Story 2: when people wright stories showing their side they typically make it seem a little better on their side, so she was probably a lot more of a bridezilla than she's letting on
As someone who gives more then two craps about small animals like fish, I think the girl was totally in her place when she insulted the girl who basically murdered a bunch of goldfish. She even explained why goldfish can’t survive in salt water and how they literally suffocated to death, which is probably a horrible way to die. The fact that she was the one that got in trouble and not the girl who committed several accounts of animal abuse which lead to death is beyond me. It’s not fair, and it’s not right. I wish more people knew how to properly take care of small animals, and that “rescuing” them from pet stores actually just hurts the cause and you shouldn’t do it😢
story 4 - NTA like you said if husband in the end doesn't want the wedding to go through she has to respect that, but a lot of people put loads of money either to attend it or make it happen so canceling all is so wastefull
Truthfully if I was the bride i would still do it but put aside apart of the time to honor the father so I'm not wasting a shit ton of money just because bad timing I mean it's not like she started to plan the wedding after the father death
Story 1: Absolutely not TA. The sister knew Conner was out and Conner for 2 years. She deliberately undermined his identity for her wedding. No one would've known about it if it had the correct name.
@@solidsnakesimulation666 the trans guy? Because he's definitely a guy. go cry about it if you're a transphobe. It's not the end of the world so why do you feel the need to disrespect someone you don't even know?
@@Samuel060does he have a penis or male dna? Or is she maybe need therapy, a persons brain isnt even close to being developed at 21 let alone at 13 yrs old.
Story 2: Maybe I'm an ah. I feel like if someone gives you an itinerary you should try and follow it. Be on time and participate. If you aren't willing stay home. It's always a hustle when trying to do a lot in a short time.
Story 3 - the mom choose her boyfriend and his kids over her kid. She kicked her son out of his house. Father's will be damn, the mother by her own actions distance herself from her son.
Story 2: NTA It’s not unreasonable to have an itinerary. Like she said. It’s a limited amount of time in that city. And she DID let the bridesmaids know ahead of time (as the story says). We don’t know if it’s a city in their hometown. Or if they traveled states apart for this party. If they traveled further it makes sense to want to pack as much fun as possible in a short 2 day timespan.
The last one is ABSOLUTELY NTA. I volunteer at an animal rescue and my main role is to provide education, particularly about domestic vs wild animals. It's that kind of ignorance of 'releasing' pet species into the wild without ANY research what so ever that is responsible for MILLIONS of animals dying slow, completely avoidable and painful deaths. That, and wasting thousands of hours of rescuers time in an attempt to save these animals from the certain death situation they have been placed in. OP may have been a bit harsh in they way they explained things, but they are absolutely NTA for correcting willful ignorance. I could go off on this topic for hours, so sorry for the long comment.
Story 2 I don't think the bride was an AH. I've been invited to 2 bachelorette party weekends. I suppose those events were more organized than what this bride went to. We knew before getting our invites what the plans were. One of the gathering was at my husbands aunt's holiday home. She made a list of all the outdoorsy stuff the bride (her daughter) wanted us to do. It wasn't unreasonable and was really fun.
Story 1: Absolutely not. You stood up for your child. NTA Story 2: Yeah, you're a high demand bride. YTA Story 3: Your mom doesn't care. NTA Story 4: It's a though situation. NTA Story 5: She had to be told. NTA
Story one: NTA dead naming is a serious issue it is like taking away a person identity and it just brings up the fact that you don’t except them the sister is an a-hole
I agree 100%! Having a Transgender child of my own, I can honestly say I would have reacted the same way, if not worse about it. Say what you want about me, but don't mess with my kids! Family or not, my kids are more important.
Goldfish are incredibly invasive and you should never, ever release them. But fresh water fish will eventually die in salt water because they’ll fill up with salt water.
Literally, she gives off fake “Im the popular girl” vibe to me. I dont know who I’d want to be my other bridesmaids at my future wedding besides who I want to be my MoH.
I don't know much about bachelorette parties, but in story two, the criticism sounded really harsh. She said nothing about if her planning catered to everyone else, but even then... I wouldn't call her the AH. I can understand where she's coming from, and I think both parties should probably apologise. They all did wrong. They should all talk about it 😊
A) On the first night, the bride was excited for the decoration reveal. A reveal that shows (I'm assuming) how much your friends care about you (typically, because they make it personally for you). In her excitement, she told them of her expectations. The friends had the chance to ask further questions, to mention downfalls or lack of skills or resources. But they didn't. They just let her walk in on that, knowing how hurt she'd be? I wouldn't like that either. I'd probably want an apology, to talk about what could be fixed next time. There is no next time though. It's screwed up forever now. Would friends do that to you? I'd be crushed. And it doesn't sound like they tried to cheer her up, explain, or make up for it at all. Or maybe she didn't ask them to. I am smelling trust issues if that is the senario, and a lack of closeness between the friends. Like, an apology would be the bare minimum, and trying to make up for it. Why wouldn't they? B) Planned Activities and agenda. Your friend says come with me on my bride party. The first thing I'd say is that "it sounds good, but what is planned". How did they not know what was planned at the party. They could tell her in advance what they couldn't do. Might have even saved her some money for less seats at venues and such. And if the bride loved her friends, she'd probably be okay with doing a few things they wanted to do as well. She planned everything. So why didn't this happen? The bride could have asked more. But you're telling me none of her friends wanted to know or made objections to things before hand. Did they not trust the bride to be understanding? Why didn't they get more involved? If one person isn't having a good time, it usually brings down the whole experience. But they chose to bring it down anyway. C) Final get together. They didn't wear the shirts the bride requested in advance. If the bride requested it, it was probably important to her. And if the friends didn't want to wear the shirts it was probably important to them. But there could be a compromise. I imagine they could have a photo shoot with the shirts on and then take them back off again for the rest of the night. It's one shirt (storage wise), and for barely any time. But they didn't tell the bride. So the bride couldn't ask them to bring the shirts, couldn't hear their complaints and couldn't make that compromise. If the bride apologises and tries to do better, she won't be able to if the friends don't also let her know what they are feeling and what is going on. They have to change as well. D) Not comforting their friends. If one of my friends seems down, I'd want to comfort them. This bride is meant to feel happy, she worked hard and planned this all out. But even at home, if my friend was sad, I'd try an make them feel better. I'd put aside any alterior motives I had. I'd tell them my feelings, I'd give them the space to tell me there's. We'd compromise, or promise to talk again after a small amount of time appart to have space. Like, if someone's having a bad day, you might get them an icecream, sit with them and let them get the emotions out. It's the right thing to do. And if these friends aren't doing it for her, does that mean they aren't doing it for eachother? This skillset, this trait, is what makes people friends, and not acquaintances in my book. There is a bond built with trust and care. That seems lacking here. E) The bride felt awful when her friends didn't turn up to many of the things she planned. How much better would the bride have felt knowing when the group would meet up again, or knowing what they were doing? I don't know about y'all, but to me, knowing when you'd see your friends again makes it easier to bare. It brings back happiness, and even excitement to merge back with them again. Just a little call or chat. A little "I'm feeling really shit right now, but I'm aiming for 11am. I really wish I could be there right now. Sorry gorgeous. But atleast I'll try and see you then." Even from one person representing 6 or 7 people... that would make it so much better. But... it just seems like they said I'm not coming. No thanks. And that would crush me too. I'd feel pretty heart broken. And, I think the bride shouldn't hqve trashed the place. But seeing all she had pent up, I might be understanding. Explain the feelings. Clear up the assumptions. Clear communication. Compromise. Finding something better, doing better in the future. That's how things work. So yeah. The friends should apologise, for all of that. And they should stride to do better. The bride should apologise too though. She was out of line also, especially at the end, with the house mess. But with everyone working together, that's how this would work out better. For everyone involved. 😊
For the person who knows the truth about goldfish you're only the a****** here if you listen to society which isn't something we should always do. I mean she could have done a little research She could have found someone like you who maybe could help her find a way to actually help.
@ResinateByChanel well she just saw a girl say she rescued fish when she actually saw her kill them, and someone's temper should not be the reason they are immediately demoted to being TA
Story 1: Absolutely NTA OP stood up for their son and they will all remember that especially Connor Story 2: tbf I can not give a clear judgement on this BUT if they all really bought matching shirts and agreed on most of the things they were supposed to do beforehand then OP is NTA Because then her friend group is just a bunch of AH But like I said I can not give a clear judgment as OP is in the process of getting married is experiencing more intense feelings so overeating is quite normal aswell as feeling intensifying which could cause sth small to turn into something big
I really feel for the fiance about having to cancel her wedding weeks away. Some places won't let you get any sort of refund or let you apply the deposit towards a future date, and that can end up costing thousands up on thousands of dollars in losses. Also, some guests may not be able to afford an exchange in ticket and may lose the money they set aside entirely. I understand wanting to mourn, but viewing death as an exclusively sad thing is a rather western way of thinking anyway. Many cultures would rather celebrate the person's life than be sad about their passing.
Story 4: As much as I respect what the NTA Said, which I also believe is correct, you also have to keep in mind. She put in a lot of resources for this wedding. A wedding is NOT CHEAP, especially if you went all out. Of course maybe a little bit of the blame could be placed on you for not having the foresight to see that the father might be on his last legs, but now it has come to this as long as the husband is okay with this I think it's fine. And besides, sometimes we need a little bit of fun enjoying life two do accept the bad experiences.. You are wedding could provide that relief even if it's just a little bit.
I am really not understanding why the girl in Story 2 is TA. The whole point of a bachelorette weekend is to celebrate the bride to be, so you do what she wants (within reason). If I was at a bachelorette party and the bride wanted me to wear a special shirt, I would. Who cares about my outfit? Its not about me. Or if she wants to go do a bunch of things and its a tight timeline, then lets do it! I just feel like people are so selfish these days. Not everything is about you and what you want. To you, its just one fun weekend, and if it isn’t perfect for you, it doesn’t matter. But to the bride this is a lifelong memory and a hopefully once in a lifetime event for her. People should treat it that way if they agree to participate. People are also so sensitive to bridezillas because there are so many crazy stories online, but this is not one of them. If she was saying everyone needed to go get matching tattoos, or dye their hair the same color, or spend $1,000 per day on all these activities and started crying about it, then I would say she is TA. However, it sounds like she just wanted basic support from her friends, and to just do the activities she actually wanted. I don’t see how she is TA. Although I will say that you just can’t rely on anyone these days and can’t expect to have other’s support you and try to make any day special for you. Its sad, but true. I kept my bachelorette and my wedding very small for this purpose. I didn’t care what we did or what people wore or anything, but I did just really want to feel celebrated, supported, and loved. So I only invited the people that I know would really show up for me.
About the story for the father in law passing. Catering, venues, and plane tickets normally wouldn't offer a refund, but they would offer a different date because there was a death in the family. Some places would want to see the death certificate as proof and then go a head with rescheduling. The harder one would be getting the whole guest list to change their time off from work to attend the later date. Hopefully the death of someone would be enough for a work place to agree to allow the person change the dates of their vacation, but also we have companies that literally fire people when finding out an employee has cancer. So honestly it's a gamble. Of course she should talk to her fiancé more. Get his thoughts on the matter and then go from there. He is also heavily being pushed really hard by his immediate family about nit honoring their tradition. Se he may agree with his family out if guilt. It's a tough one.
Story 1; Nope, NTA in the slightest. Maybe it's because I'm FTM too, but this is a totally reasonable reaction and I applaud you for standing up for your son. Sister needs to get a reality check. Story 2; I can understand wanting the weekend to be about you and what you want. That being said, yes you are absolutely TA. Dream or not, you can't force what you want on people because they'd probably just be miserable, as seen on day 2. I'd be surprised if any of them stay your bridesmaids. Story 3; Nta, they should've treated you better. Besides, your dad willed e v e r y t h i n g to you. Not to your mom or him. There has to be a reason the father had so much spite. Story 4; I'm conflicted, but I think yta gently. See, if everything is already paid for that makes things infinitely more difficult to postpone. But, flights can be moved, same with venues and stuff like that. The 100 day morning period, while understandable, is a tad ridiculous. That's around ¼ of the year. You shouldn't call it your big day though, that's messed up. I get that it's your wedding, but it's also your husband's wedding, and just like you wouldn't want to be alone for it, he probably wouldn't either. Story 5; Hahaha, NTA. While it's a sad story, this is hilarious ngl
It's a BACHELORETTE party, you only get ONE. DAY. lady. For your wedding. The BACHELORETTE party is for bonding, taking it slow, having fun resting on the beach while you talk about terrisas crazy ex, it's not your weekend.
# 1 NTA if he is trans then the side yet needs to repercussions that idk why so many people have a problem with it like why it was so disrespectful that they called him his dead name. #2 you had too much expectations, weekend seems great and also I wouldn’t want to go to that Bridezillas wedding anyway. #3 NTA although the dad didn’t give anything to his wife, everyone WAS given to the son and the wife needs to respect that and she and the step dad has so much entitlement in my prospective because of the favoritism . #4 NTA if the wedding was before the dad pasted then you don’t have any obligation to stop the wedding and the only opinion she needs to consider is her fiancés and if he’s ok with it then that’s that. #5 NTA she is a dumb ass for quote on quote “ saving the goldfish by putting it in the ocean” the girl is right and why should the teacher and principal agree with her aren’t they suppose to be smart and realize she just killed a ton of goldfish and posted it online ? That’s bull
Story 1: NTA you are a father who is supporting you son after your sister refuses to be. It doesn't matter if it's her wedding, it is never okay to deadname someone who you KNOW to refer to as otherwise, on top of that, what do you mean his "real name" his name is Connor? And that's that! Not Nia! You have no right to say otherwise!
I don't think she was being unreasonable, seeing as how she did tell them before hand what she expected of them and they just went off on their own, in the end, leaving her out. Even knowing how much she was looking forward to this weekends and didn't even care about her plans. I get if it was too much for them. All they had to do was talk to her about toning it down a bit. But before this weekends. Maybe when she was telling them about all her plans. Those aren't real friends and she was right to re assess her friendships with them. Even if they weren't happy with her, they should have trip to work this out qhen she locked herself in her room crying. They chose to go out and have fun without her. None of them even apologize and probably don't feel like they did anything wrong. Friends shouldn't be like that. She may have gone overboard and been a bit too demanding. But the friends were clearly in the wrong here.
Story 1: NTA you got look out and do what's best for your child. If the dad made a big scene leaving maybe an AH, though if he said goodbye and left quietly NTA. Story 2: okay, this is a hard one. I understand her point of view and that they other people agreed on it. I think she over reacted to not having everything set-up. They tried and are human. It sounds like on the first day of activities how they were trying to communicate that this amount of activities is too much for them. Though the bride to be just you agreed and this is what I want and it's about me. So, they did what they needed to do to keep sane. Take the morning off. Sometimes you need to change the plans if it's not working for the group. They might thought they could do it. But seeing a plan and doing a plan different. Story 3: I just don't understand why he had to change the locks then if he's doing 2 weeks notice. Doesn't he need to give them a key for two weeks anyway. It doesn't make sense. He should of given the two weeks notice then changed the locks. Though i think it should be a month notice. If they didn't move out by then just move their stuff out. Story 4: weddings are super expensive and they would have to still pay for cancelling last moment. Though check with the fiance what he wants to do. Story 5: OP a bit of an AH in how the message was delivered not what the overall message is. Calling someone dumb is not going to help your case. Just tell them what they did wrong. No need for name calling.
I would have made a scene and it would absolutely not be wrong to make a scene, sister is being horribly transphobic and deadnaming and misgendering this guy's son, and it's not like this is a new thing she's still adjusting to (I told my family about my new name about a month ago and they mess up sometimes and I understand it) he's been out for two years
3rd story, nta, but you couldn't done it a little nicer? Maybe tell them that they can either get a new place or pay rent and stay in their current place. Cause frankly I don't think it's fair to kick you out and treat you like disposable when it's technically your house. And they're living their for free?
Exactly why he did the right thing imo. she sounds like a terrible mother and he probably wanted nothing to do with any of them and he shouldn’t be required to just because she birthed him. Respectfully ofc
Story 1: Definitely NTA. As a person who also has a dead name, it hurts very much when people deadname me. It serves as a painful reminder that in certain aspects, I will never completely be a man.. Story 5: NTA. The girl was completely in the right and I see it unfair how she got suspended for calling out a girl who is playing a "hero" when she is just seeking attention. She basically got away with animal abuse which led to a death of an animal.
Story 3: the son is 100% justified in what he did and they are just paying their karma for what they did to him over the years. I don't agree with you said at the end of the story telling. He is 100000000000%in the right and is not being too much. The mother obviously did some terrible shit including making him move out. You tend to make the victum sound like the ahole. Fix yourself. Your becoming one of the ahole.
For story 2 I don’t think she was the AH she was the bride everyone knew what she wanted and it was for her since she was the bride and she wanted it to be perfect. I understand how she wants it to be perfect. It’s a big moment and you only get it once (for the most part) so I don’t think she’s the AH.
No your not that is just childish for your mom to kick you out.I fell like you should of changed the locks on her because just because she got a new boyfriend doesn’t mean she should treat you differently. They know how it feels now.I love your channel❤
Story 1: NTA! Even if you don’t support trans people you gotta agree that this was dramatic and if it was that much of an issues just don’t invite that family. You expect someone to just sit back and let you dead name their child??? That’s insane expectations even for a wedding😒✋
Story 4 NTA The father probably suspected something was going on and was more than likely right the mother has relationship with another man with kids and moved him in just two months later that is just too much of a coincidence and to immediately starting to pressure her own son into giving a property to this said Man means the father probably had reasons to set it so the son could only have access to the property by the age 21 so as to not cause something like this keep in mind the mother is doing this to 15 year old and more as OP is growing up she continues to distance and single out her own son from what is supposed to be family vacations and then throws her son out of technically his own house I can't say the the mother didn't deserve it as they say what comes around goes around story 4 NTA I understand someone's religion or beliefs but plain tickets Venus and catering already sound expensive with little to no chance of refunds this close in date family and guests are flying abroad and probably already have time off set if not vacation days which most companies or business will not let you ruse and setting 100 days of no celebrating for morning does sound extreme does that mean they don't even celebrate there own birthday's or any personal holiday's like anniversary during that time as well and who's to say the father in law would even want his passing to stop his son from strating his own family I know I wouldn't mourning is just as much about celebrating the life a passed love one has had as it is grieving and the groom sounds like he's being guilt ridden into making a decision he doesn't want to make
Story 3. I get it but they could have been nicer and educating the girl instead of calling her a dumbass. Or they could have apologized and after explained to her the danger. After their moment of rage. But idk
I am all with the person in the last story. That's why we get invasive species because people release animals in environments where they have no natural predators to keep them in check. And besides, poor goldfish!!! Thta really isn't helping them!! Very ignorant 🙄 😒 😑
1: yes and no Yes because if you didn't take them to therapy about the name thing I have a problem with a celebrity that caused a lot of suicide and I was miss spelling things on purpose in school but I learned to cope with therapy of course I am not trans but I understand how bad the name thing can get the celebrities name isn't the same as mine but it is something I couldn't get away from for a while and other people have that name I need to tell myself it's those people are not her and I am good No because you stood up for your kids 2 yes and no yes because you know them so what did expect your friends to change overnight and no because they were not even trying to celebrate with you 3 no absolutely not it's your house and you dad saw this coming and protected you from it 4 yes absolutely yes you shouldn't be marrying anyone if you only think of yourself and your side of things 5 no absolutely not let them expel you but before you leave tell your friends to start a rumor that the girl killed you You should have to apologize for preventing this dumbass from harming animals and the environment
I'm sorry but came out as trans at 10?! Hell no. Let him wait till he's 16 or 17 to decide I'm not transphobic or anything but I think that is way to young
He transitions socially, meaning that he no longer gose by she/her pronouns and a different name they haven't started taking hormones or anything like that yet
Story 2: when people wright stories showing their side they typically make it seem a little better on their side, so she was probably a lot more of a bridezilla than she's letting on
Exactly what she was thinking!!! And she already kinda seemed like a bridezilla just from her post as is!! 😅
I really feel bad for her fiance man is he in for one hell of a life
Only 25 of her closest friends? Shoot, I don't even have 25 friends!! She is a selfish, entitled, crybaby, a-hole.
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@@onni_ihaa6732 how DARE you call me out on my illiteracy
As someone who gives more then two craps about small animals like fish, I think the girl was totally in her place when she insulted the girl who basically murdered a bunch of goldfish. She even explained why goldfish can’t survive in salt water and how they literally suffocated to death, which is probably a horrible way to die. The fact that she was the one that got in trouble and not the girl who committed several accounts of animal abuse which lead to death is beyond me. It’s not fair, and it’s not right. I wish more people knew how to properly take care of small animals, and that “rescuing” them from pet stores actually just hurts the cause and you shouldn’t do it😢
story 4 - NTA like you said if husband in the end doesn't want the wedding to go through she has to respect that, but a lot of people put loads of money either to attend it or make it happen so canceling all is so wastefull
Yea, this one is a hard one
If you read the comments on the post the OP said the husband wants to postpone the wedding, making OP the AH
@@malidavison9772 isn't it saying that he is unsure what to do ? Or did I miss smf 0o0
Truthfully if I was the bride i would still do it but put aside apart of the time to honor the father so I'm not wasting a shit ton of money just because bad timing I mean it's not like she started to plan the wedding after the father death
Story 1: Absolutely not TA. The sister knew Conner was out and Conner for 2 years. She deliberately undermined his identity for her wedding. No one would've known about it if it had the correct name.
That is 100% true!! I think she was out of line!!
Yup
@@solidsnakesimulation666 the trans guy? Because he's definitely a guy. go cry about it if you're a transphobe. It's not the end of the world so why do you feel the need to disrespect someone you don't even know?
Yup
@@Samuel060does he have a penis or male dna? Or is she maybe need therapy, a persons brain isnt even close to being developed at 21 let alone at 13 yrs old.
I love the first Scorpio top. So freakin amazing.
The second one. That star was stubborn lol. But it still came out beautifully
Story 2: Maybe I'm an ah. I feel like if someone gives you an itinerary you should try and follow it. Be on time and participate. If you aren't willing stay home. It's always a hustle when trying to do a lot in a short time.
Story 3 - the mom choose her boyfriend and his kids over her kid. She kicked her son out of his house. Father's will be damn, the mother by her own actions distance herself from her son.
"25 of my closest friends"
Girl.
🤣🤣 She's clearly very popular.... Hdjensjnsusn
😅😅😅😅 I know!! I barely have 25 acquaintances 😂
Story 2: NTA It’s not unreasonable to have an itinerary. Like she said. It’s a limited amount of time in that city. And she DID let the bridesmaids know ahead of time (as the story says). We don’t know if it’s a city in their hometown. Or if they traveled states apart for this party. If they traveled further it makes sense to want to pack as much fun as possible in a short 2 day timespan.
The last one is ABSOLUTELY NTA. I volunteer at an animal rescue and my main role is to provide education, particularly about domestic vs wild animals. It's that kind of ignorance of 'releasing' pet species into the wild without ANY research what so ever that is responsible for MILLIONS of animals dying slow, completely avoidable and painful deaths. That, and wasting thousands of hours of rescuers time in an attempt to save these animals from the certain death situation they have been placed in. OP may have been a bit harsh in they way they explained things, but they are absolutely NTA for correcting willful ignorance. I could go off on this topic for hours, so sorry for the long comment.
Story 2 I don't think the bride was an AH. I've been invited to 2 bachelorette party weekends. I suppose those events were more organized than what this bride went to. We knew before getting our invites what the plans were. One of the gathering was at my husbands aunt's holiday home. She made a list of all the outdoorsy stuff the bride (her daughter) wanted us to do. It wasn't unreasonable and was really fun.
Story 1: Absolutely not. You stood up for your child. NTA
Story 2: Yeah, you're a high demand bride. YTA
Story 3: Your mom doesn't care. NTA
Story 4: It's a though situation. NTA
Story 5: She had to be told. NTA
Story one: NTA dead naming is a serious issue it is like taking away a person identity and it just brings up the fact that you don’t except them the sister is an a-hole
I agree 100%! Having a Transgender child of my own, I can honestly say I would have reacted the same way, if not worse about it. Say what you want about me, but don't mess with my kids! Family or not, my kids are more important.
@@synndill76 Your kid is lucky to have such a supportive parent
Goldfish are incredibly invasive and you should never, ever release them. But fresh water fish will eventually die in salt water because they’ll fill up with salt water.
GOOD JOB to OP.
I would give anything for my son's dad to stop deadnaming him. This is how you protect kids.
Story 2: I'm sorry 25 bridesmaids?! Whyyyy!
Literally, she gives off fake “Im the popular girl” vibe to me. I dont know who I’d want to be my other bridesmaids at my future wedding besides who I want to be my MoH.
Isn't that ridiculous 🤣🤣🤣
I don't know much about bachelorette parties, but in story two, the criticism sounded really harsh. She said nothing about if her planning catered to everyone else, but even then... I wouldn't call her the AH. I can understand where she's coming from, and I think both parties should probably apologise. They all did wrong. They should all talk about it 😊
Please explain how the brides friends did wrong?
A) On the first night, the bride was excited for the decoration reveal. A reveal that shows (I'm assuming) how much your friends care about you (typically, because they make it personally for you). In her excitement, she told them of her expectations. The friends had the chance to ask further questions, to mention downfalls or lack of skills or resources. But they didn't. They just let her walk in on that, knowing how hurt she'd be? I wouldn't like that either. I'd probably want an apology, to talk about what could be fixed next time. There is no next time though. It's screwed up forever now. Would friends do that to you? I'd be crushed. And it doesn't sound like they tried to cheer her up, explain, or make up for it at all. Or maybe she didn't ask them to. I am smelling trust issues if that is the senario, and a lack of closeness between the friends. Like, an apology would be the bare minimum, and trying to make up for it. Why wouldn't they?
B) Planned Activities and agenda. Your friend says come with me on my bride party. The first thing I'd say is that "it sounds good, but what is planned". How did they not know what was planned at the party. They could tell her in advance what they couldn't do. Might have even saved her some money for less seats at venues and such. And if the bride loved her friends, she'd probably be okay with doing a few things they wanted to do as well. She planned everything. So why didn't this happen? The bride could have asked more. But you're telling me none of her friends wanted to know or made objections to things before hand. Did they not trust the bride to be understanding? Why didn't they get more involved? If one person isn't having a good time, it usually brings down the whole experience. But they chose to bring it down anyway.
C) Final get together. They didn't wear the shirts the bride requested in advance. If the bride requested it, it was probably important to her. And if the friends didn't want to wear the shirts it was probably important to them. But there could be a compromise. I imagine they could have a photo shoot with the shirts on and then take them back off again for the rest of the night. It's one shirt (storage wise), and for barely any time. But they didn't tell the bride. So the bride couldn't ask them to bring the shirts, couldn't hear their complaints and couldn't make that compromise. If the bride apologises and tries to do better, she won't be able to if the friends don't also let her know what they are feeling and what is going on. They have to change as well.
D) Not comforting their friends. If one of my friends seems down, I'd want to comfort them. This bride is meant to feel happy, she worked hard and planned this all out. But even at home, if my friend was sad, I'd try an make them feel better. I'd put aside any alterior motives I had. I'd tell them my feelings, I'd give them the space to tell me there's. We'd compromise, or promise to talk again after a small amount of time appart to have space. Like, if someone's having a bad day, you might get them an icecream, sit with them and let them get the emotions out. It's the right thing to do. And if these friends aren't doing it for her, does that mean they aren't doing it for eachother? This skillset, this trait, is what makes people friends, and not acquaintances in my book. There is a bond built with trust and care. That seems lacking here.
E) The bride felt awful when her friends didn't turn up to many of the things she planned. How much better would the bride have felt knowing when the group would meet up again, or knowing what they were doing? I don't know about y'all, but to me, knowing when you'd see your friends again makes it easier to bare. It brings back happiness, and even excitement to merge back with them again. Just a little call or chat. A little "I'm feeling really shit right now, but I'm aiming for 11am. I really wish I could be there right now. Sorry gorgeous. But atleast I'll try and see you then." Even from one person representing 6 or 7 people... that would make it so much better. But... it just seems like they said I'm not coming. No thanks. And that would crush me too. I'd feel pretty heart broken.
And, I think the bride shouldn't hqve trashed the place. But seeing all she had pent up, I might be understanding. Explain the feelings. Clear up the assumptions. Clear communication. Compromise. Finding something better, doing better in the future. That's how things work.
So yeah. The friends should apologise, for all of that. And they should stride to do better. The bride should apologise too though. She was out of line also, especially at the end, with the house mess. But with everyone working together, that's how this would work out better. For everyone involved. 😊
For the person who knows the truth about goldfish you're only the a****** here if you listen to society which isn't something we should always do. I mean she could have done a little research She could have found someone like you who maybe could help her find a way to actually help.
Exactly!!! 💯💯💯 She did NOT have to be so rude about it!! 🤦🏽♀️
The last story had me in tears 😂😂😂😂 NTA
😅😅😅😅😅 she didn't have to be so harsh though 😂
@ResinateByChanel well she just saw a girl say she rescued fish when she actually saw her kill them, and someone's temper should not be the reason they are immediately demoted to being TA
These stories are Scorpio intense 😆😆🩵🩵🫶🏼🪷🙏🏼🙏🏼
😅😅😅😅 ikr
Story 1: Absolutely NTA OP stood up for their son and they will all remember that especially Connor
Story 2: tbf I can not give a clear judgement on this BUT if they all really bought matching shirts and agreed on most of the things they were supposed to do beforehand then OP is NTA
Because then her friend group is just a bunch of AH
But like I said I can not give a clear judgment as OP is in the process of getting married is experiencing more intense feelings so overeating is quite normal aswell as feeling intensifying which could cause sth small to turn into something big
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I really feel for the fiance about having to cancel her wedding weeks away. Some places won't let you get any sort of refund or let you apply the deposit towards a future date, and that can end up costing thousands up on thousands of dollars in losses. Also, some guests may not be able to afford an exchange in ticket and may lose the money they set aside entirely. I understand wanting to mourn, but viewing death as an exclusively sad thing is a rather western way of thinking anyway. Many cultures would rather celebrate the person's life than be sad about their passing.
First one, HELL NO YOU’RE NOT WRONG
Story 3: I think the mom cheated and the father found out so I think that’s why he cut her from the will.
Story 4: As much as I respect what the NTA Said, which I also believe is correct, you also have to keep in mind. She put in a lot of resources for this wedding. A wedding is NOT CHEAP, especially if you went all out. Of course maybe a little bit of the blame could be placed on you for not having the foresight to see that the father might be on his last legs, but now it has come to this as long as the husband is okay with this I think it's fine. And besides, sometimes we need a little bit of fun enjoying life two do accept the bad experiences.. You are wedding could provide that relief even if it's just a little bit.
I am really not understanding why the girl in Story 2 is TA. The whole point of a bachelorette weekend is to celebrate the bride to be, so you do what she wants (within reason). If I was at a bachelorette party and the bride wanted me to wear a special shirt, I would. Who cares about my outfit? Its not about me. Or if she wants to go do a bunch of things and its a tight timeline, then lets do it! I just feel like people are so selfish these days. Not everything is about you and what you want. To you, its just one fun weekend, and if it isn’t perfect for you, it doesn’t matter. But to the bride this is a lifelong memory and a hopefully once in a lifetime event for her. People should treat it that way if they agree to participate.
People are also so sensitive to bridezillas because there are so many crazy stories online, but this is not one of them. If she was saying everyone needed to go get matching tattoos, or dye their hair the same color, or spend $1,000 per day on all these activities and started crying about it, then I would say she is TA. However, it sounds like she just wanted basic support from her friends, and to just do the activities she actually wanted. I don’t see how she is TA. Although I will say that you just can’t rely on anyone these days and can’t expect to have other’s support you and try to make any day special for you. Its sad, but true. I kept my bachelorette and my wedding very small for this purpose. I didn’t care what we did or what people wore or anything, but I did just really want to feel celebrated, supported, and loved. So I only invited the people that I know would really show up for me.
Y’all are crazy 2 is absolutely NTA like bruh
About the story for the father in law passing. Catering, venues, and plane tickets normally wouldn't offer a refund, but they would offer a different date because there was a death in the family. Some places would want to see the death certificate as proof and then go a head with rescheduling. The harder one would be getting the whole guest list to change their time off from work to attend the later date. Hopefully the death of someone would be enough for a work place to agree to allow the person change the dates of their vacation, but also we have companies that literally fire people when finding out an employee has cancer. So honestly it's a gamble. Of course she should talk to her fiancé more. Get his thoughts on the matter and then go from there. He is also heavily being pushed really hard by his immediate family about nit honoring their tradition. Se he may agree with his family out if guilt. It's a tough one.
Story 1; Nope, NTA in the slightest. Maybe it's because I'm FTM too, but this is a totally reasonable reaction and I applaud you for standing up for your son. Sister needs to get a reality check.
Story 2; I can understand wanting the weekend to be about you and what you want. That being said, yes you are absolutely TA. Dream or not, you can't force what you want on people because they'd probably just be miserable, as seen on day 2. I'd be surprised if any of them stay your bridesmaids.
Story 3; Nta, they should've treated you better. Besides, your dad willed e v e r y t h i n g to you. Not to your mom or him. There has to be a reason the father had so much spite.
Story 4; I'm conflicted, but I think yta gently. See, if everything is already paid for that makes things infinitely more difficult to postpone. But, flights can be moved, same with venues and stuff like that. The 100 day morning period, while understandable, is a tad ridiculous. That's around ¼ of the year. You shouldn't call it your big day though, that's messed up. I get that it's your wedding, but it's also your husband's wedding, and just like you wouldn't want to be alone for it, he probably wouldn't either.
Story 5; Hahaha, NTA. While it's a sad story, this is hilarious ngl
Story 1: She really ruined her own wedding and her relationship with her nephew and said her brother did it.
On the locked out like absolutely not ta like it is your house not there’s you can do what you want to your house
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I don’t think that the father was wrong and that the Sister was just being a jerk
Agreed 💯
Story 2: 100% a bride zilla.
Story 2.. youre insane. Feel sorry for your hubby n friends
It's a BACHELORETTE party, you only get ONE. DAY. lady. For your wedding. The BACHELORETTE party is for bonding, taking it slow, having fun resting on the beach while you talk about terrisas crazy ex, it's not your weekend.
# 1 NTA if he is trans then the side yet needs to repercussions that idk why so many people have a problem with it like why it was so disrespectful that they called him his dead name. #2 you had too much expectations, weekend seems great and also I wouldn’t want to go to that Bridezillas wedding anyway. #3 NTA although the dad didn’t give anything to his wife, everyone WAS given to the son and the wife needs to respect that and she and the step dad has so much entitlement in my prospective because of the favoritism . #4 NTA if the wedding was before the dad pasted then you don’t have any obligation to stop the wedding and the only opinion she needs to consider is her fiancés and if he’s ok with it then that’s that. #5 NTA she is a dumb ass for quote on quote “ saving the goldfish by putting it in the ocean” the girl is right and why should the teacher and principal agree with her aren’t they suppose to be smart and realize she just killed a ton of goldfish and posted it online ? That’s bull
Story 1: NTA you are a father who is supporting you son after your sister refuses to be. It doesn't matter if it's her wedding, it is never okay to deadname someone who you KNOW to refer to as otherwise, on top of that, what do you mean his "real name" his name is Connor? And that's that! Not Nia! You have no right to say otherwise!
I don't think she was being unreasonable, seeing as how she did tell them before hand what she expected of them and they just went off on their own, in the end, leaving her out. Even knowing how much she was looking forward to this weekends and didn't even care about her plans. I get if it was too much for them. All they had to do was talk to her about toning it down a bit. But before this weekends. Maybe when she was telling them about all her plans. Those aren't real friends and she was right to re assess her friendships with them. Even if they weren't happy with her, they should have trip to work this out qhen she locked herself in her room crying. They chose to go out and have fun without her. None of them even apologize and probably don't feel like they did anything wrong. Friends shouldn't be like that. She may have gone overboard and been a bit too demanding. But the friends were clearly in the wrong here.
Story 1- absolutely not ta. Standing up for your kid is more important. That is a good father.
Story 1: as someone who falls under the trans definition if I was called by my deadname I would hate it
Story 1: NTA you got look out and do what's best for your child. If the dad made a big scene leaving maybe an AH, though if he said goodbye and left quietly NTA.
Story 2: okay, this is a hard one. I understand her point of view and that they other people agreed on it. I think she over reacted to not having everything set-up. They tried and are human. It sounds like on the first day of activities how they were trying to communicate that this amount of activities is too much for them. Though the bride to be just you agreed and this is what I want and it's about me. So, they did what they needed to do to keep sane. Take the morning off. Sometimes you need to change the plans if it's not working for the group. They might thought they could do it. But seeing a plan and doing a plan different.
Story 3: I just don't understand why he had to change the locks then if he's doing 2 weeks notice. Doesn't he need to give them a key for two weeks anyway. It doesn't make sense. He should of given the two weeks notice then changed the locks. Though i think it should be a month notice. If they didn't move out by then just move their stuff out.
Story 4: weddings are super expensive and they would have to still pay for cancelling last moment. Though check with the fiance what he wants to do.
Story 5: OP a bit of an AH in how the message was delivered not what the overall message is. Calling someone dumb is not going to help your case. Just tell them what they did wrong. No need for name calling.
I would have made a scene and it would absolutely not be wrong to make a scene, sister is being horribly transphobic and deadnaming and misgendering this guy's son, and it's not like this is a new thing she's still adjusting to (I told my family about my new name about a month ago and they mess up sometimes and I understand it) he's been out for two years
3rd story, nta, but you couldn't done it a little nicer? Maybe tell them that they can either get a new place or pay rent and stay in their current place. Cause frankly I don't think it's fair to kick you out and treat you like disposable when it's technically your house. And they're living their for free?
Exactly why he did the right thing imo. she sounds like a terrible mother and he probably wanted nothing to do with any of them and he shouldn’t be required to just because she birthed him. Respectfully ofc
@Ashley Ray I didn't say he was in the wrong, but you catch more flies with honey rather then vinegar
S1-Not the AH, sister is AH!!
S2-Definitely the AH
S3-messy
S4-agree w/you.
S5-…
Story 1: Definitely NTA. As a person who also has a dead name, it hurts very much when people deadname me. It serves as a painful reminder that in certain aspects, I will never completely be a man..
Story 5: NTA. The girl was completely in the right and I see it unfair how she got suspended for calling out a girl who is playing a "hero" when she is just seeking attention. She basically got away with animal abuse which led to a death of an animal.
Story 3: the son is 100% justified in what he did and they are just paying their karma for what they did to him over the years. I don't agree with you said at the end of the story telling. He is 100000000000%in the right and is not being too much. The mother obviously did some terrible shit including making him move out. You tend to make the victum sound like the ahole. Fix yourself. Your becoming one of the ahole.
For story 2 I don’t think she was the AH she was the bride everyone knew what she wanted and it was for her since she was the bride and she wanted it to be perfect. I understand how she wants it to be perfect. It’s a big moment and you only get it once (for the most part) so I don’t think she’s the AH.
No your not that is just childish for your mom to kick you out.I fell like you should of changed the locks on her because just because she got a new boyfriend doesn’t mean she should treat you differently.
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She want you to apologize for her killing the fish and you telling her like yeah you did not go about it in a good day but it is her fault not yours
Story 1: NTA! Even if you don’t support trans people you gotta agree that this was dramatic and if it was that much of an issues just don’t invite that family.
You expect someone to just sit back and let you dead name their child??? That’s insane expectations even for a wedding😒✋
Story 4 NTA The father probably suspected something was going on and was more than likely right the mother has relationship with another man with kids and moved him in just two months later that is just too much of a coincidence and to immediately starting to pressure her own son into giving a property to this said Man means the father probably had reasons to set it so the son could only have access to the property by the age 21 so as to not cause something like this keep in mind the mother is doing this to 15 year old and more as OP is growing up she continues to distance and single out her own son from what is supposed to be family vacations and then throws her son out of technically his own house I can't say the the mother didn't deserve it as they say what comes around goes around
story 4 NTA I understand someone's religion or beliefs but plain tickets Venus and catering already sound expensive with little to no chance of refunds this close in date family and guests are flying abroad and probably already have time off set if not vacation days which most companies or business will not let you ruse and setting 100 days of no celebrating for morning does sound extreme does that mean they don't even celebrate there own birthday's or any personal holiday's like anniversary during that time as well and who's to say the father in law would even want his passing to stop his son from strating his own family I know I wouldn't mourning is just as much about celebrating the life a passed love one has had as it is grieving and the groom sounds like he's being guilt ridden into making a decision he doesn't want to make
1-NTA the sister needs to learn how to be supportive
2-everyone sucks here
3-everyone sucks here
4-everyone sucks here
5-everyone sucks here
Story 3. I get it but they could have been nicer and educating the girl instead of calling her a dumbass. Or they could have apologized and after explained to her the danger. After their moment of rage. But idk
Not wrong
I am all with the person in the last story. That's why we get invasive species because people release animals in environments where they have no natural predators to keep them in check. And besides, poor goldfish!!! Thta really isn't helping them!! Very ignorant 🙄 😒 😑
Yeah
1: yes and no
Yes because if you didn't take them to therapy about the name thing I have a problem with a celebrity that caused a lot of suicide and I was miss spelling things on purpose in school but I learned to cope with therapy of course I am not trans but I understand how bad the name thing can get the celebrities name isn't the same as mine but it is something I couldn't get away from for a while and other people have that name I need to tell myself it's those people are not her and I am good
No because you stood up for your kids
2 yes and no
yes because you know them so what did expect your friends to change overnight and no because they were not even trying to celebrate with you
3 no absolutely not it's your house and you dad saw this coming and protected you from it
4 yes absolutely yes you shouldn't be marrying anyone if you only think of yourself and your side of things
5 no absolutely not let them expel you but before you leave tell your friends to start a rumor that the girl killed you
You should have to apologize for preventing this dumbass from harming animals and the environment
I'm sorry but came out as trans at 10?! Hell no. Let him wait till he's 16 or 17 to decide
I'm not transphobic or anything but I think that is way to young
He transitions socially, meaning that he no longer gose by she/her pronouns and a different name they haven't started taking hormones or anything like that yet
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