A friend of mine adopted a dog when she had two cats. Her cats hated it and hissed and growled at it. Then it went blind and the cats would follow it around to make sure it didn't bump into walls and help the dog get to his food bowl..They knew there was something wrong with him before my friend did. That is my favorite cat story.
@Nugget The leopard gecko many years ago we had a staffy from a neighbouring house come onto our section, how dog had the dog cornered at the fence with about 2 metres of distance between them and our cat came out of the house and ran straight pass our dog and went for the staffy. The poor neighbours dog never came near our place again.
@@SerEnmei Yep. A cat has five pointy ends to a dog's one (teeth; dogs don't use claws in a fight). And if the cat attacks at once, rather than running, she can beat any dog. They just don't know what hit them...or bit them!
This can even be seen in domestic rats; there are videos out there where a sick rat with a brain tumour is unable to walk properly; the ill rat tries to get into the ratnest (they all sleep in a pile) but the rat can't get its legs to work properly; so another rat will literally pull its sick friend inside the nest with the rest of them so its not stuck outside. Plus the studies where a rat is trapped in an apparatus inside a rat cage, the rats will always set the trapped rat free. It must have something to do with animals that live socially; as rats live in large groups and will get sad when kept alone. Hamsters on the other hand show no such behaviour, they seem a lot stupider and do not notice much of what is around them (hamsters live for the most part alone, and will fight to the death if they encounter another hamster)
oh my god, same with my cats! I thought they just had a weird fetish but perhaps it's not that uncommon. They get excited whenever I sit down and then they also just pee or shit in their litterbox while purring and looking at me, as an act of solidarity, I guess. lmao
I had a bad reaction to a prescription once, I was slipping in and out of consciousness but my buddy yowled and meowed and walked all over me, got next to my hear and cried and cried to keep me awake. He probably saved my life because my mom came to see what all the noise was about. When I came home, he nearly died of excitement and refused to leave my side until I got out of bed finally. He literally had to be fed on the floor next to my bed. Cats DO love deeply. EDIT: I forgot to mention that he was a stray when I found him and we let him go in and out at his leisure.
Believe it or not, but your cat can actually smell when you are sick and provide comfort and care. That's why they are usually a choice comfort animal for the ill, while dogs are used for the disabled.
Stop this. Both species are amazing pets. And dogs aren't the simpletons pure cat people make them out to be. I grew up with both and it apples and oranges. Yes dogs have the most unconditional love on the planet but that love is earned over years. It starts as a puppy and if you treat them right that's what you get. If you treat them wrong you get a scared thing that hides in the corner all day or attacks strangers in the park and bites you. And my cats pretty much showed the same unconditional love. They'd run up when you come home and meow loudly until you gave each cat their two minutes of attention. So I don't know maybe we just treated our animals right but cat or dog it was pretty much the same. All where strays born on the street, cats where very very young when we got them maybe 6 weeks, the dog we actually found ourselves in the middle of the road as a tiny puppy, maybe a month old. So maybe the young age plays a role we where all the parents they ever had. One of the cats had his tail broken in 4 seperate places so they went through some stuff and the dog was afraid of guns or anything that looked like a gun. Screwdriver? What's that? Let me sniff. Hold it like a gun (fist and screwdriver on top) and she'd run to the corner and bark. Fingergun didn't work. But any long object held like a gun suddenly became scary. No idea what that was about. But long way of saying you have a similar prejudice against dogs that pure dog people have against cats, saying they're distant and unloving. Both equally untrue.
@@221b-l3t this comment is very refreshing to see. I won't deny that im a cat person, but i don't understand how other cat people will insult dog people for considering cats cold and aloof while not seeing the irony of accusing dogs of being simplitons that will love you regardless of how you treat them.
More like "Your deity has come...no pet me, dont touch just watch, thy earphones are mine, Who said u could sleep at 9am, i demand sustenance human quickly, im bored...amuse me, *enters room* the servant is alone...he shall stay that way *exits room* "
*Cats: "Omg your lap is free, that's a safe spot, i want that spot, i fit just right (even if i don't). I'm sitting here now, it's my spot, it's the best seat in the house because it's you. You're the best."
So true! I'm a cat person, with two cats I love, but I'm pretty sure they both think they're better than me! LOL! Also, I'm sure you've seen it....you must get the reference but....here goes...I'm pretty sure the older cat tries to "steal my breath" at night!!! LOL! If you don't get it right away, just look up the line, along with "Stephen King" and "Cat's Eye" It's like, the first thing Drew Barrymore ever did! It's a silly short, but I'm sure you'll love it!
Cats DO experience the "admiration" aspects of love. I frequently catch my cat sitting still and looking at me with unabashed admiration. It's the same look that we have on our faces when we sit quietly and look at our cats admiringly. It's the sweetest experience to see your cat looking at you with that kind of admiring love.
Yes, I experienced that recently with a cat behind my window whom I had to feed every day for unforeseen reasons. She started sitting outside the window and watching me work at my computer and she would nod and meow if I glanced at her. As if she cared about me. It was very heartwarming, but I thought I'm being delusional until now. I miss her now a lot; I don't live in that room anymore.
Typical. Its a different situation but the same conclusion. My mom used to be homophobic. Then she went abroad to the usa and met a gay couple living next doors. She saw they were... people. Literally. Since then she likes gay men and is respectful of them. She never met any lesbian before. She doesnt like lesbians and is repulsed by them. People are just dumb and assume the worst about what they have no idea about.
My new partner says he doesn't like cats. Hes a car nerd like I am. He said he didnt like them because he saw one peeing on a car once. Told him how my garage cats keep those fucking rodents off my precious cars. Cat piss would be a 1000 times easier to clean than mouse pee and crap, plus mice carry dangerous pathogens like the Hanta Virus. And mice eat those fucking wires in your car, which are THE HORROR to repair and a fire hazard. I'll let my indoor cats do the rest of the conversion. :3
My know my cat loves me, one time i was crying like hell, my cat heard me, walks in, walks out, 30 minutes late he brought back a bird and gave it to me. The buddy probably thought i cried because i was hungry 😂
not necessarily, the cat simply gave you a present to cheer you up and show their love and support, that's what they often do. it's not necessarily a 'practical' present.
I catsat for a cat who was very anxious and used the backway behind sofas to get upstairs because the owners "free raised" their child which meant they didn't care when it'd run after him, scream at him and grab him inappropriately. It was only 1 whole day and then the second day he sat on me. From then on he sat with me or lay on me, slept with me. The owners were saying how awful he is, always hiding, doesn't snuggle etc.... Whenever I'd come home, he'd be at the top of the stairs and run down to me. The other cat would follow me around the house. They both responded to their names. 07/08/20: just to say the nervous cat was very soon given away within a year later. I am not allowed pets and I miss him a lot. We really bonded.
A lot of cat owners don't know what they're doing, and they're doing their kids a great disservice by not teaching them to respect animals. The best thing to do when having toddlers and cats in the same home(apart from supervision) is to strategically place furniture that the cat can jump up onto so that they can easily get up and away when they don't feel like being poked at by the kids. This is a whole lot better for the self-esteem of the cats, and they'll likely end up having a much better relationship with the kids. From what you're describing, there's 0 humility on the owners' part, and they should consider rehoming their cats so they can focus on being parents and raising their child without it being on the expense of the cats.
In my opinion, cats are some of the most easily tamed animals, literally just by being kind and respecting their boundaries you’ll get a completely tame and affectionate kitty. My cat I got when I was six was my best friend, and probably the animal I’ve trusted the most in my life. I really truly loved her. People would always comment about how tame she was, how kind and patient, and tbh although I wanna tame the credit for raising that amazing cat, ik it was just in her nature. All I ever did was love her. RIP Cecilia, I wish I could’ve given you more.
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Sounds like a dogperson-family accidentally got a cat.
I don't trust people that say cats are cold and distant, it just means they don't understand being respectfull of someone's space and consent. A cat has to give you permision and trust you to be around them and if you do something that makes them feel unsafe or uncomfortable, they are gone.
that's just more people are generally ignorant of the true nature of cats. if you can manage to convince them then they aren't truly bad people but beliee what the world has told them
It depends on the perspective. A dog owner who has a very interactive relationship with the dog would see the behaviour of a cat cold and distant in comparison. That does not mean that they don't understand the behaviour of a cat, but they just point out a difference in behaviour and how they would describe it.
Wow, way to go and imply dog lovers are creeps or rapists who don’t understand the concept of consent and personal space. I don’t really like cats for this exact reason (I don’t hate them, there’s no rational reason to hate an animal) but it doesn’t translate to human relationships: I like having my space and respect others’ and I’m quite aloof myself, not a warm cuddly person. Don’t be that guy who categorizes cat lovers and dog lovers as archenemies. We just don’t have the same preferences in terms of pets. If a cat doesn’t want to be cuddled, then that’s too bad, I leave him be. Plus, dogs need their personal space as well, they’re not always in the mood to play.
Cats are so territorial that visitors etc often gets them distant or almost frightened, especially if they don't visit often. They act a whole lot different with their "owners".
My cat: hunts for me. Cuddles. Sleeps on the bed pressed up against me. Demands hugs and cuddles. Will follow me anywhere i go. Also my cat: leaves that one time cause i was bugging him excessively Me: WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME?!?! 😭
I think he might try to keep you in the now? Give you physical touch to hang onto? I dunno, my boy sometimes attack me when I'm overwhelmed and at some point he gives up when I start crying and actually let my meltdown show outwardly. It's weird
I’ve had panic attacks around my cat twice, and both times I would curl up on the floor and my cat would come and sit next to my head and meow at me. Now, she always associates me sitting on the ground with me crying/being distressed, and will come up to me and rub herself over me. I think cats are way more empathetic to their loved ones then what people give them credit for
In the beginning I was like, I'm not gonna watch the entire video (15min!!! No way) After 3 minutes I was thinking, this guy is good.. he is talking about love.. After 6 minutes.. Damn!! This psychology thing is really interesting.. After 10 minutes... he is gonna test it on his kids... How do I stop...!! After 14.42 minutes, I felt the need to spend another 5 minutes typing a comment to appreciate this guy.. Hats off boss.. informative, interesting & heart melting video..🤝👌
@@LordBattleSmurf Because there are all these scientific studies proving your every word.. oh wait, there aren't. It takes a very long time for an animal locked in with a deceased owner before it happens, if it ever happens since it's so insanely rare. Happens more often with dogs. First instinct with a cat as well as a dog who finds their owner dead is to try to wake them up. Instinct to mourn comes first. Abating starvation comes later.
People who don't like cats be like: once when i was four, i got scratched on by a cat after carrying it by the tail so i have now declared a lifelong hate for cats ( btw sorry for my flaws in english, I'm norwegian )
Your English is beautiful. I agree with you. Whenever I hear "I'm afraid of cats because I was attacked by one when I was little" I take it with a grain of salt. OK, that was a lie. I flat out don't believe them. But, I keep it to myself. Keep the cats to myself, too. More for me.
Ola Torsvik well, it doesn’t need to be exchanged with anything. It would just be fine without “on”. The sentence would sound grammatically correct. (what I was trying to say is it would sound right without “on”.) hope this helps.
I accidentally did this test with my cat when I moved about a month ago, I was moving from my mom’s house (a very stressful environment for her) so I was able to keep her there while we set up the house, then when I brought her home that night I let her loose in my room and just sat with her and just like Loki and Bill she ping ponged back and forth from me to exploring, I then left her in there to unpack the kitchen and when I came back she did the same thing again, came to me for comfort then went back to exploring lol. I’m very pleased to learn she’s secure in her attachment to me and feels like I’m a comfortable home base who isn’t going to abandon her (or lock her in a laundry room for weeks at a time, like her previous owner)
Grew up with cats, always had them around me. Found a homeless cat when I was around 9-10 years old. Had him for 16 years. Lost him 2 years ago due to old age when I was 26 yo. We used to go for walks together (never had a leash on him btw). He would always follow me wherever I went. If I would to "disappear" from his view, he would meow really loudly (like the cat at 11:50) in order for me to hear him, and when he would see me again he would run really fast towards me and stand by my side and waited patiently before we continued our walk. If that isn't love, I don't know what is. Still hurts me and still crying when thinking about him.
@@crunchii891 I agree with you but tbh I didnt read Andrei's comment like that .. I saw it as similar to when someone says 'slayed' like it got to them .. I could be wrong but thats the way it appealed to me .. My .02
When a guy starts flirting with me the first thing I ask is “what do you think of cats?” If they say they are terrible creatures that don’t love and stuff like that, then I know that they don’t care about getting to know someone for who they actually are but if they say that they are loving and amazing creatures then I know that they take their time to get to know someone because not many people care to take the time to know their cats or any cat, it’s just something I do
You know, I never thought about it like that, but you're right. Cats take patience and a willingness to learn; dogs are more "meh, if Alpha says okay, then okay." You have to work at being accepted into a "pride."
@@devin7683 ok but if they legit say they don't deserve love then they are clearly not just someone who favors dog but hates cat and if someone hates something you love probably best to stay away especially if it's a pet you own
Really interesting, It reminds me of a boy that was attacked by a dog. Without any hesitation his cat launched a direct attack on the dog. When it ran away, the cat immediately checked whether or not the toddler was OK.
I seen a video where it was a nanny cam of a babysitter who started being hostile towards the child/toddler and the cat went on the attack and kept going after the babysitter and kept trying to keep her away from the child, even attacking her aggressively when she picked up the child and tried to leave the room thinking the cat had gone wild.
I've had 5 cats, two of whom were incredible. The first was "White Kitty," who was a white cat who showed up one day on my front porch and said, "Congratulations, I'm your new cat." He was possibly the best cat anyone has ever had. He walked to heel outside and was a perfect companion. Sadly, he died at only 7 years. The second was Thea, who bopped me in the head in the shelter to tell me she was my new cat. The other cats were great in their own ways, but weren't necessarily as special.
My 15 year old cat jumps on my bed and lays down in the crook of my arm every night. He tilts his head back and I give him a good "under the chin" scratching." Lol. Then we go to sleep.
I own two cats for the first time in my life. This happened after I turned 50. They are nice companions and I would never get rid of them. And they came from the SPCA as adult adoptions and we bonded.
I involuntary did a test similar to one of my cats. He used to be an outdoor cat, until he was hit by a car, picked up by a stranger and rushed to E.R. Once at the E.R, he wouldnt stand up for the veterinarian, and he was avoindant. When I arrived, he immediately stood up, meowled and asked for me to pick him up. Not until I was there, could they do a proper exam of his injuries. Once I left (he had to stay the night), he went back to the same state to me prior being there. When I came to pick him up, I got an earful of my betrayal. In conclusion. Attached and loves me.
Sometimes a pet chooses you. You just succumb to its charms. You know: that one pet that you didn’t set out to choose. That pet that gets in front of you, won’t let you get by them without making sure you notice them. That body language that says, “Hey! I’m the one for you, you just don’t know it, yet.” The pet that has eyes for you and no one else. The pet that will respond to you and no one else. The one you can’t stop thinking of when you walk away; the one you have to turn around and go back and get. The pet that races to the car, jumps in, and stays right where he sits down, until you arrive home. Yep, he chose you.
I feel you. I had a ginger cat, Archie, who was my soulmate and he died on July 5, 2019. I got my new cat to help fill the void and it is as empty as ever because the new cat has attached itself to my mother. Hugs to you and may we both find another cat who loves us as much as your Loki and my Archie. 🤗🤗🤗
Yea i love cats too but maybe theyre doing it cause u wont stop babbling about how you love cats. Now that i think about it, share your affection with the worldddd
I used to move every week between my dad's and my mom's house. When I was gone, my mom told me how distressed my cat was. Looking for attention, yowling, waiting by the door. When I came back and called for him, he'd run full speed from the back of the neighborhood into my arms. I like to think he loves me. I definitely love him.
1 - YOU HAD ME AT WHAT IS LOVE I almost died 2 - The moment you apologized for explained attachment styles instead of talking cats, you had my subscribe CONGRATS!!
In my experience, cats recognise cat lovers. When I visit peoples' homes to do PC repair work, their cats flock to me and I adore it. I imagine its akin to how dogs smell fear - my wife is scared of big dogs, whereas I love them and they also come to me.
That or they got a bad one. There actually are bad apple cats that are either born maladjusted or became that way, and can pretty much only hate you. Usually this is the result of having no or bad human contact early in life but not always.
@@Aliandrin There's no such thing as an animal only capable of hating humans. A (domesticated) animal's "hatred" towards humans is the product of distrust, and, like you said, being raised in a human-less environment. But as long as that animal is a domesticated breed, it can be tamed. One merely needs to know how.
@@pasteldreams5413 Yes but just like some humans are nicer than others, the same goes with cats. They each have their own personality and some are naturally more sociable and more affectionate, while other cats will tend to be more agressive or shy no matter what you do.
*My cat after I come home from school* : Meh, just feed me already and leave me alone. *My cat after I come home from a a 2 day trip* : WHY DID YOU LEAVE ME!!?! DON'T DO THAT AGAIN!! *_cuddles for hours_* *My cat after I come home form school* : I don't even like you, don't touch me. My cat is confirmed Disorganized Attachment or in weeb terms a Tsundere.
Our much loved cat was just like that....waiting and greeting me at the door with head bumps, then when fed needed time to digest...we need to respect cats physiological and emotional needs...
tbh i'd attribute this to cats being huge fans of routines, rather than being part of an attachment style - once a cat gets used to a routine, any variation to it can be very distressing. they know when you're meant to come home from school, but if you take an extra day or so to come home, they're going to get upset since that isn't what usually happens. additionally, some cats just aren't huge fans of pets, so they might only want them in specific circumstances idk for sure tho im not a cat psychology professional
@@mozarteanchaos I feel there's a variable your not considering Cats experience time differently then humans. So the hours you're at school feels a lot longer for them and they have a tendency to give their owners the cold shoulder when it's a regular thing as a way of passive aggression When your cat ran to you after 2 days, it was out of the routine and therefor they were worried for you being gone a lot longer then they are used to so it shows their love
@@mozarteanchaos isnt that true of humans too? When we don't see people we love for a longer period of time than normal we get anxious and miss them more. It's not like cats miss loved ones less or it's only "due to them liking routines". Animals are really not that much different from human animals in their basic emotions of missing those that they have emotional bond with.
@@animalsarebeautifulpeople3094 i didn't mean to imply that cats don't miss their owners, and i'm sorry i came off that way! it's more that i don't think them missing their owners is necessarily indicative of an attachment style, and a large part of it is their love of routine. not _all_ of it, mind you - as a cat owner myself, i know that cats are capable of being loving in their own way. cats have a lot going on in their little brains, so there's not always just one single cause to their actions.
Sad story back when I was in a bad place in my life, but I was attempting... My cat who never comes into my room other than to use the litter box as my room is in the basement came, and sat on my bed watching me for the first time in months, just staring straight in my eyes as I sobbed. I survived the attempt and the next day I came up to the living room and he was there. He looked at me sadly. He looked like I'd let him down. He doesn't usually give physical affection but he let me cry into his fur that morning gave me a lot of affection, all with that sad look in his eyes. I never attempted again after that.
My friend’s cat changed my perspective on cats forever - he had a little dog that I loved and always wanted attention from me. He also had two cats, one Siamese and one black and white one. I was staying at his house for a few weeks, and the black and white cat started coming into my room, jumping onto the counter or sofa next to me, I would pet it but it would slink away most of the time. And it had these freaky green eyes that looked... evil. Lol. One day, I had horrible painful diarrhea from food poisoning. Both cats were outside the toilet door the whole time. When I went into my room to lie down, I still had bad cramps. The black and white one jumped onto my bed and came right up to me, which it has never done before. The cat started to feel around my tummy, in this very matter-of-fact, investigative sort of way, and then did a massage of my stomach! Like both paws on different areas, then up, down, up, down. I was wondering what the little guy was doing, and realized after a fewminutes of this, my tummy ache was like 90% gone! I was amazed that the cat somehow healed my stomach. Both the black and white cat and the Siamese cat slept in my room that night - which again, they have never done before. Early morning I had another bout of diarrhea, and the cat was at it again, massaging my tummy. Within minutes I felt completely healed. The day that I left the house, i went to the room and the cat jumped onto the bed and motioned to me. I went over and it stood up on its hind legs and put its paws around my neck, as though to hug me goodbye! I hugged him back and said thank you. I have a newfound love and respect for cats now. ❤️❤️❤️
I remember reading this study so it was really interesting to see it done. I'm pretty sure that my cat Watanuki is the secure attachment style. He's so laid back that if he were any more chill he'd be in a coma.
My cat started out that way. I adopted him when I lived with a bunch of college roommates and he would sleep so deeply that we could pose him for pictures. There is a great one of him on his back with a beer bottle cradled in his arms. I ruined him in later years of career moves/travel that turned him into a needy neurotic mess.
Throughout the quarantine my cat has made it clear that we need to still get up at a specified time. She still has food in her bowl when we check and she's not even hanging out in the same room, but she wants to check and make sure we're alive in the morning.
Same here. One of our boys hast started cleaning our ears, and when we don't respond, eating our charging cables. The other one, as of last week, starts the old knock-everything-off-the-bedside-table. They didn't do that before quarantine.
My wife left our cat with my mother for 2 months, when she finally came back to bring her home, the cat followed her everywhere even i to the shower and she usually hates water. She would cry if she left for just a moment and would not sleep if she wasn't in the room, this lasted for like a week.
My cat is a mainecoon and he’s always attached to my hip, he learned to walk on a leash so he’s unstoppable lol I played dead and he ran and got my bf to come get me lol he’s the size of a small dog(13lbs) and he’s literally a child lol
I have an outdoor cat whose taken to following me when I go outside, so I'll go for a walk and there'll be this fluffy orange blob hopping after me from 5 feet behind wherever I go. And if I stop he'll start rolling, there is a range on how far he'll follow and since he's fat and a tripod he won't try to keep up if I run but it's still adorable.
If nothing else doing such a test makes you more aware of the needs of your cat, but if I'd hazard to guess 6 weeks to change the thoughts and behaviour of an adult cat is way to short, changes in neuroplasticity with age is very unlikely to be unique to humans and likely related both to lifespan and relative size of the brain, that however is just a guess, I last studied neurology over a decade ago and there wasn't even a mention of animals in both literature and lectures.
Zorbeltuss I'd have to agree, I'm pretty sure I accidentally changed my cat's attachment style by traveling/moving for work. He started out "secure" into his adulthood, then seemed to spiral into "disorganized" as I entered the heart of my career. So I think it is possible, it just takes a little longer and/or an extreme change.
Yea, when I was a kid, my dad done something similar by leaving me at the toy section of the department store. When it was time to leave, he found me with about three boxes of Lego building a Saturn V rocket. I didn't want to leave and would have been just as happy if he'd gone home without me.
i once missheard my mom and freaked out when i couldent find her because i was looking at the toys. we were shopping at target. i was at the door (the one u enter) and asked someone to help. i think it was a worker. i was in either 3rd or 4th grade. i was extremely relieved when i found her... i think she was a slight bit mad i hadnt stayed in one place...
One of my cats gently nibbles me whenever I’m crying or angry. She’s always there to calm me down and I’m so thankful for her. She’s definitely my best friend.
yeah my 23 yr old cat is "not doing good" still here after all my other friends either died of heroin overdose, got locked up, or turned into junkie trash or a mixture of the last 2. his name is loki too and that name came before the whole marvel movie stuff because i was in to comics as a kid. feel like he's all i have left. have trouble making new friends now because i don't trust people and been stabbed in the back by even family. not sure what's gonna happen when, well, you know.. at my age prob the closest thing i'll ever have to a child. acts so much like me it's strange. can even say a couple words like "out" and "no" and i believe he fully understands english. did i mention he's 23. it's really f'n me up. i don't even want anymore pets now. i can't go through this ever again and there will never be another one ANYTHING like him. he was a ferrel rescue kitten and was mean as shit and i had to physically break him, but once i did, after that he turned into a attention whore/lap cat. was raised around a border collie too so i'm pretty sure he thinks he's a dog. others that have been around him say the same thing and have also had moments of amazement just how he reacts to conversation or to music, etc. truly one of a kind. not sure why i'm even talking about it. (^&*$%
@@XX-121 well I hope you manage to find peace with yourself, also learn to trust yourself again and know that strangers out there still cares what you think but can I know what you mean when I read 'I had to physically break him'?
I was watching this with my cat and she got triggered when she heard your cat’s meow, my phone was over a blanket and when I removed it she started sniffing and looking under it while being alert 😂
You know what doesn’t seem securely attached? That cat tree... Sorry, I had to. Loved watching the experiment and I loved to see how both cats went to you for comfort. I also liked your comment about how they’re the closest thing you have to children. I also have 4 feline children :) you’re a good cat dad. Keep up the good work! But... fix that cat tree, please.
I had a cat that would run up to greet me every day after I got home from school. We had a perfectly timed routine. I would get off the bus and she’d run up to our front stoop. I’d sit down and pet her as long as I could before I got called inside. Middle school was extremely rough for me, and coming home to her everyday soothed my soul. She was the sweetest cat and a huge part of my life.
This does not always take into account the impact that cats own parents have on them. There is a law in Sweden that minimum age for kittens to leave their parent is 12 weeks. No younger. Because it was found that kittens forced to leave the security of their parents before developing a healthy desire to do so are way more likely to have maladaptive behaviours. It is easily observed in kittens that they practice healthy attachment when learning to explore but may very easily become anxious when the source of comfort isn't there anymore too soon. I don't have the resources to check my own cats attachment right now but it's an interesting thought to keep for later
It's like assessing the attachment of an adopted child. It'll depend on the pre-adoption experiences, their age at adoption, and their post-adoption experiences. I'm guessing Bill probably had a rougher time before his adoption than Loki did.
As much as it will always be good to not split them up too early, a kitten properly socialised and raised will never have any issues no matter how young they ended up split from the parent. It is only if they are then not correctly cared for and socialised that it becomes an issue with potential behaviours.
The cat is marking her territory... this is far less likely to occur if she was fixed when she was a kitten though... if fixed later in life (adolescence) then it won't help.
My cat follows me out to the house gate when I go to the grocery, when I come back she is there waiting for me & then follows me into the house. She's HAPPY when I arrive & meows alot then come rub herself to my legs as I walk or stop to talk to her.
Cats are wonderful creatures. Duh. Such an original observation. I take mine with me on trips. Can't imagine being separated from him. I have studied the effects of attachment among humans in specific situations and just started reading studies of attachment in pets. The same dynamics apply.
when I 1st started getting serious with my boyfriend, I told him my cats were coming with me if we moved in- he hated cats- before my cats moved in with us, (it was going to be awhile due to us being in the city) my bfs sister needed us to watch her cat for a few days so she dropped it off with us & long story short? my BF convinced his sister to keep her cat & they are best of buds & he now prefers cats over dogs. I've always believed there is a cat for every person.
I actually disagree with the concept that cats attachment styles can’t be changed. When I first had Moe, he was a neglected animal, and had a very anxious-avoidant attachment style. After the first year of hard work, socialization and training he was anxious-ambivalent, but now, two years later, he’s secure. Six weeks is barely starting for animals. They can’t verbally communicate so much more work is needed.
I performed this experiment with my girlfriend. After I reentered the room she started sniffing me and didn't leave my side anymore just like the ginger cat.
@@laurahall2710 it's not a trending term lol it's just a term used in anime and Japanese culture, it's been around for a long time. The opposite of a tsundere is a yandere. There is also kuudere and dandere. 😊
You have to EARN a cat's love. If they don't know you, yeah, they'll run away. Stranger danger! But if they love you, they will follow you everywhere you go.
@@ultraboombean A lot of the time it's the parent unintentionally passing on their own attachment style. Different attachment styles tend to parent differently, and end up producing children with a similar attachment style to themselves.
I think it's a mix of a person (or animal's) natural disposition, how they've interacted with their caregiver over time, and other experiences they've had (especially if they've gone through a traumatic experience).
My cat doesn’t follow me around. But one time I went into my apartment hallway to throw out my garbage, and he followed me. Once in the hallway, he was like a dog. Followed right along with me wherever I went at the same speed.
I have two cats myself . The first one , i adopted him when he was approximately 10 days old.. i bottle fed him , he slept next to me , my whole family took turns in taking care of him but that was my job , they were assisting when i was unable to . He was always around people, friends relatives neighbors, pizza delivery guys etc .Now he is 7 months old.. The second one was a stray cat . When i found her she was skin and bones , dirty, had a respiratory infection and was very feral towards people but not others cats. As a matter of fact thats how i was able to catch her . I lured her with my other cat in a trap cage . I have her for a very long time now and she s gotten attached to me . However , they both display similar attachment styles to Loki and Bill. The female . Lola ,same as Loki , being the stray one has formed a secure attachment , while the male , Picolino , just as the domesticated and human familiarized since and infant Bill, has formed an anxious - ambivalent attachment . My theory is that , the stray one has survived alone for quite sometimes, has been through ordeals and survived regardless , which gives the cat a sense of security and trust in their own abilities . While the one who s never learned to survive alone will get panic attacks and find themselves helpless and hopeless in the though of their caregiver abandoning them and them being left alone .
I don't own a cat but since I live on ground level and we have a garden, cats do visit us. Over the last years I befriended a cat. She usually visits every day. I've started calling her Mraa a while ago, due to the sound she makes to grab my attention. Now when I see her, she even comes to me when I call. Sometimes we hang out in the garden together her sitting on me or next to me, eyes closed, relaxing. Sometimes she just says hello, a few strokies. First she gets petted and then she licks me. On days when I'm sad, she'll sit on the windowsill at least half an hour or invade my room if she gets a chance. She then sits on my lap and purrs, calming me down. Definitely the most amazing cat friend I could ask for.
I baby sited two cats for a year. And they do their own thing around the room, come up to me to get some pets, they hug me, and ask to play. Anytime I go to the bathroom and close the door, they start meowing and shove their paws under the door, feeling around for me. And when I come out, they seem happy, get some pets, and continue one their own thing again. So they don't like it when I am out of site. They did learn to leave me alone during the night. but right on the dot, they knew when it was time to wake up, and they start meowing for me.
I have cats and one of their names is Hally, and he can talk and answer you. If I say would say something he would come in with a meow that sounds like a yes or no or maybe. He's so cool! He is yet black but a few hairs are gray because of ageing he is 12,and his eyes look golden and his left ear is spilt from a fight many years ago before we got him. I love him so much and I hope he will be healthy for a long time like my older cat Smirre that is 18.💗🐈
My cat was a shy rescue from a shelter. She wouldn't even leave the carrier when I brought her home for two hours. Then she hid for fifty hours without eating a bite. Worse, she inherited Feline Herpes from her mother so she contracted an upper respiratory infection and became sick. She finally started eating and letting me pet her but it required me being low to the ground. The minute I stood, she freaked. So I walked around on all fours and slept on the floor half the night for a week to get her more comfortable. Six weeks into it she's super cuddly and loving and still prefers the affirmation I give her when she's eating but she's no longer afraid of me at all when I stand. She's on antibiotics now and will hopefully get better. She has diarrhea and leaks sometimes on the carpet and my bed and her various scratchers. What we do for animals.
One time, this mama cat that stays at our house checked on me when I fell in front of her. She was a very timid cat, but when she heard my yell, she immediately comes towards me. My late cat, Snow, always comes and paws my face if I cried, so yes, I believe cats do show affection to people who cares about them ^^. With Snow, he always slept in my room, and I don't even to call him ^^
Man, after watching this, I know exactly what ONE cat's attachment style is! My little Lila is definitely the type that will not go far from her humans and wants love and attention all the time! The older cat, Mako, the first one we ever had and the cat we found in a parking lot when she was 3-5 weeks old, she is very independent, but also lovey when SHE wants to be! She calls the shots! Also, when we go on trips and we return, she lays in front of the door to make sure we don't leave again! So yeah, she's a loner, but also needs that companionship! It's crazy how different these two girls are, but it's fascinating as well! All their humans know that they both love us all in their own way though...it really is incredible...I love cats!!!
Halfway through, I realised someone was missing. Opened my door and called....the cat, by clicking my fingers She’s now purring on my pillow. This is a cat....well...she and I have developed an affectionate though distant relationship. I used to say we had decided to tolerate each other,then I realised she’s quite affectionate when it’s on her own terms. And she was raised with dogs, so now thinks she’s the alpha, biology be damned.
This is fascinating. Thanks for this, especially the last part about how we can't change their attachment style. I, too, adopted my cats. One's older and the other was a kitten.
It all depends on how you raise your cat and who your cat is as an individual...I have a cat that is pretty much my loyal companion, faithful and even enjoys going outside with me unharnessed. He doesn't run away, and its been like this for about two years. He hates being alone...he loves when he is called over, and his cuddles are *aggressive*. I don't mean that he scratches or bites me, (In fact, I have never seen a cat show as much restraint as my lad) I mean that he nuzzles me so hard that he sometimes knocks his head pretty hard into mine and gives us both an ouch, and somehow unphased, continues to nuzzle and cuddle and purr. Worth it though. I love him...big boi manx baby.
On one of your last videos you showed us conditioning. Well i remember when that came out and it blew my mind. So what did i do? I trained my cat to run towards me whenever I make a strange grunt noise. Now I think it's a bit late for me to teach my 10 year old cat to love me (other than as a food giver) but I thank you for the knowledge you are providing. I've been following you now for... Too long to remember and I always look forward to your videos!
When I leave the room to prepare my cat’s food, I tell him, “Momma will be back in a few minutes.” When I return to our room with his food, he runs, from the spot he was sitting and waiting by the door, to go hide under the bed and he stays there until I have the door securely closed. Then he comes out from under the bed meowing until I pet him. (His meow is not very loud.) He rubs his face and head against my hands for more petting. The peculiar thing is, he will look at and sniff the food in his bowl, but before he will eat he walks away from it to come sit beside me where I am sitting, and begs for more head-rubs, and attention. After about five to eight minutes of this “loving” he seems to be satisfied and he returns to his bowl to eat his food. If I am going to leave the house and leave him in our room, so that I may run errands, I tell him, “Momma, will be back after awhile.” In response, he will run to the door with me, he is vocalizing like he desires to go with me, or stand between me and the door to keep me from leaving. Once I get by him and I have have securely shut the door, I can hear him crying. After watching this video, I realize I was correct in my conclusion that he has been experiencing “separation anxiety” all along. He also misses my husband, and shows this in his persistent and repetitive vocal meows when my husband comes into the room. This cat was brought to us by a family who had rescued him when he was about two to three weeks of age. They kept him two weeks then decided it would be best if he was placed in a different environment. They reached out to us. Our senior cat of 17 years, had passed away (the same week they rescued this tiny kitten). We were not looking to have another cat so soon after our cat passed away, but surprisingly, my husband said, “yes we’ll take him”. From the time we took him in, I was home 24/7 with this new baby from, November 6, 2018 until January 7, 2019. I had to leave our home to move in with my parents. Mother suddenly became gravely ill. My husband, still working, stayed in our house with our kitten and our ferret. (We live 13-miles away.) I was able to return home very few times. After my Mother moved to heaven, our family determined my Daddy should not be left alone because his health is very fragile. So, here I remain. Meanwhile, during the year I have been away, my husband has reported that our once sweet, affectionate baby kitten has turned into a “crazy”, “mischievous”, “destructive”, “monster cat” with bad behavior, climbing the walls (literally), he has even witnessed the cat cling, upside down from the ceiling fan, like a monkey. I told my husband the cat is not used to being alone, he is bored, and he is “acting out” like a rebellious child, and not happy being alone. In short “separation anxiety”. Last week, the doctor told my husband that his recent bout with pneumonia is because he is allergic to the cat. The doctor told him he needed separate himself from the cat and all items related to the cat. Previously, my Daddy would not allow the cat to be brought here to his house, for fear his dogs would kill the cat, should he accidentally get out of my room. But, we explained our dilemma, and reluctantly he has allowed us to bring the cat into the house. I keep him in the bedroom where I stay. We named him Buzz Light Year, after one of our Granddaughter’s favorite toys (she was three at the time), we call him Buzz. And his physique is very similar to the Norwegian Forest Cat. At 18-months old, he weighs 10- pounds. He seems to be happy here, he does not behave the way my husband describes. I know this has been a very long post, but I felt I needed to give historical background to go with the descriptions of Buzz’s behavior to me as opposed to when he is with my husband. I hope this edited version makes sense. Thank you for your comments. 🐱
It sounds like he needed to be with you because he missed you! How sweet! You seem to be consistantly giving him verbal cues about when you need to leave a d return, I think that's so helpful for him, he's lucky to have you!! 🐾💕
Daniella D thank you. He gives me vocal cues around 10PM: “Mom! It’s time to play! Please! Play with me!” So we play (when I really want to go to bed.). After about 30-minutes, I tell him “it’s time to go to bed”, or “it’s time for all good little kitties to go nite-nite”, LOL, he even responds with his meow 😸 that sounds like he is saying “mow” (like in a question tone “now”?). Once the light goes out I hear him playing with one of his toys for about five minutes. Then he jumps up on the bed and lays near my feet. We have a ferret and a rabbit. And two dogs that live outside. I talk to all of them the same way. The rabbit knows now, when I tell him it’s time to go to bed I am getting his favorite treat. I won’t give it to him until he hops into his habitat-enclosure. One time, he grabbed the treat and zoomed out of the enclosure before I could shut the door. The next three minutes I was treated to a rabbit ritual of zooming and a rabbit happy dance around me, his enclosure, and the room, “vocalizing his happiness”, all the while carrying the treat in his mouth. I wish I had videoed that dance. He was so funny, but eventually he hopped into his enclosure all by himself and let me shut the door. 🐰🐇 😂
The colour of their eyes are so stunning, especially the blue eyes of the grey fur, their fur also looks shiny and healthy, you're very good at caring for them.
I grew up with dogs. Later on in life I took in 2 cats. They were the best. One lived until she was over 19 1/2 years the other lived until he was over 17 years, he was a stray so I was never sure what age he was. Loved them both and miss them with tears in my eyes, just like the dog that loved me when I was a child. xx xx xx
My cats loved me for sure. The night after she died, she came to me in a dream. She let me know she was happy and well and that she would see me again. What better comfort and love could a cat love. I look forward to the day that I can be with her again.
I would love to try this with my 3 babies. But, I can't stand the thought of purposely putting them through the stress. I am the needy one, lol. GREAT JOB, thank you!
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A friend of mine adopted a dog when she had two cats. Her cats hated it and hissed and growled at it. Then it went blind and the cats would follow it around to make sure it didn't bump into walls and help the dog get to his food bowl..They knew there was something wrong with him before my friend did. That is my favorite cat story.
cool story bro
@Nugget The leopard gecko many years ago we had a staffy from a neighbouring house come onto our section, how dog had the dog cornered at the fence with about 2 metres of distance between them and our cat came out of the house and ran straight pass our dog and went for the staffy. The poor neighbours dog never came near our place again.
@@SerEnmei Yep. A cat has five pointy ends to a dog's one (teeth; dogs don't use claws in a fight). And if the cat attacks at once, rather than running, she can beat any dog. They just don't know what hit them...or bit them!
This can even be seen in domestic rats; there are videos out there where a sick rat with a brain tumour is unable to walk properly; the ill rat tries to get into the ratnest (they all sleep in a pile) but the rat can't get its legs to work properly; so another rat will literally pull its sick friend inside the nest with the rest of them so its not stuck outside.
Plus the studies where a rat is trapped in an apparatus inside a rat cage, the rats will always set the trapped rat free.
It must have something to do with animals that live socially; as rats live in large groups and will get sad when kept alone. Hamsters on the other hand show no such behaviour, they seem a lot stupider and do not notice much of what is around them (hamsters live for the most part alone, and will fight to the death if they encounter another hamster)
Wow
you tricked me into clicking on a psychology crash course. congrats.
vampireknight1003 the only psyche crash course I’m 100% into seeing in action
Same here
vampireknight1003 yep same XD
you couldnt tell that by the title?????
if you aren't interested in learning about psychology, then you aren't interested in having a good healthy relationship with your cat.
My cat joins me in the bathroom, and will force himself to pee when I'm peeing. Pretty sure that's love
Put the litter box in the bathroom?
Weird way of showing it, still touching though
How cute and funny at the same time
My cats litter box is in my room💀
oh my god, same with my cats! I thought they just had a weird fetish but perhaps it's not that uncommon.
They get excited whenever I sit down and then they also just pee or shit in their litterbox while purring and looking at me, as an act of solidarity, I guess. lmao
I had a bad reaction to a prescription once, I was slipping in and out of consciousness but my buddy yowled and meowed and walked all over me, got next to my hear and cried and cried to keep me awake. He probably saved my life because my mom came to see what all the noise was about. When I came home, he nearly died of excitement and refused to leave my side until I got out of bed finally. He literally had to be fed on the floor next to my bed. Cats DO love deeply.
EDIT: I forgot to mention that he was a stray when I found him and we let him go in and out at his leisure.
Believe it or not, but your cat can actually smell when you are sick and provide comfort and care. That's why they are usually a choice comfort animal for the ill, while dogs are used for the disabled.
Nathan Plunkett TELL ME WHY IM CRYING
Oh my god what an amazing story. Your cat is awesome, you were so lucky to have its love.
I"m not crying, you are.
Who tf is cutting onions at 3 am in the morning?! 😭😭😭😭😭
Me: watching funny cat videos
TH-cam: lets go deeper
Lol
Ok
Karen
Paul Rond 🤣🤣🤣 I relate
Yes, but why is this man wearing a woman's shirt?
Dog comes and sits on your lap: oh hey friend, who's a good boy!
Cat comes and sits on your lap: I'M THE CHOSEN ONE!
Stop this. Both species are amazing pets. And dogs aren't the simpletons pure cat people make them out to be. I grew up with both and it apples and oranges. Yes dogs have the most unconditional love on the planet but that love is earned over years. It starts as a puppy and if you treat them right that's what you get. If you treat them wrong you get a scared thing that hides in the corner all day or attacks strangers in the park and bites you. And my cats pretty much showed the same unconditional love. They'd run up when you come home and meow loudly until you gave each cat their two minutes of attention. So I don't know maybe we just treated our animals right but cat or dog it was pretty much the same. All where strays born on the street, cats where very very young when we got them maybe 6 weeks, the dog we actually found ourselves in the middle of the road as a tiny puppy, maybe a month old. So maybe the young age plays a role we where all the parents they ever had. One of the cats had his tail broken in 4 seperate places so they went through some stuff and the dog was afraid of guns or anything that looked like a gun. Screwdriver? What's that? Let me sniff. Hold it like a gun (fist and screwdriver on top) and she'd run to the corner and bark. Fingergun didn't work. But any long object held like a gun suddenly became scary. No idea what that was about. But long way of saying you have a similar prejudice against dogs that pure dog people have against cats, saying they're distant and unloving. Both equally untrue.
@@221b-l3t this comment is very refreshing to see. I won't deny that im a cat person, but i don't understand how other cat people will insult dog people for considering cats cold and aloof while not seeing the irony of accusing dogs of being simplitons that will love you regardless of how you treat them.
More like "Your deity has come...no pet me, dont touch just watch, thy earphones are mine, Who said u could sleep at 9am, i demand sustenance human quickly, im bored...amuse me, *enters room* the servant is alone...he shall stay that way *exits room* "
*Cats: "Omg your lap is free, that's a safe spot, i want that spot, i fit just right (even if i don't). I'm sitting here now, it's my spot, it's the best seat in the house because it's you. You're the best."
So true! I'm a cat person, with two cats I love, but I'm pretty sure they both think they're better than me! LOL! Also, I'm sure you've seen it....you must get the reference but....here goes...I'm pretty sure the older cat tries to "steal my breath" at night!!! LOL! If you don't get it right away, just look up the line, along with "Stephen King" and "Cat's Eye" It's like, the first thing Drew Barrymore ever did! It's a silly short, but I'm sure you'll love it!
Cats DO experience the "admiration" aspects of love. I frequently catch my cat sitting still and looking at me with unabashed admiration. It's the same look that we have on our faces when we sit quietly and look at our cats admiringly. It's the sweetest experience to see your cat looking at you with that kind of admiring love.
r/mirerin or however you say it is a really cute form just about pets (mostly cats) that about just this
Your cat is judging you,because you have been sitting there all day, instead of doing something productive
Yes. It is the sweetest experience.
Yes, I experienced that recently with a cat behind my window whom I had to feed every day for unforeseen reasons. She started sitting outside the window and watching me work at my computer and she would nod and meow if I glanced at her. As if she cared about me. It was very heartwarming, but I thought I'm being delusional until now. I miss her now a lot; I don't live in that room anymore.
@@quicklittlesnail1616~ \\\ ~ I know exactly what you mean. Like: Are you going to do something that really needs to be done up in here?
In general, it has been my observation that the only people who do not like cats are people who have never really spent time with them.
Typical. Its a different situation but the same conclusion. My mom used to be homophobic. Then she went abroad to the usa and met a gay couple living next doors. She saw they were... people. Literally. Since then she likes gay men and is respectful of them. She never met any lesbian before. She doesnt like lesbians and is repulsed by them.
People are just dumb and assume the worst about what they have no idea about.
My new partner says he doesn't like cats.
Hes a car nerd like I am.
He said he didnt like them because he saw one peeing on a car once.
Told him how my garage cats keep those fucking rodents off my precious cars. Cat piss would be a 1000 times easier to clean than mouse pee and crap, plus mice carry dangerous pathogens like the Hanta Virus. And mice eat those fucking wires in your car, which are THE HORROR to repair and a fire hazard.
I'll let my indoor cats do the rest of the conversion. :3
I've spent time with cats alot and I prefer dogs
@@Siraj_Hulk 😁 Be well SH.
well yeah you wouldn't spend time with a cat if you don't like them
“Cats are cold and anti social”
*meanwhile my cat is outside screaming for attention*
No you are learn to love
Ikr
Looks like they've got you perfectly domesticated.
How?
Mine got me domesticated so well that i react to any order given to me
Domesti(CAT)ed
Purfectly
Bill! 😽😽😽
as a person with a degree in psychology, as well as a certified crazy cat lady, I adore your videos.
am i crazy for thinking that cat ladies are hot?
LordOfNihil what about the old grandmas that are crazy for cats?
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i like older women. especially if they are cat ladies.
LordOfNihil lol even the proper old ones like old old
CC May Me too you.. Masters in Psych and a 501C(3) Cat sanctuary in rural Kentucky.
My know my cat loves me, one time i was crying like hell, my cat heard me, walks in, walks out, 30 minutes late he brought back a bird and gave it to me. The buddy probably thought i cried because i was hungry 😂
not necessarily, the cat simply gave you a present to cheer you up and show their love and support, that's what they often do. it's not necessarily a 'practical' present.
Beware when the cat shops upmarket and you get a dead rat instead of a bird.
I catsat for a cat who was very anxious and used the backway behind sofas to get upstairs because the owners "free raised" their child which meant they didn't care when it'd run after him, scream at him and grab him inappropriately.
It was only 1 whole day and then the second day he sat on me. From then on he sat with me or lay on me, slept with me.
The owners were saying how awful he is, always hiding, doesn't snuggle etc.... Whenever I'd come home, he'd be at the top of the stairs and run down to me.
The other cat would follow me around the house. They both responded to their names.
07/08/20: just to say the nervous cat was very soon given away within a year later. I am not allowed pets and I miss him a lot. We really bonded.
A lot of cat owners don't know what they're doing, and they're doing their kids a great disservice by not teaching them to respect animals. The best thing to do when having toddlers and cats in the same home(apart from supervision) is to strategically place furniture that the cat can jump up onto so that they can easily get up and away when they don't feel like being poked at by the kids. This is a whole lot better for the self-esteem of the cats, and they'll likely end up having a much better relationship with the kids.
From what you're describing, there's 0 humility on the owners' part, and they should consider rehoming their cats so they can focus on being parents and raising their child without it being on the expense of the cats.
In my opinion, cats are some of the most easily tamed animals, literally just by being kind and respecting their boundaries you’ll get a completely tame and affectionate kitty. My cat I got when I was six was my best friend, and probably the animal I’ve trusted the most in my life. I really truly loved her. People would always comment about how tame she was, how kind and patient, and tbh although I wanna tame the credit for raising that amazing cat, ik it was just in her nature. All I ever did was love her. RIP Cecilia, I wish I could’ve given you more.
Sounds like a dogperson-family accidentally got a cat.
And the day the cat will have enough and bite ou scratch one kid, it will be his fault and will be abandonned :(
It’s lovely when a cat responds to you like that.
I don't trust people that say cats are cold and distant, it just means they don't understand being respectfull of someone's space and consent. A cat has to give you permision and trust you to be around them and if you do something that makes them feel unsafe or uncomfortable, they are gone.
that's just more people are generally ignorant of the true nature of cats. if you can manage to convince them then they aren't truly bad people but beliee what the world has told them
so it means that basically most of cats are introvert right?
It depends on the perspective. A dog owner who has a very interactive relationship with the dog would see the behaviour of a cat cold and distant in comparison. That does not mean that they don't understand the behaviour of a cat, but they just point out a difference in behaviour and how they would describe it.
Wow, way to go and imply dog lovers are creeps or rapists who don’t understand the concept of consent and personal space. I don’t really like cats for this exact reason (I don’t hate them, there’s no rational reason to hate an animal) but it doesn’t translate to human relationships: I like having my space and respect others’ and I’m quite aloof myself, not a warm cuddly person. Don’t be that guy who categorizes cat lovers and dog lovers as archenemies. We just don’t have the same preferences in terms of pets. If a cat doesn’t want to be cuddled, then that’s too bad, I leave him be. Plus, dogs need their personal space as well, they’re not always in the mood to play.
Cats are so territorial that visitors etc often gets them distant or almost frightened, especially if they don't visit often. They act a whole lot different with their "owners".
My cat: hunts for me. Cuddles. Sleeps on the bed pressed up against me. Demands hugs and cuddles. Will follow me anywhere i go.
Also my cat: leaves that one time cause i was bugging him excessively
Me: WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME?!?! 😭
I'm with you
My cat, Etoile, and kitten, Cosmo, do that
Every time I have a panic attack my cat comes over and starts biting my head. I choose to believe it's his way to say he cares.
I think he might try to keep you in the now? Give you physical touch to hang onto? I dunno, my boy sometimes attack me when I'm overwhelmed and at some point he gives up when I start crying and actually let my meltdown show outwardly. It's weird
I’ve had panic attacks around my cat twice, and both times I would curl up on the floor and my cat would come and sit next to my head and meow at me. Now, she always associates me sitting on the ground with me crying/being distressed, and will come up to me and rub herself over me. I think cats are way more empathetic to their loved ones then what people give them credit for
He's trying to bite the panic out of there
In the beginning I was like, I'm not gonna watch the entire video (15min!!! No way)
After 3 minutes I was thinking, this guy is good.. he is talking about love..
After 6 minutes.. Damn!! This psychology thing is really interesting..
After 10 minutes... he is gonna test it on his kids... How do I stop...!!
After 14.42 minutes, I felt the need to spend another 5 minutes typing a comment to appreciate this guy..
Hats off boss.. informative, interesting & heart melting video..🤝👌
Loved this!!
my dog person dad: cats are distant and cold
me, a cat laying on my face purring loudly: oh really. is that true. is that the case. is it really.
Your house stinks
If you died that same cat would be literally eating your face by the second missed meal time
Lmao
Yes
@@LordBattleSmurf Because there are all these scientific studies proving your every word.. oh wait, there aren't. It takes a very long time for an animal locked in with a deceased owner before it happens, if it ever happens since it's so insanely rare. Happens more often with dogs. First instinct with a cat as well as a dog who finds their owner dead is to try to wake them up. Instinct to mourn comes first. Abating starvation comes later.
People who don't like cats be like: once when i was four, i got scratched on by a cat after carrying it by the tail so i have now declared a lifelong hate for cats ( btw sorry for my flaws in english, I'm norwegian )
Your English is beautiful. I agree with you. Whenever I hear "I'm afraid of cats because I was attacked by one when I was little" I take it with a grain of salt. OK, that was a lie. I flat out don't believe them. But, I keep it to myself. Keep the cats to myself, too. More for me.
Everything is good, you just have to get rid of “on”.
@@thisidiotagain7969 Why? What should it be exghanged with? Btw im Norwigan to so i idk to.
Ola Torsvik well, it doesn’t need to be exchanged with anything. It would just be fine without “on”. The sentence would sound grammatically correct. (what I was trying to say is it would sound right without “on”.) hope this helps.
Hahahahaha for real
I accidentally did this test with my cat when I moved about a month ago, I was moving from my mom’s house (a very stressful environment for her) so I was able to keep her there while we set up the house, then when I brought her home that night I let her loose in my room and just sat with her and just like Loki and Bill she ping ponged back and forth from me to exploring, I then left her in there to unpack the kitchen and when I came back she did the same thing again, came to me for comfort then went back to exploring lol. I’m very pleased to learn she’s secure in her attachment to me and feels like I’m a comfortable home base who isn’t going to abandon her (or lock her in a laundry room for weeks at a time, like her previous owner)
Oh no poor kitty.
this is the cat-psychology crossover I never knew I needed
My cat has been gone for ten years. I am still warmed by the memories of his affection for me.
Much said in few words, Wordy McWordenstein. I recognize; I'm a Word Girl, too.
Sorry for your loss 💜
Cats : cry
Me : heartbroken
Bill : spooked and frightened, anxious
Me : dies from sadness
When your cat bites you: *baby, don't hurt me.*
Bite them back.
WHAT IS LOVE...
When you refuse to feed your cat as a punishment and have to throw it in a dumpster one month later: *no more...*
That's probably from not having enough playtime
Happened with mine a while back
Silver Bat Damn-
Grew up with cats, always had them around me. Found a homeless cat when I was around 9-10 years old. Had him for 16 years. Lost him 2 years ago due to old age when I was 26 yo. We used to go for walks together (never had a leash on him btw). He would always follow me wherever I went. If I would to "disappear" from his view, he would meow really loudly (like the cat at 11:50) in order for me to hear him, and when he would see me again he would run really fast towards me and stand by my side and waited patiently before we continued our walk. If that isn't love, I don't know what is. Still hurts me and still crying when thinking about him.
CJ Sweden What a lovely boy he sounds. Thanks for sharing.
I have never seen a cat walking along a person on the street, my cat does for a little bit then he goes his own way even if I call him out.
@@MrBraveheart1191 my cat would all the time she loved going on walks
almost cried when they started yowling
same. :((
Andrei Radu Ah yes, having empathy is pathetic, good one bro you got her good haha
Same XD
@@crunchii891 I agree with you but tbh I didnt read Andrei's comment like that .. I saw it as similar to when someone says 'slayed' like it got to them .. I could be wrong but thats the way it appealed to me ..
My .02
One day I tried to stick a qtip into my cat's end hole and he yowled too. Never again
When a guy starts flirting with me the first thing I ask is “what do you think of cats?” If they say they are terrible creatures that don’t love and stuff like that, then I know that they don’t care about getting to know someone for who they actually are but if they say that they are loving and amazing creatures then I know that they take their time to get to know someone because not many people care to take the time to know their cats or any cat, it’s just something I do
You know, I never thought about it like that, but you're right. Cats take patience and a willingness to learn; dogs are more "meh, if Alpha says okay, then okay." You have to work at being accepted into a "pride."
Well shit im an attractive male. And a cat person. Lets get it on!
Not gonna lie thats the dumbest thing ever, not a lot of people are cat people, doesn't mean they think cats are bad though lmao
Never thought of it that way.
@@devin7683 ok but if they legit say they don't deserve love then they are clearly not just someone who favors dog but hates cat and if someone hates something you love probably best to stay away especially if it's a pet you own
Really interesting,
It reminds me of a boy that was attacked by a dog. Without any hesitation his cat launched a direct attack on the dog. When it ran away, the cat immediately checked whether or not the toddler was OK.
Nice (the story and the number of likes)
I seen a video where it was a nanny cam of a babysitter who started being hostile towards the child/toddler and the cat went on the attack and kept going after the babysitter and kept trying to keep her away from the child, even attacking her aggressively when she picked up the child and tried to leave the room thinking the cat had gone wild.
Theres a viral video of that.
The dog was put down because of the attack
I remember that video, the cat literally body-slammed the dog away from the child as it was dragging it by the foot.
Him - "babies are useless"
Me - "Yes"
Hello There- indeed
Sicko
@@5O4evr oh, shut up. Take a joke once in your damn life.
General Kenobi!
You were once a baby skeleton too
I've had 5 cats, two of whom were incredible. The first was "White Kitty," who was a white cat who showed up one day on my front porch and said, "Congratulations, I'm your new cat." He was possibly the best cat anyone has ever had. He walked to heel outside and was a perfect companion. Sadly, he died at only 7 years. The second was Thea, who bopped me in the head in the shelter to tell me she was my new cat. The other cats were great in their own ways, but weren't necessarily as special.
My 15 year old cat jumps on my bed and lays down in the crook of my arm every night. He tilts his head back and I give him a good "under the chin" scratching." Lol. Then we go to sleep.
An old cat youv'e got😀
I own two cats for the first time in my life. This happened after I turned 50. They are nice companions and I would never get rid of them. And they came from the SPCA as adult adoptions and we bonded.
My cat was basically assaulting my face with his face lovingly through the whole video.
Does your cat bite your face?! My cat seems to want to avoid my face. Even with his play toys he takes extra coaxing to pounce if it's above my body.
@@crystalk.5946 No, he just likes to lay on my chest, knead me HARD, and repeatedly smash his face against my face.
@@jasepoag8930 thats so cute 😥
Jase Poag my cat does that as well, and a lot of the times when he’s smashing his face against mine he gives me tiny love bites
@@maxxheidrich2842 It's cute for the first 30 seconds or so. 5 minutes of slobbery face smashins and chest skin aeration becomes less cute though. lol
I involuntary did a test similar to one of my cats. He used to be an outdoor cat, until he was hit by a car, picked up by a stranger and rushed to E.R. Once at the E.R, he wouldnt stand up for the veterinarian, and he was avoindant. When I arrived, he immediately stood up, meowled and asked for me to pick him up. Not until I was there, could they do a proper exam of his injuries. Once I left (he had to stay the night), he went back to the same state to me prior being there. When I came to pick him up, I got an earful of my betrayal.
In conclusion.
Attached and loves me.
Beaah: Sometimes, an animal will choose whom you and not the other way around.
@@deborahwheeler4302 what do you mean?you gotta rephrase that sentence, it doesnt make sense.
Deborah Wheeler what
Sometimes a pet chooses you. You just succumb to its charms. You know: that one pet that you didn’t set out to choose. That pet that gets in front of you, won’t let you get by them without making sure you notice them. That body language that says, “Hey! I’m the one for you, you just don’t know it, yet.” The pet that has eyes for you and no one else. The pet that will respond to you and no one else. The one you can’t stop thinking of when you walk away; the one you have to turn around and go back and get. The pet that races to the car, jumps in, and stays right where he sits down, until you arrive home. Yep, he chose you.
@@deborahwheeler4302 uh.... I had him for 8 years before his accident. Your comment isnt relevant to what happened to us.
My ginger cat's name was Loki; he was my soulmate. Tomorrow is his death day; he left the world 2/23/18 after nearly 15 years together.
😢
So sorry for your loss xo
I feel you. I had a ginger cat, Archie, who was my soulmate and he died on July 5, 2019. I got my new cat to help fill the void and it is as empty as ever because the new cat has attached itself to my mother. Hugs to you and may we both find another cat who loves us as much as your Loki and my Archie. 🤗🤗🤗
HUGS!!
Condolences 😯😞😞😞
Just because I love cats people at school come up to me and say “I hate cats” like dude did I ask?
BRUH that used to happen to me too!! just ignore them, they're not worth your time
Yea i love cats too but maybe theyre doing it cause u wont stop babbling about how you love cats. Now that i think about it, share your affection with the worldddd
I used to move every week between my dad's and my mom's house. When I was gone, my mom told me how distressed my cat was. Looking for attention, yowling, waiting by the door. When I came back and called for him, he'd run full speed from the back of the neighborhood into my arms. I like to think he loves me. I definitely love him.
Oh poor sweet little Bill. Needs some extra security, extra love.
1 - YOU HAD ME AT WHAT IS LOVE I almost died
2 - The moment you apologized for explained attachment styles instead of talking cats, you had my subscribe
CONGRATS!!
What is love?
Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me
No moe
In my experience, cats recognise cat lovers. When I visit peoples' homes to do PC repair work, their cats flock to me and I adore it. I imagine its akin to how dogs smell fear - my wife is scared of big dogs, whereas I love them and they also come to me.
Funny, Trumps tiny hands! Hillarious
@@lorimangold2890 hehe thanks
You mean read body language, and not SMELL fear
@@sagardahiya6138 Fear pheremones are a thing, but whether dogs smell it or react to body language, or both, who knows?
Anyone who says cats are indifferent/distant/cold is oblivious and/or never actually owned a cat, and I'm a dog person.
Dogs are lovely but most dogs will love anybody. If a cat loves you you’re honoured.
YES!!! As A person who has had cats all my life, that's great to hear! My lil' Spooky Always at my side...
That or they got a bad one. There actually are bad apple cats that are either born maladjusted or became that way, and can pretty much only hate you. Usually this is the result of having no or bad human contact early in life but not always.
@@Aliandrin There's no such thing as an animal only capable of hating humans. A (domesticated) animal's "hatred" towards humans is the product of distrust, and, like you said, being raised in a human-less environment. But as long as that animal is a domesticated breed, it can be tamed. One merely needs to know how.
@@pasteldreams5413 Yes but just like some humans are nicer than others, the same goes with cats. They each have their own personality and some are naturally more sociable and more affectionate, while other cats will tend to be more agressive or shy no matter what you do.
*My cat after I come home from school* : Meh, just feed me already and leave me alone.
*My cat after I come home from a a 2 day trip* : WHY DID YOU LEAVE ME!!?! DON'T DO THAT AGAIN!! *_cuddles for hours_*
*My cat after I come home form school* : I don't even like you, don't touch me.
My cat is confirmed Disorganized Attachment or in weeb terms a Tsundere.
Our much loved cat was just like that....waiting and greeting me at the door with head bumps, then when fed needed time to digest...we need to respect cats physiological and emotional needs...
tbh i'd attribute this to cats being huge fans of routines, rather than being part of an attachment style - once a cat gets used to a routine, any variation to it can be very distressing. they know when you're meant to come home from school, but if you take an extra day or so to come home, they're going to get upset since that isn't what usually happens. additionally, some cats just aren't huge fans of pets, so they might only want them in specific circumstances
idk for sure tho im not a cat psychology professional
@@mozarteanchaos I feel there's a variable your not considering
Cats experience time differently then humans. So the hours you're at school feels a lot longer for them and they have a tendency to give their owners the cold shoulder when it's a regular thing as a way of passive aggression
When your cat ran to you after 2 days, it was out of the routine and therefor they were worried for you being gone a lot longer then they are used to so it shows their love
@@mozarteanchaos isnt that true of humans too? When we don't see people we love for a longer period of time than normal we get anxious and miss them more. It's not like cats miss loved ones less or it's only "due to them liking routines". Animals are really not that much different from human animals in their basic emotions of missing those that they have emotional bond with.
@@animalsarebeautifulpeople3094 i didn't mean to imply that cats don't miss their owners, and i'm sorry i came off that way! it's more that i don't think them missing their owners is necessarily indicative of an attachment style, and a large part of it is their love of routine. not _all_ of it, mind you - as a cat owner myself, i know that cats are capable of being loving in their own way.
cats have a lot going on in their little brains, so there's not always just one single cause to their actions.
Sad story back when I was in a bad place in my life, but I was attempting... My cat who never comes into my room other than to use the litter box as my room is in the basement came, and sat on my bed watching me for the first time in months, just staring straight in my eyes as I sobbed. I survived the attempt and the next day I came up to the living room and he was there. He looked at me sadly. He looked like I'd let him down. He doesn't usually give physical affection but he let me cry into his fur that morning gave me a lot of affection, all with that sad look in his eyes. I never attempted again after that.
I hope you are okay now! I have had suicidal thoughts in the past and I know how dark the feeling is. I hope you are okay and happy!
My friend’s cat changed my perspective on cats forever - he had a little dog that I loved and always wanted attention from me. He also had two cats, one Siamese and one black and white one. I was staying at his house for a few weeks, and the black and white cat started coming into my room, jumping onto the counter or sofa next to me, I would pet it but it would slink away most of the time. And it had these freaky green eyes that looked... evil. Lol.
One day, I had horrible painful diarrhea from food poisoning. Both cats were outside the toilet door the whole time. When I went into my room to lie down, I still had bad cramps. The black and white one jumped onto my bed and came right up to me, which it has never done before. The cat started to feel around my tummy, in this very matter-of-fact, investigative sort of way, and then did a massage of my stomach! Like both paws on different areas, then up, down, up, down. I was wondering what the little guy was doing, and realized after a fewminutes of this, my tummy ache was like 90% gone! I was amazed that the cat somehow healed my stomach. Both the black and white cat and the Siamese cat slept in my room that night - which again, they have never done before.
Early morning I had another bout of diarrhea, and the cat was at it again, massaging my tummy. Within minutes I felt completely healed. The day that I left the house, i went to the room and the cat jumped onto the bed and motioned to me. I went over and it stood up on its hind legs and put its paws around my neck, as though to hug me goodbye! I hugged him back and said thank you. I have a newfound love and respect for cats now. ❤️❤️❤️
orlybabe wow! What a beautiful story!
They can sense people more accurately(if they want to) than dogs. Believe it or not. Btw beautiful story. Thanks for sharing.
Gorgeous story 😍
so....lesson of the story, if you go to your friends house, you will have diarrhea....OR cats are healers
@@DebashishDasES dogs can sense cancer/sickness/emotion, and pregnancy(1st trimester)
I remember reading this study so it was really interesting to see it done. I'm pretty sure that my cat Watanuki is the secure attachment style. He's so laid back that if he were any more chill he'd be in a coma.
My cat started out that way. I adopted him when I lived with a bunch of college roommates and he would sleep so deeply that we could pose him for pictures. There is a great one of him on his back with a beer bottle cradled in his arms. I ruined him in later years of career moves/travel that turned him into a needy neurotic mess.
Throughout the quarantine my cat has made it clear that we need to still get up at a specified time. She still has food in her bowl when we check and she's not even hanging out in the same room, but she wants to check and make sure we're alive in the morning.
Mine come running when they hear my bedroom door open 😂
Wow that's very nice she be your partner
Cats like consistent in their life
Same here. One of our boys hast started cleaning our ears, and when we don't respond, eating our charging cables. The other one, as of last week, starts the old knock-everything-off-the-bedside-table. They didn't do that before quarantine.
My wife left our cat with my mother for 2 months, when she finally came back to bring her home, the cat followed her everywhere even i to the shower and she usually hates water. She would cry if she left for just a moment and would not sleep if she wasn't in the room, this lasted for like a week.
My cat is a mainecoon and he’s always attached to my hip, he learned to walk on a leash so he’s unstoppable lol I played dead and he ran and got my bf to come get me lol he’s the size of a small dog(13lbs) and he’s literally a child lol
I have an outdoor cat whose taken to following me when I go outside, so I'll go for a walk and there'll be this fluffy orange blob hopping after me from 5 feet behind wherever I go. And if I stop he'll start rolling, there is a range on how far he'll follow and since he's fat and a tripod he won't try to keep up if I run but it's still adorable.
@@vamp_bat_chomp
awww that's so cute! My cat does the same!
What is love?
Loki: :/ ?
Bill: Hooman don´t hurt me, don´t hurt me, no more
Bill the bullied cat
LOve is a feeling in your heart which I felt for the first time at age 40
@@oliviacc3 it's never too late
If nothing else doing such a test makes you more aware of the needs of your cat, but if I'd hazard to guess 6 weeks to change the thoughts and behaviour of an adult cat is way to short, changes in neuroplasticity with age is very unlikely to be unique to humans and likely related both to lifespan and relative size of the brain, that however is just a guess, I last studied neurology over a decade ago and there wasn't even a mention of animals in both literature and lectures.
Zorbeltuss I'd have to agree, I'm pretty sure I accidentally changed my cat's attachment style by traveling/moving for work. He started out "secure" into his adulthood, then seemed to spiral into "disorganized" as I entered the heart of my career. So I think it is possible, it just takes a little longer and/or an extreme change.
Person:
Me: Owner? The cats owns you. The cat thinks that it has trained you.
And I also cried when Bill didn't leave to sniff around.
Yea, when I was a kid, my dad done something similar by leaving me at the toy section of the department store. When it was time to leave, he found me with about three boxes of Lego building a Saturn V rocket. I didn't want to leave and would have been just as happy if he'd gone home without me.
i once missheard my mom and freaked out when i couldent find her because i was looking at the toys. we were shopping at target. i was at the door (the one u enter) and asked someone to help. i think it was a worker. i was in either 3rd or 4th grade. i was extremely relieved when i found her...
i think she was a slight bit mad i hadnt stayed in one place...
I tried this experiment on my cats and they both hi-fived me when I came back in.
LOL
Something not attached securely: the cat tree 07:50 And it makes me anxious :)
“And Bill...well Bill’s needy” LOL
Really enjoyed this. Would be interested in a repeated trial study, as well as how the cats feel towards Alie.
That’s a great idea!
One of my cats gently nibbles me whenever I’m crying or angry. She’s always there to calm me down and I’m so thankful for her. She’s definitely my best friend.
yeah my 23 yr old cat is "not doing good" still here after all my other friends either died of heroin overdose, got locked up, or turned into junkie trash or a mixture of the last 2. his name is loki too and that name came before the whole marvel movie stuff because i was in to comics as a kid. feel like he's all i have left. have trouble making new friends now because i don't trust people and been stabbed in the back by even family. not sure what's gonna happen when, well, you know.. at my age prob the closest thing i'll ever have to a child. acts so much like me it's strange. can even say a couple words like "out" and "no" and i believe he fully understands english. did i mention he's 23. it's really f'n me up. i don't even want anymore pets now. i can't go through this ever again and there will never be another one ANYTHING like him. he was a ferrel rescue kitten and was mean as shit and i had to physically break him, but once i did, after that he turned into a attention whore/lap cat. was raised around a border collie too so i'm pretty sure he thinks he's a dog. others that have been around him say the same thing and have also had moments of amazement just how he reacts to conversation or to music, etc. truly one of a kind. not sure why i'm even talking about it. (^&*$%
@@XX-121 well I hope you manage to find peace with yourself, also learn to trust yourself again and know that strangers out there still cares what you think but can I know what you mean when I read 'I had to physically break him'?
My cats attachment style was i don’t give a shit and don’t want to even move.
Throughout my life of 45 years I've had cats and dogs. I genuinely like cats better
I was watching this with my cat and she got triggered when she heard your cat’s meow, my phone was over a blanket and when I removed it she started sniffing and looking under it while being alert 😂
You know what doesn’t seem securely attached? That cat tree...
Sorry, I had to. Loved watching the experiment and I loved to see how both cats went to you for comfort. I also liked your comment about how they’re the closest thing you have to children. I also have 4 feline children :) you’re a good cat dad. Keep up the good work! But... fix that cat tree, please.
It was bothering me too. I have a tree like that, I bought brackets and secured it to the wall.
LOL...good one.
Hahaha!!! I knooowwwww
I had a cat that would run up to greet me every day after I got home from school. We had a perfectly timed routine. I would get off the bus and she’d run up to our front stoop. I’d sit down and pet her as long as I could before I got called inside. Middle school was extremely rough for me, and coming home to her everyday soothed my soul. She was the sweetest cat and a huge part of my life.
This does not always take into account the impact that cats own parents have on them.
There is a law in Sweden that minimum age for kittens to leave their parent is 12 weeks. No younger. Because it was found that kittens forced to leave the security of their parents before developing a healthy desire to do so are way more likely to have maladaptive behaviours.
It is easily observed in kittens that they practice healthy attachment when learning to explore but may very easily become anxious when the source of comfort isn't there anymore too soon.
I don't have the resources to check my own cats attachment right now but it's an interesting thought to keep for later
It's like assessing the attachment of an adopted child. It'll depend on the pre-adoption experiences, their age at adoption, and their post-adoption experiences. I'm guessing Bill probably had a rougher time before his adoption than Loki did.
As much as it will always be good to not split them up too early, a kitten properly socialised and raised will never have any issues no matter how young they ended up split from the parent.
It is only if they are then not correctly cared for and socialised that it becomes an issue with potential behaviours.
When I was going through tough times and I started to cry my cat noticed that came to comfort me and lay beside me
So is this why my moms cat pees in her suitcase whenever she's been on a trip? 😂
goose of spooks LLLOOOOOOLLLLL
The cat is marking her territory... this is far less likely to occur if she was fixed when she was a kitten though... if fixed later in life (adolescence) then it won't help.
probably! cats can pee in bizarre locations when they're anxious
I still miss my cats so much and it's been months. Cats can attach to their owners as much as we attach to them.
"a sexual passion or desire"
*_Shane Dawson had entered the _**_-cat-_**_ chat_*
Lmaooo
Best comment ive seen 2020
And I OOP.
(gotta use an expired meme for an expired TH-camr)
cursed comment-
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
When it looked like Bill was having warzone flashbacks at the end of the video I honestly burst out laughing.... Poor Bill.
My cat follows me out to the house gate when I go to the grocery, when I come back she is there waiting for me & then follows me into the house. She's HAPPY when I arrive & meows alot then come rub herself to my legs as I walk or stop to talk to her.
Cats are wonderful creatures. Duh. Such an original observation. I take mine with me on trips. Can't imagine being separated from him. I have studied the effects of attachment among humans in specific situations and just started reading studies of attachment in pets. The same dynamics apply.
when I 1st started getting serious with my boyfriend, I told him my cats were coming with me if we moved in- he hated cats- before my cats moved in with us, (it was going to be awhile due to us being in the city) my bfs sister needed us to watch her cat for a few days so she dropped it off with us & long story short? my BF convinced his sister to keep her cat & they are best of buds & he now prefers cats over dogs. I've always believed there is a cat for every person.
I actually disagree with the concept that cats attachment styles can’t be changed. When I first had Moe, he was a neglected animal, and had a very anxious-avoidant attachment style. After the first year of hard work, socialization and training he was anxious-ambivalent, but now, two years later, he’s secure. Six weeks is barely starting for animals. They can’t verbally communicate so much more work is needed.
yeah, and I doubt even humans change style THAT quickly either. Usually it's over repeated events over months or years. 6 weeks is nothing.
I performed this experiment with my girlfriend. After I reentered the room she started sniffing me and didn't leave my side anymore just like the ginger cat.
Checks out
So...basically cats are tsunderes, is what you’re saying, right?
Makeshift•Mind pretty much lol
I guess many cats are lol Mine isn't though, she is fond of me right from the beginning.
Thank you for the vocabulary word "tsundere", I wasn't familiar with it; love a trending term.
@@laurahall2710 it's not a trending term lol it's just a term used in anime and Japanese culture, it's been around for a long time. The opposite of a tsundere is a yandere. There is also kuudere and dandere. 😊
@@EmberlyGenesis isn't the opposite of tsundere deredere?
You have to EARN a cat's love. If they don't know you, yeah, they'll run away. Stranger danger! But if they love you, they will follow you everywhere you go.
Imagine being a parent who volunteered for the study and found out they were in the other 30%.
I do wonder though if outliers in personality can account for this too .
@@ultraboombean A lot of the time it's the parent unintentionally passing on their own attachment style. Different attachment styles tend to parent differently, and end up producing children with a similar attachment style to themselves.
I think it's a mix of a person (or animal's) natural disposition, how they've interacted with their caregiver over time, and other experiences they've had (especially if they've gone through a traumatic experience).
My cat doesn’t follow me around. But one time I went into my apartment hallway to throw out my garbage, and he followed me. Once in the hallway, he was like a dog. Followed right along with me wherever I went at the same speed.
I'm so sad he has anxiety 😭
I have two cats myself . The first one , i adopted him when he was approximately 10 days old.. i bottle fed him , he slept next to me , my whole family took turns in taking care of him but that was my job , they were assisting when i was unable to . He was always around people, friends relatives neighbors, pizza delivery guys etc .Now he is 7 months old.. The second one was a stray cat . When i found her she was skin and bones , dirty, had a respiratory infection and was very feral towards people but not others cats. As a matter of fact thats how i was able to catch her . I lured her with my other cat in a trap cage . I have her for a very long time now and she s gotten attached to me . However , they both display similar attachment styles to Loki and Bill. The female . Lola ,same as Loki , being the stray one has formed a secure attachment , while the male , Picolino , just as the domesticated and human familiarized since and infant Bill, has formed an anxious - ambivalent attachment . My theory is that , the stray one has survived alone for quite sometimes, has been through ordeals and survived regardless , which gives the cat a sense of security and trust in their own abilities . While the one who s never learned to survive alone will get panic attacks and find themselves helpless and hopeless in the though of their caregiver abandoning them and them being left alone .
I don't own a cat but since I live on ground level and we have a garden, cats do visit us. Over the last years I befriended a cat. She usually visits every day. I've started calling her Mraa a while ago, due to the sound she makes to grab my attention. Now when I see her, she even comes to me when I call.
Sometimes we hang out in the garden together her sitting on me or next to me, eyes closed, relaxing. Sometimes she just says hello, a few strokies. First she gets petted and then she licks me. On days when I'm sad, she'll sit on the windowsill at least half an hour or invade my room if she gets a chance. She then sits on my lap and purrs, calming me down. Definitely the most amazing cat friend I could ask for.
My cat loves me for sure; comes running when I come home from work... meowing, lies down on his back... it's love
Me: (crossed out the line 'Potential career: Cat therapy' on my notebook.)
I feel like I'm not just disorganized attached, I'm disorganized in general lol
Him: When we are talking about babies, love and parents, we're certainly talking about ...
Me: Freud!!!
Him: ...Attachement
Me: Oh right
Oh no😂😂😂
I baby sited two cats for a year. And they do their own thing around the room, come up to me to get some pets, they hug me, and ask to play. Anytime I go to the bathroom and close the door, they start meowing and shove their paws under the door, feeling around for me. And when I come out, they seem happy, get some pets, and continue one their own thing again. So they don't like it when I am out of site. They did learn to leave me alone during the night. but right on the dot, they knew when it was time to wake up, and they start meowing for me.
I have cats and one of their names is Hally, and he can talk and answer you. If I say would say something he would come in with a meow that sounds like a yes or no or maybe. He's so cool! He is yet black but a few hairs are gray because of ageing he is 12,and his eyes look golden and his left ear is spilt from a fight many years ago before we got him. I love him so much and I hope he will be healthy for a long time like my older cat Smirre that is 18.💗🐈
My cat was a shy rescue from a shelter. She wouldn't even leave the carrier when I brought her home for two hours. Then she hid for fifty hours without eating a bite. Worse, she inherited Feline Herpes from her mother so she contracted an upper respiratory infection and became sick. She finally started eating and letting me pet her but it required me being low to the ground. The minute I stood, she freaked.
So I walked around on all fours and slept on the floor half the night for a week to get her more comfortable. Six weeks into it she's super cuddly and loving and still prefers the affirmation I give her when she's eating but she's no longer afraid of me at all when I stand. She's on antibiotics now and will hopefully get better. She has diarrhea and leaks sometimes on the carpet and my bed and her various scratchers. What we do for animals.
One time, this mama cat that stays at our house checked on me when I fell in front of her. She was a very timid cat, but when she heard my yell, she immediately comes towards me. My late cat, Snow, always comes and paws my face if I cried, so yes, I believe cats do show affection to people who cares about them ^^. With Snow, he always slept in my room, and I don't even to call him ^^
My cat is securely attached to me
He's rolling over after giving me nuzzles like it was nothing
Man, after watching this, I know exactly what ONE cat's attachment style is! My little Lila is definitely the type that will not go far from her humans and wants love and attention all the time! The older cat, Mako, the first one we ever had and the cat we found in a parking lot when she was 3-5 weeks old, she is very independent, but also lovey when SHE wants to be! She calls the shots! Also, when we go on trips and we return, she lays in front of the door to make sure we don't leave again! So yeah, she's a loner, but also needs that companionship! It's crazy how different these two girls are, but it's fascinating as well! All their humans know that they both love us all in their own way though...it really is incredible...I love cats!!!
Halfway through, I realised someone was missing. Opened my door and called....the cat, by clicking my fingers
She’s now purring on my pillow. This is a cat....well...she and I have developed an affectionate though distant relationship. I used to say we had decided to tolerate each other,then I realised she’s quite affectionate when it’s on her own terms. And she was raised with dogs, so now thinks she’s the alpha, biology be damned.
This is fascinating. Thanks for this, especially the last part about how we can't change their attachment style. I, too, adopted my cats. One's older and the other was a kitten.
It all depends on how you raise your cat and who your cat is as an individual...I have a cat that is pretty much my loyal companion, faithful and even enjoys going outside with me unharnessed. He doesn't run away, and its been like this for about two years. He hates being alone...he loves when he is called over, and his cuddles are *aggressive*. I don't mean that he scratches or bites me, (In fact, I have never seen a cat show as much restraint as my lad) I mean that he nuzzles me so hard that he sometimes knocks his head pretty hard into mine and gives us both an ouch, and somehow unphased, continues to nuzzle and cuddle and purr. Worth it though. I love him...big boi manx baby.
On one of your last videos you showed us conditioning. Well i remember when that came out and it blew my mind. So what did i do?
I trained my cat to run towards me whenever I make a strange grunt noise.
Now I think it's a bit late for me to teach my 10 year old cat to love me (other than as a food giver) but I thank you for the knowledge you are providing. I've been following you now for... Too long to remember and I always look forward to your videos!
When I leave the room to prepare my cat’s food, I tell him, “Momma will be back in a few minutes.” When I return to our room with his food, he runs, from the spot he was sitting and waiting by the door, to go hide under the bed and he stays there until I have the door securely closed. Then he comes out from under the bed meowing until I pet him. (His meow is not very loud.) He rubs his face and head against my hands for more petting.
The peculiar thing is, he will look at and sniff the food in his bowl, but before he will eat he walks away from it to come sit beside me where I am sitting, and begs for more head-rubs, and attention. After about five to eight minutes of this “loving” he seems to be satisfied and he returns to his bowl to eat his food.
If I am going to leave the house and leave him in our room, so that I may run errands, I tell him, “Momma, will be back after awhile.” In response, he will run to the door with me, he is vocalizing like he desires to go with me, or stand between me and the door to keep me from leaving. Once I get by him and I have have securely shut the door, I can hear him crying. After watching this video, I realize I was correct in my conclusion that he has been experiencing “separation anxiety” all along. He also misses my husband, and shows this in his persistent and repetitive vocal meows when my husband comes into the room.
This cat was brought to us by a family who had rescued him when he was about two to three weeks of age. They kept him two weeks then decided it would be best if he was placed in a different environment. They reached out to us.
Our senior cat of 17 years, had passed away (the same week they rescued this tiny kitten). We were not looking to have another cat so soon after our cat passed away, but surprisingly, my husband said, “yes we’ll take him”.
From the time we took him in, I was home 24/7 with this new baby from, November 6, 2018 until January 7, 2019. I had to leave our home to move in with my parents. Mother suddenly became gravely ill. My husband, still working, stayed in our house with our kitten and our ferret. (We live 13-miles away.) I was able to return home very few times. After my Mother moved to heaven, our family determined my Daddy should not be left alone because his health is very fragile. So, here I remain.
Meanwhile, during the year I have been away, my husband has reported that our once sweet, affectionate baby kitten has turned into a “crazy”, “mischievous”, “destructive”, “monster cat” with bad behavior, climbing the walls (literally), he has even witnessed the cat cling, upside down from the ceiling fan, like a monkey. I told my husband the cat is not used to being alone, he is bored, and he is “acting out” like a rebellious child, and not happy being alone. In short “separation anxiety”.
Last week, the doctor told my husband that his recent bout with pneumonia is because he is allergic to the cat. The doctor told him he needed separate himself from the cat and all items related to the cat.
Previously, my Daddy would not allow the cat to be brought here to his house, for fear his dogs would kill the cat, should he accidentally get out of my room. But, we explained our dilemma, and reluctantly he has allowed us to bring the cat into the house. I keep him in the bedroom where I stay.
We named him Buzz Light Year, after one of our Granddaughter’s favorite toys (she was three at the time), we call him Buzz. And his physique is very similar to the Norwegian Forest Cat. At 18-months old, he weighs 10- pounds. He seems to be happy here, he does not behave the way my husband describes.
I know this has been a very long post, but I felt I needed to give historical background to go with the descriptions of Buzz’s behavior to me as opposed to when he is with my husband. I hope this edited version makes sense. Thank you for your comments. 🐱
It sounds like he needed to be with you because he missed you! How sweet! You seem to be consistantly giving him verbal cues about when you need to leave a d return, I think that's so helpful for him, he's lucky to have you!! 🐾💕
Daniella D thank you. He gives me vocal cues around 10PM: “Mom! It’s time to play! Please! Play with me!” So we play (when I really want to go to bed.). After about 30-minutes, I tell him “it’s time to go to bed”, or “it’s time for all good little kitties to go nite-nite”, LOL, he even responds with his meow 😸 that sounds like he is saying “mow” (like in a question tone “now”?). Once the light goes out I hear him playing with one of his toys for about five minutes. Then he jumps up on the bed and lays near my feet.
We have a ferret and a rabbit. And two dogs that live outside. I talk to all of them the same way. The rabbit knows now, when I tell him it’s time to go to bed I am getting his favorite treat. I won’t give it to him until he hops into his habitat-enclosure. One time, he grabbed the treat and zoomed out of the enclosure before I could shut the door. The next three minutes I was treated to a rabbit ritual of zooming and a rabbit happy dance around me, his enclosure, and the room, “vocalizing his happiness”, all the while carrying the treat in his mouth. I wish I had videoed that dance. He was so funny, but eventually he hopped into his enclosure all by himself and let me shut the door. 🐰🐇 😂
The colour of their eyes are so stunning, especially the blue eyes of the grey fur, their fur also looks shiny and healthy, you're very good at caring for them.
As I’m watching this both my cats crawled onto my lap and started nuzzling me
I grew up with dogs. Later on in life I took in 2 cats. They were the best. One lived until she was over 19 1/2 years the other lived until he was over 17 years, he was a stray so I was never sure what age he was. Loved them both and miss them with tears in my eyes, just like the dog that loved me when I was a child. xx xx xx
My cats loved me for sure. The night after she died, she came to me in a dream. She let me know she was happy and well and that she would see me again. What better comfort and love could a cat love. I look forward to the day that I can be with her again.
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I would love to try this with my 3 babies. But, I can't stand the thought of purposely putting them through the stress. I am the needy one, lol. GREAT JOB, thank you!