Why Is It So Hard To Be Kind? | Ajahn Brahm | 05 March 2010

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  • Ajahn Brahm discusses how developing the mind with meditation can encourage and support the practice of kindness and understanding towards others.

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  • @suzanneolivar1
    @suzanneolivar1 10 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I wish that schools would allow this type of lectures at the high schools, maybe there would be less bullying.

    • @Beautifulcoil
      @Beautifulcoil 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      There wouldn't. Kids don't understand or care about that stuff.

    • @nguoithichhoasim1233
      @nguoithichhoasim1233 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Beautifulcoil : kids can bé taught the karma and consequence , and the kindness in the simple way suitable to their understanding . But the other religions will protest .
      In USA , mindfulness meditation were taught at few school , to help them concentrate in studying more , because they were distracted by internet . And a couple of years ago, Christians in a district , signed a letter to protest , said that propagates Buddhism .
      In the ideal situation , the kids and students at high school , universities , also the parents are taught the kindness and compassion too.

    • @joycemansfield1108
      @joycemansfield1108 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And just good people

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    4 years later and I still have difficulty with being kind to others! In fact, I’ve gotten worse.!! I’m applying several techniques AB talks about ie, look at the bigger picture and focus on all the positive things , good qualities in the person instead of the negative things about them. It works but the hateful ill-will feeling doesn’t go away completely. But the duration doesn’t last as long either . So I’m doing something right !

    • @kevinng1702
      @kevinng1702 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Every morning, look into the mirror, say to yourself…I love myself…I am still alive…be grateful with what you have…keep saying that daily…you will see the difference within 3 months…Good Luck….

  • @5755mettateoh
    @5755mettateoh 13 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It is difficult to show kindness when one is surrounded by difficult people who think they are always right.......have to keep telling oneself to be patient

  • @yaiyasmin
    @yaiyasmin 13 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Inspiring video, everyone needs to be reminded of kindness. I talk to myself first.
    "Kindness is a mark of faith, and whoever is not kind has no faith"

  • @FallouFitness_NattyEdition
    @FallouFitness_NattyEdition 7 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I hope someday to meet this man. His talks have made a huge impact on my life.

  • @freddylim310
    @freddylim310 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Brilliant Dharma teachings ❤️Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏🙏🙏 Thanks Ajahn❤️

  • @mobiusloop339
    @mobiusloop339 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I have an insane need to be right. I never thought I did, but seeing this video made me realize my mistake. I learn an immense amount from Ajahn Brahm's lectures. He is a brilliant teacher.

    • @ip9117
      @ip9117 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Blessed are you!

    • @sachinthaherath4902
      @sachinthaherath4902 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Mobius Loop I can relate to this too, I also often have this insane desire to be right😔 (it's almost like an 'all knowing' sense of ego).
      This talk reminds me of the need for humility in life😌👌

  • @Elegance191
    @Elegance191 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Aww...Ajahn Brahm is a good actor with the duck and chicken story 😂 He makes me think of it when I go 'berserk' and grounds me 😁

  • @Windhorse_Mcghee
    @Windhorse_Mcghee 13 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Jewels and pearls of wisdom in every talk, thanks

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I thought I was kind, forgiving and generous. I am not! I lose it every time I'm tested.

  • @thudo5587
    @thudo5587 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I think you gave this talk just for me. Thank you so much for your wisdom,compassion,and personal humor 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @Elegance191
      @Elegance191 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And for me ! 😁

  • @sachinthaherath4902
    @sachinthaherath4902 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    10:20 really hits the spot for me😌
    Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu🙏🙏🙏

  • @winnbrad
    @winnbrad 14 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you for posting these wonderful videos.

  • @ODDthoughts3
    @ODDthoughts3 11 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    this makes so much more sense then fighting all the time I really needed this:)

  • @jdelafuente04
    @jdelafuente04 11 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    thank you so much for posting this. You did wonderful job. I like listening to Ajahn Brahm

  • @clearskymind
    @clearskymind 11 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great talk as always. It starts with forgiving and loving self, and everything else in the past and future forever without expectation. Deep but hard to practice. Since outside world is competitive, fault finding and dishonest a lot of time... And rewards that negativity... But it still is worth being kind and forgiving than otherwise for ones own peace of mind...

  • @lollipop9139
    @lollipop9139 12 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One of the reasons why people won't let a person, who has made a huge mistake, off the hook is because people nowadays are very abusive. And, that is why people become traumatized and start to protect themselves so as not to be hurt again.

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    2 years later ... and I’m still losing it. But, the unkindness doesn’t linger like it used to. I was only unkind and filled with anger for maybe 3-5 minutes. That’s damn good. What I did was immediately focus on something that gave me a lot of pleasure. ... and it worked. Woohoooo!

  • @ashantasetiadi
    @ashantasetiadi 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    love every second i watch this. a very good talk. thank you very much. Buddha Bless Us All.

    • @howardcohen6817
      @howardcohen6817 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love after 8 years. And your blessing lingers in the air. Thank you. May I join you in this holy blessing on Us All?

  • @joakimdernebo8400
    @joakimdernebo8400 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Buddhas teaching is the true wisdom

  • @evemerda2583
    @evemerda2583 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ajahn Brahm at his best. Wonderful lecture.

  • @thudo5587
    @thudo5587 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    🙏🏻🙇🙏🏻🙇🙏🏻🙇Ajahn Brahm

  • @symphony1045
    @symphony1045 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Seelavantham Gunawantham
    Punyakkettham Anuttharam
    Dullabena Mayaladdam
    Buddha Putthan Namamaham
    🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
    I Pay my homage to your respectful Swaminwahansa
    May my mother A.K.M.Gunawardhana be blessed with Great Health.
    Please give her your blessings Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    " it was me!" .... He's so funny.

  • @gonibilla532
    @gonibilla532 14 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    another wonderful talk . thank you!

  • @claribelsefira3573
    @claribelsefira3573 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thank you so much for making me a better person hopefully! still trying to be a better person ! this video inspire me so much !

  • @michellepeterson5241
    @michellepeterson5241 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a sweet, funny teacher. 🙏

  • @adth123ify
    @adth123ify 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sending you so much 💗.

  • @Sumazndoode
    @Sumazndoode 14 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    its nice to be nice!

  • @mipatataquierido
    @mipatataquierido 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you so much.

  • @JAKEAWAKEOFFICIAL
    @JAKEAWAKEOFFICIAL 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Got me started. That's all that matters.

  • @mauriced.turner-brown6703
    @mauriced.turner-brown6703 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Its hard to be kind and have good self control to these people these days

  • @kritisrivastava9393
    @kritisrivastava9393 ปีที่แล้ว

    12/1/22.
    Thankyou Guruji 🙏🏽

  • @dk4past2now87
    @dk4past2now87 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's not hard to be kind but people do not handle loyalty. The world disposes of each other for such small things. It's easier to push people out of our lives. I don't mind admitting when I'm wrong, but find even that act of kindness, is ignored. People assume they will find better or someone they feel fits their standards. This makes it hard to keep showing kindness or even encouraging others when it isn't appreciated.

  • @karunabro6061
    @karunabro6061 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    beautiful talk

  • @clearskymind
    @clearskymind 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Never helpful to be self-righteous or angry even when we were unfairly hurt.. Need to constantly reinforce this idea otherwise the mind does start to feel angry and fearful.. Buddha is so wise- desire and anger keeps this unending destructive cycle going. Only way is to realize this and change ones attitude without pride, let things be. Dharma is practical- unless one applies and practices, the mind can never change. Without internal peace, it's hard to be happy with any amount of wealth or ach

  • @Frlvonundzu
    @Frlvonundzu 14 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sehenswert!

  • @AhLeBatard
    @AhLeBatard 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great tolk thanks 😊

  • @bocabill1907
    @bocabill1907 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So true.

  • @larryprimeau7738
    @larryprimeau7738 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    another good talk

  • @kadenprowse4609
    @kadenprowse4609 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ha! Loved it

  • @clearskymind
    @clearskymind 11 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There's no perfection but it is kinder to all beings and environment to live contently and simply. But being defensive, having a strong ego to protect and manipulate others through fear, anger, and rating makes this place so hard to live for all beings... not considering how that actions affect everyone... wars, using up resources, unequal distribution, .. it's real, but nevertheless it's more helpful to be forgiving, see the good in everything and get through life. Never helpful to be self-rig

  • @ip9117
    @ip9117 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    So true... whatever, a duck or a chicken :)

  • @vegetariankitchenmagicaljo4948
    @vegetariankitchenmagicaljo4948 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Please press the like button if you enjoy the talk to support BSWA.

  • @omnimatty
    @omnimatty 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    8 people weren't kind to this video. thumbs down :(. it is great. :)

  • @TonyPrower
    @TonyPrower 11 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ajahn Brahm, is there any knowledge, wisdom or experience you could conceive of which would make you give up Buddhism?

  • @lollipop9139
    @lollipop9139 12 ปีที่แล้ว

    And, I was wondering if Ajahn Brahm would give a talk about sth on being abusive and stuff...

  • @clearskymind
    @clearskymind 11 ปีที่แล้ว

    achievement. Kind of need to look at the big picture. lower the expectation, and start with forgiving and being kind to self first.

  • @killertaquito27
    @killertaquito27 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    35:00 enemy list story

  • @Andrew_-yo1jh
    @Andrew_-yo1jh 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Deep done in my head my head say there ugly I say shut it shut it shut it stop being rude now I am kind

  • @jasonsha6844
    @jasonsha6844 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    conpanuan planting helps teehee just jokes and thank you mate

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hahahaha.....LOL. “Can I be honest with the person I live with?” ...... oh hell no! I’d be kicked to the curb.

  • @songswithlove2204
    @songswithlove2204 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    my kindness persent is 83

  • @bktarch
    @bktarch 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He cussed :O monks are not allowed to cuss.

    • @remedyke1
      @remedyke1 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +bktarch I've seen him cuss a lot...he's a comedian ;-)

  • @composerdoh
    @composerdoh 12 ปีที่แล้ว

    Actually, Jesus's point about a camel passing thru the eye of a needle has to do with attachment to wealth/materialism. The Buddha said similar things, and it seems to me the very fact that one must be able to give away all of one's possessions and take a vow of poverty in order to be ordained says that they're not all that far off on the issue.
    That being said I do understand Ajahn Brahm was just being a goofball.

  • @jasonsha6844
    @jasonsha6844 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    phalosifey is wot it is I did not know Buddism was a religion I know some think of it as such but the budda in ones self is wot it is not religion dosent matter what we call it is wot it ………………….peace

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why couldn’t the woman be the one to relent ??

  • @jasonsha6844
    @jasonsha6844 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    India for Indians China for Chinese Africa of Africans Germany for Germans and so on Quote Darlolama funny how trees from all over the world live together Rododengrum lives side by side with gum tree

  • @roymarshall_
    @roymarshall_ 10 ปีที่แล้ว

    I doubt that would work - you have to be in an accepting state of mind to actually care about what he says. If you're not interested in being more peaceful and kind, nothing Ajahn Brahm (or anybody) says will change you.