Your family is making a very positive impact on that land. Generations of people, animals, and plants will be grateful for your hard work. I am so grateful for you too! 💖🙏🏼💖
Happy New Year to you! Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words and your generous gift-it truly touched my heart. Your support and encouragement mean so much to me, and I’m so grateful to have thoughtful people like you cheering me on. Your kindness inspires me, and I’ll carry that gratitude with me into the new year. Wishing you all the joy, health, and happiness in 2025-you’ve brightened my days more than you know! 🧡😊
Ugghh. The one thing I tried to teach my own children and my students (a retired teacher) is that the only thing you own that cannot be taken away is your character; your word. All of the physical things can disappear, but no one can take your integrity. Your word should always be your bond, protect it with all your might. Wishing you a wonder filled, prosperous 2025. ❤
That’s such an important lesson, and it really hits home for me. Our character and word are the only things no one can take away, no matter what else we lose. All the physical stuff can disappear, but what we stand for and how we show up in the world-that’s what stays with us. I’ve always tried to live by that, and it’s nice to hear others value it too. Thank you for the reminder, and I hope 2025 brings you lots of good things! 💛
I have learned to appreciate my ambulation and being able to do the things I want/need to do when I need to do them. I am post operation on my knee and it has been a very long year of being humbled. Learning to ask for help, accepting that help gracefully and being appreciative of the effort to help. This was a life changing year as well. I look forward to a New Year and a new me!
Happy new year to my favourite youtuber. I think the majority of your audience sees how hard you're working. It's inspiring and motivating and creates a sense of "Amber did it, so why shouldn't I try?"
Happy New Year to you and your family 🎊🎉🥳 Yeah some years are more challenging, like this last one for you and your family, it was definitely extra! Wishing you all the best of the best in 2025! I did make it till the end of the video! I always appreciate your authenticity! Much love ♥️
I’m proud of you , too. I was raised in rural America, and looking back, I love the childhood I had with all the hard work and self-sufficient knowledge. It’s worth it. The hard work is worth it.
Thank you so much-that really means a lot to me. I was raised in the country too, and it’s true, the hard work is absolutely worth it, even on the tough days when it feels like there’s no end in sight. I love knowing that this kind of life leaves such lasting memories and self-sufficient knowledge, not just for us but for the next generation as well. 🧡
You're not being negative Amber, you're being realistic which is always better than the "unicorns and rainbows" stuff some people put out on social media. Being self-reliant is a lot of work and that needs to be talked about. I think the fact that some people online act like it's so easy is why many newbies fail at the self-reliance - they don't realise how difficult it is and are not mentally prepared for the work it requires. I grew up on an off grid smallholding (no running water and electricity) and enjoy physical work, but I'm still struggling at times as I not only work outside the home, I also have chronic pain issues which don't help (I just push through the pain most of the time, I have to). I live on my own so do the vast majority of work myself, including repairs, gardening, preserving etc. I also rescue cats with FIV, dogs and foxes so my 1/3 acre is like a madhouse, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm an accountant by profession, but I feel more accomplished and I'm much happier shoveling manure onto my raised beds or fixing fences than sitting in an office and staring at the screen all day 😁.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply! You’re absolutely right-being realistic about self-reliance is so important. It’s definitely not as easy as some make it seem online, and that lack of honest conversation can leave people unprepared for the hard work involved. I admire your strength in pushing through the pain and handling everything yourself, from repairs to rescuing animals. Your experience really highlights how rewarding, yet physically demanding, this lifestyle can be. It’s inspiring to hear that you feel more accomplished working on your smallholding than in an office-there’s something truly fulfilling about that hands-on, self-reliant work. You’re living a life that many of us dream about, and I can tell you’re making it work despite the challenges. I hope you continue to find joy in the process, even on the tough days. Keep up the amazing work, and thank you again for sharing your journey! 🧡
I’m really sorry to hear it’s been such a tough year for you. Sometimes those hard years are the ones that teach us the most, but they sure aren’t easy to get through. I hope the lessons you’ve learned will help make the next chapter a little smoother. Wishing you strength and healing as you move forward, and hoping 2025 brings better things your way. You’ve got this! 🧡
Intuition is HUGE!! And if you have the gift of recognizing it and listening to it....well..maybe the reason these things happened is to remind you to listen to that Intuition!!! Thank you for sharing everything you can with us. I've been a follower of yours for years and I love this life for you and your fantastic family!! Wishing you all the Best for 2025!!!! xo
Thank you so much for your kind words and unwavering support over the years-it truly means the world to me! 🧡 You're absolutely right; intuition is such a powerful guide, and moments like these really do remind us to trust it more deeply. I'm so grateful to share this journey with you and for the encouragement you bring to our little corner of the world. Wishing you a beautiful and fulfilling 2025 as well! xo
I relate so much when you described the feeling of being duped by a shady person. For me, the good thing I've been able to take from going through stuff like that, is you kind of gain a super power for sniffing it out sooner. Also, like you said, learning to trust your gut feelings. Our subconscious minds perceive more than what we are consciously aware of, and gut feeling is our body's way of trying to communicate that to us... That's what I think anyway. So sorry you've all had to go through that, you are not alone, not by a long shot!! Ps: I also feel like people have changed since the pandemic. I've been saying that lately, so again, you're not the only one noticing. Staying hopeful that things will level out though. I think the pandemic was very mentally and emotionally impactful for a lot of people, so hopefully there can be some healing and growth.
That sounds like such a grounding and intentional decision. Living frugally can bring so much clarity and peace, and focusing on your spirit and family is such a beautiful priority. We also live a frugal life, and it’s amazing how simplifying things can make room for what truly matters. Wishing you all the best as you take this step-it sounds like a path toward real fulfillment! 🧡
I like your fireplace !! Your hard work does not go unnoticed. U are building a great life for your family. I am 70 & raised 4 kids in suburban midwest U.S. I downsized to have no house payment. The small house (1,080 sq ft) was a fixer upper. You have to sometimes make do with what you have. I was thankful the house had new siding & new windows. I am like you-I love gardening & being outside. I grow herbs for cooking & hot teas, veggies with flowers in my front yard (just grass along the edges). My bro in law used his bobcat & we brought in soil to make berms b/c this area has the most sun. I do not like to mow, so the big back yard is full of raised beds. Year before I had a huge oak tree trimmed. This past Spring borrowed a log splitter & a friend did the cutting & I helped stack. 5 wood piles later....There is so much to learn. Now I want to grind my own flour for making bread. Yes. It is hard work. But it keeps us healthy !! I enjoy your channel. ❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! It sounds like you’ve created a beautiful space, and I really admire your hard work and how you’ve made do with what you’ve had. Gardening and being outdoors really do keep us grounded, and I love that you’re growing herbs and veggies with flowers, making everything feel vibrant and alive. I can definitely relate to the satisfaction of stacking wood and making the most out of every opportunity. A wood splitter is definitely on our list for the future-hopefully in 2026! It would make life a bit easier when it comes to all the firewood we need to keep the house warm. And grinding flour? Love it! It’s these little steps and the joy of creating something with our own hands that make it all worthwhile. Thanks again for sharing your journey, and I’m so glad we’re both on this path of learning and growing. Wishing you all the best! 🌿❤️
Those lessons were more valuable than going to school! You all did such a wonderful job handling all the adversities. Take all of your knowledge and put it together in a book or some type of resource manual. As for people... eeeeww sometimes they can be evil, but they always reap what they have sown. Wishing you continued success and I am looking forward to seeing your progress in 2025❤❤❤😂
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words! You’re absolutely right-those life lessons, though hard-earned, are often far more valuable than anything learned in school. It’s been a tough but rewarding journey, and I’m proud of how far we’ve come. I love the idea of putting everything together in a resource manual; it’s something I’ve been thinking about, and who knows, maybe 2025 will be the year to do it! As for people... you're right again. The truth always catches up with them in the end. We just have to keep moving forward and focus on the good. Thank you for your continued support-I’m so grateful to have you along for this journey. Wishing you a wonderful 2025 full of growth, joy, and success too! 🌱❤️
Merci pour cette vidéo qui montre une réalité souvent caché. Il n'y a rien de facile a changer de mode de vie. Puis plus on a de choses et plus on a de risques d'avoir des surprises. Des mauvaises mais aussi des bonnes qui arrivent souvent avec la patience et les efforts. Bonne année 2025, je connais bien les difficultés des commotions. On apprend a la dure et oui malheureusement il y a de plus en plus d'humains malhonnête. Mais avec le temps on réalise que ce sont eux les tires et qu'ils vont récolter ce qu'ils ont semé. Il faut se laisser du temps et ne pas tout vouloir que ce soit fait pour hier. Il faut se laisser du temps pour bien planifier nos actions. Je sais on voudrait en faire beaucoup et en savoir beaucoup mais la vie n'est elle va a sa vitesse a elle. Il y a juste 24 hrs dans une journée, il y a des imprévus, il y a notre santé, ect... J'ai essayé de faire l'impossible plusieurs fois dans ma vie, ça a rarement été une bonne idée. A 50 ans ma santé m'a quitté et je suis devenu invalide, tête et cœur hors service. Depuis je me refait une petite santé et je joue a devenir plus autosuffisant. Un petit tracteur , une bêcheuse , bref des outils ça aide beaucoup en particulier si comme moi on a plus la santé car chaque efforts doit être bien réfléchi et productif. C'est avec les années que nos efforts sont récompensés. Je fait le bilan une fois par année pour vérifier si j'avance dans la bonne direction. J'ai 67 ans et malgré plein d'erreurs je suis heureux car j'ai avancé dans la bonne direction malgré que je suis souvent tombé dans les pièges, l'important c'est d'apprendre et de nous en sortir. Bonne suite dans vos projets. Je suis dans le coin de Rimouski.
Thank you for always being transparent and real in your videos. The tradwife trend is absolutely ridiculous, and it has a lot of parents thinking they aren't doing enough and/or aren't doing it right.
Thank you so much for your kind words-I really appreciate them! I completely agree; the tradwife trend can set such unrealistic expectations, especially for parents who are already doing their best. Every family is different, and there’s no one “right” way to do things. I think it’s so important to focus on what works for your family and to let go of the pressure to meet someone else’s curated ideal. We’re all just figuring it out as we go, and that’s okay! 🧡
It's been a while since I popped in to see how you're doing. I am really glad to hear your recovery is going well. My mom recieved a concussion about a year ago as well and has been slowly recovering since then. While on one hand I feel like you are quite literally living my dream with such a beautiful farmstead, I know that you and your family have put your everything into getting here. I've been watching you since you were making balcony garden videos from your various apartments! As a fellow mom of three who is trying to figure out her health, I know; the work never ends. I try to ride the balance and do what I can when I can and try (try! and fail most of the time 😅) not to stress about it. I'm going back to school in February. Wish me luck. Like you I don't understand how people can screw other people over. I understand people who are put into a hard position due to economic conditions, but still, my basic mode of operation is one of solidatity and vulnerability with other people. I don't expect to be messed with. I am so sorry that you were scammed this year. I've had similar experiences and it definitely feels like a violation. That being said, community is the remedy and it seems like you have found some good people to have in your life. Greetings from across the pond!
Thank you for your thoughtful message! I’m really sorry to hear about your mom’s concussion, but I hope her recovery is steady and that she’s finding relief. It means a lot to me that you’ve been following the journey for so long-starting from those balcony garden days! It’s a constant balancing act, especially as a fellow mom, but I try to focus on doing what I can when I can, and I totally get the struggle of not always succeeding at that. Best of luck with going back to school in February! You’ve got this, and I’m sure it will be a rewarding challenge. As for the whole trust issue, I completely agree-being scammed feels like a violation, but it also reminds me of the importance of having a strong, supportive community, which I feel so grateful for. Sending you warm greetings back across the pond!
@@FairlyRooted Aww, thank you for the lovely message! It brightened my day to hear back from you. I've loved watching your videos/journey. It means a lot to me to know that there are people out there who I relate to so much. Sometimes I hear you express an idea and find myself going "Yup" or nodding along because I've had a similar experience or thought. It even surprises me (in a good way) when you casually throw things in there like planned obsolescence and socialism 😆. My mother is doing well, but there are still some lingering side-effects: since the concussion she feels very intense moments of gratitude; like if someone holds the door open for her it'll almost make her cry. At least with things like that we can laugh over it 😂. Thank you for the well wishes in school! It will be a very big challenge for me, but I am itching to start working towards my goal of becoming a midwife. You're one of my inspirations when it comes to realistic perseverance. Wishing you all the best and a happy new year!
Nature and everything in it has a pro and a con. I keep learning and growing from it all and I am super grateful for you sharing what you’ve learned because I learn from you also. So thank you for your openness and honesty. & hope things get easier for you on the farm. Wish I could send you a tractor! Lol 🤣
Thank you so much for your kind words! Nature truly has its balance-every challenge is met with its lesson, and every blessing comes with its counterpart. It’s a journey of growth and learning, and I’m grateful to share it with you. Your support is a gift in itself, and while a tractor would be a welcome ally, your encouragement is more than enough. May the earth continue to guide our paths.
Thank you for sharing your struggles and the things you learned and are taking in to the new year. This year has also been a big struggle for me healthwise. I love how you wrote it in your post: you are holding onto hope 2025 will be a better year. I hope so too!
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing a bit of your own journey. I'm really sorry to hear that you've been struggling health-wise this year. But I’m so glad that message of holding onto hope resonated with you. Here’s to hoping that 2025 brings both of us brighter, healthier days. We're in this together, and better things are ahead. 🌿✨
I'm sorry that tariffs will be increasing. I am embarrassed and ashamed of our incoming government administration. You are a Powerful Person and an excellent human.
Your family has lucked out with the community you live in now. Small town bonus. Your table, your septic field were good people and the ant people I bet are not local. You can trust the people that are recommended by the good neighbours. And of course trust your intuition.
Funnily enough all of them are local, but you do get all kinds of people rurally, and in small towns. I grew up rural when I was a kid, and it takes all sorts... but definitely would rather have the good people round.
Yes I've noticed people have changed not in a good way😔 We learned we also need more pantry room, mice are the cutest troublemakers around and my cats are excellent mousers! We got ducks this year, our first time! We're also building from the ground up and it's been a steep exhausting learning curve!
it really does feel like people have changed, doesn’t it? 😔 Building from the ground up is such a rewarding journey, but wow, it can be so exhausting, too-I completely feel that steep learning curve! Ducks are such fun additions, though; they always make me laugh with their antics. And yes, mice may be adorable, but they sure know how to stir up trouble! Thank goodness for good mousers; your cats sound like real heroes! Wishing you more pantry space and smoother days ahead-you’ve got this! 🦆🐾✨
I’ve learned that a lot of people suck! There are only a few wonderful people in this world and when you find them, hang onto them. I’ve also learned that you can’t depend on anyone but God and yourself. I’ve also learned that your health is extremely important, and you need to look after it. I’ve also learned that it’s better to be alone, than to be surrounded by toxic people…even if they supposedly family. I’ve also learned that the government is horrible, if you can get them out of your life…do it!
I’ve learned that about family too. Blood doesn’t always mean you’re treated with love or respect, and sometimes the healthiest choice is creating distance, even when it’s hard. Surrounding yourself with the few truly wonderful people you come across is such a gift-and so is taking care of yourself and your health. It’s a lesson I’m still working on myself, but I know how important it is. And yes, the less entangled with bureaucracy and the government, the freer life feels. These lessons hit hard but shape how we live going forward. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
We had a really financially difficult year. Air conditioner repairs, water heater replacement, 2 vehicles that both needed over $2000 in work. We are so hopeful for a better 2025.
I’m so sorry to hear about the tough year you’ve had! Air conditioner repairs, a new water heater, and major vehicle work all at once sounds overwhelming. I truly hope 2025 brings you some much-needed relief and smoother times ahead. Sending you strength and hope for a better, brighter year! Keep holding on to that hope-things can turn around. 🌟
I used to drive myself crazy with the “whys” especially when it was from negative things/experiences, but as I’ve reflected and gotten older, there is always a reason, maybe your TBI was a head on reminder to rest, put yourself first, trust that it will all be ok and to help you lean on others more for support? Xx I developed FND after years of burying trauma - one day my body became disabled… I had to do the mental & emotional work for it to get better x
I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts. I’ve definitely wrestled with the “whys” of my TBI, especially in relation to everything that’s come with it. It’s been a challenging part of the journey, not always understanding the purpose behind it. But as I’ve reflected more, I do see how it could be a reminder to rest, to prioritize myself, and to lean on others for support. Your experience with FND really struck me as well-sometimes the body forces us to slow down in ways we don’t expect. It’s comforting to hear your story and how you’ve worked through it. Thank you for sharing that wisdom!!
Hello Amber, I am so glad you are learning about being careful, and slowing down to do the research of the facts. If someone is rushing you be extra careful. Example: Here in the US we have companies that will redo a shower or install a floor and many other projects. Some want to do a one day install as soon as possible. Knowing that once they do it you can not return it like a book at the library. So with those folks it is absolutely essential to check them out well. I think when they have been doing commercials on TV for 10-plus years they are probably doing something right. It was really nice to see you smiling ear to ear today. You are wearing all the right colors today esp sitting next to the fireplace and fire. God bless y'all and have a fabulous New Year, Steven
Thank you so much for the thoughtful advice, Steven! You’re absolutely right-slowing down and doing the research is key, especially when someone is rushing you into a decision. I really appreciate your kind words about the colors and the smile-it’s always nice to hear that! Wishing you and yours a truly wonderful and peaceful New Year. God bless!
I know you don't do much with raised beds, but if you want to plant strawberries with a little less work (ie quack grass and weeds!) consider some beds, 3 or 4ft by 8-10 feet, 8-10 inches high, even 6 might be ok. I am an urban gardener so most of my beds are raised, but just going off your quackgrass complaints...raised strawberry beds would keep the majority of it out of your berries. I have not had any grass inflitration into my berries, whereas the neighbor who has theirs on the hill next to their fence always has to search around tall grass clumps to find the berries. And if you have a mulched path next to it, great, and if not you can mow pretty close to the bed to make a path. And with your pond, I bet you will find the perfect area for some blueberries. Have fun!
Been homesteading for 9 years now. Lesson learned and kinda implement for the last few years is taking your time. We are a couple who work full time jobs. For the last 2 years, we were lucky since my bf is a college teacher and is off most of the summer. But we did dream big on our 0,6ha homestead and got crushed by the job it represent. The house also needed kinda urgent repairs but we got the job done by professionals. We are now at the "luxury renovation" that we can probably do ourselves but we take our time to do it. Outside, it took like 4 different buildings before we were happy with the rabbits situation. It was stressful and we should have wait to be ready before having them (they kinda felt on our lap but still...) We only built our chicken coop this year and had our first real flock. We had one last year for practicing and see if we want to continue. We liked them and we knew how to build the coop and exterior pen also, so we did it! We built gardens, food forest, blueberry and raspberry fields and hops rows. Yes, best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago and second time is right now but man, they need care. The blueberry and raspberry fields are lost in weeds and we don't have the time and energy to do it all. I'm at the stage that I say, ok, they are planted and surviving. When I will have more time, I will take better care of them and they will thriving. But for now, I do bare minimal just for them to stay alive so I won't need to replant them later. Having taking my time, I would have prepare better. Also, I have to stop finding next year new project. I have enough! haha!
It sounds like you’ve learned some valuable lessons along the way! Taking your time is such an important shift, especially when balancing full-time jobs and homesteading. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of big dreams, but it’s wise to recognize when you’re taking on more than you can handle. The way you’re approaching your "luxury renovation" and taking it slow shows how much you’ve grown in your journey. I totally get what you mean about the trees and gardens-they require so much care, and it can be overwhelming, especially when life keeps moving fast. It’s great that you’ve set realistic expectations for now, knowing you’ll get to them when you can. And yes, I think we all tend to want to start new projects, but it’s so true-sometimes we just need to pause and appreciate what we’ve already created! You've done amazing work, and I’m sure when the time comes, those gardens and fields will thrive with your care. Keep up the great work, and here’s to a bit of slowing down!
@@FairlyRooted you can kind of create an above ground root cellar. If you have a little shed and fill it with dirt. We were in a situation we had to do that for two or three years and it worked. Not as great, but a lot better than not having it.
Thank you for saying its not easy, social media makes gardening and raising animals and maintaining everything on a property look so easy and we have also learned this is not true so we are moving very slow as well.
You’re absolutely right-social media often makes it all look effortless, but the reality is so much harder. Gardening, raising animals, and maintaining a property take an incredible amount of time, energy, and learning through trial and error. Moving slowly is such a wise approach-it gives you the chance to grow at your own pace and set up systems that work for you. Wishing you patience and joy as you continue on your journey-you’re doing amazing! 🧡
It’s so true-sometimes, even when you get a good feeling about someone or a situation, things can still go south. It’s hard, especially when you’ve tried to trust or put your faith in someone. It’s a reminder to stay cautious, but also to not let the setbacks make us lose faith in the good people out there. It’s a tough balance to strike!
@@FairlyRooted - sorry, I must have misunderstood - you start talking about more fruit trees and bushes from 10:10 - and then you mentioned going to a pick your own blueberry farm, where berries cost more than at Costco. I would agree that I'd rather pick my own berry bushes than pay money for them, but buying plant starts costs money, too :) So, starting them from seed seems like the optimal way to do it. But now that you have plenty of blueberry bushes, perhaps you'll open your own pyo berry farm :)
We also got super lucky with out property price and the owners even selected us over people who were willing to pay more. The discouraging part is when we wanted to replace the windows with better ones but also bigger than the original frames we found we had asbestos and therefore we couldn't move forward with it unless we got rid of the asbestos first....which we still haven't done since its such a huuuuge project we have to save for and prepare for, super downer the inspector didn't find it.
We were also so fortunate to be chosen for our place, even with higher offers on the table. It’s such a special feeling to know the owners trusted us to care for it. But I really feel for you about the asbestos-it’s such a tough thing to discover after you’ve already started dreaming about improvements. It’s one of those moments that can feel like the wind’s been knocked out of your sails. It’s especially hard knowing the inspector didn’t catch it, and you’re left holding this huge project you didn’t plan for. I completely get how discouraging it is when something that should have been disclosed or caught ends up falling on you to deal with. And asbestos... so awful... and very time consuming to remove it all. I've heard others stories about it, I'm so sorry you have to deal with it! But you'll deal with it, get it taken out, and I have hope it all comes together beautifully and feels worth the effort you’ve put in. You’re not alone in this! 🧡
You’ve come so far since you moved in ! I think a few years down the road you will have your systems and routines down and so things will be a bit better . I am sorry you were scammed . It’s a good idea not to be so trusting.
Thank you so much for the encouragement-it really means a lot! 🧡 It’s true, we’ve come a long way, and I know it’s all a work in progress. With time, I’m confident we’ll refine our systems and routines to make everything run smoother. As for being scammed, it was a tough lesson, but it’s a reminder to be more cautious and trust my instincts moving forward. Thank you for your kind words and support!
I lost a partner of many years and they took half of everything, and left me with debt and over £5k in fees. I also had things taken without consent when they knew I was in hospital (my hip kept dislocating - so they just put me in a hospital bed for over a week while they decided what to do about it - being log rolled every 4 hours to check for pressure sores with it out, was horrifically painful). So this last year has been awful. Hopefully things will be better from now on.
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through such an incredibly difficult year. Dealing with the loss of a partner, financial strain, and the pain of your hip issues all at once is an unimaginable amount to carry. I can’t imagine how hard that hospital experience must have been on top of everything else. You’ve shown so much strength just by making it through all of that. I truly hope that this coming year brings you healing, stability, and brighter days ahead. You deserve so much better. Sending you love and hope for the future. 🧡
Since you own land. My aunt and uncle made a dirt dugout in their yard root cellar. It was literally dirt and shelves and they stored so much in it. Maybe you will be able to dig in your yard and maybe your neighbours will have a digger or something you can borrow. I will say it was creepy as a kid because there was no lights and we had to use flashlights but with the battery operated lights and solar and stuff you might be able to rig a majig something.
Hi Amber - I wonder about building a room within your barn for a spare pantry? I'm not sure how the cold would do with glass jar - hmm maybe not the best idea. There's an old british show re building underground root cellar type ideas - is it the :WAR TIME GARDEN"? some ideas from olden times! Many blessings for you and yours! Katherine, south of Boston
I wish I could use the barn right now, but it needs a ton of work to restore, which we can't do until we fix the house. I have seen people build underground root cellars, and I actually have a book about root cellars! Love them!! Hugs from Ontario!
I remember when you bought the property, it was right when we sold ours, and I kept thinking I hope you dont have rose colored glasses. I had a friend who made it look beautiful and easy. And I enjoy manual labor too but if you get sick or have to leave for vacation or whatevr the chores do not take a break.
It’s so true-chores never take a break, no matter what’s happening in life. We’ve actually never been on vacation, so we didn’t care if we would be grid tied. Growing up in the country, I understood what I was getting into with this lifestyle. When we bought the property, we tried to cover all our bases by hiring a more expensive inspector we thought we could trust, but unfortunately, some things were still missed… We knew the property needed work, but not to extent we now know. I genuinely enjoy the hard work most days. Thank you for sharing your perspective!🧡
My understanding- in the US anyway -is that if the septic system is affected by roots then your insurance company should cover it. That is what my insurance company told us but ours wasn’t affected by roots apparently.
We didn’t want our insurance to go up either, so we’ve been really careful with how we handle things. It’s good to know that your insurance would cover it if the septic system was affected by roots. That’s a huge relief for when issues like that come up! Unfortunately, we’ve just been trying to avoid any potential bumps like that so our premiums don’t go up. It’s always a balancing act, isn’t it?
Why bad things happen? Don't know, with some will probably never know. Like my niece's husband committing suicide with a gun shot to the head right in front of my niece on Christmas Day. Will never understand that. I'm glad you have recovered so well.
I’m so deeply sorry to hear about your niece’s husband. That’s an unimaginable tragedy, and I can’t even begin to comprehend the pain your niece and family must be feeling. Sometimes, the “why” behind these heartbreaking moments remains a mystery, and that lack of understanding can be one of the hardest parts to bear. Thank you for your kind words about my recovery. It’s been a long road, and while I don’t have all the answers to why things happen, I try to hold onto the moments of light and keep moving forward. Sending love and strength to you and your niece during this incredibly difficult time. ❤️
@@FairlyRooted Thank you. Yes, we can choose to move in light, or live in darkness. Incredibly, my niece is choosing to move in light. Her first husband died from cancer 6 years ago. So much tragedy for one life. But, she is strong, and surrounded by love. Thanks again for your kind words
If you’re still using cloth vs toilet paper I wonder if that delayed your septic issues! We switched a few years ago and will never go back. We switched a while after watching one of your videos about not using toiler paper and explaining what your family uses.
We had property a few years ago and had to seel it because the home was a money pit. We had mice and bats and huge brown reclus spiders invading our home. We also had very scary neighbors and a murder 1/4 mile up our road. We had a sheriff knock om our door at midnignt unmarked car it was very scary. We had a pyrenees and two german shepherds and that was crucial for protection. I hope things get better for you. I totally get it and apprecciatte the realness.
Thank you for sharing your story-what a stressful experience that must have been. Unfortunately, we can’t pick your neighbors, and they can make living somewhere difficult. We’ve been fortunate to have more good neighbors than bad, but there’s always one rotten apple that can stir things up. Having dogs like your Pyrenees and German Shepherds must have been such a comfort, especially in those scary situations you described! I really appreciate your kind words and understanding-it means a lot to connect with someone who gets the ups and downs of rural life. Wishing you peace and better days ahead! 🧡
Alberta changed their laws, and inspectors are now liable for their inspections. Really changed things! If you have fruit now, you might want learn how to do hard and soft wood cuttings! Free fruit trees and shrubs.
That's a huge change! Having inspectors be held accountable for their inspections definitely adds a layer of protection for homeowners and makes sure things are caught properly. It’s great to hear about the possibility of free fruit trees and shrubs with hard and softwood cuttings! I’ve been thinking about how to expand our fruit trees, so I’ll definitely look into that. Thanks for the tip! It could be a great way to save money and increase what we can grow here.
I agree with you. It’s hard to imagine someone who consistently takes advantage of others ever feeling truly at peace. Maybe they get by for a while, but there’s always something missing-authentic happiness can’t come from ripping others off. I think true peace and happiness come from making things right and living with integrity. Until that happens, I don’t think they’ll ever feel whole.
only way to not get scammed - need a group of people to vet agreements. If I'm really smart and think I can't get scammed because of my brain power, I will still get scammed if I don't check with others, to see if it is a good agreement or not. Our trick is: tell everybody everything, what we are doing, etc - and that holds us and the contractor accountable
You’re absolutely right-having a group of trusted people to vet agreements is such a smart way to avoid being scammed. We learned that lesson the hard way after being scammed by acquaintances. It was a tough experience, but now we’ve started asking our good neighbors about everyone we meet... even in just knowing them. Their input has been invaluable! I love your idea of sharing what you’re doing-it really does help keep everyone accountable. Thank you for sharing your trick; it’s such a good reminder to lean on community! 🧡
@@FairlyRooted Yes, we moved onto a farm for the first time in our lives in 2022, and if it wasn't for community, we would have had so much drama and probably quit by now. Family left behind in the suburbs is wondering why we haven't come back to suburbs, we tell them it is because our community won't let us fail, so why go back? It's better here. Also there is some spiritual help that has assisted me my whole life and I used them again in 2020s for this massive change (from computer laptop to chicken layers lol)
Thank's for your honesty ❤. Even mentioning tarifs! Yes, 2024 was challenging you! Hope 2025 will be better for you and all of us! But with treathning manderine diaper I wish more canadians would be preventing preserving and united in order to keep our country! Bad politics, lies, misinfirnation and money-making 😢 aren't good "association's". I'm so sorry for my grandchildren. We didn't vote to get invaded...deplorably! And so much to loose...stay safe ❤ from Québec
No you don’t have yourself to blame when you are scammed. This idea that we should be weary because bad people exist is dumb. Know why you are a good person and don’t attach your personality/kindness to others but to yourself. Hope this speaks to someone out there.
I completely understand what you’re saying. I do tend to blame myself when things go wrong, and it’s something I’m actively working on. It’s hard to separate my own kindness and personality from what others do, especially when they take advantage of it. But you’re right, I can’t let their actions define me. It’s a tough mindset to break, but I’m learning that my worth isn’t tied to how others behave. Thanks for the reminder to focus on who I am and not what others do.
I'm curious about your spirituality. Definitely don't feel like you need to answer if you're not comfortable. As Christians, we use very similar phrasing about there being a reason for things, but instead of attributing it to the universe, we talk about God's purpose and His gifts to us. I'm curious if your family is spiritual in some way, because I don't usually hear atheists talking this way. Again, I'm aware this isn't really any of my business, I just have an interest in different peoples difference spiritual beliefs, but no worries if you don't feel comfortable sharing!
Also, please don't feel like you need to apologize for relating the real things that happen in real life. We all have hard years, and sometimes more than one at a time, and to pretend otherwise is silly. I'm definitely sad that life has to make us all into harder people. If I had my way, the world would be getting softer and more loving instead of the other way around 😢 But hopefully if as many of us as possible try to raise our children in a gentler way, things may change for the better.
Hi there! Hope you don't mind if I butt in but maybe I can give you a glimpse from my perspective. I myself don't believe in supernatural powers. I was born into a Christian family and raised as such however started questioning the Bible and the Christian dogma early on. My questions were never answered to my satisfaction and there are too many contradictions and plagiarism in the Bible for me personally. And the argument that the universe necessitates a creator is flawed in my opinion. Still, I consider myself to be rather spiritual since we as humans always are trying to search for answers and a purpose. I look at the world, the universe as it is and am in awe at how everything evolved and sometimes how things just seem to work out "miraculously" (for a lack of a better word since we are restricted by the existence of words to describe things.) Us humans are just tiny little "insignificant" (I mean insignificant to the universe but my existence is very important to myself) specs in the vast universe so when things work out in my favor, I like to say thank you because I simply appreciate my luck or good fortune. I guess it's because in the interaction with other humans and nature we just show gratitude and like to transfer this gratitude onto other things as well. I don't think the universe has a purpose or a plan for us. It simply is the way it is in a magnificent way that "allowed" this planet to support life. Nonetheless, there are billions of other stars, surrounded by billions more of planets in billions of different galaxies and chances are pretty high that life evolved on several planets in several galaxies simply because the ingredients for organic life are vast in the universe. Humans are nothing special yet I feel very special because I understand that I am unique the way I am. I have a limited power to make this one life of mine count thus I derive purpose from myself: how I and my actions make other people feel, how I treat animals and the natural world, whether the world is better off with me. Since I am high in empathy, I can rejoice in the happiness other people are feeling but at the same token I also feel the pain others feel. I soak in the plentiful colors of diversity, I look at how a simple shift in genetics can change everything, I listen to the multitude of different sounds, how things smell, taste, and feel - and I am in awe that I can appreciate them in the NOW because yesterday is past and the future is always a second away. Just knowing that my body is made from star dust, that my body might carry atoms from famous people like Einstein, that the water we drink is purified dinosaur pee, that we can grow crops because our planet happens to have an atmosphere, ... makes me treasure my life and acknowledge that I hit the jackpot when the universe started cooking its soup of atoms.
I think the word you are looking for is disheartened-when fellow humans let you down, it’s disheartening. What internal conversations do people who that act like that have, that allows them to justify their behavior? Or maybe, they have no conversation or moral compass. Sorry you had to deal with that.
You're absolutely right-disheartened is the perfect word for that feeling when people let you down. It really makes you wonder what kind of internal dialogue they have, or if they even consider the impact of their actions. Maybe some just don’t reflect on their behavior, or maybe they justify it in ways that make it feel acceptable to them. Either way, it’s a tough thing to deal with, and I appreciate your understanding. Thank you for your empathy-it helps to know others get it.
Thank you for the suggestion! I’ve actually already read the Bible, and it was quite the journey. Starting with the Old Testament and then moving to the New Testament does help tie everything together and give a fuller understanding.
I know your very smart and love to read books but I challenge you to read the Bible. It will open your eyes and understanding as to who you are and why good and bad things happen . Be blessed and have a great new year!
I challenge you to research the history of who put the Bible together, when and why. It will open your eyes and, hopefully, show you that you were and are being lied to.
Your family is making a very positive impact on that land. Generations of people, animals, and plants will be grateful for your hard work. I am so grateful for you too!
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Happy new year dear Amber! Love to see your videos. You are inspiring.😊
Happy New Year to you! Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words and your generous gift-it truly touched my heart. Your support and encouragement mean so much to me, and I’m so grateful to have thoughtful people like you cheering me on. Your kindness inspires me, and I’ll carry that gratitude with me into the new year. Wishing you all the joy, health, and happiness in 2025-you’ve brightened my days more than you know! 🧡😊
Ugghh. The one thing I tried to teach my own children and my students (a retired teacher) is that the only thing you own that cannot be taken away is your character; your word. All of the physical things can disappear, but no one can take your integrity. Your word should always be your bond, protect it with all your might. Wishing you a wonder filled, prosperous 2025. ❤
That’s such an important lesson, and it really hits home for me. Our character and word are the only things no one can take away, no matter what else we lose. All the physical stuff can disappear, but what we stand for and how we show up in the world-that’s what stays with us. I’ve always tried to live by that, and it’s nice to hear others value it too. Thank you for the reminder, and I hope 2025 brings you lots of good things! 💛
I have learned to appreciate my ambulation and being able to do the things I want/need to do when I need to do them. I am post operation on my knee and it has been a very long year of being humbled. Learning to ask for help, accepting that help gracefully and being appreciative of the effort to help. This was a life changing year as well. I look forward to a New Year and a new me!
Happy new year to my favourite youtuber. I think the majority of your audience sees how hard you're working. It's inspiring and motivating and creates a sense of "Amber did it, so why shouldn't I try?"
Oh gosh, thank you. You are too kind. Happy New Year to you!!
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Happy New Year to you and your family 🎊🎉🥳 Yeah some years are more challenging, like this last one for you and your family, it was definitely extra! Wishing you all the best of the best in 2025! I did make it till the end of the video! I always appreciate your authenticity! Much love ♥️
I’m proud of you , too. I was raised in rural America, and looking back, I love the childhood I had with all the hard work and self-sufficient knowledge. It’s worth it. The hard work is worth it.
Thank you so much-that really means a lot to me. I was raised in the country too, and it’s true, the hard work is absolutely worth it, even on the tough days when it feels like there’s no end in sight. I love knowing that this kind of life leaves such lasting memories and self-sufficient knowledge, not just for us but for the next generation as well. 🧡
You're not being negative Amber, you're being realistic which is always better than the "unicorns and rainbows" stuff some people put out on social media. Being self-reliant is a lot of work and that needs to be talked about. I think the fact that some people online act like it's so easy is why many newbies fail at the self-reliance - they don't realise how difficult it is and are not mentally prepared for the work it requires.
I grew up on an off grid smallholding (no running water and electricity) and enjoy physical work, but I'm still struggling at times as I not only work outside the home, I also have chronic pain issues which don't help (I just push through the pain most of the time, I have to). I live on my own so do the vast majority of work myself, including repairs, gardening, preserving etc. I also rescue cats with FIV, dogs and foxes so my 1/3 acre is like a madhouse, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm an accountant by profession, but I feel more accomplished and I'm much happier shoveling manure onto my raised beds or fixing fences than sitting in an office and staring at the screen all day 😁.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply! You’re absolutely right-being realistic about self-reliance is so important. It’s definitely not as easy as some make it seem online, and that lack of honest conversation can leave people unprepared for the hard work involved. I admire your strength in pushing through the pain and handling everything yourself, from repairs to rescuing animals. Your experience really highlights how rewarding, yet physically demanding, this lifestyle can be.
It’s inspiring to hear that you feel more accomplished working on your smallholding than in an office-there’s something truly fulfilling about that hands-on, self-reliant work. You’re living a life that many of us dream about, and I can tell you’re making it work despite the challenges. I hope you continue to find joy in the process, even on the tough days. Keep up the amazing work, and thank you again for sharing your journey! 🧡
This is one of the hardest years I've ever had. It was definitely a learning year
I’m really sorry to hear it’s been such a tough year for you. Sometimes those hard years are the ones that teach us the most, but they sure aren’t easy to get through. I hope the lessons you’ve learned will help make the next chapter a little smoother. Wishing you strength and healing as you move forward, and hoping 2025 brings better things your way. You’ve got this! 🧡
Intuition is HUGE!! And if you have the gift of recognizing it and listening to it....well..maybe the reason these things happened is to remind you to listen to that Intuition!!! Thank you for sharing everything you can with us. I've been a follower of yours for years and I love this life for you and your fantastic family!! Wishing you all the Best for 2025!!!! xo
Thank you so much for your kind words and unwavering support over the years-it truly means the world to me! 🧡 You're absolutely right; intuition is such a powerful guide, and moments like these really do remind us to trust it more deeply. I'm so grateful to share this journey with you and for the encouragement you bring to our little corner of the world. Wishing you a beautiful and fulfilling 2025 as well! xo
U are such a kind person ❤❤
Oh gosh, I sure try to be. I think it's the point of life... to try to be a good person. Thank you.
I relate so much when you described the feeling of being duped by a shady person. For me, the good thing I've been able to take from going through stuff like that, is you kind of gain a super power for sniffing it out sooner. Also, like you said, learning to trust your gut feelings. Our subconscious minds perceive more than what we are consciously aware of, and gut feeling is our body's way of trying to communicate that to us... That's what I think anyway. So sorry you've all had to go through that, you are not alone, not by a long shot!!
Ps: I also feel like people have changed since the pandemic. I've been saying that lately, so again, you're not the only one noticing. Staying hopeful that things will level out though. I think the pandemic was very mentally and emotionally impactful for a lot of people, so hopefully there can be some healing and growth.
happy new years, inspiring video
I feel you 😔
I’m taking a huge step back to heavily save money, I’m going to try to keep to my self to be more peaceful with my spirit and my family.
That sounds like such a grounding and intentional decision. Living frugally can bring so much clarity and peace, and focusing on your spirit and family is such a beautiful priority. We also live a frugal life, and it’s amazing how simplifying things can make room for what truly matters. Wishing you all the best as you take this step-it sounds like a path toward real fulfillment! 🧡
@ thank you peace and love this New Year
I like your fireplace !! Your hard work does not go unnoticed. U are building a great life for your family. I am 70 & raised 4 kids in suburban midwest U.S.
I downsized to have no house payment. The small house (1,080 sq ft) was a fixer upper. You have to sometimes make do with what you have. I was thankful the house had new siding & new windows.
I am like you-I love gardening & being outside. I grow herbs for cooking & hot teas, veggies with flowers in my front yard (just grass along the edges). My bro in law used his bobcat & we brought in soil to make berms b/c this area has the most sun. I do not like to mow, so the big back yard is full of raised beds. Year before I had a huge oak tree trimmed. This past Spring borrowed a log splitter & a friend did the cutting & I helped stack. 5 wood piles later....There is so much to learn. Now I want to grind my own flour for making bread. Yes. It is hard work. But it keeps us healthy !! I enjoy your channel. ❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! It sounds like you’ve created a beautiful space, and I really admire your hard work and how you’ve made do with what you’ve had. Gardening and being outdoors really do keep us grounded, and I love that you’re growing herbs and veggies with flowers, making everything feel vibrant and alive. I can definitely relate to the satisfaction of stacking wood and making the most out of every opportunity.
A wood splitter is definitely on our list for the future-hopefully in 2026! It would make life a bit easier when it comes to all the firewood we need to keep the house warm. And grinding flour? Love it! It’s these little steps and the joy of creating something with our own hands that make it all worthwhile. Thanks again for sharing your journey, and I’m so glad we’re both on this path of learning and growing. Wishing you all the best! 🌿❤️
Those lessons were more valuable than going to school! You all did such a wonderful job handling all the adversities. Take all of your knowledge and put it together in a book or some type of resource manual. As for people... eeeeww sometimes they can be evil, but they always reap what they have sown. Wishing you continued success and I am looking forward to seeing your progress in 2025❤❤❤😂
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words! You’re absolutely right-those life lessons, though hard-earned, are often far more valuable than anything learned in school. It’s been a tough but rewarding journey, and I’m proud of how far we’ve come. I love the idea of putting everything together in a resource manual; it’s something I’ve been thinking about, and who knows, maybe 2025 will be the year to do it!
As for people... you're right again. The truth always catches up with them in the end. We just have to keep moving forward and focus on the good. Thank you for your continued support-I’m so grateful to have you along for this journey. Wishing you a wonderful 2025 full of growth, joy, and success too! 🌱❤️
Merci pour cette vidéo qui montre une réalité souvent caché. Il n'y a rien de facile a changer de mode de vie. Puis plus on a de choses et plus on a de risques d'avoir des surprises. Des mauvaises mais aussi des bonnes qui arrivent souvent avec la patience et les efforts. Bonne année 2025, je connais bien les difficultés des commotions. On apprend a la dure et oui malheureusement il y a de plus en plus d'humains malhonnête. Mais avec le temps on réalise que ce sont eux les tires et qu'ils vont récolter ce qu'ils ont semé. Il faut se laisser du temps et ne pas tout vouloir que ce soit fait pour hier. Il faut se laisser du temps pour bien planifier nos actions. Je sais on voudrait en faire beaucoup et en savoir beaucoup mais la vie n'est elle va a sa vitesse a elle. Il y a juste 24 hrs dans une journée, il y a des imprévus, il y a notre santé, ect... J'ai essayé de faire l'impossible plusieurs fois dans ma vie, ça a rarement été une bonne idée. A 50 ans ma santé m'a quitté et je suis devenu invalide, tête et cœur hors service. Depuis je me refait une petite santé et je joue a devenir plus autosuffisant. Un petit tracteur , une bêcheuse , bref des outils ça aide beaucoup en particulier si comme moi on a plus la santé car chaque efforts doit être bien réfléchi et productif. C'est avec les années que nos efforts sont récompensés. Je fait le bilan une fois par année pour vérifier si j'avance dans la bonne direction. J'ai 67 ans et malgré plein d'erreurs je suis heureux car j'ai avancé dans la bonne direction malgré que je suis souvent tombé dans les pièges, l'important c'est d'apprendre et de nous en sortir. Bonne suite dans vos projets. Je suis dans le coin de Rimouski.
Thank you for always being transparent and real in your videos. The tradwife trend is absolutely ridiculous, and it has a lot of parents thinking they aren't doing enough and/or aren't doing it right.
Thank you so much for your kind words-I really appreciate them! I completely agree; the tradwife trend can set such unrealistic expectations, especially for parents who are already doing their best. Every family is different, and there’s no one “right” way to do things. I think it’s so important to focus on what works for your family and to let go of the pressure to meet someone else’s curated ideal. We’re all just figuring it out as we go, and that’s okay! 🧡
It's been a while since I popped in to see how you're doing. I am really glad to hear your recovery is going well. My mom recieved a concussion about a year ago as well and has been slowly recovering since then.
While on one hand I feel like you are quite literally living my dream with such a beautiful farmstead, I know that you and your family have put your everything into getting here. I've been watching you since you were making balcony garden videos from your various apartments!
As a fellow mom of three who is trying to figure out her health, I know; the work never ends. I try to ride the balance and do what I can when I can and try (try! and fail most of the time 😅) not to stress about it. I'm going back to school in February. Wish me luck.
Like you I don't understand how people can screw other people over. I understand people who are put into a hard position due to economic conditions, but still, my basic mode of operation is one of solidatity and vulnerability with other people. I don't expect to be messed with. I am so sorry that you were scammed this year. I've had similar experiences and it definitely feels like a violation.
That being said, community is the remedy and it seems like you have found some good people to have in your life.
Greetings from across the pond!
Thank you for your thoughtful message! I’m really sorry to hear about your mom’s concussion, but I hope her recovery is steady and that she’s finding relief. It means a lot to me that you’ve been following the journey for so long-starting from those balcony garden days! It’s a constant balancing act, especially as a fellow mom, but I try to focus on doing what I can when I can, and I totally get the struggle of not always succeeding at that.
Best of luck with going back to school in February! You’ve got this, and I’m sure it will be a rewarding challenge. As for the whole trust issue, I completely agree-being scammed feels like a violation, but it also reminds me of the importance of having a strong, supportive community, which I feel so grateful for.
Sending you warm greetings back across the pond!
@@FairlyRooted Aww, thank you for the lovely message! It brightened my day to hear back from you. I've loved watching your videos/journey. It means a lot to me to know that there are people out there who I relate to so much. Sometimes I hear you express an idea and find myself going "Yup" or nodding along because I've had a similar experience or thought. It even surprises me (in a good way) when you casually throw things in there like planned obsolescence and socialism 😆.
My mother is doing well, but there are still some lingering side-effects: since the concussion she feels very intense moments of gratitude; like if someone holds the door open for her it'll almost make her cry. At least with things like that we can laugh over it 😂.
Thank you for the well wishes in school! It will be a very big challenge for me, but I am itching to start working towards my goal of becoming a midwife. You're one of my inspirations when it comes to realistic perseverance. Wishing you all the best and a happy new year!
Nature and everything in it has a pro and a con. I keep learning and growing from it all and I am super grateful for you sharing what you’ve learned because I learn from you also. So thank you for your openness and honesty. & hope things get easier for you on the farm. Wish I could send you a tractor! Lol 🤣
Thank you so much for your kind words! Nature truly has its balance-every challenge is met with its lesson, and every blessing comes with its counterpart. It’s a journey of growth and learning, and I’m grateful to share it with you. Your support is a gift in itself, and while a tractor would be a welcome ally, your encouragement is more than enough. May the earth continue to guide our paths.
@ you are so awesome, I am grateful for your existence 💚💫✨ may we continue to thrive 🫶🏽
Thank you for sharing your struggles and the things you learned and are taking in to the new year. This year has also been a big struggle for me healthwise. I love how you wrote it in your post: you are holding onto hope 2025 will be a better year. I hope so too!
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing a bit of your own journey. I'm really sorry to hear that you've been struggling health-wise this year. But I’m so glad that message of holding onto hope resonated with you. Here’s to hoping that 2025 brings both of us brighter, healthier days. We're in this together, and better things are ahead. 🌿✨
I'm sorry that tariffs will be increasing. I am embarrassed and ashamed of our incoming government administration. You are a Powerful Person and an excellent human.
Your family has lucked out with the community you live in now. Small town bonus. Your table, your septic field were good people and the ant people I bet are not local. You can trust the people that are recommended by the good neighbours. And of course trust your intuition.
Funnily enough all of them are local, but you do get all kinds of people rurally, and in small towns. I grew up rural when I was a kid, and it takes all sorts... but definitely would rather have the good people round.
excited for your new year
happy new year to you!
Yes I've noticed people have changed not in a good way😔 We learned we also need more pantry room, mice are the cutest troublemakers around and my cats are excellent mousers! We got ducks this year, our first time! We're also building from the ground up and it's been a steep exhausting learning curve!
it really does feel like people have changed, doesn’t it? 😔 Building from the ground up is such a rewarding journey, but wow, it can be so exhausting, too-I completely feel that steep learning curve! Ducks are such fun additions, though; they always make me laugh with their antics. And yes, mice may be adorable, but they sure know how to stir up trouble! Thank goodness for good mousers; your cats sound like real heroes! Wishing you more pantry space and smoother days ahead-you’ve got this! 🦆🐾✨
I’ve learned that a lot of people suck! There are only a few wonderful people in this world and when you find them, hang onto them. I’ve also learned that you can’t depend on anyone but God and yourself. I’ve also learned that your health is extremely important, and you need to look after it. I’ve also learned that it’s better to be alone, than to be surrounded by toxic people…even if they supposedly family. I’ve also learned that the government is horrible, if you can get them out of your life…do it!
I’ve learned that about family too. Blood doesn’t always mean you’re treated with love or respect, and sometimes the healthiest choice is creating distance, even when it’s hard. Surrounding yourself with the few truly wonderful people you come across is such a gift-and so is taking care of yourself and your health. It’s a lesson I’m still working on myself, but I know how important it is. And yes, the less entangled with bureaucracy and the government, the freer life feels. These lessons hit hard but shape how we live going forward. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
I've tried not to learn anything this year. 😂 Just wanted to enjoy doing what I've already learned.
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We had a really financially difficult year. Air conditioner repairs, water heater replacement, 2 vehicles that both needed over $2000 in work. We are so hopeful for a better 2025.
I’m so sorry to hear about the tough year you’ve had! Air conditioner repairs, a new water heater, and major vehicle work all at once sounds overwhelming. I truly hope 2025 brings you some much-needed relief and smoother times ahead. Sending you strength and hope for a better, brighter year! Keep holding on to that hope-things can turn around. 🌟
not a downer - it’s a real video 😊 a slice of your life. thanks for sharing! i’m so looking forward to 2025 🍄
Happy new year!! Thank you for being so kind!
I used to drive myself crazy with the “whys” especially when it was from negative things/experiences, but as I’ve reflected and gotten older, there is always a reason, maybe your TBI was a head on reminder to rest, put yourself first, trust that it will all be ok and to help you lean on others more for support? Xx
I developed FND after years of burying trauma - one day my body became disabled… I had to do the mental & emotional work for it to get better x
I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts. I’ve definitely wrestled with the “whys” of my TBI, especially in relation to everything that’s come with it. It’s been a challenging part of the journey, not always understanding the purpose behind it. But as I’ve reflected more, I do see how it could be a reminder to rest, to prioritize myself, and to lean on others for support. Your experience with FND really struck me as well-sometimes the body forces us to slow down in ways we don’t expect. It’s comforting to hear your story and how you’ve worked through it. Thank you for sharing that wisdom!!
Hello Amber, I am so glad you are learning about being careful, and slowing down to do the research of the facts. If someone is rushing you be extra careful. Example: Here in the US we have companies that will redo a shower or install a floor and many other projects. Some want to do a one day install as soon as possible. Knowing that once they do it you can not return it like a book at the library. So with those folks it is absolutely essential to check them out well. I think when they have been doing commercials on TV for 10-plus years they are probably doing something right.
It was really nice to see you smiling ear to ear today. You are wearing all the right colors today esp sitting next to the fireplace and fire. God bless y'all and have a fabulous New Year, Steven
Thank you so much for the thoughtful advice, Steven! You’re absolutely right-slowing down and doing the research is key, especially when someone is rushing you into a decision. I really appreciate your kind words about the colors and the smile-it’s always nice to hear that! Wishing you and yours a truly wonderful and peaceful New Year. God bless!
I know you don't do much with raised beds, but if you want to plant strawberries with a little less work (ie quack grass and weeds!) consider some beds, 3 or 4ft by 8-10 feet, 8-10 inches high, even 6 might be ok. I am an urban gardener so most of my beds are raised, but just going off your quackgrass complaints...raised strawberry beds would keep the majority of it out of your berries. I have not had any grass inflitration into my berries, whereas the neighbor who has theirs on the hill next to their fence always has to search around tall grass clumps to find the berries. And if you have a mulched path next to it, great, and if not you can mow pretty close to the bed to make a path. And with your pond, I bet you will find the perfect area for some blueberries. Have fun!
Been homesteading for 9 years now. Lesson learned and kinda implement for the last few years is taking your time. We are a couple who work full time jobs. For the last 2 years, we were lucky since my bf is a college teacher and is off most of the summer. But we did dream big on our 0,6ha homestead and got crushed by the job it represent. The house also needed kinda urgent repairs but we got the job done by professionals. We are now at the "luxury renovation" that we can probably do ourselves but we take our time to do it.
Outside, it took like 4 different buildings before we were happy with the rabbits situation. It was stressful and we should have wait to be ready before having them (they kinda felt on our lap but still...) We only built our chicken coop this year and had our first real flock. We had one last year for practicing and see if we want to continue. We liked them and we knew how to build the coop and exterior pen also, so we did it!
We built gardens, food forest, blueberry and raspberry fields and hops rows. Yes, best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago and second time is right now but man, they need care. The blueberry and raspberry fields are lost in weeds and we don't have the time and energy to do it all. I'm at the stage that I say, ok, they are planted and surviving. When I will have more time, I will take better care of them and they will thriving. But for now, I do bare minimal just for them to stay alive so I won't need to replant them later. Having taking my time, I would have prepare better.
Also, I have to stop finding next year new project. I have enough! haha!
It sounds like you’ve learned some valuable lessons along the way! Taking your time is such an important shift, especially when balancing full-time jobs and homesteading. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of big dreams, but it’s wise to recognize when you’re taking on more than you can handle. The way you’re approaching your "luxury renovation" and taking it slow shows how much you’ve grown in your journey.
I totally get what you mean about the trees and gardens-they require so much care, and it can be overwhelming, especially when life keeps moving fast. It’s great that you’ve set realistic expectations for now, knowing you’ll get to them when you can. And yes, I think we all tend to want to start new projects, but it’s so true-sometimes we just need to pause and appreciate what we’ve already created! You've done amazing work, and I’m sure when the time comes, those gardens and fields will thrive with your care. Keep up the great work, and here’s to a bit of slowing down!
Amber, do a root cellar! they're great solution😊
I have a book about root cellars! Maybe one year we can build one!
@@FairlyRooted you can kind of create an above ground root cellar. If you have a little shed and fill it with dirt. We were in a situation we had to do that for two or three years and it worked. Not as great, but a lot better than not having it.
Alberta changed their laws, and inspectors are now liable for their inspections.
Really changed things!
Thank you for saying its not easy, social media makes gardening and raising animals and maintaining everything on a property look so easy and we have also learned this is not true so we are moving very slow as well.
You’re absolutely right-social media often makes it all look effortless, but the reality is so much harder. Gardening, raising animals, and maintaining a property take an incredible amount of time, energy, and learning through trial and error. Moving slowly is such a wise approach-it gives you the chance to grow at your own pace and set up systems that work for you. Wishing you patience and joy as you continue on your journey-you’re doing amazing! 🧡
So sad to hear that but yes not everyone is trusting. I also have good vibes on certain people in situations but yes things still go south!!!
It’s so true-sometimes, even when you get a good feeling about someone or a situation, things can still go south. It’s hard, especially when you’ve tried to trust or put your faith in someone. It’s a reminder to stay cautious, but also to not let the setbacks make us lose faith in the good people out there. It’s a tough balance to strike!
Loved the video!
Thank you so much! Happy New Year!
@FairlyRooted Happy New Year! 🎉
I regret not listening to my intuition, too. Let's trust ourselves more in 2025♡
Have you considered growing blueberry plants from the seed of the blueberries you picked?
I have grown blueberries from seed before, but I have plenty of blueberry bushes... I don't think I need more haha!
@@FairlyRooted - sorry, I must have misunderstood - you start talking about more fruit trees and bushes from 10:10 - and then you mentioned going to a pick your own blueberry farm, where berries cost more than at Costco. I would agree that I'd rather pick my own berry bushes than pay money for them, but buying plant starts costs money, too :) So, starting them from seed seems like the optimal way to do it.
But now that you have plenty of blueberry bushes, perhaps you'll open your own pyo berry farm :)
We also got super lucky with out property price and the owners even selected us over people who were willing to pay more. The discouraging part is when we wanted to replace the windows with better ones but also bigger than the original frames we found we had asbestos and therefore we couldn't move forward with it unless we got rid of the asbestos first....which we still haven't done since its such a huuuuge project we have to save for and prepare for, super downer the inspector didn't find it.
We were also so fortunate to be chosen for our place, even with higher offers on the table. It’s such a special feeling to know the owners trusted us to care for it. But I really feel for you about the asbestos-it’s such a tough thing to discover after you’ve already started dreaming about improvements. It’s one of those moments that can feel like the wind’s been knocked out of your sails.
It’s especially hard knowing the inspector didn’t catch it, and you’re left holding this huge project you didn’t plan for. I completely get how discouraging it is when something that should have been disclosed or caught ends up falling on you to deal with. And asbestos... so awful... and very time consuming to remove it all. I've heard others stories about it, I'm so sorry you have to deal with it!
But you'll deal with it, get it taken out, and I have hope it all comes together beautifully and feels worth the effort you’ve put in. You’re not alone in this! 🧡
You’ve come so far since you moved in ! I think a few years down the road you will have your systems and routines down and so things will be a bit better . I am sorry you were scammed . It’s a good idea not to be so trusting.
Thank you so much for the encouragement-it really means a lot! 🧡 It’s true, we’ve come a long way, and I know it’s all a work in progress. With time, I’m confident we’ll refine our systems and routines to make everything run smoother. As for being scammed, it was a tough lesson, but it’s a reminder to be more cautious and trust my instincts moving forward. Thank you for your kind words and support!
@ Enjoy your winter rest
I lost a partner of many years and they took half of everything, and left me with debt and over £5k in fees.
I also had things taken without consent when they knew I was in hospital (my hip kept dislocating - so they just put me in a hospital bed for over a week while they decided what to do about it - being log rolled every 4 hours to check for pressure sores with it out, was horrifically painful).
So this last year has been awful.
Hopefully things will be better from now on.
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through such an incredibly difficult year. Dealing with the loss of a partner, financial strain, and the pain of your hip issues all at once is an unimaginable amount to carry. I can’t imagine how hard that hospital experience must have been on top of everything else. You’ve shown so much strength just by making it through all of that. I truly hope that this coming year brings you healing, stability, and brighter days ahead. You deserve so much better. Sending you love and hope for the future. 🧡
Since you own land. My aunt and uncle made a dirt dugout in their yard root cellar. It was literally dirt and shelves and they stored so much in it. Maybe you will be able to dig in your yard and maybe your neighbours will have a digger or something you can borrow. I will say it was creepy as a kid because there was no lights and we had to use flashlights but with the battery operated lights and solar and stuff you might be able to rig a majig something.
Hi Amber - I wonder about building a room within your barn for a spare pantry? I'm not sure how the cold would do with glass jar - hmm maybe not the best idea. There's an old british show re building underground root cellar type ideas - is it the :WAR TIME GARDEN"? some ideas from olden times! Many blessings for you and yours! Katherine, south of Boston
I wish I could use the barn right now, but it needs a ton of work to restore, which we can't do until we fix the house. I have seen people build underground root cellars, and I actually have a book about root cellars! Love them!! Hugs from Ontario!
I remember when you bought the property, it was right when we sold ours, and I kept thinking I hope you dont have rose colored glasses. I had a friend who made it look beautiful and easy. And I enjoy manual labor too but if you get sick or have to leave for vacation or whatevr the chores do not take a break.
It’s so true-chores never take a break, no matter what’s happening in life. We’ve actually never been on vacation, so we didn’t care if we would be grid tied. Growing up in the country, I understood what I was getting into with this lifestyle. When we bought the property, we tried to cover all our bases by hiring a more expensive inspector we thought we could trust, but unfortunately, some things were still missed… We knew the property needed work, but not to extent we now know. I genuinely enjoy the hard work most days. Thank you for sharing your perspective!🧡
My understanding- in the US anyway -is that if the septic system is affected by roots then your insurance company should cover it. That is what my insurance company told us but ours wasn’t affected by roots apparently.
We didn’t want our insurance to go up either, so we’ve been really careful with how we handle things. It’s good to know that your insurance would cover it if the septic system was affected by roots. That’s a huge relief for when issues like that come up! Unfortunately, we’ve just been trying to avoid any potential bumps like that so our premiums don’t go up. It’s always a balancing act, isn’t it?
Why bad things happen? Don't know, with some will probably never know. Like my niece's husband committing suicide with a gun shot to the head right in front of my niece on Christmas Day. Will never understand that. I'm glad you have recovered so well.
I’m so deeply sorry to hear about your niece’s husband. That’s an unimaginable tragedy, and I can’t even begin to comprehend the pain your niece and family must be feeling. Sometimes, the “why” behind these heartbreaking moments remains a mystery, and that lack of understanding can be one of the hardest parts to bear.
Thank you for your kind words about my recovery. It’s been a long road, and while I don’t have all the answers to why things happen, I try to hold onto the moments of light and keep moving forward. Sending love and strength to you and your niece during this incredibly difficult time. ❤️
@@FairlyRooted Thank you. Yes, we can choose to move in light, or live in darkness. Incredibly, my niece is choosing to move in light. Her first husband died from cancer 6 years ago. So much tragedy for one life. But, she is strong, and surrounded by love. Thanks again for your kind words
If you’re still using cloth vs toilet paper I wonder if that delayed your septic issues! We switched a few years ago and will never go back. We switched a while after watching one of your videos about not using toiler paper and explaining what your family uses.
Been using cloth since 2016! So... 9 years! It probably delayed the septic issue most definitely... I hadn't considered that!
I remember that! It used to be her most popular video! So cool.
We had property a few years ago and had to seel it because the home was a money pit. We had mice and bats and huge brown reclus spiders invading our home. We also had very scary neighbors and a murder 1/4 mile up our road. We had a sheriff knock om our door at midnignt unmarked car it was very scary. We had a pyrenees and two german shepherds and that was crucial for protection. I hope things get better for you. I totally get it and apprecciatte the realness.
Thank you for sharing your story-what a stressful experience that must have been. Unfortunately, we can’t pick your neighbors, and they can make living somewhere difficult. We’ve been fortunate to have more good neighbors than bad, but there’s always one rotten apple that can stir things up. Having dogs like your Pyrenees and German Shepherds must have been such a comfort, especially in those scary situations you described! I really appreciate your kind words and understanding-it means a lot to connect with someone who gets the ups and downs of rural life. Wishing you peace and better days ahead! 🧡
Alberta changed their laws, and inspectors are now liable for their inspections.
Really changed things!
If you have fruit now, you might want learn how to do hard and soft wood cuttings!
Free fruit trees and shrubs.
That's a huge change! Having inspectors be held accountable for their inspections definitely adds a layer of protection for homeowners and makes sure things are caught properly. It’s great to hear about the possibility of free fruit trees and shrubs with hard and softwood cuttings! I’ve been thinking about how to expand our fruit trees, so I’ll definitely look into that. Thanks for the tip! It could be a great way to save money and increase what we can grow here.
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Here's to a great 2025 for you all!
I doubt people that rip off others can ever truly be happy unless they fully make amends.
I agree with you. It’s hard to imagine someone who consistently takes advantage of others ever feeling truly at peace. Maybe they get by for a while, but there’s always something missing-authentic happiness can’t come from ripping others off. I think true peace and happiness come from making things right and living with integrity. Until that happens, I don’t think they’ll ever feel whole.
only way to not get scammed - need a group of people to vet agreements. If I'm really smart and think I can't get scammed because of my brain power, I will still get scammed if I don't check with others, to see if it is a good agreement or not. Our trick is: tell everybody everything, what we are doing, etc - and that holds us and the contractor accountable
You’re absolutely right-having a group of trusted people to vet agreements is such a smart way to avoid being scammed. We learned that lesson the hard way after being scammed by acquaintances. It was a tough experience, but now we’ve started asking our good neighbors about everyone we meet... even in just knowing them. Their input has been invaluable! I love your idea of sharing what you’re doing-it really does help keep everyone accountable. Thank you for sharing your trick; it’s such a good reminder to lean on community! 🧡
@@FairlyRooted Yes, we moved onto a farm for the first time in our lives in 2022, and if it wasn't for community, we would have had so much drama and probably quit by now. Family left behind in the suburbs is wondering why we haven't come back to suburbs, we tell them it is because our community won't let us fail, so why go back? It's better here. Also there is some spiritual help that has assisted me my whole life and I used them again in 2020s for this massive change (from computer laptop to chicken layers lol)
Thank's for your honesty ❤. Even mentioning tarifs! Yes, 2024 was challenging you! Hope 2025 will be better for you and all of us! But with treathning manderine diaper I wish more canadians would be preventing preserving and united in order to keep our country! Bad politics, lies, misinfirnation and money-making 😢 aren't good "association's". I'm so sorry for my grandchildren. We didn't vote to get invaded...deplorably! And so much to loose...stay safe ❤ from Québec
No you don’t have yourself to blame when you are scammed. This idea that we should be weary because bad people exist is dumb. Know why you are a good person and don’t attach your personality/kindness to others but to yourself. Hope this speaks to someone out there.
I completely understand what you’re saying. I do tend to blame myself when things go wrong, and it’s something I’m actively working on. It’s hard to separate my own kindness and personality from what others do, especially when they take advantage of it. But you’re right, I can’t let their actions define me. It’s a tough mindset to break, but I’m learning that my worth isn’t tied to how others behave. Thanks for the reminder to focus on who I am and not what others do.
@FairlyRooted helps to keep in mind why you are doing it especially if it’s spiritual etc
I'm curious about your spirituality. Definitely don't feel like you need to answer if you're not comfortable. As Christians, we use very similar phrasing about there being a reason for things, but instead of attributing it to the universe, we talk about God's purpose and His gifts to us. I'm curious if your family is spiritual in some way, because I don't usually hear atheists talking this way. Again, I'm aware this isn't really any of my business, I just have an interest in different peoples difference spiritual beliefs, but no worries if you don't feel comfortable sharing!
Also, please don't feel like you need to apologize for relating the real things that happen in real life. We all have hard years, and sometimes more than one at a time, and to pretend otherwise is silly. I'm definitely sad that life has to make us all into harder people. If I had my way, the world would be getting softer and more loving instead of the other way around 😢 But hopefully if as many of us as possible try to raise our children in a gentler way, things may change for the better.
Hi there! Hope you don't mind if I butt in but maybe I can give you a glimpse from my perspective. I myself don't believe in supernatural powers. I was born into a Christian family and raised as such however started questioning the Bible and the Christian dogma early on. My questions were never answered to my satisfaction and there are too many contradictions and plagiarism in the Bible for me personally. And the argument that the universe necessitates a creator is flawed in my opinion.
Still, I consider myself to be rather spiritual since we as humans always are trying to search for answers and a purpose. I look at the world, the universe as it is and am in awe at how everything evolved and sometimes how things just seem to work out "miraculously" (for a lack of a better word since we are restricted by the existence of words to describe things.) Us humans are just tiny little "insignificant" (I mean insignificant to the universe but my existence is very important to myself) specs in the vast universe so when things work out in my favor, I like to say thank you because I simply appreciate my luck or good fortune. I guess it's because in the interaction with other humans and nature we just show gratitude and like to transfer this gratitude onto other things as well.
I don't think the universe has a purpose or a plan for us. It simply is the way it is in a magnificent way that "allowed" this planet to support life. Nonetheless, there are billions of other stars, surrounded by billions more of planets in billions of different galaxies and chances are pretty high that life evolved on several planets in several galaxies simply because the ingredients for organic life are vast in the universe. Humans are nothing special yet I feel very special because I understand that I am unique the way I am. I have a limited power to make this one life of mine count thus I derive purpose from myself: how I and my actions make other people feel, how I treat animals and the natural world, whether the world is better off with me. Since I am high in empathy, I can rejoice in the happiness other people are feeling but at the same token I also feel the pain others feel. I soak in the plentiful colors of diversity, I look at how a simple shift in genetics can change everything, I listen to the multitude of different sounds, how things smell, taste, and feel - and I am in awe that I can appreciate them in the NOW because yesterday is past and the future is always a second away.
Just knowing that my body is made from star dust, that my body might carry atoms from famous people like Einstein, that the water we drink is purified dinosaur pee, that we can grow crops because our planet happens to have an atmosphere, ... makes me treasure my life and acknowledge that I hit the jackpot when the universe started cooking its soup of atoms.
Thanks, for sharing. As a Christian we would say "When God doesn't make sense"...
I think the word you are looking for is disheartened-when fellow humans let you down, it’s disheartening. What internal conversations do people who that act like that have, that allows them to justify their behavior? Or maybe, they have no conversation or moral compass. Sorry you had to deal with that.
You're absolutely right-disheartened is the perfect word for that feeling when people let you down. It really makes you wonder what kind of internal dialogue they have, or if they even consider the impact of their actions. Maybe some just don’t reflect on their behavior, or maybe they justify it in ways that make it feel acceptable to them. Either way, it’s a tough thing to deal with, and I appreciate your understanding. Thank you for your empathy-it helps to know others get it.
Also if you do read the Bible it's important that you start with the old testament and then the New testament.
Thank you for the suggestion! I’ve actually already read the Bible, and it was quite the journey. Starting with the Old Testament and then moving to the New Testament does help tie everything together and give a fuller understanding.
I know your very smart and love to read books but I challenge you to read the Bible. It will open your eyes and understanding as to who you are and why good and bad things happen . Be blessed and have a great new year!
I challenge you to research the history of who put the Bible together, when and why. It will open your eyes and, hopefully, show you that you were and are being lied to.
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Thank you! I've seen their stuff before and love it!