@@BusiswaG guurl lol like it’s a lesson learned the hard way. We all want to see the good in everyone but when it comes to ur main money….. just don’t…smile, be polite, clock in and clock out. Period.
That's what I always say esp where I work...u will develop relationships bcuz ur there a lot but if u didn't already have friends, don't xpect 2 find them there...*I work n transportation *...
Yep- they true tried to get my mother fired cause she was not socializing with anyone. Luckily the manager loves my mom, so she was fine. You have to just be careful what you say. 😊
@@Nerey1997 I’m definitely a team player and I get along with people. I’m just a quiet person that stays clear of drama. I don’t feel the need to tell all of my personal business and that’s what they don’t like. I’m not on social media so nobody can see what’s happening in my life. I come to work on time, keep my mouth shut and go home.🤷🏾♀️
I was told I was mean for not befriending co-workers. I said, I keep my work relationships and personal relationships seperate. Doesn’t mean I don’t like my co-workers, just we don’t have to break bread like that. Cause anytime I got too comfortable it came back to bite me. As far as posting work things online, unless it’s the company page, I don’t post anything.
I am the weirdo that usually keeps to herself at work, I’ve made a great friend with the another weirdo at work like 5 years ago (we don’t work there anymore) and we’re still friends and talk regularly.
That part, where you said "thinking that adults were kind people. If you don't have trauma." Those were some powerful words. I came into the workplace scene all bubbly, bouncy, happy-go-lucky & people resent me for it.
In a world where we play the trauma Olympics a lot, don’t feel bad. I don’t get how suffering is a competition, please don’t let weird people change who you are.
I always try to be nice to my coworkers just because I was always taught that you should be because you never know when you’re going to need them. My last boss used to think I never passed on his instructions because people would never do what I told them to do. It wasn’t until another employee told him to his face; “no, she tells them everything you told her. She walks them around to point out everything that needs to be done. They tell her they are going to do it but absolutely don’t.”
Yep. Be kind, offer to help (WHEN WITHIN YOUR SCOPE - this makes you look responsible and others are more likely to want to “pay you back” with a good word), refuse to engage in gossip. A reputation of “professional and polite” is about as safe as you can get.
I don't do staff parties or get togethers. No one from work can tell me anything about any kind of "trip" for any reason. If we don't get along in a work setting, what makes you think that I want to be around you in apersonal setting. 🤔🤨
My supervisor forced us to sit together at an event so we could look like a team. Mind you I was a admin in a male prison and this lady was talking about me to my coworkers and the prisoners and wrote me up for mistakes she made.Then when I quit she proceeded to corner me with her body with prisoners in the room. I had to push past her to get out. Thank you God because I was so scared and couldn’t stand her. I was so sweet to her and she really hurt me and it made me bitter for a while.
@@se2664Work events aren't too different from "team building" outside of work-- you're still expected to show up and pretend to bond with the same people I don't get dinner or drinks with my coworkers at any of my jobs because we're not friends-- we're coworkers. I'm not trying to get into their personal lives or invite them into mine; the whole world doesn't need to be in my business.
When I was a teen, one of my co-workers was talking to me, she paused then said "I'm not your friend, I'm just your co-worker" before continuing. Like damn that was super rude but as a young and new worker it made me become way more reserved than I already was. She was there to teach me that life lesson before I had to learn it on my own I guess.
I had a supervisor years ago who always tried to be over familiar. I always felt like she was fishing for things to use against me at a later date. Luckily I was raised to never tell anyone my personal business including co-workers and supervisors. Never use EAP (employee assistance programs) to vent about co-workers. Supervisors or your job because they will tell your HR department. I've seen this happen to a co workers.
I learned that if you don’t talk to people to and extent you can get the boot. I tell people what I don’t mind eveyone else knowing when it comes to my job. I try to be friendly they ask questions I’m be try vague about eveything. I work from home so I really don’t have that problem, but I do talk to people- I am just really careful what I talk about.😊
One of the things that annoy me is when they say that this is a "safe space," and then when you open, they're ready to dictate and put you down. As a first timer in the workplace,I learned that first thing, so I know now.
It’s so weird to me. I’m in my early twenties and I’m kind and sweet to everyone I meet at work. I genuinely care about people! But there’s a coworker of mine who for some reason just does not like me and is pretty much a bully with the facade of “looking out for me.” I know deep down she’s a snake and she’s went behind my back to my manager about what I’m doing or “not” doing but because of who I truly am, there’s nothing she can say that has backing. Yes, I’m young and in fact, I’m the youngest employee in my office!! I have the heart where I do want to be friends with some of my coworkers but I hate and appreciate that this video is just outlining the truth. Call me naive (I truly think I am), but it’s crazy how people don’t have the same heart 🥺
Please take heed to this video. I’m in my late twenties and I wish I hadve known this in my early 20s or late teens when I first started working. Also, learn now that everybody is not you and don’t have your heart. The earlier you understand that, the easier it will be for you. That goes for life in general, not just work. To this day, I still have to remind myself that not everybody thinks like me or has my heart. Realizing that early on will save you a lot of heartache and prevent you from wasting time trying to figure out why someone did something or giving them the benefit of the doubt. Most of the time they just don’t have your morality or heart and just do bad things because that’s just who they are and how they operate.
Keep being kind to your coworkers. It’s hard to spread gossip about someone when they remain consistently pleasant to those around them. You don’t have to burn yourself out being overly friendly, just polite greetings when walking by.
Oh they hate youngins especially the bitter older ladies not all but in my experience most. I felt like I was getting hazed everyday I went to work and would cry on the drive home everyday and before bed thinking about the next day, it was worse than middle school. Oh and not just the older ones even women that were only a couple years older than me.
Rule #1: Don’t socialize w/ coworkers. I gently turn down all invitations, except for company parties with formal invitations that I consider part of the job, avoiding to bring family. Rule #2: If co-workers start gossiping/complaining bout the company owner or the business, I just remove myself from that scene. The bosses usually know who the gossip sources are, so better not be associated with the drama. And what toxic coworkers think about me is none of my business ;)
I SCREAMEDDDDDDDDDD when I saw the title. I've been MF BURNEDDDDDD hunni! People think I'm sooo quiet and reserved, but it's only because other people ruined my bubbly and friendly personality. I've completely shut people out at work now.
This is so true! Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way to also never work with your friends you already know. Right after highschool, a girl I had been best friends with for like 8 years at the time got me a job with her. It was cool at first, we enjoyed working together and had small amounts of fun during the work day. Then, people started coming up and telling me to watch out for her because she talks bad about me nonstop, just constantly saying hateful things about me. I ignored it until I was up for a promotion & my boss called me in to talk to me and make sure I'd be up for it because my "friend" had decided to tell him that I complain all the time about the job & she didn't think I could handle the responsibility. For context, she was assistant manager at the time & the general manager was letting her know he wanted to promote me to a shift lead. Needless to say, we are no longer friends & haven't been for a few years now. Still wish her messy self the best tho 😉
The reason there is so much drama in the nursing field is because it’s where all the mean girls went and now the majority of nurses aren’t there to help people. Couldn’t tell you how many girls that just treated people terribly got into nursing.
I was just web surfing, but when I say this video, and I HAD to stop and make a comment, and, give my own experience. I used to work @ this optical Co. in NYC and every morning one of the higher ups would walk down the row of computer workers and I kid you not....as he passed each woman, he would squeeze her breast, from one woman to the next. I was the new girl, so I guess he was trying to feel me out (NO PUN INTENDED) . After the first week of work, I asked the girl that sat next to me about it. I made sure that I told her that this was against the law and she did not have to put up with this behavior. I asked her if she tolerated it because she did not want to lose her job or what. Strangely, she just giggled at me. But in 2 days, I did NOT have a time card to punch because she turned around and told the higher up what I said to her and he did NOT take to kindly to it so my @$$ had to go....................And I Did. All because I gave her advice. After that day, I truly remember saying to myself that I would NEVER say anything to anyone in my workplace ever again.
1:40 my god yes!!! I worked with at least a dozen of those types, even from someone who's in their 40's beefing with 20 year olds about coming to work late yet they did the same thing they were arguing about! And if its not that, fighting. Can i just go to work, do want i need to, and go home without the drama and stalkers 🙄
I thought my co worker was my friend then she got fired & when she left, she left the mug i gave her that she would always say she loved. So when she tried to help me talk to her lawyer about the “wrongful” firing, I blocked her ass & the lawyer 😊. When a friend I brought into a sales job where SHE MADE GREAT $ & upgraded her whole life, was messing with the manager & started acting different. Would even have him give her sales to make her #’s better. So when I found a better job…I let HR know since she had dropped me as a friend anyway & they sent a private undercover employee & fired both of them 😂 My great co worker who still worked there at the time called me the second it happened & we both just laughed 😂 When I tell you God will give you a front row seat, period.
I have storiesss!!! Always got my lick back thoooo 😂 & I have made some great long time friends from co workers! Don’t ever say never. Me & another co worker both quit this shitty company once, we are still great friends and hangout ever other month when we aren’t too busy! 😊 (BUT I do want to say none of talk or follow or deal with any of the ppl who use to work there so maybe that’s the loop hole?) 😂
Sooooo I was once pulled in to a meeting with my department head and "manager" bc I was told I was too quiet. She then said "All you do is do your work and go home." The dumbest 💩💩I've ever been told in my life! Like Bih...wtf I'm pose to do??? So even if you mind your business and stay in your lane...that can still be in issue! Needless to say I left that job as swiftly as possible.
I have such a great relationship with my work friends. we get excited to work together, it makes the shift go by faster, and then we leave and only text each other if we have shit to say about work.
i worked as a 911 dispatcher for 15 years. at year 13 i got really sick and had to transfer to another area for treatment. i made it to my new area and my old coworkers had sent flowers to my new dispatch center to wish me good luck. i was medically forced to retire at year 15 and i still meet up with my some of my old coworkers a few times a year for meals and fun. we constantly check on each other and have good friendships. I'm not sure if it's the nature of the job, or just that we all bonded over that amount of years, but they're some of the best friends I've had as an adult. we do exist!❤
I’m sorry that happened to you, but it does seem like you had a good experience and I wish it was like that for most of us. You were extremely lucky. I feel like I have that experience sometimes, but I am still so scared and hesitant of people I’d choose not to let them in my life because I am if we get an argument or of anything confrontation cause I hate it. My heart is broken. I got so depressed in my last job because me and a coworker acquaintance just got into this big argument because I was Emotional and on something that I just was acting out of character and I felt they hated me and it was hard for me to work with them for about three good months we eventually got OK but we never got back to being as friendly as we used to be in at hertz I hate being hurt even if it’s my fault not my fault it’s just I feel so guilty and eats me alive so I just don’t Want to interact and get too close. I don’t mind meeting for lunch and hanging out every few months to catch up on everything, but I want to keep my distance otherwise however if I had that type of relationship at work, if we did we make life so much easier to bear. My mom had good work friends like that. She had two really good ones for 30 years and God bless them. They were amazing ladies and I just I hate the world come we’re all enemies now.
My husband had this great job and he found out one of his really good friends was about to sign a 20 year non compete and a 20 year NDA. My husband got him a job at his employment. When he got promoted, he started lying and causing problems and my husband got demoted for his friend to take his spot and just caused sooooo many problems. I’m so grateful that experience is over and my husband left. Don’t ever bring your friends to your employment as they are the first people to screw you over!
I work for a company where we transport school students. At the end of the day I get to take the vehicle home. And at the beginning of the day, I leave from my house go pick up each child. Take them where they need to go and then come back home. I never have to go to the head office to have an encounter with employees except on Fridays to turn in my time clock. And even on Friday, you get to go in the building whenever it’s convenient for you so you’re technically not forced to have an encounter with other employees. So what I’m saying is I never do with coworkers unless we’re having a team meeting. And during that meeting, I notice they look at me funny based on the questions I asked the instructor.
Fun fact, you can have co-worker friends if you have halfway decent interpersonal skills. Had some of my best new experiences thanks to coworkers. Obviously, you have the at work friends and the ones you hang out with outside of work. Also, "never overshare"....the military would like to say otherwise, I can know someone for like an hour and know their whole life story.
The company wants you to bond like family to ppl who can quit or be fired in the next 30 mins! So be pleasant, cooperative, respectful, agreeable BUT DO NOT FORGET- when the job ends- so does “ the family/friendship”.
I had a coworker and we were really cool and would hang out outside of work. Fast forward 4 years later she puts me onto another better paying job while i was in the college.
This was an awesome post and I completely agree with the topic. I am fortunate to have 2 former coworkers that have been my closest friends for years. But that is an exception and not the rule. I still tell people that work is work and your private life should stay private. 😊
The Nursing thing is 10000% true! I have 2 or 3 nurses I don't work with anymore that we can check up on each other and give love. Unfortunately it's harder for people that don't eat raisins in their potato salad...
I’m sorry. But the First Lady is wrong. She’s not supposed to be on live while working. Come on now. Don’t act brand new. Is it shitty someone ratted her out? Sure but she wrong too. Wtf
Oh my... I don't have coworkers but I have to go once a week to a company and spend the day in meetings to update them in what I am doing and what they need to do but girl... THE GOSSIPS THERE! Is the longest day day in my week and I have to prepare myself and I feel so happy when I finish and go home. I don't know how you all can handle that type of enviroment on the daily basis. You have all my respect.
Absolutely, I give them basic info that I would tell a stranger. Short answers like, no,oh, and yep, that leaves them uninterested. The weather is nice... .
I don’t believe in friends in the workplace or trusting anyone especially in the workplace and have had nothing but panic attacks on drive homes from people at the workplace BUT my partner is my one and only real friend now family I’ve ever made at a jobs brother. So I met my husband through my fav sis in law who was my coworker first and that’s how we met initially. But even so I will still say to never trust nobody or get close to nobody at work. Meeting her was a fluke when I was young and naive just starting out and chose to trust her at that time. So idk what that says maybe that there are some good people in the world but they’re really hard to meet in the workplace. Very rare.
Former HR here. I tell everyone thats "bullied" in a workship. Lie, lie, lie!!! I know we shouldn't have to do this but, we (✊🏼) have to c.y.a. so give them what they want your business. But you dont have to be truthful. So i tell them lie. Give them your fairytale story life. It pisses them off if you're not basic or happy. That's my ted talk. Ty.
I agree with EVERYTHING said. Misery LOVES company. I don't need their hate. Also, when they start griping about someone at work, DON'T participate. First, they will make you swear to keep their gossip secret then.. They WILL tell EVERYONE what you said VERBATIM. 2-faced people are the most charming fakes in the world
I really I don't understand why is it so hard for these bloody "adults" to just be a decent humanbeing...why they feel the need to make so many enemies and then turn around acting like a paranoid victim when it's their own doing in the first place
I’m best friends with 2 coworkers from previous workplaces. The workplaces were so terrible that we were each others only safety and support system. There’s some really rancid stuff that goes on with managers in power as well. It’s truly scary the way amount of power think they have a hold over people who need a job, you should cover that as well!
Some ppl peaked in high school and never grew past the mindset. Those are the ones who are snakes in the workplace and for some reason, many of them end up in management. They always think you want their job or want to undermine them, even when you are minding your business and doing your job efficiently and effectively, and have even saved them from facing their managers and supervisors when they screw up. I personally never had issues with ppl at the same level as me at work, it was always assistant managers and department managers whose butts I bailed out when they messed up scheduling or orders or what have you, or when they took on huge orders with only an hour or two to complete when company policy said a day or two in advance was needed. One of em drove me into burnout so bad I quit. Dude was mad aggressive, too. Got three inches from my face screaming at me once when a blizzard started and I needed to leave early cuz the bridges I had to cross to get home tended to freeze over during such weather. And guess what? They did. How funny. Meanwhile he let ppl that lived 15 minutes away go home before me, the one with the longest commute. Nah, keep it superficial, cordial, don't rise to bait, and document document document. Get HR involved first thing. Sure, they are there to protect the company, but the paper trail will be in your favor if you are wrongfully terminated, retaliated against, or the work environment becomes hostile and they do nothing about it. I wish I had had more of a backbone back then. And for gods sakes, avoid any workplace that touts it's like one big family. Huge red flags. They have no understanding of healthy boundaries and you will be ostracized if you try to set and maintain them. That is code for "You are stuck here so don't rock the boat or we'll toss ya overboard and watch you drown." Read up on your rights as a worker, know company policy like the back of your hand, and protect yourself. Work ain't worth petty drama. Leave that to 'reality' television.
I work on a unit with nurses but they’re not petty with each other. Other floors I’ve worked though, a whole other story. A lot of the nurses at the hospital where I work are young.
I am a nurse too and it is all ages that suck. Those old in age nurses can be rough, no matter if they are new grads or have been in the game for 40 years. Not all nurses of course, but I met some crazy lol
This is so true. I had a woman i shared my locker with at walmart when i was 19. She was nice to my face then the one time I helped her (and I should not have) she went to management saying how I wasn't doing my job and this and that. Management never talked to me about it but I was told that. This woman was almost 50 and was mad she didn't get Thanksgiving off but I did, because I requested it off months in advance. I had another "work bestie" that only seemed to want to sell me things (that i didn't need nor want) and once she quit the job she stopped talking to me. Was calling me her best friend for awhile and I was like 😬 we ain't best friends...we ain't even really friends no more.
Self employed babysitter here …. My boss met her best friend that she considers an aunt to her kids (and I called her aunt too lol). She moved away a few months ago after her husband died and instead of moving near family she chose to move in the same neighborhood as her best friend. And they still work together!!!
💯!! Im a business owner, and #1 place I get information is from the staff. That person EVERYONE trust with all their business is the same people that cone tell me EVERYTHING.
The biggest snakes ever out there on the job is in the healthcare. They are the worst I’ve been in the healthcare for 26 years. I am recently going through something because the lady snaked me like she was my friend. I didn’t even tell her my business she went to HR made up a whole bunch of lies about me and now I am sitting on administrative leave getting a check
I had a coworker that once we both moved onto other jobs, have remained friends. We were both the type to keep to ourselves, do the job and go home. There came a time when we both needed pep talks about the job and provided that to each other, (though guarded because we both knew not to easily trust anyone). This is a rare occurrence to find a good ally at a job, where on the other hand ‘snake’ like behavior is definitely the majority. Keep new ppl in your life ( inside and outside of work) at arms length, listen more than talk and OBSERVE.
i hear this and understand it all; but I think there’s a personality type that can combat this easily, and i may have that personality. i have made so many friends at work, some i talk to til this day and some I don’t, but I’m someone who doesn’t back down from bullying and also I lead with confidence and respect; I can’t be snaked at work because I’m very clear with boundaries as it pertains to work friendships; I will respectfully cut you off. There’s a harsh reality here that we spend a lot of time with these people; it’s very hard to have a life outside of work. if you’re in a career field you love, don’t shy away from making friends. Be intentional about your boundaries and yes do not overshare, but don’t dismiss genuine connections.
Me and my coworker bestie who os offically my friend, feel like we're in the twilight zone when we step through those doors. The things we hear about, the underhanded business, the need to gossip when there's nothing going on, the lazinessn and playing on coworkers faces, its exhausting for those who want to get their job done but has to pick up slack for others or be complained at when the real evil doers dont get the complaints unless its from managers that are on ur side.
Ive had terrible coworkers and bosses. I do have a close friend that i met through work years ago, we're still strong. She told me i was the one of the best workers there, and i do consider myself a hardworker and genuine person. Crazy part is, shes also told me the MUTIPLE people who have talked behind my back, told her they didnt like me (out of nowhere), and a manager who pulled her to the side and told her not to hang out with me anymore. I was a very friendly person, i worked in a college and the students LOVED me. They would write me letters, and give me gifts, and i would also do the same for them. I loved that job. But the weird coworkers and managers were extreme haters. Its crazy how ppl can treat you like that when you havent done anything to them.
Luckily I haven’t been burned by trusted coworkers, but after experiencing the cloak and dagger style office politics at my last job (drove me to quit) I decided it would be my policy moving forward to be reserved with both my personal details and my skill level at work. I decided that because I realized one day I will probably end up trusting someone I shouldn’t and be in an even messier situation.
Im a stoner and i refuse to tell other coworkers even the ones that smoke weed, what i do on my own time. You never know, they could just be collecting incriminating information about you.
Overall I've pretty good experiences with work friends. Those that I got close enough to call friends outside of the work space are still my closest friends. However, for three years i worked in the public K-12 school system at district level and man... That is where a lot of the things people spoke about in this video were on FULL display. I left after three years and went back into the clinical mental health field. Now i work for myself:) Just have discernment, observe people, be mindful, dont say anything you wouldnt want repeated, and do you job.
When You pick up on the fake sh*t and peep game then adjust your vibe and act accordingly, your labeled as having an attitude or “not being a team player”. 🤬 We get paid to be fake with customers not eachother.
My best friend of 24 years was a coworker AND she was later my boss at a different job. And my other closest friend of 18 years was my nurse during a hospital stay. We exist!
Funny story: I worked for Starbucks for almost 3.5 years, my manager went out for paternity leave and when he gets back fired me for something I didn’t do. I’m 100000% sure this coworker who had a vendetta against me took advantage of the fact he wasn’t in contact with the store while out, going to him with the intention to get me fired telling him I was “cursing infront of customers” when I have never. He even said he couldn’t vouch for the claims. Never work for Starbucks, they will screw you over in every way possible.
If you’re in the art/animation industry. . . You have to be friends with people you can’t just go to work and go home or you will be fired within three months😢 it is disgustingly clicky because those people have apparently never mentally matured past high school 🤬
10:53 honestly this is me😂, i don’t like 90% of them but i don’t talk about them with other coworkers. why would i say anything when they sometimes do my job for me?! using ppl and keeping is professional go hand in hand boo
I'm the type of employee that walks into work and don't speak to anyone. In retrospect, it upsets people. People hate when you don't acknowledge them. It instantly made me a target and I was always the butt of jokes.
I have a wonderful best friend whom I worked with for 12 years, and yes…we are both RNs. We helped each other out so much when we worked the same shift, and we made sure we picked each other for first and second call partners when we had weekend assignments. We made our very stressful work environment much less so, and we had a lot of fun doing it. We haven’t worked together for ten years since then but, we are still close. We even fly back and forth across the US to visit each other since I moved from the west coast to the East. Thank God to be blessed with awesome work friends!
My gf (when pregnant) was asked how the “maggot” was doing, was asked to give them samples of her breast milk for soaps and lavishes after she delivered to put on their partner’s genitalia as well as being told she would do better on a casting couch for adult videos. Yeah, she works from home now and takes care of our children. I’m not exposing her to that trauma again.
My best friend of 20+ years I met at my job! She was my coworker. The difference between now and then is that back then, social media wasn't a thing. Smart phones weren't in the market yet. Nowadays, everyone has something to say about others and never tell them to their faces. It's truly a different world from back then. Today, the world is 10 times more trifling. Protect your peace!❤
I’m currently dealing with this at a store that’s named money free. The store manager legit hangs out with the employees from other assistant managers to cashiers and wonder why she doesn’t have control over her store.
Going through this with my manager and Sr reps right now. 1st time being under people I neither trust nor respect. It’s been 9 months and I’m looking for an exit. My mental health is much more important
I have a work friend group that we still talk even though most of us left the job. We commiserated about how abused we were but we really get along. We go to theme parks and have parties.
Wish it was that easy. Not saying be friends but if you want to be that person at work that keeps quiet and only says what is needed, be prepared for a meeting with your supervisor asking if you are ok, you never speak, people are uncomfortable around you, maybe this isn't a good fit, etc, etc. Ask me how I know.
I have made some of the best relationships in my 28 years of Nursing. I have worked in 2 ICUs and a Preop. We were a family in each situation. We cried, prayed, and celebrated together at work and after hours. I am now a nurse practitioner and still have dear friends from jobs I had more than 20 years ago.
PSA to anyone who needs to hear it :🗣️🎙️ YOU HAVE NO FRIENDS AT WORK!
Unfortunately some people still won’t hear it lol
@@BusiswaG guurl lol like it’s a lesson learned the hard way. We all want to see the good in everyone but when it comes to ur main money….. just don’t…smile, be polite, clock in and clock out. Period.
Debatable. There are some. It's just too many snakes.
Yup
That's what I always say esp where I work...u will develop relationships bcuz ur there a lot but if u didn't already have friends, don't xpect 2 find them there...*I work n transportation *...
…and when you’re minding your own business there’s a problem with that too🙄
So true!
OMG, yes! Such a pain especially as an introvert.
Yep- they true tried to get my mother fired cause she was not socializing with anyone. Luckily the manager loves my mom, so she was fine. You have to just be careful what you say. 😊
Exactly then you’re not a team player or don’t get along with others
@@Nerey1997 I’m definitely a team player and I get along with people. I’m just a quiet person that stays clear of drama. I don’t feel the need to tell all of my personal business and that’s what they don’t like. I’m not on social media so nobody can see what’s happening in my life. I come to work on time, keep my mouth shut and go home.🤷🏾♀️
What really sucks is you can’t trust making friendships in a place that you are gonna spend most of your life.
It totally SUCKS! But I’m at peace with it now! I learned the hard way🥴
Yep especially school one day after you graduate high school you probably won’t see your friend again or even have a relationship with them no more
I’m that weird coworker….lol… because they really aren’t my friends.
Spend most of your life? lolol 😂
@@barbie6695 u bad at math, kido?
I will build a fake personality and life at work 😭🤣
😂😂😂😂
It was the best years of my life. I only added 2 people after I left
I was told I was mean for not befriending co-workers. I said, I keep my work relationships and personal relationships seperate. Doesn’t mean I don’t like my co-workers, just we don’t have to break bread like that. Cause anytime I got too comfortable it came back to bite me. As far as posting work things online, unless it’s the company page, I don’t post anything.
Yup I’m not a recruiter. I only would reshare jobs from my company on LinkedIn. Nothing else
I got written up for being introverted ar work. 😮
Be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
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Law Firms are a disaster! They make middle school look fun.
5:00 When they sayy.. "we're like family here.... " THAT'S a red flag
BIG RED FLAG!!!!!!!
That's true
I've definitely heard that at work 😂
I remember my manager ordering pizza asking if I’m gonna stay and have fun while I have perfectly good food at home
That and when they say, "TEAM WORK, MAKES THE DREAM WORK" fake af 😊
I am the weirdo that usually keeps to herself at work, I’ve made a great friend with the another weirdo at work like 5 years ago (we don’t work there anymore) and we’re still friends and talk regularly.
You’re not weird for keeping to yourself, THEY’RE WEIRD FOR TREATING THE WORKPLACE LIKE A PLAYGROUND 😭
If you ain't doing your job, 😂 I am NOT COVERING for you.😂✔️✔️
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@@gigi4874-w3w but then you're not a "team player" 🤦♀️🤨🙄
That part, where you said "thinking that adults were kind people. If you don't have trauma." Those were some powerful words. I came into the workplace scene all bubbly, bouncy, happy-go-lucky & people resent me for it.
SAME!!!
SAME!!!!
In a world where we play the trauma Olympics a lot, don’t feel bad.
I don’t get how suffering is a competition, please don’t let weird people change who you are.
Absolutely. They ask the asinine question: "Why are you so happy?". I'm like wtf?
Folks will do anything to survive at work. Mostly because they live paycheck to paycheck and have no backup plan.
It’s pathetic. Don’t throw coworkers underhand bus
survival
Yes. In nursing, big bullies. The young fresh out of school , go to work and do not share anything with your co workers. Ever.
That's where all the mean girls go
Nurses are brutal to each other. Very passive aggressive and nutters.
My coworker said 8 to 4 out the door
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Companies that look at your personal texts should be able to be held liable legally
If you're sending texts on a company issued device, they own them. Full stop.
Separate work and home, keep them apart.
I always try to be nice to my coworkers just because I was always taught that you should be because you never know when you’re going to need them.
My last boss used to think I never passed on his instructions because people would never do what I told them to do. It wasn’t until another employee told him to his face; “no, she tells them everything you told her. She walks them around to point out everything that needs to be done. They tell her they are going to do it but absolutely don’t.”
Yep. Be kind, offer to help (WHEN WITHIN YOUR SCOPE - this makes you look responsible and others are more likely to want to “pay you back” with a good word), refuse to engage in gossip. A reputation of “professional and polite” is about as safe as you can get.
I don't do staff parties or get togethers. No one from work can tell me anything about any kind of "trip" for any reason. If we don't get along in a work setting, what makes you think that I want to be around you in apersonal setting. 🤔🤨
I don’t mind attending work events. I’d rather do that then try hanging out with coworkers outside of work
My supervisor forced us to sit together at an event so we could look like a team. Mind you I was a admin in a male prison and this lady was talking about me to my coworkers and the prisoners and wrote me up for mistakes she made.Then when I quit she proceeded to corner me with her body with prisoners in the room. I had to push past her to get out. Thank you God because I was so scared and couldn’t stand her. I was so sweet to her and she really hurt me and it made me bitter for a while.
@@se2664Work events aren't too different from "team building" outside of work-- you're still expected to show up and pretend to bond with the same people
I don't get dinner or drinks with my coworkers at any of my jobs because we're not friends-- we're coworkers. I'm not trying to get into their personal lives or invite them into mine; the whole world doesn't need to be in my business.
Everything about this❤
When I was a teen, one of my co-workers was talking to me, she paused then said "I'm not your friend, I'm just your co-worker" before continuing. Like damn that was super rude but as a young and new worker it made me become way more reserved than I already was. She was there to teach me that life lesson before I had to learn it on my own I guess.
I had a supervisor years ago who always tried to be over familiar. I always felt like she was fishing for things to use against me at a later date. Luckily I was raised to never tell anyone my personal business including co-workers and supervisors. Never use EAP (employee assistance programs) to vent about co-workers. Supervisors or your job because they will tell your HR department. I've seen this happen to a co workers.
I learned that if you don’t talk to people to and extent you can get the boot. I tell people what I don’t mind eveyone else knowing when it comes to my job. I try to be friendly they ask questions I’m be try vague about eveything. I work from home so I really don’t have that problem, but I do talk to people- I am just really careful what I talk about.😊
That’s the key!
One of the things that annoy me is when they say that this is a "safe space," and then when you open, they're ready to dictate and put you down. As a first timer in the workplace,I learned that first thing, so I know now.
It’s so weird to me. I’m in my early twenties and I’m kind and sweet to everyone I meet at work. I genuinely care about people! But there’s a coworker of mine who for some reason just does not like me and is pretty much a bully with the facade of “looking out for me.” I know deep down she’s a snake and she’s went behind my back to my manager about what I’m doing or “not” doing but because of who I truly am, there’s nothing she can say that has backing. Yes, I’m young and in fact, I’m the youngest employee in my office!! I have the heart where I do want to be friends with some of my coworkers but I hate and appreciate that this video is just outlining the truth. Call me naive (I truly think I am), but it’s crazy how people don’t have the same heart 🥺
Jealous. You're probably prettier, and you're definitely less miserable and sour.
Please take heed to this video. I’m in my late twenties and I wish I hadve known this in my early 20s or late teens when I first started working. Also, learn now that everybody is not you and don’t have your heart. The earlier you understand that, the easier it will be for you. That goes for life in general, not just work. To this day, I still have to remind myself that not everybody thinks like me or has my heart. Realizing that early on will save you a lot of heartache and prevent you from wasting time trying to figure out why someone did something or giving them the benefit of the doubt. Most of the time they just don’t have your morality or heart and just do bad things because that’s just who they are and how they operate.
Keep being kind to your coworkers. It’s hard to spread gossip about someone when they remain consistently pleasant to those around them. You don’t have to burn yourself out being overly friendly, just polite greetings when walking by.
Oh they hate youngins especially the bitter older ladies not all but in my experience most. I felt like I was getting hazed everyday I went to work and would cry on the drive home everyday and before bed thinking about the next day, it was worse than middle school.
Oh and not just the older ones even women that were only a couple years older than me.
We exist. It’s rare but some coworkers are amazing and for life
Rule #1: Don’t socialize w/ coworkers. I gently turn down all invitations, except for company parties with formal invitations that I consider part of the job, avoiding to bring family. Rule #2: If co-workers start gossiping/complaining bout the company owner or the business, I just remove myself from that scene. The bosses usually know who the gossip sources are, so better not be associated with the drama. And what toxic coworkers think about me is none of my business ;)
I SCREAMEDDDDDDDDDD when I saw the title. I've been MF BURNEDDDDDD hunni!
People think I'm sooo quiet and reserved, but it's only because other people ruined my bubbly and friendly personality. I've completely shut people out at work now.
This is so true! Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way to also never work with your friends you already know. Right after highschool, a girl I had been best friends with for like 8 years at the time got me a job with her. It was cool at first, we enjoyed working together and had small amounts of fun during the work day. Then, people started coming up and telling me to watch out for her because she talks bad about me nonstop, just constantly saying hateful things about me. I ignored it until I was up for a promotion & my boss called me in to talk to me and make sure I'd be up for it because my "friend" had decided to tell him that I complain all the time about the job & she didn't think I could handle the responsibility. For context, she was assistant manager at the time & the general manager was letting her know he wanted to promote me to a shift lead. Needless to say, we are no longer friends & haven't been for a few years now. Still wish her messy self the best tho 😉
The reason there is so much drama in the nursing field is because it’s where all the mean girls went and now the majority of nurses aren’t there to help people. Couldn’t tell you how many girls that just treated people terribly got into nursing.
I was just web surfing, but when I say this video, and I HAD to stop and make a comment, and, give my own experience. I used to work @ this optical Co. in NYC and every morning one of the higher ups would walk down the row of computer workers and I kid you not....as he passed each woman, he would squeeze her breast, from one woman to the next. I was the new girl, so I guess he was trying to feel me out (NO PUN INTENDED) . After the first week of work, I asked the girl that sat next to me about it. I made sure that I told her that this was against the law and she did not have to put up with this behavior. I asked her if she tolerated it because she did not want to lose her job or what. Strangely, she just giggled at me. But in 2 days, I did NOT have a time card to punch because she turned around and told the higher up what I said to her and he did NOT take to kindly to it so my @$$ had to go....................And I Did. All because I gave her advice. After that day, I truly remember saying to myself that I would NEVER say anything to anyone in my workplace ever again.
You couldnt sue and report what was going on? That's just trifling.
wtf?! You shouldn’t be reprimand for standing up against workplace sexual harassment. I would have called an attorney
Easy lawsuit. You could sue for sexual harassment for him doing that in front of you. I've seen it happen. Easy win.
A job worth losing IMO. I wouldn’t regret what you did for even a second. That was a strange place and you got saved by being fired.
That's why I mind my business.
Can we also talk about how HR is only there for the benefit of the company and NOT the employees 😅
1:40 my god yes!!! I worked with at least a dozen of those types, even from someone who's in their 40's beefing with 20 year olds about coming to work late yet they did the same thing they were arguing about! And if its not that, fighting.
Can i just go to work, do want i need to, and go home without the drama and stalkers 🙄
I thought my co worker was my friend then she got fired & when she left, she left the mug i gave her that she would always say she loved. So when she tried to help me talk to her lawyer about the “wrongful” firing, I blocked her ass & the lawyer 😊. When a friend I brought into a sales job where SHE MADE GREAT $ & upgraded her whole life, was messing with the manager & started acting different. Would even have him give her sales to make her #’s better. So when I found a better job…I let HR know since she had dropped me as a friend anyway & they sent a private undercover employee & fired both of them 😂 My great co worker who still worked there at the time called me the second it happened & we both just laughed 😂 When I tell you God will give you a front row seat, period.
I have storiesss!!! Always got my lick back thoooo 😂 & I have made some great long time friends from co workers! Don’t ever say never. Me & another co worker both quit this shitty company once, we are still great friends and hangout ever other month when we aren’t too busy! 😊 (BUT I do want to say none of talk or follow or deal with any of the ppl who use to work there so maybe that’s the loop hole?) 😂
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Playing chess not checkers!
You blocked her because she didn’t take the mug?
To this day I’m friends with two people I used to work with 20 years ago. There are people you can trust. 😊
That's awesome! but things, people, and work spaces are completely different now than they were 20 years ago.
My coworker almost killed me because I didn't agree with her opinion. Noped th'fuck outta the country for that
HUH???
Sooooo I was once pulled in to a meeting with my department head and "manager" bc I was told I was too quiet. She then said "All you do is do your work and go home." The dumbest 💩💩I've ever been told in my life! Like Bih...wtf I'm pose to do??? So even if you mind your business and stay in your lane...that can still be in issue! Needless to say I left that job as swiftly as possible.
I have such a great relationship with my work friends. we get excited to work together, it makes the shift go by faster, and then we leave and only text each other if we have shit to say about work.
i worked as a 911 dispatcher for 15 years. at year 13 i got really sick and had to transfer to another area for treatment. i made it to my new area and my old coworkers had sent flowers to my new dispatch center to wish me good luck. i was medically forced to retire at year 15 and i still meet up with my some of my old coworkers a few times a year for meals and fun. we constantly check on each other and have good friendships. I'm not sure if it's the nature of the job, or just that we all bonded over that amount of years, but they're some of the best friends I've had as an adult. we do exist!❤
I’m sorry that happened to you, but it does seem like you had a good experience and I wish it was like that for most of us. You were extremely lucky. I feel like I have that experience sometimes, but I am still so scared and hesitant of people I’d choose not to let them in my life because I am if we get an argument or of anything confrontation cause I hate it. My heart is broken. I got so depressed in my last job because me and a coworker acquaintance just got into this big argument because I was Emotional and on something that I just was acting out of character and I felt they hated me and it was hard for me to work with them for about three good months we eventually got OK but we never got back to being as friendly as we used to be in at hertz I hate being hurt even if it’s my fault not my fault it’s just I feel so guilty and eats me alive so I just don’t Want to interact and get too close. I don’t mind meeting for lunch and hanging out every few months to catch up on everything, but I want to keep my distance otherwise however if I had that type of relationship at work, if we did we make life so much easier to bear. My mom had good work friends like that. She had two really good ones for 30 years and God bless them. They were amazing ladies and I just I hate the world come we’re all enemies now.
Yep. I lost my last job because i worked with immature folks still stuck in HS and i didnt fit the click YET were so sweet to my face.
My husband had this great job and he found out one of his really good friends was about to sign a 20 year non compete and a 20 year NDA. My husband got him a job at his employment. When he got promoted, he started lying and causing problems and my husband got demoted for his friend to take his spot and just caused sooooo many problems. I’m so grateful that experience is over and my husband left. Don’t ever bring your friends to your employment as they are the first people to screw you over!
Deleted ALL my social media
I barely talk to these snakes 🐍
Bam that one
Except for TH-cam (if it counts)
Corporate America is the 13th grade. Some people will dislike you just because other like you, genuinely and people dislike them.
I work for a company where we transport school students. At the end of the day I get to take the vehicle home. And at the beginning of the day, I leave from my house go pick up each child. Take them where they need to go and then come back home. I never have to go to the head office to have an encounter with employees except on Fridays to turn in my time clock. And even on Friday, you get to go in the building whenever it’s convenient for you so you’re technically not forced to have an encounter with other employees. So what I’m saying is I never do with coworkers unless we’re having a team meeting. And during that meeting, I notice they look at me funny based on the questions I asked the instructor.
And on this topic remember!! HR departments are more there to protect business and not you
Fun fact, you can have co-worker friends if you have halfway decent interpersonal skills. Had some of my best new experiences thanks to coworkers. Obviously, you have the at work friends and the ones you hang out with outside of work.
Also, "never overshare"....the military would like to say otherwise, I can know someone for like an hour and know their whole life story.
HEAVY ON COWORKERS ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!!! I wish I could go back in time and have them only know my name and that's it lol
The company wants you to bond like family to ppl who can quit or be fired in the next 30 mins! So be pleasant, cooperative, respectful, agreeable BUT DO NOT FORGET- when the job ends- so does “ the family/friendship”.
I had a coworker and we were really cool and would hang out outside of work. Fast forward 4 years later she puts me onto another better paying job while i was in the college.
This was an awesome post and I completely agree with the topic. I am fortunate to have 2 former coworkers that have been my closest friends for years. But that is an exception and not the rule. I still tell people that work is work and your private life should stay private. 😊
The Nursing thing is 10000% true! I have 2 or 3 nurses I don't work with anymore that we can check up on each other and give love. Unfortunately it's harder for people that don't eat raisins in their potato salad...
I would’ve told those HR people that I ain’t explaining shit about my texts.
I’m sorry. But the First Lady is wrong. She’s not supposed to be on live while working. Come on now. Don’t act brand new. Is it shitty someone ratted her out? Sure but she wrong too. Wtf
Oh my... I don't have coworkers but I have to go once a week to a company and spend the day in meetings to update them in what I am doing and what they need to do but girl... THE GOSSIPS THERE! Is the longest day day in my week and I have to prepare myself and I feel so happy when I finish and go home.
I don't know how you all can handle that type of enviroment on the daily basis. You have all my respect.
Yes!!! Been saying this for years!!!
My life ain't in my workplace the workplace funds my life outside it.
Absolutely, I give them basic info that I would tell a stranger. Short answers like, no,oh, and yep, that leaves them uninterested. The weather is nice... .
I don’t believe in friends in the workplace or trusting anyone especially in the workplace and have had nothing but panic attacks on drive homes from people at the workplace BUT my partner is my one and only real friend now family I’ve ever made at a jobs brother. So I met my husband through my fav sis in law who was my coworker first and that’s how we met initially. But even so I will still say to never trust nobody or get close to nobody at work. Meeting her was a fluke when I was young and naive just starting out and chose to trust her at that time. So idk what that says maybe that there are some good people in the world but they’re really hard to meet in the workplace. Very rare.
Former HR here. I tell everyone thats "bullied" in a workship. Lie, lie, lie!!! I know we shouldn't have to do this but, we (✊🏼) have to c.y.a. so give them what they want your business. But you dont have to be truthful. So i tell them lie. Give them your fairytale story life. It pisses them off if you're not basic or happy. That's my ted talk. Ty.
Spiritual Warfare 😮
Two of my best friends that I talk to almost daily were coworkers of mine! BUT I’ve definitely experienced way more two faced backstabbers at work
Maybe my experiences are different, but I do have a work friend. We even go out from time to time
I’m glad it is. That’s how it should be .
I agree with EVERYTHING said.
Misery LOVES company. I don't need their hate.
Also, when they start griping about someone at work, DON'T participate.
First, they will make you swear to keep their gossip secret then..
They WILL tell EVERYONE what you said VERBATIM.
2-faced people are the most charming fakes in the world
I really I don't understand why is it so hard for these bloody "adults" to just be a decent humanbeing...why they feel the need to make so many enemies and then turn around acting like a paranoid victim when it's their own doing in the first place
I’m best friends with 2 coworkers from previous workplaces. The workplaces were so terrible that we were each others only safety and support system. There’s some really rancid stuff that goes on with managers in power as well. It’s truly scary the way amount of power think they have a hold over people who need a job, you should cover that as well!
Some ppl peaked in high school and never grew past the mindset. Those are the ones who are snakes in the workplace and for some reason, many of them end up in management. They always think you want their job or want to undermine them, even when you are minding your business and doing your job efficiently and effectively, and have even saved them from facing their managers and supervisors when they screw up. I personally never had issues with ppl at the same level as me at work, it was always assistant managers and department managers whose butts I bailed out when they messed up scheduling or orders or what have you, or when they took on huge orders with only an hour or two to complete when company policy said a day or two in advance was needed. One of em drove me into burnout so bad I quit. Dude was mad aggressive, too. Got three inches from my face screaming at me once when a blizzard started and I needed to leave early cuz the bridges I had to cross to get home tended to freeze over during such weather. And guess what? They did. How funny. Meanwhile he let ppl that lived 15 minutes away go home before me, the one with the longest commute. Nah, keep it superficial, cordial, don't rise to bait, and document document document. Get HR involved first thing. Sure, they are there to protect the company, but the paper trail will be in your favor if you are wrongfully terminated, retaliated against, or the work environment becomes hostile and they do nothing about it. I wish I had had more of a backbone back then. And for gods sakes, avoid any workplace that touts it's like one big family. Huge red flags. They have no understanding of healthy boundaries and you will be ostracized if you try to set and maintain them. That is code for "You are stuck here so don't rock the boat or we'll toss ya overboard and watch you drown." Read up on your rights as a worker, know company policy like the back of your hand, and protect yourself. Work ain't worth petty drama. Leave that to 'reality' television.
I needed this video 10 years ago girl! I was fully deluded into thinking I had solid friends at work , I learned.
This is so true! Be careful guys! I learned the hard way!
Back story plz.
I work on a unit with nurses but they’re not petty with each other. Other floors I’ve worked though, a whole other story. A lot of the nurses at the hospital where I work are young.
I am a nurse too and it is all ages that suck. Those old in age nurses can be rough, no matter if they are new grads or have been in the game for 40 years. Not all nurses of course, but I met some crazy lol
It’s possible to make friends you just have to be careful
Very careful.
Yup and do not friend anyone who works in the same department as you
I barely have enough care to do the job much less make friends.
"you grow up and then you learn that you cannot trust anyone" 💯💯👌
This is so true. I had a woman i shared my locker with at walmart when i was 19. She was nice to my face then the one time I helped her (and I should not have) she went to management saying how I wasn't doing my job and this and that. Management never talked to me about it but I was told that. This woman was almost 50 and was mad she didn't get Thanksgiving off but I did, because I requested it off months in advance.
I had another "work bestie" that only seemed to want to sell me things (that i didn't need nor want) and once she quit the job she stopped talking to me. Was calling me her best friend for awhile and I was like 😬 we ain't best friends...we ain't even really friends no more.
Self employed babysitter here …. My boss met her best friend that she considers an aunt to her kids (and I called her aunt too lol). She moved away a few months ago after her husband died and instead of moving near family she chose to move in the same neighborhood as her best friend. And they still work together!!!
The healthcare industry is MESSY as a whole
💯!! Im a business owner, and #1 place I get information is from the staff. That person EVERYONE trust with all their business is the same people that cone tell me EVERYTHING.
The biggest snakes ever out there on the job is in the healthcare. They are the worst I’ve been in the healthcare for 26 years. I am recently going through something because the lady snaked me like she was my friend. I didn’t even tell her my business she went to HR made up a whole bunch of lies about me and now I am sitting on administrative leave getting a check
Oh no! My best friend of over 10 years started as a co worker!!! She moved to a whole other state and we're still besties!!!
I had a coworker that once we both moved onto other jobs, have remained friends. We were both the type to keep to ourselves, do the job and go home. There came a time when we both needed pep talks about the job and provided that to each other, (though guarded because we both knew not to easily trust anyone). This is a rare occurrence to find a good ally at a job, where on the other hand ‘snake’ like behavior is definitely the majority. Keep new ppl in your life ( inside and outside of work) at arms length, listen more than talk and OBSERVE.
i hear this and understand it all; but I think there’s a personality type that can combat this easily, and i may have that personality. i have made so many friends at work, some i talk to til this day and some I don’t, but I’m someone who doesn’t back down from bullying and also I lead with confidence and respect; I can’t be snaked at work because I’m very clear with boundaries as it pertains to work friendships; I will respectfully cut you off. There’s a harsh reality here that we spend a lot of time with these people; it’s very hard to have a life outside of work. if you’re in a career field you love, don’t shy away from making friends. Be intentional about your boundaries and yes do not overshare, but don’t dismiss genuine connections.
Yes !! If you’re in a career you love don’t dismiss genuine connections
Me and my coworker bestie who os offically my friend, feel like we're in the twilight zone when we step through those doors. The things we hear about, the underhanded business, the need to gossip when there's nothing going on, the lazinessn and playing on coworkers faces, its exhausting for those who want to get their job done but has to pick up slack for others or be complained at when the real evil doers dont get the complaints unless its from managers that are on ur side.
Ive had terrible coworkers and bosses.
I do have a close friend that i met through work years ago, we're still strong. She told me i was the one of the best workers there, and i do consider myself a hardworker and genuine person.
Crazy part is, shes also told me the MUTIPLE people who have talked behind my back, told her they didnt like me (out of nowhere), and a manager who pulled her to the side and told her not to hang out with me anymore. I was a very friendly person, i worked in a college and the students LOVED me. They would write me letters, and give me gifts, and i would also do the same for them. I loved that job. But the weird coworkers and managers were extreme haters. Its crazy how ppl can treat you like that when you havent done anything to them.
Luckily I haven’t been burned by trusted coworkers, but after experiencing the cloak and dagger style office politics at my last job (drove me to quit) I decided it would be my policy moving forward to be reserved with both my personal details and my skill level at work. I decided that because I realized one day I will probably end up trusting someone I shouldn’t and be in an even messier situation.
Im a stoner and i refuse to tell other coworkers even the ones that smoke weed, what i do on my own time. You never know, they could just be collecting incriminating information about you.
There’s a snake among us.
Overall I've pretty good experiences with work friends. Those that I got close enough to call friends outside of the work space are still my closest friends. However, for three years i worked in the public K-12 school system at district level and man... That is where a lot of the things people spoke about in this video were on FULL display. I left after three years and went back into the clinical mental health field. Now i work for myself:) Just have discernment, observe people, be mindful, dont say anything you wouldnt want repeated, and do you job.
When You pick up on the fake sh*t and peep game then adjust your vibe and act accordingly, your labeled as having an attitude or “not being a team player”. 🤬 We get paid to be fake with customers not eachother.
My best friend of 24 years was a coworker AND she was later my boss at a different job. And my other closest friend of 18 years was my nurse during a hospital stay. We exist!
Totally agree work for yourself and if you need to hire people into your business make sure your core values, morals everything align.
I love the way you glare at the camera while you're watching these videos! ❤
Funny story: I worked for Starbucks for almost 3.5 years, my manager went out for paternity leave and when he gets back fired me for something I didn’t do. I’m 100000% sure this coworker who had a vendetta against me took advantage of the fact he wasn’t in contact with the store while out, going to him with the intention to get me fired telling him I was “cursing infront of customers” when I have never. He even said he couldn’t vouch for the claims. Never work for Starbucks, they will screw you over in every way possible.
If you’re in the art/animation industry. . . You have to be friends with people you can’t just go to work and go home or you will be fired within three months😢 it is disgustingly clicky because those people have apparently never mentally matured past high school 🤬
10:53 honestly this is me😂, i don’t like 90% of them but i don’t talk about them with other coworkers. why would i say anything when they sometimes do my job for me?! using ppl and keeping is professional go hand in hand boo
THIS. Is why I am not interested in even having small talk at work. We are there to work, this is not school where you make friends.
I'm self-employed now but when I was still working at a clinic....man. I got stories of the betrayal.
I'm the type of employee that walks into work and don't speak to anyone. In retrospect, it upsets people. People hate when you don't acknowledge them. It instantly made me a target and I was always the butt of jokes.
One of the major reasons I left nursing to go into paramedics, they’re all mean asl and have no compassion or respect for their patients.
That's why I always say "I'm too old for social media platforms" I don't have any accounts I'll be nosey on youtube if you want to share anything.
I have a wonderful best friend whom I worked with for 12 years, and yes…we are both RNs. We helped each other out so much when we worked the same shift, and we made sure we picked each other for first and second call partners when we had weekend assignments. We made our very stressful work environment much less so, and we had a lot of fun doing it. We haven’t worked together for ten years since then but, we are still close.
We even fly back and forth across the US to visit each other since I moved from the west coast to the East.
Thank God to be blessed with awesome work friends!
My gf (when pregnant) was asked how the “maggot” was doing, was asked to give them samples of her breast milk for soaps and lavishes after she delivered to put on their partner’s genitalia as well as being told she would do better on a casting couch for adult videos. Yeah, she works from home now and takes care of our children. I’m not exposing her to that trauma again.
Nope it's hard too. You are right just got screwed at work because I am just nice. Don't trust them ever!!
My best friend of 20+ years I met at my job! She was my coworker. The difference between now and then is that back then, social media wasn't a thing. Smart phones weren't in the market yet. Nowadays, everyone has something to say about others and never tell them to their faces. It's truly a different world from back then. Today, the world is 10 times more trifling. Protect your peace!❤
I’m currently dealing with this at a store that’s named money free. The store manager legit hangs out with the employees from other assistant managers to cashiers and wonder why she doesn’t have control over her store.
Going through this with my manager and Sr reps right now. 1st time being under people I neither trust nor respect. It’s been 9 months and I’m looking for an exit. My mental health is much more important
I have a work friend group that we still talk even though most of us left the job. We commiserated about how abused we were but we really get along. We go to theme parks and have parties.
Wish it was that easy. Not saying be friends but if you want to be that person at work that keeps quiet and only says what is needed, be prepared for a meeting with your supervisor asking if you are ok, you never speak, people are uncomfortable around you, maybe this isn't a good fit, etc, etc. Ask me how I know.
I have made some of the best relationships in my 28 years of Nursing. I have worked in 2 ICUs and a Preop. We were a family in each situation. We cried, prayed, and celebrated together at work and after hours. I am now a nurse practitioner and still have dear friends from jobs I had more than 20 years ago.