successful if you don't give up
The part about I have to be a man so she can be a woman is bs. There is a no accountability for women precedent set that destroys families. We are accountable for everything and she just has to show up.
My ex never supported my mothering or my career to my kids come to find out behind my back and it clearly was destructive.
🥰🥰🥰
I wanna have new kids. Mine are in their 20s.
No im not good at even being a human being...
BS. God wants warriors not defeatists.
I am so sick of its all in God's hands.
Faith without works is dead.
The apostles were out there in enemy territory every day preaching the Word. All but John died horrible deaths. They never backed down and never shut down.
I feel bad for people who are coming to this knucklehead looking for the definition of manliness. This guy is just limited. Hes a good guy, hes just limited.
Whats your view on the topic?
So they both divorsed twice
Don't throw shade & brush off what you *could learn* to *NOT do* or you'll end up in the same boat.
she was never yours it was just your turn....never should have given them equal freedom
To be honest, who says we as men are supposed to protect. We are not guard dogs
Wow.
When a person threatens you that they will kill everybody you love you won't protect?
You know men are faster and stronger than women, right?
No one needs to say it. It is a natural male inclination.
Or rather, no one should need to say it.
If you're not protecting your woman when shit hits the fan you're a failure
God
Are guys who never joined the services exempt from being a man?
No, not at all