Would appreciate hearing more about what to do in order to protect that letting go, forgiving process, as it often takes time. Particularly in how we address the relationships with the person/people who have caused the trauma. Some Christians don’t fully understand the malevolence of others. I have been encouraged (in the name of love, forgiveness, acceptance etc) to keep having relationships with toxic family members. Despite the fact I am still being harmed by on going sinful behaviours, hard hearts & trust that has been destroyed as a result. For a time it made me feel guilty, like I wasn’t a matured or gracious enough Christian. However for my own emotional well being & agency I have chosen to forgive, but also put in boundaries ( & not have certain relationships) because the desire to have counselling & proper reconciliation hasn’t been reciprocal.
Thanks. Iv been dealing with church hurt and abandonment from my parents. I'm going to a amazing Christian counselor who's walking me through my healing. Also I spent a year going to celebrate Recovery and doing a step study that opened my heart and eyes to issues i never realized i wasnt letting go of
Boy do I know about church hurt that's the worst kind of hurt because you don't expect to be heard it in the church and sometimes it's the preacher and and I just think that I'm not talking about your situation because I don't know about yours but I can just only speak for mine I think we forget just because they are preacher teacher that we forget that they're just as human at the end of the day as we are and that they have more tax on them or just as much as we do and our daily life and and I think they have an extra bullseye because if they go left then they can take a lot of people to get hurt by their actions so it's it's Satanist I believe it's after them a little bit more then then the rest because of the calling on their life and he's trying to make a mockery like yeah you supposed to be so safe but look what you did you know stuff like that but and once you've been hurt by church people you'll never want to go back because sometimes the world don't even treat you that bad and the world is a lot more honest about the situation and there's no self-righteousness with it like if they doing something that they know is wrong they be like yeah I did it and you know don't judge me where the church people I'm not going to judge them but sometimes they don't mean to do it in their struggling to overcome a situation but yet they're in a position at the church
Everyday I try to tell myself that whatever I've been through it's okay because Jesus is the healer and that he can heal me through it all if I go get help and let him
I wonder why Focus never talks about Celebrate Recovery. After years in secular 12 step recovery, the real healing happened and is happening in Celebrate Recovery because it points to Christ as our healer and The Word as the source of Truth.
Along with allowing ourselves to grieve our childhood losses, we can also heal by learning to meet the needs of our child parts. When we get our needs met, then it’s easier to forgive those who did not provide what we needed.
I needed to hear this because I do feel a lot of anger towards those who have hurt me. I never received justice. I don't want to spend the rest of my life bitter.
It can "feel" so painful to initially bring up this truth inside us, yet its so true how moving into the emotion attached to the experience is so incredibly freeing. I"m glad you were / are inspired to do more! My Passion has definitely grown from the pain. Thank you so much.
Stephen's books are gonna sell like hotcakes!!!!!! I'm surrounded by people in these types of situations. There are too few people with too little time to take the time they need.
Pastor Stephen A. (long-term Sobriety) 💔 is emotionally wounded , compassionate , authentic , giving of his time etc, etc, etc. Thank Goodness for his work 😢 to help others who suffer 🌍 in this broken, tragic World !
That opening comme t is SO SO True! The other person, may have come into marriage with so much baggage that every relationship ends in disaster because of UNResolved issues they carry
I lost my daughter she was killed in a car accident 8 months ago and there's no answers for grieving you just have to go through it and it is very painful
I seen my 2 sister's lose a husband & a year later a son & It's only through the Lord they exist but personally I can't imagine even though I was right with them I can't imagine I know they couldn't have survived without the Lord I'm so sorry for what you are going through my heart breaks for you & my prayers are with you🙏🙏
Sometimes it's not about the spouse that was left, it's about the one who left being a broken person, its who and where "they" are and your collateral damage or they simply do not have the capacity for the spouse left behind.
I think the church has pressured christians to forgive but I think the churches need to teach people how to treat others and come back to teaching the Ten Commandments. The Bible also says don’t cast your pearls before swine. Sometimes you have to move away because some people will destroy you.
There’s a lot of counselors out there, not all of them are worth the time and money for various reasons. Counselors aren’t our savior. If you have someone who truly helps you to heal great but talking like it’s relatively easy to even find that at all is naive
Greetings Colleen. While counselors are not our Savior, the Savior definitely can and does work through them in our lives, as well as others! Whether it's a good friend who listens well, or a professional counselor, we all need a good ear every once in awhile. We have some amazing Christian Counselors as part of our Christian Counseling Network. Please call us at 1-800-A-FAMILY Monday - Friday, 8 am to 8 pm MST, to find one in your area. God's rich blessings be upon you.
Hi, Colleen. The counselors in our referral network specialize in a variety of topics, care, and disorders. To find a counselor in your area, we suggest you visit our directory - bddy.me/3FxBK0P. Please read the disclaimer at the bottom of the page. To find out which counselor may provide the specific service you're looking for, you may have to call them to discuss further. We hope this is helpful.
Nobody talks about what if the person is still around still part of your extended family and not only have they abused you they have abused your family and still have the opportunity to do so and then people are telling you you forgive them you just make sure you fully forgiven them but they don't go away you must stay away from him but they're in your extended family where they can abuse your children or their friends or other people in the family, I think you can work on forgiving them and do what you're saying if they go away but what if they are still in your extended family what if they still have the opportunity to do and cause the trauma that they previously did.
62 yrs young
Still battle with grieving and healing and forgiveness. So much trauma since I was 7.
Christians do not understand. 🙏🙏🙏
My son is in the hospital. Please pray for God’s healing his heart and mind. 🙏
Such an important point: grieving before forgiveness. It prevents superficial forgiveness.
Very true ❤
Wow this one podcast is destroying so many lies and strongholds that the enemy has used to hold me back from healing. Thank you and praise the Lord
I actually never thought about it but it's true the enemy would love for us to continue to suffer.
Enjoyed the broadcast. James 5:16 says, "Confess your faults one to another and pray for one another so you can be healed." Thank you for sharing.😊❤
Would appreciate hearing more about what to do in order to protect that letting go, forgiving process, as it often takes time. Particularly in how we address the relationships with the person/people who have caused the trauma.
Some Christians don’t fully understand the malevolence of others.
I have been encouraged (in the name of love, forgiveness, acceptance etc) to keep having relationships with toxic family members. Despite the fact I am still being harmed by on going sinful behaviours, hard hearts & trust that has been destroyed as a result.
For a time it made me feel guilty, like I wasn’t a matured or gracious enough Christian.
However for my own emotional well being & agency I have chosen to forgive, but also put in boundaries ( & not have certain relationships) because the desire to have counselling & proper reconciliation hasn’t been reciprocal.
Thanks. Iv been dealing with church hurt and abandonment from my parents. I'm going to a amazing Christian counselor who's walking me through my healing. Also I spent a year going to celebrate Recovery and doing a step study that opened my heart and eyes to issues i never realized i wasnt letting go of
Amen sounds similar to my story.
Boy do I know about church hurt that's the worst kind of hurt because you don't expect to be heard it in the church and sometimes it's the preacher and and I just think that I'm not talking about your situation because I don't know about yours but I can just only speak for mine I think we forget just because they are preacher teacher that we forget that they're just as human at the end of the day as we are and that they have more tax on them or just as much as we do and our daily life and and I think they have an extra bullseye because if they go left then they can take a lot of people to get hurt by their actions so it's it's Satanist I believe it's after them a little bit more then then the rest because of the calling on their life and he's trying to make a mockery like yeah you supposed to be so safe but look what you did you know stuff like that but and once you've been hurt by church people you'll never want to go back because sometimes the world don't even treat you that bad and the world is a lot more honest about the situation and there's no self-righteousness with it like if they doing something that they know is wrong they be like yeah I did it and you know don't judge me where the church people I'm not going to judge them but sometimes they don't mean to do it in their struggling to overcome a situation but yet they're in a position at the church
Everyday I try to tell myself that whatever I've been through it's okay because Jesus is the healer and that he can heal me through it all if I go get help and let him
I wonder why Focus never talks about Celebrate Recovery. After years in secular 12 step recovery, the real healing happened and is happening in Celebrate Recovery because it points to Christ as our healer and The Word as the source of Truth.
Along with allowing ourselves to grieve our childhood losses, we can also heal by learning to meet the needs of our child parts. When we get our needs met, then it’s easier to forgive those who did not provide what we needed.
My problem with therapy is the therapist becomes the idol. Jesus is the best therapist.
“It is not too late.” Thank you.
Thank you for your encouragement 🙏
Serving others leads to happiness.
Thank you! Have been listening to New Life Live for over 20 years and Focus for 35+.
"By God's grace" like Jim Daly, I'm here today.
I needed to hear this because I do feel a lot of anger towards those who have hurt me. I never received justice. I don't want to spend the rest of my life bitter.
It can "feel" so painful to initially bring up this truth inside us, yet its so true how moving into the emotion attached to the experience is so incredibly freeing. I"m glad you were / are inspired to do more! My Passion has definitely grown from the pain. Thank you so much.
Stephen's books are gonna sell like hotcakes!!!!!! I'm surrounded by people in these types of situations. There are too few people with too little time to take the time they need.
Pastor Stephen A. (long-term Sobriety) 💔 is emotionally wounded , compassionate , authentic , giving of his time etc, etc, etc. Thank Goodness for his work 😢 to help others who suffer 🌍 in this broken, tragic World !
That opening comme t is SO SO True! The other person, may have come into marriage with so much baggage that every relationship ends in disaster because of UNResolved issues they carry
Thank you for this
THANKS FOR THE POST LOTS AND LOTS MUCH NEEDED SUBJECT MATTER
We read Healing is a Choice for a women mentoring women study group. Great book.
I lost my daughter she was killed in a car accident 8 months ago and there's no answers for grieving you just have to go through it and it is very painful
Sorry for your sad news. Couldn't even imagine how difficult it would be. Praying for God's daily comfort and strength for you. 🙏🙏
I seen my 2 sister's lose a husband & a year later a son & It's only through the Lord they exist but personally I can't imagine even though I was right with them I can't imagine I know they couldn't have survived without the Lord I'm so sorry for what you are going through my heart breaks for you & my prayers are with you🙏🙏
Im really sorry, I lost my dad but I couldn't imagine losing my children. It's been a really hard time.
I hope something I said just allow you for a second to know that I know with pain is if that's any cancellation
I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. 🙏
Looking forward to seeing this video stephen arteburn
Hi Dan, let us know what you think!
So helpful, thanks so much
Excellent interview
Thank you 😊
Thank you for sharing your life story I appreciate it so much!!🙏🙏🙏🙏
Very needed info
Sometimes it's not about the spouse that was left, it's about the one who left being a broken person, its who and where "they" are and your collateral damage or they simply do not have the capacity for the spouse left behind.
So very helpful..
Only in Jesus can you be free
Christianity is a great way to cope with the suffering but it won't eliminate suffering.
I think the church has pressured christians to forgive but I think the churches need to teach people how to treat others and come back to teaching the Ten Commandments. The Bible also says don’t cast your pearls before swine. Sometimes you have to move away because some people will destroy you.
How To Deal With Grief ✝️😇✝️
Stephen Arterburn ♥️🙏🇺🇲❤
New Life Ministry
Who is the evangelist …
Mortigan Han?
Interesting
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There’s a lot of counselors out there, not all of them are worth the time and money for various reasons. Counselors aren’t our savior. If you have someone who truly helps you to heal great but talking like it’s relatively easy to even find that at all is naive
Greetings Colleen. While counselors are not our Savior, the Savior definitely can and does work through them in our lives, as well as others! Whether it's a good friend who listens well, or a professional counselor, we all need a good ear every once in awhile. We have some amazing Christian Counselors as part of our Christian Counseling Network. Please call us at 1-800-A-FAMILY Monday - Friday, 8 am to 8 pm MST, to find one in your area. God's rich blessings be upon you.
I have found that finding the right counselor, one you connect with, is like finding the right car. Sometimes trial and error.
@@focusonthefamily merry Christmas. Are the counselors you referred experts in narcissistic personality disorder/narcissistic abuse ?
Hi, Colleen. The counselors in our referral network specialize in a variety of topics, care, and disorders. To find a counselor in your area, we suggest you visit our directory - bddy.me/3FxBK0P. Please read the disclaimer at the bottom of the page. To find out which counselor may provide the specific service you're looking for, you may have to call them to discuss further. We hope this is helpful.
Nobody talks about what if the person is still around still part of your extended family and not only have they abused you they have abused your family and still have the opportunity to do so and then people are telling you you forgive them you just make sure you fully forgiven them but they don't go away you must stay away from him but they're in your extended family where they can abuse your children or their friends or other people in the family, I think you can work on forgiving them and do what you're saying if they go away but what if they are still in your extended family what if they still have the opportunity to do and cause the trauma that they previously did.
You cry out to Jesus to be set free
I lost my son to accidental overdose help