Omg this video its so perfect!!! Thank you so much!! This really inspires me to go look for change. Im moving out to another city soon, and i have this idea to vlog the process of adapting my SEO to that city and starting to advertise again and all that general grind...and im too sooooo anxious about vlogging!! I dont even usually take selfies! But seeing the process like this really pumps me up with energy to do so! Love your videos!!
I can't go outside. It's a combination of things. Social anxiety (hate having to talk to people, suck at it; can't do eye contact; can't always hear what people are saying, hate having to ask them to repeat themselves), fear of people staring and laughing (so many windows! they can see me, I can't see them), anxiety over my appearance (trans [out ~13yrs], masculine forehead; asymmetrical face, funny mandible [TMD]; yellow, messed-up teeth; rash, possibly psoriasis; hair looks meh; makeup skills suboptimal; marks from skinpicking; not sure about clothes), fear of running into my neighbours, fear of having a meltdown or a panic attack, fear of getting too tired and having to stop (someone my age shouldn't be in this condition), and maybe more. Luckily I'm able to get groceries and medications delivered. My mother always made sure that I'd act neurotypical but it left me with mental scars. Also, I'm a bit of a perfectionist. I haven't seen my psych nurse in months. It is obvious to me that surgery wouldn't fix everything but it would have a huge impact anyway. Not sure what to do. I should see a doctor (if they'll even listen) about my various issues. I can't even make/stay friends online because I'm afraid of rejection and sabotage everything (BPD). I'm 33, from Finland, live alone, and I have no friends anywhere nearby. My parents have helped out but they live far away and tend to have a negative impact on my mental health.
Yes. I actually tried to expose myself after a car accident but I ended up with a second one. 😔 I want to stop my fear of driving :s. I also have fear of trains, go outside and be around many people, public speech. I feel a disaster 😑
Thanks so much for your video! I've suffered with crippling anxiety disorder for 14 years. I quit driving 10 years ago and am getting ready to get my lisence again. This cognitive therapy is tough! Facing fears (along with meds) has really helped. Just a few years ago, I couldn't even go into a store by myself without having a panic attack. Now I can go into a giant WalMart by myself and be okay. It has taken YEARS to get to this point. I don't think a lot of people understand it because they can't see it. I really enjoy your show. Thanks again!
Congratulations to you, Lizzie, on all the hard work you've done! You're absolutely right - so many don't understand how limiting anxiety can be because they just don't see it. It takes courage to do what you've done, to face your fears, and get comfortable being uncomfortable. I really appreciate you sharing your story here and I know it will help others to read it 👏👏👏
There are several factors in natural cures for shyness. One place I discovered that succeeds in merging these is the Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested) it's the no.1 plan that I have ever heard of. look at all the interesting information .
I’m almost 30 years old and recently discovered I’ve had anxiety my whole life due to childhood trauma. I just thought it was normal, now I am doing a lot of unwrapping on myself. I came across your channel and am very grateful to you. Thank you for these videos Doctor Mattu 🙏
I am afraid of talking to strangers and the weird thing is I have to do it every day for my job. It never seems to get any better though. I still get a big adrenaline spike every time I see a person that I'm going to have to talk to. Then after the interaction is over I judge myself for how dumb I sounded.
the fact that you are DOING THE METHODS which you’re teaching in this video is really inspiring and vulnerable. i’ve been suffering of panic disorder for a year now, and i’m finally opening the door to exposure therapy. i’ve seen a lot of therapists gives great advice online and in books, but they rarely put themselves in a situation like this. i’m really grateful for your videos ❤️
This was so unbelievably helpful. Watching you go through each step, whilst filming your insecurities & talking us through your examples, made it so much easier to connect with and digest. I've struggled with social anxiety for most of my life. I was a happy go lucky, talkative child. But middle & high school really did a number on me. Those fears have stuck with me my entire life from that point on. Up until recently, I thought that I was broken and doomed to a life of solidarity. I'm thankful that people have been working towards raising awareness to mental health. Recently I decided I had had enough! My social anxiety had stolen years of my life; a career, friends, meaningful relationships, hopes & dreams. I decided to reach out for help from a therapist a few months back. Its been helpful but I'm really actually looking forward to trying this out. Thank you for your dedication to helping people face & overcome their fears.✌🙂
Based on the research related to this model, exposures don't need to be gradual. You can bounce around someone's hierarchy and that sense of surprise could help improve recall of new memories.
Thanks for the feedback! This video is going to be such a foundational episode for future content that it needed to go long. It seems like TH-cam's algorithm also prefers the longer videos. After making two of my longest videos I wanted to make something that was shorter, which is why my newest video on managing stress is just 90 seconds long. Apparently TH-cam isn't a fan and the video didn't get shown to everyone. So I'll get back to 5 minute, 10 minute, 15 minute videos with the occasional 20 minute + MEGA episode.
Great video! I suffer with social anxiety also. This video and through experience I've come to realise most people are busy living their own lives to even care or notice what I am doing. Subscribed
Man, this is a really nice video to see. I've been struggling with anxiety for a long time. Did my first exposure session last Friday. It's a super scary process, confronting the stuff I've been avoiding all my life. It's nice to see you demonstrating the process in action, you know? Helps make it a bit less scary, I think. :)
I love how you were able to really break down what it truly means to do exposure therapy! Its not enough to just throw yourself in the situation but to be able to dig down deep into how you are feeling. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. My 2020 mantra
Thank you for posting this. Your videos have really reached me. I'm a college student aspiring to teach English to junior high or high school students, and social anxiety has been a continuous hurdle between myself and my goals. It's good to know there are others struggling with this who are able to share positive experiences.
I have a phobia of texting/phone calls because my grandmother guilt-tripped me as a kid for not calling her to thank her for gifts, and because my mom guilts trips me a lot via phone and texting. I think my best bet for exposure therapy will be to communicate with people besides my mom to highlight that my friends and neighbors do not resort to manipulation tactics, thus my very real fear of disappointment and rejection is just an old core belief that no longer serves me. Thanks Doc! For your super awesome self-care journal that you keep in your backpack with the foam-roller on it: You are a very bright light 💡 that this world needs! Thank you for being so brave and showing us that real change IS possible! You are so loved by so many people in this world, and as a community you help us all achieve success! Thanks for all you do! Keep going!!
Mad respect Doctor Ali. I watched another video of yours and you were talking about these steps and I remember feeling overwhelmed by the amount of steps one needs to do. Actually, I remembered that I had a fear of going out anywhere because I used to get extremely disoriented, I would miss the bus, get off at the wrong bus stop and would have to walk in an area that I don't know, be late etc. I used to spend some time practicing going somewhere, anywhere, without an aim just to practice facing some of my fears. It never went away completely though :D The strange thing is that I rarely had problems like this when I was on my layovers abroad (as a flight attendant) and exploring the city.
I also love it that you demonstrated how to actually get rid of anxiety via live video footage. You showed me how to make life better. I wish i could help you out somehow. Thanks.
I'm ready to face my fear of having phone conversations with people I don't know. Part of my new job is to call people I don't know and ask them questions. Avoidance will no longer work, so I will try the exposure techniques in this video. Thank you.
I have developed a pretty severe anxiety disorder from my daily chest and back pains - been checked by doctors multiple times in the ER and they cannot find anything physical happening - they advised that my pains are a result of stress and anxiety and are muscular based - gave me some pain killers (none work for me unfortunately) and advised anti anxiety drugs and therapy. Since these pains started back in early March, I have avoided all the exercise I use to do daily (weights, practicing drumming and playing with the band - and walking) - any physical activity flares the pain up and my biggest fear is I will have a heart attack - because it sure feels like it. So - yesterday I went for a walk and tried to do the normal things I use to do before I got this - about half hour in my walk, my chest started flaring up - I was feeling uncomfortable - but I kept walking - even on inclines which hurt me even more usually - did that, no problem - kept going - now the pain really started and I was hyperventilating pretty bad. But still my biggest fear did not happen. Got home, sat on my deck and felt really, really uncomfortable for 10-15 minutes - achy chest pain and back - painful breathing -I was just waiting to keel over - but nothing happened. Then I started to feel better and couldn't believe I did not pass out. Will do this every day and see if I can rid myself of this horrible condition and anxiety I face on the daily - thank you for posting this very informative video on dealing with anxiety.
Thanks for these contents. I’ve been suffering severe anxiety and panics for four years. I’ve been frustrated if this disaster ever have any cure. It is amazing how much general public don’t know about mental illnesses.
Yayyyy! GREAT ONE Ali! I love that you've updated the science findings and added values/ 'find your why'! I remember feeling many of the same anxiety feelings making my videos. I love how you mixed outdoor and indoor shots. BRAVO!
Dr Ali Mattu, just want to say your channel is awesome! I'm learning so much to overcome my own anxiety and also to help people that I know! Please keep up the good content!
I also have a mantra that helps me and goes like that "If it makes me grow, I will do it anyway". Be it networking in a party, giving a presentation, speaking up in my Master's class, ask a question, etc
Thanks so much! I’m trying as much as possible to show psychology in action instead of talking about it. And I love that mantra -> focusing on growth is a much more healthy approach than avoiding the tough stuff.
Watching you do this was actually pretty inspiring. I have been working on social anxiety for years, and I am finally able to do this kind of work. Seeing therapists do this kind of work is a really powerful tool for me.
OMG THIS IS CRAZY, you just made me realize why my favourite foods are my favourite foods, I had spaghetti bolognese the first time when I was 12 at a really cool pool party with my mom and that became my favourite food because I felt really happy spending time with my mom in a cool place, ANOTHER TIME my best friend and I had chipotle because we saw a famous TH-cam that we loved eat it one time and he loved it, so we had a really good experience eating burritos!!!! You blew my mind dude.
I appreciate you filming your experience with facing your own personal fear. It’s so easy for someone else to say go out there and face your fear. So it’s amazing to see someone say it and do it themselves :)
So awesome that you’re strong and confident enough to make this video. I’m in the healthcare field too and it took several years for me to ease into confiding in friends and then colleges about my anxiety issues. After I did, it was pretty amazing to find out that so many of my friends and colleagues were humans too 😃.
this is so great! I went through a bunch of videos to find one I felt comfortable sharing with clients, and yours felt the most comprehensive, knowledgeable, and engaging! Thanks for making this!
Adnan I had so much more Street Fighter material I had to cut out of this video! I went on a big rant about how Street Fighter is such a great representation of memories because each character is based on basic (stereotyped) associations of the regions they represent...
thank you so much for this video , now i know how to deal with my anxiety , also it's the first time for a while for me to comment on something on social media cuz i always think that my opinion isn't important and that nobody care or i might say something stupid , but from now on these avoidances have to end thanks to you .
This is so helpful, thank you. I started watching the video crying my eyes out, but ended with a smile. I was in a very awkward situation yesterday that caused me so much anxiety that I thought about it till I went to bed. Waking up, my thoughts and fears started raging even more than yesterday, and I had a meltdown. It was worse because I thought I had overcome anxiety, so that situation was very unexpected, and I felt so lost. Maybe I need to resume my drug prescription. I stopped because I significantly improved I took a detailed note of all you've said and will put them to practice
@@drali thank you! Went ok. Social anxiety did not prevent me from talking to many people but I still feel that I was performing/seeking validation. Upside is Im having a good laugh about it with my dear friend Anish who is in the same boat
I love your delivery, your're very easy to listen to and learn from. This is the first video I have watched, it would be helpful if there was a point form or summary in your description when your videos have this many steps. I can't wait to watch more! Thanks!
Your words are a reminder that anxiety is a common struggle, and it's okay to seek help. Thank you for sharing your experience and offering encouragement to those who may be feeling alone. 🤗💪
I always love your content. It's so relatable. I feel like I have so many little fears - social situations, being out of control (my 16 month old kiddo was diagnosed with cancer last month and it has just been way too much to handle), and constant worrying. Side note - you are also one handsome guy. Makes it that much easier to watch your videos! Keep 'em comin'!
I'm so sorry to hear about your child's cancer diagnosis. Worrying, feeling overwhelmed, not knowing what to do, and so many other emotions are very much common in this situation. I hope you have a good medical team and community helping you through this time. If not, I wonder if there is a support group available to parents at your hospital? Thanks for your encouragement and kind words! I'm hoping to turn this video into a series of videos about the different forms of anxiety (social, worries, etc). Stayed tuned! 😀
Omg!This video is so useful.I have social anxiety and I was scared for you,I understand how difficult this vlog was.You are very brave.Thank you so much for motivation!
This is great information! I made myself some worksheets to help me with exposure therapy, based on this video. I have been working on my anxiety for about 1 1/2 years and I have yet to try this. I liked that you broke it down into little steps and you used yourself as an example. I am excited to try this! Thank you
I'm an international student here in Australia studying Engineering and my severe social anxiety just impedes my experience of being a student and I just constantly wonder everyday if ever I'm going to even survive throughout the years, I can't even handle a small conversation from any stranger/teacher.
I absolutely loved this video, thank you so much for this. It came up at the perfect time because as an R&B artist, I have to overcome my stage fright for performances. I'll definitely apply these steps! I have a question, does the interoceptive exposure essentially just prolong the anxiety we feel in our scary moments, to further our exposure to these sensations?
I love your technique and i found another one earlier that i was doubting but now im sure. Thank you. Chemical assisted exposure therapy. Let me explain. Something happened in my 20s that is still going. Stimulants such as coke speed even coffee or tea triggered massive anxiety. Now im using coffee to face my fears. Instead of trying to calm my self down by benzos or drinking. I take stims on purpose to chase after the fear. Ill purposely hyperventilate and overreact to get to the core of the problem. A lot of therapists say avoid things that make you anxious. I now use it as a compass to find my next move. Whatever im afraid of. Ill cause or exacerbate it on purpose. In fact heres another extreme therapy i just thought of this second. Make a list of things you fear. Then masturbate while thinking about those things. If we can get "turned on" by fear instead of being paralyzed by it then it would only help. In a world thats so chaotic and intense To find pleasure in fear would make this planet into a paradise. This is why I like psychedelics. But the right kind of exposure is the key. Half assed exposure can further put u in more trauma. If ur gonna moon. Do a full assed one.
This is exactly what me and my guy were talking about doing. Guess what? We went to the mountains and downtown Disney for me to handle being in crowds and feeling safe during pandemic. I hope it helps me deal with no longer feeling insecure about having anxiety issue in public. My thought is I can gain more independence from my minds assumptions and feel at ease outside again. My life has consisted of going to predictable places during pandemic.
This indeed was a motivating video, which sometime later probably, is going to make me feel guilty if I don't mindfully act on my fears (which seems extremely small yet has an impactful limitation on my goal) and search for reasons behind my defense mechanisms. Thank you for converting your insight into action and making us realize its worth!
Thanks for your comment, Dhruvi! The thing to remember about anxiety and fears is we all have them. They're normal. We also can't work on EVERY fear we have ALL the time. So to pick and choose based on where we are in life and then move forward with compassion for when we have a hard time (like I did on the subway) is the way to go.
wish you could be with me for some days...seeing your video made me calm when i had anxiety/panic attack. i experience heavy breathing & feel choked + upset stomach whenever i get anxiety or panic attack.some how this video made me relaxed.
I appreciate your experience with anxiety. I’m a masters level psychotherapist and deal with anxiety, as well. Thanks for your work. Just so you know, your work is awesome and by my perspective you’re kicking ass. Be well and keep at it.
This has been a big problem for me and social anxiety is getting worse and more severe as I get older. Your videos are excellent and I have written some coping mechanisms you have disclosed. Having call from mental health team hopefully tomorrow!
This is such an amazing video. You are explaining the steps very clearly and I love that for every step you are making a cut to show how you are doing that step yourself I also love that you played streetfighter
I am exactly like this, that's why I don't go out and developed Agoraphobia. My worst problem is breathing, because I get light headedness and breathlessness. I'm glad I found your channel! I hope I can learn more and improve from your advices.
Thank you for this video!! You have inspired me to face my fear. I have the exact fear of seeing my staff or someone I know when I'm at the beach or at a party because I'm far more conservative at work. I'm going to use all your strategies. So helpful you walking us through it with your your fear. Thank you!@
I started getting anxiety about 5 years ago when I switched my career and went on a business trip to the UK which was also the first time that I had traveled out of the US. I felt that the trip caused a lot of pressure on me since I had just switched my career, was new at the company, plus I was traveling with co-workers that I had just met, and I was going to be participating in a hackathon. I was fine on the plane ride, fine for half of the taxi ride, and then started feeling sick. It grew from there and then finally when we reached the office, I had a panic attack and then again in the hotel room until I meditated myself to sleep. Since then I have had a panic attack whenever I travel. It's not the plane ride that gives me the anxiety, I am usually very calm on the plane, it's being away from home that causes it for me. I fear having the panic attack and not knowing how to get help or, if I am in another country, how to go to the hospital. The anxiety has grown and now happens even when I am not traveling. Sometimes I get a panic attack in the middle of the night, before bed, or early in the morning and I am not sure why. I need to try the exposure techniques and learn how to cope with the anxiety and get comfortable being uncomfortable. My stomach is usually in a knot, I can't eat, sleep, and feel sick to my stomach. I had a random panic attack the night before last and my stomach is still not feeling great. I never used to be like this before that first trip overseas. It really sucks.
Being on the other side of a trauma bond, I can definitely say that habituation makes us comfortable with even some of the most horrible things. Now I have anxiety around relationships. My anxiety convinces me that it’s protecting me. when, in reality it may somewhat be protecting me, but it’s definitely more isolating me. I guess I could work out some exposure and show myself that I can also protect myself when needed.
Do you have a fear you are trying to overcome?
Yess I'm trying to reduce my anxiety when I go places and when I'm in the car.
Omg this video its so perfect!!! Thank you so much!! This really inspires me to go look for change.
Im moving out to another city soon, and i have this idea to vlog the process of adapting my SEO to that city and starting to advertise again and all that general grind...and im too sooooo anxious about vlogging!! I dont even usually take selfies! But seeing the process like this really pumps me up with energy to do so!
Love your videos!!
I can't go outside. It's a combination of things. Social anxiety (hate having to talk to people, suck at it; can't do eye contact; can't always hear what people are saying, hate having to ask them to repeat themselves), fear of people staring and laughing (so many windows! they can see me, I can't see them), anxiety over my appearance (trans [out ~13yrs], masculine forehead; asymmetrical face, funny mandible [TMD]; yellow, messed-up teeth; rash, possibly psoriasis; hair looks meh; makeup skills suboptimal; marks from skinpicking; not sure about clothes), fear of running into my neighbours, fear of having a meltdown or a panic attack, fear of getting too tired and having to stop (someone my age shouldn't be in this condition), and maybe more. Luckily I'm able to get groceries and medications delivered. My mother always made sure that I'd act neurotypical but it left me with mental scars. Also, I'm a bit of a perfectionist. I haven't seen my psych nurse in months. It is obvious to me that surgery wouldn't fix everything but it would have a huge impact anyway. Not sure what to do. I should see a doctor (if they'll even listen) about my various issues. I can't even make/stay friends online because I'm afraid of rejection and sabotage everything (BPD). I'm 33, from Finland, live alone, and I have no friends anywhere nearby. My parents have helped out but they live far away and tend to have a negative impact on my mental health.
Yes. I actually tried to expose myself after a car accident but I ended up with a second one. 😔 I want to stop my fear of driving :s. I also have fear of trains, go outside and be around many people, public speech. I feel a disaster 😑
Sounds like you could be experiencing some agoraphobia. I'm going to have a follow up video on this topic soon!
Thanks so much for your video! I've suffered with crippling anxiety disorder for 14 years. I quit driving 10 years ago and am getting ready to get my lisence again. This cognitive therapy is tough! Facing fears (along with meds) has really helped. Just a few years ago, I couldn't even go into a store by myself without having a panic attack. Now I can go into a giant WalMart by myself and be okay. It has taken YEARS to get to this point. I don't think a lot of people understand it because they can't see it.
I really enjoy your show. Thanks again!
Congratulations to you, Lizzie, on all the hard work you've done! You're absolutely right - so many don't understand how limiting anxiety can be because they just don't see it. It takes courage to do what you've done, to face your fears, and get comfortable being uncomfortable. I really appreciate you sharing your story here and I know it will help others to read it 👏👏👏
There are several factors in natural cures for shyness. One place I discovered that succeeds in merging these is the Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested) it's the no.1 plan that I have ever heard of. look at all the interesting information .
It is tough glad it’s getting better ❤️🩹 for you
Your not alone
I’m almost 30 years old and recently discovered I’ve had anxiety my whole life due to childhood trauma. I just thought it was normal, now I am doing a lot of unwrapping on myself. I came across your channel and am very grateful to you. Thank you for these videos Doctor Mattu 🙏
same problem, what have you done for overcome it?
I am afraid of talking to strangers and the weird thing is I have to do it every day for my job. It never seems to get any better though. I still get a big adrenaline spike every time I see a person that I'm going to have to talk to. Then after the interaction is over I judge myself for how dumb I sounded.
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You got this!
DO IT SCARED, is a quote I love...I love that one, bc yes, your scared, okkkk...well then rather than totally not doing it… Do it afraid
@@chelseanwalor3503 This is so true
Can you catch yourself and say hey you did good or you did your best?
the fact that you are DOING THE METHODS which you’re teaching in this video is really inspiring and vulnerable. i’ve been suffering of panic disorder for a year now, and i’m finally opening the door to exposure therapy. i’ve seen a lot of therapists gives great advice online and in books, but they rarely put themselves in a situation like this. i’m really grateful for your videos ❤️
This was so unbelievably helpful. Watching you go through each step, whilst filming your insecurities & talking us through your examples, made it so much easier to connect with and digest. I've struggled with social anxiety for most of my life. I was a happy go lucky, talkative child. But middle & high school really did a number on me. Those fears have stuck with me my entire life from that point on. Up until recently, I thought that I was broken and doomed to a life of solidarity. I'm thankful that people have been working towards raising awareness to mental health. Recently I decided I had had enough! My social anxiety had stolen years of my life; a career, friends, meaningful relationships, hopes & dreams. I decided to reach out for help from a therapist a few months back. Its been helpful but I'm really actually looking forward to trying this out. Thank you for your dedication to helping people face & overcome their fears.✌🙂
Gradual exposure is great for overcoming anxiety 🔥
Based on the research related to this model, exposures don't need to be gradual. You can bounce around someone's hierarchy and that sense of surprise could help improve recall of new memories.
I like this long videos where you give us a great and little deeper explanation, thanks!
Thanks for the feedback! This video is going to be such a foundational episode for future content that it needed to go long.
It seems like TH-cam's algorithm also prefers the longer videos. After making two of my longest videos I wanted to make something that was shorter, which is why my newest video on managing stress is just 90 seconds long. Apparently TH-cam isn't a fan and the video didn't get shown to everyone. So I'll get back to 5 minute, 10 minute, 15 minute videos with the occasional 20 minute + MEGA episode.
Man this help me so much thank you..I’m so tired of this anxiety had it for 15 years
for 15 yearss?? really??
how are you today?
Great video!
I suffer with social anxiety also. This video and through experience I've come to realise most people are busy living their own lives to even care or notice what I am doing.
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I started watching because this guy is eye candy, but I'm lucky enough he actually makes good content as well
"Practice what I preach". Wise words.
The first time watch him and already love him. Not just giving lectures , his way is sooo Very practical, wow.
Thanks!
No problem!
Man, this is a really nice video to see. I've been struggling with anxiety for a long time. Did my first exposure session last Friday. It's a super scary process, confronting the stuff I've been avoiding all my life. It's nice to see you demonstrating the process in action, you know? Helps make it a bit less scary, I think. :)
Congratulations, Sebastian, on taking that first big step forward in facing your fears! So happy to hear this video was helpful in some way 😀
I love how you were able to really break down what it truly means to do exposure therapy! Its not enough to just throw yourself in the situation but to be able to dig down deep into how you are feeling. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. My 2020 mantra
Thank you for posting this. Your videos have really reached me. I'm a college student aspiring to teach English to junior high or high school students, and social anxiety has been a continuous hurdle between myself and my goals. It's good to know there are others struggling with this who are able to share positive experiences.
How is it now? I want to take master and doctoral degree. But cant imagine speaking of students everyday :(
This was great stuff, really inspired me to go & face my social anxiety.
Yay!!!! So happy to hear that. Good luck in your journey #GCBU
I feel like I found a key that I’ve been searching for.
Thanks dr. Good luck !! 🥰
I have a phobia of texting/phone calls because my grandmother guilt-tripped me as a kid for not calling her to thank her for gifts, and because my mom guilts trips me a lot via phone and texting. I think my best bet for exposure therapy will be to communicate with people besides my mom to highlight that my friends and neighbors do not resort to manipulation tactics, thus my very real fear of disappointment and rejection is just an old core belief that no longer serves me. Thanks Doc!
For your super awesome self-care journal that you keep in your backpack with the foam-roller on it: You are a very bright light 💡 that this world needs! Thank you for being so brave and showing us that real change IS possible! You are so loved by so many people in this world, and as a community you help us all achieve success! Thanks for all you do! Keep going!!
I got anxiety watching you having it and own it GREAT EXPOSURE!!
Mad respect Doctor Ali. I watched another video of yours and you were talking about these steps and I remember feeling overwhelmed by the amount of steps one needs to do. Actually, I remembered that I had a fear of going out anywhere because I used to get extremely disoriented, I would miss the bus, get off at the wrong bus stop and would have to walk in an area that I don't know, be late etc. I used to spend some time practicing going somewhere, anywhere, without an aim just to practice facing some of my fears. It never went away completely though :D The strange thing is that I rarely had problems like this when I was on my layovers abroad (as a flight attendant) and exploring the city.
You are a super vortex of ideas. This is contagious and welcome. This is a real life healer folks. Your videos are a blessing bro. I live in NYC too.
I also love it that you demonstrated how to actually get rid of anxiety via live video footage. You showed me how to make life better. I wish i could help you out somehow. Thanks.
I'm ready to face my fear of having phone conversations with people I don't know. Part of my new job is to call people I don't know and ask them questions. Avoidance will no longer work, so I will try the exposure techniques in this video. Thank you.
I have developed a pretty severe anxiety disorder from my daily chest and back pains - been checked by doctors multiple times in the ER and they cannot find anything physical happening - they advised that my pains are a result of stress and anxiety and are muscular based - gave me some pain killers (none work for me unfortunately) and advised anti anxiety drugs and therapy. Since these pains started back in early March, I have avoided all the exercise I use to do daily (weights, practicing drumming and playing with the band - and walking) - any physical activity flares the pain up and my biggest fear is I will have a heart attack - because it sure feels like it. So - yesterday I went for a walk and tried to do the normal things I use to do before I got this - about half hour in my walk, my chest started flaring up - I was feeling uncomfortable - but I kept walking - even on inclines which hurt me even more usually - did that, no problem - kept going - now the pain really started and I was hyperventilating pretty bad. But still my biggest fear did not happen. Got home, sat on my deck and felt really, really uncomfortable for 10-15 minutes - achy chest pain and back - painful breathing -I was just waiting to keel over - but nothing happened. Then I started to feel better and couldn't believe I did not pass out. Will do this every day and see if I can rid myself of this horrible condition and anxiety I face on the daily - thank you for posting this very informative video on dealing with anxiety.
Thanks for these contents. I’ve been suffering severe anxiety and panics for four years. I’ve been frustrated if this disaster ever have any cure. It is amazing how much general public don’t know about mental illnesses.
It feels positive to watch your videos when I am also the one who suffer from panic attacks and anxiety.. thanks for these videos..
Yayyyy! GREAT ONE Ali! I love that you've updated the science findings and added values/ 'find your why'! I remember feeling many of the same anxiety feelings making my videos. I love how you mixed outdoor and indoor shots. BRAVO!
Thank you so much, Lara! Whenever I'm lost, it always helped me to use my values as a compass to guide me forward.
Dr Ali Mattu, just want to say your channel is awesome! I'm learning so much to overcome my own anxiety and also to help people that I know! Please keep up the good content!
Thanks for the free therapy session! :)
Get ready for a lot more! I'm going to make follow ups on each of the major anxiety disorders!!!
The Psych Show hehe
Thank you so much... This was a much needed video🙏
Thanks for watching!
Wow man, I'm proud of you for doing this.
Thank you!!!
Love the real life exposure you are sharing, never seen before :)
Wow!! Great job!! It's inspiring to watch a Psychologist overcoming his fear in real time, putting the theories into practice! Thank you :)
I also have a mantra that helps me and goes like that "If it makes me grow, I will do it anyway". Be it networking in a party, giving a presentation, speaking up in my Master's class, ask a question, etc
Thanks so much! I’m trying as much as possible to show psychology in action instead of talking about it. And I love that mantra -> focusing on growth is a much more healthy approach than avoiding the tough stuff.
Thanks so much for your video, you have described most of the things that I am suffering.
Watching you do this was actually pretty inspiring. I have been working on social anxiety for years, and I am finally able to do this kind of work. Seeing therapists do this kind of work is a really powerful tool for me.
OMG THIS IS CRAZY, you just made me realize why my favourite foods are my favourite foods, I had spaghetti bolognese the first time when I was 12 at a really cool pool party with my mom and that became my favourite food because I felt really happy spending time with my mom in a cool place, ANOTHER TIME my best friend and I had chipotle because we saw a famous TH-cam that we loved eat it one time and he loved it, so we had a really good experience eating burritos!!!! You blew my mind dude.
I appreciate you filming your experience with facing your own personal fear. It’s so easy for someone else to say go out there and face your fear. So it’s amazing to see someone say it and do it themselves :)
I appreciate you Dr. Life changing information for me. I dam near had an attack just watching this. Bravo "practice what you preach". Awesome.
I done this for 2 years, non-stop 10 hours a day I noticed no change... I done literally what you are doing
Don’t believe it
So awesome that you’re strong and confident enough to make this video. I’m in the healthcare field too and it took several years for me to ease into confiding in friends and then colleges about my anxiety issues. After I did, it was pretty amazing to find out that so many of my friends and colleagues were humans too 😃.
You are like the Steve Irwin of psychology. Love this. Thank you.
this is so great! I went through a bunch of videos to find one I felt comfortable sharing with clients, and yours felt the most comprehensive, knowledgeable, and engaging! Thanks for making this!
You're so welcome!
So Street Fighter was teaching us valuable psychological lessons this whole time ;)
Adnan I had so much more Street Fighter material I had to cut out of this video! I went on a big rant about how Street Fighter is such a great representation of memories because each character is based on basic (stereotyped) associations of the regions they represent...
Street Fighter was just the friends we made along the way, bubby.
thank you so much for this video , now i know how to deal with my anxiety , also it's the first time for a while for me to comment on something on social media cuz i always think that my opinion isn't important and that nobody care or i might say something stupid , but from now on these avoidances have to end thanks to you .
This is so helpful, thank you. I started watching the video crying my eyes out, but ended with a smile. I was in a very awkward situation yesterday that caused me so much anxiety that I thought about it till I went to bed. Waking up, my thoughts and fears started raging even more than yesterday, and I had a meltdown. It was worse because I thought I had overcome anxiety, so that situation was very unexpected, and I felt so lost. Maybe I need to resume my drug prescription. I stopped because I significantly improved
I took a detailed note of all you've said and will put them to practice
I will try this out later today. Anxious as heck about it. But lets see
Good luck!!!
@@drali thank you! Went ok. Social anxiety did not prevent me from talking to many people but I still feel that I was performing/seeking validation. Upside is Im having a good laugh about it with my dear friend Anish who is in the same boat
I love your delivery, your're very easy to listen to and learn from. This is the first video I have watched, it would be helpful if there was a point form or summary in your description when your videos have this many steps. I can't wait to watch more! Thanks!
Your words are a reminder that anxiety is a common struggle, and it's okay to seek help. Thank you for sharing your experience and offering encouragement to those who may be feeling alone. 🤗💪
I always love your content. It's so relatable. I feel like I have so many little fears - social situations, being out of control (my 16 month old kiddo was diagnosed with cancer last month and it has just been way too much to handle), and constant worrying.
Side note - you are also one handsome guy. Makes it that much easier to watch your videos! Keep 'em comin'!
I'm so sorry to hear about your child's cancer diagnosis. Worrying, feeling overwhelmed, not knowing what to do, and so many other emotions are very much common in this situation. I hope you have a good medical team and community helping you through this time. If not, I wonder if there is a support group available to parents at your hospital?
Thanks for your encouragement and kind words! I'm hoping to turn this video into a series of videos about the different forms of anxiety (social, worries, etc). Stayed tuned! 😀
Omg!This video is so useful.I have social anxiety and I was scared for you,I understand how difficult this vlog was.You are very brave.Thank you so much for motivation!
Thanks Doc, am really struggling w social anxiety for so long..
Key to life seems to be exposure+reflection.
Thanks for the help. I'm doing a ton of research to best help my wife overcome her anxiety disorder, also great street fighter plug. Loved it
Great video Dr.Ali
That was actually inspiring.
WOW I'm so early but it's 4 am where I am and I gotta go to sleep. Will watch soon.
Hope you found it helpful!
Great explanation man.Basically it is facing your fears without thinking too much about the outcome.And keep them videos coming.🤘
your background is soo beautiful i kept getting distracted and had to start the video several times. I just subscribed
Wow you’re so cool, I hope I can be like this.
my anxiety is going thru the roof just thinking bout exposure n facing my fears
This was great! Exposure therapy sounds wicked 👏🏾
This is life changing! Thank you so much for this!
This is great information! I made myself some worksheets to help me with exposure therapy, based on this video. I have been working on my anxiety for about 1 1/2 years and I have yet to try this. I liked that you broke it down into little steps and you used yourself as an example. I am excited to try this! Thank you
This is probably one of the best videos about exposure treatment 👏
Thank you so so much for what you do! Commenting for the algorithm and to show love
I'm an international student here in Australia studying Engineering and my severe social anxiety just impedes my experience of being a student and I just constantly wonder everyday if ever I'm going to even survive throughout the years, I can't even handle a small conversation from any stranger/teacher.
Just watching your videos are already calming me down .🙏🙏 Thank you so much.. I suffer from severe panic I even get it at home.😢😰
WOW what a reality .... Thanks bro to share it
Thank you so much for doing this.. These are the things that really make me super anxious..
I absolutely loved this video, thank you so much for this. It came up at the perfect time because as an R&B artist, I have to overcome my stage fright for performances. I'll definitely apply these steps! I have a question, does the interoceptive exposure essentially just prolong the anxiety we feel in our scary moments, to further our exposure to these sensations?
The street fighter example is so unique.. helpful as well .. thank u 🙏🏼
The fact you have the original street fighter at your disposal is amazing bro!
Thank you for doing these videos 👍 Please do more 😊
Thank you for your encouragement!
I love your technique and i found another one earlier that i was doubting but now im sure. Thank you.
Chemical assisted exposure therapy.
Let me explain. Something happened in my 20s that is still going. Stimulants such as coke speed even coffee or tea triggered massive anxiety.
Now im using coffee to face my fears.
Instead of trying to calm my self down by benzos or drinking. I take stims on purpose to chase after the fear.
Ill purposely hyperventilate and overreact to get to the core of the problem.
A lot of therapists say avoid things that make you anxious.
I now use it as a compass to find my next move.
Whatever im afraid of. Ill cause or exacerbate it on purpose.
In fact heres another extreme therapy i just thought of this second.
Make a list of things you fear. Then masturbate while thinking about those things.
If we can get "turned on" by fear instead of being paralyzed by it then it would only help.
In a world thats so chaotic and intense
To find pleasure in fear would make this planet into a paradise.
This is why I like psychedelics.
But the right kind of exposure is the key.
Half assed exposure can further put u in more trauma.
If ur gonna moon. Do a full assed one.
The key to life seems to be exposure+reflection.
This was amazing to see, thank you
Did you know I have a huge crush on you
This is exactly what me and my guy were talking about doing. Guess what? We went to the mountains and downtown Disney for me to handle being in crowds and feeling safe during pandemic. I hope it helps me deal with no longer feeling insecure about having anxiety issue in public. My thought is I can gain more independence from my minds assumptions and feel at ease outside again. My life has consisted of going to predictable places during pandemic.
This is very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Thank you! What part of it was most helpful to you? I'm hoping to turn this into a series that dives into each form of anxiety.
This indeed was a motivating video, which sometime later probably, is going to make me feel guilty if I don't mindfully act on my fears (which seems extremely small yet has an impactful limitation on my goal) and search for reasons behind my defense mechanisms. Thank you for converting your insight into action and making us realize its worth!
Thanks for your comment, Dhruvi! The thing to remember about anxiety and fears is we all have them. They're normal. We also can't work on EVERY fear we have ALL the time. So to pick and choose based on where we are in life and then move forward with compassion for when we have a hard time (like I did on the subway) is the way to go.
@@drali This gave me a clearer picture. Thank you.
wish you could be with me for some days...seeing your video made me calm when i had anxiety/panic attack. i experience heavy breathing & feel choked + upset stomach whenever i get anxiety or panic attack.some how this video made me relaxed.
Really cool. Awesome watching you face your fear. You give me inpiration to face my social anxiety. Thank you
I appreciate your experience with anxiety. I’m a masters level psychotherapist and deal with anxiety, as well. Thanks for your work. Just so you know, your work is awesome and by my perspective you’re kicking ass. Be well and keep at it.
Hey, I’m a subscriber from Chris’ channel! I love the content you’re making keep up the awesome work!!
Thanks so much for stopping by and joining our community, Chelsey! Really appreciate your encouragement too 🙌
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us
This has been a big problem for me and social anxiety is getting worse and more severe as I get older. Your videos are excellent and I have written some coping mechanisms you have disclosed. Having call from mental health team hopefully tomorrow!
Absolutely great video all of your videos I’ve watched so far you’re helping me more than you know thank you very much
This is such an amazing video. You are explaining the steps very clearly and I love that for every step you are making a cut to show how you are doing that step yourself
I also love that you played streetfighter
I am exactly like this, that's why I don't go out and developed Agoraphobia. My worst problem is breathing, because I get light headedness and breathlessness. I'm glad I found your channel! I hope I can learn more and improve from your advices.
I’ve been trying to Vlog in public the last few weeks and can relate to all of your fears
This is such an interesting experience! Thanks dude
Thank you for this video!! You have inspired me to face my fear. I have the exact fear of seeing my staff or someone I know when I'm at the beach or at a party because I'm far more conservative at work. I'm going to use all your strategies. So helpful you walking us through it with your your fear. Thank you!@
I started getting anxiety about 5 years ago when I switched my career and went on a business trip to the UK which was also the first time that I had traveled out of the US. I felt that the trip caused a lot of pressure on me since I had just switched my career, was new at the company, plus I was traveling with co-workers that I had just met, and I was going to be participating in a hackathon. I was fine on the plane ride, fine for half of the taxi ride, and then started feeling sick. It grew from there and then finally when we reached the office, I had a panic attack and then again in the hotel room until I meditated myself to sleep. Since then I have had a panic attack whenever I travel. It's not the plane ride that gives me the anxiety, I am usually very calm on the plane, it's being away from home that causes it for me. I fear having the panic attack and not knowing how to get help or, if I am in another country, how to go to the hospital. The anxiety has grown and now happens even when I am not traveling. Sometimes I get a panic attack in the middle of the night, before bed, or early in the morning and I am not sure why. I need to try the exposure techniques and learn how to cope with the anxiety and get comfortable being uncomfortable. My stomach is usually in a knot, I can't eat, sleep, and feel sick to my stomach. I had a random panic attack the night before last and my stomach is still not feeling great. I never used to be like this before that first trip overseas. It really sucks.
Hope you’re feeling better.
Wow, how are you doing in 2022?
Your friendly neighborhood Spider-Man was awesome! Gotta love NY.
I hope your social anxiety doesn't turn you into a super-villain, Dr. Ali. :D
I KNOW! When I heard someone say, "Can I be in your vlog?", I never expected it to be Spider-Man!
Thank you so much for this video!!!
Such a helpful video
Thanks a lot
I really appreciate your content, I think you have great delivery =D
Thanks so much for your support!
Apparently a new yorkers worst fear is a stranger saying thank you 😂
Loved the video ❤
HAHA 😂
Glad you liked it!!!
Wow so proud of you!
Being on the other side of a trauma bond, I can definitely say that habituation makes us comfortable with even some of the most horrible things. Now I have anxiety around relationships. My anxiety convinces me that it’s protecting me. when, in reality it may somewhat be protecting me, but it’s definitely more isolating me. I guess I could work out some exposure and show myself that I can also protect myself when needed.
What a great way and encouragement to do exposure challenges! Thanks