Low self-esteem is at the root here. Zero self worth. Men can only do what you allow. Unfortunately there is no reward for enduring nonsense. He was wrong to mistreat you. You were wrong to stay if you felt you didn't deserve it. And anything bad that could happen to that man is NOT karma for mistreating you. It would've happened anyway because he's living & the rain falls on the good and wicked. I'm no therapist but do inbox me if you need to learn how to build your self worth & identity from the core. Not through academic achievements or getting your nails done. Stay strong sister. I'm praying for you and all women plagued by self hate. ❤❤❤
You couldn't have said it better. When you really value yourself you will not let anyone or any many trample all over you. It's not really about all being presentable and good education. It goes beyond that. Funny how l thought abuse may be associated with poverty and illiteracy. These men seem to abuse even doctors, engineer, powerful educated women especially by men with lower caliber and academic achievements. So abuse knows no boundaries
"Not through academic or getting your nail done". 👏👏👏👏👏 most of the women are suffering from low self-esteem and they think being married is a solution but they are wrong. Everything start with you. You got to love yourself first before somebody else can love you. See yourself beautiful before somebody else can se you that you are beautiful.
Can you guys see how God is leading Madam Speaker 🙌🙌, i felt his presence so much on this episode 😭...I saw a therapist on Madam Speaker here❤.. I wish some of these guests can come back and tell us where are after their episodes. Sort of like a "Where are they now" kind of episode
Your story is one for the books and us as woman can learn so much from, you were called for a time such as this. You are very strong and brave Kagiso. I pray God touches you so deeply that your wounds are healed with time from deep within and that you live for YOU and see that Your worth is priceless. Listen to gospel music will soothe you and place all your trust in God
The enemy truly goes around attacking our identity. Our identity in Christ is what he prowls for. Find your identity in Christ that’s where you’ll start to see who you really. You’ll see what everyone else sees in you my sister. God is with you. I pray God’s healing upon you🙌🏽🙏
I have said this before and I will say it again Madam Speaker's listening skills are top notch. She doesn't interject unnecessarily. We need hear the stories from the horses mouths. I really enjoy this podcast Nkosi yam
Men will break you, my sister. You are beautiful and intelligent, sis. Men will make you think they are doing you a favor. Take care of yourself and your babies.
Madam Speaker you are a true vessel of God, may the good Lord continues to use you in this amazing way, you are a blessing to the most of us. Kagiso I pray you find healing and work for the Lord by healing many souls through worship and your testimonies amen.❤❤
Ooooh my God i felt something from this episode. The fact that out guest was able to talk about how she's feeling healed me in a way . As for madam speaker , my sister your counseling sessions are the best.
Your words of wisdom, compassion and affirmation spoke to Kagiso and a whole lot of people (mostly women) out there. Keep on doing God's work Madam Speaker❤. Kagiso you are beautiful, brave and intelligent, love thyself more.
@madam speaker, you are so profound my sister and sis Kagiso your journey to healing and healing others through your testimony has just begun. Just like madam speaker is doing now. Love you ladies.❤
Oh Madam Speaker you are such a God sender..we getting free therapy, continue with your good job..may God keep on sustaining and blessing you more & more,we love you cc❤😢
As a woman l think we are too desperate for marriage that's why men abuse us like this. Funny how l thought abuse seems to be rife with educated and financially sound women. Are men threatened by your power. Women be wise. One abusive marriage is bad enough but going for a second marriage which is abusive is a non negotiable. Let's do better ladies honestly.
I'm not desperate. Many men have tried to marry me. When I see the red flags I make an exit plan. Some abusers will be nice to your family so they can know your whereabouts. They will stalk you at your job, house, anywhere. Family and society pressure makes some women stay too. Pray and be strong! I feel for this woman and her children. Abuse is terrifying.😢
But you can't blame women only, there something fundermentally wrong with the system when it comes to raising girls. We are trained to become desperate. Even when I tell people now that we have to stop telling girls that if they don't sleep around some good guy will marry them and they live happily ever after( not to promote promiscuity) because that is training them for failure, infact they should just forget about marriage cause boys are not even dreaming about it. But most parents even to this day still think that is being harsh or bitter but look at the after effects. It's very sad!! I'm afraid this is too deep it cannot be changed in adulthood at least for most people, we can only try. 17:16
💝Such an honor to watch your podcast, because of the so many podcasts that are just story telling without gaining motivation or healing.Such a blessing to have the luxury of affording wifi while i work +12 hour shifts and earn peanuts. Today is my rest but everyday is fighting battle for a better career. We truly have angels roaming amongst us. Continue your beautiful calling. 💖
This is soo beautiful. I love the way Madam speaker counsils her guest here. The message you are giving here is definitely touching many. I feel Mokgadi's pain and I hope and pray that her speaking out brings her all the healing she deserves and needs. Well done to madam speaker for her wise delivery of healing words and her guest for being truthful in sharing herself with viewers. Mbokodo❤
Good work madam speaker👃I know and understand the pain that lady goes through💔I am 55yrs today bcos of the love of god.I am realy sensetive to arguments cos i have fight a lot forgetting that god is the one to fight for me.
Madam Speaker you are God sent to women. You just say the right things at the right time. Continue sisi this is a ministry that God has sent you to do. To your guest there, sisi you are one strong lady and God will heal you from all the pain you went or going through so you can help others to be strong.
Katlego you are loved, chosen, set apart and transformed by God. You are special to Him and so cherished it's not funny. God adores you. Please stay away from men a bit and let God work on you. You don't need sex to feel good about yourself, you need God and time with yourself. I will make you my prayer item. Your family, especially the kids, need you, don't let yourself and them down.
Although I don't ever allow a romantic relationship to have its way with me like her but I can relate to a huge part of how she feels about herself..kaze sophola na ngelinye ilanga
Oh when she started crying and saying all those things she broke my heart. I think she doesn't believe these things simple because she had not seen it herself. She needs to validate herself. Sending love and light her way.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢.. I am South African,stuck married in a foreign country.Husband has moved in with baby mama before we divorce.He doesn't want divorce,and i cant file.I spent yesterday and today crying. HEEEEELP😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 Also one day after divorce i want to tell my story on this podcast.
Madam speaker thank you very much for the uplifting podcast although they are triggering but each and everytime we are learning new things on how to survive ❤❤
This is why I can never ever condone cheating. Knowing men, In most cases some poor woman with her children is being abused, I'll treated by your nkayamba
Her comment about wanting to be what other people see in her is a big problem.. She needs to find herself be happy with herself first. She is beautiful and intelligent she does not validation. She needs HELP .
She needs to love herself, I see also low self esteem. Madam Speaker the lady need to complete herself with her achievements. She must see that, she is a hard worker.
Uhmmm ya kunzima sisi, to think we have such phycos in 😢society, it's very scary. The similarities of women or marriage issues is so scary, what is happening in the world 😢
Sorry sesi Mokgadi about what u went through love is blind though m glad today u know the difference.may you heal from the pain u went through from ur past...may peace find u❤❤❤❤❤
Mna shame, I don't see myself bothering my parents about who they love, little loving and all that foolishness among us siblings. I believe that they have the liberty to love better any child they choose to. Loving a child better than others is innate. For example, my brother, the first born in the family was loved more than us all. He was their favorite. Do I have to contend with that? No. That was their first child. They saw by that child that they could procreate. To me it's innate, it's natural for them to love their baby. Even God doesn't love us all the same. I think that way. Kunjalo.
You will not die , you will live n see the goodness of the Lord BUT my daughter what I can tell you is your healing is in healing other people with ministering to them with your voice.
Marriage doesnt define a person. Failed marriages do not define a person. U r financially stable woman. U hv support of family. Forgive urself, forgive yourself....forgive urself.
This was so heartbreaking to watch. I really hope Ausi Mokgadi can get therapy and a good deliverance session, it seems like she is unable to deal with her obscured sense of unworthiness. I wish she could just get rid of this inadequate "Katlego" that she has created in her head and stop listening to those negatives thoughts and voices she will be fine. It's easier said than done I know cuz it sounds like a bulk of her adult life she has shrunk down her inner most being, what makes her Katlego, down to nothing. I actually think this started when she fell pregnant the first time. The lack of any emotion be it disappointment, acceptance, joy or anger from her parents was the first incident where she was not given a chance to process her emotions of the disappointment she felt she caused. And it was just swept under the carpet as if nothing happened. I think that's where she should consider starting to heal cuz everything after that seems to be about achieving and not being a disappointment to her family. Her biggest upset while growing up was seeking affection and attention and anyone who could check ✅ that box was let in red flags and all. The reason why she says towards the end that she is unable to deal with stuff she created is probably because she never learned how to. It's almost like how she deals with problems is by achieving, unfortunately that's not a good formula. In life problems that we don't deal with eventually accumulate and it becomes alot harder to deal with them especially if you don't have the tools to. You have all these wonderful things you have achieved but yet you feel so empty, it also sounds like you have a wonderful gift of healing others through your voice yet still you feel unworthy to use it. Don't let the devil steal your destiny sis, you are beautiful, you are adequate, God loves you, we love you and we all out here routing for you. It was so brave of you to share your story, I believe this will be the beginning of your healing journey. As cliché as this will sound just know "everything happens for a reason" and the reason is always for our own good. You are going to come out of this a much stronger woman. You are giving birth to the new you, U just gotta let go of the old Katlego and let madam K sit on her thrown. All the best to you and may God bless you, heal you and guide you on the next amazing chapter of your life🎉❤ Madam Speaker keep doing what you do best🎉❤
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❤ ❤ Madam speaker you were born for this. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉may God increase, sustain and preserve you. ❤ ❤
Wow, thank you so much 🙏🏿🤍
Madam speaker….may you continue healing women. You’re amazing ❤
Thank you so much 🙏🏿🤍
Low self-esteem is at the root here. Zero self worth. Men can only do what you allow. Unfortunately there is no reward for enduring nonsense. He was wrong to mistreat you. You were wrong to stay if you felt you didn't deserve it. And anything bad that could happen to that man is NOT karma for mistreating you. It would've happened anyway because he's living & the rain falls on the good and wicked. I'm no therapist but do inbox me if you need to learn how to build your self worth & identity from the core. Not through academic achievements or getting your nails done. Stay strong sister. I'm praying for you and all women plagued by self hate. ❤❤❤
You couldn't have said it better. When you really value yourself you will not let anyone or any many trample all over you. It's not really about all being presentable and good education. It goes beyond that. Funny how l thought abuse may be associated with poverty and illiteracy. These men seem to abuse even doctors, engineer, powerful educated women especially by men with lower caliber and academic achievements. So abuse knows no boundaries
"Not through academic or getting your nail done". 👏👏👏👏👏 most of the women are suffering from low self-esteem and they think being married is a solution but they are wrong. Everything start with you. You got to love yourself first before somebody else can love you. See yourself beautiful before somebody else can se you that you are beautiful.
@_baphiwe You are spot on low self-esteem well diagnosed. I always don't seem to understand how much patience women could have. Self love is crucial.
And she is so beautiful 😢
Can you guys see how God is leading Madam Speaker 🙌🙌, i felt his presence so much on this episode 😭...I saw a therapist on Madam Speaker here❤..
I wish some of these guests can come back and tell us where are after their episodes. Sort of like a "Where are they now" kind of episode
Your story is one for the books and us as woman can learn so much from, you were called for a time such as this. You are very strong and brave Kagiso. I pray God touches you so deeply that your wounds are healed with time from deep within and that you live for YOU and see that Your worth is priceless. Listen to gospel music will soothe you and place all your trust in God
I’m watching this and weeping because I’ve been a victim of Abuse, ey men will damage you hey😢😢💔
The enemy truly goes around attacking our identity. Our identity in Christ is what he prowls for. Find your identity in Christ that’s where you’ll start to see who you really. You’ll see what everyone else sees in you my sister. God is with you. I pray God’s healing upon you🙌🏽🙏
I have said this before and I will say it again Madam Speaker's listening skills are top notch. She doesn't interject unnecessarily. We need hear the stories from the horses mouths. I really enjoy this podcast Nkosi yam
Thank you so much 🙏🏿🤍
Madam you always listen Shem, ke rata that thing ka Wena ❤❤. God bless you sis
Men will break you, my sister. You are beautiful and intelligent, sis. Men will make you think they are doing you a favor. Take care of yourself and your babies.
Madam Speaker you are a true vessel of God, may the good Lord continues to use you in this amazing way, you are a blessing to the most of us. Kagiso I pray you find healing and work for the Lord by healing many souls through worship and your testimonies amen.❤❤
Ooooh my God i felt something from this episode. The fact that out guest was able to talk about how she's feeling healed me in a way . As for madam speaker , my sister your counseling sessions are the best.
Thank you so much 🙏🏿🤍
A lot of women go thru this ba ntse bare gongwe go ta chenja. I so feel for our sister. God is our restorer He will restore you in Jesus namr
I really wish she goes to therapy 😭😭🥺🥺🥺
Siyabonga cc @: Madam speaker...Thanks for telling The Pain of a woman....SIPHELILE😢😢😢
Enjoyed the podcast so relatable and God is great we are reminded 🙏🌸
Your words of wisdom, compassion and affirmation spoke to Kagiso and a whole lot of people (mostly women) out there. Keep on doing God's work Madam Speaker❤. Kagiso you are beautiful, brave and intelligent, love thyself more.
Thank you so much 🤍🙏🏿
This is sooo...painfull😭😭 for a human being to go through no man!
Madam speaker we are healing from your podcasts 😢😢😢yhooo
Love and light to Kagiso. Madam you are simply the best❤
Thank you so much
Yho if only we as ppl can realise how much our actions can impact ppl 😔💔
We need to pray and work on our mental health more because that’s the tool that people will use against you once they get to know you.
@madam speaker, you are so profound my sister and sis Kagiso your journey to healing and healing others through your testimony has just begun. Just like madam speaker is doing now. Love you ladies.❤
Oh Madam Speaker you are such a God sender..we getting free therapy, continue with your good job..may God keep on sustaining and blessing you more & more,we love you cc❤😢
May God strengthen you in Jesus mighty name. He is our hope in time of stress
As a woman l think we are too desperate for marriage that's why men abuse us like this. Funny how l thought abuse seems to be rife with educated and financially sound women. Are men threatened by your power. Women be wise. One abusive marriage is bad enough but going for a second marriage which is abusive is a non negotiable. Let's do better ladies honestly.
I'm not desperate. Many men have tried to marry me. When I see the red flags I make an exit plan. Some abusers will be nice to your family so they can know your whereabouts. They will stalk you at your job, house, anywhere. Family and society pressure makes some women stay too. Pray and be strong! I feel for this woman and her children. Abuse is terrifying.😢
But you can't blame women only, there something fundermentally wrong with the system when it comes to raising girls. We are trained to become desperate. Even when I tell people now that we have to stop telling girls that if they don't sleep around some good guy will marry them and they live happily ever after( not to promote promiscuity) because that is training them for failure, infact they should just forget about marriage cause boys are not even dreaming about it. But most parents even to this day still think that is being harsh or bitter but look at the after effects. It's very sad!!
I'm afraid this is too deep it cannot be changed in adulthood at least for most people, we can only try. 17:16
💝Such an honor to watch your podcast, because of the so many podcasts that are just story telling without gaining motivation or healing.Such a blessing to have the luxury of affording wifi while i work +12 hour shifts and earn peanuts. Today is my rest but everyday is fighting battle for
a better career. We truly have angels roaming amongst us. Continue your beautiful calling. 💖
This is soo beautiful. I love the way Madam speaker counsils her guest here. The message you are giving here is definitely touching many. I feel Mokgadi's pain and I hope and pray that her speaking out brings her all the healing she deserves and needs.
Well done to madam speaker for her wise delivery of healing words and her guest for being truthful in sharing herself with viewers.
Mbokodo❤
I pray you find healing Kagiso you are a strong and beautiful woman love your self so that you can live for your kids ❤
Madam speaker you are one special soul and Thank you so much
I enjoy this channel so much....Madam speaker I love you,you are a good Job!!!yoooooh!!!
I like what u saying Madam speaker "u tired rest"she will definitely regain power all in good time
Thank you, madam speaker
You are most welcome 🙏🏿
My beautiful manager
You are so beautiful, gorgeous, brilliant, intelligent, you are enough.. I pray that God heal you physically and spiritually
Tjoo waze wa smart madam speaker. Umuhle-hle!
I am learning in every episode
Ohh my God😢😢 God loves this lady ❤
Wow wow powerful wrds madam speaker
Madam Speaker thanks so much u are doing a wonderful job may the good Lord bless you for holding women;s hand and running the race with them 🙏🙏
Good work madam speaker👃I know and understand the pain that lady goes through💔I am 55yrs today bcos of the love of god.I am realy sensetive to arguments cos i have fight a lot forgetting that god is the one to fight for me.
I am speechless Kagiso. Heal please my sister❤❤❤
1:15:33 oh Percy!!! 😢😢😢😢 it’s giving Iyanla! You are anointed for this! May God increase your territory. God’s speed. ❤
Madam Speaker you are God sent to women. You just say the right things at the right time. Continue sisi this is a ministry that God has sent you to do. To your guest there, sisi you are one strong lady and God will heal you from all the pain you went or going through so you can help others to be strong.
Her pain is too much😢😢😢😢😢😢
Oh Nkosi what a gorgeous lady may She find healing n self love I just love her she's so wonderful with her scars....
Madam speaker is such a Wise woman❤❤❤
My home girl🤗God loves you
❤❤❤
Praying for your emotional healing
Katlego you are loved, chosen, set apart and transformed by God. You are special to Him and so cherished it's not funny. God adores you. Please stay away from men a bit and let God work on you. You don't need sex to feel good about yourself, you need God and time with yourself. I will make you my prayer item. Your family, especially the kids, need you, don't let yourself and them down.
Although I don't ever allow a romantic relationship to have its way with me like her but I can relate to a huge part of how she feels about herself..kaze sophola na ngelinye ilanga
One thing I love about madam Speaker she listen and never interapt a guest ❤
100%❤
God will intervene sisi. He is the greatest healer, it may take time but you are going to heal 🤞🏾🤞🏾
What a painful experience, sending lots love dear
Oh when she started crying and saying all those things she broke my heart. I think she doesn't believe these things simple because she had not seen it herself. She needs to validate herself. Sending love and light her way.
Kagiso if u cant forgive urself at least be nice to urself....talk softly to urself, u r tooo hard to urself. Love is kind. Be kind to urself pleass
I like your looks Madame speaker.Elegant.Pretty upto the core.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢..
I am South African,stuck married in a foreign country.Husband has moved in with baby mama before we divorce.He doesn't want divorce,and i cant file.I spent yesterday and today crying.
HEEEEELP😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 Also one day after divorce i want to tell my story on this podcast.
Come back home sisi.
I don't understand why South Africans get involved in love with these foreign nationals at all. I'm basing this on the teachings from home.
Comr back home, don't tell him just pack and come back
@@iris1896 i wish i could.But my son's passport has issues he cant enter SA until 2026 and he is so young i can't leave him behind.
@@trustingnobody628 because i didnt see him as a foreigner but a person just like any man
Madam Speaker looking prettier each day. Thank u so much for the episode, lots of love from Botswana
This was such a spiritual episode 🥺😊
Madam speaker thank you very much for the uplifting podcast although they are triggering but each and everytime we are learning new things on how to survive ❤❤
LIFE😢 Thank u madam speaker ur doing a great job
Well spoken words by madam speaker at the end ❤
Madam speaker is so beautiful ❤Kao rata mama 😊
This is why I can never ever condone cheating. Knowing men, In most cases some poor woman with her children is being abused, I'll treated by your nkayamba
I absolutely love Madam Speakers dress❤
Madam speaker I love u 🙏🏾
Her comment about wanting to be what other people see in her is a big problem.. She needs to find herself be happy with herself first. She is beautiful and intelligent she does not validation. She needs HELP .
Am sorry mama
Madam speaker thank you for this episode ❤
Madam Speaker you look like the Madam you are today ❤I love it this dignified look ❤❤❤😊
She needs to love herself, I see also low self esteem. Madam Speaker the lady need to complete herself with her achievements. She must see that, she is a hard worker.
Thank you so much
Uhmmm ya kunzima sisi, to think we have such phycos in 😢society, it's very scary. The similarities of women or marriage issues is so scary, what is happening in the world 😢
The way we are raised as girls🤦♀️
Kagiso u r beautiful nd smart ❤❤❤❤
Name and shame THE POLICE STATION
take 'Feeling not good enough "as a strength because you will always strive to improve but only if you dare to take action
Most men have lost reverence for God. The number of women who goes to potcasts to speak about their marriage experience is actually scary.
Sorry sesi Mokgadi about what u went through love is blind though m glad today u know the difference.may you heal from the pain u went through from ur past...may peace find u❤❤❤❤❤
Sending you hugs my sister❤❤🫂🫂🫂🫂
I'm so heartbroken watching this 💔
Madam Speaker here aew your flowers 🌼🌹🌼🌹 sis🥺🙌❤❤❤
Wow😢 that’s actually what I’m feeling and going through. I also don’t see what other people see in me😢
You are beautiful Kagiso ❤
I can relate with anxiety but God loves you so much hugs ❤
I'm so sorry Kagiso may God heal your heart give you peace 😢forgive yourself mama ❤🙏🫂💐
Kagiso seems like a nice person 😢❤
Mna shame, I don't see myself bothering my parents about who they love, little loving and all that foolishness among us siblings. I believe that they have the liberty to love better any child they choose to. Loving a child better than others is innate. For example, my brother, the first born in the family was loved more than us all. He was their favorite.
Do I have to contend with that? No. That was their first child. They saw by that child that they could procreate. To me it's innate, it's natural for them to love their baby. Even God doesn't love us all the same. I think that way.
Kunjalo.
The scripture sharing is more powerful for me
1:15:39 why m l crying 😭
yooo mkanya big up for u nana❤
Eish I feel you my sister 😢😢
Love and light sister ❤😢
You will not die , you will live n see the goodness of the Lord BUT my daughter what I can tell you is your healing is in healing other people with ministering to them with your voice.
Marriage doesnt define a person. Failed marriages do not define a person. U r financially stable woman. U hv support of family. Forgive urself, forgive yourself....forgive urself.
The lord is your strength take those advice seriously
Can the production contact SAPS and investigate the murder of the guy killed by nyatsi
You look beautiful with new hairstyle❤
Mmmhhh the whole police officer who knows the law hayi ke
This was so heartbreaking to watch. I really hope Ausi Mokgadi can get therapy and a good deliverance session, it seems like she is unable to deal with her obscured sense of unworthiness. I wish she could just get rid of this inadequate "Katlego" that she has created in her head and stop listening to those negatives thoughts and voices she will be fine.
It's easier said than done I know cuz it sounds like a bulk of her adult life she has shrunk down her inner most being, what makes her Katlego, down to nothing. I actually think this started when she fell pregnant the first time. The lack of any emotion be it disappointment, acceptance, joy or anger from her parents was the first incident where she was not given a chance to process her emotions of the disappointment she felt she caused. And it was just swept under the carpet as if nothing happened. I think that's where she should consider starting to heal cuz everything after that seems to be about achieving and not being a disappointment to her family.
Her biggest upset while growing up was seeking affection and attention and anyone who could check ✅ that box was let in red flags and all. The reason why she says towards the end that she is unable to deal with stuff she created is probably because she never learned how to. It's almost like how she deals with problems is by achieving, unfortunately that's not a good formula. In life problems that we don't deal with eventually accumulate and it becomes alot harder to deal with them especially if you don't have the tools to.
You have all these wonderful things you have achieved but yet you feel so empty, it also sounds like you have a wonderful gift of healing others through your voice yet still you feel unworthy to use it. Don't let the devil steal your destiny sis, you are beautiful, you are adequate, God loves you, we love you and we all out here routing for you. It was so brave of you to share your story, I believe this will be the beginning of your healing journey. As cliché as this will sound just know "everything happens for a reason" and the reason is always for our own good. You are going to come out of this a much stronger woman. You are giving birth to the new you, U just gotta let go of the old Katlego and let madam K sit on her thrown.
All the best to you and may God bless you, heal you and guide you on the next amazing chapter of your life🎉❤
Madam Speaker keep doing what you do best🎉❤
Oh Kagiso Machipi 🫂🫂❤️
The man hated you so much and he was jealous of you ....