@@notanotherseahorse8369 your not getting married to have sex, your getting married bc u want to. The decision is to not have sex before marriage bc doing so (if your the type to get attached to people) can be damaging bc if your relationship or situation ship is toxic or your just not a good match, you may stay with that person for longer than you would have had you not had sex bc when you have sex, ur brain releases chemicals that can give you a false sense of security and you’ll experience temporary happiness despite the conflicts in your relationship (causing you to forget what that person did or the state of your relationship). Also, if you do break up with that person, it will hurt a looooot more bc your bonded (pair bonding). Some people don’t feel the effects as much but those people are the exception, not the rule (honestly even with those people, I do think there comes a time where they feel the weight, like when they meet someone they reaaaally like). It’s just a way to avoid unnecessary heartbreak. I don’t think that anyone that has sex before marriage is a slut or ‘used up’. I don’t think anyone is less valuable irregardless of how many people they have slept with, men or women, I just think you can get your heart broken much easier and take it much harder if you do have sex before marriage.
@@notanotherseahorse8369 I’m 20 girl but ok. Your not even gonna come up with a counter argument you wanna come up with that? Yikes. Good strong belief system you’ve built.
@@notanotherseahorse8369 the girl you responded to saying ‘you can have sex it’s fine’ said that she made the decision not to before marriage and that she was relieved when she saw this vid bc it made her feel more confident in believing what she wants to, so you saying ‘just have sex it’s fine’ is so out of pocket, let her have her beliefs and you can have yours. So you should worry about yourself. I didn’t say anyone was wrong, I was answering your question bc u said why would someone get married only to have sex, which wasn’t what I was saying at all, so I explained what I meant and I also explained why someone might make the decision to wait, I wasn’t trying to convert you but once again go off for no reason.
Wow.. I really needed to hear this! I'm 22 years old and I'm about to lose my mind. Everyday feels like a struggle trying to find out who I am and also what I wanna do with my life. But I will definitely use your tips and just take a deep breath!
Thank you for the great advice. I'm 22 and freaking out lol. I have no job, friends, money and never been in a relationship before. I just finished college but have no clue what to do with my degree and life. I have dreams but somehow I'm always running away from them but I will listen to God and my intuition. I believe it will all work out but sometimes the pressure to be someone or be doing something by a certain age is too much. I really want to enjoy my 20's because I "wasted" my teenage years overthinking and being so stressed and sad all the time. I dont want to repeat that cycle anymore, instead just not care and enjoy life. Thank you!
Hey that is because the plans you have are not God's plan for you. Stay blessed & enjoy your life & watch he unfolds everything. Your time is coming be patient. Much love 💕
Oh how accurate this is.. I'm in my early 20s and I've been coming to all of these realizations for a while now and I think it's SO important that everyone does. You DON'T have to follow in someone else's footsteps, you don't have to go to extremes and feel pressure to do something all or nothing (following the norm of a typical 20 something, partying, going out, etc), you don't need to care what people think of you and let that effect your success in life. Taking things day by day and working through this beautiful thing called life has made my 20s so much more enjoyable. Understanding that having balance is everything, understanding that my intuition will guide me to where the universe needs me to be, and living in the moment and actually experiencing life instead of letting it waste away keeps me on the road to a successful life! Amazing amazing tips !! ❤
already i love your first tip. when people say “well high blood pressure runs in my family” i’m like no.. a bad diet runs in your family. you can prevent it / reverse it from happening!
I im 27, just got my masters degree, got a job and still dont know what to do with myself lol. I saw this and your tips for 30s as well since 30 is not to far away for me. Thanks for the video. Keeping God and His plans/will first. Its not easy but I have to keep Him in the center of my life.
I'm 23 & had this phase where I felt like I was falling behind my peers & cousins that are the same age as me. They are working & I'm still at University. But I'm feeling so much better now! Focusing on myself & we all have different journeys. God has a plan even if I don't understand.
Same here girl! I feel extremely left out especially since I've been failing at my professional exams since the past three attempts but my mother keeps reminding me that when you're facing a bad time, remember it will end too and then good times are about to come. I'm sane only because of her. ❤
I remembered when I was in my early 20s, stressing out on trying to figure out what my calling was. I literally found my calling a year before I graduated at 25 and everything that I went through before made sense
Wow, when you said 'he will reward you for your patience!' Smh Amen to that because he surely will. I will be 25 this month pregnant with my first child & ive been through hell for the last year & a half, after all while being patient he is rewarding me, with my baby girl being the biggest blessing, what a reward it is!!
I’m literally crying my eyes out right now, I just wanted to say thank you. As a 23 year old finishing my last year of university... alone in quarantine has been really scary. I’ve been forced to be with my thoughts and I’m realizing how sad I am that school is over, and how I don’t know what to do for a job yet or how my life is gonna go at all... when you said that older people have a “sense of self” you gave me the words to explain how I’m feeling right now. I have no sense of self. But thank you for your kind words, I’m going to have to breathe and realize it’s okay not to have it all figured out. I never had a strong mother figure in my life so hearing these words from you were very valuable. Your daughter is lucky to have you
I feel like this should be an event conference with seniors before they graduate high school going into the real world.. You'll be surprise of what this kind of motivation can do for them
awesome video!!! i’m 26 years old and i didn’t go to college & i’ve been working the same full time for the past 6 years because it’s reliable but i’m STILL trying to figure out what i really want to do. recently i’ve realized that this is NOT what i want to do, so i put my two weeks notice in and now i’m starting a whole new career. even my new career may not be what i ultimately want to do but i think i’m learning that i like to experience and learn and try different things. it’s not good to be “stuck” somewhere. if you know what you don’t like that’s a big sign to change!
I am 28 and I needed to hear this. I felt like you are my mom telling me this. I caught myself self saying yes mam! thank you so much I needed this advice never had it!!!
Thank you I am 23 and I know what God is calling me to do but the process is the hardest part, I'm learning to trust God even in his silence. I'm no longer in Egypt (bondage) but I'm not at the promise land (the place I want to be) neither I am more in the wilderness (in between) learning to depend in God with my whole heart and nothing less! I love your videos thank you for taking the time out to make them, they truly are a help!
+Stacee Purnell you are so welcome and you are VERY VERY fortunate to KNOW what God has called you to do! So many people don't. There is a process in life no matter what. If you follow your dreams, there is a process. If we don't, there is a process for that too! I'd rather go through the process of living my dreams because the rewards are SO great!! Keep believing, Stacee!! 💕
Thank you! A Godly life is a sacrificial life I had to give up a lot of things and people to be what God called me to be and to do what God has called me to do, but thanks again for your encouraging words and I can't wait to see what else God has in store for you! 💜
The ending was so needed! "Things change but God is unchangeable" I recently turned 25 and have been struggling with hopelessness these last few weeks and needed this reminder. Thanks for sharing your wisdom ❤
I needed to hear this . I'm 20 going on 21 next month and I'm in a odd place in my life right now . I don't really know what I want to do and I feel like I've disappointed my parents time and time again so what's the point . I plan to change that negative mindset going into 2020 . I want to pursue my career , I want to have fun , make true friends , travel , spend time with my family ( because I've been avoiding them these past months ) , save / make money , date and just enjoy my twenties . I know that I won't have everything under control right now but I will one day 😭🙏🏾 thank you .
@Taylor it's 2021 and I'm currently 20 heading to 21 years in the next 3 months. What you said about about your life/self, I feel is exactly what I have been through and what I now want to accomplish...Wow the world is really small. I now look forward to entering the latter part of what you wrote in my life now. All the best and hope everything works out great in all areas of your life 💕
I’m 22 and 2019 has been a year of realization for me. Between the middle of 2018 in up to now I’ve realized that what most people my age do or “like” doing because they feel like it’s the norm like casual sex with practical strangers, going out to clubs and bars, and stuff like that, my experiences with those things made me realize that I didn’t really enjoy them. That they were more harmful to me than pleasurable. I’ve been having bouts with myself trying to figure out why I feel like the odd man out but I think through my traumas over the past couple of years, 2019 has been a wake up call for me. So this video, I’m glad I came across it, especially when you mentioned not having to be like everyone else and not rushing yourself basically.
I'm 48 years old and I remember those trepidations...I am only now seeing your beautiful message for the first time and I absolutely love it. It most certainly brought back memories to me. What made my time challenging was the fact that I was emancipated at 18 years in the Foster Care system. I was so overwhelmed/scared during that time because my options were limited. There were just so many hurdles but I had high expectations for myself and I knew that I needed to stay focused and persevere. I grew up extremely poor and at the very bottom of society. My biological mother was a severe alcoholic who was constantly abused by men and made fun of by other women. I was her child and my destiny was paved for me; at least, so they thought. My God, Jehovah, My Halalajhah, My Father in Heaven had other plans. Glory! I feel a preaching coming on! So many, many journies later, I look back with gratitude to know that I didn't tap out when the devil tried to influence me. Make no mistake, the devil still does but then I remember from whence I came and where I am. I remember who I am and whose I am. I am the King's Kid and when God blesses you, no weapon formed against you will ever prosper. I think you Sis for the lovely little nuggets. I wish I heard this when I was in my 20's maybe my road would have been less bumpy... who knows? Regardless, I am still here and I still have high expectations for myself. I have not manifested my purpose quite as yet but I am still determined to keep on moving forward with purpose and God's grace. Amen
Thank you! I really needed to hear this, I just graduated from college and the search for a job in my career is no joke. I am trying my best to continue to trust God.
+A Davis you're welcome!! Take out your journal and WRITE OUT YOUR DREAM JOB! Write it out as if you just came home from a productive day. Example: "Today at work was absolutely amazing because _____________ . I am SO grateful for the opportunity to give value to this company in exchange for a valuable income. I can't believe I get to ____________ and get compensated WELL. Thank you God for this opportunity" Something like that. In your own words. And then put it somewhere you'll see it everyday. You can also add pictures to it! I AM STANDING IN AGREEMENT WITH YOU THAT YOU WILL GET THE RIGHT JOB AT THE RIGHT TIME DOING EXACTLY WHAT YOU WERE CREATED TO DO! 💕
"Just because you can, doesn't mean you should." This spoke to me because my confirmation scripture (which I got to choose) is 1 Corinthians 10:23, "Everything is permissible -but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible -but not everything is constructive."
I'm 20 yrs old, & I'm in this phase where I felt like giving up, I not doing enough in life where I should be doing as a 20 yrs, I have no JOB, no MOTIVATION, yes still in Community College and I wanna continue my education, But I have no MOTIVATION even the people I live with doesn't give me the motivation I'm the youngest of 4 older siblings, they judge me because I don't have a job, paying no bills, treat me like a baby, and it breaks my heart because as a human trying my best. so THANK YOU FOR BRING POSITIVELY 💓.
Wonderful message I am 25 and I can relate with going to college not knowing what to do next. ect... Everthing you said, down to saving myself for marriage in all thank you for the advice very much needed.
I needed this video! Im 21 and a first generation college student so I pressure and push myself to the max until I’m on the verge of a mental breakdown 😩! My anxiety just pushes me to overthink and map out my life and next moves. Especially now because I’m graduating a semester early. I just don’t like not knowing stuff but it’s how life goes. You can make a plan and have goals but everything will come when it’s my time. I’ve been told your 20s are supposed to be your best years and I’m trying to live up to that.
Love this video. You are encouraging young women to be free, make mistakes and not take things so seriously. The world pressurised us so much. This was a refreshing perspective. ❤️
This was so HELPFUL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Omg I will be 25 in March and everything you said I have been going through omg ...I am learning how to follow my intuition more which I really struggle with it as if God speaks to me loud and clear but I ignore which lead me to so much pain and heartbreak and disappointment !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I believe God Lead me to this video Thank you !
This video was so what I needed. I didn’t want to hear typical go out and party tips or live life on the edge.. I wanted balance and nuance in the conversation and that’s exactly what I found. This calmed me, thank you so much.😊
This is an amazing video I’m a 19 year old single mother just moved into my own apartment I don’t have a job rn and I feel like my life is so chaos but u really go a me a sense of relief
Matthew 7:13-14 The Narrow and Wide Gates 13 "Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it" Amen.
Loved the advice of consciously recognizing historic issues and making a choice to make changes in your life. An important lesson for young women to learn.
Almost 22 years old here and this video is so precious, you basically said everything I haven't heard from my parents in my whole life, I really needed this. Thank you so much 💕
Wow! You are so welcome! YOU are an answered prayer for me. I said when I get older I want to be a woman that younger women can turn to! Keep being amazing and always walk in your truth!! xoxo
I'm 16 and my mom isn't by my side. I almost cried cause I feel my life is rushing and I feel older than my age. I just don't want a bad future thanks soo much 😪😊
don't worry. you are just born with an old soul and it might not seem like a blessing now feeling more mentally different than kids your age but trust me it gets better and you will feel more into yourself the older you get and others will catch up. For now, you have a lot of time to focus on the things you want to achieve or learn a new skill or hobbies. Always keep your self busy and never forget to just enjoy in the moment that are good and don't stress too much on the things that don't bring you joy. the challenging things are all just part of the ride of life and experiences and whether good or bad, it will always teach you something that you never knew before.
you keep it so real! where have you been in all my 4 years of being in my 20's. I don't have to pay for a therapist I just needed to hear your inspiring words, slow down and simply except myself and my unique Journey to my preferred destination.
I really needed to hear this. Recently, I have been having thoughts of suicide. I just turned 21 and I feel like I have no sense of self. I feel stuck between the pressures of society and what I actually want to make out of my life. It’s been extremely depressing and all I do is just cry. I’m ready to start living a meaningful life but now I understand it starts inside me
Thank you so much, I really needed this. I think I put so much pressure on myself, compare myself and get in my way by stressing for things I shouldn't stress about instead of tuning out all the noise and focusing on myself and what I want. I will try harder, thank you so much for this
To all the girls that got confused about their lives nowadays, i got you but i promise it will be okay even if we haven't figured it out yet, that's also part of our life journey too 🙏🌸
Or a longer video on intuition! Struggling with whether or not to drop out of grad school right now and I feel like my intuition with people is terrible so I'm not trusting of it with the school situation. Thanks angel !
ThisisKaila Kaila!!!!!! Are you KIDDING me?! I just watched your vlog of you and your friend going to see Brendon Bruchard!!!!! I would bet my house (ok, maybe that's a bit much) BUT- I would bet that you know EXACTLY what would be the best decision for yourself!!! You can't sit under all that AWESOME teaching and not know what to do next. The awesome thing about life is that when we get off track or make a decision that wasn't the best, God ALWAYS lovingly gets us right back where we need to be. Sometimes we just have to step out and find out! You are absolutely amazing, Kaila and gorgeous!!! Trust yourself. And I'm loving your videos, I just subscribed!!
Angel Richardson oh wow thanks so much! "God lovingly gets us right back where we need to be"- wow going to write that on a post it and stick it to my desktop. Love that, thank you!
I am 31 years old and still feel lost in life and so afraid to get out of my comfort zone also . I feel like I wasted my 20’s for being too afraid to go after what I wanted for myself rather than comparing and feeling pressured and even forced by my family to pursue majors that I was never interested in the first place. I was also around family friends that all behaved the same collective ways that was so impossible to even escape from it all and live on my own being young and inexperienced with life...
I’m watching this in 2020 and I needed these tips so much!! You literally spoke everything I’ve been going through! Thank you so much for this video!! 💛
I really needed the last part, as a person that's been really suicidal since very young age that was...good to hear. Really good video, very good points, thank you so much, you're really an Angel.
I’m 23 bout to be 24 in September I was having a midlife crisis I needed this I was breaking down today. thank you soo much. I’m 300 pound I’m trying to lose weight and I at a job but i hate it but it easy and pay well I really appreciate you for this
Matthew 7:13-14 13 “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
Angel Richardson you are so very welcome darling! I'm a Minister, so I got you lol...that's actually one of my favorite scriptures that I preach to my 4 sons all the time! It's perfect scripture for the teens to share when they graduate, however it's a must apply to ALL lives. Peace & Blessings 🙏🏽💖
This. I remember my mom constantly saying oh god she's about to become a teenager. I heard it so often i just assumed that meant i was supposed to act out. If I'd never heard that i wonder if things would've turned out differently. You don't have to get married, you don't have to not get married. Do what it is you WANT to do, at the end of the day these choices will be yours to deal with.
I Really Needed To Hear This Advice. I'm 23 Soon To Be 24 And I I Have A 5 Year Old Soon To Be 6 Year Old & I Literally Lose My Mind Every Singe Day Because I'm Still Trying To Figure Some Things Out & Still Live With My Mom And We Argue So Freaking Much & It's Just So Much. I Miss The Old Me And Don't Really Get Much Help For Real. I Have Been Through A Lot And Dealt With So Much, At Times I Can't Be The Parent I Want To Be For My Daughter The Way I Want To Because I Have Lost Myself Throughout The Whole Way.
I’m SO glad you found this video. You are going to be OK. I admire your honesty soooo much. Your honesty speaks volumes about who you are. I TOTALLY understand what you mean by feeling like you’ve lost yourself… the good thing about that is now you get to CREATE yourself. Figure out WHO you want to be and make sure your life is conducive to where you see yourself going. About you and your mom… I’m SO sorry to hear that. My daughter is 27 and we are starting a podcast next week!! Maybe this is something that we can talk about because my daughter and I have been through some THANGS too. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I AM SO HAPPY I CAME ACROSS THIS VIDEO. I kind of wish I watched it fresh out of high school but I’m 22 and I’m taking alllll of this advice into consideration.
Nooo You actually have So much strength. Please do not let the peer pressure get to You. You are precious, Your health is precious. What You can do is You can learn How to not care about being judged. Realize that people can only see things from their own Point of view and expirience So its never personal. What hurts us is not their actions but the fact that we Think we need them to accept our choices in order to be happy. Tho its great to have Support around You So maybe its time to find people why do truly Support You? Sending love xx
I really needed to hear this my just recently lost my mom and feel like I am missing that mommy advice and mommy talks especially being a new mom and wife ❤I needed this so much thank you
1. Just because something ran in your family, does not mean it has to run through you. You can make different decisions than them . 2. You will be figuring out your life forever. 3. Put God first . 4. It's okay to be the only one . 5. Learn to Listen to your intuition . Save yourself time and pain 6. Don't care about what ppl Think to the point that I alters who you are. 7. Everything that you're going through is going to pass.
I just came across your channel. So happy I found You! I love how you explain things. I love you, you personality, your passion for God and life itself and helping others. You have inspired me. Keep doing these videos
Wow! “Presented with so much love” this video was 5 years ago and I was going THROUGH IT with my oldest daughter. That’s where the passion came from in this video. She’s now 26 and doing AMAZING!! So glad you enjoyed the video. 🙏🏽💕
I’m 20. I don’t drink or smoke and I still have my virginity also I’m learning to find myself before being in a relationship 💕
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I’m 23 and pretty much the same except I drink on occasion.
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Who's in their 20s and wants to make friends? 💞
Me, lol
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Im 19 and watching this.. i don't wanna drink and don't wanna have sex before marriage. u made me confident about my decision thank you❤
@@notanotherseahorse8369 she said sex b4 marriage not no sex period
@@notanotherseahorse8369 your not getting married to have sex, your getting married bc u want to. The decision is to not have sex before marriage bc doing so (if your the type to get attached to people) can be damaging bc if your relationship or situation ship is toxic or your just not a good match, you may stay with that person for longer than you would have had you not had sex bc when you have sex, ur brain releases chemicals that can give you a false sense of security and you’ll experience temporary happiness despite the conflicts in your relationship (causing you to forget what that person did or the state of your relationship). Also, if you do break up with that person, it will hurt a looooot more bc your bonded (pair bonding). Some people don’t feel the effects as much but those people are the exception, not the rule (honestly even with those people, I do think there comes a time where they feel the weight, like when they meet someone they reaaaally like). It’s just a way to avoid unnecessary heartbreak. I don’t think that anyone that has sex before marriage is a slut or ‘used up’. I don’t think anyone is less valuable irregardless of how many people they have slept with, men or women, I just think you can get your heart broken much easier and take it much harder if you do have sex before marriage.
@@notanotherseahorse8369 I’m 20 girl but ok. Your not even gonna come up with a counter argument you wanna come up with that? Yikes. Good strong belief system you’ve built.
@@notanotherseahorse8369 the girl you responded to saying ‘you can have sex it’s fine’ said that she made the decision not to before marriage and that she was relieved when she saw this vid bc it made her feel more confident in believing what she wants to, so you saying ‘just have sex it’s fine’ is so out of pocket, let her have her beliefs and you can have yours. So you should worry about yourself. I didn’t say anyone was wrong, I was answering your question bc u said why would someone get married only to have sex, which wasn’t what I was saying at all, so I explained what I meant and I also explained why someone might make the decision to wait, I wasn’t trying to convert you but once again go off for no reason.
And I’m going to pick my nose in public🎈. I shouldn’t care what people think
Wow.. I really needed to hear this! I'm 22 years old and I'm about to lose my mind. Everyday feels like a struggle trying to find out who I am and also what I wanna do with my life. But I will definitely use your tips and just take a deep breath!
YOU, Jamila are exactly who I made this video for. YES-breathe! xoxoxox !!!
MEEEEEEEEEE
I’m 29 and I feel like I wasted my 20s
Lol I'm 22 years old... even though this comment was from 4 years ago... especially when it feels like your peers have everything all figured out
I hope u are good now cause am 22 and am losing it real bad 😭😭
Thank you for the great advice. I'm 22 and freaking out lol. I have no job, friends, money and never been in a relationship before. I just finished college but have no clue what to do with my degree and life. I have dreams but somehow I'm always running away from them but I will listen to God and my intuition. I believe it will all work out but sometimes the pressure to be someone or be doing something by a certain age is too much. I really want to enjoy my 20's because I "wasted" my teenage years overthinking and being so stressed and sad all the time. I dont want to repeat that cycle anymore, instead just not care and enjoy life. Thank you!
lovely A I relate to this so much. We’ll be okay chica ✨💎🙏🏾
Same
OMG you just described my life 😭
Hey that is because the plans you have are not God's plan for you. Stay blessed & enjoy your life & watch he unfolds everything. Your time is coming be patient. Much love 💕
You sound exactly like me😭
Break the Curse... Generational Curse!!
I was hurting SO bad recording this video girl! This was during that time I told you about Kiara. Whew...
Oh how accurate this is.. I'm in my early 20s and I've been coming to all of these realizations for a while now and I think it's SO important that everyone does. You DON'T have to follow in someone else's footsteps, you don't have to go to extremes and feel pressure to do something all or nothing (following the norm of a typical 20 something, partying, going out, etc), you don't need to care what people think of you and let that effect your success in life. Taking things day by day and working through this beautiful thing called life has made my 20s so much more enjoyable. Understanding that having balance is everything, understanding that my intuition will guide me to where the universe needs me to be, and living in the moment and actually experiencing life instead of letting it waste away keeps me on the road to a successful life! Amazing amazing tips !! ❤
+Elicia Goguen wow! Reading this made me smile! Good for you, Elicia!!! 💕
already i love your first tip. when people say “well high blood pressure runs in my family” i’m like no.. a bad diet runs in your family. you can prevent it / reverse it from happening!
This was comedy 🤣🤣
Facts .
I im 27, just got my masters degree, got a job and still dont know what to do with myself lol. I saw this and your tips for 30s as well since 30 is not to far away for me. Thanks for the video. Keeping God and His plans/will first. Its not easy but I have to keep Him in the center of my life.
LuvSoundz I'm glad you enjoyed the video! And remember to breathe!!!
You must be the man of the house.
I’m 29 and I still don’t know what to do with my life
@@MrPangulo007 the man?! 😂im a woman
@@tetsoujoseph9128 still working on it but it takes time and persistence!
i am turning 24 soon and i am losing it,
i find myself comparing myself to my agemates and i end up feeling so bad
this was very helpful
I'm 23 & had this phase where I felt like I was falling behind my peers & cousins that are the same age as me. They are working & I'm still at University. But I'm feeling so much better now! Focusing on myself & we all have different journeys. God has a plan even if I don't understand.
Same here girl! I feel extremely left out especially since I've been failing at my professional exams since the past three attempts but my mother keeps reminding me that when you're facing a bad time, remember it will end too and then good times are about to come. I'm sane only because of her. ❤
I remembered when I was in my early 20s, stressing out on trying to figure out what my calling was. I literally found my calling a year before I graduated at 25 and everything that I went through before made sense
Wow, when you said 'he will reward you for your patience!' Smh Amen to that because he surely will. I will be 25 this month pregnant with my first child & ive been through hell for the last year & a half, after all while being patient he is rewarding me, with my baby girl being the biggest blessing, what a reward it is!!
Anykia Williams yes!!!!
I’m literally crying my eyes out right now, I just wanted to say thank you. As a 23 year old finishing my last year of university... alone in quarantine has been really scary. I’ve been forced to be with my thoughts and I’m realizing how sad I am that school is over, and how I don’t know what to do for a job yet or how my life is gonna go at all... when you said that older people have a “sense of self” you gave me the words to explain how I’m feeling right now. I have no sense of self. But thank you for your kind words, I’m going to have to breathe and realize it’s okay not to have it all figured out.
I never had a strong mother figure in my life so hearing these words from you were very valuable. Your daughter is lucky to have you
Wowwww I am so sorry to just be seeing this comment. ❤❤❤
I wish she was my auntie lol.
Same😂
xoxo
Literally I’m sitting here like why couldn’t she have been my mom 😩
I'm 19 and I am trying to save myself from pain before it happens. Thanks for the vid
You are sooo welcome!!!
So wise!! Hope you’re doing great! :)
I feel like this should be an event conference with seniors before they graduate high school going into the real world.. You'll be surprise of what this kind of motivation can do for them
awesome video!!! i’m 26 years old and i didn’t go to college & i’ve been working the same full time for the past 6 years because it’s reliable but i’m STILL trying to figure out what i really want to do. recently i’ve realized that this is NOT what i want to do, so i put my two weeks notice in and now i’m starting a whole new career. even my new career may not be what i ultimately want to do but i think i’m learning that i like to experience and learn and try different things. it’s not good to be “stuck” somewhere. if you know what you don’t like that’s a big sign to change!
I am 28 and I needed to hear this. I felt like you are my mom telling me this. I caught myself self saying yes mam! thank you so much I needed this advice never had it!!!
Thank you I am 23 and I know what God is calling me to do but the process is the hardest part, I'm learning to trust God even in his silence. I'm no longer in Egypt (bondage) but I'm not at the promise land (the place I want to be) neither I am more in the wilderness (in between) learning to depend in God with my whole heart and nothing less! I love your videos thank you for taking the time out to make them, they truly are a help!
+Stacee Purnell you are so welcome and you are VERY VERY fortunate to KNOW what God has called you to do! So many people don't. There is a process in life no matter what. If you follow your dreams, there is a process. If we don't, there is a process for that too! I'd rather go through the process of living my dreams because the rewards are SO great!! Keep believing, Stacee!! 💕
Thank you! A Godly life is a sacrificial life I had to give up a lot of things and people to be what God called me to be and to do what God has called me to do, but thanks again for your encouraging words and I can't wait to see what else God has in store for you! 💜
Stacee Purnell yes, that's so true and thank you so much!!
The ending was so needed! "Things change but God is unchangeable" I recently turned 25 and have been struggling with hopelessness these last few weeks and needed this reminder. Thanks for sharing your wisdom ❤
I needed to hear this . I'm 20 going on 21 next month and I'm in a odd place in my life right now . I don't really know what I want to do and I feel like I've disappointed my parents time and time again so what's the point . I plan to change that negative mindset going into 2020 . I want to pursue my career , I want to have fun , make true friends , travel , spend time with my family ( because I've been avoiding them these past months ) , save / make money , date and just enjoy my twenties . I know that I won't have everything under control right now but I will one day 😭🙏🏾 thank you .
@Taylor it's 2021 and I'm currently 20 heading to 21 years in the next 3 months. What you said about about your life/self, I feel is exactly what I have been through and what I now want to accomplish...Wow the world is really small. I now look forward to entering the latter part of what you wrote in my life now.
All the best and hope everything works out great in all areas of your life 💕
I’m 22 and 2019 has been a year of realization for me. Between the middle of 2018 in up to now I’ve realized that what most people my age do or “like” doing because they feel like it’s the norm like casual sex with practical strangers, going out to clubs and bars, and stuff like that, my experiences with those things made me realize that I didn’t really enjoy them. That they were more harmful to me than pleasurable. I’ve been having bouts with myself trying to figure out why I feel like the odd man out but I think through my traumas over the past couple of years, 2019 has been a wake up call for me. So this video, I’m glad I came across it, especially when you mentioned not having to be like everyone else and not rushing yourself basically.
Wow! I absolutely LOVE how you have experienced some things and realize that it’s not for you!!! Keep being the “odd man out”. PS. You’re a LEADER. 💕
I'm 48 years old and I remember those trepidations...I am only now seeing your beautiful message for the first time and I absolutely love it. It most certainly brought back memories to me. What made my time challenging was the fact that I was emancipated at 18 years in the Foster Care system. I was so overwhelmed/scared during that time because my options were limited. There were just so many hurdles but I had high expectations for myself and I knew that I needed to stay focused and persevere. I grew up extremely poor and at the very bottom of society. My biological mother was a severe alcoholic who was constantly abused by men and made fun of by other women. I was her child and my destiny was paved for me; at least, so they thought. My God, Jehovah, My Halalajhah, My Father in Heaven had other plans. Glory! I feel a preaching coming on! So many, many journies later, I look back with gratitude to know that I didn't tap out when the devil tried to influence me. Make no mistake, the devil still does but then I remember from whence I came and where I am. I remember who I am and whose I am. I am the King's Kid and when God blesses you, no weapon formed against you will ever prosper. I think you Sis for the lovely little nuggets. I wish I heard this when I was in my 20's maybe my road would have been less bumpy... who knows? Regardless, I am still here and I still have high expectations for myself. I have not manifested my purpose quite as yet but I am still determined to keep on moving forward with purpose and God's grace. Amen
Thank you! I really needed to hear this, I just graduated from college and the search for a job in my career is no joke. I am trying my best to continue to trust God.
+A Davis you're welcome!! Take out your journal and WRITE OUT YOUR DREAM JOB! Write it out as if you just came home from a productive day. Example: "Today at work was absolutely amazing because _____________ . I am SO grateful for the opportunity to give value to this company in exchange for a valuable income. I can't believe I get to ____________ and get compensated WELL. Thank you God for this opportunity" Something like that. In your own words. And then put it somewhere you'll see it everyday. You can also add pictures to it! I AM STANDING IN AGREEMENT WITH YOU THAT YOU WILL GET THE RIGHT JOB AT THE RIGHT TIME DOING EXACTLY WHAT YOU WERE CREATED TO DO! 💕
Angel Richardson Thank you!
same 😩 it’s a struggle
Yes...trust God, Amen💯
"Just because you can, doesn't mean you should."
This spoke to me because my confirmation scripture (which I got to choose) is 1 Corinthians 10:23, "Everything is permissible -but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible -but not everything is constructive."
When she said "everybody in your 20s, take a deep breath*** and calm. down." Whoooo. Needed that. 😭
I'll be 22 years old next week on the 16th and I feel like I needed this 💕
After scrolling through countless vids of men saying women lose their value after 30, this was such a delight to find. Thank u
You’re very welcome!
I'm 20 yrs old, & I'm in this phase where I felt like giving up, I not doing enough in life where I should be doing as a 20 yrs, I have no JOB, no MOTIVATION, yes still in Community College and I wanna continue my education, But I have no MOTIVATION even the people I live with doesn't give me the motivation I'm the youngest of 4 older siblings, they judge me because I don't have a job, paying no bills, treat me like a baby, and it breaks my heart because as a human trying my best. so THANK YOU FOR BRING POSITIVELY 💓.
Loved it, not Caring about what people think, but being wise to make sure that I do what is right, what things I should.
Ehmeí Roj yes!!!
When u said divinely guided girl I got chills I know for a fact I was supposed to see this
I needed this video. 26 and I put so much pressure on myself to have it together. I just don’t like the chaos 😕
Wonderful message I am 25 and I can relate with going to college not knowing what to do next. ect... Everthing you said, down to saving myself for marriage in all thank you for the advice very much needed.
Patricia R you are SO welcome! Keep being AMAZING!!
I needed this video! Im 21 and a first generation college student so I pressure and push myself to the max until I’m on the verge of a mental breakdown 😩! My anxiety just pushes me to overthink and map out my life and next moves. Especially now because I’m graduating a semester early. I just don’t like not knowing stuff but it’s how life goes. You can make a plan and have goals but everything will come when it’s my time. I’ve been told your 20s are supposed to be your best years and I’m trying to live up to that.
Love this video. You are encouraging young women to be free, make mistakes and not take things so seriously. The world pressurised us so much. This was a refreshing perspective. ❤️
This was so HELPFUL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Omg I will be 25 in March and everything you said I have been going through omg ...I am learning how to follow my intuition more which I really struggle with it as if God speaks to me loud and clear but I ignore which lead me to so much pain and heartbreak and disappointment !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I believe God Lead me to this video Thank you !
You are so welcome!!
This video is great!! I'm 21 and feel that I need to have everything figured out !
Victoria G. And YOU are who I recorded this video for! xoxo!!! Remember to breathe. 💕
I’m 19 about to be 20 and I feel lost. I been trying to figure out what to do
This video was so what I needed. I didn’t want to hear typical go out and party tips or live life on the edge.. I wanted balance and nuance in the conversation and that’s exactly what I found. This calmed me, thank you so much.😊
Oh wow. I’m so happy this was beneficial for you!!! 💕💕💕
23 years old. Really needed this video. ❤️
You know there are days where I over think but that all changed when I meant you via TH-cam. Thank you!!!!😘
Nicole Stafford wow! That is so awesome, Nicole! 💕
I’m watching this in 2023 and I’m 21 years really I need this advice thank you 🙏 ❤
Awe, that makes me so happy!!! So glad this video helped you!! ❤️
This is an amazing video I’m a 19 year old single mother just moved into my own apartment I don’t have a job rn and I feel like my life is so chaos but u really go a me a sense of relief
Holy moly!!! I thought YOU were fresh out of your 20s!! My goodness, you look amazing!!
Matthew 7:13-14
The Narrow and Wide Gates
13 "Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.
14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it"
Amen.
Loved the advice of consciously recognizing historic issues and making a choice to make changes in your life. An important lesson for young women to learn.
Ahhh this 20 year old here needed this. Thank you for sharing.
Almost 22 years old here and this video is so precious, you basically said everything I haven't heard from my parents in my whole life, I really needed this. Thank you so much 💕
Wow! You are so welcome! YOU are an answered prayer for me. I said when I get older I want to be a woman that younger women can turn to! Keep being amazing and always walk in your truth!! xoxo
I'm 16 and my mom isn't by my side. I almost cried cause I feel my life is rushing and I feel older than my age. I just don't want a bad future thanks soo much 😪😊
don't worry. you are just born with an old soul and it might not seem like a blessing now feeling more mentally different than kids your age but trust me it gets better and you will feel more into yourself the older you get and others will catch up. For now, you have a lot of time to focus on the things you want to achieve or learn a new skill or hobbies. Always keep your self busy and never forget to just enjoy in the moment that are good and don't stress too much on the things that don't bring you joy. the challenging things are all just part of the ride of life and experiences and whether good or bad, it will always teach you something that you never knew before.
you keep it so real! where have you been in all my 4 years of being in my 20's. I don't have to pay for a therapist I just needed to hear your inspiring words, slow down and simply except myself and my unique Journey to my preferred destination.
mitzie don yessssss!!!!! 🙌🏼🙏🏼💕
Thank you so much for this video because I just turned 24 my anxiety was sky high now I can find comfort from this video.
for WOMEN in their 20's
You are absolutely right! I'm making the change to the title. Thank you.
I love this and I cannot thank you enough for your guidance ❤️🙏🏾 I am 23 and this video eliminated a lot of anxiety for me.
Wow! That makes me happy!!! God bless you! 🙏🏽❤️
I really needed to hear this. Recently, I have been having thoughts of suicide. I just turned 21 and I feel like I have no sense of self. I feel stuck between the pressures of society and what I actually want to make out of my life. It’s been extremely depressing and all I do is just cry. I’m ready to start living a meaningful life but now I understand it starts inside me
Keep going your life is valuable and worth living 🤎
@@ayannabrooks6680 thank you so much!
@@itzkaydayz5408 anytime love safe and blessed outchea 🤎
Thank you so much just turned 24 I needed this god bless you 🙏🏾🙏🏾
You are SO welcome and I pray that God blesses you as well! 🙏🏽❤️
You are a smart lady. I'm 24 and already wished I listened to my intuition earlier.
Thank you so much, I really needed this. I think I put so much pressure on myself, compare myself and get in my way by stressing for things I shouldn't stress about instead of tuning out all the noise and focusing on myself and what I want.
I will try harder, thank you so much for this
You’re very welcome!!
im 19 right now & I have been through soo much in my life I’ll be 20 next year this video was very helpful thank you 💕💕
You are so so welcome!!!
To all the girls that got confused about their lives nowadays, i got you but i promise it will be okay even if we haven't figured it out yet, that's also part of our life journey too 🙏🌸
I am going to give your great advice to my daughter ......while she is in high school stay bless..
Cherie Tillman awesome!! 💕
I’m 20 about to turn 21 next month and I really needed to hear this thank you for this video 💖🙏🏽🙌🏽
More twenty something videos!!!! ❤️❤🎉🎉 loved
Or a longer video on intuition! Struggling with whether or not to drop out of grad school right now and I feel like my intuition with people is terrible so I'm not trusting of it with the school situation. Thanks angel !
ThisisKaila Kaila!!!!!! Are you KIDDING me?! I just watched your vlog of you and your friend going to see Brendon Bruchard!!!!! I would bet my house (ok, maybe that's a bit much) BUT- I would bet that you know EXACTLY what would be the best decision for yourself!!! You can't sit under all that AWESOME teaching and not know what to do next. The awesome thing about life is that when we get off track or make a decision that wasn't the best, God ALWAYS lovingly gets us right back where we need to be. Sometimes we just have to step out and find out! You are absolutely amazing, Kaila and gorgeous!!! Trust yourself. And I'm loving your videos, I just subscribed!!
Angel Richardson oh wow thanks so much! "God lovingly gets us right back where we need to be"- wow going to write that on a post it and stick it to my desktop. Love that, thank you!
ThisisKaila you are SO welcome!!
As a man, I can find really useful some of this advices for myself. Good job Angel!!
Idk how i got here or what was YT's algorithm in order to make your video pop up but you touched my heart ❤️ thank you ❤️
Funny thing, in 2017 I was 22, exactly as your daughter haha
Yes, most of my friends had children young. I have zero children and I am in my late 30s.
That's okay!!
Preach❤️
I am 31 years old and still feel lost in life and so afraid to get out of my comfort zone also . I feel like I wasted my 20’s for being too afraid to go after what I wanted for myself rather than comparing and feeling pressured and even forced by my family to pursue majors that I was never interested in the first place. I was also around family friends that all behaved the same collective ways that was so impossible to even escape from it all and live on my own being young and inexperienced with life...
Your 20’s were NOT waisted!!! Now you can help someone else NOT do what you did! Nothing is for nothing…
I’m watching this in 2020 and I needed these tips so much!! You literally spoke everything I’ve been going through! Thank you so much for this video!! 💛
I really needed the last part, as a person that's been really suicidal since very young age that was...good to hear. Really good video, very good points, thank you so much, you're really an Angel.
You are sooo welcome and I’m SO glad the video was helpful to you!! 🙏🏽😍
I'm turning 20 in one month from today!
I’m 23 bout to be 24 in September I was having a midlife crisis I needed this I was breaking down today.
thank you soo much.
I’m 300 pound I’m trying to lose weight and I at a job but i hate it but it easy and pay well I really appreciate you for this
A life Crisis at just 23/24 🤔
Matthew 7:13-14
13 “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
Absolutely great video sis! 100% ❤️
Keisha King yesss!!! Thank you, Keisha!!! I KNEW someone was going to come through! 🙌🏼💕
Angel Richardson you are so very welcome darling! I'm a Minister, so I got you lol...that's actually one of my favorite scriptures that I preach to my 4 sons all the time! It's perfect scripture for the teens to share when they graduate, however it's a must apply to ALL lives.
Peace & Blessings 🙏🏽💖
Keisha King wow! So powerful and SO true!!
This. I remember my mom constantly saying oh god she's about to become a teenager. I heard it so often i just assumed that meant i was supposed to act out. If I'd never heard that i wonder if things would've turned out differently. You don't have to get married, you don't have to not get married. Do what it is you WANT to do, at the end of the day these choices will be yours to deal with.
Wow. Yessss❤️❤️❤️
I Really Needed To Hear This Advice. I'm 23 Soon To Be 24 And I I Have A 5 Year Old Soon To Be 6 Year Old & I Literally Lose My Mind Every Singe Day Because I'm Still Trying To Figure Some Things Out & Still Live With My Mom And We Argue So Freaking Much & It's Just So Much. I Miss The Old Me And Don't Really Get Much Help For Real. I Have Been Through A Lot And Dealt With So Much, At Times I Can't Be The Parent I Want To Be For My Daughter The Way I Want To Because I Have Lost Myself Throughout The Whole Way.
I’m SO glad you found this video. You are going to be OK. I admire your honesty soooo much. Your honesty speaks volumes about who you are. I TOTALLY understand what you mean by feeling like you’ve lost yourself… the good thing about that is now you get to CREATE yourself. Figure out WHO you want to be and make sure your life is conducive to where you see yourself going. About you and your mom… I’m SO sorry to hear that. My daughter is 27 and we are starting a podcast next week!! Maybe this is something that we can talk about because my daughter and I have been through some THANGS too. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@AngelRichardsonlifecoach Thank You So Much, I Really Appreciate It & I Would Actually Like That💗
Thank you for being the older sister we all needed ❤
Am 27 was married before and am regretting ,thank you
You’re welcome!
I AM SO HAPPY I CAME ACROSS THIS VIDEO. I kind of wish I watched it fresh out of high school but I’m 22 and I’m taking alllll of this advice into consideration.
Thank you!!!! ❤️
I'm 23 I'm still a virgin, don't drink don't smoke, don't do drugs, no record, and I'm in college
i felt how the preasure got off of me. Thank you thank you thank you🌻 (21y)
Amazing. I got your video exactly on time. I turned 20 this month itself. So much positivity. 🙌💖
I love how soft your makeup looks sis
God bless you 🙏🏼 I’m so glad TH-cam recommended me this during quarantine ❤️
I don't drink and it's so hard in college they make me feel I am weird
You’re not! There’s nothing wrong with drinking just as there’s nothing wrong with not drinking! Keep your head up and stay true to who you are 🌻🌼✨🌿
Nooo You actually have So much strength. Please do not let the peer pressure get to You. You are precious, Your health is precious. What You can do is You can learn How to not care about being judged. Realize that people can only see things from their own Point of view and expirience So its never personal. What hurts us is not their actions but the fact that we Think we need them to accept our choices in order to be happy. Tho its great to have Support around You So maybe its time to find people why do truly Support You? Sending love xx
I really needed to hear this my just recently lost my mom and feel like I am missing that mommy advice and mommy talks especially being a new mom and wife ❤I needed this so much thank you
Oh I am SO sorry for your loss… so sorry!
Girl u have a 20 yr old daughter?! You barely look 30!
this is just what i needed to watch right now thanks for this video 🥺❤️ i just turned 20 last week Tuesday
Awe you are so welcome and happy belated birthday! ❤️🙏🏽
I am 22 and I love this video thank uuuu sooooo muchhh!
Awe, you’re so so welcome!! ❤️🙏🏽
Hey from Slovakia , your advice was big help for me , thanks a lot ❤️
listening to you makes me excited about my life! Thank Jesus for you..
OMG thanks for the advice I'm 19 and I admit I've made a few mistakes but I'm willing to take the next step and change things
This is my first time commenting on someone video , that’s how much I loved your video . Thank you 🙏🏽😘
1. Just because something ran in your family, does not mean it has to run through you. You can make different decisions than them .
2. You will be figuring out your life forever.
3. Put God first .
4. It's okay to be the only one .
5. Learn to Listen to your intuition . Save yourself time and pain
6. Don't care about what ppl Think to the point that I alters who you are.
7. Everything that you're going through is going to pass.
You’re absolutely AMAZING. I hope this video helped you!! 🙏🏽❤️
LOVE your videos. You are the strong woman and mentor that I need in my life! Thank you!!
Thank you for being an auntie for me ❤️✨🥰🙏🏻 Your Words really resonated with me. God bless!
Thanks for this am 21 and just still figuring out myself to do better
Feel u it's a trip
I just came across your channel. So happy I found You! I love how you explain things. I love you, you personality, your passion for God and life itself and helping others. You have inspired me. Keep doing these videos
Couldn’t have said it better 👌
Presented with so much love ....thank you ❤ for the greatest advice..
Wow! “Presented with so much love” this video was 5 years ago and I was going THROUGH IT with my oldest daughter. That’s where the passion came from in this video. She’s now 26 and doing AMAZING!! So glad you enjoyed the video. 🙏🏽💕
God bless you beautiful, thank you so much ✨🌺🦋🍓🌟🌸
You are SO Welcome!! 💕💕💕
I cried, thank you
You’re so welcome!
Im about to be 24 and freaking out feeling i am behind and don't have anything together. Needed this.