The subconscious is always listening. If you try you’re telling your brain you can’t. It will never happen. “Get rich or die trying” is written like that for a reason.
@@Laurel-h6c I learned to just tell myself to shut up out loud as soon as I hear the negative thoughts or the opposite of what I hear, and It works I hear nothing. If you don’t say anything you’re accepting it.
Thank you. Had lots of offers for people to do editing, better thumbnails to make my channel 'more professional' - not my aim at all. What you see is what you get - apart from sometimes I have broken off for a break from gardening and am wearing my total scruffs trousers - just a clean top! Did record once wearing PJ trousers when I wasn't well - at least that was inside! D
I came home in tears from my (ex) math tutor thinking that I'll fail my final exams and I saw the title of the video and laughed so hard 😭 anyway my life is falling apart
Thank you Dee. A very wise lady once told me if I was ever anxious or dreading anything.....job interview, exam, funeral....think about it in sections....don't think about things as one massive awful thing but divide it up in your head into manageable sections. So similar to what you have suggested about helping a child negotiate writing a story when it seems they are facing a piece of paper as a mountain of snow.....split it up into chunks. I love this advice. Thank you. Going to use it to help my son with his history homework that he is panicking about! I look forward to your videos and your calm and gentle voice. Thank you. ❤
Thank you ... yes it makes things more approachable. I liken SMART targets, chunking is like having lots and lots of steps to climb. Ugh. But if you break that climb into sections with break points and maybe a drink or ice cream .. more doable for we mere mortals! D
Thank you. My special needs adult daughter lives with us. I know that tasks all need to be broken down into manageable pieces for success. I used that method when I worked. I haven’t used that method in my personal life and set too many impossible personal goals. Then I am discouraged when fail. This was a good reminder to not only have goals but to develop clear plans to accomplish them.
@@Cheshirelass various ages, all adults. It’s an employability course to help currently unemployed people getting more successful in their job search strategies. At the end of the course it’s common practice to help them create a simple plan for the next steps, using the STAR method. I thought that this time instead of simply discussing the method or show them a typical corporate video on this topic, I’d show your video. I liked it because you apply it to more general aspect of life, not specifically to work-related goals, and this is exactly what made them love it. When commenting on the video, they often repeated your invitation to “stop trying”. I think you’ve positively influenced many of them today.
I love hearing advice from our elders, they lived life, struggled and over came so much and they have much positive adbice to give. I wish i ran across your channel much sooner. Thank you.
Double whammy there .. the 'Will' isn't negative but putting your start point somewhere in future ... even better is I am doing this ... starting from now. Say it out loud as you look in the mirror. Unless you are using smart targets when you will have set a start date for whatever you intend to do. Well done You!! D
Hi Dee I am dealing with health problems. It is overwhelming because it's multiple issues hitting me at once. This is very helpful, no trying now. I will Do thank you
Thank you Dee..felt quite low this morning due to my circumstances…but you have cheered me up and given me inspiration, by not using the word trying….and thinking in a different way..❤
This is something I have been working on doing consistently. It works for some things very easily while others I find myself slipping. Very good pep talk to start my day. Take care.
My mind is my worst enemy. I have severe ocd and suffer from terrible intrusive thoughts all throughout the day. It’s literally debilitating my heart is shattered. I can’t stop thinking 24 7.
You poor thing. Overthinking and OCD are exhausting! I have struggled with my mental health as well over the years. I recommend taking magnesium at night to help you sleep, I also highly recommend Omega 3 with EPA and DHA which is really beneficial for our mental health (I have just started taking that myself). You may need to check with your doctor first if on other medication but I'm sure it will be fine. Meditation, yoga and walks can also do wonders. And getting therapeutic support as Dee suggested. All of the best to you!
hey!! I struggled with this about 2 years ago. it was very sudden and almost felt like it came out of nowhere once I moved out of my parents place to live on my own, most of the ocd I experienced was intrusive thoughts. I quickly worked with a therapist and we discovered that a lot of it stemmed from feeling "not in control of my own actions and thoughts" since I lived in a traditional household that instilled no self confidence In my own ability to be responsible for myself. We did do exposure therapy ( i highly highly recommend doing this) and worked on self limiting beliefs hand in hand, I still get some thoughts (as we all do and it is normal) and if a thought gets stuck I just do the exposure therapy on my own and it goes away, at the end of the day, they're just thoughts, every single one of them "good" or "bad" are nothing but a circuit of electrical signals in your brain, they are NOT real. moral of the story: exposure therapy, and self limiting beliefs. BELIEVE that you are capable of change.
^ first thing to reflect on, being kinder to yourself and your mind, it is not your enemy, it is simply a TOOL that you can shape any way you want with continuous effort and the blind faith in your capability love yourself as just you are
Dear Anyoneoutthere89, maybe you can take a look at the teachings of Thich Nhath Hanh. His lessons helped me through my worst depression three years ago. My whole perspective of life changed. His teachings have never left me, and will never leave me, they saved my life. :) Whatever your path is, you will get through this.
Yoda quote....There is no Try. Either do, or do not. Also a poem called The man (one these days) who thinks s/he can. The last line is, "But soon or late the man who wins Is the man who thinks he can. " I like to use the word Intention. I set an intention. Lovely day here 😊❤
You have NO idea how much I connect with your words, your voice, your videos, your energy. It’s just…exactly what I need, exactly WHEN I need it. I’m so glad you were sent to me at this moment in my life. 🤍🥰 so much peace and love coming back your way.
Hello Dee. I found your videos in the last 2 days, and wanted to let you know that im pleasently affected by them, even more considering my Mother past away almost a year ago , and you make me remember her a lot, because you both have the most beatiful soul ever, and truly resonated with me alot. So please keep doing your videos, cause as same as my Mother.. You truly are much loved. God Bless You!!
I have been watching so many self help videos to motivate myself to do an assignment. Your video spoke directly to my soul. Thank you Dee. Your message was very inspirational and powerful. I am going to achieve my goal today. Much love. ❤
Hi Dee🦋 your message today is spot on with my timing…. I actually set a program of wellbeing IN PROGRESS 😁 instead of telling myself I MUST TRY these past months 🤷♀️ little changes make great differences, a bit at a time… lovely message… and wellbeing blessings to you my lovely thank you 🦋🥰🌺🙏
I needed to hear this, I’m very much stuck in the trying mindset and just need to do it (failure or not) ✨💕 I’ll work on a vision board tonight to keep my inspiration flowing to just do it rather than “try” or attempt” :3 thank you for your wisdoms
Hi Dee, Great message today...I like the idea of taking the word "trying" out of my thought process. I have a manifestation board...reminder of goals I would like to achieve. Thank you.
Thank you for your beautiful words of inspiration to enjoy meditate over with morning coffee in the garden. Im 8 months out of a 22 year marriage ex uk services too, and been busy since nov been renovating before and during seperation. Your old video on plaster exposed beams made me giggle as had also been renovating bathroom plastering over artex etc, us women can do anything. Its a bit more challenging with my previous work background in support services not to apply such outreach methods when dealing with my ex but getting there, prioritising ones needs is very important 😊 💐 love from Scotland x
When I realised the amount of times I was saying I am trying, I began to think it had a negative connotation, meaning I was doing things in my own strength and not having faith
Thank you again for videos ,resonates with me again,i keep trying to keep everyone happy ,which is impossible ,always feeling overwhelmed and stressed ,down ,but also trying to do my best getting my son into a special needs school and the support he needs ,so it's that journey i'm concentrating on x
Not easy to get support for additional/special educational needs. It takes a lot of energy standing up for your son. I was a special needs advisory teacher before retirement so am aware of the many hoops in your way. Keep strong. D
Trying to get my head round that - unless you are seeing 'failure' as simply a way of not doing something - so, in fact, a good place for moving on from. D
The subconscious is always listening. If you try you’re telling your brain you can’t. It will never happen. “Get rich or die trying” is written like that for a reason.
I know. My inner voice is always tripping me up with fear of failure. I need to find that off button.
@@Laurel-h6c I learned to just tell myself to shut up out loud as soon as I hear the negative thoughts or the opposite of what I hear, and It works I hear nothing. If you don’t say anything you’re accepting it.
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❤ it’s hard to stop sometimes.. but this is so true
I love how you just record your content in one take, no editing, no fakeness. Just a real human sharing thoughts and trying to help.
Thank you. Had lots of offers for people to do editing, better thumbnails to make my channel 'more professional' - not my aim at all. What you see is what you get - apart from sometimes I have broken off for a break from gardening and am wearing my total scruffs trousers - just a clean top! Did record once wearing PJ trousers when I wasn't well - at least that was inside! D
Your such a graceful women and a breath of fresh air in this world
Agreed! ❤❤❤
I read a quote yesterday - “a goal that is not written down is just a dream“ and that seems to be true!
I want to be a person like you. You make me believe that great humans are still on our planet ❤ thank you for posting these videos
Thank you - you are very kind. D
“Our minds need very clean messages.” (AKA Clear and direct messages.) I like that and I can understand how that is important. Thank you!
Absolutely! D
I came home in tears from my (ex) math tutor thinking that I'll fail my final exams and I saw the title of the video and laughed so hard 😭 anyway my life is falling apart
Prove him wrong! Don't 'try' rather tell yourself that you will do your best and give it your best shot! Go for it. D
"Do or do not. There is no try."
- Yoda
Yoda Jedi Master said
" Do or do not.
There is no try " 😊
May the force be with you.
@@ItsCAKESMa " And also with you ."
Morning Dee. Thank you for the encouraging message and challenge. Blessings to you Dee
Thank you Dee. A very wise lady once told me if I was ever anxious or dreading anything.....job interview, exam, funeral....think about it in sections....don't think about things as one massive awful thing but divide it up in your head into manageable sections. So similar to what you have suggested about helping a child negotiate writing a story when it seems they are facing a piece of paper as a mountain of snow.....split it up into chunks. I love this advice. Thank you. Going to use it to help my son with his history homework that he is panicking about! I look forward to your videos and your calm and gentle voice. Thank you. ❤
Thank you ... yes it makes things more approachable. I liken SMART targets, chunking is like having lots and lots of steps to climb. Ugh. But if you break that climb into sections with break points and maybe a drink or ice cream .. more doable for we mere mortals! D
@@CheshirelassHow right you are, Dee! Thank you. Yes, we mere mortals need to take one step at a time sometimes, don't we?! 😊❤
Thank you. My special needs adult daughter lives with us. I know that tasks all need to be broken down into manageable pieces for success. I used that method when I worked. I haven’t used that method in my personal life and set too many impossible personal goals. Then I am discouraged when fail. This was a good reminder to not only have goals but to develop clear plans to accomplish them.
Isn't it funny how so many of us pigeon hole things .. including strategies into work/ personal. You are far from alone in this one, D
I needed this message. I am the queen of “trying”. However, now, with your inspiration, I will start “doing”. Thank You Dee!
My pleasure D
Thank you so much Dee - For being you and for sharing it all with us through out ❤ thank you
this was like a balm to my heart, from the bottom of my heart thank you
My pleasure. D
Just shown this video in class. The students loved it. Thank you Dee!💐
What age are your students? Retired teacher here. That really was lovely to hear. Thank you so much. D
@@Cheshirelass various ages, all adults. It’s an employability course to help currently unemployed people getting more successful in their job search strategies. At the end of the course it’s common practice to help them create a simple plan for the next steps, using the STAR method. I thought that this time instead of simply discussing the method or show them a typical corporate video on this topic, I’d show your video. I liked it because you apply it to more general aspect of life, not specifically to work-related goals, and this is exactly what made them love it. When commenting on the video, they often repeated your invitation to “stop trying”. I think you’ve positively influenced many of them today.
I love hearing advice from our elders, they lived life, struggled and over came so much and they have much positive adbice to give. I wish i ran across your channel much sooner. Thank you.
Glad you found us! D
I say , “I will try” so much, no wonder I often feel so defeated. Thank you for the eye opener. I will do this😀
Double whammy there .. the 'Will' isn't negative but putting your start point somewhere in future ... even better is I am doing this ... starting from now. Say it out loud as you look in the mirror. Unless you are using smart targets when you will have set a start date for whatever you intend to do. Well done You!! D
Thank you for your message. I understand. I need to change my personality of worrying more and more when I worry.
You can do it! I too am a worrier so have to bring myself to a halt when it happens. D
Another one is "can't"... I grew up with the saying, "Can't means won't!" Brings it back to choice, your choice, your power 💛💫🌟🫶
Yes. Absolutely D
Hi Dee I am dealing with health problems. It is overwhelming because it's multiple issues hitting me at once. This is very helpful, no trying now. I will Do thank you
Take care . Prioritise first, then do what you need to do. Take care .. It is hard when things come winging your way at the same time. D
“Do or do not. There is no try.” -Master Yoda to Luke Skywalker
Good morning. This video comes at a perfect time. Yesterday evening I set my mind, I wanted to sleep well and wake up early. And I did it
I needed this talk today. You are spot on. ❤xx
Thank you Dee..felt quite low this morning due to my circumstances…but you have cheered me up and given me inspiration, by not using the word trying….and thinking in a different way..❤
Take care D
Thank you, Dee! I enjoy every video with you!
Have a lovely day Dee.
I have given up trying to weed the garden this summer. I believe they are very good for the soil and eco system 😊
This is something I have been working on doing consistently. It works for some things very easily while others I find myself slipping. Very good pep talk to start my day. Take care.
True. For me very much affected by how much I like/dislike a task or how important I feel any changes are for me to make etc D
Thank you Dee! Wise words.❤
My mind is my worst enemy. I have severe ocd and suffer from terrible intrusive thoughts all throughout the day. It’s literally debilitating my heart is shattered. I can’t stop thinking 24 7.
I hope that you have therapeutic support to help you. Take care. D
You poor thing. Overthinking and OCD are exhausting! I have struggled with my mental health as well over the years. I recommend taking magnesium at night to help you sleep, I also highly recommend Omega 3 with EPA and DHA which is really beneficial for our mental health (I have just started taking that myself). You may need to check with your doctor first if on other medication but I'm sure it will be fine. Meditation, yoga and walks can also do wonders. And getting therapeutic support as Dee suggested. All of the best to you!
hey!! I struggled with this about 2 years ago. it was very sudden and almost felt like it came out of nowhere once I moved out of my parents place to live on my own, most of the ocd I experienced was intrusive thoughts. I quickly worked with a therapist and we discovered that a lot of it stemmed from feeling "not in control of my own actions and thoughts" since I lived in a traditional household that instilled no self confidence In my own ability to be responsible for myself. We did do exposure therapy ( i highly highly recommend doing this) and worked on self limiting beliefs hand in hand, I still get some thoughts (as we all do and it is normal) and if a thought gets stuck I just do the exposure therapy on my own and it goes away, at the end of the day, they're just thoughts, every single one of them "good" or "bad" are nothing but a circuit of electrical signals in your brain, they are NOT real. moral of the story: exposure therapy, and self limiting beliefs. BELIEVE that you are capable of change.
^ first thing to reflect on, being kinder to yourself and your mind, it is not your enemy, it is simply a TOOL that you can shape any way you want with continuous effort and the blind faith in your capability love yourself as just you are
Dear Anyoneoutthere89, maybe you can take a look at the teachings of Thich Nhath Hanh. His lessons helped me through my worst depression three years ago. My whole perspective of life changed. His teachings have never left me, and will never leave me, they saved my life. :)
Whatever your path is, you will get through this.
Iʼm going through a hard time peiod but your videos always find me in a right time. Thanks for your wisdom
Take care. D
every video you make has it's own unique wisdom, so grateful to have come across your channel :))
Thank you for that and for checking out my videos. D
Yoda quote....There is no Try. Either do, or do not. Also a poem called The man (one these days) who thinks s/he can. The last line is, "But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can. " I like to use the word Intention. I set an intention. Lovely day here 😊❤
You have NO idea how much I connect with your words, your voice, your videos, your energy. It’s just…exactly what I need, exactly WHEN I need it. I’m so glad you were sent to me at this moment in my life. 🤍🥰 so much peace and love coming back your way.
Hello Dee. I found your videos in the last 2 days, and wanted to let you know that im pleasently affected by them, even more considering my Mother past away almost a year ago , and you make me remember her a lot, because you both have the most beatiful soul ever, and truly resonated with me alot. So please keep doing your videos, cause as same as my Mother.. You truly are much loved. God Bless You!!
Thank you Ma . I once heard that “trying is a subtle way of failing”
Wise words D
I have been watching so many self help videos to motivate myself to do an assignment. Your video spoke directly to my soul. Thank you Dee. Your message was very inspirational and powerful.
I am going to achieve my goal today.
Much love. ❤
Well said you. Don't forget to reward yourself at completion. D
Love your videos, take care!!!! They are super inspirational
Glad you like them! D
Hi Dee🦋 your message today is spot on with my timing…. I actually set a program of wellbeing IN PROGRESS 😁 instead of telling myself I MUST TRY these past months 🤷♀️ little changes make great differences, a bit at a time… lovely message… and wellbeing blessings to you my lovely thank you 🦋🥰🌺🙏
My pleasure and I hope that you have a positive outcome to the wellbeing program. D
It’s profoundly simple! “Trying” almost guarantees you won’t do it. For the next couple of weeks I will stop saying “trying” ❤️.
Another brilliant video. I feel empowered! What we tell ourselves is so important. What you tell us is more so! We can rely on you. Thank you Dee ❤❤❤
Thank you too. D
I needed to hear this, I’m very much stuck in the trying mindset and just need to do it (failure or not) ✨💕 I’ll work on a vision board tonight to keep my inspiration flowing to just do it rather than “try” or attempt” :3 thank you for your wisdoms
Don't overload the board and also prioritise otherwise it is simply a dream board.
Thank you so much for every video nd for existing. We love you. 🌸✨️
watched alot of videos just now thank you mam.
Brilliant and simply explained 👍 Today I decided I am going to listen to another of Dee's videos, and I'm glad I did 😊
There are plenty for you to check out in my playlists! D
A powerful message! Thank you❤
Growing up my mom always told me never try but do.
Dee, I don’t know where you have been in your past ,but I’m thankful for your words in this dark time in my life.❤ Step by step
Hi Dee, Great message today...I like the idea of taking the word "trying" out of my thought process. I have a manifestation board...reminder of goals I would like to achieve. Thank you.
Good for you. There was a book .. many years ago now .. called the power of positive thinking. It does make a difference D
Thank you for your beautiful words of inspiration to enjoy meditate over with morning coffee in the garden. Im 8 months out of a 22 year marriage ex uk services too, and been busy since nov been renovating before and during seperation. Your old video on plaster exposed beams made me giggle as had also been renovating bathroom plastering over artex etc, us women can do anything.
Its a bit more challenging with my previous work background in support services not to apply such outreach methods when dealing with my ex but getting there, prioritising ones needs is very important 😊 💐 love from Scotland x
Take care ... and well done for being a doer too! D
All I can say is THANK YOU DEE!!!
♥️🦜♥️
When I realised the amount of times I was saying I am trying, I began to think it had a negative connotation, meaning I was doing things in my own strength and not having faith
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Good advice ✨👌Thank you ☺️
Food for thought. Thank you Dee for another inspiring msg. Have a lovely blessed day!🙏🙏🙏 everyone e
You have such a beautiful soul! Thank you so much 💗
Thank you!😊
Thank you ma'am, I need that encouragement. ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊
You are so welcome D
You are a beautiful human being and I'm very thankful for your words :)
You are so welcome D
Thank you. ❤ very wise words as always!
Yes setting clear intentions..
Very good and helpful advice,well presented with sincerity. I needed this. Thank you.
A lovely message Dee,to boost my personal goals for today that I have had simmering on the back burner…. Well one or two at least!🦋🌸🦋x
Thank you so much, I can see your wings 🪽
Chuckling. D
Hello Dee, I’m so glad I found you! You are incredibly inspiring , genuine, and kind. Thank you for sharing 💕🌻
You are so welcome - I am now blushing D
Perfect advice Dee
Oh the weeds have definitely got one up on me lol. You are right about trying. I didn’t think about it like that before!
Your voice is so calming, makes me so happy 💗
Thank you Dee🔝🐐
'Doing', your very best.
Thank u so much dee! Your words are really precious and I have already felt them in my life
Thank you ! 💗
Thank you again for videos ,resonates with me again,i keep trying to keep everyone happy ,which is impossible ,always feeling overwhelmed and stressed ,down ,but also trying to do my best getting my son into a special needs school and the support he needs ,so it's that journey i'm concentrating on x
Not easy to get support for additional/special educational needs. It takes a lot of energy standing up for your son. I was a special needs advisory teacher before retirement so am aware of the many hoops in your way. Keep strong. D
@Cheshirelass Thank you Dee 💗
I agree D stop trying and start doing 😊
Absolutely. D
Thank you friend❤
thankyou for this perspective, i am going to do it 💯
You're welcome! D
Thank you Dee. This is a beautiful video and a helpful message that arrived just at the right time. ❤ Sending gratitude your way ❤
Like a vision board
You are beautiful! Thanks for the message. 💛
You are welcome D
This came at the perfect timing. Thank you❤
شكرا لك جدتي
الاستماع إليك يجلب الي الطمأنينة 🤗🪷🍃
My pleasure D
Stop trying and get busy doing!
Do or do not. There is no try.
Wait tgus is crazy, i love all your video's specially the" let them " one 😭❤️ stay blessed. U deserve to be a real life granda
Thanks Dee! Found this really helpful 😊
Good Point!
Thank you.
😍
Thanks Dee
You're the best, I love you, have a wonderful day, an amazing week, and a great weekend !
Thank you. D
God bless everyone
REAL LIFE INTERNET GRANDMA❤️ILY
Dee! You’re a wonderful person - thank you for being here ❤❤❤
You are very kind. D
Vision board is what you were referring to. Ty 4 all u do 😊😊😊
Thank you - could we please have a link with you to cue me when I'm recording!! D
thanks dee, you are a gracious lady
Thank you. D
Do or do not, there is no try ☝🏼
when a person makes himself, he stars to open TH-cam channels and share his grate speech for living
Thank you ❤
i feel like the place I want to start with right now is failure. so, "start with failure" and let that be ok, in fact, let it be the goal, but finish
Trying to get my head round that - unless you are seeing 'failure' as simply a way of not doing something - so, in fact, a good place for moving on from. D
@@Cheshirelass i guess to fail at pleasing others or meeting my own aspirations but to be happy just be doing something without fear
Much needed 🥺 thank you!
You rock!
Thank you! D
Beautiful word 🤍 thanks Dee!!!