i find the common trope that financially stable men cheat annoying & tired. like broke men don't cheat on women everyday? cheating is a character issue, not a financial one.
She never said broke men don’t cheat. According to the data, most men who make a lot of money tend to be less monogamous because the they have more options to beautiful women than men who are broke. Kelvin Samuels already told us that high value men don’t cheat, they exercise their options. She’s is not addressing the small percentage of men who are the exception to the rule.
@@orrsangels2395 no. a multi-millionaire may have an increased chance of infidelity, not a man making 100k a year. idk about the rest of the country, but in many states 100k alone is not enough to have a stay at home wife much less to even buy a home for her to stay in. it's not this grand number that puts you in a socioeconomic class where cheating is now something your partner should expect from you. the same men that were cheating when they were making 60k/yr will be the same men cheating after they get their promotion. like i said: it's a character issue. "men 6ft plus have more options than shorter men, and more access to beautiful women, so if you want a man 6ft + are you prepared to share him??" same reasoning. all nonsense. a silly talking point used to discourage black women to not prioritize a man's capacity to provide for a household when dating for marraige. anytime a woman wants to date within her own socioeconomic class, the immediate follow up question should not be whether or not she is open to polygamy. black people are the only ones who do this, and yes, i blame kevin samuels.
@@ceemeemo7658 here you go… taking what I said out of context. And don’t put me in it because I didn’t not Divulge my standard because it’s none of y’all business. I am adding to the content of Kendra’s Statement. Y’all are so focus on that all men cheat when it has nothing to do with the content of this video. I can go on and on and on about outliers. The more money a man makes the more he has access to the kind of women he wants. My point is that we forget that men do not hold us to the same standards we hold them. I stop listening to single women a long time ago about their standards and what they want… because they are keeping single women single. I only take advice from married women who has proof to back up their point of views…And I definitely started listening to what men what from us and not women telling me what men want. The issue is not wanting a man who makes 100k and up… it’s that those men do not care about a woman’s salary or her being equal to him. So her reason to only want a man that makes that much because she does… doesn’t mean that she’s going to get the things that matter regarding character, Monogamy, respect, and so forth. Her last relationship was with a man who wanted an allowance… the money is not the problem, her choice of men is. Men are tired of y’all only reducing them to money as a qualifying factor that they are worthy or good enough for y’all. That’s all I got to say!
@@ceemeemo7658 of course not! Guilt, Shame, Insult, and the Need to Be Right… Some of y’all can never share your perspective without being disrespectful. Mind you… you wrote a whole paragraph.. very contradicting but I’m not surprised. Also, please let’s not forget this is not your page… I can reply again if I like. It’s alway the ones who don’t have profile pics that can never conduct themselves accordingly!! Good day!! 😭😭😭😭
I'm a nurse. My husband makes 50k but is the best man ever! We are so happy in our home. We enjoy each other, bills are paid, and I haven't mowed grass, pumped gas, fixed anything around the house in 8 years even though I can. Having a partner to share in the struggles and triumphs is most important to me. We do remember being flat broke together and going to yard sales to make it. Now we make over 100k together and have acquired some property and such, but if it all goes away today, I will still be with him.. I know I have gold and so does he. Oh, 100k is not much nowadays anyway. It matters that if I'm down, he will be there and vise versa. He helps with household stuff and works to pay bills too. We both have each other back. He rubs my feet and I rub his. And he's easy on the eyes!!
I’m a speech pathologist and my husband is a high school security paraprofessional. He makes 48k. I make 100k+. I couldn’t imagine doing this life without him. Together life is better. We have time for each other and I absolutely love having him by my side for everything. I don’t cut grass, pump gas, deal with the cars at all, fix stuff in the house, deal with repair people or any of that (and neither do our daughters). Our son has Cerebral Palsy and he takes him to his therapy appointments weekly and dresses him for school EVERYDAY. Our Baby is just as fly as the regular Ed kids thinks to my husband. He attends cheer meets, track meets, swim meets, and Wheelchair basketball tournaments & practices. I am blessed beyond understanding. And when he came into an unexpected financial blessing he paid off both of our credit cards. That man loves him some ME AND I ADORE my hubby!!!!
6:47 she says she's *always* made more than the men she's dated, then she says a few moments later, she's dated millionaires. Never once did she say she was a millionaire. She's not even being honest.
There are men out there who do, but most would want a woman a little younger. I find that most older, financially stable women are stuck in their ways. It’s one of the reasons I don’t date anymore and I know, and have been told daily I check 90% of BW boxes. I raise my son to be an upstanding man, but I don’t think most women are raising their daughters to be the type of women I would approve of my son being with, and his mother agrees
Does Kendra not understand that men of all income brackets have the potential to cheat? That goes from the doctors to the guys flipping burgers at McDonald's.
She doesn’t understand that and it’s probably because she’s been cheated on by these millionaires and settled for whatever they did because they were rich. She settled until she couldn’t take it anymore. Now she thinks she’s educating women on rich men but in fact she was the issue. She needs to self reflect. She talks about women’s features ie weight and overall look like a man wouldn’t want someone however she walking around out of shape, no knee caps, legs shaped like bratwurst sausages, too tight clothes, fake boobs out of control, way too much hair and sometimes horrible makeup/lipstick. She need to fix herself before giving so much advice….
@@lalaess2426 I totally agree that a lot men don't care how a woman look as long as he can find something attractive about her. For instance she may be overweight but she has a warm heart and a beautiful face. Or she may not fit what society says is pretty but she has a nice body and believes in catering to her man. The women we men choose to marry may not always fit society's beauty and fit standards.
@@lalaess2426 I think she should just continue to provide a platform for singles to meet and stay away from giving advice because she could do damage to someone's self-esteem. Sometimes when im listening to her give advice she gives me a hint of a Kevin Samuel vibe.
@@MikeMike-hu1qn how is she goofy for stating facts sir 🙄. It’s a known fact that ANY MAN regardless tax bracket will STILL CHEAT ! That’s the point of her comment, so what your saying is irrelevant GOOFY !🤪🙃🥴
The guest wants a partner who is financially compatible with her. She wants a guy who will be The equivalent to her Salary, who will match her earnings, and who will Balance her income. Nothing wrong with that at all 💯💯💯
The issue is that men who make 6 figures don't choose women based on their income. I am a professional who makes well into the 6 figures and I would choose an attractive Starbucks coffee barista who makes $30k a year over her. In the eyes of men, she's the equivalent of a man making minimum wage when you assess her based on the qualities that MEN look for. And you need to understand what men look for unless you plan on dating women. Ask any successful man if he would choose a below average looking woman who makes $250k or an attractive woman who makes $30k. 99% of high earning men will happily go with the super attractive woman making $30k.
I have a male cousin that makes 100k a year (we both live in the UK). He's broke, living pay cheque to pay cheque raising one child whilst having baby mama issues. You want a man that earns a decent salary but most importantly is good at managing their money.
@@HeauxlisticLux Terrible spender, student loans plus he's put his child in private school though he cannot afford it. In the UK we have grammar schools which is the equivalent of private schools but FREE. He refuses to listen. Though I make a fraction of his salary, I know I'm financially more healthier.
I mean yea…. Lol you still have to do background checks. Also, the moment they mention that they have any kids I’m running for the hills, but I don’t even date black guys anymore, so….
Better doesn’t necessarily mean high earner. If a woman set her standards at 100k she might pass on the man who will be great for her because he’s making 80k. I once had a girl told me she can’t date me because I’m a Leo 😂. But guess what? I’m not a Leo I just told her that to see her reaction and I didn’t even bother to continue the conversation.
@@AirunDevon single doesn’t have anything to do with her character. Being single isn’t a death sentence and isn’t the main goal in life. Fucking idiot.
I have no problem with this lady she knows what she wants and hopefully she doesn’t settle. Her drive is just right and she is a true Jamaican woman. Best of luck with her career and finding love.
I totally agree! She was not rude at all. She only stated her standards. It’s the broke men that feel disrespected. She was a beautiful dark skinned woman. Those men just felt inferior of her. She carried herself very well in the show!
@@jaelawolfe9337 absolutely. Her issue isn't her standards it's her attitude. I make plenty more than she looking for but I would not deal with a woman who is not feminine. Yall money don't matter. It becomes redundant. I'd much rather have a sweet woman who can do things that I can't and has a GED than a masters degree with an attitude.
I swear, I feel like I’m living in an alternate universe. That woman said she usually dates men that make less money and they use her for her money, so she wants someone that makes a similar amount as her. As a high earning woman, I can attest that she’s right. It’s not like she’s a low wage woman asking for a well off man. These men calling talking about she was “disgusting” are triggered for absolutely no reason…but we all know, a hit dog will always holler. I don’t understand how a man can say he wants to be with multiple women who are fit, young, pretty but he’s a freaking INSTACART driver and the man receives less pushback. To see all these black women telling another black woman that she needs to LOWER her standards to pull out a seat at HER TABLE for a BROKE MAN IS ASININE. Also Kendra asked her if she dated a millionaire before. Kendra brought it up. Oh and NEWSFLASH - BROKE MEN CHEAT TOO. BOOM! One last thing, to suggest that most high earning men are cheaters should be an insult to high earning men.
This is the gender divide🤦🏾♂️. The point that Kendra is trying to make is that men that she wants will have a selection criteria for her that she must meet. You ladies foolishly believe that just about your standard for the men. And you all want the top 10-20 percent of men without understand these men will have a selection criteria for you which may not include how much money you make rather your femininity !!!! In essence that is your gift to your husband. Unfortunately too many of our women have been socialized not to do the very thing that makes them desirable long-term.
I think Kendra was saying men that make that much money wouldn’t choose her. They have way too many options to pick her. Not saying it couldn’t happen but it’s more likely not to happen.
@@upsidedown584 That woman was attractive, all men don’t like the same type of women. So because she’s not young and a model type, she can’t get a man that makes $100k? Some gov’t workers and police officers make that much. Its not like she said she wanted a millionaire, she just wants a man that makes a similar salary as she does. Thats not too much to ask. People are ridiculous 🙄
@@mr.culturefreedom2073 She’s not attractive to YOU. With millions of men in the world, there is a man making six figures somewhere that finds her attractive. TRUST. 💯
And vise versa. People who make over 100k who cheat, poor character and are cheaters. High value and and character is not synonymous. Look for high character.
@@ulquiorra3104 why do average men paint a narrative that men who make an average 100K are cheaters? It’s like you guys do and say anything just to have access to women. And it still doesn’t work.
@@SSS-qu8cn no im not saying that they're all cheaters I am saying men cheat regardless if economic status. Women tend to make it sound as if men who make 100k plus do not cheat and that's far from the truth. Pretty, ugly and average women cheat. rich, poor and middle class men cheat. Look for character in a man. Women look for money instead of character and tend to get mad when it goes south. Same with men who goes for looks instead of a females character. Can't complain when she parading around half naked on Instagram you wanted looks instead of character.
Kendra G I really respected this episode because it made me realize how much you learned and grown by having these dialogs. Much respect to you keep up the good work.
Kendra is Speaking TRUTH!! I married a man that is a millionaire, and I was making in around $85k, at the time. . . He loves me for ME. I'm feminine, I care for him and respect him, I give him peace (sometimes I fail but I get back on track), he leads our family, God leads him, he leads me, which allows me, to care for and lead his children. It's an AMAAAAAAAZING Life. I feel blessed.🙏🏾
Congratulations happy for you Sistar May The Most High always be constant in your family and wishing you a lifetime of peace and happiness in your marriage 💯✊🏾💜
@@dharmatictruth7108 Really?! Come on now, you HAVE to know that's a character issue, not every person cheats. How about appreciating that she's happy? Whatever the situation, she's just fine with it. Go head Black Family!
@@libbymills4432 how about instead of virtue signalling, you learn to listen, read, and comprehend? The op said kendra was 100% essentially... what is 100% ? Does it mean everything? Yes. Kendra said these men cheat.... the op said that's absolutely correct according to the post... im pointing out the facts, you are crying about it..... now, if the op is not literate enough to post what they really meant... that is not my fault.
So sad that the two men that chose to comment basically said that the beautiful Jamaican woman didn’t look good enough to ask for anything. She simply stated what she wanted, which is her right and they still turned their noses up at her and I think we all know why. SMH
While I don't think Kendra is a "pick me" HOMEGIRL came on and blew it out the water!!! I TOTALLY AGREE with the lady that came on to TRY & read Kendra💯. The candidate never said she has to have a man that makes 6 figures. She said she would LIKE him to. She said she DOESN'T mind helping a man, but he can't expect to USE her. And the men basically feel she wasn't pretty enough to ask for a 6 figure man...wtf. She may not have been what most people think is the standard of beauty, but she seemed to be a quality woman. She just don't want no F boy.
I totally agree with her & your POV as well. She was asking for a match in terms of partnership. She wasn't asking for anything groundbreaking. She is also very attractive, the casino lighting was very unflattering. I looked at her IG page. For all of the negative comments from these men how many of them are actually happily married? There's no way they could be in fruitful relationship & have so much vitriol. They just want women to settle rather than they raise their standard of life up.
Coming from a family of professional athletes and scientists banking way over six figures I have to disagree with this notion that all men that are successful are just shallow and only care about looks. Not everyone is looking for eye candy. Eye candy doesn't guarantee loyalty, maturity, being a quality wife or mother. The idea that anyone with money is seeking a 10 in the looks department is just false. Not to mention that the highest divorce rate and cases of infidelity are from those that are financially struggling. When you're making a lot you have a lot more to lose which is why most are a little more cautious with their choices. When Kendra speaks of "the men I know" she's speaking about those in the industry and that's a whole different ball game. I'm living in a building at the Navy Yard where rent starts at 4k up to 10k and the wives that I do see are looking regular-degular... peeling off in their Panameras. (with the exception of this one asian chick who dresses up just to pick up the mail lol) I just feel like you shouldn't ask for what you can't provide yourself. If a woman is asking someone to match what she brings to the table, why is that so crazy? Especially if she's willing to date outside her race where the pool of men in her tax bracket is much larger. Now I will admit, adding kids to the equation does make it difficult depending on the man. It is unfortunate for both men and women that you are deemed less appealing in the world of dating if you have children. I just feel like the outrage wouldn't be there if a 6 figure man asked a woman to match him. Not to mention there are far more black women that could match that salary.
OMGG THIS IS THE COMMENT RIGHT HERE!!!!!!!!!IG has people confused because all they see is industry men who go for the IG baddies. I live in DC area too and you see the most average looking women driving their g wagons to chanel every weekend. People think just because its not being highlighted in the mainstream media that its not happening. Its a whole world out here waiting for you.
&& to add to that, there are so many luxury FB groups out there with average every day women who are kept women living their best luxe lives. Ladies, be realistic yes, but wait for what you want and strategically put yourself in environments that you want to be in.
@@rendallx Exactly... There are definitely some kept women where I'm living and there are definitely some that match their husbands. There are plenty of men who aren't just seeking looks. It's also a sad reflection of the black community to see that so many people think that. Basically they're saying that successful black men aint shit so settle for someone who's not as financially stable or successful as you are because they're more likely to stick around. And that black women who are successful better be a perfect 10 in the looks department with no kids or no one will want them... What in the toxicity is that about? lol
Girlfriend exposed Kendra and I’m so disappointed. She told the truth Kendra always implies if we as black women aren’t good looking we don’t deserve the MOST!
Also, I don't think she was bragging about dating millionaires. I think she was saying that she has dated different men, and some have had money, so it's not impossible to find one who matches her income. Also, just because she's not one of those Instagram models doesn't mean someone isn't checking for her. Those Jamaican and Africans love her aesthetics. Men hate for a woman to put emphasis on money but quick to put emphasis on looks. Well, there's the tradeoff.
Right...she answered the question because K brought it up. That's the only reason it came up & she clarified that she was not looking for one. Also her children are grown so I don't even know why folk keep mentioning that.
Was just trying to say is if you want a guy depending on the bracket of money they made you don't get those type of problems you may be good in bed that doesn't mean he wants you in public when he have somebody else that looks better but women have wack ass sex
@@Ghragle- she said she dated millionaires, that doesn't mean she had long relationships with them. You can date a lot of people but realize they aren't the right fit. I've dated a doctor, but my significant relationships were with more blue collar men.
less than 10% of the country makes that much, also u travel often, alot of guys arent gonna be into that. therefor your standards are in fact unrealistic
I wouldn't tell them what I do. Men start adding up your money and then some want to use you. Act like you do a low paying job if you want a man who makes what you make in real life. Just my experience
This exchange made me subscribe. I liked Kendra’s response. If your way was working you wouldn’t be asking for help finding someone. It’s not about settling it’s about prioritizing.
Nothing is stopping her but someone like her cannot accomplish that. She over talked Kendra which means she will do the same to her guests. Notice Kendra gave her the floor in the beginning but as soon as Kendra responded the girl with the glasses did not give Kendra the same respect. Not a recipe for success.
The lady at the END---- Bravo!!!!!!!!!!! The lady in the casino didn't bring up the money preference, Kenya did. Point Blank---- I Love the woman in the Casino and the standards she has set!!! If men don't want a gold-digger, women don't want a gold-digger either!!!
So you telling me a beautiful woman who has her own gets bashed then a “man” boy sleeping in his car comes on and gets validated on being annoyed that she has requirements WOW JUST WOW So happy Sis with the glasses got to come on and call out Kendra to bad she wasn’t receptive and became defensive
So if a man says what he wants in a woman ( a certain weight , be a homemaker, , have a bigger butt, be light skinned ) you have the same energy of "standards" for that ? Prob not.
I think only because the guest was dark skinned and not attractive by today’s beauty standard’s Kendra pressed her on the money issue to suggest her to consider lowering her standards. pS - I loved the last caller with the glasses and I agree with her commentary. I don’t see nothing wrong with her wanting a man who makes more than her. Depending on the industry finding a man that makes $100K seems doable.
The lady in the glasses called Kendra out and Kendra got in her feelings...that lady's request was reasonable..,Kendra basically said her options are a cheating rich man or a broke man who is dependent on your money
The men who don’t make 100k are offended. Kendra is nuts for this. Blue collar workers make 100k why can’t this woman be with a 6 figure man? If he is Jamaican like she is he can own a restaurant and make that money. Kerry has a nice attitude and her body is nice
It's only "unreasonable" in this community. She needs to look outside her race. Avoid that "A man who makes money cheats and doesnt want you" rhetoric and foolery.
Sad part is that’s not even a lot of $$. Most black men don’t make that much so they think it’s a big deal. My Asian friends husbands make this type of $$ and it’s nothing to shout about especially if you live in an expensive part of the country.
The absolute nerve of this 28 y/o calling in to say she's not worthy of her standards. Really self-centered to think his opinion of her is representative of most men. A pharmacist, doctor, nurse, tech person, etc. in her age range makes at least $100k and they all have free time. She's not asking for a busy millionaire. Also, a man doesn't need tons of options to cheat. If he wants to cheat, he will.
And she's 40 something looking to hit the lottery. Because her life is most likely already more than half over and she thinks she's gonna score a buzzer beater on LeBron. You can't beat father time, keep those high standards... But more attractive, agreeable wmn parish alone everyday.
The young lady at the end made some very good points. I get annoyed when our community acts like we aren't supposed to have standards we should just be happy with whatever we get, or we're not good enough have certain expectations. Both of the men that called are perfect examples of what I mean. They said she was rude, what she said was disgusting blah blah blah and it's like why? Because she has standards? I don't hear the same energy when white women say they want men that make a certain amount of money, and I definitely don't hear the same criticism when black men are saying that women who look the opposite of them are their preference. In fact both of those men said she's pretty "in her own way" meaning neither of them think she's truly beautiful. The first guy even said she doesn't have the looks to get a man that makes that type of money. I was just like according to who? You? Like what would a woman have to look like in your opinion in order for her to get a man with money? I'm surprised Kendra didn't call that out and ask the same question but I think we all know the answer to that. I'm really glad that Jamaican woman is open to dating men outside her race because it's very clear she will not get what she's looking for in her own community cuz they don't believe she deserves it based on how she looks.
Your standards are based on your looks no man cars how much money you make if your not attractive point blank period....no man with options will marry an women who doesn't equal is value in money in looks rich men get hot women that's just how it is just because a women has money doesn't change her looks or how men see her
I am responding to Ashley and the other replies. I've been married 35+ years, and I have a daughter that I'm trying to help navigate the current relationship environment. Kendra was only trying to introduce some statistical facts about the market. I have explained to my daughter, that because men control relationships, they are often the customers when it comes to marriage. Of course, not all the time, but statistically we can say the majority of the time. Understanding this fact, you can't make the customer buy the product if they don't want to. The unfortunate thing is that successful marriages are only successful when both people want it to work. Now this is my opinion, women find a man that they think they are good for, and they spend a bunch of time trying to mold that into what they want him to be, and when they get tired of trying to change them, they file for divorce. This is why women initiate divorce some 70 to 80 percent of the time. For the ones that have children out of wedlock, those women have unprotected sex, and when they get pregnant, they hope that the pregnancy makes the man do the right thing. When the man doesn't marry them, they are often upset. Kendra was just trying to shed light on some realities about the market.
She’s up at 4 am by herself, my woman and I would be wrapped in each other’s arms at that time, not watching single people throw insults at each other. She settled for those big ass glasses on her face with no problem though! 😂🤣😂
it's not settling its getting what you're qualified for and what you deserve. The dating market will tell you what you deserve. Yall standards are incredibly high and 99 percent of men can't meet them. many of you women will never get a man in life for other than sex because you're standards are through the roof.
@@ejay2075bingo! That woman was rude and childish. The dating market tells you what you deserve. Those unrealistic standard is the reason she’s single. You’re telling women not to settle but it has kept you single 😂😂. You’re up at 4:30am watching a singles podcast lol that tells us a lot. 😂😂😂
Tbh it doesn’t matter if it’s a 100k guy or a 40k guy these men are doing them baby. take it from somebody that dated both. The only difference is the 40k got more time on his hands mean more time to go out and play.
Has her standards panned out for her? Lol women in relationships don’t have to stay up to 4:30 am to listen to a a singles only podcast. 😂😂 this means she’s SINGLE and will remain single with the horrible attitude and those high standards 😂😂😂
Not sure how I came across her page, but this episode was enough for me. The last woman was spot on. She made so many good points and it went over EVERYONES head.
Not really, Kendra checks EVERYONE male and female. She kept saying "don't tell a black woman to lower her standards" but she forgets who she's talking to because Kendra checks the men too. She was just looking for a fight
The ones offended are the ones with possible low standards. This lady wants a man on her equal level, or higher and nothing is wrong with that. However, she will more than likely have to go outside her community for him. She doesn't want a Dusty to take care of and I don't Blame her.
Lmaoooo its too funny watching yall price yourself out the market. Thing about supply and demand is this woman is asking for what most women want, unfortunately for her 100k doesn’t buy her a better man but 100k would buy a man a better woman.
I never had a problem getting asked out and was always considered "privileged" and my husband made more money when I met him. Eventually I finished my education and I earned more than he and it never was a problem. We should think in terms of equity and not money because he supported me in so many ways while I attended school. Women must also understand that men are attracted to looks first and a man likes what he likes. There are so many overweight women milling about I was developing insecurities about being a size 4 as my husband did not like big women. Ladies get the weight off and more men will ask you out. We should not be the size of linebackers.😁
Only thing is can she find someone outside the community that wants to build at 40 something years old most men aren’t into building in their 40s I don’t care what race they are
@@mja9376 as I said in another thread. She is looking for a fool. She has 2 kids by 2 different men. She said it herself, she is not a "baddy". I took that as her body ain't that hot. So you expect a man making over a 100k to wife this lady? What about the man? He worked hard to be a top earner. Doesn't he deserve to have a woman who didn't decide to have babies by two different men? I guess in your eyes he deserves left overs and needs to settle with this woman.
@@mja9376 because he deserves better. His hard work should show in his life. Not wife someone who lived reckless, ungodly, for the streets. Shall I go on? It seems as if you believe she is deserving of a well earned man. But you are not thinking that the proposed man is deserving of someone better. A better situation. Kids of his own. creating a blood line of his own without the getto mixups of slavery. Sorry I threw the slavery in there so you understand that the male slaves didn't have the rights to his wife. The wife would have other people's kids.
Seems these kind of guys just complain and are insecure because they don’t make up to that amount. If a woman can make 100k a man is more than capable of making that and even more. There was nothing wrong with her attitude. She has reasonable standards because of her experience with dating men that make less than her. I 100% agree with the lady in the red shirt. If black women were more conscious of having standards about a man’s character and finances there wouldn’t be as many baby mamas and baby daddy’s.
Neither the men or women have any standards. I can understand a divorced single mother, I can understand that. But kids with multiple men, I’m not taking that on.
Then tell us the statistics on how many people make a 100 thousands a year since it's that easy. You women talk out your ass and coming from poverty you have zero clue of what you are talking about.
She does not have reasonable standards. I do not want to date or marry a woman who has two kids. She's about a 4. She's not young. I have options. Why would I bother with a woman like her? Not to mention she has a bad attitude. It doesn't matter what you think about it, either. It matters what MEN think about her. She's not trying to date you...so you can think her attitude is fine but I can guarantee you that most men do not.
The last caller was on point. Stop encouraging women to settle for less or assuming that the man she finds in that bracket will cheat or she will have to share. EVERY TIME a woman mentions a money requirement this is where the conversation goes ma'am.
The last caller was NOT on point. Are men settling for her?? I’m sure she’s probably a baby mother too but her attitude is nasty and RUDE. She ran from the conversation like an immature brat. Ensured she got her points out but wouldn’t let Kendra speak. I bet she doesn’t have a man either. Keep her standards, I bet she’s going to remain alone.
Shes wasn't encouraging but enlightening her. It's a difference. Because up until this point, the lady STILL hadn't receieved the outcomes she wants. Kendra simply challenged her logic to help her look outside herself.
Bravo to the lady with glasses. The guest wants a partner who is financially compatible with her. Finances is the number 1 reason for divorce so that standard is very fair
I agree with the girl that said that Kendra does tell us black women to settle. She was just as not satisfied with the man who made 50.000 per year. Especially when you say are you willing to share your man with someone else. Lets get real Kendra, 100.000 is not that much anymore. Please. She never said that Money was the most important thing. You projected that. All the men I have dated in the past were 6 figure guys. Some were good some were not good. I married the one I wanted. We have to stop settling and still be unhappy.
I agree 100% with the young lady with the glasses. Kendra asked her the question about money and they weren't able to get to anything else. I've watched this show where ppl are asked about income requirements and they have said 100k and Kendra DOES NOT go in on them. It's not fair to do her like that. She just wanted a man with his OWN money, Kendra asked the amt. Can't knock someone for their preference. It's not right. Kendra was looking at her sideways from the time the call started. She pick and choose who to "pick on" and that's not cool. Good show though.
@Sanaye Kendra doesn’t give sideways looks at well put together women who’s attractiveness appeals to multitudes of people. She doesn’t look at those women sideways and question them about wanting high earning men because she knows what the MAJORITY of men want. She says it all of the time: men are visual. Looks appeal to them. She’s not “picking” on them. It’s a singles show and she’s playing devils advocate to the ones whom she discerns are not being realistic based on their presentation.
Honestly , confused on what’s the problem with wanting what you can also bring…plus it sounded like that’s only a preference because the last guy wanted her money.
Want what you want. It's your life. The question is can you get it. If you you bring 100k and you expect a man to do that as well, you're looking at a very small pool of men. 100% of women want that man. Can you get him? That 100k man, I can assure you that he does not require a woman to make 100k. His pool of potential mates is larger.
@ Awkweirdo I agree with you. I just didn’t see what the big deal was. Depending on where you live in America, 100k is really not a lot of money. I can see a guy who makes $100k wanting to build with a woman who matches that. If you live in the DMV area, LA, NY or any other high cost area of living, 100k might only put you in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment. And with the rate of inflation, it would actually be smart to want a woman who is motivated and willing to build financially. Can’t go wrong with two financially stable people.
It's sad that so many assumptions are being made about people based on one tiny fact about a person's life. There are financially unstable ppl that make over 100k, and wealthy ppl who earn no income at all. How much money someone makes tells you almost nothing about a person's values.
After watching Kendra G show all these many weeks, all I know is that the amount of hate that I see that dark skin black women get and women over a certain age even if they’re attractive it’s just disgusting! If a 41-year-old single father with grown children who made her salary came on the show no one would have a word to say but she’s financially independent and she want somebody who can match her salary and that’s a problem. She can find someone who is older than her, a man of a different race who will love her and respect her because I see that these black men are really pressed about $100k and in their feelings because she doesn’t want to be with somebody making less than 100 K. I believe in hypergamy, it doesn’t have to be $100k salary but my man can’t make less money than me!
You're reaching. It's not about skin color at all. Men and women look for different things in a mate. Women look for providers and protectors (make more money). Men are looking for pretty and cooperative. A 41 y.o man can appeal to alot of women because he can provide and protect well at that age. He's not checking for a woman with money
@@aguy9071 It when you’re talking about black men. Black men are extremely colorist and they date out more than any other group of men. Black men favor very light/fair skin, biracial women, or white. Black women are typically their last choice if they had a choice. Dark skin black women are are the very bottom. I advice black women to make black men their fall back if they can’t find a man from another race. A successful black woman is more likely to find a non black man who matches her salary than a black man. It’s the truth. Black men shouldn’t date black women imo, they should stick to dating white, Latina, and Asians.
Thank youuuuuu the girl in red with glasses hit the nail on the head!!!!!! Why can’t she want and require what she want!!!!!!! She don’t have to settle and if someone has never had what it is that they desire , isn’t that more reason to want more????? And want a change from what you’ve been doing that hasn’t worked!!!! I applaud that young lady she took the words out of my mouth!!!!!!!!
It's not pathetic. It's woman being delusional. It like why should I settle for the McDonald's job, when there's a CEO position. Well you don't qualify for the CEO position, and they aren't interested in you because you graduated from community college. I hope you understand that basic concept. It's the same for most woman wanting the same 10-20% of men
@@ChillandVersatile But what about her doesn’t qualify other than your self-hating, anti-black rhetoric? Because she’s an unambiguous black woman? Because she appears to be slightly heavier? She’s a grown woman that has a great, lucrative career, knows exactly what she wants in a relationship, and what she won’t accept. She’s stating that she wants a man that makes more money than she does, as most women do and should. The problem is that black men aren’t able to meet that requirement. The average of what you all make isn’t even half of what she makes so you’re kicking and screaming, whining and throwing a tantrum, making every excuse as to why she’s not good enough for that. Typical, pathetic, manipulative, abuse tactics.
@@niliaaa_babyyy You're saying all these negative things about me, I did nothing but reply to your comment. Not once did I say anything about race. I'm not self hating or anti-black, I am black. You can talk about the woman all you want, but it's about what she wants. It's a simple question of "Does the person you want, want you"? The person she wants doesn't go for unambiguous and overweight woman. Nor do they care about her career if they make the money she wants a man to make. I have no problem with black woman having standards, but it's her PRIORITIES that were being criticized. She put money over character, and men who make over 100k do not like that in a woman. O yeah and btw, men make more money a year on average than woman. Statistical fact you can look up yourself. I was never rude to you, but you went ahead and insulted me because I shared adifferent opinion.
@@ChillandVersatile And now you the one crying talking about I’m saying negative things to you🙄 Nothing I said was towards you specifically I’m stating facts about the community. BLACK MEN on average make 40K a year. YOU can go ahead and look that up. Like I said, that’s not even half of what this woman makes. All that woman said was she wants to be with someone who earns what she makes or more, and can keep his dick in his pants. That was basically her only requirements and even that isn’t basic enough simply because bm are out of the running financially. Luckily for her she’s not only interested in bm so what she wants is very much possible to get in a better quality group of men☺️
100k is not unrealistic…There are many people in the tech and healthcare field that can make that easily…..She gave that amount of money because she is obviously tired of taking care of men(which is what she kept saying) she also said she makes well over 100k so she is definitely not asking for too much…
@@stilljocelyn_ Of course she would have because if the woman was attractive, her demands would be seen as more realistic. On the contrary, she has nothing to offer that a man wants --- a high-income, baggage from bad relationships, an unfit body, homeliness, and a lack of delicateness. What about this is so hard to see??
She's lying her ass off. She's not even attractive enough to pull a millionaire. Men who make that kind of many have the option to date highly attractive women, not some basic "around the way chick" like this girl. 🙄
She needs to open her options. As a BW, once I started making 80k I had to pretty much exclude BM from my dating life period! I make a little over 100k now and my man (who is not black) makes 200k. Best decision of my life! Good luck to her!
No one is dating black women like that, you are the least desired and least married demo statistically on the planet. Y'all don't have the options that white, asian and latinas have. You can make up fantasies online but that doesn't hide the truth, sorry
Doesn't matter ur opposed success isnt hers and likely wont have the same outcome. 9percent of men (black white asian etc...) make 100k or better a yr and adjusted after married and sexual orientation I have probably 6-7 percent in the USA! Stop selling these women a plate of feces and keep it real. Men settle all the time trust me we do. And this woman in that video a man would be settling for her real talk
She was saying white men already and yet she says she earned more than all of them. Heck jr was probably the white ones who were charging her. We know you divested types pretty much pay them to be with you guys. The false narratives on TH-cam don’t reflect the reality.
Omg yes. Spot on. Kendra always grills the woman and make it seem like their preference for a high earner is the main thing they focus on in a man. Meanwhile she let's mens "preference" for no- make up no wig woman slide
@@justagirl4627 fax. It's not unique that a woman would prefer her man to make 6 figures, cuz every girl would prefer that. The issue is when the ugly single mothers think they deserve that😂
Nah Kendra is forcing you to think different, cause the fact that you're on her show means your ways of trying to solve your problem have failed or else you wouldn't be calling her.
I love sis with the glasses who told Kendra about herself , she does it all the time when a woman have standards and make her own . Kendra wanna yell and over-talk when she’s held accountable 😂😂😂😂
Her asks were not unreasonable. She makes "more" than 100k. She asked that he at least make a certain amount (which was still less than what she brings to the financial table) so as not to be used and be with a mate who shares her drive and lifestyle. She listed other qualities that no one is honing in on. BW are always asked to lower ourselves to meet another's inadequacies. Prob why the community is in such adject poverty. In this economy, finances matters.
You don't qualify for 100k men is the point. There are a bunch of older, overweight women with multiple baby daddies saying they want exclusive access to the top rated men. They. Don't. Qualify... They think they do because they make 100k, but men and women have different dating strategies. Men value looks, youth, ability to take direction and low body count. More of the confusion comes from the fact that those men will sleep with you, which gives you a false sense of marriage value. Most of you all would rather continue giving babies to these top level guys who will never commit to you. I promise this isn't to insult you
She's not unreasonable but as has been said time and time again it severely limits her options, especially when that $100k+ man she wants has way more options simply because he doesn't have that same minimum financial requirement.
I really don’t think a 100k is a lot of money, and I live in Louisiana. My husband actually makes a bit more than that, I’m an average woman and if he is cheating he does a real good job at it because I can’t see where he has the time. However, I can’t say that was a necessity, we grew together. I make about 85k. I can say that if he and I don’t work out I would want a man that can match his pay or better, because I would want the same lifestyle so 100k would be a requirement. I need my man to be the breadwinner!
This last girl was right on the mark. I absolutely agree with everything she says. It is astounding that only in the black community do we degrade black women for having standards and expectations. It's only black men who can't rise to those standards and expectations and want many of women. I have dated several men outside of the black community and they don't think like these men. They are providers and they don't mind making the money and bringing quality to a relationship. It is only black women that we ask to lower their standards and accept little, I have many white girlfriends and they would never accept what we accept in our relationships. It appears that every other race of woman or hypergamus and they don't accept what many of these black men say that black women should accept. It's absolutely ridiculous and I think it is about time that black women do set high standards, expectations and boundaries. If the men can't meet them then black women it's time to date Men who will.
So many people are saying she is delusional. I thought the first lady was level-headed. She makes money herself so she ain't out here buming it. Smh they wish they could meet the standards. Some of these men really over estimate their market value. 🙄
She made good points but she her lack of maturity is a turn off. She called the host a "pick me" but here she is coming on the host's show, in the wee hours of the morning mind you lol, picking a fight 😆. She may be intelligent but she seems to lack wisdom. Seasoned men and women tend to come on this show, and the host asks the questions that potential suitors will ask. Unless the person is dating some kid fresh out of college.
@@nope........... I get what you're saying. She did make good points but she got real mad. Sometimes just staying calm can really make a difference in a conversation. For one, you can actually hear each other lol
@@KentPerrison facts lol they think they are so smart but failed to realize the bigger picture of why the chick who is 42 with 2 kids even called in the first place. The gonna die alone and bitter asf if they dont get over themselves.
The girl at the end was a coward, she ran away from the debate and interrupted Kendra after Kendra allowed her to speak freely without interruptions. That lady can have standards all she wants but they are unrealistic. I guarantee you she’s SINGLE!
Not all men, that based on my experience but a lot of them who are more traditional. Also I don’t live the US where men are expected to pay for everything. Over here we share bills, mortgage so maybe that’s why it’s different and it works
Honestly the only time I’ve seen this from a guy who was also working was when the women bring up the fact and try to hold it over them. Think about it. Why would us making more money together not be a good thing ?
@@DreKM243 I am talking about dating and not married or living together. I know some guys are use to moving in a women's place after a week but that's not me. Also, if we are just living together and not married, I am not paying for everything because the man can't. I won't see you as a man. The man is the provider to me. I will supplement you and not the other way around. That's just how I feel. I don't knock someone making less. I just know I am not paying for you to be able to do what I do and go where I go.
@@leadrecruiter I won't feel like he is the man. Also, I wasn't talking about living together or being married. I am talking about dating. I can afford to go places and spend money they can't afford to do. I don't expect him to always pay for everything but they usually don't have that much disposable income leftover to do much of anything. I don't live this way.
I heard her say she's dated both men who have made over 100k to millionaires as well as below what she's made so it sounds like she already knows what she'd rather deal with. She's also said neither relationship had anything to do with infidelity so she has been able to have a relationship with a man making a certain amount of money and that not being an issue. I understood what the last woman was saying watching this episode.
Nah she said she dated lower than her 100k and dated millionaires no in between. She been divorced since 2012 which means she was 31 to current. Women's options in dating men that make that dwindle with age. Just stating reality.
@@faraday1178 it's simple math. She wants a man who makes money. Ok So does literally every other woman. The more she makes the higher her standards get. The less men that meet them. And the ones that do meet those standards can pick from literally anyone
I’m here to tell y’all I make over 100K and don’t go food shopping pay my bills every two weeks because I can’t pay all at once - 6 figures sounds good but those bills add up and it turns into no figures🙄
People have to also understand taxes. You get a taxed at a higher rate the more you make. I literally see half my paycheck once I get paid after taxes, putting money in hsa, 401k etc. I’m not paycheck to paycheck but still 100k is not 100k after all that other stuff is taken out
@@KindTiffany I manage my money pretty well - Like the person below said, the tax bracket changes 🤷🏽♀️ So no matter how well you manage or budget it’s not a lot - I got my first credit card a year ago so I live and lived off of cash… I must also add I am a “Black” American - And a lot of us help out family members friends etc No they all don’t know the annual gross however, they do know you can and are willing to help out 🥴
@@leadrecruiter When I was earning half, it was the same 🤷🏽♀️ - When I was earning 36k a year I qualified for food stamps utility grants, I had help 🤭 In America you have to be poor or Rich - Being in the middle is a struggle, a major struggle…
Stop lol she’s acting like a man that makes $50,000 will be a humble, faithful man and “good”. Men of all income levels cheat, does she watch her own show lol? She’s lucky in the medical field she’s surrounded by men that make that amount. Normal everyday men that are all races. She already dates out so the only thing she might have to do is lower her standards on what the man looks like.
Applaud to sis with the glasses on. She spoke the truth 💯 just because the 1st lady dated a millionaire and it didn't work out doesn't mean that every other millionaire will have the same qualities. She may find one and it works. Men making 2k-1 mill will cheat so that lady has every right to want someone that's on her level
Kendra always gets in her feelings when women who make a lot of money and asks for a man who makes what she does . Why would I downgrade if a man FEELS entitled to my money?! And I have to date a man who makes less than me just because the bs Statistics Kendra gathers about “ men who make a lot of money will cheat”. Listen, what is for you, will be for you and you shouldn’t have to lower your your standards . If you can’t then you’ll be okay with that because you know your worth.
*It's the insecure low self-esteem women who base relationships on money. Modern day prostitutes is the best way to describe it. It's messed up that BW are at the top of that list*
Second female was in her feelings and closed minded due to those emotions. What I find funny is that Kendra sat there and let her talk uninterrupted but she couldn't render the same courtesy. Baby girl can have her wants all day but the % of men making that money that will go for her isn't there.. she has two kids by different men, divorced, 41, doesn't want anymore kids, and oozes masculine energy.
It’s a amazing how many interpretations you get from one dialogue. The lady wasn’t wrong for what she wanted but Kendra just open the door for further discussion. Men and women both can learn. Plus at the end of the day, the kind of man this lady desires could’ve still inboxed her.
I agree….. also the men that get upset about what she wants as far as income are only upset because they don’t make that kind of money. Also I disagree with Kendra on this one she should never tell someone that they’re going to have to share a man if they make that much money. That comes off as insecure.
Lmao you guys are so ignorant, always giving opinions with no knowledge on the subject. Kendra deals with those men daily because of her work, she even dated them, she also found stats that proves that they almost all move like that. The woman is going to waste her time because what Kendra’s saying is a fact, she’s just trying to make her life easier
It’s crazy how women get mad when they get told that what they want doesn’t work the way they think with proven facts, y’all still don’t listen then get bitter and blame everyone else except yourselves
@Blu Black actually Kendra was trying to be nice. She didn't bring up the fact that she has 2 baby daddies and doesn't want more kids. Woman like this want a male friend/companion to travel with they don't want a man. Because as soon as a man try to decide something for their future she will have a mouth full to say. I have my own money you can't tell me what to do. You can't control me.
The girl with the glasses just took all the words out of my mouth. Love her for that!! Edit: the word deserved was definitely implied Kendra, she read you in your show and now you being petty 💆🏾♀️
@@spikeleo5941 big facts. Also, “do you have a money preference” is a standard question kendra asks everyone. It’s not like she was picking on this, or any other woman. It’s valid to probe people’s preferences when they’re CALLING YOU and ASKING YOU to help them find a spouse lol. This woman talking about people shouldn’t have to settle lol, baby girl it’s not settling. Kendra’s probing the whole money thing because it’s become very common for people to have these superficial standards without considering what they actually come with. She asks everyone the same questions all of the time.
@bronxkies right. The girl initially seemed composed and made a good point of hey Kendra why don't respect someone's standards. But then she wouldn't even let Kendra explain her perspective. The girl interpreted Kendras questioning as questioning the woman's worthiness and telling her to settle when perhaps Kendra is asking, as you stated, to consider your potentially superficial standards and why you want them? Do you want that bc that will make you happy and lead to a good relationship or do you want that for superficial reasons? Encouraging people to think critically about their dating choices and standards isn't the same as encouraging settling. If the woman said she wants someone who is financially independent and financially responsible, that might sound like a more reasonable standard that might be less questioned.
I'm a new subscriber as a 56 year-old single gentleman I was involved with a woman who made much more money than myself. I've never asked her for a dime but yet she was trying to be very controlling as if I was literally a pet. All I want is peace and the same respect as I give. Now I've learned to ask certain questions before getting involved and I'm finding out quickly whether or not that person is a time bomb or someone worth getting to know. That last woman who was very rudely argumentative is what I am avoiding.
Kendra, you should've told her to open her options. BM don't make over 100k, in general. Non-BM typically make that and more. She has to open her options if she wants a faithful man that makes more money.
@@SSS-qu8cn exactly. Kendra really tried it. It's so sad, only BW shame other BW that has standards. Non-BW never shame each other for having standards.
@@HeauxlisticLux in other communities this conversation is not had, white people are raised to understand and live by the rule of hypergamy, in the white community women are judged by who they are, in the black community women are judged by what they have, white people are raised with the understanding that the man will make more money and be the provider so they go out seeking a wife based on her personality, her trustworthiness, her potential to be a good mother, when it comes to black people all of those things are figured into the equation at a later point after the man is secure in the fact that she can go at least 50/50 with him in the household
Kendra’s assessment on how men think is completely wrong. The “data” that she keeps speaking about is ratchet men on an IG Live dating show. None of it is statistically correct or peer reviewed. Smh, she should focus on speaking on a woman’s perspective and not how a man thinks.
Kendra is starting to sound like a the red pilled guys tbh. And she really drills the hell out of black women always telling them to lower their simple ass standards it's in women's nature to want men who have more like wtf. Maybe because she dark skinned she usually always foots the bill because she's masculine minded or feels that's the best she can get. Maybe she should take some self-esteem classes . From her Data 🤣🤣🤣🗑️
I’ve dated men with money, some money and no money when I was single in my 20’s. The man I ended up marrying is very hard working, and honest…just like my Daddy was. I make more than my husband, and I could care less. He treats me very well and loves me unconditionally. Men with money are very demanding concerning how their woman looks, carries herself, etc. Everything in their lives is about imagine. It’s a lot of pressure to live up to. I believe as long as a man does work an honest job, and does his best to provide, women need to be open to being with someone that may make a little less than them. I don’t see that as “settling.” Settling is being with someone who will only love you as long as you make them look good and successful.
Agree 100%. Marrying these so-called HVM seems more like a burden anyways. As long as the man isn’t lazy, makes a decent living, is financially responsible, and most importantly has good moral character that a husband and potential father needs, then I’m good. So glad I’m out of the dating market and dealing with this BS.
@@NickM_FirstofHisName yea you asking the right questions. lol that tends to be why they choose to marry those men (hard workers). She's considerably older and/or has children from other men. It's rarely you'll find 23yrs old and married a hard worker.
Stop consoling yourself for marrying down. Typical bw. Encourage your daughter to break that curse. Ask yourself if that broke man would have considered you if he were rich/er? The answer is obvious.
Ppl don’t think DSBW deserve anything!!! It’s disgusting! She is not asking for too much by wanting a man that makes the same amount or more money than her! Why is Kendra trying to get this woman to date down financially? She’s a beautiful woman and she will most definitely have to date outside her race to find a man that meets her financial standards.
I get what Kendra is saying. Women may not like to hear it but she was just trying to let her know what she may encounter in her journey to find her man. I wish the woman luck. I think she can do it.
Ya really pushin the struggle love. How do you get mad at someone who simply said she wanted a man that made around the same as her. Men crying on the show for a woman deciding to practice hypergamy. She may not find what she looking for but where is she wrong? THE ECONOMY IS TIGHT. I could see if she asked for a rich man, she simply said 'hey I make this, he should too.' This is a failure on a group of men who may have low numbers making this amount but it filters who she does not want and that is ok. Too many women settle and then money becomes a factor in divorce. BLK WM PICK YOUR STANDARDS AND STICK TO THEM. WE BEEN MULES TOO LONG. #SAYNOTOSTRUGGLELOVE
At every high income level there are more BM than BW. The point is the type of guy that she wants, does not want her. She has even opened her options to every group of man and still no one is checking for her. It’s up to her if she wants to stick with her high standards, but Kendra is telling her it’s unlikely. I dont think most average guys would take her in, but I don’t know how average money became struggle love.
@@Zzz-kk2sm you're lying sir. But anything to make you feel better. The fact is that black women have more businesses out here along with subsequential their jobs also providing income.
@@Zzz-kk2sm you men act like women are not in high management, or chief officers. Most relationships are white collar bk wm and blue collar bk men working their little jobs.
And another thing...if bk men were soooooo paid the bk community wouldn't have all this poverish dusty activity esp were women are paying most of the bills.
I don't think Kendra is glorifying rich men cheating. She knows that those men have lots of options and that many if not most of them aren't monogamous. So if a woman prefers that type of man, she has to know what she's signing up for so she can decide if she'll accept it. That's the point Kendra is making.
I don’t think it’s about glorification. I do think it’s about the probability of him cheating. The more money a man makes or appears to make, the more options he has that are aiming to get him. He doesn’t even have to try. The probability IS higher because his options are more abundant. A woman with a man who that kind of “advantage” must consider what she may run into. To your point, it doesn’t have to be the case, but the higher probability is there.
@@flawlessjewels I didn't say that Kendra said it. Ppl say it in general. I'm just saying that just because a man is rich doesn't automatically put him in the cheater club. Some wealthy men just want a ONE good looking woman that will give them sex, children, personal growth, peace and respect. There are two sides to a coin. The positive should be emphasized too.
@@khalifaNzuri I wouldn't pick her if even if I was a broke man with very little options..lol And realistically speaking, a 32 yr old is perfect for you. She should be mature enough and she can still have about 3 kids if you play your cards right. How is she too old?? And why are you talking to your mom about this?
@@khalifaNzuri Well,all I can say is that your criteria does exist. You just have to find her. I would never suggest that you die alone though. Your situation sounds similar to mine. All the men my age have already spread thier seed all over the city, are divorced and bitter or out of shape and delusional. I think I might have to date outside of my race as well. It's not my preference but blk men my age have too much drama and they're mean..they leave me no choice.
Don’t listen to the lady at the end, it’s going to keep you single. The dating market tells you exactly what you deserve. It’s okay to have standards but most men don’t make 100K. Our women want 100K men but they come with 2 different baby daddies lol . Stop it! So are the men settling for them?
Her mistake is wanting to stick with one type of man. If she opened her options she will be fine. Second mistake telling men her salary and wanting to help them. She is going to get got if she doesn’t get away from a certain type of M. This is not the show to meet a Decent man.
She said she’s dated white men, what are you talking about. She also claimed she out earned every man she’s ever dated. That means she out earned the white ones too. Y’all just want to create a false narrative that opening your options will change the way a man, regardless of color will receive you. She has a bad attitude, and carries herself like the leader of the pack. Men do not appreciate “brutal” words from their women. They want softness.
@@Ghragle- if that is the case then why do M pay women to humiliate them. She said she is open to dating out but why does dating out to you always equate to a wm? Their are asian Hispanic arab etc that are known to be papered down. Get out of your feelings.
I really disagree with this. $100k is not a lot of money in some places and why do these host preach these narratives that if a man makes over $100k is grounds for a poly relationship?? Whaaat??? Not all men are horn dogs or care to have multiple women. Some men are OK with have one loving meek woman. Every where ain’t the entertainment industry chile.
100k is alot of money in every place. It's just more possible is some places. that doesn't make it average. That 100k earner can pick from any women. Not saying he sleeps with them all (I don't agree with that thought). But can you honestly say a top 10% earner would pick a 41 y.o baby mama as his best option?
Kendra can dish it but can't take the truth. I love the show. Kendra needs to let people ask for what they want and let people contact them if they want to.
Why can’t she challenge what ppl saying most ppl not even ready to b with another person I’m not wit matching ppl who still need therapy and searching for who they are two whole complete ppl should b together not one or the other a more complete person
@@29_____ It would be ok if she did it to everyone. She mostly picks on the ladies. If a man is not ready to be with someone as you say she babies them, hell she even gives them money.
@@nunulove12 Kendra is rightfully trying to help women.. primarily black women, understand that their standards are delusional. The Women come on describing/seeking the FANTASY Man they dream of, instead of Men in real life.
Lmao the second lady talking about never judge a BW standard while some BW complain about the bare minimum standards that BM have for them is literally comical.
No she doesn’t preferences are fine but if they keep you single don’t complain when you alone and single. That’s what we seeing today with a lot of women.
The lady at the end was bugging out. Kendra is right women have to see what their options are and pick someone based on reality because life will pass them by and they will become single bitter old women.
@@lalaess2426 So money is a settling point for you... not character.... you are ok with a rich person who abuses you or cheats on you..... mind you that last caller NEVER mentioned a man's character in settling only the money... that's why a lot of men pass over a lot of women .... Bill makes 30K at the bank .... no sister wants to date him... he works hard and in 5 years is promoted to VP and makes over 100K but is now dating the Becky who thought he was cute then he is a sell out or worse...and those same women are mad AF that another successful black man goes outside... no... a lot of times the women do it to themselves....
I don’t like that fact that black women are taught that we can’t aim higher and we have to tolerate the lowest of the low. Stop talking to these ppl and go to GOD
i find the common trope that financially stable men cheat annoying & tired. like broke men don't cheat on women everyday? cheating is a character issue, not a financial one.
She never said broke men don’t cheat. According to the data, most men who make a lot of money tend to be less monogamous because the they have more options to beautiful women than men who are broke. Kelvin Samuels already told us that high value men don’t cheat, they exercise their options. She’s is not addressing the small percentage of men who are the exception to the rule.
@@orrsangels2395 no. a multi-millionaire may have an increased chance of infidelity, not a man making 100k a year. idk about the rest of the country, but in many states 100k alone is not enough to have a stay at home wife much less to even buy a home for her to stay in. it's not this grand number that puts you in a socioeconomic class where cheating is now something your partner should expect from you. the same men that were cheating when they were making 60k/yr will be the same men cheating after they get their promotion. like i said: it's a character issue.
"men 6ft plus have more options than shorter men, and more access to beautiful women, so if you want a man 6ft + are you prepared to share him??" same reasoning. all nonsense. a silly talking point used to discourage black women to not prioritize a man's capacity to provide for a household when dating for marraige.
anytime a woman wants to date within her own socioeconomic class, the immediate follow up question should not be whether or not she is open to polygamy. black people are the only ones who do this, and yes, i blame kevin samuels.
@@ceemeemo7658 here you go… taking what I said out of context. And don’t put me in it because I didn’t not Divulge my standard because it’s none of y’all business. I am adding to the content of Kendra’s Statement. Y’all are so focus on that all men cheat when it has nothing to do with the content of this video. I can go on and on and on about outliers. The more money a man makes the more he has access to the kind of women he wants. My point is that we forget that men do not hold us to the same standards we hold them. I stop listening to single women a long time ago about their standards and what they want… because they are keeping single women single. I only take advice from married women who has proof to back up their point of views…And I definitely started listening to what men what from us and not women telling me what men want. The issue is not wanting a man who makes 100k and up… it’s that those men do not care about a woman’s salary or her being equal to him. So her reason to only want a man that makes that much because she does… doesn’t mean that she’s going to get the things that matter regarding character, Monogamy, respect, and so forth. Her last relationship was with a man who wanted an allowance… the money is not the problem, her choice of men is.
Men are tired of y’all only reducing them to money as a qualifying factor that they are worthy or good enough for y’all. That’s all I got to say!
@@orrsangels2395 i'm not reading all this. cheating is a character issue. point bank period. get out from my reply section
@@ceemeemo7658 of course not! Guilt, Shame, Insult, and the Need to Be Right… Some of y’all can never share your perspective without being disrespectful. Mind you… you wrote a whole paragraph.. very contradicting but I’m not surprised. Also, please let’s not forget this is not your page… I can reply again if I like. It’s alway the ones who don’t have profile pics that can never conduct themselves accordingly!! Good day!! 😭😭😭😭
I'm a nurse. My husband makes 50k but is the best man ever! We are so happy in our home. We enjoy each other, bills are paid, and I haven't mowed grass, pumped gas, fixed anything around the house in 8 years even though I can. Having a partner to share in the struggles and triumphs is most important to me. We do remember being flat broke together and going to yard sales to make it. Now we make over 100k together and have acquired some property and such, but if it all goes away today, I will still be with him.. I know I have gold and so does he. Oh, 100k is not much nowadays anyway. It matters that if I'm down, he will be there and vise versa. He helps with household stuff and works to pay bills too. We both have each other back. He rubs my feet and I rub his. And he's easy on the eyes!!
Love this❤️
Talk that talk....🖤🎯
That’s cool but that’s not what she wants. Your lifestyle may not be what she wants or good for her
Thank you for sharing that, it good to see that there are pockets of good to be found.
@@JoyT01 hey there hru
Having high standards don't make you a bad person, It just limits your options.
Facts! It’s okay to have standards tho
These aren't high standards. She's looking for her equal.
That's all Kendra is saying
@@juanmedina254 Kendra is indirectly saying it.
@@GoddessBlueYozakura7 111
I’m a speech pathologist and my husband is a high school security paraprofessional. He makes 48k. I make 100k+. I couldn’t imagine doing this life without him. Together life is better. We have time for each other and I absolutely love having him by my side for everything. I don’t cut grass, pump gas, deal with the cars at all, fix stuff in the house, deal with repair people or any of that (and neither do our daughters). Our son has Cerebral Palsy and he takes him to his therapy appointments weekly and dresses him for school EVERYDAY. Our Baby is just as fly as the regular Ed kids thinks to my husband. He attends cheer meets, track meets, swim meets, and Wheelchair basketball tournaments & practices. I am blessed beyond understanding. And when he came into an unexpected financial blessing he paid off both of our credit cards. That man loves him some ME AND I ADORE my hubby!!!!
❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love this! You are blessed!🙏🏾
Beautiful story ❤
I agree with you 💯!!!!!!!
That’s good for you, other people husband make 100k and 300k and treat them like the best too 😊
❤. Well said
She makes more than 100k and has adult children. She is justified in her standards, however, finding a mate that fits them all can be tough.
She's not justified in her fantasy standards because she don't qualify for the type of man she's looking for
6:47 she says she's *always* made more than the men she's dated, then she says a few moments later, she's dated millionaires. Never once did she say she was a millionaire. She's not even being honest.
Men want something to look at too.
There are men out there who do, but most would want a woman a little younger. I find that most older, financially stable women are stuck in their ways. It’s one of the reasons I don’t date anymore and I know, and have been told daily I check 90% of BW boxes. I raise my son to be an upstanding man, but I don’t think most women are raising their daughters to be the type of women I would approve of my son being with, and his mother agrees
They should be in her circle-unless she burnt bridges. You meet the same people on the way up as you do on the way down.
Does Kendra not understand that men of all income brackets have the potential to cheat? That goes from the doctors to the guys flipping burgers at McDonald's.
Facts
Right!
She doesn’t understand that and it’s probably because she’s been cheated on by these millionaires and settled for whatever they did because they were rich. She settled until she couldn’t take it anymore. Now she thinks she’s educating women on rich men but in fact she was the issue. She needs to self reflect. She talks about women’s features ie weight and overall look like a man wouldn’t want someone however she walking around out of shape, no knee caps, legs shaped like bratwurst sausages, too tight clothes, fake boobs out of control, way too much hair and sometimes horrible makeup/lipstick. She need to fix herself before giving so much advice….
@@lalaess2426 I totally agree that a lot men don't care how a woman look as long as he can find something attractive about her. For instance she may be overweight but she has a warm heart and a beautiful face. Or she may not fit what society says is pretty but she has a nice body and believes in catering to her man. The women we men choose to marry may not always fit society's beauty and fit standards.
@@lalaess2426 I think she should just continue to provide a platform for singles to meet and stay away from giving advice because she could do damage to someone's self-esteem. Sometimes when im listening to her give advice she gives me a hint of a Kevin Samuel vibe.
A cheater cheats the same no matter what tax bracket they’re in.
Exactly a homeless man could cheat on you in today’s world, hell in any world 😅
Facts
But a man with money has more options it's common damn sense he is more likely to cheat Goofy
@@MikeMike-hu1qn how is she goofy for stating facts sir 🙄. It’s a known fact that ANY MAN regardless tax bracket will STILL CHEAT ! That’s the point of her comment, so what your saying is irrelevant GOOFY !🤪🙃🥴
@@sunshineloveyasharal4768 it's a fact that men with more opportunity more options AKA men with money will cheat more it's logic Goofy
The guest wants a partner who is financially compatible with her.
She wants a guy who will be The equivalent to her Salary, who will match her earnings, and who will Balance her income. Nothing wrong with that at all 💯💯💯
Nobody said it was. She will just have to share the man.
Those type of men will have options in women. Their first option will not be a 41 year old woman with 2 kids.
I can see why she's single
The issue is that men who make 6 figures don't choose women based on their income. I am a professional who makes well into the 6 figures and I would choose an attractive Starbucks coffee barista who makes $30k a year over her. In the eyes of men, she's the equivalent of a man making minimum wage when you assess her based on the qualities that MEN look for. And you need to understand what men look for unless you plan on dating women.
Ask any successful man if he would choose a below average looking woman who makes $250k or an attractive woman who makes $30k. 99% of high earning men will happily go with the super attractive woman making $30k.
And she won't find it either 😂😂😂😂
Stop telling men how much money you earn
Rite these women talk to damn much.
Right. Im getting married in June and he aint even asked what I make. These women are so ridiculous…
@@pickmeisha Congratulations🙏🏿
Exactly, Keep that a secret🤫
I was thinking the same thing
I have a male cousin that makes 100k a year (we both live in the UK). He's broke, living pay cheque to pay cheque raising one child whilst having baby mama issues. You want a man that earns a decent salary but most importantly is good at managing their money.
How is he making 100k and broke?
@@HeauxlisticLux Terrible spender, student loans plus he's put his child in private school though he cannot afford it. In the UK we have grammar schools which is the equivalent of private schools but FREE. He refuses to listen. Though I make a fraction of his salary, I know I'm financially more healthier.
@@HeauxlisticLux MTR showed a guy that made 100K and was also broke!
I mean yea…. Lol you still have to do background checks. Also, the moment they mention that they have any kids I’m running for the hills, but I don’t even date black guys anymore, so….
@@HeauxlisticLux There's a lot of people who make that money more and are broke.
Her skin is flawless and she is beautiful wishing her the best!
Society: "Choose Better"
*Woman tries to choose better*
Society: "Your standards are too high" 🥴🥴🥴
Exactly like what do they want
Better doesn’t necessarily mean high earner. If a woman set her standards at 100k she might pass on the man who will be great for her because he’s making 80k. I once had a girl told me she can’t date me because I’m a Leo 😂. But guess what? I’m not a Leo I just told her that to see her reaction and I didn’t even bother to continue the conversation.
Exactly
You started off by lying to her? She really missed out!
How about be better to attract what you match. Instead of being an a hole to the people on your level thinking your better
Amen, last lady!!! Well spoken,intelligent, great point of view, and beautiful!!!
And single as f*ck...don't forget that.
@@AirunDevon I said what I said, and don't care if she single or not..
That Part..
@@AirunDevon single doesn’t have anything to do with her character. Being single isn’t a death sentence and isn’t the main goal in life. Fucking idiot.
Y'all women toxic ASF Kendra spoke truth and tall can't stand it. Calling Kendra a pick me y'all dumb ASF
She was rather attractive but I can’t agree with the intelligent part. We all know that mouth will lead to her demise though.
I have no problem with this lady she knows what she wants and hopefully she doesn’t settle. Her drive is just right and she is a true Jamaican woman. Best of luck with her career and finding love.
yeah best of luck to her being alone lol
Homer Simpson with the comment
Of course you don't. You have a man. It's easy to experiment with other people's situations
I totally agree! She was not rude at all. She only stated her standards. It’s the broke men that feel disrespected. She was a beautiful dark skinned woman. Those men just felt inferior of her. She carried herself very well in the show!
@@jaelawolfe9337 absolutely. Her issue isn't her standards it's her attitude. I make plenty more than she looking for but I would not deal with a woman who is not feminine. Yall money don't matter. It becomes redundant. I'd much rather have a sweet woman who can do things that I can't and has a GED than a masters degree with an attitude.
I swear, I feel like I’m living in an alternate universe. That woman said she usually dates men that make less money and they use her for her money, so she wants someone that makes a similar amount as her. As a high earning woman, I can attest that she’s right. It’s not like she’s a low wage woman asking for a well off man. These men calling talking about she was “disgusting” are triggered for absolutely no reason…but we all know, a hit dog will always holler. I don’t understand how a man can say he wants to be with multiple women who are fit, young, pretty but he’s a freaking INSTACART driver and the man receives less pushback. To see all these black women telling another black woman that she needs to LOWER her standards to pull out a seat at HER TABLE for a BROKE MAN IS ASININE.
Also Kendra asked her if she dated a millionaire before. Kendra brought it up. Oh and NEWSFLASH - BROKE MEN CHEAT TOO. BOOM! One last thing, to suggest that most high earning men are cheaters should be an insult to high earning men.
This is the gender divide🤦🏾♂️. The point that Kendra is trying to make is that men that she wants will have a selection criteria for her that she must meet. You ladies foolishly believe that just about your standard for the men. And you all want the top 10-20 percent of men without understand these men will have a selection criteria for you which may not include how much money you make rather your femininity !!!! In essence that is your gift to your husband. Unfortunately too many of our women have been socialized not to do the very thing that makes them desirable long-term.
I think Kendra was saying men that make that much money wouldn’t choose her. They have way too many options to pick her. Not saying it couldn’t happen but it’s more likely not to happen.
@@upsidedown584 That woman was attractive, all men don’t like the same type of women. So because she’s not young and a model type, she can’t get a man that makes $100k? Some gov’t workers and police officers make that much. Its not like she said she wanted a millionaire, she just wants a man that makes a similar salary as she does. Thats not too much to ask. People are ridiculous 🙄
I make 6 figures and she's not attractive. Plus every guy I know that's dated or married a nurse says they're ball breakers and entitled.
@@mr.culturefreedom2073 She’s not attractive to YOU. With millions of men in the world, there is a man making six figures somewhere that finds her attractive. TRUST. 💯
That last girl had kendra rocking in her seat chiiiii 😂😂😂
Hold the standard. I know men (and women) making less than $100k a year and they are cheaters and have a poor character and poor communication skills.
Agreed
And vise versa. People who make over 100k who cheat, poor character and are cheaters. High value and and character is not synonymous. Look for high character.
@@ulquiorra3104 why do average men paint a narrative that men who make an average 100K are cheaters? It’s like you guys do and say anything just to have access to women. And it still doesn’t work.
@@SSS-qu8cn no im not saying that they're all cheaters I am saying men cheat regardless if economic status. Women tend to make it sound as if men who make 100k plus do not cheat and that's far from the truth. Pretty, ugly and average women cheat. rich, poor and middle class men cheat. Look for character in a man. Women look for money instead of character and tend to get mad when it goes south. Same with men who goes for looks instead of a females character. Can't complain when she parading around half naked on Instagram you wanted looks instead of character.
@@ulquiorra3104 you sound weird. At first I could understand, then you went left. You’re not even on topic.
Kendra G I really respected this episode because it made me realize how much you learned and grown by having these dialogs. Much respect to you keep up the good work.
Kendra is Speaking TRUTH!! I married a man that is a millionaire, and I was making in around $85k, at the time. . . He loves me for ME. I'm feminine, I care for him and respect him, I give him peace (sometimes I fail but I get back on track), he leads our family, God leads him, he leads me, which allows me, to care for and lead his children. It's an AMAAAAAAAZING Life. I feel blessed.🙏🏾
Congratulations happy for you Sistar May The Most High always be constant in your family and wishing you a lifetime of peace and happiness in your marriage 💯✊🏾💜
That sounds great dear. May God keep blessing you plenty 🙏🙏🙏
So..... he cheats on you? That's what Kendra said those men do
@@dharmatictruth7108 Really?! Come on now, you HAVE to know that's a character issue, not every person cheats. How about appreciating that she's happy? Whatever the situation, she's just fine with it. Go head Black Family!
@@libbymills4432 how about instead of virtue signalling, you learn to listen, read, and comprehend? The op said kendra was 100% essentially... what is 100% ? Does it mean everything? Yes. Kendra said these men cheat.... the op said that's absolutely correct according to the post... im pointing out the facts, you are crying about it..... now, if the op is not literate enough to post what they really meant... that is not my fault.
So sad that the two men that chose to comment basically said that the beautiful Jamaican woman didn’t look good enough to ask for anything. She simply stated what she wanted, which is her right and they still turned their noses up at her and I think we all know why. SMH
While I don't think Kendra is a "pick me" HOMEGIRL came on and blew it out the water!!! I TOTALLY AGREE with the lady that came on to TRY & read Kendra💯. The candidate never said she has to have a man that makes 6 figures. She said she would LIKE him to. She said she DOESN'T mind helping a man, but he can't expect to USE her. And the men basically feel she wasn't pretty enough to ask for a 6 figure man...wtf. She may not have been what most people think is the standard of beauty, but she seemed to be a quality woman. She just don't want no F boy.
I totally agree with her & your POV as well. She was asking for a match in terms of partnership. She wasn't asking for anything groundbreaking. She is also very attractive, the casino lighting was very unflattering. I looked at her IG page.
For all of the negative comments from these men how many of them are actually happily married? There's no way they could be in fruitful relationship & have so much vitriol. They just want women to settle rather than they raise their standard of life up.
Yes
"Pick me" is a goofy term
Well said @L Lovely and I love that girl that came on to READ Kendra and Kendra could not take the heat🔥🔥
She didn't TRY to read Kendra, SHE DID.
I think the men were triggered becos they don’t make that kind of money 😂
lol right
Coming from a family of professional athletes and scientists banking way over six figures I have to disagree with this notion that all men that are successful are just shallow and only care about looks. Not everyone is looking for eye candy. Eye candy doesn't guarantee loyalty, maturity, being a quality wife or mother. The idea that anyone with money is seeking a 10 in the looks department is just false. Not to mention that the highest divorce rate and cases of infidelity are from those that are financially struggling. When you're making a lot you have a lot more to lose which is why most are a little more cautious with their choices. When Kendra speaks of "the men I know" she's speaking about those in the industry and that's a whole different ball game. I'm living in a building at the Navy Yard where rent starts at 4k up to 10k and the wives that I do see are looking regular-degular... peeling off in their Panameras. (with the exception of this one asian chick who dresses up just to pick up the mail lol)
I just feel like you shouldn't ask for what you can't provide yourself. If a woman is asking someone to match what she brings to the table, why is that so crazy? Especially if she's willing to date outside her race where the pool of men in her tax bracket is much larger. Now I will admit, adding kids to the equation does make it difficult depending on the man. It is unfortunate for both men and women that you are deemed less appealing in the world of dating if you have children. I just feel like the outrage wouldn't be there if a 6 figure man asked a woman to match him. Not to mention there are far more black women that could match that salary.
Yes!!!!!
OMGG THIS IS THE COMMENT RIGHT HERE!!!!!!!!!IG has people confused because all they see is industry men who go for the IG baddies. I live in DC area too and you see the most average looking women driving their g wagons to chanel every weekend. People think just because its not being highlighted in the mainstream media that its not happening. Its a whole world out here waiting for you.
&& to add to that, there are so many luxury FB groups out there with average every day women who are kept women living their best luxe lives. Ladies, be realistic yes, but wait for what you want and strategically put yourself in environments that you want to be in.
@@rendallx Exactly... There are definitely some kept women where I'm living and there are definitely some that match their husbands. There are plenty of men who aren't just seeking looks. It's also a sad reflection of the black community to see that so many people think that. Basically they're saying that successful black men aint shit so settle for someone who's not as financially stable or successful as you are because they're more likely to stick around. And that black women who are successful better be a perfect 10 in the looks department with no kids or no one will want them... What in the toxicity is that about? lol
Lol…I’d love to see data showing how many $100k+ 40 year old women have found high earning men willing to be in committed relationships with them
Girlfriend exposed Kendra and I’m so disappointed. She told the truth Kendra always implies if we as black women aren’t good looking we don’t deserve the MOST!
You dont deserve anything you did not work for and earn. If u not good looking you simply wont find that man. Good day.
You dont deserve anything. What is with yall and this entitlement like a child. You must earn what you get.
Also, I don't think she was bragging about dating millionaires. I think she was saying that she has dated different men, and some have had money, so it's not impossible to find one who matches her income. Also, just because she's not one of those Instagram models doesn't mean someone isn't checking for her. Those Jamaican and Africans love her aesthetics. Men hate for a woman to put emphasis on money but quick to put emphasis on looks. Well, there's the tradeoff.
Right...she answered the question because K brought it up. That's the only reason it came up & she clarified that she was not looking for one. Also her children are grown so I don't even know why folk keep mentioning that.
Actually she was responding to Kendra question!! Basically answering questions
Was just trying to say is if you want a guy depending on the bracket of money they made you don't get those type of problems you may be good in bed that doesn't mean he wants you in public when he have somebody else that looks better but women have wack ass sex
How she dated millionaires, but also claims she’s never had a man she with out earn her, but she only makes 6 figures. The math ain’t mathin. 😂
@@Ghragle- she said she dated millionaires, that doesn't mean she had long relationships with them. You can date a lot of people but realize they aren't the right fit. I've dated a doctor, but my significant relationships were with more blue collar men.
As a travel RN myself, we make well over 100k so I expect a partner that can match and that’s not unrealistic.
less than 10% of the country makes that much, also u travel often, alot of guys arent gonna be into that. therefor your standards are in fact unrealistic
I wouldn't tell them what I do. Men start adding up your money and then some want to use you. Act like you do a low paying job if you want a man who makes what you make in real life. Just my experience
that might be true,,,but men with money got options,, keep hope alive and stay fit
It's unrealistic if after years upon years you haven't found that person.
Facts. Enjoy your dog and cats and die alone
This exchange made me subscribe. I liked Kendra’s response. If your way was working you wouldn’t be asking for help finding someone. It’s not about settling it’s about prioritizing.
Glasses ate!!! Kendra mad ! It's true !
The caller with the glasses needs her own show. I love how she expressed her thoughts.
Agreed!
Nothing is stopping her but someone like her cannot accomplish that. She over talked Kendra which means she will do the same to her guests. Notice Kendra gave her the floor in the beginning but as soon as Kendra responded the girl with the glasses did not give Kendra the same respect. Not a recipe for success.
Perfect assessment.
What?! She was rude and refused to listen to facts…??? Delusional. 🤦🏾♀️😫
Yes , it was perfect
Yes to the beautiful young lady at the end!! Well said young Queen!
The lady at the END---- Bravo!!!!!!!!!!!
The lady in the casino didn't bring up the money preference, Kenya did.
Point Blank---- I Love the woman in the Casino and the standards she has set!!!
If men don't want a gold-digger, women don't want a gold-digger either!!!
The lady at the end was rude. You can have all those standards and they’ll keep you single. I guarantee you she doesn’t have a man lol
It’s not about the money, it’s about why is that when she dated men who met her standards, it didn’t work out? That is a valid question.
So you telling me a beautiful woman who has her own gets bashed then a “man” boy sleeping in his car comes on and gets validated on being annoyed that she has requirements WOW JUST WOW
So happy Sis with the glasses got to come on and call out Kendra to bad she wasn’t receptive and became defensive
Then asked her when she when did I said that she tried to answer and she cut her off.
That last young lady was right on!!!! Kendra STAY wanting black women to lower their standards! Just like she went in on the radio personality lady.
So if a man says what he wants in a woman ( a certain weight , be a homemaker, , have a bigger butt, be light skinned ) you have the same energy of "standards" for that ? Prob not.
@@jahfreedom01 Well, it’s guys that constantly say their preferences& even make songs on it 🤷🏾♀️
No one cares about what he wants. If that's what he desires then more power to him.
she literally said that Kendra shouldn’t want black women to be happy lol
I would like a update on that chick
I think only because the guest was dark skinned and not attractive by today’s beauty standard’s Kendra pressed her on the money issue to suggest her to consider lowering her standards.
pS - I loved the last caller with the glasses and I agree with her commentary.
I don’t see nothing wrong with her wanting a man who makes more than her. Depending on the industry finding a man that makes $100K seems doable.
I agree 1000 percent. She does this a lot with darker skinned women.
Yep, and that is sad!
She is unattractive 😅 dark-skinned or light skinned 😂 🤷🏾♀️ you said it yourself 😅
Naw the men say no
The lady in the glasses called Kendra out and Kendra got in her feelings...that lady's request was reasonable..,Kendra basically said her options are a cheating rich man or a broke man who is dependent on your money
Kendra is right
That girl ate Kendras food, respectfully and gracefully.
Kendra was keeping it real
@@chrism6347 real for who tho? That's not her place to project her low standards onto her guest.
The men who don’t make 100k are offended. Kendra is nuts for this. Blue collar workers make 100k why can’t this woman be with a 6 figure man? If he is Jamaican like she is he can own a restaurant and make that money. Kerry has a nice attitude and her body is nice
If she makes 100k, what is wrong with her wanting a man that makes it as well???
Man who make over 100k would not want her that's the problem 😊
She can want what she wants. Kendra is giving her advice because it's not realistic.
It's only "unreasonable" in this community. She needs to look outside her race. Avoid that "A man who makes money cheats and doesnt want you" rhetoric and foolery.
Sad part is that’s not even a lot of $$. Most black men don’t make that much so they think it’s a big deal. My Asian friends husbands make this type of $$ and it’s nothing to shout about especially if you live in an expensive part of the country.
We were made comfortable expecting less
The absolute nerve of this 28 y/o calling in to say she's not worthy of her standards. Really self-centered to think his opinion of her is representative of most men.
A pharmacist, doctor, nurse, tech person, etc. in her age range makes at least $100k and they all have free time. She's not asking for a busy millionaire. Also, a man doesn't need tons of options to cheat. If he wants to cheat, he will.
You can have standards all you want but if you not getting results then what does it matter??
@@semajd5995facts! Your options come with your looks. These women are delusional
He’s angry that she’s dark skinned and not a hot 21 yo
And she's 40 something looking to hit the lottery. Because her life is most likely already more than half over and she thinks she's gonna score a buzzer beater on LeBron. You can't beat father time, keep those high standards... But more attractive, agreeable wmn parish alone everyday.
The young lady at the end made some very good points. I get annoyed when our community acts like we aren't supposed to have standards we should just be happy with whatever we get, or we're not good enough have certain expectations. Both of the men that called are perfect examples of what I mean. They said she was rude, what she said was disgusting blah blah blah and it's like why? Because she has standards? I don't hear the same energy when white women say they want men that make a certain amount of money, and I definitely don't hear the same criticism when black men are saying that women who look the opposite of them are their preference. In fact both of those men said she's pretty "in her own way" meaning neither of them think she's truly beautiful. The first guy even said she doesn't have the looks to get a man that makes that type of money. I was just like according to who? You? Like what would a woman have to look like in your opinion in order for her to get a man with money? I'm surprised Kendra didn't call that out and ask the same question but I think we all know the answer to that. I'm really glad that Jamaican woman is open to dating men outside her race because it's very clear she will not get what she's looking for in her own community cuz they don't believe she deserves it based on how she looks.
Your standards are based on your looks no man cars how much money you make if your not attractive point blank period....no man with options will marry an women who doesn't equal is value in money in looks rich men get hot women that's just how it is just because a women has money doesn't change her looks or how men see her
I Totally agree with everything you said
I Totally agree with everything you said
@@kennyb5116 Facts
I am responding to Ashley and the other replies. I've been married 35+ years, and I have a daughter that I'm trying to help navigate the current relationship environment. Kendra was only trying to introduce some statistical facts about the market. I have explained to my daughter, that because men control relationships, they are often the customers when it comes to marriage. Of course, not all the time, but statistically we can say the majority of the time. Understanding this fact, you can't make the customer buy the product if they don't want to. The unfortunate thing is that successful marriages are only successful when both people want it to work. Now this is my opinion, women find a man that they think they are good for, and they spend a bunch of time trying to mold that into what they want him to be, and when they get tired of trying to change them, they file for divorce. This is why women initiate divorce some 70 to 80 percent of the time. For the ones that have children out of wedlock, those women have unprotected sex, and when they get pregnant, they hope that the pregnancy makes the man do the right thing. When the man doesn't marry them, they are often upset. Kendra was just trying to shed light on some realities about the market.
I don't think we should assume just because a man makes 100k he's unfaithful. That sounds bizarre to me
I agree. Male or female....$50,000 or $100,000. Anybody can cheat
Well that’s the truth tho specially if he’s not ugly. Most black women later on when it’s late settle for a lesser attractive man that one won’t cheat
The last girl was 100% correct! I’m glad she addressed Kendra & how she treated that first caller. It is giving low standards & settling.
Anything is better than dying alone with cats
She’s up at 4 am by herself, my woman and I would be wrapped in each other’s arms at that time, not watching single people throw insults at each other. She settled for those big ass glasses on her face with no problem though! 😂🤣😂
And BW still can’t figure out why they are lowest married female race on planet earth. Unreal.
it's not settling its getting what you're qualified for and what you deserve. The dating market will tell you what you deserve. Yall standards are incredibly high and 99 percent of men can't meet them. many of you women will never get a man in life for other than sex because you're standards are through the roof.
@@ejay2075bingo! That woman was rude and childish. The dating market tells you what you deserve. Those unrealistic standard is the reason she’s single. You’re telling women not to settle but it has kept you single 😂😂. You’re up at 4:30am watching a singles podcast lol that tells us a lot. 😂😂😂
Tbh it doesn’t matter if it’s a 100k guy or a 40k guy these men are doing them baby. take it from somebody that dated both. The only difference is the 40k got more time on his hands mean more time to go out and play.
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The young woman @26:00 is ABSOLUTELY correct. Kendra tried to hammer this woman to question her standards.
Yup. I find she is a good commentator, she should start a youtube channel.
Has her standards panned out for her? Lol women in relationships don’t have to stay up to 4:30 am to listen to a a singles only podcast. 😂😂 this means she’s SINGLE and will remain single with the horrible attitude and those high standards 😂😂😂
Not sure how I came across her page, but this episode was enough for me. The last woman was spot on. She made so many good points and it went over EVERYONES head.
😂😂😂😂😂
she did!
Not really, Kendra checks EVERYONE male and female. She kept saying "don't tell a black woman to lower her standards" but she forgets who she's talking to because Kendra checks the men too. She was just looking for a fight
I agree with you
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The ones offended are the ones with possible low standards. This lady wants a man on her equal level, or higher and nothing is wrong with that. However, she will more than likely have to go outside her community for him. She doesn't want a Dusty to take care of and I don't Blame her.
Why does he have to be “dusty “?
😂😂😂😂 when a woman takes care of a man, he’s seen as dusty
Lmaoooo its too funny watching yall price yourself out the market. Thing about supply and demand is this woman is asking for what most women want, unfortunately for her 100k doesn’t buy her a better man but 100k would buy a man a better woman.
I never had a problem getting asked out and was always considered "privileged" and my husband made more money when I met him. Eventually I finished my education and I earned more than he and it never was a problem. We should think in terms of equity and not money because he supported me in so many ways while I attended school. Women must also understand that men are attracted to looks first and a man likes what he likes. There are so many overweight women milling about I was developing insecurities about being a size 4 as my husband did not like big women. Ladies get the weight off and more men will ask you out. We should not be the size of linebackers.😁
Only thing is can she find someone outside the community that wants to build at 40 something years old most men aren’t into building in their 40s I don’t care what race they are
She has choices and requirements. Nothing wrong with that.
It's something wrong if she is delusional. Living in blissful ignorance.
@@MrHeat1up how is she delusional ?
@@mja9376 as I said in another thread. She is looking for a fool. She has 2 kids by 2 different men. She said it herself, she is not a "baddy". I took that as her body ain't that hot. So you expect a man making over a 100k to wife this lady? What about the man? He worked hard to be a top earner. Doesn't he deserve to have a woman who didn't decide to have babies by two different men? I guess in your eyes he deserves left overs and needs to settle with this woman.
@@MrHeat1up a Top earners woman doesn't have a past. Why wouldn't a Top earner wife this woman?
@@mja9376 because he deserves better. His hard work should show in his life. Not wife someone who lived reckless, ungodly, for the streets. Shall I go on? It seems as if you believe she is deserving of a well earned man. But you are not thinking that the proposed man is deserving of someone better. A better situation. Kids of his own. creating a blood line of his own without the getto mixups of slavery. Sorry I threw the slavery in there so you understand that the male slaves didn't have the rights to his wife. The wife would have other people's kids.
Seems these kind of guys just complain and are insecure because they don’t make up to that amount. If a woman can make 100k a man is more than capable of making that and even more. There was nothing wrong with her attitude. She has reasonable standards because of her experience with dating men that make less than her.
I 100% agree with the lady in the red shirt. If black women were more conscious of having standards about a man’s character and finances there wouldn’t be as many baby mamas and baby daddy’s.
Neither the men or women have any standards. I can understand a divorced single mother, I can understand that. But kids with multiple men, I’m not taking that on.
Then tell us the statistics on how many people make a 100 thousands a year since it's that easy. You women talk out your ass and coming from poverty you have zero clue of what you are talking about.
She does not have reasonable standards. I do not want to date or marry a woman who has two kids. She's about a 4. She's not young. I have options. Why would I bother with a woman like her? Not to mention she has a bad attitude. It doesn't matter what you think about it, either. It matters what MEN think about her. She's not trying to date you...so you can think her attitude is fine but I can guarantee you that most men do not.
Nobody was talking about this 100k foolishness until that clown Kevin Samuels.
@@fashionwithoutlabels Its facts and stats, dont blame the messengers
The last caller was on point. Stop encouraging women to settle for less or assuming that the man she finds in that bracket will cheat or she will have to share. EVERY TIME a woman mentions a money requirement this is where the conversation goes ma'am.
The last caller will die alone.
The lady with the glasses won't find a man either as much as you like her men find her intimidating no feminine energy
The last caller was NOT on point. Are men settling for her?? I’m sure she’s probably a baby mother too but her attitude is nasty and RUDE. She ran from the conversation like an immature brat. Ensured she got her points out but wouldn’t let Kendra speak. I bet she doesn’t have a man either. Keep her standards, I bet she’s going to remain alone.
Shes wasn't encouraging but enlightening her. It's a difference. Because up until this point, the lady STILL hadn't receieved the outcomes she wants. Kendra simply challenged her logic to help her look outside herself.
With men it’s almost always gonna be about looks first one way or the other. Nomatter how much money she makes, it’ll never be about money
Bravo to the lady with glasses. The guest wants a partner who is financially compatible with her. Finances is the number 1 reason for divorce so that standard is very fair
@ Beatrice 💯True
EXACTLY!!!! She wants a man that is making just as much as her so that the relationship can be equal
I agree with the girl that said that Kendra does tell us black women to settle. She was just as not satisfied with the man who made 50.000 per year. Especially when you say are you willing to share your man with someone else. Lets get real Kendra, 100.000 is not that much anymore. Please. She never said that Money was the most important thing. You projected that. All the men I have dated in the past were 6 figure guys. Some were good some were not good. I married the one I wanted. We have to stop settling and still be unhappy.
She tells yall the truth.
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She’s encouraging women to be realistic , there’s a small percentage of men making 6 figures , it’s not common
@@tikifreaky5204 boom! Key work is REALISTIC. That chick at the end just wanted to argue lol
@@tikifreaky5204 Why do you think it's uncommon to make $100k?
I agree 100% with the young lady with the glasses. Kendra asked her the question about money and they weren't able to get to anything else. I've watched this show where ppl are asked about income requirements and they have said 100k and Kendra DOES NOT go in on them. It's not fair to do her like that. She just wanted a man with his OWN money, Kendra asked the amt. Can't knock someone for their preference. It's not right. Kendra was looking at her sideways from the time the call started. She pick and choose who to "pick on" and that's not cool. Good show though.
and you can knock the preferences of the men making 100k not wanting to be with her either lol
@Sanaye Kendra doesn’t give sideways looks at well put together women who’s attractiveness appeals to multitudes of people. She doesn’t look at those women sideways and question them about wanting high earning men because she knows what the MAJORITY of men want. She says it all of the time: men are visual. Looks appeal to them. She’s not “picking” on them. It’s a singles show and she’s playing devils advocate to the ones whom she discerns are not being realistic based on their presentation.
“Can’t knock someone for their preference” but y’all the same ones that complain when men say that don’t like black women 🥴
@@itsmob4life That's not all of us. Try again
@@Nayelee30 no one claimed it to be all, try again Sharkeisha
Cheaters exist in all tax brackets
Honestly , confused on what’s the problem with wanting what you can also bring…plus it sounded like that’s only a preference because the last guy wanted her money.
The odds, stats and expectations are not in women favor. Which in the end lives them single and alone.
Want what you want. It's your life. The question is can you get it.
If you you bring 100k and you expect a man to do that as well, you're looking at a very small pool of men. 100% of women want that man. Can you get him?
That 100k man, I can assure you that he does not require a woman to make 100k. His pool of potential mates is larger.
@ Awkweirdo I agree with you. I just didn’t see what the big deal was. Depending on where you live in America, 100k is really not a lot of money. I can see a guy who makes $100k wanting to build with a woman who matches that. If you live in the DMV area, LA, NY or any other high cost area of living, 100k might only put you in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment. And with the rate of inflation, it would actually be smart to want a woman who is motivated and willing to build financially. Can’t go wrong with two financially stable people.
This woman was lying though. She claimed she dated millionaires, and also that she put earned every man she dated??? She’s 🧢 🧢 🧢
She didn't want the millionaire 🤷🏿♂️
It's sad that so many assumptions are being made about people based on one tiny fact about a person's life. There are financially unstable ppl that make over 100k, and wealthy ppl who earn no income at all. How much money someone makes tells you almost nothing about a person's values.
U don't make much money huh
@@juanmedina254 lmao... ok, sweet pea 😄
After watching Kendra G show all these many weeks, all I know is that the amount of hate that I see that dark skin black women get and women over a certain age even if they’re attractive it’s just disgusting! If a 41-year-old single father with grown children who made her salary came on the show no one would have a word to say but she’s financially independent and she want somebody who can match her salary and that’s a problem. She can find someone who is older than her, a man of a different race who will love her and respect her because I see that these black men are really pressed about $100k and in their feelings because she doesn’t want to be with somebody making less than 100 K. I believe in hypergamy, it doesn’t have to be $100k salary but my man can’t make less money than me!
The problem with what your saying is that you view men and women the same and we’re not.
And that’s on Period!
You're reaching. It's not about skin color at all.
Men and women look for different things in a mate. Women look for providers and protectors (make more money). Men are looking for pretty and cooperative.
A 41 y.o man can appeal to alot of women because he can provide and protect well at that age. He's not checking for a woman with money
PERIOOOOOOOD!!!!!
@@aguy9071 It when you’re talking about black men. Black men are extremely colorist and they date out more than any other group of men. Black men favor very light/fair skin, biracial women, or white. Black women are typically their last choice if they had a choice. Dark skin black women are are the very bottom. I advice black women to make black men their fall back if they can’t find a man from another race. A successful black woman is more likely to find a non black man who matches her salary than a black man. It’s the truth. Black men shouldn’t date black women imo, they should stick to dating white, Latina, and Asians.
Thank youuuuuu the girl in red with glasses hit the nail on the head!!!!!! Why can’t she want and require what she want!!!!!!! She don’t have to settle and if someone has never had what it is that they desire , isn’t that more reason to want more????? And want a change from what you’ve been doing that hasn’t worked!!!! I applaud that young lady she took the words out of my mouth!!!!!!!!
These men really on here bleeding all over the place mad that this woman simply wants a man on her level financially😂😂 I have to laugh. It’s pathetic
It's not pathetic. It's woman being delusional. It like why should I settle for the McDonald's job, when there's a CEO position. Well you don't qualify for the CEO position, and they aren't interested in you because you graduated from community college. I hope you understand that basic concept. It's the same for most woman wanting the same 10-20% of men
@@ChillandVersatile But what about her doesn’t qualify other than your self-hating, anti-black rhetoric? Because she’s an unambiguous black woman? Because she appears to be slightly heavier? She’s a grown woman that has a great, lucrative career, knows exactly what she wants in a relationship, and what she won’t accept. She’s stating that she wants a man that makes more money than she does, as most women do and should. The problem is that black men aren’t able to meet that requirement. The average of what you all make isn’t even half of what she makes so you’re kicking and screaming, whining and throwing a tantrum, making every excuse as to why she’s not good enough for that. Typical, pathetic, manipulative, abuse tactics.
@@niliaaa_babyyy You're saying all these negative things about me, I did nothing but reply to your comment. Not once did I say anything about race. I'm not self hating or anti-black, I am black. You can talk about the woman all you want, but it's about what she wants. It's a simple question of "Does the person you want, want you"? The person she wants doesn't go for unambiguous and overweight woman. Nor do they care about her career if they make the money she wants a man to make. I have no problem with black woman having standards, but it's her PRIORITIES that were being criticized. She put money over character, and men who make over 100k do not like that in a woman. O yeah and btw, men make more money a year on average than woman. Statistical fact you can look up yourself. I was never rude to you, but you went ahead and insulted me because I shared adifferent opinion.
@@ChillandVersatile And now you the one crying talking about I’m saying negative things to you🙄 Nothing I said was towards you specifically I’m stating facts about the community. BLACK MEN on average make 40K a year. YOU can go ahead and look that up. Like I said, that’s not even half of what this woman makes. All that woman said was she wants to be with someone who earns what she makes or more, and can keep his dick in his pants. That was basically her only requirements and even that isn’t basic enough simply because bm are out of the running financially. Luckily for her she’s not only interested in bm so what she wants is very much possible to get in a better quality group of men☺️
Are you slow?
100k is not unrealistic…There are many people in the tech and healthcare field that can make that easily…..She gave that amount of money because she is obviously tired of taking care of men(which is what she kept saying) she also said she makes well over 100k so she is definitely not asking for too much…
Yeah if you work as a travel nurse you’re making at least three or $4000 a week, why would you wanna date a broke man?
I honestly think if she had a different look.. Kendra would’ve came at her different
@@stilljocelyn_ exactly Kendra sees no value in dark skinned black women because she doesn't vaule her self .
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Of course she would have because if the woman was attractive, her demands would be seen as more realistic. On the contrary, she has nothing to offer that a man wants --- a high-income, baggage from bad relationships, an unfit body, homeliness, and a lack of delicateness. What about this is so hard to see??
@@nwatson2773 EXACTLY
"I make more money than all the men I've dated. "
"I've dated millionaires! "
Make it make sense!
That being said, I hope she finds who she wants.
That should tell you somethin.
She's gone on dates with guys who said they were millionaires. Not even close to the same thing.
She's lying her ass off. She's not even attractive enough to pull a millionaire. Men who make that kind of many have the option to date highly attractive women, not some basic "around the way chick" like this girl. 🙄
@@cali2468 just say YOUR not attracted to her doesn’t mean others won’t.
@@sasshil4202 Who would the others be? She needs somebody on her level.
Last woman with the glasses spoke nothing but facts
How so? Her standards haven’t landed her a man though . She has unrealistic standards. I see what these men are saying
Your opinion means nothing unless you make how much I think you should make…
She's inspiring as far as the career part... I need to get my career together❤️🙏🏼
She needs to open her options. As a BW, once I started making 80k I had to pretty much exclude BM from my dating life period! I make a little over 100k now and my man (who is not black) makes 200k. Best decision of my life! Good luck to her!
🤷🏿♀️she never closed her options.
No one is dating black women like that, you are the least desired and least married demo statistically on the planet. Y'all don't have the options that white, asian and latinas have. You can make up fantasies online but that doesn't hide the truth, sorry
Doesn't matter ur opposed success isnt hers and likely wont have the same outcome. 9percent of men (black white asian etc...) make 100k or better a yr and adjusted after married and sexual orientation I have probably 6-7 percent in the USA! Stop selling these women a plate of feces and keep it real. Men settle all the time trust me we do. And this woman in that video a man would be settling for her real talk
She was saying white men already and yet she says she earned more than all of them. Heck jr was probably the white ones who were charging her. We know you divested types pretty much pay them to be with you guys. The false narratives on TH-cam don’t reflect the reality.
Y’all act like 100k is a lot of money 😂 I can tell y’all don’t have anything 🤣
Yeah Kendra is a ‘pick-me’! 😂 lmao that last girl was 1000% right with every point she made.
Omg yes. Spot on. Kendra always grills the woman and make it seem like their preference for a high earner is the main thing they focus on in a man. Meanwhile she let's mens "preference" for no- make up no wig woman slide
@@justagirl4627 fax. It's not unique that a woman would prefer her man to make 6 figures, cuz every girl would prefer that. The issue is when the ugly single mothers think they deserve that😂
Nah Kendra is forcing you to think different, cause the fact that you're on her show means your ways of trying to solve your problem have failed or else you wouldn't be calling her.
I hate to agree, but she is coming off as a woman who will settle, just to have a man...which is never good in the end.
@@freethinkingMILF you settled to be a baby mama 🥶
I love sis with the glasses who told Kendra about herself , she does it all the time when a woman have standards and make her own . Kendra wanna yell and over-talk when she’s held accountable 😂😂😂😂
Her asks were not unreasonable. She makes "more" than 100k. She asked that he at least make a certain amount (which was still less than what she brings to the financial table) so as not to be used and be with a mate who shares her drive and lifestyle. She listed other qualities that no one is honing in on. BW are always asked to lower ourselves to meet another's inadequacies. Prob why the community is in such adject poverty. In this economy, finances matters.
Yes I totally agree. RNs make bank and yes she should get the 100k plus man and more
Agreed, she’s asking for him to make at least what he’s making. Fair enough
You don't qualify for 100k men is the point. There are a bunch of older, overweight women with multiple baby daddies saying they want exclusive access to the top rated men. They. Don't. Qualify... They think they do because they make 100k, but men and women have different dating strategies. Men value looks, youth, ability to take direction and low body count.
More of the confusion comes from the fact that those men will sleep with you, which gives you a false sense of marriage value.
Most of you all would rather continue giving babies to these top level guys who will never commit to you. I promise this isn't to insult you
She's not unreasonable but as has been said time and time again it severely limits her options, especially when that $100k+ man she wants has way more options simply because he doesn't have that same minimum financial requirement.
@@7Eightyone Her options are only limited if she is looking for a BM making 100K.
I really don’t think a 100k is a lot of money, and I live in Louisiana. My husband actually makes a bit more than that, I’m an average woman and if he is cheating he does a real good job at it because I can’t see where he has the time. However, I can’t say that was a necessity, we grew together. I make about 85k. I can say that if he and I don’t work out I would want a man that can match his pay or better, because I would want the same lifestyle so 100k would be a requirement. I need my man to be the breadwinner!
This last girl was right on the mark. I absolutely agree with everything she says. It is astounding that only in the black community do we degrade black women for having standards and expectations. It's only black men who can't rise to those standards and expectations and want many of women. I have dated several men outside of the black community and they don't think like these men. They are providers and they don't mind making the money and bringing quality to a relationship. It is only black women that we ask to lower their standards and accept little, I have many white girlfriends and they would never accept what we accept in our relationships. It appears that every other race of woman or hypergamus and they don't accept what many of these black men say that black women should accept. It's absolutely ridiculous and I think it is about time that black women do set high standards, expectations and boundaries. If the men can't meet them then black women it's time to date Men who will.
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Agreed 💯. Black men don't complain when other ethnicities or women have the same requirements.
So many people are saying she is delusional. I thought the first lady was level-headed. She makes money herself so she ain't out here buming it. Smh they wish they could meet the standards. Some of these men really over estimate their market value. 🙄
She made good points but she her lack of maturity is a turn off. She called the host a "pick me" but here she is coming on the host's show, in the wee hours of the morning mind you lol, picking a fight 😆. She may be intelligent but she seems to lack wisdom. Seasoned men and women tend to come on this show, and the host asks the questions that potential suitors will ask. Unless the person is dating some kid fresh out of college.
@@nope........... I get what you're saying. She did make good points but she got real mad. Sometimes just staying calm can really make a difference in a conversation. For one, you can actually hear each other lol
That last woman was super smart and honestly gave me everything I needed tonight 😂😂😂 Whooo girl she Reaaaddd And did a quick exit 😂👌🏾
Yassss ate Kendra up but I give Kendra props for even reposting that
i loved every moment of it
She didn't eat Kendra up, she was delusional!!
@@KentPerrison facts lol they think they are so smart but failed to realize the bigger picture of why the chick who is 42 with 2 kids even called in the first place. The gonna die alone and bitter asf if they dont get over themselves.
The girl at the end was a coward, she ran away from the debate and interrupted Kendra after Kendra allowed her to speak freely without interruptions. That lady can have standards all she wants but they are unrealistic. I guarantee you she’s SINGLE!
In my experience, men who make less end of having an inferiority complex because they can't do and spend what you can because they don't have it.
Why can't women who make more do what men who make more do. Pay all the household bills ?
Not all men, that based on my experience but a lot of them who are more traditional.
Also I don’t live the US where men are expected to pay for everything. Over here we share bills, mortgage so maybe that’s why it’s different and it works
Honestly the only time I’ve seen this from a guy who was also working was when the women bring up the fact and try to hold it over them. Think about it. Why would us making more money together not be a good thing ?
@@DreKM243 I am talking about dating and not married or living together. I know some guys are use to moving in a women's place after a week but that's not me. Also, if we are just living together and not married, I am not paying for everything because the man can't. I won't see you as a man. The man is the provider to me. I will supplement you and not the other way around. That's just how I feel. I don't knock someone making less. I just know I am not paying for you to be able to do what I do and go where I go.
@@leadrecruiter I won't feel like he is the man. Also, I wasn't talking about living together or being married. I am talking about dating. I can afford to go places and spend money they can't afford to do. I don't expect him to always pay for everything but they usually don't have that much disposable income leftover to do much of anything. I don't live this way.
I heard her say she's dated both men who have made over 100k to millionaires as well as below what she's made so it sounds like she already knows what she'd rather deal with. She's also said neither relationship had anything to do with infidelity so she has been able to have a relationship with a man making a certain amount of money and that not being an issue. I understood what the last woman was saying watching this episode.
Relationships are not perfect. She’s better off dating a high earning man who takes care of her but spends little time with her. That’s reality
@@faraday1178 Indeed....
Nah she said she dated lower than her 100k and dated millionaires no in between. She been divorced since 2012 which means she was 31 to current. Women's options in dating men that make that dwindle with age. Just stating reality.
@@faraday1178 it's simple math.
She wants a man who makes money. Ok
So does literally every other woman.
The more she makes the higher her standards get. The less men that meet them. And the ones that do meet those standards can pick from literally anyone
It was an issue for her; the millionnaires weren't available enough!
I’m here to tell y’all I make over 100K and don’t go food shopping pay my bills every two weeks because I can’t pay all at once - 6 figures sounds good but those bills add up and it turns into no figures🙄
Damn 😯 what was it like when you were earning half of that?
@@KindTiffany Facts!
People have to also understand taxes. You get a taxed at a higher rate the more you make. I literally see half my paycheck once I get paid after taxes, putting money in hsa, 401k etc. I’m not paycheck to paycheck but still 100k is not 100k after all that other stuff is taken out
@@KindTiffany I manage my money pretty well - Like the person below said, the tax bracket changes 🤷🏽♀️ So no matter how well you manage or budget it’s not a lot - I got my first credit card a year ago so I live and lived off of cash…
I must also add I am a “Black” American - And a lot of us help out family members friends etc No they all don’t know the annual gross however, they do know you can and are willing to help out 🥴
@@leadrecruiter When I was earning half, it was the same 🤷🏽♀️ - When I was earning 36k a year I qualified for food stamps utility grants, I had help 🤭
In America you have to be poor or Rich - Being in the middle is a struggle, a major struggle…
She wasn't rude she was confident
Stop lol she’s acting like a man that makes $50,000 will be a humble, faithful man and “good”. Men of all income levels cheat, does she watch her own show lol? She’s lucky in the medical field she’s surrounded by men that make that amount. Normal everyday men that are all races. She already dates out so the only thing she might have to do is lower her standards on what the man looks like.
Applaud to sis with the glasses on. She spoke the truth 💯 just because the 1st lady dated a millionaire and it didn't work out doesn't mean that every other millionaire will have the same qualities. She may find one and it works. Men making 2k-1 mill will cheat so that lady has every right to want someone that's on her level
100k is only “rich” in the black community.. My father made that much so it’s nothing wrong if I want the same in my partner
It is actually a lot of money In America because only a small number of people make this or more including other race
These divester types living a fantasy.
@@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229 how so?
It's not rich but it's not common either no matter what race the individual is.
Your father created a narcissist
Kendra always gets in her feelings when women who make a lot of money and asks for a man who makes what she does . Why would I downgrade if a man FEELS entitled to my money?!
And I have to date a man who makes less than me just because the bs Statistics Kendra gathers about “ men who make a lot of money will cheat”.
Listen, what is for you, will be for you and you shouldn’t have to lower your your standards . If you can’t then you’ll be okay with that because you know your worth.
Some women hate to get hit with reality! It makes them hostile .😠
In this case it's Kendra
*It's the insecure low self-esteem women who base relationships on money. Modern day prostitutes is the best way to describe it. It's messed up that BW are at the top of that list*
That is a true statement 💯
@@tashajones3661 no baby it's the aggressor at the end everything she was saying won't Happen it's a fairytale 😂😂
Second female was in her feelings and closed minded due to those emotions. What I find funny is that Kendra sat there and let her talk uninterrupted but she couldn't render the same courtesy. Baby girl can have her wants all day but the % of men making that money that will go for her isn't there.. she has two kids by different men, divorced, 41, doesn't want anymore kids, and oozes masculine energy.
It’s a amazing how many interpretations you get from one dialogue. The lady wasn’t wrong for what she wanted but Kendra just open the door for further discussion. Men and women both can learn. Plus at the end of the day, the kind of man this lady desires could’ve still inboxed her.
I agree….. also the men that get upset about what she wants as far as income are only upset because they don’t make that kind of money. Also I disagree with Kendra on this one she should never tell someone that they’re going to have to share a man if they make that much money. That comes off as insecure.
Lmao you guys are so ignorant, always giving opinions with no knowledge on the subject.
Kendra deals with those men daily because of her work, she even dated them, she also found stats that proves that they almost all move like that.
The woman is going to waste her time because what Kendra’s saying is a fact, she’s just trying to make her life easier
It’s crazy how women get mad when they get told that what they want doesn’t work the way they think with proven facts, y’all still don’t listen then get bitter and blame everyone else except yourselves
KS and the manosphere speak on this all the time. The difference is it's coming from a woman
@Blu Black actually Kendra was trying to be nice. She didn't bring up the fact that she has 2 baby daddies and doesn't want more kids. Woman like this want a male friend/companion to travel with they don't want a man. Because as soon as a man try to decide something for their future she will have a mouth full to say. I have my own money you can't tell me what to do. You can't control me.
The girl with the glasses just took all the words out of my mouth. Love her for that!!
Edit: the word deserved was definitely implied Kendra, she read you in your show and now you being petty 💆🏾♀️
Well said.
That last girl was worse than the actual guest. I can’t think of any person that would want someone like her in their presence long term.
it was implied not only tonight but most nights
@@spikeleo5941 big facts. Also, “do you have a money preference” is a standard question kendra asks everyone. It’s not like she was picking on this, or any other woman. It’s valid to probe people’s preferences when they’re CALLING YOU and ASKING YOU to help them find a spouse lol. This woman talking about people shouldn’t have to settle lol, baby girl it’s not settling. Kendra’s probing the whole money thing because it’s become very common for people to have these superficial standards without considering what they actually come with. She asks everyone the same questions all of the time.
@bronxkies right. The girl initially seemed composed and made a good point of hey Kendra why don't respect someone's standards. But then she wouldn't even let Kendra explain her perspective. The girl interpreted Kendras questioning as questioning the woman's worthiness and telling her to settle when perhaps Kendra is asking, as you stated, to consider your potentially superficial standards and why you want them? Do you want that bc that will make you happy and lead to a good relationship or do you want that for superficial reasons? Encouraging people to think critically about their dating choices and standards isn't the same as encouraging settling. If the woman said she wants someone who is financially independent and financially responsible, that might sound like a more reasonable standard that might be less questioned.
I'm a new subscriber as a 56 year-old single gentleman I was involved with a woman who made much more money than myself. I've never asked her for a dime but yet she was trying to be very controlling as if I was literally a pet. All I want is peace and the same respect as I give. Now I've learned to ask certain questions before getting involved and I'm finding out quickly whether or not that person is a time bomb or someone worth getting to know. That last woman who was very rudely argumentative is what I am avoiding.
Kendra, you should've told her to open her options. BM don't make over 100k, in general. Non-BM typically make that and more. She has to open her options if she wants a faithful man that makes more money.
Yeah, I agree. Everyone is upset with her preference, because it doesn't exist in BM.
@@SSS-qu8cn exactly. Kendra really tried it. It's so sad, only BW shame other BW that has standards. Non-BW never shame each other for having standards.
Exactly, women in other communities are not socialized to accept the bare minimum from men.
That's what I was saying in my comment.
@@HeauxlisticLux in other communities this conversation is not had, white people are raised to understand and live by the rule of hypergamy, in the white community women are judged by who they are, in the black community women are judged by what they have, white people are raised with the understanding that the man will make more money and be the provider so they go out seeking a wife based on her personality, her trustworthiness, her potential to be a good mother, when it comes to black people all of those things are figured into the equation at a later point after the man is secure in the fact that she can go at least 50/50 with him in the household
Whew chile the woman in the glasses said exactly what I was thinking.
I agree with her as well.
💯🤣 me too ! @ Mimi J
Exactly, me too
And thats why yall are all single 😂
@@dragonbloodtv married for 30 yrs🙄
She been drying to try to check Kendra, this was the first time I saw that
Kendra’s assessment on how men think is completely wrong. The “data” that she keeps speaking about is ratchet men on an IG Live dating show. None of it is statistically correct or peer reviewed. Smh, she should focus on speaking on a woman’s perspective and not how a man thinks.
Thank you! We see the type of men that come on here. If that's her "data" no wonder it's so skewed.
Kendra is starting to sound like a the red pilled guys tbh. And she really drills the hell out of black women always telling them to lower their simple ass standards it's in women's nature to want men who have more like wtf. Maybe because she dark skinned she usually always foots the bill because she's masculine minded or feels that's the best she can get. Maybe she should take some self-esteem classes . From her Data 🤣🤣🤣🗑️
Her points be all over the place she’s trying to play both sides.
But the men are not disagreeing with her lmao.
I’ve dated men with money, some money and no money when I was single in my 20’s. The man I ended up marrying is very hard working, and honest…just like my Daddy was. I make more than my husband, and I could care less. He treats me very well and loves me unconditionally. Men with money are very demanding concerning how their woman looks, carries herself, etc. Everything in their lives is about imagine. It’s a lot of pressure to live up to. I believe as long as a man does work an honest job, and does his best to provide, women need to be open to being with someone that may make a little less than them. I don’t see that as “settling.” Settling is being with someone who will only love you as long as you make them look good and successful.
At what age did you marry him? Did you have children from other men in tow?
Agree 100%. Marrying these so-called HVM seems more like a burden anyways. As long as the man isn’t lazy, makes a decent living, is financially responsible, and most importantly has good moral character that a husband and potential father needs, then I’m good. So glad I’m out of the dating market and dealing with this BS.
@@broco6608 .-.
@@NickM_FirstofHisName yea you asking the right questions. lol that tends to be why they choose to marry those men (hard workers). She's considerably older and/or has children from other men. It's rarely you'll find 23yrs old and married a hard worker.
Stop consoling yourself for marrying down. Typical bw. Encourage your daughter to break that curse. Ask yourself if that broke man would have considered you if he were rich/er? The answer is obvious.
Ppl don’t think DSBW deserve anything!!! It’s disgusting! She is not asking for too much by wanting a man that makes the same amount or more money than her! Why is Kendra trying to get this woman to date down financially? She’s a beautiful woman and she will most definitely have to date outside her race to find a man that meets her financial standards.
I love the caller with the glasses on she was very accurate 👌🏾
I get what Kendra is saying. Women may not like to hear it but she was just trying to let her know what she may encounter in her journey to find her man. I wish the woman luck. I think she can do it.
Ya really pushin the struggle love. How do you get mad at someone who simply said she wanted a man that made around the same as her. Men crying on the show for a woman deciding to practice hypergamy.
She may not find what she looking for but where is she wrong? THE ECONOMY IS TIGHT. I could see if she asked for a rich man, she simply said 'hey I make this, he should too.'
This is a failure on a group of men who may have low numbers making this amount but it filters who she does not want and that is ok. Too many women settle and then money becomes a factor in divorce.
BLK WM PICK YOUR STANDARDS AND STICK TO THEM. WE BEEN MULES TOO LONG.
#SAYNOTOSTRUGGLELOVE
At every high income level there are more BM than BW. The point is the type of guy that she wants, does not want her. She has even opened her options to every group of man and still no one is checking for her. It’s up to her if she wants to stick with her high standards, but Kendra is telling her it’s unlikely. I dont think most average guys would take her in, but I don’t know how average money became struggle love.
@ Me vs The World 💯💯💯 you are absolutely correct ‼️
@@Zzz-kk2sm you're lying sir. But anything to make you feel better. The fact is that black women have more businesses out here along with subsequential their jobs also providing income.
@@Zzz-kk2sm you men act like women are not in high management, or chief officers.
Most relationships are white collar bk wm and blue collar bk men working their little jobs.
And another thing...if bk men were soooooo paid the bk community wouldn't have all this poverish dusty activity esp were women are paying most of the bills.
But why do we glorify the fact that rich men cheat? Like money has to come with infidelity..That doesn't always have to be the case
I don't think Kendra is glorifying rich men cheating. She knows that those men have lots of options and that many if not most of them aren't monogamous. So if a woman prefers that type of man, she has to know what she's signing up for so she can decide if she'll accept it. That's the point Kendra is making.
I don’t think it’s about glorification. I do think it’s about the probability of him cheating. The more money a man makes or appears to make, the more options he has that are aiming to get him. He doesn’t even have to try.
The probability IS higher because his options are more abundant.
A woman with a man who that kind of “advantage” must consider what she may run into.
To your point, it doesn’t have to be the case, but the higher probability is there.
@@flawlessjewels I didn't say that Kendra said it. Ppl say it in general. I'm just saying that just because a man is rich doesn't automatically put him in the cheater club. Some wealthy men just want a ONE good looking woman that will give them sex, children, personal growth, peace and respect. There are two sides to a coin. The positive should be emphasized too.
@@khalifaNzuri I wouldn't pick her if even if I was a broke man with very little options..lol And realistically speaking, a 32 yr old is perfect for you. She should be mature enough and she can still have about 3 kids if you play your cards right. How is she too old?? And why are you talking to your mom about this?
@@khalifaNzuri Well,all I can say is that your criteria does exist. You just have to find her. I would never suggest that you die alone though. Your situation sounds similar to mine. All the men my age have already spread thier seed all over the city, are divorced and bitter or out of shape and delusional. I think I might have to date outside of my race as well. It's not my preference but blk men my age have too much drama and they're mean..they leave me no choice.
I’m a fan of Kendra. But the lady came in fire 🔥 at the end & made some valuable points that even I hadn’t thought of 💫
Don’t listen to the lady at the end, it’s going to keep you single. The dating market tells you exactly what you deserve. It’s okay to have standards but most men don’t make 100K. Our women want 100K men but they come with 2 different baby daddies lol . Stop it! So are the men settling for them?
Her mistake is wanting to stick with one type of man. If she opened her options she will be fine. Second mistake telling men her salary and wanting to help them. She is going to get got if she doesn’t get away from a certain type of M. This is not the show to meet a Decent man.
She said she’s dated white men, what are you talking about. She also claimed she out earned every man she’s ever dated. That means she out earned the white ones too. Y’all just want to create a false narrative that opening your options will change the way a man, regardless of color will receive you.
She has a bad attitude, and carries herself like the leader of the pack. Men do not appreciate “brutal” words from their women. They want softness.
@@Ghragle- if that is the case then why do M pay women to humiliate them. She said she is open to dating out but why does dating out to you always equate to a wm? Their are asian Hispanic arab etc that are known to be papered down. Get out of your feelings.
That woman at the end 😳 🤣 😂 was the icing on the cake.. Had an opinion and didn't like being challenged.
I really disagree with this. $100k is not a lot of money in some places and why do these host preach these narratives that if a man makes over $100k is grounds for a poly relationship?? Whaaat??? Not all men are horn dogs or care to have multiple women. Some men are OK with have one loving meek woman. Every where ain’t the entertainment industry chile.
100k is alot of money in every place. It's just more possible is some places. that doesn't make it average.
That 100k earner can pick from any women. Not saying he sleeps with them all (I don't agree with that thought). But can you honestly say a top 10% earner would pick a 41 y.o baby mama as his best option?
The millionnaires that dated her weren't available because they had other chicks
@@aguy9071 that is not my point. My point is there are $100k + earners who are monogamous
Where she said she live $100k is not uncommon to earn.
@@NickM_FirstofHisName Idk what that has to do with anything I said.
Lol, Exactly, not a lot, I need 350k minimum to survive. And, I don’t have high standard.
Kendra can dish it but can't take the truth. I love the show. Kendra needs to let people ask for what they want and let people contact them if they want to.
Why can’t she challenge what ppl saying most ppl not even ready to b with another person I’m not wit matching ppl who still need therapy and searching for who they are two whole complete ppl should b together not one or the other a more complete person
@@29_____ It would be ok if she did it to everyone. She mostly picks on the ladies. If a man is not ready to be with someone as you say she babies them, hell she even gives them money.
@@nunulove12
Kendra is rightfully trying to help women.. primarily black women, understand that their standards are delusional.
The Women come on describing/seeking the FANTASY Man they dream of, instead of Men in real life.
RIGHT!
She doesn't pay attention, that's obvious.
Lmao the second lady talking about never judge a BW standard while some BW complain about the bare minimum standards that BM have for them is literally comical.
THE LAST WOMAN WHO CAME ON AND SPOKE DESERVES AN AWARD!!!!!!!!!!
What did she get? She made herself look even crazier because she’s still single and doesn’t have a man.
No she doesn’t preferences are fine but if they keep you single don’t complain when you alone and single. That’s what we seeing today with a lot of women.
Yeeeeees, loved her.
The lady at the end was bugging out.
Kendra is right women have to see what their options are and pick someone based on reality because life will pass them by and they will become single bitter old women.
She wasn’t bugging out. She has a dissenting opinion from Kendra that is correct. Kendra does expect black women to settle
@@lalaess2426 So money is a settling point for you... not character.... you are ok with a rich person who abuses you or cheats on you..... mind you that last caller NEVER mentioned a man's character in settling only the money... that's why a lot of men pass over a lot of women .... Bill makes 30K at the bank .... no sister wants to date him... he works hard and in 5 years is promoted to VP and makes over 100K but is now dating the Becky who thought he was cute then he is a sell out or worse...and those same women are mad AF that another successful black man goes outside... no... a lot of times the women do it to themselves....
I don’t like that fact that black women are taught that we can’t aim higher and we have to tolerate the lowest of the low. Stop talking to these ppl and go to GOD
Well you can aim higher in terms of marriage and see if you actually beat the rest of black women