It’s not about the age, it’s about the experience. It can be difficult at any age, but you’re more likely to handle it better based upon prior experience to the situation
TURN TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST BEFORE ITS TOO LATE, GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM AND START WALKING IN OBEDIENCE, WITHSTANDING FROM ALL SIN AND WICKEDNESS, JESUS SAID THE PATH TO HEAVEN IS HARD AND NARROW, AND FEW FIND IT. MATTHEW 7:13-14, HEBREWS 5:9, JOHN 14:15, MATTHEW 7:21-26, 1ST CORINTHIANS 6:9-10, JOHN 3:16-21, JOHN 10:7-8, MATTHEW 10:26, AND LUKE 13:5. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
My father was never in the picture, I was forced into an adult role at the age of 10, and I was forced to take the role of the "golden child"... I'm 24 years old now and realized that I'm always tense, I fall for any guy who flirts with me, which after a lot of reflection I came to realize that it's the validation that I seek... I have trust issues, and I've never taken care of myself because I've always been too busy fixing other people's problems, etc. PARENTS: Don't lean on your children for emotional support, don't expect perfection from them, and make your children feel special not based on what they've accomplished, but for who they are... Trust me, it will save them from a lot of psychological problems
My parents forced me into the role of the golden kid as well. All their hope rests on my shoulders and they force me to fullfill their dreams they had in all of their children onto me.
I went through all of this at the exact same age except I’m 21 now. And it’s bad that I know I’ll be “jealous” when I have a child with my partner and they get what I never had. But it’s the best thing for the child. Things like this don’t make you stronger; they make you angrier.
@@fantasyhochzwei8977 Wow. I'm so sorry that has happened, you didn't deserve that. I hope you find whatever it is that will make you happy instead of what makes others. Really.
@@benjaminamarante8481 - I hope you're joking. Breakdown of the 2-parent household is a big problem for society. Single mothers want to pretend that's not true just to make themselves feel better.
This gives me even more of a reason not to date in high school. A break-up can lower self esteem, meaning mine will degrade to about -923, which I'm assuming isn't good for me.
You need experience tho. Sooner or later you ll experience a break up anyway. Imagine being in college, or later in life, not knowing how to deal with a break up. The person you ve been with probably has been through a lot of break ups, so he wont seem that affected after the break up, but for you it will be way harder. Yeah, it brings your self esteem down at that moment, but later you ll become stronger and more mature because of that.
I didn't date in high school and uni. I'm kind of happy with that cos I knew who I was and wasn't distracted. But I did not handle my first break up well
Ventus, yeah I guess, but to be honest, I quit dating in high school because most of the boys aren't mature. I have seen some people start dating just to kiss, and that's not what I'm all about. But then again it might just be me having high expectations, lol.
boi she looks like a future evil mistress that’ll laugh like “YEEHHHHEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEEEEEEEEEEEE!”
C. Marr but this isn’t true of all guests. For example, Nicolette gray and her mom on the show, now known as the Beverly Hills Brat, looked the same on Dr Phil
@@1alsaidi319🤣 we're on our 21 year of marriage. Even if he were to leave, he would be no different to our girls. They have his heart forever. The love a woman can give a man can be replaced, but the love between father and daughter can never be. Have a wonderful day
I have a teacher at my school that looks exactly like dr phill. We did the only logical thing a normal human being would do so we named him dr phill. He's an unintentional meme to it's self. Honestly, this man made me laugh so hard and he noticed and went on about how much his life is worth if he didnt make anyone laugh. Best teacher ive ever had.
I had a physics and chemistry teacher who looked like a young Albert Einstein. Even though he wasn't a particularly good teacher, he was my favourite. He looked and dressed like a real science nerd. I loved his classes.
I feel this on a personal level. I’ve never had a real relationship with my father, which has lead me to be very vulnerable when it comes to guys and has left me with low self-esteem. It also makes sense as to why I’m only attracted to men my fathers age. Everyone here who has a good relationship with their father, be thankful. It really is important in a girls life😣😔
Tara O' Connell I don’t know know exactly how to help, but I can say that hopefully she does have a male in her life who can be a father figure/positive male role model to her, wether that be a grandfather, uncle, friend, boyfriend, etc. When I was younger, my mom had a boyfriend who was my father figure. He showed me how I should be treated by a man and he taught me many things that my father never had an interest in taking his time to teach me. He gave me unconditional love and affection and spent time with me as much as he could and I can tell you that was an amazing time for me those years I got to have him. I will always keep those memories close to my heart and I will always remember the things he’s taught me and how he treated me. Unlike myself, I hope your daughter can have a man/men like that throughout her whole life. Unfortunately for me, I was abandoned yet again...but adults break up and that’s life. Good luck to you and your daughter.
Lots of love to you girl. I didn't have one with my father and I never realized how much it impacted me as an adult now until I went to therapy. I chose my kid's father who ended up to be like my own father. I made that mistake and my kids suffered from it.
Part of the problem is she was very controlling of those boys she dated, and they got fed up with it and broke up with her. Dr. Phil and her mom point that out in another clip from this episode.
@@nu-agegamer3548 yes. It’s sad to hear how low she thinks of herself. Someone also has to teach her what’s right and wrong in a relationship when she’s ready for one. Controlling behaviour and major jealousy are abusive qualities. I’m not dissing her, I’m just saying she is confused partly due to her self-esteem issues and I think the other part of the problem there is that because her father isn’t in the picture and didn’t make her feel good about herself, she also didn’t have an example of a healthy and good relationship set to her by her parents in order to prepare her for one.
identifying that is progress on it's own though, you'd be surprised how many people go through life pretending things are perfect when they aren't. the first step is always admitting your reality, the ability to look in the mirror as honestly as you can without ego and all shish, to understand your insufficiencies, is the first step to growing and overcoming those odds and becoming the person you deep-down know you're meant to be. and finding contentment in the things you can't control. we dont get to pick our parents, but we can certainly choose the way we react to things/these circumstances/etc. you're smart! (:
Kei Im a 61year old Granny My bedroom has all the big cat toys you can imagine They all have names they all get kissed every day I have a life size Panther on my bed and a life size Emperor Penguin I love them all Getting a Polar Bear this Crimbo Never be ashamed of them Dr Phils a guy remember his teddy bear is probably under the bed Take care my sweet Happy Christmas from a soppy Granny 🌹🎁🎄🎅😌
she is just honest and composed unlike other teenagers who pretend to be fake know it alls and extremely rude...well i am saying that as i am a teenager myself.....thats really good♡
I don’t feel so alone now... I know it’s because of family issues that I seem to act that way. I feel bad when I do but it puts me in a panic and ptsd (caused by family trauma) starts up right away. I feel really bad for her but she isn’t alone. 💕
Just remember your past doesn't define your future. It may not be your fault, but you need to hold yourself accountable for your actions moving forward. Once you enter dating and you become destructive, insecure, and unwilling to open up, that would be your fault. Healing takes responsibility and effort. It takes a long time, maybe even a lifetime, to heal but it is worth it when you see yourself improving. I hope things work out for you!
For real for real. That’s crazy n good to know i’m not alone either i’m glad they got a video like this out to inform people on y they might have problems
Ahh I remember when dating was everything for me in highschool. I'm almost 20 now. So over it lol. Would rather be alone . It's okay hun, you'll find yourself soon. And when you do it's the best feeling ever to know that you don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend for happiness. PS my name is Elena too ❤️
@@brij5261 I mean they all look like they have some developmental issues but they're still my babies! (I've also named my aloe plant Henry so maybe I'm the one with issues🤣)
I feel for this girl. My father was extremely abusive and I've hopped from bad relationship to bad relationship in my life and it's overall mentally damaging. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Thank you Dr. Phil for doing this episode. I have been this girl and even though I am much older and now understand why I acted the way I did as a child; it was so healing to hear someone say the things you did. It was like someone wiping away the humiliation and taking away all the burden of responsibility. It was nice to have someone explain that it is totally reasonable that I didn't have the skills to confront those situations at that age/due to life experience and up-bring. Thanks!
I disagree with the statement about parents keeping their kids out of situations they don't know how to handle. You can't shelter a child forever. A better statement is parents should be there for their kids and be prepared to guide them through situations they don't know how to handle
Damn. That last part was a really good observation. Everybody needs self-affirmation, but not to a point they think they can’t do anything wrong. Think of the values you have and associate those with yourselves so if you’re ever in a bad situation, you’ll be your own cheerleader. ☺️
That John Mayer song ‘Daughters’ drives this home. “Fathers be good to your daughters; daughters will love like you do; girls become lovers who turn into mothers, so mothers be good to your daughters too.”
“You really have the negatives on speed dial, but you really have to dig for the good about yourself” I felt that 😩we gotta start acknowledging what we DO bring to the table.
I consider myself very lucky to have a good relationship with my father. Dr. Phil is right, it takes a lot more than sweet words to sweep me off my feet and It's because I was told by my father that I'm beautiful and special since I was little.
Poor girl I was in her situation years ago... took me so long to find my worth. She is doing good she will heal and be a strong individual. And I pray for those who struggled too.
My father was a very mean and abusive man and I understand now why I choose the men and women that I do. I have finally decided to take things into my own hands and be my own protector and my own motivator. I am no princess, I am a queen. ❤️
This is a good segment & not just for teens. I’m 34 & my father has been in prison since I was a baby. He’s very emotionally abusive towards me. I’ve never had a relationship w a guy last longer than a season. It really hurts because I so badly want to get married & have a family but I scare every guy away. I don’t even know what a good relationship looks like.
Wow I feel her. It's like I'm looking into a mirror of my past self... I jjst wanna tell her it's gonna be alright and to try to hold your head up high and hug her.
Ah, the simplistic explanations of Dr. Phil. Totally agree about the importance of a father in a young girl's life to tell and show her how special and valuable she is to him. But that is no guarantee. If it were that easy, then no girls would go astray. I speak from experience about my daughter.
youngmedusa cuz its not the point of the video, and idk it feels like im judging her by her looks? I dunno. I just think she’s really pretty and didnt want to offend anyone
Doesn’t most people have to “dig” for the positive things about ourselves verses the negatives? If we could list 5 positive things about ourselves in 4 seconds, people would thinking we’re conceited
I wish I had that connection with my father , Im fat, im hurt, unconfident , I have a horrible connection with my father, my boyfriend makes me feel more like a princess then anyone else
No of course its not My bedroom is full of lifesize big cats and as a 61 yr old Granny i love everyone of them on the bed a lifesize Black Panther called Bau Bau and Lifesize Emperor Penguin called Mr Pop Guys really like them So no you and i just havnt met a real good guy yet Take Care 🌹😌🐧🐺🐯🐾⭐
I feel like alot of teens need to hear this one.
Jelly C
And dumbass moms that keep doing this to thier kids....
Thank you !!!
Almost 20 and this did truly open my eyes
I’m 32 and needed to hear this one. Dr. Phil has some gems sometimes.
Parents need to hear it too. Parents too busy being their kid's friend instead of protecting them from situations they have no business being in.
Were all really up at 4 am watching dr phil lol
P͓̽o͓̽i͓̽s͓̽o͓̽n͓̽ cause dr phill is that guy PERIOD
No, its 10am in UK. America isn't the only country.
You know there are other countries in the world, right?
7am here
@@joseomarperez9227 lil uzi lil uzi lil uzi " uzi voice"
Rejection is difficult for anyone at any age whether male or female.
Nope
Just Saying not for me lol
Definitely for some people, everyone is different but it can affect anyone!
It’s not about the age, it’s about the experience. It can be difficult at any age, but you’re more likely to handle it better based upon prior experience to the situation
That doesn't excuse overreacting
This was probably one of the best analogy & advice Dr. Phil has ever given on his shows.
Seriously though! Many times I think he's way off, or is a bit of a douche (not that anyone is perfect), but he definitely did good here I think!
This needs more likes ☝️
Definitely and his execution aswell...dead on...❣️❣️❣️❣️💕💕❤️❤️
TURN TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST BEFORE ITS TOO LATE, GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM AND START WALKING IN OBEDIENCE, WITHSTANDING FROM ALL SIN AND WICKEDNESS, JESUS SAID THE PATH TO HEAVEN IS HARD AND NARROW, AND FEW FIND IT. MATTHEW 7:13-14, HEBREWS 5:9, JOHN 14:15, MATTHEW 7:21-26, 1ST CORINTHIANS 6:9-10, JOHN 3:16-21, JOHN 10:7-8, MATTHEW 10:26, AND LUKE 13:5. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
My father was never in the picture, I was forced into an adult role at the age of 10, and I was forced to take the role of the "golden child"... I'm 24 years old now and realized that I'm always tense, I fall for any guy who flirts with me, which after a lot of reflection I came to realize that it's the validation that I seek... I have trust issues, and I've never taken care of myself because I've always been too busy fixing other people's problems, etc.
PARENTS: Don't lean on your children for emotional support, don't expect perfection from them, and make your children feel special not based on what they've accomplished, but for who they are... Trust me, it will save them from a lot of psychological problems
Oh good luck x
Leslie N. Same
My parents forced me into the role of the golden kid as well. All their hope rests on my shoulders and they force me to fullfill their dreams they had in all of their children onto me.
I went through all of this at the exact same age except I’m 21 now. And it’s bad that I know I’ll be “jealous” when I have a child with my partner and they get what I never had. But it’s the best thing for the child. Things like this don’t make you stronger; they make you angrier.
@@fantasyhochzwei8977 Wow. I'm so sorry that has happened, you didn't deserve that. I hope you find whatever it is that will make you happy instead of what makes others. Really.
Fathers are so important. I'm so lucky that all three of my kids have a great father.
Yeah them be my babies 💪💯
I dont have one (mentally) and I found out that my relationships based on that issue since I was 14 .
@Mina B we know that
Good for you
@Mina B Young savage isn't using the word "we" in the context that you said. Young savage is just saying "we" as in the viewers stupid.
This is sad for kids without dads.
I tried not to cry, dr. Phil was straight up... hit home
Dads are irrelevant, moms should always have 100% custody because they are all a child needs
@@benjaminamarante8481 - I hope you're joking. Breakdown of the 2-parent household is a big problem for society. Single mothers want to pretend that's not true just to make themselves feel better.
@@ModernPlague Im right your wrong goodbye
@@benjaminamarante8481 -Spoken like an incorrect ignoramus. Nighty night, Benjamin. Momma loves you.
This gives me even more of a reason not to date in high school. A break-up can lower self esteem, meaning mine will degrade to about -923, which I'm assuming isn't good for me.
You need experience tho. Sooner or later you ll experience a break up anyway. Imagine being in college, or later in life, not knowing how to deal with a break up. The person you ve been with probably has been through a lot of break ups, so he wont seem that affected after the break up, but for you it will be way harder. Yeah, it brings your self esteem down at that moment, but later you ll become stronger and more mature because of that.
I didn't date in high school and uni. I'm kind of happy with that cos I knew who I was and wasn't distracted. But I did not handle my first break up well
Just live ya life
Ventus, yeah I guess, but to be honest, I quit dating in high school because most of the boys aren't mature. I have seen some people start dating just to kiss, and that's not what I'm all about. But then again it might just be me having high expectations, lol.
boi she looks like a future evil mistress that’ll laugh like
“YEEHHHHEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEEHEHEHEEHEHEHEHEHEEEEEEEEEEEE!”
It took me a few years but I finally know why everyone’s hair looks horrible. They all wear wigs so it’s harder recognize them lol
Wtf. Really?
I’ve been waiting to see if someone noticed her wig lol
That actually makes a lot of sense.. but what about their names? Are they changed?
I mean probably yeah. The most horrible stuff is being discussed on this show, would be weird is they did use real names and hair 🤷🏼♀️
C. Marr but this isn’t true of all guests. For example, Nicolette gray and her mom on the show, now known as the Beverly Hills Brat, looked the same on Dr Phil
I love how loving and patient Dr. Phil was with her. He knew she was hurting😢
Oh this innocent child
Legrette Shes a sweetheart and doing really really well now!!
@@MD-we7ue Really glad to know that
Future liberal lesbian
@@s577-v4v Fax lmfao😂💀
@@s577-v4v and?😂 oh no, lesbians
“I didn’t know what to do so I broke down” BABYGIRL, I feel that heavilyy. I hope you find peace and happiness in your life. Be a kid hunny
Potato🥔
Every child deserves to be a child
PS: someone who watches yes theory!!!
“She still has stuffed animals on her bed”
Was that a personal attack?
Edit: Not you people thinking I’m serious- this is so obviously a joke
RSStarfire I have stuffed animals and a boyfriend..I feel attacked 😂
@@evelynanderson6016 I still have stuffies and Im married. Feeling very attacked lmao.
Lmao so do I whoopi 👌
stuffed animals are the best for reaaal
I'm 19 and in college, I still have stuffed animals lol
Daddies be good to your daughters.
Even if you're not with the mother anymore 💖
Nikki Caz
Your baby father left you
😂
@@1alsaidi319🤣 we're on our 21 year of marriage.
Even if he were to leave, he would be no different to our girls.
They have his heart forever.
The love a woman can give a man can be replaced, but the love between father and daughter can never be.
Have a wonderful day
Nikki Caz
Wow what a comment I’m speechless
Merry Christmas and a happy new year!!
Revolutionary and clever advice.
Yeah. Be good to your daughters even if the mom threatens you and does everything possible to keep you out of her life.
I just turned 30 and I've always had stuffed animals on my bed... Probably never gonna stop. There's no age limit on stuffed animals lol.
I'm 20 and I've got 2 big ones😂 i don't see the issue, they're just fun shaped pillows
Ikr that’s what I thought? Stuffies are just lovey dovey they don’t do anything 🙈
Just like there's no age limit on nostalgic stuff.
Nope!
I call them plushies now so they’re more adult lol
I have a teacher at my school that looks exactly like dr phill. We did the only logical thing a normal human being would do so we named him dr phill. He's an unintentional meme to it's self. Honestly, this man made me laugh so hard and he noticed and went on about how much his life is worth if he didnt make anyone laugh. Best teacher ive ever had.
I had a physics and chemistry teacher who looked like a young Albert Einstein. Even though he wasn't a particularly good teacher, he was my favourite. He looked and dressed like a real science nerd. I loved his classes.
we had a guy who looked like snoopy and dj'd but he was old asf
That's A Blessing From God,Be Sure To Let Him Know How Appreciated 😊❤️ He Is!!!!God Bless 😇😇🔥🔥🥰🥰
Bless her heart. I love how Dr. Phil treated her.
I feel this on a personal level. I’ve never had a real relationship with my father, which has lead me to be very vulnerable when it comes to guys and has left me with low self-esteem. It also makes sense as to why I’m only attracted to men my fathers age. Everyone here who has a good relationship with their father, be thankful. It really is important in a girls life😣😔
If it's any consolation it's better to have no relationship than have a toxic one. That is when you end up dysfunctional.
Dora pepe you end up dysfunctional just as much if you’re flat-out abandoned.
Jesus I am a single parent to a daughter aged 9. How do I help this then 😬
Tara O' Connell I don’t know know exactly how to help, but I can say that hopefully she does have a male in her life who can be a father figure/positive male role model to her, wether that be a grandfather, uncle, friend, boyfriend, etc. When I was younger, my mom had a boyfriend who was my father figure. He showed me how I should be treated by a man and he taught me many things that my father never had an interest in taking his time to teach me. He gave me unconditional love and affection and spent time with me as much as he could and I can tell you that was an amazing time for me those years I got to have him. I will always keep those memories close to my heart and I will always remember the things he’s taught me and how he treated me. Unlike myself, I hope your daughter can have a man/men like that throughout her whole life. Unfortunately for me, I was abandoned yet again...but adults break up and that’s life. Good luck to you and your daughter.
Lots of love to you girl. I didn't have one with my father and I never realized how much it impacted me as an adult now until I went to therapy. I chose my kid's father who ended up to be like my own father. I made that mistake and my kids suffered from it.
She' looks like a really depressed Anime character.
She actually does
@Sarah White make us-
Exactly you can't :)
😂😂😂😭
Yeah
If I have a daughter I'm making sure she knows that shes special, I'm not gonna let my kid ever feel like they're less than perfect.
UltraLuke 2000 making them think they’re perfect is a terrible idea. Let her know she’s loved and doesn’t need to be perfect, for a start
I would smack them and hug them
I would just headbutt them
UltraLuke 2000 Be careful though. My husband did this with my stepdaughter and now she has diagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder. 🤷🏻♀️
I know your intention is good, but it's not as nice as you think.
This girl is totally adorable! Any young man would be lucky to date her!
@Vamp you sir have acquired the CHAD role
Part of the problem is she was very controlling of those boys she dated, and they got fed up with it and broke up with her. Dr. Phil and her mom point that out in another clip from this episode.
@@StealthMode3924 Because of her low self-esteem. She doesn't think she would win any competition between herself and another girl.
@@nu-agegamer3548 yes. It’s sad to hear how low she thinks of herself. Someone also has to teach her what’s right and wrong in a relationship when she’s ready for one. Controlling behaviour and major jealousy are abusive qualities. I’m not dissing her, I’m just saying she is confused partly due to her self-esteem issues and I think the other part of the problem there is that because her father isn’t in the picture and didn’t make her feel good about herself, she also didn’t have an example of a healthy and good relationship set to her by her parents in order to prepare her for one.
I really feel sorry for her. She seems like such a sweet young girl.
I have awful parenting rollmodels but always thought “I’m fine” until I noticed I was really not. It does make a diference. No one is imune
identifying that is progress on it's own though, you'd be surprised how many people go through life pretending things are perfect when they aren't. the first step is always admitting your reality, the ability to look in the mirror as honestly as you can without ego and all shish, to understand your insufficiencies, is the first step to growing and overcoming those odds and becoming the person you deep-down know you're meant to be. and finding contentment in the things you can't control. we dont get to pick our parents, but we can certainly choose the way we react to things/these circumstances/etc. you're smart! (:
I love Dr. Phil in this one so much. It’s less of a “therapy” session and more of a Father giving a lesson to his Daughter. Super sweet clip.
BPD IN TEENS IS REAL. Parents need to start understanding mental health from a young age that impacts us as teens.
Let this be a lesson to all women, PICK BETTER FATHERS FOR YOUR KIDS. It's one of the most important decisions for your child you will ever make.
Thank u. Most just want anyone or thing to f them...no more thought to it.
Dumb comment XD must me a troll
Jeff Kaplan
Troll? The honesty troll?
It’s a two way street.
Some women leave good men and hold kids over them and force the child out of their lives, happens everyday. Mothers are trash too lol
Doctor Phil, I’m 23 and I still have stuffed toys on my bed please don’t call me out like this. 😂
I have a unicorn poop pillow 😂😂
Kei Im a 61year old Granny My bedroom has all the big cat toys you can imagine They all have names they all get kissed every day I have a life size Panther on my bed and a life size Emperor Penguin I love them all Getting a Polar Bear this Crimbo Never be ashamed of them Dr Phils a guy remember his teddy bear is probably under the bed Take care my sweet Happy Christmas from a soppy Granny 🌹🎁🎄🎅😌
@@jennyperrio4887 merry Christmas to you too Jenny!
@@jennyperrio4887 you rule
He isn't
she is just honest and composed unlike other teenagers who pretend to be fake know it alls and extremely rude...well i am saying that as i am a teenager myself.....thats really good♡
It's because she wants the help, not the clout. He needs more guests like her, open to help and can sit there and listen to what he's telling them 😌
She went through a lot. That forces kids to “grow up” too fast.
it kinda feels like he’s talking to me
She is gorgeous and will get prettier as she gets older. I hope she finds more confidence and self trust as she matures.
I love how Dr. Phil handled her. So kind.
damn im 25 and married and I still learned something from this, thanks dr Phil
I feel for this girl. I HATED having to say what my good qualities were. That’s how low my self worth was
I don’t feel so alone now... I know it’s because of family issues that I seem to act that way. I feel bad when I do but it puts me in a panic and ptsd (caused by family trauma) starts up right away. I feel really bad for her but she isn’t alone. 💕
Just remember your past doesn't define your future. It may not be your fault, but you need to hold yourself accountable for your actions moving forward. Once you enter dating and you become destructive, insecure, and unwilling to open up, that would be your fault. Healing takes responsibility and effort. It takes a long time, maybe even a lifetime, to heal but it is worth it when you see yourself improving. I hope things work out for you!
For real for real. That’s crazy n good to know i’m not alone either i’m glad they got a video like this out to inform people on y they might have problems
this girl is an absolute winner in life....she just doesn't realise it just yet
Ahh I remember when dating was everything for me in highschool. I'm almost 20 now. So over it lol. Would rather be alone . It's okay hun, you'll find yourself soon. And when you do it's the best feeling ever to know that you don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend for happiness. PS my name is Elena too ❤️
I have a pretty negligent father and hearing what Dr. Phil the first few minutes was probably something that I needed to hear
"still has stuffed animals on her bed" ....... * me, a 27 year old, with 2 stuffed animals on my bed, in a relationship........ * WHAT
Alright I’m 24 and still have stuffed animals on my bed 😅
I'm 21 and I also have stuffed animals on my bed
I'm 21 and married and I even make my own stuffed animals😂
@@SynterraSteen ooo nice touch 👌🏼 i like that
Courtney Remi I’m almost 23 and I feel like I alway will lol
@@brij5261 I mean they all look like they have some developmental issues but they're still my babies!
(I've also named my aloe plant Henry so maybe I'm the one with issues🤣)
I feel for this girl. My father was extremely abusive and I've hopped from bad relationship to bad relationship in my life and it's overall mentally damaging. I hope she gets the help she needs.
How about focusing your time and energy on getting the help YOU need?
Thank you Dr. Phil for doing this episode. I have been this girl and even though I am much older and now understand why I acted the way I did as a child; it was so healing to hear someone say the things you did. It was like someone wiping away the humiliation and taking away all the burden of responsibility. It was nice to have someone explain that it is totally reasonable that I didn't have the skills to confront those situations at that age/due to life experience and up-bring. Thanks!
This girl is going to be a model when she grows up. She’s beautiful. Forget the haters darlin. Better men out there!!
I disagree with the statement about parents keeping their kids out of situations they don't know how to handle. You can't shelter a child forever. A better statement is parents should be there for their kids and be prepared to guide them through situations they don't know how to handle
Damn. That last part was a really good observation. Everybody needs self-affirmation, but not to a point they think they can’t do anything wrong. Think of the values you have and associate those with yourselves so if you’re ever in a bad situation, you’ll be your own cheerleader. ☺️
Imagine caring more about someone else and their opinions than yourself
“Imagine”
I felt sad when she had a hard time listing good things about herself. I am the same way and knowing how painful it is, I feel so sorry for her.
If Dr Phil had a daughter, he’d definitely make sure she knew she was the princess in his life.
Not gonna lie, I would hate the 5 things about myself question, and I haven’t got an issue with self-esteem
Me too
This one right here made me EMOTIONAL. He gave her amazing insight
That John Mayer song ‘Daughters’ drives this home.
“Fathers be good to your daughters; daughters will love like you do; girls become lovers who turn into mothers, so mothers be good to your daughters too.”
I'm 25 and needed to hear this. Cried at the relationship with your father part. I am so blessed to have a supportive father 😍
“You really have the negatives on speed dial, but you really have to dig for the good about yourself” I felt that 😩we gotta start acknowledging what we DO bring to the table.
I absolutely love episodes like this. Fixing problems in people that deserve to be helped. Wonderful ❤️
My father told me I meant nothing to him and that I was a loser. Now he’s in jail
Her answers about herself sounded like things that would be good for a relationship. This is rlly sad. I hope she got help.
hey now don’t come at me for having stuffed animals on my bed now
Don’t normally tear up watching Dr. Phil, but this hit home.
I consider myself very lucky to have a good relationship with my father. Dr. Phil is right, it takes a lot more than sweet words to sweep me off my feet and It's because I was told by my father that I'm beautiful and special since I was little.
I’m almost 18 and still have a stuffed animal on my bed 😔
i'm 36 and still sleep with my stuffed dog. No shame.
Girl I'm 23 and sleep with stuffed animals
15 with my stuffed bear animal
This broke my heart. She’s so cute she needs to work on self esteem!!
I wish they could make this into an official PSA and air it continuously for our broken society...💯💯💯
Today, Mr Meatball helps Spaghetti get through hard times.
oh she's a sweetheart bless her dr phill knows she's a good person look at the respect he gives her
She’s 15. How many relationships has she had lol
Welcome to America lmao
@@goldguy4185 definitely
@@goldguy4185 I know people who lost their v card at 12
I’m 15 and I have had exactly 0 relationships
@@roboticsandwich8139 good, they ain’t worth it
Poor girl I was in her situation years ago... took me so long to find my worth. She is doing good she will heal and be a strong individual. And I pray for those who struggled too.
That slow head-turn like "Yeah. I'm talking about YOU."
People joke about Dr. Phil, but I think this man brings it on point. We're blessed to have him
My father was a very mean and abusive man and I understand now why I choose the men and women that I do. I have finally decided to take things into my own hands and be my own protector and my own motivator. I am no princess, I am a queen. ❤️
This is a good segment & not just for teens. I’m 34 & my father has been in prison since I was a baby. He’s very emotionally abusive towards me. I’ve never had a relationship w a guy last longer than a season. It really hurts because I so badly want to get married & have a family but I scare every guy away. I don’t even know what a good relationship looks like.
"I hate to sound like a Freudian" OMG MEEE (I'm a psychology student)
BTW he's great, and she's very smart
Dr. Phil handled this so perfectly
*but why is she so adorable :(*
I feel so much sympathy for this girl. This poor thing :( I hope she finds the strength she deserves
I just want to hug her!
Take the most confident , loved girl & put her around negative people. The confidence built in all those years erodes in 1/4 the time .
I'm 20 and still have stuffed animals on my bed too 😂
My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago and I can honestly say I really needed this.
She is so sweet
Wow I feel her. It's like I'm looking into a mirror of my past self... I jjst wanna tell her it's gonna be alright and to try to hold your head up high and hug her.
Seems like a sweet person struggling.
Ah, the simplistic explanations of Dr. Phil. Totally agree about the importance of a father in a young girl's life to tell and show her how special and valuable she is to him. But that is no guarantee. If it were that easy, then no girls would go astray. I speak from experience about my daughter.
I needed to hear this
Hes so sweet honestly I love doctor phil
She looks adorable-
Finally a good teen that just needed some guidance and willing to take it. Every going girl needs to watch or hear this!!!
My boyfriend dumped me after two years to go back to his ex. I’m still getting over it so I understand her pain.
I have my problems with Dr. Phil but man he articulated this so well and I think a lot of people would benefit from hearing this session.
I hate to say this... but she is so pretty
Why do you hate to say that?
Are we watching the same clip? Wtf
youngmedusa cuz its not the point of the video, and idk it feels like im judging her by her looks? I dunno. I just think she’s really pretty and didnt want to offend anyone
And I love the hair they've put on her if its not her own. Very cute :)
Humanimal That’s a wig? Is that to help with identifying this way they can keep their image somewhat private?
She seems so sweet but vulnerable and just sad
Ngl, she looks beautiful
13 or 30
Jihadi Sultans 2 you’re*
Man Dr. Phil, that was a great convo! Your pace, your tone, illustration, etc.....well done.
Doesn’t most people have to “dig” for the positive things about ourselves verses the negatives?
If we could list 5 positive things about ourselves in 4 seconds, people would thinking we’re conceited
Yes and that’s a societal problem it’s not conceited to think good about yourself
More people need to hear this.
I wish I had that connection with my father , Im fat, im hurt, unconfident , I have a horrible connection with my father, my boyfriend makes me feel more like a princess then anyone else
😭❤️ this poor girl. I just want to give her a hug.
Damn you just told 4 million people she still sleeping with her teddy bear
This really hit home for me..
I have stuffed animals on my bed as an adult is this why I can't get a boyfriend?
No of course its not My bedroom is full of lifesize big cats and as a 61 yr old Granny i love everyone of them on the bed a lifesize Black Panther called Bau Bau and Lifesize Emperor Penguin called Mr Pop Guys really like them So no you and i just havnt met a real good guy yet Take Care 🌹😌🐧🐺🐯🐾⭐
U can tell she is such a sweetheart the way she answers the questions. She's a beautiful young girl. Dont grow up so fast.
They pick really cheap wigs..
i LOVE dr Phill on this episode, very compassionate