Difference Between A Difficult, Disappointing and Destructive Marriage

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 พ.ย. 2024

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  • @lornabartlett2744
    @lornabartlett2744 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Useful measures and advice 👍

  • @meganmoore9811
    @meganmoore9811 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Generational in my case. Paternal grandparents divorced due to abuse, parents divorce, I'm divorced. Demeaned, slandered, decieved-but others were also. I'm struggling, but consciencly working to forgiveness every day. Church lack of insight, insistence on staying together, reconciling without understanding the problems nor holding him accountable. Serious problems in homes and church's today, thank you Leslie for providing insight and guidance. Those that haven't gone through the trauma bonding and constant double binds don't have a clue. I didn't believe my ex was capable of such self deception , but there it is. The problems can be extremely evil, more than I want to go into here. No trite cliches can fix, church needs to get a clue.

  • @ekehopenkiruka
    @ekehopenkiruka 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hard truth to take on " Marriage may be sicker that we thought"," another diagnosis may be required"

  • @meganmoore9811
    @meganmoore9811 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Sometimes a person that's been in an abusive situation wants to own their own stuff, but the gaslighting and emotional abuse may be generational, hard to sort out. I think pastors and others need to be very careful when trying to discern the situation. "Deceiving and being deceived" is very possible.

  • @swissb64
    @swissb64 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have to agree with the idolatry statement. We cannot rely on a single person to completely be our everything. That will exclude Christ from being our first love and consideration.

  • @namboy2233
    @namboy2233 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very good advice!

  • @SurvivorC
    @SurvivorC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    For years I thought I was in a difficult marriage that was more and more disappointing. What I didn’t realize was it was a destructive marriage. Leslie, could you do a video on that? When you think it’s difficult but it’s actually destructive. Gaslighting, invalidation and other not do clear behaviors that make it confusing? Thankfully, I found a great therapist and my church became involved. Unfortunately, the marriage couldn’t be repaired.

  • @meganmoore9811
    @meganmoore9811 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love Christ, love the church , but when behavior is evil and by default sanctioned by the church, it's time to get out. Can't call evil good, nor enable evil.

  • @catinaharrismin
    @catinaharrismin ปีที่แล้ว

    this is so good

  • @jennifergood8041
    @jennifergood8041 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Leslie I feel like God is speaking directly through you. How do you stay married and endure the pain?

  • @schenah3199
    @schenah3199 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for the video it gave me clarity on my situation

  • @mchristr
    @mchristr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    If you're disappointed with your husband, guess what? Yup, he's probably disappointed with you. Now that you have a realistic view of marriage, something great can be built. Get to work.