Hey, Doc, I've been a fan for a couple of years now, and suddenly these videos have popped up on my feed. It's serendipitous, and helpful therapy during COVID. As always, thanks for your hard work and generosity in making these available. You're amazing.
Cognitive reframing was something that I was a bit hesitant about using because I did not fully understand it from the text. This video helped me to understand better and see how it can actually be used in a session.
Thank you so much for these videos! I’m a counseling student, and your roleplay videos in particular help me understand concepts in therapeutic practice much better! It’s been such an invaluable resource to supplement reading!
It's so cool watching these old CBT role play scenarios for the first time after being more familiar with Dr. Grande's newer content with Jeff such as The Murder Part, The Alien Lizard Humanoids, etc. You guys are good actors!
This was so touching. Kids really suffer when parents create a toxic environment and it just spills over and over. I can relate to the oldest child phenomenon of shielding of younger siblings and bearing the brunt.
Therapist client rapport must be good. Client must be honest, must have trust too, and the right modality needs to be used. My family was furious that I didn't improve enough from therapy and also hated that I tried to practice conversations. Turns out some of us might need that for our therapy. I'm going to ask my clinician for this. I thought abusive people often sought treatment and were just not human enough to get better. Now I see it. Focus on improvement instead of reliving trauma in session years after it's no longer a help. Coping tools I wanted were just not available to me . If you think your loved ones are motivated you can help by taking note. Are they improving or not??
I feel that the therapist was reinforcing (through his comments and questions) that the client failed for staying at home with the father. I would wonder what compelled him to stay, was he the youngest/oldest sibling? Was there a mother? I would wonder what the dynamic was in the house. The therapist just assumed that because the other siblings are 'ok' the client protected them from their father's abuse. How does he know that? There's a disregard for the feelings, more in depth subjectivity of the client. It is such a shallow and rigid model. It is a slot of 'head' work and not so much 'heart' work.
I totally agree with you! "See there's a good side of the abuse, you protected you siblings" mentality is awful. The problem is, that the client paid and still pays the price for other people's comfort. Also, it's reinforcing the idea, that it was noble thing to accept the role of a scapegoat. The problem is, that client COULDN'T escape, due to (at least) learned helplessness, but also other are other factors contributing to your ability to escape. As a child you have no chance. Then, you need a stable financial situation to live independently. The problem is, usually in this point you're already so traumatized, that even you health may be impacted (like in my case) so you can't work until you get healed. By the way, I had a cardiac episode after a coaching session with a similar reframing. My cardiologist was terrified of the physical impact of such "mind game" on my physical well-being.
Very good to have examples of therapies on TH-cam. One suggestion is about the energy in the therapy area. The grannie chairs, old fashioned non descript picture and the generic flowers. All looks like an old people's home area. With the low energy in the exchange it is rather depressing. Wishing you well.
I'd love to see a more realistic roleplay. The client is overly agreeable here, which isn't always the case. It gets more difficult to reframe ingrained thoughts of a client that they associate with the character of their being.
Could the client be somewhat responsible for the yelling? Maybe he is dismissive and doesn't want to address marital issues in a mature confrontational way which pushes the wife to her limits. How can someone ask about that? OR how to devert the conversation? Why not discuss possible causes of what the fights are mostly about?
Because he is targeting the core issues of his client's trauma related reactions that get triggered while arguing. Once core issues are processed the client is more able to feel a sense of control over their situations and thus start using better skills in relationships too. He is also validating this person's childhood experiences that propably haven't been ever validated before. He also addresses the fact that the man responds in aggressive and yelling manner sometimes to his wife. So first they tackle the core issue, then proceed to new skills. Also this is HIS therapy. Not his wife's.
That's not always the answer, maybe counselling for both at the same time might help, she may have had abuse in the past and not had good role models herself, and maybe if she knew the marriage was almost over and wanted to do everything to save it further counselling may work. If he can overcome past hurts then so can she.
I wouldn't say that. I would say maybe entering into couples therapy or seeing if she'd be open to coming in for a few sessions. The thing is neither he nor the wife may be aware of what they are contributing to the collapse of communication. A lot of times it takes a third person to observe their behaviors and them get corrected.
This role-play session was so uplifting. I was moved.. i think you are really good at your job dr. G and thank you for sharing that experience
Hey, Doc, I've been a fan for a couple of years now, and suddenly these videos have popped up on my feed. It's serendipitous, and helpful therapy during COVID. As always, thanks for your hard work and generosity in making these available. You're amazing.
Just happened to me !
Cognitive reframing was something that I was a bit hesitant about using because I did not fully understand it from the text. This video helped me to understand better and see how it can actually be used in a session.
I’ve been a fan of Dr Grande for awhile now. Imagine my delighted surprise to find these older videos!!
As always…great video Dr Grande!!
Thank you so much for these videos! I’m a counseling student, and your roleplay videos in particular help me understand concepts in therapeutic practice much better! It’s been such an invaluable resource to supplement reading!
It's so cool watching these old CBT role play scenarios for the first time after being more familiar with Dr. Grande's newer content with Jeff such as The Murder Part, The Alien Lizard Humanoids, etc. You guys are good actors!
This was so touching. Kids really suffer when parents create a toxic environment and it just spills over and over. I can relate to the oldest child phenomenon of shielding of younger siblings and bearing the brunt.
Thank you Dr. Grande for these informative and instructive videos!🙏🏻
You're welcome!
Thank you for producing valuable content.
If the wife is always yelling, why isn't she in counseling?
It's near impossible to get abusers to agree to go to counselling.
@@garybarrett4881 exactly 100% right..
@@garybarrett4881 great point!
Therapist client rapport must be good. Client must be honest, must have trust too, and the right modality needs to be used. My family was furious that I didn't improve enough from therapy and also hated that I tried to practice conversations. Turns out some of us might need that for our therapy. I'm going to ask my clinician for this. I thought abusive people often sought treatment and were just not human enough to get better. Now I see it. Focus on improvement instead of reliving trauma in session years after it's no longer a help. Coping tools I wanted were just not available to me . If you think your loved ones are motivated you can help by taking note. Are they improving or not??
This session gave me such an excellent experience. Thank you sinncerely Dr Grande
I saw the entire video. Imagine my disappointment when i found out that there is no ball stretching
Would be good to have the session and than tactics and cut ins to address those issues and how the client can benefits from them.
Unfortunately, I have found CBT to be very ineffective for recovery from long term abuse.
it seems too harsh and too logical to me, eft is better imo
After getting this treatment. Back home with my feelings already broken.
I feel that the therapist was reinforcing (through his comments and questions) that the client failed for staying at home with the father. I would wonder what compelled him to stay, was he the youngest/oldest sibling? Was there a mother? I would wonder what the dynamic was in the house. The therapist just assumed that because the other siblings are 'ok' the client protected them from their father's abuse. How does he know that? There's a disregard for the feelings, more in depth subjectivity of the client. It is such a shallow and rigid model. It is a slot of 'head' work and not so much 'heart' work.
I totally agree with you! "See there's a good side of the abuse, you protected you siblings" mentality is awful. The problem is, that the client paid and still pays the price for other people's comfort. Also, it's reinforcing the idea, that it was noble thing to accept the role of a scapegoat. The problem is, that client COULDN'T escape, due to (at least) learned helplessness, but also other are other factors contributing to your ability to escape. As a child you have no chance. Then, you need a stable financial situation to live independently. The problem is, usually in this point you're already so traumatized, that even you health may be impacted (like in my case) so you can't work until you get healed.
By the way, I had a cardiac episode after a coaching session with a similar reframing. My cardiologist was terrified of the physical impact of such "mind game" on my physical well-being.
I am also uncomfortable with this role play. It was "off." Why are we trying to find positives about abuse.
I want cbt... I'm going to ask for it Thanks again Dr Grande
Wow this was super informative!
Very good to have examples of therapies on TH-cam. One suggestion is about the energy in the therapy area. The grannie chairs, old fashioned non descript picture and the generic flowers. All looks like an old people's home area. With the low energy in the exchange it is rather depressing. Wishing you well.
The patient is agreeable, I wonder if that is the norm🤔
You always have great content on your channel!👍👍
I'd love to see a more realistic roleplay. The client is overly agreeable here, which isn't always the case. It gets more difficult to reframe ingrained thoughts of a client that they associate with the character of their being.
Dr Grande, are you a fan of the band Sparks, by any chance...?!
CBT and Roleplay?
Hot OwO
Ya - responsibility. Who can do what and identify issues for further insight and actionable interventions, daily practise
Counsellor is not taking notes so be hard for him to remember everything said ?
He'd be recording it instead. Then you get even more detail and context from a real life consultation.
This is a role play so there’s no need for him to “remember” in real life
Could the client be somewhat responsible for the yelling?
Maybe he is dismissive and doesn't want to address marital issues in a mature confrontational way which pushes the wife to her limits. How can someone ask about that? OR how to devert the conversation?
Why not discuss possible causes of what the fights are mostly about?
Because he is targeting the core issues of his client's trauma related reactions that get triggered while arguing. Once core issues are processed the client is more able to feel a sense of control over their situations and thus start using better skills in relationships too. He is also validating this person's childhood experiences that propably haven't been ever validated before. He also addresses the fact that the man responds in aggressive and yelling manner sometimes to his wife. So first they tackle the core issue, then proceed to new skills. Also this is HIS therapy. Not his wife's.
This poor guy needs to leave his wife
That's not always the answer, maybe counselling for both at the same time might help, she may have had abuse in the past and not had good role models herself, and maybe if she knew the marriage was almost over and wanted to do everything to save it further counselling may work. If he can overcome past hurts then so can she.
I wouldn't say that. I would say maybe entering into couples therapy or seeing if she'd be open to coming in for a few sessions. The thing is neither he nor the wife may be aware of what they are contributing to the collapse of communication. A lot of times it takes a third person to observe their behaviors and them get corrected.
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Is that lil dicky2