nicole avery It is good to see people embracing their natural hair, especially woc who don’t always have confidence in their hair texture. Why is that a problem for you? They are just complementing it.
TheJayWashExperience I think it's more of the people that comment about her being too loud and "extra." I've seen quite a few comments that criticize her for being that way but Tamar has never said anything about disliking her for being upbeat.
Empressive tamar never said anything about her being extra, she said and all the other ladies agree that she came across as fake....go watch back the video. Shes subliminally throwing her statements at YOU!! probably me, and all those who said it
I wish I wasn't so timid and soft spoken when I was younger. I never really stood up for myself and let people walk all over me. I'm 21 now and I know I still have a lot to learn, but I take my mistakes with me and learn from them. I loved what Jeannie said at the end! You don't have to apologize to people and explain to them why you are the way you are. There's nobody on this earth better at being you so just stay true to yourself :)
Destiney Uzaka I can completely relate. I always found it hard to be assertive and to stand up for myself, even now as an adult. I pray that I'll come out of this eventually. Continue to stay strong, sis. Thank God that I'm finally learning to love myself, and I'll be 26 in a few days.
You'll get through it girl! You are beautiful and you are strong. Love yourself & don't ever let anybody tell you you're not! Blessings to you and happy early birthday! :)
that movie was hilarious and her and Monique were the funniest but like tamera said never regret your pass because its an experience and we need to learn from it . but you're good loni and Monique it's not popular as you may think, things are different now she didn't get the cookie role on empire and other movies.
She said she's an Oscar winner so she need bigger role like more money but she didn't get it. Not only cookie on empire but so many movies, she was on air on the news. A couple months ago talking about the manager on the show empire didn't hire her. Poor Monique she's very good actress tho.
I agree with everything they are saying especially Tamar. I've learned to stop feeling the need to explain myself. Now I've finally realized that I don't need to explain everything to everyone in order to get their approval. Not everyone is going to approve of every little thing. At the end of the day, you are going to have to live with your decisions. I love the saying "Never base your decisions on someone who won't have to suffer the consequences"
+bri gomez This is 100! IMO what Tamar said about trusting your gut could not be repeated too often. I can't stand when I go against my gut because it has always proven to be the closest thing I have to a "guidebook" on life. I feel best when I'm listening to my gut, regardless of pressure from people or social conventions around me.
PREACH JENNIE! I have and still do deal with that. Misery loves company and mean nasty people can't stand to see us upbeat people happy. Just keep smiling and ignore their asses
***** Tamar never said anything about her being upbeat. Most of the comments on IG, Twitter, and youtube directed toward Jeannie mention that they were annoyed by her loudness. Tamar said she felt like Jeannie choose not to open up to them.
Love Alexis no they tried to call her fake. And kept saying, we like the "real" Jeannie Mai.. to try to clean it up. They basically tried to say that the bubbly personality is a front for TV, and they want to know the "real Jeannie" and Jeannie basically said that she's not being fake,s he's naturally upbeat.
thickyvick They didn't try to call her fake. They said that she didn't allow them to get to know the real Jeannie Mai as in the girl outside of the workplace meaning having real conversations and not just discussing work related topics. That's what they meant by "Real" Jeannie not that her bubbly personality was fake but they want to know bubbly Jeannie outside of work.
I really liked this segment and I agree with everyone on what they are saying especially Jeannie. I am quite and I keep to myself and I don't really socialize much. Many times people will ask me why are you so quiet and why don't you talk to anyone, and I will just say to them that I don't really have a reason I just like to keep to myself. Although I do have a few friends and I do talk to people sometimes but most of the time I like to keep to myself because bit keeps me out of trouble. I will NOT apologize for the way I am and I don't owe anybody an explanation of my personality.
MsBrooklyn11232 I a lot like you too. I'm nature shy and quiet, but realized when I got older I am an observer I have good time when the people around me do the crazy or funny stuff I rather watch them then be apart of that moment I' didn't say much, but I remember a lot. And plus it depends on how comfortable I was around you how talkative I was. I grown out of that a lot since I'm not in high school anymore. The real world is so much better then high school. But I have my moments when I literally can't smile and I want to be alone and the people around me get that and just let me be, but still show that I they care. But unfortunately I work in customer service and I'm around a lot of people when I'm in that mood. I can pull myself together just enough to do my job, but if I customer does something annoying I don't try to hide how annoyed I am and I honestly don't care how they feel about.
My biggest regret, I think, is my four years of high school, and how I was always more eager for the school day to end rather than soaking in the experience. I tried out for the football team and unwillingly had to give that up when I was close to officially getting a jersey. I spent my lunch hours in the library. I wasn't very social in, and out, of class, and I missed out on a lot of activities during my senior year. By the time I started to realize how much of an introvert I was, prom was a few days away, and that ended up being the only thing I was a part of. The realization that I would be one of those alumni members that _no_ _one_ remembered kind of made me sad.
There is always social media to connect to your high school associates. No one will care about how you acted in high school 4 plus years from now, but everyone will be curious about what you are doing. There is always college and a career to make it different.
Keith P. Don't feel bad. My situation was is a little similar. The difference is I went to 4/5 different high schools and I hated them. I had friends but in my mind once school was done, I wasn't going to see any of them anyway. I was a weird kind of different to say the least. I never wanted to go to prom and I never saw myself attending a high school reunion. Which one would I go to? Never took pics for the year books or joined any clubs so it was pointless to me at the time. Now I have a hs reunion everytime I log onto facebook lol.Just don't beat yourself up about it. I'm sure someone remembers you plus you could always try college and do more when you're there if you wanted.
My biggest regret was not standing up for myself more when I was younger. I was bullied a lot during my childhood/preteen years and I would allow it to happen because I was too scared to stand up for myself and I do still have some of that. I feel like it's ruined a lot of my confidence and self esteem and has caused me to be not as assertive as I'd like. I'm always a "Yes" woman and bite my tongue too often.
Jeannie is speaking life!! And I personally think it's me listening/not listening to the Holy Spirit yenno than my gut. Sometimes we think we know it all and we don't listen or don't use discernment so we're caught up in situations where there were numerous read flags. I regret many things but I'm thankful that somehow they've turned around for me.
My biggest regret is not living one day at a time back when I was in high school. There were a lot of things I didn't like,rules,my school,experiences....I had bad experiences that I didn't realize would make me grow so much. Through out high school I longed to finish...I sort of let days pass by...I remember marking my calendar for days to pass so I would leave that life and I guess start a new one....but right now more than anything I long to live that life just for one more day,to feel it again. It was a part of my life that I never fully lived because I was too busy looking forward to the days I'm living right now. I've been looking for archives...old books...so I can at least show my kids one day but I can't find none. I vividly remember dumping those books somewhere, I don't know where right after I was done with school. I never thought something I longed for so much would haunt me like this but I'm just happy I'm learning while still young. I no longer look forward to my next day,I live every second of my present. I never want to miss it ever again.
I love what Tamera said about embracing your body and loving yourself, I'm 19 and I am overweight. But I am working out daily and trying to eat as healthy as I can and I know that by the time I'm 21 I will have the body I've worked for. I may feel disgusting now which I shouldn't but I do, but as time goes by I will start getting thinner and getting to where I want to be.
Victoria Barnes I wish you didn't feel that way, Victoria. I'm a pretty thin person and I feel disgusting sometimes, too. I hope we can figure this out, hun. Lol have a good day and a great journey.
My biggest regret is that for years, especially during and immediately after college, I let fear rule my decisions. I could have been so much further ahead in my career and life in general, but I was scared spitless to make the necessary leaps of faith. But I thank God for the friends he put in my life who literally dragged me out of that mentality. I was in a very bad job situation in early 2013 and they staged a Skype intervention (we live in 3 different countries), practically threatened to kick my ass if I didn't open my eyes. Lol! I'm a work in progress, but I'm happy with how far I've come.
My whole life I've been really quiet and shy. And I've never gave myself the opportunity to live (wild-out, have crazy nights, do crazy things). The reason for this is because I've always been too busy with school and work. I'll be 22 next month and I don't want to be one of those women who is 34 in the club with 21-year-olds because she didn't live it up when she was younger. With that said I just graduated yesterday and will be in Miami for the weekend! And yes I will "turn all the way up" YOLO! lmao
Lol sometimes I'm extra but it's only because I feel like sometimes I can never give enough of myself. I love interacting with people and getting to know each individual that individual blessed to meet. It's something I'm actually appreciate of tbh.
People tell me I am too bubbly or that I smile too much... haha, I don’t know why that bothers people! My life is not perfect; I am simply trying to zoom into the good instead of the bad . You ladies rock! ✨💫
What Tamar said is truth! The Spirit of TRUTH will lead you to ALL TRUTH (concerning you); I have learned that even your parents don't know your heart like God does, just trust your instinct and sit and be open to hear what your gut is telling you. As women we run to our friends for advise from other women an it can often cause us harm especially when a woman has been hurt by a man she will choose to deflect an you might make a silly decision.
Jeannie was talking about her other co-host when they called her fake a few months ago for being "too bubbly" What do y'all want her to be?! Pissed off and angry at work ?!!!
lautner cruz I don't understand what people mean when they want Jeannie to be more "real". More ratchet? More obnoxious? More shady? More bitchy? I don't get it. It's like she needs to invite her whole damn family on this show to have them confirm that she's real.
lautner cruz They didn't say she was too bubbly lol they said that she treated them like work and not as friends and didn't really up to her. Stop starting mess nobody even said they had a problem with her being bubbly.
Love Alexis You have to watch it again. They did say that part about the "we don't want to be treated like work" to clean it up after they offended Jeannie and she said that she's upbeat like that because it's all work to her. Like basically, This is a JOB I'm gonna have my game face on. I'm gonna be upbeat. Not just talking like girlfriends at home. But they really did try to say she was being bubbly and upbeat for TV. And they wanted to know the REAL Jeannie.---Just realized I already commented on one of your other comments about this. sorry. thought it was someone else. But i already wrote the paragraph..lol! SOrry
thickyvick I don't think they tried to "clean it up" I think that them wanting her to hang out with them and actually have conversations with them was a legit concern they had. At the time they didn't know if her being bubbly was her being fake or not since she didn't give them a chance to get to know her. I'm sure they didn't mean to offend but on the other side of it, perhaps they were offended by her not wanting to get to know them.However she's gotten far worst comments on youtube, IG, and twitter and Tamar actually cosigned Jeannie's sentiments. All in all it's good to see them grow and you can tell that the chemistry is much better, I just think people like to make things about the hosts because it makes watching more entertaining. They seem to get along fine but of course they're not going to always agree.
I like Jeannie so much after watching this. Before when I would watch her I'd be like ok home girl turn down like why is she just trying to be the loudest. But nah I was confused, she is so sweet and genuine and you can see she gets so excited & passionate! Love you Jeannie Mai!! ❤️
Loved the way you talked Jeannie yassssss👏👏👏👏...Continue to be you and enjoy it. The best person you can be is yourself! I also agree with Tamar because I am just like her...always afraid to follow my gut instinct which is usually right!!! Darn it I hate that!
Tamar's regret sort of makes me think of my own. The biggest one of all is that I wasted 20+ years desperately wanting closeness with others when the ME (the gut) inside me liked my company best, and the company of others 2nd or even 3rd, 4th or 5th. I allowed myself to go through a lot of pain in order to attain tight bonds with people...and I never truly attained it. Only mirages of it. All that time I could have known me so much better but, oh well, it was what it was. I'm just glad that I'm no longer in that place and continue to evolve.
I'm really feeling Jeannie on this. I think I am very similar to her, in that many people misunderstand me and judge me for being "extra". I'm always too much. I'm either too excited, to happy....or whatever. What I've come to understand from people telling me or criticizing me so much is that I care too much about what people think of me. It hurts me so much that I've had to over and over change myself so that people would accept me. I've given up, but it's a daily struggle to play like i don't care.
Alice Louis at the end of the day , BE YOU! Be as extra as you choose to be, and anyone with a problem, don't deserve your friendship, and most definitely don't deserve the power to make you feel bad about yourself.
Alice Louis i used to be like you. i'm so extra and people always said stuff to me like that that ate my selfesteem but what helped me was i started to search for extra people like and i found them. Now we are best friends and i feel comfortable. Go search for those extra people and trust me you will find them.
winker kwaha thanks but but it can be difficult. It's like a lifelong search to be somebody that can be accepted and as a result hide my true self. It's no way to live. I'm getting better. The people who matter will be there.
Right on Tamar. That gut feeling is the spirit moving in you baby girl. I don't know about anybody else but I have learned the hard way to listen to my spirit.
I hold back a lot when I'm around people because I'm always scared of them pointing out my flaws or something that I do. I'm still very young(17) and I'm still living with this, I really hope I grow out of this stage and just be me and not give a f-ck what others say. Also I need to work on loving my body on how it is and not trying to slim down to feel happy about myself. We're all beautiful and deserve to feel loved, wanted and free to do/look however we want.
Adrienne I feel you so much. I could have had a degree already but when I was like 18/19 I was too focused on all the wrong things. NOW I'm chasing that degree at 21 (started school full time at 20) but wow I can't help but think that I could have been done by now instead of stressing over classes today. We live and we learn though.
In high school and I get clowned for being happy and bubbly. I choose to be that way and others walk around mad at the world when they haven’t been through half of what I’ve been through.
YES jeanie, preach! I don't have a lot of regrets because I know everything I have gone through and every mistake I've made molded me into the woman I am today and has taught me what to do and what NOT to do. But i kinda regret seeking validation from people that never cared about me and making a fool out of myself, by being someone I wasn't just to "be accepted." I realize now, if somebody can't love/accept me for ME then you aren't meant to be in my life. Period! That's why I love jeanie. She's herself no matter how crazy people think she comes off. Be yourself and never apologize for it!
one time this boy from my middle school told me to "stop being so nice it's f**king annoying" and now time to time I'd think, am I being too nice? is it coming off as fake? will it scare people away? is it too much? and yeah also I'm really shy so I don't really stand up for myself, mainly out of fear XD and I just feel like I wanna disappear when someone picks on me and just hide away XD so yeah I'll take Jeannie's(did I spell it right? and also dang they're ALL so pretty just how??? why XD ) advice in one bid and ignore them and think positive, I'll try! 😖 (honestly I get a lot of tips from them XD)
I used to let everyone dictate how I needed to express myself. I would never say anything or talk back even if it was needed, people would pick on me and I would just turn the other cheek or take it and act like I didn't care even though the criticism really got to me. I don't know what happened but one day I found myself no longer taking judgement from people , If they tried to put me down , they would end up embarrassed trying. Now I look at myself and think , "who is that person to tell me how to.feel? How to act? How to behave? I am my own person , I am or can be better than they are, what they lack I have, I know there's people out there better and worse than me, and there's also people better than them, they are nobody and I am nobody to dictate somebody's life. I'll be the best I can be with what I was blessed with and that's good enough.
And this is why I love Jeannie! I'm similar to her and people say I'm extra and I "do the most" yet that's the same reason why people love me. I notice the people who hate me from being happy and bubbly are very insecure and upset with their lives. So I'm just gonna keep doing me and hope my happiness rubs off onto them!
Yes! A model agency wanted to fly me out at age 15 but my dad being a very old school and stubborn man said I was too young, so I told myself at 17 or 18 I would I was called to do Americas Next top model got overwhelmed and doubted myself and declined I'm 26 now I always look back like what if girl!
I can totally relate to what Jeannie is saying because people have said that about me all my life wondering why I’m so”upbeat or happy” all the time. For a while it hurt my feelings and I would try to change myself in certain situations, but now that I am getting older I’m working better at it!
I seriously felt what Jeannie was saying. it's so true. Be you and embrace who you are. it's a God-given selection process to weed out the people who don't need to be in your life.
Tamera comments really spoke to me. I’m 23 now and I’m taking her advice. I’m a shy person and I always feel the need to cover up and sometimes I do feel insecure . But I’m going to love myself the way that I am, wear that swimsuit or shorts. I’m going love myself and be proud of who I see in the mirror - thanks for that Tamera ❤
I regret not relaxing and dancing at parties and enjoying what my body looks like as Tamera said. Even though I was on my school's dance team and we won lots of trophies and performed in theaters, I am ridiculously shy to dance at parties (but I dance non stop at home).....I also tend to cover up my body alot too ..........I hope soon I'll feel free enough to let loose and boogie down and flaunt (not trashy now but you know)...............Thanks for sharing ladies, love you all mwa
Ooh My God this is such a coincidence Loni...Lala talks about this so extensively in her new book "The powerplaybook". So glad I got that book...such an eye opener. I'd be damned if I let opportunities slip just like that...
My biggest regret was being a people pleaser and gullible as a kid. I waisted so much time defending people who were not real friends. As an adult I cut that out and now I have made genuine friendships in college.
I regret letting others (male and females) making me feel bad and insecure about being skinny. The way I'm learning to love, embrace and work with it now....I wish I was stronger about it then. However, they did teach me that hurt people, hurt people. Oh and I also regret not picking a better college/university that I would've truly been happy at and I would've worked harder for more scholarships.
Jeanie is wise and brilliant... she knew this about herself all along- but lets Tamar made a fool of herself whenTamar called her a fake... then she proves in this episode that Tamar was that actual fake by contradicting what she call Jeanie. No shade, some people forget and sometimes they actually stop judging and learn.
My biggest regret was listening to my mom through high school. I used to wanted to be a music journalist and wanted to go to NSU to major in journalism and minor in music therapy. But my mom favorite line was "Wait" It' s like no matter what the thing was she always said that. So because of her I didn't go straight to college so now im in community college, changed my major multiple times to make her happy, I am more critical of myself b/c she always made me feel i didnt look good. now I am trying to listen to my gut and not let her negativity stop me from living my life.
It's never too late. Believe me same thing happened to me. Parents would be on me for wanting to go for modelig and acting. I always knew I had it in me for entertainment and I would do whatever it took. I'm going to school for nursing because it will be flexible on time to accomplish what I want, good pay, and I work well with individuals. But my parents would always push push push me to be what THEY wanted to be nah uh. Couple more years of working and I am moving out to either Miami or LA to get down to business. I had enough. I am sure you too but always remember it's never late to be what you want just make sure you have a BACK UP in case things dont go well (for me nursing)
My biggest regret is that I didn't get out of the abusive relationship when I knew it was time because of that I let him hurt me more than I could ever handle. At the end I can just thank God that I am still alive and now married to a wonderful man. But ya I will always regret because I had my bags packed and keys in the car but just didn't have enough courage to drive away.
I'll never get over my biggest regret. Putting a specific dream/opportunity on hold for "love." I'll never do that again. My advice, go after your dream even if you have to leave some people behind. If they love you, they'll understand. I learned the hard way. :(
Your own parents can be against your life goals and dreams. Some of them even take out their regrets on their own children because they didn't accomplish their own goals in life. Some "parents" even live vicariously thru their children. And that's never good.
Kolli I agree that the statement is not entirely true. The ladies should know for themselves. Some of them brought people on the show who saw potential in them when they did not. Sometimes people e.g. teachers or mentors come into your life to help develop a talent or gift in you that may even surpass their own. Their main reward is having helped you in your journey
Kolli yes i'm with you. that statement is not true, even not parents, sometimes our friends want to see us succeed. I'm succeeding now in college because of my friends who constantly look out for me all the time and that has kept me going. sometimes the right people in our lives keep us going to success.
"NO? you just never know who you sitting next to" LMFAO Tamar
shining QT LOL
The audience is really rocking the curly hair! whoo
i thought i was the only one that noticed that too i love it haha
Lucy Audrey lol
Why do you care..? Wtf
nicole avery It is good to see people embracing their natural hair, especially woc who don’t always have confidence in their hair texture. Why is that a problem for you? They are just complementing it.
nicole avery girl chill
Jeannie is subliminally getting someone together. I want her to continue to speak her mind like that and be unapologetic for being herself.
Empressive Does her name rhyme with Vamar Draxton?
TheJayWashExperience I think it's more of the people that comment about her being too loud and "extra." I've seen quite a few comments that criticize her for being that way but Tamar has never said anything about disliking her for being upbeat.
I said the same thing...lol..that would be Tamar
Empressive tamar never said anything about her being extra, she said and all the other ladies agree that she came across as fake....go watch back the video. Shes subliminally throwing her statements at YOU!! probably me, and all those who said it
Empressive Oh my gah...Jeannie be reading the sh!t we say about her on here...LOL
I wish I wasn't so timid and soft spoken when I was younger. I never really stood up for myself and let people walk all over me. I'm 21 now and I know I still have a lot to learn, but I take my mistakes with me and learn from them. I loved what Jeannie said at the end! You don't have to apologize to people and explain to them why you are the way you are. There's nobody on this earth better at being you so just stay true to yourself :)
Aww..I'm glad you got yhrugh that! And exactly being you is all you hneed to be and the right people will love you for it!!!
Thank you girl. Yes yes :)
Destiney Uzaka I can completely relate. I always found it hard to be assertive and to stand up for myself, even now as an adult. I pray that I'll come out of this eventually. Continue to stay strong, sis. Thank God that I'm finally learning to love myself, and I'll be 26 in a few days.
You'll get through it girl! You are beautiful and you are strong. Love yourself & don't ever let anybody tell you you're not! Blessings to you and happy early birthday! :)
Destiney Uzaka PREACH!!!! I hear you.
"In my bone marrow." 😂😂😂
DANG THAT AUDIENCE ROKIN THAT CURLY HAIR ALMOST EVERYONE HAD CURLY HAIR DAMN 😍
"Noooo... You just don't know who you're sitting next to" I DIED LAUGHING
Loni Monique aint dead call her up and make it happen! better late than never!
Monique has been black balled allegedly so for now Loni is good
that movie was hilarious and her and Monique were the funniest but like tamera said never regret your pass because its an experience and we need to learn from it . but you're good loni and Monique it's not popular as you may think, things are different now she didn't get the cookie role on empire and other movies.
omg really!? why? i didnt know about this... 😞
She said she's an Oscar winner so she need bigger role like more money but she didn't get it. Not only cookie on empire but so many movies, she was on air on the news. A couple months ago talking about the manager on the show empire didn't hire her. Poor Monique she's very good actress tho.
SlayAnna 😂😂😂😂😂
I agree with everything they are saying especially Tamar. I've learned to stop feeling the need to explain myself. Now I've finally realized that I don't need to explain everything to everyone in order to get their approval. Not everyone is going to approve of every little thing. At the end of the day, you are going to have to live with your decisions. I love the saying "Never base your decisions on someone who won't have to suffer the consequences"
The part that Tamar said about not apologizing was mentioned a second after the clip ended.
+bri gomez beautiful! thank you.
+bri gomez AMEN!
+bri gomez This is 100! IMO what Tamar said about trusting your gut could not be repeated too often. I can't stand when I go against my gut because it has always proven to be the closest thing I have to a "guidebook" on life. I feel best when I'm listening to my gut, regardless of pressure from people or social conventions around me.
Helena me too. Many times I have wanted to scream at myself for not trusting my gut
PREACH JENNIE! I have and still do deal with that. Misery loves company and mean nasty people can't stand to see us upbeat people happy. Just keep smiling and ignore their asses
***** Tamar never said anything about her being upbeat. Most of the comments on IG, Twitter, and youtube directed toward Jeannie mention that they were annoyed by her loudness. Tamar said she felt like Jeannie choose not to open up to them.
Love Alexis no they tried to call her fake. And kept saying, we like the "real" Jeannie Mai.. to try to clean it up. They basically tried to say that the bubbly personality is a front for TV, and they want to know the "real Jeannie" and Jeannie basically said that she's not being fake,s he's naturally upbeat.
Love Alexis and I'm not the one to usually feed into teh jeannie vs taytay stuff.
thickyvick They didn't try to call her fake. They said that she didn't allow them to get to know the real Jeannie Mai as in the girl outside of the workplace meaning having real conversations and not just discussing work related topics. That's what they meant by "Real" Jeannie not that her bubbly personality was fake but they want to know bubbly Jeannie outside of work.
thickyvick THANK YOU
What Jeannie said about the fashion industry is so true! It can be super fake
I really liked this segment and I agree with everyone on what they are saying especially Jeannie. I am quite and I keep to myself and I don't really socialize much. Many times people will ask me why are you so quiet and why don't you talk to anyone, and I will just say to them that I don't really have a reason I just like to keep to myself. Although I do have a few friends and I do talk to people sometimes but most of the time I like to keep to myself because bit keeps me out of trouble. I will NOT apologize for the way I am and I don't owe anybody an explanation of my personality.
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MsBrooklyn11232 I a lot like you too. I'm nature shy and quiet, but realized when I got older I am an observer I have good time when the people around me do the crazy or funny stuff I rather watch them then be apart of that moment I' didn't say much, but I remember a lot. And plus it depends on how comfortable I was around you how talkative I was. I grown out of that a lot since I'm not in high school anymore. The real world is so much better then high school. But I have my moments when I literally can't smile and I want to be alone and the people around me get that and just let me be, but still show that I they care. But unfortunately I work in customer service and I'm around a lot of people when I'm in that mood. I can pull myself together just enough to do my job, but if I customer does something annoying I don't try to hide how annoyed I am and I honestly don't care how they feel about.
Trust there's nothing wrong with that.....it's the ones that are allergic to silence and very social you really have to watch!
+Risse H you said it girl ! we gotta watch our backs with those haha 💯
im alot like u im quite and shy and i keep to myself even tho i do have friends
My biggest regret, I think, is my four years of high school, and how I was always more eager for the school day to end rather than soaking in the experience. I tried out for the football team and unwillingly had to give that up when I was close to officially getting a jersey. I spent my lunch hours in the library. I wasn't very social in, and out, of class, and I missed out on a lot of activities during my senior year. By the time I started to realize how much of an introvert I was, prom was a few days away, and that ended up being the only thing I was a part of. The realization that I would be one of those alumni members that _no_ _one_ remembered kind of made me sad.
Same
I didnt go to any of The prom nights
Keith P. Look on the bright side, you can look forward to college. In my opinion, it's 100 times better than high school. :)
There is always social media to connect to your high school associates. No one will care about how you acted in high school 4 plus years from now, but everyone will be curious about what you are doing. There is always college and a career to make it different.
Keith P. Don't feel bad. My situation was is a little similar. The difference is I went to 4/5 different high schools and I hated them. I had friends but in my mind once school was done, I wasn't going to see any of them anyway. I was a weird kind of different to say the least. I never wanted to go to prom and I never saw myself attending a high school reunion. Which one would I go to? Never took pics for the year books or joined any clubs so it was pointless to me at the time. Now I have a hs reunion everytime I log onto facebook lol.Just don't beat yourself up about it. I'm sure someone remembers you plus you could always try college and do more when you're there if you wanted.
Tamar is beat to capaaacity!!!!!! I love you all ladies all the way from South Africa
Definitely Always TRUST your Intuition!!! It Knows all truths to your Life! Never again will I EVER go against My own Intuition! Nope!
Yes Tamar! Except I follow my Heavenly Father's voice rather than my gut. It's a gentle voice. The more I follow it the more I hear it.
My biggest regret was not standing up for myself more when I was younger. I was bullied a lot during my childhood/preteen years and I would allow it to happen because I was too scared to stand up for myself and I do still have some of that. I feel like it's ruined a lot of my confidence and self esteem and has caused me to be not as assertive as I'd like. I'm always a "Yes" woman and bite my tongue too often.
Jeannie is speaking life!! And I personally think it's me listening/not listening to the Holy Spirit yenno than my gut. Sometimes we think we know it all and we don't listen or don't use discernment so we're caught up in situations where there were numerous read flags. I regret many things but I'm thankful that somehow they've turned around for me.
Wow love the curls in the audience
Jeannie is talking to somebody on that panel. I'm not gone say who, but Jeanne is talking to somebody on that panel.
Yeah Tamar but let's not say names
JustS Taaaamaaaaarrr. She even practically called her (Jeannie) fake on one of the girl chats for being so bubbly all the time.
Bri Nae LMAO!!!!! Why am I crying at your comment??
And Tamar sai "really ?!" Like she ain't know who she was talking about ..lmfao
Y'all are so childish that it's hard to even believe that you're adults....
My biggest regret is not living one day at a time back when I was in high school. There were a lot of things I didn't like,rules,my school,experiences....I had bad experiences that I didn't realize would make me grow so much. Through out high school I longed to finish...I sort of let days pass by...I remember marking my calendar for days to pass so I would leave that life and I guess start a new one....but right now more than anything I long to live that life just for one more day,to feel it again. It was a part of my life that I never fully lived because I was too busy looking forward to the days I'm living right now. I've been looking for archives...old books...so I can at least show my kids one day but I can't find none. I vividly remember dumping those books somewhere, I don't know where right after I was done with school. I never thought something I longed for so much would haunt me like this but I'm just happy I'm learning while still young. I no longer look forward to my next day,I live every second of my present. I never want to miss it ever again.
if i feel something in my BONEMARROW! Gotta love Tamar
"When I order fries I want that extra.." Yaaaas girl yaaas loool
Lmfao I totally forgot Loni was in Soul Plane 😂😂😂😂😂
Vtggawd right! And she talking about everybody said they made the movie lol.
thickyvick They did make the movie. That scene where they made the guy strip was like one of the highlights to that terrible movie lol
Lina Luv definitely a funny scene.. But you have to be in more scenes to say you MADE the movie
Phil West Not necessarily. Jack Nicholson’s screen time in The Shining was only 12 minutes and he’s the one who made the movie.
I love what Tamera said about embracing your body and loving yourself, I'm 19 and I am overweight. But I am working out daily and trying to eat as healthy as I can and I know that by the time I'm 21 I will have the body I've worked for. I may feel disgusting now which I shouldn't but I do, but as time goes by I will start getting thinner and getting to where I want to be.
Victoria Barnes I wish you didn't feel that way, Victoria. I'm a pretty thin person and I feel disgusting sometimes, too. I hope we can figure this out, hun. Lol have a good day and a great journey.
Loving the support they are showing for each other!!!!!!!!! Yessss!!!!!!
Tell it Jeannie! Don't let these haters get you down.
My biggest regret is that for years, especially during and immediately after college, I let fear rule my decisions. I could have been so much further ahead in my career and life in general, but I was scared spitless to make the necessary leaps of faith. But I thank God for the friends he put in my life who literally dragged me out of that mentality. I was in a very bad job situation in early 2013 and they staged a Skype intervention (we live in 3 different countries), practically threatened to kick my ass if I didn't open my eyes. Lol! I'm a work in progress, but I'm happy with how far I've come.
My whole life I've been really quiet and shy. And I've never gave myself the opportunity to live (wild-out, have crazy nights, do crazy things). The reason for this is because I've always been too busy with school and work. I'll be 22 next month and I don't want to be one of those women who is 34 in the club with 21-year-olds because she didn't live it up when she was younger. With that said I just graduated yesterday and will be in Miami for the weekend! And yes I will "turn all the way up" YOLO! lmao
2:39 --- Loni's reaction is priceless- Tamara is still pruder than prude and a total goodie two-shoes!! HAHAHA.
You go jeannie!!
Lol sometimes I'm extra but it's only because I feel like sometimes I can never give enough of myself. I love interacting with people and getting to know each individual that individual blessed to meet. It's something I'm actually appreciate of tbh.
Houston Scott you seem like such a cool person from your comments. keep doing you.
uchenna1997 thanks! In the end I have to say I'm happy people in my life enjoy me for me.
Houston Scott nothing wrong w/being extra sometimes imho. live life large.
I'm with Tamar on this one I never listen to my gut and every time i don't it gets me in trouble lol
I think everyone does that
1:48 if i feel something in my bone marrow I'm dead😂😂
People tell me I am too bubbly or that I smile too much... haha, I don’t know why that bothers people! My life is not perfect; I am simply trying to zoom into the good instead of the bad . You ladies rock! ✨💫
What Tamar said is truth! The Spirit of TRUTH will lead you to ALL TRUTH (concerning you); I have learned that even your parents don't know your heart like God does, just trust your instinct and sit and be open to hear what your gut is telling you. As women we run to our friends for advise from other women an it can often cause us harm especially when a woman has been hurt by a man she will choose to deflect an you might make a silly decision.
wow! this comment was/is for me
Jeannie was talking about her other co-host when they called her fake a few months ago for being "too bubbly" What do y'all want her to be?! Pissed off and angry at work ?!!!
lautner cruz yeah i remember that episode! I felt so bad for her
lautner cruz I don't understand what people mean when they want Jeannie to be more "real". More ratchet? More obnoxious? More shady? More bitchy? I don't get it. It's like she needs to invite her whole damn family on this show to have them confirm that she's real.
lautner cruz They didn't say she was too bubbly lol they said that she treated them like work and not as friends and didn't really up to her. Stop starting mess nobody even said they had a problem with her being bubbly.
Love Alexis You have to watch it again. They did say that part about the "we don't want to be treated like work" to clean it up after they offended Jeannie and she said that she's upbeat like that because it's all work to her. Like basically, This is a JOB I'm gonna have my game face on. I'm gonna be upbeat. Not just talking like girlfriends at home. But they really did try to say she was being bubbly and upbeat for TV. And they wanted to know the REAL Jeannie.---Just realized I already commented on one of your other comments about this. sorry. thought it was someone else. But i already wrote the paragraph..lol! SOrry
thickyvick I don't think they tried to "clean it up" I think that them wanting her to hang out with them and actually have conversations with them was a legit concern they had. At the time they didn't know if her being bubbly was her being fake or not since she didn't give them a chance to get to know her. I'm sure they didn't mean to offend but on the other side of it, perhaps they were offended by her not wanting to get to know them.However she's gotten far worst comments on youtube, IG, and twitter and Tamar actually cosigned Jeannie's sentiments. All in all it's good to see them grow and you can tell that the chemistry is much better, I just think people like to make things about the hosts because it makes watching more entertaining. They seem to get along fine but of course they're not going to always agree.
I like Jeannie so much after watching this. Before when I would watch her I'd be like ok home girl turn down like why is she just trying to be the loudest. But nah I was confused, she is so sweet and genuine and you can see she gets so excited & passionate! Love you Jeannie Mai!! ❤️
Loved the way you talked Jeannie yassssss👏👏👏👏...Continue to be you and enjoy it. The best person you can be is yourself! I also agree with Tamar because I am just like her...always afraid to follow my gut instinct which is usually right!!! Darn it I hate that!
Tamar's regret sort of makes me think of my own. The biggest one of all is that I wasted 20+ years desperately wanting closeness with others when the ME (the gut) inside me liked my company best, and the company of others 2nd or even 3rd, 4th or 5th. I allowed myself to go through a lot of pain in order to attain tight bonds with people...and I never truly attained it. Only mirages of it. All that time I could have known me so much better but, oh well, it was what it was. I'm just glad that I'm no longer in that place and continue to evolve.
Go ahead Jeannie 👍🏼
Teresa Guzman Ok, I gotta ask, wth is this U00001 number I keep seeing???
Jeannie better preach!!!!!!!!
I'm really feeling Jeannie on this. I think I am very similar to her, in that many people misunderstand me and judge me for being "extra". I'm always too much. I'm either too excited, to happy....or whatever. What I've come to understand from people telling me or criticizing me so much is that I care too much about what people think of me. It hurts me so much that I've had to over and over change myself so that people would accept me. I've given up, but it's a daily struggle to play like i don't care.
Alice Louis at the end of the day , BE YOU! Be as extra as you choose to be, and anyone with a problem, don't deserve your friendship, and most definitely don't deserve the power to make you feel bad about yourself.
Alice Louis i used to be like you. i'm so extra and people always said stuff to me like that that ate my selfesteem but what helped me was i started to search for extra people like and i found them. Now we are best friends and i feel comfortable. Go search for those extra people and trust me you will find them.
winker kwaha thanks but but it can be difficult. It's like a lifelong search to be somebody that can be accepted and as a result hide my true self. It's no way to live. I'm getting better. The people who matter will be there.
"If I feel something in my bone marrow" lol! Tamar is too real!
Sometimes i WONDER WHO called JEANNIE extra
THE MUPPET
+Pedro Carrazana lol did u answer you'reself
+Pedro Carrazana What muppet? 🤔
me I did
U did what ??
The lady at 1:03 😂✋
I was looking to see if someone had commented about that 😄
😂😂😂😂😂😂lol
Prettygirlcn5 Baby know she ain't supposed to do all that bouncing without a bra on.
Kuhrizma Clemons lmao i did not notice her lol
Prettygirlcn5 me too lol
love them all...love this show
Jeannie been killin it lately. You tell it girl!!
This was a good conversation with a lot of honest and real points. They should come back to this one.
Right on Tamar. That gut feeling is the spirit moving in you baby girl. I don't know about anybody else but I have learned the hard way to listen to my spirit.
I hold back a lot when I'm around people because I'm always scared of them pointing out my flaws or something that I do. I'm still very young(17) and I'm still living with this, I really hope I grow out of this stage and just be me and not give a f-ck what others say. Also I need to work on loving my body on how it is and not trying to slim down to feel happy about myself. We're all beautiful and deserve to feel loved, wanted and free to do/look however we want.
Not 17 anymore haha. 5 years later how are you now?
Adrienne is so gorgeous every time !! She never has a bad makeup day! Red lip is bomb
"No. You just never know, who you're sitting next to" 2:42 (😂2015)
Jeannie preach!!! She said that perfectly!!! I couldn't agree more!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yes yes & yaassss speak your truth, live your life & never be apologetic for being yourself !
Be grateful for what you have Loni....Always wanting more!!!!
amen Jeanie. Be who you are, those ppl wish they could do what you do. What they're doing is called being fake.
Adrienne I feel you so much. I could have had a degree already but when I was like 18/19 I was too focused on all the wrong things. NOW I'm chasing that degree at 21 (started school full time at 20) but wow I can't help but think that I could have been done by now instead of stressing over classes today. We live and we learn though.
In high school and I get clowned for being happy and bubbly. I choose to be that way and others walk around mad at the world when they haven’t been through half of what I’ve been through.
All you see out in the audience is natural
drag queen voice "yaaaasss Jeanie I liivveee!"
YES jeanie, preach! I don't have a lot of regrets because I know everything I have gone through and every mistake I've made molded me into the woman I am today and has taught me what to do and what NOT to do. But i kinda regret seeking validation from people that never cared about me and making a fool out of myself, by being someone I wasn't just to "be accepted." I realize now, if somebody can't love/accept me for ME then you aren't meant to be in my life. Period! That's why I love jeanie. She's herself no matter how crazy people think she comes off. Be yourself and never apologize for it!
Jeanie is my favourite atm
one time this boy from my middle school told me to "stop being so nice it's f**king annoying" and now time to time I'd think, am I being too nice? is it coming off as fake? will it scare people away? is it too much? and yeah also I'm really shy so I don't really stand up for myself, mainly out of fear XD and I just feel like I wanna disappear when someone picks on me and just hide away XD so yeah I'll take Jeannie's(did I spell it right? and also dang they're ALL so pretty just how??? why XD ) advice in one bid and ignore them and think positive, I'll try! 😖 (honestly I get a lot of tips from them XD)
LOVE how Jeannie expresses that its truly okay to be who you are :)
I used to let everyone dictate how I needed to express myself. I would never say anything or talk back even if it was needed, people would pick on me and I would just turn the other cheek or take it and act like I didn't care even though the criticism really got to me. I don't know what happened but one day I found myself no longer taking judgement from people , If they tried to put me down , they would end up embarrassed trying. Now I look at myself and think , "who is that person to tell me how to.feel? How to act? How to behave? I am my own person , I am or can be better than they are, what they lack I have, I know there's people out there better and worse than me, and there's also people better than them, they are nobody and I am nobody to dictate somebody's life. I'll be the best I can be with what I was blessed with and that's good enough.
Regret's are like poison, let them go.
“NO! YOU JUST NEVER KNOW WHO YOU SITTING NEXT TO”
That's right Jeanie!
So many hair crushes in the audience today, love those ladies rocking their big kinky curly hair.
And this is why I love Jeannie! I'm similar to her and people say I'm extra and I "do the most" yet that's the same reason why people love me. I notice the people who hate me from being happy and bubbly are very insecure and upset with their lives. So I'm just gonna keep doing me and hope my happiness rubs off onto them!
The whole time Jeannie was talking Tamar did not make one shady remark like she always does. LMAO!!
Melissa Evans yeah shocking
That’s because she was one of the people Jeannie was talking about👀🤷🏾♀️
My Biggest regret was not going to Open Call with Ford Modeling Agency at the age of 17 years old; when my Modeling Mentor told me
Yes! A model agency wanted to fly me out at age 15 but my dad being a very old school and stubborn man said I was too young, so I told myself at 17 or 18 I would I was called to do Americas Next top model got overwhelmed and doubted myself and declined I'm 26 now I always look back like what if girl!
Whitley Priestley That's major!
Bell Cole tell me about it! It haunts me to this day!
Whitley Priestley I know what you mean, I was offered a record deal when I was around 11 but my dad was "nope, she's staying in school"
Yessss Jeannie! Speak the truth
I can totally relate to what Jeannie is saying because people have said that about me all my life wondering why I’m so”upbeat or happy” all the time. For a while it hurt my feelings and I would try to change myself in certain situations, but now that I am getting older I’m working better at it!
I love what they said about intuition. It always leads you in the the right direction. Always. It's our gps.
I love this more outspoken Jeannie. Speak your mind, girl!
I seriously felt what Jeannie was saying. it's so true. Be you and embrace who you are. it's a God-given selection process to weed out the people who don't need to be in your life.
I love Jeannie!
Tamera shouldn't regret being modest, more women should be modest
Tamera comments really spoke to me. I’m 23 now and I’m taking her advice. I’m a shy person and I always feel the need to cover up and sometimes I do feel insecure . But I’m going to love myself the way that I am, wear that swimsuit or shorts. I’m going love myself and be proud of who I see in the mirror - thanks for that Tamera ❤
I regret not relaxing and dancing at parties and enjoying what my body looks like as Tamera said. Even though I was on my school's dance team and we won lots of trophies and performed in theaters, I am ridiculously shy to dance at parties (but I dance non stop at home).....I also tend to cover up my body alot too ..........I hope soon I'll feel free enough to let loose and boogie down and flaunt (not trashy now but you know)...............Thanks for sharing ladies, love you all mwa
Ooh My God this is such a coincidence Loni...Lala talks about this so extensively in her new book "The powerplaybook". So glad I got that book...such an eye opener. I'd be damned if I let opportunities slip just like that...
I feel like the group gets all UGGHH when Temara tells her story or her opinion
Yonce Run The World lol its just bc of wat exactly she said besides that they love Tamera very much
My biggest regret was being a people pleaser and gullible as a kid. I waisted so much time defending people who were not real friends. As an adult I cut that out and now I have made genuine friendships in college.
I know that's right Jeannie girl !
I regret letting others (male and females) making me feel bad and insecure about being skinny. The way I'm learning to love, embrace and work with it now....I wish I was stronger about it then. However, they did teach me that hurt people, hurt people.
Oh and I also regret not picking a better college/university that I would've truly been happy at and I would've worked harder for more scholarships.
I just finished watching both twitches and all the cheetah girls movies
Jeanie is wise and brilliant... she knew this about herself all along- but lets Tamar made a fool of herself whenTamar called her a fake... then she proves in this episode that Tamar was that actual fake by contradicting what she call Jeanie. No shade, some people forget and sometimes they actually stop judging and learn.
My biggest regret was listening to my mom through high school. I used to wanted to be a music journalist and wanted to go to NSU to major in journalism and minor in music therapy. But my mom favorite line was "Wait" It' s like no matter what the thing was she always said that. So because of her I didn't go straight to college so now im in community college, changed my major multiple times to make her happy, I am more critical of myself b/c she always made me feel i didnt look good. now I am trying to listen to my gut and not let her negativity stop me from living my life.
It's never too late. Believe me same thing happened to me. Parents would be on me for wanting to go for modelig and acting. I always knew I had it in me for entertainment and I would do whatever it took. I'm going to school for nursing because it will be flexible on time to accomplish what I want, good pay, and I work well with individuals. But my parents would always push push push me to be what THEY wanted to be nah uh. Couple more years of working and I am moving out to either Miami or LA to get down to business. I had enough. I am sure you too but always remember it's never late to be what you want just make sure you have a BACK UP in case things dont go well (for me nursing)
Raphael Ferrero Thank you so much for the encouragement.
My biggest regret is that I didn't get out of the abusive relationship when I knew it was time because of that I let him hurt me more than I could ever handle. At the end I can just thank God that I am still alive and now married to a wonderful man. But ya I will always regret because I had my bags packed and keys in the car but just didn't have enough courage to drive away.
Whatever I fully agree regret getting out of a abusive relationship 31 years later and I am extremely unhappy.
I fully agree the worse thing to do to stay im abusive relationship it will never ever get better
I’m loving all the Naturalistas in the audience 😍🙆🏾♀️🙌🏾❤️
I love Jeannies enthusiasm!! Not extra..
I'll never get over my biggest regret. Putting a specific dream/opportunity on hold for "love." I'll never do that again. My advice, go after your dream even if you have to leave some people behind. If they love you, they'll understand. I learned the hard way. :(
***** Uh uh, I've pushed that back into the depths of my memory bank.
+LaCheleWallace what was the dream if you don't mind me Asking you?
Thank you so much I really really needed this...
Hi I stumbled over your comment. Hope you're doing well. 5 years later.. How are you?
Yes Jeannie I totally agree! I feel the same way
"Well you just never know who your sitting next to" TAMAR IS HILARIOUS
Loni looks so beautiful! I love this look on her!
"And extra ketchup PLEASE" lmao only tamera would say please she's so cute even when acting ruff
"No one is ever going to want you to be successful more than you do." Biggest lie ever told. Do they have parents?
Your own parents can be against your life goals and dreams. Some of them even take out their regrets on their own children because they didn't accomplish their own goals in life. Some "parents" even live vicariously thru their children. And that's never good.
Kolli I agree that the statement is not entirely true. The ladies should know for themselves. Some of them brought people on the show who saw potential in them when they did not.
Sometimes people e.g. teachers or mentors come into your life to help develop a talent or gift in you that may even surpass their own. Their main reward is having helped you in your journey
***** You're right. I was just pointing out that the statement isn't an absolute.
Kolli nothing in life is absolute
Kolli yes i'm with you. that statement is not true, even not parents, sometimes our friends want to see us succeed. I'm succeeding now in college because of my friends who constantly look out for me all the time and that has kept me going. sometimes the right people in our lives keep us going to success.
Tamar: ‘you just never know who you’re sitting next to’ > LAUGHED MY ASS OFF CAN’T BREATHE WHAHAHAHAHSHSHAHAHAhahaha